Very imp. Points. Most of the time son says she is my mother, I can’t interfere, but forgets that she is bullying his wife and not him. She is definitely not the DILs mother or she wouldn’t be so mean to her.
In laws are not just oppressing daughter in law, they are breaking a complete generation. As Woman is backbone of happy family. Psychologically children are effected.....thus lost the generations.
I Stay in different country . But MIL expects me to call her after every 3-4 days(which i do) though She never calls me to ask about my wellbeing but only when i call her. Didn't call me to wish on first eid after my marriage only texted.Then She wished only my husband on call and told him why she(i.e me) didn't call her to which i got annoyed since she should be the one to wish me bcoz it was eid in our country not theirs how illogical is this!. Next day we woke up a bit late and it was eid in my in laws country so she called me in morning and i didnt pick the call i was in bathroom then she called n shouted my husband that why we didnt wish her they argued then she cut the call. Then bit later when i called her she declined my call 2 times. Then in evening she called my husband and talked to him nicely but didn't talk to me. She just only wants me to call her ask her about wellbeing and doesn't bother to call me i also away from my own parents and country. she even told my husband that should i bow down to ur wife(i.e me) she thinks if shes calling me shes bowing down my feet How narrow-minded and arrogant!
I dont want tips, I want to know what punishment the evil mother in laws will get? My ex mother in law abused me and destroyed my marriage. Her son was obviously as thick as her so didnt think with his pea brain but obv it's her son so they're both thick. But I want to be comforted by knowing she will suffer
Just imagine sister, how much Allah hates divorce and how much Iblis loves divorce. Your ex mother in law helped the shayateen to destroy your marriage and just imagine, what kind of punishment she will get for that. The same thing happened to me too, you're not alone. We just have to be patient and to trust Allah. Everything will be okay, InshaAllah
These son's are enmeshed with their mother's. This is where the mother does not allow her son too become an independent individual so she babies him and trespasses all boundaries. You can never replace her seating in her twisted. If the son wakes up then he can only change the ďynamic. Otherwise your always 2nd place.
I appreciate the way these scholars explained. May Allah give us hidayat. May Allah bless these scholars ❤. If we follow what Islam truly says no one will be sad. I and my brother should take care of our parents not my brother's wife the same way my husband and his sis should take care of their parents not me. What i happily do for them they should be thankful. The same way I thank to my brother's wife what she does for my parents. ❤❤❤
Sir, um carrying and they illtreated me during this period, I was broken deep down then Allah opened the way. Has my husband wronged his parents by our separation from them. His mother often tells him that you people will be paid for this. Wallahi I served them the best for the sake of Allah but they disturbed my psyche while um carrying, in a family way. I can't forgive them. What shoul I do? Have we done wrong.
@@urfabashir6461 no, you did nothing wrong. You or your husband are not blame worthy. But he can still visit and care for his parents and you must not discourage or stop him. Allah won't accept any of his parents' harsh words, ill wishes or curses. He did what he had to as a man/husband and what is part of Islamic life. Don't worry. Live your life and be steadfast in faith. Always know one thing. Allah knows your heart, your intentions and your pain. Allah loves you.
Thank you for the video. Please update the title to either remove Nomaan Ali Khan or add Mufti Menk also since many clips here are his. Very important message.
What if you have been trying to ignore something that an elder mil is saying but you ignore and ignore and then it’s to the point where it’s causing serious problems between husband and wife. What do we do then?
Ignoring, tolerating and being patient is not always the best policy. These things can easily embolden the oppressor and worsen your situation because she/he will see it as your weakness. Ultimately your husband needs to man up and take responsibility because he is the one who brought you into that house and that situation. If he isn't man enough, then you can't win. You can only remove yourself from that situation by separating and ultimately divorcing. Or you can stay ad suffer to appease familial or societal cultural expectations
Most of domestic problems happened when a mother in law and the wife's son are living in the same home, most of time.. Ppl saying is the mother in law fault... Which is not valid unless she is not the one who own the house.. They share... If the parents's son own the house... Is the daughter in law fault.... Cuz they kindly host her in order to make their own son happy... ; rule n. 1 when u want to get married... U should be able to get ur own house, if not, then no marriage!! .. And those who accept to live with their own mother in law.. Are brainless... ;have some respect for yourselves!!!!
if the mother in law is abusive it is the mother in laws fault. Regardless of whether the daughter in law lives in her house or not. The daughter in law is not forcing her to be abusive. It's not always possible for someone to buy a house on their own especially now a days depending on where you live. Especially if you are married young like right out of university. This is very unfair to expect a young woman to be able to buy her own house on her own and if shes not able to she should have to deal with abuse and it's her fault. It is the fault of the mother in law and if the the son doesnt stand up for his wife its partially his fault.
My mother and father in law are evils children.. they make me feel like shit. They wanted to break my soul, by allah i will nicht forgive them. They are disrespectful, abusiv, speak evil about me, took my wedding gift and do like its hers. Come to my house when i am in Holidays, give my keys to my sister in law when i am outside, so she can make party. No one ask me if its okay. She is talking all the time about allah. By allah she is evil... Blames me in family talks bad in every social interaction with other. My husband and i we will divorce.. because i am the problem?!? Because i can not be happy and let the problem go. How can i forgive her? Allah you see everything. My heart is burning.. my heart is broken. Just because the problems they cause, my child and i have to deal with this. Gaslighting over 100000..
Nouman sir now adays bahus are not like becharies this is 5g. Era . Mufti menk always praising bahus. Stop it font encourage them. Give tips how to deal e th difficult Daughter in. Laws. Other wise you have to pay on Judgement day . Be sure.
your son is the one that should deal with his wife not you, you are technically a third person in their family. You have rights upon your son not your daughter in law. If you want anything ask your son not your daughter in law, he is the leader of his family not your daughter in law. And if your son cannot deal with his own wife, then you should ask yourself, have you taught him on how to be a good leader?
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I am going through this right now and she is keeping my husband away from me she wants him to divorce me. Please help me
How are you now? 😢
We need guidance from Muslim scholars on this serious topic
Very imp. Points. Most of the time son says she is my mother, I can’t interfere, but forgets that she is bullying his wife and not him. She is definitely not the DILs mother or she wouldn’t be so mean to her.
Such man need to know that all the responsibility of wife is put on his shoulder from his father the moment he marries her
In laws are not just oppressing daughter in law, they are breaking a complete generation. As Woman is backbone of happy family. Psychologically children are effected.....thus lost the generations.
Yes they transfer their sufferings to their children
Yes women are completely focused on making and keeping people happy…who always make her feel that she isn’t good enough..
I Stay in different country . But MIL expects me to call her after every 3-4 days(which i do) though She never calls me to ask about my wellbeing but only when i call her. Didn't call me to wish on first eid after my marriage only texted.Then She wished only my husband on call and told him why she(i.e me) didn't call her to which i got annoyed since she should be the one to wish me bcoz it was eid in our country not theirs how illogical is this!.
Next day we woke up a bit late and it was eid in my in laws country so she called me in morning and i didnt pick the call i was in bathroom then she called n shouted my husband that why we didnt wish her they argued then she cut the call. Then bit later when i called her she declined my call 2 times. Then in evening she called my husband and talked to him nicely but didn't talk to me. She just only wants me to call her ask her about wellbeing and doesn't bother to call me i also away from my own parents and country. she even told my husband that should i bow down to ur wife(i.e me) she thinks if shes calling me shes bowing down my feet How narrow-minded and arrogant!
Too much!
Don't know what sort of psyche such people have, they feel superior in doing this;creating hardships is their badge.
May Allah help you.
That's abuse, if I were you I would have blocked her hahaha
Don't keep silent, tell her this but with kindness
My mil keeps saying I am not good enough for his poor son and don't do household chores enough .she calls me lazy because she works all day long
This topoc needs more attention!
Such cases happen and men should protect their wife when they need them.
😢
Men who don't support their wife are worse than anything even if he offers 5 prayers
I dont want tips, I want to know what punishment the evil mother in laws will get? My ex mother in law abused me and destroyed my marriage. Her son was obviously as thick as her so didnt think with his pea brain but obv it's her son so they're both thick. But I want to be comforted by knowing she will suffer
sorry 😞 to hear that my sister
Insha Allah, Allah will definately punish cruel people.
Just imagine sister, how much Allah hates divorce and how much Iblis loves divorce. Your ex mother in law helped the shayateen to destroy your marriage and just imagine, what kind of punishment she will get for that. The same thing happened to me too, you're not alone. We just have to be patient and to trust Allah. Everything will be okay, InshaAllah
These son's are enmeshed with their mother's. This is where the mother does not allow her son too become an independent individual so she babies him and trespasses all boundaries. You can never replace her seating in her twisted. If the son wakes up then he can only change the ďynamic. Otherwise your always 2nd place.
I appreciate the way these scholars explained. May Allah give us hidayat. May Allah bless these scholars ❤. If we follow what Islam truly says no one will be sad. I and my brother should take care of our parents not my brother's wife the same way my husband and his sis should take care of their parents not me. What i happily do for them they should be thankful. The same way I thank to my brother's wife what she does for my parents. ❤❤❤
Sir, um carrying and they illtreated me during this period, I was broken deep down then Allah opened the way. Has my husband wronged his parents by our separation from them. His mother often tells him that you people will be paid for this. Wallahi I served them the best for the sake of Allah but they disturbed my psyche while um carrying, in a family way. I can't forgive them. What shoul I do? Have we done wrong.
Sir, plz reply for the sake of god
@@urfabashir6461 no, you did nothing wrong. You or your husband are not blame worthy. But he can still visit and care for his parents and you must not discourage or stop him. Allah won't accept any of his parents' harsh words, ill wishes or curses. He did what he had to as a man/husband and what is part of Islamic life. Don't worry. Live your life and be steadfast in faith.
Always know one thing. Allah knows your heart, your intentions and your pain. Allah loves you.
Thank you for the video. Please update the title to either remove Nomaan Ali Khan or add Mufti Menk also since many clips here are his.
Very important message.
My mother in law is very nasty playing cheap politics with me
What if you have been trying to ignore something that an elder mil is saying but you ignore and ignore and then it’s to the point where it’s causing serious problems between husband and wife. What do we do then?
Ignoring, tolerating and being patient is not always the best policy. These things can easily embolden the oppressor and worsen your situation because she/he will see it as your weakness. Ultimately your husband needs to man up and take responsibility because he is the one who brought you into that house and that situation. If he isn't man enough, then you can't win. You can only remove yourself from that situation by separating and ultimately divorcing. Or you can stay ad suffer to appease familial or societal cultural expectations
Can u also do a lecture for men with interfering mother in laws
Abid Hussain usually it doesn’t happen. They’re very respectful to their sons in law, so that’s why there isn’t any lecture 😅😅
also in addition to this point by the sister- man is in charge of relationship
Hate joint family
It’s best to stay separate because everyone will become happy
Yes I am one of these women 😢
MaashaAllah.
This is by mufti Ismail Menk not nauman Ali
They are both in this video
Most of domestic problems happened when a mother in law and the wife's son are living in the same home, most of time.. Ppl saying is the mother in law fault... Which is not valid unless she is not the one who own the house.. They share... If the parents's son own the house... Is the daughter in law fault.... Cuz they kindly host her in order to make their own son happy... ; rule n. 1 when u want to get married... U should be able to get ur own house, if not, then no marriage!! .. And those who accept to live with their own mother in law.. Are brainless... ;have some respect for yourselves!!!!
if the mother in law is abusive it is the mother in laws fault. Regardless of whether the daughter in law lives in her house or not. The daughter in law is not forcing her to be abusive. It's not always possible for someone to buy a house on their own especially now a days depending on where you live. Especially if you are married young like right out of university. This is very unfair to expect a young woman to be able to buy her own house on her own and if shes not able to she should have to deal with abuse and it's her fault. It is the fault of the mother in law and if the the son doesnt stand up for his wife its partially his fault.
What about when in laws don’t let the son move out and son pays the bills ? Is it still the DIL fault?
Tips don’t do it…. Don’t allow them in your life or leave the spouse…. If you have to be involved then ignore
My mother and father in law are evils children.. they make me feel like shit. They wanted to break my soul, by allah i will nicht forgive them. They are disrespectful, abusiv, speak evil about me, took my wedding gift and do like its hers. Come to my house when i am in Holidays, give my keys to my sister in law when i am outside, so she can make party. No one ask me if its okay. She is talking all the time about allah. By allah she is evil... Blames me in family talks bad in every social interaction with other. My husband and i we will divorce.. because i am the problem?!? Because i can not be happy and let the problem go. How can i forgive her? Allah you see everything. My heart is burning.. my heart is broken. Just because the problems they cause, my child and i have to deal with this. Gaslighting over 100000..
Nouman sir now adays bahus are not like becharies this is 5g. Era .
Mufti menk always praising bahus.
Stop it font encourage them.
Give tips how to deal e th difficult
Daughter in. Laws.
Other wise you have to pay on
Judgement day . Be sure.
your son is the one that should deal with his wife not you, you are technically a third person in their family. You have rights upon your son not your daughter in law. If you want anything ask your son not your daughter in law, he is the leader of his family not your daughter in law. And if your son cannot deal with his own wife, then you should ask yourself, have you taught him on how to be a good leader?
Affirmations to attract mother in law's love ruclips.net/video/g7nGxUKNqOs/видео.htmlsi=5reRoIUbVjwQoR7p 🧡