Ustadh Abdulrahman one of the most knowledgeable teacher speaker ustadh and sheikh, may Allaah preserve him and make all his affairs easy. Ameen 🤲🏽 Note:if Allaah SWT grants our sheikh long life and keeps him firm on this path,the ustadh will be a scholar soon. Even tho i already consider him as a scholar 🙌🏽
I've heard the "a woman is married for the following reasons" hadith many times but never explained better. What a beautiful lesson filled with gems. Jazak'Allahu khayran... May Allah grant us righteous spouses ameen.
Shaykh Rabī‘ bin Hādī Al-Madkhalī حفظه الله: “Look for the religious woman. Even if she was from the common folk, that is better than an educated woman who mixes with the opposite gender. By Allah the women from the common folk are better and more clever than the educated ones these days. It is not a must for you to marry an educated woman, upon you is to find a righteous and fearful woman. And if she is educated as well as righteous then thats’s goodness upon goodness, otherwise just marry an ignorant woman who is upon the Fitrah (natural disposition) where you can teach her and she accepts knowledge from you. This is what I have to say, and Allah knows best” 📚Majmū‘ Al-Fatāwa 2/418
@@taimurahmadit’s good for a woman to be educated. it just depends on how and where she is educated. the mother is the main and first teacher of the progeny so she should not b dumb. it’s best for her to be one who studies and has an education fisabliliah
@@taimurahmad you want an *islamically* educated woman that can teach and nurture your children upon the correct Islam and give them lessons for life. As said in the above comment, the mother is the first school. Being from a village does not necessarily mean you are humble and simple, rather your religious character does. I think you’re a youth and you need to be quiet regarding this because you lack the experience and knowledge. May Allah increase you in goodness and allow you to only benefit the people when you speak
Brothers, If you've managed to find a righteous, pious, fully straight, fem'n'ne, traditional wmn who actually loves and respects mn as a wife...cherish her, treat her well and stay with her! Wmn like her are close to extinction...
Awh...this was really beneficial 🥲ive been reflecting on this topic a lot recently, Idk..im trying to improve myself I guess & lectures like this really help...we should always try & be like the sahaabiyat....the closer we are to them the better, as they were the ones who Allah was pleased with 💕 may Allah make it easy for us & grant us sabr Aameen🤲
Subhaana'Allaah Ustadh please kindly talk to us about this matter of self-love. It has seeped into our lives from the internet knowingly or unknowingly. Especially, mothers (homeschooling mothers particularly who have a lot to manage) are sometimes burnt out, and this concept of self love, taking time out for oneself so one can recharge and become able to do better. Please help us understand the Islamic stance on the limits and boundaries of this matter. Jazak Allaahu khair
Every man wants a pious, feminine, obedient, fit wife. That is where tranquility is found, it isn’t found in being boisterous, independent and argumentative. That is why I aim to marry back home, specifically from a village who is uncorrupted by ideology, who I can impart Deen, who can teach my children the best of Akhlaaq and Adab. Sheikh Uthaymeen recommended us to marry a village girl as they appreciate their men the most.
Well said. Village girls are the best! They may not be the most "beautiful", they may not be wealthy, they may not have a career, they may not have degrees. But they can be what an average f'em''n'ist "muslimah" is incapable of being : a good wife to you and a good mother to your children!
Be aware of cultural differences BFR you find her. Don't forget that if you grew up in the West you are still a Westerner in many ways,even if you are practicing
Allah tests us differently but we live in a day and age where it’s become difficult to get married even though their is an increase in Muslim population, from what I have seen you will find that either he/she 1. Has good akhlaq but has false aqeedah and is less concerned with correcting that aspect. 2. Has correct aqeeda but lacks akhlaq and has big ego to self reflect 3. Soo many Muslims both men and women are self deluded (me, myself and I) 4. Our parents and imams are afraid of getting involved in selecting a spouse (female side) because of the big gap between how they think and how this new generation behaves. Some of our parents still use the old methods of “I know the father/mother so his/her son/daughter is like them” wallahi these days are loong gone because tarbiya was left to tv shows, movies, video games, nannies, streets and schools 😏 Sometimes you feel like maybe I should lower the dean and maybe remove akhlaq or maybe ignore the aqeedah as long as they pray and throw yourself under the bus with Tawaqul but then that would be testing Allah, a’udhubillah. wallahi western influence (social media) has affected sooo many of us with ignorance and big ego. Such a big population of Muslims but you straggle to find one who is humble and fears Allah within themselves Paraphrase Hadith; be patient, for no time will come except that it will be followed by one that is worse.. May Allah make it easy for us all, ameen
The worst part is that since the halal marriage has become so hard, the haram has become so easy. And the youth, many of them are resorting to haram means of fulfilling their desires. It is unrealistic to seek the perfect person since noone is perfect. We might have to compromise a little when looking for a spouse....
As long as you know what you look for in a wife or a husband and how to give their rights. Be patient and never resort into compromising the deen above all else. That's if you want your house to be blessed. Allah will not abandon you. Allah make it easy for all of us amiin.
May Allah bless you ustaad. Very much needed course. For those who are interested should register for the self development programs that covers many courses this is just one of it.
I believe that many of the young brothers and sisters have neglected their responsibilities as Muslim and thus we lack a lot of righteousness with the Muslim. It’s become difficult for brothers to find good sisters and vice versa
Beauty matters and also the deen. How to reconcile? some scholars say that, you should look for her beauty in the first place. Why? if she's beautiful, then you ask her about deen. if she isn't religious, you don't marry her. That way, you're leaving her because of the deen. But, if you knew she's religious but then found out she's not beautiful and you dont marry her. this way, you're giving importance to looks more than the deen. Hope that helps.
Do you think that more muslim women than men are not upto standards? Are the women in your family upto the standards you want for your wife? Or do you think that good Muslim men and women are both equally rare?
AstaghfirAllah brother. Marrying divorced and widowed women is the sunnah!! The 1st marriage of the Prophet. .. sad u will answer for these "statistics" over the SUNNAH.
No its not the sunnah. Do not lie upon our belived prophet and if yoh are ignorsnt keep silent please! It is recommended accoeding to all scholars to marry vi:rgin"s....
@@taimurahmadthe intelligent scholars note how the Rasool ONLY married previously married women except the 1, that he saw in revelation, Aisha, who time showed was with reason. Our beloved Prophets other wives were previously married and had kids. It was recommended to marry fertile and loving women. And as Shaykh Uthaymeen broke down the proof of fertility doesn't lie in the virgin but the non virgin that has had a kid. 😂😂 Alhamdullilah not all men are this slow.... speaks volumes about your manhood. Not a woman's virtue. 😂
Assalma waleikoum no it is not. The prophet (sws) explicitly said to young mens to marry virgins women. Nothing wrong with marriying a divoced or widow but this is not the sunnah.
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May Allah grant every woman who has these righteous qualities someone who is worthy of her.
Ameen
Ameen
Subhan'Allah. I was just talking to my mom about this topic. May Allah ﷻ grant us a righteous spouse. Ameen!
Ameen
Ameen ya rabb
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alot of times moms understand daughter in laws, but they don't understand their sons...
Ustadh Abdulrahman one of the most knowledgeable teacher speaker ustadh and sheikh, may Allaah preserve him and make all his affairs easy. Ameen 🤲🏽
Note:if Allaah SWT grants our sheikh long life and keeps him firm on this path,the ustadh will be a scholar soon. Even tho i already consider him as a scholar 🙌🏽
@Fawaz Shaikh in shaa Allaah
I've heard the "a woman is married for the following reasons" hadith many times but never explained better. What a beautiful lesson filled with gems. Jazak'Allahu khayran... May Allah grant us righteous spouses ameen.
Shaykh Rabī‘ bin Hādī Al-Madkhalī حفظه الله:
“Look for the religious woman. Even if she was from the common folk, that is better than an educated woman who mixes with the opposite gender. By Allah the women from the common folk are better and more clever than the educated ones these days. It is not a must for you to marry an educated woman, upon you is to find a righteous and fearful woman. And if she is educated as well as righteous then thats’s goodness upon goodness, otherwise just marry an ignorant woman who is upon the Fitrah (natural disposition) where you can teach her and she accepts knowledge from you. This is what I have to say, and Allah knows best”
📚Majmū‘ Al-Fatāwa 2/418
Not educated. Village girl. Simple people
@@taimurahmadBro do u mean all city girls are bad?! That is not true
@@taimurahmadit’s good for a woman to be educated. it just depends on how and where she is educated. the mother is the main and first teacher of the progeny so she should not b dumb. it’s best for her to be one who studies and has an education fisabliliah
@@taimurahmad you want an *islamically* educated woman that can teach and nurture your children upon the correct Islam and give them lessons for life. As said in the above comment, the mother is the first school. Being from a village does not necessarily mean you are humble and simple, rather your religious character does.
I think you’re a youth and you need to be quiet regarding this because you lack the experience and knowledge. May Allah increase you in goodness and allow you to only benefit the people when you speak
Brothers, If you've managed to find a righteous, pious, fully straight, fem'n'ne, traditional wmn who actually loves and respects mn as a wife...cherish her, treat her well and stay with her!
Wmn like her are close to extinction...
Stay patient, have tawwakul, stick to the kitab and sunnah, make sincere dua to Allah and inshaAllah Allah will send your rizq
@Fawaz Shaikh Salam, brother.
Yes, they are. They hide or delete the cmnt if we use such words.
Yes. They are close to extinction
Awh...this was really beneficial 🥲ive been reflecting on this topic a lot recently, Idk..im trying to improve myself I guess & lectures like this really help...we should always try & be like the sahaabiyat....the closer we are to them the better, as they were the ones who Allah was pleased with 💕 may Allah make it easy for us & grant us sabr Aameen🤲
@stethoscope 🩺 😊 I knew u would...may Allah bless Ustadh...for the knoweldge he shares & for his excellent adab💕
Where do you find such a person except Allah leads you to her Himself
Yes bro we make dua in tahajjud
Looking sharp ustaadh barakAllahu feek
Subhaana'Allaah Ustadh please kindly talk to us about this matter of self-love. It has seeped into our lives from the internet knowingly or unknowingly. Especially, mothers (homeschooling mothers particularly who have a lot to manage) are sometimes burnt out, and this concept of self love, taking time out for oneself so one can recharge and become able to do better. Please help us understand the Islamic stance on the limits and boundaries of this matter. Jazak Allaahu khair
Every man wants a pious, feminine, obedient, fit wife. That is where tranquility is found, it isn’t found in being boisterous, independent and argumentative.
That is why I aim to marry back home, specifically from a village who is uncorrupted by ideology, who I can impart Deen, who can teach my children the best of Akhlaaq and Adab. Sheikh Uthaymeen recommended us to marry a village girl as they appreciate their men the most.
You have discord?
@janiskahg2654 But at the end of the day you are the that opens up the door to that friendship, advice etc even if it is a village girl
Well said. Village girls are the best! They may not be the most "beautiful", they may not be wealthy, they may not have a career, they may not have degrees.
But they can be what an average f'em''n'ist "muslimah" is incapable of being : a good wife to you and a good mother to your children!
Be aware of cultural differences BFR you find her. Don't forget that if you grew up in the West you are still a Westerner in many ways,even if you are practicing
Just an advice and something to take into consideration
Alhamdulilah this was extremely beneficial. Thank you Ustadh. May Allah swt make us among those women. Ameen ya Rabb!
Allah tests us differently but we live in a day and age where it’s become difficult to get married even though their is an increase in Muslim population, from what I have seen you will find that either he/she
1. Has good akhlaq but has false aqeedah and is less concerned with correcting that aspect.
2. Has correct aqeeda but lacks akhlaq and has big ego to self reflect
3. Soo many Muslims both men and women are self deluded (me, myself and I)
4. Our parents and imams are afraid of getting involved in selecting a spouse (female side) because of the big gap between how they think and how this new generation behaves.
Some of our parents still use the old methods of “I know the father/mother so his/her son/daughter is like them” wallahi these days are loong gone because tarbiya was left to tv shows, movies, video games, nannies, streets and schools 😏
Sometimes you feel like maybe I should lower the dean and maybe remove akhlaq or maybe ignore the aqeedah as long as they pray and throw yourself under the bus with Tawaqul but then that would be testing Allah, a’udhubillah.
wallahi western influence (social media) has affected sooo many of us with ignorance and big ego.
Such a big population of Muslims but you straggle to find one who is humble and fears Allah within themselves
Paraphrase Hadith; be patient, for no time will come except that it will be followed by one that is worse..
May Allah make it easy for us all, ameen
The worst part is that since the halal marriage has become so hard, the haram has become so easy. And the youth, many of them are resorting to haram means of fulfilling their desires.
It is unrealistic to seek the perfect person since noone is perfect. We might have to compromise a little when looking for a spouse....
Subhn'Allah it is so difficult to find a praciting woman/man nowadays. Some people are so deluded by the worldy life. It is going beyond extreme...
As long as you know what you look for in a wife or a husband and how to give their rights. Be patient and never resort into compromising the deen above all else. That's if you want your house to be blessed. Allah will not abandon you. Allah make it easy for all of us amiin.
Please make a lecture on choosing a rightwous husband too.
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May Allah bless you ustaad. Very much needed course. For those who are interested should register for the self development programs that covers many courses this is just one of it.
May Allah grant us with lovely hallal wife's that are please with us and we to them.. Amin summa Amin 🙏🏿
subhanAllah may Allah preserve ustadh!
the last time I remember ustadh wearing glasses was from a video of him when he was very young
May ALLAH bless you for give us this important information
Alhamduallah I listened to the video. I was thinking of giving up on looking for a wife and just live the rest of my life single.
There are good wmn still out there even though they might be a minority. So don't dispair!
Make lots of dua.
I believe that many of the young brothers and sisters have neglected their responsibilities as Muslim and thus we lack a lot of righteousness with the Muslim. It’s become difficult for brothers to find good sisters and vice versa
Beauty matters and also the deen. How to reconcile? some scholars say that, you should look for her beauty in the first place. Why? if she's beautiful, then you ask her about deen. if she isn't religious, you don't marry her. That way, you're leaving her because of the deen. But, if you knew she's religious but then found out she's not beautiful and you dont marry her. this way, you're giving importance to looks more than the deen. Hope that helps.
جزاك الله خير اخي الكريم
Jazaakallaahukharan
I wanna merry this year
How has it gone?
Where do you find a wife like this in our time and age wallahi it‘s so frustrating
Make dua as much as possible and do istighfar brother.
Do you think that more muslim women than men are not upto standards? Are the women in your family upto the standards you want for your wife? Or do you think that good Muslim men and women are both equally rare?
Walaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu. Barek Allahu feekum
Is he Somali M.a
yes brother
AstaghfirAllah brother. Marrying divorced and widowed women is the sunnah!! The 1st marriage of the Prophet. .. sad u will answer for these "statistics" over the SUNNAH.
No its not the sunnah. Do not lie upon our belived prophet and if yoh are ignorsnt keep silent please! It is recommended accoeding to all scholars to marry vi:rgin"s....
It was recommended for virgins to marey virgins. Smh@@taimurahmad
@@taimurahmadthe intelligent scholars note how the Rasool ONLY married previously married women except the 1, that he saw in revelation, Aisha, who time showed was with reason. Our beloved Prophets other wives were previously married and had kids. It was recommended to marry fertile and loving women. And as Shaykh Uthaymeen broke down the proof of fertility doesn't lie in the virgin but the non virgin that has had a kid. 😂😂 Alhamdullilah not all men are this slow.... speaks volumes about your manhood. Not a woman's virtue. 😂
Assalma waleikoum no it is not. The prophet (sws) explicitly said to young mens to marry virgins women. Nothing wrong with marriying a divoced or widow but this is not the sunnah.