It amazes me that some men and women don’t know that people change and grow. Maybe that person is living the same existence they did 20 yrs ago so they expect others to be in the same place as them. If a person hasn’t changed or grown in 20 yrs, that’s a problem.
I once dated a grown man in his mid 30’s who was 8 years older than me. He would constantly brag to me that he was still the same exact man from when he was 19 years old. He hated the thought of me growing and outgrowing him so he was very abusive thinking that was going to make me stay with him at his stunted level of growth forever. Mind you, he’s a whole cop state trooper now in his 40s never married. Probably still single, idk cus I don’t check for him. Been no contact for 5 years…. But growth is not a common thing. Especially in most men. They fear and dread it because it’s uncomfortable and even painful. They don’t want to look at themselves in the mirror at the things they should change/improve so instead they blame everybody else for their shortcomings and singleness. It is pathetic and yes definitely a huge problem.
Regarding your bro it's either get off the pot or pi$$. My brother is early 50s but is still reacting like a hurt angry 15 yo boy throughout his relationships with our aging parents. I refuse to engage and will protect my peace by any means necessary. Scary how people want to try new me not knowing that old me has gone for good.
Firstly, you look amazing in that hair and makeup 💄. You always look on point. Queen, this is a season of many tests. 😔😔😔Keep your head up, and thank God for the testimony that you will have after the mess. 😇🙌🙌🙌
That last point oh my gosh...ain't that the truth. The only somebody we have control over is ourselves. People are going to be people and there is absolutely nothing we can do about that. Them being themselves does not have to affect you. Some people just isn't going to change and have no desire to. Learn how to handle that and keep it moving. I loved everything you expressed in this video. So many truths....keep helping and blessing us, Eva!!
You're my favorite discover of 2022, I keep saying this because it's true! Told a relative the same thing: You're grown now you've got to deal with your wounds because now you're responsible and you can take care of yourself. Tired of the "parents weren't there or didn't do this or that" thing. It gets old eventually. Plus what can they do now that they haven't done yet???? Say sorry? Then what?! If you're over 24 with a job, it's your responsibility to go to the therapist. Do something for yourself and quit Victimville!
The Eva Monroe 🥰❤️ Girl you be speaking life. I have homegirls that always want to talk about what my husband and I did years ago. We 31 yrs together now and things have changed. People really do grow and become a better version of themselves.
if the man cheated on someone who was 20 years younger, that would hurt. especially to have a baby with that person too. ouch. my husband had an affair and it was deeply painful. it did leave scars but you move forward. in my case, the woman DID know my husband was a married man, but i can't carry anger with me forever. that doesn't serve me. carrying the past can be a heavy burden and I had to put that baggage down!
Hi Eva, I recently came upon your channel. I believe that things always happen for a reason. I could so relate to what you shared.I married about a year after High School. I loved my husband. We did not have to get married. We dated for over a year. Then he asked my Dad for my hand. Yes, my Dad was a man who you respected and was not a mean person. He was known to be a man of his word. If he said I will be at your house tomorrow and one of us will be hurt. So all my children were required to ask my Dad if they could date them. If he said no. It did not happen. Because I had 2 loving parents. However, they instilled in me certain things when I was young I thought were Cz. Yet now as I turned 62 yes thank you, God. My Mom was always a very classy woman. My Dad was so in love with my Mom. She was the one and only. They were married till death did them part. My Dad was 10 years my Mothers senior. They raised me to respect others. To love God. To also know exactly how far I could push their boundary line. So I have no complaints. I tell all my friends that I don’t have a big booty because my Mom was a true believer of spare the rod to spoil the child. So I got my butt whooped at least 1 a week and 2 times on Sunday. Yet I am grateful. I spoiled my Son. Too much to the point he doesn’t respect me. Which hurts my deeply. Because when his Dad and I were divorced when he was 4 years old. When he was not doing what any husband should be doing at all when they are married. If I did to him what he did to me. He would have taken me out. For real. I went through pure hell because I loved him so much and I due to my upbringing in Church and my life that I was reared into. So 10 yrs and one child later. He decided he wanted to be free and due all the things he missed out because we were both young when we married. We had a contract. Things we spoke about and swore not to due when we married. Well he changed his mind. So I was left with a little 4 year old and he did t pay his child support or follow any of the Court ordered. Yet he lied to everyone about how I took him to the cleaners. Which is laughable. Because I was gifted some land from my parents. We both worked. I never suspected until I was called to my Moms and Dads house. My Aunt worked at the same company he did. So I found out he was cheating and not just anyone but my bf. Who everyone thought we were twins. Yet she was 7 years younger and also married. I broke down. Told him what happened why did he feel the need to want to see another woman and one who was my bff. Because Altho we were good friends going to the beach and to eat. Had a lot in common. A hell of a lot in common. I asked him if he would stop and we would go to my Church as he went until we got married . Then I went and he stayed home. We had one session and he flat out told our Minister he wasn’t happy and everything was my fault yet could not name exactly how. I was Suzy damn homemaker. I cooked,cleaned,took care of our child. Didn’t drink,smoke,due drugs. I knew I was the best wife I knew how to be. Even backed homemade bread. Sadly it was so beautiful with I glazed it with butter. Yet you had to cut it with a hacksaw. The inside was awesome. I tried so hard. Felt it was something I did yet I was not the one going to the bars,early in the am after work with his new friends he worked with. Then he also went out at night call say he was working late don’t wait up. Because I used to feed our Son. Then when he was on say 4 to 12pm. I would cook and we ate together. It was a hard pill to swallow. Yet when he said he was not going to change or even attempt to work on our 10 years together. So of course I drove myself Cz with questions. What had I done. Because it had to be me right. Well we separated at first. Had the papers all done to live apart for a certain time. Then after almost a year I decided it had to be done and over. Because the back and forth of being married yet not being with my husband was killing me. So I became very depressed. I felt I must be a horrible person. So without thinking it thru. I took an overdose of Demerol. I had left from getting my tubes tied. He pressured me to refused to get himself fixed. It was put to me. I love you and our child yet I do not want anymore. Because I don’t want to share you with anyone else. So,if you love me you will go and get a tubal. If not I don’t know what would happen if you got pregnant again as I was raised not believing in abortion. My family was like you made your bed and you will live in it. Once you marry if you have problems you go to seek counseling. Period. Yet once my Dad had spoken to him as my e tire family loved him. He had lost his Father to a murder while on Duty he was just 12 years old. After his Father was murdered. His Mom who had also married at a very young age. After everything was over she went wild. Didn’t go to Church or even believe at that time in God. So when he made it clear to both my parents he wanted out.They accepted it. They didn’t blame me yet I did. So I was working 2 jobs. One night I lost it ran out of my job and went and bought a bottle,of Peach Schnapps. I was not a drinker. So I drank that 5 th took 20 of the Demerol 50 Megs each. I thought if I died I knew my parents would raise my child with love. As well as help my husband with him. I could t even take myself,out. Correctly. I was in the hospital for 7 long days. As they were unable to pump out all the pills and alcohol. It was touch and go. We were told on Mothers Day that I should make a complete recovery. We had prayer chains going every church as their was 2 ministers in my Moms family. Also 12 children. Then on my Dads side we also had a few Ministers. So my Mom came by after Sunday School and Choir bringing me a corsage forMothers day. She said God had answered her and all my families prayers.I can say he did call my parents yet refused to visit me. He was to be with all the ladies. I felt like a pc,of dog crap. I had let my sweet boy down by doing what I did. I was ordered to seek psychiatric care. Who m ew a person could be prosecuted for attempting to take your own life. So I went to therapy for almost 4 years.So I recovered and was able to accept that I could it change his mind. That the only person I had any control,over was myself. So I began to work on me. Well as you stated their are some ppl you have to deal with until one of us croaks. Yet I know now. I was not the reason. He wanted his cake and eat it too. He lived with my bf whom had also gotten a divorce. So lived with her for a yr then was married not quite a year. He tried to come back yet I was like no,no. I deserve to be treated better. Well they divorced and within a span of 2 yrs. He had gotten another girl pregnant.She had been married 4 times and was told she could never have children. Wrong.She got pregnant had a baby girl. Which I was happy as I never wanted my child to not have any siblings. He started running around on her before their child was born. She put up,with his many affairs for 17 years then she divorced him as well. When someone tells you who they are. Believe them. So he has been single for 8 or more years. I was able after therapy to be around him for birthday parties and family get together. We were cool. I thought yet he still blames me for his behavior. Y Son forgave his Dad and the many lies he told him. When I have Court papers as well as letters,from his mistress. Whom he had strung along for 6 years. So I agree that things we see as curses can be blessings. I have healed enough to be able to be around him. With no problem. Yet he cannot be around me. He has also destroyed my close relationship with our son who I raised until he was 19 years old and spent tons of money in a child psychiatrist. She was the best and she said he could not or would not believe that his Dad had just walked away. Even tho he knows the truth. About why we divorced and why his 2 nd 3 wife also divorced.IDK if everything will. Work out. It’s hard about my 2 beautiful granddaughters. All was good in the world. Until the oldest was turning 8 yrs old.I had them almost every weekend and 2 nights during the week. I raised the youngest until she was 2 years old. They loved there Meme yet I was cut out of their lives by my DIL. Why I guess will never know. It hurts me deeply. As they are getting so big. The oldest is almost 17 will graduate early and has been going to College because she was moved up and skipped a few years of HS. I was told it took them 5 years to make them stop asking to go see me. . They have told them some lies. About me and of course they believe their parents. Yet I guess I will never understand how my Child can forgive his Dad for not being a part of his life. I took him to Court 39 times. He finally when he was 18 started to have anything to due with him.However the one person who was always there for him was me and my family. He never sees. I feel setfree after I accepted the fact it was nothing to due with me failing. He had a choice to work towards a better future. Yet my ex has held on to lies he has made up and I was told that it was so he could damit on with his life. So when anyone shows me or tells me who they are believe them. Im it that same 20 something girl. I even have a file about Court proceedings as well as nonpayment of child support and health and dental insurance.My Son has saw them yet he I guess cannot believe that his Dad could. just walk away so he even with proof believes I must have did something. After all these years I admit I did due several things. I treated my ex-husband like a King. I gave up my life. As well as everything that made me happy to try and make him happy.Yet never was enough.So thanks for sharing and I hope it’s ok to share my journey with the Queens who subscribe to your channel. Blessing sent to you.💖💕💗💓💞 ge his position
Girl!! I thought I was listening to myself talk!! I had to make similar decisions. You can't pour from an empty cup. We people will be who they are. Love from a distance sis 💕
Brittany B nearly 11 years ago, I packed up all my belongings and moved to a new city. It was scary but turned out to be the best decision I could have made. It forced me to change and grow. Although you have to learn how to deal with the people that trigger you, sometimes you just need a change of scenery.
I’m glad the universe dropped you in my feed. 💕 I’ve been in my healing season for five years and what an adventure!!! 🙌 God is ALWAYS and STILL good. You dropped several gems Sis!!!! Thank you for the perspective as I finish MY healing 🙏🏽 The beast in me is asleep but not dead. So people can test my gangsta if they want to Lolol 😉 And might I mention that you look FABULOUS 👑 #slay #heal #dream
AGREED, 100%! My healing season has been for the last 3.5 years and has been TRY. ING! But the peace that I feel through cutting out the BAD SEEDS that have been closely planted in my life, both friends and family has been eye opening. I’m so grateful for finding you amidst my season of change as you are beautiful, a thrifter and DIYer like myself, but more importantly all the way REAL. You are what black women who are NOT Hollywood need as a true testimony of healing, genuine success! Thank you Eva🙏🏾❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm in my trying season right now! Your video has so many good reminders and resonates with me in so many ways. Let the healing begin! Thank you ☺️❤️🙏🏾
They are in the past for a reason and should stay there. When people show you who they are believe them. Continuing to try to do for them and change them is calling codependent. Keep on loving you Sis. 💕
Eva, great video. Most people think that the pulled together, beautiful youtubers have no issues. Great that we hear you are actively healing in all things that really impacted you. I agree with folks in the comments people will be people. They do think you are the same person and they think that they can throw their anchor over to you and you will either carry it or be dragged down by it. I am a little older than you and realized like you, I have control over only me. I have cut so called friends because I choose me and I choose peace. Funny story my younger brother called me and said Sis can I give Keith your number. I am like Keith who? He said you know Keith you used to date in high school. Eva, I just looked at the phone and said nothing just hung up. Ok Keith and I departed ways 30 years ago. We ain't talked since. Keith still doing the same shet that even in high-school was BS to me. So I choose me and peace. My younger brother is just stuck on stupid to even ask me some dumb shet like that. I hung up because I knew any words that came out would be hurtful. Oh I been married 25 years and my husband is no stranger to my brother..go figure. Gurl so I totally feel you. I think when your peace is disrupted you have to take a moment to let people know..I love you but this is your battle and I cannot help you. Good video..one of the few I listened to til the end.
Oh my! I have had a very similar few weeks! Dealing with siblings and probate issues; dramatic needy daughter; friends issues, etc. I had to hang upon my daughter because I realize her drama drains me. Siblings - I refuse to join zoom of conference calls to have my joy snatched. Thanks for sharing and encouraging us to let that bs that we can’t control GO! Sis, continue to take care of yourself, we believe in you
I just went through this whole video with a family member and I'm not allowing anyone to suck the life out of me!! I cut my phone off at night and I've moved to another state
There is so much freedom in doing the hard work on ourselves, and gardening/permaculture feeds the soul! I love what you've said here, a great reminder to view these moments as opportunities to exercise what we've learned, walk the walk. Thank you
Eva I am so glad you shared this. This is something we all need to remember: The only person I have control over is me. And noone from the past or present is allowed to destroy my PEACE. I know some dont understand why I cut them off but I know the narrative and I just dont have time for it. Doesnt mean I dont care about them because I do but I’ve Spent so many years doing that. Now its just so over. Love your show!!!
You look so beautiful all while preaching the truth. I find family members are the worst with trying to bring you back to your history with them. I have to take family in small doses. It’s their way of trying to keep you where they are…in the past🙄.
I’m only 16 min in and I had to subscribe. I hope you’re not offended by this because I know some women don’t like it; so please forgive me if you are. I feel like I’m listening to my favorite Auntie!! The one who was the youngest and not too far off in age (I’m 30); so she still gets it. You talk with much wisdom and confidence. I’m so glad I happened upon your channel.
I had to click on based on the title 🙂 Baby when you've been healed, it's hard going around a bunch of toxic people especially broke toxic azz family members
Eva Thank You so much.. this puts alot in perspective.. I always want to play Savior.. Time to save Self.. I appreciate your transparency.. I Love your shows keep up the Great Work!!
OMG you are so on point with this conversation. My mother is the same way and I think it's only human nature that we get offended from time to time but like you said as adults we have to check ourselves and not come from a place of how we felt as kids. And you are correct, there are a lot of people that's holding on to the past and they're looking at you to be that same woman from the past but that's work that they have to do. Growth is so important. I appreciate this. You must be the oldest🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wanted to add something. First thank you for sharing. I am intentional about my thoughts each day and I have learned and am learning this lesson. Regardless of who did what to whom, when, and why, it doesn’t matter. You said it, the only control you have is you. If you know you can’t control others, and ya can’t. Why even be bothered by what they do, say, or don’t do. It’s really that simple. Once you really believe that, other people, or surrounding or anything external cant make you react in a way you don’t want to. If someone has that type of control, it’s the ultimate slavery. If we break it down to the least common denominator, all arguments, hurt feelings and fights come abt b/c someone or some thing didn’t do or say something the way we wanted them to. Is that’s simple. I’m learning and my life has become very peaceful.
Looking good Queen...This was good. It's freeing when you wake up and see people for who they really are and not who you think they should be! Emotional vampires will drain you dry. ♥️🙋🏾♀️
Hey Eva. Thank you for sharing. That hit me when you said we only have one mother. Sometimes it’s hard dealing with our mother’s but they are who they are and we can’t change them. Like you said we have to meet people where they are. That’s it. That’s all.
Been there I did this at BJs. Some ppl don't go to work to actually work. I cut ppl off that betray me and I do not look back. It is for my own healing, and I do not care who it is. Friend, family lover does not matter. We all fall short. I am a work in progress God understand this. 🙏 You were lucky . You met someone for a season that helped you to see your worth. Many do notbhave that.
I heard this recently, sometimes the only way people have power is because they are plugged into your power source, when you unplug you take your power back. My mom passed last year but my mom loved the men in her life more than anything else and that came first. 😢 I didn't realize until hearing your story. That the way my mom was, was never my cross to bear.
I love this video !! What you’re talking about just hit home for me. My father is the same person and I had to realize that he is the not going to change, it’s hurtful the way he treated and still treats me. But I have to move on..and he’s not going to change, thank you for this truth!!!😃👍🏾❤️
I’m 3 mths late but just was able to sit and catch up on your vids and whew chileee…thank u soooo much for this vid…it was well needed…it felt like a good girlfriend giving amazing advice…thank u!!
I felt it when you said you mother always put a man before her children. My mother always would put other people and their children before hers and still do. I learned to not want or expect anything different. I don’t understand it now nor did I understand it then. I drove 8 hours and went to visit and wasn’t offered a morsel of bread. I said that to say this, you are not alone. Keep on glowing up.
No judgement here on not trying to rescue someone who is saying they will hurt themselves. Know that anyone willing to hurt themselves might be willing to hurt you too. NEVER go over there. Call the ambulance/popos to come. You are not even supposed to go. I loved and needed this video btw. TY!!
Lovely Eva… thank you so much for this video. I’m glad you are feeling better and able to be here for us. The piece about you feeling like your mom always putting men above you hit me hard. I’ve always felt the same way about my mom and hearing you say she even put men above herself helped me, cause that’s true for my mom as well. I appreciate you and I hope whatever you found out a couple of weeks ago that changed your life, is not as bad as it seems.
Yes this too shall pass. You are so right about all of this. Some people grow and move on and some people don’t and in a way I believe they don’t want to and if they feel like they can’t well then they should just stay away from people and not bother and try causing mess
Oh gosh! I'm the only child as well. When my dad passed away my mom started dating some dude after 3 months, I haven't seen her ever since. When I caught the dude in my dads house I was crying heartbroken and I could hear her calling the dude on the phone to see where he went. I felt betrayed because she took his side. I was done.
Thank you 🙏 so much for sharing this difficult encouragement. It may not fall gently on everyone’s ears. However those in their season of GROWTH will listen with discernment and take with them what will promote more growth. I certainly Will ♥️♥️♥️ May He bless your efforts
I can't even begin to tell you how much of the testing season it is!! Really since November of last year. Yessss. Self care. I had to. I was getting so sick and mentally.drained. I had to start saying no.
The lastest test was my brother and him being who he always has been too since a teenager and we are both in our 50's. Family can be the worst. But yes. The Lord still blessed me.
"I'm not your Mother. Your my Mother" is the most poignant realization I have ever heard. Wow, it is amazing to hear from someone who has had this type of experience in the Mother-Daughter dynamic. What a word 😇😇 I think I can get over a recent setback that I had my "Mother". The only person we can change or even spend time hoping for is ourselves....it's best to lead by example but don't be the Mother when you are the daughter and the sister.
The most important part u passed it in happy for u growth is healing💃💃🥰🥰🥰🥰 I feel u Eva im going thru it with a friend n that rope is hanging it time for me to let it go. They aren't doing nothing to change it Im tired of hearing it shit or get off the pot bye boy. Their problem is stressing me out like its mines I feel u Eva. Take care its going to be alright🥰🥰🥰🥰
The story about your Mom and brother is exactly the same as mine. Even though this is an older video, the message was right on time!! I had to check myself on a disappointment from my mother this weekend. I told myself, she's doing the same thing she's always done... I'm the one who keep expecting different and being let down. Your brother with the emotional manipulation, I have been here with the men in my family too. They want to whine about the past instead of working on themselves
Your brother sounds exactly like my thirty one year old grandson, always using those same manipulating tactics when he’s going through some tough situations. I understand exactly what you’re saying.♥️
You are absolutely correct about staff in garden area not knowing anything about the area that they work in. Last year I asked the young lady working there whether they would get another shipment of poinsettia.. she did not know what a poinsettia was! I could not believe my ears.
I love your channel and your personality.❤ Wow this video covers so much. From dealing with the clerk at the Garden Center to close family members. I like the way you handle situations and find some humor in it all the while being strong, caring but never ever a pushover. 💪💛 "Meet people where they at and understand that that might be where they always will be" Thankfully for us you moved on, learned the lessons and tell them well. Stay beautiful.🤍
I get exactly what you mean my mom is your mom and brother complied into one person. I just told her you have to help yourself at this point. I can’t with you anymore. And she let me have it!!! Threatening me and all. I told her I’m not the little girl who ran behind my mom trying to fix you anymore. You need professional help. And you gonna get a completely different outcome if you put your hands on me at 32. No ma’am.
Bravo my dear for your discovery. When I was younger my mother said I was stone. Years later she said I was hard. I told her I was neither I just learn how to put things in perspective early on and keep rolling. I don’t just love me but I am in love with me. The good and bad sides therefore I don’t get stuck in a era that has past. Happy for you and you are blessed.
Eva, thank you. I needed that word today as I too, am in a testing phase. I've had to walk away from people in order to heal and your comment about a life sentence is so true.
YES...My blessing will be 28 next month and I have no regrets about the past. Internal healing is so important. OMG...we are alike...maybe I am your older sister.
Thank you for your wonderful content. You are so genuine. I have learned so much from what you have shared. You are strong and beautiful and intelligent. Your life experiences make me stronger to be able to deal through my pain. Please continue to share more content. It truly helps.
Well I’m amazed how transparent you are and how you’ve come to this place in your life that being true to yourself is the best policy often time we lie to ourselves and live a lifetime not know who we are…. I’m thrilled to see women of your caliber let me say at 71 years of age it’s only been a few years ago that I’ve adopted your insights on life but as they say it’s never too late…just know realizing you have seasons will only make you stronger… love the perfumes, the consignment hauls the gardening the hacks and crafts
I just came across your page I'm in my 40's going through, and you are a life saver for me right now with the real talk. When you move forward and the people from the past get at you with the past. I'm not HER!
You said a mouthful Auntie Eva. The only person we have control over is ourselves. The sooner we realize that the better off we are. As always thank you for the wisdom!
OMG. You were singing my LIFE with these words! I love you so much for the things you post! I,too am in my testing season and the broken people from my past no longer have any AFFECT on me!!!
The thing about your mom is sooo relatable for me. I felt the exact same about my mom. And I am happy to have that realization and am becoming able to separate myself from the idea of what I wish she was. She is what she is. She is similar and definitely a trigger for me.
First of I enjoy this video tremendously! I notice though how when you have changed your life for the better and no longer in the old behavior patterns you use to be in. Ppl still remember you by how you use to be. Because it’s the same behavior patterns they are still stuck in!
Thank you Eva for coming on and touching on this very relevant issue on our path to recovery! I just do the easy thing and offer to call an ambulance/services, they're the professionals not me 😊. So much love, gratitude and blessing your way 🙏💖🌺
Theres an expiration date on enabling grown adults. Continuing to do so creates redundant never ending toxic behavior.There has to be boundaries. Aka Respect
Wow Eva haven’t watched your videos in a while but this was some deep stuff and inspiring. I admire your authenticity. Looking gorgeous as always. Stay blessed
It amazes me that some men and women don’t know that people change and grow. Maybe that person is living the same existence they did 20 yrs ago so they expect others to be in the same place as them. If a person hasn’t changed or grown in 20 yrs, that’s a problem.
I once dated a grown man in his mid 30’s who was 8 years older than me. He would constantly brag to me that he was still the same exact man from when he was 19 years old. He hated the thought of me growing and outgrowing him so he was very abusive thinking that was going to make me stay with him at his stunted level of growth forever. Mind you, he’s a whole cop state trooper now in his 40s never married. Probably still single, idk cus I don’t check for him. Been no contact for 5 years…. But growth is not a common thing. Especially in most men. They fear and dread it because it’s uncomfortable and even painful. They don’t want to look at themselves in the mirror at the things they should change/improve so instead they blame everybody else for their shortcomings and singleness. It is pathetic and yes definitely a huge problem.
I agree. Sad😔
Do not let people take you back to the place you have healed. You have control in not letting them disturb the peace. Taking you back to hell!
The younger women coming and we are listening and learning...
Regarding your bro it's either get off the pot or pi$$. My brother is early 50s but is still reacting like a hurt angry 15 yo boy throughout his relationships with our aging parents. I refuse to engage and will protect my peace by any means necessary. Scary how people want to try new me not knowing that old me has gone for good.
“I can easily return the favor.” YES!
This video wasn’t long enough!! Ms Monroe, you are an angel and you don’t even know it! 💛💛💛
Firstly, you look amazing in that hair and makeup 💄. You always look on point. Queen, this is a season of many tests. 😔😔😔Keep your head up, and thank God for the testimony that you will have after the mess. 😇🙌🙌🙌
Thank You BUTLERU 🥰
Speak! Thank you!
You are an amazing communicator!!!
Celebrate your strength!
This really reminded me to stand up for myself! Hell yeah. “Don’t dump on ME today!”
That last point oh my gosh...ain't that the truth. The only somebody we have control over is ourselves. People are going to be people and there is absolutely nothing we can do about that. Them being themselves does not have to affect you. Some people just isn't going to change and have no desire to. Learn how to handle that and keep it moving. I loved everything you expressed in this video. So many truths....keep helping and blessing us, Eva!!
You're my favorite discover of 2022, I keep saying this because it's true!
Told a relative the same thing: You're grown now you've got to deal with your wounds because now you're responsible and you can take care of yourself.
Tired of the "parents weren't there or didn't do this or that" thing. It gets old eventually. Plus what can they do now that they haven't done yet???? Say sorry? Then what?!
If you're over 24 with a job, it's your responsibility to go to the therapist. Do something for yourself and quit Victimville!
The Eva Monroe 🥰❤️
Girl you be speaking life.
I have homegirls that always want to talk about what my husband and I did years ago. We 31 yrs together now and things have changed. People really do grow and become a better version of themselves.
Yes Eva broken people can have a helluva effect on us family and friends.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾That ls Nothing But The “TRUTH “
They don't even help in the garden section! CS is far from what it used to be everywhere.
Girl!!!!$ you better PREACH. You are hitting this on all levels.
if the man cheated on someone who was 20 years younger, that would hurt. especially to have a baby with that person too. ouch. my husband had an affair and it was deeply painful. it did leave scars but you move forward. in my case, the woman DID know my husband was a married man, but i can't carry anger with me forever. that doesn't serve me. carrying the past can be a heavy burden and I had to put that baggage down!
Hi Eva, I recently came upon your channel. I believe that things always happen for a reason. I could so relate to what you shared.I married about a year after High School. I loved my husband. We did not have to get married. We dated for over a year. Then he asked my Dad for my hand. Yes, my Dad was a man who you respected and was not a mean person. He was known to be a man of his word. If he said I will be at your house tomorrow and one of us will be hurt. So all my children were required to ask my Dad if they could date them. If he said no. It did not happen. Because I had 2 loving parents. However, they instilled in me certain things when I was young I thought were Cz. Yet now as I turned 62 yes thank you, God. My Mom was always a very classy woman. My Dad was so in love with my Mom. She was the one and only. They were married till death did them part. My Dad was 10 years my Mothers senior. They raised me to respect others. To love God. To also know exactly how far I could push their boundary line. So I have no complaints. I tell all my friends that I don’t have a big booty because my Mom was a true believer of spare the rod to spoil the child. So I got my butt whooped at least 1 a week and 2 times on Sunday. Yet I am grateful. I spoiled my Son. Too much to the point he doesn’t respect me. Which hurts my deeply. Because when his Dad and I were divorced when he was 4 years old. When he was not doing what any husband should be doing at all when they are married. If I did to him what he did to me. He would have taken me out. For real. I went through pure hell because I loved him so much and I due to my upbringing in Church and my life that I was reared into. So 10 yrs and one child later. He decided he wanted to be free and due all the things he missed out because we were both young when we married. We had a contract. Things we spoke about and swore not to due when we married. Well he changed his mind. So I was left with a little 4 year old and he did t pay his child support or follow any of the Court ordered. Yet he lied to everyone about how I took him to the cleaners. Which is laughable. Because I was gifted some land from my parents. We both worked. I never suspected until I was called to my Moms and Dads house. My Aunt worked at the same company he did. So I found out he was cheating and not just anyone but my bf. Who everyone thought we were twins. Yet she was 7 years younger and also married. I broke down. Told him what happened why did he feel the need to want to see another woman and one who was my bff. Because Altho we were good friends going to the beach and to eat. Had a lot in common. A hell of a lot in common. I asked him if he would stop and we would go to my Church as he went until we got married . Then I went and he stayed home. We had one session and he flat out told our Minister he wasn’t happy and everything was my fault yet could not name exactly how. I was Suzy damn homemaker. I cooked,cleaned,took care of our child. Didn’t drink,smoke,due drugs. I knew I was the best wife I knew how to be. Even backed homemade bread. Sadly it was so beautiful with I glazed it with butter. Yet you had to cut it with a hacksaw. The inside was awesome. I tried so hard. Felt it was something I did yet I was not the one going to the bars,early in the am after work with his new friends he worked with. Then he also went out at night call say he was working late don’t wait up. Because I used to feed our Son. Then when he was on say 4 to 12pm. I would cook and we ate together. It was a hard pill to swallow. Yet when he said he was not going to change or even attempt to work on our 10 years together. So of course I drove myself Cz with questions. What had I done. Because it had to be me right. Well we separated at first. Had the papers all done to live apart for a certain time. Then after almost a year I decided it had to be done and over. Because the back and forth of being married yet not being with my husband was killing me. So I became very depressed. I felt I must be a horrible person. So without thinking it thru. I took an overdose of Demerol. I had left from getting my tubes tied. He pressured me to refused to get himself fixed. It was put to me. I love you and our child yet I do not want anymore. Because I don’t want to share you with anyone else. So,if you love me you will go and get a tubal. If not I don’t know what would happen if you got pregnant again as I was raised not believing in abortion. My family was like you made your bed and you will live in it. Once you marry if you have problems you go to seek counseling. Period. Yet once my Dad had spoken to him as my e tire family loved him. He had lost his Father to a murder while on Duty he was just 12 years old. After his Father was murdered. His Mom who had also married at a very young age. After everything was over she went wild. Didn’t go to Church or even believe at that time in God. So when he made it clear to both my parents he wanted out.They accepted it. They didn’t blame me yet I did. So I was working 2 jobs. One night I lost it ran out of my job and went and bought a bottle,of Peach Schnapps. I was not a drinker. So I drank that 5 th took 20 of the Demerol 50 Megs each. I thought if I died I knew my parents would raise my child with love. As well as help my husband with him. I could t even take myself,out. Correctly. I was in the hospital for 7 long days. As they were unable to pump out all the pills and alcohol. It was touch and go. We were told on Mothers Day that I should make a complete recovery. We had prayer chains going every church as their was 2 ministers in my Moms family. Also 12 children. Then on my Dads side we also had a few Ministers. So my Mom came by after Sunday School and Choir bringing me a corsage forMothers day. She said God had answered her and all my families prayers.I can say he did call my parents yet refused to visit me. He was to be with all the ladies. I felt like a pc,of dog crap. I had let my sweet boy down by doing what I did. I was ordered to seek psychiatric care. Who m ew a person could be prosecuted for attempting to take your own life. So I went to therapy for almost 4 years.So I recovered and was able to accept that I could it change his mind. That the only person I had any control,over was myself. So I began to work on me. Well as you stated their are some ppl you have to deal with until one of us croaks. Yet I know now. I was not the reason. He wanted his cake and eat it too. He lived with my bf whom had also gotten a divorce. So lived with her for a yr then was married not quite a year. He tried to come back yet I was like no,no. I deserve to be treated better. Well they divorced and within a span of 2 yrs. He had gotten another girl pregnant.She had been married 4 times and was told she could never have children. Wrong.She got pregnant had a baby girl. Which I was happy as I never wanted my child to not have any siblings. He started running around on her before their child was born. She put up,with his many affairs for 17 years then she divorced him as well. When someone tells you who they are. Believe them. So he has been single for 8 or more years. I was able after therapy to be around him for birthday parties and family get together. We were cool. I thought yet he still blames me for his behavior. Y Son forgave his Dad and the many lies he told him. When I have Court papers as well as letters,from his mistress. Whom he had strung along for 6 years. So I agree that things we see as curses can be blessings. I have healed enough to be able to be around him. With no problem. Yet he cannot be around me. He has also destroyed my close relationship with our son who I raised until he was 19 years old and spent tons of money in a child psychiatrist. She was the best and she said he could not or would not believe that his Dad had just walked away. Even tho he knows the truth. About why we divorced and why his 2 nd 3 wife also divorced.IDK if everything will. Work out. It’s hard about my 2 beautiful granddaughters. All was good in the world. Until the oldest was turning 8 yrs old.I had them almost every weekend and 2 nights during the week. I raised the youngest until she was 2 years old. They loved there Meme yet I was cut out of their lives by my DIL. Why I guess will never know. It hurts me deeply. As they are getting so big. The oldest is almost 17 will graduate early and has been going to College because she was moved up and skipped a few years of HS. I was told it took them 5 years to make them stop asking to go see me. . They have told them some lies. About me and of course they believe their parents. Yet I guess I will never understand how my Child can forgive his Dad for not being a part of his life. I took him to Court 39 times. He finally when he was 18 started to have anything to due with him.However the one person who was always there for him was me and my family. He never sees. I feel setfree after I accepted the fact it was nothing to due with me failing. He had a choice to work towards a better future. Yet my ex has held on to lies he has made up and I was told that it was so he could damit on with his life. So when anyone shows me or tells me who they are believe them. Im it that same 20 something girl. I even have a file about Court proceedings as well as nonpayment of child support and health and dental insurance.My Son has saw them yet he I guess cannot believe that his Dad could. just walk away so he even with proof believes I must have did something. After all these years I admit I did due several things. I treated my ex-husband like a King. I gave up my life. As well as everything that made me happy to try and make him happy.Yet never was enough.So thanks for sharing and I hope it’s ok to share my journey with the Queens who subscribe to your channel. Blessing sent to you.💖💕💗💓💞
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You are so authentic Eva. I just love it! You'll always be tested when you're destined for elevation. That darn devil is always busy! 😘😘
Girl!! I thought I was listening to myself talk!! I had to make similar decisions. You can't pour from an empty cup. We people will be who they are. Love from a distance sis 💕
I'm healing but I think I would heal better if I was living in an different environment away from the things and people that trigger me.
Brittany B nearly 11 years ago, I packed up all my belongings and moved to a new city. It was scary but turned out to be the best decision I could have made. It forced me to change and grow. Although you have to learn how to deal with the people that trigger you, sometimes you just need a change of scenery.
I’m glad the universe dropped you in my feed. 💕 I’ve been in my healing season for five years and what an adventure!!! 🙌 God is ALWAYS and STILL good. You dropped several gems Sis!!!! Thank you for the perspective as I finish MY healing 🙏🏽 The beast in me is asleep but not dead. So people can test my gangsta if they want to Lolol 😉 And might I mention that you look FABULOUS 👑 #slay #heal #dream
AGREED, 100%! My healing season has been for the last 3.5 years and has been TRY. ING! But the peace that I feel through cutting out the BAD SEEDS that have been closely planted in my life, both friends and family has been eye opening. I’m so grateful for finding you amidst my season of change as you are beautiful, a thrifter and DIYer like myself, but more importantly all the way REAL. You are what black women who are NOT Hollywood need as a true testimony of healing, genuine success! Thank you Eva🙏🏾❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm in my trying season right now! Your video has so many good reminders and resonates with me in so many ways. Let the healing begin! Thank you ☺️❤️🙏🏾
They are in the past for a reason and should stay there.
When people show you who they are believe them.
Continuing to try to do for them and change them is calling codependent. Keep on loving you Sis. 💕
Eva, great video. Most people think that the pulled together, beautiful youtubers have no issues. Great that we hear you are actively healing in all things that really impacted you. I agree with folks in the comments people will be people. They do think you are the same person and they think that they can throw their anchor over to you and you will either carry it or be dragged down by it. I am a little older than you and realized like you, I have control over only me. I have cut so called friends because I choose me and I choose peace. Funny story my younger brother called me and said Sis can I give Keith your number. I am like Keith who? He said you know Keith you used to date in high school. Eva, I just looked at the phone and said nothing just hung up. Ok Keith and I departed ways 30 years ago. We ain't talked since. Keith still doing the same shet that even in high-school was BS to me. So I choose me and peace. My younger brother is just stuck on stupid to even ask me some dumb shet like that. I hung up because I knew any words that came out would be hurtful. Oh I been married 25 years and my husband is no stranger to my brother..go figure. Gurl so I totally feel you. I think when your peace is disrupted you have to take a moment to let people know..I love you but this is your battle and I cannot help you. Good video..one of the few I listened to til the end.
Oh my! I have had a very similar few weeks! Dealing with siblings and probate issues; dramatic needy daughter; friends issues, etc. I had to hang upon my daughter because I realize her drama drains me. Siblings - I refuse to join zoom of conference calls to have my joy snatched. Thanks for sharing and encouraging us to let that bs that we can’t control GO! Sis, continue to take care of yourself, we believe in you
I heard that!!! Them lessons turned into BLESSINGS..
I just went through this whole video with a family member and I'm not allowing anyone to suck the life out of me!! I cut my phone off at night and I've moved to another state
There is so much freedom in doing the hard work on ourselves, and gardening/permaculture feeds the soul! I love what you've said here, a great reminder to view these moments as opportunities to exercise what we've learned, walk the walk. Thank you
Eva I am so glad you shared this.
This is something we all need to remember: The only person I have control over is me. And noone from the past or present is allowed to destroy my PEACE. I know some dont understand why I cut them off but I know the narrative and I just dont have time for it. Doesnt mean I dont care about them because I do but I’ve Spent so many years doing that. Now its just so over. Love your show!!!
You look so beautiful all while preaching the truth. I find family members are the worst with trying to bring you back to your history with them. I have to take family in small doses. It’s their way of trying to keep you where they are…in the past🙄.
I watched this whole video and I felt every word. Thank you for the encouragement and reminder.
I’m only 16 min in and I had to subscribe. I hope you’re not offended by this because I know some women don’t like it; so please forgive me if you are. I feel like I’m listening to my favorite Auntie!! The one who was the youngest and not too far off in age (I’m 30); so she still gets it. You talk with much wisdom and confidence. I’m so glad I happened upon your channel.
I had to click on based on the title 🙂 Baby when you've been healed, it's hard going around a bunch of toxic people especially broke toxic azz family members
Let the church say "Amen"
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Eva Thank You so much.. this puts alot in perspective.. I always want to play Savior.. Time to save Self.. I appreciate your transparency.. I Love your shows keep up the Great Work!!
OMG you are so on point with this conversation. My mother is the same way and I think it's only human nature that we get offended from time to time but like you said as adults we have to check ourselves and not come from a place of how we felt as kids. And you are correct, there are a lot of people that's holding on to the past and they're looking at you to be that same woman from the past but that's work that they have to do. Growth is so important. I appreciate this.
You must be the oldest🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hey Sharon W,🥰! Yes unfortunately I am the oldest,lol.
I wanted to add something. First thank you for sharing. I am intentional about my thoughts each day and I have learned and am learning this lesson. Regardless of who did what to whom, when, and why, it doesn’t matter. You said it, the only control you have is you. If you know you can’t control others, and ya can’t. Why even be bothered by what they do, say, or don’t do. It’s really that simple. Once you really believe that, other people, or surrounding or anything external cant make you react in a way you don’t want to. If someone has that type of control, it’s the ultimate slavery. If we break it down to the least common denominator, all arguments, hurt feelings and fights come abt b/c someone or some thing didn’t do or say something the way we wanted them to. Is that’s simple. I’m learning and my life has become very peaceful.
Very true!! Some people get stuck in the past and never move on…smh.
Looking good Queen...This was good. It's freeing when you wake up and see people for who they really are and not who you think they should be! Emotional vampires will drain you dry. ♥️🙋🏾♀️
Hey Eva. Thank you for sharing. That hit me when you said we only have one mother. Sometimes it’s hard dealing with our mother’s but they are who they are and we can’t change them. Like you said we have to meet people where they are. That’s it. That’s all.
Been there I did this at BJs. Some ppl don't go to work to actually work. I cut ppl off that betray me and I do not look back. It is for my own healing, and I do not care who it is. Friend, family lover does not matter. We all fall short. I am a work in progress God understand this. 🙏 You were lucky . You met someone for a season that helped you to see your worth. Many do notbhave that.
I heard this recently, sometimes the only way people have power is because they are plugged into your power source, when you unplug you take your power back. My mom passed last year but my mom loved the men in her life more than anything else and that came first. 😢 I didn't realize until hearing your story. That the way my mom was, was never my cross to bear.
I love this video !! What you’re talking about just hit home for me. My father is the same person and I had to realize that he is the not going to change, it’s hurtful the way he treated and still treats me. But I have to move on..and he’s not going to change, thank you for this truth!!!😃👍🏾❤️
I’m 3 mths late but just was able to sit and catch up on your vids and whew chileee…thank u soooo much for this vid…it was well needed…it felt like a good girlfriend giving amazing advice…thank u!!
You are looking stunning. Your makeup, hair, smile and personality is everything. Don't let anybody still your joy. Peace is priceless.❤❤❤
I like to meet people where they are, sometimes I have to leave them there, too.
This is so true about the father of your children 💯 I'm currently dealing with this and its a true test for me on MANY levels!
I felt it when you said you mother always put a man before her children. My mother always would put other people and their children before hers and still do. I learned to not want or expect anything different. I don’t understand it now nor did I understand it then. I drove 8 hours and went to visit and wasn’t offered a morsel of bread. I said that to say this, you are not alone. Keep on glowing up.
No judgement here on not trying to rescue someone who is saying they will hurt themselves. Know that anyone willing to hurt themselves might be willing to hurt you too. NEVER go over there. Call the ambulance/popos to come. You are not even supposed to go. I loved and needed this video btw. TY!!
Lovely Eva… thank you so much for this video. I’m glad you are feeling better and able to be here for us. The piece about you feeling like your mom always putting men above you hit me hard. I’ve always felt the same way about my mom and hearing you say she even put men above herself helped me, cause that’s true for my mom as well. I appreciate you and I hope whatever you found out a couple of weeks ago that changed your life, is not as bad as it seems.
Yes this too shall pass. You are so right about all of this. Some people grow and move on and some people don’t and in a way I believe they don’t want to and if they feel like they can’t well then they should just stay away from people and not bother and try causing mess
Oh gosh! I'm the only child as well. When my dad passed away my mom started dating some dude after 3 months, I haven't seen her ever since. When I caught the dude in my dads house I was crying heartbroken and I could hear her calling the dude on the phone to see where he went. I felt betrayed because she took his side. I was done.
I initially turned this on as background noise to do my chores.....but what a message. Much needed
So true sis .I am so proud of you may God give us the strength to move on and to love each other.
Thank you for your transparency, lessons learned 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love this. You came to some great realizations at the end. They really resonated with me!
Thank you 🙏 so much for sharing this difficult encouragement. It may not fall gently on everyone’s ears. However those in their season of GROWTH will listen with discernment and take with them what will promote more growth. I certainly Will ♥️♥️♥️ May He bless your efforts
Your mom and my mom are identical. It can be hurtful but you learn not to take it personally thru the years. I time my visits..lol
Eva some people just don't let go. They will take the hurt and the hatred to their grave.
Eva I feel you. You have to take care of you.
I can't even begin to tell you how much of the testing season it is!! Really since November of last year. Yessss. Self care. I had to. I was getting so sick and mentally.drained. I had to start saying no.
The lastest test was my brother and him being who he always has been too since a teenager and we are both in our 50's. Family can be the worst. But yes. The Lord still blessed me.
They hate to see people get it together, I mute them
Needed this Eva! 💕 Heal on Queen 👑
"I'm not your Mother. Your my Mother" is the most poignant realization I have ever heard. Wow, it is amazing to hear from someone who has had this type of experience in the Mother-Daughter dynamic. What a word 😇😇 I think I can get over a recent setback that I had my "Mother". The only person we can change or even spend time hoping for is ourselves....it's best to lead by example but don't be the Mother when you are the daughter and the sister.
The most important part u passed it in happy for u growth is healing💃💃🥰🥰🥰🥰 I feel u Eva im going thru it with a friend n that rope is hanging it time for me to let it go. They aren't doing nothing to change it Im tired of hearing it shit or get off the pot bye boy. Their problem is stressing me out like its mines I feel u Eva. Take care its going to be alright🥰🥰🥰🥰
This blessed me. I’m on my healing journey and this was made for me to see. Resonated with me so much. Subscribed!
The story about your Mom and brother is exactly the same as mine. Even though this is an older video, the message was right on time!! I had to check myself on a disappointment from my mother this weekend. I told myself, she's doing the same thing she's always done... I'm the one who keep expecting different and being let down.
Your brother with the emotional manipulation, I have been here with the men in my family too. They want to whine about the past instead of working on themselves
You look lovely in pink. Thanks for this story. I can relate.
Your brother sounds exactly like my thirty one year old grandson, always using those same manipulating tactics when he’s going through some tough situations. I understand exactly what you’re saying.♥️
You are absolutely correct about staff in garden area not knowing anything about the area that they work in. Last year I asked the young lady working there whether they would get another shipment of poinsettia.. she did not know what a poinsettia was! I could not believe my ears.
Teach That Eva. People please look for healing not entertainment. Dig deep and you too shall become whole.
I swear I admire you on so many levels. I’m leaning how to heal and protect my energy. Thank you for this I needed it. 💋💋💋
I love your channel and your personality.❤ Wow this video covers so much. From dealing with the clerk at the Garden Center to close family members. I like the way you handle situations and find some humor in it all the while being strong, caring but never ever a pushover. 💪💛
"Meet people where they at and understand that that might be where they always will be"
Thankfully for us you moved on, learned the lessons and tell them well. Stay beautiful.🤍
I get exactly what you mean my mom is your mom and brother complied into one person. I just told her you have to help yourself at this point. I can’t with you anymore. And she let me have it!!! Threatening me and all. I told her I’m not the little girl who ran behind my mom trying to fix you anymore. You need professional help. And you gonna get a completely different outcome if you put your hands on me at 32. No ma’am.
Bravo my dear for your discovery. When I was younger my mother said I was stone. Years later she said I was hard. I told her I was neither I just learn how to put things in perspective early on and keep rolling. I don’t just love me but I am in love with me. The good and bad sides therefore I don’t get stuck in a era that has past.
Happy for you and you are blessed.
Thank you Eva for sharing.
Don’t worried, you won’t be the first, or the last side chick🤷♀️
We all deserve to be healed yes. But the right outlet has to be present to help..listen..etc
Eva, thank you. I needed that word today as I too, am in a testing phase. I've had to walk away from people in order to heal and your comment about a life sentence is so true.
YES...My blessing will be 28 next month and I have no regrets about the past. Internal healing is so important. OMG...we are alike...maybe I am your older sister.
Thank you again Eva for another transparent and necessary message
Eva are you sure you not taking classes at night to be a pastor? cuz you preached that thang 🙌🦋 love you ❤️
Thank you for your wonderful content.
You are so genuine. I have learned so much from what you have shared.
You are strong and beautiful and intelligent. Your life experiences make me stronger to be able to deal through my pain. Please continue to share more content. It truly helps.
Well I’m amazed how transparent you are and how you’ve come to this place in your life that being true to yourself is the best policy often time we lie to ourselves and live a lifetime not know who we are…. I’m thrilled to see women of your caliber let me say at 71 years of age it’s only been a few years ago that I’ve adopted your insights on life but as they say it’s never too late…just know realizing you have seasons will only make you stronger… love the perfumes, the consignment hauls the gardening the hacks and crafts
I just came across your page I'm in my 40's going through, and you are a life saver for me right now with the real talk. When you move forward and the people from the past get at you with the past. I'm not HER!
You said a mouthful Auntie Eva. The only person we have control over is ourselves. The sooner we realize that the better off we are. As always thank you for the wisdom!
OMG. You were singing my LIFE with these words! I love you so much for the things you post! I,too am in my testing season and the broken people from my past no longer have any AFFECT on me!!!
The thing about your mom is sooo relatable for me. I felt the exact same about my mom. And I am happy to have that realization and am becoming able to separate myself from the idea of what I wish she was. She is what she is. She is similar and definitely a trigger for me.
You are such a breath of fresh air. Only exuding and displaying reasons to love you more! I'm such a fan QUEEN! Love and light to you!
This was very very motivational.
First of I enjoy this video tremendously! I notice though how when you have changed your life for the better and no longer in the old behavior patterns you use to be in. Ppl still remember you by how you use to be. Because it’s the same behavior patterns they are still stuck in!
Thank you Eva for coming on and touching on this very relevant issue on our path to recovery!
I just do the easy thing and offer to call an ambulance/services, they're the professionals not me 😊.
So much love, gratitude and blessing your way 🙏💖🌺
Every season is a test
Thats exactly why My social media name does not have my government. It took 15 years for folks to find me
Excellent video. It really inspired me to get some things together in my own life. Thank you for being so transparent
Great grown folk conversations can come out of this video! Thank you Eva for sharing 😘
This was very helpful! And yes this too shall pass
Theres an expiration date on enabling grown adults.
Continuing to do so creates redundant never ending toxic behavior.There has to be boundaries. Aka Respect
Wow Eva haven’t watched your videos in a while but this was some deep stuff and inspiring. I admire your authenticity. Looking gorgeous as always. Stay blessed
I am proud of you, keep growing