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Some solid advice. If you don't shower and brush your teeth everyday, sleep at the wrong hours, game 30 hours a week, drink etc. That is the person who you become. Irregardless of who you can be or who you were. Do things that you can be proud of even at the microscopic level and the world follows suit.
ok wow John talking about why guys are commitment phobes and it being a root of just not being secure with who they are yet was like the breathe of fresh air I desperately needed -- really put everything together for me
I used to be triggered by girls wanting older guys but I agree with both freesia and jon. In your late 20s you gotta figure your self out before committing to anyone seriously
All this time I have been trying to figure out how I know John cause he looks SO familiar to me, only to FINALLY realize that when he used to live in MD (don't want to say what city to protect his identity), my girlfriends had a HUGE crush on him (knowing him from church/having the same group of friends) and showed me his IG a long time ago! hahahaha. Now he's your freaking roommate! WOW what a small ass world.
I love the sit down talk yall had. Cherish that and dont take it for granted. I wanted to say though, I was always told self sabotage is more like you purposely breaking yourself or causing yourself harm in away or preventing yourself from achieving or doing better. For an example. My mom graduated from nursing school 3 years ago. Got good grades and passed all exams. She has failed her inclex exam twice. If she doesnt pass this time all of the schooling goes to waste. I think shes purposely sabotaging herself because shes afraid of doing better or because she feels she doesnt deserve better. When you come from feeling low or like you dont deserve something it's hard to feel that you deserve better so you purposely self sabotage yourself or mess yourself up
I done had my heart broken repeatedly since high school and I'm about to be 30. Expect no commitment from me. I have trust issues. The stakes are even higher when you're older. I wish the best to you all and hope you all don't end up like me.
Wow wait can you talk about power couples more because I fell like I have had that mentality and hearing you say this made me look at it a different way.
Looking for someone to become a "power couple" with is perfectly fine. Someone "powerful" embodies strong attributes (ie: success, ambition, confidence, good looks, or whatever you define as "powerful"). Those are all amazing things to look out for. We should be careful, though, if these superficial qualities are the only things keeping us attached to a person. If you're at that point, you're falling in love with an ideal rather than the actual person for who he/she is at the core. If an emotional/intellectual/spiritual/romantic connection is subpar and masked by fancy success and status, all in the name of being perceived as a "power couple" [insert ego here], is that the love you really want? It might be...everyone's different. But I'd personally want to love my S/O even if he one day lost the qualities that made him "powerful."
Related so much to this video!! didnt work out with a 30 yr old guy I was dating (im 26 too) for a couple months. now im back to the streets and definitely needed this perspective. we broke up because of a compatibility issue, would love to hear both your take on when you know you're compatible with someone!
Love this type of talk. I’ll have to agree. Generalizations do exist for a reason and ultimately it comes down to the individual for both men and women. However, I don’t blame either the guy or girl going through a “fuccboi” or “hoe” phase, even if it’s due to some sort of insecurity or just for the thrill of it. At the end of the day, there’s no right answer. I think the biggest difference though between men and women is that women graduate earlier from this mindset of dating someone purely for physical attractiveness and transition over to seeking other qualities mostly stability whereas for guys, that mindset of dating someone physically attractive remains a primary motive for much longer.
This is amazing. My ex fiance left me for this exact reason, he made less and felt he wasn't good enough even though I didn't care about the things he was self conscious about.
Had a rough day and so glad I get to relax at the end of the day watching your videos. I always look forward to them :') thankful for you being on youtube!
I'm a guy and about to hit 25 soon, I'm so worried about finding a relationship, I'm just so unmotivated using dating apps, I lose energy trying to stir up conversations on the phone and have never been a texter in the first place. Been way to focused in school and career for the past few years, have like way too much guy friends.
You need to talk to married men more. Ask them what they think about marriage. Would they go back to being single again if they have the chance? I heard from a lot of men that relationships aren't worth the hassle most people claim it to be. Once you're in one, you'll understand. You're better off being off alone doing things you enjoy. If someone comes along then maybe give it a shot. May I suggest reading /r/TRP (theRedPill)? Despite what you heard or read theRedPill is nothing but the truth. What you do with the truth is up to you. May I also suggest looking up Aaron Clarey's youtube channel, just type his name, and search up one of his videos about relationships. I would say that his video style is more akin to the big brother who would've scold you and kick your ass, but in a lovely way. Frankly most men these days don't have an older brother like him to set them straight in the first place, and wonder why they're such soyboys. Anyways I can't wake you up to the truth. You can either reject what I say and continue living in your lie or wake up to reality and realize that everything you know up until this point is a lie. Good luck on your journey in life, brother!
From a 47 year old man. We are super immature!!!!! Guys are not ready for marriage until 35+ (but I think 40 for me) I got married at 27 thinking I was ready. Dam I was NOT ready. But somehow thanks to the wife with patience... we are still married 20 years later.
I got married in my early 20’s and was married for 13 years and wife and I got divorced after our second was born and I was in my first year of PhD program and now am single in my mid 30’s. I’ve mostly been dating girls in their early to mid 20’s. Most girls seem to really like dating an older guy who looks young and it seems much easier to attract girls now compared to when I was in my early 20’s. Seems like I have a major advantage compared to other dudes in their early 20’s…have a lot more to offer and am a lot more secure and mature than I was. The reason I date younger girls is because I still want to have another family and more kids so I want to have enough time to settle down again and have plenty of time to have kids and space them apart if needed. Everything just feels so much more relaxed and easy in my 30’s while my 20’s I felt scared to death most of the time lol.
Hi Freesia! Me and my bf are in our late 20's and are planning to move out in the next few months. This will be the first time we will be living on our own, apart from our families. Are there any apps or websites that you recommend to help find apartments?
As a guy gets older, his value as a man increase, and his options increase as well. He can be pickier with women. I think personally, as I get older I prefer younger women, more feminine features in women, and I really don't care what society thinks of my preferences. As long as she makes me happy, that's all that matters
Well there's many 30-something year old guys who are leeching off their parents and don't have a job besides being a full time gamer and an incel. Would you say their value increases?
@@HandsomeJigglypuff I guess there are exceptions... The people I was referring to were men that have done something with their lives and continue to climb the social ladder as they age.
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Love John Oppa, he so wise, soft-spoken and handsome 😍
Lmfao
Some solid advice. If you don't shower and brush your teeth everyday, sleep at the wrong hours, game 30 hours a week, drink etc. That is the person who you become. Irregardless of who you can be or who you were. Do things that you can be proud of even at the microscopic level and the world follows suit.
Partnering with small asian-owned businesses!?? we loveeee that 😍
LOVEEEE 🙌
petition for freesia to make a podcast with john how good would that be
John's sick of me
Waitttt that would be awesomeee
get me friends who’re as intelligent, eloquent and chill as john and freesia 😭
yes 😭
we love a good freesia + john chat
Join us any time ma dearrrrr~
the aesthetic of your videos is so clean & minimalistic, loveeee (your content too!)
Awww thanks for complimenting that 🥺
ok wow John talking about why guys are commitment phobes and it being a root of just not being secure with who they are yet was like the breathe of fresh air I desperately needed -- really put everything together for me
bro..some guys just dont wanna be in a relationship. doesnt mean they cant commit
I dont agree with him though. Some guys just dont want to be in serious relationship because there are so much freedom when you are not attached.
I used to be triggered by girls wanting older guys but I agree with both freesia and jon. In your late 20s you gotta figure your self out before committing to anyone seriously
All this time I have been trying to figure out how I know John cause he looks SO familiar to me, only to FINALLY realize that when he used to live in MD (don't want to say what city to protect his identity), my girlfriends had a HUGE crush on him (knowing him from church/having the same group of friends) and showed me his IG a long time ago! hahahaha. Now he's your freaking roommate! WOW what a small ass world.
This was a great conversation! Opened up my perspective on viewing relationships. More of these type of convos pls!!
Glad to hear it! ☺️
I love the sit down talk yall had. Cherish that and dont take it for granted.
I wanted to say though, I was always told self sabotage is more like you purposely breaking yourself or causing yourself harm in away or preventing yourself from achieving or doing better.
For an example. My mom graduated from nursing school 3 years ago. Got good grades and passed all exams. She has failed her inclex exam twice. If she doesnt pass this time all of the schooling goes to waste. I think shes purposely sabotaging herself because shes afraid of doing better or because she feels she doesnt deserve better. When you come from feeling low or like you dont deserve something it's hard to feel that you deserve better so you purposely self sabotage yourself or mess yourself up
Loved the honest convo with Jon ! Definitely related
I done had my heart broken repeatedly since high school and I'm about to be 30. Expect no commitment from me. I have trust issues. The stakes are even higher when you're older. I wish the best to you all and hope you all don't end up like me.
Absolutely love these honest and open conversations. Please keep them coming!
Wow wait can you talk about power couples more because I fell like I have had that mentality and hearing you say this made me look at it a different way.
yes!!! same here I still kind of have that mentality and would love to hear more from your perspective @Freesia
Looking for someone to become a "power couple" with is perfectly fine. Someone "powerful" embodies strong attributes (ie: success, ambition, confidence, good looks, or whatever you define as "powerful"). Those are all amazing things to look out for.
We should be careful, though, if these superficial qualities are the only things keeping us attached to a person. If you're at that point, you're falling in love with an ideal rather than the actual person for who he/she is at the core. If an emotional/intellectual/spiritual/romantic connection is subpar and masked by fancy success and status, all in the name of being perceived as a "power couple" [insert ego here], is that the love you really want?
It might be...everyone's different. But I'd personally want to love my S/O even if he one day lost the qualities that made him "powerful."
@@freesiapark omg thank you for replying love the videos!
Related so much to this video!! didnt work out with a 30 yr old guy I was dating (im 26 too) for a couple months. now im back to the streets and definitely needed this perspective. we broke up because of a compatibility issue, would love to hear both your take on when you know you're compatible with someone!
Gosh, how I wish I had friends like Freesia and John🥺🥺🥺
Love this type of talk. I’ll have to agree. Generalizations do exist for a reason and ultimately it comes down to the individual for both men and women. However, I don’t blame either the guy or girl going through a “fuccboi” or “hoe” phase, even if it’s due to some sort of insecurity or just for the thrill of it. At the end of the day, there’s no right answer. I think the biggest difference though between men and women is that women graduate earlier from this mindset of dating someone purely for physical attractiveness and transition over to seeking other qualities mostly stability whereas for guys, that mindset of dating someone physically attractive remains a primary motive for much longer.
This is amazing. My ex fiance left me for this exact reason, he made less and felt he wasn't good enough even though I didn't care about the things he was self conscious about.
OMG coffee pin! Happy to see spreading idea of Vietnamese traditional zero waste coffee making method
Had a rough day and so glad I get to relax at the end of the day watching your videos. I always look forward to them :') thankful for you being on youtube!
I'm a guy and about to hit 25 soon, I'm so worried about finding a relationship, I'm just so unmotivated using dating apps, I lose energy trying to stir up conversations on the phone and have never been a texter in the first place. Been way to focused in school and career for the past few years, have like way too much guy friends.
You need to talk to married men more. Ask them what they think about marriage. Would they go back to being single again if they have the chance? I heard from a lot of men that relationships aren't worth the hassle most people claim it to be. Once you're in one, you'll understand.
You're better off being off alone doing things you enjoy. If someone comes along then maybe give it a shot. May I suggest reading /r/TRP (theRedPill)? Despite what you heard or read theRedPill is nothing but the truth. What you do with the truth is up to you.
May I also suggest looking up Aaron Clarey's youtube channel, just type his name, and search up one of his videos about relationships. I would say that his video style is more akin to the big brother who would've scold you and kick your ass, but in a lovely way. Frankly most men these days don't have an older brother like him to set them straight in the first place, and wonder why they're such soyboys.
Anyways I can't wake you up to the truth. You can either reject what I say and continue living in your lie or wake up to reality and realize that everything you know up until this point is a lie.
Good luck on your journey in life, brother!
just go get more dating experience, then you wont be so worried
Always early for you 😭❤️❤️❤️❤️you look so good as always
Omgerd you're gassin me up 😭❤️ thanks for being here!
JOHN IS 🔥🔥🔥 nailed it....SHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESH
From a 47 year old man. We are super immature!!!!! Guys are not ready for marriage until 35+ (but I think 40 for me) I got married at 27 thinking I was ready. Dam I was NOT ready. But somehow thanks to the wife with patience... we are still married 20 years later.
Hmm I think you need to go into it to learn to be ready. It’s not about the numbers, age is just a number
I'm Vietnamese and I can't tell you how excited I was when you were making the coffee 🥺
I got married in my early 20’s and was married for 13 years and wife and I got divorced after our second was born and I was in my first year of PhD program and now am single in my mid 30’s. I’ve mostly been dating girls in their early to mid 20’s. Most girls seem to really like dating an older guy who looks young and it seems much easier to attract girls now compared to when I was in my early 20’s. Seems like I have a major advantage compared to other dudes in their early 20’s…have a lot more to offer and am a lot more secure and mature than I was. The reason I date younger girls is because I still want to have another family and more kids so I want to have enough time to settle down again and have plenty of time to have kids and space them apart if needed. Everything just feels so much more relaxed and easy in my 30’s while my 20’s I felt scared to death most of the time lol.
YES YES YES SHE THE QUEEN POSTED!! have a great thursday/friday and stay safe!! love u~
Loved the honest convo with Jon! Definitely related !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
loved this conversation! i really like urs perspective on these talks about life, not just dating but life in general 💕
8:32 damm thats is very true. not thinking that you yourself are good enough for others to accept you
The advice you guys have given are really practical. Reaching my 30s this year and relate to this a lot. Love the video.
I love everything you share. Love your video😉😉😉
Very insightful! And balanced perspective. Well spoken. Thanksss
John's voice is sensuous.
NEEDED THIS TALK!! ty!
Everything is so relatable :') Anyway, I love this kind of content! :D
Love the music u used in this vlog~ can u tell us the titles? ✌🏻✌🏻
Love listening to these relationship talks!! 😊
Wow 😍😊hi guys happy weekend ✌❤❤and your friend John is soo handsome 😉😍😍John's answers are really good 👊👍honest experience ❤❤😍
I really like your content and the deep talk and (most of the time) you have guy's perspective, and i like ur aesthetic and ure so coool luvsss
I love ur voice and the way u talk! I need more of ur vlogs!
That coffee looked awesome!
It's so good!
Yayyy a new video!!! pls make longer videos😁!!
It's so hard 😭
I really loved this!! ty freesia 💗
Always love your real talks with roomie John 💕
Very true John!
"Michellese not coming" 🤣🤣 Poor Dobdobb hahaha
Sorry dobz! 🥴
*Michelle's lol
luv this roomie dynamic :-")
No offense to John’s partner but I felt a slight heartbreak when they mentioned he’s in a rs. Still secretly shipping Freesia + John😂
she said before that they werent like that i think in a video
Hi Freesia!
Me and my bf are in our late 20's and are planning to move out in the next few months. This will be the first time we will be living on our own, apart from our families. Are there any apps or websites that you recommend to help find apartments?
WHO CAN RELATE iykyk
Great perspective video from four sides. Men and Women in 20s and 30s.
"since john is over 30.... this bitch.." lmaoooo
The reason girls have this mindset is because they watch a lot of dramas
You guys would make a good couple
i am really interesting about the podcast channel that you listened and talked on this video. could you recommend me, please?
I love your sister!!! Hahah thank you for the sharing
omg igot a like！
I like John 👍 so much.
You guys have a good amount of age gap and I really like the way you are with your boyfriend. Cool
Dobby looking for Michelle hehehe
Curios to know what podcast it was you were listening to
@JustinDavis here on RUclips
daddy john 🥰
Freesia random question: how did u parents choose your name?? So unique
I been wondering the same for a while
It's a flower :)
T.T [:D]
Hahaha
I’m 21 years old and I wanna be in my 30s because I won’t be a broke college student
♥️♥️♥️♥️
i just want johns instagram LOL
😍♥️♥️♥️
Im asian i never dated lol 23yrs old smh
Wow😌
get this mans a wifey
wowo!!!
Is there a possibility that Oppa John is... gay? 😶 #wishfulthinking He is so cute and his voice so smooth.
Is John korean?
Aye
John Daddy
Hellow therrr
HELLOWWW 😅
Watch Fresh and Fit podcast for all you men. Best advice on dating for men.
Female founded, just imagine if a man would have said the same.
That’s nice
Thats not the gatcha you think it is. Theere's a million reasons why that's literally non sense.
As a guy gets older, his value as a man increase, and his options increase as well. He can be pickier with women. I think personally, as I get older I prefer younger women, more feminine features in women, and I really don't care what society thinks of my preferences. As long as she makes me happy, that's all that matters
Well there's many 30-something year old guys who are leeching off their parents and don't have a job besides being a full time gamer and an incel. Would you say their value increases?
@@HandsomeJigglypuff I guess there are exceptions... The people I was referring to were men that have done something with their lives and continue to climb the social ladder as they age.
Women are picky with their options as well. Women prefer younger hotter men over older men. People have always cared about looks