I find meditating and envisioning my adult self finding the child self and offering the child self love and support. I envision my adult self telling my child self that we are okay and that we are safe now, that the adult self has us now and we are safe.
That is beautiful. I know this is an old comment! But did you find it to be overwhelming emotion when you first did it? It feels so hard to even go there for me 😢
@Beach_flower yes, my journey to heal childhood trauma had many overwhelming moments. After trying different things the breakthrough for me was envisioning my adult self rescuing my child self. Everyone has their own story and their own journey, something that works for one may not work for another. All I can say is this worked for me. It has taken time and even when I think I'm over it something brings it back, the difference now is I know how to get myself back to where I need to be. I wish you well on your own journey. 🫂
I’ve talked to my inner child and made a serious commitment to listen, pay attention, allow in safe spaces her to act out and work thru emotions with my guidance and protection because she never was able to when a little girl. It is a serious commitment and sometimes so difficult when navigating thru anger and fear combined when my first inclination (what I had been told over and over) is to bury it because I’m supposed to be good and not a difficult child. Ugh. But - it is so rewarding to recognize I am opening up those restrictions and hearing and keeping her safe thru it all. And difficult because I didn’t have the healthy loving role model to teach me how, so with therapy and my own research and what resonates as authentic and good for me is how “we” are finding our way thru it.
This is wonderful! I have written a suicide letter, broken up with bf, gotten divorced, abused, molested to which my parents said suck it up and deal with it and never spoke to me about it again. This helps.❤I’m very proud of myself for coming so far, you have no idea 🙏🏽😇
This was very enlightening. This is the first time I've heard a practical approach of how to begin "re-mothering my wounded inner child". I will try to do this, though at first, it feels like a lie, like I'm not being genuine. Which probably speaks to the depth of my childhood wounding
I just found your channel yesterday as I'm working through my codependency and enmeshment trauma with my mom. I find your channel very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! ❤
I was triggered yesterday I had a rough morning today, waking up and still being stressed... This helped me a lot validating my feelings and not doing everything to make my partner calm down. His feelings were not my responsibility. I can tell my boundaries and react hurt when I am hurt
Thank you for sharing your well researched content Dr Kim. Today, I am so proud of myself. I advocated for my inner child this afternoon. My Inner Manager was flying the plane today. It felt wonderfully empowering. I mention this because there have been times more times than I care to mention when my inner wounded child had been running the show. We can care for ourselves everyday and become boundaries confident well adjusted adults. When we least expect it, our essential boundaries click on and fortify us. It's wonderful to see it happy. Today my inner Advocate just appeared and got shit done without being nasty or over the top. It was poetry in motion. I feel warm and fuzzy with joy all over my body. Thanks for all your supportive videos over the last two years Dr Kim. They have contributed to my healing from CEN from being traumatized by a birth mother. She had high Borderline and Narcissistic traits. Thank goodness I made it out alive. Be Well, One Love. Thanks again.
Wow this was very helpful, I've struggled understanding how to heal these parts of myself I'll be watching more videos as I put these ideas into my daily life thank you so much 💐
Auto immune diseases are often caused by people being at war with themselves. I'm doing some older forms of energetic healthcare. I know I couldn't have done it with out it. I'm actually healing. I'm just doing this for a intellectual grasp.
everything you say Dr makes since. believe me. am stupid but i no you are a great help to so many people. id need to live with you. anyway as that’s impossible keep up you great work. thanks and God Bless You.
Kim, you are a delightful lady. And you have a very good base for analyzing human problems. But the one thing I don’t think you understand, correct me if I am wrong, is that all those aspects of the inner child you referred to they are unconscious. That is the problem. And the only way to work those things out if they’re deep, is psychoanalysis through the use of transference with an understanding and trained person. I hope you get to read this. Ron Lev - Chicago.
Thank you Kim! As I listen to this and hear that "I'm no longer my child self, and I can act differently" my child self freezes out of fear. Acting the way I wish feels like retraumatizing myself. How can I approach acting appropriate to what my adult self wishes but simultaneously giving my child self what it needs, and reeducating my survival mechanisms?
In my experience, doing an initial inner child work of comforting him (finding a photo of your younger self, hugging yourself, dedicating a son to your inner child, cheering for him when you feel down) it's enough to kickstart a more secure style within some weeks. Later, when you are already developing a secure/inner parent self, you will br able to start working in your desires and things you want to improve.
It appears the video is more about the child healing the adult, because it mentions more what the adult is going through. Not enough information on what to do with the pain that comes from the childhood trauma and how to work with that.
What do i do when i always try to change myself and i act from a place of shame? Super hard making close relationships and having connections with people. My therapist said i need behaviour change but I haven’t gotten enough money to go and this stuff is eating me. Its like im trying to protect myself or something or im scared of being seen as flawed, etc. just dont know what to do.
I have that problem. We have to work on accepting and loving ourselves. You're probably super critical and hard on yourself feeling you have to over compensate.
Everything you’re saying is good…but, in order to authentically communicate this you need to embody what you’re saying. So you need to slow down your delivery. You need to give yourself room to be what say, to let the emotional truth come through in the calmness and the stillness and give us time to feel what you’re saying. It’s all coming accross as anxious, which isn’t helpful for people who need to know that it’s safe to bring our fearful child out of hiding.
What rubbish are you speaking ?? This is a cold world where people don.t wanna connect and share and THE SECURITY SYSTEM OF THIS ENTIRE PLANET IS AN UGLY MESS .
Hi Kim, If as child, you recognize, your, needs were not met. Then if you, survive that experience. If you have your own, children!. How competent, aware, and emotionally connected. Would I fail. As father with my own. Children..Would it be, safer, to, castrate myself. Regards Cliff..
I find meditating and envisioning my adult self finding the child self and offering the child self love and support. I envision my adult self telling my child self that we are okay and that we are safe now, that the adult self has us now and we are safe.
Wow this is amazing
That is beautiful. I know this is an old comment! But did you find it to be overwhelming emotion when you first did it? It feels so hard to even go there for me 😢
@Beach_flower yes, my journey to heal childhood trauma had many overwhelming moments. After trying different things the breakthrough for me was envisioning my adult self rescuing my child self. Everyone has their own story and their own journey, something that works for one may not work for another. All I can say is this worked for me. It has taken time and even when I think I'm over it something brings it back, the difference now is I know how to get myself back to where I need to be. I wish you well on your own journey. 🫂
I’ve talked to my inner child and made a serious commitment to listen, pay attention, allow in safe spaces her to act out and work thru emotions with my guidance and protection because she never was able to when a little girl. It is a serious commitment and sometimes so difficult when navigating thru anger and fear combined when my first inclination (what I had been told over and over) is to bury it because I’m supposed to be good and not a difficult child. Ugh. But - it is so rewarding to recognize I am opening up those restrictions and hearing and keeping her safe thru it all. And difficult because I didn’t have the healthy loving role model to teach me how, so with therapy and my own research and what resonates as authentic and good for me is how “we” are finding our way thru it.
This is wonderful! I have written a suicide letter, broken up with bf, gotten divorced, abused, molested to which my parents said suck it up and deal with it and never spoke to me about it again. This helps.❤I’m very proud of myself for coming so far, you have no idea 🙏🏽😇
I feel for you. You are amazing and loved. ❤
hope you heal soon ❤❤
This was very enlightening. This is the first time I've heard a practical approach of how to begin "re-mothering my wounded inner child". I will try to do this, though at first, it feels like a lie, like I'm not being genuine. Which probably speaks to the depth of my childhood wounding
For years, I've never felt like an adult. I just recently have "grown up".
Keep doing, you're helping people like me go through the day
I just found your channel yesterday as I'm working through my codependency and enmeshment trauma with my mom. I find your channel very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! ❤
Thank you for the clarification, it is very helpful ,you gave me a practical example of where to begin.
I was triggered yesterday I had a rough morning today, waking up and still being stressed... This helped me a lot validating my feelings and not doing everything to make my partner calm down. His feelings were not my responsibility. I can tell my boundaries and react hurt when I am hurt
Thank you for sharing your well researched content Dr Kim.
Today, I am so proud of myself.
I advocated for my inner child this afternoon. My Inner Manager was flying the plane today. It felt wonderfully empowering.
I mention this because there have been times more times than I care to mention when my inner wounded child had been running the show.
We can care for ourselves everyday and become boundaries confident
well adjusted adults. When we least expect it, our essential boundaries click on and fortify us. It's wonderful to see it happy.
Today my inner Advocate just appeared and got shit done without being nasty or over the top. It was poetry in motion. I feel warm and fuzzy with joy all over my body.
Thanks for all your supportive videos over the last two years Dr Kim. They have contributed to my healing from CEN from being traumatized by a birth mother. She had high Borderline and Narcissistic traits.
Thank goodness I made it out alive.
Be Well, One Love. Thanks again.
AGAIN, THANK YOU!!!!
gonna NOW watch 2 more vids YT is recommending by Dr. Sage.
IMMENSELY GRATEFUL!!!!
I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in your teaching.
Sometimes I have a hard time recognising when I am in the "wounded child" self, especially when I start to get angry.
So grateful to have found your channel
this presentation has helped me so much. thank you for your knowledge and wisdom. I truly appreciate you.
Wow this was very helpful, I've struggled understanding how to heal these parts of myself I'll be watching more videos as I put these ideas into my daily life thank you so much 💐
Glad I found this video for my cptsd
Auto immune diseases are often caused by people being at war with themselves. I'm doing some older forms of energetic healthcare. I know I couldn't have done it with out it. I'm actually healing. I'm just doing this for a intellectual grasp.
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed it today.
everything you say Dr makes since. believe me. am stupid but i no you are a great help to so many people. id need to live with you. anyway as that’s impossible keep up you great work. thanks and God Bless You.
Thanks so much from Dublin Ireland ❤
Kim, you are a delightful lady. And you have a very good base for analyzing human problems. But the one thing I don’t think you understand, correct me if I am wrong, is that all those aspects of the inner child you referred to they are unconscious. That is the problem. And the only way to work those things out if they’re deep, is psychoanalysis through the use of transference with an understanding and trained person. I hope you get to read this. Ron Lev - Chicago.
Spot on thanks Kim very helpful
Thank you for helping me!
Thank you for this information it's very vital Inspirion powerful
Thank you Kim! As I listen to this and hear that "I'm no longer my child self, and I can act differently" my child self freezes out of fear. Acting the way I wish feels like retraumatizing myself. How can I approach acting appropriate to what my adult self wishes but simultaneously giving my child self what it needs, and reeducating my survival mechanisms?
In my experience, doing an initial inner child work of comforting him (finding a photo of your younger self, hugging yourself, dedicating a son to your inner child, cheering for him when you feel down) it's enough to kickstart a more secure style within some weeks. Later, when you are already developing a secure/inner parent self, you will br able to start working in your desires and things you want to improve.
Dedicating a song*
Hi, glad i found your channel and this video
How do u remove feelings of hatred towards a parent for abusing you and anger towards people who were loved and cared for
Loved this post. Very practical and helpful. Thanks Dr Sage. 👍
I'm glad i found you Doctor😊
This is so helpful! Thank you so much.❤🌻🍀
Thank you 🥹🙏
It appears the video is more about the child healing the adult, because it mentions more what the adult is going through. Not enough information on what to do with the pain that comes from the childhood trauma and how to work with that.
I started the free course. Is it possible to start over from the beginning?
Can i ask thr Virgin Mary to be my mom or is that thought an unrealistic trauma response from my wounding?
You definitely could. 10/10 would recommend.
Thank you for sharing
I'm guessing you haven't record more after this?
Thank you
So very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you for all you do
you are amazing!!
What do i do when i always try to change myself and i act from a place of shame? Super hard making close relationships and having connections with people. My therapist said i need behaviour change but I haven’t gotten enough money to go and this stuff is eating me. Its like im trying to protect myself or something or im scared of being seen as flawed, etc. just dont know what to do.
I have that problem. We have to work on accepting and loving ourselves. You're probably super critical and hard on yourself feeling you have to over compensate.
Can ask the Creator to help you let go and learn/ lean on His love & strength.
You have such a soothing voice.
We want to see Coco the kitty.🙂
Everything you’re saying is good…but, in order to authentically communicate this you need to embody what you’re saying. So you need to slow down your delivery. You need to give yourself room to be what say, to let the emotional truth come through in the calmness and the stillness and give us time to feel what you’re saying. It’s all coming accross as anxious, which isn’t helpful for people who need to know that it’s safe to bring our fearful child out of hiding.
Omg.... Wow...
❤thank you
You talk too fast. My inner child is angry .
What rubbish are you speaking ?? This is a cold world where people don.t wanna connect and share and THE SECURITY SYSTEM OF THIS ENTIRE PLANET IS AN UGLY MESS .
Hi Kim,
If as child, you recognize, your, needs were not met. Then if you, survive that experience. If you have your own, children!. How competent, aware, and emotionally connected. Would I fail. As father with my own. Children..Would it be, safer, to, castrate myself.
Regards Cliff..
No. Just find good therapist, professional, not life coach and u ll be great