Wow I’m only 13 mins in and your alllllllllllllll in my business Pastor Curry 😮💨 God has been working on me this whole year on this ! Right on time 🙏🏾👏🏾
When you tell someone you are in Love with them. Then they mismanage your heart. They come across not able to reciprocate or don't feel the same way! Also not able to tell you the truth, but they act! Then cause more damage by calling your feelings drama!!! It taught me that if I don't clearly communicate that I expect that upfront. I will have a WILDERNESS experience!!! Learn to stop the infliction of their unhealed pain in the beginning.!!!
Thank you. This word was right for me. Communication and not being afraid to communicate in romantic relationships is something that I struggle with. Thank you for reminding me that I too have to communicate what I feel and my expectations from every relationship. And it’s okay to speak my feelings.
This message was a blessing in many way. I didn’t even realize I was creating expectations in my mind and expecting people to honor them without their permission
In todays world this makes sense. I can see the parallel. What I am struggling with is how Micheal actually had a voice? Women were property then. We didn’t have the freedom to communicate, especially to her father, the king. Again, I see what you’re saying, I just struggle with Micheal actually having the option to speak freely. Women are still, to this day, especially in some churches and marriages reminded to be quiet. I haven’t watched until the end so perhaps there is a way to vocalize without retaliation or punishment. It’s hard to communicate when both spouses are not on the same maturity level.
🙌🏾 Clear Communication is the key to any Relationship Being Fruitful whether that is with God, Your Significant Other, or Friends. 💪🏾💯This was a Spirit Filled and Good Lesson from @Isaac Curry. 🙏🏾 Many Blessings @REDEFINEDTV
I needed to hear this message right now. We have to be specific and clear in what we want, regardless of the positive or negative reaction that the other person may have. He or she needs to know how we feel and how their attitude and actions make us feel. Honesty, Respect, trust and communication is extremely important if we want to build a healthy relationship without confusion. Muchas gracias por compartir. 💯
Thank you for this pastor Curry. I was a bad communicator in my marriage. My ex husband told me that I don't communicate. I was so confused when I thought I said we should start a family soon. He says let's get married then try to have a child. I understood that, got married and I foolishly believed that my ex husband would honour me by trying to have a family. This was not the case. I look back now and think how foolish I was to believe him and not God. When I finally let go and let God. I realized I never told my ex husband that I expect a home to be for a family and not a bachelor castle with a sex maid i.e me. We went to counseling and we worked out that he did not want a family after all and says I would not be a good mother. I was shocked, hurt and humiliated. I'm so thankful I'm saved by Christ in 2016. I 🙏 for my ex husband and MYSELF to repent, forgive, heal and restore. This is a healing journey for us all. Please consent, share and talk about your expectations in any relationship. It is so real, it takes time, love and courage. Model on Jesus. He is the best we have to follow for loving and faithful relationship. Lord have mercy on us🙏✝️💖
Wow, this is exactly what I have been struggling with in my relationships. I know it stems from my childhood which is why I’m praying and getting Christian therapy so that I can learn how to effectively communicate.
You brought up some good points there! There is always something for what I am observing or experiencing in my immediate circle. Your connection between 2 Sam 6: 16 and 23 surprised me though! I always understood that Michal never had children because she despised David's praise before the Ark of God's presence. I didn't think it was because David chose not to touch her. Usually, the Scriptures say "God shut up her womb" or "Then God remembered her" when it comes to being barren or ending a season of barrenness. Granted no one is credited with preventing her from having children, but I do not see where he was not intimate with her. Perhaps God would have dealt with David as He did with Onan in Genesis 38:9, but we know God is sovereign and can handle situations differently. perhaps David wanted her back because she was the king's daughter and his ego was bruised when she was given to another, but again, that is conjecture. The core point of your message is still solid though. I recently had to express my expectations and it was overdue and therefore uncomfortable. I pray over the relationship so that the enemy can not come after me and sow seeds of bad thoughts to undo the work that was done. This has been happening too often.
That's a blessing. Thank you Lord, Jesus. Thank you Lord. ALL GLORY, PRAISE, AND HONOR BELONG TO GOD AND GOD ALONE. IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN.
This was powerful! The fragile vulnerability of a person who had been hurt and subconscienciously wants to make up for the hurt they'd been exposed to by making you the utmost indicator of how worthy of love and respect they are forgetting about all of their boundaries just to make themselves happy through you... Been here, done it... :'( Thank You so much, Pastor Curry! God bless You and Team Flowers! Lots of love from Budapest Hungary from: Daniel & Emily 🤗❤☝🙏😇
Thank you Lord Jesus for healing me heart, mind, body, soul, spirit, and confirmation to and for me. I had to learn and receive these things y'all, and I had to learn to be okay with it. In order for true healing, deliverance, peace, restoration, and joy, and love to take place in your life. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN. We have to choose to partner with the Lord for what we ask for and desire. He will not always do all of the work on His own, and it's a reason for it. Denial and refusal tend to keep you hostage and in bondage deeper and further and further in YOUR life. You either want what you are asking and crying out to God for or you don't. It's just that simple y'all.
Why did David even go and get her when she had married someone else if he had no feelings for her. I've been here in every way very painful Love them but they don't even like you that is so true.
That’s what I’m saying! While I agree mostly to this message some of it I don’t agree with. While it’s communication, some of it is also “don’t accept what you can’t and won’t reciprocate” People KNOW when they won’t care for someone the way they care for them. So now, I tell people exactly how I feel about them and go so far as to end relationships and friendships when I know deep down they either a) are chasing for self worth through my approval or b) I know I cannot or do not feel like reciprocating. Does it leave me lonely and empty? Yes. Does it leave me peaceful and proud of who I am? Also, yes. People know what they are doing. When David went to get her, it was him agreeing he is ready to treat her right. Because WHY would you go disrupt the life of someone you know cares for you but is moving on if you are not ready to treat them right?
You did a REALLY good job explaining transference. I really appreciate that, it made it clear to and for me. Thanks again. GOD BLESS. ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘
This is so true because the mind is such a powerful thing...that coupled with the destructive whisperings of the jinns n it's a recipe for disaster, unless you use discernment to surrender it all to the Most High and ask for his light n guidance.Thank you Pastor Curry 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💜
Respectfully-and it’s possible I’m missing something-but since the sermon is about “unexpressed” expectations, I’ll say that I’ve read these verses many times over the years and never seen anywhere in the passages that it says she didn’t express herself to David or had expectations/hopes beyond what would be normal/expected from a husband. Is it possible she did and that David didn’t reciprocate and was to blame for the woes of this marriage and this woman’s unlived life? I’d say that’s more likely, considering she really didn’t have the choice to leave an unloving husband. Other scripture seems to support the idea that David was not the best husband, father and leader in the home. I consider it possible her heart was bitter because of his lack of love and treatment of her as a possession that he wanted back only once another man had it. 🤔 I think as a church it’s time we challenge the ways we communicate woman-blame inappropriately, often helping abusive and unloving men feel more comfortable in their narratives and making women take on guilt that is not/never was theirs to carry.
I needed to see this post after hearing this message. I have been blaming myself for a very bad situation, in the last week gaining my strength and confidence that it wasn't my fault, then hearing this Pastors words to then taking the blame again, then reading your message realizing that I need to stand firm that I am not to blame. God help stabilize my mind in truth. Please, my heart is broken.
Scripture says, “So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband Paltiel son of Laish. Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.” 2 Samuel 3:15-16. It appears from this text that Michal had been given to a new husband who may have actually loved her-enough that he followed after her, distraught, weeping. He had to be turned away. This story exemplifies the injustices inherent in a patriarchal society, and David’s selfishness (which God confronts again and again). I firmly believe God has a heart for women like Michal, and is grieved when the church fails to rightly address [her] pain. Dear heart-God sees your deep pain, disappointment and bitterness. He wants to heal it and His heart of compassion is for you, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.
Yes. Clear, open, honest, respectful, and direct communication is key and necessary in ANY relationship. That is one way that make it a healthy, whole, complete, and loving relationship from the LORD. When we lack in this area it generally stems from childhood trauma, and not learning how to be able to express yourself in a healthy way. Or to receive constructive criticism in a healthy and necessary way. It was all yelling, putting you down, using profanity towards you, and so on and so forth. And that ISN'T good to and for anyone whatsoever.
HALLELUJAH. THANK YOU LORD, JESUS. THANK YOU LORD. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. THANK YOU LORD, JESUS. THANK YOU LORD. THIS IS A BLESSED, PERFECT, AND ON TIME WORD FROM THE LORD. AND I CHOOSE TO THANK, PRAISE, ADORE, AND MAGNIFY YOU LORD. BECAUSE OF IT, IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. THANK YOU LORD JESUS. THANK YOU LORD.
I'm behind on my Therapy Thursday session, but I'm playing catching up!! This was a powerful session, it pushed me to do some deep introspection and take ownership of where I fell short in my business and romantic relationships. Thank you 💜🇿🇦
You just do it. What do you mean? Ask the LORD to help you with your delivery if needed, but just do it. That's why people using their single season properly is VERY necessary. We have got to stop trying to God's process and timing. The wait and separation is very much so needed and an intricate part of the process.
I pray your strength in the Lord, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN. I pray that you choose to grow in God's love, process, timing, joy, peace, hope, strength, compassion, passion, discernment, wisdom, insight, and perspective. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN.
I am going to talk. I wish I could talk to you Sir. This clarified a chain of events and my cat was brutally tortured and a man in jail now because I placed so many expectations on our relationship and I don't know how to move through this. I need someone to talk to. I don't want to have fear, but I have made some grave mistakes that I can't begin to understand how to repair.
My name is Latisha. Please pray for me to enter God’s rest.
My Lord… a greater relationship with our imagination than the people we say we love!
Baby that was a word
Unspoken Expectations.. literally will leave you unsatisfied 😓😤
Wow I’m only 13 mins in and your alllllllllllllll in my business Pastor Curry 😮💨 God has been working on me this whole year on this ! Right on time 🙏🏾👏🏾
"When your value system is clear then you can be clear about all the things you expect" 💎💎💎💎💎
Yes. The narrative we create in our own mind and heart can be apart of the problem/issue.
Communication is a partnership. Both parties share equal responsibility to do it properly.
When people are INVESTED in you, that's when you can communicate (i.e. be vulnerable) your expectations.
If we do what Jesus says it will solve a lot of our issues
Communication is the key for a successful relationship. You must talk.
When you tell someone you are in Love with them. Then they mismanage your heart. They come across not able to reciprocate or don't feel the same way! Also not able to tell you the truth, but they act! Then cause more damage by calling your feelings drama!!!
It taught me that if I don't clearly communicate that I expect that upfront. I will have a WILDERNESS experience!!! Learn to stop the infliction of their unhealed pain in the beginning.!!!
Thank you. This word was right for me. Communication and not being afraid to communicate in romantic relationships is something that I struggle with. Thank you for reminding me that I too have to communicate what I feel and my expectations from every relationship. And it’s okay to speak my feelings.
TOTALLY OK!! You MUST & you WILL. I believe in you. God got you so you';ve got this. 🙏🏾
Same here
This was a word that I truly needed to hear and I thank the Lord for using you as a vessel to deliver it to me! God bless you!!
Therapy Thursday is right on Time 👏🏾❤️👏🏾
I really love this message. Amen.
This message was a blessing in many way.
I didn’t even realize I was creating expectations in my mind and expecting people to honor them without their permission
In todays world this makes sense. I can see the parallel. What I am struggling with is how Micheal actually had a voice? Women were property then. We didn’t have the freedom to communicate, especially to her father, the king. Again, I see what you’re saying, I just struggle with Micheal actually having the option to speak freely. Women are still, to this day, especially in some churches and marriages reminded to be quiet. I haven’t watched until the end so perhaps there is a way to vocalize without retaliation or punishment. It’s hard to communicate when both spouses are not on the same maturity level.
Unexpeessed & unspoken expectations
🙌🏾 Clear Communication is the key to any Relationship Being Fruitful whether that is with God, Your Significant Other, or Friends. 💪🏾💯This was a Spirit Filled and Good Lesson from @Isaac Curry. 🙏🏾 Many Blessings @REDEFINEDTV
Thank You ❤🔥🙏 Brother Curry
Unexpected unspoken expectations
I needed to hear this message right now. We have to be specific and clear in what we want, regardless of the positive or negative reaction that the other person may have.
He or she needs to know how we feel and how their attitude and actions make us feel.
Honesty, Respect, trust and communication is extremely important if we want to build a healthy relationship without confusion.
Muchas gracias por compartir. 💯
Thank you for this pastor Curry.
I was a bad communicator in my marriage. My ex husband told me that I don't communicate. I was so confused when I thought I said we should start a family soon. He says let's get married then try to have a child.
I understood that, got married and I foolishly believed that my ex husband would honour me by trying to have a family. This was not the case. I look back now and think how foolish I was to believe him and not God.
When I finally let go and let God. I realized I never told my ex husband that I expect a home to be for a family and not a bachelor castle with a sex maid i.e me.
We went to counseling and we worked out that he did not want a family after all and says I would not be a good mother. I was shocked, hurt and humiliated.
I'm so thankful I'm saved by Christ in 2016. I 🙏 for my ex husband and MYSELF to repent, forgive, heal and restore. This is a healing journey for us all.
Please consent, share and talk about your expectations in any relationship. It is so real, it takes time, love and courage. Model on Jesus. He is the best we have to follow for loving and faithful relationship.
Lord have mercy on us🙏✝️💖
UNEXPRESSED UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS.
Right in time and a good message to rewatch and relearn to stay sharp. Amen.
Wow, this is exactly what I have been struggling with in my relationships. I know it stems from my childhood which is why I’m praying and getting Christian therapy so that I can learn how to effectively communicate.
Once again I needed this
That's why I always say communication is key to any relationship.
You brought up some good points there! There is always something for what I am observing or experiencing in my immediate circle. Your connection between 2 Sam 6: 16 and 23 surprised me though! I always understood that Michal never had children because she despised David's praise before the Ark of God's presence. I didn't think it was because David chose not to touch her. Usually, the Scriptures say "God shut up her womb" or "Then God remembered her" when it comes to being barren or ending a season of barrenness. Granted no one is credited with preventing her from having children, but I do not see where he was not intimate with her. Perhaps God would have dealt with David as He did with Onan in Genesis 38:9, but we know God is sovereign and can handle situations differently. perhaps David wanted her back because she was the king's daughter and his ego was bruised when she was given to another, but again, that is conjecture. The core point of your message is still solid though. I recently had to express my expectations and it was overdue and therefore uncomfortable. I pray over the relationship so that the enemy can not come after me and sow seeds of bad thoughts to undo the work that was done. This has been happening too often.
I live for these therapy sessions 😊 Thank you Redefine TV. Timely word 🙏🏾
Same !!!
Pastor I have a question when you communicate what you expect and it is not reciprocated what’s next? By the way you preaching this thang
Such a good, practical, on-time word. You have spoken the truth and I promise to do better in expressing my expectations!
My God! This indeed hit a rootI was not expecting the waterworks to flow the way they did! My spirit has been fed and healed today🙌
That's a blessing. Thank you Lord, Jesus. Thank you Lord. ALL GLORY, PRAISE, AND HONOR BELONG TO GOD AND GOD ALONE. IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN.
Omg I needed that , honestly I use to be so clear on what I wanted ,idk what changed but I pray for healing today
This was powerful!
The fragile vulnerability of a person who had been hurt and subconscienciously wants to make up for the hurt they'd been exposed to by making you the utmost indicator of how worthy of love and respect they are forgetting about all of their boundaries just to make themselves happy through you...
Been here, done it... :'(
Thank You so much, Pastor Curry!
God bless You and Team Flowers!
Lots of love from Budapest Hungary from:
Daniel & Emily
🤗❤☝🙏😇
This is so poignant!!thank you for this comment! Stay blessed
Thank you for this counselling Pastor Curry. Our generation needs this!
Thank you ✊🏾
Thank you Lord Jesus for healing me heart, mind, body, soul, spirit, and confirmation to and for me. I had to learn and receive these things y'all, and I had to learn to be okay with it. In order for true healing, deliverance, peace, restoration, and joy, and love to take place in your life. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN. We have to choose to partner with the Lord for what we ask for and desire. He will not always do all of the work on His own, and it's a reason for it. Denial and refusal tend to keep you hostage and in bondage deeper and further and further in YOUR life. You either want what you are asking and crying out to God for or you don't. It's just that simple y'all.
Why did David even go and get her when she had married someone else if he had no feelings for her. I've been here in every way very painful Love them but they don't even like you that is so true.
That’s what I’m saying!
While I agree mostly to this message some of it I don’t agree with.
While it’s communication, some of it is also “don’t accept what you can’t and won’t reciprocate”
People KNOW when they won’t care for someone the way they care for them.
So now, I tell people exactly how I feel about them and go so far as to end relationships and friendships when I know deep down they either a) are chasing for self worth through my approval or b) I know I cannot or do not feel like reciprocating.
Does it leave me lonely and empty? Yes.
Does it leave me peaceful and proud of who I am? Also, yes.
People know what they are doing. When David went to get her, it was him agreeing he is ready to treat her right. Because WHY would you go disrupt the life of someone you know cares for you but is moving on if you are not ready to treat them right?
Amen
The enemy in me loses EVERY TIME I run into your God given messages 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
You did a REALLY good job explaining transference. I really appreciate that, it made it clear to and for me. Thanks again. GOD BLESS. ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘
This one right here! Thank you Pastor Curry
This is so true because the mind is such a powerful thing...that coupled with the destructive whisperings of the jinns n it's a recipe for disaster, unless you use discernment to surrender it all to the Most High and ask for his light n guidance.Thank you Pastor Curry 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💜
Respectfully-and it’s possible I’m missing something-but since the sermon is about “unexpressed” expectations, I’ll say that I’ve read these verses many times over the years and never seen anywhere in the passages that it says she didn’t express herself to David or had expectations/hopes beyond what would be normal/expected from a husband. Is it possible she did and that David didn’t reciprocate and was to blame for the woes of this marriage and this woman’s unlived life? I’d say that’s more likely, considering she really didn’t have the choice to leave an unloving husband. Other scripture seems to support the idea that David was not the best husband, father and leader in the home. I consider it possible her heart was bitter because of his lack of love and treatment of her as a possession that he wanted back only once another man had it. 🤔 I think as a church it’s time we challenge the ways we communicate woman-blame inappropriately, often helping abusive and unloving men feel more comfortable in their narratives and making women take on guilt that is not/never was theirs to carry.
I needed to see this post after hearing this message. I have been blaming myself for a very bad situation, in the last week gaining my strength and confidence that it wasn't my fault, then hearing this Pastors words to then taking the blame again, then reading your message realizing that I need to stand firm that I am not to blame. God help stabilize my mind in truth. Please, my heart is broken.
Scripture says, “So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband Paltiel son of Laish. Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.” 2 Samuel 3:15-16. It appears from this text that Michal had been given to a new husband who may have actually loved her-enough that he followed after her, distraught, weeping. He had to be turned away. This story exemplifies the injustices inherent in a patriarchal society, and David’s selfishness (which God confronts again and again). I firmly believe God has a heart for women like Michal, and is grieved when the church fails to rightly address [her] pain. Dear heart-God sees your deep pain, disappointment and bitterness. He wants to heal it and His heart of compassion is for you, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.
Whew Jesus.. this was a Word I didn’t even realize I needed. So much truth in this message that I could relate to.
❤❤❤❤
This is SO helpful! I have been through this and with the Lord's help I've been maturing in this area
Praise God this word was right on time
Yes. Clear, open, honest, respectful, and direct communication is key and necessary in ANY relationship. That is one way that make it a healthy, whole, complete, and loving relationship from the LORD. When we lack in this area it generally stems from childhood trauma, and not learning how to be able to express yourself in a healthy way. Or to receive constructive criticism in a healthy and necessary way. It was all yelling, putting you down, using profanity towards you, and so on and so forth. And that ISN'T good to and for anyone whatsoever.
HALLELUJAH. THANK YOU LORD, JESUS. THANK YOU LORD. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. THANK YOU LORD, JESUS. THANK YOU LORD. THIS IS A BLESSED, PERFECT, AND ON TIME WORD FROM THE LORD. AND I CHOOSE TO THANK, PRAISE, ADORE, AND MAGNIFY YOU LORD. BECAUSE OF IT, IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. HALLELUJAH. LORD WE BLESS YOUR NAME. THANK YOU LORD JESUS. THANK YOU LORD.
Unexpressed and unspoken expectations
Watching on a replay pastor !!!
Wow! This really hit me.
Amen amen ,Nailing my sins to the cross of Calvary
So on point is all I will say God help me because this hit me so hard.
I'm behind on my Therapy Thursday session, but I'm playing catching up!! This was a powerful session, it pushed me to do some deep introspection and take ownership of where I fell short in my business and romantic relationships. Thank you 💜🇿🇦
Wish I would have caught this on live !!! I literally am living this today
This is so powerful !Teach us man of God
THIS!!!! ON POINT
Amen. Thank you! Communication really is key.
So great. Thank you. And the way you delivered it was so helpful.
Thank you Issac, very helpful! God bless
Thank you! I needed to see this . I’ve been praying about this .
This is sooo good. Thank you for sharing. Amen.
This was so good. Gave me lots to think about.
Wow thank you so much for that ❤️
Amen, so much valid and useful information in one message thanks be to God for using you as a vessel to reach out to others
This is SO GOOD
Unexpressed expectations
This was sooo good! I want to know, how can I confess my thoughts and expectations without coming across as complaining?
You just do it. What do you mean? Ask the LORD to help you with your delivery if needed, but just do it. That's why people using their single season properly is VERY necessary. We have got to stop trying to God's process and timing. The wait and separation is very much so needed and an intricate part of the process.
I pray your strength in the Lord, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN. I pray that you choose to grow in God's love, process, timing, joy, peace, hope, strength, compassion, passion, discernment, wisdom, insight, and perspective. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. AMEN.
I am going to talk. I wish I could talk to you Sir. This clarified a chain of events and my cat was brutally tortured and a man in jail now because I placed so many expectations on our relationship and I don't know how to move through this. I need someone to talk to. I don't want to have fear, but I have made some grave mistakes that I can't begin to understand how to repair.
Amen 🙏🏽
The truth
Unexpressed
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen why don't you communicate yes address it