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A relationship didn't do you wrong, a relationship with the wrong person did you wrong. That's what I need to remind myself of so I don't shut a blessing out
I'd rather be respected than desired or lusted after. Respect is priceless and can't be manufactured by any means. With respect, trust and honesty will coexist ...how sexy is that?
@@1111V2 I love your response and wholeheartedly agree with you. I think we are in a time, where people have forgotten how valuable respect when used interchangeably will achieve.
Crowd and environment change helps. I used to be very fond of what I know, but I changed my crowd, space and conversation... Next, I found really great women that added value to me. I messed the last one up... But there are more out there.
This just made me adjust my 2019 goals to include healthy dates with no love intentions per se, but communication and learning. So many punchlines too.
Amazing.... This image of black men, uplifting, supporting, building, healing, challenging, self reflection and acutulization was simply amazing.. kudos to the host on this one. You came in pouring into the conversation and it became so fluid... So many seeds were planted in this video, and thank God you guys did this again.. P.S.If you all need a womans perspective left me know I'll come to the next taping! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙋🏽♀️
I'm going through a break up and fell in a mild depression and these videos are waking me up, I've been watching constantly the last 3 days. I appreciate y'all!
@@bananapee86 first off not a dude I’m a grown woman …. Secondly I say that as my own experience.. after having a parent passing away (mom) funerals r never the same for me , I rarely even cry at them anymore
30:51 This just made me cry. Because it’s exactly what I’ve been trough since my sexual abuse a year ago. I used to be a size 2 and hit the gym 5 days a week; after the incident I gained 20 pounds. The reason for that was this one sentence that the rapist said: ‘Wow, I could feel every bone of your body.’ But me gaining weight didn’t decrease other men’s attention; it just made me depressed, anxious and suicidal. The fact that I still get immediate panic attack’s as soon as a male approaches me in public (I even feel ridiculously uncomfortable and anxious if men just use the treadmill next to me at the gym) made me realize something: Self-destruction won’t help, but professional help will. To every woman out there who had to deal with any form of abuse: you’re not alone. Opening up about it is scary but necessary in order to get the control about your life back. Please seek help ❤️
He’s exactly right. If you spend most of your life jumping from one relationship to the next without purpose, by the time you’re in your 50’s and 60’s, your options are nonexistent and you go back to ex’s, if they are available, and you start the process all over again. You will never find love because deep down inside, relationships are just a matter of convenience and love has never been you’re objective and never will be. Yet, you break hearts over and over again while you’re on the your path of self-destruction. If you don’t desire love, stay out of exclusive or committed relationships, period. Until you can be HONEST with yourself and face your problems in a REAL way, you do not need to even date. It’s okay to play with toys. It’s not okay to play with other people’s hearts.
I appreciate men speaking truthfully about relationships. Our experiences have made it seem like women are the only one who experience hurt -- and it's not true. But perhaps there hasn't really been a safe space for men to be honest about their feelings. So thank you!
I am just madly in love with this legitimate honest, down to earth, Godly, Intelligent, Handsome, mature gentleman. We need more men like you. With all the love, admiration and respect. God bless you!
I don't know how I ended up here, but the Lord knew i needed this. All I can say is wow. Thank you guys so much for this, you don't know how much of an impact this just made on my life.
“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:23 “Trust no man” I felt this in my spirit because as people we expect someone to never do something hurtful to us, but in all reality it’s going to happen because no one is perfect. Our expectations are higher then God’s.
I've never heard this brother Stephan before, but watching this, I share pretty much the same views as he. I don't fully trust anyone nor do I place expectations on people, because we are all one decision away from messing up. great wisdom from the brother!
I was just asking someone what's their expectations of me prior to accepting a dinner date. He asked me, "what are these expectations that you keep talking about?" I didn't feel comfortable accepting his offer unless we were on the same page. His initial invitation was to spend the entire weekend with him, I wasn't doing that. Communication must be fostered in the very beginning of the friendship/courtship/friendship.
OMG!!!!! Thank you so much for this podcast!!!! I truly needed to hear this. I’m a forty-four year old woman who is struggling with finding my purpose in life. I am raising a young black man. This will truly help me help him. Thanks again. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wisdom 💣💥🔥 At some point you have to see your part in your life script. You are the common denominator in every relationship you have so you can't be afraid to review yourself and edit and correct as necessary.
I feel Stephan is well needed at this time in life. Especially with the feminism, the war with men and women and Mgtow momevent, he showing that there is still love out there! God positions you at the perfect time🙏🏿
This man Stephan Speaks is the bomb! And he's fine and full of wisdom!! I can't stop listening to him. He speaks directly to men and women. God bless this man!!!
Oh man oh man! It took me almost 4 hours to finish watching this! Kept stopping and rewatching some parts to let them soak in. I have a situation at work where my feelings got hurt. After watching the part about 90% good 10% bad and forgiving the person for the isolated incident totally shook me!! I can safely say I've forgiven the person and will walk into work on Monday with a smile and great attitude. 😁 So from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Also, thank you so much for all 3 of you being real and having fun on the show. It's so refreshing and nice to watch.😊 May God continue to bless all of you abundantly! Hugs!🤗
I am on my journey toward self discovery and self transformation. The content on this podcast is exactly what I need right now. It's crazy how u guys cover questions and concerns I have. Keep up the good work.
I feel like God led me to see this. I now have a different mindset equipped for the next relationship. IF I ever get into another relationship, that is. And when he spoke about wallowing in our feelings/depression, man it hit me hard. Thank God for putting Stephan on this earth. I've never EVER been so amazed towards a relationship coach. I love how intellectual and honest he is.
I just love hearing the male perspective about love and relationships! This podcast was so loaded with information and encouragement!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 🤗😍😘
I'm learning with my kids at work that their mental age and chronological age doesn't always match. Some adults are very immature. So I am practicing to look at adults this same way as well. I tend to look deeper when ppl aren't using "common" sense.
Women making themselves less desirable because they don't want attention is true. I can contest to that. While going through my divorce, I shaved my head bald so men wouldn't find me attractive and I was broken/dealing with esteem issues. I didn't want anything to do with a man. To my surprise, I got more attention from men. They found me very beautiful. So that failed lol
I hear you on every level. I have went through this more than once in my life; for me, it has been gaining weight so I am not looked at. I have went through a lot of emotional turmoil in my life and many times the attention made me uncomfortable. So gaining weight, dressing super casually, limited makeup or trying to look good really has been a layer of protection for me at times in my life. I have gotten more attention now in my 30s than I did in my 20s. Late bloomer. :)
I have to be honest and admit, I have done things or not addressed certain issues to not be attractive or desirable physically. This is a healing video to watch. Love this open dialogue.
OMG! I literally just shaved my head last month! I thought that it was to disassociate myself from everything that identified me as me to him. Maybe it was I sign of something deeper. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective.
Thanks guys!!! Definitely in my process of healing and I'm so grateful to see content as this being spread. You guys too can be healed ..start now and you wont have to start later. Go ahead and do that!!!!!
Congrats on your 100th podcast Roommates. Thank you for continuing to teach us and sharing so many gems. I have to listen/watch/rewatch every episode. 😊😄 Stephan.... Buying your book for myself and ALL OF MY SINGLE FRIENDS...men and women...
Damn I feel a relief listening to you guys talk so openly. I’m one of those that suffer in silence because I don’t want to appear weak. Instead i just end up supressing stuff and it eats me up. This was a breath of fresh air
My thought process towards love and relationships is almost identical to Stephan's... He is extremely knowledgeable in this area and it's a great blessing. I always find the Male perspective on relationships more beneficial.
@@voquoncarter924 it gives great insight on the male perspective of things. Men aren't always vocal so when they are it's very beneficial in my opinion.
We get the information we need, when we are ready to "Hear it" and "Receive it". We are never late, we are always on time. This made me laugh...made me gulp...and made me want to be better! Just Be Better!! Sending Love to All!!
Simply Amazing! The fact that you guys can unapologeticly open up about true relationship issues is beautiful! I’m 46 years old and your podcast has helped me understand what I was going through a decade ago! Thank you 🙏🏾
Not every woman wants a man to make a bunch of money... I don’t care as long as they’re not coming with a bunch of walls up and inner self sabotaging beliefs. Money is just an expression of everything you currently have done and the beliefs you lived out to this point. It changes bc anyone can live out their best lives at any time they want to. I love what you said about what you bring to the table and how you show you up -and also a connection where 2 people keep being their best each other. Thank you for also saying healed and happy people are not going to play games or be hurtful. Hurt people hurt people-it’s just the frequency they are on.
I think this frame of mentality is disillusioned. I’m sorry but as a modern woman in today’s society ( Los angeles dating) Financial stability is top 5 in the dating criteria. I don’t make a “bunch” of $ but i am in a position where I am blessed to pay for shelter for myself and my child, pay for essentials and small joys, and in LA that’s something hard to come by I know ppl who are still in their late 30s who share a family line with their parents and still live with their families with barely any savings in their accts. I’m not saying I’m better than them but when I got out on dates to try and find a partner, I want to know that the man I want to invest my time and efforts and emotional energy on CAN and if willing be a level that I can trust to support himself and if we grow together eventually can support our future family. Which in LA is pretty expensive not saying I won’t contribute to that lifestyle but I want to know that he is able to sustain a livable wage for his children/more children etc. So yes there is the factor of connecting and mutual values but that why it’s so hard to find someone with ALL these qualities. I don’t want to bash your comment I just don’t want young woman out there just thinking that they should find only a emotional connection with someone but bypass the $ part, bc there are LOTS of men out there who pretend to be there for you but then turn around and suck your pockets dry. And I want to warn woman who are lonely and are willing to give and give but then cry when those men take advantage of them financially and run off as soon as they get a chance. I’ve seen it done and i’m not the one. You gotta think about your children and your future children before your hearts needs. Sorry for the rant. Much love and Good luck all the singles out there! Date smarter not harder! 🤞💕💕
I stumbled across this podcast as I was looking for other videos. This truly blessed me! I also said "ouch" a few times! Thank you for these pearls of wisdom! God bless!
I just saw Stephan at the I love me summit and he is just AMAZING!!! He dropped so many nuggets. I'm on a journey of healing and self love and Stephan said a lot of things on here that helped me put things in a different perspective. Hurt is inevitable, don't have expectations, do unto others what u want done to u. I mean sooo much stuff! Absolutely love this, God bless u Stephan and roommates.
podcast is so good, so refreshing.. I'm at work rewinding this episode over and over again. I'm a forklift operator so imagine what my driving is looking like right now lol anywho. Congratulations on your 100 episode I definitely want a book so pick me!
This is so deep on so many levels...this came at a time where am learning to love me and learning to forgive and flush out the negative. Got to realise we're all humans and we're all going through our own journey so love is gonna have to be the pillar to keep it moving. Stephan your mind is so beautiful i can't even explain...roommate guys keep it up and stay blessed y'all 😉😊
This video is so empowering. Ik men probably watch and don’t comment but I hope the comment section is not indicative of the main demographic of people who get to enjoy this video. Ladies send this to a man who needs healing 💕 the first person who comes to mind even if you feel they won’t watch. Step out on faith and do it because this stuff saves people.
WOW!!! I told my husband over and over that he is the only man I’ve EVER had these kinds of issues with and I NEVER considered the verbally abusive relationship with my mother was the underlying condition behind my angry outburst. Can you say MIND BLOWN!!!! Thanks for these podcasts. I learn so much about myself in a place I didn’t even think I had an issue with at all. Sending much love and positive energy for all that you do to help others look introspectively.
I can tell that Chris got something out of this and I'm happy that you asked the appropriate questions and you were vulnerable because it helped me. Thank you! I pray that you heal the issues of the past, you are a handsome man and you will be blessed with the right woman 🤗🙏🏽
Thank you for poiting out the difference between attention for men and women. So accurate. I get randomly propositioned WAY too often by guus and gals that wanna hook up. It really does get very old very fast. I appreciate you guys. Heal the past, live in the preaent, and create your excellent future. Love this video!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
Thank you gentlemen! It’s always so encouraging to see men having these conversations. But especially men who are growing and learning. God bless you all. Let’s become the men and women God created us to be.. one step, one choice, one voice at a time.
Great job on this video guys. The transparency from you both was refreshing to watch. Chris, I know you're going through a storm right now but you'll be just fine. Keep your head up. Always a pleasure to see Mr. LAbossiere :-) Spitting gems as always. I will definitely watch this at least 2 more times as I'm sure I will continue to take something new away each time. I love when you spoke on coming to the "table" prepared to meet what you are asking for. Don't be asking for a steak when you're only serving McDonald's. Also, I agree with the double standards that exist for men, however it does go both ways. Any chance I get I tell people to focus on being their best versions of themselves. It's the most rewarding experiences you will ever have in life. Becoming my "best self" has uncovered blessings beyond anything I could have imagined for myself. It's extremely freeing to be apologetically you. Congrats on #100. Looking forward to more great work from you both! Much love from Toronto, Ontario (Canada)
Perspective is one of the best things to have! I recently made a mistake with my girlfriend, we are now taking a break longer than I ever expected, I now know that this time apart is a healthy healing process and whatever happens happens. Man did I learn a lot from this woman and have only her to thank! God bless everyone out there struggling, it is not easy but it is necessary!
I could listen to Stephan talk all day. He's so enlightening and honest. Thk God that I was lead to this podcast. Nothing that happens to us is by coincidence. This is coming to us from Divine intervention. Best wishes and much success everyone!
Doing God's will that's what makes you a man or a woman >spiritually , mentally and physically. Attraction is what gets the person. Your character is what keeps the person. The body ages everyday but your character doesn't. If a person does not fear God you are wasting your time. (Read proverbs 31:30 )To have a wife who is attractive to look at is nice, but the very best you can do is to have a wife who fears God and keeps His commandments; and she will have all of these other things as an extra. True holiness and virtue command permanent respect and affection, far more than charm and beauty of face and form YOU ARE WHO YOU ATTRACT TO. BE HOLY SO YOU CAN ATTRACT HOLLY. 1 PETER 1:16 FOR IT IS WRITTEN: "BE HOLY, BECAUSE I AM HOLY."
These guys are awesome. True, real men. Thank you for the wisdom. We are spoiled here on youtube to get content like this for free. Good stuff gentleman.
Ayeeeee Chris is back! We missed you man. You are cared about and valued! Don’t stop, y’all are doing a GREAT job. I learn so much from you guys every podcast. Thank you!
Congratulations on your 100th episode and thank you for standing for the sharing of healthier conversations. You guys are embracing healing from young, it gives me hope for the youngins coming up. Much love and respect to three great men. Some amazing points that make for harmonious dialogue without the finger pointing. You have always led the way and I am supportive of your journey as I walk my own. Three great men 💚💚💚
I just got out of a 30 year marriage and now I'm working on myself. Learning to love myself after a long abusive marriage is very hard because all the pain and hurt did not just stem from my marriage but my childhood as well.
This was 5yrs ago and still is so very relevant and on point. Literally have been self talking amd speaking with my young queens and king about these very topics and life moves. Always mentioning "Love After Heartbreak" to others of all ages , TY @StephanSpeaks and @TheRoomatesPodcast for taking the time to sow seeds.🙏🏽😇🙌🏾
There were several things that helped me to enjoy the previous episode with Stephan. Number one was the impact that his insights were making on the two of you. Seeing your responses implies that people are unaware and maybe even oblivious to spiritual, physical, emotional, etc. affects of the things Stephan spoke about. Also I feel that the depth of inquisitive questions proposed by the roommates, greatly encouraged a transparent conversation. Again it was very well accepted by men and women because there was no attack on either sex, but just pure, passionate, sincere wisdom shared by a man who is obviously gifted with the understanding of purpose, self control and true love. Finally, it is impressive to see how Stephan's maturity and wisdom is having an effect on the roommates. Personally, I can recieve the message presented by Stephan because of his confident nature. His posture, tone, and autonomous powerful message. Thank you for the guidance, leadership and encouraging expertise! Your sharing prompted me caring, and I shared that video with all of my friends and loved ones. I'm looking for to reading all of your books Mr. Labossiere. I have subscribed to the podcast and IG accounts of the three of you. Keep up the positive image 🙏🏽Namasté
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this more then ever. I’m going through a breakup with someone I had given a second chance to. This words were music to my hears
This was a great conversation! Many blessings to Brother Stephan. I've never heard of him, so I will definitely have to go back and watch/listen to the previous interview. I wish him nothing but continued success and good luck with his new book. Personally, I've been on a journey of self-reflection, self-improvement, and forgiving myself (well trying to) since after my relationship in 2012. It is definitely a journey and a process. I appreciate the message you all had to share. Congratulations Hafeez and Chris on your 100th episode! That is awesome. Many blessings and continued success to you all as well!
Such a great show fellas!!! Chris is on the way to his healing! I love it! Hafeez you are an amazing friend and man just by the way you uplift Chris. You don't see many men comfortable enough to speak those wonderful words you spoke to Chris. I'm glad I found the channel. 💕
I have been so emotionally exhausted because I have been the person who didn't speak up about what I deserved even when I knew that I am worth more than an excuse. I feel is a real thing... I should SAY how an action or the lack of feeling make me feel. You guys have us woke and I can't get enough.... #SPEAKURTRUTH
Real intresting podcast! Instead of that stupid and negative red pill bs, you bring maturity and uplifting on a positive and powerful way! We need more of this! Im tired of these channels that learn to manipulate, degrade and disrespect woman. And I say that as a men. Keep up with the good work guys!
God bless you guys and Stephan is amazing. You all are amazing. Whatever you are going through Mr Below,You will overcome it through God’s grace.And you have an amazing friend always reaffirming the gem within you so that you don’t loose sight. There are truly good men. God bless you.
I love you guys podcast , with yall two young black men showing how to id. yourself and willing to show that yall are open to change. With yall stepping out in areas that most are able to do . Yall are able to do that . I really appreciate this podcast . It helps me grow
So much of what was discussed in this podcast interview (and the previous esp) is so on point. I find it so insightful to hear the male perspective of love, heartache, relationships, etc. Thanks qualifying your statement around 1:21 mark about women taking responsibility for their shortcomings that contributed to the failure of a relationship. Self awareness is essential to growth and development. When I went though a breakup, I had to have a heart to heart with my mom and share with her my shortcomings that contributed to the breakup. Prior to that discussion, in her mind, I was an innocent victim and he was painted as the “villain”. But in my situation, that wasn’t the case and out of respect for the man that he is, I had to speak up and let it be known.
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The Roommates Podcast Y’all should tour colleges and have open dialogue/panel discussions. I can help 🤗 #ProudSpelmanGraduate
The Roommates Podcast he’s preachin preachin!💎 Get him a towel guys😅
Will you guys ever invite Derrick Jaxn?
@@PurelyChasXO Send us an email
@@emmanmuruka Hahaha lol
Love didnt hurt you, but a lack of love did. Powerful.
Amen!
Yea lack if self love sometimes
Yes that was Heavy
That is deep. And true.
So true
A relationship didn't do you wrong, a relationship with the wrong person did you wrong. That's what I need to remind myself of so I don't shut a blessing out
Seek respect not ATTENTION it lasts Longer.
Respect is key
I'd rather be respected than desired or lusted after. Respect is priceless and can't be manufactured by any means. With respect, trust and honesty will coexist ...how sexy is that?
@@k.denisejohnson7621 A seductress can be both respected and lusted after... which is a feminine power many women are able to harness.🌹
@@1111V2 I love your response and wholeheartedly agree with you. I think we are in a time, where people have forgotten how valuable respect when used interchangeably will achieve.
Bravo - that is my new mantra 👏
I wish more guys are self aware, conscious like these men
They will be. Starting a change!
Lol... We're all listening in. Believe me, there are a lot of us on the wave.
Glad to hear that, but idk how to find that
Crowd and environment change helps. I used to be very fond of what I know, but I changed my crowd, space and conversation... Next, I found really great women that added value to me. I messed the last one up... But there are more out there.
@@Friizu-e3p 💯💯💯💯
Finally a man who believes in consistency .
We are out here.
absolutely 💘
Alot more than you think.
Seems like you keeping the wrong men..a couple brothers in your comment section alone prove your hypothesis wrong
@@GraitBritton that's an abusive talking point! put it down and never pick it back up❤
This just made me adjust my 2019 goals to include healthy dates with no love intentions per se, but communication and learning. So many punchlines too.
That's great.
Hope you still sticking to your goals.
So how did 2019 go? Report back man.
that shit sounds foolish
@@honeys.9579 I am
Amazing.... This image of black men, uplifting, supporting, building, healing, challenging, self reflection and acutulization was simply amazing.. kudos to the host on this one. You came in pouring into the conversation and it became so fluid... So many seeds were planted in this video, and thank God you guys did this again.. P.S.If you all need a womans perspective left me know I'll come to the next taping! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙋🏽♀️
Thanks for the support :)
If you read the video description, it says their names. Also, they say their names near the beginning of the show. :) @Searra Ann
Agreed.Bringing back the hope in mature masculinity.Very uplifting seeing guys talking with wisdom.Inspiring.
I'm going through a break up and fell in a mild depression and these videos are waking me up, I've been watching constantly the last 3 days. I appreciate y'all!
Hope ur doing well .. it’s crazy breakups can be harder than going to a funeral uggghhhh
Same. Your comment was 11 months ago. I hope it's going better
@@jasonjones4036 hope you doing well my man
@@tonileolion9702 dude knock it off
@@bananapee86 first off not a dude I’m a grown woman …. Secondly I say that as my own experience.. after having a parent passing away (mom) funerals r never the same for me , I rarely even cry at them anymore
Just happy to see that men actually have these types of conversations and want love just as much as we do.
30:51
This just made me cry. Because it’s exactly what I’ve been trough since my sexual abuse a year ago. I used to be a size 2 and hit the gym 5 days a week; after the incident I gained 20 pounds. The reason for that was this one sentence that the rapist said: ‘Wow, I could feel every bone of your body.’
But me gaining weight didn’t decrease other men’s attention; it just made me depressed, anxious and suicidal.
The fact that I still get immediate panic attack’s as soon as a male approaches me in public (I even feel ridiculously uncomfortable and anxious if men just use the treadmill next to me at the gym) made me realize something:
Self-destruction won’t help, but professional help will.
To every woman out there who had to deal with any form of abuse: you’re not alone. Opening up about it is scary but necessary in order to get the control about your life back. Please seek help ❤️
Olga E 💕
Please keep growing and healing Queen. You get your strength and power back 10fold.
I will pray for your continued healing sister. Glad that you were delivered with your life.
❤️
❤️ I am so sorry that happened to you
Both men and women are experiencing that same "silent hurt" in different areas. We're way more similar than we think.
Very true.
He’s exactly right. If you spend most of your life jumping from one relationship to the next without purpose, by the time you’re in your 50’s and 60’s, your options are nonexistent and you go back to ex’s, if they are available, and you start the process all over again. You will never find love because deep down inside, relationships are just a matter of convenience and love has never been you’re objective and never will be. Yet, you break hearts over and over again while you’re on the your path of self-destruction. If you don’t desire love, stay out of exclusive or committed relationships, period. Until you can be HONEST with yourself and face your problems in a REAL way, you do not need to even date. It’s okay to play with toys. It’s not okay to play with other people’s hearts.
I appreciate men speaking truthfully about relationships. Our experiences have made it seem like women are the only one who experience hurt -- and it's not true. But perhaps there hasn't really been a safe space for men to be honest about their feelings. So thank you!
Glad to be able to help.
☮️
Danny Owens fr? Would’ve never knew
"the Bible even says 'trust no man'. People have higher expectations for people than God does." Well damn...
Sad truth.
God knows his sheep.
It’s time to get back into the Word.
People ain't worth shit
That got me too!
I am just madly in love with this legitimate honest, down to earth, Godly, Intelligent, Handsome, mature gentleman. We need more men like you. With all the love, admiration and respect. God bless you!
I don't know how I ended up here, but the Lord knew i needed this. All I can say is wow. Thank you guys so much for this, you don't know how much of an impact this just made on my life.
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I love how respectable these two are. I love yall congrats keep doing yall thing #speakfacts
Agreed
Thank you :)
@@TheRoommatesPodcast nah thank you. Love hearing a guys perspective its always so interesting and enlightening 💜
And they're always full of great energy too! I love that
We need more men support groups so we can grow together spiritually and emotionally. This podcast was a break through for me.
All it takes is one. To feel understood or relatable is a great thing.
Yeah maybe more people would meet their match if this happened.
Let me make sure my wig is secure before I even play this video 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Hahaha
OKAY!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Lol ditto
Hahahhahaha
A woman’s attention does not make you a man !!!!!!!!!!!!
Facts!
For some it does, attention possibly could be what brings business or income eventually.
For many people, including women, it does. Unfortunately.
@@bvernon97 100 percent facts
Coming from a women, 😆 stay in your lane
“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”
Romans 3:23
“Trust no man”
I felt this in my spirit because as people we expect someone to never do something hurtful to us, but in all reality it’s going to happen because no one is perfect. Our expectations are higher then God’s.
Very true.
This here preached!!!!
Facts... I not only that but the ones who expect everyone to be perfect be on some bs themselves and cant even see it
Stephan's back!
Can't get enough of him.
Can't say enough thanks...
Thank you!
I've never heard this brother Stephan before, but watching this, I share pretty much the same views as he. I don't fully trust anyone nor do I place expectations on people, because we are all one decision away from messing up. great wisdom from the brother!
He is real great!
I was just asking someone what's their expectations of me prior to accepting a dinner date. He asked me, "what are these expectations that you keep talking about?"
I didn't feel comfortable accepting his offer unless we were on the same page. His initial invitation was to spend the entire weekend with him, I wasn't doing that. Communication must be fostered in the very beginning of the friendship/courtship/friendship.
You can’t expect to be repaired by a Mercedes Benz driving a Prius🙌🏽🙌🏽😂😂😂 raise your qualifications!!! I got it bro🙌🏽
Hahah you one of the few that got that joke lol
Terri Williams lmao I caught what he was throwing 😂😂😂
"i just want to be happy, be loved and accepted" i feel you chris!!! i want the same thing too
And all humans want that.
His books truly changed my whole out look on finding the one and recognizing true love
So thankful for that :)
the man finds you. a woman should never chase love because it will never workout right. in most cases some type of heartache will happen
Which book did you read ?
STEPHEN LABOSSIRE WAS A BLESSING IVE NEVER HEARD OF HIM, NOR DO I KNOW HOW I ENDED UP WATCHING THIS SHOW BUT THIS WAS DIVINE
Glad that you came to check it out.
OMG!!!!! Thank you so much for this podcast!!!! I truly needed to hear this. I’m a forty-four year old woman who is struggling with finding my purpose in life. I am raising a young black man. This will truly help me help him. Thanks again. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Although this was shedding light on men, it also taught me some things about myself and how my way of thinking allowed me to get hurt.🌟
Glad it can help!
Me too 💯💯💯
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@@1111V2 she is alright. However she speaks from a marriage standpoint which I respect.
Wisdom 💣💥🔥 At some point you have to see your part in your life script. You are the common denominator in every relationship you have so you can't be afraid to review yourself and edit and correct as necessary.
Big facts.
The mirror is TOUGH! However life gets so much more fulfilling afterwards.
Stephan again?! AWESOME!!!! #LoveWisdom
Supernal Sacred Space this came right on time!! Def need this!!
He is so great!
I have watched this video over 5 times and I kid you not every time I watch it I learn something new. Stephan has a gift, so much wisdom.
I feel Stephan is well needed at this time in life. Especially with the feminism, the war with men and women and Mgtow momevent, he showing that there is still love out there! God positions you at the perfect time🙏🏿
This man Stephan Speaks is the bomb! And he's fine and full of wisdom!! I can't stop listening to him. He speaks directly to men and women. God bless this man!!!
Yessss!!! I love how you mentioned Esther Perel!!! She’s one of my favorites.
She is so great.
Oh man oh man! It took me almost 4 hours to finish watching this! Kept stopping and rewatching some parts to let them soak in.
I have a situation at work where my feelings got hurt. After watching the part about 90% good 10% bad and forgiving the person for the isolated incident totally shook me!! I can safely say I've forgiven the person and will walk into work on Monday with a smile and great attitude. 😁 So from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Also, thank you so much for all 3 of you being real and having fun on the show. It's so refreshing and nice to watch.😊 May God continue to bless all of you abundantly! Hugs!🤗
Thanks so much for the love and support. Glad that it can help and speak into your life.
Wow! Being fresh out of almost a 7 yr relationship this speaks volume for me! Glad I clicked and listened, now time to heal and find myself.
Amen!
What a powerful message!
I am a strange breed who will be the first to admit my faults in a failed relationship.
I am on my journey toward self discovery and self transformation. The content on this podcast is exactly what I need right now. It's crazy how u guys cover questions and concerns I have. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much. Be sure to subscribe and check out the other episodes :)
I feel like God led me to see this. I now have a different mindset equipped for the next relationship. IF I ever get into another relationship, that is. And when he spoke about wallowing in our feelings/depression, man it hit me hard. Thank God for putting Stephan on this earth. I've never EVER been so amazed towards a relationship coach. I love how intellectual and honest he is.
I just love hearing the male perspective about love and relationships! This podcast was so loaded with information and encouragement!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 🤗😍😘
Glad that we can help :)
Jeanine Unscripted Podcast Me too!!! 😊
I'm learning with my kids at work that their mental age and chronological age doesn't always match. Some adults are very immature. So I am practicing to look at adults this same way as well. I tend to look deeper when ppl aren't using "common" sense.
True.
Love Stephan, so humble and intelligent!😍
He is so great!
Yes
Women making themselves less desirable because they don't want attention is true. I can contest to that. While going through my divorce, I shaved my head bald so men wouldn't find me attractive and I was broken/dealing with esteem issues. I didn't want anything to do with a man. To my surprise, I got more attention from men. They found me very beautiful. So that failed lol
I hear you on every level. I have went through this more than once in my life; for me, it has been gaining weight so I am not looked at. I have went through a lot of emotional turmoil in my life and many times the attention made me uncomfortable. So gaining weight, dressing super casually, limited makeup or trying to look good really has been a layer of protection for me at times in my life. I have gotten more attention now in my 30s than I did in my 20s. Late bloomer. :)
OMG! the same thing happened to me. Shaved head and weight gain (albeit, in the right places somehow), and somehow getting even more attention.
I have to be honest and admit, I have done things or not addressed certain issues to not be attractive or desirable physically. This is a healing video to watch. Love this open dialogue.
OMG! I literally just shaved my head last month! I thought that it was to disassociate myself from everything that identified me as me to him. Maybe it was I sign of something deeper. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective.
Yes it's TRUE I did that too. 25 years ago☺
Thanks guys!!! Definitely in my process of healing and I'm so grateful to see content as this being spread.
You guys too can be healed ..start now and you wont have to start later. Go ahead and do that!!!!!
Amen. Thanks for that!
“ Better will come but you gotta do the work” That’s a Word! Thank You 🙏🏾
Congrats on your 100th podcast Roommates. Thank you for continuing to teach us and sharing so many gems. I have to listen/watch/rewatch every episode. 😊😄 Stephan.... Buying your book for myself and ALL OF MY SINGLE FRIENDS...men and women...
Great idea!
Congrats, roommates!
Thanks so much for the support. Preciate it!
🗣🗣🗣🗣TWO HOURS!! Great way to start Monday. 🗣🗣🗣🗣THANK YOU
Thank you for the message :)
Damn I feel a relief listening to you guys talk so openly. I’m one of those that suffer in silence because I don’t want to appear weak. Instead i just end up supressing stuff and it eats me up. This was a breath of fresh air
My thought process towards love and relationships is almost identical to Stephan's... He is extremely knowledgeable in this area and it's a great blessing. I always find the Male perspective on relationships more beneficial.
How?
@@voquoncarter924 it gives great insight on the male perspective of things. Men aren't always vocal so when they are it's very beneficial in my opinion.
@@exoticlove-sherine1234 no love that wasn't for you. That was for the guy saying that they were gay. I really like their content.
@@voquoncarter924 ok hun. Stephan is a real one. I reported that comment cause I hate negativity in a positive space. He seem like a hit dog! Smh
@@voquoncarter924 what do you mean how? You’re so dumb
I totally agree with this topic of using the same measurement for yourself that you use for other people. ✅
Time to begin inner healing!! What a God inspired podcast!!! I'm buying that book!
Thanks Angelica :)
Y'all laugh with all your hearts. It's beautiful to watch. I really love your podcasts. And Stephan whew, wise man🔥.
We get the information we need, when we are ready to "Hear it" and "Receive it". We are never late, we are always on time. This made me laugh...made me gulp...and made me want to be better! Just Be Better!! Sending Love to All!!
Thanks a ton!
Simply Amazing! The fact that you guys can unapologeticly open up about true relationship issues is beautiful! I’m 46 years old and your podcast has helped me understand what I was going through a decade ago! Thank you 🙏🏾
Not every woman wants a man to make a bunch of money... I don’t care as long as they’re not coming with a bunch of walls up and inner self sabotaging beliefs. Money is just an expression of everything you currently have done and the beliefs you lived out to this point. It changes bc anyone can live out their best lives at any time they want to.
I love what you said about what you bring to the table and how you show you up -and also a connection where 2 people keep being their best each other.
Thank you for also saying healed and happy people are not going to play games or be hurtful. Hurt people hurt people-it’s just the frequency they are on.
Thanks so much for sharing.
Idk any chick who don't want a man with money
You must not be that pretty.
Full of bullshit
I think this frame of mentality is disillusioned. I’m sorry but as a modern woman in today’s society ( Los angeles dating) Financial stability is top 5 in the dating criteria. I don’t make a “bunch” of $ but i am in a position where I am blessed to pay for shelter for myself and my child, pay for essentials and small joys, and in LA that’s something hard to come by I know ppl who are still in their late 30s who share a family line with their parents and still live with their families with barely any savings in their accts. I’m not saying I’m better than them but when I got out on dates to try and find a partner, I want to know that the man I want to invest my time and efforts and emotional energy on CAN and if willing be a level that I can trust to support himself and if we grow together eventually can support our future family. Which in LA is pretty expensive not saying I won’t contribute to that lifestyle but I want to know that he is able to sustain a livable wage for his children/more children etc. So yes there is the factor of connecting and mutual values but that why it’s so hard to find someone with ALL these qualities. I don’t want to bash your comment I just don’t want young woman out there just thinking that they should find only a emotional connection with someone but bypass the $ part, bc there are LOTS of men out there who pretend to be there for you but then turn around and suck your pockets dry. And I want to warn woman who are lonely and are willing to give and give but then cry when those men take advantage of them financially and run off as soon as they get a chance. I’ve seen it done and i’m not the one. You gotta think about your children and your future children before your hearts needs. Sorry for the rant. Much love and Good luck all the singles out there! Date smarter not harder! 🤞💕💕
Crystal hill I can relate too all your videos. All your videos too me was inspiring and encouragement too me
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I love how Stephan incorporates the power of the subconscious mind into his coaching techniques and teaching. Great perspectives.
I stumbled across this podcast as I was looking for other videos. This truly blessed me! I also said "ouch" a few times! Thank you for these pearls of wisdom! God bless!
I just saw Stephan at the I love me summit and he is just AMAZING!!! He dropped so many nuggets. I'm on a journey of healing and self love and Stephan said a lot of things on here that helped me put things in a different perspective. Hurt is inevitable, don't have expectations, do unto others what u want done to u. I mean sooo much stuff! Absolutely love this, God bless u Stephan and roommates.
Thanks so much be sure to stay connected for the other episodes.
One of my favorite videos! Every time I want to explain how to break the broad brush, I love to come here.
podcast is so good, so refreshing.. I'm at work rewinding this episode over and over again. I'm a forklift operator so imagine what my driving is looking like right now lol anywho. Congratulations on your 100 episode I definitely want a book so pick me!
Thanks! Make sure you stay connected and we got you.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast YW.. I will
Ayyyeeeee!! I love those machines.
@@Friizu-e3p Ayyyyeee
"The reality that we have to face as people is that everyone is gong to hurt us."
This is so deep on so many levels...this came at a time where am learning to love me and learning to forgive and flush out the negative. Got to realise we're all humans and we're all going through our own journey so love is gonna have to be the pillar to keep it moving. Stephan your mind is so beautiful i can't even explain...roommate guys keep it up and stay blessed y'all 😉😊
Thanks so much!!!
This video is so empowering. Ik men probably watch and don’t comment but I hope the comment section is not indicative of the main demographic of people who get to enjoy this video. Ladies send this to a man who needs healing 💕 the first person who comes to mind even if you feel they won’t watch. Step out on faith and do it because this stuff saves people.
You can’t receive what you can’t believe.
Preach!
WOW!!! I told my husband over and over that he is the only man I’ve EVER had these kinds of issues with and I NEVER considered the verbally abusive relationship with my mother was the underlying condition behind my angry outburst. Can you say MIND BLOWN!!!! Thanks for these podcasts. I learn so much about myself in a place I didn’t even think I had an issue with at all. Sending much love and positive energy for all that you do to help others look introspectively.
This is another amazing podcast! Stephan dropped so many 💎! I love y’all
Thank you for your kindness :)
This was amazing - you guys crack me up when you’re together - but then come in with that incredible messaging that truly changes lives. Thank you!! 😊
I can tell that Chris got something out of this and I'm happy that you asked the appropriate questions and you were vulnerable because it helped me. Thank you! I pray that you heal the issues of the past, you are a handsome man and you will be blessed with the right woman 🤗🙏🏽
Blessings! Thanks so much!
Thank you for poiting out the difference between attention for men and women. So accurate. I get randomly propositioned WAY too often by guus and gals that wanna hook up. It really does get very old very fast. I appreciate you guys. Heal the past, live in the preaent, and create your excellent future. Love this video!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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So for Real....raise your kids with character and see your vision from a young age and sure does make a difference in later life!
Big truths.
💯💯
That's the dream. Also with the best possible person. If not then co-parenting in peace with pure intentions.
Thank you gentlemen! It’s always so encouraging to see men having these conversations. But especially men who are growing and learning. God bless you all. Let’s become the men and women God created us to be.. one step, one choice, one voice at a time.
Great job on this video guys. The transparency from you both was refreshing to watch. Chris, I know you're going through a storm right now but you'll be just fine. Keep your head up. Always a pleasure to see Mr. LAbossiere :-) Spitting gems as always. I will definitely watch this at least 2 more times as I'm sure I will continue to take something new away each time. I love when you spoke on coming to the "table" prepared to meet what you are asking for. Don't be asking for a steak when you're only serving McDonald's. Also, I agree with the double standards that exist for men, however it does go both ways. Any chance I get I tell people to focus on being their best versions of themselves. It's the most rewarding experiences you will ever have in life. Becoming my "best self" has uncovered blessings beyond anything I could have imagined for myself. It's extremely freeing to be apologetically you. Congrats on #100. Looking forward to more great work from you both! Much love from Toronto, Ontario (Canada)
Blessings to you in Toronto. Thanks so much :)
Perspective is one of the best things to have! I recently made a mistake with my girlfriend, we are now taking a break longer than I ever expected, I now know that this time apart is a healthy healing process and whatever happens happens. Man did I learn a lot from this woman and have only her to thank! God bless everyone out there struggling, it is not easy but it is necessary!
sending love from South Korea
I could listen to Stephan talk all day. He's so enlightening and honest. Thk God that I was lead to this podcast. Nothing that happens to us is by coincidence. This is coming to us from Divine intervention. Best wishes and much success everyone!
Doing God's will that's what makes you a man or a woman >spiritually , mentally and physically.
Attraction is what gets the person. Your character is what keeps the person. The body ages everyday but your character doesn't. If a person does not fear God you are wasting your time. (Read proverbs 31:30 )To have a wife who is attractive to look at is nice, but the very best you can do is to have a wife who fears God and keeps His commandments; and she will have all of these other things as an extra.
True holiness and virtue command permanent respect and affection, far more than charm and beauty of face and form
YOU ARE WHO YOU ATTRACT TO. BE HOLY SO YOU CAN ATTRACT HOLLY. 1 PETER 1:16 FOR IT IS WRITTEN: "BE HOLY, BECAUSE I AM HOLY."
Good point. We all need to improve ourselves.
These guys are awesome. True, real men. Thank you for the wisdom. We are spoiled here on youtube to get content like this for free. Good stuff gentleman.
Ayeeeee Chris is back! We missed you man. You are cared about and valued! Don’t stop, y’all are doing a GREAT job. I learn so much from you guys every podcast. Thank you!
Btw y’all should just sell the t-shirts because I’m HERE for it.
No, thank you for the support :)
Stephan is gifted. Well spoken and has a way of conveying his point across really well.
Congratulations on your 100th episode and thank you for standing for the sharing of healthier conversations. You guys are embracing healing from young, it gives me hope for the youngins coming up. Much love and respect to three great men. Some amazing points that make for harmonious dialogue without the finger pointing. You have always led the way and I am supportive of your journey as I walk my own. Three great men 💚💚💚
Thank you so much. We are working real hard to get better.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast you're welcome, we don't know each other but I'm really proud of you guys. Lots of love from London 😘
@@Usualspec13 pee
Great message for an ideal world. Love is a feeling & feelings change. Remember this fellas.
I just got out of a 30 year marriage and now I'm working on myself. Learning to love myself after a long abusive marriage is very hard because all the pain and hurt did not just stem from my marriage but my childhood as well.
This was 5yrs ago and still is so very relevant and on point. Literally have been self talking amd speaking with my young queens and king about these very topics and life moves. Always mentioning "Love After Heartbreak" to others of all ages , TY @StephanSpeaks and @TheRoomatesPodcast for taking the time to sow seeds.🙏🏽😇🙌🏾
There were several things that helped me to enjoy the previous episode with Stephan. Number one was the impact that his insights were making on the two of you. Seeing your responses implies that people are unaware and maybe even oblivious to spiritual, physical, emotional, etc. affects of the things Stephan spoke about. Also I feel that the depth of inquisitive questions proposed by the roommates, greatly encouraged a transparent conversation. Again it was very well accepted by men and women because there was no attack on either sex, but just pure, passionate, sincere wisdom shared by a man who is obviously gifted with the understanding of purpose, self control and true love. Finally, it is impressive to see how Stephan's maturity and wisdom is having an effect on the roommates. Personally, I can recieve the message presented by Stephan because of his confident nature. His posture, tone, and autonomous powerful message. Thank you for the guidance, leadership and encouraging expertise! Your sharing prompted me caring, and I shared that video with all of my friends and loved ones. I'm looking for to reading all of your books Mr. Labossiere. I have subscribed to the podcast and IG accounts of the three of you. Keep up the positive image 🙏🏽Namasté
Thanks so much for the support!
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this more then ever. I’m going through a breakup with someone I had given a second chance to. This words were music to my hears
So glad that this can help
This was a great conversation! Many blessings to Brother Stephan. I've never heard of him, so I will definitely have to go back and watch/listen to the previous interview. I wish him nothing but continued success and good luck with his new book. Personally, I've been on a journey of self-reflection, self-improvement, and forgiving myself (well trying to) since after my relationship in 2012. It is definitely a journey and a process. I appreciate the message you all had to share.
Congratulations Hafeez and Chris on your 100th episode! That is awesome. Many blessings and continued success to you all as well!
Thanks so much!
Such a great show fellas!!! Chris is on the way to his healing! I love it! Hafeez you are an amazing friend and man just by the way you uplift Chris. You don't see many men comfortable enough to speak those wonderful words you spoke to Chris. I'm glad I found the channel. 💕
Thanks for the support!
This was for me and I thank God for this podcast having him again to share with the world. #Healing
So glad that we can help :)
One of the best "The Roommates" episodes of all time! You guys dropped so many gems.
I have been so emotionally exhausted because I have been the person who didn't speak up about what I deserved even when I knew that I am worth more than an excuse. I feel is a real thing... I should SAY how an action or the lack of feeling make me feel. You guys have us woke and I can't get enough.... #SPEAKURTRUTH
Glad that this episode can help :)
@@TheRoommatesPodcast
Thank you... Can I say that Guys, you are beautiful people.
Real intresting podcast! Instead of that stupid and negative red pill bs, you bring maturity and uplifting on a positive and powerful way! We need more of this! Im tired of these channels that learn to manipulate, degrade and disrespect woman. And I say that as a men. Keep up with the good work guys!
God bless you guys and Stephan is amazing.
You all are amazing.
Whatever you are going through Mr Below,You will overcome it through God’s grace.And you have an amazing friend always reaffirming the gem within you so that you don’t loose sight.
There are truly good men.
God bless you.
Amen, thanks so much !
Watching this podcast 4 years later and it's still powerful advice.
I love you guys podcast , with yall two young black men showing how to id. yourself and willing to show that yall are open to change. With yall stepping out in areas that most are able to do . Yall are able to do that . I really appreciate this podcast . It helps me grow
Thank you so much for the support and kind words :)
So much of what was discussed in this podcast interview (and the previous esp) is so on point. I find it so insightful to hear the male perspective of love, heartache, relationships, etc. Thanks qualifying your statement around 1:21 mark about women taking responsibility for their shortcomings that contributed to the failure of a relationship. Self awareness is essential to growth and development.
When I went though a breakup, I had to have a heart to heart with my mom and share with her my shortcomings that contributed to the breakup. Prior to that discussion, in her mind, I was an innocent victim and he was painted as the “villain”. But in my situation, that wasn’t the case and out of respect for the man that he is, I had to speak up and let it be known.
Wow, really grateful that the episode can speak into your life.
Very intelligent brothas !!! This was a dope video but I’d rather focus on my career get my finances and go from there
There is nothing wrong with that. Thanks for the support!
The Roommates Podcast keep doing what y’all doin this is what The Gentlemen need to hear ❗️❗️❗️
4 years later and this is STILL a great conversation and nuggets for EVERYONE especially believers! 🙌🏾