@@Ender11037 But there would be. Most kids just want a normal childhood without cameras being shoved in their face. I doubt the kid in this story would like it much
OP is actually a male, and in an edit that he did, he said some of his extented family made remarks about how they shouldn't be parents because they're both males. Big yikes. OP and his husband will absolutely be great parents.
@@PossessedPotatoBird To be fair though they never said it was because they didn't like kids. Having kids can be hella expensive when your going though the adoption system or getting a surrogate
As a 21 year old guy, I can tell you that nothing makes me happier than when my fiance leaves notes in my lunch bag whenever she puts it together for me.
They do, it literally makes my day whenever I discover one and I keep all of them. Wrappers, baggies, and even full notes are all kept. Not one gets thrown in the trash
I sometimes leave notes around the apartment for my husband if he’s been having a hard time. Just little things like “I believe in you!” or “You can do it!” seem to help his mood. Notes from someone who cares about you are always a good thing and nothing to make fun of.
Last story Damn, imagine being the stereotypical mean girl like you see in the movies. I hope OP learns to be a more open-minded person in the future and makes things right with Nicole. What happened here is not too bad, but this is one of those things that is going to haunt your adult self when you can't sleep at night if you don't apologize to Nicole.
Her few responses in the comments, she tried to defend herself with shit like 'Well she lives in a big home it's fine' OP went there hoping she'd get a fuckin pat on the back or some shit, but NAH, we went WW2 and dropped the sun on her twice
Imagine going out of your way, travelling to another town, just to criticise a grieving couple for trying to honour the promise they made to their recently deceased best friends. That's an easy 5/5 buttholes.
Also the couple likely wants a baby. Are they applying for two year olds? And what a nasty sister, she's struggling starting a family and her reaction is to tell here sibling they don't deserve to be a parent, yikes.
@@imzadi83fanvids7 I don't know why, but I thought the sister was angry because Op didn't offer her and her hubby to adopt the child, not that, that is a good reason to get angry, it's just what popped into my head as I heard the story
Now imagine going out of your way to criticize a grieving couple for trying to honor the promise they made to their recently deceased best friends and saying "You always get what you want" like yeah we wanted dead best friends...that's an easy 5.5/5 buttholes. I lost a best friend and I COMPLETLY understand the husband's anger.
That nanny is so sweet. Notes in lunches isn't a thing here, so hearing about such a heartwarming ritual is straight up restoring faith in humanity material (irrelevant of age). OP shaming that girl for enjoying those notes is the embarrassing part of the story
Story Four: “AITA for making someone feel self-conscious about having a supportive caretaker for once in her life after one of my friends tried to treat her like a human being?” Yes, full stop
i was friends with a quiet girl and she is one of the nicest people i know! and i did not even have to listen to the rest of the post to know that OP was TA
The last story just makes me remember why I can’t show emotions around people, they’d pick on my laugh, my smile, do things just to make me cry, I fucking hate people who can’t let others just be happy
Never feel you need to hide your happiness from others. Anyone who mocks you for being happy is a worthless Ahole who doesn't even deserve your consideration. Also they are probably masking their own unhappiness by trying to tear down your joy.
"You don't deserve to be parents because you didn't go through what we had to!" Actually, OP went through something even worse. Her best friends died, and all you can complain about is your infertility.
Exactly, they lost money and time meanwhile OP lost the lives of people they were incredibly close too and on top of the grief they had their lives flipped upside down and will now have to adapt to the sudden responsibilities placed on them as godparents.
Exactly, there are so many homeless/orphaned kids that deserve a good home and all people can think about is having biological children. What are you, royalty? You have to continue your bloodline or some shit?
@@JMPERager I honestly believe people shouldn't be allowed to reproduce until all the children in the world are 18 Stop making kids when theirs already to many who need a home
To be honest here, I get the pain that the sister and her husband feel about their infertility. Fertility treatments take a huge physical, mental, and emotional toll on women (and on the couple), but that does not excuse their shitty behaviour. It seems that they are in a lot of pain, but the pain they feel is being weaponized against the wrong people. They need to be in a good mental place for children, not just physically, financially, emotionally... it's clear that both the sister and brother in law need extensive therapy before they can adopt. However, kudos on OP and her husband for taking in a young child and giving him all the love and support he needs. It is so tragic that his parents (and OP's really good friends) died.
That last story is actually amazing for the nanny and note getter. In high-school my parents hardly showed me affection. The only time my mom did anything was a kiss on the cheek to try and embarrass me and when that didn't work she stopped, i would have killed for her to slip a note that even just said "have a good day" into my bag or pocket. There's no reason to bully the girl for getting notes from someone who cares about her wishing her the best
That whole thing reminded me of one of those office comedies where everyone's in denial that one coworker is just absolutely insane. Like, one person's being interviewed and is asked what they think about that certain coworker, and their response is 'Oh yeah, he's a great guy.' meanwhile said 'great guy' is running around in the background wielding a flamethrower shirtless.
Kid: "How should I know? She never told me." Aaaaahmmm, because it's a thing between her and her nanny. She doesn't have to. And you never asked about how or why anyways. Kid, that's non of your business. The only embarrassing thing is that you judged without even asking and showing real interest.
You have a loving relationship with someone? Ugh! Cringe! You'll never be one of the cool kids if you keep being "happy". It's all about being miserable and letting the world know about it. My dad beats me every day while my mom wishes i was never born. I'm so fucking cool. "Jimmy, you forgot your sandwich! Your dad made it with extra bacon just how you like it. We love you" :) OH MY GOD! STOP BEING CRINGE MOM! I'M TRYING TO BE COOL INFRONT OF MY FRIENDS! >:(
man, they're the reason why adults think all of us teenagers hate our parents' love and affection and we're all edgy. speaking for someone her age, OP was just cruel.
I’m 19 and when i see fellow teens do this to people i hate it. Why go out of your way to try and ruin something for someone when you know good and well it makes them happy
“Don’t trash on something that makes someone else happy.” That’s very well said. I think that’s something we all need to remember, myself included (unless of course the thing that’s making them happy is causing harm to someone else, but that’s a different issue)
True but I'd tell op to be careful because if her husband restarted the channel and said you deleted it, it would be very easy for him and some of the "fans" to spin it around to make you the villain
The last story tho- I'm going into high school, and I STILL asked my mom to write me letters in my lunchbox. These notes are just a reminder that your parent of guardian is think of you and wants you to smile! And because the poor girl went through a bad homelife, it's wonderful she has such a positive influence on her! Just really sad people think it's embarrassing that someone shows that they care about you. I've never understood why people think that. It's just a little dumb
There are so many problematic channels at this point that even running one is a red flag by default. Especially if they have film of their children under the age of 16.
@@Twinklethefox9022 The Holderness Family seems to. The channel is mostly the parents, but sometimes the kids join and they genuinely seem to have fun together and laugh at their own silliness. I don’t know if they quite count as Vlog, since they do music parodies and such, but they all get along and obviously care about one another a lot.
The only "family vlog" type of videos I like are the more natural ones, like: someone had their first kid and the kid is at the age when they can start eating solid food so sometimes they like to record their baby trying something new just as a memory and decided to post later. If I had a kid I would definitely do this for the memories and bc it's cute to see a baby reacting to eating watermelon for the first time
the channel was daddy o five and iirc they lost custody of the youngest two kids because of the whole controversy. i can only hope those kids are doing better now that they’re not subject to daily torment. good on op for putting a stop to that tomfoolery.
My daughter is 8 and I write her notes in her lunch and I've even given her notes of encouragement to carry in her backpack for when she's having a bad day. I think it's still nice for this 16 year old to get little notes that clearly mean a lot to her.
I always avoided bringing lunch to school and never got little notes, I’m 16 and jealous. I would literally brag how cool the nanny is if I had one giving me notes.
I LOVE how the first OP dealt with the perv coworker. I have gone through similar things and just blocked people's numbers. I was young and scared of getting into trouble somehow, but now I would have done exactly the same if not worse by cc ing HR straight away.
Lunch notes story: I am 39. I STILL put notes in my wife's lunch. I do this because I love her and want her to feel good but also because if I was getting a packed lunch, I'd feel good if I got notes.
Being an adult means you get to do childish things and nobody can say a thing about it, which is pretty rad. Hopefully that teenage girl will discover the joy of that some day. You keep on doing you. I bet it means more to your wife than you know.
As someone who has a family member with Alzheimer’s, the OP’s husband’s channel is awful. It is not something to fake. I would give anything to have that family member not go through what they are dealing with. Shame on him.
Both of my maternal grandparents had dementia, my grandmother passing away because of it. Lying about diseases for views and gains is 100% wrong and OP was in her own right to delete the channel. The husband needs to think
@@Twinklethefox9022 yes its that bad, because the brain starts slowly shutting down your body. You forget how to walk, talk, and eat. Your memory fades over time forgetting everyone you ever loved.
@@GuardianMinerva In my family member's case, time unraveled from current to the past, so she forgot people in order of their births over a couple years. I can't explain how horrible it is to see happen.
I don't know if you'll actually see this, but I just want to say I enjoy your content. I'm blind and while I can read reddit stories using a screenreader, it's more enjoyable to have an actual human read them to me plus the little extra things you do sometimes like adding sound effects or moving away from the microphone to yell. I know people don't always agree with your opinions on things, but you are still human after all. I appreciate the work you put in and wish you and your family the best.
That first story he's lucky she didn't send the texts to his wife. Oh wait. He's going to have to do that himself now when he explains why he's been fired.
No, he doesn’t have to reveal the real reason, and probably won’t. This sounds like a chronic problem, and he is most likely used to lying to cover up and gaslighting his wife. Most cheaters will lie, even when confronted with physical evidence. And, sadly, many victims will buy the fabrication, subconsciously waiting to hear even the most feeble explanation to protect themselves from the trauma. So yes, let’s hope it gets back to her. Not to cause her pain, but to help validate why he has likely been treating her terribly, and she can connect all the dots and seek counseling individually and/or together to begin to heal. She has the right to know so she can choose whether to stay or leave and move on with her life. I vote move on, but if kids are involved, that is not so simple. I feel awful for her.
@@ahe79 even with kids she should leave being treated like that is horrible. What you said about buying the excuses is so true, you know deep down that it’s a lie but you want to believe it so badly. It’s just so sad and a terrible situation I hope she finds out and leaves him. No matter what he will keep cheating just try to hide it better. When someone cheats THAT MUCH they do not stop when caught.
That story at the end really hurt. I was bullied in school and the only reason people would 'invite' me to eat or hang out with them was to laugh at me or switch around and say they would never want to hang out with me. I was the same kind of kid. Quiet, private and didn't have the best home life. That girl was invited to eat by OP's friends and then OP insults one of the only sources of love and affection she gets in her day? Really? As a private kid, while I much prefer to be private it naturally makes you feel lonely and bottled up. I couldn't even talk to my parents about what I liked. This girl has a nanny who cares about her and OP tried to make her feel embarrassed about what?? A childcare professional practicing actual childcare??? OP sucks here. 2/5 butt holes at least. 3/5 if they don't apologise
9:10 OP in the 3rd story is absolutely the hero. I was adopted by some family friends after my mothers passing and they have done so much for me. I will always be grateful for everything they have done for me, and I hope to pay it back to them in the future. OP is 1000% not the butthole
OP also saved the kid from the foster care system too, after all, better to wind up with someone who can actually tell you about your bio parents when the time comes
I used to take care of an old lady and she had sundown dementia. When she would go to bed she would be so confused and accuse me of rearranging her house. Not items but actual rooms. Like I could detach a room and reattach it to the other side. It was hard because she would get so angry.
I've been on the same hospital ward (brain injury) with people who had sundown dementia. They've ripped my clothes and chunks of my hair out, and threw (I believe water?) at me, and tried to str@ngle me with my own necklace (which ended up breaking). I pretty much just had to walk past them at a certain time of day to get attacked. I wasn't really angry; it wasn't their fault. I was more sad than anything. ☹️ Edit: I'm at a different hospital now, for the record. Also, sorry for the @; my comment might get deleted otherwise.
that last story "How was I supposed to know?" you don't, you never know what a stranger is going through, you just be a decent human being and be kind to start with and it wont be an issue. I don't care if she's 16 or not, by the time I was 16 I knew to treat people the way I wanted to be treated and I sure as hell wouldn't want someone trash talking something that makes me happy.
@@Zavitor honestly I would say a 4/5 buttholes for that because the op was just malicious for no good reason at all. Like there was no perspective in which that would be even remotely understandable. That girl just wanted to smile and OP just felt like crushing it with no remorse. Ugh
@@Panda-cute I don't get the whole free pass due to being a Teenager. Who they are is fully developed by now, unlike some elementary school kid. Only thing that normally changes when you're fully mature is knowing when to pick your battles. Though some never reach that point.
The story about the couple that adopted their godson reminded me of another story covered by rslash a couple of months ago where a woman adopted her sisters daughter and raised her as her own despite wanting to be child free. Like gave up her lifestyle, missed out on dream job opportunities and if I remember correctly lost her boyfriend all to be a mother to her niece (the mother wasn’t ready or capable of taking care of a child while her sister was) well fast forward I think 10 years later and the mother announced she was pregnant with baby number 2, and once again not capable of taking care of a child she expected her sister to adopt baby number 2 and blew a gasket when her sister refused. I know not the same situation but it just reminded me of that story because you have one sibling that planned on being child free with her husband and then tragedy strikes leaving an innocent child without a family so they adopt this child and the sister throws a tantrum because she can’t get what she wants and the sister can. Like they completely ignored that the sister and husband sacrificed the life they wanted to adopt their godson all while grieving over the friends they lost. OP if you’re reading this paragraph cut contact with your sister and brother in law, cut out the friends and family that are siding with them and live your best life with your new son.
3rd story: Sister and brother in law say that Op doesn't deserve to have kids when they, themselves are now financially struggling due to the fertility treatments. Having children when you are not financially stable is the textbook definition of someone who should not be having children. Blatant hypocrisy.
Not to mention it took then 12 years to finally go for an adoption route. Understandable but to come and literally call someone for taking a kid in despite not wanting any sends multiple red flags up. The contributing Redditor also hit the nail on the head. Many will only see adoption as a last resort when things are too late for biological children through infertility. Honestly, OP done a noble thing as Pete got spared the dangers or the busted reality of the foster system and kept their friends memories alive. Also, I'm sensing there's something the Sister and BIL said that was twisted to paint OP and her hubby in a worse light out of jealousy
Also, if I were OP, I would not let these two around Pete, especially not alone. If they feel that OP and their partner “don’t deserve” Pete, they could do something drastic. Not saying they would, but kidnappings are often committed by someone you know, so just something to be wary about with them.
Nooo of course nooootttt Everyone knows that once babies are born, you can pay all your expenses with the happiness and joys of parenthood! /s P sure that’s their logic for any of the people that pull that shit
I've been a nanny for TWO YEARS and I LOVE my kiddos!! Yeah it's a job, but I'm also actively TAKING CARE of two little kids all day. Of COURSE I'm gonna love them!
"How was I supposed to know she had a poor home life?"... it's not about knowing or not- just don't let "asshole" be your default personality and you can avoid these situations, altogether.
Thiiiiis. Immediately after finding out, she started being judgemental and criticizing something nice that the girl had. Way to pop off at the mouth and prove that you have no empathy.
@@kranberry3318 it's not only sad, but disconcerting, that these histrionic, attention hungry, conforming to "nonconformity", character defects are becoming a common personality type among young people. Not all, but a lot. You'll notice the rampant delusions are causing societal pandering/ changes which is dangerous cuz it makes the idiots think they're correct. Thank God my son isn't like this, but my husband and I aren't raising an entitled butthole. Lol.
Note: when I was 16 my father would drop me off would want to kiss me on my check at drop off and I never felt embarrassed or got embarrassed by other students and I went to a intercity city school in downtown Detroit if your familiar with rough cities and stereotypes you'd understand how ridiculous it is to tease about a loving note. Now that I think about it alot of kids especially the "popular" kids were doted on by their parents in school around school mates and I don't ever remember anyone questioning anything.
The second story, the channel you were talking about was DaddyOFive, and yeah, they were totally abusive, especially towards one of the kids in particular, Cody, which on camera, they yelled at him, smashed his stuff, pushed him, berated him, and all sorts of disgusting stuff. It didn’t help that he had anger issues that they exploited, and enabled the oldest child and let him harass Cody and the father would only say “you jerk” to Jacob while he screamed and Cody and took away his stuff (or destroyed it in some cases), and the mother passed off Cody’s justified frustration as him being “salty”. I was yelled at when I was younger, and I can confirm that it helps nothing, it only makes your children fear you, and while in short term, that homework assignment might be done, in long term, it will lead to anxiety, depression, resentment, and trauma. I remember watching that back in the day, and it was truly disgusting. Thankfully, all five children were taken away, and the channel was terminated, and please don’t blame Jacob, he was raised as the golden child under shitty parents, and is currently making a lot of improvement. Just don’t be shitty parents, children do not deserve abuse for being children.
Cody and his sister Emma were the only ones taken away as they were adopted by the DaddyOFive mother and dad and their birth mother regained custody. The other three children are still with them and they have a youtube channel called The Martin Boys or something :/
I saw them too, being young I thought it was scripted until I found out they really did abuse their children so I stopped watching out of pure disgust of the parents
I remember NerdCity putting out the video, and I saw that before Philip DeFranco's video. I think the constant making fun of the dad and step mom and overall humor made the topic bearable to finish. Nicky investigating where the kids went to school to further report the parents was upsetting to watch because how upset the content made her, understandably so.
Yeah that was horrible 😕. I Found out about the channel when my daughter who was 10 at the time showed it to me. Even a 10 year old was was appalled and Disgusted over the treatment this little boy was enduring. A 10 year old stranger had more compassion and care for this little b.⅞boy than his own family...That is so sad. I'm just glad that the authoritiesý finally took it seriousy and charge the parents and took the kids out out of that bad situation. Those parents would have their siblings involved in volved in torturing this kid. They would tease him, take things away from him, destroy his propert just to have him react For a couple of views. I just hope the kid is doing good still and and isn't suffering issues due to his Is past abuse.
@@kyo8220 god that’s just so depressing to know they’re still there.. I hope they get out as soon as possible and cut them out of their lives. Victims of abuse do not owe their abusers anything.
So, i did once ask a woman out that I worked with. But I did it: 1. From a private email address which she gave me 2. I only asked once 3. I tried to be as respectful about it as possible 4. I only did it after we were already friends Somehow, she never complained to anyone about it. Funny that.
Story 2: your husband should be grateful if he had got caught lying about something this serious, the whole family would never be able to show their faces in public ever again.
The channel name for the abusive parents was DaddyOFive. They lost custody of their kids in 2017 after being exposed. I think they regained custody eventually but I don't remember. The little boy who was the target of most of the abuse immediately began doing better once removed from his horrible parents.
Okay I have something similar to the nanny story with my mom. I pack my own lunch but with my mom its text messages , that go alonge the line that she loves me. It honestly gives me a boost for my day and it pushes me forward , knowing that I have something to look forward to. Like my mom will text me something like " I know that your sad, and its okay to be sad, just know that I love you with all my heart, have a good night. " or " hey if your still upset call me, and I will drop everything at work to see you. " this actually happened twice, I feel guilty about it, but it makes me happy knowing that she has my back. I should also say this im 19 years old in a stressful job, suffering from depression.
When I saw the title of the 2nd story, I was so ready to be mad at the wife, thinking she deleted a let's play channel or something, but YIKES. She definitely made the right call. The family vlog genre just need to die, honestly. Also, I'm pretty sure DaddyoFive was the channel that Rslash is describing after the story 2 reading.
That's what I thought. I thought OP was going to be one of those wives who thinks her husband should not be making these LP videos and should be helping her out, like, she thinks he's a dead-beat-dad and she snapped by deleting his RUclips channel. But wow, the actual story itself sounds like helping trying to set up this bad reality TV show where he's setting up the show to be his ideal family life and saying "This is my true life" or something. I never knew there were RUclips versions of the bad reality TV shows like what rSlash talked about. I don't mind when RUclipsrs and creators of this sorta content want to have fiction in their videos, not really be one on one with the real world and be what they want their life to be, but only if they have actual sense in logic and it's done right, and this is not the way to do it.
@@Panda-cute Not all RUclipsr families are abusive, I can tell you a few good ones like the big RUclipsrs aimed for little kids, which they tend to bring out the inner kid that lives inside me, but there's always the side of RUclips that is like what OP's husband tried to set up and what rSlash talked about.
@@spydersoup8447 not all but most. Its fine if you like them but I find most to be exploiting or just trying to sell stuff to little kids. Or the ones that prank their kids constantly.
When I moved to London my mum gave me an envelope full of notes each of them written with "I love you" or inside jokes only we know. Every time I felt sad/lonely I opened it and read one of them, made me feel better ❤
As someone whos mom still makes their lunches at 23, because my mom makes my dad as well and does mine at the same time, I'm absolutely delighted whenever I see a note from her in my lunch. I'm a very quiet person who keeps to herself a lot because of bad experiences in the past and people judging others for having little notes in their lunch even at a later age are part of those experiences. Please just treat people how you like to be treated
For the last girl, even if you didn't know about her home life what does that matter? It's so sweet that she gets notes from her nanny. There's nothing wrong with that. Just because you feel it's beneath you doesn't mean that it's actually embarrassing. She definitely should reflect and apologize.
The story with the best friends dying... I can bet that op's sister and bil would have tried to pressure them to give them the kid to adopt if they hadn't kicked them out! I'm sure that's what their plan was.
Yes, that is what I assumed as well. Not simply that they drove over to complain how unfair it was. Because they were hoping to get this child. Which is so terribly low. It would be one thing if the OP and spouse felt ill-equipped to raise a child and expressed to their family that they felt it was more than they could handle. Then a polite offering to adopt the child wouldn’t be inappropriate. But not without stressing that they will support them if they decide to raise him. And stress that they will give them time to process this before a decision is made, as they should have the opportunity to choose what is best when it isn’t so fresh. But the OP couple wasn’t backing away. And the infertile couple wouldn’t have been so tactful if they had. I understand this couple has experienced great heartache. And for that, I do have great sympathy. But to use that to condemn others for this just happening to them is wrong. No couple or person in this scenario chose what has happened to them. That’s really not much different than if a couple has a baby who dies. Then their younger sibling becomes pregnant, even though they never wanted to be a parent, and coming to make them feel bad for a misfortune they have no control over. Wait, I think there actually was an r/slash about that. In essence, your own grief is not a reason to shame others who have a different form of grief but also received something you have desperately wanted. Some people live full, healthy lives and want for nothing. Some people are sickly from birth and poor, not surviving past childhood. Life is freaking unfair all the time. Do these people think they are atop some sort of pain hierarchy because they’ve been going through it longer and spent so much time, energy, heart and money? Their pain has taught them nothing positive then. They’ve shown no empathy for seeing others struggle. They only see what is to them an undeserved windfall. They have let their own trauma embitter them. They can’t see how wrong it is to do such a thing to anyone who has lost people close to them, especially your own family going through it! OP couple is smart to turn off their phones and avoid the drama. They need to heal and help this little boy heal, who lost more than everyone else, as the truest victim in this story. They should not have to deal with the opinions of everyone else. Those who aren’t grieving the loss of that couple, who aren’t committing to raising a child, sacrificing their original plans for life to honor their friends, as the godparents. Their opinions frankly don’t matter here. I have very little knowledge about being a godparent, but I am aware that title is not chosen lightly.
The couple that abused their children for YT clicks got 5 years of probabation and lost custody of two of their children. Both of these children underwent a psychological evaluation, and as a result were described as having suffered "mental injuries" due to their treatment. The couple itself, according to an article, eventually came around and seem regretful and understanding about what they have done.
The last story, as soon as it read "I'm a 16 year old female" I immediately knew it was her being the AH. Teenagers are the worst, if you find it weird that someone gets compliments then rethink your life, and just shut up if you're gonna say something bad about someone finding sentimental value about getting notes from their guardian
“AITA for deleting my husbands RUclips channel?” well theres no way this can be a NTA “My husband us really obsessed with youtubers, and believes we cam be really wealthy as” Yeah this has no chance of becoming a NTA hes trying to be a good hus- “family vloggers” ive been proven wrong, thank you for doing the lords work my good ma'am.
Your use of "corporate lingo" made me laugh really loud. "Thank you valued coworker!" was so cheerful and saccharine. Well done. Thank you valued reddit reader.
Screw 16 years old! If I had a friend who was 60 years old who still got daily notes of encouragement from their 90 year old childhood nanny, I would be delighted to hear it! You are never too old to enjoy the friendship and kindness of others.
So your sister and her husband lose their best friends, are thrown into a situation where they put their needs and wants aside in order to make sure that their best friends child has a good life, and you drive to your grieving sisters house and complain about how they get everything they want… Honestly OP was WAYYYY too nice imo, she and her husband could have screamed at them for an hour and i still wouldn’t say she was in the wrong NTA OP i really admire you and your husband for doing this.
Op in story 3 is a man, he clarifies in comments. And his extended family is pulling a "there isn't a mom so not a complete family" homophobic card which makes it so much worse. Good on op for his care for the safety of another person and doing what he can to help out where possible
being bullied like in that last story is how i learned to hide all of my interests from everybody including friends. its a great way to shut down (shy) peoples prospects for a social life outright, long into adulthood. not innocuous
The abusive family channel was Daddy o' Five. Thankfully the two youngest- the dad's kids but not the mom's and thus were subject to the most abuse were removed and reunited with their mother thanks to youtubers bringing all the attention to everything.
I feel so bad for that girl in the last story. She has something nice and sweet that makes them happy and now, after being teased about it, she might not want the notes anymore.
Man that first story was awesome. That's one of the best uses of the bureaucratic runaround I've ever encountered. That's like no joke probably the best way I've ever heard of anyone dealing with a work harassment dude bro.
The final story about the nanny and notes just grinds my gears. I don't have a rational explanation even to why my rage just spiked from OP, but the fact they'd call someone weird for something that's actually extremely sweet just hurts so bad.
I'm a grown ass man and if my mom left me little notes with my lunches, I'd love that. The little things that show that she cares. I get it that she's young, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully she sees that she was a bit rude and apologizes for it.
The story about Pete...I would almost bet that sister believes that you should have *given* Pete to *her* like he was a lost puppy because your apartment doesn't allow pets. At this point, OP's sister needs therapy for pinning so much of her worth on excreting a tiny human, and barring that, at least possessing one.
“FAMILY VLOGGER CHANNEL”?! NTA! The Husband’s not ONLY planning on lying about his and his family’s life, but ALSO wants to take advantage of an elder grandpa for his COOKING! At least the Husband didn’t use “abusive” tactics to exploit his CHILD with HORRIBLE PRANKS! AND RSlash pointed out that one (RUclips family channel he mentioned but didn't name) so called Parents’ “tactics” used EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL ABUSE on their own UNDERAGE KIDS! And THAT'S borderline ABUSE AND BULLYING! Those parents should be grateful and lucky that the fans didn’t call CPS on their sorry @$$e$ for their exploitative stunts, but their kids will DEFINITELY cut all ties with them when they’re older and leave to live on their own! Parents like these are NO parents!
It’s amazing to me that someone can be a rude bully and then have the audacity to wonder if they are the asshole. Smh Give the BH score earned so they can be learned.
The one about the coworker is incredibly relatable to me. I'm a moderately attractive woman who works in a male dominant industry. In every job I've ever had, I have been hit on repeatedly by numerous men until word gets around that I'm not receptive to it. Then again when someone new starts. I'm very straightforward and matter of fact. I don't flirt, hint, or leave question to whether or not I'm interested. I'm not. It's very clear. I'm polite, but firm. It does get extremely annoying that for some reason men of all ages and backgrounds see a somewhat attractive woman and think she definitely has to be interested in them. It's made even worse if you're polite to them, or heaven forbid, make eye contact...🤦♀️
I think on the last story she should apologize in front of her friends considering she disrespected her in front of all of her friends. My wife once told me a phrase that I will never forget: "your apology should be just as loud as your disrespect."
The first story. I would've soooooooo anonymously found his wife and sent her all the evidence to her as well. I'm willing to bet dollars to donuts he is actually cheating.
Contacting people for a hookup IS “actually” cheating. That alone can do irreparable damage to a committed relationship, especially a marriage. I think you might mean, you bet he is actually having sex with other women. And yes, he is/has.
@@ahe79 I'm not saying that there is a grey area but then again. I'm sure that there are or were time (obviously with other folks) an accidental email or text was sent to the wrong person. But yes like you said. Dude more likely than not had sex with other women.
14:50 they probably have an anxiety disorder so just from the first sentence I’d give op 3/5 buttholes and my opinion doesn’t change throughout In a recent work experience i had in a primary school during an assembly I saw one girl sitting alone with everyone’s backs to them and they were looking quite distressed so I told a teacher that they probably had an anxiety disorder and they were diagnosed with one the next day
I wasn't raised this way my upbringing was incredibly repressed so when I had my own sons, it became a priority for me to deliberately express my love to them. So I would kiss (on the lips) and hug them each night before bed. As they've gotten older, they refuse to go to bed without their kisses. After pandemic homeschooling last year, now they are in public schools for the first time. My oldest is 7th grade and youngest is 4th. They refuse to get on the bus to school without their kisses and still expect bedtime kisses. If a quick kiss helps them feel loved, what's the big deal?
That story about the girl with the notes in her lunch from her nanny.. Yes, OP you are TA... Normally I'm not comfortable calling a minor a "little b word", but in your case, I'll make an exception, thats exactly what you are.
My mom still writes notes in my lunch when she offers to make it for me. I’m almost 18. It makes me realize how lucky I am to have such a wholesome parent
My (24yo) daughter is still living with us while she finishes college, and I still include a note if I make her lunch. I even sign it "❤ MOMMY 🙂" because that's how I've signed my notes to her all her life. She keeps all of them.
Imagine the only thing you can fathom to think about when your sibling and their partner get custody of an orphaned child born to their best friends was "Wah, you got a baby without having to do, suffer, or lose anything!" Bullshit, they lost their best friends, they're going to raise that baby because they felt it was their duty as godparents to the baby. They didn't have to go through fertility treatments or strenuous processes to get that child, but they lost their friends, the birth parents to their godchild, and are taking responsibility for a baby that would ideally never have been orphaned in the first place. They're grieving for their lost friends, rearranging their lives to do right by their friends' child, and all this entitled slag and her husband can think of is "Why do you get a baby when we're the ones who wanted one for so long?" Uh, lady, our best friends died in a horrific accident and their baby needs us. We lost two of our best friends and we're honoring our role as godparents. People died, we're grieving, and all you can think about is how you "deserve" to have a baby and we don't? With a sister like that, you won't need an enemy.
My mom wrote lunchbox notes on holidays or big test days until the day I graduated. And then she and my dad sent me cards for holidays and finals weeks while I was away for college. I was embarrassed by it for a while but when I got depressed those notes meant the absolute WORLD to me💜 That OP was absolutely a bully...
I’ve said it once. I’ve said it twice. I’ll say it A MILLION TIMES. Your fertility issues are you own. It sucks to say but it is. My friends have never had an issues, pop babies out like crazy. I will be extremely lucky to ever have another one. My miscarriages nearly kill me each times. I have opted to sterilize myself after my next child because how many times does it take before I die? But these issues are my own. They are not my friends’. I am always happy for them when they announce and always grateful for my one baby boy
I was the weird, shy, quiet girl when I was younger. I lived in abuse from the day I was born. I also was harassed, and bullied most of my school life, so I had a hard time trusting certain situations, just because of what I had known before. It was nice to have anything that made me feel better, but I was always aware of mean girls masquerading as friends, or maybe that is what I expected, that my nice thing would be spit on by someone else just to make me feel weird. Those people can burn in the firey pits of Hell!
...but it is. Teenagers' brains aren't fully developed. They know wrong from right but their bodies are still growing and some haven't even developed empathy yet. Yeah, that girl is terrible. She needs to learn some empathy and take responsibility for her horrible actions. There's no excuse. It's just a fact that teenagers will act like that and still need to grow and learn from this.
@@ZeroOhClock I NEVER acted like that when I was a teen. I knew right from wrong because I was TAUGHT it. Don't give teens a free pass because "they're still growing." Physically they are but they should more or less KNOW HOW TO BE A HUMAN BY THEIR TEENS.
@@Riounka good for you!!! Me neither!!! Some teens do act like that though!!! A lot do!!! Cause they're still growing kids!!! Their brains are developing!! Idk how to tell you this but there isn't a light switch that turns you into a mature adult the second you turn 13. Also there are 8 year olds I've worked with that wouldn't dream of acting like that 16 year old did. That 8 year old may have some level of maturity but their friend still hits any kid that's even slightly mean to them. Its because, again, people are different! I guess you just decided to ignore most of my comment that said that she was rude and should be punished/should be made to learn from her attitude? There are teenagers that maliciously steal, those that murder. They still go to jail because hey, even if they're growing teens with developing brains, they still need to have consequences to their actions. I'm not excuse the behaviour as fine in the slightest, I'm just pointing out that fact that she is still growing and learning and that means she won't be treated the same as a 30 year old doing the same thing.
@@Riounka then I guess men who take advantage of teens aren't at fault cause teens know right from wrong Which is it!? Are we adults or kids that's why we hate being teens were treated like kids and expected to think like adults
"i deleted my husbands youtube channel"
how awful!
"family vloggers"
i apologize, ma'am. i salute you and your contribution to society.
The Aristocrats.
she out here doing the lord's work lol
Oh come on, if they didn't use the Grandpa, there would've been nothing wrong with that.
my reaction exactly lmao
@@Ender11037 But there would be. Most kids just want a normal childhood without cameras being shoved in their face. I doubt the kid in this story would like it much
"Am I the butthole for deleting my husband's YT channel?"
WHAT HOW AWF-
"It was a family vlog channel"
Understandable, have a great day
😂
The fact that OP and her husband adopted the kid for the kids safety and without hesitation is very telling about how good of parents they will be
Would give negative butthole scores for them
OP is actually a male, and in an edit that he did, he said some of his extented family made remarks about how they shouldn't be parents because they're both males. Big yikes. OP and his husband will absolutely be great parents.
Not really. Not only are they grieving but also they never wanted kids. That's a recipe for disaster
@@PossessedPotatoBird To be fair though they never said it was because they didn't like kids. Having kids can be hella expensive when your going though the adoption system or getting a surrogate
Agree completely! Wee one is very loved and will never feel that he was a “last ditch effort”!
"At least they're not abusing children"
Forgive me,
Can't abuse what you can't have 🤣
When he said that all I thought was "...yet."
🤣💀
I'm also evil for laughing at this xD
We are going to hell together
That is such a terrible thing to say! I must befriend you.
As a 21 year old guy, I can tell you that nothing makes me happier than when my fiance leaves notes in my lunch bag whenever she puts it together for me.
That's too cute. I think notes are sweet and helps foster a good relationship.
They do, it literally makes my day whenever I discover one and I keep all of them. Wrappers, baggies, and even full notes are all kept. Not one gets thrown in the trash
I agree those notes can turn the day around and remind someone that they are loved and cared for. It's long distance affection in physical form!
I sometimes leave notes around the apartment for my husband if he’s been having a hard time. Just little things like “I believe in you!” or “You can do it!” seem to help his mood. Notes from someone who cares about you are always a good thing and nothing to make fun of.
So cute! I'm almost 25 and my mom still puts notes on my placemat sometimes and it brightens my day. My dad does it too :)
Last story
Damn, imagine being the stereotypical mean girl like you see in the movies.
I hope OP learns to be a more open-minded person in the future and makes things right with Nicole. What happened here is not too bad, but this is one of those things that is going to haunt your adult self when you can't sleep at night if you don't apologize to Nicole.
Couldn't have said it better
Her few responses in the comments, she tried to defend herself with shit like 'Well she lives in a big home it's fine'
OP went there hoping she'd get a fuckin pat on the back or some shit, but NAH, we went WW2 and dropped the sun on her twice
You could even say that she belongs in the movie...
Mean Girls. :)
Imagine going out of your way, travelling to another town, just to criticise a grieving couple for trying to honour the promise they made to their recently deceased best friends. That's an easy 5/5 buttholes.
Also the couple likely wants a baby. Are they applying for two year olds? And what a nasty sister, she's struggling starting a family and her reaction is to tell here sibling they don't deserve to be a parent, yikes.
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@@imzadi83fanvids7 I don't know why, but I thought the sister was angry because Op didn't offer her and her hubby to adopt the child, not that, that is a good reason to get angry, it's just what popped into my head as I heard the story
Now imagine going out of your way to criticize a grieving couple for trying to honor the promise they made to their recently deceased best friends and saying "You always get what you want" like yeah we wanted dead best friends...that's an easy 5.5/5 buttholes. I lost a best friend and I COMPLETLY understand the husband's anger.
They deserve a 200000000000000/5
That nanny is so sweet. Notes in lunches isn't a thing here, so hearing about such a heartwarming ritual is straight up restoring faith in humanity material (irrelevant of age). OP shaming that girl for enjoying those notes is the embarrassing part of the story
Until you realize the notes the nanny is leaving say “one of these lunch items is randomly poisoned; let’s play roulette”
@@Tortilla.ReformLMFAOOOO
Story Four:
“AITA for making someone feel self-conscious about having a supportive caretaker for once in her life after one of my friends tried to treat her like a human being?”
Yes, full stop
Agreed. This whole "kids will be kids" or "teens will be teens" is just a lazy excuse to let bad behaviors go unpunished.
I saw the post when it was posted. She got dragged for this post.
Honestly, I want to be friends with Nicole or whatever their name was. I do not want to be friends with OP unless they start to actually understand.
i was friends with a quiet girl and she is one of the nicest people i know! and i did not even have to listen to the rest of the post to know that OP was TA
@@lugismansion2400 Exactly. I'm personally very quiet and after OP called her "weird" I felt kind of disgusted.
The last story just makes me remember why I can’t show emotions around people, they’d pick on my laugh, my smile, do things just to make me cry, I fucking hate people who can’t let others just be happy
Never feel you need to hide your happiness from others. Anyone who mocks you for being happy is a worthless Ahole who doesn't even deserve your consideration. Also they are probably masking their own unhappiness by trying to tear down your joy.
"You don't deserve to be parents because you didn't go through what we had to!" Actually, OP went through something even worse. Her best friends died, and all you can complain about is your infertility.
Exactly, they lost money and time meanwhile OP lost the lives of people they were incredibly close too and on top of the grief they had their lives flipped upside down and will now have to adapt to the sudden responsibilities placed on them as godparents.
Exactly, there are so many homeless/orphaned kids that deserve a good home and all people can think about is having biological children. What are you, royalty? You have to continue your bloodline or some shit?
@@JMPERager I honestly believe people shouldn't be allowed to reproduce until all the children in the world are 18
Stop making kids when theirs already to many who need a home
his* best friends died.
To be honest here, I get the pain that the sister and her husband feel about their infertility. Fertility treatments take a huge physical, mental, and emotional toll on women (and on the couple), but that does not excuse their shitty behaviour. It seems that they are in a lot of pain, but the pain they feel is being weaponized against the wrong people. They need to be in a good mental place for children, not just physically, financially, emotionally... it's clear that both the sister and brother in law need extensive therapy before they can adopt. However, kudos on OP and her husband for taking in a young child and giving him all the love and support he needs. It is so tragic that his parents (and OP's really good friends) died.
That last story is actually amazing for the nanny and note getter. In high-school my parents hardly showed me affection. The only time my mom did anything was a kiss on the cheek to try and embarrass me and when that didn't work she stopped, i would have killed for her to slip a note that even just said "have a good day" into my bag or pocket. There's no reason to bully the girl for getting notes from someone who cares about her wishing her the best
OP: "He's a normally pretty chill guy."
Also Coworker: **Screams at HR staff**
That whole thing reminded me of one of those office comedies where everyone's in denial that one coworker is just absolutely insane. Like, one person's being interviewed and is asked what they think about that certain coworker, and their response is 'Oh yeah, he's a great guy.' meanwhile said 'great guy' is running around in the background wielding a flamethrower shirtless.
@@thornsdale7443 LMAO!!!
@@thornsdale7443 golden reply
Typical narcissist. They're charming and lovely until they face resistance. Then the mask falls off.
Kid: "How should I know? She never told me."
Aaaaahmmm, because it's a thing between her and her nanny. She doesn't have to. And you never asked about how or why anyways.
Kid, that's non of your business. The only embarrassing thing is that you judged without even asking and showing real interest.
Teenager: *is clearly happy*
Other teen: omg, how EmbaRraSsIng...
You have a loving relationship with someone? Ugh! Cringe! You'll never be one of the cool kids if you keep being "happy". It's all about being miserable and letting the world know about it. My dad beats me every day while my mom wishes i was never born. I'm so fucking cool.
"Jimmy, you forgot your sandwich! Your dad made it with extra bacon just how you like it. We love you" :)
OH MY GOD! STOP BEING CRINGE MOM! I'M TRYING TO BE COOL INFRONT OF MY FRIENDS! >:(
man, they're the reason why adults think all of us teenagers hate our parents' love and affection and we're all edgy. speaking for someone her age, OP was just cruel.
@@nallyaaaaaa yeah my mom left a note for me all the time in my high school lunch and I was proud of it. The op sucks
I don’t care if OP is 16, she’s Such a jerk 👎
I’m 19 and when i see fellow teens do this to people i hate it. Why go out of your way to try and ruin something for someone when you know good and well it makes them happy
“Don’t trash on something that makes someone else happy.” That’s very well said. I think that’s something we all need to remember, myself included
(unless of course the thing that’s making them happy is causing harm to someone else, but that’s a different issue)
Praise be to the woman that prevented another cringe family RUclips channel 👌
Yeah it's really ab*sive towards children to constantly film them and make them work
She deserves negative AH points. We don't need anymore of this ish.
True but I'd tell op to be careful because if her husband restarted the channel and said you deleted it, it would be very easy for him and some of the "fans" to spin it around to make you the villain
Amen, hosanna and
halleluuuuuuuu! 😅💯👏😂
I know what channel r/slash is talking about but I'm a bit scared to mention it.
The last story tho-
I'm going into high school, and I STILL asked my mom to write me letters in my lunchbox. These notes are just a reminder that your parent of guardian is think of you and wants you to smile! And because the poor girl went through a bad homelife, it's wonderful she has such a positive influence on her! Just really sad people think it's embarrassing that someone shows that they care about you. I've never understood why people think that. It's just a little dumb
Family vlogs just give me a full body cringe. I hate how these people manipulate, exploit, and even endanger their family for views.
There are so many problematic channels at this point that even running one is a red flag by default. Especially if they have film of their children under the age of 16.
Is there a family vlog that doesn't use their kids for clout?
@@Twinklethefox9022 The Holderness Family seems to. The channel is mostly the parents, but sometimes the kids join and they genuinely seem to have fun together and laugh at their own silliness. I don’t know if they quite count as Vlog, since they do music parodies and such, but they all get along and obviously care about one another a lot.
I agree. I cringe hard at family vlogs.
The only "family vlog" type of videos I like are the more natural ones, like: someone had their first kid and the kid is at the age when they can start eating solid food so sometimes they like to record their baby trying something new just as a memory and decided to post later. If I had a kid I would definitely do this for the memories and bc it's cute to see a baby reacting to eating watermelon for the first time
the channel was daddy o five and iirc they lost custody of the youngest two kids because of the whole controversy. i can only hope those kids are doing better now that they’re not subject to daily torment.
good on op for putting a stop to that tomfoolery.
The last story just makes me really sad. It's clear those notes meant a lot, and the OP is making fun of it
I love hand written notes from my family. I don't get them often anymore in the age of the internet so when I do, I always save it in a little box.
OP is 16. Yes old enough to know right from wrong but most adolescents are still idiots.
My daughter is 8 and I write her notes in her lunch and I've even given her notes of encouragement to carry in her backpack for when she's having a bad day. I think it's still nice for this 16 year old to get little notes that clearly mean a lot to her.
I always avoided bringing lunch to school and never got little notes, I’m 16 and jealous. I would literally brag how cool the nanny is if I had one giving me notes.
My mom left little notes of encouragement in my lunchbox when I was 16 and struggling with eating. I wish she still did, it made me smile.
I LOVE how the first OP dealt with the perv coworker. I have gone through similar things and just blocked people's numbers. I was young and scared of getting into trouble somehow, but now I would have done exactly the same if not worse by cc ing HR straight away.
Lunch notes story: I am 39. I STILL put notes in my wife's lunch. I do this because I love her and want her to feel good but also because if I was getting a packed lunch, I'd feel good if I got notes.
Your a real one.
Chad
meanwhile me, m14, who has never ever gotten any notes in my lunch: ._.
also you are a chad
Being an adult means you get to do childish things and nobody can say a thing about it, which is pretty rad. Hopefully that teenage girl will discover the joy of that some day.
You keep on doing you. I bet it means more to your wife than you know.
@@suitov true ^^^^
I couldn't have said it any better
I'm 25 and I still love getting notes, the fact that people care about you enough to write sweet notes is really lovely
As someone who has a family member with Alzheimer’s, the OP’s husband’s channel is awful. It is not something to fake. I would give anything to have that family member not go through what they are dealing with. Shame on him.
Both of my maternal grandparents had dementia, my grandmother passing away because of it. Lying about diseases for views and gains is 100% wrong and OP was in her own right to delete the channel. The husband needs to think
@@rhijones382 Wait, dementia is that bad? Like it can cause death? I'm so sorry to hear about that.
My great granma went through the same thing we lost her October of last year.
@@Twinklethefox9022 yes its that bad, because the brain starts slowly shutting down your body. You forget how to walk, talk, and eat. Your memory fades over time forgetting everyone you ever loved.
@@GuardianMinerva In my family member's case, time unraveled from current to the past, so she forgot people in order of their births over a couple years.
I can't explain how horrible it is to see happen.
I don't know if you'll actually see this, but I just want to say I enjoy your content. I'm blind and while I can read reddit stories using a screenreader, it's more enjoyable to have an actual human read them to me plus the little extra things you do sometimes like adding sound effects or moving away from the microphone to yell. I know people don't always agree with your opinions on things, but you are still human after all. I appreciate the work you put in and wish you and your family the best.
That first story he's lucky she didn't send the texts to his wife. Oh wait. He's going to have to do that himself now when he explains why he's been fired.
Oh you know he is going to lie haha
No, he doesn’t have to reveal the real reason, and probably won’t. This sounds like a chronic problem, and he is most likely used to lying to cover up and gaslighting his wife. Most cheaters will lie, even when confronted with physical evidence. And, sadly, many victims will buy the fabrication, subconsciously waiting to hear even the most feeble explanation to protect themselves from the trauma.
So yes, let’s hope it gets back to her. Not to cause her pain, but to help validate why he has likely been treating her terribly, and she can connect all the dots and seek counseling individually and/or together to begin to heal. She has the right to know so she can choose whether to stay or leave and move on with her life. I vote move on, but if kids are involved, that is not so simple. I feel awful for her.
@@ahe79 If he's gaslighting her, I'd suggest going alone. Couple's counseling would just make it easier to manipulate her.
@@ahe79 even with kids she should leave being treated like that is horrible. What you said about buying the excuses is so true, you know deep down that it’s a lie but you want to believe it so badly. It’s just so sad and a terrible situation I hope she finds out and leaves him. No matter what he will keep cheating just try to hide it better. When someone cheats THAT MUCH they do not stop when caught.
I'm sure his wife will find out about this soon and hopefully, file a divorce on him.
That story at the end really hurt. I was bullied in school and the only reason people would 'invite' me to eat or hang out with them was to laugh at me or switch around and say they would never want to hang out with me. I was the same kind of kid. Quiet, private and didn't have the best home life.
That girl was invited to eat by OP's friends and then OP insults one of the only sources of love and affection she gets in her day? Really? As a private kid, while I much prefer to be private it naturally makes you feel lonely and bottled up. I couldn't even talk to my parents about what I liked.
This girl has a nanny who cares about her and OP tried to make her feel embarrassed about what?? A childcare professional practicing actual childcare??? OP sucks here. 2/5 butt holes at least. 3/5 if they don't apologise
9:10 OP in the 3rd story is absolutely the hero. I was adopted by some family friends after my mothers passing and they have done so much for me. I will always be grateful for everything they have done for me, and I hope to pay it back to them in the future. OP is 1000% not the butthole
Yeah those people deserve negative butthole points
OP also saved the kid from the foster care system too, after all, better to wind up with someone who can actually tell you about your bio parents when the time comes
The nanny story filled my heart that nanny is lovely and regardless of age having little love notes would be amazing :)
I used to take care of an old lady and she had sundown dementia. When she would go to bed she would be so confused and accuse me of rearranging her house. Not items but actual rooms. Like I could detach a room and reattach it to the other side. It was hard because she would get so angry.
Sundowning is wild. When I worked as a CNA, residents would be fairly coherent during the daylight hours, and shit would get weird around bedtime.
I've been on the same hospital ward (brain injury) with people who had sundown dementia. They've ripped my clothes and chunks of my hair out, and threw (I believe water?) at me, and tried to str@ngle me with my own necklace (which ended up breaking). I pretty much just had to walk past them at a certain time of day to get attacked. I wasn't really angry; it wasn't their fault. I was more sad than anything. ☹️ Edit: I'm at a different hospital now, for the record. Also, sorry for the @; my comment might get deleted otherwise.
that last story "How was I supposed to know?" you don't, you never know what a stranger is going through, you just be a decent human being and be kind to start with and it wont be an issue. I don't care if she's 16 or not, by the time I was 16 I knew to treat people the way I wanted to be treated and I sure as hell wouldn't want someone trash talking something that makes me happy.
Last story. Totally TA. "Oh that thing is bringing you even a little bit of joy, let me just poop on it for you."
Last OP personality in a nutshell.
Anyone else think 1/5 rating was too lenient for the last OP?
@@Zavitor honestly I would say a 4/5 buttholes for that because the op was just malicious for no good reason at all. Like there was no perspective in which that would be even remotely understandable. That girl just wanted to smile and OP just felt like crushing it with no remorse. Ugh
@@Panda-cute I don't get the whole free pass due to being a Teenager. Who they are is fully developed by now, unlike some elementary school kid. Only thing that normally changes when you're fully mature is knowing when to pick your battles. Though some never reach that point.
@@Zavitor yeah for me that was a dumb point. If she was 13 maybe but a 16 year old fully knows better
The story about the couple that adopted their godson reminded me of another story covered by rslash a couple of months ago where a woman adopted her sisters daughter and raised her as her own despite wanting to be child free. Like gave up her lifestyle, missed out on dream job opportunities and if I remember correctly lost her boyfriend all to be a mother to her niece (the mother wasn’t ready or capable of taking care of a child while her sister was) well fast forward I think 10 years later and the mother announced she was pregnant with baby number 2, and once again not capable of taking care of a child she expected her sister to adopt baby number 2 and blew a gasket when her sister refused. I know not the same situation but it just reminded me of that story because you have one sibling that planned on being child free with her husband and then tragedy strikes leaving an innocent child without a family so they adopt this child and the sister throws a tantrum because she can’t get what she wants and the sister can. Like they completely ignored that the sister and husband sacrificed the life they wanted to adopt their godson all while grieving over the friends they lost. OP if you’re reading this paragraph cut contact with your sister and brother in law, cut out the friends and family that are siding with them and live your best life with your new son.
3rd story: Sister and brother in law say that Op doesn't deserve to have kids when they, themselves are now financially struggling due to the fertility treatments. Having children when you are not financially stable is the textbook definition of someone who should not be having children. Blatant hypocrisy.
Not to mention it took then 12 years to finally go for an adoption route. Understandable but to come and literally call someone for taking a kid in despite not wanting any sends multiple red flags up. The contributing Redditor also hit the nail on the head. Many will only see adoption as a last resort when things are too late for biological children through infertility. Honestly, OP done a noble thing as Pete got spared the dangers or the busted reality of the foster system and kept their friends memories alive. Also, I'm sensing there's something the Sister and BIL said that was twisted to paint OP and her hubby in a worse light out of jealousy
Also, if I were OP, I would not let these two around Pete, especially not alone. If they feel that OP and their partner “don’t deserve” Pete, they could do something drastic. Not saying they would, but kidnappings are often committed by someone you know, so just something to be wary about with them.
@@songbird-wj4yj or trying to paint of op and her husband as abusive and claiming the baby is better off with them.
Nooo of course nooootttt Everyone knows that once babies are born, you can pay all your expenses with the happiness and joys of parenthood! /s
P sure that’s their logic for any of the people that pull that shit
@@velvety2006 his husband*
I've been a nanny for TWO YEARS and I LOVE my kiddos!!
Yeah it's a job, but I'm also actively TAKING CARE of two little kids all day.
Of COURSE I'm gonna love them!
"How was I supposed to know she had a poor home life?"... it's not about knowing or not- just don't let "asshole" be your default personality and you can avoid these situations, altogether.
Bingo. I might not know I am curious but I wouldn't be an asshole about it.
Thiiiiis.
Immediately after finding out, she started being judgemental and criticizing something nice that the girl had. Way to pop off at the mouth and prove that you have no empathy.
Dude THANK YOU for spelling that out! That response from OP seriously bothered me like that is not the fucking point at all !!!
@@kranberry3318 it's not only sad, but disconcerting, that these histrionic, attention hungry, conforming to "nonconformity", character defects are becoming a common personality type among young people. Not all, but a lot. You'll notice the rampant delusions are causing societal pandering/ changes which is dangerous cuz it makes the idiots think they're correct. Thank God my son isn't like this, but my husband and I aren't raising an entitled butthole. Lol.
@@1985toyotacamry right! I would maybe politely ask about it but ultimately I would never be unkind for no reason like that
Note: when I was 16 my father would drop me off would want to kiss me on my check at drop off and I never felt embarrassed or got embarrassed by other students and I went to a intercity city school in downtown Detroit if your familiar with rough cities and stereotypes you'd understand how ridiculous it is to tease about a loving note. Now that I think about it alot of kids especially the "popular" kids were doted on by their parents in school around school mates and I don't ever remember anyone questioning anything.
The second story, the channel you were talking about was DaddyOFive, and yeah, they were totally abusive, especially towards one of the kids in particular, Cody, which on camera, they yelled at him, smashed his stuff, pushed him, berated him, and all sorts of disgusting stuff. It didn’t help that he had anger issues that they exploited, and enabled the oldest child and let him harass Cody and the father would only say “you jerk” to Jacob while he screamed and Cody and took away his stuff (or destroyed it in some cases), and the mother passed off Cody’s justified frustration as him being “salty”.
I was yelled at when I was younger, and I can confirm that it helps nothing, it only makes your children fear you, and while in short term, that homework assignment might be done, in long term, it will lead to anxiety, depression, resentment, and trauma.
I remember watching that back in the day, and it was truly disgusting. Thankfully, all five children were taken away, and the channel was terminated, and please don’t blame Jacob, he was raised as the golden child under shitty parents, and is currently making a lot of improvement.
Just don’t be shitty parents, children do not deserve abuse for being children.
Cody and his sister Emma were the only ones taken away as they were adopted by the DaddyOFive mother and dad and their birth mother regained custody. The other three children are still with them and they have a youtube channel called The Martin Boys or something :/
I saw them too, being young I thought it was scripted until I found out they really did abuse their children so I stopped watching out of pure disgust of the parents
I remember NerdCity putting out the video, and I saw that before Philip DeFranco's video. I think the constant making fun of the dad and step mom and overall humor made the topic bearable to finish. Nicky investigating where the kids went to school to further report the parents was upsetting to watch because how upset the content made her, understandably so.
Yeah that was horrible 😕. I Found out about the channel when my daughter who was 10 at the time showed it to me. Even a 10 year old was was appalled and Disgusted over the treatment this little boy was enduring. A 10 year old stranger had more compassion and care for this little b.⅞boy than his own family...That is so sad. I'm just glad that the authoritiesý finally took it seriousy and charge the parents and took the kids out out of that bad situation. Those parents would have their siblings involved in volved in torturing this kid. They would tease him, take things away from him, destroy his propert just to have him react For a couple of views. I just hope the kid is doing good still and and isn't suffering issues due to his Is past abuse.
@@kyo8220 god that’s just so depressing to know they’re still there.. I hope they get out as soon as possible and cut them out of their lives. Victims of abuse do not owe their abusers anything.
Fourth story : YTA. There's no need to explain anything here. 100% the butthole. rSlash said it all.
So, i did once ask a woman out that I worked with.
But I did it:
1. From a private email address which she gave me
2. I only asked once
3. I tried to be as respectful about it as possible
4. I only did it after we were already friends
Somehow, she never complained to anyone about it. Funny that.
And even is she declines (you don't say if she did or not), it leaves lots of space to remain friends.
@@stoopingfalcon891 she turned me down and we remained friends until I left the company for different reasons
@@Nerobyrne It't great you remained friends. Everyone needs people in their lives like you two. Thanks for the reply 👍😊
@@Nerobyrne I agree with Stooping Falcon. You're a good guy, and I hope you finally find The One for you.
@@PanduPoluan 😊Aww thanks ^^ Me too.
Second story: He was making videos in exchange of his grandfather's pride and work. This dude is part of what gives youtubers a bad name.
Imagine a cooking channel when a sweet grampa cooks for his grandchildren.... Dude had gold and didn't realize
Search up Grandpa Kitchen. You won't regret it.
Fourth story: This is another example of someone getting his nose in other people's bussiness. OP needs to apologize.
Story 2: your husband should be grateful if he had got caught lying about something this serious, the whole family would never be able to show their faces in public ever again.
Definitely, there is a tiktok couple that got caught faking autism and they have disappeared from the internet.
The channel name for the abusive parents was DaddyOFive. They lost custody of their kids in 2017 after being exposed. I think they regained custody eventually but I don't remember. The little boy who was the target of most of the abuse immediately began doing better once removed from his horrible parents.
Sounds like someone’s jealous that they don’t get loving notes written to them anymore 💁🏼
Okay I have something similar to the nanny story with my mom. I pack my own lunch but with my mom its text messages , that go alonge the line that she loves me. It honestly gives me a boost for my day and it pushes me forward , knowing that I have something to look forward to. Like my mom will text me something like " I know that your sad, and its okay to be sad, just know that I love you with all my heart, have a good night. " or " hey if your still upset call me, and I will drop everything at work to see you. " this actually happened twice, I feel guilty about it, but it makes me happy knowing that she has my back. I should also say this im 19 years old in a stressful job, suffering from depression.
When I saw the title of the 2nd story, I was so ready to be mad at the wife, thinking she deleted a let's play channel or something, but YIKES. She definitely made the right call. The family vlog genre just need to die, honestly.
Also, I'm pretty sure DaddyoFive was the channel that Rslash is describing after the story 2 reading.
That's what I thought. I thought OP was going to be one of those wives who thinks her husband should not be making these LP videos and should be helping her out, like, she thinks he's a dead-beat-dad and she snapped by deleting his RUclips channel. But wow, the actual story itself sounds like helping trying to set up this bad reality TV show where he's setting up the show to be his ideal family life and saying "This is my true life" or something. I never knew there were RUclips versions of the bad reality TV shows like what rSlash talked about. I don't mind when RUclipsrs and creators of this sorta content want to have fiction in their videos, not really be one on one with the real world and be what they want their life to be, but only if they have actual sense in logic and it's done right, and this is not the way to do it.
@@spydersoup8447 family youtubers are so abusive its scary
@@Panda-cute Not all RUclipsr families are abusive, I can tell you a few good ones like the big RUclipsrs aimed for little kids, which they tend to bring out the inner kid that lives inside me, but there's always the side of RUclips that is like what OP's husband tried to set up and what rSlash talked about.
@@spydersoup8447 not all but most. Its fine if you like them but I find most to be exploiting or just trying to sell stuff to little kids. Or the ones that prank their kids constantly.
I love how in the first story she handled the harasser. Perfectly executed.
The first story was a blast. Amazing way to solve this kind of shit.
When I moved to London my mum gave me an envelope full of notes each of them written with "I love you" or inside jokes only we know. Every time I felt sad/lonely I opened it and read one of them, made me feel better ❤
Man, I hope the OP of the first story ALSO tells that loser's wife. She deserves to know that her 'husband' is very likely a cheater.
Not "likely" IS
*IS a cheater. Sending nudes and naughty texts to other people when married IS cheating on your SO
Or trying to be. He doesn’t seem to be very successful at it.
@@penelopeviews7335 Just what I wanted to reply
@@penelopeviews7335 LOL yeah
As someone whos mom still makes their lunches at 23, because my mom makes my dad as well and does mine at the same time, I'm absolutely delighted whenever I see a note from her in my lunch.
I'm a very quiet person who keeps to herself a lot because of bad experiences in the past and people judging others for having little notes in their lunch even at a later age are part of those experiences. Please just treat people how you like to be treated
"If you want to make out with your mom, go ahead and make out with your mom, no judgement from me"
RSLASH WHAT HAVE YOU DONE
rSlash accidentally publishes his Oedipus complex for the world to see XD
this comment is what i was looking for haha 🙂🙂🙂
sweet home alabama
For the last girl, even if you didn't know about her home life what does that matter? It's so sweet that she gets notes from her nanny. There's nothing wrong with that. Just because you feel it's beneath you doesn't mean that it's actually embarrassing. She definitely should reflect and apologize.
The story with the best friends dying... I can bet that op's sister and bil would have tried to pressure them to give them the kid to adopt if they hadn't kicked them out! I'm sure that's what their plan was.
that's where i thought the story was going also!!
Yes, that is what I assumed as well. Not simply that they drove over to complain how unfair it was. Because they were hoping to get this child. Which is so terribly low.
It would be one thing if the OP and spouse felt ill-equipped to raise a child and expressed to their family that they felt it was more than they could handle. Then a polite offering to adopt the child wouldn’t be inappropriate. But not without stressing that they will support them if they decide to raise him. And stress that they will give them time to process this before a decision is made, as they should have the opportunity to choose what is best when it isn’t so fresh. But the OP couple wasn’t backing away. And the infertile couple wouldn’t have been so tactful if they had.
I understand this couple has experienced great heartache. And for that, I do have great sympathy. But to use that to condemn others for this just happening to them is wrong. No couple or person in this scenario chose what has happened to them. That’s really not much different than if a couple has a baby who dies. Then their younger sibling becomes pregnant, even though they never wanted to be a parent, and coming to make them feel bad for a misfortune they have no control over. Wait, I think there actually was an r/slash about that.
In essence, your own grief is not a reason to shame others who have a different form of grief but also received something you have desperately wanted. Some people live full, healthy lives and want for nothing. Some people are sickly from birth and poor, not surviving past childhood. Life is freaking unfair all the time. Do these people think they are atop some sort of pain hierarchy because they’ve been going through it longer and spent so much time, energy, heart and money? Their pain has taught them nothing positive then. They’ve shown no empathy for seeing others struggle. They only see what is to them an undeserved windfall. They have let their own trauma embitter them. They can’t see how wrong it is to do such a thing to anyone who has lost people close to them, especially your own family going through it!
OP couple is smart to turn off their phones and avoid the drama. They need to heal and help this little boy heal, who lost more than everyone else, as the truest victim in this story. They should not have to deal with the opinions of everyone else. Those who aren’t grieving the loss of that couple, who aren’t committing to raising a child, sacrificing their original plans for life to honor their friends, as the godparents. Their opinions frankly don’t matter here. I have very little knowledge about being a godparent, but I am aware that title is not chosen lightly.
@@ahe79 iirc, op mentioned something about his family being super homophobic and that was part of the reason
I'm kinda glad that that couple can't have children of their own, they are obviously too emotionally immature to take care of a kid....
The couple that abused their children for YT clicks got 5 years of probabation and lost custody of two of their children. Both of these children underwent a psychological evaluation, and as a result were described as having suffered "mental injuries" due to their treatment. The couple itself, according to an article, eventually came around and seem regretful and understanding about what they have done.
The last story, as soon as it read "I'm a 16 year old female" I immediately knew it was her being the AH. Teenagers are the worst, if you find it weird that someone gets compliments then rethink your life, and just shut up if you're gonna say something bad about someone finding sentimental value about getting notes from their guardian
Yeah. If you can't say something nice, say nothing.
“AITA for deleting my husbands RUclips channel?”
well theres no way this can be a NTA
“My husband us really obsessed with youtubers, and believes we cam be really wealthy as”
Yeah this has no chance of becoming a NTA hes trying to be a good hus-
“family vloggers”
ive been proven wrong, thank you for doing the lords work my good ma'am.
Your use of "corporate lingo" made me laugh really loud. "Thank you valued coworker!" was so cheerful and saccharine. Well done. Thank you valued reddit reader.
Screw 16 years old! If I had a friend who was 60 years old who still got daily notes of encouragement from their 90 year old childhood nanny, I would be delighted to hear it! You are never too old to enjoy the friendship and kindness of others.
So your sister and her husband lose their best friends, are thrown into a situation where they put their needs and wants aside in order to make sure that their best friends child has a good life, and you drive to your grieving sisters house and complain about how they get everything they want…
Honestly OP was WAYYYY too nice imo, she and her husband could have screamed at them for an hour and i still wouldn’t say she was in the wrong
NTA OP i really admire you and your husband for doing this.
Op in story 3 is a man, he clarifies in comments. And his extended family is pulling a "there isn't a mom so not a complete family" homophobic card which makes it so much worse.
Good on op for his care for the safety of another person and doing what he can to help out where possible
being bullied like in that last story is how i learned to hide all of my interests from everybody including friends. its a great way to shut down (shy) peoples prospects for a social life outright, long into adulthood. not innocuous
Yeah, the wife did a good thing by deleting hubby's YT channel.
The abusive family channel was Daddy o' Five. Thankfully the two youngest- the dad's kids but not the mom's and thus were subject to the most abuse were removed and reunited with their mother thanks to youtubers bringing all the attention to everything.
in the fifth story the "I am 16" was all i needed to know this story was gonna be super judgemental
I feel so bad for that girl in the last story. She has something nice and sweet that makes them happy and now, after being teased about it, she might not want the notes anymore.
Man that first story was awesome. That's one of the best uses of the bureaucratic runaround I've ever encountered. That's like no joke probably the best way I've ever heard of anyone dealing with a work harassment dude bro.
The final story about the nanny and notes just grinds my gears. I don't have a rational explanation even to why my rage just spiked from OP, but the fact they'd call someone weird for something that's actually extremely sweet just hurts so bad.
I feel that way cus that's how a Bully starts
Omg I remember that awful RUclips family that was "pranking" the little kid. It was heartbreaking to watch.
I'm a grown ass man and if my mom left me little notes with my lunches, I'd love that.
The little things that show that she cares. I get it that she's young, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully she sees that she was a bit rude and apologizes for it.
The story about Pete...I would almost bet that sister believes that you should have *given* Pete to *her* like he was a lost puppy because your apartment doesn't allow pets. At this point, OP's sister needs therapy for pinning so much of her worth on excreting a tiny human, and barring that, at least possessing one.
That’s definitely how it sounded.
“FAMILY VLOGGER CHANNEL”?!
NTA!
The Husband’s not ONLY planning on lying about his and his family’s life, but ALSO wants to take advantage of an elder grandpa for his COOKING!
At least the Husband didn’t use “abusive” tactics to exploit his CHILD with HORRIBLE PRANKS!
AND RSlash pointed out that one (RUclips family channel he mentioned but didn't name) so called Parents’ “tactics” used EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL ABUSE on their own UNDERAGE KIDS! And THAT'S borderline ABUSE AND BULLYING!
Those parents should be grateful and lucky that the fans didn’t call CPS on their sorry @$$e$ for their exploitative stunts, but their kids will DEFINITELY cut all ties with them when they’re older and leave to live on their own!
Parents like these are NO parents!
Story 3: Those that would sacrifice their future for the future of an orphan are heroes.
My wife writes me notes and puts them in my lunch box sometimes. I couldn’t care less what people think about that. What an immature kid.
It’s amazing to me that someone can be a rude bully and then have the audacity to wonder if they are the asshole. Smh Give the BH score earned so they can be learned.
The one about the coworker is incredibly relatable to me. I'm a moderately attractive woman who works in a male dominant industry. In every job I've ever had, I have been hit on repeatedly by numerous men until word gets around that I'm not receptive to it. Then again when someone new starts. I'm very straightforward and matter of fact. I don't flirt, hint, or leave question to whether or not I'm interested. I'm not. It's very clear. I'm polite, but firm. It does get extremely annoying that for some reason men of all ages and backgrounds see a somewhat attractive woman and think she definitely has to be interested in them. It's made even worse if you're polite to them, or heaven forbid, make eye contact...🤦♀️
I was patiently refreshing for the last 2 minutes waiting for this to go live. My day never really starts until I watch rSlash
Same
Same, I listen in the shower and when 6 am hit there wasn't a video so I played an old one.
Same! Basically I wake up at the same time he posts and I get ready for work while listening to him.
I think on the last story she should apologize in front of her friends considering she disrespected her in front of all of her friends. My wife once told me a phrase that I will never forget: "your apology should be just as loud as your disrespect."
The first story. I would've soooooooo anonymously found his wife and sent her all the evidence to her as well. I'm willing to bet dollars to donuts he is actually cheating.
Contacting people for a hookup IS “actually” cheating. That alone can do irreparable damage to a committed relationship, especially a marriage. I think you might mean, you bet he is actually having sex with other women. And yes, he is/has.
@@ahe79 I'm not saying that there is a grey area but then again. I'm sure that there are or were time (obviously with other folks) an accidental email or text was sent to the wrong person. But yes like you said. Dude more likely than not had sex with other women.
@@ahe79 Unless they are in a non-monogamous relationship -
Anyone remember the family that adopted a disabled baby for views then returned them when he became more trouble then he was worth to them?
14:50 they probably have an anxiety disorder so just from the first sentence I’d give op 3/5 buttholes and my opinion doesn’t change throughout
In a recent work experience i had in a primary school during an assembly I saw one girl sitting alone with everyone’s backs to them and they were looking quite distressed so I told a teacher that they probably had an anxiety disorder and they were diagnosed with one the next day
I wasn't raised this way my upbringing was incredibly repressed so when I had my own sons, it became a priority for me to deliberately express my love to them. So I would kiss (on the lips) and hug them each night before bed. As they've gotten older, they refuse to go to bed without their kisses. After pandemic homeschooling last year, now they are in public schools for the first time. My oldest is 7th grade and youngest is 4th. They refuse to get on the bus to school without their kisses and still expect bedtime kisses. If a quick kiss helps them feel loved, what's the big deal?
That story about the girl with the notes in her lunch from her nanny.. Yes, OP you are TA... Normally I'm not comfortable calling a minor a "little b word", but in your case, I'll make an exception, thats exactly what you are.
I'm 38 and if my very disabled mom made me a lunch for work or even put a note in purse, it would make my year.
My mom still writes notes in my lunch when she offers to make it for me. I’m almost 18. It makes me realize how lucky I am to have such a wholesome parent
My (24yo) daughter is still living with us while she finishes college, and I still include a note if I make her lunch. I even sign it "❤ MOMMY 🙂" because that's how I've signed my notes to her all her life. She keeps all of them.
That critical woman berating the grieving couple for keeping a promise would absolutely abuse kids, if she doesn't already.
Ah, high school, teenagers... the most judgmental type of human being that like to ostracize the different individuals who don't conform.
Idk why but "this is a Monday problem" makes me laugh for some reason
LOL me too, I love OP's sense of humor in that post
Imagine the only thing you can fathom to think about when your sibling and their partner get custody of an orphaned child born to their best friends was "Wah, you got a baby without having to do, suffer, or lose anything!"
Bullshit, they lost their best friends, they're going to raise that baby because they felt it was their duty as godparents to the baby. They didn't have to go through fertility treatments or strenuous processes to get that child, but they lost their friends, the birth parents to their godchild, and are taking responsibility for a baby that would ideally never have been orphaned in the first place.
They're grieving for their lost friends, rearranging their lives to do right by their friends' child, and all this entitled slag and her husband can think of is "Why do you get a baby when we're the ones who wanted one for so long?" Uh, lady, our best friends died in a horrific accident and their baby needs us. We lost two of our best friends and we're honoring our role as godparents. People died, we're grieving, and all you can think about is how you "deserve" to have a baby and we don't?
With a sister like that, you won't need an enemy.
The channel you were thinking of was "daddyofive" and he lost custody of his youngest son
Don't mention the name, it might draw attention if the guy tries to start it again
The lady from the first story is a GEM. An actual treasure. She did EVERYTHING right.
I’m 40 and always been a hard core daddies girl, I still give him hugs and kisses. I love my dad to the depths of the earth, so I don't find it weird
My mom wrote lunchbox notes on holidays or big test days until the day I graduated. And then she and my dad sent me cards for holidays and finals weeks while I was away for college.
I was embarrassed by it for a while but when I got depressed those notes meant the absolute WORLD to me💜
That OP was absolutely a bully...
I’ve said it once.
I’ve said it twice.
I’ll say it A MILLION TIMES.
Your fertility issues are you own. It sucks to say but it is. My friends have never had an issues, pop babies out like crazy. I will be extremely lucky to ever have another one. My miscarriages nearly kill me each times. I have opted to sterilize myself after my next child because how many times does it take before I die? But these issues are my own. They are not my friends’. I am always happy for them when they announce and always grateful for my one baby boy
I was the weird, shy, quiet girl when I was younger. I lived in abuse from the day I was born. I also was harassed, and bullied most of my school life, so I had a hard time trusting certain situations, just because of what I had known before. It was nice to have anything that made me feel better, but I was always aware of mean girls masquerading as friends, or maybe that is what I expected, that my nice thing would be spit on by someone else just to make me feel weird. Those people can burn in the firey pits of Hell!
I don’t like how Rslash keeps using the “you’re just a teenager” excuse a lot, they are old enough to know what is wrong and right.
...but it is. Teenagers' brains aren't fully developed. They know wrong from right but their bodies are still growing and some haven't even developed empathy yet.
Yeah, that girl is terrible. She needs to learn some empathy and take responsibility for her horrible actions. There's no excuse. It's just a fact that teenagers will act like that and still need to grow and learn from this.
@@ZeroOhClock I NEVER acted like that when I was a teen. I knew right from wrong because I was TAUGHT it. Don't give teens a free pass because "they're still growing." Physically they are but they should more or less KNOW HOW TO BE A HUMAN BY THEIR TEENS.
But, they are just a teenager
@@Riounka good for you!!! Me neither!!! Some teens do act like that though!!! A lot do!!! Cause they're still growing kids!!! Their brains are developing!! Idk how to tell you this but there isn't a light switch that turns you into a mature adult the second you turn 13. Also there are 8 year olds I've worked with that wouldn't dream of acting like that 16 year old did. That 8 year old may have some level of maturity but their friend still hits any kid that's even slightly mean to them. Its because, again, people are different!
I guess you just decided to ignore most of my comment that said that she was rude and should be punished/should be made to learn from her attitude? There are teenagers that maliciously steal, those that murder. They still go to jail because hey, even if they're growing teens with developing brains, they still need to have consequences to their actions. I'm not excuse the behaviour as fine in the slightest, I'm just pointing out that fact that she is still growing and learning and that means she won't be treated the same as a 30 year old doing the same thing.
@@Riounka then I guess men who take advantage of teens aren't at fault cause teens know right from wrong
Which is it!? Are we adults or kids that's why we hate being teens were treated like kids and expected to think like adults
That's not "being a bitch." that's a very professional and very clear way to turn down a guy breaking the rules