She was never attracted to him; he was the nice guy she settled for. Most women settle for the guy they marry because they know the guy they want doesn't want them.
I don't know. I'm seeing a lot of "average" women thinking they're 10s and refuse to settle. But I supposed you're correct that the women who do end up getting married, do in fact marry the nice guy as a safety net.
100%. Her own friends shine her on and repeatedly needle her about her marriage, tell her she could do better, then drop her like a bad habit once it becomes clear that she lost everything. With friends like these, who needs enemies?
I dodged a bullet because of my first fiancee listened to her friends and I got tired of trying to convince her that I loved her every time she would hangout with her friends.
No man would ever disrespect another man's wife and expect to walk away. Amazes me how disrespectful single women fell obligated to voice these opinions out loud.
This insufferable vvoman was hooking up with dudes all along. She spins a story about the "one" time she got caught. Typical story of a habitual liar. She'll pass after a long life of being lonely, having been used by countless men, and loved by none of them. This is the story of a feminist.
@@BurninVinyl I'm not so sure "immature" is a good descriptor. Everybody is immature, as intellectually, everybody continues to grow and/or change throughout their lives. That said, yes... people use one another, but in this case vvomen don't win this one, as they have a very small window to secure a family before they smack right dab into the wall. Men have no such expiration date.
Because there's always something better to compare against. Because they never stop to compare against what's worse than what they have, so it's a one sided feedback loop. Because it shifts the focus from mutual goals to making the goal to be better than ___ [example being compared against], which is wrong purpose, wrong target.
Ah yes, the "I'm drunk" excuse...a true classic. Well, drunk or not, friends poisonous words or not, actions have consequences. One does reap what a one sows... enjoy the fruits of thy labour
I was with my then GF at an event. She was drinking too much and I politely asked her if that was a good idea. She told me " You are not the boss of me" Eventually puked and I had to lead her to our shared bed. Nice. A few years later, did it again at a wedding where she was a bridesmaid. Tried to get her to slow down. Same condescending attitude, like I was the problem. Puked in my vehicle. What a waste of my time. I was so dumb. I was trying to make something work that had no chance. She is / was not a good fit for me. Guys - when the answer is right in your face - listen. Learn.
Sorry you had to learn like that. If a woman ever tells you that you are “not the boss of her”, or words to that effect, dump her instantly. A wife must be willing to follow the husband's leadership. If she will not, don't even keep talking to her.
Maybe, my wife and I might be exceptions? We have been happily and playfully married for many, many decades. We still visit during meals, flirt at home, and hold hands in public. She loves it when I playfully hit on her. During our life together, we had some sensitive problems come up but we worked through them quickly At our age we still keep that boy/girl thing going. BOTH spouses have to work at it to have that story book married life. I wish all couples could achieve our success. Now, there are some personalities out there who are never going to be reliable. I know we are supposed to have love for everyone but there are a few people I would love better if they lived in a different city.
Modern women don’t view relationships as commitments, anymore. It’s just another bundle of feelings that can change in a week or two… why would I give my commitment to that? Rotations til the end, boys And the: ‘I didn’t know I was treating my husband like shit’… yeah, sweetheart, ya did
My friend, take stock of everything you have and see a good lawyer, your marriage is probably going up in smoke as I type this. A close friend married 30 years was told by his wife while in a drunken state that he was just a good provider, no more no less! Sad state of affairs my marriage not far from my friends.
My friend, take stock of everything you have and see a good lawyer, your marriage is probably going up in smoke as I type this. A close friend married 30 years was told by his wife while in a drunken state that he was just a good provider, no more no less! Sad state of affairs my marriage not far from my friends.😅
Typical modern story; nice guy marries "party girl" who settled for him, never respecting or loving him. After treating him like garbage and losing him does she regret the separation
That's the story they all come up with to seek sympathy or trick you to save them. Mostly its the opposite they were the ones that abused, cheated and are narcissist.
Modern day women really don't know that they aren't marriage material because they were never raised to be one. They just fall into the find a man with good job and/or be your own get your own career.
She tells her husband that she isn't attracted to him anymore and then gets upset because she feels invisible. How does that make sense? -and her "friends" telling her that she should have been more careful -or more dishonest. Her husband is stoic, which is a very masculine way to be, but what would women know about being masculine? She is her own worst enemy, though her friends come pretty close.
It's always like that. If the friend group starts getting married they all do and when when one gets divorced the rest follow. They can't think for themselves... That hive mentality.
Most women do this same mistake.. if they have a good, routine life, a caring husband, over time they get bored. They want some excitement in their life. The boredom of stereotypic life makes them crazy. They tend to adventure on cheating or showing frustration with husband & kids. Once the husband decides to separate, at first they feel relief and agree immediately. But after a few months, the reality will hit them hard, these women face dead ends everywhere. Her friends would avoid her since she is toxic. Their life doomed. I had seen some cases like this. It is happening more in India nowadays.
4 of my friends had the same situation. Really nice guys, but b**chy wife. Wifey demanded divorce, They got separated before age 40. The men got remarried to good women and became very well off in life. Whereas the ex wifey could not find a good man, had to work hard for basic needs, living a loney life without money, avoided by all. 10 years gone. They remain single old women, regretting and stalking ex-hubby.
Man I'm from west Africa and it's same thing here... it's world wide since we have the internet ideologies spreads like wild fire. Y'all stay protected.
She is so full of ish. She was cheating the entire time. 2/3 through the story she mentions kissing a guy once in the parking lot. Bull, she simply finally got caught. Why would her husband follow her if there wasn't at the very least suspicious behavior indicating cheating? Then at the end she said she cheated. Now we all know women dont consider kissing cheating if they are the ones doing the kissing. I dont think she was having an affair, I think she was just randomly hooking up with guys she thought was better looking than her husband which explains her im not even attracted to you.
This is plain stupid. First, she decides to marry a guy she's not attracted to. Second, she tells him she's not attracted to him. Thirdly, she was cheating all along.
It' s not what you think? That' excuses words once a woman caught cheating. Iam shock why some women do this unrepairable deceit,betrayal the outcome will be ruining their lives.😮
15:25. He is incapable of being intimate with you because you are now only a source of pain to him. Most animals try to avoid painful stimulation. Biological organisms that cannot avoid these stimuli will use other mechanisms to isolate the pain and wall it off.
Her previous relationships have addicted her to drama. She's unfit for a normal relationship with a decent man now as she will always try to create drama no matter what the guy does for her.
Those friends of hers are full of it. One minute they say for her to start dating nicer guys that appreciate her, but then turn around and berate her for it later. Always talking bad about her husband. Then they sit and do nothing while watching her flirt with a rando at the bar. They are just as bad of an influence.
She "loves" him, like a brother, a family member - but she isn't attracted to him. He is her safety, security and she wants him to accept being treated with less affection than her dog so she can maintain her illusion. Women use men and really don't give a crap about them. He can have all the 6's (6 pack, 6 figures, 6 feet tall, etc..) and she will STILL never be happy.
OP openly described how she settled while mentioning her usual choices were guys that only gave her the tingles. Plus, she has the sheep mentality. Weak minded people are terrible people yo be in a relationship unless they have an A type partner. Even so, they should be avoided.
These days we men need to be players coz nice guys are treated poorly. Even if u are charismatic, and have a good vibe but u aren't physically attractive u'll never retain her.
Silence... It destroys them. Every story told by one of "these" women emphasizes the quiet response from their husbands. When they describe it, it sounds like months have passed and then you find out it's only been a week or so.... They just can't take being grey rocked. Women need to talk, and talk, and talk... it's the only way they can gaslight you. No conversation... no opportunity to lie, gaslight and deflect blame. It's the BEST way to respond, any other response just validates their reasoning of why they treated you the way they did. Your silence is strength, and a strong man is kryptonite to a woman who believes she held the power in the relationship.
This is so painful. It is the life I lived. I had just finished training and was beginning to make good money. I loved my 4 children and was a devoted, loyal husband to my beautiful young wife. We had a small, comfortable home in a nice neighborhood. We drove cars like Acccords and Camries. I wonder if my ex sees she destroyed what we had pursuing a fashionable fantasy life we couldn't afford and that wasn't us.
1. Married woman, girl's night don't mix. 2. Alcohol doesn't change a person. It lowers inhibitions. "In vino veritas" is old school wisdom. So why are you crying? Your husband set you free to find someone you actually find attractive. You wanting to stay for the benefits he provides is both selfish and cruel, especially now that he knows. Leave him be.
'I gave you my heart, and I tried to make you happy; and you gave me nothing in return. You know, it ain't so hard to say, 'would you please just go away. "I've thrown away the Blues; I'm tired of being used. I want ev'ryone to know that I'm looking for a good time. GOOD TIME!" - The Commodores, *Sail On* That is EXACTLY what Luke did. He threw away 'The Blues'
I'm not a drinker. I don't get high or smoke anything. I have grown tired of the lying, cheating, and excuses about being drunk and or high, and it didn't mean anything. My personal favorite: "You are boring, I want excitement." Alone is better than doing everything for someone who doesn't value honesty and faithfulness.
"When I first met him, he wasnt my type at all" --------thats the foundation of the entire problem. Dont settle. "NIce" "Dependable" "Solid" "Safe" all bad words when a woman describes a man
I've noticed, over a lifetime.... Women will say the most evil, harsh things to people they are in a relationship with vs some men, who are usually the target, who wouldn't say the equivalent to an enemy. Some of the things said at your lowest, most vulnerable point is heartbreaking.
He didn't love you unconditionally. And he shouldn't, no men (or women) should. That love is only from parents towards (young) children. Do you know the signs at the Zoo? At the crocodile, bear or lion enclosures. "Do not lean over or sit on the wall - we feed the animals enough protein." That is a man telling you not to dress sexy and going on a girls night out. It's not a girls night, if you go to a place that has men. It is you sitting on that wall, dangling your feet towards the predator. And drinking alcohol while you're doing it. If you resist your partner protecting you (from yourself), you should not be in a relationship.
So he was good to her did everything right but still she settled when in fact she was not good enough for him. She led him on and lied then admitted she did not love him and took a big C on him. So many women have this unrealistic fairy tail and do not see what they have right in front of them. I married someone who later acted like she had her choice and settled for me. It did not last and now I am glad she is gone! It was exhausting trying to make this person happy. Oh and there was always the excuse of how she could not wear makeup till on day she started wearing it to work. Will never make that mistake again!
what does wearing makeup have to do with anything? Most of the time i prefer the natural looks or maybe just a little bit if necessary. All the other clowns with tons of dirt in their faces - yuk!
"All the things i needed in a boyfriend" not "a husband".. she never let go of being an alpha widow. That poor husband in this story deserved alot better. Doubt this is a true report but its a valuable fiction with a warning for good average men. Better to be alone than getting with a woman incapable of cherishing you and your effort.
This is why it is important to distance yourself from women, friends, who speak negatively about your partner. Yes, there are times it is appropriate, but there are times it is not. As shown here, friends opinions become a poison that ruined two peoples lives leaving bitter and painful memories. It is funny how many people are experts on other peoples relationships without ever being a part of them or seeing them for more than a few hours a year.
After he found out how she really felt, it quickly became annoying listen to her talking about his passive aggressive BS. He didn't need time, he needed to end it and move on. And then, surprise, surprise, she goes out and cheats on him with the first man that shows her a bit of attention. Why stay with her? They were both idiots. I also love how they always say, "It wasn't what it looked like." It reminds me of Marx Brother's saying, "Who are you going to believe, me or your own eyes?" 😆
The solution to most problems in a relationship is communication, if she had talked it out with him Instead of holding it in and building resentment things could have worked out. You can't help it if you're not attracted to your partner anymore, but if you talk about it you at least have a chance to convince them to hit the gym. Also if your friends are speaking I'll of your partner who treats you well, then those are not your friends.
If a person is incapable of being happy in their own life and with themselves, they cannot be happy with anyone else. They are not good candidates for long term relationships and usually will find a way to sabotage their relationships no matter how hard the partner tries.
The one thing I will give her credit for is that she actually took ownership and accountability for her actions that ruined her marriage, even if a bit late to save it. That's better than 99.99999999% of most women, being willing to do that. The majority blame everything and everyone else BUT themselves. They can' be honest with anyone, even themselves about things. Strangely enough, OP admitted that it was HER fault her marriage ended. Maybe there's hope for her to grow and learn from this. Who knows?
zoe's stories have this theme of slipping up in a big way, in ways a spouse sent in another direction. Similar enough with such self destructive actions, anger issues, etc, with no big surprises. SETTLED, @ minimum, on destructive path to divorce; getting what heroine deserves.
I don't know if this story is actually true but it is a good example of why I have never been married. I can easily see myself as "Luke" giving and giving, only to have a wife who takes love for granted. As someone who has never been married, I can tell you not every person finds that one love that inspires songs and poems to be written. The woman in this story will never find love and though it wasn't said, she knows it. At least she knows that if it comes along again she should appreciate something that doesn't come along frequently. I am living proof some people never find it.
She wasn't chasing him at all he did all the chasing he did everything for her. A woman don't know what they truly want until it is presented to her in the right way even if she is not truly interested in the the beginning ,he flattered her and that was nice but she didn't lust for him in which i don't think he knows how to do that
All theses stories are fictional. How do I know this , because all the women in these fairy tales admit fault , understand exactly what they did wrong and are deeply remorseful. As we all know, in the real world this is the furthest thing from the truth.
being intoxicated doesnt save the mc at all cuz that was still exactly what she felt regardless of her being drunk. then due to your words ruining your marriage, you cheat on your husband. imagine you getting mad or hurt because of my reaction to you doing me dirty.
Luke randomly driving to the place she was at and just happened to catch her cheating? This story felt super rushed at that part. It needed something more elaborate than that.
Another very short marriage. Only three years. OP’s husband now has a chance to find true happiness and love instead of settling for a toxic uncaring woman that only daydreams about what it would be like with Chad and Tyrone. That’s some cold blooded stuff OP said to her husband “I’m not attractive to you anymore.” Drunk or not that’s what she really feels about him. She even cheated and kissed another man.
Reading some of the comments I would reply. So much in life is a compromise. A fantasy/dream is for the most time is just that. A few get to fulfill those dreams...at least for a while. How may, so called dream relationships fall over. One way to put it would be to say,"Don't marry too early or until you know in reality what you want or rather need. Wants and needs are two different categories. As a kid, how many have dropped a tanty when parents wouldn't give you something you wanted. How many of these 'wanted' items get discarded, then they want another to replace. That want happened in this story, she wanted her knight in shining armour. When the reality, at the time, didn't measure up, he is discarded over time. Now she realises, with the benefit of hinsight, that he is what she needed as opposed to just wanting at the time. Her loss, his new girlfriend's gain.
Being an adult and being like, hey babe, listen I feel like we should start going to the gym and doing some stuff you know communication something women never do and they’re never accountable for their own action
I was like Luke once, found a nice girl I like, 6years later, she found me annoying, also said I should dress better.. I had no idea where all that came from.. I treated her well, bought her things that I knew she would love, and she did.. I caught her texting someone else, I asked for her phone but she refused and layed on it.. I left it there and switched off.. A few months later, she says. You've changed.. Your not the person you used to be... Luke walked away, My girl walked out.. Like Luke, I found someone, special, we dated for a year and in that year, my ex begged me to take her back,... Today, I'm married for 4 years... I couldn't ask for more 😊
She was never attracted to him; he was the nice guy she settled for. Most women settle for the guy they marry because they know the guy they want doesn't want them.
Yep, this was my first thought too.
@@nickdiggerz I agree.
I don't know. I'm seeing a lot of "average" women thinking they're 10s and refuse to settle. But I supposed you're correct that the women who do end up getting married, do in fact marry the nice guy as a safety net.
EXACTLY!
Just prof to never, never, ever! Marry one of those things!!
Single women keep other women single.
Do you want every lady is alone good...
Where from you are,
Hope you will reply
100%. Her own friends shine her on and repeatedly needle her about her marriage, tell her she could do better, then drop her like a bad habit once it becomes clear that she lost everything.
With friends like these, who needs enemies?
Every single 304 equals into one single bloke.
Happy Endings everywhere 😂
I dodged a bullet because of my first fiancee listened to her friends and I got tired of trying to convince her that I loved her every time she would hangout with her friends.
Ladies and guyz who hang around with friends a lot, end with the same fate.. Spcly ladies, they can be easily manipulated.
You DO NOT convince someone to love you! That is one of the most IDIOTIC statements I have EVER heard.
No man would ever disrespect another man's wife and expect to walk away. Amazes me how disrespectful single women fell obligated to voice these opinions out loud.
@georgeturner301 You read what I wrote wrong.
She didn't love you
Notice how it all starts with "Girls Nights/Trips" or "Late Work Meetings"?
These trips = 304 activities + snake gatherings to poison each other.
And booze...
This insufferable vvoman was hooking up with dudes all along. She spins a story about the "one" time she got caught. Typical story of a habitual liar. She'll pass after a long life of being lonely, having been used by countless men, and loved by none of them. This is the story of a feminist.
I dont think those promiscious types are ever happy.
What? used? she used them. It goes both direction, an immature person.
@@BurninVinyl I'm not so sure "immature" is a good descriptor. Everybody is immature, as intellectually, everybody continues to grow and/or change throughout their lives. That said, yes... people use one another, but in this case vvomen don't win this one, as they have a very small window to secure a family before they smack right dab into the wall. Men have no such expiration date.
@@audioelitist3677 like the great SSM says women age like sean connery and men age like sean connery
Pretty much
Comparison truly is the thief of joy.
Because there's always something better to compare against.
Because they never stop to compare against what's worse than what they have, so it's a one sided feedback loop.
Because it shifts the focus from mutual goals to making the goal to be better than ___ [example being compared against], which is wrong purpose, wrong target.
Ah yes, the "I'm drunk" excuse...a true classic. Well, drunk or not, friends poisonous words or not, actions have consequences. One does reap what a one sows... enjoy the fruits of thy labour
I was with my then GF at an event. She was drinking too much and I politely asked her if that was a good idea. She told me " You are not the boss of me" Eventually puked and I had to lead her to our shared bed. Nice. A few years later, did it again at a wedding where she was a bridesmaid. Tried to get her to slow down. Same condescending attitude, like I was the problem. Puked in my vehicle. What a waste of my time. I was so dumb. I was trying to make something work that had no chance. She is / was not a good fit for me. Guys - when the answer is right in your face - listen. Learn.
Sorry you had to learn like that. If a woman ever tells you that you are “not the boss of her”, or words to that effect, dump her instantly. A wife must be willing to follow the husband's leadership. If she will not, don't even keep talking to her.
At least she’s self aware enough to realize she’s unworthy of love.
CAN ANY MAN MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY FOR EVER - NOT EVEN GOD CAN MAKE WOMEN HAPPY FOREVER
Yet, SO many Men STILL try!
Why would any man try? Pump and dump their not important enough to try, get what you want and move on they are interchangeable
Maybe, my wife and I might be exceptions? We have been happily and playfully married for many, many decades. We still visit during meals, flirt at home, and hold hands in public. She loves it when I playfully hit on her. During our life together, we had some sensitive problems come up but we worked through them quickly
At our age we still keep that boy/girl thing going. BOTH spouses have to work at it to have that story book married life.
I wish all couples could achieve our success. Now, there are some personalities out there who are never going to be reliable. I know we are supposed to have love for everyone but there are a few people I would love better if they lived in a different city.
For any guy out there, if your girlfriend/wife is going out for girls' nights out, you know it's just a matter of time......😂❤
Modern women don’t view relationships as commitments, anymore. It’s just another bundle of feelings that can change in a week or two… why would I give my commitment to that? Rotations til the end, boys
And the: ‘I didn’t know I was treating my husband like shit’… yeah, sweetheart, ya did
This sounds like my marriage. I'm sure that my wife was only ever attracted to an imaginary version of me.
My friend, take stock of everything you have and see a good lawyer, your marriage is probably going up in smoke as I type this. A close friend married 30 years was told by his wife while in a drunken state that he was just a good provider, no more no less! Sad state of affairs my marriage not far from my friends.
My friend, take stock of everything you have and see a good lawyer, your marriage is probably going up in smoke as I type this. A close friend married 30 years was told by his wife while in a drunken state that he was just a good provider, no more no less! Sad state of affairs my marriage not far from my friends.😅
Good luck to you sir
I'll file that under, "The things I can do without."
Simp.
The 304 should be your ex-wife.
Good example of someone not being satisfied with what they have.
THE WORLD IS NOT ENOUGH!!!
Most women
Typical modern story; nice guy marries "party girl" who settled for him, never respecting or loving him. After treating him like garbage and losing him does she regret the separation
BS story-in real life she would blame him for everything all the time,even kissing other guy.
And women wonder why more and more men are done with dating.
Wow what a prize!...a self absorbed drunk with the self control and morals of a Labrador. Luke dodged a bullet.
What you need in a boyfriend is not what you need in a husband.
I'll continue to push this; if she doesn't have GENUINE DESIRE, you need to keep it movin'! She never liked Luke like that. He should've known.
Alpha widow and Chad chaser
Lol😂
This is so similar to my story, but in my case, my ex wife will never come to the realization at the end.
This is why you avoid the women with the checkered pasts. If all her ex were "abusive", "assholes", "narcissistic " etc, run away.
That's the story they all come up with to seek sympathy or trick you to save them. Mostly its the opposite they were the ones that abused, cheated and are narcissist.
She even resorted to cooking for him!
🤣🤣🤣
Modern day women really don't know that they aren't marriage material because they were never raised to be one. They just fall into the find a man with good job and/or be your own get your own career.
She tells her husband that she isn't attracted to him anymore and then gets upset because she feels invisible. How does that make sense?
-and her "friends" telling her that she should have been more careful -or more dishonest.
Her husband is stoic, which is a very masculine way to be, but what would women know about being masculine?
She is her own worst enemy, though her friends come pretty close.
You weren’t insecure, you were shellfish and wanted more. You were only worried bout yourself.
Women say they want a guy like Luke but the truth is they hate men like Luke
He is mad because is something she said when she was drunk. What does she do? Go out alone fore some drinks. What could possible go wrong?
Her friends are total hypocrites
Yeah. One of the reasons is: they say to get with guys like her husband then ask her why she's with him.
It's always like that. If the friend group starts getting married they all do and when when one gets divorced the rest follow. They can't think for themselves... That hive mentality.
Most women do this same mistake.. if they have a good, routine life, a caring husband, over time they get bored. They want some excitement in their life. The boredom of stereotypic life makes them crazy. They tend to adventure on cheating or showing frustration with husband & kids. Once the husband decides to separate, at first they feel relief and agree immediately. But after a few months, the reality will hit them hard, these women face dead ends everywhere. Her friends would avoid her since she is toxic. Their life doomed. I had seen some cases like this. It is happening more in India nowadays.
4 of my friends had the same situation. Really nice guys, but b**chy wife. Wifey demanded divorce, They got separated before age 40. The men got remarried to good women and became very well off in life. Whereas the ex wifey could not find a good man, had to work hard for basic needs, living a loney life without money, avoided by all. 10 years gone. They remain single old women, regretting and stalking ex-hubby.
Man I'm from west Africa and it's same thing here... it's world wide since we have the internet ideologies spreads like wild fire. Y'all stay protected.
""Alcohol and Selfishness are guaranteed destroyers of a marriage!""
She is so full of ish. She was cheating the entire time. 2/3 through the story she mentions kissing a guy once in the parking lot. Bull, she simply finally got caught. Why would her husband follow her if there wasn't at the very least suspicious behavior indicating cheating? Then at the end she said she cheated. Now we all know women dont consider kissing cheating if they are the ones doing the kissing.
I dont think she was having an affair, I think she was just randomly hooking up with guys she thought was better looking than her husband which explains her im not even attracted to you.
I bet he caught her doing a lot more with her mouth than kissing the dude.
This is plain stupid. First, she decides to marry a guy she's not attracted to. Second, she tells him she's not attracted to him. Thirdly, she was cheating all along.
When you hurt a good man, he will go ghost and stay silent. Then he will leave and when he does, it's over. No more of him giving his best.
It' s not what you think? That' excuses words once a woman caught cheating. Iam shock why some women do this unrepairable deceit,betrayal the outcome will be ruining their lives.😮
Because they get off on the emotional rollercoaster
She disrespects him and insults him. Then betrays him. And they wonder why we can't risk trusting a super majority of them.
15:25. He is incapable of being intimate with you because you are now only a source of pain to him. Most animals try to avoid painful stimulation. Biological organisms that cannot avoid these stimuli will use other mechanisms to isolate the pain and wall it off.
Woman said this to me years ago, shrugged and walked away.
Her previous relationships have addicted her to drama. She's unfit for a normal relationship with a decent man now as she will always try to create drama no matter what the guy does for her.
Those friends of hers are full of it. One minute they say for her to start dating nicer guys that appreciate her, but then turn around and berate her for it later. Always talking bad about her husband. Then they sit and do nothing while watching her flirt with a rando at the bar. They are just as bad of an influence.
She's freely given herself to so many flashy guys that she is unable to connect with this good man. Body count does matter.
She "loves" him, like a brother, a family member - but she isn't attracted to him. He is her safety, security and she wants him to accept being treated with less affection than her dog so she can maintain her illusion. Women use men and really don't give a crap about them. He can have all the 6's (6 pack, 6 figures, 6 feet tall, etc..) and she will STILL never be happy.
OP openly described how she settled while mentioning her usual choices were guys that only gave her the tingles. Plus, she has the sheep mentality. Weak minded people are terrible people yo be in a relationship unless they have an A type partner. Even so, they should be avoided.
These days we men need to be players coz nice guys are treated poorly. Even if u are charismatic, and have a good vibe but u aren't physically attractive u'll never retain her.
Silence... It destroys them. Every story told by one of "these" women emphasizes the quiet response from their husbands. When they describe it, it sounds like months have passed and then you find out it's only been a week or so.... They just can't take being grey rocked. Women need to talk, and talk, and talk... it's the only way they can gaslight you. No conversation... no opportunity to lie, gaslight and deflect blame. It's the BEST way to respond, any other response just validates their reasoning of why they treated you the way they did. Your silence is strength, and a strong man is kryptonite to a woman who believes she held the power in the relationship.
This is so painful. It is the life I lived.
I had just finished training and was beginning to make good money. I loved my 4 children and was a devoted, loyal husband to my beautiful young wife. We had a small, comfortable home in a nice neighborhood. We drove cars like Acccords and Camries.
I wonder if my ex sees she destroyed what we had pursuing a fashionable fantasy life we couldn't afford and that wasn't us.
1. Married woman, girl's night don't mix.
2. Alcohol doesn't change a person. It lowers inhibitions. "In vino veritas" is old school wisdom.
So why are you crying? Your husband set you free to find someone you actually find attractive. You wanting to stay for the benefits he provides is both selfish and cruel, especially now that he knows. Leave him be.
'I gave you my heart, and I tried to make you happy; and you gave me nothing in return. You know, it ain't so hard to say, 'would you please just go away.
"I've thrown away the Blues; I'm tired of being used. I want ev'ryone to know that I'm looking for a good time. GOOD TIME!" - The Commodores, *Sail On*
That is EXACTLY what Luke did. He threw away 'The Blues'
chances are she would have cheated again on him down the road if he took her back.once a cheater always a cheater.
So she was a terrible cook too!!..hell with that, she is no wife material for real!
I'm not a drinker. I don't get high or smoke anything. I have grown tired of the lying, cheating, and excuses about being drunk and or high, and it didn't mean anything. My personal favorite: "You are boring, I want excitement." Alone is better than doing everything for someone who doesn't value honesty and faithfulness.
The good thing about this story it appears she’s actually learned her lesson and she’s taking accountability which is shocking
Drink gets rid of your inhibitions, you say what you really feel.
The story was over at "girls night out". 1:18 was all I needed to know about this travesty.
"its not just the cheating or the hurtful things i said".
she cheated in additional.
what a woman.
"When I first met him, he wasnt my type at all" --------thats the foundation of the entire problem. Dont settle. "NIce" "Dependable" "Solid" "Safe" all bad words when a woman describes a man
Alcohol doesn't change your thoughts. Just your inhibitions to say them.
I've noticed, over a lifetime.... Women will say the most evil, harsh things to people they are in a relationship with vs some men, who are usually the target, who wouldn't say the equivalent to an enemy. Some of the things said at your lowest, most vulnerable point is heartbreaking.
Great story and hits home
Besides never being attracted to him, they say when you're drunk you say and do what you really feel!! It came out in the end!!!
He didn't love you unconditionally. And he shouldn't, no men (or women) should. That love is only from parents towards (young) children.
Do you know the signs at the Zoo? At the crocodile, bear or lion enclosures. "Do not lean over or sit on the wall - we feed the animals enough protein."
That is a man telling you not to dress sexy and going on a girls night out. It's not a girls night, if you go to a place that has men.
It is you sitting on that wall, dangling your feet towards the predator. And drinking alcohol while you're doing it.
If you resist your partner protecting you (from yourself), you should not be in a relationship.
Women (wifes) should not do “girls nights” because nothing good comes from it, it was the downfall of this woman.
So he was good to her did everything right but still she settled when in fact she was not good enough for him. She led him on and lied then admitted she did not love him and took a big C on him. So many women have this unrealistic fairy tail and do not see what they have right in front of them. I married someone who later acted like she had her choice and settled for me. It did not last and now I am glad she is gone! It was exhausting trying to make this person happy. Oh and there was always the excuse of how she could not wear makeup till on day she started wearing it to work. Will never make that mistake again!
what does wearing makeup have to do with anything? Most of the time i prefer the natural looks or maybe just a little bit if necessary.
All the other clowns with tons of dirt in their faces - yuk!
Women have these unrealistic dreams but everything can’t be a Disney movie I’ve seen everything
"All the things i needed in a boyfriend" not "a husband".. she never let go of being an alpha widow. That poor husband in this story deserved alot better. Doubt this is a true report but its a valuable fiction with a warning for good average men. Better to be alone than getting with a woman incapable of cherishing you and your effort.
She was done with men always infatuated with her without regard to her as a person? Isn't that what she was doing to the "flashy" men?
If she didn't know she'd said that, how did she remember it for the story?
The lesson is when you are married stop going to bars or girls nightout because the temptation is therezyou cannot think right when you are drank
Alcohol is everyone's excuse for their bad behavior.
Drunken actions are sober thoughts.
Muslims are right about fefailes and booze 😁
This is why it is important to distance yourself from women, friends, who speak negatively about your partner. Yes, there are times it is appropriate, but there are times it is not. As shown here, friends opinions become a poison that ruined two peoples lives leaving bitter and painful memories. It is funny how many people are experts on other peoples relationships without ever being a part of them or seeing them for more than a few hours a year.
Birds of a feather flock together.That's why you keep your wife away from single friends
Maybe you can keep em from single friends but not social media.
Keep away from booze and 304ing single fefailes.
After he found out how she really felt, it quickly became annoying listen to her talking about his passive aggressive BS. He didn't need time, he needed to end it and move on. And then, surprise, surprise, she goes out and cheats on him with the first man that shows her a bit of attention. Why stay with her? They were both idiots. I also love how they always say, "It wasn't what it looked like." It reminds me of Marx Brother's saying, "Who are you going to believe, me or your own eyes?" 😆
He was likely getting his ducks in a row first. You don't just show your hand when your about to leave.
The solution to most problems in a relationship is communication, if she had talked it out with him Instead of holding it in and building resentment things could have worked out. You can't help it if you're not attracted to your partner anymore, but if you talk about it you at least have a chance to convince them to hit the gym. Also if your friends are speaking I'll of your partner who treats you well, then those are not your friends.
She should look at the bright side, she can now find someone who gives her the tingles.
She drove to the bar, got drunk as she said alcohol fuelled, luke saw her and she drove home?!?
This is why you never double dip. Promise whatever you need to to get a lay, and bail. Don't even give them your real name.
You should have not have married him from the beginning. Nice story .
People love suffering.
If a person is incapable of being happy in their own life and with themselves, they cannot be happy with anyone else. They are not good candidates for long term relationships and usually will find a way to sabotage their relationships no matter how hard the partner tries.
If you not attached to him why did you merry him because you said he was safe
The one thing I will give her credit for is that she actually took ownership and accountability for her actions that ruined her marriage, even if a bit late to save it. That's better than 99.99999999% of most women, being willing to do that. The majority blame everything and everyone else BUT themselves. They can' be honest with anyone, even themselves about things. Strangely enough, OP admitted that it was HER fault her marriage ended. Maybe there's hope for her to grow and learn from this. Who knows?
She picked the nice guy. Don´t be the nice guy....and work out.
"Working out" is for ourselves.
For attracting and keeping a fefaile it's enough to be arsehole .
In Vino Veritas...
Latin for "there's truth in wine".
zoe's stories have this theme of slipping up in a big way, in ways a spouse sent in another direction.
Similar enough with such self destructive actions, anger issues, etc, with no big surprises. SETTLED,
@ minimum, on destructive path to divorce; getting what heroine deserves.
I don't know if this story is actually true but it is a good example of why I have never been married. I can easily see myself as "Luke" giving and giving, only to have a wife who takes love for granted. As someone who has never been married, I can tell you not every person finds that one love that inspires songs and poems to be written. The woman in this story will never find love and though it wasn't said, she knows it. At least she knows that if it comes along again she should appreciate something that doesn't come along frequently. I am living proof some people never find it.
Fefailes aren't in it for romance but for recourses...
Settled too soon...for women settleing is a four letter word.
what's the word? you cannot mean "love", but everything else i come up with has more letters...
She wasn't chasing him at all he did all the chasing he did everything for her.
A woman don't know what they truly want until it is presented to her in the right way even if she is not truly interested in the the beginning ,he flattered her and that was nice but she didn't lust for him in which i don't think he knows how to do that
As the saying goes : children and drunks speak the truth
And leggins :)
What's the term for this woman?... Oh yeah, alpha widowed.
All theses stories are fictional. How do I know this , because all the women in these fairy tales admit fault , understand exactly what they did wrong and are deeply remorseful. As we all know, in the real world this is the furthest thing from the truth.
being intoxicated doesnt save the mc at all cuz that was still exactly what she felt regardless of her being drunk. then due to your words ruining your marriage, you cheat on your husband. imagine you getting mad or hurt because of my reaction to you doing me dirty.
Luke randomly driving to the place she was at and just happened to catch her cheating? This story felt super rushed at that part. It needed something more elaborate than that.
Another very short marriage. Only three years. OP’s husband now has a chance to find true happiness and love instead of settling for a toxic uncaring woman that only daydreams about what it would be like with Chad and Tyrone. That’s some cold blooded stuff OP said to her husband “I’m not attractive to you anymore.” Drunk or not that’s what she really feels about him. She even cheated and kissed another man.
"true happiness"?
You mean he should get a dog, or a bike?
You have what you purchased. It couldn't have happened to a more deserving person.
Cheaters gonna cheat!!!
Good story
Reading some of the comments I would reply. So much in life is a compromise. A fantasy/dream is for the most time is just that. A few get to fulfill those dreams...at least for a while. How may, so called dream relationships fall over. One way to put it would be to say,"Don't marry too early or until you know in reality what you want or rather need. Wants and needs are two different categories. As a kid, how many have dropped a tanty when parents wouldn't give you something you wanted. How many of these 'wanted' items get discarded, then they want another to replace. That want happened in this story, she wanted her knight in shining armour. When the reality, at the time, didn't measure up, he is discarded over time. Now she realises, with the benefit of hinsight, that he is what she needed as opposed to just wanting at the time. Her loss, his new girlfriend's gain.
Drunk people cannot lie. Do not hurt good people, they do not forget.
Being an adult and being like, hey babe, listen I feel like we should start going to the gym and doing some stuff you know communication something women never do and they’re never accountable for their own action
I was like Luke once, found a nice girl I like, 6years later, she found me annoying, also said I should dress better.. I had no idea where all that came from.. I treated her well, bought her things that I knew she would love, and she did..
I caught her texting someone else, I asked for her phone but she refused and layed on it.. I left it there and switched off..
A few months later, she says. You've changed.. Your not the person you used to be...
Luke walked away, My girl walked out.. Like Luke, I found someone, special, we dated for a year and in that year, my ex begged me to take her back,... Today, I'm married for 4 years... I couldn't ask for more 😊