I've always had problems with resentments and forgiveness because of the things some people did to me especially the major things. I went to treatment for an addiction problem and I have mental health issues to get sober and in recovery where I had a therapist and a sponsor I did the steps with. My therapist told me that resentments only hurt you, not the other person. You do it for yourself. The steps are all about letting go of bad behaviors, making amends, becoming a better person, and helping others. I had to write down all my resentments, how they affected me, and my part in them. When you see your part you know what to change and make amends if needed. Tjis doesnt apply to every situation though like if you were abused. I also try to understand why people are the way they are and do what they do. Not justifying or condoning their behaviors but we act how we do for a reason. Then it helps have more compassion and pray for them. If they change be happy for them, if not, don't stoop to their level and get revenge, but be the bigger person and be kind. They will get their karma whether from an experience, another person, or God. I wouldn't wish that. It's good to heal and protect yourself.
Great talk. Im on my fourth step right now. Im a resentful petty bitch ill tell ya lol. This definitely gave me a better understanding accompanied by some laughs
Something wrong here with the attitude of "let the other guy get mad." That's kind of an in your face throwback to the ones who would offend us. Nothing good results from us getting the other person mad.
Dwight Turner Maybe I think he meant cos the alcoholic can’t afford to get mad, as it kills maybe the other guy - maybe a non alcoholic can, that’s starts on him can?
He's not saying to make the other person mad. He said that they're already mad because they're talking shit. Let them be mad enough to talk shit. Leave me out of it. That's what we mean when we say "your opinion of me is none of my business."
If you listen to what he says after, he said, "Let the other person get mad is that that person must be unhappy to be talking about someone else." In turn, if you don't respond or get upset, it's going to upset that person because their intent is to upset you. If it doesn't work, they will get upset. I mean, it's basic human nature. When you're miserable, you want others to be miserable.
I've always had problems with resentments and forgiveness because of the things some people did to me especially the major things. I went to treatment for an addiction problem and I have mental health issues to get sober and in recovery where I had a therapist and a sponsor I did the steps with. My therapist told me that resentments only hurt you, not the other person. You do it for yourself. The steps are all about letting go of bad behaviors, making amends, becoming a better person, and helping others. I had to write down all my resentments, how they affected me, and my part in them. When you see your part you know what to change and make amends if needed. Tjis doesnt apply to every situation though like if you were abused. I also try to understand why people are the way they are and do what they do. Not justifying or condoning their behaviors but we act how we do for a reason. Then it helps have more compassion and pray for them. If they change be happy for them, if not, don't stoop to their level and get revenge, but be the bigger person and be kind. They will get their karma whether from an experience, another person, or God. I wouldn't wish that. It's good to heal and protect yourself.
Thank you, this message was definitely needed.
I practice to respond rather than react. The key word is practice. I hate how I am and feel when I'm resentful.
Great talk. Im on my fourth step right now. Im a resentful petty bitch ill tell ya lol. This definitely gave me a better understanding accompanied by some laughs
I like it
Something wrong here with the attitude of "let the other guy get mad." That's kind of an in your face throwback to the ones who would offend us. Nothing good results from us getting the other person mad.
Dwight Turner Maybe I think he meant cos the alcoholic can’t afford to get mad, as it kills maybe the other guy - maybe a non alcoholic can, that’s starts on him can?
pal, you cannot get someone mad, who does not choose to get mad
He's not saying to make the other person mad. He said that they're already mad because they're talking shit. Let them be mad enough to talk shit. Leave me out of it. That's what we mean when we say "your opinion of me is none of my business."
If you listen to what he says after, he said, "Let the other person get mad is that that person must be unhappy to be talking about someone else." In turn, if you don't respond or get upset, it's going to upset that person because their intent is to upset you. If it doesn't work, they will get upset. I mean, it's basic human nature. When you're miserable, you want others to be miserable.
Who gives a fuck! live and let live.