How Psychotherapy Works
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- Опубликовано: 4 июл 2018
- Psychotherapy holds out the promise of being able to help us with many of the problems that ruin our lives: anxiety, self-hatred, shame and confusion... But how exactly does it work? On what basis can it help us?
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“When one is in a bad place in one’s head, the modern world offers three main sources of solace: psychiatric medication, CBT and psychotherapy. Each has its own advantages and drawbacks. Medication can be exemplary in a crisis, at points when the mind is so under siege from fear, anxiety or despair that thinking things through cannot be an option. Correctly administered, without requiring any conscious cooperation from us, pills play around with our brain chemistry in a way that helps us get through to the next day - and the one after. We may get very sleepy, a bit nauseous or rather foggy in the process, but at least we’re still around - and functioning, more or less.”
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damn, 120€ per hour is expensive. I work a whole month for 700€, and there is no way I can afford help...
Unfortunately I agree with you. The work they SoL does with this videos is inetimable (does is exist this word in english or I am making this up?).
I’m a counseling psychology doctoral student and practicing therapist based in the US, and I have a couple questions and concerns about what is presented in this video.
First, why do you differentiate “psychotherapy” from “CBT?” In the US, at least, “psychotherapy” is an umbrella term for utilizing psychological methodology to change behaviors. CBT *is* a psychotherapy, and we wouldn’t differentiate between them, because “psychotherapy,” in and of itself, is not a therapeutic modality (CBT is). CBT, DBT, ACT, psychoanalysis: these are all psychotherapies. Unlike what is assumed in this video, most clinicians do not practice from only one modality (see: integrative approach to therapy).
Second, there is a claim made that mostly psychologists and psychiatrists (doctoral-level) utilize CBT. This is definitely not the case in the US, as most clinicians are master-level. Generally, but not always, psychologists and psychiatrists are not conducting psychotherapy. Psychologists often complete psychological testing (depression indexes, anxiety indexes, personality testing), while psychiatrists deal with psychotropic medication management. Most psychotherapy, including CBT, is done by mental health counselors, professional counselors, addiction counselors, social workers, and marriage and family therapists.
I also think of CBD as a part of therapy. On the other hand I believe it's simply a matter different names when it comes to who does what.
RomeRawr In Australia CBT is very much the domain of Psychologists. Marriage therapists and generalist counsellors wouldn't use CBT much.
Four years ago I committed myself to a clinic because of severe depression. The clinic had a multidisciplinary team of therapists, with a heavy focus on psychotherapy. For eight months I spend five days and nights a week there, immersed in therapy and communal living. This was after I spend the two and a half years previous in social isolation. During my stay there I delved into my past, took a long hard look at my personality, and worked on my diminished social skills. I learned that my childhood, while being fairly happy, had left its marks. I learned I had developed tendencies associated with avoidant and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders. And I learned that while I'll always be an introvert, I love being around people, and I need to be around people. After I was discharged I decided not to finish my history degree at university, but to pursue a carreer in forestry. Working with my hands instead of with my head. At the moment I have a fully paid apprentice position four days a week, and I attend forestry school (trade school) one day a week. I'm 32 years old now, and I've rebuild my life from the ground up. Psychotherapy was partly the wrecking ball and partly the new foundation. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, and at the same time committing to it has been the best decision I've ever made.
Petersen That's awesome my friend, an inspiring story and well done for finding the answers for getting moving again. I'm yet to embark on my new journey. I've been socially isolated now for over ten years due to my mother rejection which has led me over the years to believe that I'm inferior to others, and ive also developed a wary distrusting attitude towards others because of my mother's evil ways. It gets lonely at times but I proccess that with the fact that I'm in control of my own peace that no one can interfere with. I know it's soon time to work on my social skills and become exposed to humans again, but mainly with those with common growth interests as I'm not a fan of small talk. Social media and reaching out to local groups is great in this respect and has helped somewhat in staying sane I guess but getting out more eventually will be more beneficial. Every new moment has the potential to be a new chapter so again, congrats on finding yours!
Thank you for your reply.
I discovered I used my feeling superior to the majority of people as an excuse not to have to interact with people. While in reality it was anxiety that kept me from interacting with people. (Known as secondary narcissistic defence.) Though the prospect may be daunting, I've found great benefit in interactions with people who appeared to be not "my kind of people". Even in small talk. Being forced to practice social interactions in the controlled environment of the clinic (sociotherapy) has been a major factor in reducing my anxiety around social interactions. As a result I've become so much more accepting of people in general.
I hope you'll receive the care you need to overcome your problems!
Hi Petersen, I am amazed. At the age of 31, I also started building a completely new ground of my life and switched my career. I have suffered years of anxiety and depression developed through my upbringing and my career path. It was not an easy or simple choice to take time to immerse into myself to find out what I really want to do and to pursue it despite the risks. Throughout the whole process of the change and shift, I have been in psychotherapy, and it definitely was one of the hardest and the most valuable things I have experienced in my life.
@@kaydence1000 Thank you for your reply. Those were brave steps you took. I wish you all the best on your path into the future!
Petersen thank u for your kind words! Wishing u all the best as well ❤️
I love my therapy sessions for the way it shows me how distorted my view of the world had become. It’s like looking into the clearest mirror in the world. I regret not starting sooner.
Gizem Gürkan my mum once told me that everyone’s view of the world is distorted. So we might as well think the best logical interpretation that we can convince ourselves is true. Obviously this means that you shouldn’t endanger your safety or think anything too unrealistic, but it’s just saying that we have a choice to react positively or negatively and sometimes both, and I think therapy helps people realise that choice exists and aids them in leading a more positive life(this is what I’ve heard even though I have never gone to therapy - although I really want to).
Well I wish it was not that expensive, I would give it a try
Mirka Farkašová Yes it is expensive, especially if you’re seeing a phsychiatrist. Maybe you can look into psychologists though?
Ive found on in shreveport that charges $50 a session and believes in holistic practices also. Supplements and the sorts. Ive been seeing her since 2014 and im so glad i ever did. Im a much better person for seeing her
Gizem Gürkan I am seeing a Psychotherapist and he charges me 50€ a session doing twice a week 😒😔
talking to someone that *really tries* to understand you is probably one of the best experiences in life
I went through 7 years of psycho analysis psychotherapy ( there was A LOT to go through) and l can honestly say it saved my life! I can relate to all the things that's been said here! I'm 36 now and for the first time in my life l have a healthy nurturing relationship! It was a difficult decision to make at the time, but looking back at it, it was the best l ever made! If you feel stuck, and the same patterns keep on repeating itself, maybe therapy is something to consider. But be prepared to work, to feel real hurt, real anger, real sadness, but know that you're in a place where it's okay to feel all these things and let yourself heal!
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6:36 "One has to stumble on a _good_ therapist . . . " So very important. A lot of therapists can be the wrong match for you, or just aren't very good at it.
Right, and they can do SO much damage when they're wrong for us and we don't realize precisely because we've been abused or suffered.
Sometimes it helps just having someone to talk to!
Michael Jay - Value Investing absolutely right. Just having someone who truly listens can even help saving a life.
Michael Jay - Value Investing Too bad I’m completely alone and no one around me bothers to check
It's especially good to talk to someone who is so understanding and won't judge
Maybe for people who don’t say enough already .
I remember when I used to live in America, my pastor told me, that a doctor cannot heal if he doesn't know/see what's wrong. So I opened up, and my life is so much better after that. I was walking through life feeling like I will always have someone to go to because I feel their care for me. But now that my work visa expired and I'm back to my home country, I try to open up to some people, and no one seem to understand. I feel so much judgement and defeated. My view of the world is distorted again. I feel so much fear because I'm scared of people. They seem so evil to me. I really don't know what to do now. I've been told I'm possessed a dark spirit, condemned, and told I should go to hospital for crazy people. I was so full of life, I can't believe this is how I'm becoming.
Despite all the good that psychotherapy can do, I think it's so important to emphasise that it needs to be done well. I had a really bad time with a therapist where we basically delved, uninhibited, into deep childhood trauma faster than I could process. Sure, I learnt a lot, but I also had greater problems with suicidal ideation and anxiety. I would have 'counselling hangovers' where I would feel really out of it, and in the end I had to stop. However, I've had plenty of other counselling that has really helped me - so I would always advise people to take their time, take it slow, and always checking in to see how you're feeling. Talk to your therapist if you're feeling overwhelmed - I know I felt under a lot of pressure to 'get my money's worth', getting counselling as a student and then on a minimum wage. This might be tempting, but take it slow! It's really not worth rushing, and in the end, does more harm than good.
Well put.
Yes, psychologist is a healthy professional and like doctors, dentist and nurses, not everyone is going to do a good job...
I went to my first session of psychotherapy today... I felt a bit silly, as if I shouldn't be there. As if its meant for people with terrible things happening in their lives, people who can't function. I hope to stay open in the next few weeks and get to the bottom of things that I can't throw onto my loved ones anymore. Thank you, Alain. You are a part of laying my ghosts to rest.
Octavia Roodt Never believe your mind saying you’re not sick enough, don’t feel bad enough, or whatever enough to go to therapy or get help in whatever kind of way. No matter what happened to you or didn’t happen, you always deserve therapy :)
Don't give up, it just takes time. Once you forget about 'results', that's when you get them.
I felt the same but now I am so glad I have the chance to go
I have experienced it very much like this, yes!! Thank you for your comment!
I adore what I clumsily call "The West" and it IS my heritage but its also my opinion that this "body as a faulty machine that is broken and needs to be improved upon" is a byproduct of our Westernised societies. Psychotherapy is slowly making me realise that all human behaviour is exactly that, HUMAN, and a part of the whole interesting map of experience. Even the strange, dark spots.
I felt the same in my first few sessions. Heck, I still do! But my therapist has made me realize that thinking this way is not kind to yourself because you're undermining and devaluing your own pain and needs. You're worth this.
I think Alain de botton aims to teach the world that the world can be fixed with psychotherapy for everyone. And I agree.
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If that is possible, then why is psychotherapy (CBT, CDT, or psychoanalysis) so expensive, so as to make it affordable only for those in the middle or upper classes?
Conner Fields the goal is to make less expensive and a much regular everyday thing for everyone. Like chocolate, which used to be royal food and more now is for everyone
finalfantasy8911 you are underestimating the power of medications and paychotherapy, meditation. Maybe you haven't been to a good psychotherapist yet. The human mind is mighty and with the right tools, we can make broken people able to function better in life and give them proper coping mechanisms instead of judging them and labelling them with negatively for ever. If you feel doubtful look up people who overcame extreme hardships, suicide survivors....etc.
finalfantasy8911 I'm sorry if you/others had a bad experience with medications. Medications are not the answer, they are only help as a basis for psychotherapy (talking) to do the main job. If someone you know had a bad experience with medications it's very possible that the psychiatrist was a bad one and might have over used medications instead of focusing on psychotherapy. But that does not mean that medications are bad (if used correctly)
Seeing my therapist has to be one of the greatest chances I have had to be genuine with another person. I knew I needed help, I knew I needed to be honest, and I knew I had to believe it would work. With that mindset and a great recommendation, I am starting to see success in my emotional maturity.
It's also important not to get too attached to your therapist which can be difficult when, as you said, they become your first good relationship with a person like the parent you should have had.
The timing of this video is perfect as I just finished my therapy session and I can say with certainty that getting into therapy was the best decision I made for myself. I changed considerably for the better!
6 years of psychotherapy have changed my life, or rather it has helped me to change my own life, because in the end you have to take up your own responsibility after you've gained certain insights and, foremost, learned to trust the therapist. Best decision I've ever made and will I ever make.
At the age of 66 I had a year of psychotherapy with a counsellor from the Revival charity who specialise in sexual abuse. It has been life changing and life saving. It was offered to me by my mental health team who stated that there was nothing else left to try. I had to wait over a year to receive my treatment but well worth waiting. Because the number of sessions available is so small I had to engage very quickly with my counsellor and be very open to and willing to try his suggestions, especially building up my self worth. I am still struggling with many issues but now recognise unwelcome feelings when they bubble up from nowhere and am able to self soothe, enabling a less stressful existence and more happy feelings.
Thank you for sharing your experience. My father is 66 and needs therapy for his traumatic experience of early childhood sexual abuse. He has only recently (after a suicide attempt) opened up to a few close people but he is still determined not to seek any professional help and instead is treating himself with constant alcohol drinking. I feel so helpless seeing him that way and feel sorry for my mum who has to live with him.
CoolTomnoddy I pray that your father will feel that one day soon he will be able to ask for help. It’s not an easy process but can be life changing.
This video is obviously in favour of psychotherapy but I feel it somewhat downplays the importance of CBT. I did DBT (CBT but with mindfulness being a large part) along with talk therapy. It really changed my life. It’s not so much arguing with reality than it is untangling the bunches of intertwined necklaces in your mind. Whenever I overreacted to something, slowing down to understand what emotions I was feeling and trying to trace them back to the cause really made it easier to calm down. Understanding how my thoughts were contributing to a worse mental state made me analyse how I had picked up the language of people who had put me down before. Learning to validate your own emotions was something I HAD to learn. As you said - you need to be in a good mindset to do psychotherapy. But for those who’s mental illness and past trauma play an active role in their life - CBT is effective and extremely helpful in getting you to that better place.
Jenin Ahmad That's if what you're offered is good CBT.
CBT is technique in psychotherapy - therefore youve done psychotherapy - this video is inaccurate
This video stated exactly what you just commented. You need to watch and understand the whole video before making an assumption
Who says we need to work on emotions? That's just a cop-out.
I always ask myself how therapy can be so effective when actually we come up with the solution ourselves. Therapist are there for them and there to talk to. We should actually do this in our daily life. Be open and care about people without being judgmental. This way people will feel a sense of belongingness. I think this is the first step of helping others :)
Winny out...for now ;)
Winny Films the thing about psychotherapy is that psychotherapists know a lot of techniques to make the unconscious , conscious. Techniques that you can obtain only if you get a master degree on clinical psychology. This said , even though it is true that you are the one that creates the solution , you can't create it without the help of a psychotherapist. Think about it as a symbiosis.
Arta Dema yes, I'm not doubting psychotherapists at all, I just find it very fascinating and the process behind it :)
Huge respect to all of the psychotherapists and for helping people!
I have been going to Therapy for quite some time now (a few years) and I must say I wouldn’t be the person I am today without the experience. I have clarity on who I am and why I do things the way I do - positive & negative. I am aware of my behavior and understand others behavior towards me. Being aware is the key to being able to make any changes necessary to get the result I am looking for. I used to feel disgruntled and annoyed at my therapists because I felt like they would stir things up then leave me hanging without a solution. But from what I’ve grown to understand (and appreciate) is, that is exactly what they are supposed to do. To help you develop tools to be able to find solutions to your issues on your own - so you can leave the nest knowing how to fly. You know ‘give a man a fish and he eats today’ but ‘teach a man to fish and he can feed himself forever’ :-)
Victoria Vieitez I am really happy to hear that you have figured out who you are and that you are feeling better. If you think about it...the moment of realization is a true liberation. :)
Winny out...for now ;)
Victoria Vieitez if you dont mind sharing , why did you start your therapy session ?
I'm in therapy for 3 years now and this video gives a lot of insight in that progress and how I feel with it. So either it's a good video or I have a good Therapist but it's probably both of it :)
things are rarely black and white, despite our best efforts to compartmentalize the gray
I started psychotherapy last year and it was probably the best decision i've ever made in my life. It helped me get through some traumas, it even helped me get in touch with myself more and more. Nowadays I think more about my feelings, where they come from and I will always talk about them with my therapist. It's so good, and it's so true to say that they become the good parent that we needed
6 years of therapy with the best therapist in the world has completely changed my life!!
A very, very good video.. As usual, thank you for your researches, your meticulous choice of words, your calming voice, and your motivation through life.
I tried psychotherapy several times and either it was not for me or I could not find the right psychotherapist for me. I chose the self-knowledge and after exploring myself I have found much better answers for the things/hurts had happened to me projected on my relationships with people, economics and acceptation of reality. Fear can be your worst enemy
Juan Medel - Fear IS your worst enemy. Free yourself of fear. Fear of what others think. Fear of being accepted/rejected. Fear of life. Enjoy! Cheers! You can't please everyone, so you've to please yourself.
Thanks, I try to make my fear my friend, it has done wonders for me such as saving my life. Is a wild animal inside of me and have hurt people I love and myself. Now consciously I'm starting to feel when my fear drives me to react so I can make a pause and understand/accept the reality as it is.
I’ve had greatly positive experiences with it. Coming from a deeply unsatisfied and depressed place in a period of tumultuous change, it offered a lot of help I desperately appreciated. Having a careful and professional eye on me brought to my attention that I have ASD and educated me on things that my family was too poor to afford to be taught themselves or just didn’t have knowledge about.
It alerts you that so much you see as normal you now look at with a fresh perspective and learn some of us are deeply not okay, but just not aware. I 100% support psychotherapy and the emotional revolution this channel offers.
If you want a sign to take part in it, this is it.
Thank you for this beautiful video
I actually enjoyed psychotherapy because my feelings were analyzed and not dismissed by the therapist.
I was asked to let go of my pride and learn how to confide
Siu Wan doubt it . lol
Couldn’t have put it better myself. And, yes. Psychotherapy was the best thing I have ever done. It was the making of the me I always knew existed within. I gained the courage and strength to be who I truly am.
ellajo1209 go you girl. Pay it forwards... 😍
ellajo1209 so do you like who you are now
Joseph Hughes. I am proud of the woman I have become. It wasn’t easy and I wouldn’t change a thing; the challenges, struggles, hardship, self doubt, anger and hatred. I had to experience the difficulties to get to where I am today. Never give up. Be your own best friend because you are worth it and deserve it. #Peace #love
ellajo1209 be your own best friend that's beautiful my beautiful black queen you have a wonderful day here's a hug just for you and keep your head up stay blessed
"A good therapist" the trouble is when you need one your not in the best state to judge if they are or not. There are a lot of Therapists out there much better at getting degree's than understanding ppl...In fact I have dated some of the most emotionally un intelligent people I have ever met who were therapists and I pity anyone who's paid big money to be 'helped' by them.......Very soothing talk and great symbology in this vid though :)
I’m training to be a therapist 2 years in, I totally agree, iv deferred for a year whilst I collect my thoughts lol. There’s a lot of people who are my degree, who just need counselling not to become one, this saddens me, that the university’s are giving these degrees to people who don’t even know anything about them selfs, Along the degree you meant to open up about life experiences maybe what’s brought you to the degree, some people won’t open up 🤔 this baffles me, as how can you help someone else find there way, help them recognise their own feelings, guide them to be able to cope with them when they don’t even recognise their own emotions/ really I’m so disappointed, as iv had counselling my self, hence why I wanted to become a therapist. I feel so disappointed by the whole thing, 😢😢
@@tracygiven2984 It will surprise no one that we need a nice clean sheet full of boxes that need to be all ticked so it can be filed in the correct place by the correct person so the correct people get paid so you can get your piece of paper to say your qualified in 'blah'. This is a barely adequate system in most industries but when it comes to the complexity of people as in subject AND therapist it is laughable at best and profiting on the vulnerable at worst. Some things can only ever be learnt but never taught if you know what I mean.
I loved this. Thank you. I have tremendous gratitude towards my therapist (and towards myself) for taking me through the journey of psychotherapy. I no longer take pills. I now meditate periodically and carry on with life, happy more or less. Deeply grateful.
I absolutely love Therapy, I've been fortunate to have found a good therapist early on. Their insight and perspective is the exact thing I've been seeking. I've always felt like I've had to find and figure out everything on my own but with a therapist, I can finally talk it through, experiment scenarios, and gain tools in my efforts to better understand my feelings.
I absolutely love your work! I use this type of material so often in classes. Many times it complements or explains so simply, big ideas. Thank you!
I've had a therapist for many years, and I recently stumbled upon a journal I wrote before I started therapy. I was shocked at how violent I used to be towards myself and extremely grateful that I had a good therapist who gave me the tools to be more self-loving. I'm also fortunate enough to live in a city where there are psycho-medical centers that can be reimbursed by social security.
I enjoyed this so enormously. I just had a powerful session yesterday and he is all these things for me...He has helped me and is comforting me. I’ve been to many bad shrinks as well. But this one is golden☀️💛☀️ I’m beginning to feel better about stuff
What a wonderful reflection of psychotherapy - love this video. I do agree with the final thought that it doesn't work for everyone depending on where they're at. Though I wish it could b/c it can be utterly helpful in our healing journey. Thank you for the frequent nuggets of insight!
I did Freudian psychotherapy for many years, it changed my life for the better.
This was such a validating video for me. It would be nice to have more videos about people's experiences before during and after therapy e.g. Dealing with backlash or how growing as a person will introduce new challenges
Useful. It's only in the last couple of years that I have found a "good person" to talk with and who is empathetic. Not a psychotherapist, but a thoughtful kind and (now) dear friend. I firmly believe our friendship and the conversations we've had have kept me here, among the living.
I have to say attending therapy was the best decision I ever make in my life. And its true that one have to be in the right frame of mind before going to therapy. The truth is nobody can help us before we decided to help ourself. When the time comes, we decide to help ourself and finally seek for help that we needed. It would work like a charm 😊
I want to be a psycho therapist, this video has inspired me to help people even more
i recently began psychotherapy and its been the greatest deco pan of my life!
I'm studying to be a clinical psychologist and this videos warms up my heart
I am forever grateful to my therapist. She is a person who I will forever hold dearly in my heart and has played a hugely significant part in my life journey.
The period of therapy was so hard and traumatic - there’s no denying it, but for the clarity I have and positive outlook on life I’ve been given, it was worth every tear.
I am now able to rebuild a relationship with my mother and move on from an abusive marriage. 💖
This was a much needed video, since you are always addressing the achievments of psychotherapy
Psychotherapy helps me a lot! My therapist is like a lovely, humorous, and wise grandma I can open up to. I've previously had a, to me, bad one, although one who is great for a friend of mine. It just has to match. Don't be afraid to search further, you have made it once you are not absolutely terrified to open up :)
I went a psychiatrist first. I was on some light meds for about 2 years, then stopped (according the doctor's advice), then started going to therapy. That was about 2y ago and 6m after I discovered your channel. I went from personal therapy 2 times/week to group therapy 1 / week. I feel I know myself a lot better atm. I've changed they types of partners I choose, as well as, started trying new things ive always been scared of like boxing. For me it has been a huge help, so naturally in the beginning I tried to convince everyone close to me to go too. I then learned what is said at 6:34 - It wont work for everyone. Im just glad it is working for me. :)
Svilen Pavlov - Boxing is great. Punch all your organic irritation into the bag or opponent. Instead of rehashing all your old disappointments. And you get in great shape. And you look better.
Thank you again Alain and TSoL team. I love you guys. You encourage me so much in very positive and constructive ways
I couldn't help but notice that the words you used to say "Thank you" sound like something I would say!
You have the gift to transfer knowledge in a unique way! ♥️
I have been in psychotherapy for 10 weeks and I cannot believe how much good has come from it in such a short space of time. Sadly constraints financially mean I may not be able to continue
I am halfway through psychotherapy. Thank you for explaining so well.
The people on this channel's comment section are so wise! Hey to ya'll ❤
This is an awesome video, very informative and real.
My experience with psychotherapy is long now, more than 5 years trying a lot of different stuff. I tried more than 5 antidepressants, 4 benzos, a couple anti-psychotics in those 5 years and only two antidepressants worked charms on me.
You gotta be aware that everyone is different, and it might take a long time to find the right meds, but if you want to get better, you have to try. Same thing with your doctors and psychologists.
I stopped taking meds for a whole year and it wasn't good. My mind was too cloudy, anxiety was barely bearable, but I was afraid of medication because "it will change me and my personality!". It does, in a better way. It helps you to think _better_, your mind is clearer. I can write again, I can make phone calls, I can go out of my room.
But the most important thing is: You have to want to get better. Truly want that. And its also the hardest thing to do.
Really like this video, does a great job of articulating the value of therapy and eloquently articulates transference and other ideas. I do think it's slightly biased (for lack of a less loaded term) towards psychodynamic/analytic psychotherapy. Calling CBT different than psychotherapy seems to be framing CBT through the lens of a psychodynamic therapist/advocate that is critical of CBT. Also, many CBT therapists are less set on the process of therapy being about challenging thoughts and this being the sole mechanism of change. Many believe in the power of new experiences (i.e., exposure) as well as learning to accept difficult emotions. Anyway, thought this was a great video, but it did miss a little nuance that I wanted to add.
I’m an emotional eater and I’ve been through a lot of trauma when I was younger that left a lot of scars; I now have Bipolar Depression and PTSD because, of it. But, through my Christian Psychotherapy treatments I’ve reached many breakthroughs. I’m very over weight and I am close to shedding my story both mentally and physically. God, along with therapy, and a GOOOODDD therapist can make all of your pain feel encouraging. I’m better than I was and, striving to be better than I am. Try it out, I promise it’s worth it!
When you have such youtube channels lead by the man with the one of the greatest wisdom in the world you are very less likely prone to have a private long running psychotherapy.
Physiotherapy changed and continues to change my life. It’s best thing a person can do for themselves.
The first line was the most important:
"A bad place in you're head". 99% of our misery is in our head, which makes it challenging to fix without a professional.
Make a part 2. It is so great. I love you
This form of therapy has helped me in the most awesome way possible. Dealing with my Bi polar, and overcoming certain obstacles that weigh me down. CBT assisted more on controlling the ill effects my mental state had on my physical well being. It helped tremendously with my convergence syndrome at the time. That in a layman's term, I feel cured.
Wow. After going through a troubled 30 years of my life and one failed marriage, I found my solace in psychotherapy. I have not experienced anything more powerful than therapy. It's painfully slow but you will definitely notice a slow change in things that bother you.
Kindness and true friendship are best healers if we know how to be open to them.
Just watching this video made me cry. I hope things get fine one day.
I wish there was a shampoo for my brain. I`m worried that i will never be able to unlearn and unthink the things that i did.
Absolutely love the sweet cartoonish characters and their adorable faces!! Great illustrations! The voice is always so soothing and understanding, and the message reliably insightful, simple, and comforting! Love it! 😊
Thank your for that. I needed to hear it just now.
This was extremely helpful , thank you
I am actually starting an MSc in Gestalt Psychotherapy in September and I can't wait😁
The reason psychotherapy works especially for people who had tough childhoods is that for such people it is very difficult to let go of the "pain" associated with their painful experiences until they feel like that this "pain" is properly Validated. Which is why, if you take MDMA in a confined safe environment with someone who you are very close to, let's say a best friend, and you let it all out and passionately talk about your past pain, they will validate it for you, and you will eventually move on. That's the core of Psychotherapy, validating pain that has become too personal for you to let go of. Or if you have an open & transparent conversation with the person who caused you the pain (could be a parent - the perpetrator) and as they validate your pain and admit the fact they harmed you (even if it is due to their own trauma) then you could find it easier to move on.
So in short, psychotherapy is validating the pain you have not processed yet from an early or recent incident in your life that left an emotional wound in you. And I found MDMA extremely helpful in somehow replicating the same environment of a patient-therapist dynamic. It took me 2-3 active years of that to reach a very good state of healing, and it continues to get better.
This couldn't be explained better than this in any other way 👏 Thanx
i love the art style of your videos!
I really like this guys voice :) it makes me feel safe honestly
We always try our best in our field of psychology.. As a clinical psychologist I can understand it better
Two years later, with the right therapist, I can confirm the work and time is worth it.
when things go well the therapists is experienced as a truly supportive reliable person. their intelligent voice becomes our inner voice. our relationship with the therapist becomes a model for new relationships. therapy works if you engage
I guess you mean psychoanalysis because psychotherapy is the general name for a variety of talk therapies which also includes "cbt".
yeah, but not just psychoanalysis, it would include a lot of others existentialists kinds of psychotherapy
i think that he meant all the types of psychotherapies that work around a deeper notion of the "self"
Well, in certain countries the term 'psychotherapy' is reserved for more long-term therapy focused on mainly personality-related issues, which often makes it a sort of N=1 approach regardless of the therapeutic modality. CBT is considered mental health care. It's sort of a first-line second-line thing. This is the case for the Netherlands, and possibly also the UK.
Correct!
@@jackdawcaw4514 Can you show me literature Netherlands in which psychotherapy is referred in such a way? Psychotherapy is the use of psychological methods, particularly when based on regular personal interaction, to help a person change behavior and overcome problems in desired ways. Psychotherapy aims to improve an individual's well-being and mental health, to resolve or mitigate troublesome behaviors, beliefs, compulsions, thoughts, or emotions, and to improve relationships and social skills. Certain psychotherapies are considered evidence-based for treating some diagnosed mental disorders. It incorporates over 400 techniques, speaking as a psychotherapist here based in canada
I've tried a lot of psychotherapist, but the therapy was always very shallow and superficial. If my problem is that I can't leave my apartment, they all just told me to try and go out more, no one ever bothered to get to the core of the issue why I have that problem in the first place and they didn't seem genuinely interested in me or my problem. I could feel every second of the session that I'm just one of their hundreds of patients (which of course I was). Was I expecting too much? Just having someone to listen didn't do enough for me, I wanted more guidance.
What kinds of therapy did you try? I can relate to some of what you are saying because of my experience with CBT. Although my therapist didn't make me feel that I was just another one of his patients (that's really bad), I see now that it was quite shallow. I have a new therapist now and it is much better. Don't give up! There are therapists out there who genuinely want to help.
I don't know much about your situation, but isn't telling you to get out and try, guidence? I think you needed to be more heard, instead.
ShyFeli You may need to take a different approach. You're looking for an explanation which of itself won't cure you. Or, address your symptoms. You need a stepwise approach, over a period of time to address your situation. You need to see your doctor first as agoraphobia - the fear of going out in public - is often a symptom of depression and/or anxiety. A course of an appropriate antidepressant medication may be necessary, but you'll need to be assessed by your doctor first to find out if this is right for you. What is definitely recommended is Cognitive Brhavioural Therapy (CBT). This is available from psychologists and specialist mental health nurse practitioners. CBT can give you insight to what processes go on in your mind that stop you going out, give you practical techniques to break the pattern of thought processes that stop you going out and manage any low mood. You may also need to make lifestyle changes to manage your symptoms. As you can probably tell, psychotherapy has not been the right tool in your circumstances because it's focus is in another direction to where you need to go. I hope this helps.
I do think that it can help to seek for the reasons why. Maybe people are just very different in this regard. Some need quick and practical solutions, and some, like OP and me, need an insight into the causes of the problem before they can make a change. Practical advice doesn't work for me because unless I understand myself first, I am just not ready to make the next step. And: changing one's behavior does not cure trauma, at least not for me. I need to get in touch with my emotions and work out everything for myself (with the help of my therapist, of course.) This takes time and effort but it's worth every bit of it because it makes the understanding of self so much more profound.
Thx all for the replies! Tbh I haven't made much progress yet despite years of therapy, it seems like I'm treading water. But I'm not giving up
Wow thank you for the video I wanted this video and it just came out!!
Psychotherapy is HARD but it's also the BEST thing I've ever done. Highly recommended. It's worth the work.
I have been in psychotherapy for 11 years
Would love to see your video about how to choose a psychotherapist.
Thank you for your work!
always on point
keep giving value !
I started therapy. I have only seen my therapist twice so far and each time I leave I start crying in my car. I guess I cry because it feels good to be in that room saying what I want and know I am safe. No one can hurt me.
Excellent! Outstanding explanation.
Thanks school, I'm going to be taking a psychotherapy class in college
Hoping one day I can work with you guys, I am studying BA psychology in University.
This video is amazing and helpful!
"cured through continuous, repeated exposure to sanity and kindness" :'')
This is really encouraging
I had an absolutely horrendous experience with psychotherapy. However I don’t blame the method, I blame my therapists, one of which disliked me, the other in training.
Fantastic video. Very interesting. Thanks
thank you awesome work love you videos been watching for years
Psychotherapy has helped me understand how boarding school at a very youny age, bereavement and a rough childhood have all affected me negatively, and also how to turn negative experiences into positive ones.
Boarding itself seems to have affected me. I had always seen bullying as being the problem. Now I realise being sent away before I was eight was a terrible idea, and that all the other boys were probably damaged by the experience.
If you were a boarder yourself, I recommend watching "The Making of Them" which is available on RUclips.
The video made me cry.
No, a good therapist gives you tools to cope in your environment and deal with past traumas as the video says. But, the therapist is not a surrogate parent as is suggested here.
The reason is the patient should not become attached to the therapist or dependent on them on an ongoing basis. The goal of therapy is to get you out of therapy so you can face the world on your own feet.
We are cured through continued
and repeated exposure to sanity and kindness.
Man.... The shrinks I dealt with really suck. The first one Ive been to told me "I don't believe you have autism. I don't even need to use psychotherapy on you. You just need somebody you can have a normal conversation with, is what I can tell" meaning he charged me €50 each time for unhealthy conversations. And the second one I've been to, well.. We'd talk about whatever I feel limits me from perusing a career because I saw her through a support project that was meant to help me get employed, if you will. As a result, we had repetitive conversations always coming back to the question "have you thought about which career you'd like to pursuit?" which was never helpful to me because I had more urgent problems that needed tending to, which are the ones partly blocking me from perusing a happy life altogether. Now I'm seeing a creative therapist. We have no clear rules or boundaries on how to work towards the goals I want to achieve in therapy: she says she'll offer therapeutic practices if you will, but she'll adapt to the needs of her patients. Lately, I've been speaking to her about things I keep ruminating about. Desiring for her to act out as a shrink the way that other shrinks wouldn't act out for me before, as described in this video. But she advises me not to ruminate or talk about my rumination and focus on positive things instead. But I really need for somebody to act out as a shrink for me. I desperately need for somebody to know the horrible things I've been through and validate just how badly I've been mistreated. To help me figure out who I am. Whether I am who I once believed to be, whether I am who my abusers told me I am, or whether I am becoming a better version of myself by trying to heal myself. To help me recognize the truth from the lies... I guess I really need to talk about whether it's okay to continue the therapy sessions with her or whether I should find a good shrink instead... I also think I might've had an autistic miscommunication with her last time and I intend to try and clear that up as well.
Psychotherapy with thorough professional counsellor works well, and it is well worth the time and money👏Follow it up with meditation and mindfulness. Medication has side effects.
Parichehr Manuchehr Khodayaar agree. I lasted two minutes on medication. I felt like I was sleep walking through my life and to me it felt like the same issue would be there as soon as I stopped because it wasn’t healed - just anaesthetised.
Caro H Same here. Worst 4 months of my life. Even being severely depressed is nothing in comparison with this numbness and undead-like experience.
Имя Фамилия undead is the word. I think it is dangerous. I almost had a car accident with my daughter in the back of the car because I was so numb to everything like reacting to what I was looking at. I stopped taking them that day. The only remedy lies within us. You have to dig deep but it’s there within all of us. Good luck my friend. 😘
Caro H Well, it's strongly recommended to avoid driving while taking this type of meds. I had to drive several times though, it was really hard to focus, so I stopped using car altogether.
I hope you got better :) have a nice day!
There is a lot of fear mongering when it comes to medication, when in actual fact it can be extremely helpful and is perfectly safe (if going about it sensibly). I suffered from crippling anxiety and panic attacks and asked for medication as I literally could not function.
There are side effects though most if not all will pass within a week or so. Medication also effects people differently, so one person may have had a bad experience and another good.
Also with medication you need to stick it out so your body gets use to it. Most medication takes up to 6-8 weeks to work. I’ve been on my medication for over 2 months and I have improved drastically, I am enjoying life again and have even started to love myself.
A combination of medication and therapy is proven to be the most effective way to overcome mental disorders. Medication isn’t evil people, it can actually save someone’s life.
However contradictory it may sound, psychotherapy could not be described as an
exact science but rather a ‘philosophical art’ based on scientific principles, logic and
empathy.
It is important to note that most psychotherapeutic relationships share the same
fundamental commonalities, namely:
-The psychologist cannot be present to assist a patient in every possible situation,
especially problematic ones;
-The patient must be guided to use all means at his/her disposal optimally in adapting
to life’s demands:
-The patient must be guided to function independently as far as possible.
To illustrate the above, the following metaphor is presented:
The psychologist can be seen as a marine engineer and the patient a solo
yachtsman. On experiencing difficulties at sea, the yachtsman can return to the
harbor and consult the engineer. On arrival, the engineer could inspect either
the sailor’s whole boat or only that part of the boat with which the sailor might
be experiencing difficulties. This could for instance be the rudder mechanism, a
winch or any other part which may be giving problems. The engineer would
analyze the problem in terms of, for instance, cause and effect and explain this to
the sailor. The engineer always keep s in mind that at some point, the sailor may
be alone at sea when problems arise. He also keeps in mind that the sailor may
only be able to keep a certain number of tools at hand - those with which boats
are normally equipped and therefore teaches the sailor how to use them with the
best possible effect. The sailor is now equipped with more knowledge and
confidence and can assume his/her next voyage…
from: psychotherapy.co.za Metaphors for some psychological Concepts Coert Mommsen D.Phil (Psychological Ethics)M.A. Clinical Psychology
thank you
Very nice video.
I am seeking a psychoterapist, because my ealier priblems got their heads back up a.d are vetting aggrevated, so psychoterapy is a must.
CBT doesn't work if you have serious issues. CBT is what parents and the schools use. I had to go into my emotions to move past them. You have to feel the fear, anxiety and shame to move past them. I'm still working on releasing fear and shame.
I think the reason why the author separates CBT from psycotherapy is the length. CBT is 8- 10 hours, you work on your thinking patterns. While any other techniques in psychology really take a long time.
This channel offers us free therapy. Thanks a lot.