Who Is A Godly Husband? // Before I Do - Stephanie Ike Okafor

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  • Опубликовано: 8 июн 2024
  • In part 4 of the series we dive deep into understanding the true essence of a husband according to God's template. We explore the 5 essential roles of a Godly husband:
    1. Leader: Leading with love and service, not manipulation.
    2. Learner: Understanding and growing with your wife.
    3. Loyal Partner: Maintaining boundaries.
    4. Provider: Ensuring the family's needs are met.
    5. Protector: Loving and safeguarding your wife.
    🔔 In part 5 we'll discuss "Who is a Godly Wife?" Subscribe and stay connected! / stephanieike
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  • @user-ik9zn3cn5e
    @user-ik9zn3cn5e Месяц назад +248

    "Boundaries are not because you don't trust yourself. Boundaries are to protect you from crossing a line as a default response when the lesser you shows up"

  • @Jasonthehealer
    @Jasonthehealer Месяц назад +38

    I truly desire to be a Godly husband to understand and learn my future Wife. To pray for her, to protect and provide for her and sing to her and cook for her and walk with her and sing in the rain of God!!! My hands will be used to hold her passionately and to HEAL HER by the anointing of the Holy Spirit..... my first marriage failed due to lies, and infidelity and not on my end but hers. Whom the son sets free he is free indeed.... I serve a God of a Second chance. Forgiveness is a must but reconciliation is not always made available when the relationship first is not based off a GOD ORFAINED COVENANT...

  • @simphiwemoleli9351
    @simphiwemoleli9351 Месяц назад +88

    Just WOW.
    I'm 19 and this just set the tone for my whole life.

  • @ujukamanu
    @ujukamanu Месяц назад +49

    Her laughter gives me so much joy 🤣

  • @millicentphillips-tp5ml
    @millicentphillips-tp5ml Месяц назад +86

    For us who aren't married yet, now we know what to pray for... In detail❤

  • @heather7119
    @heather7119 Месяц назад +55

    “Learn ur wife don’t compare her”….. words of wisdom ❤

  • @gamuchirainkomazana
    @gamuchirainkomazana Месяц назад +94

    if you don't have boundaries, your default response is to cross the line- that's so true.

  • @joycethompson464
    @joycethompson464 Месяц назад +70

    I am a female 69 years now and never been married but I am learning a whole lot..
    Thank you for these teaching 🙏 ❤ God bless you always 🙏

    • @Jmuwanguzi
      @Jmuwanguzi Месяц назад +12

      You can still be fulfilled and actually live a wholesome life. Cindy Trimm just got married at 60 yrs 1st marriage . She knew exactly what she wanted in a man and what she wouldn’t compromise for. Find her on RUclips you will blessed.

  • @user-xn4hc3lm3v
    @user-xn4hc3lm3v Месяц назад +37

    To those who are (subconciously) scared of marriage but are intentionally equipping themselves with knowledge of a Godly marriage. This right here is loaded. Thank you Stephanie Ike Okafor. I look forward to the next.

  • @DeborahO.
    @DeborahO. Месяц назад +104

    The urgency with which I rushed to watch this video might have seemed comical, but it's a reflection of my desire to always be prepared and not miss out on opportunities. I believe in staying ready so that I'm never caught unprepared.

    • @charitynyirenda9067
      @charitynyirenda9067 Месяц назад +3

      🤝🤝

    • @sarahabe1221
      @sarahabe1221 Месяц назад +3

      You and I both sis 😅

    • @faithismyspirit
      @faithismyspirit Месяц назад +1

      Amen and you will have the wisdom for that good man when he comes riding on the clouds 🎉❤

    • @yolz555
      @yolz555 Месяц назад

      Me too❤

  • @muhozabrenda3060
    @muhozabrenda3060 Месяц назад +123

    My favorite pastor, l am from Uganda and l can tell you that your messages have been helping me and my friends grow in the LORD, may God bless you and give you strength to reach more and more people

    • @bennyebubeimo7052
      @bennyebubeimo7052 Месяц назад

      Hi Brenda, it's blessing me too and I'm excited to learn about what godly marriage entails. Take care and have a great day.

    • @CathyFlo
      @CathyFlo Месяц назад

      Same here from uganda 🇺🇬 a definite voice in this generation for sure. God chosen.

    • @edinahowembabazi8652
      @edinahowembabazi8652 Месяц назад

      🇺🇬❤

    • @musisiviolet9885
      @musisiviolet9885 Месяц назад +1

      Am also from Uganda 🇺🇬 😅

    • @thejoanokuga
      @thejoanokuga Месяц назад +2

      Same here...🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬.she is indeed a sound teacher for our generation.

  • @indieb8062
    @indieb8062 Месяц назад +211

    Yeeeeessss!! The wait is over 🙏🏿 It is 2:30 am my time, and I was awaken by an attack in the spirit.. Started praying in tongues, then decided to come on to play some worship songs, and to my surprise, this is the first video I see. Pastor, you are such a blessing, and I thank you for your obedience to our Heavenly Father 😢 More grace to you, and I pray your strength in Jesus's name. You are helping us

    • @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod
      @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod Месяц назад +2

      Amen❤🙏🏼

    • @_ofCHRIST
      @_ofCHRIST Месяц назад +18

      I heard Apostle Aromi say that if you observe the hours you get attacks at night, they are most likely the hours you should keep prayer watches

    • @sanyusarah-mv5jj
      @sanyusarah-mv5jj Месяц назад +2

      Amen

    • @indieb8062
      @indieb8062 Месяц назад +2

      @_ofCHRIST Yes! Amen! We ought to be Vigilant.

    • @charfraser1916
      @charfraser1916 Месяц назад +5

      @@_ofCHRISTi agree, i noticed tht when I started waking up at 12. The attacks were moved to 1-2 when I go back to sleep

  • @nadinedominique414
    @nadinedominique414 Месяц назад +33

    Marriage is “pruning not punishment” I love this! Amen

  • @wallflower777
    @wallflower777 Месяц назад +35

    This series is blessed. Single, 27, woman of Christ here

  • @NyawiD.o.a.K
    @NyawiD.o.a.K Месяц назад +29

    You're the definition of fine girls serving Jesus Christ in our generation may God continue blessing you 😍

  • @sipresdubut
    @sipresdubut Месяц назад +22

    For the man to be a good leader he must be a good follower ❤

  • @lucierevignet2131
    @lucierevignet2131 Месяц назад +26

    first I am sorry for my english I from a french country. I want to say thank you pastor Stephanie thank you for allowing God to use you for the body of Christ. I hope that one day you will come here in Sénégal to blessed the younth here. My God blessed you🙏

  • @natashafena526
    @natashafena526 Месяц назад +50

    If you hate yourself heal before you get into a marriage,i needed to hear that 🙏

  • @polescodes
    @polescodes Месяц назад +8

    Hearing the impact of a husband explains to my spirit why I have been so quick to walk away from relationships and slow to get in them. I want what God knows I deserve and while I’m working to get ready, my heart is still healing in faith and hope bc I’m so vulnerable when it comes to Gods way. So many men do not qualify as a husband to me.

  • @kiberwalise1357
    @kiberwalise1357 Месяц назад +35

    (POV: you are from Rwanda and you are afraid to comment but you somehow find courage to do so and represent your fellow sisters who love pastor Stephanie )
    May God bless you, pastor Stephanie. Love from Rwanda❤

    • @neom645
      @neom645 Месяц назад +1

      Why are you afraid to comment?

    • @ishimwealine3020
      @ishimwealine3020 Месяц назад

      ❤❤

    • @mannymedia6311
      @mannymedia6311 Месяц назад

      Internet is worldwidee

    • @priscillachinsembu4669
      @priscillachinsembu4669 Месяц назад

      Why Afraid to comment?

    • @Risper_Njagi
      @Risper_Njagi Месяц назад

      😢 I'm sorry for this fear courtesy of coming from a country you have a right to live in... I'm from Kenya, love you, and believe in a day where we can all have complete and responsible freedom of expression/speech /opinion

  • @JvstHere
    @JvstHere Месяц назад +13

    “You can dream and earn” just made me LOL 😭😭

  • @chiedzalozane2942
    @chiedzalozane2942 Месяц назад +11

    Thank you so much, I am currently single and praying for a Godly man, yes l pray that God remove the veil so that am able to see the right Husband.

  • @clove8763
    @clove8763 Месяц назад +15

    This is why Marriage is for the mature! #GREATSeries #YAYItsBack 😄

  • @lindawilson2556
    @lindawilson2556 Месяц назад +5

    I’ve been married for 17 years and there has been many lessons, but much more blessings I can feel the love of God through my husband

  • @rajivlewis5895
    @rajivlewis5895 26 дней назад +3

    love this!❤ I came here after a failed dating experience and these vidoes (both this and the one about "Who is a Godly Wife") helped me to realize that you can try your best to exemplify these traits but if a person is damaged and hasn't healed properly from their trauma then they probably won't be able to recognize your worth because their wounds will cause them to desire something else that might not be what is best for them. Their souls will crave things that they have developed an appetite for based on their trauma. (eg. vanity, flashiness, and sometimes even hostility)

  • @PoSHEmediaglobal
    @PoSHEmediaglobal Месяц назад +29

    When the lesser you shows up , triggered by situations where your desires are not being met , boundaries protect you from crossing the line

  • @nancyuyigue2871
    @nancyuyigue2871 23 дня назад +2

    My favorite teacher,
    Your teaching has help me grow spiritually…May God continue to strengthen you.

  • @MelissaRodz
    @MelissaRodz Месяц назад +14

    Thank you, Stephanie, for speaking directly about the issue of physical abuse. It's important to hear these truths clearly stated. Your message is greatly appreciated. May God continue to bless your ministry. -Melissa R. DeLand, Florida

  • @ujukamanu
    @ujukamanu Месяц назад +14

    God please remove the veil of deception from my eyes 🙏🏾

  • @anitaamaning5822
    @anitaamaning5822 Месяц назад +4

    ''To be a leader, you must be a good follower'' wise words! Thank you

  • @latita_mongalo
    @latita_mongalo Месяц назад +22

    It's the Lord putting me in my place with regards to the height requirement😂😭😂loved the message Pastor Stephanie thank you so much!❤Much love from South Africa🇿🇦❤

    • @Jmuwanguzi
      @Jmuwanguzi Месяц назад +4

      Married for 20yrs to a short man. It’s actually not bad to desire someone taller. Am married to someone shorter than me and sometimes it is awkward. We don’t talk much about it but it’s obvious. Our daughters are teenagers and already saying they don’t like short boys.He wants me to wear heals, he buys them, I used to enjoy wearing all types of shoes before I married him. Height wasn’t a requirement on my list, I actually didn’t have a list to be honest. It makes me uncomfortable sometimes times.
      So don’t take it lightly.

  • @kababiitoshamim8531
    @kababiitoshamim8531 Месяц назад +18

    Much love from Uganda 🇺🇬 Pr. Steph❤🎉

  • @NellyMoseki
    @NellyMoseki Месяц назад +8

    When pastor soke to the single men at the end - WOW!!! 😭💔
    It healed a part of me because I've just had to leave a relationship with a guy who happens to think that way.
    Hearing pastor highlight this here spoke to aches in my heart regarding this man that I fell in love with but who has this very mentality that pastor describes. Lord, it is well with my soul!
    Father I pray that You remove the veil of deception from his eyes, in Jesus name Amen!

  • @naomimburuh4861
    @naomimburuh4861 Месяц назад +6

    If you hate yourself, it’s going to show in your marriage. Heal!

  • @StephanieBrown077
    @StephanieBrown077 Месяц назад +6

    The height thing is so real 😅
    "Marriage is pruning not punishment us" Amen🙌🏾

  • @nyadanstephen4089
    @nyadanstephen4089 Месяц назад +24

    Yayyy I am the first person. God bless you pastor Steph for this series. Keep them coming ❤❤❤

  • @LapologangMaggie-rz2pd
    @LapologangMaggie-rz2pd Месяц назад +14

    I am definitely the marriage gang that is really learning alot from this serious

  • @beatricewapalwaluhanga8545
    @beatricewapalwaluhanga8545 Месяц назад +14

    We missed you here😢❤❤❤❤

  • @cassandragrayes6149
    @cassandragrayes6149 24 дня назад +1

    Everything she mentioned happened in my last relationship except for the physical abuse. Literally down to the “T”. I had to pause the video a few times and say “wow, thank you God for this revelation and bringing me out of a destructive relationship.”

  • @nontuthukogumede1215
    @nontuthukogumede1215 Месяц назад +2

    Yay I’ve been waiting. I was checking the page everyday. The wait is over. 🎉

  • @judymbuthia6628
    @judymbuthia6628 Месяц назад +1

    Thank God you back our dearly beloved. I've been waiting for this...let me take a listen

  • @ems4202
    @ems4202 Месяц назад +1

    I clicked on this video with SPEED. I’m loving this series ❤ God bless you Pastor Stephanie!

  • @rozeongaro
    @rozeongaro Месяц назад +1

    Finally...the wait wasn't easy... thank God...more grace Ma'

  • @mphogachago
    @mphogachago Месяц назад +1

    I constantly refreshed my page each day! Finally 🙌🏾❤️

  • @user-ik9zn3cn5e
    @user-ik9zn3cn5e Месяц назад

    The wait!I'm glad you posted

  • @ruthchigwida4067
    @ruthchigwida4067 Месяц назад +2

    This series is just too good. Thank you Pastor Steph for this much needed relatable content.❤

  • @WomenEmpowermentMovement
    @WomenEmpowermentMovement Месяц назад +7

    It's 5am and I'm wide awake & ready !!

  • @Luhangaa
    @Luhangaa Месяц назад +2

    😩❤️after waiting for so long. Thank you pastor Steph

  • @LITBib
    @LITBib Месяц назад +3

    "You place boundaries not for when you're strong! You have boundaries for when you're weak!"
    😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
    PRRRRRREEEEEEAAAAACCCHHHHHHHH!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @afosplace5885
    @afosplace5885 Месяц назад +1

    finally I kept refreshing your page, am happy it's here now.
    much love ma and more grace ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @catherinekayawe2618
    @catherinekayawe2618 Месяц назад +7

    Finallyyyy🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
    The wait is overrrr💃💃🥳🥳🥳❤thankyou pastor Steph 🙌may God Almighty continuously bless you ❤

  • @chidozieikpe6013
    @chidozieikpe6013 27 дней назад +1

    I love the emphasis on the weight of a Godly husband's role 💯

  • @abbiemchena1697
    @abbiemchena1697 Месяц назад +2

    Been waiting for this for loooong. Thank you

  • @adelaidemarufu
    @adelaidemarufu Месяц назад +2

    19:00 Boundaries are not because you don’t trust yourself, Boundaries are to protect you from crossing a line when the lesser you shows up. Mental & Physical Barriers‼️🙌🏾 PASTOR STEPHANIE, you’re teaching good, you’re teaching God!!! You’re anointed for this! And this is convicting me in other contexts that aren’t even about marriage 🥹🙌🏾

  • @chelsyemily9915
    @chelsyemily9915 Месяц назад +3

    Was waiting for this❤ .....God bless you pastor this series is so powerful

  • @chidiekeh4637
    @chidiekeh4637 Месяц назад +3

    I completely appreciate you, Pastor Stephanie for speaking on loyalty in a relationship/marriage spouse, keeping boundaries with their ex.

  • @tatendacletomudimu4465
    @tatendacletomudimu4465 Месяц назад +1

    We have been waiting.thank you pastor Steph❤

  • @Yolocheese
    @Yolocheese 29 дней назад +2

    Stephanie this was so good. Thank you for holding both genders accountable to the WORD of GOD and not culture. May the LORD continue to use you in every way He sees fit! God bless everyone!

  • @RachelAmaka-wm6dz
    @RachelAmaka-wm6dz Месяц назад +2

    Since I started following you pastor Stephenie my life has changed a whole lot, thank you ma

  • @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod
    @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod Месяц назад +3

    Glory to God! 🙏🏼Thanks for your obedience to start this series Pastor Stephanie. Beautiful and strong wisdom. Keep ‘‘em coming. 🎉❤️‍🔥

  • @TheMetaAnalyst
    @TheMetaAnalyst Месяц назад +7

    21:10 Boundaries is very important. Especially at the point of weakness when your partner is being unbearable, thats when temptation creeps in. Boundaries before even that happens holds the relationship together.
    Thanks pastor

  • @Heleyna37
    @Heleyna37 Месяц назад +5

    These teachings have greatly transformed my mind. Thank you so much Pastor Stephanie. Much love from Uganda. ❤

  • @HauwaBalaHalilu
    @HauwaBalaHalilu Месяц назад +4

    Thanks Pastor, I’m learning that oneness is absolutely CRUCIAL in a marriage.

  • @Andisiwejordan
    @Andisiwejordan Месяц назад +4

    I thank God for Pastor Stephanie Ike.

  • @rosemarylombe4109
    @rosemarylombe4109 Месяц назад +1

    FINALLY!!!BEEN WAITING EARGERLY FOR AN UPDATE SINCE THE LAST VIDEO..IM SO EXCITED FOR THIS SERIES☺🥰🥳

  • @bridgetlilly-02
    @bridgetlilly-02 Месяц назад +2

    I kept on refreshing to see if she had uploaded ❤.. thank you Pastor Steph.. watching from China.

  • @moilarmagada
    @moilarmagada Месяц назад +1

    Was so excited to see a new video on the series 😊

  • @roslyngraham5883
    @roslyngraham5883 Месяц назад +1

    Yayyy you’re back!!! I LOVE your shirt ❤

  • @jistones
    @jistones Месяц назад +2

    On time word!! Prayers up for all men, may they come into this understanding of their identity and priesthood. Amen 🙏🏼

  • @sorhayazamor4605
    @sorhayazamor4605 Месяц назад +1

    Oh Jesus I was impatiently waiting for this teaching thank you Jesus for Pastor Stephania Ike Okafor ❤

  • @74janetta
    @74janetta Месяц назад +2

    This series has been a blessing to me as a single person who is seeking to be married. I have identified a lot of things that I have done wrong in previous relationships. Looking forward to the next episode. May God continue to bless and use you.

  • @summerhodges46
    @summerhodges46 Месяц назад +1

    Whew I just took so many notes to turn into prayer points. That you Pastor for this message and for the prayer!

  • @fadzo123
    @fadzo123 Месяц назад +2

    Its like everytime i ask a question to God, you always provide an answer.. love you my pastor❤

  • @patienceankunda6185
    @patienceankunda6185 Месяц назад +1

    You are a blessing to this generation 😭 it was boundaries for me

  • @SpeakYourDesires
    @SpeakYourDesires Месяц назад +1

    I AM loving this! I have been praying for my husband since 2015. This year I caught the bouquet on May 25, 2024. I have been studying how to be a wife that GOD desires for me. Thank you so much for this series, Stephanie. I love you and appreciate you, Queen.

  • @sarahmubenesha8981
    @sarahmubenesha8981 Месяц назад

    This was SO GOOD 😮‍💨😩👌🏽 Blessings to you pastor Ike, looking forward to the next episode 💃🏽

  • @samukelisiwendlovu4507
    @samukelisiwendlovu4507 Месяц назад +1

    Wow what a word I’m courting and this series is such a eye opener for my partner and I 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 what a time to be alive

  • @njerimaina8891
    @njerimaina8891 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you so much Pastor Stephanie.Loving on this series from Kenya.🇰🇪🇰🇪

  • @sihlekuhlane9632
    @sihlekuhlane9632 Месяц назад

    Whoop whoop😊 been waiting for this series ❤

  • @sophiaewuramamensah7171
    @sophiaewuramamensah7171 Месяц назад +4

    God bless you woman of God. Your sermons has really changed my life and causing me to grow in the LORD. I love you so much. You don't know how much you've been a blessing to me ❤❤❤❤

  • @ValentA.N
    @ValentA.N Месяц назад

    Thank you Stephanie. Can't wait for the next video. God bless you.

  • @Mz_topkins
    @Mz_topkins 20 дней назад

    These series has been blessing my soul in no small way. God bless you Pastor Stephanie💕💕💕

  • @CeciliaMaselino
    @CeciliaMaselino Месяц назад +1

    Finally 🙏been waiting patiently for this 💃💃

  • @natashafena526
    @natashafena526 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you for your teachings pastor Steph. May God continue to use you Sis 💛💛

  • @xenajackson1416
    @xenajackson1416 Месяц назад

    It’s always a blessing to hear wise words from You Pastor Stephanie. Thank you for sharing your wisdom on a Goldly Huns and. Can’t wait for the next video!!

  • @teenkhosi6835
    @teenkhosi6835 28 дней назад

    This is a power-packed message shu, gems after gems fropped there.Thank you Pastor Staphanie❤

  • @nokwandayende1863
    @nokwandayende1863 Месяц назад

    Finally waited all week for this.😢❤❤❤

  • @Dobes50
    @Dobes50 27 дней назад

    Thank you Steph!!!! God is using you in such amazing ways.

  • @joann8361
    @joann8361 Месяц назад

    Thank you Pastor Stephanie... Long waited...

  • @debrabett3621
    @debrabett3621 Месяц назад +1

    I believe that God is redeeming time for many of us singles through this amazing series. I'm so so grateful for this invaluable knowledge. Glory to the Most High God❤

  • @samuelaotiwaamaning
    @samuelaotiwaamaning Месяц назад

    The lonnngggg awaited video 💃🏾

  • @famreact
    @famreact Месяц назад +1

    Amen! Thank you for clearing the misconceptions held by our generation. 🙌🏾 Thank you God for this message ❤

  • @marynekesa166
    @marynekesa166 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you so much Pastor Steph for this wisdom. May the Lord refresh you and fill you up with more divine insights ❤❤❤❤

  • @hephzibahu.emereole2093
    @hephzibahu.emereole2093 Месяц назад

    This is profound !! God bless you Pastor Stephanie ❤❤❤❤

  • @jareya
    @jareya Месяц назад

    So much insight from this series. God bless you Pastor

  • @theexperimentalchef838
    @theexperimentalchef838 11 дней назад

    So much wisdom❤❤. I’m so glad I came across your channel. I feel nourished and blessed each time

  • @user-ht7br8qh3h
    @user-ht7br8qh3h Месяц назад

    Thank you pastor Steph. This blessed me as usual. God bless you!

  • @Jmuwanguzi
    @Jmuwanguzi Месяц назад

    This was very helpful. Thank you.
    Taught with simplicity and clarity backed by scripture. Married for 20 years still found it useful.

  • @user-zo6re5hu3x
    @user-zo6re5hu3x Месяц назад +2

    Thank you Pastor Stephanie Ike ...I'm 19 and you just shifted the way I date and see

  • @dianahnaddamba4280
    @dianahnaddamba4280 Месяц назад

    This is so beautiful.may God bless you ps Stephanie