When the father said come home or don't bother coming at all, implying disowning just respond. "Okay, Your terms are acceptable. Goodbye, forever." *click*
Yeah, Sperm Donor default to threats of disownment cause it's worked before, only to learn the hard way that the key word "WORKED BEFORE" (or likely worked on the others) so he got a nasty dose of it not working AT ALL! My guess is they can't justify OP disappearance any longer and you got to LOVE the breakdown of asshole parents who use disownment like a weapon to get their way when it doesn't work anymore cause it requires the threaten to still be DEPENDANT! OP long needed NOTHING from them and they were better off LEAVING HIM ALONE, but as said, soul suckers cannot TOLERATE a victim moving on and doing better without them! It's like that one story of the OP who had a drinking problem! Hurt one of his siblings and got disowned! He got help by his GF he met AFTER the disownment and life was good till his family reached out and going to see them out of curiosity and to apologize to the brother he hurt. It became obvious Mom reached out cause she was SEEING HOW HAPPY HE WAS WITHOUT THEM with his father making it CLEAR he wanted OP to STAY OUT and only did so cause his wife demanded it, acting like OP should be grateful, even told him such! OP discovered the SOURCE of his drinking problem WAS his family, specifically his parents and their bad behavior and dad made it EASIER to be DONE with him and mom when he tried to make DEMANDS like splitting with his GF (the one who did HIS and his wife job in helping the OP because well OP said he's white, GF is black, dad was BARELY hiding his intolerant racism, hell he wasn't even HIDING IT! That was the BIGGEST factor that OP was done with them) I just LOVED how his dad thought "his shit don't stink" and sure he's happy AND furious as expected of a Kevin! Happy OP left on his own, ANGRY that he wasn't THROWN OUT AGAIN so it's obvious he left on HIS TERMS and not on the NARCISSIT Dad's terms. I swear people and their EGOS, especially Boomer and Gen X! But lets be real, Millennials are going to be UNBEARABLE when they reach those ages, I ASSURE YOU THEY WILL!
When I was younger I would have fallen for that nonsense and caved. I’m disowned now, years later, and live on a different continent. I should have just called the same bluff that was used many times before far earlier and said “okay, goodbye” like others above said.
My aunt tried to do this to my mom and their siblings, telling them that she’ll never speak to them again and won’t let us see her children. They’re in their 50s, it had been 4 years since they talked,and the kids are in the 30s, like what type of power trip are these people on
@@Blue1091 sounds like some have health issues and depending how the parents dealt with that it could of caused mental issues with others. Surprised OP didn't have mental issues from being ignored so much.
Dad: I will disinherit you if you don't obey me, you xxxxx OP: I already went NC long ago. Why are you contacting me now? Run out of money? Losing your home?
@@seraglioborneo2803that’s what blows my mind. After two kids that had severe medical problems it’s time to stop. Maybe they just kept having them hoping own wouldn’t be disabled.
I had something similar happen to me. Only I was closer to my family. We, my older brother and I. We were raised by my grandmother and uncle. (Dad's side) Now they (grand mom and uncle) adopted 2 kids, a boy and a girl. When this happened I had just turned 40. I would stop in on my way home from work. This one evening the rest of the crew was there.(grand mom was in the hospital) I went in and asked my sister what was going on, a meeting of the mind or mindless? That's when my older brother called everyone into the living room. He went into a big spiel about grand mom's health as well as uncles issues. Now for the record at this point I had been doing most of the shopping. And some of the cooking. Then I was the first one hit with, my brother addressing me and asked. Well R what are you going to do? To say I was dumbfounded would be an understatement. I went ballistic. Here I'm doing more than the other 3 put together. Then my uncle spookup, I told you you couldn't talk to him. With that I stormed out. The next day I stopped to apologize. That's when I was hit with. We wanted you to "make sacrifices , change your lifestyle, and do more. Talk about being slapped in the face. All I could say was. I see. And I left. There is more to the story. But that I'll save that for another day. For the record. My older brother was a narcissist and pathological liar. Also he passed away.
Don't forget to double check so they don't put your name of the caregiver thingy. It tends to happen a lot. It happened to my friend and unfortunately he had to look after his ex's dad,the ex put his name as next of kin, careful with that. Make sure you have all your bases covered.
If I were OP I'd immediately hire a lawyer to send her parents and siblings a 'cease & desist ' letter stating that she no longer wanted contact with them and would also be getting a restraining order against them.
Since the parents went to have 5 kids together I wonder if they where hoping for a healthy kid that they could dump the sick children on once the parents are dead!! In other words OP wasn't born to be loved but meant to be nurtured into being caregiver to her sick siblings once the parents are gone, which goes to show that some people are simply not meant to be parents. Good for OP though that she broke free and stayed strong to the very end.
What's really stupid is the parents keep having one sick kid after another. Common sense would have been to stop after one maybe 2. Not 5 kids. I don't feel sorry for them. I know they were calling Op to be the caregiver for the sick ones as soon as they called for her to come home. These people neglected her all her life. And now expect her to give up her life for them. I bet they can't name Ops favorite color. Or name a milestone. Go full on NC.
I can't say it's the same for everyone when it comes to calls, but it's due to the job. I deal with large organizations and have to be on call as an engineer. You don't know when a colleague needs immediate help or has questions about a technical paper you published. As for unplanned guests, you never know if it's a neighbor who needs help, someone coming up to do something nice, or the police who were there for official reasons.
Because not everywhere is America. In other parts of the world we don't expect there to get a gun toting burglar or drug addict knocking on the door, we expect it to be a neighbor asking if our lights are out or a family member or friend who was passing and decided to drop in. The rest of the world isn't paranoid.
I’m sorry, but why did they have that many kids if they couldn’t manage? I mean 1 is hard already, let’s say you want 2, and that’s pushing it, but they seem to be around 5+ kids in the household 😮 Why have so many if you can’t care for them? Why bring so many children into the equation when they can barely take care of 1-2? Some people are just dumb 🤦🏼♀️
Five healthy children are hard to manage but they had four unhealthy children and decided to have more. They should have stopped at the first or second.
@@tsbio I agree… that’s a very stupid and selfish decision to make, for those kids, they literally made their lives worse by forcing them into a situation like this😢 I get you want a big family, but only when you can afford it and when you can give them a good life, just popping out kids for the sake of it is downright cruel…
@@smokinggnu6584 that’s not an excuse, for all the overly religious people, I do have a beef with them: would God be OK with his children suffering like this? If they’re not ok with contraceptive methods, maybe they should keep it in their pants/keep their legs closed to avoid these situations😂😂 Their “carnal” pleasure is affecting their children, so if they’re so into God, maybe they should only have s3x just for procreation
Some parents just keep trying the gene lottery hoping to get healthy kids. I'm not saying that this is the case here. But I know of a family who had a kid with beta thalassemia major. The only potential cure for that is bone marrow transplant. So they had another kid (a potential doner for their 1st child). Guess what? Their second child had the same disease. Did they stop at that? Nope. They kept trying and trying until they ended up with 4 sick kids.
That's why when my first child had to go to the hospital for surgery, I forced my second one to remove a kidney as well. that way one of them doesn't feel left out and both of them love me the same. Neither of them will talk to me anymore. Consistency is key people! I'm being facetious but, it's not about treating them the same, it's about giving them the same amount of effort/affection/attention.
No. I will take 100 wives and demand 10 children from each. Only the 100 survivors of the ensuing battle royale shall be allowed to become my sons and daughters. They shall be my personal guard.
If they live in the USA, then there are services and placements depending on the disability the person has. Group homes and institutions for the disabled do exist just for this reason.
But only if you have lots of money. What any state agency provides is the minimum. And the 'client' still needs a responsible person outside to make sure that they are getting the services that are needed AND not being taken advantage of or worse abused. I am a parent to someone who will never be able to live on their own and I started putting plans in place for the unexpected/inevitable when they were a young child. The plan has evolved over the years but I lived up to my responsibility to endure that they were going to be taken care of by someone other than the state!
@@thefibergoddess6771 The state paid for me to visit people with disabilities that lived individually in the community and needed minimal assistance i.e. paperwork/reading mail to them and explaining their options, teaching them budgeting, grocery shopping/healthy eating habits, how to clean their apartment/home. It varied from client to client, and I would ask them what needed to be worked on when I would get there or offer suggestions if they didn't come up with anything. Some I would see daily for an hour or two, others I would visit once or twice a week depending on the client's needs and time allotted by the state for care.
They should’ve had life insurances planned out to handle the care of their sick kids. Trying to make your children responsible for the children you decided to have has to be the most irresponsible of parenting. Your kids should never be your other kids baby sitters. Stop fxckn having them if you can’t watch or take care of them. I’m sure this story is fake but I’ve seen this situation play out many times and currently in something similar.
It's sad how often this happens. I'd honestly put money on the fact that the parents kept having kids in order to have a normal one that they could pass along the others' care to. This isn't a small family, and the parents could have stopped sooner, but they didn't. They kept going. They kept trying. But when they did, they forgot that that child was there. And you can't expect someone to care and be there if you never are. OP didn't have a family, so it was easy for her to walk away. And because the rest didn't understand that, they just expected her to step up and do it.
Sometimes, adults with abused or neglected childhood end up not wanting kids to begin with, not out of personal choice but out of fear of repeating a cycle.
As a child who experienced this situation almost exactly to the T minus the time, freedom, and amount of medically handicapped individuals, it is incredibly selfish for parents to have one child who is medically messed up and then continue having children, creating more genetic monsters that people have to take care of for their entire lives, and it never ends with medically handicapped people, ever. Some are easier than others while some are nightmares the likes of which shouldn't have been allowed to live past a few moments out of the mother. I know it sounds cold and harsh to say such a thing but it's the truth, we as a society should not be condemning anyone to taking care of these kinds of handicapped people, they don't live normal lives like the rest of us and as someone who survived taking care of two very large boys with angel man syndrome I can say it without any hurt to my conscience because its true and the only people at fault are the parents.
Obviously, one or more of the children needed a guardian, and they thought about their neglected child to carry that burden. It's not surprising when that person moves away and cutes everyone off.
Sister Olivia and brother who is able to text and call can finally grow up and start being a family since they have so much to say about it 😊 I would block such a family. They abandoned you years ago and now they expect you to waste your life taking care of complete strangers. Parents should look for another scapegoat. Don't get sucked into being a caregiver for people who are professionally ill. It's very hard work. Your free work, i.e. slavery, isn't something they can expect from you.
On a related note for this, has anybody that’s read most of the entitled parent stories or the a IT a stories, noticed that when it’s the most abused or ignored or even forgotten children of families that it’s always that one is expected to step up and do everything? Noticed this and some of the stories that the ones that escape are the ones that are commanded to basically be the slaves until the OP of the story dies and it just makes me wonder do these parents really understand what they are doing or they so caught up on their ownmiserable lives that they realize it too late or they’re just so delusional?
The reason the stories are like this is that the other varieties are not interesting. Say you were the kid given everything and then the parents expected that child to help. There is no anger or passion about the event from people reading about it. Most people would say you owe your parents under those circumstances. Only the crazy parents like mine are worthy of complaining about so these are the stories you get.
My middle sister and I were treated like crap our entire lives. My parents ignored my health issues, refused me educational opportunities and kept making me homeless during middle/hogh school. Went nc with them for several years til my oldest sister passed away. I stupidly opened that door again and it cost me my relationship with my son due to their manipulation and bs. When my health took a very serious turn 3 years ago. The family decided everything i said was a lie and cut contact with me. Then whe ln father had a similar health scare the family that cut me off got pissed for telling them exact same statement they said to me when i was in the hospital. I wont go to their funerals. I wont acknowledge them for any reason. Sometimes you just got to walk away and cut contact to save yourself and heal
These AI written stories are getting 1/10 for writing...but I give the AI 9/10 for getting very close to nailing the 'probably not real but somewhat interesting' style of chatboard/forums stories. Well done, Skynet. Soon, the interwebs will be all yours.
As a parent of a disabled adult child I completely understand not wanting to have to take care of someone else for the rest of your life. I worry about what will happen to her when I’m gone because I have no other family than my husband(step dad) & his family. I’m very aware that if no one steps up for my daughter after I’m gone she’ll end up either in a institution or homeless.
In all of these stories when the main character meets the parents, it's always the same line. *"There they were, but not as I remember, older perhaps?"*
This one hit close to home. I've had siblings with more drama than most, and it's caused me to be pushed to the side. The twisted feeling of guilt, anger, and pain is something I have felt repeatedly. Only being wanted when something is needed is a sickening sensation. But OP had it right. They weren't family. Manipulation and guilt trips aren't love. It sucks when you have to draw that line in the sand, too, but the freedom afterward is a wondrous sensation.
A person lives their life so carefully, gets it ordered and established and then some family member ALWAYS wants to throw a monkey wrench in it. OP needs to move, and never tell anyone where she lives. It just seems like the most responsible one in any family always get the crap end of the stick.
I used to make excuses for my mom. Sure wasn't abusive but she was negligent when she had to become a single mom I'm 40 and i just got to the point where i realized i have to let her feel bad for her failures Yes i understand why i was neglected when it came to time spent but that doesn't mean it was ok So i need to let her go through the hurt of knowing she was a failure as a mother in that specific area That's the only way either of us can heal
I sometimes don't know how the delusions build up in the parents mind that they project that to them everything was perfect and OP is pulling away for no reason. But after texts from both parents OP should give them both a dose of the reality. Also making someone else a legal guardian don't they need to give their consent
If someone wants to set p a guardianship for a child and they don't have the agreement of the possible guardian for a child that person doesn't have to accept the responsibility for the child. OP could totally ignore the situation. OP, just don't call home and totally cut contact with the folks for your own well being.
Tell them the best you can do is help arrange a care home for those needing constant care or a group home. Whatever is in the parents estate or government assistance will go to their keeping.
I'm confused because she keeps saying that they are not in the position meaning mentally and physically so you have a lot of children that are disabled and only one of them out of all the children you had came out good why were you still having children after the first one came out with some form of disability?
To have a normal one. The one they want to show off and feel like a normal family. But by the time they had a normal one, they were up to their tits in abnormal kids and that took all their time up.
I know a parent like this but they stopped at two kids. The children have massive health problems. Their lives revolve around the children now. I honor their commitment to the lives they created but there is a reason I am pro choice. If I knew in advance like most people do for severe problems early in pregnancy, I probably would have ended it. Not just for my benefit but why bring someone into the world to suffer for 70 years.
"It's about the family" is ALWYAS a way to tell the person on the receiving end (aka - being guilted) "Fuck you, your concerns are meaningless. You will do what WE say."
How is the siblings being sick a mess that the parents created? I dont get it. And they can't force the protag to do crap so she doesnt need to be afraid. Try harder when writing these.
The only way this this could get more embarrassing for OP's parents is if they were no longer in America and didn't have citizenship anymore because they went native.
I'd have been done after the first special needs kid because they're expensive and time-consuming to raise. Meaning you won't have the resources or time to raise subsequent children and that's not fair to them. Often, these parents even force the healthy child/children to care for the ill ones, parentifying them. Then they cry foul when that kid(s) "abandon" the family. They willingly caused their own problems.
I still don't understand, they are 5 siblings right? The oldest is a grown up man who can hold a very good conversation, the other sister is taking normally just an helth issue, one sister passed way, that lives 2 more, she is the youngest so the issue is with one child??? WTF the oldest boy doing?
You can tell OP is just as crazy as their family. Shes consistently doing rediculous things and unleashing pent up childhood grudges against her family, chalking up her family needing her support and attempts to reach her as merely manipulations and nothing more. Yes, they do need something BUT HER FATHER IS DYING, and then in the next sentence says "I dont want my father to suffer, but..." to make them look like the good person in the situation, followed by "But when i was a kid you guys didnt give me attentioooonnn!!!" like are you serious????
Not sure I can agree with OP's chosen reaction (not the emotional part, the action part) to Jake's email about their father's passing. a short but sympathetic reply would have been nice, without going back into it.
umm so why can't the parents get professional carers for the siblings? why are they so hellbent on forcing OP to drop everything and care for her siblings.
I can understand both sides although Olivia is justified her parents genuinely have no one to go to. This is kinda sad even if either of them win. Also the parents can't just force olivia to clean up for them. ALSO olivia is also kinda unreasonable about how the parents keep trying to 'guilt trip' him, they just need help. My point is that both suck and WOMP WOMP
Why dies op act like her parents can actually do that or that she has to except it she can just not do it why do these ops act like not doing something isnt an option
Sounds like we shared a life. There were 9 kids in my family, with the oldest being a stepsister, whom was killed in an accident when she was 18 and I was about 9, from moms 1st marriage. Then 3 older brothers, a lying useless one, a flaming gay with mental issues and an alcoholic. 1 older sister, normal and a younger sister that I barely knew and 2 younger brothers, 1 dope smoking with no drive whatsoever and the youngest one that again I wasn't close to. I was like the middle kid as we were all born in sets with me being in the middle. Dad job hopped regularly and a mom living in delusion. Dad quilted me into taking over the payments for the truck he Co signed for my oldest brother when after 2 months he decided he didn't want it. I grew up playing outside by myself and honestly have very few memories of my childhood, staying to myself. I was so distant from my parents I didn't attend either of their funerals.
Not your monkey, not your kids, not your circus. To get, you give. They gave you nothing, you don't have to give them squat. Keep everything, document, and get a restraining order.
14:38. I wonder if he could legally stop his parents from doing this? He should consult win attorney. But what type of attorney would practice that type of law?
It's pretty expected that we show up for Christmas and Thanksgiving even Easter, but this is something completely different, and she never says what's going on with her sister and brothers , I'm guessing mental illness
This is one of the most egocentric, "American" posts I've ever read (or listened). OP sounds like the type of wife who would immediately divorce her husband the moment she finds out he has terminal cancer, saying, "I didn't give him the cancer, so why should I be responsible for it?" From the story, it's clear the parents did ignore OP for most of her life-not by choice, though, but because they simply couldn’t afford not to focus on the sick children. She wasn’t abused, she wasn’t controlled, she was ignored. The parents were clearly focused on caring for their sick children. Does OP have any responsibility to care for her sick siblings? No. Is OP the only victim here? No. Everyone here is a victim of circumstance, but OP makes it out as though she is the sole victim. "They should have fixed this a long time ago." How? "They never cared about me, they neglected me all this time." No, they just had to prioritize the other children. If OP hadn’t been healthy, she would have likely been cared for as well. Is that what OP wants? To be one of the sick children? "They shouldn't have had five kids." That’s eugenics. Let’s take it further: should all homeless people be sterilized? No, let’s take it even further: should we just kill all homeless people? What OP is doing here is abandoning her siblings and claiming she was the victim all along. OP is an asshole.
this person is so cruel, even if if his father died and she doesnt care is someone else father, they made you heartless and cold, you havent gotten away from anything. You are what they made tyou and you celebrate it
What kind of story is that? OP talks about cleaning the mess of her parents, like, what mess? The fact that 4 out of 5 of their children are basically always in the hospital and/or therapy? That's not a exactly a mess that the parents have created. OP even mentions that her parents had ignored "this" for years, that they had let "this" all build up thinking "this" would just go away, but what is "this"? Exactly, what kind of problems do the siblings have? Are they mentally deficient? Do they have cancer? Why is it a problem now as if it hasn't been the status quo for the last 30 years or so? Why does OP mention Thanksgiving and Christmas as if her family had tried to trap her? What does she think was going to happen if she had gone to see her family then and there? That they were going to force her to sign documents? I don't want to scream "shenanigans" or anything but is this story even real? It feels like some of the most crucial elements have been purposefully left aside.
I typically agree with the OP in situations like this but I think OP is blaming her siblings for their parents failures. None of them asked for the limitations of their bodies and OP basically calling them her parents mess, "I'm not cleaning up their mess" is a shitty thing to say. As Americans we put so much focus on individuality that we're losing our empathy. I think OP should be low to no contact with her parents until they're basically at deaths doorstep, but I think OP essentially abandoning her siblings is bs. Maybe it's just me, but if I left my siblings to be thrust into a system I know is overwhelmed and underfunded, I would never know peace. It would haunt me everyday, and I think OP will regret her decision in a few years.
It is their mess. They chose to have special needs child after special needs child then the 5TH CHILD is finally healthy and they completely ignore that kid! Grandma even stepped in to pay for college so OP's parents wouldn't mess with it. That's very telling tbh.
You don't know how she found you yet you received several letters from her which was delivered directly to your house and that can only be done with your address. So logically she would have had to known your address to be able to send you a letter
The story was confusing. Like Jake says they were gonna put Olivia in charge of one of boys which indicates there were at least 2 other boys than Jake which makes 3 boys than there was the funeral of one sister and another sister named Sarah and Olivia as at least 3 sisters......3+3 among 5 siblings
My thought exactly. However, there's a mention of 1 brother being hospitalized (sounded like a mental ward) - whom 'dad' was to visit on thxgiving. I just assume it's 2 guys, James and the loony toon.
Did one of the parents wish for a big family on a monkey's paw? Clearly the family is under some kind of curse. How do you have that many kids and ALL OF THEM have some sort of problem and not even the same one? Even if the problem with the youngest was of their own making, that's still statistically unlikely
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When the father said come home or don't bother coming at all, implying disowning just respond. "Okay, Your terms are acceptable. Goodbye, forever." *click*
Yeah, Sperm Donor default to threats of disownment cause it's worked before, only to learn the hard way that the key word "WORKED BEFORE" (or likely worked on the others) so he got a nasty dose of it not working AT ALL! My guess is they can't justify OP disappearance any longer and you got to LOVE the breakdown of asshole parents who use disownment like a weapon to get their way when it doesn't work anymore cause it requires the threaten to still be DEPENDANT! OP long needed NOTHING from them and they were better off LEAVING HIM ALONE, but as said, soul suckers cannot TOLERATE a victim moving on and doing better without them!
It's like that one story of the OP who had a drinking problem! Hurt one of his siblings and got disowned! He got help by his GF he met AFTER the disownment and life was good till his family reached out and going to see them out of curiosity and to apologize to the brother he hurt. It became obvious Mom reached out cause she was SEEING HOW HAPPY HE WAS WITHOUT THEM with his father making it CLEAR he wanted OP to STAY OUT and only did so cause his wife demanded it, acting like OP should be grateful, even told him such! OP discovered the SOURCE of his drinking problem WAS his family, specifically his parents and their bad behavior and dad made it EASIER to be DONE with him and mom when he tried to make DEMANDS like splitting with his GF (the one who did HIS and his wife job in helping the OP because well OP said he's white, GF is black, dad was BARELY hiding his intolerant racism, hell he wasn't even HIDING IT! That was the BIGGEST factor that OP was done with them) I just LOVED how his dad thought "his shit don't stink" and sure he's happy AND furious as expected of a Kevin! Happy OP left on his own, ANGRY that he wasn't THROWN OUT AGAIN so it's obvious he left on HIS TERMS and not on the NARCISSIT Dad's terms. I swear people and their EGOS, especially Boomer and Gen X! But lets be real, Millennials are going to be UNBEARABLE when they reach those ages, I ASSURE YOU THEY WILL!
Dad: "Come home now! Or dont bother coming home at all!!"
Me: "That's the idea dumbass!"
When I was younger I would have fallen for that nonsense and caved.
I’m disowned now, years later, and live on a different continent.
I should have just called the same bluff that was used many times before far earlier and said “okay, goodbye” like others above said.
My aunt tried to do this to my mom and their siblings, telling them that she’ll never speak to them again and won’t let us see her children.
They’re in their 50s, it had been 4 years since they talked,and the kids are in the 30s, like what type of power trip are these people on
when OP mentioned all their older siblings had problems, mental health etc. My first thought was 'I wonder if most of it was caused by the parents'
My thoughts exactly. Like what are you all doing to them kids?
@@Blue1091 sounds like some have health issues and depending how the parents dealt with that it could of caused mental issues with others. Surprised OP didn't have mental issues from being ignored so much.
Mental diseases can be genetic. OP was lucky to not have the same disease.
@@SomiaDz so very true, some times parents can make it worse though
It's genetic bro
Dad: I will disinherit you if you don't obey me, you xxxxx
OP: I already went NC long ago. Why are you contacting me now? Run out of money? Losing your home?
Five kids of which the first 4 all have some problems? So parents went on producing more hoping to have one without problems? Disgusting!
@@seraglioborneo2803 LOL
@@seraglioborneo2803that’s what blows my mind. After two kids that had severe medical problems it’s time to stop. Maybe they just kept having them hoping own wouldn’t be disabled.
You forgot the needs an organ or helping them in their old age, or the other siblings scheme
I had something similar happen to me. Only I was closer to my family. We, my older brother and I. We were raised by my grandmother and uncle. (Dad's side) Now they (grand mom and uncle) adopted 2 kids, a boy and a girl. When this happened I had just turned 40. I would stop in on my way home from work. This one evening the rest of the crew was there.(grand mom was in the hospital) I went in and asked my sister what was going on, a meeting of the mind or mindless? That's when my older brother called everyone into the living room. He went into a big spiel about grand mom's health as well as uncles issues. Now for the record at this point I had been doing most of the shopping. And some of the cooking. Then I was the first one hit with, my brother addressing me and asked. Well R what are you going to do? To say I was dumbfounded would be an understatement. I went ballistic. Here I'm doing more than the other 3 put together. Then my uncle spookup, I told you you couldn't talk to him. With that I stormed out. The next day I stopped to apologize. That's when I was hit with. We wanted you to "make sacrifices , change your lifestyle, and do more. Talk about being slapped in the face. All I could say was. I see. And I left. There is more to the story. But that I'll save that for another day. For the record. My older brother was a narcissist and pathological liar. Also he passed away.
its okay homie
You need to change phone numbers.
@@anantgaikwad3528 now ancient history
Don't forget to double check so they don't put your name of the caregiver thingy.
It tends to happen a lot.
It happened to my friend and unfortunately he had to look after his ex's dad,the ex put his name as next of kin, careful with that.
Make sure you have all your bases covered.
@@Deimos001 No worries. Grand mom passed 2001 Uncle 2014 big brother 2016
"I don't know how she found me" forgetting the fact her mother mailed her letters, which requires knowing the address.
Sarah: I get it Olivia, I really do.
Olivia: No, no you don't. If you 'got it' you would not have called me.
Clearly Grandma knew her child and paid for college herself.
If I were OP I'd immediately hire a lawyer to send her parents and siblings a 'cease & desist ' letter stating that she no longer wanted contact with them and would also be getting a restraining order against them.
Since the parents went to have 5 kids together I wonder if they where hoping for a healthy kid that they could dump the sick children on once the parents are dead!!
In other words OP wasn't born to be loved but meant to be nurtured into being caregiver to her sick siblings once the parents are gone, which goes to show that some people are simply not meant to be parents.
Good for OP though that she broke free and stayed strong to the very end.
savoir sibling basically
Why are people still answering unknown numbers and their door to unplanned guests???
that or check who's at the door with the peep hole or a window.
What's really stupid is the parents keep having one sick kid after another. Common sense would have been to stop after one maybe 2. Not 5 kids. I don't feel sorry for them. I know they were calling Op to be the caregiver for the sick ones as soon as they called for her to come home. These people neglected her all her life. And now expect her to give up her life for them. I bet they can't name Ops favorite color. Or name a milestone. Go full on NC.
I can't say it's the same for everyone when it comes to calls, but it's due to the job. I deal with large organizations and have to be on call as an engineer. You don't know when a colleague needs immediate help or has questions about a technical paper you published.
As for unplanned guests, you never know if it's a neighbor who needs help, someone coming up to do something nice, or the police who were there for official reasons.
Because not everywhere is America. In other parts of the world we don't expect there to get a gun toting burglar or drug addict knocking on the door, we expect it to be a neighbor asking if our lights are out or a family member or friend who was passing and decided to drop in. The rest of the world isn't paranoid.
@@Urziel99 Because this is an AI story and it makes plot decisions like that
I’m sorry, but why did they have that many kids if they couldn’t manage? I mean 1 is hard already, let’s say you want 2, and that’s pushing it, but they seem to be around 5+ kids in the household 😮
Why have so many if you can’t care for them? Why bring so many children into the equation when they can barely take care of 1-2?
Some people are just dumb 🤦🏼♀️
Five healthy children are hard to manage but they had four unhealthy children and decided to have more. They should have stopped at the first or second.
@@tsbio I agree… that’s a very stupid and selfish decision to make, for those kids, they literally made their lives worse by forcing them into a situation like this😢 I get you want a big family, but only when you can afford it and when you can give them a good life, just popping out kids for the sake of it is downright cruel…
Guessing probably Catholic.
@@smokinggnu6584 that’s not an excuse, for all the overly religious people, I do have a beef with them: would God be OK with his children suffering like this? If they’re not ok with contraceptive methods, maybe they should keep it in their pants/keep their legs closed to avoid these situations😂😂
Their “carnal” pleasure is affecting their children, so if they’re so into God, maybe they should only have s3x just for procreation
Some parents just keep trying the gene lottery hoping to get healthy kids. I'm not saying that this is the case here. But I know of a family who had a kid with beta thalassemia major. The only potential cure for that is bone marrow transplant. So they had another kid (a potential doner for their 1st child). Guess what? Their second child had the same disease. Did they stop at that? Nope. They kept trying and trying until they ended up with 4 sick kids.
THIS SHOULD BE A REMINDER TO ALL PARENTS...
Please treat ALL your offsprings THE SAME.
Otherwise what happened here will happen to your family.
That's why when my first child had to go to the hospital for surgery, I forced my second one to remove a kidney as well. that way one of them doesn't feel left out and both of them love me the same. Neither of them will talk to me anymore. Consistency is key people!
I'm being facetious but, it's not about treating them the same, it's about giving them the same amount of effort/affection/attention.
No. I will take 100 wives and demand 10 children from each. Only the 100 survivors of the ensuing battle royale shall be allowed to become my sons and daughters. They shall be my personal guard.
If they live in the USA, then there are services and placements depending on the disability the person has. Group homes and institutions for the disabled do exist just for this reason.
But only if you have lots of money. What any state agency provides is the minimum. And the 'client' still needs a responsible person outside to make sure that they are getting the services that are needed AND not being taken advantage of or worse abused. I am a parent to someone who will never be able to live on their own and I started putting plans in place for the unexpected/inevitable when they were a young child. The plan has evolved over the years but I lived up to my responsibility to endure that they were going to be taken care of by someone other than the state!
@@thefibergoddess6771 Agree and since they spend a whole bunch of money already on treatments and stuff.
@@thefibergoddess6771 The state paid for me to visit people with disabilities that lived individually in the community and needed minimal assistance i.e. paperwork/reading mail to them and explaining their options, teaching them budgeting, grocery shopping/healthy eating habits, how to clean their apartment/home. It varied from client to client, and I would ask them what needed to be worked on when I would get there or offer suggestions if they didn't come up with anything. Some I would see daily for an hour or two, others I would visit once or twice a week depending on the client's needs and time allotted by the state for care.
@thefibergoddess6771 not true. Their are benefits for the poor at both state and federal levels.
No, no they don't. Not for poor people.
They should’ve had life insurances planned out to handle the care of their sick kids. Trying to make your children responsible for the children you decided to have has to be the most irresponsible of parenting. Your kids should never be your other kids baby sitters. Stop fxckn having them if you can’t watch or take care of them. I’m sure this story is fake but I’ve seen this situation play out many times and currently in something similar.
It's sad how often this happens. I'd honestly put money on the fact that the parents kept having kids in order to have a normal one that they could pass along the others' care to. This isn't a small family, and the parents could have stopped sooner, but they didn't. They kept going. They kept trying. But when they did, they forgot that that child was there. And you can't expect someone to care and be there if you never are. OP didn't have a family, so it was easy for her to walk away. And because the rest didn't understand that, they just expected her to step up and do it.
I bet OP and his friends will never treat their kids like this!😮
Sometimes, adults with abused or neglected childhood end up not wanting kids to begin with, not out of personal choice but out of fear of repeating a cycle.
"Family!"
That word... I do not think it means what you think it means.
Hallo. My name is Inigo Montoya. You claim we are family, prepare to to meet karma
As a child who experienced this situation almost exactly to the T minus the time, freedom, and amount of medically handicapped individuals, it is incredibly selfish for parents to have one child who is medically messed up and then continue having children, creating more genetic monsters that people have to take care of for their entire lives, and it never ends with medically handicapped people, ever. Some are easier than others while some are nightmares the likes of which shouldn't have been allowed to live past a few moments out of the mother. I know it sounds cold and harsh to say such a thing but it's the truth, we as a society should not be condemning anyone to taking care of these kinds of handicapped people, they don't live normal lives like the rest of us and as someone who survived taking care of two very large boys with angel man syndrome I can say it without any hurt to my conscience because its true and the only people at fault are the parents.
That is hilarious she's a full grown woman she doesn't owe nobody nothing
Obviously, one or more of the children needed a guardian, and they thought about their neglected child to carry that burden. It's not surprising when that person moves away and cutes everyone off.
The price of progress. Children grow up detached to families then surprise peek a boo face when their children treat them the same
Dear Ai, its im tired of being their pawn not "po,n".
Sister Olivia and brother who is able to text and call can finally grow up and start being a family since they have so much to say about it 😊 I would block such a family. They abandoned you years ago and now they expect you to waste your life taking care of complete strangers. Parents should look for another scapegoat. Don't get sucked into being a caregiver for people who are professionally ill. It's very hard work. Your free work, i.e. slavery, isn't something they can expect from you.
On a related note for this, has anybody that’s read most of the entitled parent stories or the a IT a stories, noticed that when it’s the most abused or ignored or even forgotten children of families that it’s always that one is expected to step up and do everything? Noticed this and some of the stories that the ones that escape are the ones that are commanded to basically be the slaves until the OP of the story dies and it just makes me wonder do these parents really understand what they are doing or they so caught up on their ownmiserable lives that they realize it too late or they’re just so delusional?
The reason the stories are like this is that the other varieties are not interesting. Say you were the kid given everything and then the parents expected that child to help. There is no anger or passion about the event from people reading about it. Most people would say you owe your parents under those circumstances. Only the crazy parents like mine are worthy of complaining about so these are the stories you get.
My middle sister and I were treated like crap our entire lives. My parents ignored my health issues, refused me educational opportunities and kept making me homeless during middle/hogh school. Went nc with them for several years til my oldest sister passed away. I stupidly opened that door again and it cost me my relationship with my son due to their manipulation and bs. When my health took a very serious turn 3 years ago. The family decided everything i said was a lie and cut contact with me. Then whe ln father had a similar health scare the family that cut me off got pissed for telling them exact same statement they said to me when i was in the hospital. I wont go to their funerals. I wont acknowledge them for any reason. Sometimes you just got to walk away and cut contact to save yourself and heal
Maybe after like, lets say, two sick kids it would have been time to stop having more
These AI written stories are getting 1/10 for writing...but I give the AI 9/10 for getting very close to nailing the 'probably not real but somewhat interesting' style of chatboard/forums stories. Well done, Skynet. Soon, the interwebs will be all yours.
All of this would have been prevented by a simple answer and number block. But people, like in horror movies, won't make logical decisions...
Don't bring kids into the world if you can't handle the challenges in raising them let alone 4.
You go,girl. So nice to encounter someone with a backbone.
you should get a lawyer to make it impossible for them to saddle you with the debts and siblings
Gee, I wonder why all the kids were mentally ill……..
Do not set yourself on fire to keep others warm. that's all i have to say to this.
As a parent of a disabled adult child I completely understand not wanting to have to take care of someone else for the rest of your life. I worry about what will happen to her when I’m gone because I have no other family than my husband(step dad) & his family. I’m very aware that if no one steps up for my daughter after I’m gone she’ll end up either in a institution or homeless.
In all of these stories when the main character meets the parents, it's always the same line.
*"There they were, but not as I remember, older perhaps?"*
This one hit close to home. I've had siblings with more drama than most, and it's caused me to be pushed to the side. The twisted feeling of guilt, anger, and pain is something I have felt repeatedly. Only being wanted when something is needed is a sickening sensation. But OP had it right. They weren't family. Manipulation and guilt trips aren't love. It sucks when you have to draw that line in the sand, too, but the freedom afterward is a wondrous sensation.
I would swear like a drunken sailor to get my message across. No means No, not maybe.
Then I would file a no contact restraining order on all of them.
Definitely get a lawyer, discover your position. Could the state force you to take care of your family? Or contribute to an insurance fund for them?
Op should have block their parents phone number and on social media and move on with life story1
Why are the people in these stories answering the the without checking first.
Because the stories are fake
If you are in this situation Never never never ever ever go back let them figure it out without involving you.
A person lives their life so carefully, gets it ordered and established and then some family member ALWAYS wants to throw a monkey wrench in it. OP needs to move, and never tell anyone where she lives. It just seems like the most responsible one in any family always get the crap end of the stick.
I used to make excuses for my mom.
Sure wasn't abusive but she was negligent when she had to become a single mom
I'm 40 and i just got to the point where i realized i have to let her feel bad for her failures
Yes i understand why i was neglected when it came to time spent but that doesn't mean it was ok
So i need to let her go through the hurt of knowing she was a failure as a mother in that specific area
That's the only way either of us can heal
I sometimes don't know how the delusions build up in the parents mind that they project that to them everything was perfect and OP is pulling away for no reason. But after texts from both parents OP should give them both a dose of the reality. Also making someone else a legal guardian don't they need to give their consent
If someone wants to set p a guardianship for a child and they don't have the agreement of the possible guardian for a child that person doesn't have to accept the responsibility for the child. OP could totally ignore the situation. OP, just don't call home and totally cut contact with the folks for your own well being.
Tell them the best you can do is help arrange a care home for those needing constant care or a group home. Whatever is in the parents estate or government assistance will go to their keeping.
I feel sympathy for OP but still i don't blame parents 100%
Even at this stage they are just concerned about the sick children.
They are trying to exploit a neglected child. They are just opportunists.
I'm confused because she keeps saying that they are not in the position meaning mentally and physically so you have a lot of children that are disabled and only one of them out of all the children you had came out good why were you still having children after the first one came out with some form of disability?
To have a normal one. The one they want to show off and feel like a normal family. But by the time they had a normal one, they were up to their tits in abnormal kids and that took all their time up.
I know a parent like this but they stopped at two kids. The children have massive health problems. Their lives revolve around the children now. I honor their commitment to the lives they created but there is a reason I am pro choice. If I knew in advance like most people do for severe problems early in pregnancy, I probably would have ended it. Not just for my benefit but why bring someone into the world to suffer for 70 years.
Which AI app did you use for making thi s story I mean the plot is almost similar in all your story.
I know right 😅
Because they just make this s*** up just like any other writer
Need a kidney?
Are you narrating it yourself? I love it!!!
"It's about the family" is ALWYAS a way to tell the person on the receiving end (aka - being guilted) "Fuck you, your concerns are meaningless. You will do what WE say."
How is the siblings being sick a mess that the parents created? I dont get it. And they can't force the protag to do crap so she doesnt need to be afraid. Try harder when writing these.
They chose to keep having kids knowing the chances each would be special needs, 4 of them! They just got lucky with OP.
You reap what you sow. My personal advice to OP is to get a restraining order if they continue with the BS.
The only way this this could get more embarrassing for OP's parents is if they were no longer in America and didn't have citizenship anymore because they went native.
Someone misspelled pawn as porn in 21:31 in the story
They meant to say porn, the parents planned to open their own studio
My parents were smarter than that...they never asked me for anything, because they knew I wouldn't give them anything. FREEDOM!
I'd have been done after the first special needs kid because they're expensive and time-consuming to raise. Meaning you won't have the resources or time to raise subsequent children and that's not fair to them. Often, these parents even force the healthy child/children to care for the ill ones, parentifying them. Then they cry foul when that kid(s) "abandon" the family. They willingly caused their own problems.
"I'm done!" Kaioken times 100!
The perfect reply email: "Read."
The last child who was actually a middle child. The 'prince' that was promised.
Man they did a number on you
Why is a guy talking instead of a female unless his name is Olivia.
This story got me wanting to help the parents and I don't even know them 😢😭😭😭
hey friend :) nice ai story you got there
I still don't understand, they are 5 siblings right?
The oldest is a grown up man who can hold a very good conversation, the other sister is taking normally just an helth issue, one sister passed way, that lives 2 more, she is the youngest so the issue is with one child???
WTF the oldest boy doing?
My father went to his graving ignoring my family. Some people are just users and are not capable of caring about others.
That shader is pretty.
You can tell OP is just as crazy as their family. Shes consistently doing rediculous things and unleashing pent up childhood grudges against her family, chalking up her family needing her support and attempts to reach her as merely manipulations and nothing more.
Yes, they do need something BUT HER FATHER IS DYING, and then in the next sentence says "I dont want my father to suffer, but..." to make them look like the good person in the situation, followed by "But when i was a kid you guys didnt give me attentioooonnn!!!" like are you serious????
I like how OPs gender changed from a man to a woman.
Not sure I can agree with OP's chosen reaction (not the emotional part, the action part) to Jake's email about their father's passing. a short but sympathetic reply would have been nice, without going back into it.
umm so why can't the parents get professional carers for the siblings? why are they so hellbent on forcing OP to drop everything and care for her siblings.
Should shred those letters and send em back.
Fake story
I can understand both sides although Olivia is justified her parents genuinely have no one to go to. This is kinda sad even if either of them win. Also the parents can't just force olivia to clean up for them. ALSO olivia is also kinda unreasonable about how the parents keep trying to 'guilt trip' him, they just need help. My point is that both suck and WOMP WOMP
Why dies op act like her parents can actually do that or that she has to except it she can just not do it why do these ops act like not doing something isnt an option
She, at the time, probably had zero knowledge of how legal guardianships work.
Sounds like we shared a life. There were 9 kids in my family, with the oldest being a stepsister, whom was killed in an accident when she was 18 and I was about 9, from moms 1st marriage. Then 3 older brothers, a lying useless one, a flaming gay with mental issues and an alcoholic. 1 older sister, normal and a younger sister that I barely knew and 2 younger brothers, 1 dope smoking with no drive whatsoever and the youngest one that again I wasn't close to. I was like the middle kid as we were all born in sets with me being in the middle.
Dad job hopped regularly and a mom living in delusion.
Dad quilted me into taking over the payments for the truck he Co signed for my oldest brother when after 2 months he decided he didn't want it.
I grew up playing outside by myself and honestly have very few memories of my childhood, staying to myself.
I was so distant from my parents I didn't attend either of their funerals.
i dont understand this, op is the youngest by 7 years, op is out of collage and op should became the legal guardion of one of her brothers?
They are mentally ill, and need people to make decisions
Not your monkey, not your kids, not your circus. To get, you give. They gave you nothing, you don't have to give them squat. Keep everything, document, and get a restraining order.
14:38. I wonder if he could legally stop his parents from doing this? He should consult win attorney. But what type of attorney would practice that type of law?
*Christ! Who was the father? Ichabod Crane???*
I am confused how can you force someone into looking after someone? Just ignore them and they can't really do anything.
What is this vague ass story. I still have no idea what the parent wanted from him
Maybe you should actually listen to the story. OP is a her, and they wanted her to look after her disabled brothers.
@@re--dactedOP is a sap, a veritable glutton for the very "guilt and manipulations"🙄 she bitched and moaned about
OP should of kept the letters in case she needed proof
It's pretty expected that we show up for Christmas and Thanksgiving even Easter, but this is something completely different, and she never says what's going on with her sister and brothers , I'm guessing mental illness
This is one of the most egocentric, "American" posts I've ever read (or listened). OP sounds like the type of wife who would immediately divorce her husband the moment she finds out he has terminal cancer, saying, "I didn't give him the cancer, so why should I be responsible for it?"
From the story, it's clear the parents did ignore OP for most of her life-not by choice, though, but because they simply couldn’t afford not to focus on the sick children. She wasn’t abused, she wasn’t controlled, she was ignored. The parents were clearly focused on caring for their sick children.
Does OP have any responsibility to care for her sick siblings? No. Is OP the only victim here? No. Everyone here is a victim of circumstance, but OP makes it out as though she is the sole victim.
"They should have fixed this a long time ago." How?
"They never cared about me, they neglected me all this time." No, they just had to prioritize the other children. If OP hadn’t been healthy, she would have likely been cared for as well. Is that what OP wants? To be one of the sick children?
"They shouldn't have had five kids." That’s eugenics. Let’s take it further: should all homeless people be sterilized? No, let’s take it even further: should we just kill all homeless people?
What OP is doing here is abandoning her siblings and claiming she was the victim all along. OP is an asshole.
I can never understand why parents do things like this to their children
Errors, 8:00 "you don't know them", you don't owe them, "could get for me", get from me
my question is: what is the condition of your brothers?
I mean why are they all having problems?
this person is so cruel, even if if his father died and she doesnt care is someone else father, they made you heartless and cold, you havent gotten away from anything. You are what they made tyou and you celebrate it
All that effort they put in to try to get Olivia to help when they could have been planning something else.
What kind of story is that?
OP talks about cleaning the mess of her parents, like, what mess? The fact that 4 out of 5 of their children are basically always in the hospital and/or therapy? That's not a exactly a mess that the parents have created. OP even mentions that her parents had ignored "this" for years, that they had let "this" all build up thinking "this" would just go away, but what is "this"?
Exactly, what kind of problems do the siblings have? Are they mentally deficient? Do they have cancer? Why is it a problem now as if it hasn't been the status quo for the last 30 years or so?
Why does OP mention Thanksgiving and Christmas as if her family had tried to trap her? What does she think was going to happen if she had gone to see her family then and there? That they were going to force her to sign documents?
I don't want to scream "shenanigans" or anything but is this story even real? It feels like some of the most crucial elements have been purposefully left aside.
i mean the story is made by ai ofc it doesnt make sense
0:20 Unwanted child. So, they gave up on him.
Usually the last child is the baby and is babied.
I typically agree with the OP in situations like this but I think OP is blaming her siblings for their parents failures. None of them asked for the limitations of their bodies and OP basically calling them her parents mess, "I'm not cleaning up their mess" is a shitty thing to say. As Americans we put so much focus on individuality that we're losing our empathy. I think OP should be low to no contact with her parents until they're basically at deaths doorstep, but I think OP essentially abandoning her siblings is bs. Maybe it's just me, but if I left my siblings to be thrust into a system I know is overwhelmed and underfunded, I would never know peace. It would haunt me everyday, and I think OP will regret her decision in a few years.
It is their mess. They chose to have special needs child after special needs child then the 5TH CHILD is finally healthy and they completely ignore that kid! Grandma even stepped in to pay for college so OP's parents wouldn't mess with it. That's very telling tbh.
You don't know how she found you yet you received several letters from her which was delivered directly to your house and that can only be done with your address. So logically she would have had to known your address to be able to send you a letter
I dunno, something about this story doesn't sit right to me. It seems like I'm getting a one sided story, and I'm on the fence because of that.
I smell they wanted to pin you as carer for your siblings :v
Knew it
"A letter like we're in the 1800s" come on now, nothing wrong with some traditional changes of the old fashion way now. Come on.
The story was confusing. Like Jake says they were gonna put Olivia in charge of one of boys which indicates there were at least 2 other boys than Jake which makes 3 boys than there was the funeral of one sister and another sister named Sarah and Olivia as at least 3 sisters......3+3 among 5 siblings
My thought exactly. However, there's a mention of 1 brother being hospitalized (sounded like a mental ward) - whom 'dad' was to visit on thxgiving. I just assume it's 2 guys, James and the loony toon.
Did one of the parents wish for a big family on a monkey's paw? Clearly the family is under some kind of curse. How do you have that many kids and ALL OF THEM have some sort of problem and not even the same one? Even if the problem with the youngest was of their own making, that's still statistically unlikely