Lex give yourself time. You lost your mother, that's a huge deal and it makes you a little codependent right now. That's a devastating loss. It is what it is and you need time to heal and might cling to someone right now for safety. The pour crew is here for you like you're here for us. MUCH love... hugging you through the phone 💕💖💖
I just wanna applaud y’all 👏🏾👏🏾 look at how far you have come! From sipping wine on the living room floor to a studio with custom curated cocktails & a fly ass mixologist‼️🎉 The pour gurls love to see it😍🥰
Faves, this episode was so good. The conversation about the trans woman trying to “out” a straight man for sleeping with her, is what I talk about all the time. She’s perpetuating transphobia & homophobia. She discussed it, knowing people are going to assume he’s gay for sleeping with her.. as I always say, if you’re a woman, then what’s the scandal? The scandal is you want to pick and choose when you identify as a woman, she still sees herself as a man (when it’s convenient) & that’s the problem. I’d love for TS Madison to come on the show one day, I’ll hit her and put it on her radar. I love how y’all were careful and respectful with this conversation.. We love educated, inclusive queens! 💕
Drea, please try to consider what the professionals have told Lex about the different attachment styles. Personal experience and expertise have their place…so does research.
@@DreaAndLex cap, if Drea has her opinion solidified in her mind it's like pulling teeth to hear Lex’s or anyone else’s opinion. Sis be light weight pissed 😂 love them both but facts are facts. I might be the Drea in this relationship. 🤷🏽♀️
@@TyBalance It ain't cap and I don't leave this set holding on to any feelings from topics discussed so I def don't be "pissed".. I do consider her opinions a lot, it was only one attachment style that she discussed with a professional and sometimes her personal experiences don't always resonate with me.. So there's that, love you too bookie ❤
Yesss Drea, working out, eating clean and limiting alcohol to just once every 4 weeks will have you fine AF. I’m in my late 30s and that’s been my key to keep that puffy/bloated alcohol look at bay.
Lmao the voicemail had me weak and the way you both responded. I love the advice you both give to the women who call it’s so real and caring. P.s. y’all can singgg
Hey y’all love the episode ❤ I actually studied the Mary-Ainsworth attachment style theory heavily during college and it is directly related to your childhood and upbringing as attachment style stems form the relationship you have with your parents primarily your mother. We would watch videos of babies and analyze the attachment styles based off how the responded to their mothers after the left the room and came back. Also you can definitely have a combination to anxious and avoidant attachment. The goal is to have a secure attachment style but that takes time and lots of therapy but it’s hard to break the cycle because you end up having these attachment styles not just with your parents, but with other family members, friends,partners, kids, co-workers etc it’s how you bond with people really. It’s hard to cut off bonds and toes when your use to a dynamic where you love people in disfunction. Your taught to constantly look for the good and ignore the bad. Often we don’t know how to deal with people who do is wrong we just hope they change. Again this is why therapy is extremely important to help give some new emotional tool on how to deal with people really.
This is hilarious!!! Not me agreeing with the both of them. They both make valid points which is we all have to find our OWN happy medium! Great convo ladies!😅
Anxious vs avoidiant attachment style review is dope. I have been big into it for about 2 years now. It opens up a lot of conversations and sheds light on a lot too.
Loved this episode! Thank y’all for talking about the attachments styles. I recently discovered that i too have the anxious attachment style and whew! Im trying to navigate through it😩. I always appreciate the transparency with y’all though 🤍🫶🏾
I came to say the exact same thing. Anxious attachment comes from too much love, huh? Actually quite the opposite. If you had lots of love, you would have a much more secure attachment style
1:31-1:46 I was just putting my daughter on to that song 2 days ago. That's crazy you're singing "whenever wherever" by Shakira, because my best friend and I we're going down memory lane two days ago. I was like remember when we used to jam to this. We loved loved us some Shakira back in the day. She still looks absolutely amazing to.
nah i agree with lex, you should know your relationship style because you can’t just cut everyone off .. a man, a friend sure but like lex said it’s allll relationship could be a child and their mother, father and son, president and vice president anything
Just because the love language isn’t the same doesn’t mean u shouldn’t be with them no matter the relationship u are always going to have issues as far as understanding one another that’s the point of growing the goal is to have understanding
To the second question…girl I remember my auntie telling one of my cousins a long time ago that a lot of niggas don’t have high self esteem and aren’t that confident so a lot of times their first picks are the ones they think are easy- not saying that your friends are or look it but a lot of times that is the case. But then also men and feel the energy of a confident woman so if you’re feeling self conscious every time y’all go out, they can feel that energy from you boo
1:05:15 A pencil skirt when you already naturally have azz, hips, and thighs Bha-bie. Tha boyz gone look. I haven't worn a good ole pencil skirt in yrs though.
Not seeing eye to eye with my family I felt the part about compatibility. None of them want to go to therapy or do the work to make our relationship better. Come August I’m moving and focusing on me 😩 y’all pray I save and stay away from temptation this summer
Why Lex eat that Shakira impersonation 🤣🤣😂
Right!! I wanted her to keep goin 🤣🤣🤣
Right! Lex out here killing it
I came here to say exactly this😂her impersonations be spot on
Let me get my one weed ready ❤
ON MMMEEEEEE 😂😂😂 ..😶🌫️😤😮💨
Lol same! 😅😆
HELLO!
OKAY! SMOKING AS I TYPE THIS!
Yesss
Also when drea disagrees she always speaks over Lex instead of letting her talk lol I love hearing both opinions ❤
It definitely work my nerves but this is how me and one of my best friends talk😂 I'm Lex and my friend is Drea. I'm about to show her this!
Lex give yourself time. You lost your mother, that's a huge deal and it makes you a little codependent right now. That's a devastating loss. It is what it is and you need time to heal and might cling to someone right now for safety. The pour crew is here for you like you're here for us. MUCH love... hugging you through the phone 💕💖💖
A gay vegetable Lex? Lmaoooo love that this is a conversation with two cis women and in such a respectful manner to educate the ppl.
I loveee when the ladies have differing opinions, it’s refreshing to see!! This episode felt good🤎
Thank you ❤️
i’m glad lex spoke about those attachments styles because lol that explains me to the T when being avoidant and co dependency
Lex sounded good singing in the beginning, I hear you girl 😂🎶✨!
Lex is right with attachment styles, it’s very important TO RECOGNIZE AND HEAL
I believe Lex can really SANG!!! she be playing with us baybee got them vocals I just know it
I just wanna applaud y’all 👏🏾👏🏾 look at how far you have come! From sipping wine on the living room floor to a studio with custom curated cocktails & a fly ass mixologist‼️🎉 The pour gurls love to see it😍🥰
Happy Friday ladies!! The Pour Crew have come together to see these lovely ladies cut up 🤣🤣🤣🤣💯💯
Flame Monroe would be a great guest to have!
Faves, this episode was so good. The conversation about the trans woman trying to “out” a straight man for sleeping with her, is what I talk about all the time. She’s perpetuating transphobia & homophobia. She discussed it, knowing people are going to assume he’s gay for sleeping with her.. as I always say, if you’re a woman, then what’s the scandal? The scandal is you want to pick and choose when you identify as a woman, she still sees herself as a man (when it’s convenient) & that’s the problem. I’d love for TS Madison to come on the show one day, I’ll hit her and put it on her radar. I love how y’all were careful and respectful with this conversation.. We love educated, inclusive queens! 💕
Drea, please try to consider what the professionals have told Lex about the different attachment styles. Personal experience and expertise have their place…so does research.
I feel like Drea considers Lex’s opinion a lot. Lex stay overpowering the conversation with her opinion whenever Drea thinks differently.
Thank you ❤️
@@DreaAndLex cap, if Drea has her opinion solidified in her mind it's like pulling teeth to hear Lex’s or anyone else’s opinion. Sis be light weight pissed 😂 love them both but facts are facts. I might be the Drea in this relationship. 🤷🏽♀️
@@TyBalance It ain't cap and I don't leave this set holding on to any feelings from topics discussed so I def don't be "pissed".. I do consider her opinions a lot, it was only one attachment style that she discussed with a professional and sometimes her personal experiences don't always resonate with me.. So there's that, love you too bookie ❤
I love ya'll so much but I want Drea to let Lex finish her sentences lol
I think the anxious and avoidant attachment describes me and my boyfriend. This topic has given me a lot to think about.
The “I’m feelin Puerto Rican”sound clip was TS Madison y’all lol
Ok Im def apart of the Pour Mind crew now! I been watching a year !😂❤
It’s crazy I was watchin y’all @ 6k subs ? And now y’all 126k subs… soooooo proud! 😢😢😢😢
16:36 Lobotomy is the word you're looking for
Yesss Drea, working out, eating clean and limiting alcohol to just once every 4 weeks will have you fine AF. I’m in my late 30s and that’s been my key to keep that puffy/bloated alcohol look at bay.
Lmao the voicemail had me weak and the way you both responded. I love the advice you both give to the women who call it’s so real and caring. P.s. y’all can singgg
Baby not the pencil skirt!! We had a time back 2006-2009, a mess. Not in 2023. 😂😂😂
I love how Drea don’t let people think for her 😂 I love the podcast both of your ladies are doing a amazing Job.
Thank you ❤
Hey y’all love the episode ❤ I actually studied the Mary-Ainsworth attachment style theory heavily during college and it is directly related to your childhood and upbringing as attachment style stems form the relationship you have with your parents primarily your mother. We would watch videos of babies and analyze the attachment styles based off how the responded to their mothers after the left the room and came back. Also you can definitely have a combination to anxious and avoidant attachment. The goal is to have a secure attachment style but that takes time and lots of therapy but it’s hard to break the cycle because you end up having these attachment styles not just with your parents, but with other family members, friends,partners, kids, co-workers etc it’s how you bond with people really. It’s hard to cut off bonds and toes when your use to a dynamic where you love people in disfunction. Your taught to constantly look for the good and ignore the bad. Often we don’t know how to deal with people who do is wrong we just hope they change. Again this is why therapy is extremely important to help give some new emotional tool on how to deal with people really.
Lex can low key sing 😅 she ain’t fooling me 😂
Love this whole video but I’m weak Drea said “remember the man with no neck” and it immediately went to an AD. I died lmfaoo
I didn't know butterflies pissed 😂😂😂
Yo 😂😂😂
This is hilarious!!! Not me agreeing with the both of them. They both make valid points which is we all have to find our OWN happy medium! Great convo ladies!😅
Yall know I’m coming faithfully , love you ladies stay gorgeous !!❤
Lex said a gay vegetable 😂😂😂😂😂 she’s so funny omggg
Anxious vs avoidiant attachment style review is dope. I have been big into it for about 2 years now. It opens up a lot of conversations and sheds light on a lot too.
Drew face during that call 😂 and lex impersonation of shakira was hilarious
Loved this episode! Thank y’all for talking about the attachments styles. I recently discovered that i too have the anxious attachment style and whew! Im trying to navigate through it😩. I always appreciate the transparency with y’all though 🤍🫶🏾
Thank you for being so vulnerable ladies ❤
Drea be Tryna be to literal for me when Lex being dramatic or sarcastic 🙄 it’s still love tho 😂❤
Facts😭😭
Attachment styles are definitely on a spectrum. It’s a lot to it. A lot more than the definitions we sometimes find on the internet.
That advice about having confidence is so true. People can feel your energy ! Great episode ladies 💕
Y’all ate DOWN karaoke!! One of my favs 🤣💞
Happy belated birthday drea❤❤❤hope you enjoyed your day hun
That Shakira impression was hilarious 😂
Also loved Drea’s “And just sit there!”
0:35
I'm absolutely loving the LEGEND In My City sweatshirt. I know that's right!! I need that there.
Lex you know we LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT... DON'T PLAY...YOU LOOK FIRE AF!!! 😂😂😂
Drea Braxton on the 1's & 2's 🤣🤣
I'm a HUGE fan of the Pour Minds ladies and TS Madison. Y'all are such cool individuals. Hoping for a collab with you all soon! ❤
Definitely need that collab the girls would have a time!!!!!!
Can we get Ts Madison on the floor
Yes!!
Yes karaoke 😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 y’all killed this all notes were hit hun 😂
Get Flame Monroe on here 💯
“What the plus stand for? Get your 🐱 ate” I’m hollering 😭😭😭😭😭😭
😂😂😂
😭😭😭😭
The gworls look so good !!!
now Lex☺️, we just got here 🤣🤣🤣 i’m rolling already. Heyyyy Lil BIG Drea! 😍
My day go bad wit out a episode but I try to hit the old ones every now &then
🔥 episode, y’all killed the karaoke 😂👏🏾
So we acting like we ain’t hear butterfly pee is in the drink💀😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ohhh I thought she meant butterfly “pea” 😮 pee is nAsty LOL
It’s def butterfly pea, y’all 😅 it’s a flower
So glad someone cleared that up 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love y'all, but maybe get an expert on the show or do more research the next time you guys discuss something as complex as attachment styles.
Yeah that was cringy
Seriously! Cause I feel like Lex took a personal experience and generalized an entire attachment style.
@@nashley2i was just going from a convo i had with my therapist 😭i was just tryna educate
@@DreaAndLex we know
I came to say the exact same thing. Anxious attachment comes from too much love, huh? Actually quite the opposite. If you had lots of love, you would have a much more secure attachment style
I HAVE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT FIR THIS SHOW🤣🤣POST MORE CONTENT🙏🏾🙏🏾💞💞
Lex I hope you been been preparing, because you know how serious Drea is about her birthday. 😂🤣🤞🏾
This low key felt like a patron episode.
agreed
The karaoke 🎤 was EVERYTHING and so unexpected! What mics are you guys using? And what software do yo use for sound recording?
Drea is describing being dismissive not avoidant. 28:20
Apparently $40 in US dollars is $2,158.39 in Dominican Pesos 😂😂😂
Y’all be off key but on the same key at the same time and I love it lmao
Dre a real taurus. When a taurus start working out we go ham!!
I have never been this early before. I’m excited ❤
This my 2nd favorite podcast only behind 85 south. It’s really more like 1A 1B
5:21
YASSS the edible glitter. I forgot the name of that drink back in the day, it had glitter in it.
I love the conversation about the LGBTQ+ community! I know the girls love us gays but it was nice to be included in y’all’s dialogue in the pod.
Oh, damn, im EARLY, early...
Heeey, yall ✨🔥💚🔥✨
I’ve been doing a detox now for two weeks! No drinks!
23:06 lex’s “do you crave vagina?” is wild 💀
Thank god for giving Ty a mic 😂
I look forward to every episode! 💙💙
I’m thinking about doing a fast as well! 😩 I think this is a sign lol
I just wanna kno where Drea gets her bundles from? 😍
Coming to the show just to sing off key with y’all lol ❤
Lex ate that Toni 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
Please have a therapist on I’d love to hear the avoidant side of the spectrum compared to the co dependent side
I cant wuth lex already with her Shakira
Happy early birthday Drea !!
My bro birthday 5/4 ♉🎉❤
I haven’t watched for a while and lex lost so much weight. Glowing x
Okay TS Madison. You made it to the 85 South Platform. First the Trap and now Pour Minds❤️❤️❤️
Who broke there heartd they was singing like they was heary brokern felt it n my spirt tonu braxton could never.
1:31-1:46
I was just putting my daughter on to that song 2 days ago. That's crazy you're singing "whenever wherever" by Shakira, because my best friend and I we're going down memory lane two days ago. I was like remember when we used to jam to this. We loved loved us some Shakira back in the day. She still looks absolutely amazing to.
Tha karaoke was top tier !!
Forever rollin! Lmao Y’all are killing meeeee
nah i agree with lex, you should know your relationship style because you can’t just cut everyone off .. a man, a friend sure but like lex said it’s allll relationship could be a child and their mother, father and son, president and vice president anything
Just because the love language isn’t the same doesn’t mean u shouldn’t be with them no matter the relationship u are always going to have issues as far as understanding one another that’s the point of growing the goal is to have understanding
Of course you are but I personally feel like there will be less misunderstandings of you share love languages and attachment styles
Which is smart to do rather than saying they aren’t for you
Lex did that Shakira! Yes ma’am! 😂
Ppl confuse judgement with fact , judgement Is how that particular person feel about sum and feeling is not fact
Drea i take Orangetheory too and i love it!!!!!!!!
TS Madison wit that BIDI BIDI BOM BOM 😂
In the beginning lex was referring to ts Madison! Puuuertterrr ricannnnnnnnn!! 😂😂
One min in and lex got me screaming already
To the second question…girl I remember my auntie telling one of my cousins a long time ago that a lot of niggas don’t have high self esteem and aren’t that confident so a lot of times their first picks are the ones they think are easy- not saying that your friends are or look it but a lot of times that is the case. But then also men and feel the energy of a confident woman so if you’re feeling self conscious every time y’all go out, they can feel that energy from you boo
1:05:15
A pencil skirt when you already naturally have azz, hips, and thighs Bha-bie. Tha boyz gone look. I haven't worn a good ole pencil skirt in yrs though.
Okay yuall did the big one for Karaoke! 🎉 😂😂
Not seeing eye to eye with my family I felt the part about compatibility. None of them want to go to therapy or do the work to make our relationship better. Come August I’m moving and focusing on me 😩 y’all pray I save and stay away from temptation this summer
I thought the same thing Lex said about Pisces!!! 🤣
I LOVE THE POUR MINDS SQUAD I HAVE SOME MUCH IN COMMON!! WE MISS YOLL😘😘😘