THE UNTOLD TRUTH OF SALOME'S MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE AND WHY SHE DID PORN
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i also grew up in a narcissistic family from parents to siblings and even Aunts.
Mapalad na lang at dumating ang BIBLIA sa Buhay Ko.
I'm curious. How or in what way did the Bible affect you?
Amen!🙏
Actually, ito lang talaga ang sagot sa problema, ang lumapit sa Diyos.
@@milalami8219 Una,GOD send HIS Faithful Forgiven People Na Koreana at Haponesa.
Pero bago pako mag abroad, may nagpadala sakin ng Biblia( but i wasn’t interested pa that time,and i met a Pinay sa Magallanes and invited me for a fellowship(year 89) and was my very first time seeing and attending a fellowship,before my first departure from PH).
Many times GOD is calling me thru those signs,actually lahat po tayo ay TINATAWAG,with so many obvious signs,like hearing a Bible Preachers In The Street and Much more now mas pinadali ni GOD thru Internet 🛜 but people are too busy fulfilling their personal dreams like wanting to be rich 🤑.
Dekada bago korin naunawaan,but Jesus Never Giving Up On Me…Until…i really heard His softened my hearts 🥰 and I felt HIS LOVE and FORGIVENESS. Until unti,nababago na ang kalooban at unti unti,naalis ang bad habits…at natutunan ko Oys NOT About Me Pala…Its ALL ABOUT HIM JESUS.
Unti unti sa Haplos ng pagmamahal nya,maliliwanagan ka,aaluin ka nya,hinding hindi mo na maratamdamang nag-iisa ka,kase ipaparamdam nya ang pagka DIOd nya at mawawala na Takot.
at ready ka sa anu man Sya Ang Bahala.
@@kuyab9122 If you read the bible kuya it will change your POV of life, lalo na if you read it from cover to cover. The bible is the manual of our life, it will show us how to live uprightly and christ-like. 🙂
This is the reason why I want to be a Psychologist and it will serve a great impact to our society na mag-bloom pa yung awareness ng mga tao when it comes to mental health issues and how it will affect you in your adulthood. Nasanay kasi yung iba na kapag may problem ang bata, baka nagt-tantrums lang or nag-iinarte😢
Unfortunately, narcissistic parents are a real and legitimate problem that many people face. Narcissistic parents often lack empathy, manipulate and exploit their children for their own gain, and are primarily concerned with their own needs and desires rather than their children's well-being. This can cause significant emotional and psychological harm to children and can have long-lasting effects on their well-being as adults.
To all victims of narcissistic parenting , know that you're not alone. You are worthy and deserving of love, respect, and happiness.
I pray for healing and inner peace. May your voice be heard and valued 🙏♥️
no judgement for Salome , but hope she will be healed soon. and ma guide sya tama ni Lord
amen
🥲Somehow naka-relate ako kay Salome.
I had childhood trauma generally from my father (mostly verbal with some physical abuse) and one of his siblings (sexual abuse). Kaya lumaki tuloy akong sobrang tahimik, aloof sa mga tao, mahina ang loob at maliit ang tingin sa sarili. Worst pa, I am a part of the LGBT community kaya nabully din ako outside ng family.
I am still thankful though that I am alive at have no suicidal thoughts.
I just pray everyday to survive this.
hi aloof din ako sa tao may avoidant personality disorder ako
touch some grass and be healthy
Repent and turn away from sins. Jesus Christ is coming back to earth. Read your holy Bible and ask God for wisdom.
Now, we understand why Salome grew up with so much hatred . Parents who watched that Toni’s interviewed will be more responsible with their Children.
Kahit ano at sino kapa, kapag toxic ang family or kaibigan mo iwan mo.. dahil ikaw at ikaw lang ang mag susuffer kapag dmo cla iiwan
Sobrang helpful ng mga ganitong topic for someone n merong anxiety or depression. Thanks Doc. ❤
Welcome po!
I have 3 years old son. I will try my best talaga. Inaappreciate ko ang mga bagay na gngawa nya. My son is very advance even his pediatrician told me. kailangan balance talaga ang pagdedesiplina. pagmamahal at pang uunawa tlga. Napaka strong nya talaga.
Gawin mo pong confident ang iyong anak na walang tinatapakang iba tao.😊
Most of the batang 90's (I think) have this kind of parents. I myself have these kinds of parents, up to now they continue to try to ruin my self confidence. Sobrang sakit pag sa kanila galing na pangit ka, mataba ka, hindi ka pwde jan kasi hindi ka pasok sa standards. Salamat sa Diyos at meron akong kinakapitan. Hindi ko masisi si Salome na galit parin sya sa parents nya. Ako napatawad ko na parents ko, I became aware na it's not a reflection of who I am but who they really are. At the end of the day, yung faith talaga na meron someone higher na pwede mong sandalan at yung nagpapatunay na importante ka kaya nya ikaw nailagay sa mundo. I pray for you Salome, wala kang naging kasalanan. 🙏
Kaya nga po pansin ko din. Same environment din, puro pamamahiya tapos wala man kang emotional support.
@@pixelizedneko yeah. true. nakakalungkot pero ayun nga kadugo padin tayo nila kahit pa narcissistic sila.
😢🥺 sadly
Totoo Yan. Pero always do good coz God listen. Haist bakit may mga ganitong family
@@mylaisabeldizon-zo5hs yes💯
Very pretty na bata... She can inspire people thru other means. Sana she is done with her adult profession pero constant yearning for dopamine release means may hurt pa and she needs healing. She needs to open up to God, turn to faith and spirituality so healing can start. You have to be brave first to be strong to fight your demons.
Sobrang swerte ko pla sa parents ko,Never nila kami sinaktan magkakapatid, very kind and gentle sila sa amin magkakapatid. Never ko din sila narinig na namintas o nagsabi ng masama sa ibang tao. Kaya siguro naging mabait din ako and understanding na hindi maintindihan ng ibang tao, na kahit yong kinakabwisitan ng lahat eh nakakasundo ko pa. Kasi siguro lumaki ako na hindi judgmental I thank God napunta ako sa mabuting pamilya.
Good for you..kasi andaming nagwi wish ng ganyang mga magulang..
@@arasyard noon po hindi ko naman naappreciatpe yan. Never sila nagkulang sa amin magkakapatid, Wala na po parehas parents ko pero yong mga lesson na tinuro nila nagiging guide ko sa everyday na pkikitungo sa ibang tao po.
Sanaol. 😔 Lumabas anxiety ko noong 26 years old (year 2023), possible daw talaga sa childhood trauma raw ito sabi nung psychiatrist ko. Pinapalo kasi kami noong mga bata kami at laging sinisigawan.
ang galing naman..you are so lucky ❤
@@random-accessmemory9201 same,nagka anxiety at depression ako dhil sa child trauma 😢
Ang swerte nung mga hindi maka gets nung ganitong situation tapos magsasabi na its a matter of choice like dude kpag family mo mismo ang toxic since bata ka, what choices do you actually have? Hindi nila magets na wala kang freedom mentally and physically sa narcissistic parents dahil they manipulate every aspect of your childhood.
Right
I agree
I also experienced the same Pero hindi choice na maging pornstar ka
no and no. i came from a narcissistic family but i chose to be different.
@@wilbaliton8421 Okay so say 9 years old ka, aalis ka na sa bahay nyo, find a job and rent an apartment to live independently away from toxic family? Sure? Bro not all 9 year olds are capable of doing that. Panu yung mga may disability pa like pinanganak silang blind or may kulang sa katawan. Different people, different cases. Good for you na "chose to be different" ka or kung nakaalis ka man sa situation mo way quicker than these people. But do not close your mind to people who are having way more difficult situation than you.
Again, good job and good for you na nakaalis ka. I'm hoping of instead na ganyan ka, maging gentle and kinder ka to words and maging sensitive sa mga tao. Or if itong comment ko ittake mo as negative, then take a look at a mirror. Baka narcissist ka rin. :)
I ended in a situation like this and here I am I have a lifetime treatment for my major depression disorder syndrome 😢😢😢
Akala lang ng iba madali tanggapin yung masasakit na salita lalo na kapag galing sa mga taong akala mo naandyan para sa yo…. 😢😢😢
#FAMILY
#FAMILYNASASAKTANKALANG 😢😢😢
realtalk, ganito mother ko. It's futile na baguhin ang ugali nila. Pero realtalk, need to distance and create boundaries
Kahit ako lumayo din ako sa family ko dhil yun ang mas makakabuti at maging mapayapa ang takbo lng ng buhay...tahimik at magagawa mo yung tama na dapat gawin mo sa buhay para umusad ka...Pag ginawa mo at pinilit mopa makasama sila dhil baka magbago sila someday...Ako na nagsasabi sasayangin nyo lng ang oras at panahon nyo pag ginawa nyo yan...Di masama lumayo kung yung ang alam mo mas ikakabuti at safe ng buhay mo...Minsan kc ang hihila pababa sayo at maglalagay sayo sa kapamahamakan minsan kung sino pa ung mas malalapit sayo at kadugo mo pa...
Hindi na sila magbabago. Kung gusto nyo mag stay kailangan i accept nyo na ganyan na sila kung di kaya i cut nyo n completely sa buhay nyo. Walang point makipagtalo sa kanila
@@Keisaya_86Sobrang Agree ako jan. 💯💯
Same. Lumayo na lang din ako. Kinakamusta ko na lang sila pero I have to set my boundaries for my mental health.
@@gambitgambino1560ginawa ko na lang dumistansya ako. Kinakamusta sila minsan umaalis pa din kami. Pero may boundaries na talaga.
relate aq ky ma'am salome ranas q yan sa mama at papa q laht ng di maganda salita naranasan q at palo kht ano maipalo sa akin ng mama q hanggang sa nagdalaga aq kya unti now hirap aq kalimutan ung nangyari sa akin ng bata aq kht nong mamatay papa q umiyak aq pero dq talaga mapatawad.pero pasalamat na lng aq at naging independent aq until now
Maswerte Ako na Meron along parents na Hindi mayaman sa pera at material na bagay pero mayaman sa respeto at pagmamahal ❤ thanks doc for sharing this topic
I grew uo sa ganitong environment. Hanggang ngayon ang trauma nandito parin but mas lalo ko tinatagan ang sarili ko at mas lalo nagdasal sa panginoon mag isa at doon ko sinurender ang lahat para hnd makagawa ng hnd magandang bagay bagay...
I agree with your explanation Doc Alvin. I got a terrible childhood back home in the Philippines very traumatic chlldhood. Growing up I thought it was normal to experience emotional trauma, but in the end I commit suicide. until one day I just realized that I have to chance my way of life so that I'm not gonna turn out to be like my parents. At the very young age I pursue to be good in school and eventually migrant in canada. somehow looking back the emotional trauma that cause me when I was a kid are still there. Now I've been living in Canada for 20 years as a Family Medicine doctor. Good Bless Doc
Na feel ko ung interview nya 😢i cried habang nakikinig ako😢sobrang strong nya, Sana kaya ko din😢
Syempre po! Kung kaya Nya, kaya mo din. 😊 Godbless
@@xtianxtian1925 thanks sa encouragement
Pray and meditate please believe in yourself kaya mu yan,kaya natin to kahit minsa there's a time nakakapagod na at parang dina talaga kaya pero patuloy na lalaban, even me at this point of my life kakaiyak ko palang 2 kanina I just prayed and I surrender to God everything.
Magsimba ka tuwing lenggo at magdasal ka bago matulog at paggising sa umaga. .tanggalin ang inggit at galit sa kapwa o kahit sino man. . .Gagabayan ka at protektahan ka ng DIYOS AMANG MAKAPANGYARIHAN SA LAHAT. . .talagang babago ang buhay mo
sabe nga ni doc alvin ang narcissist marunong mag manipulate, baka namanipulate kana ni salome kaya na touch ka kung totoong iba talaga trato saknya ng parents niya bakit pinasok niya ang p-rn industry? tapos may case pa siya dati na na abuse siya diba nga dapat ma trauma siya doon? hinde ko magets bakit enjoy sya sa pag gawa ng malalaswa?
*Thanks Doc, so helpful!*
maraming maraming salamat doc. alvin. Godbless po sa inyo😇
Thank you so much, Doc! This type of content should be shared with all the people :)
I grew up also like Salome na I hear bad comments, and I get appreciated when it comes to my studies. but i think the difference is I also hear good comments from my aunts and uncles. my parents are not affectionate also like hugging or kissing the cheeks. never experienced that. maybe i always have self doubt because i felt i was never good enough and through the years ive met people who showed me my worth. forever be thankful for the people that helped me break that doubt
I saw myself to her until now that childhood still hurting and destroying me
But i always put prayers for everything im not perfect humanbut i ask God for every situation i face
Halata naman talaga na di siya okay mentally. Iba yung perspective niya sa buhay.
Be sensitive to your comments & at least not judgmental. If you followed the video closely enough she was a victim too of a narcissistic family. I pray for her healing & to all of us who are broken . 🙏
Thanks for sharing also Doc na maging aware kaming mga parents sa aming mga anak😊
thanks to this one, many people di sya naiintindihan ang easy na ijudge sya because of the work she's doing. Hope na maopen ang mind ng iba na intidihin at alamin muna ang ang nangyari before they judge other people.
Hi Doc, I am a parent of a 5-year-old child. Having grown up with a narcissistic father, I am concerned about my own parenting style. I want to avoid perpetuating the same negative traits in my child that I experienced growing up. Unfortunately, I have noticed some similarities between my own parenting and my father's behavior. Can you advise me on how to break this cycle and parent my child in a healthy way?
We are in the same boat. I had read some parenting books but still different child different approach. You will be the one to decide what parent you would be. As for me, the things I didn't experience from my own mom (narcisstic mom) I will give it to my son unconditionally. I'm not a perfect woman but I will give all my best to my son until he can do it for himself. Fighting momshie!❤️
@@marymiracle5413 Thank you, Momshie. I appreciate your support! I always aim to practice gentle parenting, but I understand that each child requires a unique approach. However, I will make sure not to be too controlling and instead focus on boosting my child's self-confidence, which is something I didn't have while growing up.
Same here.. Parang nauulit ko yung cycle sa 3 kids ko. Madalas kapag gabi at tulog na lahat, ako gising pa, nag iisip kung paano ko ba maiiwasan yung hindi maayos na parenting style na nagagawa ko sa mga anak ko (na nakuha ko sa nanay ko). 😞 I always try my best na hindi maging katulad ng nanay ko pero parang nakadikit na siya sakin. Pilit kong iniiwasan talaga. And everytime na nagagawa ko yung way ng nanay ko sa parenting sa mga anak ko, laging nagfaflash back yung pain and trauma sakin mula pagkabata ko. Lalo akong nagagalit sakanya/sakanila. Lalo ko siya/silang sinisisi kung bakit ako nagkaganito. Kung bakit hindi maayos yung buhay ko. 😔
@@_kmhnsn hugs sis! ganyan din ako sa gabi ako nagmumuni ng mga bagay kaya puyat lage at overthinking. di madali maghilom as in super hirap kahit malayo na ako sa nanay ko. pero kailangan ko maging malakas para sa anak ko at sikapin di maging gaya ng nanay ko. magpokus ka sa positibo, magsorry ka agad sa mga anak mo after mo sila mapagalitan para di nila itanim sa isip nila yun inis natin sa kanila. mahirap maging nanay lalo kung alam mo sa self mo na need mo ng healing from your childhood trauma. laban lang sis. ❤️
@marymiracle5413 Pareho tayong malayo na din sa Nanay/pamilya. Pero yung childhood trauma still lingers to this day. It's as if it's still haunts me even more these days. 😔😩 Kaya si Salome Salvi hindi ko yan tinitingnan na nakakadiri siyang babae/tao. Napaka hirap kaya ng wala nag guide sayo habang lumalaki ka. Kaya sobrang tagos sa puso ko nung mapanood ko yung interview niya kay Toni. May naturingan kang magulang pero ginawa ka namang punching bag ng frustrations sa buhay instead na gawin kang inspiration at lakas. 🥲
Oo, nagsosorry ako sa mga anak ko kapag alam kong mali ako. Kasi di ko naranasan yon sa Nanay ko. Malakas pa ngang mang guilt trip eh. Kaya nung sumabog na ko at naubusan ng pasensiya, talagang di ko na kinausap. Pero at the same time, ako pa din ang nafifeel bad. Ang lakas ng hatak ng pang giguilt trip nila - ng toxic filipino culture. 😩🥲
I can relate on this video. I have same mental health issues for now, na I'm going to be treated soon. However, I'm afraid to open to my family about my darkest secrets since teenage years until now kasi I getting hurt much and the worst is judgemental feeding that really kills me.
Kung malalagpasan ko mga hardships ko in a hard way but confident with faith, I would be a motivational speaker and life coach to the youth and adults who have same or similar problems just like you or me.
Salome Salvi, go your way and renew your life as a woman with strength na ma-overcome mga pinagdadaanan mo.❤
One of the reason why i want to be psychologist.
Relate much
Same tau salome,
Stay strong .
Thank u doc very helpful sa ganitong problema.
Cut ties muna,lumayo muna sya…Si Jesus Talaga ang Sagot.
Kahit kase pinatawad mo na sila eh,hindi nila kinikilala si Jesus,
ay hindi nila mauunawaan ang mga inuugali at inaasal nila.
Amen! Agree with you sis.. Si Jesus lng ang mkkpgpabago sa character ntn at puso ntn.. LOVE ni God.
Nauunawaan ko siya, kasi galing din ako sa isang narcissistic environment. However, kailangan na ang Diyos sa buhay niya.
Sa nakikita ko kasi, poot ang naghahari sa puso niya sa ngayun.
@@dennischua3956 Kahit di ganyan nangyare sa isang tao, need pa rin ng Diyos sa buhay ng isang tao..walang ibang pinaka magandang gawin ang isang tao kun di ang mag lingkod lang sa kanya..hindi pdeng gawing option ang paglilingkod, pero at the end, free will pa din ng tao ang masusunod, tayo ang magdedecide kung san tayo mapupunta after life, sana makahanap din sya ng spiritual family nya gaya ng nangyare saken
Thank you for the information, Doc.
More videos po about how to handle our kids para mapalaki sila ng maayos.
❤😢doc ang dmi ko natutunan s u.sn ipag ptuloy mo ang mggandang good advice dmi ko ntutunan tlg slmat po.
Salamat my isang doc Alvin na Gumawa ng Ganitong Content sana maraming makapanoud nito at matuto din para ma iwasan Yung ganung pagpapa laki ng Kabataan.. Bilang magulang napaka importante po nito para di kawawa yung anak at di mapahamak pagdating ng Panahon kasi alam ko ang daming tao out there na nakakaranas ng Ganitong treatment sa magulang pa nila nararanasan na Dapat ang magulang maging Role model sa mga anak nila
Malawak pagunawa ko sa mga ganito. I feel sad for her kasi i have daughters. But sana someday she will be healed in that situation
Thanks doc very helpful...
nakakarelate po ako ng sobra sa kanya about sa parents na lahat isusumbat sayo...😭
My anak na po kayo doc?
Always watching your vlogs po.
Kaya kung ikaw ay isang parent or kayo ay parents na may unresolved childhood trauma, having your own kid WILL NOT SOLVE your trauma. Ang ginagawa kasi ng ibang tao, mag-aanak sila kasi paniniwala nila ay "magagamot" ng anak nila ung mga unresolved trauma nila. So if you're single and have an unresolved trauma, don't enter into a relationship or have a baby. Kasi hindi ikaw ang kawawa kundi ung magiging anak mo.
Thank you Mam Salome Salvi and Doc. I learned something from this episode.
Understanding the inner self of somebody. 🙏🙏🙏 Hats off for your bravery Salome. I know you will recover soon and will have a life long partner. ❣️
Ako din naka relate ako kay Salome. It is the reason behind the action that is logical not the act itself.. She is a strong and brave lady. I never was so brave and telling people what I have been through because of fear na walang maniniwala sakin.
I grew up in a narcissistic household wherein both my parents are narcissists. Year 2022 I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder 1 and Persistent Depressive Disorder. Hanggang ngayon di pa din nila kaya iaccept yung role na plinay nila sa lahat ng nangyare na to.
Thank u doc may natutunan ako slmt🙏🏼
Were it not for grace I found when I read the Bible, I can't tell where I'll be. There is hope. Praying for you to find hope and new life in Jesus.
Malaki talaga ang role ng parents sa paglaki ng isang bata.Pro as time goes by tayo pa rin ang responsible sa ating mga sarili.Its our choice kung saang way tayo pupunta.Kung ano mang negative naexperienced sa buhay kumapit lg sa Dios kasi sxa lg ang totoong andyan,hindi tatalikod sa atin kahit gaano mn tayo kasama .Try not to hold grudges.Piliin pa rin nating mgmahal at maging masaya.
She's a very strong woman admitting all of this in public. I hope she will be healed soon.
thank u thank doc may topic about sa family katulad ni maam solome honest at true talaga sya kung sino sya❤❤
Salamat po sa panunuod
*9:20pm this is so truuuue, doc*
Nice Doc. Alvin buti hinimay himay mo to, malaking tulong sa pag intindi sa situation ni Salome, lalo na sa mga nakaka relate. Thank you Doc!.
or baka naman kaya nya sinasabi yan s parents nya ay gusto lang nya i-justify yung ginagawa nya..? possible..?
hindi tayo pedeng mag bigay ng conclusion kung isang side lang yung narinig natin.. pwede n exaggeration lang yun s kwento nya para i-cover mga ginagawa nya..
Yes. This is definitely within the realms of possibility.
pornography is illegal here in the philippines.
nung kailan lang may ni-raid ang law enforcers natin na mga nagbebenta ng porn cds and dvds.
bakit kaya ito na lantaran pa sa mainstream media, may docu with atom araullo, nag guest pa sa isang gma series ay di mahuhuli huli at pinapupurihan pa ng mga tao?
This exact mentality is why sexual abuse victims are afraid to come out..we give them doubts
@@champtactay7183 are all sexually abused? Doubting leads to further investigation... leads to the true story..
Pwede.
Being a narcissistic abuse really can’t explain it it’s horrible I was there,thankfully naka get out na ako
agree Doc. I think she should seek help talaga kasi hindi yata sya mahe-heal sa trabaho nya.
Comment down ur questions 😊
Doc may way po ba para makawala sa spotlight effect po? May iniinom po ba na gamot para rito?
Yung glutathione collagen glow doc sa Lazada true bah kaw nag endorse noon..
nakakalungkot, i heard her story and damn sobra din akong broken for her. i relate because i grew up in a household na similar. kaya naiinggit ako sa mga family na close kse i never had that.
But as a person that believes in God, we must learn to trust him that all this pain that we experienced magheal. mapapatawad natin ang mga taong nag take advantage sa atin at ang Lord na ang bahala na icorrect sa kanila.
Kung patawad na ang ibig sabihin eh balik sa dati eh maling mali ka. Cycle of abuse yan. Napansin mo yung mga binubugbog na mga asawa. Daming nagsasabi ah engot ayaw umalis. Ang di nila alam na hindi araw araw eh away. May times na masaya kayo pero syempre madalas yung conflict. Dun kumakapit mga tao sa masayang araw pero after nun away na naman. Cycle lang yan conflict away bati. Hindi sya healthy tapos daming manipulation na nangyayari.
Shoutout Doc❤❤
We are the writer of our story and we have only one life on earth. Its up to us how to write it.
In my opinion, strong person will not choose a path where in the end it will likely hurt her more. She clearly has a trauma from childhood resulting on where and what she is doing right now. Strong person will not let them dictate their past of how their future will be but to turn things around and make it better rather. One day, if she is 100% healed, she'll know the better path. May God heal her.
Thanks doc alvin. Sana maraming magulang maka realize nito para macorrect sila
❤❤❤ thank you doc ❤
gus2 q ung mga topic n gni2 dmi aq ntutunan. salamt po
I hope God will send His angels for her...i hope she will allow rhe Holy Spirit to guide her through her journey in life...
Ang galing mo naman po Sir mag paliwanag Yung kinakasama ko po ganyan.
Nag benefits ako sa topic n ito doc
Bkit prang binibigyan ng justification kung bat nagkaganyan sya. She has a choice to move away from that job. But the thing is she enjoys it. Whar do we learn from this when she is aware that shes destroying herself but insists shes like that because of her childhood. A lot of people didnt have good childhood but knows how to value themselves. She has a choice she can find a descent job. Wag nt8ng i patronize mga ganyang gawain. Buti sana ung hirapnhirap kumapit lng sa patalim. Pero eto, nag eenjoy sya sa act itself kya nag stick sya sa pagiging s%x worker. Naging ganyan dahil sa family? Ang alam ko lng n ibang nasa ganyang trabaho, eh mga kumapit lng sa patalim.
I have a Narcissistic Parent too. Pero hindi katulad ni Salome ang trabaho ko, wala yan sa kung anong klase ng trabaho.
It's her choice that she chose that kind of job.
Sa ganyang trabaho sya nakakahanap ng Validation.
Iba iba ang tao, ako naghahanap ako ng Validation sa Office.
I don't like her job, pero at the back of my mind, titigil rin sya. Let her be.
Be kind.
Agree.
Ito ang problema kapag gina-glamorize o niro-romanticize yung masasamang experiences para sabi mo nga, ma-justify yung gawain niya ngayon. Appeal to emotion para lumabnaw kahit papano yung bad perception ng mga tao sa kaniya. Ang hirap dito, baka maging role model pa ito sa ibang mga kabataan na dumadanas ng similar na experiences kasi nire-reinforce ng interview na ito na "kapag may ganito akong experiences, hindi ko kasalanan kung bakit ko ginagawa ang mga ito". Ang favorite quote ko nga e "Awareness is curative." Alam mo na na dahil sa masasamang mga nangyari sayo kaya ka napadpad sa kinaroroonan mo ngayon. Nasayo na ang bola upang mag-iba ng direction. Kung hindi ka pa rin huminto sa nasabing gawain, ginugusto mo na ito.
@@Weivachirawitchivaree What are you saying here? OP can't any more be direct and kind. This was a loving rebuke pa nga e.
@@kuyab9122I kinda agree. But at the back of her mind she will realize that she needs to stop someday
True use of guilt is one of their technic then getting you down 😢
totoo yan ganyan kasi asawa ko guilt tripping
Ganyan ako nung bata PA.... Kunting pagka2mali nanakit ang relatives ng side ng aking ina.. Ultimo kpatid ng aking ina.. Kya akla ko tlga normal Lang.. Child Abuse physical abuse and until now khit na my aswa na sinsaktan prin ako ng kpatid ng aking ina..binagbabantan nila ako tinatawag nila akong baliw at aswang tiktik!! Na umabot na sa panghaharast skin!! Kya minsan Yong mga na,experience ko sa kanila tinandaan ko.. Lumaban n ako sa kanila lalo n snbi ng relatives ko na sila ang magdadala skin sa kamatayan. Kya nagkaron ako ng trust issues sa knila at sa kapwa ko nrin.. Minsan nka2rnas akong manginig ang katawan, manlamig ang kamay.. Matinding kalungkutan tlgang abot sa kanila ang pag iyak ko n umbot n sa pagwawala Hindi ko n tlga macontrol ang emotional.. Ang nag,attemp nrin ang mag,pakamatay.
There's always hope and brighter tomorrow. Hugs and prayer for you. God bless.
Mga batang 80's at 90's karamihan ng magulang ganyan. Magulang ang manglalait sau. Depende na lng sa bata kung magiging matatag sya or kakaawaan nya sarili nya.
ang daming masasamang mga sinabi sa kanya without even thinking deep sa mga nasabi nya... njudge lang sya without getting deeper kung bakit nya ginagawa ung ginagawa nya. kesyo kawawa daw pag nakita ng kids nya... sinabi din nya na ayaw nyang magkaanak... (malamang kasi naisip din nya yan). basta madami pa...
ang hirap ng pinagdaanan nya pero nilabanan nya yun to be able to stand up and fight and most importantly, she learned to love herself.
it's an everyday process... di sya madali. kahit na minsan alam mong ok ka na... may kurot pa din un pag nababalikan.
God bless everyone. Stay strong. Laban pa and laban lang
Relate much thats why i promise myself that one day i can stand own feet
Doc saan po makaorder ng glutathione gummies?
pa shout out doc, from kuwait ❤️❤️
Actually naranasan ko na rin yan mula pagkabata palang talagang kinamumuhian na ko ng mga magulang ko na alam ko naman kung anong puno't dulo yun ay hindi ko tunay na tatay yung tinuturing kong ama. Halos walang tigil na bugbog ang inabot ko sa kapatid ng stepfather ko that time ang nanay ko walang ginawang any action ang mga kapitbahay ko lang naawa sa kalagayan ko, hanggang ngayon buong pamilya ko nasusuklam pagnakikita ang pagmumukha ko kahit anong gawin kong kabutihan sa kanila susuklian parin ako ng mali 😢😢 sobrang nakakarelate ako sa buhay nya hindi talaga madali magkaroon ng narcissistic parents!
Kapit lng sa Panginoon Brad.
Ganda ng video na’to Doc Alvin. More videos like this one soon.
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This is my take on the situation the mere fact that she is indeed a very smart lady at may edad naman na sya hindi kailangan gamitin ang katawan para hanapin ang joy or kaligayahan sa iba... Kasi ang kaligayahan na yan is instant mawawala and malungkot na naman sila then pag makatalik sila masaya na naman. Everyone ang tao sa mundo iba iba ang dinadanas pero hindi dahilan na maging porno ang trabaho tha fact na gagamitin mo katawan mo para ilabas ang emosyon mo. As a child i was bullied sa school all the way hanggang high school pero hindi naging hadlang sa akin ang mga bully na yun to be successful in my own. Mga kamag anak ko rin i--bubully ka din...Pero lahat yun wala lng..We should treat our body like a holy temple. 1 Corinthians 6: 19-20...Again i feel pity kay Salome i hope mahanap nya si Jesus Christ sa buhay nya only our savior can heal her.
mga self righteous dyn wag nyo invalidate ang mga nararamdaman at mga pinagdaanan nya. there’s 2 sides of the story. napakingan na naten yung side ni Salome sana marinig naten ang side ng family. pero sa kalagayan nya ngayon need nya ng counseling at prayers for her
I agree po… need din natin marinig ang side ng parents… bakit ganun ang way of parenting nila… doc Alvin … can you also find a case on parenting issues. Thanks po.
Salome is highly intellectual. I think Salome came out in open because she knows she needs help. Aside from emotional support, she needs medical support from a qualified therapist. Healing from traumatic childhood experiences can be a complex and challenging journey. She takes care of her physical well-being, but she needs to build a support network. Individuals who can provide encouragement and validation, some who can lead her towards the right direction.
Lastly, she should learn forgiveness. It may not be easy, but letting go of anger and resentment towards those who have caused harm can be freeing.
My family (cousins and aunts and uncles) called me "baliw" when I was a child without knowing that I was just enjoying my life as a child.
I'm very sensitive whenever I heard that word or someone's circling around their fingers on their head. I was compared to my cousins because I ugly. I'm the laughing stock of everybody. As an adult, it gives me a lot of trauma. I searched for love and validation from other people because I knew they will not understand me and they will just judge me.
Yes kung ano kinalakihan mo o experiences nung bata ka, dala mo yan pag tanda mo. Pero ang mga gawain mo ngaung matanda ka na ay kagustuhan mo na, pinili mo na, naiintindihan mo na. Hindi natin pwede ijustify ang mga gawain nating mga mali ngaun dahil lang sa masamang nakaraan. Ginagawa mo yan dahil gusto mo, nothing more nothing less.
It is you, your body, your rules. But justifying wrong doings is not acceptable, baka gayahin pa ng mga new generations.
Kung mapapanuod mo doc yung mga xvideos ni salome, sa tingin ko yung interview niya kay toni parang nabalewala.
Hindi ko nakita yung salomeng may self-love kundi isang salomeng sabik sa laman.
Pero at the end of the day, may pag-asa pa siyang magbago lalo na meron siyang oportunidad hindi gaya ng iba. Para saken wrong choice yung pagpasok niya sa porn industry.
So yun lang 😅
absolutely the story wont matter kung sex worker ka din nmn. no self-love and respect.
Nakakalungkot pero totoo po. Binababoy niya sarili niya sa pakikipagtalik kung kani-kanino kaya pano niya nasasabing "self-love", eh ung ginawa niya ay hindi simbolo ng pagmamahal sa sarili kundi kababuyan. 😢
Kailangan nating patawarin ang mga magulang natin, kahit mga taong nakasakit sa atin para maging mabuting tao tayo. Sa huli tayo din lang ang kawawa. Kahit anong idahilan natin, ang mga choices ni Salome ay kasalanan. Ang ating katawan ay templo ng Diyos kaya kailangan natin itong alagaan para sa Kanya.
Ako rin lumaki sa narscist family.. 😢😢😢buti na lng May Diyos na hnd ako pinabayaan..
Ang galing na kahit hindi specialization ni Doc, maalam pa rin siya!
Or may team ba kasi?
Self destruction, usually happens kapag lumake ka sa pamilya or magulang na narcissistic, it's just sad lang na UP graduate and she has a lot of things to put her focus to be an artist pero mas pinipili nyang mag blame Ng parents nya kahit na it's her own choice to be in that industry,
An author or a book called "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" he said if your parents did this or that, then that's YOUR EXPLANATION to your problem BUT NOT AN EXCUSE TO YOUR BEHAVIOR"
She should stop blaming her parents for her own choice of self destruction💔 god bless her soul, sana mahanap mo Ang aNg peace of mind Salome❤️
When she said that her parents always questions her decisions in life, I felt that. When she also said that her parents use her to uplift themselves by having a gifted child, I felt that. I also have a narcissistic mother, she's with her 3rd husband now. I left home when I graduated. From Cebu, I went to Manila, to get away with my controlling mother. I felt proud for taking the risk. At first, I'm scared but now I'm free. Though sometimes they would contact me whenever there are problems at home. Mostly, about my brother who also grew up like her, narcissistic. It's just so sad to think he hasn't healed from the abandonment trauma my mom has caused him. We were left by Mom at the age of 10 to be with another Man. I'm in my healing phase. Discovering myself, engaging into hobbies as coping mechanism. Honoring my emotions and being aware of my toxic traits to really find ways how to fix them. I hope my brother will soon too. I hope he will have more self-awareness in order for him to put in the work too not only for himself but also as a father to his son.
Hello Po Dr,Alvin Francisco my itatanong Po Ako totoo Po ba yong Supplement na CollagnAX Ikaw Po Ang nakadiscover.para Sa OstheoArtritis?
naalala ko, may pamangkin ako sa pinsan tinanon ko kung ano gusto nya pangarap nya sa buhay. sabi ng pamangkin kong mga 7yo, nurse daw. sabi ng nanay nya "nurse nurse!" in a negative tone. sabi ko "wag mong tanggalan ng pangarap yang anak mo"
Mental health acknowledgement is not part of Filipino culture. They always treat it as "kaartehan". But because of religion and closed-knit relationship with other people, maraming tao ang nalalagpasan yun and coming out to be mentally and psychologically strong.
Yes thats the Negative side having a narcissistic Parents. But if you know the how handle and follow them. Soon pag laki mo you will be able to realize that sinusubok ka lang ng tadhana. In order for you to be strong in the future❤
This is a good video reaction. A medical point of view and a person who explains how it portrays as a symptom. A lot of Filipinos are discrediting mental health and say "baliw" to people whom they could not understand. It is just timely that pandemic came and we understood what could mental health do to our body (physically,emotinally,socially).
My parents and auntie did not acknowledge my diagnosis at first when I told them that I was diagnosed with depression. They though that I was just over reacting since I am away from the philippines and was exposed to foreign culture saying "arte ko lang at gumagaya sa mga sakit ng puti". I told my auntie my childhood trauma and was in disbelief saying "sigurado ka nangyari yun?" Like omg, is she serious? infront of my face? In my mind I was telling my self "Here I am opening up to you since you asked me what's wrong then you're going to doubt me?" "Does she see me as a person who would lie about this kind of things?" She was in disbelief since she thought our family blood line was VERY sophisticated and cannot do any inappropriate actions.
It took them a year to understand what I am going through, media has a big input to this since mental health issues were being acknowledged as part of a disability. But that reaction of my auntie made a big hole into my chest and I don't have the guts to open it up with other people anymore, especially my parents.
Thank you Doc Alvin for featuring Salome's Toni Talks. I appreciate how you explain Salome's experience in a layman's term because not all Filipinos are knowledgeable enough to understand her, even though they graduated in prestigious schools.
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I saw this interview of Salome with Toni . It’s really everything goes down how your parents or family treated or taking care of you . As my personal experience I was deprived child because I grow up with out my parents I staying with my grandparents my childhood is not happy but I really telling my self I have to finished my studies so I will have a better life and yes I always see the positive side of every situation.It’s still for you how you lead your life . I am not judging Salome but I will not accept that prostitution is an option there are always many ways how to earn your living than selling yourself . If you love yourself you should not do that to yourself . As a parent what she doing is not good in any angle you see it . She’s so smart and educated there’s a lot of option than engaging to prostitution .This is my only personal opinion. God bless to all the children of this generation ❤️🙏
Iba iba rin siguro Ang pag uunawa at Yung treatment Ng bawat Isa kasi Ganyan din ang mama ko pinamukha niya saamin na pangit kami everytime na nag aayos kami sinasabi niya saamin na oh bakit ka nag ayos may nagugustuhan kana sinasabi niya kung may magkagusto saamin gusto lng kaming paglaruan..pero love kami Ng parents namin,parang sinasabi lng niya saamin yon kasi parang gusto niyang wlang mag kagusto saamin para di kami ma Inlove sa murang edad, naka focus Yung parents namin sa ugali at faith sa Ama nasa langit. At thankful kami dahil talagang maayos nman Ang Buhay nmin wlang bad issue sa bawat Isa, kasi yon Yung gusto Ng magulang namin ma mabuti kaming mamamayan na Hindi pasaway
As we become adult , we should knw what is good and bad , but sometimes those traumatic bring us something nightmares and flashback and those makes us anxiety . . and sometimes we have this self defense mechanism , avoidance , or coping mechanism e.g if someone who is being sexually misuse at child they started to feel dirty , or wash there hands many times , of sometimes become a addictive to s3x , or sometimes starting to have miltiple personalities. . When you become a police or psychologist we will know why some people act not normal why they steal why they killed . Upbringing kids in healthy way is the key . But in end its self awareness .
Ano kaya reactions ng parents nya? Ito yung topic na lahat makakarelate maybe in different ways, to educate everyone especially parents. Yung childhood trauma di yun madali maremove sa utak, madali sabihin "matagal narin naman yun kalimotan nalang at magpatawad". Kung wala kasi nakikitang pgbabago sa ugali paulit'ulit mo yung maalala yung bad experiences with parents so walang healing na mangyayari.
nakakalungkot na mag end ka sa ganitong kalagayan pero at the end of the day wala ka parin dapat sisihin kung bakit ganyan kalagayan mo kasi you have a choice, you know what is good and bad for you
You need a professional help di mo naintindihan Yung topic sir.
@@librajustice9317Ulol jabolero
Ang lalakas niyo umagainst sa mga content na nagpopromote ng sugal pero pornography pinagtatanggol niyo fu
In this situation its not about knowing the good or bad imagine it starts as a child they are innocent what their parents show them is the one that imprinted in their mind or personality. Ive been there i look up to him yet hes the one who puts me down, humiliated me in front of others, and not being believed about what happened to me, i survived but a bit twisted in the mind and i just recovered recently when i learned to love myself 😢 its not a good experience ul always doubt yourself when your in that situation.
@@librajustice9317 pinaglalaban mo po?
I pray that one day she will have a personal encounter with God.
me natutunan ako sa interview niya ke Toni, anu man ang gawa o trabaho ng kahit sinu d mo siya pede husgahan. :( naunawaan ko siya kung anu un pinag hugutan niya bakit niya tinatahak ang trabahong yan.akala nya ang saya nya ngayun kase feeling niya un kulang sa kanya diyan sa trabahong yan niya na sasatisfy ang feelings niya :( which nakaka lungkot naawa ako bigla sa kanya
I really feel u salome