13:23. When they say:”if you really love me..” it’s almost completely over between you two. That’s one of the oldest verbal and emotional manipulation tactics in the book.
So, she pushed him again and again, and went further and further each time. And this was about her, "needing and deserving," his constant attention. Using the, "if you really loved me," line is the most pathetic form of emotional blackmail. She knew she was doing this and was actually enjoying it. This was not love, this was malicious manipulation of a spouse by their disgustingly entitled and completely selfish partner. However, he let this go on for way too long and he should have stopped being used as a doormat long before he finally exploded. There is no way that this relationship is going to develop in a healthy manner.
That behaviour needs to be addressed early, before it gets to be a habit. ‘Here baby. Let me introduce Rita, your new house assistant. She’s going to be here 5 hours a day to help with all the little things you don’t want to do yourself. I’m going to the massage parlour, then meeting friends at the pub.’ 😎
The first time sex is used as a weapon to control whether or not it comes to reality, the relationship is damaged and likely not reparable. The amount of vitriol required to speak that out loud is not by accident.
I had an issue similar to this quite some time ago. My now ex had monopolized my time and it started to spill over into my time with friends and family, but she made it like it was quality time being spent together. I was always there for her, doing for her, when her own best friend warned me that I was doing too much. I didn't heed her advice and when I started eventually pulling back my time and attention from her, she immediately started giving me the cold shoulder. It took me a few weeks to realize that she was silently punishing me for not giving her my 110%., while I was getting her 10% in return. The first thing she started cutting out? Was the sex. I told her off, told her I was going out on a date because she was no longer interested in me, and suddenly, her affection was back on and in full force. Amazing how that happens...
Every woman I ever dated did that. Sex is a tool to women. Sometimes I allowed that to be used but eventually I put a stop to it. If I was a young man, the moment a women tries that - call her on it. If she adjusts, great. If she does, leave.
Reciprocation is a big factor that you don't notice...until you do. And once you notice it, it colors every interaction. For example, if one person initiates all affection and the other does not reciprocate, that is usually a harbinger of bad things.
If it was not for sex most women would be useless. A man can often do anything a woman can do not counting sex. I won't go the the part of homosexuals. I was in the same shape as that man when my wife broke her foot, but when she could get up and walk around or do something for herself in the wheel chair she did it.
Women withholding sex from their men hurts the man on a level I don't think we ladies understand. For so many men, touch is one of the primary ways they feel their partner's love and affection, and when you withhold sex...you are withholding affection and love. Why on earth would you hurt your guy like that over...menial tasks? (Over anything really, but...) I hope he leaves and finds someone who cares about him, not what he can do for her
I`m a reader,I dont hear but just as it gets to the end,I can`t even read what it says because of new stuff popping up.I hate to think of unsubscribing but if I can`t read the ending,what`s the point?
13:23. When they say:”if you really love me..” it’s almost completely over between you two. That’s one of the oldest verbal and emotional manipulation tactics in the book.
Yrah, and what did she do for him to show her love for him?
And each time you could answer "If you really love me , you wouldn't do/ask ..."
Simping doesn't pay.
He wasnt going to be the man i could use anymore so it was time for me to start monkey branching
She ALMOST greedy 'ed, entitled herself right out of the relationship. An SO ISNT your slave, it's a partnership that she FAILED MISERABLY.
The fact she knows exactly what’s going on makes it worse
I wouldn't stay. She will try again
A real relationship doesn’t have someone who is in control. It’s a partnership.
Yes until the man has to protect her. Then suddenly he is in charge.
Control control control thats what most women want in a relationship smh
She didn't view him as a husband or a boyfriend she just wanted him as a slave
Come on, that's what most women want.
That is correct. Kurt actually allowed it. He should have told her much faster. She took advantage of him.
So, she pushed him again and again, and went further and further each time. And this was about her, "needing and deserving," his constant attention. Using the, "if you really loved me," line is the most pathetic form of emotional blackmail. She knew she was doing this and was actually enjoying it. This was not love, this was malicious manipulation of a spouse by their disgustingly entitled and completely selfish partner. However, he let this go on for way too long and he should have stopped being used as a doormat long before he finally exploded. There is no way that this relationship is going to develop in a healthy manner.
That behaviour needs to be addressed early, before it gets to be a habit.
‘Here baby. Let me introduce Rita, your new house assistant. She’s going to be here 5 hours a day to help with all the little things you don’t want to do yourself.
I’m going to the massage parlour, then meeting friends at the pub.’ 😎
The first time sex is used as a weapon to control whether or not it comes to reality, the relationship is damaged and likely not reparable. The amount of vitriol required to speak that out loud is not by accident.
I had an issue similar to this quite some time ago. My now ex had monopolized my time and it started to spill over into my time with friends and family, but she made it like it was quality time being spent together. I was always there for her, doing for her, when her own best friend warned me that I was doing too much. I didn't heed her advice and when I started eventually pulling back my time and attention from her, she immediately started giving me the cold shoulder. It took me a few weeks to realize that she was silently punishing me for not giving her my 110%., while I was getting her 10% in return. The first thing she started cutting out? Was the sex. I told her off, told her I was going out on a date because she was no longer interested in me, and suddenly, her affection was back on and in full force. Amazing how that happens...
Every woman I ever dated did that. Sex is a tool to women. Sometimes I allowed that to be used but eventually I put a stop to it. If I was a young man, the moment a women tries that - call her on it. If she adjusts, great. If she does, leave.
That's the problem with women they get entitled once you give them too much attention then they start disrespecting you.
Reciprocation is a big factor that you don't notice...until you do. And once you notice it, it colors every interaction. For example, if one person initiates all affection and the other does not reciprocate, that is usually a harbinger of bad things.
If it was not for sex most women would be useless. A man can often do anything a woman can do not counting sex. I won't go the the part of homosexuals. I was in the same shape as that man when my wife broke her foot, but when she could get up and walk around or do something for herself in the wheel chair she did it.
Women withholding sex from their men hurts the man on a level I don't think we ladies understand. For so many men, touch is one of the primary ways they feel their partner's love and affection, and when you withhold sex...you are withholding affection and love. Why on earth would you hurt your guy like that over...menial tasks? (Over anything really, but...) I hope he leaves and finds someone who cares about him, not what he can do for her
You can push a good man to far. Once he snaps he is done
Love is a two way street. How much were you doing for him.
Different standards and expectations.
Yea.. I have been married 41 years.. if my wife pulled this crap..I would still be married but she would never do that again.. guaranteed 🎉
Sounds like a sitcom episode without the laughs. I've dealt with this before and I have done what Kurt did.
Never participate in a relationship that has covert contracts that require things you have to do to get sex.
I`m a reader,I dont hear but just as it gets to the end,I can`t even read what it says because of new stuff popping up.I hate to think of unsubscribing but if I can`t read the ending,what`s the point?
He screwed up by letting her stay. She'll pull this crap again down the road when she gets the chance.
“I was taking care of myself, right” 😑 mf what?
Did she do the little things for him?
No sympathy, simp tolerated it way too long
What happened to the weaponized sex?
Today it’s a glass of water tomorrow it’ll be Bob from sales and affair if you loved her of course