girl you're whole talk about lacking close friends hit home for me, i feel you completely. i have my bf too but for some reason no matter how hard i try to get close to other people i pretty much get pushed away idk i never had any luck. i wish i had that kind of friendship many people have and it really bothered me in college but i'm just naturally an introverted loner anyways so i've kinda learned to accept it now
I had a really close friend for 20 years and then we drifted apart. It hurt, yes, but I find it comforting to think that there is someone who knows a past me really well and can remember her better than I probably can. She didn’t take any parts of me away, we shared them. And we shared parts of her as well. Friendships become a lot less scary when you think of them in terms of what you’ll gain, not what you’ll lose.
You guys are honestly relationship goals. I admire how you communicate with each other and how you help each other grow as individuals, whilst also allowing yourselves to grow as two people in a relationship (if that makes sense) 😅
I understand COMPLETELY what you mean about the best friend thing. I am 25 and always feel a little bit sad about not having a best friend or a group of best friends sometimes. I feel like I’m missing out or will feel regret and not be able to make any close friends the older i get. In my case I’ve tried multiple times to make best friends with people i thought were great to be around but always ended up being the one to give too much or myself. I always felt like it was maybe me or something I’m doing wrong for me to not be able to make close friendships. But it feels exactly like what you said earlier in term of giving pieces of yourself to someone that you can’t get back. I would always feel so empty after sharing so much with someone only for them to ghost me or use me when they felt like it. I think it’s definitely something a lot of us go through especially at this age. I’ve honestly learned through that to love myself and enjoy my own company. Though it might always seem more fun to be in someone else’s company, doing things on your own really makes you feel a lot stronger on your own and less dependent. With that being said i do hope i can meet a friend one day that i can just vibe with. Didn’t mean to write a whole book there lol
Hey Hana! About the 'best friend' thingy, I experience that as well! Observing people around me having a friendship like that makes me a lil insecure but I feel the same way about the 'knowing me too much'. Hahaha I guess I totally feel the same way as you haha
i relate to you so much hana on the part about best friends. i don't have a best friend but i want one but i have the same feelings you feel. i really thought i was the only one who feels that way.
wholesome and sweet :) having gone through ldr in my past, i think one thing that yall are doing so well is being able to be honest when it comes to having needs be met. It's easy to be hesitant with a partner to say like "hey i wish you would text more." that was a struggle i had in my past relationship, to be open about my needs and to hope that there would be some kind of understanding! really beautiful to see yall come together in such openness :)
Being by yourself, you don’t have an immediate other opinion. You make whole-hearted decisions. Or you’re comfortable where you were and didn’t want to make changes. I experience this as well.
the fact that you were with Jimmy pretty young might have something to do with not having super close knit friends. This is COMPLETELY just speculation but idk man maybe I'm just cynical but relationships (no matter how healthy and great) almost ALWAYS end up with some kind of drifting from friends, even just a tiiiny bit. The fact is, people will prioritise love over almost anything and that's just how it is. Even my friends that I used to be super close to, I don't see that often and just don't feel that connected to anymore because they have recently gotten into long-term relationships. That's kinda just how it turns out sometimes so maybe when you were young and very committed to Jimmy you sacrificed building some friendships that you could have done if you were independent. But I think the good thing is that once you've been together for so many years, it's not too late to branch out and make friends now! I think there's a point where people reach an equilibrium with their partner and they return to doing their own things because their partner has become such a constant in their life that they practically become "family" which you and Jimmy clearly have now! I used to always think I would never find one of those incredibly close friendships once I left high school, but it only took me just one semester exchange overseas to change my mind (I met people that I could basically spend every waking hour with every day and who I could tell ANYTHING to). So you might think that you won't find a friend like that but it's really never too late! You just gotta find someone who wants a friend like that too! I would say just put yourself out there into things that draw the kind of people you want to be friends with whether it's a class, a club, a side job, a volunteer opportunity, an internship, a place, anything and make sure it's an environment where people are there to make friends so you know for sure they will be receptive eg. I love travel so I joined my uni's travel committee and I'm already meeting some people I can see myself getting close to. I know it is super scary to put yourself out there but the more people you befriend, the more chance you have at finding people you don't just merely click with like maybe the friends you have now, but the kind of friends you completely and utterly mesh with.
I totally resonated with you on being uncomfortable with people having too much of me and this may not be something you want, but I've slowly realized that it comes from a place of not being very trusting and a fear of being hurt and that in order to foster those close relationships I do want, I have to be vulnerable and let people in
for the blowdryer, I would wait until ur hair dries a little more, when I use it I usually wait until my hair is slightly damp or even dry before is use it and I get a lot more volume. Hope this helps ;)
I relate so much about the best friend thing. I personally have lots of close friends I consider to be best friends but they usually have that one person who is their like core person. I also think it's harder to make friends now that I'm out of college.
This makes me feel so lucky to have a best friend to lean on, it’s not always bad to keep some parts of yourself exclusive to you it also goes hand in hand with your relationship with yourself 💜
11:00 Maybe it sounds like being vulnerable with others can be hard for you? Im like that too, one thing I notice is being open and to share my thoughts. But I learned to be ok sharing parts of myself bc thats me and, at the end of they day, no one can take that away from me. The other person can take it how ever they want to!
I really related the part about, "getting too close to people and needing to create space because they know things". I'm an ISTJ as well and I feel the same way! (ISTJ's are mostly male) Feels really nice to know there's someone else out there!
Same problem with friendship. I don't even know how people have other people so close. Either the problem is I am so into it at first and then it just not as good as it was at first and it kinda all drifts apart bc of me, or I feel neglected and ignored. I hope every one who has the same issue with friendship will find a friend/friends who is like a soulmate soon! And thank you Hana for another very cozy video.
i totally relate to what you were saying about having an inseparable best friend. i’ve never had someone like that either, and i think it’s because i prefer friendships where we’re not dependent on each other and have our own space.
loved this video hana!! it was so fun to watch + hear about how you’ve been doing 💛 totally get what you mean about the whole ‘best friends’ thing, I feel like it can be kind of scary opening up and ‘giving’ people parts of you but I hope it’s something you can work through + find these kind of friendships, if you want to and I’m sure when you do, they’ll understand and appreciate you for exactly who you are!! Even from being a viewer of your channel for the past couple years, you strike me as a very warm and kind person and someone I’m sure many people would love to be friends with. Keep doing you + living your best life in NYC 💛💛
Seeing you and Jimmy navigate long distance is so nice, you both are so sweet 💕 also I totally relate on the not having a really close friend group, I have a couple of close friends now but idk if I would say that we're 🤞 lol
I don’t normally comment on videos. but I just wanted to say I’ve been following you for awhile and I really resonate with everything you talk about with friendships. You’re so relatable and please always be you 💕✨ I feel like you are the ideal friend Id vibe with 🥺
What you talk about is always really interesting! I'm kinda the opposite with the friendship thing, I have a really close group of female friends but I struggle to get close romantically? Just the idea of like you said, sharing parts of myself with a person I was dating might mean they know super intimate things about me when we might someday be strangers? (Also great timing with the ad haha!)
Hi Hana! I totally get what you mean. It's difficult getting close to people and trusting them with both your good and bad side. But don't be too hard on yourself! Sometimes you just need to keep searching for the right people who make you feel comfortable enough to be your entire self with. :) You're such an amazing person already so don't worry! Love your content btw. 💕💕
haha yea i refuse to have arguments with people to try to solve any toxic relationships. i would rather use that time and energy to take care of my real friends 💙
This is so wholesome ❤️ and I love how Hana was so honest about her friendships, I honestly feel the same way and have been slowly learning to be open to close friends
When the lockdown was super strict in SA, my boyfriend and I started playing Uno on the app, which was equally beneficial and detrimental to our relationship 🤣 but you can use a voice chat to speak while you're playing. It's so addictive that we still play it even though we're together again 😄
Currently in an LDR too since Covid started and it’s been rough but my bf always finds ways to make me love him even more. We talk everyday and say how if we hadn’t been together for almost seven years now, we don’t know how we could have survived like we have now. I’m glad you and jimmy are able to work the LDR out and still find time to spend with each other♥️♥️ all the best for the both of you hehe
Aww so sweet 💖 Thanks Hana for always being so genuine and open. I feel like I’m kind of like you in some ways about friendships. I have my own core group of friends who I’m so open with and feel myself however, I’m a nurse and it goes without saying that I spend a lot of time (if not most of my time) with my coworkers at work. But I can never find myself opening up to them or finding my “work wife/husband” kind of friendship. I guess I don’t allow myself to truly be myself because I’m worried about them always taking parts of me that I don’t want taken, or out of fear that they won’t understand me.
I completely understand what you mean with the friends thing! It always comes from the point of view that the relationship won't work out :( It's like they're gonna use it against you. I'm hoping the next friend you make, makes you feel comfortable and trustable!!! your personality is lovable and i cant see why people would want to hurt you 😭 but side note: if you ever need a friend in NY/Queens let me knoooowwww!!! 🥰
I think I see what you mean about not being able to be completely yourself in friendships. For me it’s a trust issues thing that I’m working on in therapy tbh. And even if my friends and I have disagreements we don’t have full on shouting matches bc we have a mutual deep understanding bc I was willing to be vulnerable with them. It takes time and understanding that you don’t lose anything by being vulnerable tbh, you just gain a possibility for connection with a person. That’s my take on it I guess!
omg i can completely relate to how you feel about friendships.. i get sooo uncomfortable with conflict which prevents me from getting close with anyone except my boyfriend. ive always dreamed of having a really close friend group but whenever i start to get close to people, inevitably conflict/disagreements arise and then when that happens im like ahhhh panic gotta go and distance myself from them. i know conflict and resolution is really important to make relationships stronger but i havent figured out how to be comfortable with engaging in that with anyone except my family/boyfriend.
Here are some tips for the blowdryer brush! Wait until your hair is damp to use the brush because you're trying to style your hair, and that's kinda hard when it's wet. And when it's that wet, you have to brush through multiple times, and then that pulls down on your hair, so you get like ZERO volume. Also, the easiest way (personally) for me to get volume is I pull small sections near my part and brush under them to lift it away from my scalp. So like I curl under the section to give me volume. I hope this helps!!
Nice to see your long-distance relationship with Jimmy is going well! Could you make a video specifically on giving us advice on ways to make the most out of having a long-distance relationship? (hehe I am also doing long distance with my bf) Luv ya Hana
i have the exact same feeling about best friends (and its sooo cool to see that so many other ppl in the comments feel this way too)! idk if its also bc im living in nyc on my own and in my 20s, it feels like i'm always meeting new people but i can never really get close to any one person or a group of people... it really bums me out sometimes edit: also i freaking love rubys!!
Hana, I think that by you having that trait of not wanting to share too much of yourself with a “friend” has actually saved you from unnecessary petty fights, misunderstandings, and drama. But at the same time sharing some of yourself with a true person can also gain a friend for life. It’s just the luck of the draw in connecting with a true friend. In your case, it seems Jimmy is your best friend. I would say going forward, allow yourself to be open to making a true friend. I know you are a good judge of character so that won’t be hard. You don’t have to share your deepest secrets. 😊
The year I went on exchange in singapore I met a girl that I now consider one of my closest friends. I already had a tight group of friends back home, but when I met her we instantly clicked on another level. It was very natural and didn’t feel like I was getting too close because it was like we were destined to be friends. I never expected to because best friends with her, but I think if it’s the right friend you won’t have those feelings of hesitations etc. It’s also fine if you don’t have that super close group of friends too, not every friend group/person works the same. Hope you’re staying healthy and safe in NY 💕
omg this is a good idea! my boyfriend and i always just call (that's nice too, but.. ya hahaha) so a date like this is so cute!! also i so FREAKING relate to wanting like a close close bestie bc i've only ever really hung out with my boyfriend all throughout college, but even when i started trying i think i'm too serious and not really like the most like adventurous/fun type of person and i'm kinda like jimmy where i'm not the best at like keeping up with relationships/contacting people? idk sorry for the long ramble but i just really REALLY loved this video bc there's a lot of relatable aspects hehe
Most people in serious relationships don’t have a best friend because their significant other plays that role. Being on your own now will help you meet your tribe! Friendships are started by relying on someone and you will do that more now than you would have with jimmy where you are. When you meet “your here people” you won’t be uncomfortable at all, it’ll just come natural to you
I love this discussion. I feel the same, and sometimes I feel like I’m all alone and am the only one experiencing this. But I’m glad I’m not alone on this.. lots of love 💕
I completely agree with the best friend thing. I had a best friend like that but she ended our friendship in a really bad way. I’ve been trying to find that connection again but I’ve been feeling the same way about them knowing too much about me. Plus it’s already hard for me to meet new people. Anyways i really enjoy your cute long distance date. Wish you both the best😊
awww this was so damn adorable :') i'm in a LDR at the moment (I'm in Europe, he's in Australia) and we can't visit each other because of COVID, which has been making me feel really sad lately :( I kinda want to organize a virtual date now (cause we have time zones to worry about haha). thank you for putting a smile on my face Hana, you and Jimmy are the cutest
When you were talking about being scared to give people parts of you I seriously related. Probably the one person I wish I’d never met was my “best-friend” at university because I felt like I put so much into her that when the friendship ended up dissolving because of a disagreement I had a hard time accepting that I was never going to get that time and those moments shared back and they ultimately felt wasted 🥺🤔
Hi Hana! Truthfully, I struggled with the idealized friendship model that pervades popular media (think Serena and Blair from gossip girl, Meredith and Cristina from greys anatomy, etc.) I think it's unrealistic and often supports a codependent nature-- it's nice to think about having that one friend who is always around and you can always rely on. But realistically, people have their own lives and not only aren't constantly around, but they shouldn't be! Also, you should look up avoidant attachment types if you haven't already! I am also one, but it's been helpful in understanding why I get anxious when people get too close to me, and I think it might be for you too. anyway, love you! hope this helps!
Girl I totally feel you about having a best friend. I have a few close friends but it's not like a LETS DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER kinna deal. I've tried becoming close to others in the past and shared things in the hopes of growing closer but those relationships would always drift apart. So for years now especially this year I tend to myself. I no longer strive for close relationships and I keep basically everything to myself. I've also gotten to the point to where being "vulnerable" around someone terrifies me lol I don't mind it though. My introverted ass is thriving lol
I’m single but wow, that bit about people’s reply-game hits home. My guy friends tend to forget to tell me if they’ve got something to do so I’m just staring at my phone like ;-; About not having a best-best-friend I think some people have different social circles they’re comfortable with but sometimes it takes a bit of courage to form those friendships
I totally relate with you about having real close friendships as I have moved out of countries years ago now and had to re-start my life so to say. I always had the same issue where I am not able to open up to people quite easily and I also fear people knowing too much about me, knowing my weaknesses and using them against me. Aside from that I am a complete shy and introvert person. In other people's eyes I may seem easy going and able to talk to anyone but deep down is hard for me. I do hope to find one true friend in my lifetime. (Aside from my long term bf as he is my best friend too) Maybe as we grow and are able to let our shields down a bit, we would be able to find good friends. ^_^
i have the same problem of not being able to get too close to people ... i m 21 and i want to have at least one best friend but... here i m ... when i look too deep in me i just feel like it's my trust issues and fear of being hurt that just stop me at a certain level of friendship every time and i live in a small town so i don't have a lot of friends to explore ... i m hoping to move out and try new stuff and meet people so watching hana always inspire me to make that happen as soon as possible !
You’re an introvert Hana it’s not a bad thing. Like you said with Jimmy it’s ok to have friends especially when you aren’t in the same city who you can’t keep up with 247 but it’s nice to update people every now and then but you will get friends soon. Just get outside your comfort zone a little bit and there is nothing wrong with how you’re thinking about friends because I’m the same way but I will legit ghost friends because of my anxiousness. Hope all goes well
Yes hana i agree with the friend relationship cause i feel like i dont trust people yeah i agree cause i feel like we are the same i hope i find a good friend or a soulmate so i can make friendships
I feel exactly the same way about the best friend thing. I used to have a couple friends that were like that with me, but we’ve grown apart. I still want a relationship like that again 💕
Thelma and Louise I have an awesome best friend like that😊😊 it's like you never been apart even if you missed each other for a while and she's always got your back
I feel you I always have been in groups before but it's usually two of the girls end up fighting and I feel like I'm the middle man listening to their dramas so I get easily drained so I just keep my distance. I am blessed to have my 3 close cousins as my bestfrieds we've been bffs since we're kids and we still keep in touch even though we're far away but our friendship is one of a kind really even though we have misunderstandings we try to fix things and understand each other wouldn't wanna trade it for the world ♥️ so now I still wouldn't mind making friends but I don't pressure myself to have a best friend right here and there who's within reach cause I've been comfortable on my own plus my sister and my mom are also my bffs for life ♥️ just don't be hard on yourself, it's better to have 1 loyal bestfriend than have 10 or thousands of backstabbing ones
I think Hana is so interesting because we’re polar opposites; I loooove sharing parts of me, because even if we aren’t friends anymore, I still got to feel that kind of connection with someone and if they take a ‘part’ of me, I remind myself that I still have that part of me. And if we aren’t friends anymore I make sure to analyze any mistakes to make sure if I was a bad friend; if so, I try my best to fix any behaviors to become a better person. But I do feel really lonely, especially since I transferred from community college to university as this pandemic hit, so I find it really hard to make friends online. I just want friends man 😭 Also I don’t know why I ranted so long lol
I completely get what you mean it’s almost like they have something of yours you can never take back and that makes me feel iffy even tho it’s part of the journey etc I also always get that feeling especially when I watch sth with like a really close friendship and I go like huh why don’t I have that I my life etc
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About the best friends thing, I understand how you feel, and feel very similarly. I'm lucky to have someone I can confidently call a best friend, however our "best friendship" is not how these types of friendships are usually portrayed in media. What I mean is: yes, we are very close and often confide in each other things, and people see us as best friends of each other, however we have set up boundaries for ourselves. We have pretty similar personalities, and therefore we both realize that we do need our own space, and we do not need to share every single thing about ourselves if it is something we are uncomfortable sharing. As well, we don't really fight or have arguments!! I don't know why this is such a popular trope, I personally do not believe close bonds are always made closer by disagreements, or that you cannot get closer without fighting. My best friend and I have a mutual understanding of each others' feelings, and we never feel the need to fight over anything. We have been friends for about 4 years and haven't had any major disagreements, and are still in a very healthy and close friendship. To summarize this long comment, don't pressure yourself to find this one person that media always shows you you should have, a best friendship should feel comfortable to you and follow your own standard. Maintain boundaries and have mutual understanding without having to fight, this makes a healthy relationship of any kind! Much love to you Hana~~
the part when you were talking about best friends was so relatable T_T
girl you're whole talk about lacking close friends hit home for me, i feel you completely. i have my bf too but for some reason no matter how hard i try to get close to other people i pretty much get pushed away idk i never had any luck. i wish i had that kind of friendship many people have and it really bothered me in college but i'm just naturally an introverted loner anyways so i've kinda learned to accept it now
I had a really close friend for 20 years and then we drifted apart. It hurt, yes, but I find it comforting to think that there is someone who knows a past me really well and can remember her better than I probably can. She didn’t take any parts of me away, we shared them. And we shared parts of her as well.
Friendships become a lot less scary when you think of them in terms of what you’ll gain, not what you’ll lose.
This is so wholesome, love it♥️
You guys are honestly relationship goals. I admire how you communicate with each other and how you help each other grow as individuals, whilst also allowing yourselves to grow as two people in a relationship (if that makes sense) 😅
I understand COMPLETELY what you mean about the best friend thing. I am 25 and always feel a little bit sad about not having a best friend or a group of best friends sometimes. I feel like I’m missing out or will feel regret and not be able to make any close friends the older i get. In my case I’ve tried multiple times to make best friends with people i thought were great to be around but always ended up being the one to give too much or myself. I always felt like it was maybe me or something I’m doing wrong for me to not be able to make close friendships. But it feels exactly like what you said earlier in term of giving pieces of yourself to someone that you can’t get back. I would always feel so empty after sharing so much with someone only for them to ghost me or use me when they felt like it. I think it’s definitely something a lot of us go through especially at this age. I’ve honestly learned through that to love myself and enjoy my own company. Though it might always seem more fun to be in someone else’s company, doing things on your own really makes you feel a lot stronger on your own and less dependent. With that being said i do hope i can meet a friend one day that i can just vibe with.
Didn’t mean to write a whole book there lol
I literally went “Awww” when Hana is talking about Jimmy 💕💕
Hey Hana! About the 'best friend' thingy, I experience that as well! Observing people around me having a friendship like that makes me a lil insecure but I feel the same way about the 'knowing me too much'. Hahaha I guess I totally feel the same way as you haha
the good vibes in this video tho 🌷 much needed after the stress from online school
olivia j. I know right, so therapeutic 😌✨
You are one of the few youtubers that look gorgeous without any makeup!
I'm not finished it yet but this video is already so cute!! 🥺
i relate to you so much hana on the part about best friends. i don't have a best friend but i want one but i have the same feelings you feel. i really thought i was the only one who feels that way.
wholesome and sweet :) having gone through ldr in my past, i think one thing that yall are doing so well is being able to be honest when it comes to having needs be met. It's easy to be hesitant with a partner to say like "hey i wish you would text more." that was a struggle i had in my past relationship, to be open about my needs and to hope that there would be some kind of understanding! really beautiful to see yall come together in such openness :)
Being by yourself, you don’t have an immediate other opinion. You make whole-hearted decisions. Or you’re comfortable where you were and didn’t want to make changes. I experience this as well.
the fact that you were with Jimmy pretty young might have something to do with not having super close knit friends. This is COMPLETELY just speculation but idk man maybe I'm just cynical but relationships (no matter how healthy and great) almost ALWAYS end up with some kind of drifting from friends, even just a tiiiny bit. The fact is, people will prioritise love over almost anything and that's just how it is. Even my friends that I used to be super close to, I don't see that often and just don't feel that connected to anymore because they have recently gotten into long-term relationships. That's kinda just how it turns out sometimes so maybe when you were young and very committed to Jimmy you sacrificed building some friendships that you could have done if you were independent. But I think the good thing is that once you've been together for so many years, it's not too late to branch out and make friends now! I think there's a point where people reach an equilibrium with their partner and they return to doing their own things because their partner has become such a constant in their life that they practically become "family" which you and Jimmy clearly have now! I used to always think I would never find one of those incredibly close friendships once I left high school, but it only took me just one semester exchange overseas to change my mind (I met people that I could basically spend every waking hour with every day and who I could tell ANYTHING to). So you might think that you won't find a friend like that but it's really never too late! You just gotta find someone who wants a friend like that too! I would say just put yourself out there into things that draw the kind of people you want to be friends with whether it's a class, a club, a side job, a volunteer opportunity, an internship, a place, anything and make sure it's an environment where people are there to make friends so you know for sure they will be receptive eg. I love travel so I joined my uni's travel committee and I'm already meeting some people I can see myself getting close to. I know it is super scary to put yourself out there but the more people you befriend, the more chance you have at finding people you don't just merely click with like maybe the friends you have now, but the kind of friends you completely and utterly mesh with.
I totally resonated with you on being uncomfortable with people having too much of me and this may not be something you want, but I've slowly realized that it comes from a place of not being very trusting and a fear of being hurt and that in order to foster those close relationships I do want, I have to be vulnerable and let people in
for the blowdryer, I would wait until ur hair dries a little more, when I use it I usually wait until my hair is slightly damp or even dry before is use it and I get a lot more volume. Hope this helps ;)
I relate so much about the best friend thing. I personally have lots of close friends I consider to be best friends but they usually have that one person who is their like core person. I also think it's harder to make friends now that I'm out of college.
seeing you smile as you opened up your surprise good made me so 🥰🥰 ty for a wonderful video !!
Such a creative way to long distance. Definitely gonna remember this.
This makes me feel so lucky to have a best friend to lean on, it’s not always bad to keep some parts of yourself exclusive to you it also goes hand in hand with your relationship with yourself 💜
11:00 Maybe it sounds like being vulnerable with others can be hard for you? Im like that too, one thing I notice is being open and to share my thoughts. But I learned to be ok sharing parts of myself bc thats me and, at the end of they day, no one can take that away from me. The other person can take it how ever they want to!
hana’s vlog seems like she’s facetiming us i swear 😂🥰
I really related the part about, "getting too close to people and needing to create space because they know things". I'm an ISTJ as well and I feel the same way! (ISTJ's are mostly male) Feels really nice to know there's someone else out there!
Same problem with friendship. I don't even know how people have other people so close. Either the problem is I am so into it at first and then it just not as good as it was at first and it kinda all drifts apart bc of me, or I feel neglected and ignored.
I hope every one who has the same issue with friendship will find a friend/friends who is like a soulmate soon!
And thank you Hana for another very cozy video.
i totally relate to what you were saying about having an inseparable best friend. i’ve never had someone like that either, and i think it’s because i prefer friendships where we’re not dependent on each other and have our own space.
loved this video hana!! it was so fun to watch + hear about how you’ve been doing 💛 totally get what you mean about the whole ‘best friends’ thing, I feel like it can be kind of scary opening up and ‘giving’ people parts of you but I hope it’s something you can work through + find these kind of friendships, if you want to and I’m sure when you do, they’ll understand and appreciate you for exactly who you are!! Even from being a viewer of your channel for the past couple years, you strike me as a very warm and kind person and someone I’m sure many people would love to be friends with. Keep doing you + living your best life in NYC 💛💛
Seeing you and Jimmy navigate long distance is so nice, you both are so sweet 💕 also I totally relate on the not having a really close friend group, I have a couple of close friends now but idk if I would say that we're 🤞 lol
i love ruby's!! jimmy got you my favourite things to get there hahaha the hotcakes and shrimp pasta!
Your hair looks soooo healthy and beautiful! ☺️❤️
I don’t normally comment on videos. but I just wanted to say I’ve been following you for awhile and I really resonate with everything you talk about with friendships. You’re so relatable and please always be you 💕✨ I feel like you are the ideal friend Id vibe with 🥺
What you talk about is always really interesting! I'm kinda the opposite with the friendship thing, I have a really close group of female friends but I struggle to get close romantically? Just the idea of like you said, sharing parts of myself with a person I was dating might mean they know super intimate things about me when we might someday be strangers? (Also great timing with the ad haha!)
Hi Hana! I totally get what you mean. It's difficult getting close to people and trusting them with both your good and bad side. But don't be too hard on yourself! Sometimes you just need to keep searching for the right people who make you feel comfortable enough to be your entire self with. :) You're such an amazing person already so don't worry! Love your content btw. 💕💕
I watch your videos and i feel so much better about myself. Youre so nice and genuine ❤😩
Baby Mochi this makes me so so so happy 🥺🥺🥺
haha yea i refuse to have arguments with people to try to solve any toxic relationships. i would rather use that time and energy to take care of my real friends 💙
This is so wholesome ❤️ and I love how Hana was so honest about her friendships, I honestly feel the same way and have been slowly learning to be open to close friends
When the lockdown was super strict in SA, my boyfriend and I started playing Uno on the app, which was equally beneficial and detrimental to our relationship 🤣 but you can use a voice chat to speak while you're playing.
It's so addictive that we still play it even though we're together again 😄
Currently in an LDR too since Covid started and it’s been rough but my bf always finds ways to make me love him even more. We talk everyday and say how if we hadn’t been together for almost seven years now, we don’t know how we could have survived like we have now. I’m glad you and jimmy are able to work the LDR out and still find time to spend with each other♥️♥️ all the best for the both of you hehe
Aww so sweet 💖 Thanks Hana for always being so genuine and open. I feel like I’m kind of like you in some ways about friendships. I have my own core group of friends who I’m so open with and feel myself however, I’m a nurse and it goes without saying that I spend a lot of time (if not most of my time) with my coworkers at work. But I can never find myself opening up to them or finding my “work wife/husband” kind of friendship. I guess I don’t allow myself to truly be myself because I’m worried about them always taking parts of me that I don’t want taken, or out of fear that they won’t understand me.
I loveeeee the revlon hair styler! There is a bit of a learning curve, but after watching a few videos i got the hang of it!
This is so cuteeee! LDR goals ❤️
Louise Dayola 🤣
Yesssss✨✨ I'm cryingggg😭😭❤️❤️
I really missed watching Jimmy 😭 now Im feeling refreshed after watching this video. Lots of love from India.
The 'Im clingy but will also fade away' talk is so relatable
everytime u upload i get an instant mood boost. you're just so down to earth and adorable 🥰
I completely understand what you mean with the friends thing! It always comes from the point of view that the relationship won't work out :( It's like they're gonna use it against you. I'm hoping the next friend you make, makes you feel comfortable and trustable!!!
your personality is lovable and i cant see why people would want to hurt you 😭
but side note: if you ever need a friend in NY/Queens let me knoooowwww!!! 🥰
I think I see what you mean about not being able to be completely yourself in friendships. For me it’s a trust issues thing that I’m working on in therapy tbh. And even if my friends and I have disagreements we don’t have full on shouting matches bc we have a mutual deep understanding bc I was willing to be vulnerable with them. It takes time and understanding that you don’t lose anything by being vulnerable tbh, you just gain a possibility for connection with a person. That’s my take on it I guess!
yall are literally so cute and i hope both of you are doing okay and stay safe!
omg i can completely relate to how you feel about friendships.. i get sooo uncomfortable with conflict which prevents me from getting close with anyone except my boyfriend. ive always dreamed of having a really close friend group but whenever i start to get close to people, inevitably conflict/disagreements arise and then when that happens im like ahhhh panic gotta go and distance myself from them. i know conflict and resolution is really important to make relationships stronger but i havent figured out how to be comfortable with engaging in that with anyone except my family/boyfriend.
I love you Hana^^ the way that you talk, so relatable~
Here are some tips for the blowdryer brush! Wait until your hair is damp to use the brush because you're trying to style your hair, and that's kinda hard when it's wet. And when it's that wet, you have to brush through multiple times, and then that pulls down on your hair, so you get like ZERO volume. Also, the easiest way (personally) for me to get volume is I pull small sections near my part and brush under them to lift it away from my scalp. So like I curl under the section to give me volume. I hope this helps!!
Nice to see your long-distance relationship with Jimmy is going well! Could you make a video specifically on giving us advice on ways to make the most out of having a long-distance relationship? (hehe I am also doing long distance with my bf) Luv ya Hana
i have the exact same feeling about best friends (and its sooo cool to see that so many other ppl in the comments feel this way too)! idk if its also bc im living in nyc on my own and in my 20s, it feels like i'm always meeting new people but i can never really get close to any one person or a group of people... it really bums me out sometimes
edit: also i freaking love rubys!!
super cute vlog 🥰 i relate to the friendships part very heavily haha, sending u luv🧡🤗
Hana, I think that by you having that trait of not wanting to share too much of yourself with a “friend” has actually saved you from unnecessary petty fights, misunderstandings, and drama. But at the same time sharing some of yourself with a true person can also gain a friend for life. It’s just the luck of the draw in connecting with a true friend.
In your case, it seems Jimmy is your best friend. I would say going forward, allow yourself to be open to making a true friend. I know you are a good judge of character so that won’t be hard. You don’t have to share your deepest secrets. 😊
Jimmy still doing cute things for you from afar 😭😭 you two are so cute. ❤
The year I went on exchange in singapore I met a girl that I now consider one of my closest friends. I already had a tight group of friends back home, but when I met her we instantly clicked on another level. It was very natural and didn’t feel like I was getting too close because it was like we were destined to be friends. I never expected to because best friends with her, but I think if it’s the right friend you won’t have those feelings of hesitations etc. It’s also fine if you don’t have that super close group of friends too, not every friend group/person works the same. Hope you’re staying healthy and safe in NY 💕
omg this is a good idea! my boyfriend and i always just call (that's nice too, but.. ya hahaha) so a date like this is so cute!! also i so FREAKING relate to wanting like a close close bestie bc i've only ever really hung out with my boyfriend all throughout college, but even when i started trying i think i'm too serious and not really like the most like adventurous/fun type of person and i'm kinda like jimmy where i'm not the best at like keeping up with relationships/contacting people? idk sorry for the long ramble but i just really REALLY loved this video bc there's a lot of relatable aspects hehe
awww I love your videos so much, so nice to see you thriving in nyc!!!!!
Most people in serious relationships don’t have a best friend because their significant other plays that role. Being on your own now will help you meet your tribe! Friendships are started by relying on someone and you will do that more now than you would have with jimmy where you are. When you meet “your here people” you won’t be uncomfortable at all, it’ll just come natural to you
I love this discussion. I feel the same, and sometimes I feel like I’m all alone and am the only one experiencing this. But I’m glad I’m not alone on this.. lots of love 💕
I completely agree with the best friend thing. I had a best friend like that but she ended our friendship in a really bad way. I’ve been trying to find that connection again but I’ve been feeling the same way about them knowing too much about me. Plus it’s already hard for me to meet new people. Anyways i really enjoy your cute long distance date. Wish you both the best😊
This is so heartwarming to watch! My best friend and I will be long distance in a few months so this is a nice idea 💡
awww this is so cute!! LDR are so so hard!
AWW YAYYY I MISSED UR GET READY WITH ME VIDEOSSS😆😆🥰🥰
You put words to my thoughts about best friends
I relate so much 2 the friends part like I don’t fight with ppl lmaoo i just don’t and I don’t let myself get close bc I don’t wanna get hurt 💔🤝
awww this was so damn adorable :') i'm in a LDR at the moment (I'm in Europe, he's in Australia) and we can't visit each other because of COVID, which has been making me feel really sad lately :( I kinda want to organize a virtual date now (cause we have time zones to worry about haha). thank you for putting a smile on my face Hana, you and Jimmy are the cutest
this was so cute, I want to do this with friends i haven't seen in a long time, especially for their birthdays- like order them food or something hehe
When you were talking about being scared to give people parts of you I seriously related. Probably the one person I wish I’d never met was my “best-friend” at university because I felt like I put so much into her that when the friendship ended up dissolving because of a disagreement I had a hard time accepting that I was never going to get that time and those moments shared back and they ultimately felt wasted 🥺🤔
Hi Hana! Truthfully, I struggled with the idealized friendship model that pervades popular media (think Serena and Blair from gossip girl, Meredith and Cristina from greys anatomy, etc.) I think it's unrealistic and often supports a codependent nature-- it's nice to think about having that one friend who is always around and you can always rely on. But realistically, people have their own lives and not only aren't constantly around, but they shouldn't be! Also, you should look up avoidant attachment types if you haven't already! I am also one, but it's been helpful in understanding why I get anxious when people get too close to me, and I think it might be for you too. anyway, love you! hope this helps!
Girl I totally feel you about having a best friend. I have a few close friends but it's not like a LETS DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER kinna deal. I've tried becoming close to others in the past and shared things in the hopes of growing closer but those relationships would always drift apart. So for years now especially this year I tend to myself. I no longer strive for close relationships and I keep basically everything to myself. I've also gotten to the point to where being "vulnerable" around someone terrifies me lol I don't mind it though. My introverted ass is thriving lol
I was hoping y’all were still together 🤗. Such a cute couple long distance is not easy but Im glad to see that y’all are giving it a shot 😊
Omg i know how you feel about the friend thing. I've never been able to put it into words but you did
I relate to you so much!! I feel like we’re the same person ❤️
Awww :,) tell jimmy we hope he’s doing ok back home
love you so much hana keep doing you!!!!!! you are an INSPIRATION!!!!!!! pls give pepper a kiss for us
Hi Hana! I would recommend playing Stardew Valley with Jimmy! I would play it with my boyfriend when we were in a LDR :) I love your videos btw!
I’m single but wow, that bit about people’s reply-game hits home. My guy friends tend to forget to tell me if they’ve got something to do so I’m just staring at my phone like ;-;
About not having a best-best-friend I think some people have different social circles they’re comfortable with but sometimes it takes a bit of courage to form those friendships
you should try Netflix Party!! it's an extension on google chrome for people to watch Netflix shows at the same time :)
Whos cutting onions!! this is so cute i cant😭😭😭😍
I totally relate with you about having real close friendships as I have moved out of countries years ago now and had to re-start my life so to say. I always had the same issue where I am not able to open up to people quite easily and I also fear people knowing too much about me, knowing my weaknesses and using them against me. Aside from that I am a complete shy and introvert person. In other people's eyes I may seem easy going and able to talk to anyone but deep down is hard for me. I do hope to find one true friend in my lifetime. (Aside from my long term bf as he is my best friend too)
Maybe as we grow and are able to let our shields down a bit, we would be able to find good friends. ^_^
i have the same problem of not being able to get too close to people ... i m 21 and i want to have at least one best friend but... here i m ... when i look too deep in me i just feel like it's my trust issues and fear of being hurt that just stop me at a certain level of friendship every time and i live in a small town so i don't have a lot of friends to explore ... i m hoping to move out and try new stuff and meet people so watching hana always inspire me to make that happen as soon as possible !
"blank of honor groom's best guy" was my personal highlight of the video, although the date was super cute. :)
You’re an introvert Hana it’s not a bad thing. Like you said with Jimmy it’s ok to have friends especially when you aren’t in the same city who you can’t keep up with 247 but it’s nice to update people every now and then but you will get friends soon. Just get outside your comfort zone a little bit and there is nothing wrong with how you’re thinking about friends because I’m the same way but I will legit ghost friends because of my anxiousness. Hope all goes well
Ooohhh are you eating the turtle chips?!? So yums. Hana, I am the same way as you with friendships... i thought I was the only one 😞
Yes hana i agree with the friend relationship cause i feel like i dont trust people yeah i agree cause i feel like we are the same i hope i find a good friend or a soulmate so i can make friendships
You guys are goals 🥰
This is the cutest thing I can’t 🥺🥺🥺
they are SO CUTE together
this video was so cute 🥺🥺🥺
I feel exactly the same way about the best friend thing. I used to have a couple friends that were like that with me, but we’ve grown apart. I still want a relationship like that again 💕
so pretty!
TEENAH thank you!!!
Thelma and Louise I have an awesome best friend like that😊😊 it's like you never been apart even if you missed each other for a while and she's always got your back
I feel you I always have been in groups before but it's usually two of the girls end up fighting and I feel like I'm the middle man listening to their dramas so I get easily drained so I just keep my distance. I am blessed to have my 3 close cousins as my bestfrieds we've been bffs since we're kids and we still keep in touch even though we're far away but our friendship is one of a kind really even though we have misunderstandings we try to fix things and understand each other wouldn't wanna trade it for the world ♥️ so now I still wouldn't mind making friends but I don't pressure myself to have a best friend right here and there who's within reach cause I've been comfortable on my own plus my sister and my mom are also my bffs for life ♥️ just don't be hard on yourself, it's better to have 1 loyal bestfriend than have 10 or thousands of backstabbing ones
You're videos are great!! Keep doing it, love uuuuuu🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I think Hana is so interesting because we’re polar opposites; I loooove sharing parts of me, because even if we aren’t friends anymore, I still got to feel that kind of connection with someone and if they take a ‘part’ of me, I remind myself that I still have that part of me. And if we aren’t friends anymore I make sure to analyze any mistakes to make sure if I was a bad friend; if so, I try my best to fix any behaviors to become a better person.
But I do feel really lonely, especially since I transferred from community college to university as this pandemic hit, so I find it really hard to make friends online. I just want friends man 😭
Also I don’t know why I ranted so long lol
I completely get what you mean it’s almost like they have something of yours you can never take back and that makes me feel iffy even tho it’s part of the journey etc
I also always get that feeling especially when I watch sth with like a really close friendship and I go like huh why don’t I have that I my life etc
Thank you for posting videos that really helps to lift my mood😍
Vela rina thank you for watching 🥺🥰
hana, be careful while using the revlon hair product! ive seen numerous people say that it caused their hair to fall out and their hair to become much more thinner so just be careful of how frequently you use it :))) love youu
About the best friends thing, I understand how you feel, and feel very similarly. I'm lucky to have someone I can confidently call a best friend, however our "best friendship" is not how these types of friendships are usually portrayed in media. What I mean is: yes, we are very close and often confide in each other things, and people see us as best friends of each other, however we have set up boundaries for ourselves. We have pretty similar personalities, and therefore we both realize that we do need our own space, and we do not need to share every single thing about ourselves if it is something we are uncomfortable sharing. As well, we don't really fight or have arguments!! I don't know why this is such a popular trope, I personally do not believe close bonds are always made closer by disagreements, or that you cannot get closer without fighting. My best friend and I have a mutual understanding of each others' feelings, and we never feel the need to fight over anything. We have been friends for about 4 years and haven't had any major disagreements, and are still in a very healthy and close friendship. To summarize this long comment, don't pressure yourself to find this one person that media always shows you you should have, a best friendship should feel comfortable to you and follow your own standard. Maintain boundaries and have mutual understanding without having to fight, this makes a healthy relationship of any kind! Much love to you Hana~~
Awww you guys 🥰🥰🥰
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