Sally-Your message to young people is so important: "It's okay to tell a teacher or police officer if you are being abused". P.S. Your living room is beautiful.
Wow I can relate to Sally in so many ways. My childhood was ruined to because of this religion. I had to learn to stop seeking my mother’s love and acceptance too. I’m in my healing stage right now. Thank you Vevian and Sally for this video.
My ex jw husband was a paedophilia and he never got disfellowshipped but I left him, took my kids, against the elders wishes and I divorced him as soon as I found out
You are a courageous mom . God bless you for protecting the little ones. Jesus said if anyone hurts a child , it's better for that person to put a millstone around his neck and jump in the sea . It is appointed unto man to die ,but after this the judgement . He will answer for that rest assured.
that is usually how it goes as this group is related to certain well known beliefs that allow such behaviours. check where and from whom they got their rules from
OMG thank you both…..I woke up about 10 years ago when I found out my dads best friend was a pedophile….I was so devastated that this went on in the organization….I can’t believe how the elders say Jehovah will take care of it….such BS…..plus the two witness rule…..so stupid I was a PIMO for a few years but I’ve been done for a while now…..I love how she was tough enough to stand up….good for you 👍🙏
Such a beautiful story, though painful.. I too have had to stop seeking my mothers love and acceptance. The freedom that one experiences after your able to do that is wonderful. I’m so grateful that you shared this.. thank you!
My ex-wife was abused by her step father. Appointed by "holy spirit" while he was abusing her. He was given a "hero's sendoff" while the CO that committed suicide wasn't given a funeral even though he was the meekest person I ever met. The nasty backstabbing pedo was given like a said a "well done". The poor woman finally told her mother on her death bed. How awful that sweet woman had to hear this in her final moments. I had a horrific childhood also but when I married my ex-wife I have to say what I saw in their family was shocking. I'm embarrassed to say I defended these religious hillbillies.
Thank you Vevian and Sally for your heartbreaking story of an abused childhood , that although Sally you might not have been physically traumatized by your stepfather , but the mental anguish in knowing that your other siblings were abused and not being able to stop this criminal , must have had a lasting effect of fear that any child shouldn't have had to go through . The definition of the word " BRAVERY" that is the [ Courageous Behavior Or Character ] certainly fits you both , and I applaud your resolve to expose this criminal act against innocent children . Good luck with your book Sally , and may God Bless You Both . I am surprised that your Biological father did not take the opportunity to have a man to man understanding with your stepfather with a bat . But I digress .
Thank you so much. And to clarify, there was physical abuse as well. My stepfather once kicked our cat down the stairs. My mom slapped my sister so hard one time, my sister broke a tooth. We learned real quick to be quiet when my stepfather was home. He was a ticking time bomb. We never knew when he would explode. But, for the sake of this youtube interview and the topic of my book, I didn't delve into all of the abuse.
So sorry that all happened to you 💛 Thanks for sharing and exposing what goes on is just sad 😢 I have a mirror life to you, I’m the Mum who left and my 3 kids in don’t talk to me. I’m in an amazing place now still on the healing path and learning who I am. I’m the Mum in a mobile home but having a blast broke and travelling. I’ve been working on children’s books that will help kids to use critical thinking and much more. I’m an artist and just started on my writing. Just found your channel. Thanks Vevian for sharing these stories I watch so many ExJW utubes you all feel like family 😘💗💕
I'm soooo sorry for what your sister and you and countless others were subjected to! It makes me sick to my stomach of this wicked Cult....my father has been an Elder practically my whole life...and I knooooow so many incidents for a fact that this has happened to. I asked my dad about the fact that they don't report accusation to the police...he said out his mouth that..because some may be falsely accused they investigate it themselves and pther cases thry do go to the police!!! I went off...I told him its not their jobs to decide who's guilty or not..Elders are noooobodies!! Thats the professionals jobs!!
You are so right. The whole two witness rule is based upon the possibility of false accusations being made. I brought this up with a Sister who was a teacher, and even she admitted, that if a child comes to them telling them they're being abused - they must report the incident to the police or they'd be fired. I asked her then why it wasn't the same at the Kingdom Hall. WHy did a child or wife need two witnesses? Why did the Elders not have to report the crime. And trust me I used words that were very graphic to get my point across as to what pedophiles do. I didn't sugar coat it. She looked very confused while answering my questions, like she was trying to connect the dots.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter EXAAACTLY......I never believed in Spells or Braunwashed....until I woke up!! It's like (me included before I woke up) major disconnect.....can't see how it's the same etc.....smh
@@unleashyourinnerwriterin some countries and districts religious ppl are required by law to report, which they should! The bible says obey the law!! Why is it pick and choose scriptures with JW? Oh yeah jaracz..... sick - ppl blow themselves up for allah, jw protect and accommodate pedophiles 🤢🤢🤢
Something I would like to ask JW women is: How old were you when you realized you could be raped? I know I was very young. I also came to realize when they said that you had to scream, or it means you want it, that no one was going to come to my rescue. And that they had so little respect for me & women in general, that my only recourse was to scream. That knowledge empowered me to arm myself with anything that came to hand & to make myself stronger. Mentally & physically. Thanks Sally for being so brave.
I would say age 8 or 9. We were given the story of Dinah and told what happened to her for disobeying Jehovah. Message given - a woman who is a raped, it’s her fault.
The sorry thing is Heather that even as young children , we were taught that we could trust any of the witnesses because there would come a time where our very lives could be at stake during the Great Tribulation . So we learned and believed that no witness that was called a loving brother or sister would or could do any harm to ourselves or others . There was NO Stranger Danger policy education taught......so why would a young child feel the need to scream if that loving brother or sister touched one inappropriately . There must be a reason based in loving concern for such an act by a fellow believer . Yes the fools at WT taught us that , and we as fools believed it . God Bless You Heather .
Thsnk you for your story. I too was molested at 12 by an elder in our congregation. At about 22 years old, i finally got the courage to tell another elder. Guess what... I was told not to say anything else. Don't bring reproach on Jehovah's name. Disgusting! Am now shunned by my mom and sister. Yet, love my life, my husband and children.
Thank you for putting this production together Vevian and for sharing Sally, I can appreciate how emotionally draining relating your experience would have been. From my perspective it has been very much appreciated.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter you are welcome Sally. It is very brave to finally build up the courage and go public to assist others who otherwise may not relate, or need a source of inspiration to put their account out there. Sorry to hear all you went through.
Thank you for sharing your story Sally. I'm sorry you and your sister went through all that trauma. Thank you Vevian for yet another great interview and for sharing her story with us.
It's so sad that so many young innocent people come from such messed up families. I can relate, and sympathize. Parents who claim to love God, but don't know the basics of God's word. So very sad.
When I was a child I found the people at the kingdom hall welcoming and kind and there were many who helped my mother at the time. We had many invites and parties that weren't birthday parties where we played party games like pass the parcel etc.
Julie, this is called love bombing. These some loving, kind people who help - just as quickly will turn their back on you. My mother who served other people in the congregation for over 50 years. Is now living in poverty. Her congregation does not help her. Also, the hand of help and love, does not extend beyond Jehovah's Witnesses - they only help themselves.
It is a man's world there are no women on the G B no women elder none in judicial committee our purpose is to clean the hall and go out in the ministry and shut the hell up
That is sick!! But lots of men do this JW or not. But women or wives must tell and protect children. So sad the things happen in the JW and out of it the WT society. I had a girlfriend years ago her Dad did this and her mom put his butt in jail!!! That is what a real mother does..protect your children. Poor lady well glad she is out .Also glad she wrote a book telling about that cult full of liars.
had my childhood ruined starting age 8 or 9 ...just hell..my mother brought the religion in to the house because a good looking man came to door who told her god had a name & she could live forever...of course lost all extended family from very large families as they were worldly - such destruction that religion causes long term still
I'm surprised that he got away with so much. My father wasn't a JW and his behaviour was inappropriate on a few occasions but my mother was not too bad during our childhood and took us to meetings regularly. My father worked hard but sometimes had a bad time at work and he got on better with my brother rather than his daughters. He had a few Victorian ways but had a more pleasant side at times and my mother handled some things dreadfully. My mother had 3 breakdowns after child birth but had help from ones in the congregation at a later date. My mother unfortunately became very unpleasant at some stages in her life and could be passive aggressive and she ruled by her moods and no doubt had some depression. but there was a complete power imbalance in our home. She spoke very quietly a lot of the time but her own inadequacies were projected onto others and she chose favourites where some were excessively praised and others were overdisciplined and not allowed to state their point of view or case and those that were overly praised were allowed fully to express themselves when it suited. Being a witness you were taught to honour your father and mother. She didn't start that type of behaviour until we became teenagers and we had some good times during our growing up years but fortunately I had some decent friends when she was behaving that way. I was also close to my nan and grandad. and a few others. Now I remember that in my 35 years as a witness there were 2 cases that I know of where JW fathers abused their daughter/ the other one his step daughters. The marriage split up with the one and he remained a witness. I don't know what happened to the other one as I didn't know them well and he might have been disfelliowshipped at one stage but he was a witness just before he died of cancer.
I had a very interesting family gathering. My JW siblings, commented that WE - the non-JW family had cut them off due to their religion. Let's just say, those of who aren't JW's cleared this up quickly. As, we've always remained in contact, send texts, cards and attempt phone calls. Just shows, how the mindset it in the cult. All in all it was good, we had some tears and deep emotions. What it came down to, was we all were just trying to survive.
I ask myself this a lot. But then, I realize my mother is not a good mother. She has something wrong with her - not sure what it is. But to this day, she denies she did anything wrong, which makes it worse.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter don’t let this bad experience define you. You sound like a strong person. It’s all very satanic this abuse and it’s Satan’s control. Keep strong and move on from it. Xxx
It is ironic that every interview I watch mentions that they, not the congregation, had to care for their parents in need. They shun you until they need you.
I hate how by default they always say leave it in Jehovahs hands. That’s their answer for everything! I was told the same thing! Why are there “shepherds”???? Sadly sooo many JW moms are delusional like that. It becomes a coping mechanism. The elders no doubt told her to go home and be a good wife. It’s so sad.
A dreadful story. The elders have no jurisdiction over an unbeliever married to a witness if they commit any wrong as more than likely a few have experienced. I know of one person who was a JW whose wife left him because he was abusing her daughters
The Elders should have NO juristiction over anyone. They are meant to lead the church (if you use the biblical term correctly). No one who is being abused should go to an Elder for guidance - that is NEVER the answer.
Its crazy ,but not victims or children ben molested just one of them upright jws carrying a bible kind of fella that does door to door and puts lots of hours but not us victims
Why "assume" he was victimizing boys also...Do you have proof? Your story is horrific enough without adding an assumption. That causes me to question... Also you don't know your nieces/nephews, but "know" they are great people etc...how can you know that without knowing them?
Why would you assume he is only sexually assaulting girls and young women? That is naive. It's also naive to think only men are sexual predators. And, along the same lines of my mother saying her husband never molested his own daughters, because they were his children. She had her eyes shut to the whole situation. As far as my niece and nephew, who are not Jehovah's Witnesses and never were, I know them very well. They are kind-hearted, generous, and well-educated. So I am not sure where you're going with your comments. 🤔
Thanks so much for interviewing me and letting me share my story. I hope it helps one person get past the hurdles of leaving. 😀
Sally-Your message to young people is so important: "It's okay to tell a teacher or police officer if you are being abused". P.S. Your living room is beautiful.
Thanks so much. I wish that was my living room - it's a green screen. Dreams!
Wow I can relate to Sally in so many ways. My childhood was ruined to because of this religion. I had to learn to stop seeking my mother’s love and acceptance too. I’m in my healing stage right now. Thank you Vevian and Sally for this video.
Thank you for watching
“Leave in it Jehovah’s hands” is the worst advice I’ve ever heard. Terrible excuse not to report it!
Exactly
that is usually what they do
What an amazing and beautiful lady! Thank you!❤
Awe thanks Dawn! 😊
My ex jw husband was a paedophilia and he never got disfellowshipped but I left him, took my kids, against the elders wishes and I divorced him as soon as I found out
You are a courageous mom . God bless you for protecting the little ones. Jesus said if anyone hurts a child , it's better for that person to put a millstone around his neck and jump in the sea . It is appointed unto man to die ,but after this the judgement . He will answer for that rest assured.
that is usually how it goes as this group is related to certain well known beliefs that allow such behaviours. check where and from whom they got their rules from
OMG thank you both…..I woke up about 10 years ago when I found out my dads best friend was a pedophile….I was so devastated that this went on in the organization….I can’t believe how the elders say Jehovah will take care of it….such BS…..plus the two witness rule…..so stupid I was a PIMO for a few years but I’ve been done for a while now…..I love how she was tough enough to stand up….good for you 👍🙏
Thank you for watching 💛
Another great video, well done!
Great interview! 🦋
Such a beautiful story, though painful.. I too have had to stop seeking my mothers love and acceptance. The freedom that one experiences after your able to do that is wonderful. I’m so grateful that you shared this.. thank you!
My ex-wife was abused by her step father. Appointed by "holy spirit" while he was abusing her. He was given a "hero's sendoff" while the CO that committed suicide wasn't given a funeral even though he was the meekest person I ever met. The nasty backstabbing pedo was given like a said a "well done". The poor woman finally told her mother on her death bed. How awful that sweet woman had to hear this in her final moments. I had a horrific childhood also but when I married my ex-wife I have to say what I saw in their family was shocking. I'm embarrassed to say I defended these religious hillbillies.
that shows how this organisation isn't approved at all by the creator's of the universe
Hillbillies is correct. Lay ppl saying and doing lay ppl things
Thank you Vevian and Sally for your heartbreaking story of an abused childhood , that although Sally you might not have been physically traumatized by your stepfather , but the mental anguish in knowing that your other siblings were abused and not being able to stop this criminal , must have had a lasting effect of fear that any child shouldn't have had to go through . The definition of the word " BRAVERY" that is the [ Courageous Behavior Or Character ] certainly fits you both , and I applaud your resolve to expose this criminal act against innocent children . Good luck with your book Sally , and may God Bless You Both . I am surprised that your Biological father did not take the opportunity to have a man to man understanding with your stepfather with a bat . But I digress .
Thank you so much. And to clarify, there was physical abuse as well. My stepfather once kicked our cat down the stairs. My mom slapped my sister so hard one time, my sister broke a tooth. We learned real quick to be quiet when my stepfather was home. He was a ticking time bomb. We never knew when he would explode. But, for the sake of this youtube interview and the topic of my book, I didn't delve into all of the abuse.
Thanks,i remember they used to say once a jw gets hurts thats when God is gona come is like touching his eye
So sorry that all happened to you 💛 Thanks for sharing and exposing what goes on is just sad 😢 I have a mirror life to you, I’m the Mum who left and my 3 kids in don’t talk to me. I’m in an amazing place now still on the healing path and learning who I am. I’m the Mum in a mobile home but having a blast broke and travelling. I’ve been working on children’s books that will help kids to use critical thinking and much more. I’m an artist and just started on my writing. Just found your channel. Thanks Vevian for sharing these stories I watch so many ExJW utubes you all feel like family 😘💗💕
I'm soooo sorry for what your sister and you and countless others were subjected to! It makes me sick to my stomach of this wicked Cult....my father has been an Elder practically my whole life...and I knooooow so many incidents for a fact that this has happened to. I asked my dad about the fact that they don't report accusation to the police...he said out his mouth that..because some may be falsely accused they investigate it themselves and pther cases thry do go to the police!!! I went off...I told him its not their jobs to decide who's guilty or not..Elders are noooobodies!! Thats the professionals jobs!!
You are so right. The whole two witness rule is based upon the possibility of false accusations being made. I brought this up with a Sister who was a teacher, and even she admitted, that if a child comes to them telling them they're being abused - they must report the incident to the police or they'd be fired. I asked her then why it wasn't the same at the Kingdom Hall. WHy did a child or wife need two witnesses? Why did the Elders not have to report the crime. And trust me I used words that were very graphic to get my point across as to what pedophiles do. I didn't sugar coat it. She looked very confused while answering my questions, like she was trying to connect the dots.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter EXAAACTLY......I never believed in Spells or Braunwashed....until I woke up!! It's like (me included before I woke up) major disconnect.....can't see how it's the same etc.....smh
@@unleashyourinnerwriterin some countries and districts religious ppl are required by law to report, which they should! The bible says obey the law!! Why is it pick and choose scriptures with JW? Oh yeah jaracz..... sick - ppl blow themselves up for allah, jw protect and accommodate pedophiles 🤢🤢🤢
Something I would like to ask JW women is: How old were you when you realized you could be raped? I know I was very young. I also came to realize when they said that you had to scream, or it means you want it, that no one was going to come to my rescue. And that they had so little respect for me & women in general, that my only recourse was to scream. That knowledge empowered me to arm myself with anything that came to hand & to make myself stronger. Mentally & physically. Thanks Sally for being so brave.
I would say age 8 or 9. We were given the story of Dinah and told what happened to her for disobeying Jehovah. Message given - a woman who is a raped, it’s her fault.
The sorry thing is Heather that even as young children , we were taught that we could trust any of the witnesses because there would come a time where our very lives could be at stake during the Great Tribulation . So we learned and believed that no witness that was called a loving brother or sister would or could do any harm to ourselves or others . There was NO Stranger Danger policy education taught......so why would a young child feel the need to scream if that loving brother or sister touched one inappropriately . There must be a reason based in loving concern for such an act by a fellow believer . Yes the fools at WT taught us that , and we as fools believed it . God Bless You Heather .
Thsnk you for your story. I too was molested at 12 by an elder in our congregation. At about 22 years old, i finally got the courage to tell another elder. Guess what... I was told not to say anything else. Don't bring reproach on Jehovah's name. Disgusting! Am now shunned by my mom and sister. Yet, love my life, my husband and children.
Thanks for sharing. Sadly, your story is all too familiar. Don't bring shame on Jehovah. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Thank you for a great interview the more exposure of this jw cult the better.
Relating Sally! I appreciate your story.
Thank you for putting this production together Vevian and for sharing Sally, I can appreciate how emotionally draining relating your experience would have been. From my perspective it has been very much appreciated.
Thanks so much. I am glad to share my story now, especially if it helps one person.
Thank you for watching
@@unleashyourinnerwriter you are welcome Sally. It is very brave to finally build up the courage and go public to assist others who otherwise may not relate, or need a source of inspiration to put their account out there. Sorry to hear all you went through.
@@vevianvoz You are welcome Vevian, great to see someone making really relatable videos with quality people, stories and settings.
Thank you for sharing your story Sally. I'm sorry you and your sister went through all that trauma. Thank you Vevian for yet another great interview and for sharing her story with us.
Thank you for watching 💖
Thanks for watching and for leaving a comment.🦋
❤😊❤ your story hits home difference between them.the way the elders ait in a meeting is sick 2 me.
142 years of pointing the dirty end of the stick at everyone else in the entire world... never works out.
It's so sad that so many young innocent people come from such messed up families. I can relate, and sympathize. Parents who claim to love God, but don't know the basics of God's word. So very sad.
The devastation it leaves is unbelievable
When I was a child I found the people at the kingdom hall welcoming and kind and there were many who helped my mother at the time. We had many invites and parties that weren't birthday parties where we played party games like pass the parcel etc.
Julie, this is called love bombing. These some loving, kind people who help - just as quickly will turn their back on you. My mother who served other people in the congregation for over 50 years. Is now living in poverty. Her congregation does not help her. Also, the hand of help and love, does not extend beyond Jehovah's Witnesses - they only help themselves.
If it were women abusing in the cong they would disfellowship immediately
It is a man's world there are no women on the G B no women elder none in judicial committee our purpose is to clean the hall and go out in the ministry and shut the hell up
That is sick!! But lots of men do this JW or not. But women or wives must tell and protect children. So sad the things happen in the JW and out of it the WT society. I had a girlfriend years ago her Dad did this and her mom put his butt in jail!!! That is what a real mother does..protect your children. Poor lady well glad she is out .Also glad she wrote a book telling about that cult full of liars.
had my childhood ruined starting age 8 or 9 ...just hell..my mother brought the religion in to the house because a good looking man came to door who told her god had a name & she could live forever...of course lost all extended family from very large families as they were worldly - such destruction that religion causes long term still
This cult is nasty and deadly. My mom was told she'd see her mother again in Paradise. My grandmother was never a JW. How would she be in Paradise??
I'm surprised that he got away with so much. My father wasn't a JW and his behaviour was inappropriate on a few occasions but my mother was not too bad during our childhood and took us to meetings regularly. My father worked hard but sometimes had a bad time at work and he got on better with my brother rather than his daughters. He had a few Victorian ways but had a more pleasant side at times and my mother handled some things dreadfully. My mother had 3 breakdowns after child birth but had help from ones in the congregation at a later date. My mother unfortunately became very unpleasant at some stages in her life and could be passive aggressive and she ruled by her moods and no doubt had some depression. but there was a complete power imbalance in our home. She spoke very quietly a lot of the time but her own inadequacies were projected onto others and she chose favourites where some were excessively praised and others were overdisciplined and not allowed to state their point of view or case and those that were overly praised were allowed fully to express themselves when it suited. Being a witness you were taught to honour your father and mother. She didn't start that type of behaviour until we became teenagers and we had some good times during our growing up years but fortunately I had some decent friends when she was behaving that way. I was also close to my nan and grandad. and a few others. Now I remember that in my 35 years as a witness there were 2 cases that I know of where JW fathers abused their daughter/ the other one his step daughters. The marriage split up with the one and he remained a witness. I don't know what happened to the other one as I didn't know them well and he might have been disfelliowshipped at one stage but he was a witness just before he died of cancer.
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I wonder how was the wedding... And if she could talk to her sister.... Sad how the family became so separated....
Let us know after the family gathering
I had a very interesting family gathering. My JW siblings, commented that WE - the non-JW family had cut them off due to their religion. Let's just say, those of who aren't JW's cleared this up quickly. As, we've always remained in contact, send texts, cards and attempt phone calls. Just shows, how the mindset it in the cult. All in all it was good, we had some tears and deep emotions. What it came down to, was we all were just trying to survive.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter oh my goodness!!
The abusers are narcissist
How could the mother continue living with him? God
I ask myself this a lot. But then, I realize my mother is not a good mother. She has something wrong with her - not sure what it is. But to this day, she denies she did anything wrong, which makes it worse.
@@unleashyourinnerwriter don’t let this bad experience define you. You sound like a strong person. It’s all very satanic this abuse and it’s Satan’s control. Keep strong and move on from it. Xxx
Nice use of Green Screen.
Thanks! It's my dream room.
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And _that's_ the correct way to do some cart unwitnessing.
It is ironic that every interview I watch mentions that they, not the congregation, had to care for their parents in need. They shun you until they need you.
I hate how by default they always say leave it in Jehovahs hands. That’s their answer for everything!
I was told the same thing!
Why are there “shepherds”????
Sadly sooo many JW moms are delusional like that. It becomes a coping mechanism. The elders no doubt told her to go home and be a good wife. It’s so sad.
Sally, you are the only decent person in your family
A dreadful story. The elders have no jurisdiction over an unbeliever married to a witness if they commit any wrong as more than likely a few have experienced. I know of one person who was a JW whose wife left him because he was abusing her daughters
The Elders should have NO juristiction over anyone. They are meant to lead the church (if you use the biblical term correctly). No one who is being abused should go to an Elder for guidance - that is NEVER the answer.
Please put his name out there so people can know who he is
If you play stupid to Witnesses preaching to you, they will lie through their teeth.
Isn’t it shocking
Its crazy ,but not victims or children ben molested just one of them upright jws carrying a bible kind of fella that does door to door and puts lots of hours but not us victims
Dear Sally,why didnt you,you report it to the police or take them whith you ?
What is behind her ? Off and on?
It's a green screen Phyllis. I moved around too much because I have ADHD and it makes it makes the image shift.
Why "assume" he was victimizing boys also...Do you have proof? Your story is horrific enough without adding an assumption. That causes me to question...
Also you don't know your nieces/nephews, but "know" they are great people etc...how can you know that without knowing them?
Why would you assume he is only sexually assaulting girls and young women? That is naive. It's also naive to think only men are sexual predators. And, along the same lines of my mother saying her husband never molested his own daughters, because they were his children. She had her eyes shut to the whole situation.
As far as my niece and nephew, who are not Jehovah's Witnesses and never were, I know them very well. They are kind-hearted, generous, and well-educated. So I am not sure where you're going with your comments. 🤔
If someone commits CSA why would you not think automatically it may involve both. You totally have your head stuck in the sand.
So sad to be a JW. 🥲