WHAT MAKES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP | PJ & Thomas
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
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In today's video, we're answering more of the most common questions we received over the years, like what makes a healthy relationship, how to look past imperfections of your significant other, and what do we discuss the most on a day to day basis.
Thanks for watching, stay safe, and we are sending you so much love.xo
As ever,
PJ & Thomas
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you two have a real partnership with a lot of give and take. it's very refreshing
thanks for watching, Michael ❤️❤️❤️
What a wonderful video PJ and Thomas. You two are an inspiration and we agree that communication is important in a relationship. Thomas, we can't believe you are doing all the editing, videoing, raising 3 kiddos, making dinners, etc. You must have your hands full. PJ, we are anxiously waiting each video to see what you do with the 'Holiday Home' and the beautiful land you both own. Thanks for the video.
Thanks guys!! We love y’all and your comments always make our day! ❤️❤️❤️
This is my favorite time of the week when I can watch your blog.
aww Leslie thank you!!!
I subscribed. You both are awesome. You both are helping me out. Being closeted, your videos help me out. Thank you both so much.
Thomas you are doing a great job Video editing, raising the family, taking care of the home. Just need to take care of yourself. PJ does a great job doing the reno stuff. You have your strengths and compliment each other well. Glad you came back to retro style. Just like old times.
Have a request for a future video update! Do an update on PJ's family members and your family members status. PJ's little sister has not been mentioned much of late.
yay thank you Darryl!! and such a good idea about a future video!! xo
PJ and Thomas, I love your Q&A video at your house in Tennessee during you're quarantine until you're both talking about a healthy relationship while you're both answering some questions about your marriage, so you've both been together for 12 years back in 2009 and you're both talking about everything after that and I wanna say I'm happy for you, guys including your foster kids!!
thanks love!! xoxo
you're welcome, @@ThePropertyLovers!!
I read some of the criticisms of PJ & not that I would take anything away from Thomas’s influence; PJ is a great daddy, I’ve seen older brother stroke his hair & say “I love you PJ, or daddy. PJ is a work horse & sooo talented, so I would take issues with any negative comment about PJ, or Thomas for that matter. They’re very popular & respected among other You-tubers & Instagramers. “Nuff said”!
Sissy was very young when she came live with the guys and thomas was half and half with pj with her care but was full one with the boys that is what I've seen 💝💝💝
oh Fred!!! always always ALWAYS appreciate you and your input. you are one of our favorite people to read comments from as you always have something insightful and meaningful to share, and we love when you share a bit about your own life here as well!! have a lovely week, friend, and thank you for the sweet response xoxo
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I really admire you two. Keep spreading love! ❤️
Thank You for this video. I enjoyed learning more about you and your relationship and how you handle situations that come up
thanks dear Connie Ray!! xo
Just found you two and I love how genuine and authentic you both are it’s lovely to watch your strengths and how you both support and cherish each other and you have such a beautiful family! ❤️ sending lots of love from a gay in Kentucky! What you two have is special, always remember to always take time for yourselves and not overextend yourselves, keep that balance & cherish each other! Hope you guys have a wonderful blessed 2021! 🤗
Our lives seem so many worlds apart but I see so many parallels. We have always just shared the daily chores, the cooking, the cleaning, raising family, shared the decision making. However I have always felt my hubby could do it all way better than me, he gets things done. I am spoilt. We never argue over anything, we just do it! Well done boys. Thanks for sharing. 🇦🇺
love that, Sharyn!!
Great video as always! Communication, agree 100%! We have to feel free to express ourselves and have our thoughts and feelings acknowledged and accepted by our partner even if they don’t agree! As a child I would hold everything inside until it no longer had anywhere to go and it would all come out in an explosion of anger! Thanks to my mom, who one day when I was in the midst of one of these explosions, made me take a look at myself in the mirror and what I saw staring back at me was quite frankly, SCARY! It was a life changing moment and the moment I started to find a better way to communicate. To me relationships are a constant balancing act of give and take and you two seem to have found that balance! Love and hugs!
oh Peggy!! thank you for sharing! your mom sounds like an amazing parent. I love that you've remembered that your whole life. love to you dear friend!! xoxoxo
I am so glad for you that you found yourself.long live your precious love and your high quality relationship
As always a well thought out, soothing video from you guys. Thanks as always, we learn a little and hear a bunch. Most enjoyable. You are really correct about Communication being key to any healthy relationship. One of our little additions to that has been that we never go to bed angry with one another or with unresolved arguments. Been working for 34 years now. Trust it will continue! Stay safe and well men! Thanks.
34 years?! that's amazing!! thanks for watching friend! always appreciate your input. xoxo
@@ThePropertyLovers Hubby said something very interesting today. He commented that we should always be thankful, even for the things that one another do that annoy us, because it means that the person is in your life at the present, and you would miss it if it were gone. We have been very, very lucky in our 34 years together. We are happy to be where we are and with each other to the end. Be Thankful!!
Love the way you two go together so well.
thanks Nancy :)
I follow Chris and Ian, they have beautifull relationship, but i also anxious all the time for their relationship, even tho they have one of the best communication, but they are still new, i remember you guys telling us story' about you both have been break up before, and you got back again and being stronger in your early year you guys being together, Seeing you guys Its like medicine for me, it so healthy, it so calming, it so productive, and so safe (not in boring way), and healthy, love you guys
Well at 72 - my time to catch up is here, somewhere haircut came up the CUT is a great choice. Love watching and learning. I am realizing there are 30+ years left in my DNA average. There is no reason to hang alone I can find a retired younger man and build our life as fulfilling as the two of you and another couple. There is no way to ever say enough but thank the 2 of U for a life worth starting over.
My family never ever talked about emotions and feelings. That was taboo! And if the topic of sex ever came up in a conversation, my mother would close down and walk away. That's the main reason I never came out to them as gay before they passed away. I think my father would have been more accepting to it, but my mother, no way. So I just kept silent and in the closet to them. Now, ~20 years after their deaths, it seems like I missed an opportunity to change minds, but I was young and scared to do it.
I'm sorry to hear you were unable to come out to them before they died. My father surprisingly handles my orientation better than my mother but it still isn't full acceptance. I hope you are happy in your life and with yourself as a person 😊
@@rachele.3229 I was mad that she cut all he hair off not that she was gay you hold your head up and be proud 💜🧡💛💚❤️💝🏩🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈❄️ Casey florida she is gay I just accepted that part of the conversation 🎈🎈🎈
@@rachele.3229 Thanks Rachel, I'm happy with who I am now.
So sorry to hear that dear friend :(. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. Sooooo many people didn’t talk about soooo many things with their family growing up and it’s a shame. Sending you so much love xoxoxo
@@ThePropertyLovers Aww thanks PJ & Thomas, there are definitely things that we think about in a better way as we get older.
Love the Q&A. Great to not only to see a loving relationship but hear how you go about making sure it is successful.
Thanks for posting, see you guys on IG and next Sunday.
thank you so much Valorie! see you next week! xoxo
Thanks guys for another wonderful, sweet vid. You made Ax and me day. Looking forward to the next.💖
aww sweet Clayton!! love to you and Axios!! xoxo
Y'all are wonderful, so inspiring and just good people. You make me love Sunday's even more.
omg thank you! grateful to have you here every week xoxo
Oh this was just what I needed on a lazy Sunday here in Norway. PJ: yes I watched one of the older videos the other dya and as you said, since Thomas took the editing in his hands, they are more 'organized' and finetuned. THOMAS: oh you have really blossomed a lot lately. and it is a hard job keeping it up when you got children in the mi. I've got grownup bonuskids so I know.
thank you love! Norway sounds so lovely right now!! xoxo
You guys look great on this video and love the the view of the house behind you guys and the picture Tom is really good have a good week and till next time be safe and healthy love you guys and the kiddos ❤️😘
thanks Bob!! xoxo
During the FDIC segment, I couldn’t help but notice how awesome your outfits were. I kept thinking a family photo needs to happen here. You guys are just a perfect match ❤️
aww thank you Kay!! xoxo
As always - so enjoyable! Both of you compliment each other so well and I always look forward to seeing the videos!
aww thank you so much Joe!!
I to grew up made to keep feelings kept inside, not allowed to express. Yet if it doesn't pertain to me let it go, and my favorite "water off a ducks back". Let it all go. Keep up the awesome work as husband's and dads you are doing a great job.
You do an awesome job Thomas
Your videos have given me such joy through this pandemic. Thank you guys
I love your house, you two work so well together and the two of you are raising a beautiful family,,,
Great words of positive affirmation for 2021! I truly love them. Thanks for this videos focus on "Simplify". Great Q&A responses, you guys have a beautiful relationship that I adore so much! Have a great week guys! Love, peace and blessings!
thank you Shane!!! love to you! xoxoxo
To love regardless is key in my thinking of loving another
Future video Q & A - I'm interested in your parenting styles - is one of you taking the more disciplinarian role and one the more nurturing role - how do you divide that up? Who is more strict with the kids? Who does the creative goofy stuff? Who teaches them about manners and behaviour in public?
great question, Kate!! I would say we're both pretty strict when it comes to the kids, regardless of what it looks like in these vlogs. PJ definitely does the more creative goofy stuff, and he's also a natural teacher. he taught the kids and worked with them SO much last year and really caught them up so they're no longer developmentally delayed (so grateful for him!!!). I think I am naturally a more nurturing person by heart, but we both have our moments of sharing the duties of all of it.
thanks for the question, dear friend! xo
My husband and I love watching your vlogs, great information and so entertaining, appreciate it!
really enjoyed this video. you both are amazing and doing so great with the kiddos.
aww Leland! thank you as always for watching, friend! xo
Cant get enough oF this marvelous journey you’re on💜💙💜💙💜💙
If your fortunate enough to share your life with your soulmate as I was, everyday life is a joy!!!! We shared so many things in common it was as if we had known each other all our lives!!!!! Cancer took him away many years ago, but I think about our life together all the time. It was the best time of my life! If your in a relationship where you feel you need to change someone, and you can't accept them as they are, I don't think that is very healthy!!!!! Growing together in a relationship is a good thing. Just my opinion! Enjoy you guys very much!!!!
thank you for sharing, friend. we're so sorry to hear of your loss, and we're sending you so much love!!! xoxo
PJ, where did you learn all the building skills you have acquired? I can't even change a toilet seat and you remodel homes all on your own. That is an amazing skill.
thanks Mark! I have a degree in construction management but also part self-taught. xx
Love to you both and the kiddos. I look forward to Sundays and watching a new video 😊🌈💙
aw Brandon!! thank you for watching!! xoxo
Loved that video! Nothing quite like a Q&A!! ❤️🙌👏
What a refreshing video to watch! Love and Happiness to your family from South Dakota.
thank you for watching, friend!!! xo
love thomas' hair!!
Hi guys. Thanks for the really interesting topic. You are so right when you say communication. is really important. Working as a team and knowing each others strengths and where things aren't so strong - I'm not using 'weaknesses 'on purpose - will give you so much more from the relationship. Me; I do the house and car stuff He; does the high tech and garden, but we talk endlessly about everything. All power to you and thanks again. D x
Dave love that you don't use the work weakness. we might need to start doing that! sounds like you guys have great, healthy relationship. thanks for sharing!! xoxo
All this video is about ...how ur individual families has shaped you since childhood.... All these morals we see in ur videos that u cherish are thaught by ur moms.... This is what I said last video of Mother's Day... Our mom's are Great... God can't come down .. So he made Moms... Love n respect from India...
absolutely!! we owe everything to the women who raised us. xoxo
I lost my mom 6 years back when I very young.... You are correct.... We owe to them... For bringing in this beautiful world n givens us morals for
lifetime...
Great communication and growth.
Great video guys! Have a fantastic week!
thanks Ron, you too! xoxo
You’re right, money can be intimidating and scary. And, Thomas, you’re right. Getting control and understanding your spending is empowering and confidence building.
Speaking of your videos, I love your new introduction music! It’s fun
We kids loved the freedom of living outside of town.
Bye guys ♥️
aww yay thank you as always Darla!!! have a great week!
❤️💕 ☕️ is the life
Love y’all and how you balance this thing we call life. Thanks as always for sharing!
thanks for watching, John :)
Great picture. I set my reminder
always a healthy contents all the time
thanks for watching :)
@@ThePropertyLovers always looking forward to your new video..love how dedicated you are to the kids...
Very nice video thank you for sharing
I saw the thumbnail and was mortified that Thomas cut his hair but then relieved when he hadn’t 😂❤️
hahaha not yet!! xx
Looking forward to seeing you boys.
I totally understand the coughing thing. It's generally a phlegm buildup that occurs most times, esp after eating and drinking something. Mornings are the worst, esp when I'm at work trying to talk to someone and all of a sudden I sound like Kermit the Frog. 🙄
This was a relaxing video to watch. You 2 work well together and I get the feeling while watching this that Thomas is like a ground wire to this relationship. I'm not taking anything away from PJ or course, but even in work relations, someone there can be the ground wire.
I think thomas can be difficult at times not being mean as I love them all
I really need to get my coughing thing looked at ASAP! I annoy myself when I do it so I know how much it annoys PJ 😩. I don't get the ground wire reference, though? xoxo
@@dawnegan3984 can't everyone be a little difficult at times? ❤️❤️
@@ThePropertyLovers My comment is a very positive one and a compliment.
I don’t think Dawn meant much by her comment , she just sees things differently then I do.
I’ll be there!! I can’t wait
I remember when U guys were as cute as d picture on this... kids, kids kids😅 they change us physically & mentally.💞🧡💗
So sweet
The lounge room looks great what is that plant on the left it's so true houses the land and kids are a huge part of your life you guys look great as usuall grandma is beautiful you have somed yourself very well I say bye to all 🎈🌈❤️❤️❤️❤️ I though you guys were at the beach
thanks Dawn!! wish we were at the beach. the plant on the left is an avocado tree :) xx
Hi PJ and Thomas, Where do you both get the energy to perform family, work, etc it's mind boggling. Thomas what type of job outside of relationship do you do? And what degree did you get from college? Thomas your mom is a very beautiful lady I can see where your good chiseled looks come from. I am a new subscriber so I am trying hard to watch all your videos.
Great guys !
thanks Richard xoxo
Enjoyed every bit of the vid!!
yay thank you Emmy!!! xoxoxo
@@ThePropertyLovers ur welcome 💙
I’ve never had a relationship with anyone so I will never have an opportunity to make use of this valuable info.. 🤷🏻♂️ But very happy to know as to pass on to others 👍🏼👍🏼
love to you, Lawrence!! we're so grateful to have you here with us all these years!! xoxoxo
@@ThePropertyLovers 👍🏼🥰
I got so excited seeing Thomas’ short haircut again 😍
haha not yet!!
PJ and Thomas, I wanted to let you know, y'all the best couple, that look forward in seeming your weekly RUclips, I can see your joy for each other and the love for kids, and my prayer is that the kids become yours, they have been though enough what happened there mom and dad, they need a loving, and is both of you gave to them, keep up great work.
thank you sweet Daniel!! so grateful to have you here with us xoxo
Your so kind, but thank you for your reply,,
The intro as always so lovely ❤
Great Vlog guys !!!
thanks Jane!!
Another great video!
yay thanks Ian!! xx
Love you guys.You are amasing.
love to you, Denise xoxo
Carried away by Thomas looking gorgeous with his long hair and in that black outfit. *And so articulate and humble, jeez.
You guys are beautiful all my very best to the both of you
Luv your hair
aw thank you
sending you both❤️
aww! love to you dear friend!!
Thomas ur so pretty, so cute, so gorgeous, so sweet 😭😭
I'm glad that Regions Bank sponsored your video. They go on my short list of good banks..
haha yes! they are amazing. we're so grateful to partner with good, open-minded, and helpful companies like Regions.
Great video guys! Great trips! I love when Thomas cough and hocking loogies! I love when guys hock loogies lol
hahaha Darrion!
@@ThePropertyLovers 😂😂😂😂! I love y’all much
Loved the video...
aww thank you William :)
Boa tarde seus vídeos chegam aqui em Belém do Pará
Denize sou nova no canal
Hi guys see you soon love to all 🎉🎉🎉🎉and where are you guys 🏄♂️
Always love your vlogs, started watching during live chat, but my husband got needy, so I had to skate & go to the grocery. So I can relate to the maintenance of a marriage...sometimes your mate can be a pain in the butt, but you love em so rather than knock them out, you take care of their “needs”..right?
Hahaha exactly! Thanks for sharing Fred 🥰
I'm very confused with my sexuality guys, Everything in my life is just getting messed up, please help, how can I really get to know my sexual orientation? Love you guys ❤
feelings are one word: mad, sad, happy, scared. If it is a bunch of words, it is a thought.. For example: I feel like you don't care about me, is a thought even though the word feel is in the sentence. The hardest part of communicating is listening as we are in our own head usually trying to come up with a response. The work of John Gottman, PhD on relationships is worth looking into. Main thing the has found is that couples who do fun things together have stronger relationships even if their communication is not so good.
that is amazing!! I've never thought about it like that. thank you for sharing, friend!!!
Hi guys you two are awesome amazing together .keep up the great job you doing with the kido. You both so handsome together. Thomas what is your job ? I am,in the oilfield. As working offshore. Love you guys Robert Miller from New Orleans, Louisiana. May God bless you guys amen
Love you both, be blessed because y'all bless me with hope. To find my partner to getting married to him. Thanks sincerely Greg from Maryville Tn
You guys look cool.
thanks love xo
You are welcome.
I notice that PJ has mentioned being annoyed with Thomas clearing his throat too often. I have a number of allergies that give me a bit of phlegm in the back of my throat making me constantly clear my throat. Perhaps Thomas has a similar issue. Minor issues, minor issues🫤🫤
The thumbnail with T’s short hair scared me
hahaha not cutting it yet! xo
I’m am Maryed guys and we just got into a argument and he’s mad and now I’m mad because he dose not want to talk about it
There two are such cuties!
I have a flemmy throaght so I am feeling sorry for Thomas. I do the same as he is clearing my throaght.
isn't it awful?!
The plant behind thomas can you tell me its name please 🎈🎈🎈
Avocadotree
@@blumeblume2198 exactly! xx
@@ThePropertyLovers haha i knew it because P.J. mentioned it in an earlier video.
@@blumeblume2198 thanks so much I like it 🐦🐦🐦
#Communication
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what happened to the goat?
Say hi from Indonesia
hi Andre!!! xoxo
are you guys christian? you seem to have a wonderful spirit in your home
Lol ! Little annoying things can be tough.
The thumbnail makes me miss when Thomas had short hair. 😃
Disagree!!!
haha one day!! xoxo
Hi boy’s
You love someone for the faults and all are there bad habits
yes!
I feel more identify with Thomas, but i don have my PJ. Love you guys, such a beautiful family, stay together forever. I will still watching videos of perfect gay boyfriends when im fucking alone 😖😅😚
love to you, friend!! thanks for watching xoxo
I'm hoping that an old pic cuz God I can't believe the long hair is gone
Im Sure its an old pic.
@@blumeblume2198 yep its actually