How One Woman Quit A Nightmare Job And Reclaimed Her Life

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  • @MiaAva872
    @MiaAva872 17 дней назад +38

    The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich. These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.

    • @JoeLogan2b
      @JoeLogan2b 17 дней назад

      Money invested is far better than
      money saved, when you invest it gives
      you the opportunity to increase your
      financial worth.

    • @GreysonRowan-
      @GreysonRowan- 17 дней назад

      It is remarkable how much long term
      advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid,
      instead of trying to be very intelligent.

    • @JeremiahParker-
      @JeremiahParker- 17 дней назад

      The wisest thing that should be on
      everyone mind currently should be to
      invest in different streams of income
      that doesn't depend on government
      paycheck, especially with the current
      economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.

    • @JenniferLynd
      @JenniferLynd 17 дней назад

      I also keep seeing lot's of people
      testifying about how they make money investing in Stock, Forex and Crypto Trade(Bitcoin) and I wonder why I keep loosing. Can anyone help me out or at least advice me on what to do.

    • @AliceJudy062
      @AliceJudy062 17 дней назад

      Even with the right technique and
      assets some investors would still make more than others. As an investor, you should've known that by now that nothing beats experience and that's final. Personally I had to reach out to a stock expert for guidance which is how I was able to grow my account close to $35k, withdraw my profit right before the correction and now I'm buying again.

  • @adoptedbykpop
    @adoptedbykpop Месяц назад +95

    What’s sad is how many people relate to this. And I think for many of us. We are quitting a boss not the work. Which says that upper management needs to be good at managing workers. And let the workers manage the business.

  • @mcorbin1985
    @mcorbin1985 Месяц назад +12

    This woman is telling a story I also lived through last year. Worked in that industry for three months and it was the most stressful, horrible experience of my life. The CEO was a nutcase, and I was in clinical burnout after I left. Don’t let the $$ fool you, it’s not worth it!

  • @theneonlotus
    @theneonlotus Месяц назад +46

    As a tech girly myself, as soon as I heard "toxic work environment" I just knew in my soul you'd be talking about tech. 😬

    • @crystalpowell8619
      @crystalpowell8619 Месяц назад +2

      Please know that toxic work environments exist in all sectors, however I do agree that tech even within other businesses lends itself to the crazy.

    • @almaortega9261
      @almaortega9261 Месяц назад +1

      Don't forget libraries. All types!

    • @BehindTheBush96
      @BehindTheBush96 Месяц назад

      @@crystalpowell8619it’s far more likely to be those male-dominated ones, though. Those are the most toxic - and those ones are the ones that are also more likely to progress to physical abuse for the women who are brave enough to enter those workplaces.

    • @ssgg23
      @ssgg23 29 дней назад

      @@almaortega9261 yeah what’s up with libraries? You’d think they’d be a fun chill place to work but I hear nothing but horror stories lol

  • @WatermelonSugar1209
    @WatermelonSugar1209 Месяц назад +35

    This is the theory that was shared with me by an older colleague. You should stay at a job if you have Atleast 2 out these 4 things-
    1. You like your role, feel challenged and satisfied by the work.
    2. You feel you are fairly compensated
    3. You like your manager and colleagues
    4. You feel you have work- life balance.
    This has worked well for me.

    • @teresamunoz91
      @teresamunoz91 Месяц назад +2

      I like this! And even though I only get paid $21 an hour, I would say I have 4/4

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад +2

      I have 2, 3, and 4. I don't have #1 which is causing me to want to quitm

  • @karasays01
    @karasays01 Месяц назад +101

    I had a really bad experience at an investment firm. All of those on my team where men and no women and no women of color. When I had health issues my accommodation wasn’t acknowledged and it wasn’t even a conversation had about talking to HR about it. I advocated for myself and my accommodation was approved. I am still working here at this large mutual fund company that boasts about diversity and inclusion. I saw no women of color in upper management on our team so I knew that I was not going to move up. My masters degree is void at this company it means nothing. At this point I am just pushing to the end of June this year and working to change employers ASAP. I do not recommend people quitting their roles without at minimum 3 months or more in savings. Also looking into temp roles will be helpful. I wonder how this conversation changes with employees without degrees.

    • @bagel_bandanna
      @bagel_bandanna Месяц назад +2

      Sounds typical of big financial firms.

    • @YoYo-gt5iq
      @YoYo-gt5iq Месяц назад +1

      Rather than leave, get a remote job and do it from their office.

    • @BehindTheBush96
      @BehindTheBush96 Месяц назад

      @@YoYo-gt5iqthat doesn’t fix the issue - they’re still not going to allow her to progress and flourish in her career; they’re a sexist (probably also racist) bro club. All male-dominated workplaces/environments are like this. Men get extra nasty and audacity in groups.

    • @karasays01
      @karasays01 Месяц назад +1

      @@YoYo-gt5iq they dont have many remote roles

    • @karasays01
      @karasays01 29 дней назад

      @@YoYo-gt5iq I am working a temp part time remote role along with my 9-5 to increase my income etc. As you can imagine it is exhausting but pushing through.

  • @ryoknits
    @ryoknits Месяц назад +24

    She touched on something really interesting that I don’t hear talked about a lot. Some industries have a norm of everyone learning from and teaching each other, while others have norms of guard your knowledge like it’s arcane secrets of life. It can be hard to be in those industries if you enjoy learning and genuinely want to improve.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад

      Finance industry is not like that. It was really just her company.

    • @bobbert1945
      @bobbert1945 25 дней назад

      So true. I've left jobs because of bad management before, but I've always had at least a few great colleagues who mentored me. It makes a huge difference

  • @SpringSpark
    @SpringSpark Месяц назад +13

    Boy, oh boy, in late 2021 I accepted a job offer in one of tech giants, moved to Europe from Russia, then the war started and the job market crushed. The combo of me not knowing how to present myself in an American corporate setup + horrible management led me to be demoted by the end of my probation. And to say that the atmosphere here is toxic is to say nothing. In Russia I would just flip them off and quit. But I wasn't in Russia.
    So I couldn't go back (I'm not sure I will ever be able to come back), no one was hiring, my visa is dependent on my employment, and I've spent 2 years there.
    I think I've lost my mind, tbh. Luckily, the market has improved, and it seems like I'll be able to switch jobs soon.

  • @Merrybandoruffians
    @Merrybandoruffians Месяц назад +21

    I woke up this morning to see this recommended for me and it was absolute perfect timing.
    Like, my situation is almost exactly the same to a T.
    I also work in comms, also moved to another country for a new opportunity and landed in a toxic environment where I feel absolutely trapped and miserable. I cried myself to sleep last night questioning if I can afford to go on another day (both emotionally and financially in my case).
    Word of advice: if you take a job abroad, really understand what you’re getting into. It’s not as easy to leave a toxic situation when you’re tied to a visa and have invested thousands of dollars in moving elsewhere.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад

      What did you end up doing? I was in a similar situation and I had to wait out my contract before I could move back. Or else pay thousands the company spent moving me.

    • @Merrybandoruffians
      @Merrybandoruffians Месяц назад

      @@adammorra3813 that’s the situation I’m in now. Right now I have no choice but to stick it out for 6 more months. Im pretty much just trying to detach as much as possible and focus on anything I can outside of work.
      Fortunately, I’m in Europe, so I do have very generous leave that I’m taking full advantage of as well.

    • @Merrybandoruffians
      @Merrybandoruffians Месяц назад

      @@adammorra3813 unfortunately, I’m still stuck. Also have to wait it out until the end of the contract to avoid paying back relocation🫠

  • @ThirumahalS
    @ThirumahalS Месяц назад +11

    Erika's comment on being the operational support for other ppl, even though theyre not your manager, is so true. They werr mostly men, and one women. Its disappointing that those toxic people were so deficient or selfish, they couldnt understand that sleep and time away from works makes people productive

  • @Erepk
    @Erepk Месяц назад +16

    Not to get too into conspiracy but what if the company thought that sponsoring someone’s visa would tie them to their shitty workplace 😮 feels so icky to think but not crazy

  • @raphfelimax2713
    @raphfelimax2713 Месяц назад +35

    How are you guys coping with this inflation? Even with the downturn of economy and ever increasing life standards

    • @FranklyHunt
      @FranklyHunt Месяц назад

      I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year.. Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life

    • @WelseyWalker
      @WelseyWalker Месяц назад

      Thanks for the advice! I'm new to financial planning and wasn't sure where to start. Any tips on finding a reliable financial adviser or resource to guide beginners? .

    • @aniniels-hw5iv
      @aniniels-hw5iv Месяц назад

      As a beginner, it's essential for you to have a mentor that is verified by finra and SEC to keep you accountable. I'm guided by a widely known financial consultant Stacey Macken

    • @Georgina705
      @Georgina705 Месяц назад

      Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 12 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life

    • @waynes4369
      @waynes4369 Месяц назад

      YES! that's exactly her name (Stacey Macken) I watched her interview on CNN News and so many people recommended her trading skills, she's an expert and I'm just starting with her....From Brisbane Australia

  • @leahg1424
    @leahg1424 Месяц назад +20

    As someone who is now on a career break after working (and being laid off from) a toxic environment, this is so relatable. I'm glad I had the tenacity to stick it though so that I could get a package, but would advise most people that it's not worth the headache. Also, toxic environments also show up as micro-environments in what might seemingly seem like great environments for others. It seems like now more than other, the experience of the workplace is unique to the individual.

  • @YoYo-gt5iq
    @YoYo-gt5iq Месяц назад +3

    I worked at an accounting firm where they went out of their way to make me fail. When I actually succeeded in the face of all the difficulties they then tried to convince the clients to take on someone else as the lead. When the clients refused, my boss told me without any shame that he tried to get me taken off the account.

  • @dameazize
    @dameazize Месяц назад +16

    The details are different (I was much closer to home and the people I was with weren't necessarily toxic), but I had a similar super fast burn out experience with a new job, and the ability to stay with my family and regroup myself for a couple of months afterwards is something I will be forever grateful for

  • @kin.9133
    @kin.9133 Месяц назад +6

    I started my career in management consulting and strategy consulting - and I felt exactly the same, particularly the comment on focusing on optics and politics rather than the work. It led to habits that were hard to shake off in my subsequent roles.

  • @richhands5269
    @richhands5269 Месяц назад +15

    My three favorite channels: The Financial Diet, Stock Brotha, & How Money Works. Make my week complete! 🔥 🔥 🔥

    • @SeaJay4444
      @SeaJay4444 Месяц назад

      You should watch How Money Works's "You Suck At Investing" video again if you're still watching penny stock channels.

  • @toknow0
    @toknow0 Месяц назад +5

    loved everything about this episode. filled with so much wisdom and practical skills/ process! merci 🙏🏽

  • @engineeringbookisha
    @engineeringbookisha Месяц назад +1

    I was listening to this on a podcast and I really like this video. My first job out of college has turned out to be toxic and I can't even apply for other jobs because I am so traumatized and I believe the issue is the industry. However, I just decided to start going all in on things that I like and completely prioritizing them and I think I'm on the right path now

  • @bobbert1945
    @bobbert1945 Месяц назад +6

    This was a great episode. I had a job that I previously had enjoyed, but my management had changed and it became unpleasant (toxic apparently is the word now). But I really needed to stay at a few years longer in order to max out my salary to get a better pension. So I asked my doctor to prescribe something that would help me tolerate my boss. Buspar worked out great for the two years I needed it to. Then management changed and I didn't need the Buspar anymore. Never underestimate the power of pharmaceuticals.

  • @gordonwallin2368
    @gordonwallin2368 Месяц назад

    Wow! Cheers from the Pacific West Coast of Canada.

  • @Tephiffany
    @Tephiffany Месяц назад

    Congrats on the 1M subbies!

  • @RelaxedMike-wf6gw
    @RelaxedMike-wf6gw Месяц назад

    Fellow Montrealer, so smart and inspiring.

  • @irockhard2538
    @irockhard2538 Месяц назад

    We didn't have a spaghetti factory in about 25 years in Richmond, VA. It was one of the first dates me and my wife went on😊😊😊

  • @secai_i
    @secai_i Месяц назад +3

    she sounds smart ❤

  • @johnlovesbridge
    @johnlovesbridge Месяц назад +6

    3 months? That's the probation period. Was this a forced resignation in lieu of termination? In HR it's called making them feel part of the process.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад +1

      You dont spend this much money and moving someone to fire them in 3 months

    • @sweetestpotato4392
      @sweetestpotato4392 Месяц назад

      @@adammorra3813that’s the sunken cost fallacy. Employers have 90 day probation periods as part of hiring so they can separate early when it’s clearly not working.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад +1

      @sweetestpotato4392 yes but what I'm saying is most depts are not going to terminate someone after moving them in a 3 month time period. You then have to pay to relocate the person back, start the search all over again, and dept suffers as well with work not getting done. Hiring and onboarding costs are high and when you throw in expat relocation, its even higher. There is no reason to believe this person was let go.

    • @sweetestpotato4392
      @sweetestpotato4392 Месяц назад

      @@adammorra3813 two decades in recruiting here: very familiar with the expenses involved, and the reasons why management would do it anyway. I’m not commenting on this person’s experience.
      I’m commenting that companies do separate employees or rescind their offers even if it is going to cost extra money, examples of extra expenses could be travel in the case of sponsorship or in a severance package for a signed separation agreement.

  • @ssgg23
    @ssgg23 29 дней назад

    Ugh the slack message insanity is real. It’s one of the worst apps for jobs that require productive focus

  • @muoian
    @muoian Месяц назад +3

    This conversation pairs well with Ashley c fords TFD discussion . I don’t want to trivialize this speakers struggles but at the end of her horrendous ordeal , she as able to go home to her restauranteur family home and find another job through those networks … just saying

  • @skylarkkralyks4496
    @skylarkkralyks4496 Месяц назад +1

    The US chain is the Spaghetti Warehouse, not the Spaghetti Factory.

  • @Omg_sade
    @Omg_sade 24 дня назад

    I wish more in depth questions were asked about what the interviewee spoke about rather than no direct reaffirming responses. I would have loved to hear you she navigated the interview process after her quick departure from her silicon Valley job. Hence this would be important to the target audience

  • @skybluskyblueify
    @skybluskyblueify Месяц назад

    If it was not mentioned in the video reading the book Burn Book by Kara Swisher a tech reporter before the Bay Area had bloomed and computers became something everyone could use.
    Wow! The tech leaders were often terrible people to interact with. Plenty of dirt on Elon Musk too. An easy read and is well written considering she is a tech reporter. She interacted with the biggest names in computer related tech.

  • @matthewalexander8058
    @matthewalexander8058 Месяц назад +1

    Um The Spaghetti Factory is by far superior to the olive garden.

  • @muoian
    @muoian Месяц назад +3

    I see some defenders of Elon musk have entered the chat and are triggered 😒

  • @jtixtlan
    @jtixtlan Месяц назад +1

    The way Musk went in and fired so many people before taking the time to get to know who they were and what they did was not a display of management or wisdom but of ego, rashness, and cruelty. It wasn’t good business.

  • @loisthelibrarian
    @loisthelibrarian Месяц назад

    This girl’s lament over a 3-month opportunity she had neither the maturity, grit nor tenacity to endure without crying a river over, is ridiculous. If you pack up your bags and run home to Mommy and Daddy when the end of 90-day probation hits, it’s a mutually bad decision between you and the company.

    • @FreshPresh8888
      @FreshPresh8888 18 дней назад

      Pipe down, Boomer. 🙄

    • @loisthelibrarian
      @loisthelibrarian 17 дней назад

      @@FreshPresh8888 GEN X my friend! Boomers are crying the same river… they just have more money.

  • @jacquelynnmartin
    @jacquelynnmartin Месяц назад +13

    Why only three months? She said she was told about the revolving door of personnel so why didn't she do any research on this company? IMO she probably didnt fit in with the intensity of the position. It happens. She probably was so thrilled about being chosen over other qualified people and moving to California (who wouldn't), she didnt weigh the pros, cons and other options. That too happens.
    Also I didn't really get whole toxic accusations against her boss setting her up to fail thing. Could it be she was amazing in the interview and just didn't live up to her boss's/the job's expectations? Too one sided and not enough info in this episode.
    Btw, Chelsea, love you girl, but please chill on the Elon bashing. We get it. His life and choices don't meld with yours but its getting to the point you sound petty and jealous. That's not you.

    • @kekica11
      @kekica11 Месяц назад +10

      I'm here for the Elon bashing. I can think of at least 7 "Elons" I've encountered as bosses/supervisors at different points in my career, and the amount of ass-kissing that happens around them is astounding, even though they make terrible decisions all the time and use other people as scapegoats. So, bash away, Chelsea, bash away!

    • @Uncle_Smidge
      @Uncle_Smidge Месяц назад +2

      Anyone jealous of Elon Musk still requires a half-screen of Minecraft footage to process listening to an entire sentence.

  • @adammorra3813
    @adammorra3813 Месяц назад +9

    Lost me at 15 mins. Why does she keep bringing up Elon, what does he have to do with her job?

    • @amandavrivera
      @amandavrivera Месяц назад

      He's a poster child for how most tech companies are run. Not all of them are spearheaded by sexist libertarian nut bags like him, but that mindset is pretty pervasive in the bay.

    • @Site_42
      @Site_42 Месяц назад +10

      Because Elon is the example of the “bad VC entrepreneur and boss who thinks they are far smarter and better than they are” that most people know about. Once people know what kind of bad boss she is talking about on a general level, she can move to the specifics of her own situation knowing we’re on board.

    • @muoian
      @muoian Месяц назад +3

      As previously replied, Chelsea is using Elon musk as an archetype

    • @Uncle_Smidge
      @Uncle_Smidge Месяц назад

      OH NO
      I'm sure she's gutted by the loss of Random Internet Man™ announcing his departure like he has DELTA stamped on his ass

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Месяц назад

      @@Uncle_Smidge its feedback for her you tool

  • @PappuSingh-rj2hb
    @PappuSingh-rj2hb Месяц назад +3

    I'm favoured, $60k every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also
    support God's work and the church. God bless America.

    • @MukeshDodiya-lo2ek
      @MukeshDodiya-lo2ek Месяц назад

      How please. Help me I really need to gain my losses back...

    • @PappuSingh-rj2hb
      @PappuSingh-rj2hb Месяц назад

      It might be beneficial to consult with a financial advisor who can provide personalized guidance on your specific situation

    • @PappuSingh-rj2hb
      @PappuSingh-rj2hb Месяц назад

      I'm guide by. Jennifer Smith. God bless you ma'am

    • @DulalrayRay-bm8tf
      @DulalrayRay-bm8tf Месяц назад

      😳🙄Woah! what a coincidence

    • @DulalrayRay-bm8tf
      @DulalrayRay-bm8tf Месяц назад

      For the last yrs, expert ma'am Jennifer Smith has made impact on my financial and actual quality of life than any other job