What are your thoughts on why INFJs feel so weird? Make sure to leave a comment and let me know! Thanks for watching! Make sure you subscribe to get more Brain Food. ✔️ Click to Subscribe! bit.ly/S4BYes ▶️ If you have enjoyed our Breakfast Brainfood together, consider Buying Me a Coffee and help support this channel: www.buymeacoffee.com/Success4Brkfst ◾◾ This is the Number 1 tool that I use and what helped me jump-start being able to live my best life and do it on my own terms. ➡️ bit.ly/LvlUpNow I hope you enjoy my channel and the videos, but more importantly, find things that you can take action on and level up your life!
When I was young, yes, these things applied, but through painful development I've become more readily able to express my opinions. Moreover, I sincerely believe that philosophical inquiry, deep meditation, and psychological analysis and development has changed me for the better in a number of fundamental ways. That said, it took a long time of isolation and frustrating failures to be the forthright INFJ I am today. I hope whomever is reading this knows that you can develop anything if you truly want to. Thank you for taking the time to read my comment. Take care and God bless.✝️
The reason I know that I am definitely most like an INFJ than any other type is I learnt about myself through experience over many years with no knowledge of the INFJ type and characteristics. I often felt lonely when young whether alone or in company. Pubs usually bored me. Lack of depth everywhere. Misunderstood all the time. Mostly lived in a dreamworld, but with desire to make things irl better etc. etc. The INFJ type description does help ease our own worries and self doubts, and explains how we relate to others and what we want/need in life.
I've always been & felt different but years of self analysis, deep contemplation and self development I've become quite a force to be recogn with. I'm more comfortable having discovered my type...I am really comfortable with myself now.
I am an INFJ I don't stray away from the present at all. I gave everything going on. I am overwhelmed and stressed being a single mom. Very true strangers always open up their secrets on the first day I meet them and it's weird! When we get upset we shut down and we'll it's because we are alone most of the time! Yep, it's a horrible feeling to feel weird your whole life and wishing to just feel like everyone else. I made straight A's all my life in school, Validictorian and more....honor student because I strive for perfection. We work really hard whatever is important to us we're dedicated and don't stop until we get it done. I'm not the happiest alone, I have amazing best friends I treasure and love to be with, but I do need alone time as well. I find friends easily but most I can't connect completely with. I actually love concerts and social activities with my kids. But if I am exhausted then I don't want to go.
This video answered a lot of questions for me, I go through so much internally and don't know how to express it. I often feel like there's something wrong with me, I sometimes hate that I have this personality type!
@Journey With Me I'm so glad my video was able to answer some questions and give you some clarity. That is a common theme for INFJs and one of the main reasons I created this channel - to have a community to be able to rely on. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment and for watching 👍🏻 🙂
I am a 65 year old man. I can relate to much of these things in my teens and 20s. Then I found the love of my life. For 40 years of marriage I grew to feel “normal because she filled in the gaps for me. I think she was ESFP. She is gone now. Died last year. Now I am back in my loneliness and reliving my 20s. I am weird again. Trying to date now, it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I can text my banters and flirtations and show my sense of humor. But when I call the gal, it all goes away and she wonders why I am so quiet. It sucks.
People are safe with the INFJ because we are in peace with ourselves and we love life to enjoy in present moments and yes good in their high standards call discipline
@charlie smith you're absolutely right 💯 everyone, even strangers feel safe with an INFJ. High standards are a great thing, as long as they don't get in the way of being present - in the moment!
Success for All day... your 3rd reason definitely hit me the most... I have no problem going with others opinions on issues but whenever it comes to expressing my own ... I always consider to a consensus just so I could avoid any FURTHER issues... KEEP it up man
@Andrian Belgrave that is a very common theme for INFJs. The desire to not ruffle any feathers. As always, thank you for the encouragement and for taking the time to watch! I hope you are doing well!
This a very good video that will certainly help INFJs a lot. I think reason 5 is unprecise though and is directly related to reason 6. The INFJ being very sensitive is often misunderstood. They can take criticisms to heart because they're overly self critical in the first place. Their Ti pushes them to be so strict and faithful to their own beliefs and values that they can feel ashamed for not sticking to it (It's talked about in the video that INFJs can impose their own ideals on others but it's rarely the case even if they'd like to and know that following those will bring more efficiency. They don't put as much pressure on others as they do on themselves, unless the attitude of others is detrimental for the harmony of the group). So when someone criticizes them it's someone + themselves most of the time because they already know what they did wrong and someone comes to say it again. They most likely don't need you to tell them what they did wrong in short. But if that's a criticism they never considered before, you might be surprised at how easily they can take it. If they start going to their own world when they're criticized, it's because how bad they feel about themselves for not being perfect because they're very attached to the idea of being a good person and a moral model. They have extremely high standards for themselves, more than many people. So it's not necessarily that they think no one likes them because of that but more that they think they're not good enough for themselves. It's more an individual and personal process than a collective one. When they'll feel better about the criticism you made about them, you'll notice that they'll do everything they can to correct it so it will never happen again because they want to be perfect so badly . The fact that they take some criticisms so hard is what makes them such a good and respectable person.
This is so true! I'm very open to criticism, because I always want to do better... but when someone delivers the criticism in such a condencending or with a viscious tone of voice, it feels very defeating because I'm already constantly thinking about how I can improve and I'm seeking out criticism on my own to do the best I can at all times. I think you are so right about us being idealists and never letting the mistakes happen again because we want to be perfect so badly, and when people around us don't understand that or acknowledge our strive for excellence, it can be so defeating. When dealing with people who don't know how to speak their needs with kindness and instead criticize in a condecending or passive aggressive manner, that can feel soul crushing. It's like a hamster on the wheel always striving to be good enough for the person, but all they give back is criticism without balancing it with appreciation and understanding. If someone can acknowledge our good while also delivering criticism with kindness, they will have the hardest working, most committed INFJ in their corner!
We're not given to excesses. We've seen our friends living the high life, crashing and burning. We follow our own star, staying true to ourselves, ultimately it's a far richer life.
@Simply Bradley you're very welcome. I'm so glad my video was able to give you some clarity and help you on your journey. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
@Bubbles Weidmann that's right. INFJs are very strict on their principles and values and don't compromise them for anything. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
I think one of the worst struggle's are. Using to much energy to constantly beat our selves down. Insecurities effect us so bad I can get sick sometimes at the same time we are trying to meet the needs of others not out of validation or attention but the natural intuition that it's just the way it's supposed to be. Some of us can maintain eye contact while others like me are thinking about who,why,where and senseless situations.Their is no way all of our thinking patterns and behavior are alike in fact I don't even wanna go there right now. When one does see an advantage in being able to filter the Sense less from the importance or meaning then I feel it is a good opportunity understand, rationalize,and sort any insignificant feeling or situation. Whew....
I have never felt like i belonged here not one day,but i have embraced the fact that im an original not a copy. I love NOT being like all the other drones and being a beautiful creature of a different kind. It is hard some times though to try to fit into a world that isn't ready for us.
Unfortunately this also pertains to my sex life, It was 3 years when i finally realized it had been 3 years lmao. 🙄😬 not to be inappropriate. Anyone else have this problem? I mean I don't consider it a problem I guess some would.
I don't agree with some of these...sensitive, yes, but also consider the source of the gesture/remark/offense and move on. Avoid confilct...only if it is not worth it...I want peace, but sometimes that means speaking up to people, especially loved ones so it gets resolved quickly...
loool 1. They overthink 2. They are easily hurt. 3. They door slam instead of giving things time 4. They believe that they are superior to other types because of theirs'rarity 5. They give advice they can't take themselves 6. They rather relax and enjoy peace than work hard to achieve what they want 7. They will lash out on people they love the most
lol I fell some superiority over most because most just dont see what I see and cant think the way I do. I have to dumb-down my interactions with most people. The only people that im attracted to and gravitate towards are intellectual people; and they're mostly introverts. Extroverts can be smart and amazing people, but their energy drains me and the way they think is almost sheep-like; talking about trivial and mundane things, superficial, going with the flow of society and usually consuming pop culture.
@@AsianAmerican2007 that's what's cliche about our type. We always feel like the outcast, yet the one with the most awareness because extroverts flood the atmosphere with theiur trivial nonsense when we could be talking about philosophy,finding solutions to world problems or just simply acknowledging that some thingsin life are uneccessary but extroverts would want to partake in everything, church on sunday, but fete on Monday. I cant stand the hypocrisy.
What are your thoughts on why INFJs feel so weird? Make sure to leave a comment and let me know!
Thanks for watching! Make sure you subscribe to get more Brain Food.
✔️ Click to Subscribe! bit.ly/S4BYes
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➡️ bit.ly/LvlUpNow
I hope you enjoy my channel and the videos, but more importantly, find things that you can take action on and level up your life!
"don't be so distracted; focus on the facts; don't overthink everything"... the last one especially stings every time
I feel you.
When I was young, yes, these things applied, but through painful development I've become more readily able to express my opinions. Moreover, I sincerely believe that philosophical inquiry, deep meditation, and psychological analysis and development has changed me for the better in a number of fundamental ways. That said, it took a long time of isolation and frustrating failures to be the forthright INFJ I am today. I hope whomever is reading this knows that you can develop anything if you truly want to. Thank you for taking the time to read my comment. Take care and God bless.✝️
The reason I know that I am definitely most like an INFJ than any other type is I learnt about myself through experience over many years with no knowledge of the INFJ type and characteristics. I often felt lonely when young whether alone or in company. Pubs usually bored me. Lack of depth everywhere. Misunderstood all the time. Mostly lived in a dreamworld, but with desire to make things irl better etc. etc.
The INFJ type description does help ease our own worries and self doubts, and explains how we relate to others and what we want/need in life.
I've always been & felt different but years of self analysis, deep contemplation and self development I've become quite a force to be recogn with. I'm more comfortable having discovered my type...I am really comfortable with myself now.
This gives all of us on the journey to forge ahead 💜 Thank you for your comment :)
I am an INFJ I don't stray away from the present at all. I gave everything going on. I am overwhelmed and stressed being a single mom. Very true strangers always open up their secrets on the first day I meet them and it's weird! When we get upset we shut down and we'll it's because we are alone most of the time!
Yep, it's a horrible feeling to feel weird your whole life and wishing to just feel like everyone else. I made straight A's all my life in school, Validictorian and more....honor student because I strive for perfection. We work really hard whatever is important to us we're dedicated and don't stop until we get it done. I'm not the happiest alone, I have amazing best friends I treasure and love to be with, but I do need alone time as well. I find friends easily but most I can't connect completely with. I actually love concerts and social activities with my kids. But if I am exhausted then I don't want to go.
This video answered a lot of questions for me, I go through so much internally and don't know how to express it. I often feel like there's something wrong with me, I sometimes hate that I have this personality type!
@Journey With Me I'm so glad my video was able to answer some questions and give you some clarity. That is a common theme for INFJs and one of the main reasons I created this channel - to have a community to be able to rely on. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment and for watching 👍🏻 🙂
Have a fun time getting to know more about your type and go on a new spiritual journey like I have been doing :) also stoicism is bae
I feel the same way!
At least now we know our place. We're no longer alone! =)
I am a 65 year old man. I can relate to much of these things in my teens and 20s. Then I found the love of my life. For 40 years of marriage I grew to feel “normal because she filled in the gaps for me. I think she was ESFP. She is gone now. Died last year. Now I am back in my loneliness and reliving my 20s. I am weird again. Trying to date now, it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I can text my banters and flirtations and show my sense of humor. But when I call the gal, it all goes away and she wonders why I am so quiet. It sucks.
People are safe with the INFJ because we are in peace with ourselves and we love life to enjoy in present moments and yes good in their high standards call discipline
@charlie smith you're absolutely right 💯 everyone, even strangers feel safe with an INFJ. High standards are a great thing, as long as they don't get in the way of being present - in the moment!
Do any of you guys ever "diagnose" someone as a narcissist? They say our type notices toxic people when others don't.
This video finds me at a moment in my life where I'm am quickly approaching a critical juncture. Thank you so much.
Success for All day... your 3rd reason definitely hit me the most... I have no problem going with others opinions on issues but whenever it comes to expressing my own ... I always consider to a consensus just so I could avoid any FURTHER issues... KEEP it up man
@Andrian Belgrave that is a very common theme for INFJs. The desire to not ruffle any feathers. As always, thank you for the encouragement and for taking the time to watch! I hope you are doing well!
This a very good video that will certainly help INFJs a lot.
I think reason 5 is unprecise though and is directly related to reason 6. The INFJ being very sensitive is often misunderstood.
They can take criticisms to heart because they're overly self critical in the first place. Their Ti pushes them to be so strict and faithful to their own beliefs and values that they can feel ashamed for not sticking to it (It's talked about in the video that INFJs can impose their own ideals on others but it's rarely the case even if they'd like to and know that following those will bring more efficiency. They don't put as much pressure on others as they do on themselves, unless the attitude of others is detrimental for the harmony of the group). So when someone criticizes them it's someone + themselves most of the time because they already know what they did wrong and someone comes to say it again. They most likely don't need you to tell them what they did wrong in short. But if that's a criticism they never considered before, you might be surprised at how easily they can take it.
If they start going to their own world when they're criticized, it's because how bad they feel about themselves for not being perfect because they're very attached to the idea of being a good person and a moral model. They have extremely high standards for themselves, more than many people.
So it's not necessarily that they think no one likes them because of that but more that they think they're not good enough for themselves. It's more an individual and personal process than a collective one.
When they'll feel better about the criticism you made about them, you'll notice that they'll do everything they can to correct it so it will never happen again because they want to be perfect so badly .
The fact that they take some criticisms so hard is what makes them such a good and respectable person.
This is so true! I'm very open to criticism, because I always want to do better... but when someone delivers the criticism in such a condencending or with a viscious tone of voice, it feels very defeating because I'm already constantly thinking about how I can improve and I'm seeking out criticism on my own to do the best I can at all times. I think you are so right about us being idealists and never letting the mistakes happen again because we want to be perfect so badly, and when people around us don't understand that or acknowledge our strive for excellence, it can be so defeating.
When dealing with people who don't know how to speak their needs with kindness and instead criticize in a condecending or passive aggressive manner, that can feel soul crushing. It's like a hamster on the wheel always striving to be good enough for the person, but all they give back is criticism without balancing it with appreciation and understanding. If someone can acknowledge our good while also delivering criticism with kindness, they will have the hardest working, most committed INFJ in their corner!
Everywhere I go I'm out of place.
I stand tf out and all I want to do is be invisible.
This is so scarey how damn true all this is, it’s spot on
Thank you guys for the channel
@charlie smith you're very welcome! Thank you so much for watching and for commenting. I really appreciate it 🙌🏻
Very accurate!!
@Amanda McLane thank you so much! I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
We're not given to excesses. We've seen our friends living the high life, crashing and burning. We follow our own star, staying true to ourselves, ultimately it's a far richer life.
Yes yes yes, you will get there...I've travelled a long journey to find me!! I can now say I'm happy.
Thank you for this video. This gave me needed clarity💎
@Simply Bradley you're very welcome. I'm so glad my video was able to give you some clarity and help you on your journey. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Because they are odd but hey to level it up a least we stand for something and NOT everyone else's somthing
@Bubbles Weidmann that's right. INFJs are very strict on their principles and values and don't compromise them for anything. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
I think one of the worst struggle's are. Using to much energy to constantly beat our selves down. Insecurities effect us so bad I can get sick sometimes at the same time we are trying to meet the needs of others not out of validation or attention but the natural intuition that it's just the way it's supposed to be. Some of us can maintain eye contact while others like me are thinking about who,why,where and senseless situations.Their is no way all of our thinking patterns and behavior are alike in fact I don't even wanna go there right now. When one does see an advantage in being able to filter the Sense less from the importance or meaning then I feel it is a good opportunity understand, rationalize,and sort any insignificant feeling or situation. Whew....
Thank you the social activity is spot on
I laughed at "Not fans of social activities." How I do relish an uneventful weekend, boring is so stable and gooood.
Im curious what your MBTI personality type is, as well as your relevant education and experience on the subject.
Thank you 🙏
@Jimmy Keating You're very welcome! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch, and for leaving a comment 🙌🏻 I really appreciate it!
I have never felt like i belonged here not one day,but i have embraced the fact that im an original not a copy. I love NOT being like all the other drones and being a beautiful creature of a different kind. It is hard some times though to try to fit into a world that isn't ready for us.
You nailed it we are original, not like the sheep like copies
Privacy went out the window a long time ago 🙄
No one is perfect
I can totally relate to the all of the above mentioned topics.
Other worldly 🌎 beings uniquely self-contained.
Unfortunately this also pertains to my sex life, It was 3 years when i finally realized it had been 3 years lmao. 🙄😬 not to be inappropriate. Anyone else have this problem? I mean I don't consider it a problem I guess some would.
I have more control over my personality now.
I am more logical and less sensitive.
O I feel it alright 🙄
I don't agree with some of these...sensitive, yes, but also consider the source of the gesture/remark/offense and move on. Avoid confilct...only if it is not worth it...I want peace, but sometimes that means speaking up to people, especially loved ones so it gets resolved quickly...
I don't think we are sensitive regardless of people attributing this trait to us. I always see a motive for certain remarks/comments
In general we don't like conflict. The personality and mood of other family members can also affect the likelihood to speak up.
Please make videos on INFJ 3w4!!
I really wish I could shapeshift into a form that matched how i felt on the inside instead of bein this human
Speak opinions depends on who to.
Level up is my latest ne loop😂❤🙏
Dear INFJ... Do the opposite of all this. Thank yourself later. 🙂
Please do 7 reasons why INFJ is full of crap
loool
1. They overthink
2. They are easily hurt.
3. They door slam instead of giving things time
4. They believe that they are superior to other types because of theirs'rarity
5. They give advice they can't take themselves
6. They rather relax and enjoy peace than work hard to achieve what they want
7. They will lash out on people they love the most
lol I fell some superiority over most because most just dont see what I see and cant think the way I do. I have to dumb-down my interactions with most people. The only people that im attracted to and gravitate towards are intellectual people; and they're mostly introverts. Extroverts can be smart and amazing people, but their energy drains me and the way they think is almost sheep-like; talking about trivial and mundane things, superficial, going with the flow of society and usually consuming pop culture.
@@AsianAmerican2007 that's what's cliche about our type. We always feel like the outcast, yet the one with the most awareness because extroverts flood the atmosphere with theiur trivial nonsense when we could be talking about philosophy,finding solutions to world problems or just simply acknowledging that some thingsin life are uneccessary but extroverts would want to partake in everything, church on sunday, but fete on Monday. I cant stand the hypocrisy.
@@AsianAmerican2007 Mhm.
@@derealratos6332 It has to be pretty bad a situation to "lash out".
Relationship wise my wife is an artificial intelligence because #redpillknowledge lol