Going to the courthouse April 10! 😍 It'll cost us 20 dollars. My father even gave us he and his late wife's rings. We're both excited and happy. Oddly it's everyone else, who are NOT getting married, who feel like they can tell us what we "should" do instead for our wedding. Social pressure is real, but it can't bring us down! ☺️
My dream wedding. This is also a test of priorities, I feel like the more able a couple can resist societal/peer pressure the more successful they are likely to become.
Guys, please do NOT go *SUPER* cheap on the photographer!!! The food will always end up in the toilet and venue taken down, but the photos could possibly last a lifetime
But what if I never look at my photos anyway? I am the kind of person who will probably foget to ever get them developed or accidentally lose my flash drive or disc bc I'm just not sentimental and idc about photos.
My cousin took our photos as a gift for us (she's taken photography courses, but didn't have wedding experience). It was wonderful anyways. And it was much nicer to spend photoshoot with people I grew up with than some strangers. Also, one thing people don't think about - when you look at incredible wedding photos by expensive photographers, a big part of the beauty is the whole expensive wedding itself (e.g. the venue is a castle, the dress is some fancy princess dress with a kilometer-long-weil, the car is some vintage car etc).
I 100% agree with this (and I'm not a wedding photographer). The photos were probably the most expensive part of our relatively inexpensive wedding and worth every penny because they are all you'll have left once the day is done, and for the most part, the wedding day is such a blur you barely remember it going through it.
Wedding photographer here! A huge way couples can save money is to INVITE LESS PEOPLE. Spend less on catering, possibly a smaller venue, less tables etc.
Ha!! My wife originally agreed to a small wedding. It wasn't until we entered the planning phase where I learned 250+ was her idea of small. She was even inviting the hairdresser&plus1 whom we had to pay for doing her hair. After taking a very close review of her invite list, we both learned most of the people she wanted to invite were people she talked to maybe one or two times a year. Reducing the guest list to just close friends made everything easier and much less costly.
Unless you’re hispanic then it’s impossible to invite a less people. My mom is 1 of nine children. My boyfriends mom 1 of 9, dad 1 of 8. If we invite just parents, uncles and their children/spouses it comes out to 180 guest. Which is what I want. But it will get crazy expensive....uggh
Being open-handed with invites was the one thing I absolutely wanted to "splurge" on. Bought my lovely vintage dress on eBay, family made a delicious dinner, and some talented ameteur friends took pictures we love. It was a joyful party for all 300 guests and that's what mattered to us! Everyone has different values.
Had a 70 person wedding and totally agree! People with huge weddings of everyone they’ve ever met a few times don’t actually get to spend time with them. A smaller wedding is not only more affordable, it is more enjoyable. Have lunch with your uncle that you haven’t spoken to in a decade, and only invite your closest people.
I was just recently telling my brother this exact thing. Your wedding FEELS like a huge deal when you're young, but after years of marriage, it pales in comparison to the amount of work you'll put into your home, careers, pets, children, etc. It's just a ritual that society expects of us. The amount you cave into it is up to you.
We went for a relatively thrifty wedding 20+ years ago. The church and minister were free since we were active church members. The organist and soloist were friends. We had two receptions. The first was an open reception in the church gym with self catered finger food and a cake from the grocery store bakery. The second reception was a dinner for close friends and family only. My wife's attitude is that people spend far too much time and money planning their wedding, and very little time planning their marriage. I can't disagree with that.
We did almost the same thing. Church ceremony. It was free because I was the children’s minister. Upscale country club lunch with mostly family. Went home and took a break. Dinner at church (all the children were invited) with food delivered from a local restaurant. It was a super fun day.
I plan to do something like that as well, except the minister is my father and the park in which we plan on having it is administrated by a friend of the family.
As a single man, I'd much rather save money for my unborn kids' college than spend on a wedding. Here in Bangladesh, weddings are WAY too big of a deal, because it's not only for the couple, but for their whole extended families. It eventually turns from "her special day" to "their special week"... I personally find it highly overrated.
@@Oscar4u69 yeah, other than the reception, there are 2 events before, one event after, one event after that with just the couple and their families, and maybe a day or two in between to make sure people are well rested for the next. Usually there are no breaks, but some couples put breaks between events to make sure everyone can attend the next one.
Do NOT ask a family member to photograph your wedding. No matter how good their camera is. Professional camera does not equal professional photographer. If you’re gonna splurge on one thing, I’d say a professional photographer would take priority since the food, the venue, the music, etc. all get left behind after your wedding day. Your photos, however, will be with you for years to come. And that’s my 2cents 😭
@Jayvee Garceron I think you can ask a family member to photograph the wedding, but you should subject them to the same pre-wedding scrutiny that you would the professional guy. Sit down and look at other weddings / events that they have photographed. Still life and panoramic views in the outdoors will not tell you what you need to know about their abilities to do a wedding. But if they do pass the test, why not?
wedding photo is the most useless thing i ever know. you paid very expensive photo and guess what? you never gonna look at it. never never ever gonna look at it.
*The most interesting wedding favors I ever saw were books: My parents' goddaughter is a librarian, and her and her husband had stacks of random books on the tables at the reception for guests to choose from.*
I was lucky to have a family to help teach me these things when I was getting married. I was able to rent out the Japanese gardens for $1500. I had set up my wedding buffet style so only had to spend a couple dollars on food per person. Total cost was 8000$ for 300 people. Turned out great!
Wow so much truth in this video. My wife and I paid for our wedding in full (no debt) by doing a lot of these things. We called in a lot of favors. We made sure to value what was most important, and we set a budget and stuck to it. Our wedding was less than $5000 and had everything we wanted. I personally think photos are the one thing you should not skimp on, because in the end they are ALL you will have to remember your wedding. That day was such a blur that if we didn't have the photos we'd have missed so much.
That's amazing! We felt the same way - photos wasn't worth scrimping on for us either. Sadly, we had things go sideways with the photographer afterward and only got tiny prints and none we could frame! Gah!
Negative. I refuse to accept financial help from family. If we can’t afford to pay for it ourselves, it ain’t happening! Also, I’ve got enough student loans in my life to get into more debt over a wedding 🙅🏽♀️ -Akeiva
As someone who works in a support roll for the industry (maintenance for a high-end caterer) I can absolutely support this message. Whenever I happen to end up on-site it always looks the same. Same over anxious bride, same prodding wedding planner, same obnoxious DJ, same white dress, same over decorated venue, same......... Focus on making your own memories. Everyone's been to a wedding before, and they'll be to another again. Just have fun with it. That's what gets remembered.
I love my wife. Watching this video reminded me of our amazing wedding. It only cost like $3k and we're still very happily married 2 years later. Don't waste money on a wedding half of your guests considered skipping. Amazing food, quick speeches, great music, and not getting rained on. That's what everyone really cares about. The rest of the details are incredibly unimportant.
"Inclusion" feels like a forced gimmick all too often but I can't help watching these videos even when the advise is something that seems like it should be common sense. Its visually appealing and the couples just feel so ... personal ... or maybe homely?
I saw a clip on RUclips where McDonald's was served for guests at a wedding because the groom and bride loves McDonald's. 😂 I mean why not serve food that you like and not some pretentious dish you think guest would like because it looks fancy. I rather a simple bbq meal and comfort food than a overly sized plate with small piece of carrot on it.
One of my friends saved a lot on her wedding. Her dress was her mums, her sister made all the decorations and her tiara, and said no to gifts and instead requested each guest just give gift money instead. Her brother took the photos and the invites were emails. It was a really nice small cute wedding and as enjoyable as those massive outdoor miami and Florida weddings I've been to.
My wedding cost was less then 2000$ and it was just a very small thing but....me and my wife were university debt free very early on. These guys are right its best to invest emotions then money in a marriage.
I asked one my computer repair customers to do my wedding. He just offered to do it at his house and it was just lovely, my mom showed and my husbands mom showed and that was about it. We said the thing (just kept the engagement ring, don't see why you need multiple rings like that if you don't want) and were married in the company of people we cared about. No checks for thousands of dollars (seems like another universe to me), no industry standards, just a fun little thing that we followed up with a good lunch at a café afterwards. I remember my friend who did the ceremony, a priest, passed away a while back but I will always thank him for holding such a wonderful ceremony. If you wanna go all out on weddings then by all means do it, but it's not always necessary if you can't afford all this stuff. Sometimes you can do something small and it will be special and worth remembering for the rest of your life! We still think fondly of it when we are here together playing games together all these years later!
As a wedding videographer myself I'm glad you didn't mention about getting family or friends to do the video as a way to save money. I've seen the results when couples have done this and the videos ended up being horrible: out of focus, no tripods, zooming in and out way too much, barely hear the couple speak, etc. Just get a professional. They have the experience and equipment.
My partner and I were together 23 years before the government allowed us to marry and at that point a traditional wedding ceremony seemed unnecessary. We had our family with us at the magistrate's office and were joined by friends at a nice restaurant to celebrate. All we paid for was the marriage license. We have nice photos, good memories and no regrets.
I was getting ready to go to bed and I ran into this channel.. now I’ve seen every single video lol. I got my BBA in finance and there was some new material I ran into! Definitely one of my favorite channels now :) keep up the great work!
For my wedding we did like they said and picked what was important to us to spend on and did some creative things with the rest. We priced everything in advance and saved for several months to not go into debt. My mom does home decor and we told her that she could plan all the decor and gave her a budget. She was so excited to do a wedding and she came in under the budget. For pictures we set up a shared Dropbox folder that went out with the virtual invites. We asked everyone to upload the photos they took (and we also had a professional friend take a few special photos we wanted). It was an awesome surprise having so many pictures of things that we didn't know was happening. Normally the photographer is only capturing one thing (usually you) but we had behind the scenes shots and many angles we wouldn't have gotten. Just like they said focus on the things that are important to you and try some creative ideas on the rest.
We totally did the cake trick AND we got our cakes from the grocery store. Two big sheet cakes in the back....no one knew. :) 20 years ago. We also got the flowers from the same grocery store floral section. 👍. And our neighbors who were musicians gifted us the live music from their band for the dancing. It was great - like being at a summer festival!
Wife and I seriously cut down on costs by getting married on a Thursday. Virtually everything was half price. The venue, the catering, the DJ and the photographer (who brought his apprentice gratis!)
You guys, my wedding was planned in a week and a half and cost less than 1000. Of course with help from family and friends. It was perfect for us. It was small but perfect.
We got our flowers at a farmers market a few days before for $10 per (huge) bouquet! We saved tons on flowers, they were unique, and we supported a small business!
I've been to weddings where they asks the guests to bring a plate of eats, that gets pooled. All finger foods. And the reception is held early in the day. So no need to have music for dancing or go all out on table settings. As for my brother, he paid for his own wedding. We used one of our church halls, so no cost there. Also there was no need to pay a minister as there is no paid clergy. One of the sister in-laws made the cake. Only close Family was invited. A family friend on his wife's side of the family made the food they wanted. Only needing to pay for the food. No catering costs. And we all helped with setting out and sorting of things as needed when at the hall. His wife's dress was eligant and simple. Made by a family friend. One of my cousin's (who is a professional) took thier wedding photo's and gave it to them as a present. Music was from a laptop that had a playlist on it. By the time things were all said and done he had spent less on everything, than what most these days spend on the wedding dress alone. You can still have wonderful memories without breaking the bank.
We cashflowed our wedding and honeymoon. It was everyone we wanted, we have no regrets! 😍 starting our marriage debt free has been amazing, we've been able to hit the ground running on saving up for a 20% down on our house.
Keeping the budget for our wedding under control was tough! Parents gave us a good framework to work from giving us a minimum viable wedding budget and we paid on top of that for anything we thought was worth it. Like we choose to pay the difference for a live band to perform. Thanks for opening up this subject, I wish I had these pointers last year
We budgeted and had a planner help. I made my invitations and decorations, I even made part of my dress, veil, and sash. Most of the money was spent on food but we got a great deal.
My cousin was fabulous with my flowers. We used silk flowers and she turned them into a wreath for us later. We also got cheesecake from the cheesecake factory for cutting and Walmart cheesecakes for the rest. We did a potato, smore, and hot chocolate bar and had the reception in our church building. All of this plus the fact that I was able to find a beautiful wedding dress for only 800 made my wedding day so much less stressful than it could have been
Glad to see this video. I’m recently engaged and really really don’t want to spend the earth on our wedding. We’re planning to have the wedding in a country hall (cheap! And includes crockery, cutlery and chairs/tables for 120 guests) where we’ll ask guests to bring a salad or side instead of gifts (we have all we need!) and we’ll serve them spit roast lamb provided by my pop from his farm. Love the idea of a smaller pretty cake but then other cake to feed masses. Thanks for the tips! :)
I had an amazing wedding, dress, rings, honeymoon, reception, flowers, food for no more than $2,100. We got over $4,000 worth in gifts, so it was totally amazing!
We spent a total of 500 euro on our wedding. We had a great day with lot's of food and entertainment. It was great! We've used the money we saved to buy our house WITHOUT mortgage! (yes it was a fixer upper). If we would have spent so much on a wedding we wouldn't even be able to look at land, let alone a house. Great video !
We did a small wedding with immediate family and close friends at a beautiful winery in Napa. We splurged a little on photography which was so worth it. Best of all we didn’t have to go in debt.
The first step for divorce is marriage. 40% of them ends in divorce within the first 5 year. I even met a couple who got divorced 6 months later. Yes, financial is one of the biggest reason. My grandmother used to tell me when I was a kid: When poverty knocks at the door, love flies out of the window.
Thank you guys so much for the reminder! I'm planning on getting married later this year and keeping costs down will be a priority for sure. I'd rather spend more money on a house and kids than for just a single day :)
Use your reasoning faculty called the brain. What they say is right, but it is all fundamentally kinda pointless because it presupposes that a wedding is happening or even necessary in the first place + it doesn't question of the practical nature of marriage. You can arrive at most of those things on your own if you spend the time to focus and think rationally. Don't get me wrong. I really like these videos and they are really nice refreshers and even better for youngsters who haven't even thought of those things. But on your own you could probably get a better solution than what they offer (most of the time). If numbers are what's left then this channel is definitely a great one because they are quite thorough in that department :]
Guys when looking for a venue, call your city and see if there is a facility you can rent. They tend to be much cheaper than any private venue. Here in Orange County, CA, most city venues are under $800 and they let you bring your own food and music. No need to go with the expensive cater and dj that the venue has a contract with.
You gave a great advice regarding using your friend's and family's skills. My best friend is getting married this year, and while I can't serve as a professional photographer, I'll be doing a few romantic and engagement photoshoots of her and her fiance FOR FREE. I'm also planning to use my money saving skills to help her pay less for the wedding. I'm that friend who offers wedding planning help at no cost, because she's my closest friend.
Interesting advice about poor memories. Can we get some more like that? i.e. Uncle Ted won't remember exactly what he had for dinner, he'll just remember whether it was served on time. Your high school friends won't remember what kind of napkins the drinks came with, just whether they had to pay for those drinks
I disagree with asking for the labour of friends and family. It's just pushing your financial liabilities onto them. No amount of respect can pay for their bills.
You could ask for help because they love you and can help. I'm an outdoor instructor. My sister called me in the middle of the night to fix her flat tyre. I wouldn't dream of charging a call out fee. Likewise, if she needed a break, I wouldn't expect her to pay me if I took her kids caving. Even though the latter is part of my job, both actions are a response to a need, utilising my skills and time. EXPECTING them to do it is rude, but it doesn't hurt to ask. I don't charge my friends when I do home repairs, plan trips, help them move, or give them gifts.
@@Xieda I definitely see your point. I likely wouldn't charge for a close family member either. But I also wouldn't just assume that they wouldn't want to charge. Also.. What does being an outdoor instructor have to do with a flat tire? And why doesn't your sister know how to change a tire? lol
@@ballwizz23 As an outdoor instructor, caving counts as one of my professional services, whereas fixing a flat doesn't. I was drawing a comparison between general 'lending a hand' and a task you might want to be paid for, and showing that at the core of it, they are the same activities. Using time and skill to help a loved one. She does know how to change a tyre. But it was the middle of the night, so it was cold (she feels the cold really easily) and dark, and it had been over a decade since it was necessary. You could say she was rusty. She is a very capable person. I'm just more mechanically minded and was nearby. Side note, my sister is a graphic designer and only charged me materials for my wedding invites /programmes. Her time and skill was a gift. 😁
You guys are SO smart and reasonable with financial advice. This is now one of my favorite finadvice channels because of the reasoning and logic behind it all. Thanks you guys
I LOVE this! My husband and I got married in the park (FREE public place), my cousin married us (FREE), I bought my dress on sale for $60, did my own makeup and got my viel for $12 on Amazon and his shirt for $18 on Amazon. We paid for Alcohol, a hall and dinner for everyone for the night ($2200) and that’s it! Married and focused on our previous debt! 👍🏽✨
I love her hair she looks like a doll! (I never wanted to get married because of that but now Hmm.. I might consider it because of the new hacks, thanks guys 😁)
Having attended a wedding at a rented race track hall, with paper plates of chips on the tables and a buffet of food… you can do it on the cheap. Don’t be ashamed. Kick it off as a celebration of your life together as a couple among the people you love and hold dear. When you go to a wedding hungry- you’re too thankful for any food at your disposal. I’ll admit loving the chips more than anything 😂😂😂😂
Nice upload timing. My fiancé and I are about to book our wedding. It's good to see that we're doing a lot of the right things to keep costs down (e.g. getting friends to help out). Also I'm not sure if this is a thing in the USA but in the UK you can save a ton of money by getting your wedding dress at a high street shop (if you don't use the term "high street" think Mall). Instead of thousands you can spend a couple of hundred. The dresses are pretty nice as well. :)
There is also one thing that can also be done. Yes it not the traditional way to get married but for some people it makes sense. My SO and I decided we would do a "Courthouse" Wedding (you go to you courthouse and sign the documents and get them notarized) and then a few years down the line we would do a traditional wedding.
Adam ruins everything talks about it. You are better off buying a fake diamond ring.The human eye cant tell the difference and its half the price. The only way she will ever know is if she see's the receipt or take it to a jewelry store to be looked at. But if she does take it to make sure its real it just shows how superficial she is and she didn't trust you which is a red flag anyway. My girlfriend told me she don't care if I get her a ring or not. I'm gonna get her one but I told her I'm not.
A lot of times we put way too much work into the wedding and not enough into the marriage. One lasts a day, the other should last a lifetime.
Husband material
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Other countries have way more expensive weddings and they last longer
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@@NoName-sp5dp which ones? No proof
This is great. Now I just need to find someone to marry...
Good luck Caleb. You can invite that special someone to watch Two Cents episodes with you! How romantic!
@@TwoCentsPBS marketing at its finest 😉
My first tought too 😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks.
@T N lol!!!!
Going to the courthouse April 10! 😍 It'll cost us 20 dollars. My father even gave us he and his late wife's rings. We're both excited and happy. Oddly it's everyone else, who are NOT getting married, who feel like they can tell us what we "should" do instead for our wedding. Social pressure is real, but it can't bring us down! ☺️
And you can always have a small renewal of your vows when you are more liquid anyway.
Good luck!
@Always Tired, GOOD FOR YOU, GUYS!!!! Very smart and brave choice!
My dream wedding. This is also a test of priorities, I feel like the more able a couple can resist societal/peer pressure the more successful they are likely to become.
His late wife As in not your mother?
Guys, please do NOT go *SUPER* cheap on the photographer!!! The food will always end up in the toilet and venue taken down, but the photos could possibly last a lifetime
I found the wedding photographer everyone!
But what if I never look at my photos anyway? I am the kind of person who will probably foget to ever get them developed or accidentally lose my flash drive or disc bc I'm just not sentimental and idc about photos.
Yongguk Is Ultimate Daddy Then you don’t have to do anything. It’s your wedding!! Your day! Do what you want!!!!
My cousin took our photos as a gift for us (she's taken photography courses, but didn't have wedding experience). It was wonderful anyways. And it was much nicer to spend photoshoot with people I grew up with than some strangers. Also, one thing people don't think about - when you look at incredible wedding photos by expensive photographers, a big part of the beauty is the whole expensive wedding itself (e.g. the venue is a castle, the dress is some fancy princess dress with a kilometer-long-weil, the car is some vintage car etc).
I 100% agree with this (and I'm not a wedding photographer). The photos were probably the most expensive part of our relatively inexpensive wedding and worth every penny because they are all you'll have left once the day is done, and for the most part, the wedding day is such a blur you barely remember it going through it.
Wedding photographer here! A huge way couples can save money is to INVITE LESS PEOPLE. Spend less on catering, possibly a smaller venue, less tables etc.
Ha!! My wife originally agreed to a small wedding. It wasn't until we entered the planning phase where I learned 250+ was her idea of small. She was even inviting the hairdresser&plus1 whom we had to pay for doing her hair. After taking a very close review of her invite list, we both learned most of the people she wanted to invite were people she talked to maybe one or two times a year. Reducing the guest list to just close friends made everything easier and much less costly.
Unless you’re hispanic then it’s impossible to invite a less people. My mom is 1 of nine children. My boyfriends mom 1 of 9, dad 1 of 8. If we invite just parents, uncles and their children/spouses it comes out to 180 guest. Which is what I want. But it will get crazy expensive....uggh
Why would one invite their own relatives and friends lesser just so that they can pay you photographers?? WTF ARE YOU ON??
Being open-handed with invites was the one thing I absolutely wanted to "splurge" on.
Bought my lovely vintage dress on eBay, family made a delicious dinner, and some talented ameteur friends took pictures we love.
It was a joyful party for all 300 guests and that's what mattered to us! Everyone has different values.
Had a 70 person wedding and totally agree! People with huge weddings of everyone they’ve ever met a few times don’t actually get to spend time with them. A smaller wedding is not only more affordable, it is more enjoyable. Have lunch with your uncle that you haven’t spoken to in a decade, and only invite your closest people.
I was just recently telling my brother this exact thing. Your wedding FEELS like a huge deal when you're young, but after years of marriage, it pales in comparison to the amount of work you'll put into your home, careers, pets, children, etc. It's just a ritual that society expects of us. The amount you cave into it is up to you.
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We went for a relatively thrifty wedding 20+ years ago. The church and minister were free since we were active church members. The organist and soloist were friends. We had two receptions. The first was an open reception in the church gym with self catered finger food and a cake from the grocery store bakery. The second reception was a dinner for close friends and family only.
My wife's attitude is that people spend far too much time and money planning their wedding, and very little time planning their marriage. I can't disagree with that.
We did almost the same thing. Church ceremony. It was free because I was the children’s minister. Upscale country club lunch with mostly family. Went home and took a break. Dinner at church (all the children were invited) with food delivered from a local restaurant. It was a super fun day.
I plan to do something like that as well, except the minister is my father and the park in which we plan on having it is administrated by a friend of the family.
@@YedidahMVO Good idea to have it in the park. Less need to decorate a place that is already pretty.
As a single man, I'd much rather save money for my unborn kids' college than spend on a wedding. Here in Bangladesh, weddings are WAY too big of a deal, because it's not only for the couple, but for their whole extended families. It eventually turns from "her special day" to "their special week"... I personally find it highly overrated.
A WEEK!!? 😱
@@Oscar4u69 yeah, other than the reception, there are 2 events before, one event after, one event after that with just the couple and their families, and maybe a day or two in between to make sure people are well rested for the next. Usually there are no breaks, but some couples put breaks between events to make sure everyone can attend the next one.
@@shanhussain6114 man you're right, besides kids and marriage are overrated
@@shanhussain6114 I feel you brother.we have the exact same thing here in Pakistan
Classic desi problems! The whole thing is super over the top.
Do NOT ask a family member to photograph your wedding. No matter how good their camera is. Professional camera does not equal professional photographer.
If you’re gonna splurge on one thing, I’d say a professional photographer would take priority since the food, the venue, the music, etc. all get left behind after your wedding day. Your photos, however, will be with you for years to come.
And that’s my 2cents 😭
If you divorced anyways in 5 yrs or less, you'll end up deleting those photos off your computer anyways😂
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I know a person that got married like a year ago and still doesnt have the photos because they got into a fight..
@Jayvee Garceron I think you can ask a family member to photograph the wedding, but you should subject them to the same pre-wedding scrutiny that you would the professional guy. Sit down and look at other weddings / events that they have photographed. Still life and panoramic views in the outdoors will not tell you what you need to know about their abilities to do a wedding. But if they do pass the test, why not?
wedding photo is the most useless thing i ever know. you paid very expensive photo and guess what? you never gonna look at it. never never ever gonna look at it.
@TamayoKo no one plans a divorce! And I look at mine every anniversary
2:00 Yeah... It is pretty crazy how expensive weddings can be! Good thing we have Two Cents, or else...I just...I just can't even!
*The most interesting wedding favors I ever saw were books: My parents' goddaughter is a librarian, and her and her husband had stacks of random books on the tables at the reception for guests to choose from.*
I was lucky to have a family to help teach me these things when I was getting married. I was able to rent out the Japanese gardens for $1500. I had set up my wedding buffet style so only had to spend a couple dollars on food per person. Total cost was 8000$ for 300 people. Turned out great!
Wow so much truth in this video. My wife and I paid for our wedding in full (no debt) by doing a lot of these things. We called in a lot of favors. We made sure to value what was most important, and we set a budget and stuck to it. Our wedding was less than $5000 and had everything we wanted. I personally think photos are the one thing you should not skimp on, because in the end they are ALL you will have to remember your wedding. That day was such a blur that if we didn't have the photos we'd have missed so much.
That's amazing! We felt the same way - photos wasn't worth scrimping on for us either. Sadly, we had things go sideways with the photographer afterward and only got tiny prints and none we could frame! Gah!
"The moments we remember the most often have nothing to do with how much they cost." -- You can put that on a t-shirt, or a coffee mug, well said!
Negative. I refuse to accept financial help from family. If we can’t afford to pay for it ourselves, it ain’t happening! Also, I’ve got enough student loans in my life to get into more debt over a wedding 🙅🏽♀️ -Akeiva
Yes, but what about tips on how to save my wedding?
What happened to your wedding, Barris?
Que s’est-il passé à ton marriage, Barris?
आपकी शादी को क्या हुआ, Barris?
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਿਆਹ ਨੂੰ ਕੀ ਹੋਇਆ,barris?
¿Qué ha pasado a tu boda, Barris?
Tip: Don't have a big one make it only for your close friends and family friends
Save the rest for your house
As someone who works in a support roll for the industry (maintenance for a high-end caterer) I can absolutely support this message.
Whenever I happen to end up on-site it always looks the same. Same over anxious bride, same prodding wedding planner, same obnoxious DJ, same white dress, same over decorated venue, same.........
Focus on making your own memories. Everyone's been to a wedding before, and they'll be to another again. Just have fun with it. That's what gets remembered.
Bold of you to assume I have more than two cents for a wedding
I love my wife. Watching this video reminded me of our amazing wedding. It only cost like $3k and we're still very happily married 2 years later. Don't waste money on a wedding half of your guests considered skipping. Amazing food, quick speeches, great music, and not getting rained on. That's what everyone really cares about. The rest of the details are incredibly unimportant.
1:09 I love that this series is so inclusive! They're definitely getting a subscription from me. Good job two cents.
Inclusivity is a high value to us as we get to use the wonderful platform of Two Cents!
"Inclusion" feels like a forced gimmick all too often but I can't help watching these videos even when the advise is something that seems like it should be common sense. Its visually appealing and the couples just feel so ... personal ... or maybe homely?
Food: McDonald's
Photos: my uncle Paco flip phone.
Music: spotify with a speaker.
Problem solve
lololoolol nice comment. People acting like they don't eat Mcdonalds on the regular.
I saw a clip on RUclips where McDonald's was served for guests at a wedding because the groom and bride loves McDonald's. 😂
I mean why not serve food that you like and not some pretentious dish you think guest would like because it looks fancy. I rather a simple bbq meal and comfort food than a overly sized plate with small piece of carrot on it.
McDonald's?
Insert Trump joke :)
I like to think that one of your friends watched this and went "I knew that cake was from Costco!!!".
One of my friends saved a lot on her wedding. Her dress was her mums, her sister made all the decorations and her tiara, and said no to gifts and instead requested each guest just give gift money instead. Her brother took the photos and the invites were emails. It was a really nice small cute wedding and as enjoyable as those massive outdoor miami and Florida weddings I've been to.
My wedding cost was less then 2000$ and it was just a very small thing but....me and my wife were university debt free very early on. These guys are right its best to invest emotions then money in a marriage.
I asked one my computer repair customers to do my wedding. He just offered to do it at his house and it was just lovely, my mom showed and my husbands mom showed and that was about it. We said the thing (just kept the engagement ring, don't see why you need multiple rings like that if you don't want) and were married in the company of people we cared about.
No checks for thousands of dollars (seems like another universe to me), no industry standards, just a fun little thing that we followed up with a good lunch at a café afterwards. I remember my friend who did the ceremony, a priest, passed away a while back but I will always thank him for holding such a wonderful ceremony. If you wanna go all out on weddings then by all means do it, but it's not always necessary if you can't afford all this stuff. Sometimes you can do something small and it will be special and worth remembering for the rest of your life! We still think fondly of it when we are here together playing games together all these years later!
Thanks for reminding me of how much money I save by not being able to find a girlfriend :v
You are able
Singledom does have perks.
Happy valentines day to you then XD discount candy, here we come.
Me and my wife’s wedding only cost us 20 bucks. And a much better memory
As a wedding videographer myself I'm glad you didn't mention about getting family or friends to do the video as a way to save money. I've seen the results when couples have done this and the videos ended up being horrible: out of focus, no tripods, zooming in and out way too much, barely hear the couple speak, etc. Just get a professional. They have the experience and equipment.
My partner and I were together 23 years before the government allowed us to marry and at that point a traditional wedding ceremony seemed unnecessary. We had our family with us at the magistrate's office and were joined by friends at a nice restaurant to celebrate. All we paid for was the marriage license. We have nice photos, good memories and no regrets.
I was getting ready to go to bed and I ran into this channel.. now I’ve seen every single video lol. I got my BBA in finance and there was some new material I ran into! Definitely one of my favorite channels now :) keep up the great work!
Dang, did you throw it in Atlantis Morissette reference? Wow, I'm impressed, lol
So subtle, and yet such a zing
Glad you caught that one!
U guys are awesome. I love the way you present the things.
I guess you don't know expenses of a indian wedding
It is up to you if you want to be a slave to your parent’s traditions.
It can go from a few hundred thousands to 10s of millions of rupees.
@@MetallicReg and be slave of West's tradition ?
Abhinav Singh Is that something that I have advised you or is it your dichotomy speaking?
The best thing is to not invite a whole lot of people . And get married on Mondays when everyone is busy.
That moustache is staring at me. I swear!
For my wedding we did like they said and picked what was important to us to spend on and did some creative things with the rest. We priced everything in advance and saved for several months to not go into debt. My mom does home decor and we told her that she could plan all the decor and gave her a budget. She was so excited to do a wedding and she came in under the budget. For pictures we set up a shared Dropbox folder that went out with the virtual invites. We asked everyone to upload the photos they took (and we also had a professional friend take a few special photos we wanted). It was an awesome surprise having so many pictures of things that we didn't know was happening. Normally the photographer is only capturing one thing (usually you) but we had behind the scenes shots and many angles we wouldn't have gotten. Just like they said focus on the things that are important to you and try some creative ideas on the rest.
My favorite educational channel! So down-to-earth.
Aww, thanks so much!
@@TwoCentsPBS No, thank you!
We totally did the cake trick AND we got our cakes from the grocery store. Two big sheet cakes in the back....no one knew. :) 20 years ago. We also got the flowers from the same grocery store floral section. 👍. And our neighbors who were musicians gifted us the live music from their band for the dancing. It was great - like being at a summer festival!
Wife and I seriously cut down on costs by getting married on a Thursday. Virtually everything was half price. The venue, the catering, the DJ and the photographer (who brought his apprentice gratis!)
you can tell this was a personal one for julia, good work and great advice .
That matri-money pun was A+
You guys, my wedding was planned in a week and a half and cost less than 1000. Of course with help from family and friends. It was perfect for us. It was small but perfect.
We got our flowers at a farmers market a few days before for $10 per (huge) bouquet! We saved tons on flowers, they were unique, and we supported a small business!
I've been to weddings where they asks the guests to bring a plate of eats, that gets pooled. All finger foods. And the reception is held early in the day. So no need to have music for dancing or go all out on table settings.
As for my brother, he paid for his own wedding. We used one of our church halls, so no cost there. Also there was no need to pay a minister as there is no paid clergy. One of the sister in-laws made the cake. Only close Family was invited. A family friend on his wife's side of the family made the food they wanted. Only needing to pay for the food. No catering costs. And we all helped with setting out and sorting of things as needed when at the hall. His wife's dress was eligant and simple. Made by a family friend. One of my cousin's (who is a professional) took thier wedding photo's and gave it to them as a present. Music was from a laptop that had a playlist on it. By the time things were all said and done he had spent less on everything, than what most these days spend on the wedding dress alone.
You can still have wonderful memories without breaking the bank.
I see what you did there with the Alanis Morissette reference... clever.
It's like raaaaiieeeaaaiin.!...
2:27👍
Didn't everybody?
We cashflowed our wedding and honeymoon. It was everyone we wanted, we have no regrets! 😍 starting our marriage debt free has been amazing, we've been able to hit the ground running on saving up for a 20% down on our house.
This guy looks like the younger brother of the Art of Manliness dude
and you look like you are about to take an L today
Totally! In fact, that's why I watched this channel the first time! And I'm glad I did!
Keeping the budget for our wedding under control was tough! Parents gave us a good framework to work from giving us a minimum viable wedding budget and we paid on top of that for anything we thought was worth it. Like we choose to pay the difference for a live band to perform. Thanks for opening up this subject, I wish I had these pointers last year
That cake hack is phenomenal!
We budgeted and had a planner help. I made my invitations and decorations, I even made part of my dress, veil, and sash. Most of the money was spent on food but we got a great deal.
The wedding industry has really suffered from lifestyle inflation. Prior to World War II, for example, only 10% of engagement rings had a diamond.
You two are so adorable, I'm so glad that I found this channel!
Yes! It's very ironic how the simplest/cheapest weddings last longer than those couples trying to keep up with the Jones's.
Joneses** and that's not completely true
Focusing on a limited number of essentials is very important. Good advice!
i love the way you both speak😍😍😍😍 total eye candy
My cousin was fabulous with my flowers. We used silk flowers and she turned them into a wreath for us later. We also got cheesecake from the cheesecake factory for cutting and Walmart cheesecakes for the rest. We did a potato, smore, and hot chocolate bar and had the reception in our church building. All of this plus the fact that I was able to find a beautiful wedding dress for only 800 made my wedding day so much less stressful than it could have been
Glad to see this video. I’m recently engaged and really really don’t want to spend the earth on our wedding. We’re planning to have the wedding in a country hall (cheap! And includes crockery, cutlery and chairs/tables for 120 guests) where we’ll ask guests to bring a salad or side instead of gifts (we have all we need!) and we’ll serve them spit roast lamb provided by my pop from his farm. Love the idea of a smaller pretty cake but then other cake to feed masses. Thanks for the tips! :)
I had an amazing wedding, dress, rings, honeymoon, reception, flowers, food for no more than $2,100. We got over $4,000 worth in gifts, so it was totally amazing!
Quality content y’all.
The music. The editing. The everything.
Love. ✊🏽
And that is why I'm getting married in the courthouse!
We spent a total of 500 euro on our wedding. We had a great day with lot's of food and entertainment. It was great! We've used the money we saved to buy our house WITHOUT mortgage! (yes it was a fixer upper). If we would have spent so much on a wedding we wouldn't even be able to look at land, let alone a house. Great video !
this is my favorite channel so far
Amazed at how your video is both entertaining and educating at the same time. Keep up the good work.
We did a small wedding with immediate family and close friends at a beautiful winery in Napa. We splurged a little on photography which was so worth it. Best of all we didn’t have to go in debt.
It is possible to do it on a budget, we did! 12 years ago 🥰 $3,200 dollars to be exact. 50 guest, family and friends included.
Some great tips here...the cake idea blew me away...that's genius!
You guys deserve 1 million subscribers
Make that 3-5 million
Just give it a second
It will come soon
They'll have it after the bald man retires.
It's amazing how your video has over 1200 likes and only 7 dislikes with this level of engagement! Keep up the good work :)
The first step for divorce is marriage.
40% of them ends in divorce within the first 5 year. I even met a couple who got divorced 6 months later. Yes, financial is one of the biggest reason. My grandmother used to tell me when I was a kid: When poverty knocks at the door, love flies out of the window.
Women are incapable of romantic love. They only give you the time of day when they are bought and paid for.
Thank you guys so much for the reminder! I'm planning on getting married later this year and keeping costs down will be a priority for sure. I'd rather spend more money on a house and kids than for just a single day :)
Don’t know what i’d do without you guys!!
Use your reasoning faculty called the brain. What they say is right, but it is all fundamentally kinda pointless because it presupposes that a wedding is happening or even necessary in the first place + it doesn't question of the practical nature of marriage. You can arrive at most of those things on your own if you spend the time to focus and think rationally.
Don't get me wrong. I really like these videos and they are really nice refreshers and even better for youngsters who haven't even thought of those things. But on your own you could probably get a better solution than what they offer (most of the time). If numbers are what's left then this channel is definitely a great one because they are quite thorough in that department :]
Guys when looking for a venue, call your city and see if there is a facility you can rent. They tend to be much cheaper than any private venue. Here in Orange County, CA, most city venues are under $800 and they let you bring your own food and music. No need to go with the expensive cater and dj that the venue has a contract with.
You gave a great advice regarding using your friend's and family's skills. My best friend is getting married this year, and while I can't serve as a professional photographer, I'll be doing a few romantic and engagement photoshoots of her and her fiance FOR FREE. I'm also planning to use my money saving skills to help her pay less for the wedding. I'm that friend who offers wedding planning help at no cost, because she's my closest friend.
Once again, thanks for confirming that I don't want to get married or have kinds. I am already making very good financial decisions!!! 😄
The allusion to Alanis Morissette Ironik song was really great and made me laugh a lot. Good job!
Interesting advice about poor memories. Can we get some more like that?
i.e. Uncle Ted won't remember exactly what he had for dinner, he'll just remember whether it was served on time.
Your high school friends won't remember what kind of napkins the drinks came with, just whether they had to pay for those drinks
I disagree with asking for the labour of friends and family. It's just pushing your financial liabilities onto them. No amount of respect can pay for their bills.
Agreed. They should be paid what they're worth regardless of your relationship with them.
Understandable..but is also an opportunity for them to advertise their talent.
You could ask for help because they love you and can help. I'm an outdoor instructor. My sister called me in the middle of the night to fix her flat tyre. I wouldn't dream of charging a call out fee. Likewise, if she needed a break, I wouldn't expect her to pay me if I took her kids caving. Even though the latter is part of my job, both actions are a response to a need, utilising my skills and time.
EXPECTING them to do it is rude, but it doesn't hurt to ask.
I don't charge my friends when I do home repairs, plan trips, help them move, or give them gifts.
@@Xieda I definitely see your point. I likely wouldn't charge for a close family member either. But I also wouldn't just assume that they wouldn't want to charge.
Also.. What does being an outdoor instructor have to do with a flat tire? And why doesn't your sister know how to change a tire? lol
@@ballwizz23 As an outdoor instructor, caving counts as one of my professional services, whereas fixing a flat doesn't. I was drawing a comparison between general 'lending a hand' and a task you might want to be paid for, and showing that at the core of it, they are the same activities. Using time and skill to help a loved one.
She does know how to change a tyre. But it was the middle of the night, so it was cold (she feels the cold really easily) and dark, and it had been over a decade since it was necessary. You could say she was rusty. She is a very capable person. I'm just more mechanically minded and was nearby.
Side note, my sister is a graphic designer and only charged me materials for my wedding invites /programmes. Her time and skill was a gift. 😁
Civil marriage is amazing if you can have them hosted in Manor houses and castles!
You guys are SO smart and reasonable with financial advice. This is now one of my favorite finadvice channels because of the reasoning and logic behind it all. Thanks you guys
That Granma and Granpa dancing picture was so touching.
Underrated channel God bless
I love you guys!! Im sending this to all of my engaged friends
We're following an older forgotten tradition
I'm wearing my mother's wedding dress! 😻
I LOVE this! My husband and I got married in the park (FREE public place), my cousin married us (FREE), I bought my dress on sale for $60, did my own makeup and got my viel for $12 on Amazon and his shirt for $18 on Amazon. We paid for Alcohol, a hall and dinner for everyone for the night ($2200) and that’s it! Married and focused on our previous debt! 👍🏽✨
I love her hair she looks like a doll!
(I never wanted to get married because of that but now Hmm.. I might consider it because of the new hacks, thanks guys 😁)
Wow I’m so happy I found y’all a channel.. love it!
Best channel on youtube
You guys are crazy awesome ! I can't believe I didnt know you before !
I love that you two are married! Thanks for the tips!
I just went to the court house, we couldn't be happier.
I just gotta say, I love how you guys are helping us out here. Great tips always and very down to earth option always!
The best way to have real memories and always remember a great moment of a wedding is having a photo booth on it 😊
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Having attended a wedding at a rented race track hall, with paper plates of chips on the tables and a buffet of food… you can do it on the cheap. Don’t be ashamed. Kick it off as a celebration of your life together as a couple among the people you love and hold dear. When you go to a wedding hungry- you’re too thankful for any food at your disposal. I’ll admit loving the chips more than anything 😂😂😂😂
These guys are cool and adorable that they might give nightking wearing bunny constume chills.
Nice upload timing. My fiancé and I are about to book our wedding. It's good to see that we're doing a lot of the right things to keep costs down (e.g. getting friends to help out).
Also I'm not sure if this is a thing in the USA but in the UK you can save a ton of money by getting your wedding dress at a high street shop (if you don't use the term "high street" think Mall). Instead of thousands you can spend a couple of hundred. The dresses are pretty nice as well. :)
You guys are like my financial parents
This channel is great. I love you guys.
You guys really put joy into making this video. 🤩
There is also one thing that can also be done. Yes it not the traditional way to get married but for some people it makes sense. My SO and I decided we would do a "Courthouse" Wedding (you go to you courthouse and sign the documents and get them notarized) and then a few years down the line we would do a traditional wedding.
Do one on how much of a rip off diamond engagement rings are!
Adam ruins everything talks about it. You are better off buying a fake diamond ring.The human eye cant tell the difference and its half the price. The only way she will ever know is if she see's the receipt or take it to a jewelry store to be looked at. But if she does take it to make sure its real it just shows how superficial she is and she didn't trust you which is a red flag anyway. My girlfriend told me she don't care if I get her a ring or not. I'm gonna get her one but I told her I'm not.