My Independence is a Problem // Living in my Car (story 12)
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- I am officially living on the road in my car, more specifically my unconverted bus. I am pointed in the direction of Colorado, where I will build out my skoolie with the help of a friend. Immediately I run into a mechanical problem. The highs and lows of this wild life offer me perspective into an are of myself in which I need to heal and grow: my independence. Rather, my hyper-independence. As much as I don't want to admit it, my hyper independence is a defense mechanism, a trauma response. So as I drive further into the unknown ahead, I take the time to reflect on this and make an unexpected pit stop to visit the person I trust the most.
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Lyss
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I learned from you today that yes self reliance is a protection and some times keeps me away from others. Thanks for your honesty and bravery😍
I think it's a balancing act; self-reliance also means you don't have to put up with people who don't honor you as you honor them. Anecdotally, the most self-reliant people I know attract the healthiest friends/partners. Irony: when you're strong enough to leave, you attract people with whom you want to stay.
Little lady please get a 177 air gun. They are sold at Walmart mart, air guns aren't considered a weapon so you don't need a permit to own them. The pellets are really cheap. They aren't a joke. Never pump it more than 12 times or you could burst the air bladder, they shoot much faster than a rimfire .22 gun but don't have as much nock down. I have bought a couple and they are just under 60 bucks 250 pellets are under $3 dollers. They are great for self defense and getting small game. They will easily drop a deer if you aim for the side of the head, Or anything.
The problem with being self-reliant, in the extreme, is that when you need nothing from anyone else, you’ll attract people who have nothing to give. This is a great realization for you to come to at this age.
I find that your way of looking at things is unique. You experience life fully. Your videos are uniformly well put together and I've enjoyed your journey up to now. I look forward to where you and Reo take us on your future adventures.
Jim, thank you so much for your kind words and for the super. I'm grateful to have you as part of this journey.
@@REGRETLYSS1 I have been watching your channel ever since my now Wife & I came across it. We got married August 14th 2021 and then went on the road for our Honeymoon ending in Illinois from Norwich CT. We made a few stops in NY, NJ, PA, Ohio, Indiana and of course Illinois in 7 Days. It was a definite BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING travel experience. When we found out "the Lucky Bus" was for sale, we jumped to conclusions that this LIFE is what we want! We have a YT Channel called "the Baez Chronicle" if interested. I will indeed be making more videos and staying informative to our audience. There is so MUCH IN THIS WORLD that a 9 to 5 job cannot do. Again, REGRETLYSS we wish to meet you one day. We were so close but we take this as a hint to continue what we love most. 🌎♥️
Great video, you are great. I've watched many of your videos, very interesting.
I have done similar but on the sea in my own boat. A large boat I'm still refurbishing and fixing things on. But after 3 years and traveling the oceans I think it's my time to take it easy now.
Your sweet spirit brought a tear to my 67 year old eyes. God damn girl …. Live your life as you see fit, I am in awe. You sound grounded, and self aware. I’ll be watching your growth, and living vicariously. Safe journeys to you both.. 👏🏽🙏🏼🇨🇦
The fact that you've come to this huge realisation after being on the road on your own for such a short amount of time is the exact reason I want to do solo van life.
Completely understand being overly independent. I've struggled with that for years myself. Self awareness and trusting the unknown is the only way to overcome this I believe.
But, on a more exciting note. Upstate NY!?! I have family there too! You made me miss it. I've been in Bali Indonesia for nearly 6 years, so seeing a small piece of home made me ever so slightly homesick. Love your videos and the music choices. 🎶 👌 I've been bouncing around your channel and I hope you love your new home in Colorado. 🙂
At 65, I know this: "I'm too independent" for most people to handle; and it didn't take me 65 years to learn that. It seems that in most relationships you're no longer a "me", but an "us"....and losing a part of yourself in the union. And then the tricky part w/ time: "Growing", somehow together, at "the same pace"....with the same goals, outlook, expectations, etc. Of course if you fuck it up, say goodbye to 50%. Of everything. For Life overall, my mantra: "No Expectations= No Disappointments".
Sometimes it is not healing (suggests you are damaged).
Sometimes it is just growth.
Life is a journey and continuous growth.
Keep it up!
Great job on the RV!
I can completely relate to what you said about being independent & cutting yourself off from others for protection. Stay safe and have a blessed & wonderful weekend.❤🙏🏼
There's something so calming and reassuring in watching your videos... I've watched you before with you know who.. but, I never subscribed. Now, I'm in love with your content.. your independence and your transparency. Thank you for sharing it with us and empowering women. God bless you🙏❤️
Im a little late to the game here. I ran across you a week or two ago. Your way of looking at life has really given me insight that ive needed to look at life differently. Ive been given a chance to start over, due to a worl related injury. I have had no idea what to do or where to go...any why do anything at all...and its made me miserable. Time to change that! Thank you!!
PS, we were neighbors or close (25 miles as the crow flies) when you were parked on the pier. Best of luck!
Loved your Welcome to my crib part ;) You certainly made me smile, and I needed that today! 💜
I hope this won´t sound mean or condescending, cos it´s meant as an compliment (I find it hard sometimes to find the right words to express what I´m thinking, downside of being Autistic) it seems like an old, wise soul is emerging from within you, figuring out what´s been missing in your life and acknowledge where it comes from and why, like REALLY seeing it, and you are taking control and making brave changes for the better 💜 change is hard, especially when you have to dig deep within and acknowledge behaviors that´s hindering you from being the best, happiest version of yourself, but it´s also necessary to be able to grow into the person you want to be, to live the life you want to live and reach the goals of your dreams.
It makes me so happy to see when someone is living their life fully in their own way, being brave enough to choose their own path, just like you are doing :) wise beyond your years.
I am so grateful that you´re letting us following along on your beautiful journey 💜 and as always, I wish you all the best in life, relationships, experiences, most of all, joy and true happiness :) whatever that may be for you!
I am sorry to bring this up, and I might be overstepping, but I just have to say, from the small amount of time since you and Dan decided to take different paths, you have grown tremendously :) 💜
(sorry bout the long comment, just my way of letting you know that I see you, and even though I don´t really know you, I care)
Stay safe, see yah on insta ;)
Thanks for sharing! I will begin my van life 1 September and will now be more comfortable not having it completed. Stay safe
Hi Lyss, I saw that you're watching the tv reality ''Alone''...it's the only tv reality i've been watching too since the first season and i really enjoying it. It's such a great tv show. You and Chad from living the van life inspired me to get into this kind of living when i will stop working in 7 years from now. Love your Channel and keep on riding in beautiful places in North America.
You go girl safe travels and continue to stop and enjoy the moments.
Hello my name is Aaliyah and I have had a rough life. I work everyday and pay bills and tired of the same shit everyday. I been depressed for many years and just recently went through a terrible break up, over time I started watching your videos and love how you create your videos and it helps me a lot when I’m down. My plan is to copy you and start my healing process and finally get to travel and experience new things.
Your self awareness is part of what makes you such a beautiful soul.
This one really spoke to my soul. Thank you. You’re really evoking something wonderful with these “diaries.”
I’m so enjoying your journey! Can’t wait to see more! BLESSINGS! Wanda Rios
Enjoyed the "bloopers". I smiled through the whole thing. You're such a pleasant gal. P.S. Ever thought of becoming an author? A book about your adventures and the life/travel lessons along the way. Your way with words/story-telling will surely keep the reader engaged. P.S.S. Hugs for Rio.
Where did you dump that coolant? Coolant is highly toxic and should only be disposed of at either the hazmat section of a dump or at an auto supply store that accepts coolant for recycling.
Really appreciate you inquiring! I spoke with the attendant at the truck entrance. They had a toxic waste dump where the coolant was properly disposed of. I couldn't do mama Earth dirty like that! Thank you for informing others in the comments.
@@REGRETLYSS1 Great, I forward to following your new build.
@@REGRETLYSS1 I was also wondering. Good to know that possibility is out there for me too when I finally hit the road. Kudos to Loves for having that.
I just found your website again. I don't think I subscribed last time. I did now. You seem to have your stuff together. An you seem to have a good sense of humor. Plus I can understand what you are saying. I'm 75 ( soon to be 76). I'm a single old guy that likes to watch you tube.
You're tough, pretty, smart and determined to succeed. I think you will and I am excited to watch, can't wait for 13!
Hey Lady! New subbie here as I just found your channel. Starting from the first video! Saying hey. Happy to be here and look forward to seeing you grow throughout these chapters ahead. I will be loudly cheering you and Rio on! Rio is such a sweet girl.
Always look forward to your videos. Enjoy watching you progress not only with your bus build, but with your life! Continued safe travels.
I just found your channel. I don’t know your story, but I relate to the few videos I have watched. Thank you for the openness and vulnerability
I know it is a work in progress but I’d feel so exposed with bare windows! Can’t wait to see what you do with the bus.
First video I’m seeing of yours thanks to @Chuck Cassidy and I love it! You’re hilarious! That crib tour lmao ❤️.. On a real note tho personal I like this conversion better than Charlie’s conversion on your bus! Haha shots fired at Charlie 😂 Damn I wish I knew how to tag someone on RUclips hopefully he sees this or you tag him haha.. but all seriousness everyone needs to see that conversion he did on your rig 😍😍
I guess we all have to some day ' find the way ' not as much on the road but, what's in all of us and our own journey thru life....what make us different and separates us from all the rest.....Safe travels and good luck on the rebuild...
Treasure and be treasured, both in equal measure.. our emotions are like pools of life giving waters, we get the best life when we drink from each others pools, not just one pool.. one love girl..its out there x
I really enjoy that you do van life videos without waiting for the van to be completely outfitted and 'ready'. There is a simplicity, plainness, home made video feel that is really refreshing and authentic.
I really appreciate this Mario. I treat my videos almost like diary entries, I'm glad the 'home made video' feel comes across and is enjoyable. Hope you stick around to see the completed build.
I would absolutely love to have a Skoolie at this point. Freedom, happiness.
My rent just went up another 110. Mth plus fees for my animals. More fees for every little thing. I don’t see me staying in current place much longer. Hoping & praying for good changes before holidays this year.
Minimalizing dependency on others is good, total isolation removes you from fun opportunities with people, balance is needed. Protect yourself from a world that may fail you with government and centralised institutions, other people can still be useful, better judgement and experience is needed here 💗👍🇬🇧 much love ❤️
As a late but wonderful personality Michael Brooks said, Be ruthless to institutions but kind to people.
I gave this link to my sister and I said she should watch this it's really good there's more than what you think I love your philosophy peace be with you and may the abundance be poured out on you press down filled up to overflowing
Having the heater valves was good. Having Charlie to send you looking for them, even better.
it also showed that there was no self reliance going on, despite self reliance being mentioned multiple times.
I’m impressed by your journey of self reliance and I feel that your journey will lead to many meaningful relationships. Rest assured you’ll will meet someone very special as you go down that road as many of us have. I can appreciate your freedom on the road and am envious! As I have two forms of cancer and with the pandemic I can not take a journey such as yours. Know I enjoy your read on life and wish you the best on life’s journey. Stay safe and know you are appreciated by many! Much love to you kid!
i love and appreciate your self reflection. i believe far too many people now-a-days either actively avoid this or pick up bad habits to cover up having to deal with the real world. thank you for being you and good luck with the bus build!
Awesome bus home on wheels your dog is one very cool .love your attitude & video 👍
It's going to be awesome to look back at this when you've finished building it out. Nice upload definitely appreciate the honesty in your video. 👍
Really appreciate all your comments. Glad you're here :)
@@REGRETLYSS1 Glad I found your channel it's awesome seeing someone follow there dreams the way your doing and sharing so honest through it all. Your videos have made me contemplate and rethink different subjects that you share during your growth and journey. Thanks for the response. Safe travels hope all is well with bus 2.0 🤙
The puppet masters hate to see former puppets walking or driving around without strings controlling every move.... Your independence is a problem to the ones who are not free and or the ones taking away freedom.... It is not however a problem to you be free and blossom your strength and courage just intimidates them that's all
I think your only real problem is that your too beautiful(jk).... It distracts everyone from seeing your inner beauty and I know you aren't trying to do it but we humans tend to...... "Squirrel"!! Ok now what were we talking about?
Some ppls envy comes out in hate while others express it with gratitude.... Gratitude is the attitude that I choose to use🤓🕯️
Nog to mention the other puppets who have bought into the worldly lifestyle, caught up in the smith and jones mindset were sold a bill of goods on everywhere we turn.
Marketing the system of the beast isn't just in commercials, turn on the idiot tube, radio or watch a movie and were programmed to buy into the system. Those still working on the company farm, shopping at the company store and seeing the company doctor don't like to see others living a loving, peaceful and more free life. We haven't had freedom since settlers have crossed the country in Conestoga wagons.
True freedom ended with the certificate of birth, social security number, and certificate of death was introduced. You can tell who most of the people are that are sick of they way life has become. They are either living off grid roaming, or watching the videos of those who are wishing they could do the same lol. Great comment, just thought I'd add the ones you didn't mention. God bless!!
@@checkingoutgypsymike2075 AMEN 🙏 as if a name or number could ever represent who we truly are.... Agreed that's why ppl making videos should wait months before posting so the ones trying to stop freedom won't know where they are 🥺
Dude!!
The Bus Tour was the best,
I couldn't stop laughing.
"Not sponsored" lol
It's a rare and special woman that can live so simply. I never woulda thought it could be true. I guess there really are like minded women out there who want to live the same way as me.
I thought I'd seen all of these, but this one was unique. It was good to see your BEST friend!!!! Those are special times.
That was awesome I think my encouragement on IG to keep ur chin up is about a month or so late 🙈😂 but I’m quietly thankful that this is not taking place after the roof raise and your trip afterwards lol. I love hearing u express your joys of the simple life it’s cool too hear my own inner thoughts of nomad skoolie life being put into such eloquent words from another persons mouth. I think it takes a unique person to appreciate what our community loves so much and it’s reaffirming and exciting to know that even in our own self isolation and self reliance there’s still community, which I was so excited to hear that u hand internally landed on. It’s def ok to be self reliant but we were designed to be in community and it’s necc. For our inner health to have that community to belong too. Cheers Lady keep em coming! (And thanks for the inspiration seeing this makes me want to start documenting my journey more as well😊🙏)
Can't wait to see the build out. Great content. Thought provoking
Wow Uur amazing. Could not stop watching. Good luck in everything you set your heart to.
Oh to be young and free and have such a loving dog as my sole companion, even though I have a brother whom I love dearly as you have seen when watching my latest video. And when I reach my final destination and the build begins in earnest, oh what a difference bigger space can make - more palatial than merely a van/home build. Thanks for sharing your adventures so far. Tata the Noo from Scotland.
Birds of a feather flock together. That is a keeper from me to you.
⚓ Anchors away.
I love your sweet attitude and I see you maturing in wisdom and knowledge. I just hope Rio is eating healthier than you are!😂 What an amazing experience you are sharing with us. Keep on keeping on, dear Lyss 👍💗🙏🏻🌺🤗
really enjoyed it....thanks for that...did learned much which is great...best!!..your transportation turned in something really nice...take care
New subscriber. Love your vibe and can’t wait to see what you have in store for that old bus.
I relate to your trauma response yet the realization that what you truly want is connection with others. I am very introverted which helps me in some ways but it's not healthy.
Love your facetious tour at the end of the video. Thanks for the entertainment! Bon Voyage!
Too funny blooper ending, surely you will have an awesome new home and I totally GET IT 😂😂😂🙏
I do love the loves overnight parking video the best you are so good you make what we live with seem glamorous and it kind of is in our own way
I find your outlook on life refreshing, and surprisingly wisened in one your age. Some use the phrase, "an old soul," but I think that isn't quite right either. You combine a youthful optimism with a mature poetic way of expressing yourself that reminds me of a modern day Charles Kuralt. It is natural that we all change, but in doing so don't let your core change, pivot around that core to the new you. Oh, and that waterfall was very cool!
I really love that you went from the last fully done skoolie which was by all accounts gorgeous to something more simple. I can't wait to see what you do with this one!
I can’t wait to watch you build your new skoolie. I wish you had some covers on your windows at night (I am 65 and worried for you😂😂).
Colorado was one of my favorite places for van life. Careful of the elevation! one minute you’re 6,000ft up next you 12,000 and you wake up nauseous and dizzy ha
I was following the deep and thoughtful narrative and then it happened … Gummies candy. Got to love it!
Loved this one and your openness about self reliance as a protection mechanism. I'm reading a book you might enjoy called Love Sense. It's all about the importance of connection.
For seven years my wife, dog and I traveled in converted ambulance based on the same Ford your bus is built on. Good times. We often said "Thank god for strangers." Lots of good people out there.
New subscriber here...your videos and insights are soul touching. Thank you girl...and furbaby for your vulnerability and sharing of your life. The past few months I've been selling things, building out my 4runner, and preparing to head out on the road indefinitely. Just gave my 30 day notice today. You remember how that feels right?!?! New adventure is coming..with all its fear, anxiety, and adrenaline. I'm ready...and not ready..both are perfect. My departure point is Colorado Springs, next stop...TBD. Hope we cross paths someday..me and my chocolate girl Priya (lab) would love it. Looking forward to the next one!
Hey. I might have missed quite a few of your videos! You’re in a different bus! I’ll go back to watch them. Stay safe!
Hi people, I am from Brazil, living in LA just broke up, and I am totally thankful for this opportunity, I thought I was the only one feeling this way, but seems we have a lot in common, I am buying my short bus, sooner as I can, and I will start my adventure too, wish me the best!!!
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Boa sorte, Barbara! Que bom ver uma brasileira corajosa. Me enche de orgulho. Não cheguei tão longe como vocês em termos de desbravamento, mas me identifico muito com o espírito aventureiro. Amo viajar sozinha. Faço isso há vários anos, já conheci vários países e as pessoas estranham meu marido "deixar" eu viajar sem ele. Tenho 50 anos e ainda quero fazer muita coisa ainda na carreira, estudos e acredito que nós, mulheres, quebramos barreiras e inspiramos umas às outras. Abraços
You remind me of my daughter, you are about the same age, tough, independent, and determined. I paused the video @ 4:49 and that look on your face, with the sun shining on you and your eyes looking off to the side into the camera, is a look i have seen before , on my daughter ! Best of luck, and safe travels to you :)
You are amazing and you are very strong woman I am proud of you give Rio steak you make smile thank you I have schizophrenia it very hard I am proud of your are very beautiful thank you I wish you happiness I love Rio he is very beautiful dog I wish I could travel with you everyone loves you I love you peace it's just a dream I am a loser I wish you prosperity and tranquility I love Rio you are my hero thank you are are a inspiration to me you are very smart I love your personality keep up the awesome job. 🌹
Nice video, and you are a beautiful person . I’m thinking you will have plenty of offers on relationships but knowing the right one for you will probably be difficult. Like you can’t see the forest for the all the trees or however that saying goes. Take care luv, safe travels to you.
Good ole Lake Erie seems a little eerie at night. I'm about an hour from Columbus. Amazing video as always.
PS- I'm close with my little sister too.
You are Awesome,keep making more videos, you are very inspirational.
Thanks
Love the bloopers💕😉 Have a great day
Beautiful soul, you will find someone who compliments what you have already accomplished yourself 💕
Gurrlll, your MTV Cribs blooper was great! Safe journey and good fortune on your build out. MTV may be calling in the future because your bus might just be that fantastic!
I want to thank you for sharing your journey with us I'm truly enjoying watching you 2 together iam very happy I found your channle thank 😊 you Debbie from the mountains ⛰ of New Hampshire
I love the way you tell your story you definitely live a beautiful life i could only imagine to live like you and
Emotional isolation can only take you so far. Finding someone to share that isolation is what it's about.
Really enjoyed this video.
Love how you put your feelings into words. It's beautiful, it's poetic and it's real. You have a wonderful gift.
Looking forward to watching the progress of your bus build.
Wish you the best luck in your bus build-off. Show us what you got in the end of finishing touch-up. Put on the hot rod tires in the back to smoke up the payment. Can't wait to see the inside.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey. I’m also super excited of getting my cargo van soon God’s willing so I can build it. When that happens would really love to meet up with you and your happy doggie😁
Stay strong and cannot wait to see the progress of the built! Thanks for inspiring me!!🙌
Recently discovered your channel. Enjoy your spirit and outlook. Love the dog.
Breathe deep, no amount of thought or worry will stop bad things from happening, you can roll with it. But don't let blocking bad stuff take all the time/energy when you could be letting good in.
Haha.. Loves the MTV Cribs walk through. Also love the duct tape X over the school bus sign, lol.
Keep reflecting and growing. That’s what makes us better people. Always looking for ways to improve ourselves and offer the best version of ourselves to the world and others.
beuatiful bus video from you. wish you so much luck and hope everting comes good whit you and your dog and the bus. keep going and stay safe whit your health
Stay safe princess, Rio your such a blessed spirit sent to watch over my girl! HopenI get to see the end id the bus build but iv not I know it will ne grand and special and your twin flame is oyg there! Love you guys
I am so proud of you girl good job
I came across your channel randomly this is such a beautifully done video, I'm looking forward to seeing your build and journey 😊✌🏻
Bigger bus? I thought I was the only one eating cheerios all the time . Happy trails :)
SO.... you seem to like Cheerios! :) great video, thanks for bringing us along.
Wow! Inspiring, compassionate, courageous and honest. ❤🙋🏽♀️ New subbie here. Safe travels! Live long and prosper.🕊🔆
The more free we seem the more reliant we are. But how smoothly our modern "thing" operates you wouldn't really realize it or maybe you would, that the guy who repairs the vehicle a person needs, but doesn't necessarily want. I've been there when my big rig breaks down in the desert. But yeah, I wouldn't date the dude either lol
Love the beware of dog sign in the window
Watching in my van conversion, while listening to the waves in San Onofre beach So Cal. Best wishes on your journey
lol, was going to ask about temporary sheets on the windows, but I guess they are pretty high up. Safe travels! Can't wait for the next steps!
You are perfect just as you are, You don’t have to change for anyone.
Another gorgeous video 😍
Oh my gosh !!!!! I live in columbus ohio and sail on erie during the summer !!!!! It looks like you and your brother explored goodale park - short north
One of the prettiest girl's in America and not afraid to travel solo either.
Love your journey! Thanks for sharing. Verry inspiring! And funny - nice bustour 😂
Good on ya. Happy travels.
Came here to check out your skoolie for tips on my build, but I’ve really come to enjoy your videos! We’re kind of similar people, but I guess that’s why I’m also trying to get a bus lol