And above all, don't let him come back (in most cases). And just in case you do, don't give him more than one second chance. That"s a pattern that will never work.
@@BernMendez What If his pulling away happens after a few messages post breakup? Long story short, from the beginning we were both looking for a serious relationship, we were exclusive and everything was ok until he became cold, so I ghosted him for a few days. Then he saw me on a dating app, he thought I was cheating on him, he said good luck and blocked me, 2,5 months later he unblocked me and 24 days after unblocking me, I texted him on a celebration day, he replied soooo quickly but coldly. Next day I thanked him and he replied fast as well. 5 days later he initiated contact with me by texting me first, he just asked how am I doing and I replied normally and returned him the question and he answered very shortly. And since then no contact between us. It's been a 26 days now. So does the message you suggested to send, applies to my situation? What should I tell him exactly?
Thank you for this. When he pulled away, I stopped trusting him. I texted my feelings to him & said goodbye. I'm not willing to be with any man who does that to me.
My whole life it was a given that men don't like women who are all over them, bothering them or even being overly affectionate all the time. That was my experience and the women I know. I actually met a man who wanted a woman all over him, day in and day out. Always available, always asking questions, talking, being affectionate. It boggled my mind. If he was upset about anything, I would ask maybe twice if he wanted to talk about it and he would say no. He would be so moody and pouting so I would say okay well I will leave you alone then. He would get angry and say, "Obviously you don't really care for me because you only asked me twice what was wrong and didn't hang around smothering me." I was flabbergasted. Never, ever met a man like this before.
Mother issues. He’s an unmothered son. You’ll never be able to meet his emotional needs because he skipped the enmeshment phase of infancy. He also expects you to KNOW what’s wrong with him. If you LOVED him, you’d know. This is a lack of proper attachment to his caregivers in infancy. He must seek help for himself and be willing to do the work of learning to parent his own inner child in order to grow and heal his attachment issues.
@@christinamckinney2370 Great insight. I found out later on that he hates women but just uses them (also something to do with his mom). He is also a narcissist and a bi sex addict, has horrendous anger issues and PTSD. I really hit the jackpot with this one 😳
You forgot #6: he's a natcissist, and is pulling away to be with some other supply or ge wabts to leave you but not close the door completely, so he can come back. I think its important to strss this, be ause it is real, it exists and produces a lot of damage (esoevially in wasted life, and emotional damage and real trauma). These people may seem like the tipes 1-5, but the motivation is totally different. They should NOT be given the benefit of the doubt - or you will lose your liferume over it . But they are hard to identify, unless you have previous experience with it. Its a player times 10 - its next level manipulation. (Talking from personal experience).
Hi, anyone of you had any such experience that a man was starting to fall into and then started to pull away? I wonder what your experiences are. I am plainly curious, because I had never. I mean, if I ever noticed lowering the heat, I either knew the reason (usually it's because he lived far away, so the chemistry naturally fades away), or I was simply asking him what was going on. That simple. And then go. I am bored with waiting until a guy knows what he wants.
Seems to me they come from experience. I’ve experienced guys that are addicted to the Chase. I’ve experienced guys that just want sex and pretend they want a relationship.. not giving them sex is the quickest way to flush those out. I’ve experienced guys that are terrified of emotional intimacy because they’ve been hurt in the past. And sir, and I’m going to assume you’re a sir because it seems like it while you may not like the answers that are being given by these women more likely than not they are coming from experience so take it up with your bros and how they act.
Thank you Bernardo ❤You are always on time every time I encountered any situations in relationship I suddenly got an email from you that indeed encouraged me. This is timing ⏱️ because the 2nd point you said that he told me last night he was scared and afraid to be hurt… the what to do tips you gave the second one relates though. thank you 🙏🏻 you’re such a blessing ❤
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If he walks away, let him go.
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And above all, don't let him come back (in most cases). And just in case you do, don't give him more than one second chance. That"s a pattern that will never work.
Amen.
Sometimes it's just a game he plays. He enjoys denying the girl what she wants. Becoming a narcissist. Kick him to the curb!!! It only gets worse.
Thank you for watching.
@@BernMendez What If his pulling away happens after a few messages post breakup? Long story short, from the beginning we were both looking for a serious relationship, we were exclusive and everything was ok until he became cold, so I ghosted him for a few days. Then he saw me on a dating app, he thought I was cheating on him, he said good luck and blocked me, 2,5 months later he unblocked me and 24 days after unblocking me, I texted him on a celebration day, he replied soooo quickly but coldly. Next day I thanked him and he replied fast as well. 5 days later he initiated contact with me by texting me first, he just asked how am I doing and I replied normally and returned him the question and he answered very shortly. And since then no contact between us. It's been a 26 days now. So does the message you suggested to send, applies to my situation? What should I tell him exactly?
Thank you for this. When he pulled away, I stopped trusting him. I texted my feelings to him & said goodbye. I'm not willing to be with any man who does that to me.
Some have BPD. Borderline Personality Disorder. Ie they are mentally ill. They will reject you then 3 weeks later want you back.
I dated one of those and it was a nightmare for both of us
If he's wishy washy.... as the great song says, 'I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair'!
:)
The 4th one spoke to me, thank you! They might have an intention but lack the capacity..so true😳 thank you for this video!❤️
You're welcome!
This is the quickest away for a supposedly grown mature man to get friend zoned.
Thanks for watching.
My whole life it was a given that men don't like women who are all over them, bothering them or even being overly affectionate all the time. That was my experience and the women I know. I actually met a man who wanted a woman all over him, day in and day out. Always available, always asking questions, talking, being affectionate. It boggled my mind. If he was upset about anything, I would ask maybe twice if he wanted to talk about it and he would say no. He would be so moody and pouting so I would say okay well I will leave you alone then. He would get angry and say, "Obviously you don't really care for me because you only asked me twice what was wrong and didn't hang around smothering me." I was flabbergasted. Never, ever met a man like this before.
Thanks for watching.
Mother issues. He’s an unmothered son. You’ll never be able to meet his emotional needs because he skipped the enmeshment phase of infancy. He also expects you to KNOW what’s wrong with him. If you LOVED him, you’d know. This is a lack of proper attachment to his caregivers in infancy. He must seek help for himself and be willing to do the work of learning to parent his own inner child in order to grow and heal his attachment issues.
@@christinamckinney2370 Great insight. I found out later on that he hates women but just uses them (also something to do with his mom). He is also a narcissist and a bi sex addict, has horrendous anger issues and PTSD. I really hit the jackpot with this one 😳
@@remarkable937 What a poor, suffering soul. I wish everyone had an emotionally present, affectionate, loving mother and father.
@@christinamckinney2370very well put.
Your work is AMAZING! And, yes, VERY INSIGHTFUL. Thank you!!!!!!💝
Thank you Sharie!
You forgot #6: he's a natcissist, and is pulling away to be with some other supply or ge wabts to leave you but not close the door completely, so he can come back.
I think its important to strss this, be ause it is real, it exists and produces a lot of damage (esoevially in wasted life, and emotional damage and real trauma).
These people may seem like the tipes 1-5, but the motivation is totally different. They should NOT be given the benefit of the doubt - or you will lose your liferume over it .
But they are hard to identify, unless you have previous experience with it. Its a player times 10 - its next level manipulation.
(Talking from personal experience).
Great video as always, and remembering self-worth is the most important thing when on the dating scene.
It really is, thanks for watching.
Great advice!!
Hi, anyone of you had any such experience that a man was starting to fall into and then started to pull away? I wonder what your experiences are.
I am plainly curious, because I had never. I mean, if I ever noticed lowering the heat, I either knew the reason (usually it's because he lived far away, so the chemistry naturally fades away), or I was simply asking him what was going on. That simple. And then go. I am bored with waiting until a guy knows what he wants.
Why are men so complicated good video thanks ❤️😊
Humans are complicated 😊
encourage women to DRESS CLASSY💓💕💗🩷✨🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thank you Bernardo.... You need to be cloned 😂
You are so kind. 🙏
You nailed it
Thank you 😊🙏
Thank you❤
You're welcome 😊
8:42 clip ❤
Or just when they see that the woman isn't capable of committing to that relationship.
Huge Redflag!!!
Thanks for sharing.
Great points! :)
Thank you. :)
These comments from women are not from direct logic. As usual. Thats will be an issue for eternity.
Seems to me they come from experience. I’ve experienced guys that are addicted to the Chase. I’ve experienced guys that just want sex and pretend they want a relationship.. not giving them sex is the quickest way to flush those out. I’ve experienced guys that are terrified of emotional intimacy because they’ve been hurt in the past. And sir, and I’m going to assume you’re a sir because it seems like it while you may not like the answers that are being given by these women more likely than not they are coming from experience so take it up with your bros and how they act.
Thank you for sharing and proud of you for having standards and boundaries! : )
Thank you Bernardo ❤You are always on time every time I encountered any situations in relationship I suddenly got an email from you that indeed encouraged me.
This is timing ⏱️ because the 2nd point you said that he told me last night he was scared and afraid to be hurt… the what to do tips you gave the second one relates though. thank you 🙏🏻 you’re such a blessing ❤