Days in My Life as a Neurodivergent Adult
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- Опубликовано: 18 апр 2024
- Just some random scenes from days in my life, dealing with running late, dealing with burnout, managing meltdowns as a grownup, starting an art project, honestly they might be out of order from the way I lived them but hopefully if you are autistic or have ADHD maybe you can share some tips that have helped you. Hope these random scenes from my life are relatable (or at least a bit entertaining).
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You have no idea how much the train moment made me happy. Honestly most RUclips videos would be vastly improved if they had a random shot of cool trains in the middle.
Right? Random moments of stuff that just makes us happy 😊
This video was suggested by the RUclips algorithm and boy it’s spot on. I have broken down (crying not screaming) in the grocery store twice in my lifetime (50+ years). In the one the manager walked over and asked what was wrong and it was because they kept moving the food around and I couldn’t find anything. The manager was nice and kind and he said he’d stop moving the food and he did. I don’t recommend falling apart in a grocery aisle, but there are worse things and sometimes people are nice.
Being autistic and with chronic illness is very hard. But I love your attitude.
Your artwork looked interesting and I hope to see more in future videos. New subscriber for sure 😊.
Thank you! And thank you for sharing yoru story, makes me feel less alone. I am trying to have the best perspective under the circumstances, it does get better in time.
Wearing a cute bunny hat in the morning and using a cute flowery tea cup is honestly goals 💅
Gotta romanticize the little moments in life
I love the rabbit ears!!!
Thank you! 😊
I'm TOTALLY living for the cute, little, pink bunny ears! 🥰🤗💖
🥰🥰🥰 Thank you!
I completely understand the snack thing. I work in a grocery store and all I can tell anyone who meets this frusteration. Its not the people who work or even manage the stores fault, its the higher ups who make those random decisions. Trust me I freaking hate it too!
I try to never take it out on the employees because you are right, it’s not their fault.
Loved your meltdown story...made me feel so much better about almost crying yesterday because the shop no longer stocked the type of notebook i have been using for journaling this year. I am 68. Other notebooks are available. 😊
I feel this, it’s not about having other options, we don’t want other options, we want the safe option that we already love! There are plenty of other things in life outside of our control that we have to be adaptable with. I think that’s what makes it such a thing when our favorites disappear, one of the few things we felt we could depend on have vanished.
This dude is a vibe I can get behind
I would genuinly like to be this dude friend.
Thank you my friend, I appreciate you.
I've only recently discovered I was neurodivergent and everything suddenly made sense. My whole life was clear and my new perspective helped me understand why I struggle the way I do. Every time I've experienced severe burnout in the past I thought it was my fault and the way I dealt with it was trying it ignore it and I would keep pushing myself until I fell apart. I almost couldn't even take care of myself when I fell apart like that. Now I know why I was so stressed and I'm working on strategies to not fall apart next time.
I am so glad to see that you are learning about who you are and getting clarity for your life. It really does make a difference when we begin to learn what’s going on inside our minds, getting my diagnosis made me understand my life so much better
I get watery eyes when I am looking forward to buying a specific snack or drink, only to either A. Not be able to go buy it due to the day’s circumstances, or B. There’s no more!!! And I get quiet and try not to burst into tears 😂
That’s real life right there
I hate going to the store and not finding the snack i desperately wanted😭it’s happened a few times where I’ve gone to get lime hot cheetos and they’ve been OUT OF STOCK!! Same with a specific oat milk creamer that was a food fixation for me for a while and a very specific cake slice I get when I go to certain stores 😭it especially sucks when it’s one of your safe/comfort foods :(
Agreed , it’s amazing how it can make an already rough day so much worse.
not even a minute in and you started spitting fire 🔥🔥🔥
❤️🖤 appreciate that my friend.
I really like this. Unfortunately, I work at a place that has a point system for being late, absences etc, so my ability to properly "preen" myself before getting to work isn't priority for them and isn't always possible. They prefer my actual body to be there, regardless of the condition I am in emotionally and mentally.
I never understood that, to give every employee 10-15 minutes to get themselves settled for the day would increase productivity, I am certain of it. The days I don’t prep my mind for the day I am for less effective.
6;19 OMG! Right here, this is me too. So so many products that I have come to love just stop getting made, so infuriating. It has me now over buying and stock-piling certain items now that I really like for fear they too will vanish!!😠
That’s what I need to do! Next time I find a favorite food I’m gonna grab as much as I can.
RELATABLE my dude. all of it.
Thank you! Appreciate you
Thank you for sharing. ❤ to the bunny 🐰 ears & tea and trains. I hope your art is appreciated because I think it's a great piece. ❤ I'm with you on the grocery stores...I may have done a small foot stomp of frustration at mine for changing their offerings more than once. I hope if / when you read this you have a great day!
Thank you so much! I appreciate your thoughts and support.
I can definitely relate to how you were talking about dealing with things internally vs externally, and even with how struggling to manage that stress internally can flare up physical health symptoms. "I cannot always self regulate over things that are technically trivial" sounds a lot like my experience with autism as well. I love that art piece you're working on, and hope you are/will be content with how it turns out!
Thank you! It turned out great, and will be in a local art show!
I totally get that. My own family doesn't get that about me. I need a certain amount of time in the morning to pull myself together. I need my routine. When I'm deviated for any reason, it throws me off. I've been diagnosed with ADD, but I suspect that I am also on the spectrum. Females tend to be undiagnosed. Love these more personal videos you've been doing.
Thank you! I’m still gonna read stories, but I’ve been challenging myself to take the content I make for TikTok, and take those little scenes from my life and try to make what I like to call “Director’s Cuts” of my life and show them here.
just stumbled upon your channel, i’m so happy to have found it. this video was such a comfort. you very much have a feeling of someone who is good at creating community through just being yourself and being vulnerable and authentic. and all us disabled people really need more community. it feels like you’re doing important work by sharing yourself! thank you 🩷
Thank you! I used to try and hide my mental and physical health issues thinking that was what I needed to do to be accepted, but I never built community doing that. It wasn’t until I started sharing my story, struggles, and failings that I began to find my people. Glad you are here!
Yes people do judge first, not dare to know the individual. You feel honest, you're a exemple of many of us.
Thank you sir!🙏🏿
🥰🥰🥰thank you! I appreciate your kind words
Those bunny ears are great! and this video was a lovely mix of calming and thought-provoking. i dont usually comment on things but your authenticity felt like a gift and i wanted to acknowledge that. the internal vs external meltdown seems like a valuable image/concept, i will be keeping that in mind; when i start to feel stressed, if it is not showing outside then its probably exploding inside! i guess that’s masking in a nutshell! oh and good luck with the art show:) there is so much rejection that one has to face as an artist putting themselves out there, it can be really tough/vulnerable. it is truly a brave thing to try, to persist as an artist!
Thank you! I appreciate your kind words my friend 🥰. The masking thing, yes. The emotions are exploding one way or another, that’s what’s so dangerous about “sucking it up”. There are times when that’s what needs to be done, but never making space for your emotions can actually result in physical damage in the long run.
Thank you so much, this the best thing I've watched today. Good luck for the art show 😊
Thank you so much 😀
Hi Eryykc! So glad YT suggested your video! My name is Bunny (so I immediately loved the ears!), 43, and also autistic (plus ADHD, OCD, and PDA) so I really relate to your video. Just last weekend I had a soft meltdown over not what getting what I wanted for lunch. I waited, and waited, and waited for the unreasonable emotions to chill out, but they would not, even after trying to take a nap for 3 hours and then having a bath. It ended with me eating tacos my husband made in my closet, somewhat in shame. Seriously, I was never meant for this adulting thing.
You are not alone my friend, sorry to hear to hear you had such a rough time.
This video made me feel so much better today
That’s means so much to me, thank you for sharing this. 🥰🥰
Love the discussion on burnout. Being pretty high functioning, I always fall back to comparing myself to people who may or may not face the same challenges. It's something that's been a source of imposter syndrome for me. Besides compassion for myself, pacing has helped quite a bit. I'm usually either on or off, and when I'm on, I'll really push myself. Restraining myself from pushing so hard when I'm feeling productive seems to stave off burnout and result in less intense highs and lows productivity-wise.
Thank you for sharing your story and how you are working to be productive while staving off burnout.
I really like your vibe
Even if you have burnouts and meltdowns, you still seem cool and wise. You're not perfect, but you're trying to figure yourself out and help others, which IMO makes you smarter than the people who simply assume they're perfect or desperately try to be "perfect"
Also I'm digging the bunny ears
Thank you! I appreciate that, so very much. 🥰
I’m so glad I came across your channel your videos are so healing. My body calms down and my mind becomes kinder when I watch your videos.
Thank you! I am glad you are here.
My meltdowns have always funneled into rage. For most of my 50+ years, it’s been a huge source of shame. While I got to where I generally wouldn’t direct it at people, it still felt so weak to have something stupid like needing to go to the other door at the shop send me into a rage.
It’s only been in the last few months that I’ve come to understand the last event that occurred wasn’t actually the cause. There were a lot of things that led up, months worth, as I was always pushing myself to the edge of mental exhaustion because “I’m smart, so I can do a lot”. It’s been eye opening to gain an understanding about what is really going on in my brain.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I hope to find a way to make space for all of us to share our stories.
Hi from a fellow autistic adult who also loves books and tea 😊 your discussion of meltdowns as an adult was so spot on. Good luck with your art show submission, and I look forward to watching more of your videos!
Thank you! I appreciate you, thank you for being here.
Affirmation I am compassionate towards myself and others. Thanks for the video I feel more people are neurodivergent because humanity is changing and awakening 😊
Thanks for sharing, love this!
I read somewhere neurodivergence symptoms can be exacerbated by inflammation of bodily tissues that also impacts the brain and nervous system. Many common foods cause this. Not just chemicals and preservatives but ordinary natural foods like breads, grains, dairy, some nuts, anything that can cause allergic symptoms also causes inflammation which at it's core is an allergic response.
Interesting, I do know that certain foods affect me, and that watching my diet is a big part of my health journey
I take issue with the term "nuerodivergent symptoms." It's not a disease that needs to be managed. It's a different way of interacting with the world. True, there are negative emotions that can be exacerbated by unhealthy diet/ lifestyle, but that's true of anybody.
@@theymademepickaname1248kinda feels like you just want to have an issue.
good luck with the art show!
Thanks! 😊
You are wise and have lovely energy , thank you for sharing your day and your musings 🧡🧡🧡
You are so welcome, I appreciate you 🥰🥰
This was a nice comfortable video. As someone who still struggles a lot with regulation, I don’t feel like I have the best advice to give others. I hope to have that change in the future 💜
I’m certain you will in time, it’s definitely a process and sometimes quite chaotic.
Thank you. It’s all in the intention. I appreciate you sharing your experience, I feel as though it helps me piece things together as a fellow divergent person.
That’s the goal, the more we share our stories the more others can feel seen and hopefully, less alone.
I have spent hours driving to multiple stores to stock up on comfort foods and beverages because I learned the store chain was about to stop carrying the item. Also have a life long list of discontinued or "limited time only" things I've loved and lost.
PB Max, RIP (ruclips.net/video/b_JNIAYCJeI/видео.htmlsi=_wBFrriTS9E1FPWE).
PBMax was taken from us too soon.
Bridge troll 🤣 I feel seen!! Great video!
Thank you!! 😁
I keep wondering if I’m neurodivergent, and here I am watching as a Canadian white dude in a grey sweater, with old & worn Persols on, Sony noise cancelling headphones around my neck, and a black ball cap on…thinking… *oh jfc i am fine but not fine*
You should have seen me when my fav cream cheese was discontinued. :( Thanks for sharing your perspectives! sub’d
Appreciate you my friend, we are two peas in a pod you and I.
Those are some magnificent looking bunny ears!
Why thank you my friend! ❤️🖤
I work in a large retail store and come in contact with one or two thousand people a day, not all of whom are pleasant. The past few days, I have been experiencing burnout. But a clue: There has been major sunspot activity the past few days, and I am physically sensitive to that. I was worried, because my energy level has been low.
I do like the bunny ears. I also like the various colors and styles of the customer's hair that I see.
I have ADHD and probably other neurodivergencies I haven't been formally diagnosed with. I'm older than 65 so my ADHD can't be addressed because of the FDA, and I am allergic to clonidine patches, which worked wonderfully for anxiety and OCD around germs. The patches started itching terribly and leaving red marks that persisted for weeks after I removed them.
Oh wow! I am sorry to hear that was your experience, but thank you for sharing. The more we share our stories, maybe one day support for adults like us will be built into daily life.
Is it Clonidine you're allergic to or the latex in the patches? You should discuss that with your doctor. And if you are allergic to latex, it often also shows up as being allergic to strawberries and shellfish.
it's refreshing to find you, my soul resonates with you. thank you
You are so welcome, I appreciate you being here!
Just “found” you, LOVE your videos, love your energy. Please keep creating. ❤
Thank you, I will continue as long as I am able
True. I have to have my routine. If something goes wrong with it, I dont function properly. Everything has a knock on effect, throughout the day. Im off balance.
Heres a really useful way I incorporate part of my routine into my work, which cushions me from being late, because Im not ready to leave the house. Breakfast at work! There's slightly more to it than where you eat though.
I leave for work earlier than usual.
I don't start my working day till Ive eaten breakfast, so I dont mind.
I give myself a generous amount of time for breakfast, so Ive always got enough time to eat, even if Im running late.
It's a little reward for getting my ass out the door and driving.
It's one less thing to do before I need to leave.
By the time Im at my place of work, Ive gotten up, out the door, basically Ive been moving around, instead of mooching around.
I adopted it last year as I moved 3 times in 6 months (renting sucks) my routine was in freefall, I realised we had a canteen at work, and a shower, I incorporated morning breakfast, evening shower at work into my routine. It made a massive difference to my mood and productivity.
I even carry on outdated routines, because it helps me maintain basic day to day activities.
At my current place of work we have a kitchen, I was getting up heating a stainless flask, microwaving soup, pouring it into the flask and taking it to work for over 9mnths, before I realised, its crazy, we have a micro wave at work! but it all happened on auto pilot, as part of my routine. It was superfluous but it was non the less beneficial. I make soup for lunch for the whole week. I vary the green vegandd spices but the recipe is the same, it has all the food groups. I can make it blindfold, super quick. I dont have to think about it, so it takes no effort.
Thank you for sharing this, it is awesome to hear how others use routine to manage life and work.
@Eryykc I do wonder if I overshare or ramble on to much, but if not here, where? Since my late diagnosis, I've learnt a lot about myself and how AuDHD affects me. Mainly by watching RUclips channels and reading shared experiences in the comments. To know thyself is king.
Love this video! You are so articulate and able to describe what you're going through. This is so helpful for family members, friends and teachers of neurodivergent people. And I relate to you and often feel the same way although I'm not neurodivergent (at least not that I know of).
Glad it was helpful!
Love you, thank you. ❤️
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I'm digging your art piece.
I think it really shows what you're trying to convey
Thank you! I really appreciate it.
1:00 Today, may I think and say positive and uplifting things about myself that encourage me, support me, and love me. I think that yours felt clumsy because it had negative words in it. ❤ This is the first video of yours that I've watched. I can't help but think, based on the 4 years of research that I've done, that an animal based diet might benefit you. But, please, do your own research.
Thank you for helping me with the affirmation, you are right, the negative words was the issue. I will look into the diet thing, I’m always willing to look into options.
Great video. Good luck on the art show!
Thank you! 😊
finally, I've found my tribe!
We welcome you (one of us).
Thanks for sharing! I found the affirmation in the first scene interesting - and as you said, they need sometimes to distill into shorter, more convenient versions. I sometimes wonder if the emotional reactions regarding frustrational experiences is connected to childhood trauma. I'm currently looking into this myself and am also considering some neurodiversion that has not been addressed yet. Thanks for your showing and sharing!
Absolutely! I’m glad to share, hopefully you will find answers soon my friend.
If we're talking childhood trauma, Patrick Teahan is a therapist here on youtube who specializes in childhood trauma. See if any of his experiences or examples resonate with you.
I will check that out, thanks 😊
Can definitely relate to the loss of "comfort" foods being taken away. Restaurants just wait to see what I love so they can take it off the menu. And stores know my specific beloved coffee creamer, so they stop carrying it. I know it's on purpose. They see me pull up in the parking lot and push a secret button that takes it off the shelf. So unfair. It happens too consistently not to be true. 😉😆
lol, why does this feel like it could be true? 😂😂
Oh glad to know that is how it works 😂
bit off topic, but your shirt in the first clip looks like the logo for test drive unlimited solar crown, good vid
You’re right, it does! It’s actually from my friend’s coffee shop, thanks for watching! ❤️🖤
@@Eryykc np dude you're awesome
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Great stuff. I can relate
Thanks for watching!
Hi! Just found your channel and loved your video so much that I subscribed 😊
Thank you so much!
Me toooooo
Thank you!
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I used to make work for major commercial artists, I really like the concept of your artwork, go for it.
I veiw art as something I make, that my unique and deep mind can see the value, Ill get pleasure from engaging with it, if I have the will to put it out there, others will get it too, maybe, but its already served a purose. Best of luck.
Thank you, this as very encouraging 🥰
Cute bunny ears ❤🥰
Thank you! 🥰
Hey ☮ good luck with the Art , and I'm not sure if any of us are in total control all the time.. but Woolworths discontinued a spicy cooked chicken I loved , & I said to the kid ( there all kids here) what am I going to eat I live on those.🤣🤣
Thanks! And glad to know I’m not the only one who deals with the loss of a favorite food.
It can be so hard to find a safe food .. when one is discontinued or changed sometimes it is actually quite difficult to get myself to eat anything else for a while until I Have To.
I have been thinking a lot lately about the correlation between our shared Need for safe food and the commonality of digestive issues among autistic people.
Not only does the flavor and texture and smell have to be just right to enjoy - but it also can’t make us ill by including trigger foods.
Can be such a painful and expensive process of trial and error to experiment with food - imo it’s quite logical to want to cry about the loss.
@@rainbo777 Maybe you can note down all things your favorite foods have in common so you can find more foods that check all the boxes.
@@rainbo777Wow, that’s interesting. I believe I’m on the autism spectrum since I have had all of the symptoms of selective mutism and difficulties making eye contact. My mother would never take me anywhere to get help.
I’ve developed serious digestive issues.
😮 There is also a long list of unnatural chemicals and natural substances that my body cannot tolerate.
Yes, or I’ll eat too much of one thing because that’s all I can handle eating at the moment
i really needed this one. thank you.
🥰🥰🥰🥰 appreciate you
Somebunny has to get this video.
I see what you did there, and I’m impressed 🥰
What is neurodivergent?
it refers to someone whose brain works differently than most. People usually use this term in reference to autism or ADHD, but it can apply to other conditions/related things as well.
Another thing that might help you understand what neurodivergent means is if you know what the opposite is - neurotypical. Neurodivergent people are people whose brains are neurologically wired different from typical people’s brains. A neurodivergent brain physically perceives the world differently, experiences life differently, and thinks differently from most people, and this has a genetic or physiological/neurological difference. It’s not just that they’re “different”, it’s that they’re different because they have a brain that actually works differently, and this can show up in things like fMRI brain scans and other objective measurements.
Well said
Well said
a made up term for people wanting to feel special
Love the teacup and bunny ears 😊 I have recently bought a fancy teacup and a bunch of tea I love. New English Teas has really good black teas. I got a whole set in various tins. 🫖🫖🫖🫖🫖
Love it! I’ll have to look them up, thanks for telling me about them.
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