With all respect love, Your teenagers need to chip in and help you clean the house. It teaches them and takes pressure off you. As kids, we all had a list if chores and I believe it helped me to keep a clean tidy house. I agree, you should be seeking support from your baby’s father too! I wish you well and a happy new year 😊
Absolutely and they don’t do a damn thing and it’s really making me sick. I already have health problems plus I’m trying to work so I can provide for them and they don’t understand that. Ughh
@ oh love, I’m sorry you’re not in the best of health, even more reason they should be helping you! Maybe a family meeting is in order? Ask them what they’d do if you couldn’t keep doing what you’re doing because you’re sick! Do they want you to get to that stage? Maybe a rude awakening is what they need. I wish you all the best xo 🩷
My kids are 4 yo 3 yo and 2 yo and 5 mo pregnant w another one ( 🙄i know I know ) they pick up they toys I sit there and make sure they pick up I make them take their plate to the sink when they are done eating put they shoes up when we get home been a mom is a lot of work its not easy at all!!! Consistency is key sister. Seek ye the Kingdom of righteousness and all things will be added to you. Turn to the Lord for strength 💪🙏
If you waited until the older ones were teenagers, you are about 10 years too late!! By 1st grade, kids can set & clear the table, pick up their toys & dust the lower shelves. By 10 years old, they should be able to clean the dishes, clean the bathrooms, & vacuum the house. By 12, they should be able to cook regular meals most days. By 15, they should be learning to prepare for the holidays, & learning basic financial knowledge & social awareness. The ultimate goal is to not only be able to be adults by 18, but also be able to contribute something back to society as a volunteer!! Maybe because I was raised by parents who were young adults during the Depression of the 1930s... But the first thing for yourself would be to get on birth control, so that you won't have to depend upon men!!
Daily Chores List for a Mother of 10 Children Morning Routine 1. Wake-Up & Morning Prep: • Ensure everyone wakes up on time and gets ready. • Older kids help younger ones dress and brush teeth. • Oversee breakfast preparation. 2. Kitchen Clean-Up: • Clear the table. • Wash/dry dishes or load the dishwasher. • Wipe down counters and table. 3. Laundry: • Sort dirty laundry. • Start one or two loads. 4. Bedroom Tidying: • Each child makes their bed and tidies their personal space. • Pair younger children with older ones for guidance. Midday Routine 5. Living Areas: • Vacuum or sweep floors. • Dust furniture and windowsills. 6. Bathrooms: • Clean mirrors, sinks, and countertops. • Clean toilets. • Restock toilet paper and soap. 7. Meal Prep: • Pre-chop vegetables or marinate meats. • Assign snack preparation to middle-aged kids. Evening Routine 8. Dinner Prep & Clean-Up: • Rotate “kitchen helpers” for setting the table, cooking, and washing dishes. 9. Toy Clean-Up: • Younger children tidy up toys and books. 10. Laundry Completion: • Fold and put away clothes. • Assign “clothing captains” for each room. 11. Trash & Recycling: • Teens or older kids take out the trash and recycling. Age-Appropriate Chore Assignments Ages 3-5: • Pick up toys. • Put clothes in the laundry basket. • Wipe small messes with a damp cloth. • Set napkins on the table. Ages 6-9: • Feed pets. • Dust low surfaces. • Put dishes in the dishwasher. • Sort laundry by colors. Ages 10-13: • Vacuum or sweep. • Take out trash. • Prepare simple snacks or sides. • Fold laundry. Ages 14+: • Help cook meals. • Mow the lawn or rake leaves. • Supervise younger kids’ chores. • Deep clean (bathrooms, floors). Tips for Success 1. Create a rotating chore chart. 2. Offer small rewards for completed chores. 3. Set time limits for tasks. 4. Work alongside kids occasionally to teach proper methods. 5. Dedicate 20-30 minutes for a family clean-up time every evening.
Ani't no way!!! Tell those grown kids to get a job cause they have six months to get out and mean it. I'm not taking care of no grown kids and they have the nerves and lack of care to let you come home to a mess they have made! Anit no way!!! I know your light bill sky high. Wouldn't a grown person play a game or get anything from me. You need to teach them about responsibilities and show them a side of you that they haven't seen, bet that house wouldn't be like that. Get help from the available resources to help or pay your childcare. If you don't teach them who will? You don't want that❤
Exactly! They wouldn't eat until all chores were complete. If they didn't do what was asked of them, phones, videos, TV's and everything in between would be taken away.
Put them men on child support dont suffer alone..child support will enforce they pay..my daughter dad was right there and she got her every two weeks till she was 18..you woman have to hold these men accountable
Respectfully, make your older kids clean...we had to at a young age..you are a wonderful mother and deserve the world. Keep your head up and striving. Yes, take him to child support office...
@@alizehustle9385 who’s posting their business for sympathy. Baby this is my real life and I’m telling people that I’m aware of the mistakes that I made. So gtf h.0
@@alizehustle9385 why are you being so mean? Yes she made wrong decisions but we all have. He without sin cast a stone. She’s trying to right her wrongs and it’s ppl like you beating her down. The Bible talks about power in the tongue. You can kill someone with that tongue or heal someone with it. None of us have a perfect background. The finger your pointing at her. There’s 3 pointing at you.
@ girl do you need to be blocked. Why are you in my comments worried about my 🐱. Just don’t watch if it bothers you that much because you don’t know my story. So just stfu
I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation. I raised my son alone without support but I had a decent job and I had God on my side. Don’t give up, God will help you do the right thing. I will give one piece of advice, require all of the children to clean. They live there and are also responsible for their environment. God bless you and Don’t listen to the haters that tear you down. ❤🙏
No disrespect by no means...but my mother was also a single mother. She worked a lot, so she left my oldest brother in charge of us younger kids. My mother taught all of us how and what to clean whatever was age appropriate at that time for each of us. She never worried about coming home to a messy house because messy house meant our fun privileges were taken away. Unfortunately my mother has passed away, but man...I truly have such a deep respect for my mother teaching me at an early age how to take care of a home and appreciate everything I have. Now I'm a mother passing down those same values my mother taught us. My teenage son doesn't always like the tight ship I run in my home--but it is instilling values in him to prepare him for the real world where the real world isn't always so nice. Being a single mom isn't easy, but showing a bit of tough love on your kiddos and teaching them responsibilities can really make things better for you. Stay strong, Sis! 💪🏽
No ma'am your older children should be cleaning after themselves, period! & Yes, all parents should be taking care of their children. & 10 children is scary for such a young women. Take better care of yourself ❤
If I lived in your area I would come help you clean regularly. Depression is real and sometimes we just need that friend that will give us a push, or help us out to get through the funk. Praying for you.
Also you are young - STOP having kids and parent the one's you have better Declutter and dump the kids stuff in their rooms If you think to are suffering from depression, seek medical help Collect child support from all fathers!!
No. Shaming people for the number of kids they have is not the move. This is such non advice, it's crazy. It's so dismissive and you haven't said anything of substance. "Just seek medical help" Well, that's great in theory but there are many barriers to why people can't just do that, financial cost being a huge reason. I recommend you work on your understanding and empathy because it's lacking.
Teaching kids responsibilities through household chores is a normal and essential step in teaching them to properly take care of themselves. It's not easy but it is a must. You are doing them a disservice when you don't make them accountable and responsible for cleaning up after themselves. God bless you. Keep moving forward and allowing people with wisdom speak into your life.
It’s time to start holding everyone accountable. Put the daddies on child support, make the older kids help out, and do not quit your job. You have to set boundaries and stick to them.
Girl that man will hate his child wether you put him on child support or not because has clearly shown he doesnt mess with him. It's sad. And mine till this day still says "he'd be doing more for her if I didnt involve the system" although I didn't involve the system until I realized he wouldn't do jack sht. If im not physically with him , he won't give a damn about his child. But I refuse to believe that is love. Men should love their child regardless. And not to mention even if I did decide to just be with him and put up with his shit, I'll be still doing the majority. A dead beat is a dead beat and no matter how well of in life I get I will forever be pissed off that he chose to do his child this way not caring how it affects her. Tired of this same damn story with "our" men. And I don't want to hear shit about "you chose shit" no , no one chooses on behalf of a grown ass man supposed to be grown. Fuck em.
I wouldn't have brought them anything with the house looking like that, and they don't help. I would spend that money on things I need around the house. No way. Stay strong mom!!!🙏🏿
I’m only 47 seconds in and I’m just strongly suggesting you please edit the video and take out the part where you’re talking about leaving your baby with your older kids who are not properly supervising him before someone decided to be petty and call child services on you. I watch other RUclips Mom vloggers who have met the same fate by sharing too much personal information. People will come for you out of jealousy alone. Please don’t let that be you!
My Mom would make us sleep in the backyard if she came home and found her house in disorder. We had to keep the house clean. Assign your children choirs to do to help you out. This will help to know how to take of their own when they become adults. You work hard and deserve to come home and not have to work a second job cleaning up after your children. Much respect for you for providing for 10 children.
I say this with respect..that didnt get like that in 1 day...i was the same way a few years ago and it was my fault! My children can clean yeahhhhh but not how WE clean! When you going through something girl its hard! Even to get up and go to work and try to function.thankfully my husband picked up the slack while i was down but i completely understand! Its hard and tough and anyone who says anything negative never been through this bcz how could you and then judge? You got this love💪🏽💕💕
They can at least pick up their messes to make it easier for her. Especially her older children that are capable of doing so. If the old kids went through the house gathered all they stuff and put it in their rooms, and showed the younger kids to follow suit it would help her Alot and she could do the rest of the pick up and scrubbing.
@@emiilyjaane7"they can at least pick up their mess to make it easier for her?'. You're saying it like it's their fault when truthfully they didn't ask to be born. Most kids have to be told / trained to do these things and that's what she needs to do. Kids aren't their to make a parents life easier, as growing children they should be taught this stuff to make them responsible
Seeing your authenticity is SO REFRESHING. Everyone uploads lots of stuff on here like they’re life’s perfect. Knowing other humans are SHOWING that there 100% human is always good to watch. I’m also a single mother to two 8 yr olds and depression is no joke when doing everything alone. You got this girl 🙏🏾 God bless you and your home
You deserve help and your kids should pitch in. My son who is nine helps me with the household chores since he was seven. You are a hard-working, single mom that deserves better! 😊
That's what I said stop having babies I agree with you you ended up with 10 what happened in between after the first few did you not know you could not afford them
Im surprised I had 2 scroll so far to see this comment. She sounds young and has 10 kids. I had my last at 29 she was my 3rd and I was married. I got my tubes tied.
THIS. I'm sure she made a video explaining why she chose to have TEN CHILDREN and feels like she shouldn't be judged,, but I do NOT UNDERSTAND WHY. She is struggling financially and is suffering from MH issues. Why not stop after the first one or two? Was it an access issue to contraception/sterilization/term? Breeding qkinq? Quiverfull movement? She has little to no outside support (friends, family, spxrm donors) and has parentified the other children because of it, and they're not having it. This is a mess, but, hey--I wish her and those kids good luck.
That part smh,I don't understand for the life of me why these females get on the internet and complain they're struggling with their kids like go get they father do something and it's stressful as it is with this economy and everybody's struggling with their own problems and to take on somebody elses baggage is a bit too much and overwhelming, go get they father, nine outta ten they prolly bums themselves with nothing going for them smh
@ishayaakov you do realize that consuming social media content is optional and that no one forced you to watch this video, right? She's not burdening anyone that didn't actively choose to watch her video. You burdened yourself, in that case. You're the only one to blame if you're chronically online. Read a book instead.
The most valuable gift you can give your children is a clean and structured environment. These children will grow into adults; teach them these essential skills. try and tackle one room at a time. all the best
We all go through something (depression) at some point in our lives. Please keep your head up. I’m praying for you. Single with 10 kids is really tough. Get the older kids to help with chores. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but something is better than nothing. Much love, happiness and blessings to you and your family.🥰🙏🏾
She just throwing things out there she not gonna fr she just tired of workin,cleaning,paying bills and watching kids by her self cuz her teens dont want to help her I wouldnt have all that pressure on my mom but thats just me
I had three boys all one year apart. Believe me, I understand. They're grown now, but I remember how hard it was and I would just get overwhelmed. I had to go to the doctor and get some antidepressants. I don't know if you take antidepressants, but they really helped me with my depression, low energy feeling, and just feeling better all around. You're doing the best you can right now. I wish you all the best 🤗❤️🙏
I understand how you feel...I have 3 teenage boys and I make them clean up my house!!! I'm the mother that do not play that! My grandmother raised me too clean and I raise them the same way she did me...I'm married now but when I was a single mother I showed them how to be responsible cleaning the house while was working...
Respect I have three boys 1512 and nine I don’t play a messy house my house look like I don’t even have teenagers in there because I make them clean up after their selves. They don’t have to clean up after me and their dad we don’t make the mess, but they definitely have chores. I play none of that.
I’m pregnant with boy #3 and I be damned!!! I never understood why ppl had kids cleaning til now!!! I’m stressed enough!!! Cleaning is NOT about to be an added stressor and I’m not about to just be cleaning after these over grown kids!🤣
If you aren't getting mental health care, please do so as soon as possible. You have to make sure you are able to be there for your kids. Child support isn't guaranteed. I wouldn't quit my job. If you are getting food stamps, you should be eligible for childcare assistance. Also, there is no reason why the kids should not be helping around the house, especially the two grown children. I know it's hard mom but you have got this ❤.
I was just the same. Then I got older and come to understand myself and life better. Depression is a beast. Don't give your kids no gifts, until they clean up. After 10 hours you can't help but wanna crash. God hears your prayers tho, keep working towards your goals. Hugs.
You are correct I work 13 hours. I refuse to come home to a house that looks like this no judging I’m just saying those kids need to do better Christmas would have been a no for me. I don’t play that. I have done it before not gotten gifts until they get it together, I’m not one of those parents who reward Kids for doing nothing.
I got 8 and my 7 year old gots a chore that will be done or he will get woke up out his sleep, I’m even showing my 3 & 4 year old how to clean up & throw they mess away just like they show them at head start , it’s showing them responsibility early & dependency, install it early. You got it stand firm good luck
Yes ma’am I have three boys a 15-year-old a 12-year-old and a nine-year-old they have had chores since they were about five or six even when they were younger than that I made them clean up after their selves so now they know what to expect and they know I don’t play Yes sometimes I have to get on them about their chores, but I would never allow my house to get like this and even think about Christmas gifts, they would get clothes that’s it.
@@mercury6280 YES! If it’s your choir I got to stand on business about respecting what me and your dad says cause if not everybody will think they can slide & I mean a person that is showing their children the right way an multiple children could understand 🤗
@@Queen_Dri you will it just takes consistency & knowing you only want to teach your kids so they do it right & can teach your grandkids and u will be a proud mama 💛
No WiFi or nothing until they do their chores. That’s it and that’s all. That’s how I am with my children . My 10 year old wash dishes, take out the trash, wash his clothes , clean his room. My 8 year old cleans her room, sweep , and vacuum. Give every child a chore. Picking up the trash, taking the trash up, wiping down counters , dusting , washing dishes, cleaning bathrooms and rotate it…. Praying for your healing love 🙏🏾❤️💫 things will get better for your especially since you are taking accountability for that has happened.
Honestly a good meal is all they need and love forget a gift because they not even cleaning behind themselves. They don’t need more stuff if they can’t help start saying no momma. I feel your pain though
Its okay to fall behind sometimes. Long as you keep going ‼️Make the older kids clean up so you can relax. My mama always said "If you can tear it up, you can clean it up" ‼️😂 Sending love from Mississippi ‼️🩷
You’re an absolute queen and such a good mother for pushing through like this and stepping up even when it’s feeling impossible. I’m in awe of your strength. It takes a village at the best of times and going it alone is a massive and constant task. Maye there are some kind of community orgs that can help with cleaning now and then, or watching the kids? No matter what you do to get through this, I can tell by your energy that you WILL get through it. From this video alone I can tell you have an incredible presence of mind and determination.
It's definitely not fair to come home to your home like this. Maybe a routine for the kids can help, and a reward system if they follow through can help. Take care of yourself and pray on what the nest and next step is for you. A happy and healthy mom is the best mom. Hugs❤
Hello Dri. I know this can be very overwhelming for you. Tell the older children, that you will not tolerate this,and please be consistent, with them helping you to keep their home tiddy. Praying the very best for you,and your family. Keeping a clean home,and everything organized, give me peace, and comfort. It's also good for my mental health. Happy Holidays to you. ❤❤❤❤❤
My mom used to work normal hours and over time, but she never came home to a filthy home, she taught us from a young age to be proactive when she was not around, and not to sit and wait for her. We were three girls all teenagers doing to most, to make sure my mother didn't have to.
Buying gifts for those kids would have NEVER crossed my mind! Look at that house…… Get you a night shift job. Then you won’t have to worry about childcare.
Why not post something positive for her to read ? Kicking someone while they down is unnecessary... She knows what condition her house is in, She lives there. No need to be snarky towards her or her situation.
Sending uplifting vibes ❤ I'm sorry you have to come home to mess; It would be frustrating, to say the least. 😔 You're doing a good job! Stay strong and keep going 💪💖
Girl you are a good one!! There is no way I would put up with that. My mom would come home and drag us out the bed bc she worked 2nd shift if our chores were not done and we had to walk and get my brother from pre school and I was a pre teen myself and im the oldest. I'm raising mine the same way my mom did me!! And you buying gifts and ur house look like that shidddd!!! You a good one!!
Queen dri, ppl are way too hard on you. I read the comments. You are beautiful and transparent. I love you. Youve touched my heart. These ppl in your comments telling you what you should do... Block them! You deserve all the love and support. I love you! You are amazing... I mean how many ppl can have ten kids and run a household!?!?! YOU! You deserve love and to be uplifted, in jesus name!
I understand...we just get wrapped up in making sure we can pay the bills. Im a newly divorced mom of 3 and the dad has moved on to a new family. So no help from him. I work 2 jobs, one is a remote job at home but i still dont feel like i have enough arms or legs to balance everything! You got this mamas, you're not alone ❤❤❤
Keep pushing Girl. You are In a better place then you were last year. And next year you will push to be in a better place. People are so quick to try to judge like they live in a Glass house. You have a Good Heart. Keep God First and keep pushing.❤💪🏽
I see you! Whatismore, God sees you ❤ Praying for you! It's tough out here, no joke. And being exhausted, drained, and feeling stuck and alone in it just leads to a hopeless feeling sometimes. Be enocuraged, it won't be this way forever! And i pray that your RUclips channel opens new avenues and blessings for you. Many people can relate with this. Many people do not have the glamorous or aesthetic life that we often see, even on RUclips. Be encouraged, life is tough, but you will get your head above water 🥰
@Queen_Dri i know it ain't easy , I was a single parent of 4 and 2 with a disability and it's no joke and had to work full time and did night school . Social media can be cruel and just remember everyone that can type something negative does not have a perfect life but what they always will have is an opinion. Keep pushing this content and keep going being monetized will happen. As you get better internally everything else will follow. ❤️
Mama with 10 kids your house should be shiny like Mr. Clean! You need to put your foot down and hold your kids accountable instead of allowing them to be lazy!
You did a good job in a small amount of time. Especially to be tired. My kids are grown now, but they were the same way. Ii used ti fuss, scream, bribe, lecture, punish, reason and talk 'til I was blue in the face and STILL they made horrible messes. I worked no less than 2-3 jobs. It was stressful
Hi Queen Dri, I subscribed after randomly running across your video. What is beautiful about your video is that you are being transparent, vulnerable enough to share your trauma, yet taking accountability. I have no doubt that you will overcome your depression and seek the help you need to maintain your mental, physical and financial health. I'm depressed this season too lil Sis, but PU.S.H. yourself and your kids to start a new cleaning routine (ex. My kids have Clean-up-Saturday) where you write out all their "jobs" on the refrigerator or dry erase board. Rotate them either weekly, monthly or quarterly.....but make them think it's a like earning play time, outings, or special snacks, etc. Much success to you on your new journey in the new year 🎉
Nobody should be getting any gifts if they don’t help with the upkeep of the house and two of the 10 are adults, makes no sense your coming home to a mess. Time for a family meeting. Put your foot down. Everyone should be assigned a chore. You deserve better, I’m rooting for you!🎉🥳
I’m so glad you were able to get some cleaning done. My older brother, who was also suffering from depression (and addiction), just cleaned his room after it looked like a total hoarders house for a year. He finally got it together! I’m so proud of him! But during this time, of course, he was not actively engaging with and taking care of his kids, so that job fell on me (the auntie). I don’t want to see kids suffer. I made sure his teenaged sons clean the house, clean their room weekly, clean the kitchen daily (dishes), clean up after themselves. I give them chores money weekly. I take games and privileges away when they are not able to follow what I said. Sunday is chores day, no questions asked.
Im right there with you, I'm a mom of 3 and my whole house is like this, I get depressed for long periods, it takes alot out of me to get the kids to school and work, but this evening I did get home and clean something, it's still bad but at least I accomplished something, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable situation
look at the other videos .. I am confused. She said 7 , then 8 and now 10. .. I am not sure what is going on. .. She obviously lets her kids do what they want ..They are in charge which is sad. .. I want to see all the kids. .. She only has 2 bedrooms. ..
Why do you want to see all my kids. Yall have lost yall minds. The negative people that I’m talking about. I said keep scrolling if this ain’t the content for you‼️‼️
I am not a single mom and only have 3 kids and have issues with the same stuff...depression is real and it is very easy to fall behind fast. Please be gentle with yourself. You have 10 kids and are doing it alone. Those kids are fed and loved and mama is there for them and isn't giving up on them and they'll always remember that. Youre doing a great job. New subscriber. ❤
saying this with love...but most parents/gardians are lacking in bring up their children not giving them any responsibility whether there are one or two parents in the home...even if your situation is a stay at home parent, children should be taught how to HELP...all most children do these days is nothing except be on devices which is bringing on behavioral issues...there is a balance for everything...
One thing I did that helped was buy chairs that are all wood. Solid, no fabric, nothing to tear up. The oldest should want to help more. Teach them now so that they'll know when they're on their own. My kids started doing laundry at 10 yrs old. I had to work alot. They learned how to make food. First microwave then in high scholl stove top. Single mom of 4. They all own houses now and have good jobs. Wasn't an easy journey but it good now. They are in early and late 30's. What you teach them now matters and will help THEM in the long run. ❤❤❤❤ keep up the good work.
Hi, came across your channel and I pray for your health, self confidence, and resilience. You have to get your children to help in the home. The eldest can clean the floors, wash dishes, fold clothes and take out the trash. The middle to the youngest can pick up stuff off the floor, put away clothes and linen, wipe the walls, clean the bathroom. They don’t need to have conveniences ( electronics-tv, iPads, cellphones, gaming devices) until they understand that YOU work hard everyday and don’t want to clean up when they are capable of doing it. Plus stress will aggravate your current health problems. And follow through on child support for any child you currently don’t have it for. It’s for their benefit because the father contribution takes care of their needs. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
If you quit your job, how will you buy food and pay rent and utilities? That does not make any sense dear! What does the doc say about your feet and legs? I understand they bother you but I think quitting your job would be a mistake. Your older kids could have folded that laundry and put it away. You’re not helping them by not giving them any responsibilities. This comment is not meant to be mean or judgmental. I know you’re in a tough spot, but please don’t quit your job!
Hey Hun, I totally understand. Try having them clean up with you. That way it's a teaching moment as well as teamwork. I was feeling the same way until I started involving them❤
Keep your head up Queen make your older kids get up help clean up. Do what they need to do if you working and trying to make meat for everybody they need to help out too. We only can do so much as single parents do what you have to do pray and stay strong
Raise your children to deal with reality - demand that they do their part and not expect to get whatever they want. Discipline them when they dont do what they're told to do and should do.
Just here to show some love and engagement with the video. I saw the title while scrolling my for you page and not sure how this came up in my algorithm but glad it did. Always up to show some love to someone who is having issues with depression and the way it affects every facet of their life. It is very brave to put yourself out there like this.
By the way that is one beautiful coffee table! Mine is made out of a slice of redwood and the base is a buckeye root with a rock grown up in the middle of it. I love it because I got it at a shop in the redwood forest as a teen on a trip with my parents. I really like your table though because it is big and beautiful!
All I can say is that my heart goes out to you and I respect you so much for putting this out there, especially considering some of the useless and downright condescending comments you've received. As a mom, I struggle with the weight of the responsibilities as well and it helps so much to know I'm not alone. I hope you will be able to get your head above water soon and be able to have some of the stress lifted off of you. ❤
I suggest you leave them a to do list when you're at work. If they don't do it take something away from them. Take back your parental rights. They are taking advantage of you in my opinion. God bless you. I hope things get better for you.
The first few mins. If this video had me pissed. If you have older adults in the home and not working they can watch the baby and do house work. The trash overflowing, oh h** nawl, get up, clean up or you don't eat, and the one that walked on the couch with cell phone in hand, no respect. 1st don't walk on my furniture. YOU got to teach them respect for the things that you buy. 2nd you DO NOT eat all over the house- kitchen or wherever the table is. You take a bath you clean out the tub. You are beginning to settle. I wouldn't quit my job and i darn sho wouldn't buy them what they want if they can't help out. All you are required to do for you children, feed them, roof over their head, education, clothing. Orher than that, that would be my end.
Really proud of you for finding the courage and strength to rise again with work and kids draining us sometimes you found the strength.❤ Your honesty is pure and true 💯💝 , your house is coming soon 🔜,, glad you have support from your family as well you have inspired ME ☺️ in Many ways I can't begin to say😢, THANK YOU🎉🎉
Hello! My oldest watched my youngest and that’s how I was able to provide until situations change! Its not uncommon even though it weighs heavy on are hearts to do so you got to do what you got to do! Don’t go backwards! Chore chart for the kids, clean up, clean up everybody do your share! Don’t be so hard on yourself! 💯❤️
YOUNG LADY, THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY😢😢(HOLDING BACK TEARS). I HAVE ALOT OF CLUTTER ALSO AFRAID TO THROW THINGS AWAY. I NEEDED MOTIVATION TO GET STARTED TO START GETTING MY HOUSE IN ORDER. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU BE STRONG LET GO AND LET GOD. ASK GOD FOR STRENGTH. YES, PUT THOSE KIDS DAD ON CHILD SUPPORT, YOU NEED HELP. YES, THE OTHER CHILDREN MUST HELP OUT. PLEASE DON'T QUIT YOUR JOB. BUT I UNDERSTAND❤❤❤❤❤
Please allow your teenagers to help!! I had to start cleaning house at the age twelve years…. And I’m an amazing house keeper for over fifty years…. I had three children I worked11 to seven came home in the morning for my children, breakfast and homeschooled them they are now in their forties. You can make it happen, you will be blessed.
If they dont do what you want then they donr deserve what they want. Your only responsibility is to provide the necessary things. Fod shelter clothes equality affection and emotional stability. Phones video games toys brand name shoe and clothes eating out is all a luxury. It the 3 yr old fault the towels didnt get folded. And i would tell them its the 3 yr old fault the game cables and controllers are with me at work along with the wifi cable. You have to put your foot down your the boss not them. Chore chart. Do not quit your job. You have to hold them accountable. You cannot keep letting them get away with not doing what you ask of the all of the time. They are taking advantage of you and your depression. You have to fight! One day at a time. Implement change. They will fight back but dont give in stick to your words stay strong stay focused stay positive. No more yelling. You got this. Virtual hugs! Oh yeah elevate your legs to help with your swelling!
Hi Dri I completely understand I have 3 boys and a couple years ago my home was similar and I came to the conclusion that I was always frustrated because when your house is cluttered your mind is cluttered and that is not a good feeling. Respectfully them kids wouldn’t get nothing I wouldn’t reward them for bad behavior. I had to watch my younger siblings while my mom worked and she better not have come home and had to clean. You should have taken that money you spent on gifts and replaced your chairs that they messed up. I’m praying for you ❤
Your children from youngest to oldest can keep that house clean that’s their job you working overwhelmed it’s a different time we were NEVER ALLOWED TO DISRESPECT OR TEAR UP OUR HOMES! Lead by example you got 10 helpers all can do chores otherwise you gonna work and stress yourself to death
I didn't have anything to say bc I listen and dont judge, but I SCREAMT when his little tail got on that couch feet first... I yelled at the screen like somebody big mama...'Get yo ass from walking on that couch!!!' Lmao!!! I dont play wit kids whatsoever!
@Queen_Dri I turned into somebody's granny when I saw that girl!! I prayed for you boo❤️ happy 2025!!! Turn that page and write this next chapter the way YOU want to!!!
Happy New Year, Queen! Make a plan and take it one day at a time. Don't be too hard on yourself. Stress kills. The older kids definitely need to do more, but you'll get through this. You just need to find a routine that works for you. Hang in, Sis. ❤❤❤
My heart goes out to you ❤ when my daughter lived with me she left her crap everywhere. It was beyond frustrating. Whenever I brought up her doing chores it started a huge argument. Now she’s living with her boyfriend and his parents and you better believe she’s cleaning now 🙄 she’s grown up a lot to be fair. Her dad left when she was 7 and a half. Didn’t pay a cent. She’s now 19. Shame on these deadbeat dads.
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With all respect love, Your teenagers need to chip in and help you clean the house. It teaches them and takes pressure off you. As kids, we all had a list if chores and I believe it helped me to keep a clean tidy house. I agree, you should be seeking support from your baby’s father too!
I wish you well and a happy new year 😊
Absolutely and they don’t do a damn thing and it’s really making me sick. I already have health problems plus I’m trying to work so I can provide for them and they don’t understand that. Ughh
@ oh love, I’m sorry you’re not in the best of health, even more reason they should be helping you! Maybe a family meeting is in order? Ask them what they’d do if you couldn’t keep doing what you’re doing because you’re sick! Do they want you to get to that stage? Maybe a rude awakening is what they need. I wish you all the best xo 🩷
@ yep rude awakening let that WiFi get disconnected 🤣but thank you so much love💓
My kids are 4 yo 3 yo and 2 yo and 5 mo pregnant w another one ( 🙄i know I know ) they pick up they toys I sit there and make sure they pick up I make them take their plate to the sink when they are done eating put they shoes up when we get home been a mom is a lot of work its not easy at all!!! Consistency is key sister. Seek ye the Kingdom of righteousness and all things will be added to you. Turn to the Lord for strength 💪🙏
If you waited until the older ones were teenagers, you are about 10 years too late!! By 1st grade, kids can set & clear the table, pick up their toys & dust the lower shelves. By 10 years old, they should be able to clean the dishes, clean the bathrooms, & vacuum the house. By 12, they should be able to cook regular meals most days. By 15, they should be learning to prepare for the holidays, & learning basic financial knowledge & social awareness. The ultimate goal is to not only be able to be adults by 18, but also be able to contribute something back to society as a volunteer!! Maybe because I was raised by parents who were young adults during the Depression of the 1930s...
But the first thing for yourself would be to get on birth control, so that you won't have to depend upon men!!
Daily Chores List for a Mother of 10 Children
Morning Routine
1. Wake-Up & Morning Prep:
• Ensure everyone wakes up on time and gets ready.
• Older kids help younger ones dress and brush teeth.
• Oversee breakfast preparation.
2. Kitchen Clean-Up:
• Clear the table.
• Wash/dry dishes or load the dishwasher.
• Wipe down counters and table.
3. Laundry:
• Sort dirty laundry.
• Start one or two loads.
4. Bedroom Tidying:
• Each child makes their bed and tidies their personal space.
• Pair younger children with older ones for guidance.
Midday Routine
5. Living Areas:
• Vacuum or sweep floors.
• Dust furniture and windowsills.
6. Bathrooms:
• Clean mirrors, sinks, and countertops.
• Clean toilets.
• Restock toilet paper and soap.
7. Meal Prep:
• Pre-chop vegetables or marinate meats.
• Assign snack preparation to middle-aged kids.
Evening Routine
8. Dinner Prep & Clean-Up:
• Rotate “kitchen helpers” for setting the table, cooking, and washing dishes.
9. Toy Clean-Up:
• Younger children tidy up toys and books.
10. Laundry Completion:
• Fold and put away clothes.
• Assign “clothing captains” for each room.
11. Trash & Recycling:
• Teens or older kids take out the trash and recycling.
Age-Appropriate Chore Assignments
Ages 3-5:
• Pick up toys.
• Put clothes in the laundry basket.
• Wipe small messes with a damp cloth.
• Set napkins on the table.
Ages 6-9:
• Feed pets.
• Dust low surfaces.
• Put dishes in the dishwasher.
• Sort laundry by colors.
Ages 10-13:
• Vacuum or sweep.
• Take out trash.
• Prepare simple snacks or sides.
• Fold laundry.
Ages 14+:
• Help cook meals.
• Mow the lawn or rake leaves.
• Supervise younger kids’ chores.
• Deep clean (bathrooms, floors).
Tips for Success
1. Create a rotating chore chart.
2. Offer small rewards for completed chores.
3. Set time limits for tasks.
4. Work alongside kids occasionally to teach proper methods.
5. Dedicate 20-30 minutes for a family clean-up time every evening.
This is really good, thanks. I'll gonna use this for myself.
@@SisDonnice omggg thank you so much for this. I’m going to transfer this to a board or paper
This is so GOOD! ❤
@ thank you💓💓
Wow. This is amazing.
Heck No! Nobody going to bed until my house cleaned from top to bottom!!!!
Point blank period even the kids cleaning toddlers and all lmao
Yea…you can have CPS called for that
First thing I would do is get rid of all them cords. Take away the video games and teach those kids how to clean.
Right do you see how many cords they have running through my home it’s ridiculous
Ani't no way!!! Tell those grown kids to get a job cause they have six months to get out and mean it. I'm not taking care of no grown kids and they have the nerves and lack of care to let you come home to a mess they have made! Anit no way!!! I know your light bill sky high. Wouldn't a grown person play a game or get anything from me. You need to teach them about responsibilities and show them a side of you that they haven't seen, bet that house wouldn't be like that. Get help from the available resources to help or pay your childcare. If you don't teach them who will? You don't want that❤
Exactly! They wouldn't eat until all chores were complete. If they didn't do what was asked of them, phones, videos, TV's and everything in between would be taken away.
Don’t stop working keep your job make the older kids get up and clean up
I disagree find childcare!!!!
Make them help you so they will know how to do what you ask them to do.
Put them men on child support dont suffer alone..child support will enforce they pay..my daughter dad was right there and she got her every two weeks till she was 18..you woman have to hold these men accountable
Go file for child support and keep your job. Don’t do without your needs because of feeling guilty. The father is just as responsible as you are.
@@delladrummond9681100 percent
Respectfully, make your older kids clean...we had to at a young age..you are a wonderful mother and deserve the world. Keep your head up and striving. Yes, take him to child support office...
@@alizehustle9385 who’s posting their business for sympathy. Baby this is my real life and I’m telling people that I’m aware of the mistakes that I made. So gtf h.0
@@alizehustle9385 why are you being so mean? Yes she made wrong decisions but we all have. He without sin cast a stone. She’s trying to right her wrongs and it’s ppl like you beating her down. The Bible talks about power in the tongue. You can kill someone with that tongue or heal someone with it. None of us have a perfect background. The finger your pointing at her. There’s 3 pointing at you.
@ girl do you need to be blocked. Why are you in my comments worried about my 🐱. Just don’t watch if it bothers you that much because you don’t know my story. So just stfu
I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation. I raised my son alone without support but I had a decent job and I had God on my side. Don’t give up, God will help you do the right thing. I will give one piece of advice, require all of the children to clean. They live there and are also responsible for their environment. God bless you and Don’t listen to the haters that tear you down. ❤🙏
@@StephanieWilliams21Yes.❤
No disrespect by no means...but my mother was also a single mother.
She worked a lot, so she left my oldest brother in charge of us younger kids.
My mother taught all of us how and what to clean whatever was age appropriate at that time for each of us.
She never worried about coming home to a messy house because messy house meant our fun privileges were taken away.
Unfortunately my mother has passed away, but man...I truly have such a deep respect for my mother teaching me at an early age how to take care of a home and appreciate everything I have.
Now I'm a mother passing down those same values my mother taught us.
My teenage son doesn't always like the tight ship I run in my home--but it is instilling values in him to prepare him for the real world where the real world isn't always so nice.
Being a single mom isn't easy, but showing a bit of tough love on your kiddos and teaching them responsibilities can really make things better for you.
Stay strong, Sis! 💪🏽
No ma'am your older children should be cleaning after themselves, period! & Yes, all parents should be taking care of their children. & 10 children is scary for such a young women. Take better care of yourself ❤
If I lived in your area I would come help you clean regularly. Depression is real and sometimes we just need that friend that will give us a push, or help us out to get through the funk. Praying for you.
Aww thank you so much your so sweet❤️💕
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@@Queen_Driare you located in Houston
@ Louisiana
True. I'm trying to get out of it now. 🙏🏽
Can't clean take away the WiFi, watch everybody get it together. You got this Mama🙌🏽💯. New subscriber🥰✨️.
You are right girl I will take away the wifi. 💯💓
Exactly no screen time
YEP I DO THE SAME WITH MINES
That’s what I do take phones tablets tv snacks everything away until chores are done 😂❤
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS COMMENT IM OVER CLAPPING MY HANDS LEFT AND RIGHT😍😍IM THE TRUE QUEEN OF DISCONNECTING WIFI💯🩷
Also you are young - STOP having kids and parent the one's you have better
Declutter and dump the kids stuff in their rooms
If you think to are suffering from depression, seek medical help
Collect child support from all fathers!!
The best advice given!!
@@tysmith4339 It needed to be said!!
Yes it did!
No. Shaming people for the number of kids they have is not the move. This is such non advice, it's crazy. It's so dismissive and you haven't said anything of substance. "Just seek medical help" Well, that's great in theory but there are many barriers to why people can't just do that, financial cost being a huge reason. I recommend you work on your understanding and empathy because it's lacking.
Nobody bout to keep coddling you fools. Get some damn sense. 10 kids is crazy
These kids need to do better. You shouldn't have to come home to a mess. Love your transparency ❤
No judgement here, we all have our struggles! Praying for a Happy and prosperous New Year!!!
Teaching kids responsibilities through household chores is a normal and essential step in teaching them to properly take care of themselves. It's not easy but it is a must. You are doing them a disservice when you don't make them accountable and responsible for cleaning up after themselves. God bless you. Keep moving forward and allowing people with wisdom speak into your life.
Thank you I appreciate it 🙏
If you come home and things aren’t done take the things they love most! I bet that’ll set them straight
It’s time to start holding everyone accountable. Put the daddies on child support, make the older kids help out, and do not quit your job. You have to set boundaries and stick to them.
@@Brooklynsho absolutely!
Girl that man will hate his child wether you put him on child support or not because has clearly shown he doesnt mess with him. It's sad. And mine till this day still says "he'd be doing more for her if I didnt involve the system" although I didn't involve the system until I realized he wouldn't do jack sht. If im not physically with him , he won't give a damn about his child. But I refuse to believe that is love. Men should love their child regardless. And not to mention even if I did decide to just be with him and put up with his shit, I'll be still doing the majority. A dead beat is a dead beat and no matter how well of in life I get I will forever be pissed off that he chose to do his child this way not caring how it affects her. Tired of this same damn story with "our" men. And I don't want to hear shit about "you chose shit" no , no one chooses on behalf of a grown ass man supposed to be grown. Fuck em.
Well said
I wouldn't have brought them anything with the house looking like that, and they don't help. I would spend that money on things I need around the house. No way. Stay strong mom!!!🙏🏿
I’m only 47 seconds in and I’m just strongly suggesting you please edit the video and take out the part where you’re talking about leaving your baby with your older kids who are not properly supervising him before someone decided to be petty and call child services on you. I watch other RUclips Mom vloggers who have met the same fate by sharing too much personal information. People will come for you out of jealousy alone. Please don’t let that be you!
Yes I agree ppl love calling Cps
Yeah, PEople LOVE getting involved with things they know nothing about. CPS loves taking kids that dont need taken. Stay strong Momma.
I think maybe it's too late this is an edited video she knows what she's doing it's all for sympathy and money
That's true
@@justina3175 Definitely NOT for sympathy and money. She is being transparent, and not an unrealistic influencer living a fake life.
Thank you for your transparency. I'm sure it's a lot of single mothers who can relate. Praying for healing mentally and physically 🙏🏽 ❤
My Mom would make us sleep in the backyard if she came home and found her house in disorder. We had to keep the house clean. Assign your children choirs to do to help you out. This will help to know how to take of their own when they become adults. You work hard and deserve to come home and not have to work a second job cleaning up after your children. Much respect for you for providing for 10 children.
Everyone should be cleaning.
Ma'am first get those men to help! Then get those kids to help! Good job on a big task.
@@loggcabin2434 Thank youu boo💓
I say this with respect..that didnt get like that in 1 day...i was the same way a few years ago and it was my fault! My children can clean yeahhhhh but not how WE clean! When you going through something girl its hard! Even to get up and go to work and try to function.thankfully my husband picked up the slack while i was down but i completely understand! Its hard and tough and anyone who says anything negative never been through this bcz how could you and then judge? You got this love💪🏽💕💕
They can at least pick up their messes to make it easier for her. Especially her older children that are capable of doing so. If the old kids went through the house gathered all they stuff and put it in their rooms, and showed the younger kids to follow suit it would help her Alot and she could do the rest of the pick up and scrubbing.
@@emiilyjaane7"they can at least pick up their mess to make it easier for her?'. You're saying it like it's their fault when truthfully they didn't ask to be born. Most kids have to be told / trained to do these things and that's what she needs to do. Kids aren't their to make a parents life easier, as growing children they should be taught this stuff to make them responsible
Seeing your authenticity is SO REFRESHING. Everyone uploads lots of stuff on here like they’re life’s perfect. Knowing other humans are SHOWING that there 100% human is always good to watch. I’m also a single mother to two 8 yr olds and depression is no joke when doing everything alone. You got this girl 🙏🏾 God bless you and your home
Aww thank you so so much❤️
You deserve help and your kids should pitch in. My son who is nine helps me with the household chores since he was seven. You are a hard-working, single mom that deserves better! 😊
I appreciate the support! 🙏
STOP having up BABIES
That's what I said stop having babies I agree with you you ended up with 10 what happened in between after the first few did you not know you could not afford them
Im surprised I had 2 scroll so far to see this comment. She sounds young and has 10 kids. I had my last at 29 she was my 3rd and I was married. I got my tubes tied.
THIS. I'm sure she made a video explaining why she chose to have TEN CHILDREN and feels like she shouldn't be judged,, but I do NOT UNDERSTAND WHY. She is struggling financially and is suffering from MH issues. Why not stop after the first one or two? Was it an access issue to contraception/sterilization/term? Breeding qkinq? Quiverfull movement? She has little to no outside support (friends, family, spxrm donors) and has parentified the other children because of it, and they're not having it. This is a mess, but, hey--I wish her and those kids good luck.
That part smh,I don't understand for the life of me why these females get on the internet and complain they're struggling with their kids like go get they father do something and it's stressful as it is with this economy and everybody's struggling with their own problems and to take on somebody elses baggage is a bit too much and overwhelming, go get they father, nine outta ten they prolly bums themselves with nothing going for them smh
@ishayaakov you do realize that consuming social media content is optional and that no one forced you to watch this video, right? She's not burdening anyone that didn't actively choose to watch her video. You burdened yourself, in that case. You're the only one to blame if you're chronically online. Read a book instead.
The most valuable gift you can give your children is a clean and structured environment. These children will grow into adults; teach them these essential skills. try and tackle one room at a time. all the best
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We all go through something (depression) at some point in our lives. Please keep your head up. I’m praying for you. Single with 10 kids is really tough.
Get the older kids to help with chores. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but something is better than nothing.
Much love, happiness and blessings to you and your family.🥰🙏🏾
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
How is quitting your job even an option as a single mom of 10? What am I missing?
She just tired. She won’t quit. She can’t.
😂😂😂😂
Critical thinking abilities are what you're missing
She's just exhausted that's all. And depression doesn't make it any better. That's just her exhaustion talking ❤
She just throwing things out there she not gonna fr she just tired of workin,cleaning,paying bills and watching kids by her self cuz her teens dont want to help her I wouldnt have all that pressure on my mom but thats just me
I had three boys all one year apart. Believe me, I understand. They're grown now, but I remember how hard it was and I would just get overwhelmed. I had to go to the doctor and get some antidepressants. I don't know if you take antidepressants, but they really helped me with my depression, low energy feeling, and just feeling better all around. You're doing the best you can right now. I wish you all the best 🤗❤️🙏
Go to the park. Do the free things in your city and go to the library. Stay encouraged. You got this!❤🎉😊
Thank you so so much💓💓
I understand how you feel...I have 3 teenage boys and I make them clean up my house!!! I'm the mother that do not play that! My grandmother raised me too clean and I raise them the same way she did me...I'm married now but when I was a single mother I showed them how to be responsible cleaning the house while was working...
Respect I have three boys 1512 and nine I don’t play a messy house my house look like I don’t even have teenagers in there because I make them clean up after their selves. They don’t have to clean up after me and their dad we don’t make the mess, but they definitely have chores. I play none of that.
Absolutely
I’m pregnant with boy #3 and I be damned!!! I never understood why ppl had kids cleaning til now!!! I’m stressed enough!!! Cleaning is NOT about to be an added stressor and I’m not about to just be cleaning after these over grown kids!🤣
If you aren't getting mental health care, please do so as soon as possible. You have to make sure you are able to be there for your kids. Child support isn't guaranteed. I wouldn't quit my job. If you are getting food stamps, you should be eligible for childcare assistance. Also, there is no reason why the kids should not be helping around the house, especially the two grown children. I know it's hard mom but you have got this ❤.
I was just the same. Then I got older and come to understand myself and life better. Depression is a beast. Don't give your kids no gifts, until they clean up. After 10 hours you can't help but wanna crash. God hears your prayers tho, keep working towards your goals. Hugs.
You are correct I work 13 hours. I refuse to come home to a house that looks like this no judging I’m just saying those kids need to do better Christmas would have been a no for me. I don’t play that. I have done it before not gotten gifts until they get it together, I’m not one of those parents who reward Kids for doing nothing.
@@dreadx4924 you are so right they’re gonna clean this house from front to back before they get the gifts
I got 8 and my 7 year old gots a chore that will be done or he will get woke up out his sleep, I’m even showing my 3 & 4 year old how to clean up & throw they mess away just like they show them at head start , it’s showing them responsibility early & dependency, install it early. You got it stand firm good luck
Yes I gotta get some structure going. Hopefully soon I can get him in childcare💕💕
Yes ma’am I have three boys a 15-year-old a 12-year-old and a nine-year-old they have had chores since they were about five or six even when they were younger than that I made them clean up after their selves so now they know what to expect and they know I don’t play Yes sometimes I have to get on them about their chores, but I would never allow my house to get like this and even think about Christmas gifts, they would get clothes that’s it.
😆 “they get woke up out their sleep to clean”
@@mercury6280 YES! If it’s your choir I got to stand on business about respecting what me and your dad says cause if not everybody will think they can slide & I mean a person that is showing their children the right way an multiple children could understand 🤗
@@Queen_Dri you will it just takes consistency & knowing you only want to teach your kids so they do it right & can teach your grandkids and u will be a proud mama 💛
awww God bless you Queen . Love your transparency. May things fall through for you to get all the help you need . Blessings
No WiFi or nothing until they do their chores. That’s it and that’s all. That’s how I am with my children . My 10 year old wash dishes, take out the trash, wash his clothes , clean his room. My 8 year old cleans her room, sweep , and vacuum. Give every child a chore. Picking up the trash, taking the trash up, wiping down counters , dusting , washing dishes, cleaning bathrooms and rotate it…. Praying for your healing love 🙏🏾❤️💫 things will get better for your especially since you are taking accountability for that has happened.
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Honestly a good meal is all they need and love forget a gift because they not even cleaning behind themselves. They don’t need more stuff if they can’t help start saying no momma. I feel your pain though
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Its okay to fall behind sometimes. Long as you keep going ‼️Make the older kids clean up so you can relax. My mama always said "If you can tear it up, you can clean it up" ‼️😂 Sending love from Mississippi ‼️🩷
You are right. I'm trying to teach them some responsibility.
You’re an absolute queen and such a good mother for pushing through like this and stepping up even when it’s feeling impossible. I’m in awe of your strength. It takes a village at the best of times and going it alone is a massive and constant task. Maye there are some kind of community orgs that can help with cleaning now and then, or watching the kids?
No matter what you do to get through this, I can tell by your energy that you WILL get through it. From this video alone I can tell you have an incredible presence of mind and determination.
It's definitely not fair to come home to your home like this. Maybe a routine for the kids can help, and a reward system if they follow through can help. Take care of yourself and pray on what the nest and next step is for you. A happy and healthy mom is the best mom. Hugs❤
Just look at it as a daily work out. House cleaning is a physical benefit. Teenagers are a plus. Put them to work also.
That shit plays on people's minds, especially when you have repeatedly told them what needs to be done
Hello Dri. I know this can be very overwhelming for you. Tell the older children, that you will not tolerate this,and please be consistent, with them helping you to keep their home tiddy. Praying the very best for you,and your family. Keeping a clean home,and everything organized, give me peace, and comfort. It's also good for my mental health. Happy Holidays to you. ❤❤❤❤❤
Correction. Tidy
My mom used to work normal hours and over time, but she never came home to a filthy home, she taught us from a young age to be proactive when she was not around, and not to sit and wait for her. We were three girls all teenagers doing to most, to make sure my mother didn't have to.
Buying gifts for those kids would have NEVER crossed my mind! Look at that house……
Get you a night shift job. Then you won’t have to worry about childcare.
Working at night with teenagers is a recipe for trouble.
You right! They would have to earn everything they want.
That part why is she buying gifts for kids that trash the house.
Why not post something positive for her to read ? Kicking someone while they down is unnecessary... She knows what condition her house is in, She lives there. No need to be snarky towards her or her situation.
@@amayautumn right! My single mom worked at night and we did ALL manner of evil. Lol.
Praise God you grew out of your depression a lot of people think it’s dirty or lazy sometimes people are just emotionally overwhelmed
Sending uplifting vibes ❤ I'm sorry you have to come home to mess; It would be frustrating, to say the least. 😔 You're doing a good job! Stay strong and keep going 💪💖
I'm proud of you for not giving up on the babies and I can't imagine but keep going. You're doing great ❤ New here but I like your growth mindset. ✨️
Aww thank youu💕💕
Girl you are a good one!! There is no way I would put up with that. My mom would come home and drag us out the bed bc she worked 2nd shift if our chores were not done and we had to walk and get my brother from pre school and I was a pre teen myself and im the oldest. I'm raising mine the same way my mom did me!! And you buying gifts and ur house look like that shidddd!!! You a good one!!
They don’t want to clean, they won’t eat.
Queen dri, ppl are way too hard on you. I read the comments. You are beautiful and transparent. I love you. Youve touched my heart. These ppl in your comments telling you what you should do... Block them! You deserve all the love and support.
I love you!
You are amazing... I mean how many ppl can have ten kids and run a household!?!?! YOU! You deserve love and to be uplifted, in jesus name!
Aww I love you too💕❤️💕❤️
I understand...we just get wrapped up in making sure we can pay the bills. Im a newly divorced mom of 3 and the dad has moved on to a new family. So no help from him. I work 2 jobs, one is a remote job at home but i still dont feel like i have enough arms or legs to balance everything! You got this mamas, you're not alone ❤❤❤
Thank you love🙏🥰💕
Keep pushing Girl. You are In a better place then you were last year. And next year you will push to be in a better place. People are so quick to try to judge like they live in a Glass house. You have a Good Heart. Keep God First and keep pushing.❤💪🏽
Thank you sissy❤❤❤
I see you! Whatismore, God sees you ❤ Praying for you!
It's tough out here, no joke. And being exhausted, drained, and feeling stuck and alone in it just leads to a hopeless feeling sometimes. Be enocuraged, it won't be this way forever! And i pray that your RUclips channel opens new avenues and blessings for you. Many people can relate with this. Many people do not have the glamorous or aesthetic life that we often see, even on RUclips.
Be encouraged, life is tough, but you will get your head above water 🥰
Aww thank you so so much. Much love🙏💕❤️
You getting up to do it speaks volumes, tune out the negative and keep going 🎉god got you 🙏
@@JC2MINDS1MIC aww thank you❤️💕❤️
@Queen_Dri i know it ain't easy , I was a single parent of 4 and 2 with a disability and it's no joke and had to work full time and did night school . Social media can be cruel and just remember everyone that can type something negative does not have a perfect life but what they always will have is an opinion. Keep pushing this content and keep going being monetized will happen. As you get better internally everything else will follow. ❤️
Mama with 10 kids your house should be shiny like Mr. Clean! You need to put your foot down and hold your kids accountable instead of allowing them to be lazy!
You did a good job in a small amount of time. Especially to be tired. My kids are grown now, but they were the same way. Ii used ti fuss, scream, bribe, lecture, punish, reason and talk 'til I was blue in the face and STILL they made horrible messes. I worked no less than 2-3 jobs. It was stressful
Hi Queen Dri, I subscribed after randomly running across your video. What is beautiful about your video is that you are being transparent, vulnerable enough to share your trauma, yet taking accountability. I have no doubt that you will overcome your depression and seek the help you need to maintain your mental, physical and financial health.
I'm depressed this season too lil Sis, but PU.S.H. yourself and your kids to start a new cleaning routine (ex. My kids have Clean-up-Saturday) where you write out all their "jobs" on the refrigerator or dry erase board. Rotate them either weekly, monthly or quarterly.....but make them think it's a like earning play time, outings, or special snacks, etc.
Much success to you on your new journey in the new year 🎉
@@roxanneroxanne3232 yes I’m definitely going to get a weekly cleaning schedule going. I appreciate you so much dear❤️💕
Nobody should be getting any gifts if they don’t help with the upkeep of the house and two of the 10 are adults, makes no sense your coming home to a mess. Time for a family meeting. Put your foot down. Everyone should be assigned a chore. You deserve better, I’m rooting for you!🎉🥳
@@CRSTLDIOR Aww thank you so so much love Happy New Years 💕💕💕
Mom to mom , I feel this so much . On your hard days just remember you are an amazing human and you’re working hard .
Aww thank you so much💕💕
I’m so glad you were able to get some cleaning done. My older brother, who was also suffering from depression (and addiction), just cleaned his room after it looked like a total hoarders house for a year. He finally got it together! I’m so proud of him! But during this time, of course, he was not actively engaging with and taking care of his kids, so that job fell on me (the auntie). I don’t want to see kids suffer. I made sure his teenaged sons clean the house, clean their room weekly, clean the kitchen daily (dishes), clean up after themselves. I give them chores money weekly. I take games and privileges away when they are not able to follow what I said. Sunday is chores day, no questions asked.
Aww that’s so sweet of you. God will truly bless you for that. Wonderful Auntie❤️💕
Im right there with you, I'm a mom of 3 and my whole house is like this, I get depressed for long periods, it takes alot out of me to get the kids to school and work, but this evening I did get home and clean something, it's still bad but at least I accomplished something, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable situation
Yeah girl mines is terrible rn😫idk where to start
Why on earth would you have 10 children! I don't understand? just wondering!
Exactly, she shouldn't even be thinking about segx let alone having it with that many kids 🧐.
I’m wondering also 10 is extreme and not one of their fathers is involved. How?
look at the other videos .. I am confused. She said 7 , then 8 and now 10. .. I am not sure what is going on. .. She obviously lets her kids do what they want ..They are in charge which is sad. .. I want to see all the kids. .. She only has 2 bedrooms. ..
Why do you want to see all my kids. Yall have lost yall minds. The negative people that I’m talking about. I said keep scrolling if this ain’t the content for you‼️‼️
@@maxinew7201 she probably doesn’t even have 10 kids. It’s for shock value and click bait. I don’t think she has 10.
I am not a single mom and only have 3 kids and have issues with the same stuff...depression is real and it is very easy to fall behind fast. Please be gentle with yourself. You have 10 kids and are doing it alone. Those kids are fed and loved and mama is there for them and isn't giving up on them and they'll always remember that. Youre doing a great job. New subscriber. ❤
saying this with love...but most parents/gardians are lacking in bring up their children not giving them any responsibility whether there are one or two parents in the home...even if your situation is a stay at home parent, children should be taught how to HELP...all most children do these days is nothing except be on devices which is bringing on behavioral issues...there is a balance for everything...
One thing I did that helped was buy chairs that are all wood. Solid, no fabric, nothing to tear up. The oldest should want to help more. Teach them now so that they'll know when they're on their own. My kids started doing laundry at 10 yrs old. I had to work alot. They learned how to make food. First microwave then in high scholl stove top. Single mom of 4. They all own houses now and have good jobs. Wasn't an easy journey but it good now. They are in early and late 30's. What you teach them now matters and will help THEM in the long run. ❤❤❤❤ keep up the good work.
Hi, came across your channel and I pray for your health, self confidence, and resilience. You have to get your children to help in the home. The eldest can clean the floors, wash dishes, fold clothes and take out the trash. The middle to the youngest can pick up stuff off the floor, put away clothes and linen, wipe the walls, clean the bathroom. They don’t need to have conveniences ( electronics-tv, iPads, cellphones, gaming devices) until they understand that YOU work hard everyday and don’t want to clean up when they are capable of doing it. Plus stress will aggravate your current health problems. And follow through on child support for any child you currently don’t have it for. It’s for their benefit because the father contribution takes care of their needs. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@DannTann66 aww thank you so so much for the message💓💓
A single mum of 10 you are doing your best, and working is showing your kids independence and self-sustaining.
If you quit your job, how will you buy food and pay rent and utilities? That does not make any sense dear! What does the doc say about your feet and legs? I understand they bother you but I think quitting your job would be a mistake. Your older kids could have folded that laundry and put it away. You’re not helping them by not giving them any responsibilities. This comment is not meant to be mean or judgmental. I know you’re in a tough spot, but please don’t quit your job!
Ppl have other income then just they job ? Not everybody only has one source of income
@@JesiahAndShayyLike what?
Delegate some of the household responsibilities to older children so they can learn responsibilities. ❤❤
@@JesiahAndShayy like what food stamps or welfare check ! I’m tired of paying other peoples bills when people make constant bad choices !
@@marylumeyer paying other people's bills? Ĺol how much of your check is being taken out to pay someone else bills.
Hey Hun,
I totally understand. Try having them clean up with you. That way it's a teaching moment as well as teamwork. I was feeling the same way until I started involving them❤
Keep your head up Queen make your older kids get up help clean up. Do what they need to do if you working and trying to make meat for everybody they need to help out too. We only can do so much as single parents do what you have to do pray and stay strong
Raise your children to deal with reality - demand that they do their part and not expect to get whatever they want. Discipline them when they dont do what they're told to do and should do.
Make up a chore chart for all the older kids to help you out, even taking out the rubbish everyday will be a help.
Thank you for sharing your video. You are helping many people by doing so... it can be a huge motivation
You are so welcome!💕❤️
Just here to show some love and engagement with the video. I saw the title while scrolling my for you page and not sure how this came up in my algorithm but glad it did. Always up to show some love to someone who is having issues with depression and the way it affects every facet of their life. It is very brave to put yourself out there like this.
By the way that is one beautiful coffee table! Mine is made out of a slice of redwood and the base is a buckeye root with a rock grown up in the middle of it. I love it because I got it at a shop in the redwood forest as a teen on a trip with my parents. I really like your table though because it is big and beautiful!
And I am back yet again! I just now saw the entry way table that matches. Love it! Beautiful!
Thank you for the love and support ❤️🙏
Thank you so much❤️❤️
All I can say is that my heart goes out to you and I respect you so much for putting this out there, especially considering some of the useless and downright condescending comments you've received. As a mom, I struggle with the weight of the responsibilities as well and it helps so much to know I'm not alone. I hope you will be able to get your head above water soon and be able to have some of the stress lifted off of you. ❤
Aww thank you so much ❤️💕
TAKE THE GAMES TO WORK WITH YOU AND WHEN THE HOUSE IS CLEANED WHEN YOU GET HOME THAT IS THERE REWARD
This is so sad momma. Sending you love and light. You can do this babe push through babe
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I suggest you leave them a to do list when you're at work. If they don't do it take something away from them. Take back your parental rights. They are taking advantage of you in my opinion. God bless you. I hope things get better for you.
I appreciate that but this is not my reality ❤
@@Queen_Dri
Do you mind me asking what you mean by “it’s not my reality “? Is it the to do list part ?
I knew you could do it clean your house.I think you are a bright young women full of promise.Keep up the good work. GOD BLESS YOU.
Thank you so much! 🙏❤️💕🥰
You're amazing momma, never forget it. You are doing great , perfect as you are !
The first few mins. If this video had me pissed. If you have older adults in the home and not working they can watch the baby and do house work. The trash overflowing, oh h** nawl, get up, clean up or you don't eat, and the one that walked on the couch with cell phone in hand, no respect. 1st don't walk on my furniture. YOU got to teach them respect for the things that you buy. 2nd you DO NOT eat all over the house- kitchen or wherever the table is. You take a bath you clean out the tub. You are beginning to settle. I wouldn't quit my job and i darn sho wouldn't buy them what they want if they can't help out. All you are required to do for you children, feed them, roof over their head, education, clothing. Orher than that, that would be my end.
Dri you’re doing an amazing job ❤
Love you praying for you …you are motivating so many women with your truth ❤❤❤
A 3y/o isn't making all that mess alone.
It's possible if the child is unattended, with no structure and nothing constructive to do (toys, arts & crafts, etc).
Really proud of you for finding the courage and strength to rise again with work and kids draining us sometimes you found the strength.❤ Your honesty is pure and true 💯💝 , your house is coming soon 🔜,, glad you have support from your family as well you have inspired ME ☺️ in Many ways I can't begin to say😢, THANK YOU🎉🎉
Thank you so much!🥰💕🫶
You got this Dri! ❤ We all fall on hard times. You are a strong, beautiful,transparent woman doing the best she can. We are all in your corner! ❤️
@@emiilyjaane7 Aww thank you so much❤️❤️
Ofc ❤ @@Queen_Dri
Hello! My oldest watched my youngest and that’s how I was able to provide until situations change! Its not uncommon even though it weighs heavy on are hearts to do so you got to do what you got to do! Don’t go backwards! Chore chart for the kids, clean up, clean up everybody do your share! Don’t be so hard on yourself! 💯❤️
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YOUNG LADY, THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY😢😢(HOLDING BACK TEARS). I HAVE ALOT OF CLUTTER ALSO AFRAID TO THROW THINGS AWAY. I NEEDED MOTIVATION TO GET STARTED TO START GETTING MY HOUSE IN ORDER. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU BE STRONG LET GO AND LET GOD. ASK GOD FOR STRENGTH. YES, PUT THOSE KIDS DAD ON CHILD SUPPORT, YOU NEED HELP. YES, THE OTHER CHILDREN MUST HELP OUT. PLEASE DON'T QUIT YOUR JOB. BUT I UNDERSTAND❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for the encouraging words🙏
Please allow your teenagers to help!! I had to start cleaning house at the age twelve years…. And I’m an amazing house keeper for over fifty years…. I had three children I worked11 to seven came home in the morning for my children, breakfast and homeschooled them they are now in their forties. You can make it happen, you will be blessed.
Thank you for the encouragement, I appreciate it!
If they dont do what you want then they donr deserve what they want. Your only responsibility is to provide the necessary things. Fod shelter clothes equality affection and emotional stability. Phones video games toys brand name shoe and clothes eating out is all a luxury. It the 3 yr old fault the towels didnt get folded. And i would tell them its the 3 yr old fault the game cables and controllers are with me at work along with the wifi cable. You have to put your foot down your the boss not them. Chore chart. Do not quit your job. You have to hold them accountable. You cannot keep letting them get away with not doing what you ask of the all of the time. They are taking advantage of you and your depression. You have to fight! One day at a time. Implement change. They will fight back but dont give in stick to your words stay strong stay focused stay positive. No more yelling. You got this. Virtual hugs! Oh yeah elevate your legs to help with your swelling!
Take your time ❤ Please don't beat up on yourself. You're doing it all, & that's overwhelming. God got you
Hi Dri I completely understand I have 3 boys and a couple years ago my home was similar and I came to the conclusion that I was always frustrated because when your house is cluttered your mind is cluttered and that is not a good feeling. Respectfully them kids wouldn’t get nothing I wouldn’t reward them for bad behavior. I had to watch my younger siblings while my mom worked and she better not have come home and had to clean. You should have taken that money you spent on gifts and replaced your chairs that they messed up. I’m praying for you ❤
Them teenagers need to clean up period. They got it too good you don’t deserve that.
Your children from youngest to oldest can keep that house clean that’s their job you working overwhelmed it’s a different time we were NEVER ALLOWED TO DISRESPECT OR TEAR UP OUR HOMES! Lead by example you got 10 helpers all can do chores otherwise you gonna work and stress yourself to death
Yes 🙌 I totally agree
I understand!!! Sending u love & light.
I didn't have anything to say bc I listen and dont judge, but I SCREAMT when his little tail got on that couch feet first... I yelled at the screen like somebody big mama...'Get yo ass from walking on that couch!!!' Lmao!!! I dont play wit kids whatsoever!
Period they don’t take care of shii
@Queen_Dri I turned into somebody's granny when I saw that girl!! I prayed for you boo❤️ happy 2025!!! Turn that page and write this next chapter the way YOU want to!!!
Happy New Year, Queen! Make a plan and take it one day at a time. Don't be too hard on yourself. Stress kills. The older kids definitely need to do more, but you'll get through this. You just need to find a routine that works for you. Hang in, Sis. ❤❤❤
Love you Queen Dri❤️thank you for your vulnerability❤️
My heart goes out to you ❤ when my daughter lived with me she left her crap everywhere. It was beyond frustrating. Whenever I brought up her doing chores it started a huge argument. Now she’s living with her boyfriend and his parents and you better believe she’s cleaning now 🙄 she’s grown up a lot to be fair. Her dad left when she was 7 and a half. Didn’t pay a cent. She’s now 19. Shame on these deadbeat dads.
Yes it’s so unfair and it’s me being sick that makes me so upset and my older kids don’t understand that