Your hair, your choice. I was natural for almost 7 years and went back to a relaxer 1 1/2 years ago. No regrets. I wear my hair out 99.99% and never worn a wig, weave or braids. I will be 60 this year and will frankly do as I please and what works best for me. At this age my time is better spent than on my hair. Your hair is gorgeous!
I have noticed the same thing, a lot of naturals wearing weave of all sorts, which made me wonder, why go natural if you are going to be covering your hair up all the time. And something else I noticed, a lot of the weave wearing, crochet wearing, braid wearing, glued hair in wearing, etc., are losing their hair, their hairline is way back on their forehead. I wore relaxers all the time when I was young and never had that happened and wore my hair down all the time, my own hair that grows out of my scalp, it is my natural hair that I chose to alter the curliness, but it is still my hair. I was natural for the last 5 years, but was not wearing my hair down, just a bunch of up do`s. Trying all the hairstyles for naturals and using products that did not work, just went back to a mild relaxers for kids and everyone complimented me on my hair and it looks and feel healthy. My only issue is the color i had before relaxing, it took the curl our of the front of my hair, so what I am going to do is just use rinses, not ready to go gray yet, and let all the color grow itself out
This is why I am considering relaxing because I am constantly in a puff or bun. Right now,I am trying to figure out how to take care of my hair and what products to use. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experience.
I went back to a relaxer because being natural just didn’t work for me and I was often frustrated and unhappy with the appearance of my hair. You can have healthy relaxed hair. Love your hair!!
I’m a mature, natural woman. I’ve had relaxed hair. I’m not one who keeps my hair in a “ protective “ style. I wear my hair out all the time, except when working out. I wear my hair in twists, buns, rod sets, and braids which allows me the flexibility I desire. I’m also entirely grey. I say, wear it however you want. At the end of the day, it’s your hair and you always look beautiful!
i have recently ditched the dye and have my salt and pepper hair on fleek!! I big chopped my colour off and decided to start from there to grow my hair out. I am 54 this year. I am tempted to relax my hair in its short state to see how the grey and silver hair looks, however, I have been natural for over 10 years because I love my curl pattern and the coily texture and above all, the way my hair defies gravity. I totally respect your choice to wear a relaxer and boy you look GORGEOUS rocking it. I flip from natural to relaxed and I will big chop in a heart beat because.... ITS ONLY HAIR. Love your channel.
Sis. I love your hair. It is beautiful! You were the only one to influence me to go gray because I love my hair relaxed. I, like you love versatility with my hair styles. You were the only one on RUclips that I could refer to for gray relaxed hair. Thanks so much, you are such an inspiration to me. Keep 'em coming Sis.!!!
Janice, thank you for your comment. Relaxed hair gets a bad rep. I know what it's like to search for something particular I'm glad you found my channel.
I totally agree with you. I was natural for 3 years and it was too much trouble. I have very thick hair and every time I had some where to go, I was always thinking about how my hair looked. I got many compliments but it was very time consuming. Love being relaxed once again. I relax every 4 months. I more time for other things I enjoy. Retired and relaxed. Your hair is gorgeous.
Im late you may not see this but I was natural since 2013 but just went relax and I wear a bob like yours and I love it. With my natural hair I was never able to predict what I was going to look like the next day. I put it in myself and didn’t lose a strand, no regrets over here 🥰
I had an old school mom that relaxed and straightened my hair. I went natural in 2017, cuz for one, I had absolutely no idea what my hair pattern was. Never seen it. As I got older, I got tired of burning my scalp and a itchy flakey scalp too. I was also just tired of the straight look(my mom never did twists or anything on me, so I didn't know that was a thing). I've recently cut it to a twa and bleached and colored it to have fun. My family and friends almost had a stroke cuz I cut it off and constantly telling me they like it long, but it's MY HAIR and I do what I want lol. I am going grey, but it ain't a pretty color like yours or I would rock it! Lol my point is, people always got something to say about what black women do to our hair but I'm gonna do me period🧡
Your hair is gorgeous and I love your cut. I’m natural just because I like my hair like this. I don’t spend a lot of money or time on my hair. I don’t do wigs or the crochet braids. Anyway, we should all do what makes us happy! Relaxed, braids, hair color, grey, Afro puffs, wigs.... rock what you like
I went back to relax 2 months ago. I love it!!!! I’ve been using the relaxer i first saw you use when i s saw one of your videos, the gentle treatment for gray hair. I love it. I get it at a local beauty supply store but not at Sally’s.
Hey Christine, I am glad you like the Gentle Treatment Relaxer. I have not been able to find it in Sally;s either, I pick mine up in my local beauty supply store too. Thank you for watching and comment.
your hair is gorgeous and totally compliments you. I love how you said its my choice - no further explanation necessary! I'm thinking about going back to a relaxer but I dont know if my scalp can take it! great video, thanks for sharing.
Your hair and information on this product is 🔥 Fire. The bomb. Keep doing what you do. I’m a fan. I’m totally gray/silver too. . Loving it AND love relaxed hair.
You are absolutely beautiful. I've been natural for ten years but I'm transitioning to grey. I am thinking of returning to relaxed so I can wear sleek new do's😁😁😁 lol...yes you do look good, I'm going to look good as well!❤❤❤🌼🌼🌼
First, I want to say it's simply your decision. Second, you are representing the gray haired mature ladies in an extraordinary manner!!! I myself have often wondered why "natural" haired women never wear their hair. I worked with a beautiful young lady that wore nice wigs everyday. One day she came into my office and seeing my natural hair she said "oh, I'm natural too". I wanted to say, honey we are all natural no matter what we're wearing or if we process our hair. I think there should be another category in between...natural and relaxed hair. Maybe...natural, protective styles and then relaxed. Thanks for sharing!!!!
beautiful result. I want do just 2 questions : 1) can you do discoloration and tincture after this treatment? 2) Should shampoo be done after treatment? because they told me that you should not do it for 3 days after the treatment, because if you shampoo they burn your hair. if you have to make the shampoo, do you want to neutralize that?
First let me just say that your hair is Goooorrrgeous!!!! You are DOING your THANG! I Love it! I'm natural and have been for 4yrs now. My hair is waist length or longer when flat ironed- longer than it's ever been in my life and I'm 51 yrs young. I went natural bc of a mishap that severely damaged my hair after wearing braids for the first time since teen. When I was permed I loved it, my hair was healthy and yes honey it was easy. All the hard work of being natural does make me miss the perm a lottttt but then I would miss the big fluffy hair too. My hair is fine in the front more than I care to be, and being natural gives me the big fullness that I could never get with permed hair
I do understand about your hair being fine. My is not as thick as it use to be and then relaxing it makes it looks thin when I first relax my hair. I like my hair when the relaxer is about 4-6 weeks old. Then I get the big hair. Thank you for watching and commenting.
This is an interesting topic, thanks for sharing. I’m now 80% grey and am considering options for the future. Can’t relax, colour and use heat and now realising the colour treatments for natural hair does not work because of the rapid growth. Next decision, relaxer vs Keratin, any suggestions hugely appreciated 😀
Blondell, Let me first say thank you for watching. Relaxer vs Keratin that sounds like a video.Well, you know I'm relaxed I haven't had the pleasure of using Keratin so I am not able to give advise but I will be researching this so I can do a video. And thank you for the idea!
Watched your video because I’m a first time user of Gentletreatment No-lye and, I questioned why instruction stated use leave in conditioner before using yellow out. You cleared everything up for me. Love your hair, it reminds me of my hair before I got a Hair cut. Love my short cut and, your style, too.
I completely agree with you. Everything you said is true for both relaxed and natural. I am 70 years old. I have been wearing relaxers since I was 18 years old. I tried to wear my hair natural, but when I can't get a comb through it and have to fight with my hair for hours, I can't do it. Additionally, when I can't get a comb through my hair, it breaks off more. Duh! And your hair is GEORGEOUS. I also have gray hair and it has NEVER been colored!
I tried my best to go natural for about two years. Hardest thing I've tried to do. My hair was just not manageable. I've had a relaxer the majority of my 65 years on this earth. Just want to achieve your cohesive color. Your hair color is beautiful.
I so love and resonate with EVERYTHING you have to say and your beliefs. I too am a mature lady and after spending half of my long life natural and half relaxed, I relate to the ease of having relaxed hair and its versatility. My problem now, however, is that after never having any problems with relaxers, my hair seems to be chemically resistant!!!! I'll get my hair relaxed, it's past my elbows, it looks phenomenal for about 3 weeks and then it starts reverting back so that it looks like I don't have a relaxer or am desperate need of a relaxer!!!!! √For much of my life, I could wet set my natural hair, go under a dryer and as long as I wasn't exposed to moisture and lots of humidity, my hair would train to look like silky straight curled hair. x I have used Mirzani (lye-based), Revlon (lye-based), and nothing works!!!! Only thing that took was an Affirm coarse hair strength. Any suggestions? I was told by a woman (not a professional stylist) that maybe I was too old to have a relaxer and that's why it stopped working and that the grey hair, although only about 20% of my hair was resistive to relaxers, yet your hair is entirely white and it is beautifully relaxed. I just don't understand. Any helpful suggestions or insights from anyone?
Hey Taylor, I'm sorry to hear your having a struggle with your hair not looking relaxed after a few weeks. How long were you natural before relaxing? And how long have you been relaxed? Well I use Gentle Treatment for Gray Hair to relax my hair, and I have used a few other box kit relaxers. I have always been relaxed from the age of 18 so actually that's all I know is the relax life. you will have to explore a few more relaxers to see what works best, just as you most likely had to try different products for your natural hair to find the right combination. Or try using one of the relaxers you have already used multiple times to get your hair use to being relaxed. But one thing for sure your are NOT TOO OLD TO HAVE A RELAXER! I hope this helped. Keep me posted on finding your relaxer match😊
I love your hair relaxed. I’ve been natural and relaxed a few times each. I’ve settled on a texturizer so I can have the best of both worlds because my hair is fine being textured is healthier. And I can flat iron and it stay straight until I wash it again.
🗣my choice! I stopped explaining. I was natural for 5 years. I get bored fast and I like versatility and I'm a cosmetologist. My preference has always been short and relaxed.
Your hair is gorgeous what type of relaxer do you use also what type of shampoo I'm starting to get my beautiful silver Gray hair and I am going to relax it lacks it stay strong to thy self be true
Hello, you're beautiful and so is your hair. I tried the natural thing for about 1 1/2 years. It was A LOT of work! I went back to relaxing and am now embracing my gray hair. My sisters and my daughter are always telling me I should go back to natural. However, neither of them wear their natural hair. They all have, braids, crochet or weaves. What the hell???
Your Gorgeous hair is healthy & that is what is most important. Great video. Always good to see you & your Beautiful smile. TFS! Wish you joy, peace and prosperity❣
I wear mine out but I’m having a hard time with the grays. They don’t really curl.😭 I’ve been considering either going straight or relaxing because I don’t do wigs weaves or braids, it’s just not me.
I want to blow my hair out sometimes and flatiron it. I don't want to relax. When I was relaxed, I used to blow dry my hair, but I stopped doing it. LOL. Weird, right? I've been natural for 20 something years, but never straightened it. Well, I did it when I was growing at out back then, but not these days.
Great video and I agree it's a choice. I'm natural and encouged by my growth. I agree that there is a lot of work to it and protective styling like braids and wigs help keep my hair in good condition. I get scabs on my scalp after relaxing. I do wonder if its the weather or atmosphere or water. Its trial finding what work. I did get some of the products you discussed from Amazon so thanks. You look great and keep on keeping on x
Thank you Susan, Your scalp may just be sensitive, allergic or the relaxer is too strong for your hair. And yes, it is a trail to find products that work. I glad you were able to purchase some of the items from Amazon. I appreciate you for watching and commenting😊
I get what you are saying. I'm a straight natural who occasionally wears braids or faux locs. I enjoy straightened hair for the ease of styling. It is my preference. I also know many "natural" people who rarely wear their natural hair. There's alot of judgement about natural vs. relaxed. I support everyone's choice to wear their hair the way they prefer.
Your hair is gorgeous, very healthy looking, and grows very fast. I loved my relaxed hair and if it didn't fall out due to illness at the time, I would still be relaxed. If I wanted to go back to relaxing at any time, I very simply would. No one should ever have to explain why they make their decisions.
Hi there, I think your hair is simply Beautiful and so are you. You can wear it either way, personally I like it relaxed. But you can pull off that natural look very well too. It looks so pretty. I purchased the Lexus Shampoo and Conditioner you recommended and it works really well. I bleach my hair white and I wear it natural. I keep it short because it is so easy to care for. I also tried the Carol's Daughter Leave-in conditioner you recommended but it left my hair a bit sticky. Remember, I was inquiring about finding a product that wouldn't leave my hair so sticky. My hair is 3B to 3C. Anyway, if you have anymore suggestions for a product I can use to make my hair feel soft and not sticky please let me know. I also wear a bonnet on my hair at bedtime because it leaves my hair so nice and soft. I really like the style you are wearing today. You just look so pretty. What color lipstick is that you are wearing? I would love that color. Well, I'm leaving. But I just wanted to say Hi, and I am a very big fan. You take care and be blessed.
Hey Diann, I'm glad you like the Nexxus Shampoo and Conditioner. I love start hair too...I'm trying not to cut mine. I will keep look out on a leave-in-conditioner. Sorry, Carol's Daughter's did work. Yes, the bonnet worksI don't go to bed without it. The lipstick is by MAC the name has worn off it's a frosted orange. Thank you for watching and commenting. See you in the next video.
@@2chicchiks most excellent - thank you so much for responding - I love your hair the length you have it now. That hair style you are wearing enhances your beauty. I'll definitely be following you. Have a blessed day.
Yes, I was relaxed for years, my daughter permed her her and it’s a 3b.But we went natural...lol.now both of us rollers set, and flat iron!Straight hair is easier.Natural hair is much more expense.
I was natural but I keep my hair very short and prefer to wear my own hair, though I have worn wigs. I prefer relaxed for my short hair. Still haven't let go of the dye yet, but getting there.
I love ur hair! ❤❤I also prefer to be relaxed. My reason is natural is not for me at all.I enjoy all ur RUclips videos plz dont stop😊have a blessed day.𝒯𝒶𝓃𝓎𝒶
Hey Tanya, Thank you fir chiming in on the subject. I want stop making videos. Is there something you would like to see on my channel? may you have a great day😊
Gurl I feel you on this natural hair thing. I grew up natural so it ain't no biggie for me. Some friends will try to make me feel guilty for not being natural but I don't give a fat rat's behind. I have very fine hair, it's natural but I blow it after every shampoo to get it straight cause that's what I like. It's very very expensive and time x time consuming, cain't do it, won't do it, but for those who are natural, git it y'all. Natural hair is very beautiful on everybody I know. To each their own, and to God be the Glory. Your hair is gorgeous Sis absolutely beautiful. I'm white headed also.
I am natural(no perm and no color) because the last time I touched up my perm, back in 2013 - I was ill and my hair cam out. After my hair care professional and I got everything straightened out I just decided to leave it alone. My hair is gray and a little longer than armpit length now. I will never dye it because I don’t want to have to keep dying it. I never wear wigs, weaves, or anything that might stress-my hair. I mostly wear it in a ponytail because I am too lazy to do all that other natural hair stuff. By the way, I am 66 years old and I recently had open heart surgery. I’m doing great now so my hair is growing like crazy. Once my recovery is complete I will try some other styles, but they will not involve the use of gels or creams to plaster it down to my head. Peace, Love, and Light!
Tedi, I'm glad that chemical-free works best for you. Take your time recovering do not rush it. My husband had open heart surgery when he was 46 and he stayed in the hospital for 4 weeks. It was a long recovery that's why I say do not rush your recovery. You wouldn't know it today if it wasn't for the scar on his chest (which I told him means he's my Superman😂) Be Blessed my natural and gray hair sista! Thank you for watching and commenting.
You have beautiful hair, but when I found myself wanting my hair curly or it reverting mad quick, so I decided to let it go. I can't deal with the chemicals on my scalp. And I hate crochets, wigs, fake braids, no.
Why are you relaxed? I mean because you wanna be, right? LOL, i'm confused. lol. That's a weird question to ask somebody. I'm not relaxed, but I think if your hair is beautiful, it's just beautiful! It's doesn't matter if you are relaxed or natural.
If you want to wear your hair natural wear it natural if you want to wear relaxed hair wear relaxed hair we have a choice with our versatile hair. Your hair is beautiful I personally dont like questions about my hair and I see a lot of ladies going back to relaxers and last your hair is beautiful it almost looks like a wig it looks perfect I'll be glad when mine goes all platinum.
Hello Joleen, I'm happy you that you found my channel. If there's something you would like to see on the channel let me know. Thank you for subscribing😊
I have always done what I wanted with my hair, as one should, but I started doing some research and found that perm and permanent color have up to a 60% higher rate of breast and pancreatic cancer in Black women compared to Caucasian women. In addition, I felt most of the relaxed styles only lasted 48 hours especially if I had short hair that required the pencil size bumpers to curl with. More heat had to be applied to keep the style fresh than I had time for. It might sound strange, but when I ran my hands through my hair when permed, it did not feel like my hair. I missed my natural texture. Honestly, every couple of years I do pull out that hot comb to feel my scalp and try something different. I imagine the smell from the blowdryer and the hot comb is my hair screaming "Stop burning me!". My sources for information started with Dick Gregory, the Bottomline magazine and it was also on the news as well.
Girllll, I'm a grayfox as well, and I'm addicted to the creamy crack! my daughter is natural and for years she use to try to convert me to natural, but as I use to tell her natural ain't for everybody! and you are correct I aint got time for that!
@@2chicchiks This may not apply to you, but if it does please do a video on it, I have gray hairs that pop up quite often on my chin, I use to pluck but Giirrll I have to wax now, my daughter bought a wax machine, so I was often, actually I believe that I'm killing the hair follicles so Im not waxing as much. Any way, as I said if this is a issue that you deal with please do a video!
I am just finding your video and I agree I was natural for years and it was just a bush I don't care what I did it still turned into a bush I am now permed and I'm embracing my gray hair and I love it I just can't natural it's too hot it's a lot of things that I don't want anymore thanks for the video
First - Your hair is pretty - love the bob style. Second - You came across as defensive...you didn't need to explain with a long "dissertation". All you had to do was state the pros and cons of you being relaxed with your "white hair" period. Plus you didn't have to go "negative" on ladies who choose to go "natural". This video, in my opinion, was a turn off.
Hello Louise, Thank you for watching and commenting. I do value your opinion on the video. My intent was not in any way to come off negative towards anyone. I see I may have offended you and others who have viewed my video. I apologize for you feeling I was being negative towards women who wear their natural hair. I appreciate you for keeping it real😊
Your hair, your choice. I was natural for almost 7 years and went back to a relaxer 1 1/2 years ago. No regrets. I wear my hair out 99.99% and never worn a wig, weave or braids. I will be 60 this year and will frankly do as I please and what works best for me. At this age my time is better spent than on my hair. Your hair is gorgeous!
Chestier, Thank you for the comment and for watching. Happy 60 years young!!!
I have noticed the same thing, a lot of naturals wearing weave of all sorts, which made me wonder, why go natural if you are going to be covering your hair up all the time. And something else I noticed, a lot of the weave wearing, crochet wearing, braid wearing, glued hair in wearing, etc., are losing their hair, their hairline is way back on their forehead. I wore relaxers all the time when I was young and never had that happened and wore my hair down all the time, my own hair that grows out of my scalp, it is my natural hair that I chose to alter the curliness, but it is still my hair. I was natural for the last 5 years, but was not wearing my hair down, just a bunch of up do`s. Trying all the hairstyles for naturals and using products that did not work, just went back to a mild relaxers for kids and everyone complimented me on my hair and it looks and feel healthy. My only issue is the color i had before relaxing, it took the curl our of the front of my hair, so what I am going to do is just use rinses, not ready to go gray yet, and let all the color grow itself out
I’ve been natural for 10 yrs this time around. I’m over it now. Thank you. Your hair is gorgeous! 🌺❤️
This is why I am considering relaxing because I am constantly in a puff or bun. Right now,I am trying to figure out how to take care of my hair and what products to use. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experience.
I went back to a relaxer because being natural just didn’t work for me and I was often frustrated and unhappy with the appearance of my hair. You can have healthy relaxed hair. Love your hair!!
Terra, Yes you can have healthy relaxed hair.Thanks for watching
I’m a mature, natural woman. I’ve had relaxed hair. I’m not one who keeps my hair in a “ protective “ style. I wear my hair out all the time, except when working out. I wear my hair in twists, buns, rod sets, and braids which allows me the flexibility I desire. I’m also entirely grey. I say, wear it however you want. At the end of the day, it’s your hair and you always look beautiful!
Destiny, Thank you for watching and commenting. Your comments on my channel matter and I appreciate your response to the video.
i have recently ditched the dye and have my salt and pepper hair on fleek!! I big chopped my colour off and decided to start from there to grow my hair out. I am 54 this year. I am tempted to relax my hair in its short state to see how the grey and silver hair looks, however, I have been natural for over 10 years because I love my curl pattern and the coily texture and above all, the way my hair defies gravity. I totally respect your choice to wear a relaxer and boy you look GORGEOUS rocking it. I flip from natural to relaxed and I will big chop in a heart beat because.... ITS ONLY HAIR. Love your channel.
Thank you for sharing and commenting, Samantha. I'm glad to hear you are embracing your gray and you are so right it's only hair.
People need to remember, different strokes for different folks! Your hair is gorgeous and I’m natural.
Sis. I love your hair. It is beautiful! You were the only one to influence me to go gray because I love my hair relaxed. I, like you love versatility with my hair styles. You were the only one on RUclips that I could refer to for gray relaxed hair. Thanks so much, you are such an inspiration to me. Keep 'em coming Sis.!!!
Janice, thank you for your comment. Relaxed hair gets a bad rep. I know what it's like to search for something particular I'm glad you found my channel.
Your hair is really pretty and it just comes down to choices. I’m a relaxed girl for the same reasons you stated. Stay blessed 🤗
Hello Kimberly, Thank you for commenting and watching
I totally agree with you. I was natural for 3 years and it was too much trouble. I have very thick hair and every time I had some where to go, I was always thinking about how my hair looked. I got many compliments but it was very time consuming. Love being relaxed once again. I relax every 4 months. I more time for other things I enjoy. Retired and relaxed. Your hair is gorgeous.
Girl!!! I'm going to try Gentle treatment for greys!! I am tired of ponytails and Gels!!!!❤
Im late you may not see this but I was natural since 2013 but just went relax and I wear a bob like yours and I love it. With my natural hair I was never able to predict what I was going to look like the next day. I put it in myself and didn’t lose a strand, no regrets over here 🥰
Your hair color looks gorgeous with your beautiful carmel complexion.
Yes! I love the versatility of relaxed hair!!!!!!
I had an old school mom that relaxed and straightened my hair. I went natural in 2017, cuz for one, I had absolutely no idea what my hair pattern was. Never seen it. As I got older, I got tired of burning my scalp and a itchy flakey scalp too. I was also just tired of the straight look(my mom never did twists or anything on me, so I didn't know that was a thing). I've recently cut it to a twa and bleached and colored it to have fun. My family and friends almost had a stroke cuz I cut it off and constantly telling me they like it long, but it's MY HAIR and I do what I want lol. I am going grey, but it ain't a pretty color like yours or I would rock it! Lol my point is, people always got something to say about what black women do to our hair but I'm gonna do me period🧡
Great video....I love your hair gorgeous, classy and chic!!! The silver is 🔥🔥👍🏾🤜🏽❤💜
Your hair is gorgeous and I love your cut. I’m natural just because I like my hair like this. I don’t spend a lot of money or time on my hair. I don’t do wigs or the crochet braids. Anyway, we should all do what makes us happy! Relaxed, braids, hair color, grey, Afro puffs, wigs.... rock what you like
Hey Karen, I do agree with it's all good...rock what you like. Thank you for commenting
I went back to relax 2 months ago. I love it!!!! I’ve been using the relaxer i first saw you use when i s saw one of your videos, the gentle treatment for gray hair. I love it. I get it at a local beauty supply store but not at Sally’s.
Hey Christine, I am glad you like the Gentle Treatment Relaxer. I have not been able to find it in Sally;s either, I pick mine up in my local beauty supply store too. Thank you for watching and comment.
Love your channel! You give great tips for relaxed gray hair.😊
@@christinep58 Thanks
your hair is gorgeous and totally compliments you. I love how you said its my choice - no further explanation necessary! I'm thinking about going back to a relaxer but I dont know if my scalp can take it! great video, thanks for sharing.
Your hair and information on this product is 🔥 Fire. The bomb. Keep doing what you do. I’m a fan. I’m totally gray/silver too. . Loving it AND love relaxed hair.
Janice, I will keep doing this as long as you are watching and commenting. Do share. Thank you
Was natural..I tried 5 times....always came back to natural and now I'm 80% gray and loving it!!
What relaxer do u use?
You are absolutely beautiful. I've been natural for ten years but I'm transitioning to grey. I am thinking of returning to relaxed so I can wear sleek new do's😁😁😁 lol...yes you do look good, I'm going to look good as well!❤❤❤🌼🌼🌼
Janice I appreciate your comment and for watching.
First, I want to say it's simply your decision. Second, you are representing the gray haired mature
ladies in an extraordinary manner!!! I myself have often wondered why "natural" haired women never wear their hair. I worked with a beautiful young lady that wore nice wigs everyday. One day she came into my office
and seeing my natural hair she said "oh, I'm natural too". I wanted to say, honey we are all natural no matter what we're wearing or if we process our hair. I think there should be another category in between...natural
and relaxed hair. Maybe...natural, protective styles and then relaxed. Thanks for sharing!!!!
Thank you!!! And yes there should be another category "protective styles" is a good one😊. I appreciate you for commenting and watching.
Team Relaxed!♥️
Must easier. Prefer straight hair.
Natural(healthy) hair is beautiful, but much higher maintenance.
beautiful result.
I want do just 2 questions :
1) can you do discoloration and tincture after this treatment?
2) Should shampoo be done after treatment? because they told me that you should not do it for 3 days after the treatment, because if you shampoo they burn your hair. if you have to make the shampoo, do you want to neutralize that?
First let me just say that your hair is Goooorrrgeous!!!! You are DOING your THANG! I Love it!
I'm natural and have been for 4yrs now. My hair is waist length or longer when flat ironed- longer than it's ever been in my life and I'm 51 yrs young. I went natural bc of a mishap that severely damaged my hair after wearing braids for the first time since teen. When I was permed I loved it, my hair was healthy and yes honey it was easy. All the hard work of being natural does make me miss the perm a lottttt but then I would miss the big fluffy hair too. My hair is fine in the front more than I care to be, and being natural gives me the big fullness that I could never get with permed hair
I do understand about your hair being fine. My is not as thick as it use to be and then relaxing it makes it looks thin when I first relax my hair. I like my hair when the relaxer is about 4-6 weeks old. Then I get the big hair. Thank you for watching and commenting.
@@2chicchiks You're Welcome ❤
Your hair your choice. That is all. It’s beautiful.
Oh thank you!
This is an interesting topic, thanks for sharing. I’m now 80% grey and am considering options for the future. Can’t relax, colour and use heat and now realising the colour treatments for natural hair does not work because of the rapid growth. Next decision, relaxer vs Keratin, any suggestions hugely appreciated 😀
Blondell, Let me first say thank you for watching. Relaxer vs Keratin that sounds like a video.Well, you know I'm relaxed I haven't had the pleasure of using Keratin so I am not able to give advise but I will be researching this so I can do a video. And thank you for the idea!
Watched your video because I’m a first time user of Gentletreatment No-lye and, I questioned why instruction stated use leave in conditioner before using yellow out. You cleared everything up for me. Love your hair, it reminds me of my hair before I got a Hair cut. Love my short cut and, your style, too.
Hey Janice, Glad it was helpful! I love wearing my hair short, I started growing my hair for more versatility for videos. Thanks for watching
I thought you wore a wig!!! Your hair looks good. You dont have to justify your life choices. Thanks
Thank you
I completely agree with you. Everything you said is true for both relaxed and natural. I am 70 years old. I have been wearing relaxers since I was 18 years old. I tried to wear my hair natural, but when I can't get a comb through it and have to fight with my hair for hours, I can't do it. Additionally, when I can't get a comb through my hair, it breaks off more. Duh! And your hair is GEORGEOUS. I also have gray hair and it has NEVER been colored!
I agree with you girl,thinking about relaxing again.
I tried my best to go natural for about two years. Hardest thing I've tried to do. My hair was just not manageable. I've had a relaxer the majority of my 65 years on this earth. Just want to achieve your cohesive color. Your hair color is beautiful.
I so love and resonate with EVERYTHING you have to say and your beliefs.
I too am a mature lady and after spending half of my long life natural and half relaxed, I relate to the ease of having relaxed hair and its versatility. My problem now, however, is that after never having any problems with relaxers, my hair seems to be chemically resistant!!!! I'll get my hair relaxed, it's past my elbows, it looks phenomenal for about 3 weeks and then it starts reverting back so that it looks like I don't have a relaxer or am desperate need of a relaxer!!!!! √For much of my life, I could wet set my natural hair, go under a dryer and as long as I wasn't exposed to moisture and lots of humidity, my hair would train to look like silky straight curled hair. x
I have used Mirzani (lye-based), Revlon (lye-based), and nothing works!!!! Only thing that took was an Affirm coarse hair strength. Any suggestions? I was told by a woman (not a professional stylist) that maybe I was too old to have a relaxer and that's why it stopped working and that the grey hair, although only about 20% of my hair was resistive to relaxers, yet your hair is entirely white and it is beautifully relaxed. I just don't understand. Any helpful suggestions or insights from anyone?
Hey Taylor, I'm sorry to hear your having a struggle with your hair not looking relaxed after a few weeks. How long were you natural before relaxing? And how long have you been relaxed? Well I use Gentle Treatment for Gray Hair to relax my hair, and I have used a few other box kit relaxers. I have always been relaxed from the age of 18 so actually that's all I know is the relax life. you will have to explore a few more relaxers to see what works best, just as you most likely had to try different products for your natural hair to find the right combination. Or try using one of the relaxers you have already used multiple times to get your hair use to being relaxed. But one thing for sure your are NOT TOO OLD TO HAVE A RELAXER! I hope this helped. Keep me posted on finding your relaxer match😊
You are so right about; I usually ask myself why do they have all that natural hair under a wig.
Your hair is beautiful, sister.
You have Beyonce energy 🔥
Love your videos ❤️
Just found you today🙏. I love this message.
I love your hair relaxed. I’ve been natural and relaxed a few times each. I’ve settled on a texturizer so I can have the best of both worlds because my hair is fine being textured is healthier. And I can flat iron and it stay straight until I wash it again.
Thank you Leigh, I appreciate you commenting😊
🗣my choice! I stopped explaining. I was natural for 5 years. I get bored fast and I like versatility and I'm a cosmetologist. My preference has always been short and relaxed.
Your hair is gorgeous what type of relaxer do you use also what type of shampoo I'm starting to get my beautiful silver Gray hair and I am going to relax it lacks it stay strong to thy self be true
I use Gentle Treatment for Grey Hair and I use Nexxus Pure and Clean shampoo. I also use Shimmering Lights shampoo once every 2 to 3 weeks.
Hello, you're beautiful and so is your hair. I tried the natural thing for about 1 1/2 years. It was A LOT of work! I went back to relaxing and am now embracing my gray hair. My sisters and my daughter are always telling me I should go back to natural. However, neither of them wear their natural hair. They all have, braids, crochet or weaves. What the hell???
Thank you for sharing! Yeah, everyone I know are wearing braids, crochet or weave too, LOL
@@2chicchiks 🤣
You look beautiful and classy girl. You inspires me…!❤️😘❤️
Your hair looks fabulous! 😍
Beautiful head of hair 😍
Your Gorgeous hair is healthy & that is what is most important. Great video. Always good to see you & your Beautiful smile. TFS! Wish you joy, peace and prosperity❣
Sandra, I appreciate your wonderful comments. I wish you joy, peace and prosperity!!
Looks great. I feel the same way. I have natural grey hair and it is relaxed. I think "Black hair is beautiful" relaxed or natural.
Yes, it doesn't matter we make a statement either way😄
Your hair is beautiful period
Thank you Doris for commenting and watching
I wear mine out but I’m having a hard time with the grays. They don’t really curl.😭 I’ve been considering either going straight or relaxing because I don’t do wigs weaves or braids, it’s just not me.
I want to blow my hair out sometimes and flatiron it. I don't want to relax. When I was relaxed, I used to blow dry my hair, but I stopped doing it. LOL. Weird, right? I've been natural for 20 something years, but never straightened it. Well, I did it when I was growing at out back then, but not these days.
Great video and I agree it's a choice. I'm natural and encouged by my growth. I agree that there is a lot of work to it and protective styling like braids and wigs help keep my hair in good condition. I get scabs on my scalp after relaxing. I do wonder if its the weather or atmosphere or water. Its trial finding what work. I did get some of the products you discussed from Amazon so thanks. You look great and keep on keeping on x
Thank you Susan, Your scalp may just be sensitive, allergic or the relaxer is too strong for your hair. And yes, it is a trail to find products that work. I glad you were able to purchase some of the items from Amazon. I appreciate you for watching and commenting😊
Thank so much for this.
I get what you are saying. I'm a straight natural who occasionally wears braids or faux locs. I enjoy straightened hair for the ease of styling. It is my preference. I also know many "natural" people who rarely wear their natural hair. There's alot of judgement about natural vs. relaxed. I support everyone's choice to wear their hair the way they prefer.
Yes Kandi, Thank you for watching and commenting.
Your hair is absolutely gorgeous.
Thank you, Amelia😀
Your hair is gorgeous, very healthy looking, and grows very fast. I loved my relaxed hair and if it didn't fall out due to illness at the time, I would still be relaxed. If I wanted to go back to relaxing at any time, I very simply would. No one should ever have to explain why they make their decisions.
Thank you for watching. I appreciate your comment.
I love it / the natural hair hurts me so bad so I'm follow you right now I'm going to try hard and money I don't have with being disabled
I tried going natural 4 months ago 2 much work. I love your natural color😍
Thank you!!
Your hair is so BEAUTIFUL 😍
Thank you!
Your hair is absolutely beautiful..
I appreciate your comment😊
I love your hair is beautiful, and I love relaxers, but I can't find or don't trust anyone to do it for me, and I'm a Hairdresser. You go, girl.
Deb, I guess being a hairdresser it is hard to let someone do your hair. Thank you for watching and commenting
I was relaxed but I work out 4 days a week so relaxed hair didn’t work for my lifestyle. But your right it’s all about what works for your lifestyle.
Thank you Ossie, for commenting. I'm trying to join you on working out right now I'm all over the place.
She’s talking to me.😂 Time for a relaxer.
Everyone just do what works for your lifestyle. I’m wash and go and it’s easy. I don’t do protective styles. I wear a fro.
Your hair is gorgeous!!!!
I love your hair.
You look beautiful & healthy, I enjoy your versatile hair styles and videos. Do you and enjoy you all day and at all times. Feel better soon.
Danella, That's all I know how to do is me. Thank you for watching and commenting.
You are beautiful and so is your hair! 🌸
Thank you, Yvette for watching and commenting😊
Amen!
❤ PREACH 😍
Hi there, I think your hair is simply Beautiful and so are you. You can wear it either way, personally I like it relaxed. But you can pull off that natural look very well too. It looks so pretty. I purchased the Lexus Shampoo and Conditioner you recommended and it works really well. I bleach my hair white and I wear it natural. I keep it short because it is so easy to care for. I also tried the Carol's Daughter Leave-in conditioner you recommended but it left my hair a bit sticky. Remember, I was inquiring about finding a product that wouldn't leave my hair so sticky. My hair is 3B to 3C. Anyway, if you have anymore suggestions for a product I can use to make my hair feel soft and not sticky please let me know. I also wear a bonnet on my hair at bedtime because it leaves my hair so nice and soft. I really like the style you are wearing today. You just look so pretty. What color lipstick is that you are wearing? I would love that color. Well, I'm leaving. But I just wanted to say Hi, and I am a very big fan. You take care and be blessed.
Hey Diann, I'm glad you like the Nexxus Shampoo and Conditioner. I love start hair too...I'm trying not to cut mine. I will keep look out on a leave-in-conditioner. Sorry, Carol's Daughter's did work. Yes, the bonnet worksI don't go to bed without it. The lipstick is by MAC the name has worn off it's a frosted orange. Thank you for watching and commenting. See you in the next video.
@@2chicchiks most excellent - thank you so much for responding - I love your hair the length you have it now. That hair style you are wearing enhances your beauty. I'll definitely be following you. Have a blessed day.
Yes, I was relaxed for years, my daughter permed her her and it’s a 3b.But we went natural...lol.now both of us rollers set, and flat iron!Straight hair is easier.Natural hair is much more expense.
I was natural but I keep my hair very short and prefer to wear my own hair, though I have worn wigs. I prefer relaxed for my short hair. Still haven't let go of the dye yet, but getting there.
Thanks for sharing!!
Love it
Thanks Linda!
I love ur hair! ❤❤I also prefer to be relaxed. My reason is natural is not for me at all.I enjoy all ur RUclips videos plz dont stop😊have a blessed day.𝒯𝒶𝓃𝓎𝒶
Hey Tanya, Thank you fir chiming in on the subject. I want stop making videos. Is there something you would like to see on my channel? may you have a great day😊
I am natural but my natural has broken bad; friends discouraged me from relaxing but i am not handling the natural properly.
I agree, I was natural for a good while, and I am back premed. Na8is to much up keep. And now that I am gray I love my hair now.
Gayle, Welcome to the GRAY SIDE! Since you are back relaxed do you use natural products on your hair? Thank you for commenting!!
💯 percent 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Thank you
Gurl I feel you on this natural hair thing. I grew up natural so it ain't no biggie for me. Some friends will try to make me feel guilty for not being natural but I don't give a fat rat's behind. I have very fine hair, it's natural but I blow it after every shampoo to get it straight cause that's what I like. It's very very expensive and time x time consuming, cain't do it, won't do it, but for those who are natural, git it y'all. Natural hair is very beautiful on everybody I know. To each their own, and to God be the Glory. Your hair is gorgeous Sis absolutely beautiful. I'm white headed also.
Thanks Regenia for sharing😊
Thank you
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I am natural(no perm and no color) because the last time I touched up my perm, back in 2013 - I was ill and my hair cam out. After my hair care professional and I got everything straightened out I just decided to leave it alone. My hair is gray and a little longer than armpit length now. I will never dye it because I don’t want to have to keep dying it. I never wear wigs, weaves, or anything that might stress-my hair. I mostly wear it in a ponytail because I am too lazy to do all that other natural hair stuff. By the way, I am 66 years old and I recently had open heart surgery. I’m doing great now so my hair is growing like crazy. Once my recovery is complete I will try some other styles, but they will not involve the use of gels or creams to plaster it down to my head. Peace, Love, and Light!
Redi Prude....so glad that you're doing well!!!!
Tedi, I'm glad that chemical-free works best for you. Take your time recovering do not rush it. My husband had open heart surgery when he was 46 and he stayed in the hospital for 4 weeks. It was a long recovery that's why I say do not rush your recovery. You wouldn't know it today if it wasn't for the scar on his chest (which I told him means he's my Superman😂) Be Blessed my natural and gray hair sista! Thank you for watching and commenting.
You have beautiful hair, but when I found myself wanting my hair curly or it reverting mad quick, so I decided to let it go. I can't deal with the chemicals on my scalp. And I hate crochets, wigs, fake braids, no.
Hi Indria, Thank you for sharing and commenting.
Your hair is beautiful,You my dear are Beautiful
Why are you relaxed? I mean because you wanna be, right? LOL, i'm confused. lol. That's a weird question to ask somebody. I'm not relaxed, but I think if your hair is beautiful, it's just beautiful! It's doesn't matter if you are relaxed or natural.
If you want to wear your hair natural wear it natural if you want to wear relaxed hair wear relaxed hair we have a choice with our versatile hair. Your hair is beautiful I personally dont like questions about my hair and I see a lot of ladies going back to relaxers and last your hair is beautiful it almost looks like a wig it looks perfect I'll be glad when mine goes all platinum.
Hey Jerrilyn, Thank your your comment and I hope your hair turn platinum soon.😊
I am putting a relax my hair soon
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Hello Joleen, I'm happy you that you found my channel. If there's something you would like to see on the channel let me know. Thank you for subscribing😊
I have always done what I wanted with my hair, as one should, but I started doing some research and found that perm and permanent color have up to a 60% higher rate of breast and pancreatic cancer in Black women compared to Caucasian women. In addition, I felt most of the relaxed styles only lasted 48 hours especially if I had short hair that required the pencil size bumpers to curl with. More heat had to be applied to keep the style fresh than I had time for. It might sound strange, but when I ran my hands through my hair when permed, it did not feel like my hair. I missed my natural texture. Honestly, every couple of years I do pull out that hot comb to feel my scalp and try something different. I imagine the smell from the blowdryer and the hot comb is my hair screaming "Stop burning me!". My sources for information started with Dick Gregory, the Bottomline magazine and it was also on the news as well.
Thank you for sharing!!!
your natural because you were born that way, no reason for a natural person to give you a reason unlike your reason of choice for relaxer.
No. Staying that way is still a choice. It's a Choice either way. (You tried really hard to make some kind of point, but it doesn't make sense lolol.)
I just prefer no heat in my hair
Girllll, I'm a grayfox as well, and I'm addicted to the creamy crack! my daughter is natural and for years she use to try to convert me to natural, but as I use to tell her natural ain't for everybody! and you are correct I aint got time for that!
Patrice. I agree natural hair is not for everyone. I appreciate you for watching and commenting, my creamy crack sista😊
@@2chicchiks This may not apply to you, but if it does please do a video on it, I have gray hairs that pop up quite often on my chin, I use to pluck but Giirrll I have to wax now, my daughter bought a wax machine, so I was often, actually I believe that I'm killing the hair follicles so Im not waxing as much. Any way, as I said if this is a issue that you deal with please do a video!
I am just finding your video and I agree I was natural for years and it was just a bush I don't care what I did it still turned into a bush I am now permed and I'm embracing my gray hair and I love it I just can't natural it's too hot it's a lot of things that I don't want anymore thanks for the video
Raquel, thank you for watching and commenting.
First - Your hair is pretty - love the bob style. Second - You came across as defensive...you didn't need to explain with a long "dissertation". All you had to do was state the pros and cons of you being relaxed with your "white hair" period. Plus you didn't have to go "negative" on ladies who choose to go "natural". This video, in my opinion, was a turn off.
Hello Louise, Thank you for watching and commenting. I do value your opinion on the video. My intent was not in any way to come off negative towards anyone. I see I may have offended you and others who have viewed my video. I apologize for you feeling I was being negative towards women who wear their natural hair. I appreciate you for keeping it real😊