I agree that all adult relationships are transactional. They aren't necessarily directly transactional like buying something at the shop. The only person who gives without expecting to receive in kind are simps.
@@Lichfeldian--Suttonian When your child is sick, do you bring him/her to the doctor, expecting something in return? Or an equal payback? You don't. If you approach most of your other relationships that way, you won't have issues with things being transactional.
Men tend to ask this question simply in response to the expectations placed on him in the relationship. Men have become tired of the double standard- women can have all kinds of standards and the world says, "You go girl" but the second a man has standards he is judgmental, controlling, shaming, etc. Women definitely prefer men to perform the traditional roles of provider, protector, etc yet when men expect women to perform the traditional roles of homemaker, bringing children into the world, nurturer, etc it is called sexist, misogynistic, etc. This double standard is what has caused men to step back and ask, "What do you bring to the table?" The man is expected to bring his entire person to the table- to work, to provide, to sacrifice; it is perfectly fine for a man to expect the woman to bring her entire person to the table as well. What is very telling is that when many women are asked what they bring to the table, they are speechless. Says a lot.
@@dkibler1974 Having standards is perfectly fine for both men and women, asking rude questions is not. Same applies to a woman who asks questions such as how much money the man makes and similar.
@@thefeminineenergy I guess you have reliable statistical information on that? Plus a clear definition of what a "feminine woman" is? Otherwise, "what can be asserted without evidence can be discarded without evidence".
@@HansBezemer Her content is for women. She doesn't need to cater to your desire to be rude to women. If you don't respect or think much of a woman, why even ask her out ona date in the first place? Men don't ask a woman on a date, so that they can play chess, and hang out as platonic friends. So you clearly have an agenda and think she'll be a suitable potential partner. If you think she has value, there's no need for this stupid question of what you bring to the table? Besides, life isn't a checklist! You can have a partner who is perfect, but it won't guarantee you a perfect life. I know a man who married the perfect woman- gorgeous, kind heart, intelligent. She quit working after marriage, had 2 kids and stayed home taking of the family. Then she died when the younger child was three years old.
What a High Value woman brings to the table is obvious to me and the question need not be asked. I don’t have to ask, I see it. A good relationship with a good woman is not transactional, it is harmonious and well worth pursuing. It does happen. It takes two. Women on dating apps never seemed desperate to me. Rather they seemed to be demanding and difficult. They seam to want to make the impression that they are hard to get. They strike me as hard to want! Not to cast negative aspersions because there are a great many wonderful, loving, and supportive women out there that are happy to join a man in his life’s journey. They can do it together. Ego and fear get in the way. Focus on the positives and it will be reflected back upon you.
Problem is: what is a "high value woman"? First of all, that is probably personal. Some people will think it's all looks, the other one will require some services - apart from being beautiful in a corner all day. Second, not all qualities are obvious - like skills or a nice character. Either you test those - or you choose the somewhat gentler route and simply ask. Like others stated - there is a reason they call it a job INTERVIEW.
@@jeremyk9000 Of course they can and should have. But asking this sort of job interview like questions on a date is very rude and disrespectful (from both men and women).
Dating is an interview. And men should ask what a woman brings into the relationship (not the table). Modern women bring nothing but attitude, drama, debts, lies, cheating and divorce into a man’s life today. Men want to know before committing to a woman just exactly what she brings to his life with her. Is she a traditional woman or a modern hookup, feminist woman. How many men has had her in bed, what kind of debts she has, what are her future goals, does want children and more. No man wants to be married to a hookup woman. No man wants a woman who is a feminist. So YES. All men should be asking that with every woman they date.
You obviously have not thought it through. You both absolutely have to be on the same page. Men have every right weather you agree or not to determine the fit of a potential partner to be on the same page from day one. If you buy a house, it needs to be evaluated it is a commitment a relationship is a bigger commitment. The modern man is right to question what you bring to the table both your futures depend on it.
@@birdtherapy2601 If a man has standards and boundaries he’ll know quickly how a woman is without the need to ask rude questions like that. And same for a woman.
If a man is asking you 'what do you bring to the table?', it's because he's spent some time with you, and he's not really seeing much value, so he decides to just ask to see if he's missing anything. If you refuse to answer, he will realize that he's correct in his observation. If a man is looking to build a family, he's looking for a partner that will excel at building a family. You listed standards like financially secure, kind, etc. He also has standards for how a partner would actually partner with him. You aren't meeting them. Some women are keepers some are recreational.
@@BryantHarris-g4o If a man has standards and boundaries in place and knows what he wants, he can easily tell how a woman is very quickly without having to ask that. Same for women.
@@thefeminineenergy agreed. Men who are serious, will not waste time asking a woman who is unsuitable for him on a date. When he sees the right woman, he knows and he doesn't need to waste time with silly questions. It's the men who want to date around for fun and games that throw this question to women to make it look like they are clever. But we aren't fooled.
@@thefeminineenergy There's nothing wrong with a person who brings a lot to the relationship having high standards, in fact I'd expect it. The problem is you also have (primarily) women who just show up in dating and are confused as to why they are never chosen. They think the problem is the men and that raising their standards will help, not realizing is that they simply aren't good partner material. A person who brings a lot to a relationship wouldn't run from that question. They'd bring receipts.
@ My whole content is for women who want to heal and be accountable for themselves, be the best version of themselves and be a good partner. I always say to embody the qualities you seek in a partner. When both men and women are accountable for themselves and do that, they can have a healthy relationship.
@@thefeminineenergy Then telling them to ignore this question from men isn't helping them. Women (and men) should really ask themselves what they are bringing to a relationship. Men are taught to do better, women are taught they deserve better. This has left us with a generation of women who lack the capacity to critically look at their own behavior and what meaningful contributions to a relationship might look like from them.
It is an absolutely relevant question. A man who knows his value wants to know what a potential partner brings to the table. A doormat won't ask a such question. Romantic love is transactional, you like it or not. I love my partner and my children but there is a difference what I tolerate from them. If my teenager daughter gets a fit of drama and shouts that she hates me, I still love her unconditionally. If my partner would do it, she would have to pack her stuff and leave, unless she shows regret, apologises and manages to convince me that she will never do it again.
Well - why can't he? Are you the one to decide that? What do you bring to the table to decide that? Or is it just (as always) your unfounded personal opinion? If so, any person can just ignore it. Who do you think you are?
You may misunderstand, its intended to be rude. Men don't ask that to women who come across as great people. Men already know the answer when they ask. Its a way to say, "I know you're a person who's only looking to take what I can give. I'm calling you out and making you feel bad for it." No one asks that question to someone they think they're going to keep dating.
@@searchingstuff I understand but if you as a person (man or woman) have the need to say something to people deliberately to make them feel bad, then you have wounds you need to address or you aren’t that solid in your boundaries. A gentleman or a lady would simply remove themselves if the other person is not suitable. Let people be what they want, no need to make anyone feel bad.
@@thefeminineenergy I'm not justifying it, I'm just explaining it. I wouldn't do it myself, I would just end the date and move on. I also wonder how many men actually say this in person vs on the internet as a means to express what I noted.
That is so false. If a woman heads into a relationship and is all take take take, which is quite common, then yes. Questioning what they bring to the table is absolutely valid. For men, first dates are exactly like a job interview. Youve got no idea what women expexct from us and demand from us. It ahould be an equal partnership, but a lot of women head in expecting to be carried. Sorry, you have no idea.
Take take take? Lol why don't you date men? Then you can take from him. If you want things, ask men. You'll understand how un-giving they are. In fact a friend who helps at a charity drive, told me that men never donate. It's always women who give and even get their children to do so. So try your luck with men.
Real women said the one who use full filters app instead his actual face. 😂😂😂 By the way don't pretend that the question "what are your goals?" to a men it's to know him, it's for know his income. Other point. What about the amount of women BRAGGING goin to foodie calls?
Nope it's not to know your income. It's because i know what kind of life I want. So by asking you that question I can know if your ideal lifestyle and goals align with mine. Some people want to relocate in other countries, some people want to retire in the same town they grew up in. Some never want to retire, some want to retire early, some want their own business and to have the family pitch in. It all means different things. And seeing if someone will be a fit for long term is important.
A man with standards and solid preferences in place would not have to ask that question. He would already know the answer within 5 minutes of meeting her.
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How can someone (male or female) want something _without_ it being transactional?
@@Lichfeldian--Suttonian By having your heart open and coming from the heart instead of the ego.
I agree that all adult relationships are transactional. They aren't necessarily directly transactional like buying something at the shop. The only person who gives without expecting to receive in kind are simps.
@@Lichfeldian--Suttonian When your child is sick, do you bring him/her to the doctor, expecting something in return? Or an equal payback? You don't.
If you approach most of your other relationships that way, you won't have issues with things being transactional.
@@thefeminineenergy Good point. I like that.
@@RapK-fu2sh I don't ever live by expectation.
Men tend to ask this question simply in response to the expectations placed on him in the relationship. Men have become tired of the double standard- women can have all kinds of standards and the world says, "You go girl" but the second a man has standards he is judgmental, controlling, shaming, etc. Women definitely prefer men to perform the traditional roles of provider, protector, etc yet when men expect women to perform the traditional roles of homemaker, bringing children into the world, nurturer, etc it is called sexist, misogynistic, etc. This double standard is what has caused men to step back and ask, "What do you bring to the table?" The man is expected to bring his entire person to the table- to work, to provide, to sacrifice; it is perfectly fine for a man to expect the woman to bring her entire person to the table as well. What is very telling is that when many women are asked what they bring to the table, they are speechless. Says a lot.
@@dkibler1974 Having standards is perfectly fine for both men and women, asking rude questions is not. Same applies to a woman who asks questions such as how much money the man makes and similar.
@@thefeminineenergy Rudeness is - like everything - in the eye of the beholder. You're not the ultimate judge on that one.
@@HansBezemer My content is for feminine women, and a feminine woman finds that question rude. But of course, to each their own.
@@thefeminineenergy I guess you have reliable statistical information on that? Plus a clear definition of what a "feminine woman" is? Otherwise, "what can be asserted without evidence can be discarded without evidence".
@@HansBezemer Her content is for women. She doesn't need to cater to your desire to be rude to women. If you don't respect or think much of a woman, why even ask her out ona date in the first place?
Men don't ask a woman on a date, so that they can play chess, and hang out as platonic friends. So you clearly have an agenda and think she'll be a suitable potential partner. If you think she has value, there's no need for this stupid question of what you bring to the table?
Besides, life isn't a checklist! You can have a partner who is perfect, but it won't guarantee you a perfect life. I know a man who married the perfect woman- gorgeous, kind heart, intelligent. She quit working after marriage, had 2 kids and stayed home taking of the family. Then she died when the younger child was three years old.
What a High Value woman brings to the table is obvious to me and the question need not be asked. I don’t have to ask, I see it. A good relationship with a good woman is not transactional, it is harmonious and well worth pursuing. It does happen. It takes two. Women on dating apps never seemed desperate to me. Rather they seemed to be demanding and difficult. They seam to want to make the impression that they are hard to get. They strike me as hard to want! Not to cast negative aspersions because there are a great many wonderful, loving, and supportive women out there that are happy to join a man in his life’s journey. They can do it together. Ego and fear get in the way. Focus on the positives and it will be reflected back upon you.
@@deannicholas3772 I agree 100% and love your comment, thanks for sharing! 🙏
Problem is: what is a "high value woman"? First of all, that is probably personal. Some people will think it's all looks, the other one will require some services - apart from being beautiful in a corner all day. Second, not all qualities are obvious - like skills or a nice character. Either you test those - or you choose the somewhat gentler route and simply ask. Like others stated - there is a reason they call it a job INTERVIEW.
I think if a guy is asking, it's because it's a last ditch effort. He's already seen there's little value.
So women can have standards and expectations but men can't. Lol.
@@jeremyk9000 Of course they can and should have. But asking this sort of job interview like questions on a date is very rude and disrespectful (from both men and women).
Dating is an interview. And men should ask what a woman brings into the relationship (not the table). Modern women bring nothing but attitude, drama, debts, lies, cheating and divorce into a man’s life today. Men want to know before committing to a woman just exactly what she brings to his life with her. Is she a traditional woman or a modern hookup, feminist woman. How many men has had her in bed, what kind of debts she has, what are her future goals, does want children and more. No man wants to be married to a hookup woman. No man wants a woman who is a feminist. So YES. All men should be asking that with every woman they date.
@@JackFelker As long as you are prepared to answer the same questions.
You obviously have not thought it through. You both absolutely have to be on the same page. Men have every right weather you agree or not to determine the fit of a potential partner to be on the same page from day one. If you buy a house, it needs to be evaluated it is a commitment a relationship is a bigger commitment. The modern man is right to question what you bring to the table both your futures depend on it.
@@birdtherapy2601 If a man has standards and boundaries he’ll know quickly how a woman is without the need to ask rude questions like that. And same for a woman.
@@thefeminineenergyRude question? 😂😂 are you a snow flake?
If a man is asking you 'what do you bring to the table?', it's because he's spent some time with you, and he's not really seeing much value, so he decides to just ask to see if he's missing anything. If you refuse to answer, he will realize that he's correct in his observation.
If a man is looking to build a family, he's looking for a partner that will excel at building a family. You listed standards like financially secure, kind, etc. He also has standards for how a partner would actually partner with him. You aren't meeting them.
Some women are keepers some are recreational.
@@BryantHarris-g4o If a man has standards and boundaries in place and knows what he wants, he can easily tell how a woman is very quickly without having to ask that. Same for women.
@@thefeminineenergy agreed. Men who are serious, will not waste time asking a woman who is unsuitable for him on a date.
When he sees the right woman, he knows and he doesn't need to waste time with silly questions.
It's the men who want to date around for fun and games that throw this question to women to make it look like they are clever. But we aren't fooled.
@@thefeminineenergy There's nothing wrong with a person who brings a lot to the relationship having high standards, in fact I'd expect it.
The problem is you also have (primarily) women who just show up in dating and are confused as to why they are never chosen. They think the problem is the men and that raising their standards will help, not realizing is that they simply aren't good partner material.
A person who brings a lot to a relationship wouldn't run from that question. They'd bring receipts.
@ My whole content is for women who want to heal and be accountable for themselves, be the best version of themselves and be a good partner. I always say to embody the qualities you seek in a partner. When both men and women are accountable for themselves and do that, they can have a healthy relationship.
@@thefeminineenergy Then telling them to ignore this question from men isn't helping them. Women (and men) should really ask themselves what they are bringing to a relationship.
Men are taught to do better, women are taught they deserve better. This has left us with a generation of women who lack the capacity to critically look at their own behavior and what meaningful contributions to a relationship might look like from them.
NEXT !!!
It is an absolutely relevant question. A man who knows his value wants to know what a potential partner brings to the table. A doormat won't ask a such question.
Romantic love is transactional, you like it or not. I love my partner and my children but there is a difference what I tolerate from them. If my teenager daughter gets a fit of drama and shouts that she hates me, I still love her unconditionally. If my partner would do it, she would have to pack her stuff and leave, unless she shows regret, apologises and manages to convince me that she will never do it again.
Lol.. but if you have a fit at your partner, can she send you packing too?
@@RapK-fu2sh Not really... I own the house and property. Maybe this is one reason why she never creates drama. 😁
Sure. Fine. Whatever
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Well - why can't he? Are you the one to decide that? What do you bring to the table to decide that? Or is it just (as always) your unfounded personal opinion? If so, any person can just ignore it. Who do you think you are?
You may misunderstand, its intended to be rude. Men don't ask that to women who come across as great people. Men already know the answer when they ask. Its a way to say, "I know you're a person who's only looking to take what I can give. I'm calling you out and making you feel bad for it." No one asks that question to someone they think they're going to keep dating.
@@searchingstuff I understand but if you as a person (man or woman) have the need to say something to people deliberately to make them feel bad, then you have wounds you need to address or you aren’t that solid in your boundaries. A gentleman or a lady would simply remove themselves if the other person is not suitable. Let people be what they want, no need to make anyone feel bad.
@@thefeminineenergy I'm not justifying it, I'm just explaining it. I wouldn't do it myself, I would just end the date and move on. I also wonder how many men actually say this in person vs on the internet as a means to express what I noted.
That is so false. If a woman heads into a relationship and is all take take take, which is quite common, then yes. Questioning what they bring to the table is absolutely valid.
For men, first dates are exactly like a job interview. Youve got no idea what women expexct from us and demand from us.
It ahould be an equal partnership, but a lot of women head in expecting to be carried.
Sorry, you have no idea.
Take take take? Lol why don't you date men? Then you can take from him. If you want things, ask men. You'll understand how un-giving they are. In fact a friend who helps at a charity drive, told me that men never donate.
It's always women who give and even get their children to do so. So try your luck with men.
By sharing this video, have you not just brought something to the table?
Real women said the one who use full filters app instead his actual face. 😂😂😂 By the way don't pretend that the question "what are your goals?" to a men it's to know him, it's for know his income. Other point. What about the amount of women BRAGGING goin to foodie calls?
Nope it's not to know your income. It's because i know what kind of life I want. So by asking you that question I can know if your ideal lifestyle and goals align with mine.
Some people want to relocate in other countries, some people want to retire in the same town they grew up in. Some never want to retire, some want to retire early, some want their own business and to have the family pitch in.
It all means different things. And seeing if someone will be a fit for long term is important.
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A man with standards and solid preferences in place would not have to ask that question. He would already know the answer within 5 minutes of meeting her.
@@Vanplusknives Agree!
Some people can fake it quite well - and show their real face after a while. I guess you never had to hire anyone.
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