I'm definitely a victim of that circumstance, I had Ex that wants to know everything and first it started off, as I care about you I just want to know what you doing but slowly and truly that mask came off and it's a lot of things I couldn't do because I was trying to build my business and she felt that I was holding back from her but that wasn't the case and I just remember saying the prayer on the Sunday night, asking God if that relationship wasn't for me remove it and if it's going to hurt me but I gotta understand it by Friday night we broke up she called it off but the funny thing is soon as she walked out of my life everything open up a business open up the loans that I was praying for the right people came in my life and that just showed me it's best to just keep your mouth shut and let God move because soon you start opening up that's when people try to come in to destroy your dreams woman or male and I know this kind of off topic I see all these women love ghost off of Power but then when I get a real man and moves like him that's not going to discuss everything they going to complain and say that you being sneaky but damn know well they the sneaky one. Be very aware of these women especially the ones that like to brag about how every dude they dealt with gave them money and they didn't have to do nothing.
+Jay Don't get twisted over fake women brother. Thank yourself and God for keeping it real. The real ones are out there, but focus on yourself first. Trust that you will find them when you are ready.
It also for safety and strategic security to move in silence too. There are too many haters and saboteurs waiting to knock a bruh off his square in these yet-to-be United States of America.
I had a boss like that, he did all the maintenance on his properties from painting to dry wall. He drove an an old Toyota truck, and lived in Hancock park. He was pulling in about $35,000 a month from his properties. When he passed away he had a net worth of $6,000,000. I learned a lot from his frugality and humbleness.
Low key men won't attract all the attractive women, but it makes it easier to attract the right women when you know they're not chasing you for flashy things you have. Men have to start valuing quality over quantity.
Grandmother always taught me to never let the left know what the right is doing. The right people will come in your life and value your efforts not these young girls that are looking for a financial partner to help them for the mistakes they made.
In my opinion showing wealth is a sign of immaturity. This does not apply to everyone who shows their wealth, but an affluent person really don't want everyone to know what they have. They want to be appreciated for who they are & not their assets.
As a woman I take this mindset- the best way to move and keep peace! 😎 Whats unfortunate, it's too many women looking to be saved and not saving themselves smh
Damn Rom, I was on the dating scene in the DMV back in 2007. In conversation the question came up of income. I stated that I did well financially. She sees my new Toyota Avalon and says " I thought you said you did well financially, I figured you would have a Mercedes or BMW. I chuckled, asked for the check and was out...
Curtis Miller, That shows the mentally of some women. Cars depreciate in value the second you drive one off the lot. A smart gets an practical car. The ONLY way I would get a Mercedes or BMW is if I paid cash and I had time to drive on the highway a lot.
Curtis Miller luckily you got to find out what her gender was about. And I can bet my last dollar she wasn't even driving the damn BMW because she thinks that you posed to have all that stuff, I see women all the time want a man to have all the stuff what are you bringing to the table I rather have a woman that can match my stuff.
True, it's like we like showing off to say: "hey look at me, I made it" mentality. Being low key, minimalist has a lot of advantages. Don't wear your fortune but embrace your success.
On point! I was raised by my grandmother to never let nobody know what you have. I think that's one of the hardest things a person coming up in the matrix has to do is curve their urge to spend money impressing the Joneses and differentiating between liabilities and real value .
This is actually very true. I know alot of older wealthy white men who are almost twice my age. They drive around in regular fords and dress in clothes that make them look like the handy man. Many wont spend their money on anything expensive except the home they live in. One of the guys i am really good friends with was kind enough to show me the books of his investment company that owns several apartment complexes. after all expenses he was bringing in 60,000 in profit every month. If someone looked at this guy you would think he was a handy man at his own apartment complexes. He is always down to earth and never flaunts a penny of his money. Its something we can all benefit from as men, helps you keep the worthless people that just want to take advantage of you away
I have a passion for moving in silence, I haven't invited anybody outside my immediate family over to my new home yet , or better yet I didn't allow them to even drop me off home when offered, but I did make an exception for this young college graduate who was beautiful, I've been here at my new home for almost 3 years and dress rather average , when she pulled up she was stunned lol , but I prefer it that way
They want that Huxtable love without that Evans feeling. When you hit a rough patch, that's when you'll see what your relationship is made of, either she's gonna be a ride or die or a pack up and bye.....
I've been consistent on taking women on cheap dates and bringing my hooptie instead of bmw. It has let me see women for who they are. 90% have failed my test because they were so caught up in my car and being taken to a cheap restaurant. In her eyes I couldn't afford her even she makes $10/hr as a cashier. Smh *Kanye shrug*
Working on it now but I take my time before entering a relationship. So one of the women that passed my test was not impressed with my bmw when I went on the 4th date and actually was disappointed because she thought i would make a better financial decision. That shit turned me on on the inside plus she paid and she has has a Chase credit card. You know most of the chase cards are selective with people with good credit. I don't know it is scary to be dating a black woman with no kids and drama in her early thirties. But again its still early and time will tell if its really her or her representative.
Another HOT ONE ROM!! There are folks who are so low key with their wealth, they pay $$ just to keep their name OUT OF MAGAZINES, OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT. And ur right, when you have REAL CONFIDENCE, you don't have to floss the little wealth you have. You know you worked hard and made smart decisions to earn it.
I have lived in the DMV for 25 years, and Rom is correct. I know of one situation where the people buy used luxury vehicles while committing fraud with Section 8. All to put on a front
Rom Wills, I have seen a Hummer rented the old license plates taken off a broke down Navigator to front for the family who came over for a birthday party. This is the same people that are frauding section 8.
A couple I'm good friends with from Toronto that moved to Washington DC put me on to it cause they wanted to me to join a few social clubs they had become a part of out there .
Appreciate the knowledge sir! I don't have wealth yet but I'm building and I'll get there one day. I always thought chains, shoes and jewelry was stupid, it just sounds funny to me though. When I get there, I'll make sure I'm hidden behind the scenes so nobody can see me as a come up. I'm still going to marry a sister, I just know I have to be very careful in who I select and what that person's real motives are.
Great video, Brother Rom. I believe men need to go ghost and fall off the scene and make moves in silence, in the shadows. A man can build alone--if he has the skills. And if he has to linkup or barter or pay another man to learn the skills, get the knowledge low-key. When ppl ask what you're up to, tell them you are reading about squid farming or some weird goofy shit but never tell them what the deal is. It doesn't matter what they think of you. All that matters is that he is taking baby steps up that mountain. As a black man I want to see more black men coming up in the world and forcing these women to humble themselves and tighten up (trick daddy voice). These women cannot deal with a man who moves like this.
I think brothas are making the moves but because of the hate successful brothas will get they have to stay quiet. When the successful brothas can do it they need to help who they can though.
Rom Wills I certainly do not disagree with you; however, it takes pride to admit assistance is needed. There are men around us who might not get us where we want to go, but they can teach and challenge so that we possess the skills. They are older, wiser.
NorthStar Bright im 18 and im doing exactly that i dont even use social media and anytime i meet someone from my old school they always mention how i fell off the map and try to ask about what im doing but i like to exude a silent but serious aura that deters people from bothering me while i move in silence
Another on point video like you always do! I remember the other video you did talking about the successful low-key black man! Highly financially successful black man are always going to always be low key including all the other races too but we're going to keep it on the topic of the black man. Like you said, you have some brothers out here that's handling their business that's owning real businesses, lucrative money-making businesses that's not telling everybody because these brothers have some real money including certain sisters too. The reason why they don't tell everybody is for a reason because they don't want people knowing what they working with for various reasons, people want to plot, sabotage your finances, come up with so-called ideas to try to get money out of you or because they want to get to your level but want to do it off your expense, also it prevents people from always having their hands out asking you for money every time they see you! Brothers who are on the sun level financially they shine at certain times on certain occasions, they don't always look like they have money every single day. Sometimes they look playing the regular on a daily basis on certain days throughout the week but they stay making moves, making money, getting involved with different things keeping quiet! Another thing too Rom like you've mentioned and I've witnessed and seen this several times, you have a lot of fake front ass men and women out here who by all these expensive items tangibly, cars , clothes and jewerly to try to make people think that they really have something and they're doing so great but in actuality they're not, they don't have anything! They don't have any real assets just plenty of liabilities because at the end of the day what's going to matter it's what's in that bank account along with your Investments, lucrative ones! don't say front people including men and women be the first ones to want to make the exception like they so above somebody else who they feel is beneath them because they don't have a certain look or appearance like the individual who's fronting but that s*** don't impress me and I don't get fooled by that s*** at all when I see things like that and I see it often, it doesn't impress me at all. I never be quick to say oh that person got money because they're driving a nice car, they're dressed a certain way, those kind of people have debts out the ass when you have people who have millions of dollars or billions and don't look like they got a quarter! Those the ones that have the real money that's making power moves that don't do a lot of bragging or talking or boasting ! People who have real money and really have things going on are aware of fake fronting people like I just mentioned as well as yourself, people with money see right through those kind of people because all they have to do is ask them a couple questions and listen to them talk and they'll put two and two together and see right through them. People who have real money are smart, they didn't get to that High Financial level being dumb so they definitely can decipher the b*******!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Great video........ In "consumer minded" culture, if you got it, you're going to enjoy it or show it. This is why the (producer or maintainer) is invisible. They can't see the value of saving, investing, planning etc. because they value consumption of assets.
Ironically, it depends on how you define outside your race. So many of you bruthas think Black AMERICAN women are the only Black women on the planet. There are sistas from Africa, Canada, Europe, and Latin America that are nothing like Black American women, because they are raised in different cultures. And when you add in non-Black women from all the other 7 continents the dating for successful Black men is unlimited from my experience. A lot of Black males dating problems comes from forcing the issue with Black American women. Who has time for that?
You raise a good point. A lot of people have never taken the Myers-Briggs personality test, but should. I know from my research that I am an INTJ, a natural introvert. Based on the research, introverts only make up 25% of the global economy; but I'd bet the bank that the American Black community is more extroverted than the rest of the world. Therefore, introverted/low-key Black males have to expand their dating pool outside of the American Black community or wallow in pity. My experience is similar to yours, and most of the Black women I meet in America are attracted to extroverted and flashy; and there is nothing wrong with that. The issue only arises when Black women push the narrative of Black men ain't shit, there are no good Black men, etc. However, you are wrong to say a low key Black male FAILS. A man with credentials can never consider himself a failure. The shallow woman is the failure...
Dating outside means you're transfering your money outside the community, building another groups economy Black men already give their money away spending in white owned company's which cripples our economy. When u marry a black woman your transfering your money to your own, keeping your dollars in the black community which is good for the black economy. Our competitors White, Chinese, Jewish, Arab communities know this already. Perhapes your attracted to those types of black women who don't have a similar personality as u. Find groups of black women who r somewhat like u who like to spend time in a similar enviroment as u do n are'nt flashy types.
I think it is wise for you to move on the low. Unfortunately, most people are opportunistic in nature. I am very proud of my black brothers and sisters who work very hard to make positive strides toward prosperity. I enjoy your content on your channel. Best wishes.
I want to stay low key and build up my assets. Keep investing into my businesses to the point I'm not tripping if the nice car I buy depreciates soon as I drive it off the lot. I'm making so much money in so many variety of places that I can do just sit back and not sweat the purchase, rather than some people who live beyond their means.
Another classic Unc! I can't lie I peacock a little when I go out. But the flip side to that is I dont spend alot of money to look like I got money. Since I know women are superficial by nature. I'll buy name brands from the outlets because I'm cheap and dont value material. I like to look fly but I won't spend alot of money to do so. That's one thing younger guys have to understand is you dont have to spend tons of money on trinkets to get the tricks. Because she'll leave you for a broke dude anyway.
With you being a comic man Rom you know that you can easily pick up a book and the value goes up threefold. There are a lot of silent movers in the comic book store
I am a very successful Executive in the U.S. Govt, yet, you will see me in tee shirts, jeans etc. I remember going to a car dealer looking like I was going on a fishing trip, when I arrived at the dealer; I really was not receiving a lot of attention, however; I end up purchasing the show room vehicle. Be careful how you treat people.
Man this shit is 100% truth, I see this in myself like crazy, im not as bad as I use to be though, also my mentor just made about 30k last month (white guy) more than what a lot of people make in a year right? But you would never know he's making that kind of money, hell I barely believed it but now I understand that you don't always have to show what's happening with yourself financially, it only draws the wrong kind of attention
Brother Rom I deeply appreciate these videos. I thought it was just myself frustrated by the inaccurate descriptions of my people as if our bottom third constitutes the entirety of us as a people.
I can only tell you guys being low key and moving in silence helps your case in life. A woman shouldn't know what you really do. Because you know what work and private are 2 different things. She will know me in private situations but on the workplace not really because that it has nothing to do with here.
It is said that a confident man works in silence. However, a lot of people are into the notion that one must "dress for success". The belief that one must project an aura of power, influence and/or wealth. In other words, "fake it until you make it". And that in itself is what a lot of women are attracted to. Shiny trinkets. I'm sure everybody remember that episode of Steve Harvey's show where he had these entitled twins on a blind date with these two black men that were in makeup to look unappealing. And both of those men were quite successful. Also, a lot of people are into brands as they symbolize status.
Another excellent video. You should check a book by Nathan McCall "Makes Want To Holla". McCall is the first Black hired by the Washington Post who wrote a book about how Blacks got caught up in brands back in the 60's and other things. What is going on today started in the 60's and is still going strong.
Michael Taylor great book bruh. read it myself years all the brother went indepth on prison life and brothers gettin lost in the sauce on the transition from boyz 2 men in the hood
Michael Taylor also about atlanta and the black urban community on the come up in the south and how he moved there for a new start. dang im lookin that book up again thanks brother
I read that book and I attended a discussion of that book by a book club composed of professional Black women. Their comments about the book and relationships in general were enlightening.
This has been the way I move since I became an executive director of a nonprofit. 99% of my social media content is events/programming that I'm hosting, collaborating with, or supporting. Absolutely no personal or family drama, and political posts are spare. There is so much peace when you stunt on 'em in silence, and make their jaws drop at your hard work. Don't say anything about your goals and plans until it's time. Hit the gas on 'em when they have no idea how you made big moves.
Another 🔥 video big bro. I could be wrong, but I think Hollywood plays a role. I want to also add Romance novels as well. On 50 Shades, Mr. Gray has a parking garage full of cars and helicopter. In romance novels, rich men look rich depending on the storyline.
I said it before...one of the richest men I know...wears dockers and drives a buick SUV...but lives in Premium Point with a mansion on the Long Island Sound and could buy a new Ferrari every month if he wanted to.....you'd never know it by looking at him...
And, many Black women don't even know when a man is wearing high quality clothes because they never heard of the label or there is no label b/c it's tailor made. I do like clothes and believe me most Black women don't know what you're wearing unless it has a familiar logo. More on the topic I don't think it's so much men are moving in silence. It's just that we aren't attention seeking. Secure men (and people in general) aren't attention seeking.
That's not true. A lot of people with money flaunt it. Donald Trump is a good example, and he is now the POTUS. The problem, is trying to be something you are not, and being immoderate. Dressing nice, having fly things, and being unabashed with it is cool if that's who you really are and fits your lifestyle/means. If you are a dude on a $10k income trying to roll a big body 500, wear $100 shirts, etc., good luck with that. But if you are boss, nothing wrong with popping your collar; its all about context.
Wealthy people /well to do people live the simplest lives. One can never assume a person's status/bachground just by the way he/she looks. That is why we should not judge the book by its cover. The majority of well to do people out there keep their lives private and I do not blame them.
Some women fall for the stereotype stories of black men. Many black women tend to lean to cynicism when it comes to black men. It's become universally routine to think black men "ain't shit." The truth is more of us are building than most women think. Speaking for myself, I build, but I don't want to be known by a lot of women. By the way, I have the Franklin Frazier book (Black Bourgeoisie) and have read it twice, Rom. I'd say it should be recommended reading for all black people.
Rom us blacks have been wearing our wealth since the beginning of times. The only difference between now and pre slavery is the fact that our people actually had much wealth before. Wearing our wealth is apart of our culture ( Rap, fashion, flavor). It's the reason why we get hated on most by other races and also why other races try to be like us. It's really not a bad thing if you have it like that, we just have to move a little smarter.
I always liked how Ken Chenault, former CEO of American Express for decades, kept it low key. He never flexed like Jamie Dimon, by never bragging on tv, etc.
Another homerun Big bro. I would say more but most of the commenters have beat me to the punch. Side note you may not here from me for a while because I might be out of power if this hurricane hits which it looks like it will. Hopefully it wont be to bad but its already category 4 or five now. Peace
I believe black men like this exist. I also believe that most of them are checking for white women or a woman of another race. However on another note a lot of people with money don't necessarily show it off. They dress regular, drive regular cars. Every body out here not trying to flodge....as they say.
It's very true Rom . But why can't we live the best of both worlds ? If a man wants to spend his wealth on his cars, clothes and the show who cares ? How about a man who has millions generating from his assets and he chooses to buy a nice car and nice clothes not necessarily to show off but because he personally likes the make or model of that vehicle . All in a nutshell , I'm saying we don't make it out of this world alive , the only problem I see is somebody spending before they get it and buying cars on lease . Do some research on wealth , read good books like think &a grow rich. Educate yourself first before you start spending . All those billionaires who don't live a lavish lifestyle are boring to me . Think about it . Yes GENERATIONAL WEALTH IS THE GOAL, to have education and finance for your kids to pass on to their kids and etc . But why can't I do that and buy what I like w/o feeling like I'm showing off. Everybody is different and thinks different . I'm okay with living the best of both worlds and idc what people think about it . I'll be building my business and assets and when I want to purchase something nice I'll do so. If you can't buy it TWICE , don't buy it.
Rom was referring to those that are fronting, faking and trying to keep up with the Joneses. There is nothing wrong with spending in moderation, its the people who spend without thinking and blow all their money and have nothing tangible to show for it. For example, you have assets of $100,000-liabilities of $200,000. Your net worth is (-$100,000) and you are a bankrupt idiot at that point. I agree with you, when one accumulates wealth from hard work they should treat themselves, but always do it in moderation...
Yeah of course you can have your cake and eat it too. It funny I was going to post the exact same comment. I want to build up assets to the point if I get some thing nice, it's very cheap to me at that point.
In another level, it’s a poverty mindset. I know that we have spoken about foreign women in this space. In college, as a D1 athlete, I have been with more foreign women than American women. That includes African and European. These women choose differently. Long story short I’m a serious dude and black American women only see goofy blk men on TV. When they don’t know how to attract these type of men, only the goofy ones.
Women wolid rather have swag/game/good mouth piece then class/intellengence/confidence. I can't tell you who many times I've heard women accuse men of being arrogant who have there shit together but doesn't have swag or acts goofy. They'll talk crap about wanting a certain man but most can't handle him.
Hey Ron on some real shit. I’m a contractor and I stay in my work clothes most of the time and I’m not a bad looking brother either. I get no looks from the sistas yet the Latina women be lookin hard af 👀 and some start to flirt. Them Latina women know the value of a man with a work truck or at least the potential he has. A working man is invisible to a sista
Yep I've heard this alot in my life by several uncles who were "well off"... But lived modestly. Buuuuut! ..... they're some stingy bastards, too! Lol💯👏🏾✌🏿
Any men out there have some good business/euntripunurial books I can get into? I Would greatly appreciate It if someone could help, trying hard to elevate myself.
Finally...a "term" I can apply to myself..But dont get it twisted...it IS a lonely life. Black women dont fuck with us, but we stick out to other races haaaarrrrrddd...go figure.
How is it a lonely life unless you are saying you can only derive your in-lonely life from Black American women. Find a Black woman that isn't American or a non-Black woman that puts the crown on you. If you got your shit together, then you can catch them from all over the world and across the color line.
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Moving in silence saves drama
Precisely.
Most women always think just because a man doesn't put his business out there, means that he doesn't have nothing to offer. Smh
DeAndre Holland,
That's why so many miss out on the men they say they want.
I'm definitely a victim of that circumstance, I had Ex that wants to know everything and first it started off, as I care about you I just want to know what you doing but slowly and truly that mask came off and it's a lot of things I couldn't do because I was trying to build my business and she felt that I was holding back from her but that wasn't the case and I just remember saying the prayer on the Sunday night, asking God if that relationship wasn't for me remove it and if it's going to hurt me but I gotta understand it by Friday night we broke up she called it off but the funny thing is soon as she walked out of my life everything open up a business open up the loans that I was praying for the right people came in my life and that just showed me it's best to just keep your mouth shut and let God move because soon you start opening up that's when people try to come in to destroy your dreams woman or male and I know this kind of off topic I see all these women love ghost off of Power but then when I get a real man and moves like him that's not going to discuss everything they going to complain and say that you being sneaky but damn know well they the sneaky one. Be very aware of these women especially the ones that like to brag about how every dude they dealt with gave them money and they didn't have to do nothing.
DeAndre Holland yup they go after mr. Sixpack but watching you the whole time.
What you offering DeAndre outside of your $13 an hour?
+Jay Don't get twisted over fake women brother. Thank yourself and God for keeping it real. The real ones are out there, but focus on yourself first. Trust that you will find them when you are ready.
You have to move in silence. When folks notice that you are making a little money, you get hit with all kinds of new friends and sob stories.
Exactly.
Mr. Wright very true.
Yes! Better to be low key. Keep it real, and you will find real people.
It also for safety and strategic security to move in silence too.
There are too many haters and saboteurs waiting to knock a bruh off his square in these yet-to-be United States of America.
Yeah, and idiots think they have power
Yep, you gotta walk around borderline bummy to keep the attention off.
Yep.
Just learn to say no...you ain't got to look like a bum to keep a nigga off you...
Move to a city with conceal and carry. A 9 mili solve will freeze a hater quick...
John R 40 cal Glock
I had a boss like that, he did all the maintenance on his properties from painting to dry wall. He drove an an old Toyota truck, and lived in Hancock park. He was pulling in about $35,000 a month from his properties. When he passed away he had a net worth of $6,000,000. I learned a lot from his frugality and humbleness.
There's many men like that.
This is what men aught to do and I agree.
Low key men won't attract all the attractive women, but it makes it easier to attract the right women when you know they're not chasing you for flashy things you have. Men have to start valuing quality over quantity.
Well said.
I can agree but disagree cause some attractive woman like lowkey man to
If you look like you don't have anything, people generally don't ask you for sh*t. That's exactly the way I like it.
John Wallace that's kind of the way I dress a little bit I learned it in Middle School
Real talk.
Grandmother always taught me to never let the left know what the right is doing. The right people will come in your life and value your efforts not these young girls that are looking for a financial partner to help them for the mistakes they made.
Good wisdom from your grandmother.
My dad always told me that as well
In my opinion showing wealth is a sign of immaturity. This does not apply to everyone who shows their wealth, but an affluent person really don't want everyone to know what they have. They want to be appreciated for who they are & not their assets.
Well said.
Love the screen shot. Nerdy Brotha plotting world domination.
LOL!
As a woman I take this mindset- the best way to move and keep peace! 😎 Whats unfortunate, it's too many women looking to be saved and not saving themselves smh
Sistas need to do the same thing. Respect.
Damn Rom, I was on the dating scene in the DMV back in 2007. In conversation the question came up of income. I stated that I did well financially. She sees my new Toyota Avalon and says " I thought you said you did well financially, I figured you would have a Mercedes or BMW. I chuckled, asked for the check and was out...
Curtis Miller,
That shows the mentally of some women. Cars depreciate in value the second you drive one off the lot. A smart gets an practical car. The ONLY way I would get a Mercedes or BMW is if I paid cash and I had time to drive on the highway a lot.
Curtis Miller She sounds like a black woman.
Curtis Miller luckily you got to find out what her gender was about. And I can bet my last dollar she wasn't even driving the damn BMW because she thinks that you posed to have all that stuff, I see women all the time want a man to have all the stuff what are you bringing to the table I rather have a woman that can match my stuff.
Brian Williams she's bringing attitudes,broke pockets,and a pile of kids.
Brian Williams, she had a Honda Civic and lived in an apartment. At that time I as a single black man had owned my townhouse for 7 years.
*Texas ranchers have a saying for this:*
" _Big hat, No cattle_ "
That's accurate fam.
True, it's like we like showing off to say: "hey look at me, I made it" mentality. Being low key, minimalist has a lot of advantages.
Don't wear your fortune but embrace your success.
I like how you said that.
On point! I was raised by my grandmother to never let nobody know what you have. I think that's one of the hardest things a person coming up in the matrix has to do is curve their urge to spend money impressing the Joneses and differentiating between liabilities and real value .
Well said.
This is actually very true. I know alot of older wealthy white men who are almost twice my age. They drive around in regular fords and dress in clothes that make them look like the handy man. Many wont spend their money on anything expensive except the home they live in. One of the guys i am really good friends with was kind enough to show me the books of his investment company that owns several apartment complexes. after all expenses he was bringing in 60,000 in profit every month. If someone looked at this guy you would think he was a handy man at his own apartment complexes. He is always down to earth and never flaunts a penny of his money. Its something we can all benefit from as men, helps you keep the worthless people that just want to take advantage of you away
Good illustration.
Four tires beat two nikes anyday
LOL!
I have a passion for moving in silence, I haven't invited anybody outside my immediate family over to my new home yet , or better yet I didn't allow them to even drop me off home when offered, but I did make an exception for this young college graduate who was beautiful, I've been here at my new home for almost 3 years and dress rather average , when she pulled up she was stunned lol , but I prefer it that way
That's how you do it.
They want that Huxtable love without that Evans feeling. When you hit a rough patch, that's when you'll see what your relationship is made of, either she's gonna be a ride or die or a pack up and bye.....
Very true.
NGF-F30 Damn that's a really good one!!! #GoodTimes #CosbyShow
I've been consistent on taking women on cheap dates and bringing my hooptie instead of bmw. It has let me see women for who they are. 90% have failed my test because they were so caught up in my car and being taken to a cheap restaurant. In her eyes I couldn't afford her even she makes $10/hr as a cashier. Smh *Kanye shrug*
Many women fail that test.
Working on it now but I take my time before entering a relationship. So one of the women that passed my test was not impressed with my bmw when I went on the 4th date and actually was disappointed because she thought i would make a better financial decision. That shit turned me on on the inside plus she paid and she has has a Chase credit card. You know most of the chase cards are selective with people with good credit. I don't know it is scary to be dating a black woman with no kids and drama in her early thirties. But again its still early and time will tell if its really her or her representative.
@@targetegrat So Pat was it her or her representative ? because I am only running into representatives .
Another HOT ONE ROM!!
There are folks who are so low key with their wealth, they pay $$ just to keep their name OUT OF MAGAZINES, OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT.
And ur right, when you have REAL CONFIDENCE, you don't have to floss the little wealth you have. You know you worked hard and made smart decisions to earn it.
Correct.
S/O to all the real estate investors 💯
They really move in silence.
I have lived in the DMV for 25 years, and Rom is correct. I know of one situation where the people buy used luxury vehicles while committing fraud with Section 8. All to put on a front
You see it so much there.
Rom Wills, I have seen a Hummer rented the old license plates taken off a broke down Navigator to front for the family who came over for a birthday party. This is the same people that are frauding section 8.
You nailed it. A wise Man does not, " Floss". Great Video.
Thank you Bro. Leslie.
MAAAAANY brothers have trucking businesses.
Correct.
Perhaps this is the reason for this sudden push for developing DRIVERLESS trucks , like in the movie "Logan"?
Hmmmmmm....
Saintnix69 that automous truck won't ever happen. You would have a better chance at having a plane fly without a pilot
Well said bro, i remember one rich german man told me, if you make money don't let people know that you are rich
There's a Book by Lawrence Otis Graham called " Our Kind of People" that touches on this topic .
That a great book.
A couple I'm good friends with from Toronto that moved to Washington DC put me on to it cause they wanted to me to join a few social clubs they had become a part of out there .
Appreciate the knowledge sir! I don't have wealth yet but I'm building and I'll get there one day. I always thought chains, shoes and jewelry was stupid, it just sounds funny to me though. When I get there, I'll make sure I'm hidden behind the scenes so nobody can see me as a come up. I'm still going to marry a sister, I just know I have to be very careful in who I select and what that person's real motives are.
Wise moves brotha.
Wise words being spoken brother Rom. Move in silence, live below your means and flossing is for the poor. Keep it up.
Thank you.
Great video, Brother Rom. I believe men need to go ghost and fall off the scene and make moves in silence, in the shadows. A man can build alone--if he has the skills. And if he has to linkup or barter or pay another man to learn the skills, get the knowledge low-key. When ppl ask what you're up to, tell them you are reading about squid farming or some weird goofy shit but never tell them what the deal is. It doesn't matter what they think of you. All that matters is that he is taking baby steps up that mountain.
As a black man I want to see more black men coming up in the world and forcing these women to humble themselves and tighten up (trick daddy voice). These women cannot deal with a man who moves like this.
I think brothas are making the moves but because of the hate successful brothas will get they have to stay quiet. When the successful brothas can do it they need to help who they can though.
Rom Wills I certainly do not disagree with you; however, it takes pride to admit assistance is needed. There are men around us who might not get us where we want to go, but they can teach and challenge so that we possess the skills. They are older, wiser.
Son of Ethiopia I can dig it, brother.
NorthStar Bright I agree with you. I am black women and I do same thing.
NorthStar Bright im 18 and im doing exactly that i dont even use social media and anytime i meet someone from my old school they always mention how i fell off the map and try to ask about what im doing but i like to exude a silent but serious aura that deters people from bothering me while i move in silence
Another on point video like you always do! I remember the other video you did talking about the successful low-key black man! Highly financially successful black man are always going to always be low key including all the other races too but we're going to keep it on the topic of the black man. Like you said, you have some brothers out here that's handling their business that's owning real businesses, lucrative money-making businesses that's not telling everybody because these brothers have some real money including certain sisters too. The reason why they don't tell everybody is for a reason because they don't want people knowing what they working with for various reasons, people want to plot, sabotage your finances, come up with so-called ideas to try to get money out of you or because they want to get to your level but want to do it off your expense, also it prevents people from always having their hands out asking you for money every time they see you! Brothers who are on the sun level financially they shine at certain times on certain occasions, they don't always look like they have money every single day. Sometimes they look playing the regular on a daily basis on certain days throughout the week but they stay making moves, making money, getting involved with different things keeping quiet! Another thing too Rom like you've mentioned and I've witnessed and seen this several times, you have a lot of fake front ass men and women out here who by all these expensive items tangibly, cars , clothes and jewerly to try to make people think that they really have something and they're doing so great but in actuality they're not, they don't have anything! They don't have any real assets just plenty of liabilities because at the end of the day what's going to matter it's what's in that bank account along with your Investments, lucrative ones! don't say front people including men and women be the first ones to want to make the exception like they so above somebody else who they feel is beneath them because they don't have a certain look or appearance like the individual who's fronting but that s*** don't impress me and I don't get fooled by that s*** at all when I see things like that and I see it often, it doesn't impress me at all. I never be quick to say oh that person got money because they're driving a nice car, they're dressed a certain way, those kind of people have debts out the ass when you have people who have millions of dollars or billions and don't look like they got a quarter! Those the ones that have the real money that's making power moves that don't do a lot of bragging or talking or boasting ! People who have real money and really have things going on are aware of fake fronting people like I just mentioned as well as yourself, people with money see right through those kind of people because all they have to do is ask them a couple questions and listen to them talk and they'll put two and two together and see right through them. People who have real money are smart, they didn't get to that High Financial level being dumb so they definitely can decipher the b*******!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Real talk all the way around.
Great video........
In "consumer minded" culture, if you got it, you're going to enjoy it or show it. This is why the (producer or maintainer) is invisible. They can't see the value of saving, investing, planning etc. because they value consumption of assets.
Truth.
I run across this a lot! People with a lot of materialism! But they have no back end!
Yep.
This is why I date outside of my race I make 6 figs and black women never wanted me because I don't show my wealth
Go where you are celebrated.
Ironically, it depends on how you define outside your race. So many of you bruthas think Black AMERICAN women are the only Black women on the planet. There are sistas from Africa, Canada, Europe, and Latin America that are nothing like Black American women, because they are raised in different cultures. And when you add in non-Black women from all the other 7 continents the dating for successful Black men is unlimited from my experience. A lot of Black males dating problems comes from forcing the issue with Black American women. Who has time for that?
You raise a good point. A lot of people have never taken the Myers-Briggs personality test, but should. I know from my research that I am an INTJ, a natural introvert. Based on the research, introverts only make up 25% of the global economy; but I'd bet the bank that the American Black community is more extroverted than the rest of the world. Therefore, introverted/low-key Black males have to expand their dating pool outside of the American Black community or wallow in pity. My experience is similar to yours, and most of the Black women I meet in America are attracted to extroverted and flashy; and there is nothing wrong with that. The issue only arises when Black women push the narrative of Black men ain't shit, there are no good Black men, etc. However, you are wrong to say a low key Black male FAILS. A man with credentials can never consider himself a failure. The shallow woman is the failure...
Smart move.
Dating outside means you're transfering your money outside the community, building another groups economy Black men already give their money away spending in white owned company's which cripples our economy. When u marry a black woman your transfering your money to your own, keeping your dollars in the black community which is good for the black economy. Our competitors White, Chinese, Jewish, Arab communities know this already. Perhapes your attracted to those types of black women who don't have a similar personality as u. Find groups of black women who r somewhat like u who like to spend time in a similar enviroment as u do n are'nt flashy types.
Great reading: "The Millionaire Next Door"
I'm familiar with the book.
In other words, they're going after the flashy guys.
And getting burned
I think it is wise for you to move on the low. Unfortunately, most people are opportunistic in nature. I am very proud of my black brothers and sisters who work very hard to make positive strides toward prosperity. I enjoy your content on your channel. Best wishes.
Thank you.
I want to stay low key and build up my assets. Keep investing into my businesses to the point I'm not tripping if the nice car I buy depreciates soon as I drive it off the lot. I'm making so much money in so many variety of places that I can do just sit back and not sweat the purchase, rather than some people who live beyond their means.
That's what's up.
I am thoroughly enjoying your books. You have a spiritual point of view. I love love it man.
My best friend and I talk all the time about having power on the low, and looking average. Just owning our day is good enough.
Your third eye is open.
When I become successful, I'm gonna remain low key about what I have. No one is going to know about the assets I have.
Another classic Unc! I can't lie I peacock a little when I go out. But the flip side to that is I dont spend alot of money to look like I got money. Since I know women are superficial by nature. I'll buy name brands from the outlets because I'm cheap and dont value material. I like to look fly but I won't spend alot of money to do so. That's one thing younger guys have to understand is you dont have to spend tons of money on trinkets to get the tricks. Because she'll leave you for a broke dude anyway.
Truth.
Thanks dide you have changed soo many lives in this universe..... Bless be with you .... You looking superd by the way .....
With you being a comic man Rom you know that you can easily pick up a book and the value goes up threefold. There are a lot of silent movers in the comic book store
You're right about that.
Good shit Mr. Wills....
Thank you.
When I listen to Rom and read comments, I just really wished that I had friends in real life to disscus issues like this with.
They might be around. You never know what the people around you really think.
I watched the selling video as well. It's a powerful piece regarding race and commerce.
I am a very successful Executive in the U.S. Govt, yet, you will see me in tee shirts, jeans etc. I remember going to a car dealer looking like I was going on a fishing trip, when I arrived at the dealer; I really was not receiving a lot of attention, however; I end up purchasing the show room vehicle. Be careful how you treat people.
Man this shit is 100% truth, I see this in myself like crazy, im not as bad as I use to be though, also my mentor just made about 30k last month (white guy) more than what a lot of people make in a year right? But you would never know he's making that kind of money, hell I barely believed it but now I understand that you don't always have to show what's happening with yourself financially, it only draws the wrong kind of attention
Truth.
Uncle Rom back at it again dropping that knowledge that hot 🔥🔥..DJ Khaled Voice: Another One
It's Rom bruh. I know what you mean tho. Thank you.
Rom Wills I edited it sorry it was autocorrect lol but love your videos as usual man much respect from South Florida
Your slogan is “WITH YET ANOTHER…..” car or couch
Gm brethren ☕ this is 100% all the way bro 👍.
Thanks fam.
Rom Wills no doubt nothing like moving in silence. 🙊
I would rather be invisible than noticeable any day. It keeps the noise away.
Uncle Rom another good one respect .
Thank fam.
JustTay Off topic, but do you know how hard it is to find another Silver Hawks fan?
Move swift as a serpent and soft as dove. Yo this is great.
Thank you.
Brother Rom I deeply appreciate these videos. I thought it was just myself frustrated by the inaccurate descriptions of my people as if our bottom third constitutes the entirety of us as a people.
you got it big brother.
I can only tell you guys being low key and moving in silence helps your case in life. A woman shouldn't know what you really do. Because you know what work and private are 2 different things. She will know me in private situations but on the workplace not really because that it has nothing to do with here.
Well said.
It is said that a confident man works in silence. However, a lot of people are into the notion that one must "dress for success". The belief that one must project an aura of power, influence and/or wealth. In other words, "fake it until you make it". And that in itself is what a lot of women are attracted to. Shiny trinkets. I'm sure everybody remember that episode of Steve Harvey's show where he had these entitled twins on a blind date with these two black men that were in makeup to look unappealing. And both of those men were quite successful. Also, a lot of people are into brands as they symbolize status.
Good observations.
Another excellent video. You should check a book by Nathan McCall "Makes Want To Holla". McCall is the first Black hired by the Washington Post who wrote a book about how Blacks got caught up in brands back in the 60's and other things. What is going on today started in the 60's and is still going strong.
Michael Taylor great book bruh. read it myself years all the brother went indepth on prison life and brothers gettin lost in the sauce on the transition from boyz 2 men in the hood
Michael Taylor also about atlanta and the black urban community on the come up in the south and how he moved there for a new start. dang im lookin that book up again thanks brother
I read that book and I attended a discussion of that book by a book club composed of professional Black women. Their comments about the book and relationships in general were enlightening.
naysoo
I hope you had a chance to read his book, to me it is a must read for Black folk.
i read that book in HS. I loved reading that book.
Great Video,
I actually think Tariq Nasheed posted that video on Whites selling to Blacks and he made a topic on that.....
Rom Wills your the G.O.A.T!
Thank you fam.
it's the best thing to do moving in silence works that's what I'm doing now
Smart move.
This has been the way I move since I became an executive director of a nonprofit. 99% of my social media content is events/programming that I'm hosting, collaborating with, or supporting. Absolutely no personal or family drama, and political posts are spare. There is so much peace when you stunt on 'em in silence, and make their jaws drop at your hard work. Don't say anything about your goals and plans until it's time. Hit the gas on 'em when they have no idea how you made big moves.
Another 🔥 video big bro. I could be wrong, but I think Hollywood plays a role. I want to also add Romance novels as well. On 50 Shades, Mr. Gray has a parking garage full of cars and helicopter. In romance novels, rich men look rich depending on the storyline.
You're not wrong. Media plays a big role.
Sensational
Thank you.
Real G's move in silence like lasagna
Good video real shit✊🏾
Thank you.
I said it before...one of the richest men I know...wears dockers and drives a buick SUV...but lives in Premium Point with a mansion on the Long Island Sound and could buy a new Ferrari every month if he wanted to.....you'd never know it by looking at him...
The best way to do it.
And, many Black women don't even know when a man is wearing high quality clothes because they never heard of the label or there is no label b/c it's tailor made. I do like clothes and believe me most Black women don't know what you're wearing unless it has a familiar logo.
More on the topic I don't think it's so much men are moving in silence. It's just that we aren't attention seeking. Secure men (and people in general) aren't attention seeking.
Good distinction.
Champagne dreams with boonesfarm money u right ppl with paper don't show it like the guns n butter theory
That's not true. A lot of people with money flaunt it. Donald Trump is a good example, and he is now the POTUS. The problem, is trying to be something you are not, and being immoderate. Dressing nice, having fly things, and being unabashed with it is cool if that's who you really are and fits your lifestyle/means. If you are a dude on a $10k income trying to roll a big body 500, wear $100 shirts, etc., good luck with that. But if you are boss, nothing wrong with popping your collar; its all about context.
Darrick Brisco,
True.
Awesome sauce..🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks baby.
Wealthy people /well to do people live the simplest lives. One can never assume a person's status/bachground just by the way he/she looks. That is why we should not judge the book by its cover. The majority of well to do people out there keep their lives private and I do not blame them.
That's true sis.
They are too busy building to blab.... We ain't got to know everything!!
Some women fall for the stereotype stories of black men. Many black women tend to lean to cynicism when it comes to black men. It's become universally routine to think black men "ain't shit." The truth is more of us are building than most women think. Speaking for myself, I build, but I don't want to be known by a lot of women. By the way, I have the Franklin Frazier book (Black Bourgeoisie) and have read it twice, Rom. I'd say it should be recommended reading for all black people.
*The truth is more of us are building than most women think.* That's what many Black women don't realize.
Rom us blacks have been wearing our wealth since the beginning of times. The only difference between now and pre slavery is the fact that our people actually had much wealth before. Wearing our wealth is apart of our culture ( Rap, fashion, flavor). It's the reason why we get hated on most by other races and also why other races try to be like us. It's really not a bad thing if you have it like that, we just have to move a little smarter.
The issue is we need to be able to afford it.
I always liked how Ken Chenault, former CEO of American Express for decades, kept it low key. He never flexed like Jamie Dimon, by never bragging on tv, etc.
Exactly.
Another homerun Big bro. I would say more but most of the commenters have beat me to the punch. Side note you may not here from me for a while because I might be out of power if this hurricane hits which it looks like it will. Hopefully it wont be to bad but its already category 4 or five now. Peace
Yo stay safe down there fam. Hit me privately at www.romwills.com/contact-rom.html to let me know you got through it safe.
isaiah parks which part of FL?
I believe black men like this exist. I also believe that most of them are checking for white women or a woman of another race. However on another note a lot of people with money don't necessarily show it off. They dress regular, drive regular cars. Every body out here not trying to flodge....as they say.
U GOT DOPE NEW PICS ( MONEY MATTERS I JUST SEEN ALSO)🎯
Thank you.
It's very true Rom . But why can't we live the best of both worlds ? If a man wants to spend his wealth on his cars, clothes and the show who cares ? How about a man who has millions generating from his assets and he chooses to buy a nice car and nice clothes not necessarily to show off but because he personally likes the make or model of that vehicle . All in a nutshell , I'm saying we don't make it out of this world alive , the only problem I see is somebody spending before they get it and buying cars on lease . Do some research on wealth , read good books like think &a grow rich. Educate yourself first before you start spending . All those billionaires who don't live a lavish lifestyle are boring to me . Think about it . Yes GENERATIONAL WEALTH IS THE GOAL, to have education and finance for your kids to pass on to their kids and etc . But why can't I do that and buy what I like w/o feeling like I'm showing off. Everybody is different and thinks different . I'm okay with living the best of both worlds and idc what people think about it . I'll be building my business and assets and when I want to purchase something nice I'll do so. If you can't buy it TWICE , don't buy it.
If that's how you want to roll do it. People should do what makes them feel good. The key is actually HAVING the wealth. Many people are fronting.
Rom was referring to those that are fronting, faking and trying to keep up with the Joneses. There is nothing wrong with spending in moderation, its the people who spend without thinking and blow all their money and have nothing tangible to show for it. For example, you have assets of $100,000-liabilities of $200,000. Your net worth is (-$100,000) and you are a bankrupt idiot at that point. I agree with you, when one accumulates wealth from hard work they should treat themselves, but always do it in moderation...
Yeah of course you can have your cake and eat it too. It funny I was going to post the exact same comment. I want to build up assets to the point if I get some thing nice, it's very cheap to me at that point.
Just don't spend more than you make.
The key is to have assets that produce income. Thats the only excuse to buy dumbsh*t. Your assets make it right back.
Excellent video!
Thank you.
Rom Wills You are are welcome my brother
As a collective we’ve always been all dressed up with nowhere to go.
And to add get the bag stay healthy wealthy and stealthy....
rather move in silence
Correct.
I never understood how to move in silence until recently. My music is gaining traction in other cities and old "friends" are reappearing fast...
Always remember from a G The truth sounds like hate to people who hate the truth.
6:07 yep I’m takin marketing class now. They have whole databases filled with buying patterns going into psychographics to demographics and geographic
In another level, it’s a poverty mindset. I know that we have spoken about foreign women in this space. In college, as a D1 athlete, I have been with more foreign women than American women. That includes African and European. These women choose differently. Long story short I’m a serious dude and black American women only see goofy blk men on TV. When they don’t know how to attract these type of men, only the goofy ones.
Most of us don't understand that we blacks don't have any money so we must stay down and work the system till we come up!
We have money. We just don't manage it correctly.
Women wolid rather have swag/game/good mouth piece then class/intellengence/confidence.
I can't tell you who many times I've heard women accuse men of being arrogant who have there shit together but doesn't have swag or acts goofy. They'll talk crap about wanting a certain man but most can't handle him.
It's a big part of the problem.
The brother looks like a young David Ruffin.
Hey Ron on some real shit. I’m a contractor and I stay in my work clothes most of the time and I’m not a bad looking brother either. I get no looks from the sistas yet the Latina women be lookin hard af 👀 and some start to flirt. Them Latina women know the value of a man with a work truck or at least the potential he has. A working man is invisible to a sista
It's unfortunate.
Yep I've heard this alot in my life by several uncles who were "well off"... But lived modestly. Buuuuut! ..... they're some stingy bastards, too! Lol💯👏🏾✌🏿
INTERESTING TOPIC and TRUE!!!
on point.
Any men out there have some good business/euntripunurial books I can get into? I Would greatly appreciate It if someone could help, trying hard to elevate myself.
Check out my business channel, ruclips.net/channel/UCN6yXSB4w9esgBHzb0pjX_g
Rom Wills the link is not going through unc, what is the name of the channel?
Rom Wills forget it I found it. Thank for the interest, I already supported and purchased your books. You are doing a great job, keep it up unc.
Interesting. It's called "Rom Wills - About That Business."
My feelings: Fuck 'em, go your own way! Save yourselves Black Men!!!!!!!
Understandable.
Classic intro.. Sound like a Sugar Hill scene lol..
Peep game Poor people by stuff.middle class people by liablities.Wealthy people by assets
Good video
Thank you.
Finally...a "term" I can apply to myself..But dont get it twisted...it IS a lonely life. Black women dont fuck with us, but we stick out to other races haaaarrrrrddd...go figure.
Other cultures value men like that.
How is it a lonely life unless you are saying you can only derive your in-lonely life from Black American women. Find a Black woman that isn't American or a non-Black woman that puts the crown on you. If you got your shit together, then you can catch them from all over the world and across the color line.
True
Thank you.