The worst thing about resolving issues with many W0mn is they pull out their bag of dirty argument fighting tricks, often seamlessly switching them up as one is being dealt with methodically & logically. Then they think they're so smart bc they can shout, gaslight etc & 'Win'. They don't actually intend to resolve anything, they just intend they don't acknowledge thier own mistakes. Guys recognise they've 'lost' based on these ta¢tics & often eventually give in to exhaustion if nothing else. Men also lose trust & respect when W0mn employ these ta¢tics & this directly damages the attachment bond. W0mn sabotage thier own mariages all the time.
Had a toxic one like this. While yelling and screaming, she would deny she was angry or upset. I ended up booking an overnight stay at a beach so we could try and work through what was going on with her. She kicked off again, yelling, screaming and denying she was angry. I waited till she was asleep, drove back home without her, packed my stuff and left before she knew I'd gone. No argument, no drama (like she craved), just disappear. Life's too short to be wasted on these types.
Women often destroy a relationship when they know they've cheated. But the other main 1 is. Many are addicted to toxic people. So if your not. They go nuts
Love the way you did this. No argument, no toxicity, no empty threats, very clear on where you stand. I just hope you stood by your decision or she committed to changing or appreciating you
I've been saying this for the last few years. Somebody, please open source a gesign! Go back and watch some legal fights which, if not for video evidence, would have resulted in jail time for innocent people!
Hobestly life is too complex for that. Nobody is perfect. Find a partner that males you happy and you can tolerate their bad moments. Everyone has them. If you set your standards to perfection you will be forever alone. Ones its a mistake, twice we are human, three times is a patern.
@@MultiGoban No we shouldn't have to tolerate anything. We are not asking for perfection, just to be respected. And to be completely honest being forever alone is not even nearly as bad as being in the average relationship in my experience.
You will never be in a relationship with a woman. Call her out and tell her how to behave. Often they are clueless. My wife became a very different person over time.
My girlfriend was upset with me when I didn’t pick her up at 6 (because I overslept). I picked her up late & when I said “Hello”, she didn’t speak. I refused to drive until she told me what was wrong. When she told me; I promptly reminded her of all the times she had me waiting for her outside for her to get ready. I then asked her if we were going to go have a good time or was she going to sulk. She changed her tune immediately. (If she chose to sulk; I was going to leave her at home.) We were able to laugh & joke about it later. Point is; NEVER reward or tolerate a woman’s bad behavior & ALWAYS call them out on their crap. We all have improvements to make about ourselves & women are not born on pedestals.
Madness, I went to Reptile gardens with my "Boy" and that silly bastard stayed in the car... be thankful, you don't have to be trapped in the Hell I was in
Dude, I cured both my english born Wive's of the 'Cold Silence Routine' using pretty much these ta¢tics & they work. 👍Took @18 months for it to completely remove the habit they learnt from thier Mums. Just stop everything & wait them out, tolerating no disrespect & not playing into inflammatory behaviour. Pretty much as you described. As long as they respect you, they'll abandon these ta¢tics. You'll know when they've lost respect. 🇦🇺
@@hihtitmamnanOP’s story involved calling out bad behavior with the threat of negative consequences for her. When women act like misbehaving children, treat them accordingly.
I was there.. its the naivity .. the beeing to horny.. the beeing that she is only sometimes that way and otherwise very kind.. It depents if she will evolve or not.
Well, she knows now she got him on a hook for trip tickets. He should indeed forget/forfeit the whole thing as it is unacceptable. Some tests are needed ro shape up a mate and their own weaknesses vis à vis own, but this is not in good sports. He should forget Dubai too as a ef trap as any other out there.
He boards the plane without her. And if he is buying plane tickets to Dubai, I am sure he could go to the airline and take that as a credit to Phuket by himself. Either way, she should be sent packing. Ungrateful wench
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
I am old enough to remember "ladies." They have gone the way of the carrier pigeon. They were, in a word, incredible. Anyone under 60 today has no idea what I am talking about. When I was in college, my boss was in her 60's. She only ever wore skirts, and would rather have died than used profanity. Bless your soul Gertrude.
Gertrude is such an OG name, might have been civilian during WW2, might have been a nurse in WW2 or very well have been working the filtration station in the female camps.
My wife won't swear and is very much in her feminine frame....we are just 60 now....she doesn't have much time for these tattooed rebellious "feminists" who have made work places toxic and dating a nightmare
Transference- my ex was having problems at work with her male boss. I found out a bit later that he wasn’t doing what she wanted him to do and that was fire a woman my ex couldn’t get along with. So, rather than give up her little campaign or even resolve her issues with the co-worker, she would come home and pick a fight with me. I work in the building trades and am tired at the end of the day. I don’t want to argue. I couldn’t figure out why she was so angry at me. When I would ask her she would say “if you don’t know then you’re the problem”. HUH? Finally, after 4-5 months of this, I told her I was moving out and I wanted a divorce. Only then did she break down and tell me what was wrong. Too late. Filed for divorce and now my life is good.
You can just sleep with them and never marry them! I am telling you.. if you not lucky to find a kind and a nice one.. dont try your luck with others. Dont think she will behaive or change.. most times you are totaly right.. she will behaive and change towards negativy over the years!.. movies..politik..femi.. internet.. and so on.. believe me.. eithet you find one from the start who is not able to be manipulated bye those and is loving and kind towards you .. who can sitt and be bored.. then go for it.. otherwise dont.. Just sleep with them dont marry!
“I wonder what your friends or family would think if they knew how you’re treating me”. If she’s a narcissist, she’s already fabricated up lies to justify her bad behavior to her friends and family. They’re already against you, you just don’t know it yet.
@2DoorXplore When you talk about a narcissist, are you talking about the narcissism trait in the dark triad or about the personality disorder? If you're talking about the triad trait, we all have it to a greater or lesser extent and it is even necessary in order to be able to love ourselves. Most people, including myself, would not be able to correctly diagnose narcissism as a personality disorder without the appropriate knowledge of psychology. I would definitely act in such a way that I would not start a relationship or end one as soon as I was informed about this personality disorder. My life is hard enough, I don't have the strength to deal with this mental illness and I wouldn't want to either.
The best way to deal with a narcissist is to leave because normally, he says to point out her behavior to induce shame, but narcissists already have a lot of shame in their core they react to their own shame with more aggressiveness and manipulation
A female cop was giving me a hard time. I asked her who was taking care of her children while she was out here pretending to be a tough guy. She about hit the roof.
I bet that went down like BBQ spare ribs at a Veganism convention. I personally like to be helpful & just tell them _'I understand Vitamin B is good for it.'_
What gets me is that fact that they can act like children in public like that, and not self-delete from the shame afterwards Literal toddler tantrums, wtf
We cancelled shame, no? By the time tickets are bought, the only way to punish would also have, at least, her ticket price money wasted. You can either lose-lose, or win-lose. there is no win-win. I wonder why he chose to film the first reaction too though,
I asked one girlfriend to explain to me why she didn't like what was going on at that particular time. She snapped at me "I don't know why I don't like it. I just don't like it". I can't even remember what "it" was, it was that trivial. That's pretty much my experience with connecting with women.
And these same women will claim to be so much more emotionally mature and intelligent. Utter bullshit. They are ALL children in adult bodies. Every single women is a frightened little girl.
put your phone backward in your shirt poket (camera lense outward) with your arms crossed....works EVERY TIME...let the good times roll.....I use that tactic all the time in my business.(helps when I draw up contracts to remember and upload the conversations, so I don't forget some details and have video proof of their requests (or her tantrums))
@@ThomasJTuhrdwatterAt some point bodycams are going to become standard casual wear accessories. Particularly with MET00 & hypersensitive W0mn who take rejection badly.
If you are in a relationship where you feel like you need to this, this is obviously an indication that you should end things. There is no glory in playing into these scenarios. Obviously, there is nuance in life, but 90% of the time if you have an incline to do it, you should just end things.
Projecting. I had a hot/crazy for a few years. She must have called me a cheater several hundred times, complete with bitter tears to make me feel guilty. After I kicked her out, she admitted that it was all about her insecurity. Finally, she took responsibility for her behavior...after it was too late.
You better think more down the line though of when you enter old age and you have no wife or gf or kids - that’s not a good spot to be in.. just ask around and you’ll hear horror stories
I just had to subscribe mate!! I'm 60 and survived the 2nd wave of the feminist movement in 70's and 80's. This 3rd wave is totally of the rails. I'm delighted to see todays young men aren't taking this B-S any longer. ''Grab your nuts and march forward lads!!''
But young men aren’t doing much to counter .. instead, they are giving up on everything and resorting to playing videogames .. that’s not exactly a healthy option b
Ha ha ha... going to Dubia. You think she started an arguement for drama?? 😂 Nope, she is already creating a reason to have space while there. Space to go out ALONE. Alone to track down a mega rich man. Then get shat on. 😂😂
Bring back shame. "i wonder what your friends would think out your behaviour." Bring back logic. "The longer you try to justify yourself to a woman, the longer the argument is going to go." Well said, sir!
Her friends would 100% side with her. She could jab you with a knife and they'd support her saying 'she is the victim and its not like it hurt you that much." They'd be on the streets with banners saying 'FREE MY GIRL' as she is taken to court and then given two weeks of community service along with a gentle slap on the wrist. They are grown toddlers. They are treated by courts as toddlers, they expect to be taken care of like toddlers, they make unnecessary drama like toddlers, make up imaginary situations like toddlers, and pretend to be more mature than they are, like toddlers.
I used to tell mine, could you just stand there with your hands on your hips, tapping your foot on the floor when you talk to me. Sometimes she laughed, sometimes I was told to F myself.
Did you ever play Bucking Bronco...? Next time you’re having relations, say you want to do her doggy... then once you’re a little into your rhythm, tell her she “feels better than her mum”.. (sister works better sometimes). Be sure to time how long you can stay in the saddle. 😅
@@dbird1356 Nope give her no reason to return to the property. I'd suggest pay for a week at a motel for her whilst also handing her the key to the storage unit her stuffs been moved to. No reason to be at your place at all. Do it third party preferably or in public with witnesses if you can't. Unless it like being arrested for false allegations.
My husband could bring home a single sunflower for me and I would probably tear up, and then I would preserve it once it starts to wilt so I could keep it forever. I’ve kept every gift he’s given me, and I even keep little mementos to always remind me of special moments we had. A gift shouldn’t be measured by its monetary value, but by the intention, love, and meaning behind it from the person giving it. I feel so bad for the first gentleman 😢
The bully assessment is accurate only for some bullies. Others are just sadistic, and others are just establishing themselves in the dominance hierarchy.
I know a woman that started to angry even more after i pointed her anger issues over nothing, happened to me just recently) She stopped only after i raised my voice and pointed out the truth loudly. I've noticed that women change subject or don't care for truth and reasoning when they're arguing. And in this way they surely want you address all of those points and even if you do she'll rudely interrupt you and add some more. So usually i don't argue with them.
*"Just find a woman who's kind and treats you nicely"* Well yea, Alexander. We're trying, but there arent exactly a lot of them out there 😅 Been trying for 13 years and I havent found one yet.
Create an argument out of nothing? Every single freaking time! That was about 75% of arguments with my ex-fiancee. She even admitted doing it just to see how I'd react.
If you can't handle a woman's attitude as she fluctuates over her 30 day hormonal cycle, how can you handle a real threat when it comes your way? It's a deeply wired survival strategy designed to test men for weakness. If you fail her tests, she loses attraction. If you pass her tests, she gains attraction. She doesn't even have to be conscious that she's doing it.
I had a surprise confirmation from two waitresses that work at a bar i frequent. They were always friendly and talkative...until they showed up on their day off. They completely ignored me even after i said "hi how are you?". Completely phoney and are only friendly when i was paying them money. Utter trash. They'll be lucky to get tips from me anymore.
imagine thinking women owe you something just because you spend money on yourself 😂 they're just doing their job and being called as 'utter trash' because they kept their boundaries 😂😂😂 how pathetic lol
@@sarahnovella4971 Imagine being a decent human being and acknowledging a regular customer at your place of work, even if it's your day off. It's quite obvious you've never worked anywhere that would require you to know how to interact with people; how pathetic lol.
@@sarahnovella4971 I have met a lot of people that work in stores, gas stations and what not that are simply friendly and do not have ulterior motives with being friendly If they cannot answer to a "how are you" because they are not on the clock that means their politeness is a facade......and you do not need to bloody work to be polite! If they couldn't be bothered to answer to a "hi" then they are trash OP didn't invite them to drink or to go home with them...just told them a normal "hi how are you"!
@@sarahnovella4971 Yes, imagine ANYONE expects basic decency from another human being. Oh, my mistake. He did say "woman". Are all women as shitty as you? Don't answer. I don't care what you say.
Walk into any newsagents and look at the magazines on display. One side has people on their covers and dramatic headlines about people's sinfulness to each other, the other has photos of things on the cover, cameras, model aircraft, electronics, technology, all sorts of reviews. Women buy the dramatic magazines and largely men buy the others. I took my alien friend from Callisto along and showed him the display, he now understood the difference between the sexes in just a few seconds. 😂
@eta_carithebrightlord3396 Doesn't everyone? Could I be insane? That might explain why my family used to hide the cutlery when I visited. That was before they excommunicated me. Now it's just me and Zog but he disappears quite often without warning. 😂
The car park situation is different, in my opinion. He should not have gone beyond informing her that he's aware spaces aren't designated and that he lives there, so qualifies to park. The end... Get out and walk away. "How long have you lived here?"... "That's none of your business". They are not in a relationship.
....it was "one upmanship" ...she's lived their longer so she has more perceived authority and weight behind her demand...what would have made it funnier is if she pulled out her shopping list and wrote him a "ticket" on the back....IMHO
....what I found effective is to sit down with a pencil and paper and write down the points of their argument (usually improvements you need to make) actually feign listening; then read it back to them..they hate that! (beware, that they try and tell you what to write down)
@@ThomasJTuhrdwatter You obv dont have experience w hardcor narcs, most will never allow talkback even if they said it, they will not listen to you they will tell you what they want and leave, if you respond they will gaslight and/or then leave before you get a word out. They have mastered long ago not to let anyone make any points, they just assert their selfish needs and leave, then pretend it never happened and expect you to do same, and dont dare bring it up again they will say it didnt happen or that you should just let things in the past go
My ex accused me of being a narcissist. I started looking into it and worried about it. Then I learned about covert narcissists and it fit her behavior exactly. The spell was broken and about 6 months later the divorce came.
10:19 This is terrible advice Alex. If a grown woman is throwing a literal tantrum in public there's no "honey, you're embarrassing yourself", the only valid move is to realise the relationship is over and literally walk away and start making exit plans.
Well, my perspective on arguing with women has drastically changed after seeing this video. It seems so obvious now, but I never connected the dots myself… Thank you!
Every time my fiance is upset at me, she'd just state her feelings (like upset, whatever etc but no deregatory insults) and point out precisely the things that upset her. As a guy (and a normal human being) of course I will be defensive initially, but she gives me space and time for me to take accountability and we address the issue together. We argue not to bring the other person down, but to work things out. This is very important in a mature and sincere relationship (she's still in her 20s but wise beyond her age tho. I fell in love with her exactly because of that very reason). Edit: as a guy, you need to be very sensible and how you 'choose' your partner, don't fall for just the looks and uwu-ness. I had hard times in the past coz of it.
@@edheldude Unfortunately, I was in the bargaining part of loss at that point. So, I talked to her, eventually got her to admit that wasn't true. She'd been AMAZING to me for years, and I just kept thinking I could get it back. But it was just part of the long, slow slide into absolutely intolerable.
@@Nevir202 yeah they are very fickle, even if they think you are Chad that will eventually get old and boring to them, the bad boy Chad is the only way to maintain their interest
I told my wife "I Will Not Have IT!" She was generating pointless arguments and accusations multiple times a week for a drama fix she didn't need. There were other reasons as well, but since she wouldn't comply I served her divorce papers. 30 years of a challenging marriage, it was a relief dump her a**.
This is the best video you've ever put on RUclips hands down. Theres some GOLD advice in here. Wish I'd seen it 15 years ago when i got married. Could've been very useful on a regular basis!
ROFLMMFAO!!!! I lost it at: Karen- "I'm going to confiscate them." Guy- "nah." *pip* Karen- "AaAaAaHhHhHhHhHhHhHh!!!!" *as she backs away like a defeated demon getting sucked back into the portal it came from*
They actually are. All that anger and disrespect was inherited from their mother. Unless they forgive their mother and deidentify with her, she won't be relationship material.
Decades ago, I had one. Then, later, another. Left them both for reasons I can’t remember. Now I’m 50+ and alone. Don’t really miss them, but wonder “what if”
For some reason, modern women work extra hard to try and prove a point that they can't be pushed or bossed around. It's as if men have been bullying women ever since God created earth. But the funny thing is they act all bossy and hard but won't replicate the same at their workplace where they are being bossed around 8hrs a day by the employer.
Alex, I’ve watched ~80 of your videos and get something from all of them but the advice in this one is the best. I especially like how to lead with connection (genius!), shutting down the behavior and calling out the behavior.
The degree of nuance is remarkable. If you say "Calm Down" then they feel emboldened because emotionality is acceptable female behavior but suggesting that she's being "Aggressive" insinuates masculinity. Even though the behavior is the same, the characterization determines her response.
I really find nothing more annoying than entertaining pointless arguing or artificial drama. Same goes for using manipulation to "win" said pointless argument or end it quicker. Just such a waste of effort and time.
Bro, she didn’t pipe down because of what he has saying, she did it because her aggression wasn’t working and she was ESCALATING by calling the police.
No, they can't. I got in trouble for telling one female colleague to stop acting like a child, and another for making another scream at me when I told her to calm down.
I had one like this, I asked her for 2 solid years why she was so angry to which she said she wasn't, then one night her friend got blackout drunk and started hitting me. After the girl passed out I told my girlfriend this is as much your fault as it is hers... The next day her friend apologized but said she did it because I was being mean to my ex... I told her if that was how she felt we could no longer hang out together while drinking, I also got my ex to admit that she had an anger issue and to work on it... she never did and when my daughter got hit we split up.
If a woman/partner chucks a hissy fit and tantrum like that in the mall... she'd be gone - I'd actually walk away right there and then. No second chance... she needs therapy, not a partner.
I had an ex that came from a family addicted to drama. They were like crack addicts. Her, 3 sisters and their mom. Even when one would start drama and fights without one sister even being there, they would call the absent sister and blame her for whatever was going on to rope her into it. I'm old enough to just walk away... the effect this had would be complete outrage by my ex for about 2-3 hours, then her calling to say I was right and begging to come back. Even like 3 months after I left her, her own mother called me (note this was a 41 YO woman and her mom was like 60) and tried to blame me, saying I needed to do something because my ex was totally out of control now that they didn't have me as a buffer and putting her in check.
@@wolfe1978nm I can absolutely relate. I was unfortunately involved with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), the chaos and destruction that caused was unbelievable. I had some co-dependency issues then - I don't have them anymore!! Being around a chaotic woman/situations as an introverted man just drains me - I just don't need it. The cost/benefit ration of relationship versus being single favours single everyday :)
@@leagreenall5972 LOL wonder if it was the same woman... my ex was fully diagnosed BPD and supposed to be in therapy and on heavy meds, but didn't treat it because it interfered with her alcoholism. She didn't tell me about the BPD until after I left her.
@@wolfe1978nm My BPD ex's addictions was weed - I mean 5 cones a session 5 times a day! .. also sex, and when 'trying' to quit the grass was food and she got HUGE.. Of course although she KNEW she had BPD, she NEVER took ownership of her behaviours from it. She was a walking nightmare... VERY violent in words, physical, mental and spiritual - always walking on egg shells and she would off anytime for no reason... I didnt know - even though I studied Psych in uni... and I had never come across one before ... 'If only I can get her to remain calm and be good to her...' yeah right - BPD's are emotional vampires that thrive on chaos. It was always someone elses fault - she was a siren of a succubus - they tend to be... i was destroyed from it... I eventually walked away... but I will never do it again... so mate - I well and truly understand. I'm in Australia... but from what I am reading, that women with BPD are alarmingly popping up all over the place!
recently had a girl say that my headboard "was very feminine" and that i would be "naive" to not believe in some other xyz subject. and im done with that. next.
The beginning of the video made me think, and realize something Do men want arguments? No Are men open to debate? Sometimes, depending on the topic The difference: Argument has the intent to persuade an opposing view to side on the perspective of the person starting the argument Debate wants to open multiple perspectives on a topic, and have different perspectives compare and contrast different points of view on said topic. Arguments want to make others believe a person is right Debates want to hear multiple sides to a story before making a judgement, or, before possibly changing any previous assumptions, not necessarily trying to persuade someone
Calling a woman's emotions is a major blow honestly in a good way when she wants to start something... They feel like exposed and I leaned into it a lot more and they just stop now they suddenly don't want to talk.
The pointing out they're being masculine trick works...on some women. Let me tell you though, there are women who are super aggressive and let's just say it doesn't work on them. If anything, it makes them go off harder.
So true. Men are effeminate, women are masculine. Must be something in the water. As for me im out, let the women become wage slaves an support me in my old age
I just ended my 3 year relationship, partially because she was like this almost each time I brought up my emotions I would tell her calmly "hey, you're speaking aggressively towards me right now, I'm just trying to work with you here", but it would actually make her far angrier. She'd then deny being angry too, by saying things like "I never get angry??".. as she's yelling over me and gaslighting me 🙄 It's very difficult to have respectful and reasonable conversations with people that act this way and don't respect boundaries 😔
They do not want to talk, she actually wants you to aggressively put her in her place, show her you are the boss. They cannot be normal, that is why they want the bad guys…
Good call, sometimes it's just better to walk away! Maybe it's worthwhile taking a look at why you were attracted to such a personality in the first place 🤷♂️
@@donfabian1542 Thanks for the reply, that's definately the right direction! I've been doing a lot of self reflection into why I was in that situation in the first place It was partially because she seemed like such an amazing person on the outside, partially because I had the "I can fix her, because I love her" mentality once I finally discovered all the red flags, and also partially because I need to work on my self esteem The most important thing we can take from any unhealthy relationship, is self improvement ❤🩹
About 2 years after we married, my wife started to often talk to me in a raised, impatient tone. I simply refused to continue any conversation until she lowered her voice. I would not walk away, I would continue talking, but the entire conversation would become about her voice and how I don't deserve being yelled at or spoken to in a harsh tone. Also, I did not raise her voice back at her. At first she protested, saying why does she have to suppress her emotions, but after a few months of this, she relented. You have to be very patient and not raise your voice back, keep talking in the voice that you want her to talk to you.
@cg5648 yes you have to be very patient. Given enough time, she just internalized a simple reality "If I raise my voice, then he's just going to talk about my voice".
It's getting less and less shameful for us defending ourselves, especially in certain communiTAHS. As Sotomayor pointed out years ago, and has been happening, a LOT of Ws have been getting fisti-kuffs, or have ended up in a deep sleep...that lasts forever.
Dude, your channel is such a great material. Im 19 and after my last brake up somehow i finally understood what was my problem. Thanks to your channel i can get by in dating life without having to figure it out alone. My thanks 💪
you're spot on dude. You react as the adult, and by asking her to explain, repeating her emotions, listening, you pull her out of her child and into her adult. Responding to her as the critic or even going into child yourself is not effective conflict resolution.
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Problem is many women don't feel ashamed when you call them out on their c^nty behavior.
Thanks again Alex. This is one of the most important videos you've put out.
Spoiled when she was a child. Now everyone around her is paying the price.
The worst thing about resolving issues with many W0mn is they pull out their bag of dirty argument fighting tricks, often seamlessly switching them up as one is being dealt with methodically & logically. Then they think they're so smart bc they can shout, gaslight etc & 'Win'.
They don't actually intend to resolve anything, they just intend they don't acknowledge thier own mistakes.
Guys recognise they've 'lost' based on these ta¢tics & often eventually give in to exhaustion if nothing else.
Men also lose trust & respect when W0mn employ these ta¢tics & this directly damages the attachment bond. W0mn sabotage thier own mariages all the time.
"If you can keep a secret about my birthday surprise, what other secrets are you keeping?" Been there, divorced that.
Not as many as they are keeping from us.
😂😂 👌
Congratulations on having balls, sir.
She is clearly keeping secrets and first now realized that he could as well.
But yes, the short answer is dump, divorce and never look back.
It is the sign of a sick mind.
Arguing with a woman is like playing chess with a pigeon. Knocks all the pieces down,Schatz on the board and struts around like she won.
Holy crap ... I love that analogy.
@anthonyfernandez3084 unfortunately not one of mine and don't know who gets the blame credit.
Lol! Best comment of the day right here.
Lmao 😂😂😂 true
Original comment of the year...
Had a toxic one like this. While yelling and screaming, she would deny she was angry or upset. I ended up booking an overnight stay at a beach so we could try and work through what was going on with her. She kicked off again, yelling, screaming and denying she was angry. I waited till she was asleep, drove back home without her, packed my stuff and left before she knew I'd gone. No argument, no drama (like she craved), just disappear. Life's too short to be wasted on these types.
Women often destroy a relationship when they know they've cheated. But the other main 1 is. Many are addicted to toxic people. So if your not. They go nuts
You don't need chaos and garbage in your life. You don't because you DESERVE better!
You retreated and lost your home. She won at least materially.
Love the way you did this. No argument, no toxicity, no empty threats, very clear on where you stand. I just hope you stood by your decision or she committed to changing or appreciating you
@@ilmarsmarsils8029sounds like hell not home
Every male should wear a body cam 24/7
Bodycam, dash cam and a mini collared mic
I've been saying this for the last few years. Somebody, please open source a gesign! Go back and watch some legal fights which, if not for video evidence, would have resulted in jail time for innocent people!
yep, you need one now a days, both for women and police interactions.
Ongawd
Bro is my guy
Have the balls to walk away when confronted with the first lie, the first push, and the first raised voice. cheers
Your first behaivior setts the tone!
Resting to factory settings later is almost unpossible.
I've left em all. I've never been able to deal with the bullshit for long.
Hobestly life is too complex for that. Nobody is perfect. Find a partner that males you happy and you can tolerate their bad moments. Everyone has them. If you set your standards to perfection you will be forever alone.
Ones its a mistake, twice we are human, three times is a patern.
@@MultiGoban No we shouldn't have to tolerate anything. We are not asking for perfection, just to be respected. And to be completely honest being forever alone is not even nearly as bad as being in the average relationship in my experience.
You will never be in a relationship with a woman. Call her out and tell her how to behave. Often they are clueless. My wife became a very different person over time.
My girlfriend was upset with me when I didn’t pick her up at 6 (because I overslept). I picked her up late & when I said “Hello”, she didn’t speak. I refused to drive until she told me what was wrong. When she told me; I promptly reminded her of all the times she had me waiting for her outside for her to get ready. I then asked her if we were going to go have a good time or was she going to sulk. She changed her tune immediately. (If she chose to sulk; I was going to leave her at home.) We were able to laugh & joke about it later.
Point is; NEVER reward or tolerate a woman’s bad behavior & ALWAYS call them out on their crap. We all have improvements to make about ourselves & women are not born on pedestals.
Madness, I went to Reptile gardens with my "Boy" and that silly bastard stayed in the car... be thankful, you don't have to be trapped in the Hell I was in
Dude, I cured both my english born Wive's of the 'Cold Silence Routine' using pretty much these ta¢tics & they work. 👍Took @18 months for it to completely remove the habit they learnt from thier Mums. Just stop everything & wait them out, tolerating no disrespect & not playing into inflammatory behaviour. Pretty much as you described. As long as they respect you, they'll abandon these ta¢tics. You'll know when they've lost respect. 🇦🇺
That wouldn't work on any woman I've been with. Just like the video says, logic doesn't work on women.
@@hihtitmamnanOP’s story involved calling out bad behavior with the threat of negative consequences for her.
When women act like misbehaving children, treat them accordingly.
@hihtitmamnan HE told her she was sulking like a child. That’s exactly what this video advises you to do
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Wow. Why is he still talking to her. To recieve something like that and have any negativity is just instant next.
The ass
Exactly it astounds me how *ABSOLUTELY UNGRATEFUL* some people are when it comes to receiving a good gift. So very sad.
I was there.. its the naivity .. the beeing to horny.. the beeing that she is only sometimes that way and otherwise very kind..
It depents if she will evolve or not.
The fear of being lonely would be my guess, but when I embraced being by myself is when I had way more success with women, funny how that works.
Well, she knows now she got him on a hook for trip tickets. He should indeed forget/forfeit the whole thing as it is unacceptable. Some tests are needed ro shape up a mate and their own weaknesses vis à vis own, but this is not in good sports. He should forget Dubai too as a ef trap as any other out there.
I would have returned the tickets in front of her and taken an Uber home. End of story and relationship.
Then he wouldn't be able to have a nice holiday either, and she knows he can't find a replacement so quickly. It's a no-win game.
He could have gone without her
He boards the plane without her. And if he is buying plane tickets to Dubai, I am sure he could go to the airline and take that as a credit to Phuket by himself. Either way, she should be sent packing. Ungrateful wench
I have literally done that at the airport.
I give her a chance to use her mouth better; but if she didn’t get with the program, it’s good bye
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
I am old enough to remember "ladies." They have gone the way of the carrier pigeon. They were, in a word, incredible. Anyone under 60 today has no idea what I am talking about. When I was in college, my boss was in her 60's. She only ever wore skirts, and would rather have died than used profanity. Bless your soul Gertrude.
Gertrude is such an OG name, might have been civilian during WW2, might have been a nurse in WW2 or very well have been working the filtration station in the female camps.
My wife won't swear and is very much in her feminine frame....we are just 60 now....she doesn't have much time for these tattooed rebellious "feminists" who have made work places toxic and dating a nightmare
And I bet the skirts back then were more so a shorter dress. Now a days skirt is nothing, and everything is street walker behavior
@@HellYeahAmercayes, still below the knee.
@ skirts were supposed to go over the knee yes.
Transference- my ex was having problems at work with her male boss. I found out a bit later that he wasn’t doing what she wanted him to do and that was fire a woman my ex couldn’t get along with. So, rather than give up her little campaign or even resolve her issues with the co-worker, she would come home and pick a fight with me. I work in the building trades and am tired at the end of the day. I don’t want to argue. I couldn’t figure out why she was so angry at me. When I would ask her she would say “if you don’t know then you’re the problem”. HUH? Finally, after 4-5 months of this, I told her I was moving out and I wanted a divorce. Only then did she break down and tell me what was wrong. Too late. Filed for divorce and now my life is good.
sad
Well done.
I learned that women just want to be angry at you. You need to get used to it. You can't win by being nice. You win by not caring about their drama.
You win by accepting Islam
Now that Im older, I get why Monks are enlightened
@@PascalA-v9i give me the number of page where in koran godly god explains to mortals quantum physics
Just get a proper woman, not all of them are like that.
You can just sleep with them and never marry them! I am telling you.. if you not lucky to find a kind and a nice one.. dont try your luck with others.
Dont think she will behaive or change.. most times you are totaly right.. she will behaive and change towards negativy over the years!.. movies..politik..femi.. internet.. and so on.. believe me.. eithet you find one from the start who is not able to be manipulated bye those and is loving and kind towards you .. who can sitt and be bored.. then go for it.. otherwise dont..
Just sleep with them dont marry!
“I wonder what your friends or family would think if they knew how you’re treating me”.
If she’s a narcissist, she’s already fabricated up lies to justify her bad behavior to her friends and family. They’re already against you, you just don’t know it yet.
Some of it works. But the friends family thing is tricky to get done unless you have strong minded family/friends that knows their narcissism.
@2DoorXplore
When you talk about a narcissist, are you talking about the narcissism trait in the dark triad or about the personality disorder?
If you're talking about the triad trait, we all have it to a greater or lesser extent and it is even necessary in order to be able to love ourselves.
Most people, including myself, would not be able to correctly diagnose narcissism as a personality disorder without the appropriate knowledge of psychology.
I would definitely act in such a way that I would not start a relationship or end one as soon as I was informed about this personality disorder.
My life is hard enough, I don't have the strength to deal with this mental illness and I wouldn't want to either.
I had the same thing happen to me but her family was on my side actually... when we split they all said they understood why
The best way to deal with a narcissist is to leave because normally, he says to point out her behavior to induce shame, but narcissists already have a lot of shame in their core they react to their own shame with more aggressiveness and manipulation
If women "don't want to be a replacement for your mother," tell her, in a condescending tone, she reminds you of *your* mother. Not her mother, yours.
BOOM!
What a burn
But my Mother is a genuine good woman. That wouldn’t work. She doesn’t act like these modern idiots
@ Did you not watch the video? You're coming from a rational state of mind. You can't do that with women in an argument.
@ But many modern ones do not like to be compared to any ones mother.
A female cop was giving me a hard time.
I asked her who was taking care of her children while she was out here pretending to be a tough guy.
She about hit the roof.
Oh wow. Excellent!
I bet that went down like BBQ spare ribs at a Veganism convention. I personally like to be helpful & just tell them _'I understand Vitamin B is good for it.'_
So when do you get out of jail?
@@James-eg3nf Feb 2026 if I get 'Good Behaviour
@@James-eg3nf Funeee
What gets me is that fact that they can act like children in public like that, and not self-delete from the shame afterwards
Literal toddler tantrums, wtf
We cancelled shame, no? By the time tickets are bought, the only way to punish would also have, at least, her ticket price money wasted. You can either lose-lose, or win-lose. there is no win-win. I wonder why he chose to film the first reaction too though,
That kind of extreme behaviour is actually mental illness (Bipolar Disorder/Mania). It's not normal and mentally healthy women won't behave like that.
I asked one girlfriend to explain to me why she didn't like what was going on at that particular time. She snapped at me "I don't know why I don't like it. I just don't like it". I can't even remember what "it" was, it was that trivial. That's pretty much my experience with connecting with women.
And these same women will claim to be so much more emotionally mature and intelligent. Utter bullshit. They are ALL children in adult bodies. Every single women is a frightened little girl.
Don't forget to record her. If she gets angry and starts a tantrum, record her and call out her emotions.
put your phone backward in your shirt poket (camera lense outward) with your arms crossed....works EVERY TIME...let the good times roll.....I use that tactic all the time in my business.(helps when I draw up contracts to remember and upload the conversations, so I don't forget some details and have video proof of their requests (or her tantrums))
If they are the type like that first one make sure to record they will lie..
Why bother walk away. Hiding behind your silly phone makes you dependent on you phone.
@@ThomasJTuhrdwatterAt some point bodycams are going to become standard casual wear accessories. Particularly with MET00 & hypersensitive W0mn who take rejection badly.
If you are in a relationship where you feel like you need to this, this is obviously an indication that you should end things. There is no glory in playing into these scenarios. Obviously, there is nuance in life, but 90% of the time if you have an incline to do it, you should just end things.
Projecting. I had a hot/crazy for a few years. She must have called me a cheater several hundred times, complete with bitter tears to make me feel guilty. After I kicked her out, she admitted that it was all about her insecurity. Finally, she took responsibility for her behavior...after it was too late.
She was projecting her cheating on you
We didn't date the same girl, did we?
@@MechbossBoogie I might have dated the same girl
Whole time you were actually cheating 😅
Sounds like my ex wife. Who cheated on me.
Coming home to a completely quiet home is too hard to give up. I'm ok dying alone and never being in a relationship.
You better think more down the line though of when you enter old age and you have no wife or gf or kids - that’s not a good spot to be in.. just ask around and you’ll hear horror stories
I love my house more than I would ever love a woman
@@brianmeen2158says who? I am pushing 70, and perfectly happy by myself.
@@brianmeen2158 guessing you didn’t hear the stories of old people being abandoned by family
Lmao that’s exactly what the 👃 🎩 people want. They defeated you. Genes *FINISHED*
I just had to subscribe mate!! I'm 60 and survived the 2nd wave of the feminist movement in 70's and 80's. This 3rd wave is totally of the rails. I'm delighted to see todays young men aren't taking this B-S any longer. ''Grab your nuts and march forward lads!!''
I'm 64 and know exactly what you mean. Wish I knew this 50 years ago.
I also wish you knew this half a century ago 😅
...reminds me of the old Fred McMurray movie, "Follow me boys".....
I'm turning 67 very soon.
The sheer level of entitlement with these thankless 3rd wave modern Millies is mind numbing.
But young men aren’t doing much to counter .. instead, they are giving up on everything and resorting to playing videogames .. that’s not exactly a healthy option b
Ha ha ha... going to Dubia. You think she started an arguement for drama?? 😂 Nope, she is already creating a reason to have space while there. Space to go out ALONE. Alone to track down a mega rich man. Then get shat on. 😂😂
Exactly!
Nailed it. Leave her there, and enjoy your holiday.
wow, makes sense
Every time a woman starts a fight out of the blue, it's not really out of the blue, it's a calculated move to have space to go be a 304.
100% It’s a rookie move he can’t see through this
Bring back shame. "i wonder what your friends would think out your behaviour." Bring back logic. "The longer you try to justify yourself to a woman, the longer the argument is going to go." Well said, sir!
Her friends would 100% side with her. She could jab you with a knife and they'd support her saying 'she is the victim and its not like it hurt you that much." They'd be on the streets with banners saying 'FREE MY GIRL' as she is taken to court and then given two weeks of community service along with a gentle slap on the wrist. They are grown toddlers. They are treated by courts as toddlers, they expect to be taken care of like toddlers, they make unnecessary drama like toddlers, make up imaginary situations like toddlers, and pretend to be more mature than they are, like toddlers.
If she gets argumentative or aggressive, just tell her she reminds you of her mother.
YOUR mother.
I used to tell mine, could you just stand there with your hands on your hips, tapping your foot on the floor when you talk to me. Sometimes she laughed, sometimes I was told to F myself.
That works if she hates or resents her mother.
Besides, who wants to play games for the rest of their life? Leave her.
Did you ever play Bucking Bronco...?
Next time you’re having relations, say you want to do her doggy... then once you’re a little into your rhythm, tell her she “feels better than her mum”.. (sister works better sometimes). Be sure to time how long you can stay in the saddle. 😅
Yeah no you can deal with that thanks
To be fair, I'd be pissed if I had to spend a week in Dubai.
You n me both buddy! 😂😂😂😂😂
Nono, she is the one being pissed
(on).
If that man's smart, he'll let her board the plane, then go home, pack up his belongings and be gone by the time she gets back.
or convert the ticket to a one way for her and cancel his
Or go home, pack her things up and put them out in the garage for her to pickup when she gets back.
Better yet, no ticket. Buy your own. 😂
@@dbird1356 Nope give her no reason to return to the property. I'd suggest pay for a week at a motel for her whilst also handing her the key to the storage unit her stuffs been moved to. No reason to be at your place at all. Do it third party preferably or in public with witnesses if you can't. Unless it like being arrested for false allegations.
My husband could bring home a single sunflower for me and I would probably tear up, and then I would preserve it once it starts to wilt so I could keep it forever. I’ve kept every gift he’s given me, and I even keep little mementos to always remind me of special moments we had. A gift shouldn’t be measured by its monetary value, but by the intention, love, and meaning behind it from the person giving it. I feel so bad for the first gentleman 😢
Most men will never experience a nice woman😢
Lucky guy
Rare beastie she be.
The bully assessment is accurate only for some bullies. Others are just sadistic, and others are just establishing themselves in the dominance hierarchy.
These are the ones to leave behind.
There’s no amount you can give to your woman where she will suddenly respect you and love you. They are like an abyss.
Notice that the Dubai girl expressed no gratitude, simply a celebration as if it was a win for her.
The ticket should have been one way.
I know a woman that started to angry even more after i pointed her anger issues over nothing, happened to me just recently) She stopped only after i raised my voice and pointed out the truth loudly. I've noticed that women change subject or don't care for truth and reasoning when they're arguing. And in this way they surely want you address all of those points and even if you do she'll rudely interrupt you and add some more. So usually i don't argue with them.
Suppression works, because they don't operate on logic.
*"Just find a woman who's kind and treats you nicely"*
Well yea, Alexander. We're trying, but there arent exactly a lot of them out there 😅 Been trying for 13 years and I havent found one yet.
Get a passport and try a different pond. This one is too toxic.
Create an argument out of nothing? Every single freaking time! That was about 75% of arguments with my ex-fiancee. She even admitted doing it just to see how I'd react.
If you can't handle a woman's attitude as she fluctuates over her 30 day hormonal cycle, how can you handle a real threat when it comes your way? It's a deeply wired survival strategy designed to test men for weakness. If you fail her tests, she loses attraction. If you pass her tests, she gains attraction. She doesn't even have to be conscious that she's doing it.
Just. Stay. Away. Let them date bears instead.
I had a surprise confirmation from two waitresses that work at a bar i frequent. They were always friendly and talkative...until they showed up on their day off. They completely ignored me even after i said "hi how are you?". Completely phoney and are only friendly when i was paying them money. Utter trash. They'll be lucky to get tips from me anymore.
imagine thinking women owe you something just because you spend money on yourself 😂 they're just doing their job and being called as 'utter trash' because they kept their boundaries 😂😂😂
how pathetic lol
@@sarahnovella4971 Imagine being a decent human being and acknowledging a regular customer at your place of work, even if it's your day off.
It's quite obvious you've never worked anywhere that would require you to know how to interact with people; how pathetic lol.
Please learn Bar girls are not quality people.
@@sarahnovella4971 I have met a lot of people that work in stores, gas stations and what not that are simply friendly and do not have ulterior motives with being friendly
If they cannot answer to a "how are you" because they are not on the clock that means their politeness is a facade......and you do not need to bloody work to be polite!
If they couldn't be bothered to answer to a "hi" then they are trash
OP didn't invite them to drink or to go home with them...just told them a normal "hi how are you"!
@@sarahnovella4971 Yes, imagine ANYONE expects basic decency from another human being. Oh, my mistake. He did say "woman".
Are all women as shitty as you?
Don't answer. I don't care what you say.
Alexander out here doing gods work.....
I see one of his videos, I click 👍
Walk into any newsagents and look at the magazines on display. One side has people on their covers and dramatic headlines about people's sinfulness to each other, the other has photos of things on the cover, cameras, model aircraft, electronics, technology, all sorts of reviews.
Women buy the dramatic magazines and largely men buy the others. I took my alien friend from Callisto along and showed him the display, he now understood the difference between the sexes in just a few seconds. 😂
You got an alien buddy
@eta_carithebrightlord3396 Doesn't everyone? Could I be insane? That might explain why my family used to hide the cutlery when I visited. That was before they excommunicated me. Now it's just me and Zog but he disappears quite often without warning. 😂
The car park situation is different, in my opinion. He should not have gone beyond informing her that he's aware spaces aren't designated and that he lives there, so qualifies to park. The end... Get out and walk away. "How long have you lived here?"... "That's none of your business". They are not in a relationship.
....it was "one upmanship" ...she's lived their longer so she has more perceived authority and weight behind her demand...what would have made it funnier is if she pulled out her shopping list and wrote him a "ticket" on the back....IMHO
@@ThomasJTuhrdwatter 🤣🤣
Many out of control people get angrier no matter what you say.
When they punish good behavior, all you can do is be become an asshole. They will still be angry, but your investment will be zero.
Im gonna teach myself this
None of this works with narcs
....what I found effective is to sit down with a pencil and paper and write down the points of their argument (usually improvements you need to make) actually feign listening; then read it back to them..they hate that! (beware, that they try and tell you what to write down)
Narcissism is a pathology. No need to reason with pathology. Smart people don’t get engaged.
You deal with narcs by not dealing with them. Ignoring them entirely is the ultimate weapon against them, they lose all their power.
@@ThomasJTuhrdwatter You obv dont have experience w hardcor narcs, most will never allow talkback even if they said it, they will not listen to you they will tell you what they want and leave, if you respond they will gaslight and/or then leave before you get a word out. They have mastered long ago not to let anyone make any points, they just assert their selfish needs and leave, then pretend it never happened and expect you to do same, and dont dare bring it up again they will say it didnt happen or that you should just let things in the past go
Pointing out to a narcissist their behaviour helps shut them down. Funny how the comparisons between women and narcs just keep coming.
No wonder they love SM 🤳🏻🤸♂🤸♀🤸
My ex accused me of being a narcissist. I started looking into it and worried about it. Then I learned about covert narcissists and it fit her behavior exactly. The spell was broken and about 6 months later the divorce came.
They are one and the same
10:19 This is terrible advice Alex. If a grown woman is throwing a literal tantrum in public there's no "honey, you're embarrassing yourself", the only valid move is to realise the relationship is over and literally walk away and start making exit plans.
I simply don't put up with this kind of crap. I walk away. I'm not afraid to be alone.
Well, my perspective on arguing with women has drastically changed after seeing this video. It seems so obvious now, but I never connected the dots myself… Thank you!
I'm more attuned to the attitude of Ghenghis Khan towards women these days.
What was Genghis Khan's attitude toward women?
@@lucasgrey9794 struggle snuggle
Every time my fiance is upset at me, she'd just state her feelings (like upset, whatever etc but no deregatory insults) and point out precisely the things that upset her. As a guy (and a normal human being) of course I will be defensive initially, but she gives me space and time for me to take accountability and we address the issue together. We argue not to bring the other person down, but to work things out. This is very important in a mature and sincere relationship (she's still in her 20s but wise beyond her age tho. I fell in love with her exactly because of that very reason).
Edit: as a guy, you need to be very sensible and how you 'choose' your partner, don't fall for just the looks and uwu-ness. I had hard times in the past coz of it.
"You never do anything for me!" -My Ex, the same week I had bought us a vacation to Japan, at her insistence. (And many other times)
How did you answer?
@@edheldude Unfortunately, I was in the bargaining part of loss at that point. So, I talked to her, eventually got her to admit that wasn't true.
She'd been AMAZING to me for years, and I just kept thinking I could get it back. But it was just part of the long, slow slide into absolutely intolerable.
It’s never enough for her unless she thinks you are Chad, then she’s happy to get just the bare minimum
@ Ya, unfortunately, I somehow moved from getting the "Chad" treatment to that.
Oh well, sucks to suck, then you learn your lessons. *shrug*
@@Nevir202 yeah they are very fickle, even if they think you are Chad that will eventually get old and boring to them, the bad boy Chad is the only way to maintain their interest
I was told to always hold the return airline tickets, if she acts out she can find her way home by herself.
I told my wife "I Will Not Have IT!" She was generating pointless arguments and accusations multiple times a week for a drama fix she didn't need. There were other reasons as well, but since she wouldn't comply I served her divorce papers. 30 years of a challenging marriage, it was a relief dump her a**.
@@Snarge22 woahh, good move my dude. Must've been a hell od a ride
The peace at the end, "PRICELESS!"
Employing the Dark arts is definitely A must
Is not dark arts it is just deflecting the manipulation back at them.
Exposing how their shadow is running their behavior at that moment.
@ari-athbadminton0301 so Shadow arts 🤔
i hope he canceled the tickets 😤
He likely didn't
Any guy who falls for the "big surprise" movie trope is the type that would have gone on the trip with her as she exhibits RBF the entire time.
@@WhoNeedsRogaine that sucks then
@@MrX-nh1xm we keep him in our prayers 🙏 😢
@@WhoNeedsRogaine absolutely !!
This is the best video you've ever put on RUclips hands down. Theres some GOLD advice in here. Wish I'd seen it 15 years ago when i got married. Could've been very useful on a regular basis!
If it’s a narcissist,
She only get worse,
More of a monster.
ROFLMMFAO!!!! I lost it at:
Karen- "I'm going to confiscate them."
Guy- "nah."
*pip*
Karen- "AaAaAaHhHhHhHhHhHhHh!!!!"
*as she backs away like a defeated demon getting sucked back into the portal it came from*
One thing that really calms a woman down is when you tell her she is just like her mother.
😂😅
They actually are. All that anger and disrespect was inherited from their mother. Unless they forgive their mother and deidentify with her, she won't be relationship material.
Ungrateful and entitled is unfortunately par for the course for far too many women.
Choose a principle based woman and not emotional based if you can, w parents still together and a strong and righteous father
Decades ago, I had one. Then, later, another. Left them both for reasons I can’t remember. Now I’m 50+ and alone. Don’t really miss them, but wonder “what if”
Unfortunately modern whamen like to be "boss beaches" so that method doesn't work on all whamen
Yes, exactly. Saying they are being masculine is a compliment to them because of the F word.
@@paulsengupta971 🤣😂 The “ t0xIc mAsCuLiNiTyY “ they hate sure goes out the window for them huh🤣😂
For some reason, modern women work extra hard to try and prove a point that they can't be pushed or bossed around. It's as if men have been bullying women ever since God created earth. But the funny thing is they act all bossy and hard but won't replicate the same at their workplace where they are being bossed around 8hrs a day by the employer.
I disagree.. they want to be feminine.
They’re boss birches because “men are so useless that they have to everything.. (themselves)..” 🤓
Suspicion in others is often aroused by a knowledge of one's self.
Alex, I’ve watched ~80 of your videos and get something from all of them but the advice in this one is the best. I especially like how to lead with connection (genius!), shutting down the behavior and calling out the behavior.
Naw, they don’t feel ashamed, least of all when they are angry and already acting out.
The degree of nuance is remarkable. If you say "Calm Down" then they feel emboldened because emotionality is acceptable female behavior but suggesting that she's being "Aggressive" insinuates masculinity. Even though the behavior is the same, the characterization determines her response.
I really find nothing more annoying than entertaining pointless arguing or artificial drama.
Same goes for using manipulation to "win" said pointless argument or end it quicker.
Just such a waste of effort and time.
Fantastic video Alexander!
Bro, she didn’t pipe down because of what he has saying, she did it because her aggression wasn’t working and she was ESCALATING by calling the police.
This was possibly the most TO THE POINT video I've ever seen. These are MASSIVE thoughts smashed into extremely specific sentences. Well done.
Wow. Great tips Alex. Gonna use this asap
Can women overcome this tendency in professional settings?
No, they can't. I got in trouble for telling one female colleague to stop acting like a child, and another for making another scream at me when I told her to calm down.
It's possible but it takes a lot of effort and a strong mentor to teach
HR to the rescue
Accountability? Never
I had one like this, I asked her for 2 solid years why she was so angry to which she said she wasn't, then one night her friend got blackout drunk and started hitting me. After the girl passed out I told my girlfriend this is as much your fault as it is hers... The next day her friend apologized but said she did it because I was being mean to my ex... I told her if that was how she felt we could no longer hang out together while drinking, I also got my ex to admit that she had an anger issue and to work on it... she never did and when my daughter got hit we split up.
If a woman/partner chucks a hissy fit and tantrum like that in the mall... she'd be gone - I'd actually walk away right there and then. No second chance... she needs therapy, not a partner.
I had an ex that came from a family addicted to drama. They were like crack addicts. Her, 3 sisters and their mom. Even when one would start drama and fights without one sister even being there, they would call the absent sister and blame her for whatever was going on to rope her into it. I'm old enough to just walk away... the effect this had would be complete outrage by my ex for about 2-3 hours, then her calling to say I was right and begging to come back.
Even like 3 months after I left her, her own mother called me (note this was a 41 YO woman and her mom was like 60) and tried to blame me, saying I needed to do something because my ex was totally out of control now that they didn't have me as a buffer and putting her in check.
@@wolfe1978nm I can absolutely relate. I was unfortunately involved with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), the chaos and destruction that caused was unbelievable. I had some co-dependency issues then - I don't have them anymore!!
Being around a chaotic woman/situations as an introverted man just drains me - I just don't need it. The cost/benefit ration of relationship versus being single favours single everyday :)
@@leagreenall5972 LOL wonder if it was the same woman... my ex was fully diagnosed BPD and supposed to be in therapy and on heavy meds, but didn't treat it because it interfered with her alcoholism. She didn't tell me about the BPD until after I left her.
@@wolfe1978nm My BPD ex's addictions was weed - I mean 5 cones a session 5 times a day! .. also sex, and when 'trying' to quit the grass was food and she got HUGE.. Of course although she KNEW she had BPD, she NEVER took ownership of her behaviours from it. She was a walking nightmare... VERY violent in words, physical, mental and spiritual - always walking on egg shells and she would off anytime for no reason... I didnt know - even though I studied Psych in uni... and I had never come across one before ... 'If only I can get her to remain calm and be good to her...' yeah right - BPD's are emotional vampires that thrive on chaos. It was always someone elses fault - she was a siren of a succubus - they tend to be... i was destroyed from it... I eventually walked away... but I will never do it again... so mate - I well and truly understand.
I'm in Australia... but from what I am reading, that women with BPD are alarmingly popping up all over the place!
recently had a girl say that my headboard "was very feminine" and that i would be "naive" to not believe in some other xyz subject. and im done with that. next.
The beginning of the video made me think, and realize something
Do men want arguments? No
Are men open to debate? Sometimes, depending on the topic
The difference:
Argument has the intent to persuade an opposing view to side on the perspective of the person starting the argument
Debate wants to open multiple perspectives on a topic, and have different perspectives compare and contrast different points of view on said topic.
Arguments want to make others believe a person is right
Debates want to hear multiple sides to a story before making a judgement, or, before possibly changing any previous assumptions, not necessarily trying to persuade someone
Calling a woman's emotions is a major blow honestly in a good way when she wants to start something... They feel like exposed and I leaned into it a lot more and they just stop now they suddenly don't want to talk.
I would not go to Dubai..its like a fancy toilet..but its still a toilet.
A Sean Connery strong right hand to reset her hard drive..🤣..will work wonders!!
Very good information in this video. Thanks for pointing out to the missing puzzle piece!
this is the result of a high body count. Prove me wrong
The pointing out they're being masculine trick works...on some women.
Let me tell you though, there are women who are super aggressive and let's just say it doesn't work on them.
If anything, it makes them go off harder.
I was looking for this exact comment 😂 so true!
Just say: keep it coming, you're almost like your mother.
So true. Men are effeminate, women are masculine. Must be something in the water. As for me im out, let the women become wage slaves an support me in my old age
Again… back to enduring women's bs ? No. She does anything like that, out the door she goes. She can control herself or she can be single.
I just ended my 3 year relationship, partially because she was like this almost each time I brought up my emotions
I would tell her calmly "hey, you're speaking aggressively towards me right now, I'm just trying to work with you here", but it would actually make her far angrier.
She'd then deny being angry too, by saying things like "I never get angry??".. as she's yelling over me and gaslighting me 🙄
It's very difficult to have respectful and reasonable conversations with people that act this way and don't respect boundaries 😔
They do not want to talk, she actually wants you to aggressively put her in her place, show her you are the boss.
They cannot be normal, that is why they want the bad guys…
Good call, sometimes it's just better to walk away! Maybe it's worthwhile taking a look at why you were attracted to such a personality in the first place 🤷♂️
@@donfabian1542 Thanks for the reply, that's definately the right direction! I've been doing a lot of self reflection into why I was in that situation in the first place
It was partially because she seemed like such an amazing person on the outside, partially because I had the "I can fix her, because I love her" mentality once I finally discovered all the red flags, and also partially because I need to work on my self esteem
The most important thing we can take from any unhealthy relationship, is self improvement ❤🩹
About 2 years after we married, my wife started to often talk to me in a raised, impatient tone. I simply refused to continue any conversation until she lowered her voice. I would not walk away, I would continue talking, but the entire conversation would become about her voice and how I don't deserve being yelled at or spoken to in a harsh tone. Also, I did not raise her voice back at her. At first she protested, saying why does she have to suppress her emotions, but after a few months of this, she relented. You have to be very patient and not raise your voice back, keep talking in the voice that you want her to talk to you.
A few months? How tiresome 😂 Glad it worked out.
@cg5648 yes you have to be very patient. Given enough time, she just internalized a simple reality "If I raise my voice, then he's just going to talk about my voice".
So you marry em and become their daddy. No thanks!
@arthurcutaiar9994 it's a personal choice.
1:37 I disagree with that, they'll just tell you it's your patriarchal perspective that women should behave a certain way.
I mean, just don't date feminists in the first place.
They want you to ignore them, so that their emotions can rile them up
4:47 - Oh my goodness! 😂 I had to rewatch that multiple times. Too funny. 😂😂🎉
AGAIN!
Is it too much to expect adult women to be adults?!
Yes
Absolutely
Yes we need to keep them inside like in islam
Forever 14
"You sound just like my ex-wife!"
Always works
Imagine having so little culture you chose to go to Dubai.
That is some of the strongest advice ever - do NOT argue with a woman. EVER. You will ALWAYS lose. And it's a lose-lose. Everybody loses.
It's getting less and less shameful for us defending ourselves, especially in certain communiTAHS. As Sotomayor pointed out years ago, and has been happening, a LOT of Ws have been getting fisti-kuffs, or have ended up in a deep sleep...that lasts forever.
Dude, your channel is such a great material. Im 19 and after my last brake up somehow i finally understood what was my problem. Thanks to your channel i can get by in dating life without having to figure it out alone. My thanks 💪
Give zero attention no words needed
Oh you said it right, there are demons inside.
you're spot on dude. You react as the adult, and by asking her to explain, repeating her emotions, listening, you pull her out of her child and into her adult. Responding to her as the critic or even going into child yourself is not effective conflict resolution.
I love the naivete that lets him think those strategies would work. Shaming them will only escalate the madness.
With all respect I don't think his point is to deescalate.
I've been watching you for years, and this is perhaps the most useful video I've ever seen to my own dynamics with women. Thanks mate!
"The universe will be happy to deliver to you. No more than what you asked for"
Truth!
Sometimes people are just mentally ill. Run.
You've really turned over a new leaf. I was transfixed this whole video, you put into words so many thoughts I've had over the years.