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Can you guys please get Dr Paul Wood from NZ - What’s your prison from delinquent to Doctor, he has murdered his drug dealer at 18 and now is a Dr in Psychology and a public speaker and celebrity in NZ. Please!
Men : I can own every expensive items, yessss I'm a Sigma male, I've expensive watches , cars , video games Other men : Wow amazing, you are the man, Sigma power, look at his expensive shoes ...wow bro If woman own any expensive items Men : she's women☕, materialistic, she needs to lower her standardards..etc....etc...infiniy............♾️♾️♾️♾️ MEN🚽🪠
can you please leave racist topics out of any and all topics, it is off putting and makes me want to stop watching. now and days there really is 2 opinion on race or racism, do you really want to alienate 50% of people watching? I personally don't like the words used in the subject considering we are all the same race, human beings. the concept of racism needs to evolve. how can people salve a problem if there is any if they can not really understand basic words and meaning.
@TheDiaryOfACEO I love all the interviews I have seen so far and I am deeply grateful for the information you make accessible. As constructive feedback, just one small thing I realized, after watching three interviews with the same guest: There is quite some repetition in stories that are being told by the guest. Its great to repeat, though, in a small time scale of watching, it appears wasting time and nearly makes you shut off the interview. Maybe you could take more focus on repeating guests for not repeating same stories, examples, facts. I appreciate all you do and also sharing from every guest - being once or more often❤
I was a legal professional, college educated. My late husband was a truck driver. He was balding and overweight, wore cowboy boots and a Stetson hat. Do you know what attracted me to him? In addition to being funny and kind, he was impeccably dressed. I’m not talking about expensive clothes, but his jeans were clean, his shirt ironed, his boots polished. His old Dodge truck was always clean when he picked me up, he smelled good and he was well groomed. He put a napkin on his knee when he ate. He was popular at his work. People liked him! He was not racist nor spoke poorly of his ex. When we were married, I would wake up on Sunday mornings with him making pancakes with fresh strawberries, and there would be a rose on my pillow. When I was going through a tough time with my daughter and be upset, he would say ‘don’t worry darlin, my shoulders are big enough to carry both of our problems’. He would grab me and dance me around the kitchen. Unfortunately, he was killed in a work accident after only 13 years of marriage. He knew what it meant to be a man. I never found another one. He wasn’t rich, he didn’t work out, he didn’t have a sports car. He made me feel safe and supported emotionally. I hope I made him happy too. He was the love of my life. Take from this what you will.
Absolutely!! My mum said on her death bed, that she had wasted 40 years, of her life. On my dad!! And she was right! I have been the absolute happiest after my divorce. And it`s single life for ever for me now! 😍
My uncle cheated on my auntie who was dying of terminal breast cancer. Even though I was young at the time, I've never ever forgotten it. It really is a new level of low for the human being. My auntie literally knew she had months left to live, as if that's not enough mentally for someone to deal with, she had to deal with his infidelity on top of it. Makes me so sad and angry that people can be that selfish.
@@TheOlzeethe real situation is that when a woman gets terminally ill males get upset because their “wife appliance” is broken and now they no longer have any use for It. Males overwhelmingly don’t see women as people but things to use and discard when done. The whole story is that male was a disgusting human being and she learned a valuable lesson about the avg male
Too many people are looking for the right person rather than trying to be the right person. My first therapist told me that you attract and you are attracted to someone who is at about the same level you are. An emotionally healthy person won’t find an unhealthy person attractive. She told me the only way to change who I was attracting and who I was attracted to was to change myself. That was a turning point in my life. You have to be willing to do the emotional work and too few people are willing to do that. Most people go through life focused on others so they don’t have to work on themselves.
I trust what you are saying more than this guy! That sounds spot on! This guy had put together some research but some things he says seem sad....like love is "conditional" (maybe, but as someone who has been married 40 years it's pretty fun to live with a partner who agrees we are aiming for unconditional love WHILE trying to be our best selves and BRING OUT the best in one another)....also this guy says "talking about longevity is not the point...."how satisfied are you" is the point.....(he's young....longevity and the sweetness of living an entire life with your partner through all the seasons is something he does not understand and if he doesn't value it ...he will also NEVER know or experience it)
I’m a highly educated woman who spent most of my dating life with men who earned less than me or were less educated than me. My experience has been that they get jealous and/or resentful. There’s an inferiority complex and they punish me for it. That’s when I decided I’ll try to date men who are at the same level or above. Many women complain about this and it gets left out of the conversation.
They should stop placing their value on money. Men have to ask themselves what they can bring into a relationship besides money, when the moneys gone what else do they add to the relationship?
you're very right to follow this instinct. you are statistically far more likely to be physically and mentally abused (eg negging) when your with a man below your status. DO NOT SETTLE.
Because it's a lie. What the women like you leave out of these stories is how you indirectly bring up money or indirectly flaunt your ability to afford or do things they can't with their current income. That's always left out, or the woman isn't even aware of how she indirectly brings money up to indirectly make her man feel financially inadequate. That's what men don't like. I have no problem marrying a millionaire girl. But if she indirectly brings up my financial inadequacy EVEN ONE TIME, I will resent her permanently.
I had cancer, not terminal. I also sprained my neck really badly. He changed my bandages after surgery (it was really gross), helped me dress (literally had to lift my arms), and took care of house duties so i could rest. He isn't perfect, but d*mn close. Ladies, if he won't take care of you when you're sick, he doesn't deserve you. ***Edit*** He has had hospitalizations and surgeries as well. We take care of each other. Has it been hard? Absolutely. But you don't get the good times without the bad. Just this last year, after all our battles, we were well enough to go spelunking on Katla and hike over the Solhiemajökull glacier. Some years are awful... and some years are beautiful. Life is bittersweet. You must learn to appreciate the bitter and the sweet.
I dated someone who was real sweet. But as soon as i had a small surgery. He lamented making me soup. He lamented and wondered if he had to take care of me as if i was sickly. And finally treated me like a burden. All the while requiring so much of me to be fun sexy playful go to shows…. Such BS. I need not a boyfriend. I want someone who is a all around good person who will be there good and bad. Cuz life is like that. You cant just keep dating for perfect and never sick never an inconvenience …
AMEN! Ladies, always keep your standards high. Your partner can do it too & it makes a relationship last ... case in point ... my parents have been married for nearly 60 years !
@@beatpirate8. “Just keep dating for perfect” Adults out there that are looking for even close to perfection are living in fantasyland .. our parents and grandparents were wise enough to not see dating and relationships through that mindset
This saddens me. My husband of 25 years died of cancer, and I was there the whole time. He died in my arms, and not for one second did I think of leaving.
These so called 'relationship experts' don't know what they are talking about. Just searched Paul Brunson on Google and found he almost split with this wife. So he knows nothing about relationships in that case. Sorry for your loss.
@@Aliciae411It definitely depends on the person. Some people are more caring than others and won't leave. I don't believe the 'one size fits all' approach can be applied here. Personally this is what I believe.
@@Aliciae411Men can't seem to hack the times when they need to stand up and grow a pair. Sorry only what I have observed more true in the modern age than ever!
I've seen the women in my life lower their expectations and standards for decades... settling for less than they deserve, especially in marriage. Too often, they end up carrying the weight of a relationship that doesn't truly support them. It's time for a different conversation, one that challenges the status quo and empowers women to expect more.
I think the problem is the women who should lower their standards don't (the ones who are entitled or have a long checklist) and the women who do lower their standards shouldn't (especially the kind who are afraid of being alone, so they feel like they have to be in a relationship). You can't make blanket statements.
Roughly half of women in the US are single because they cant find somebody "good enough". There is a loneliness crisis and the birth rate is plummeting. It's about time for women to rate themselves by who would actually marry them, and not who would shag from tinder. Y'all are statistically likely to be 5's. Accept your place and be happy.
@@tone3560 Modern love that eventually grows stale and falls apart, yes, lust comes before love. But that’s saying the egg 🥚came before the chicken 🐔. People today “love” in complete reverse.
Thank you. Wasn’t as resilient as I thought to watch the whole video, though. Guess I’m staying a cat lady the rest of my life, lol. At least I’m open minded and can take care of my self.
My uncle who’s a lawyer said the two causes for divorce he always worked with was money and a spouse who gets sick. He always instilled in the girls in our family to never give the men so much power over us and to have a career for ourself as backup
@@eellie4856 Evidently the people who married for that reason were women for financial gain and men for an arm candy. Happened to my neighbor- she was talk gorgeous and lived with her boyfriend my neighbor- he always seemed moody and chatted with me whenever we met - he gave me single vibes- so was really surprised he had a woman living with him for years. They were cohabiting and were like husband and wife. Anyhow, one day I heard her screaming, “ Where can I go ?!” a few times. I thought one of their fights but she seemed especially hysterical with this one. Next thing I hardly see him around the house- he comes in and out once in a while- then after I came back from being away for a while I see a woman with a Baboushka who had a more motherly figure going into the house. I wondered if that was the girlfriend but she sure looked different to the slender model a figure. We never spoke all those years because her boyfriend would say she was quiet. She came to collect a parcel from me and we got speaking. She had broken up with my neighbor. He was living in his other house and letting her stay in this house until she finished treatment for breast cancer- she was only in her mid 30s - she actually said she liked meeting people- it sure seemed different when he was around. She then disappeared and he put the house for sale. It wasn’t long before he found a much younger, fit sporty attractive type and she seemed wealthy as she came in this red new geep with him - the kind you go off in adventures. That fellow always gave me the creeps a little despite his soft spoken polite exterior I always felt he hid some quiet rage - the classic narcissist- use and discard. If the next one falls ill and bankrupt, no doubt he’ll be off for a new model. Women always find out dating history. If he leaves his woman for you, he will do it to you or you will to him
did he have any boys to give a speech to I'm curious? Because if he was a lawyer like you say he would know the finical reason in large part is because women are "highly" likely to leave a man if she starts to make more money than him, he gets laid off due to injury or fired.
Married 31 wonderful years. He held me and lovingly provided support when my beloved father died, then my twin brother died, when my child left for college. Recently I was seriously injured and he literally did everything; cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, helping me bathe, move from bed to chair, made me laugh and loved me AND he worked full time. He did all this for over a year. He was the one who encouraged and pushed me to recover. He was my strength when I had none, always there with whatever I needed even when I didn't know what that was...he did. I would gladly do the same for him. Differences in education never mattered. We are brilliant in ways that complement each other. I am blessed he chose to love me...he says he is the blessed one. We truly are soulmates. This is what love is. If more people experienced this love, it could change the world.
Oh look, a female who knows how to choose properly (based on this info provided) These females in the comments could learn a thing or two from you, but they wont'
Lowering your standards doesn't mean choosing a loser. There's a huge middle ground between the 6 foot 6 figure man of most women's standards, and a bum who lives in the sewer.
Exactly. They really just want every and any woman to take a chance on them even if it isn’t in their best interest.. only to turn around and condemn you because you could have chosen better if things don’t work out. It’s not genuine at all.
I don't think women should lower their standards . Just their unreal expectations . We should be selective . Choosing wrong for a woman can end her life or result in severe dv. Staying single is also an option ,and it's definitely better than living with someone who disrespects you and puts your health in danger.
Ye i stay single because I'm now scared of men after having lower standards. I know no one is perfect but these men were dangerous. I stay safe by staying single.
Ye i stay single because I'm now scared of men after having lower standards. I know no one is perfect but these men were dangerous. I stay safe by staying single.
A woman can be “selective” all she wants. Until men do away with MISOGYNY and THE PATRIARCHY she is STILL likely going to end up with a MISOGYNISTIC MAN and his misogyny will show up in one way or another… so damn selection.. what about the real problem with men?
I witnessed a young woman married to a pastor be diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma. His entire family would pray for her and take her to chemo appointments. Once her hair began to grow back, in less than two years, they welcomed a healthy baby girl ☺️ it's truly amazing how much she was loved 😍
When I(F) was dating in my late 20's, when asked what my job was (programmer at very well known tech company) I never got a second date. When I changed my wording to "I have a desk job working with computers", I got second dates. Men still feel they should be earning more/better career, despite everything else they can bring to the relationship. They still see money as the only value they can offer. We need better male role models.
I think so many men underestimate how interesting they in themselves can be to women. I'm just a single sample size but a man who has kindness, interest in many things and willingness to learn is so much more appealing than a bank account. When I met my husband, I made more money than him but he was so easy to talk with. We still love going to museums, hiking and simply joking while we go to Costco.
I have observed a huge amount of social pressure and judgement on men if they’re not as financially successful as their female counterparts . Even if we don’t want it too, I believe this effects the relationship as well
He is certainly speaking from a perspective of privilege when he says most of us in the west don't need a relationship to survive financially. It does take two incomes to comfortably run a household for most of us, the big problem which hasn't been touched on here so far (I'm about halfway through) is the fact that women are paying 50/50 but still doing 90% of the childcare and housework
That theory is hard to register to me. One of the reasons that I don't want a woman to move in is due to common marriage law and my paid off home. Too much risk should things end between us.
I have been single for just over 3 years ...feel so free and at peace, I have a great life.....would be lovely to meet someone special, but until then, life is beautiful ❤
Same, 7+ years single, in top shape, enjoying time on my own, loving freedom. I’ve lowered my standards very low in the past (trauma), ended up homeless and without money twice. No more mothering insecure, immature men.
Ye I've been single for years too. Men say it's a waste but no it isnt if I'm happier. I feel safer on my own. Cant deal with tempers. I have had too mu h trauma because of men. Shame because I know there are decent guys out there but hard to find.
Ladies. Keep your standard as high as you can afford to do so. Men certainly do. A man wants the highest value woman he can get. Otherwise he won’t value her. Women should expect the same for themselves.
Very true. I think women are encouraged to lower their standards to accomodate the masses of men who are subpar and below..rather than the message being that men need to develop holistically. Anytime you lower your standards..you get even less than the bare minimum.
Poor hygiene, as well as being gross, is a good indication of a person's character, if they cant be bothered to have a shower and get dressed for a first date, that doesnt bode well considering that people tend to make more of an effort at the start of relationship. Telling someone to override their instincts on this is bad advice.
@@Slim-Clips You watch too much corn. You think if a man is tall she wint care if he doesnt clean himself? No. We care. Isnt it funny tho that the first thing that comes to a womans mind is that these men dont even clean themselves properly these days and yall say standards are too high when women are just wishing men would wash their arses better.
This is true.. I gave a guy a chance despite looking unkempt on the first date. It bothered me the entire time and found out he doesn’t want to impress and says he wants to “be myself”. He turned out to be broke minded.. that’s a lesson for me never to give them the benefit of the doubt again. First impression is everything.
I had a C7 injury that resulted in loss of 70 % strength in my right arm. Husband wouldnt help with anything. I still had to do all the cooking and cleaning as well as work full time. One Sunday morning, we arrived at church. He parked and got out of the truck and walked towards the building. I struggled getting the seatbelt undone with my left hand. I got caught in the strap and fell out of the truck. At some point, he realised I wasn't behind him. He turned and saw me on the ground. He just stood there and waited for me to get up by myself. That was the beginning of the end
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you are in a better state of life now. This reminded me of my dad who abandoned my mother to party with his friends when my mother was deathly sick with flu. Until the last time we met in 2023 he pretended to respect her but sabotaged her at the back. I wish they divorced.
He was like that all along but you ignored it. Men like those are born that way. A woman should fake sick during the dating phase to see how he responds
Disgusting…and one of the reasons why I no longer only look in the church for a partner…Just because a man goes to church and professes to be a Christian, doesn’t mean he won’t be a jerk..
There's 624% chance (that is, 6 times more likely) that he'll leave if you get sick .... But you still need to lower your standards? No. How about balancing out things and not engaging in care labor that wouldn't be reciprocated.
Women are 4 times more likely to leave men when they're not sick, it basically balances the scales to how often women leave men usually. What now? LOL How about balancing things out? That IS balancing things out!
I agree. Why should I be someone's nurse when I don't get a 2nd thought? It's abusive. I would rather be single and help people who cannot help themselves than be alone in a relationship and die a little every day
My sister has stage 4 Breast cancer as diagnosis with mets to lymph nodes, diabetes and later developed a rare form call Medullary thyroid cancer,she have just 2 years to live and she never been this scared to die, she just 37, i cry everyday wishing for a miracle to happen. i don't know why I'm saying this here. put me in your prayers.
im really sorry. i've was in such situation 15 months ago. i had just 2 months to live till a friend told me about a healer who helped me. She cured me, I don't know how she did it. but i owe her my life. she's the reason i'm alive today.
I wouldn't dream of not being responsible for my wife when she needs me most. However, if she could never have sex again I more than likely would occasionally pay for sex
As usual, you did not hear him well. You let your emotions get the best of you instead of using logic---you women only hear what you want to hear because your emotions are the way. What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in their marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy by been argumentative, combative, manipulative ungrateful, passive aggressive, not happy with anything we do, undermining us, emmaculating us, and not giving us peace on a daily basis---that is why we leave when you are diagnosed with cancer or terminal illness because of the hell you have given us--while on earth would we take care of you given the hell you've given us for many years.
Been married for 20 years and my wife is amazing. Supportive, humble, hardworking, loyal and loving all while being independent, strong and brutally honest.
Too many women marring malignant narcs not knowing there feminine. Uses most women want to stay single these n arcs spreading diseases about serial cheets that's why women want to be single. There cowards in clossete.
Sounds like you married a person you love, not a woman to make your life easier. The former arrangement is just really hard to find. Even for the healthiest person. The latter is easy to find. Spit, and you'll hit a man looking for a woman-appliance. And he'll take as much as he can get away with.
@@tessg4799 I don't think that's what he is saying at all. He is saying that expecting your partner to be your best friend, business partner, amazing lover, incredible parent, etc etc is leading to a lot of dissatisfaction. That is quite a lot to ask of one person! Personally, I wish someone told me that when I was married. It's incredibly unrealistic and rare. If you're willing to spend your life alone in search of this unicorn, then that is your choice. He is merely suggesting that you can have a satisfying relationship with a community of people and a partner who has your top 3, not your top 12, wishes. It's actually helpful in my opinion.
@ErnstHeinze-iw4gq "you are not entilted to my attention if you disagree with me" yes please, don't even lower your "standards" I wouldn't want to risk being in a relationship with people like you
Everything he said about men leaving their wives if they get terminally sick is 100% true. I worked in the ED for approximately 2 years. I saw this everyday. The one that strikes most was the woman whose gusband brought to the ED in the night with their son. This is in Nigeria. He said he forgot something at home and left. He never came back. That lady didn't survive. She died with only her son next to her. That boy was just 2 years old. This man left a 2 year old child with a sick woman and disappeared.
Happier, healthier and earn more money since I've been single. Life isn't a one size fits all. Do what's right for you, whether that's marriage or not. Society makes us feel shame for not having a partner, but it's not for everyone.
Sorry, not sorry, but if your partner is terminally ill and you leave them you NEVER actually loved them, you were just there out of convenience until you were no longer getting your needs met. Worse kind of person. I personally would NEVER associate with a person who owned up to doing some sh*t like that.
yeah, Sarah, you know what.. from m humble experience weman have larger and more diverse social groups then man.. safe to say there are ppl that you call half friends that done stuff like that that you dont know and dont want to know since you wouldnt want to confront them about it. You see.. talk is cheap, most ppl that are really moral have so little associates that they wouldnt even want to come out with shit like that since everyone would know who they are talking about. Its where you want to be, not where you preach in the comments. cheers
The thing is sometimes you’ll never know your partner is like this until you’re in so you can’t really say you could never associate with someone like this Maybe you’re dealing with this person right now 😅. Hopefully not
As usual, you did not hear him well. You let your emotions get the best of you instead of using logic---you women only hear what you want to hear because your emotions are the way. What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in theiemr marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy by been argumentative, combative, ungrateful, not happy with anything he does, undermining him, emmaculating him, and not giving him peace on a daily basis---that is why we leave when you are diagnosed with cancer or terminal illness because of the hell you have given us--while on earth would I now take care of you given the hell you've given me for many years.
@@TheBlueOrRed-Pill I think the empathy gap runs both ways for both you and the person you're arguing with. You make a lot of assumptions in your post as well. Both of you need to look in the mirror with your assumptions and sweeping generalizations.
Okay I was really giving this the benefit of the doubt to see what he says. I have a problem with how he structures his argument around why men leave a terminally ill partner 21% of the time, while women leave a terminally ill partner roughly 3% of the time. His argument can be broken down into 3 basic premises: p1- Love is conditional for satisfactory romantic relationships p2. People experiencing a low satisfaction relationship are more likely to leave when the going gets tough (like financial stress, or partner illness) p3. When a partner falls ill the sick partner can no longer fulfill the conditions the caretaking partner needs to feel satisfied in the relationship. C1. Therefore, people leave unsatisfactory relationships because their ill partner is no longer fulfilling their needs. The problem is, that argument doesn't explain why men leave almost a quarter of the time while women are more likely to say. If it were logically consistent, then either women would also leave 20% of the time or men would leave 3% of the time. It provides no insight as to why. I think we can *infer* why, but that's what we get for listening to a business major talk about psycho-social interactions.
I think the “why” we were looking for would be an explanation that explains the disparity between the percentage of men that leave a sick partner vs women that leave a sick partner.
@ there is actually quite a bit of research out there about this topic. Im going to avoid writing a novel here lol A lot of it boils down to only a couple things - men tend to be more selfish in general and tend to look at it as a problem to fix and when they can’t and give up. But a lot comes down to still being in a patriarchal society. Women are seen as caregivers and take care of most household duties. When they are ill they can’t perform those tasks and the men feel entitled to still receive that. When they don’t it’s a problem. They are entitled. And for years it’s just been “women do it better” when the man is fully capable of doing those same tasks. They aren’t getting what they want, so they leave. And women have been raised for a long time to be caregivers so they are more likely to stay.
@ If "financials play a major part" in standards for you then your proving my point of not actually lowering your standards. There are a lot of men that are good people that don't have great paying jobs. Your statement makes this saying I've heard a lot true "Men love women for being women, and women love men for what they can get from them."
Interesting thumbnail. There's a saying in my culture that says... the true loyalty of a wife is known at times of poverty and the true loyalty of the husband is known at times of illness.
Statistically yes. Men do have a higher chance of leaving a woman if she gets sick. However, women are more likely to leave a man if she starts to make more money than him, he gets laid off due to injury or fired.
@@theponderingrambler9158 that’s only because mn act up when wmn make more m9ney. These mn will go and have second families. Wendy Williams is one such example. Dude took her m8oney and started a second family and had a chld with the other w8m2n. Most mn aren’t to he tr7usted.
If someone has a bad breath or untidy manicure or looks sloppy, it’s definitely not about me and my socialization type, rather about their hygiene and upbringing. And obviously I have no wish to re-educate a grown-up individual.
I might give the bad breath a second chance, just because I know that it can sometimes be because of a sinus issue. My husband has good hygiene, and usually his breath is fine. The only time it’s bad is if he has a cold/sinus issue. I hate to think of possibly passing him up because I happened to meet him when he had a sinus issue.
Engaging in non virtuous behavior is degenerate. Who does that the most? It ain’t men. If you drink, overweight, lack virtue, wear make up, etc etc you’re not worthy of being in a relationship you’re damaged goods and lack discipline.
Ladies! Please listen to me! My mother said when you’re dating as an older woman, be careful, cause men are looking for a nurse and a purse. That being said, do not lower your standards, I disagree with this matchmaker exponentially.
Make sure you don't marry someone like that. How are they when you're sick with the flu or something minor? Never stay with someone with no compassion.
I think nobody should lower their standards, better being alone and free rather than waking up next to a monster, but what i think he was trying to get across is that one needs to have realistic expectations if they are struggling finding a partner. Bad odor, breathe, smell or hygiene is just common sense so lowering yourself to someone who doesn't consider taking good care of themselves to that kind of standard is just stupid, but i have to agree that if someone has difficulty in dating and is desperate for a partner, it is advisable to be more opened to more 70% people rather than chasing that 100% person and learn about their personalities in order for the two of them to grow together. In these certain scenarios, vibes and traits are more important than personal preferences. Like sure, bro might be 5'7 and bald but if he seems like a nice, well-mannered, polite guy that is well put together, has a decent job and cares for his parents and siblings, it won't hurt anybody to give my man here a shot.
Bro your talking about modern women. There definition of settling is way different than societies, the world's, and men's definition. I hear most of them complaining about shallow and materialistic aspects. I once seen a 4 foot 8 woman say she was settling because a guy that liked her and she even said he has alot of qualities I like, because he was 5 9. Not 6 ft. Do you all understand how ridiculous that is?
@@chrislong8559 modern or not, they've *always* been this way. It's just men in the past were smart enough to *control* them. The prior 4 generations of men have failed the future by being too civil to them.
Never lower your standards!! Women, you deserve a partner that puts as much into the relationship as you do! My ex is an awful human that was lazy and cheated. My husband is wonderful and kind. He does at least half of the home chores and supports me when needed. I support him when needed as well. We are equal partners that respect each other. He supported me through nursing school and paid the bills when I was off work with complicated pregnancies, and I’m supporting him through his career and nursing school now. Marriage is a partnership with love and respect
if ur not having success the problem is probably ur standards. the predictable outcome is dying alone. the most depressed demographic is single childless women over 40.
@@lou4169 babycakes, belive it or not, they are lining up for my attention but 7 year stint made me much pickier and choosy, so yo might say im nurturing my feminine side at the moment. You take care for me!
Why is it always “women have to do xyz to get and keep a man” and men never need to adjust behavior? It’s like a chess game for women and men get to float around without a care.
@ yes I live in the woods totally out of reality you got me!!!! Men these days do expect women to chase them so not sure what point you’re trying to prove. The point still stands. Videos are almost always target at women modifying behavior and never men, when men are half of the relationship.
@ no megz, you are just not very smart. if man are persuing and woman are chooising then utlimately you are responible for your choices and that means that by not choising bad, man should not need to change cause they woldnt get a chance. now go back to your woods cause we the ppl dont have much from what you have contributed to our shared exprience. cheers
@@megz7125 We had a sustainable model for relationships that lasted for thousands of years under a patriarchy, its you thinking that things would be better if you had equal say in how things are run that got us into this mess. So of course the responsibility for making that work falls on you as men had things working perfectly fine before you decided you knew better.
I broke my back and my husband kicked me out of our house 11 weeks into my recovery and dropped me off at my mom's. By the grace of God I can still walk,but that emotional trauma definitely impacted my recovery.
Sorry to read this! I had a similar ish experience that I just posted about above. My ex husband's obtuseness and selfishness after my stroke definitely worsened the 1st 3 years of my rehab and recovery and has left me with CPTSD etc. And, destitute financially. Recovery depends on having sane, healthy, helpful, empathic people in our lives. I am blessed in friends and cats and the fact that I fight for myself and am resourceful. I have a rich life, but it my ex was still here, I'd be poor! Please take good care. Stay close to helpful, loving and loyal friends and family. Best wishes in your continued recovery.
Just - wow, how awful to have to deal with resentment and lack of support when you are going through something like that… My grandmother had a rough ride with that after a stroke - being yelled at because her husband had to trouble himself to help her dress. I had to work out how to do the washing up and all the housework with a wrist in plaster - compassion stretched as far as refraining from shouting about the dishes piling up, not to actually helping… Agreed that friends, cats, healthcare professionals, anybody but a male partner is far more likely to provide support. Or at least not to start yelling and putting us down on top…
@@Stormcrow-dc3ez Thank you. And good on you for assisting your grandmother! Every survivor needs a compassionate and empathic caregiver who educates themselves and goes to stroke caregiver groups and is patient. I am sorry your gran's husband yelled at her. What an arse! That kind of emotional abuse only worsens recovery. Sorry to say not the first time I have heard that! I would not have survived if I had not found stroke recovery groups 4.5 months later and my swim community who protected me once I started to teach myself how to swim again and the support of friends. (I was 44 and perfectly healthy except for stress and migraines, which aren't considered an official predisposition but now are correlated.) Also, I was an LMT so I know amazing LMTs, cranial sacral practitioners, energy healers and LaCs. And, I was always athletic and remember being in the ICU just wanted to rip all of the lines out and jump out of bed and walk to the street and hail a taxi! Best wishes to you and your gran! I have several books, films and TEDTalk recs, if you're interested in learning more, please DM me. Take good care!
I have been loving and sharing Stephen’s podcast the past year. Looking at the comments here, as a widow with five children, I think I’ll PASS on this one.
As someone who loves these podcasts and did watch it, I think you need to be careful of your taglines. A lot of commenters saying they didn’t even watch due to the tagline and yet the comment Paul made wasn’t that WOMEN should lower their standards it was that PEOPLE should in regards to not expecting your partner to be everything (friend, lover, confidant etc)
yeah but then he later goes on to make excuses for the men who ditch dying wives... because the sex was bad or something else wrong in relationship that led them to leave. but didn't explain why women stayed with dying husbands even when there was likely loads of problems in relationship that she overlooked too... but she still stayed with him as he died. just admit it, pal, men more likely to leave because they are more selfish. somehow he skates past that... not impressed.
@@fs5775he didn’t excuse it. He explained why it happens. Whether it’s right or wrong, they do it and it’s selfish. And OP spot on. The taglines obviously triggered people and they didn’t bother to listen. A huge problem in society these days in general.
Lowering our standards ? How low our standards should be? Potty training should be the new “great achievement “? Why not men are raising their standards? Why are they satisfied with mediocrity? Why should we? Why should we settle for someone who is addicted to multiple things, emotionally immature and not ambitious? Thank you but no thank you! We’d rather be alone, we have great friends, community and satisfying life without them. We don’t want more from one person than before. We even want less, we don’t need someone who can support us financially. We only want loyalty, some level of intelligence and emotional maturity and someone who’s not broke and live with their parents. What a high expectation, wow 😆
@ what’s also extremely disappointing in this podcast is when he set this double standard, how he answered Steven’s question about what he should look for in a partner and he replied that he should seek the interest in well being, the awareness of their needs, the values… but women should lower the standards to find a less educated guy who’s occasionally even shorter since height is overrated ( physical compatibility is not overrated imho) and he ‘s making excuses for men for 10 minutes. And he’s talking about how hard was their IVF in their mid 30s replying to the question what people should do when they hear their biological clock ticking… this man clearly doesn’t understand how hard is to find a decent man. Not a perfect one, an OKAY one… and what is this middle school level joking about how funny is to discuss their attraction to Idris Elba and Beyonce, when they were talking about attraction… this is not how the question was asked… real people have real problems with being attracted to other people besides their partner and that one needs solutions and loyalty and not making fun of it but addressing the lack of attraction in the relationship…. He was a huuuuge disappointment in this podcast, terrible.
Are you such a 🤡 at judging that you cant pick someone from the middle? Just the *TOP* and *BOTTOM* ???? Is your discernment _THAT BAD?_ Then maybe yall shouldn't' have a choice at all, maybe we need to bring back patriarchy and have your fathers pick
Same. Still dealing with it 22 years later and it robbed me of so much happiness. I wound up marrying two sociopaths. I'm lucky to be alive. Everytime I have tried to date since and had relationships, I have attracted the wrong men who if I had been more willing to be single, I would NEVER have dated. I'm always too understanding and forgiving when I should be walking away. Many women are like me. So no, I'm not lowering my standards which definitely include waiting as long as I need to have sex. To me, this is a sacred act and yet, men move on or pressure you if you don't have sex at least by the third date. Dude, use your hand or hire an escort but I and many women now want to get to know the guy really well. That takes time.
@@MariannaMujica I don't think you can lower your standards much more than what you have. You chose 2 sociopaths (diagnosed, I'm sure) and every single guy you dated was the wrong. It's always interesting that the woman is never the cause of the contention...it's always the guy. Always.
No one has to lower their standards... We just need to live in a real world with real people, not in a chronic fantasy world. Keep your standards real-neither lower nor higher. 😊
I had recently, I haven't dated since my ex hubby left. I thought that maybe I should again - it's been 7 years. Now I've heard this, I'll stay as I am. I have children, there's enough love in my house already.
Yes yessss, keep chasing chad/tyrone who will never care about you, keep opening your legs for them, and when they dump you after they're finished, remember ladies _"never 'settle' "_
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
intresting enough. i thought education just propeled the capitalism, not make ppl really smart about life. so your slogan is just that, it got absolutely no wit to it.
The reality is they don't need a man. But many of them want a man. And something you don't need but still want is by definition a luxury item. Only 2% of men are deemed acceptable as a luxury item. And it's extremely entertaining to watch 100 women grab 2 chairs when the music stops in real life Musical Chairs.
I never really thought of being sick as part of the equation when I was looking for a partner, but that is gonna be when you will truly realize if your partner is the real deal. Being useless/helpless and in pain for a long time is such a horrible feeling, and having to rely on someone who doesn’t want to care for you makes that feeling 100* worse.
One thing when they don't wanr to care of you,another when they gor example pay for you your needs (pretty basic) but fk act as you are the one to blame, that your illness ruins their life and now he has no joy and freedom.
What the data indicates is this: _"In the corrected analysis, we find that wife’s (pooled) illness onset is a statistically significant predictor of divorce but husband’s is not, as we reported in the previously published paper. However, in the corrected analysis, we fail to reject the null hypothesis of no difference between the coefficients for wife’s pooled illness onset and husband’s pooled illness onset. This is contrary to the previously published findings in which we reported that we rejected this null hypothesis. _*_Based on the corrected analysis, we conclude that there are not gender differences in the relationship between gender, pooled illness onset, and divorce._*_ "_ _"What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in their marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy with their behavior by being argumentative, combative, ungrateful, not happy with anything he does, undermining him, emasculating him, and not giving him peace, that is why men are MORE LIKELY to leave when you are diagnosed with terminal illness because of the nature of the relationship PRIOR, why on earth would a man now take care of you given the hell you've given him?"_
There's a reason sickness is included in wedding vows. You should never date someone if you have even a doubt as to whether they'd be there for you if you were chronically or terminally ill. It should always be a criteria for assessing a relationship.
@@WhatIsRealAnymore it's cute how you made her poor experience with men her own fault instead of holding men accountable to a higher standard of decency
Hate to say it but I have been a woman who tended to go for the super good looking men. Maybe I’ve got that man thing of being unusually looks oriented. And the same thing they cheat. Because they get so many opportunities. It’s a challenge I feel for you.
@@florance333 nope they are wrong. I clearly stated that. No tolerance for cheating. They are immature little s..ts. but I am an advocate of understanding why it happens. Not about blame I assure you. But if you keep on being cheated on, what is it in the person you are choosing that is like that? Or are you also doing something to push partners away. It is hard to self reflect. I truly mean no disrespect. It comes across like that in text. But I love open dialogue on the topic. S..t we've all been hurt by someone. I wish it on no one.
I dont think i could even be in a relationship now, because I now dont trust ANYBODY anymore. I had breast cancer in 2017, everybody turned their back on me and I went thru surgery, radiation and chemo ALONE. Nobody came back. Zero.
Today, with so many options people think they are looking for the “best” partner but without realizing it they are looking for the EASIEST partner. Theres a difference
No. Reflect on whether your expectations do not meet the reality of your existence and those around you and your culture. If your expectations are wrong, change them. Don't assume you are right. But agreed. Don't accept things that can endanger your life, etc.
That depends on where your current expectations are. If you think lowering yours will make you miserable, your expectations are probably already too low. That, or you forget that humans are flawed, and you want a unicorn. That, will make a person miserable.
People used to marry young, without need for college degrees and without major debt. The couple would grow up together, learning life together. They had friends and would have game nights and go to dances. They had children young. Their children grew up together and the moms helped each other. The children could play outside while mom got stuff done inside (they were not hanging on her all day). There was COMMUNITY. We can criticize traditional living all we want...was it perfect, no. But dang, people sure seemed happier than today. And they had less money, less vacations, less modern conveniences. Relationships between family and friends really made life worth living. We want someone to make us happy but a single human being cannot replace community. Your spouse cannot be your mother, your father, your best friend, your neighbor, your cousin, your aunt, your child. No. Your spouse is your spouse. That is all. Stop trying to make them be your community.
And I'll add...we can be scared to think of taking a spouse for the rest of our life....But the duration of the rest of our life is unknown....it may be one month after a wedding, it may be 3 years, or we may die 10 years later. What is life without taking a risk? I dare to say weak men are scared of marriage and children....but I understand the fear because of the lack of quality women today. I also think our financial situations are very grave and are a huge cause for people not committing. I get it. Women are afraid of the lack of quality men. Men used to be proud to marry a woman. They were fulfilling their desire to protect her and provide for her. Having children was a man's destiny. To have the family name continue. To have pride in a life he built. The key in this discussion is.... people need to become better humans if they want to have a good human and produce a good future. Personally, I think that birth control, porn, and modern feminism ruined society. Add in corporate interests and it's a deadly combination.
I thought I share this. Also a childhood experience - if parents constantly say that we are staying in this marriage just because of you guys. That causes fear of commitment without even realising .
@@At0micMeltd0wn no. There's research stating the contrary: single women with children are happier than married women. Go search for it. That's a reason why it's always men pushing marriage to woman or making fun of them for being single: single men are the worst of them all, married men are almost as happy as a single mother. But yeah, this means more single unhappy men, I guess that's why they keep on bashing all the single ladies 🤷♀
as a man of a certain age Iam always apprehensive when dealing with women claiming to be 'self loving single women', 1 major question that pops in the mind is how many men has she through since becoming sexually active ?
The comments about women looking for men that earn more than them… you ignored the fact that if women have kids, they need to be supported and take time out of work. For the most part, women bear the physical, mental and emotional work of having kids. It’s incredibly distressing for many women to be forced back to work early and leave their baby due to the financial pressures. Of course we look for someone who can support us during the most vulnerable stage of our lives, and to support the financial wellbeing of the family during this time.
How about men lower their standards?? So sick of this BS being peddled to women. Us lowering our standards is what has gotten us here in the first place
I totally agree, those male hosts talking about constant relationships, all they want is for women to worship men and be grateful. Such a spoiling attitude.
Women are much more complex, while picking a partner sometimes justifiable but also very skeptical mainly because of the media and that media is affecting mental health of both men and women, but mainly men because the negative representations of their gender. Men are more focused on physical attributes and sometimes emotional and psychological. where a women kind of looks at every minor detail of the future with that person and at the moment of talking to them. with that media bias which yes is fair, like men these days have to be really gentle and very careful to not accidently slip with a woman nowadays because of what the medias focuses on. it is multi-layered, and I know this isn't all women never said that it is just a lot of them who do. and it is somewhat fair based on "biological" factors and "psychological" factors but either way it is a impacting the culture and everything either way. I work with men sometimes, and I do a lot of societal research. it is catastrophic. the more connected we are online, the more disconnected the world is from the bigger issues and problems like the mental health crisis, the financial crisis and loneliness epidemic mixed in one big silent depression. both men and women are struggling.
Lowering your standards doesn't mean making your standards low. If your standards are met by less than 1% of the male population like "6'5 with blue eyes and works in finance" it's very unlikely you'll find and keep any man who meets those standards.
This website was a great find! I purchased a book that’s already making a positive impact on my mindset. Fingers crossed it helps me overcome my fear of approaching women.
Only the men who don’t want to better themselves ask women to lower their standards. He lost me at ‘worked in reality shows on relationships’.. no wonder those shows sometimes have unhealthy take on relationships. Good that I’ve not wasted my time watching such things.
@@TheOlzee not as long as idiot man are accepting this bowl of crap. As long as you are still trying to persue them that long they will have this argument on their hands.
@@Christoff8188 while offering what in return exactly? Dont you understand ppl. If you make it about exchange of value then you have to have value yourself.
@@Christoff8188 It sounds like she was _precisely_ that person Chose chad, got rekt, "lowered" standards to _another_ chad got rekt again. ♀The gender that never learns.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish those were more accessible here. Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Speaking from a person from a matchmaking culture. Many marriages rely on the woman to make the marriage work. Families that arrange the couple are looking for three things mainly beauty, societal position, and money. They’re believe marriage goal is security and propagation of the next generation. Many of my cousins are stuck in a working unhappy marriages. It’s just not part of the statistic.
My parents snd grandparents had arranged marriages. Yes they're all still married but they also all have traumatic toxic and abusive marriages and physically and mentally sick from it.
Those are anecdotal instances that cannot be extrapolated across a broad landscape of (modern or past) marriages. The inverse (“s xual liberation,” bed hopping & falling in and out of situstionships) hasn’t proven to be successful either. Or this guy would be out of a job.
My parents decided to marry each other and they’ve also had a toxic and traumatic relationship. I believe the stat that most regular marriages are equally or even more miserable than arranged marriages
@@bamboosho0tbut it is also impossible to rely on any “happiness” stats coming from arranged marriages from a long time ago, when women didn’t have a voice or choice.
I was married, for 25 years. Then finally got my divorce. That I`d been longing for all the time. Had so much fun, and really enjoyed life with friends, and being single. Then unfortunately got into a new relationship far too soon. And that lasted for some years too. Before I got out of that in the end as well. And got back to my beloved single life! When people asked me when I would be in a relationship again, I said NEVER! And I`ve kept that promise for many years now. I just enjoy being single so much, I will definitely not get in to an other one again. I see lots of women doing the same thing. And loving it as much as I do. (don`t live in the US) It was different earlier, but now, when woman are making their own money, and can support themselves. We got more choices of what to do, luckily. My mum said on her death bed, that she had wasted 40 years on my dad!! And yes she did! So I learned from that, not to stay in something you don`t need to. But do what makes you the happiest! 😍😊😊
If you are going to have children, get married Steven because having children will automatically have legal implications if one partner leaves. Children are forever so if you are afraid of commitment, don’t have children. If you want children, bite the bullet and get married. Man up!
More women "relationship coaches" please. Men always think they know, but they don't/can't experience life from our perspective and sometimes have no idea. No thank you to lowering our standards, yes to prioritizing what's truly important (no one has it all!)
He is so obnoxious, this guy. I have a great guy with sweet breath and we only had one problem to work out and it is resolved. We fell madly in love and I'd have it no other way. Love does not come along along very often. For anyone.
He will never do it because these podcasts are geared toward men and even if this isn’t “red pill” content it definitely leans to favor the men. You only gotta take a look at how the whole conversation about marriage went to see this guy probably thinks he’s too good to marry his girlfriend, or the segment about how he refused to apologize to her. I was cringing through the whole thing and I truly feel bad for her. Men don’t benefit from women having standards which is why they’re never gonna bring in a woman to advocate on our behalf.
Im a man... ✋🏿. He spoke about communication, which is what most of us have problems with. This is why most women seem to be unhappy. Because men can't figure out how to make you happy. If you cannot articulate this with him, he won't understand what the problem is. If he refuses to change... You have to blame yourself for staying or picking these types. Respectfully ladies 😂. Don't come for my head.
@ramire7heavenz252 I totally agree. I approve of clear communication and clear boundaries. No one should not put up with poor treatment or disrespect, and we should all definitely have high standards for our partners.
I'm surprised you were shocked that men are more likely to leave a terminally ill partner by 600+%. Women know once his eyes are no longer delighted, you're on your way out 😂. Not all men of course.
That’s disgusting. I didn’t need to know that. I always found men repulsive but now I think it went past the point of no return. Make me want to remain single for the rest of my life.
@rebeccaa.3121 All humans have the capacity for love. One problem with being human is that our brains can be rewired by all sorts of life experiences, especially childhood trauma ( which affects Attachment styles). Imo, if we want better people in the world we need to be better parents. Parenthood movie, 1980s...'you need a license to drive a car, you need a license to buy a dog. But they'll let any butt reaming asshole be a father'. This applies to women too. There are plenty of women who are bad actors when it comes to relationships. Please don't let that engram ruin your life. Make friends with women who KNOW men are capable of love, stay away from femcells. Be vigilant about the information you let into your brain....shit in, shit behaviour and beliefs out. My best wishes to you 😙
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Sorry Steve, I'm struggling to listen to this one. My standards are pretty low. Just wanted a decent guy who I can love and treat well, honest, and caring. But sadly these traits are hard to see. I have been out with and dated many men that werent good looking, yet still ended up with dangerous men. No way I would lower my standards. I stay single to protect myself. Men are getting scarier and scarier these days. I like freedom and that's a choice I've made so have many other women. There are many decent men in similar situations. Shame decent men and women struggle to find each other.
💯 And women typically have more to lose in these situations. More vulnerable to physical abuse (even murder) for typically being smaller stature as well as pregnancy, being left alone with a child.
I think saying lower your standards is not the right way to communicate what men are trying to say. I think it’s better to say reprioritize your standards. It sounds like you have done that. With what you were saying about safety I think that is 1000% reasonable to start your standards there. Feeling safe is where deep connections can start. For a lot of women the standards they express are more about status symbols instead of being about character traits.
Thanks. Ye many woman make the decent ones look bad. I had a male colleague that treated me badly and then once he got to know me he was really nice. I nearly quit my job because of how horrible he was. We later became friends and I asked why he was so nasty, he said it was because I am pretty and he assumed that I would be the type of girl that takes advantage of men and go for a certain type. This was upsetting to hear that I was so badly judged based on my looks. He would love a relationship with me but even though he is extra nice now, the fact he was so horrible, controlling, manipulative, bad tempered and used many mind games for a long time and with a past of men doing the same, I can not forget how he was. He says he has changed but I am not too sure. I told him that i had decided a few years back that i am staying single due to past traumas and i wont be getting it a relationship with anyone again. He says he is happy as friends, as better than not at all. We have been good friends since but I tend to not see him too much as dont want to give wrong impression and I've said as much too. I never want to be that person that gives hope, so I remind him now and again. He seems good with it and it seems to work. So I just stick friendships with men and women and nothing more. No complications that way and much safer too. If by some miracle I found someone that I 100% trusted maybe but I'm too scared from past traumas to ever take that risk ever again. I like a man that is on same wavelength as me, sadly those men arent so forthcoming and neither am I. Usually the geek types is what I'm attracted too because they have similar interests and usually deep thinkers and very empathetic like me. But we are sadly too shy so many of us never meet or spark conversation. There was a geeky guy I liked loads. We flirted a bit but both of us were too shy to say we liked eachother. They i gave impression i wasnt interested because i got awkward around him the more i liked him. So we missed out. He is only guy I liked that much. This is why many single men and women dont get together, because of shyness. Then the over confident men and women are out there taking advantage of the more meek men and women, then breaking their trust in having relationships altogether. So sad really.
Nah smelling rancid definitely does immediately invalidate you!! Are you kidding? I'm not kissing a smelly mouth, go to the doctor and fix it!! Is he telling me to lower this fundamental standard??
Yeah!!! Imagine wearing a mask on a profile picture for years after pandemic is over. Something for sure smells in the brains of such person. Needs to go to psychiatrist and fix it! No way I'm lowering this reasonable expectation.
There's a lot of nuance in this interview that's going over people's heads and it shows in this comment section. Like good lord, when the dude says "lower your expectations", he's not saying "give toxic people a chance". He's suggesting, and I'll use modern lingo, if there's an insignificant "ick" about someone that can probably be easily addressed, but that person has many other redeeming and attractive qualities, maaaaaaaaaybe don't write them off immediately for something insignificant. No one is perfect. When he says "lie to your partner", he's not advocating lying about things that would be game-ending for the relationship, but moreso for things that don't need to be said that would simply create unnecessary tension. For example, you don't need to inform your partner if a person you find physically attractive walks by, that you found that person physically attractive. Unless you're both at a very comfortable place in your relationship with each other where you can both point out random people in a crowd and be like, "Welp, they're hot", then just keep those thoughts to yourself.
@@annaogilvie2524 Ah, you're right, he did say expectations. Indeed a big difference between the two. I agree with him on lowering expectations as a point. I believe people tend to forget that extraordinary people are just that, because the internet makes it too easy to see examples of the extraordinary all the time. If being extraordinary comes off as being ordinary, then normal ordinary can come off as lazy or not talented enough to be worth someone's time. At the end of the day, the vast majority of people are ordinary, myself included. Tempering expectations can make it easier to find a match in someone that wouldn't have otherwise been considered before.
I honestly clicked the video just because I knew there were going to be a lot of juicy comments from angry women. It's the kind of bait people can't resist.
I won’t live my life with a high probability that my life will shorten if I have a man in my life. Studies have shown that single women are happier. I’m proof of that. It’s what makes you happy. Not everyone is happy being married.
While I do want a man and have been single my whole life, you are right. When I looked back and every time I entertained a man, my physical and mental health declined. I value myself way too much now so I’m not going to lower my standards. Thanks for proving that singleness is not a curse.
Speaking in hyperbolic terms isn't useful. Death rate for women in the US who are in a relationship is about 1 per 100,000. Death rate for driving is about 14 per 100,000. Hope you aren't driving if you think a partner is the true threat.
@@clarissaamiata1448 whats the poof, tho? what the hell.. you realise this are not objective sciences? you dont need majority to think the same for you to have your own belief
Being IN LOVE with YOUR person (if you believe you're with the right person), it will override those thoughts of not wanting to commit to them. People make exceptions for what they want. If a man doesn't want to marry you or show you that level of commitment, it's because they don't see you as important enough to make that long-term commitment. That's my pov and what I've seen throughout the years. They're either not ready to commit or you're not who they want to commit to long-term.
@TheOlzee Not necessarily. I believe gf/bf status is a necessary step. But I believe if 2 people are in a relationship and one wants marriage and the other doesn't, at some point, there must be a compromise. What I've noticed and experienced is that a man or even a woman will say, "I don't believe in marriage" or "I don't want to get married," or "I don't want kids," but many of these same people will break their own boundaries with someone they're head over heels for or who they believe is worth it. If I am in love and believe I'm with the person I want to be with for the rest of my life, I will commit. If commitment looks like marriage for my partner, because a relationship is about compromise, I will consider that. If my reasons are, "they could take my money in the future," "they could leave me in the future," overall, just being afraid of the future "what-ifs," "unknowns" or "failures," than I'm choosing to focus on the negative, and allow that to deter me from the possibility of feeling fully satisfied in my relationship with the person I truly love. Because if your partner wants marriage and you don't, then there's dissatisfaction in the relationship already. I understand that everyone has different views and values, and I might not be considering other "possible" reasons that could be valid from my pov, but that is yet to be determined, lol. Men/Women who do not commit to marriage most times it's because they are afraid of losing something and they're not willing to put it all on the line for love (most times because they aren't ready or they don't feel strongly enough for the person they are with). Of course, you can live and love a bf/gf til death do you part, and I get that some people are logical and scientific, and they lead less with emotion, but there's an emotional part to being human, that I strongly believe must be acknowledged and fed. The majority of women want to KNOW that their person, their true love, will risk it all for the sake of loving them. We're not asking men to do anything criminal or irrational. We just want you to say, "I love you enough to go there with you because I DO (pun) love you and you're more important to me than the fears, the unknowns and the risks". To simplify it. If you're bf/gf, there's no risk in saying you love someone. You break up, you go your separate way, there's no mountain to descend, there's nothing. To us, that means "you're not worthy enough for me to risk it all for." Period.
Well the problem with that line of thinking is that in the modern day women lose with that mindset. Women’s standards are out of whack due to their perceived level of options. In that women today typically don’t offer the traits that men look for. Because of that women are put in an awkward position. The men that are good with women have a lot of options and have no incentive to settle down. The other group of men don’t see the value in being in committed relationships. That leaves women with very few options. Status only serves the purpose of feeding ego. Does nothing for long term loving commitment. A lot of women value status over everything. Not only does he have to be successful, it has to be while he is wearing a suit type of ideas.
@@Tony_Calvert What traits are men looking for that women don’t offer?! You assume all men want the same thing. Personally, I prefer an educated, driven woman who has a mind of her own. I prefer a woman to share my life with, as partners. I want to challenge someone and have them challenge me. I don’t want to serve as the sole provider for a woman who is tasked with serving my every need. I find that creepy.
@@Tony_Calvert this line of thinking just shows how clueless men truly are. And it probably comes from a good place but the answer could be standing right in front of your face and you would still fail to see it. In what world are 90% of women looking for men with status? Sir, we are trying to get our very below average men to simply put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher, do a load of laundry every once in a while, step up and watch the kids here and there so we can catch a breather cause in case you hadn’t noticed we are also busting our asses working full time jobs to appease all them 50-50 men, and we are STILL being met with resistance being told our expectations are too high! and you coming here talking about wOmEn OnLy wAnT sTaTuS. Respectfully, sit down.
He’s gorgeous. He clearly looks after himself. But darker skinned people age much much better than whities. I’m a whitie, so I can say freely we age terribly.
Also not divorcing doesn’t equal success. Just because people are less likely to divorce because it’s looked down upon doesn’t mean it’s a happy or successful marriage. Unless success is measured differently and only by outside appearances.
It's the quality of man that a women must look at, whether he has money or not (but don't settle for someone who is indigent). My husband has taken care of me through sickness and health, body changes, you name it, and had been loyal and loving all the way through. I looked at the person I was marrying, a hard worker, family-oriented, loyal person. However, I will say that a man having money does not mean that he will be disloyal or unloving; financial security is an important aspect of finding a mate.
A good friend went through a horrible time with a very aggressive type of breast cancer. Her husband went completely crazy as she always was the stronger part in their relationship. He did not visit her in the hospital. His explanation: he did not like hospitals and he told her that she smelled of cancer. I could not believe it. She divorced right after surgery and organized a party 3 years later after treatment had finished. The divorce went very ugly. He tried to get as much money as possible and stopped working. So she had to pay him an alimony.
Any man who tells women to lower our standards should be treated with suspicion. Nothing good comes from lowered standards. It may help mediocre men who are otherwise unqualified for partnership but it's to women's detriment. Ladies, trust your instincts. Staying single and celibate is a good option that many of us are choosing. And according to studies, single childfree women are the happiest demographic.
I have been involved for 20 years in a service business encountering random married people, most of whom are financially comfortable and stable emotionally. Out of the thousands of married couples, only one of them was truly happy in their relationship. The others mostly had codependent relationships and despised their spouse. Often, the men, when not accompanied by their wife, would phone their girlfriend in my presence. In my opinion in most of these cases, they stay together because to divorce would cause both parties a large decline in their finances. Also, racism is of course a huge problem, but compared to how things were 60 years ago great improvements have been made.
Keep secrets from me and I'll never speak to you again. Way to have no trust between you. My standards...no cheating. Honesty. Cares about each other's best interests. I'm not lowering my standards from that bare minimum. Won't be listening to this jackass
I think the issue is really what those secrets are about. The reality is you're never going to know everything about your partner down to the smallest details. So it really comes down to what you as individuals and a couple decide is important when it comes to honesty that can impact your life together.
This topic should have been discussed more in depth. If porn is replacing love making the relationship dies along with the partner who is being rejected because the other partner just wants to watch porn. It’s a huge issue in modern relationships and these guys just glossed over it… it’s pretty obvious why that is lol.
Ohh, nooo! Women need to lower their standards, otherwise....men who don't meet these standards will remain single 😂 Ohh... well... then so be it! In the meantime, we women might actually be happier single, according to studies! 💅 + unsubscribing
no one wants a relationship anymore, neither man nor woman, if you are not up to date, so your posturing is only as good as your misguided belife that you are somehow wanted.
Me too and I’m a woman. When I meet you please be healthy. If you don’t look healthy I don’t look your way. That’s because when you entertain the unhealthy. They shed unhealthy habits in your presence. In there absence some of those unhealthy habits. Will attempt to attach to you. Protect your temple at all times.
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Can you guys please get Dr Paul Wood from NZ - What’s your prison from delinquent to Doctor, he has murdered his drug dealer at 18 and now is a Dr in Psychology and a public speaker and celebrity in NZ. Please!
Men : I can own every expensive items, yessss I'm a Sigma male, I've expensive watches , cars , video games
Other men : Wow amazing, you are the man, Sigma power, look at his expensive shoes ...wow bro
If woman own any expensive items
Men : she's women☕, materialistic, she needs to lower her standardards..etc....etc...infiniy............♾️♾️♾️♾️
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can you please leave racist topics out of any and all topics, it is off putting and makes me want to stop watching.
now and days there really is 2 opinion on race or racism, do you really want to alienate 50% of people watching?
I personally don't like the words used in the subject considering we are all the same race, human beings.
the concept of racism needs to evolve.
how can people salve a problem if there is any if they can not really understand basic words and meaning.
@@lhdlhd5219what’re you talking about?
@TheDiaryOfACEO I love all the interviews I have seen so far and I am deeply grateful for the information you make accessible.
As constructive feedback, just one small thing I realized, after watching three interviews with the same guest:
There is quite some repetition in stories that are being told by the guest. Its great to repeat, though, in a small time scale of watching, it appears wasting time and nearly makes you shut off the interview.
Maybe you could take more focus on repeating guests for not repeating same stories, examples, facts.
I appreciate all you do and also sharing from every guest - being once or more often❤
I was a legal professional, college educated. My late husband was a truck driver. He was balding and overweight, wore cowboy boots and a Stetson hat. Do you know what attracted me to him? In addition to being funny and kind, he was impeccably dressed. I’m not talking about expensive clothes, but his jeans were clean, his shirt ironed, his boots polished. His old Dodge truck was always clean when he picked me up, he smelled good and he was well groomed. He put a napkin on his knee when he ate. He was popular at his work. People liked him! He was not racist nor spoke poorly of his ex. When we were married, I would wake up on Sunday mornings with him making pancakes with fresh strawberries, and there would be a rose on my pillow. When I was going through a tough time with my daughter and be upset, he would say ‘don’t worry darlin, my shoulders are big enough to carry both of our problems’. He would grab me and dance me around the kitchen. Unfortunately, he was killed in a work accident after only 13 years of marriage. He knew what it meant to be a man. I never found another one. He wasn’t rich, he didn’t work out, he didn’t have a sports car. He made me feel safe and supported emotionally. I hope I made him happy too. He was the love of my life. Take from this what you will.
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Sorry for your loss
You were lucky, cherish those memories, sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss. 😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤
My Grandmother used to say, “I’d rather wake up alone in freedom than with companionship in prison.”
Love that.
If she did that you wouldnt exist
@@lisamckenna613 Yes. Wish I was free.
Making a blanket statement on relationships and marriage insinuating it is a prison is exactly why we’re heading towards population collapse.
Absolutely!! My mum said on her death bed, that she had wasted 40 years, of her life. On my dad!! And she was right! I have been the absolute happiest after my divorce. And it`s single life for ever for me now! 😍
My uncle cheated on my auntie who was dying of terminal breast cancer. Even though I was young at the time, I've never ever forgotten it. It really is a new level of low for the human being. My auntie literally knew she had months left to live, as if that's not enough mentally for someone to deal with, she had to deal with his infidelity on top of it. Makes me so sad and angry that people can be that selfish.
If you was young at the time then you never knew the real situation be careful not to base your opinions on it
Yeah true you never can know the real situation, but never underestimate the selfishness of so many people, its crazy out here!
@@TheOlzeethe real situation is that when a woman gets terminally ill males get upset because their “wife appliance” is broken and now they no longer have any use for
It. Males overwhelmingly don’t see women as people but things to use and discard when done. The whole story is that male was a disgusting human being and she learned a valuable lesson about the avg male
I wonder what you would do if you were put in the same situation. I hope you never will.
I have come to believe that it could be a persons way of coping with the trauma of someone dying. Getting comfort from someone else.
Too many people are looking for the right person rather than trying to be the right person. My first therapist told me that you attract and you are attracted to someone who is at about the same level you are. An emotionally healthy person won’t find an unhealthy person attractive. She told me the only way to change who I was attracting and who I was attracted to was to change myself. That was a turning point in my life. You have to be willing to do the emotional work and too few people are willing to do that. Most people go through life focused on others so they don’t have to work on themselves.
-"people"-
*_Women_*
I trust what you are saying more than this guy! That sounds spot on! This guy had put together some research but some things he says seem sad....like love is "conditional" (maybe, but as someone who has been married 40 years it's pretty fun to live with a partner who agrees we are aiming for unconditional love WHILE trying to be our best selves and BRING OUT the best in one another)....also this guy says "talking about longevity is not the point...."how satisfied are you" is the point.....(he's young....longevity and the sweetness of living an entire life with your partner through all the seasons is something he does not understand and if he doesn't value it ...he will also NEVER know or experience it)
I’m a highly educated woman who spent most of my dating life with men who earned less than me or were less educated than me. My experience has been that they get jealous and/or resentful. There’s an inferiority complex and they punish me for it. That’s when I decided I’ll try to date men who are at the same level or above. Many women complain about this and it gets left out of the conversation.
They should stop placing their value on money. Men have to ask themselves what they can bring into a relationship besides money, when the moneys gone what else do they add to the relationship?
you're very right to follow this instinct. you are statistically far more likely to be physically and mentally abused (eg negging) when your with a man below your status.
DO NOT SETTLE.
Because it's a lie.
What the women like you leave out of these stories is how you indirectly bring up money or indirectly flaunt your ability to afford or do things they can't with their current income.
That's always left out, or the woman isn't even aware of how she indirectly brings money up to indirectly make her man feel financially inadequate.
That's what men don't like.
I have no problem marrying a millionaire girl.
But if she indirectly brings up my financial inadequacy EVEN ONE TIME, I will resent her permanently.
@ you’re just projecting your low self worth and reading into things. If she has to pay for most things money will be brought up.
@@mw7675 I had this problem too with my ex husband, he felt inadequate just because he want 'better' than me
I had cancer, not terminal. I also sprained my neck really badly. He changed my bandages after surgery (it was really gross), helped me dress (literally had to lift my arms), and took care of house duties so i could rest. He isn't perfect, but d*mn close.
Ladies, if he won't take care of you when you're sick, he doesn't deserve you.
***Edit***
He has had hospitalizations and surgeries as well. We take care of each other. Has it been hard? Absolutely. But you don't get the good times without the bad. Just this last year, after all our battles, we were well enough to go spelunking on Katla and hike over the Solhiemajökull glacier. Some years are awful... and some years are beautiful. Life is bittersweet. You must learn to appreciate the bitter and the sweet.
I dated someone who was real sweet. But as soon as i had a small surgery. He lamented making me soup. He lamented and wondered if he had to take care of me as if i was sickly. And finally treated me like a burden. All the while requiring so much of me to be fun sexy playful go to shows…. Such BS.
I need not a boyfriend. I want someone who is a all around good person who will be there good and bad. Cuz life is like that. You cant just keep dating for perfect and never sick never an inconvenience …
@@holly_gmTwb he passed the test!
AMEN! Ladies, always keep your standards high. Your partner can do it too & it makes a relationship last ... case in point ... my parents have been married for nearly 60 years !
You are one blessed woman!!
@@beatpirate8. “Just keep dating for perfect”
Adults out there that are looking for even close to perfection are living in fantasyland .. our parents and grandparents were wise enough to not see dating and relationships through that mindset
This saddens me. My husband of 25 years died of cancer, and I was there the whole time. He died in my arms, and not for one second did I think of leaving.
These so called 'relationship experts' don't know what they are talking about. Just searched Paul Brunson on Google and found he almost split with this wife. So he knows nothing about relationships in that case.
Sorry for your loss.
@@jenessa_it is true though. If a woman is experiencing serious illness the man is more likely to leave
That is true love. Being there at the end must be so difficult.
@@Aliciae411It definitely depends on the person. Some people are more caring than others and won't leave. I don't believe the 'one size fits all' approach can be applied here. Personally this is what I believe.
@@Aliciae411Men can't seem to hack the times when they need to stand up and grow a pair. Sorry only what I have observed more true in the modern age than ever!
I've seen the women in my life lower their expectations and standards for decades... settling for less than they deserve, especially in marriage. Too often, they end up carrying the weight of a relationship that doesn't truly support them. It's time for a different conversation, one that challenges the status quo and empowers women to expect more.
I think the problem is the women who should lower their standards don't (the ones who are entitled or have a long checklist) and the women who do lower their standards shouldn't (especially the kind who are afraid of being alone, so they feel like they have to be in a relationship). You can't make blanket statements.
Roughly half of women in the US are single because they cant find somebody "good enough". There is a loneliness crisis and the birth rate is plummeting. It's about time for women to rate themselves by who would actually marry them, and not who would shag from tinder. Y'all are statistically likely to be 5's. Accept your place and be happy.
@@JoeTateemWhat business is it of yours? Are you an inc*l?
@@JoeTateem Men who rate women by a number are the reason women need to keep their standards high. Never date a man who objectifies women generally.
Yes and also..the question at 36:00 hasn't really been answered and I would love to know why.
First and foremost, don't confuse love with lust.
Lust is the beginning of love
@@tone3560no it’s not
@@tone3560not at all. Love is a verb.
True love grows with familiarity and bonds. It's a chemical reaction in the brain
@@tone3560 Modern love that eventually grows stale and falls apart, yes, lust comes before love. But that’s saying the egg 🥚came before the chicken 🐔. People today “love” in complete reverse.
The three traits he mentioned between the 1hr 10mins and 1hr 13mins mark are values
1. Resilient
2. Open Minded
3. Self wellbeing
Out here doing God's work! Thank you my friend!
Thank you!
thankyou very much @ikpehai-u5g you're such time saver gbu
Thank you. Wasn’t as resilient as I thought to watch the whole video, though. Guess I’m staying a cat lady the rest of my life, lol. At least I’m open minded and can take care of my self.
Legend ❤
My uncle who’s a lawyer said the two causes for divorce he always worked with was money and a spouse who gets sick. He always instilled in the girls in our family to never give the men so much power over us and to have a career for ourself as backup
sickness wasn't the cause. The shallow spouse that bailed was.
@@eellie4856 Evidently the people who married for that reason were women for financial gain and men for an arm candy. Happened to my neighbor- she was talk gorgeous and lived with her boyfriend my neighbor- he always seemed moody and chatted with me whenever we met - he gave me single vibes- so was really surprised he had a woman living with him for years. They were cohabiting and were like husband and wife. Anyhow, one day I heard her screaming, “ Where can I go ?!” a few times. I thought one of their fights but she seemed especially hysterical with this one. Next thing I hardly see him around the house- he comes in and out once in a while- then after I came back from being away for a while I see a woman with a Baboushka who had a more motherly figure going into the house. I wondered if that was the girlfriend but she sure looked different to the slender model a figure. We never spoke all those years because her boyfriend would say she was quiet. She came to collect a parcel from me and we got speaking. She had broken up with my neighbor. He was living in his other house and letting her stay in this house until she finished treatment for breast cancer- she was only in her mid 30s - she actually said she liked meeting people- it sure seemed different when he was around. She then disappeared and he put the house for sale. It wasn’t long before he found a much younger, fit sporty attractive type and she seemed wealthy as she came in this red new geep with him - the kind you go off in adventures. That fellow always gave me the creeps a little despite his soft spoken polite exterior I always felt he hid some quiet rage - the classic narcissist- use and discard. If the next one falls ill and bankrupt, no doubt he’ll be off for a new model. Women always find out dating history. If he leaves his woman for you, he will do it to you or you will to him
nothing to do with sex?
My Pakistani dad believed in educating girls more than boys for this very reason, so we our financial independence
did he have any boys to give a speech to I'm curious? Because if he was a lawyer like you say he would know the finical reason in large part is because women are "highly" likely to leave a man if she starts to make more money than him, he gets laid off due to injury or fired.
Married 31 wonderful years. He held me and lovingly provided support when my beloved father died, then my twin brother died, when my child left for college. Recently I was seriously injured and he literally did everything; cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, helping me bathe, move from bed to chair, made me laugh and loved me AND he worked full time. He did all this for over a year. He was the one who encouraged and pushed me to recover. He was my strength when I had none, always there with whatever I needed even when I didn't know what that was...he did. I would gladly do the same for him. Differences in education never mattered. We are brilliant in ways that complement each other. I am blessed he chose to love me...he says he is the blessed one. We truly are soulmates. This is what love is. If more people experienced this love, it could change the world.
So happy git you two!! Rock on!!
Are your astrology signs fits? like both are water signs?
So beautiful! You are both blessed.
Oh look, a female who knows how to choose properly (based on this info provided)
These females in the comments could learn a thing or two from you, but they wont'
I believe you are a kind woman who deserves a husband's love.
If I lower my ‘standards’ and he turns out to be a loser, I’ll also be told I should have chose better! 😂
Preach.
Damned if we do, damned if don't.
Exactly.... Do not do it
Lowering your standards doesn't mean choosing a loser. There's a huge middle ground between the 6 foot 6 figure man of most women's standards, and a bum who lives in the sewer.
Exactly. They really just want every and any woman to take a chance on them even if it isn’t in their best interest.. only to turn around and condemn you because you could have chosen better if things don’t work out. It’s not genuine at all.
I don't think women should lower their standards . Just their unreal expectations .
We should be selective . Choosing wrong for a woman can end her life or result in severe dv.
Staying single is also an option ,and it's definitely better than living with someone who disrespects you and puts your health in danger.
Women seem to love the wrong choice. They seem to love being abused vs being bored. A good guy is boring, so they just leave.
The issue is the mixup between wants, expectations and standards from what I see.
Ye i stay single because I'm now scared of men after having lower standards. I know no one is perfect but these men were dangerous. I stay safe by staying single.
Ye i stay single because I'm now scared of men after having lower standards. I know no one is perfect but these men were dangerous. I stay safe by staying single.
A woman can be “selective” all she wants. Until men do away with MISOGYNY and THE PATRIARCHY she is STILL likely going to end up with a MISOGYNISTIC MAN and his misogyny will show up in one way or another… so damn selection.. what about the real problem with men?
I witnessed a young woman married to a pastor be diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma. His entire family would pray for her and take her to chemo appointments. Once her hair began to grow back, in less than two years, they welcomed a healthy baby girl ☺️ it's truly amazing how much she was loved 😍
Great testimony. Happy she is doing well now. I pray she stays healthy.
God is good!
She probably wasn’t terminal though and that’s what the research was about. That cancer rarely terminal.
When I(F) was dating in my late 20's, when asked what my job was (programmer at very well known tech company) I never got a second date. When I changed my wording to "I have a desk job working with computers", I got second dates.
Men still feel they should be earning more/better career, despite everything else they can bring to the relationship. They still see money as the only value they can offer. We need better male role models.
I think so many men underestimate how interesting they in themselves can be to women. I'm just a single sample size but a man who has kindness, interest in many things and willingness to learn is so much more appealing than a bank account. When I met my husband, I made more money than him but he was so easy to talk with. We still love going to museums, hiking and simply joking while we go to Costco.
@@maryjeffries9251but it would be pointless for them since men don't marry for love. They don't want to have a partnership.
I have observed a huge amount of social pressure and judgement on men if they’re not as financially successful as their female counterparts . Even if we don’t want it too, I believe this effects the relationship as well
@@maryjeffries9251 When you met him. But you knew he'd make more than you prettttyyy soon. Or were betting he would. So don't even bring it up
@@Lucia_santaWomen staying in a relationship is observably more based on transaction
He is certainly speaking from a perspective of privilege when he says most of us in the west don't need a relationship to survive financially. It does take two incomes to comfortably run a household for most of us, the big problem which hasn't been touched on here so far (I'm about halfway through) is the fact that women are paying 50/50 but still doing 90% of the childcare and housework
It's a man, maybe he's right, you were expecting too much of him 😂
That theory is hard to register to me. One of the reasons that I don't want a woman to move in is due to common marriage law and my paid off home. Too much risk should things end between us.
not sure about stats. but certainly needs a conversation
Stephen is a commitment phobe. More content for the channel.
@@fionadale1011 #facts
I have been single for just over 3 years ...feel so free and at peace, I have a great life.....would be lovely to meet someone special, but until then, life is beautiful ❤
@@resistancerebels9798 Yes🫱🏼🫲🏻👏🏻
Same, 7+ years single, in top shape, enjoying time on my own, loving freedom. I’ve lowered my standards very low in the past (trauma), ended up homeless and without money twice. No more mothering insecure, immature men.
Ye I've been single for years too. Men say it's a waste but no it isnt if I'm happier. I feel safer on my own. Cant deal with tempers. I have had too mu h trauma because of men.
Shame because I know there are decent guys out there but hard to find.
5 cats is better than one boyfriend. Trust me I know 😂😂😂😂
😂 so true!!@@rozfisher2182
The peace and solitude of being single has set the bar extremely high for me. If they don’t make it easy I’m not struggling to make it work.
Enjoy being a single cat lady or cat man. Nothing comes easy. It takes a lot of work to live with anyone including a partner.
@@steveth1000Ask yourself why a furry animal that poops in a box and doesnt pay bills is more appealing than a man.
@ cats are adorable! However, I have a plant. It’s living with me quite easily 🤣
@@JustJulezJulezing loved you're response. I think by saying "easy" you meant them putting in enough effort if not more as you. Which is smart.
Both for me 😂 2 cats 3 plants 🪴 it suits me right now 😄
Ladies. Keep your standard as high as you can afford to do so. Men certainly do. A man wants the highest value woman he can get. Otherwise he won’t value her. Women should expect the same for themselves.
Exactly.
Very true. I think women are encouraged to lower their standards to accomodate the masses of men who are subpar and below..rather than the message being that men need to develop holistically. Anytime you lower your standards..you get even less than the bare minimum.
Poor hygiene, as well as being gross, is a good indication of a person's character, if they cant be bothered to have a shower and get dressed for a first date, that doesnt bode well considering that people tend to make more of an effort at the start of relationship. Telling someone to override their instincts on this is bad advice.
If he’s 6’5” with a model face and 12% body fat, you wouldn’t care. Women are virtue signallers.
@@Slim-Clips You watch too much corn. You think if a man is tall she wint care if he doesnt clean himself? No. We care.
Isnt it funny tho that the first thing that comes to a womans mind is that these men dont even clean themselves properly these days and yall say standards are too high when women are just wishing men would wash their arses better.
What's 'being gross' mean?
@@GamerGrade
Under 6’0” tall without a near-model face and sub 15% body fat. Women just virtue signal.
This is true.. I gave a guy a chance despite looking unkempt on the first date. It bothered me the entire time and found out he doesn’t want to impress and says he wants to “be myself”. He turned out to be broke minded.. that’s a lesson for me never to give them the benefit of the doubt again. First impression is everything.
I had a C7 injury that resulted in loss of 70 % strength in my right arm. Husband wouldnt help with anything. I still had to do all the cooking and cleaning as well as work full time. One Sunday morning, we arrived at church. He parked and got out of the truck and walked towards the building. I struggled getting the seatbelt undone with my left hand. I got caught in the strap and fell out of the truck. At some point, he realised I wasn't behind him. He turned and saw me on the ground. He just stood there and waited for me to get up by myself. That was the beginning of the end
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you are in a better state of life now. This reminded me of my dad who abandoned my mother to party with his friends when my mother was deathly sick with flu. Until the last time we met in 2023 he pretended to respect her but sabotaged her at the back. I wish they divorced.
He was like that all along but you ignored it. Men like those are born that way. A woman should fake sick during the dating phase to see how he responds
@soundyoucantouch I'm so sorry you and your mother experienced this. Women tolerate so much bad behavior in men sometimes.
Divorce babe, divorce
Disgusting…and one of the reasons why I no longer only look in the church for a partner…Just because a man goes to church and professes to be a Christian, doesn’t mean he won’t be a jerk..
There's 624% chance (that is, 6 times more likely) that he'll leave if you get sick ....
But you still need to lower your standards?
No. How about balancing out things and not engaging in care labor that wouldn't be reciprocated.
called being a hospice wife - but dont expect it reciprocated - he is quite an 'off' person
Women are 4 times more likely to leave men when they're not sick, it basically balances the scales to how often women leave men usually. What now? LOL
How about balancing things out? That IS balancing things out!
EXCELLENT POINT, proving these people understand ZERO.
I agree. Why should I be someone's nurse when I don't get a 2nd thought? It's abusive. I would rather be single and help people who cannot help themselves than be alone in a relationship and die a little every day
@ Women leave 4x more often under normal circumstances so this is really just evening things out in a small percentage of cases lololol
My sister has stage 4 Breast cancer as diagnosis with mets to lymph nodes, diabetes and later developed a rare form call Medullary thyroid cancer,she have just 2 years to live and she never been this scared to die, she just 37, i cry everyday wishing for a miracle to happen. i don't know why I'm saying this here. put me in your prayers.
im really sorry. i've was in such situation 15 months ago. i had just 2 months to live till a friend told me about a healer who helped me. She cured me, I don't know how she did it. but i owe her my life. she's the reason i'm alive today.
That's wonderful, how do i get in touch with the healer?
Her name is Prophetess Regina Kuma,and she is a great healer who can heal you. you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
You poor thing, I pray you find peace and wish you a blessed and beautiful day, today... 😊
Few men will care for a sick spouse but they expect a woman to care for them when they get sick
yep, and they wonder why we don't marry them now that we don't have to
The only woman that ever cared for me while sick was my mom.
I wouldn't dream of not being responsible for my wife when she needs me most. However, if she could never have sex again I more than likely would occasionally pay for sex
As usual, you did not hear him well. You let your emotions get the best of you instead of using logic---you women only hear what you want to hear because your emotions are the way.
What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in their marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy by been argumentative, combative, manipulative ungrateful, passive aggressive, not happy with anything we do, undermining us, emmaculating us, and not giving us peace on a daily basis---that is why we leave when you are diagnosed with cancer or terminal illness because of the hell you have given us--while on earth would we take care of you given the hell you've given us for many years.
@@TheBlueOrRed-Pillthat was a lot of words.
Been married for 20 years and my wife is amazing. Supportive, humble, hardworking, loyal and loving all while being independent, strong and brutally honest.
Too many women marring malignant narcs not knowing there feminine. Uses most women want to stay single these n arcs spreading diseases about serial cheets that's why women want to be single. There cowards in clossete.
Independent of what?
@@TheOlzee they possibly mean separate bank accounts.
@@catherinehoy5548 possibly. It usually mean independent of the man
Sounds like you married a person you love, not a woman to make your life easier.
The former arrangement is just really hard to find. Even for the healthiest person.
The latter is easy to find. Spit, and you'll hit a man looking for a woman-appliance. And he'll take as much as he can get away with.
Don't lower your standards! It's ok to only want to be with someone you truly love and loves you.
especially if this advice comes from a man. nope. don't lower your standards. you deserve the man you wish for.
You said it!
I'm not even going to watch this misogynistic shit!
@@ErnstHeinze-iw4gqah yes, any opinion you don’t like is “miss soggy nist”
@@tessg4799 I don't think that's what he is saying at all. He is saying that expecting your partner to be your best friend, business partner, amazing lover, incredible parent, etc etc is leading to a lot of dissatisfaction. That is quite a lot to ask of one person! Personally, I wish someone told me that when I was married. It's incredibly unrealistic and rare. If you're willing to spend your life alone in search of this unicorn, then that is your choice. He is merely suggesting that you can have a satisfying relationship with a community of people and a partner who has your top 3, not your top 12, wishes. It's actually helpful in my opinion.
@ErnstHeinze-iw4gq "you are not entilted to my attention if you disagree with me" yes please, don't even lower your "standards" I wouldn't want to risk being in a relationship with people like you
Everything he said about men leaving their wives if they get terminally sick is 100% true.
I worked in the ED for approximately 2 years. I saw this everyday.
The one that strikes most was the woman whose gusband brought to the ED in the night with their son. This is in Nigeria. He said he forgot something at home and left. He never came back. That lady didn't survive. She died with only her son next to her. That boy was just 2 years old.
This man left a 2 year old child with a sick woman and disappeared.
Horrible. I hope theres a special hell for that person
and women should lower their standards for those who HAVE NO standards.
I would hate to be him standing before God on that day…it will be far worse for him for sure
What is an ED?
It's so sad & disappointing. I have heard of similar things with other women.
Happier, healthier and earn more money since I've been single. Life isn't a one size fits all. Do what's right for you, whether that's marriage or not. Society makes us feel shame for not having a partner, but it's not for everyone.
so many single fighting woman for the cause but there are less single woman then man in this world. how could that be..
Amen! I left a good relationship (marriage) and I am still happier. Women have no need for men now and we can be happy and self-sustaining.
@@kristyorpwood4590 why do you think those metrics went up for you when you are single as opposed to being in a relationship? I don’t get it
I know loads of very happy single people who have sometimes made that choice and other times just ended up there. It is a choice
Happier by being single yet you watch videos on relationships, just like many "happy" single women in the comments. Okay.
Sorry, not sorry, but if your partner is terminally ill and you leave them you NEVER actually loved them, you were just there out of convenience until you were no longer getting your needs met. Worse kind of person. I personally would NEVER associate with a person who owned up to doing some sh*t like that.
yeah, Sarah, you know what.. from m humble experience weman have larger and more diverse social groups then man.. safe to say there are ppl that you call half friends that done stuff like that that you dont know and dont want to know since you wouldnt want to confront them about it. You see.. talk is cheap, most ppl that are really moral have so little associates that they wouldnt even want to come out with shit like that since everyone would know who they are talking about. Its where you want to be, not where you preach in the comments. cheers
The thing is sometimes you’ll never know your partner is like this until you’re in so you can’t really say you could never associate with someone like this
Maybe you’re dealing with this person right now 😅. Hopefully not
As usual, you did not hear him well. You let your emotions get the best of you instead of using logic---you women only hear what you want to hear because your emotions are the way.
What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in theiemr marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy by been argumentative, combative, ungrateful, not happy with anything he does, undermining him, emmaculating him, and not giving him peace on a daily basis---that is why we leave when you are diagnosed with cancer or terminal illness because of the hell you have given us--while on earth would I now take care of you given the hell you've given me for many years.
@@TheBlueOrRed-Pill I think the empathy gap runs both ways for both you and the person you're arguing with. You make a lot of assumptions in your post as well. Both of you need to look in the mirror with your assumptions and sweeping generalizations.
Exactly!
Okay I was really giving this the benefit of the doubt to see what he says. I have a problem with how he structures his argument around why men leave a terminally ill partner 21% of the time, while women leave a terminally ill partner roughly 3% of the time. His argument can be broken down into 3 basic premises:
p1- Love is conditional for satisfactory romantic relationships
p2. People experiencing a low satisfaction relationship are more likely to leave when the going gets tough (like financial stress, or partner illness)
p3. When a partner falls ill the sick partner can no longer fulfill the conditions the caretaking partner needs to feel satisfied in the relationship.
C1. Therefore, people leave unsatisfactory relationships because their ill partner is no longer fulfilling their needs.
The problem is, that argument doesn't explain why men leave almost a quarter of the time while women are more likely to say. If it were logically consistent, then either women would also leave 20% of the time or men would leave 3% of the time. It provides no insight as to why. I think we can *infer* why, but that's what we get for listening to a business major talk about psycho-social interactions.
that's what we get for listening to a business major talk about psycho-social interactions.----repeated for the people in the back.
He explained why it happens. He didn’t say it was right. It’s a terrible thing to do and yet it still happens.
It does give the why. They aren’t happy and they leave. It’s selfish, yes. But they still do it.
I think the “why” we were looking for would be an explanation that explains the disparity between the percentage of men that leave a sick partner vs women that leave a sick partner.
@ there is actually quite a bit of research out there about this topic. Im going to avoid writing a novel here lol A lot of it boils down to only a couple things - men tend to be more selfish in general and tend to look at it as a problem to fix and when they can’t and give up. But a lot comes down to still being in a patriarchal society. Women are seen as caregivers and take care of most household duties. When they are ill they can’t perform those tasks and the men feel entitled to still receive that. When they don’t it’s a problem. They are entitled. And for years it’s just been “women do it better” when the man is fully capable of doing those same tasks. They aren’t getting what they want, so they leave. And women have been raised for a long time to be caregivers so they are more likely to stay.
Lower our standards only to be told, "you should have chose better", if he messes up which they do more often than not.
Choosing better and lowering standards are two different things.
@theponderingrambler9158
Nope. Choosing a man who who brings the same financially to the table is choosing better or more, is choosing better
@ If you are just going off financial instead of the person, then you are proving my point. You are not choosing better, just a better lifestyle.
@theponderingrambler9158
I'm not going just off financials. But financials plays a major part
@ If "financials play a major part" in standards for you then your proving my point of not actually lowering your standards. There are a lot of men that are good people that don't have great paying jobs. Your statement makes this saying I've heard a lot true "Men love women for being women, and women love men for what they can get from them."
Interesting thumbnail. There's a saying in my culture that says... the true loyalty of a wife is known at times of poverty and the true loyalty of the husband is known at times of illness.
Wmn staying is p8overty is much more likely than mn staying after he gets m6oney.
Statistically yes. Men do have a higher chance of leaving a woman if she gets sick. However, women are more likely to leave a man if she starts to make more money than him, he gets laid off due to injury or fired.
@@theponderingrambler9158 that’s only because mn act up when wmn make more m9ney. These mn will go and have second families. Wendy Williams is one such example. Dude took her m8oney and started a second family and had a chld with the other w8m2n. Most mn aren’t to he tr7usted.
I’m curious - which culture has this saying?
@m.c.6475 desi/brown/South Asian
If someone has a bad breath or untidy manicure or looks sloppy, it’s definitely not about me and my socialization type, rather about their hygiene and upbringing. And obviously I have no wish to re-educate a grown-up individual.
I might give the bad breath a second chance, just because I know that it can sometimes be because of a sinus issue. My husband has good hygiene, and usually his breath is fine. The only time it’s bad is if he has a cold/sinus issue. I hate to think of possibly passing him up because I happened to meet him when he had a sinus issue.
@@biffm.2806 Look at you being sensible
😂😂
Engaging in non virtuous behavior is degenerate. Who does that the most? It ain’t men. If you drink, overweight, lack virtue, wear make up, etc etc you’re not worthy of being in a relationship you’re damaged goods and lack discipline.
Tbh I started my excellent hygiene because I got a partner.
Interesting we don’t see “men need to lower their standards”…
Maybe because generally men don't have any, and the woman is the decision maker when it comes to who she wants as a life partner. I think.
Or….. men need to increase their standards for themselves…
@wmom1816 wrong. I know plenty of men who have "standards" but they don't usually live up to them themselves.
Yes, it's ok for men to want the most beautiful woman ,but apparently women are not allowed to have preferences.
Yes people. Let's love each other rather than versing each other. 😂
Ladies! Please listen to me! My mother said when you’re dating as an older woman, be careful, cause men are looking for a nurse and a purse. That being said, do not lower your standards, I disagree with this matchmaker exponentially.
If we are attractive to them they will and accept less it is what it is , as long we are tall and attractive
I love the way western women date because it’s easier, you only need to be tall and attractive 😅
I can’t image how the bar could possibly be any lower
Hard to imagine how big your ego is.
100%🔥🔥🔥
You do realize that women only find like 10% of men attractive? Thats already a high bar before you add any wants.
@samanthaferrari5948 For real 😂😂😂
Right lol
Yeah many husbands leave their sick wives.
As someone who works in medical field I've seen it alot
That is just so sad. Where is the empathy or sense of duty? 😢
@Dayo_kid I don't think they have any 😂
Make sure you don't marry someone like that. How are they when you're sick with the flu or something minor? Never stay with someone with no compassion.
@@julieandco how can you make sure they are not like that?
The problem is you can never be sure
@@Iris-qo8xi... to be honest, they all are. I've seen this first hand multiple times, this or the ol' remarry within six months of the burial.
I think nobody should lower their standards, better being alone and free rather than waking up next to a monster, but what i think he was trying to get across is that one needs to have realistic expectations if they are struggling finding a partner. Bad odor, breathe, smell or hygiene is just common sense so lowering yourself to someone who doesn't consider taking good care of themselves to that kind of standard is just stupid, but i have to agree that if someone has difficulty in dating and is desperate for a partner, it is advisable to be more opened to more 70% people rather than chasing that 100% person and learn about their personalities in order for the two of them to grow together. In these certain scenarios, vibes and traits are more important than personal preferences. Like sure, bro might be 5'7 and bald but if he seems like a nice, well-mannered, polite guy that is well put together, has a decent job and cares for his parents and siblings, it won't hurt anybody to give my man here a shot.
Bro your talking about modern women. There definition of settling is way different than societies, the world's, and men's definition. I hear most of them complaining about shallow and materialistic aspects. I once seen a 4 foot 8 woman say she was settling because a guy that liked her and she even said he has alot of qualities I like, because he was 5 9. Not 6 ft. Do you all understand how ridiculous that is?
@@chrislong8559 modern or not, they've *always* been this way.
It's just men in the past were smart enough to *control* them. The prior 4 generations of men have failed the future by being too civil to them.
No company is better than bad company and being alone is not the same as being lonely.
As the old sayings go.
Never lower your standards!! Women, you deserve a partner that puts as much into the relationship as you do!
My ex is an awful human that was lazy and cheated. My husband is wonderful and kind. He does at least half of the home chores and supports me when needed. I support him when needed as well. We are equal partners that respect each other. He supported me through nursing school and paid the bills when I was off work with complicated pregnancies, and I’m supporting him through his career and nursing school now.
Marriage is a partnership with love and respect
and you choose them both, based on how you value your standards. Isnt it strange, the difference in both outcomes, oh my..
if ur not having success the problem is probably ur standards. the predictable outcome is dying alone. the most depressed demographic is single childless women over 40.
@@PinPinKula did they pick you yet?
@@lou4169 babycakes, belive it or not, they are lining up for my attention but 7 year stint made me much pickier and choosy, so yo might say im nurturing my feminine side at the moment. You take care for me!
That is the way it should be but rarely is.
Why is it always “women have to do xyz to get and keep a man” and men never need to adjust behavior? It’s like a chess game for women and men get to float around without a care.
are you completely out of touch or are man persuing woman or are woman persuing man?
@ yes I live in the woods totally out of reality you got me!!!! Men these days do expect women to chase them so not sure what point you’re trying to prove. The point still stands. Videos are almost always target at women modifying behavior and never men, when men are half of the relationship.
@ no megz, you are just not very smart. if man are persuing and woman are chooising then utlimately you are responible for your choices and that means that by not choising bad, man should not need to change cause they woldnt get a chance. now go back to your woods cause we the ppl dont have much from what you have contributed to our shared exprience. cheers
There are countless RUclips videos about how men can adjust their appearance and behavior to be more desirable to women.
@@megz7125 We had a sustainable model for relationships that lasted for thousands of years under a patriarchy, its you thinking that things would be better if you had equal say in how things are run that got us into this mess. So of course the responsibility for making that work falls on you as men had things working perfectly fine before you decided you knew better.
I broke my back and my husband kicked me out of our house 11 weeks into my recovery and dropped me off at my mom's. By the grace of God I can still walk,but that emotional trauma definitely impacted my recovery.
Sorry to hear dear. Hope you are feeling much better now than before.
so much about standards, eh..
Sorry to read this! I had a similar ish experience that I just posted about above. My ex husband's obtuseness and selfishness after my stroke definitely worsened the 1st 3 years of my rehab and recovery and has left me with CPTSD etc. And, destitute financially. Recovery depends on having sane, healthy, helpful, empathic people in our lives. I am blessed in friends and cats and the fact that I fight for myself and am resourceful. I have a rich life, but it my ex was still here, I'd be poor! Please take good care. Stay close to helpful, loving and loyal friends and family. Best wishes in your continued recovery.
Just - wow, how awful to have to deal with resentment and lack of support when you are going through something like that… My grandmother had a rough ride with that after a stroke - being yelled at because her husband had to trouble himself to help her dress. I had to work out how to do the washing up and all the housework with a wrist in plaster - compassion stretched as far as refraining from shouting about the dishes piling up, not to actually helping… Agreed that friends, cats, healthcare professionals, anybody but a male partner is far more likely to provide support. Or at least not to start yelling and putting us down on top…
@@Stormcrow-dc3ez Thank you. And good on you for assisting your grandmother! Every survivor needs a compassionate and empathic caregiver who educates themselves and goes to stroke caregiver groups and is patient. I am sorry your gran's husband yelled at her. What an arse! That kind of emotional abuse only worsens recovery. Sorry to say not the first time I have heard that! I would not have survived if I had not found stroke recovery groups 4.5 months later and my swim community who protected me once I started to teach myself how to swim again and the support of friends. (I was 44 and perfectly healthy except for stress and migraines, which aren't considered an official predisposition but now are correlated.) Also, I was an LMT so I know amazing LMTs, cranial sacral practitioners, energy healers and LaCs. And, I was always athletic and remember being in the ICU just wanted to rip all of the lines out and jump out of bed and walk to the street and hail a taxi! Best wishes to you and your gran! I have several books, films and TEDTalk recs, if you're interested in learning more, please DM me. Take good care!
I have been loving and sharing Stephen’s podcast the past year.
Looking at the comments here, as a widow with five children, I think I’ll PASS on this one.
As someone who loves these podcasts and did watch it, I think you need to be careful of your taglines. A lot of commenters saying they didn’t even watch due to the tagline and yet the comment Paul made wasn’t that WOMEN should lower their standards it was that PEOPLE should in regards to not expecting your partner to be everything (friend, lover, confidant etc)
yeah but then he later goes on to make excuses for the men who ditch dying wives... because the sex was bad or something else wrong in relationship that led them to leave. but didn't explain why women stayed with dying husbands even when there was likely loads of problems in relationship that she overlooked too... but she still stayed with him as he died. just admit it, pal, men more likely to leave because they are more selfish. somehow he skates past that... not impressed.
@@fs5775Completely agree with everything you said
@@fs5775Completely agree. That's pathetic.
Very true!
@@fs5775he didn’t excuse it. He explained why it happens. Whether it’s right or wrong, they do it and it’s selfish.
And OP spot on. The taglines obviously triggered people and they didn’t bother to listen. A huge problem in society these days in general.
Lowering our standards ? How low our standards should be? Potty training should be the new “great achievement “? Why not men are raising their standards? Why are they satisfied with mediocrity? Why should we? Why should we settle for someone who is addicted to multiple things, emotionally immature and not ambitious? Thank you but no thank you! We’d rather be alone, we have great friends, community and satisfying life without them. We don’t want more from one person than before. We even want less, we don’t need someone who can support us financially. We only want loyalty, some level of intelligence and emotional maturity and someone who’s not broke and live with their parents. What a high expectation, wow 😆
Say it!
@ what’s also extremely disappointing in this podcast is when he set this double standard, how he answered Steven’s question about what he should look for in a partner and he replied that he should seek the interest in well being, the awareness of their needs, the values… but women should lower the standards to find a less educated guy who’s occasionally even shorter since height is overrated ( physical compatibility is not overrated imho) and he ‘s making excuses for men for 10 minutes. And he’s talking about how hard was their IVF in their mid 30s replying to the question what people should do when they hear their biological clock ticking… this man clearly doesn’t understand how hard is to find a decent man. Not a perfect one, an OKAY one… and what is this middle school level joking about how funny is to discuss their attraction to Idris Elba and Beyonce, when they were talking about attraction… this is not how the question was asked… real people have real problems with being attracted to other people besides their partner and that one needs solutions and loyalty and not making fun of it but addressing the lack of attraction in the relationship…. He was a huuuuge disappointment in this podcast, terrible.
Simple: you expect more than you can get… and you end with nothing 😉
Les Brown asks "Are you living together, or dying together?", this has stuck with me
lowering your standards is not the way to go
Are you such a 🤡 at judging that you cant pick someone from the middle? Just the *TOP* and *BOTTOM* ????
Is your discernment _THAT BAD?_
Then maybe yall shouldn't' have a choice at all, maybe we need to bring back patriarchy and have your fathers pick
Lowering my standards brought massive trauma. Pass.
Having standards is what keeps women safe or safer.
Same. Still dealing with it 22 years later and it robbed me of so much happiness.
I wound up marrying two sociopaths. I'm lucky to be alive.
Everytime I have tried to date since and had relationships, I have attracted the wrong men who if I had been more willing to be single, I would NEVER have dated. I'm always too understanding and forgiving when I should be walking away. Many women are like me.
So no, I'm not lowering my standards which definitely include waiting as long as I need to have sex. To me, this is a sacred act and yet, men move on or pressure you if you don't have sex at least by the third date.
Dude, use your hand or hire an escort but I and many women now want to get to know the guy really well. That takes time.
@@MariannaMujica I don't think you can lower your standards much more than what you have. You chose 2 sociopaths (diagnosed, I'm sure) and every single guy you dated was the wrong.
It's always interesting that the woman is never the cause of the contention...it's always the guy. Always.
@johnprice866 why should the woman be responsible for the man's actions sociopathic tendencies.
Sameeee… we love ourselves too much for our inner child to be tortured again. It’s not worth it
No one has to lower their standards... We just need to live in a real world with real people, not in a chronic fantasy world. Keep your standards real-neither lower nor higher. 😊
Ladies, do not lower your standards.
Trust me they don't lol
I had recently, I haven't dated since my ex hubby left. I thought that maybe I should again - it's been 7 years.
Now I've heard this, I'll stay as I am. I have children, there's enough love in my house already.
@@Madonnalitta1 just stop chasing chad and you won't have these problem. but whatever.
Yes yessss, keep chasing chad/tyrone who will never care about you, keep opening your legs for them, and when they dump you after they're finished, remember ladies _"never 'settle' "_
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Or maybe, since you're willing to use your time learning something, try therapy. Women prefer men that aren't a walking red flag. Hope this helps.
dark mind tricks?? so emotional manipulation, abuse and control? lovely.
The reality is that many educated young women now choose to go it alone
intresting enough. i thought education just propeled the capitalism, not make ppl really smart about life. so your slogan is just that, it got absolutely no wit to it.
the most depressed demographic is single childless women over 40.
The reality is they don't need a man. But many of them want a man. And something you don't need but still want is by definition a luxury item. Only 2% of men are deemed acceptable as a luxury item. And it's extremely entertaining to watch 100 women grab 2 chairs when the music stops in real life Musical Chairs.
men just aren't bringing much to the table other than the extra work of babying them (which most want)
That’s why they’re the most unintelligent and unhappy of the sexes. They initiate the highest divorce for no valid reason.
I never really thought of being sick as part of the equation when I was looking for a partner, but that is gonna be when you will truly realize if your partner is the real deal. Being useless/helpless and in pain for a long time is such a horrible feeling, and having to rely on someone who doesn’t want to care for you makes that feeling 100* worse.
One thing when they don't wanr to care of you,another when they gor example pay for you your needs (pretty basic) but fk act as you are the one to blame, that your illness ruins their life and now he has no joy and freedom.
What the data indicates is this:
_"In the corrected analysis, we find that wife’s (pooled) illness onset is a statistically significant predictor of divorce but husband’s is not, as we reported in the previously published paper. However, in the corrected analysis, we fail to reject the null hypothesis of no difference between the coefficients for wife’s pooled illness onset and husband’s pooled illness onset. This is contrary to the previously published findings in which we reported that we rejected this null hypothesis. _*_Based on the corrected analysis, we conclude that there are not gender differences in the relationship between gender, pooled illness onset, and divorce._*_ "_
_"What the studies revealed is that men leave because (in the first place) they were never happy in their marriages. They (men) were denied SEX and AFFECTION for many years. Their wives drove them crazy with their behavior by being argumentative, combative, ungrateful, not happy with anything he does, undermining him, emasculating him, and not giving him peace, that is why men are MORE LIKELY to leave when you are diagnosed with terminal illness because of the nature of the relationship PRIOR, why on earth would a man now take care of you given the hell you've given him?"_
There's a reason sickness is included in wedding vows. You should never date someone if you have even a doubt as to whether they'd be there for you if you were chronically or terminally ill. It should always be a criteria for assessing a relationship.
100% of my relationships ended because they were players. I'm more satisfied being by myself than worrying about my trust being betrayed.
They are wrong yes for cheating. But you have a type. Reflect and choose a different type. Most men are not cheaters. Most beautiful men, probably. 😂
@@WhatIsRealAnymoremost men are definitely cheater! FOH. Males are only as loyal as their best options.
@@WhatIsRealAnymore it's cute how you made her poor experience with men her own fault instead of holding men accountable to a higher standard of decency
Hate to say it but I have been a woman who tended to go for the super good looking men. Maybe I’ve got that man thing of being unusually looks oriented. And the same thing they cheat. Because they get so many opportunities. It’s a challenge I feel for you.
@@florance333 nope they are wrong. I clearly stated that. No tolerance for cheating. They are immature little s..ts. but I am an advocate of understanding why it happens. Not about blame I assure you. But if you keep on being cheated on, what is it in the person you are choosing that is like that? Or are you also doing something to push partners away. It is hard to self reflect. I truly mean no disrespect. It comes across like that in text. But I love open dialogue on the topic. S..t we've all been hurt by someone. I wish it on no one.
I dont think i could even be in a relationship now, because I now dont trust ANYBODY anymore. I had breast cancer in 2017, everybody turned their back on me and I went thru surgery, radiation and chemo ALONE. Nobody came back. Zero.
Wow! So sorry about it.
Today, with so many options people think they are looking for the “best” partner but without realizing it they are looking for the EASIEST partner. Theres a difference
Lowering your expectations is a path to lifelong misery.
No. Reflect on whether your expectations do not meet the reality of your existence and those around you and your culture. If your expectations are wrong, change them. Don't assume you are right. But agreed. Don't accept things that can endanger your life, etc.
That depends on where your current expectations are.
If you think lowering yours will make you miserable, your expectations are probably already too low.
That, or you forget that humans are flawed, and you want a unicorn. That, will make a person miserable.
Unrealistically high expectations is also a path to lifelong misery.
Unrealistic expectations is a lot more common way to lead to lifelong misery.
@@Thehulkster375exactly!!
I wanted to share this video with my partner but the tag line “Women Need To Lower Their Standards!” is a hard look lol (I am a man)
People used to marry young, without need for college degrees and without major debt. The couple would grow up together, learning life together. They had friends and would have game nights and go to dances. They had children young. Their children grew up together and the moms helped each other. The children could play outside while mom got stuff done inside (they were not hanging on her all day). There was COMMUNITY. We can criticize traditional living all we want...was it perfect, no. But dang, people sure seemed happier than today. And they had less money, less vacations, less modern conveniences. Relationships between family and friends really made life worth living. We want someone to make us happy but a single human being cannot replace community. Your spouse cannot be your mother, your father, your best friend, your neighbor, your cousin, your aunt, your child. No. Your spouse is your spouse. That is all. Stop trying to make them be your community.
And I'll add...we can be scared to think of taking a spouse for the rest of our life....But the duration of the rest of our life is unknown....it may be one month after a wedding, it may be 3 years, or we may die 10 years later. What is life without taking a risk? I dare to say weak men are scared of marriage and children....but I understand the fear because of the lack of quality women today. I also think our financial situations are very grave and are a huge cause for people not committing. I get it. Women are afraid of the lack of quality men. Men used to be proud to marry a woman. They were fulfilling their desire to protect her and provide for her. Having children was a man's destiny. To have the family name continue. To have pride in a life he built. The key in this discussion is.... people need to become better humans if they want to have a good human and produce a good future. Personally, I think that birth control, porn, and modern feminism ruined society. Add in corporate interests and it's a deadly combination.
@@MWroses And the various forms of disingenuous Social Media has taken away what used to be genuine community and human interaction.
The ♀ was also *controlled* for this to happen well. A necessity.
I thought I share this.
Also a childhood experience - if parents constantly say that we are staying in this marriage just because of you guys. That causes fear of commitment without even realising .
that just really clicked thank you
REMAIN SINGLE NEVER EVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS, SINGLE WOMEN ARE THE HAPPIEST!
Lol ok🤣
Pretty sure a woman in a happy, loving, caring relationship is happier.
@@At0micMeltd0wnnot what she meant 😂😂
@@At0micMeltd0wn no. There's research stating the contrary: single women with children are happier than married women. Go search for it. That's a reason why it's always men pushing marriage to woman or making fun of them for being single: single men are the worst of them all, married men are almost as happy as a single mother. But yeah, this means more single unhappy men, I guess that's why they keep on bashing all the single ladies 🤷♀
as a man of a certain age Iam always apprehensive when dealing with women claiming to be 'self loving single women', 1 major question that pops in the mind is how many men has she through since becoming sexually active ?
Yes, my ex left while I was sick and just had our baby. Afterward, someone told me not everyone has the strength to go through with a marriage.
Jesus christ. I'm so sorry
With all due respect, it’s not women who need to lower their standards; it’s men who need to step up and grow up emotionally.
Loll most men can F anything , what are you talking about
It’s about *boundaries*, not standards. Watering down your boundaries psychologically damages you.
The comments about women looking for men that earn more than them… you ignored the fact that if women have kids, they need to be supported and take time out of work. For the most part, women bear the physical, mental and emotional work of having kids. It’s incredibly distressing for many women to be forced back to work early and leave their baby due to the financial pressures. Of course we look for someone who can support us during the most vulnerable stage of our lives, and to support the financial wellbeing of the family during this time.
How about men lower their standards?? So sick of this BS being peddled to women. Us lowering our standards is what has gotten us here in the first place
What standards, do you perceive, men have that are unreasonable?
I totally agree, those male hosts talking about constant relationships, all they want is for women to worship men and be grateful. Such a spoiling attitude.
Women are much more complex, while picking a partner sometimes justifiable but also very skeptical mainly because of the media and that media is affecting mental health of both men and women, but mainly men because the negative representations of their gender. Men are more focused on physical attributes and sometimes emotional and psychological. where a women kind of looks at every minor detail of the future with that person and at the moment of talking to them. with that media bias which yes is fair, like men these days have to be really gentle and very careful to not accidently slip with a woman nowadays because of what the medias focuses on. it is multi-layered, and I know this isn't all women never said that it is just a lot of them who do. and it is somewhat fair based on "biological" factors and "psychological" factors but either way it is a impacting the culture and everything either way. I work with men sometimes, and I do a lot of societal research. it is catastrophic. the more connected we are online, the more disconnected the world is from the bigger issues and problems like the mental health crisis, the financial crisis and loneliness epidemic mixed in one big silent depression. both men and women are struggling.
Actually, single maoethers is what got us here. They raise undisciplined men and then people like you complain about the result.
Lowering your standards doesn't mean making your standards low. If your standards are met by less than 1% of the male population like "6'5 with blue eyes and works in finance" it's very unlikely you'll find and keep any man who meets those standards.
The fact that nobody talks about forbidden books on Revandles is so crazyy
This website was a great find! I purchased a book that’s already making a positive impact on my mindset. Fingers crossed it helps me overcome my fear of approaching women.
@@1OfAKind-e9qgood luck!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@1OfAKind-e9q What is the website?
Only the men who don’t want to better themselves ask women to lower their standards. He lost me at ‘worked in reality shows on relationships’.. no wonder those shows sometimes have unhealthy take on relationships. Good that I’ve not wasted my time watching such things.
Women need to level up
@@TheOlzee not as long as idiot man are accepting this bowl of crap. As long as you are still trying to persue them that long they will have this argument on their hands.
@@TheOlzee we are happier without you.
@@Sunflowerdn no one wants you
@@Sunflowerdn Thats statistically not true Women are on more depression meds now then ever.
Nope, not lowering my standards ever again. Thank you!
He's talking about people with obscenely high standards. Doesn't sound like you were that person.
So, good on you for wanting better!
Yes, the character of a person is so important. I overrode my sense and regretted it for many years, finally got delivered. Thank GOD.
@@Christoff8188 while offering what in return exactly? Dont you understand ppl. If you make it about exchange of value then you have to have value yourself.
Lower your expectations would be a better choice of words
@@Christoff8188 It sounds like she was _precisely_ that person
Chose chad, got rekt, "lowered" standards to _another_ chad got rekt again.
♀The gender that never learns.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish those were more accessible here.
Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram ?
On Instagram?
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Study showed women that lowered their standards were miserable and the relationship ended badly.
Speaking from a person from a matchmaking culture. Many marriages rely on the woman to make the marriage work. Families that arrange the couple are looking for three things mainly beauty, societal position, and money. They’re believe marriage goal is security and propagation of the next generation.
Many of my cousins are stuck in a working unhappy marriages. It’s just not part of the statistic.
My parents snd grandparents had arranged marriages. Yes they're all still married but they also all have traumatic toxic and abusive marriages and physically and mentally sick from it.
Yep. Not getting divorced DOESN'T mean a marriage is successful at all.
Those are anecdotal instances that cannot be extrapolated across a broad landscape of (modern or past) marriages. The inverse (“s xual liberation,” bed hopping & falling in and out of situstionships) hasn’t proven to be successful either. Or this guy would be out of a job.
My parents decided to marry each other and they’ve also had a toxic and traumatic relationship. I believe the stat that most regular marriages are equally or even more miserable than arranged marriages
@@bamboosho0tbut it is also impossible to rely on any “happiness” stats coming from arranged marriages from a long time ago, when women didn’t have a voice or choice.
There is very limited reporting on the truth of arranged marriages. People won't even answer honestly.
I was married, for 25 years. Then finally got my divorce. That I`d been longing for all the time. Had so much fun, and really enjoyed life with friends, and being single. Then unfortunately got into a new relationship far too soon. And that lasted for some years too. Before I got out of that in the end as well. And got back to my beloved single life! When people asked me when I would be in a relationship again, I said NEVER! And I`ve kept that promise for many years now. I just enjoy being single so much, I will definitely not get in to an other one again. I see lots of women doing the same thing. And loving it as much as I do. (don`t live in the US) It was different earlier, but now, when woman are making their own money, and can support themselves. We got more choices of what to do, luckily. My mum said on her death bed, that she had wasted 40 years on my dad!! And yes she did! So I learned from that, not to stay in something you don`t need to. But do what makes you the happiest! 😍😊😊
Steven always knows someone in his friendship group that fits the scenario🤣😭
If you are going to have children, get married Steven because having children will automatically have legal implications if one partner leaves. Children are forever so if you are afraid of commitment, don’t have children. If you want children, bite the bullet and get married. Man up!
Fact!
Agreed!
I agree 100%.
He's a child. Best not to father children.
He is a good guy. He is just afraid to embrace the messiness of life.
More women "relationship coaches" please. Men always think they know, but they don't/can't experience life from our perspective and sometimes have no idea. No thank you to lowering our standards, yes to prioritizing what's truly important (no one has it all!)
He is so obnoxious, this guy. I have a great guy with sweet breath and we only had one problem to work out and it is resolved. We fell madly in love and I'd have it no other way. Love does not come along along very often. For anyone.
He will never do it because these podcasts are geared toward men and even if this isn’t “red pill” content it definitely leans to favor the men. You only gotta take a look at how the whole conversation about marriage went to see this guy probably thinks he’s too good to marry his girlfriend, or the segment about how he refused to apologize to her. I was cringing through the whole thing and I truly feel bad for her. Men don’t benefit from women having standards which is why they’re never gonna bring in a woman to advocate on our behalf.
Im a man... ✋🏿. He spoke about communication, which is what most of us have problems with. This is why most women seem to be unhappy. Because men can't figure out how to make you happy. If you cannot articulate this with him, he won't understand what the problem is. If he refuses to change... You have to blame yourself for staying or picking these types. Respectfully ladies 😂. Don't come for my head.
@ramire7heavenz252 I totally agree. I approve of clear communication and clear boundaries. No one should not put up with poor treatment or disrespect, and we should all definitely have high standards for our partners.
Yes!!🙌🏼
I'm surprised you were shocked that men are more likely to leave a terminally ill partner by 600+%. Women know once his eyes are no longer delighted, you're on your way out 😂. Not all men of course.
That’s disgusting. I didn’t need to know that. I always found men repulsive but now I think it went past the point of no return. Make me want to remain single for the rest of my life.
just most.
Women feel like they shouldn't have to do anything. How am I going to put any effort into that? Back to tinder.
I wonder if men are capable of feeling true love.
@rebeccaa.3121 All humans have the capacity for love.
One problem with being human is that our brains can be rewired by all sorts of life experiences, especially childhood trauma ( which affects Attachment styles).
Imo, if we want better people in the world we need to be better parents. Parenthood movie, 1980s...'you need a license to drive a car, you need a license to buy a dog. But they'll let any butt reaming asshole be a father'. This applies to women too. There are plenty of women who are bad actors when it comes to relationships.
Please don't let that engram ruin your life. Make friends with women who KNOW men are capable of love, stay away from femcells. Be vigilant about the information you let into your brain....shit in, shit behaviour and beliefs out. My best wishes to you 😙
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Sorry Steve, I'm struggling to listen to this one.
My standards are pretty low. Just wanted a decent guy who I can love and treat well, honest, and caring. But sadly these traits are hard to see.
I have been out with and dated many men that werent good looking, yet still ended up with dangerous men. No way I would lower my standards. I stay single to protect myself. Men are getting scarier and scarier these days.
I like freedom and that's a choice I've made so have many other women.
There are many decent men in similar situations. Shame decent men and women struggle to find each other.
Freedom isn’t a choice you made it was given to you by men, ironically
Having standards it’s what keeps us safe or somewhat safer!
💯 And women typically have more to lose in these situations. More vulnerable to physical abuse (even murder) for typically being smaller stature as well as pregnancy, being left alone with a child.
I think saying lower your standards is not the right way to communicate what men are trying to say. I think it’s better to say reprioritize your standards. It sounds like you have done that. With what you were saying about safety I think that is 1000% reasonable to start your standards there. Feeling safe is where deep connections can start. For a lot of women the standards they express are more about status symbols instead of being about character traits.
Thanks. Ye many woman make the decent ones look bad. I had a male colleague that treated me badly and then once he got to know me he was really nice. I nearly quit my job because of how horrible he was.
We later became friends and I asked why he was so nasty, he said it was because I am pretty and he assumed that I would be the type of girl that takes advantage of men and go for a certain type. This was upsetting to hear that I was so badly judged based on my looks.
He would love a relationship with me but even though he is extra nice now, the fact he was so horrible, controlling, manipulative, bad tempered and used many mind games for a long time and with a past of men doing the same, I can not forget how he was. He says he has changed but I am not too sure. I told him that i had decided a few years back that i am staying single due to past traumas and i wont be getting it a relationship with anyone again. He says he is happy as friends, as better than not at all. We have been good friends since but I tend to not see him too much as dont want to give wrong impression and I've said as much too. I never want to be that person that gives hope, so I remind him now and again. He seems good with it and it seems to work.
So I just stick friendships with men and women and nothing more.
No complications that way and much safer too.
If by some miracle I found someone that I 100% trusted maybe but I'm too scared from past traumas to ever take that risk ever again.
I like a man that is on same wavelength as me, sadly those men arent so forthcoming and neither am I. Usually the geek types is what I'm attracted too because they have similar interests and usually deep thinkers and very empathetic like me. But we are sadly too shy so many of us never meet or spark conversation. There was a geeky guy I liked loads. We flirted a bit but both of us were too shy to say we liked eachother. They i gave impression i wasnt interested because i got awkward around him the more i liked him. So we missed out. He is only guy I liked that much.
This is why many single men and women dont get together, because of shyness.
Then the over confident men and women are out there taking advantage of the more meek men and women, then breaking their trust in having relationships altogether. So sad really.
Nah smelling rancid definitely does immediately invalidate you!! Are you kidding? I'm not kissing a smelly mouth, go to the doctor and fix it!! Is he telling me to lower this fundamental standard??
A man with a nasty mouth can even infect your lady parts if he tries to go down there with his nssty mouth.
Do you think he is?
Yeah!!! Imagine wearing a mask on a profile picture for years after pandemic is over. Something for sure smells in the brains of such person. Needs to go to psychiatrist and fix it! No way I'm lowering this reasonable expectation.
😂😂😂😂
I think you need to relisten.
There's a lot of nuance in this interview that's going over people's heads and it shows in this comment section. Like good lord, when the dude says "lower your expectations", he's not saying "give toxic people a chance". He's suggesting, and I'll use modern lingo, if there's an insignificant "ick" about someone that can probably be easily addressed, but that person has many other redeeming and attractive qualities, maaaaaaaaaybe don't write them off immediately for something insignificant. No one is perfect. When he says "lie to your partner", he's not advocating lying about things that would be game-ending for the relationship, but moreso for things that don't need to be said that would simply create unnecessary tension. For example, you don't need to inform your partner if a person you find physically attractive walks by, that you found that person physically attractive. Unless you're both at a very comfortable place in your relationship with each other where you can both point out random people in a crowd and be like, "Welp, they're hot", then just keep those thoughts to yourself.
Exactly. Like maybe their flaws in hygiene CAN actually be compensated for in their resilience, loyalty, dedication or other high value traits.
I understand, but I think "lower your standards" isn't the best choice of words
I believe he said lower your expectations, not standards. Big difference.
@@annaogilvie2524 Ah, you're right, he did say expectations. Indeed a big difference between the two. I agree with him on lowering expectations as a point. I believe people tend to forget that extraordinary people are just that, because the internet makes it too easy to see examples of the extraordinary all the time. If being extraordinary comes off as being ordinary, then normal ordinary can come off as lazy or not talented enough to be worth someone's time. At the end of the day, the vast majority of people are ordinary, myself included. Tempering expectations can make it easier to find a match in someone that wouldn't have otherwise been considered before.
I honestly clicked the video just because I knew there were going to be a lot of juicy comments from angry women. It's the kind of bait people can't resist.
In marriage it says in sickness and health, for better for worse - this covers all the ups and downs of life 🎉🎉
I won’t live my life with a high probability that my life will shorten if I have a man in my life. Studies have shown that single women are happier. I’m proof of that. It’s what makes you happy. Not everyone is happy being married.
While I do want a man and have been single my whole life, you are right. When I looked back and every time I entertained a man, my physical and mental health declined. I value myself way too much now so I’m not going to lower my standards. Thanks for proving that singleness is not a curse.
Speaking in hyperbolic terms isn't useful. Death rate for women in the US who are in a relationship is about 1 per 100,000. Death rate for driving is about 14 per 100,000. Hope you aren't driving if you think a partner is the true threat.
@@clarissaamiata1448 so when was the last time you had sex?
@@clarissaamiata1448 whats the poof, tho? what the hell.. you realise this are not objective sciences? you dont need majority to think the same for you to have your own belief
@@At0micMeltd0wnHaving a partner is optional, driving is not. Stupid comparison. Next.
Being IN LOVE with YOUR person (if you believe you're with the right person), it will override those thoughts of not wanting to commit to them. People make exceptions for what they want. If a man doesn't want to marry you or show you that level of commitment, it's because they don't see you as important enough to make that long-term commitment. That's my pov and what I've seen throughout the years. They're either not ready to commit or you're not who they want to commit to long-term.
So their commitment is subpar is it’s only a bf/gf status?
@TheOlzee Not necessarily. I believe gf/bf status is a necessary step. But I believe if 2 people are in a relationship and one wants marriage and the other doesn't, at some point, there must be a compromise.
What I've noticed and experienced is that a man or even a woman will say, "I don't believe in marriage" or "I don't want to get married," or "I don't want kids," but many of these same people will break their own boundaries with someone they're head over heels for or who they believe is worth it.
If I am in love and believe I'm with the person I want to be with for the rest of my life, I will commit. If commitment looks like marriage for my partner, because a relationship is about compromise, I will consider that. If my reasons are, "they could take my money in the future," "they could leave me in the future," overall, just being afraid of the future "what-ifs," "unknowns" or "failures," than I'm choosing to focus on the negative, and allow that to deter me from the possibility of feeling fully satisfied in my relationship with the person I truly love. Because if your partner wants marriage and you don't, then there's dissatisfaction in the relationship already.
I understand that everyone has different views and values, and I might not be considering other "possible" reasons that could be valid from my pov, but that is yet to be determined, lol.
Men/Women who do not commit to marriage most times it's because they are afraid of losing something and they're not willing to put it all on the line for love (most times because they aren't ready or they don't feel strongly enough for the person they are with). Of course, you can live and love a bf/gf til death do you part, and I get that some people are logical and scientific, and they lead less with emotion, but there's an emotional part to being human, that I strongly believe must be acknowledged and fed. The majority of women want to KNOW that their person, their true love, will risk it all for the sake of loving them. We're not asking men to do anything criminal or irrational. We just want you to say, "I love you enough to go there with you because I DO (pun) love you and you're more important to me than the fears, the unknowns and the risks".
To simplify it. If you're bf/gf, there's no risk in saying you love someone. You break up, you go your separate way, there's no mountain to descend, there's nothing. To us, that means "you're not worthy enough for me to risk it all for." Period.
Women need to lower the standards? Really? How about men need to step it up?!
Well the problem with that line of thinking is that in the modern day women lose with that mindset. Women’s standards are out of whack due to their perceived level of options. In that women today typically don’t offer the traits that men look for. Because of that women are put in an awkward position. The men that are good with women have a lot of options and have no incentive to settle down. The other group of men don’t see the value in being in committed relationships. That leaves women with very few options. Status only serves the purpose of feeding ego. Does nothing for long term loving commitment. A lot of women value status over everything. Not only does he have to be successful, it has to be while he is wearing a suit type of ideas.
@@Tony_Calvertwrong! most women rather stay single. nothing is lost
@@Tony_Calvert What traits are men looking for that women don’t offer?! You assume all men want the same thing. Personally, I prefer an educated, driven woman who has a mind of her own. I prefer a woman to share my life with, as partners. I want to challenge someone and have them challenge me. I don’t want to serve as the sole provider for a woman who is tasked with serving my every need. I find that creepy.
women rated 80% of men as below average. ur average women is completely out of touch with reality and wildly overestimate their value.
@@Tony_Calvert this line of thinking just shows how clueless men truly are. And it probably comes from a good place but the answer could be standing right in front of your face and you would still fail to see it. In what world are 90% of women looking for men with status? Sir, we are trying to get our very below average men to simply put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher, do a load of laundry every once in a while, step up and watch the kids here and there so we can catch a breather cause in case you hadn’t noticed we are also busting our asses working full time jobs to appease all them 50-50 men, and we are STILL being met with resistance being told our expectations are too high! and you coming here talking about wOmEn OnLy wAnT sTaTuS. Respectfully, sit down.
I cannot believe this guy is 50 years old. This proves the wellbeing of his. Damn he looks young!
He’s gorgeous. He clearly looks after himself. But darker skinned people age much much better than whities. I’m a whitie, so I can say freely we age terribly.
Which gentlemen is 50 years old? Is it Steven?
Black don’t crack
Don`t believe everything you see or read on the internet.
I know, right? I thought he was in his 30s!!!!
This makes me furious. The success of arranged marriages rests on the willingness of the wife to be fixed in the cultural architecture.
The wife? Arranged marriages are arranged for both parties.
Also not divorcing doesn’t equal success. Just because people are less likely to divorce because it’s looked down upon doesn’t mean it’s a happy or successful marriage. Unless success is measured differently and only by outside appearances.
@@Aliciae411 It's almost like the entire premise of marriage has always been unnatural.
@@thejanglezclannatural doesn’t mean good or virtuous… we are not animal we can use our head
@@Aliciae411it’s a pretty good metric for success however.
It's the quality of man that a women must look at, whether he has money or not (but don't settle for someone who is indigent). My husband has taken care of me through sickness and health, body changes, you name it, and had been loyal and loving all the way through. I looked at the person I was marrying, a hard worker, family-oriented, loyal person. However, I will say that a man having money does not mean that he will be disloyal or unloving; financial security is an important aspect of finding a mate.
A good friend went through a horrible time with a very aggressive type of breast cancer. Her husband went completely crazy as she always was the stronger part in their relationship. He did not visit her in the hospital. His explanation: he did not like hospitals and he told her that she smelled of cancer. I could not believe it. She divorced right after surgery and organized a party 3 years later after treatment had finished. The divorce went very ugly. He tried to get as much money as possible and stopped working. So she had to pay him an alimony.
Horrible story to say the least 😮
Disgusting pos. Showed his true colors and many are like that!
So he was a shit to begin with
One more reason to stay single as a woman.
Any man who tells women to lower our standards should be treated with suspicion.
Nothing good comes from lowered standards. It may help mediocre men who are otherwise unqualified for partnership but it's to women's detriment.
Ladies, trust your instincts. Staying single and celibate is a good option that many of us are choosing. And according to studies, single childfree women are the happiest demographic.
I have been involved for 20 years in a service business encountering random married people, most of whom are financially comfortable and stable emotionally. Out of the thousands of married couples, only one of them was truly happy in their relationship. The others mostly had codependent relationships and despised their spouse. Often, the men, when not accompanied by their wife, would phone their girlfriend in my presence. In my opinion in most of these cases, they stay together because to divorce would cause both parties a large decline in their finances. Also, racism is of course a huge problem, but compared to how things were 60 years ago great improvements have been made.
Most important part of a relationship is KINDNESS!
🎯🎯🎯
Spot on
Keep secrets from me and I'll never speak to you again. Way to have no trust between you.
My standards...no cheating. Honesty. Cares about each other's best interests. I'm not lowering my standards from that bare minimum. Won't be listening to this jackass
Because you don’t lie right?
💯 Agreed
I think the issue is really what those secrets are about. The reality is you're never going to know everything about your partner down to the smallest details. So it really comes down to what you as individuals and a couple decide is important when it comes to honesty that can impact your life together.
I hate lying. I struggle to lie because it feels immoral. I would want an honest man. Lying is toxic.
Such bad advice.
Honesty is a moral standard that all humans should strive for, even if it's difficult sometimes r@TheOlzee
Pornography should not be normalized and is a relationship killer.
This topic should have been discussed more in depth. If porn is replacing love making the relationship dies along with the partner who is being rejected because the other partner just wants to watch porn. It’s a huge issue in modern relationships and these guys just glossed over it… it’s pretty obvious why that is lol.
Bruh, I'm not dating someone with bad breath or smells😂😂😂🤣
Ohh, nooo! Women need to lower their standards, otherwise....men who don't meet these standards will remain single 😂
Ohh... well... then so be it! In the meantime, we women might actually be happier single, according to studies! 💅
+ unsubscribing
If women are happier single it’s inly because of the world men have built for you to do so.
@@TheOlzeelmao. No. Thats not going to work.
no one wants a relationship anymore, neither man nor woman, if you are not up to date, so your posturing is only as good as your misguided belife that you are somehow wanted.
especially man that you want to have a relationship with dont want them, they raised their standars and see where it got us.
Me too and I’m a woman. When I meet you please be healthy. If you don’t look healthy I don’t look your way. That’s because when you entertain the unhealthy. They shed unhealthy habits in your presence. In there absence some of those unhealthy habits. Will attempt to attach to you. Protect your temple at all times.