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Hey Geoffrey, I got a short question. I ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 1yeae and 9 months then she broke up. I aknowledged my mistakes and told I her need to do better. We ve been in no contact for 2weeks now. When is the right time to message her ? You often talk about long term relationships but when is the point to call it long term? Many thanks in advance
These types of videos are, in my opinion, the best to learn from. It's raw, it's real, it's strangely empowering. It takes a lot of strength to look within and work on yourself. And, the reward for doing so is not only a better relationship but also a cleaner heart. Thank you ❤
Right. It takes a strong person to be able to look squarely to his own inner demons and admit his own flaws and less-than-stellar behaviors. The man who continues to tout his self-proclaimed strengths, while never looking within at his own flaws SOUNDS strong, but the people closest to him usually knows the person & true value of the person behind that mask extremely well.
I have been listening and following you for the past month. I realized I had a lot to play in the demise in my relationship, but the great thing is I know what to do in my next relationship going forward. Thank you!
It's humbling and painful when you realize that there is a lot you've done to betray the relationship, and usually realize that you've also been betraying it long before your partner did. But that humbling realization is the start of some amazing growth.
I definitely failed on multiple levels. No one is innocent in this situation. Honestly, I didn’t deliver on all levels! I got so busy with life & career, I thought I’d get a chance to make up for any shortcomings when things slowed down but life just doesn’t ease up. I just thought if I focused on work I’d be able to give them the life they always wanted & then we could focus more on each other more later. Unfortunately that didn’t happen. You think because you’re married they will stay there through the good & bad times? Not everyone is as loyal & committed as you myself learned. Don’t postpone fixing your relationship, you never know what you have till it’s gone! Now she moved out & we’re getting a divorce. It’s definitely the darkest time in my lifetime.. I hope she finds peace & happiness.
1. True, people usually cheat for a reason - which is a series of mistakes or deliberate actions of their partner. 2. True, one always should think if they knowingly or unknowingly hurt the cheating party and learn from it. 3. False, no, mistakes are not the same as deliberate betrayal. They do not justify cheating. Cheating is always deliberate and always worse than breaking up or speaking up. If one doesn't like something one needs to do those two first. You are mostly right, but your delivery is generalised and convoluted.
I believe that you’re right in terms of it’s the man’s responsibility to lead the relationship and build safety for his woman to express herself. However, cheating is still cheating no matter the circumstance. It tells a lot about that person’s integrity, or lack there of. In any situation, the person should just end that relationship, rather than cheating. That’s my opinion. What do you think Geoffrey?
If a woman refuses to give sex to a man .. and then he cheats and justifies himself he cheated because he didn't get the sex.. and later she says no matter what a cheat is a cheat how would that man feel about it..
I need help so bad, my wife and I are separated for about 7 weeks now, and she is having an affair. I cannot afford Geoffrey's course, and i am feeling 10000% hopeless on the steps to take to get through this. I dont know what else to do.
Man, I feel that pain too. But the one thing you can’t do is rush through the process. You feel panic and pain, you want to get rid of it as soon as possible. I have been there. The best things for you to do is look within yourself and see what it is that she didn’t like about you. Be calm and try to focus on yourself because nothing you can do will change the situation. As sad as that sounds, she made her decision and you really can only focus on your self improvement.
Keep watching his videos, you will get so much from them. At least it will help reduce the anxiety you feel. If you look hard enough, you will find enough guides from his videos to help you change even if it's 3x better than your current self nonetheless, it's a good start.
It seems to me you’re doing what you can with your current living situation. You may not be able to afford the program, but at least you realize seeking help outside of yourself and your peers is an option
My partner had an affair twice and the second time I realized that I destroyed safety had to admit it by not blaming her nor playing the victim mindset. I told her that I will take it as a positive and will start working on myself now I am able to improve in identity shifting and bettering myself
Thanks for another informative video. Always helps to just step back and look at how one has contributed to the situation. Great Job! The writer in me wants to know what happened to your right hand... I bet there's a really cool superhero story behind that lol. 😁😁 Thanks again.
Absolutely both partners play a role and we have to take ownership of our actions. I would say though that they can go do that even when everything is right but not because they are evil or dumb, but rather because they struggle (trauma) to understand what healthy looks like and gets scared.
Im losing miserably. Im panicking, im emotional, im everything im not supposed to be. I need help, and i need guidence, but i cannot afford Geoffreys program. Im begging someone from the program to reach out to me and help guide me. I understand the videos to an extent but i have no idea when to apply them. I have no idea when its the rihjt time to initiate communication, im so fucking lost and broken. Im trying so hard to untether, im trying to implement a bulletproof vest, i just dont know what to do....
Sorry but I don't agree. At best, you're right but you're still better off investing your energy in someone new who may be content with less, or more tolerant to things not being perfect 100% of the time.
Everyone is free to live their life how they want. Hopefully, you aren't wasting the pain / doing things to repeat the same pain repeatedly. All the best!
you're missing the point of video, while its true those are nasty behaviour but ask yourself did you really give your partners they needs and feel save with you or its just self fulfillment
Piotre - Tell me you didn't watch the video without telling me you didn't watch the video :) @@yadirect Thank you. Exactly my point. I did say, I will get a bunch of negative and hateful comments! :)
@GeoffreySetiawan Hi Goeffrey, i have been following your videos and did a couple of the master class calls. Very informative and is really helpful to made important genuine changes while together or not. I do want to understand more about contact while separated. While i have left the door open and make changes one step at the time with your helpful videos, im still trying to understand how to contact her, in the correct way, don t want to be pushy nor disrupt her space, as well not for her to think i dont care. I have been replying to her text in a positive way and keep working on my self, should i remind her about the door Is open? and as to she would like to chat? As every feedback i get from her is good for me as i see what else i can keep working on! Any help is appreciated Goeffrey. I hope you see this message!
But from what I have gotten from ruthlessly studying his videos and breaking them down, I believe you need to get to the point where you've untethered from the outcome. You still have some fear as to how she'd respond, and that will affect how you will interact with her. Your BPV needs to be on point no matter the resistance. The frame works are there to help you dance through the resistance. You will have that silent confidence when everything has aligned.
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Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCEP138DS
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
Hey Geoffrey, I got a short question.
I ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 1yeae and 9 months then she broke up. I aknowledged my mistakes and told I her need to do better. We ve been in no contact for 2weeks now. When is the right time to message her ?
You often talk about long term relationships but when is the point to call it long term?
Many thanks in advance
These types of videos are, in my opinion, the best to learn from.
It's raw, it's real, it's strangely empowering.
It takes a lot of strength to look within and work on yourself. And, the reward for doing so is not only a better relationship but also a cleaner heart.
Thank you ❤
Right. It takes a strong person to be able to look squarely to his own inner demons and admit his own flaws and less-than-stellar behaviors.
The man who continues to tout his self-proclaimed strengths, while never looking within at his own flaws SOUNDS strong, but the people closest to him usually knows the person & true value of the person behind that mask extremely well.
I have been listening and following you for the past month. I realized I had a lot to play in the demise in my relationship, but the great thing is I know what to do in my next relationship going forward. Thank you!
It's humbling and painful when you realize that there is a lot you've done to betray the relationship, and usually realize that you've also been betraying it long before your partner did.
But that humbling realization is the start of some amazing growth.
I definitely failed on multiple levels. No one is innocent in this situation. Honestly, I didn’t deliver on all levels! I got so busy with life & career, I thought I’d get a chance to make up for any shortcomings when things slowed down but life just doesn’t ease up. I just thought if I focused on work I’d be able to give them the life they always wanted & then we could focus more on each other more later. Unfortunately that didn’t happen. You think because you’re married they will stay there through the good & bad times? Not everyone is as loyal & committed as you myself learned. Don’t postpone fixing your relationship, you never know what you have till it’s gone! Now she moved out & we’re getting a divorce. It’s definitely the darkest time in my lifetime.. I hope she finds peace & happiness.
Nah dude, it's her fault
She wasn't worth your time in the first place
But try to learn from the situation
You killed it on this video Geoffrey.
1. True, people usually cheat for a reason - which is a series of mistakes or deliberate actions of their partner.
2. True, one always should think if they knowingly or unknowingly hurt the cheating party and learn from it.
3. False, no, mistakes are not the same as deliberate betrayal. They do not justify cheating. Cheating is always deliberate and always worse than breaking up or speaking up. If one doesn't like something one needs to do those two first.
You are mostly right, but your delivery is generalised and convoluted.
I believe that you’re right in terms of it’s the man’s responsibility to lead the relationship and build safety for his woman to express herself. However, cheating is still cheating no matter the circumstance. It tells a lot about that person’s integrity, or lack there of. In any situation, the person should just end that relationship, rather than cheating. That’s my opinion.
What do you think Geoffrey?
Did you watch the video? What did I say about this?
If a woman refuses to give sex to a man .. and then he cheats and justifies himself he cheated because he didn't get the sex.. and later she says no matter what a cheat is a cheat how would that man feel about it..
Thanks for putting this out.
I have alot of self check to do.
I need help so bad, my wife and I are separated for about 7 weeks now, and she is having an affair. I cannot afford Geoffrey's course, and i am feeling 10000% hopeless on the steps to take to get through this. I dont know what else to do.
Man, I feel that pain too. But the one thing you can’t do is rush through the process. You feel panic and pain, you want to get rid of it as soon as possible. I have been there.
The best things for you to do is look within yourself and see what it is that she didn’t like about you. Be calm and try to focus on yourself because nothing you can do will change the situation. As sad as that sounds, she made her decision and you really can only focus on your self improvement.
Keep watching his videos, you will get so much from them. At least it will help reduce the anxiety you feel. If you look hard enough, you will find enough guides from his videos to help you change even if it's 3x better than your current self nonetheless, it's a good start.
It seems to me you’re doing what you can with your current living situation.
You may not be able to afford the program, but at least you realize seeking help outside of yourself and your peers is an option
My partner had an affair twice and the second time I realized that I destroyed safety had to admit it by not blaming her nor playing the victim mindset. I told her that I will take it as a positive and will start working on myself now I am able to improve in identity shifting and bettering myself
My partner didnt cheat but after a year she told me never fell in love with me, can you PLEASE make a video on this, thank you!
There is the exception to every rule.
But exceptions do not disprove the rule. :)
I'd like to do the extended payment plan! Would someone be able to help me out with that??
Thanks for another informative video. Always helps to just step back and look at how one has contributed to the situation. Great Job!
The writer in me wants to know what happened to your right hand... I bet there's a really cool superhero story behind that lol. 😁😁
Thanks again.
But can I accept them back cos I don't want her again after cheating on me
Absolutely both partners play a role and we have to take ownership of our actions. I would say though that they can go do that even when everything is right but not because they are evil or dumb, but rather because they struggle (trauma) to understand what healthy looks like and gets scared.
Im losing miserably. Im panicking, im emotional, im everything im not supposed to be. I need help, and i need guidence, but i cannot afford Geoffreys program. Im begging someone from the program to reach out to me and help guide me. I understand the videos to an extent but i have no idea when to apply them. I have no idea when its the rihjt time to initiate communication, im so fucking lost and broken. Im trying so hard to untether, im trying to implement a bulletproof vest, i just dont know what to do....
Sorry but I don't agree. At best, you're right but you're still better off investing your energy in someone new who may be content with less, or more tolerant to things not being perfect 100% of the time.
Everyone is free to live their life how they want. Hopefully, you aren't wasting the pain / doing things to repeat the same pain repeatedly. All the best!
You are manipulator. Cheating is a nasty dealbreaker. It does not matter what was before. Anyone can finish the relation in better way anytime.
you're missing the point of video, while its true those are nasty behaviour but ask yourself did you really give your partners they needs and feel save with you or its just self fulfillment
Piotre - Tell me you didn't watch the video without telling me you didn't watch the video :)
@@yadirect Thank you. Exactly my point. I did say, I will get a bunch of negative and hateful comments! :)
@@GeoffreySetiawan can you post about needy and how to stop it as you notice from my email iam like that. i want to be better person
@@yadirect Look up my videos on untethering, power in relationships, and positive masculinity!
@GeoffreySetiawan
Hi Goeffrey, i have been following your videos and did a couple of the master class calls. Very informative and is really helpful to made important genuine changes while together or not. I do want to understand more about contact while separated. While i have left the door open and make changes one step at the time with your helpful videos, im still trying to understand how to contact her, in the correct way, don t want to be pushy nor disrupt her space, as well not for her to think i dont care. I have been replying to her text in a positive way and keep working on my self, should i remind her about the door Is open? and as to she would like to chat? As every feedback i get from her is good for me as i see what else i can keep working on! Any help is appreciated Goeffrey. I hope you see this message!
Geoffrey's response to this will be, if you're asking this question, then you haven't understood the frameworks or made the mindshift.
But from what I have gotten from ruthlessly studying his videos and breaking them down, I believe you need to get to the point where you've untethered from the outcome.
You still have some fear as to how she'd respond, and that will affect how you will interact with her. Your BPV needs to be on point no matter the resistance.
The frame works are there to help you dance through the resistance.
You will have that silent confidence when everything has aligned.
@Purplecheese1 you are right on both replies, and yes the first one is quite accurate. Thanks