Cheating triggers a toxic relationship. It just changes the other person from being supportive to being toxic. And it's sad because some people tries to play victim and does guilt tripping which makes you feel na kasalanan mo pa na nag cheat sila. 🥺
The problem is some people's reason of listening is just to reply, not to understand. As partners, you must learn the art of communicating WITH the effort of really understanding each other. It's not you against your partner rather, you and your partner against the problem.
Actually nararanasan kopo yan ngayon. Laging pinapamukha sakin lahat ng pagkakamali ko. Pero lahat ng pagkakamali ng partner ko lagi niyang pinagtatakpan o hindi niya pinupuna😔
@@heizelle3888 Same here tanggap ko naman ang pagkakamali ko at humingi ng chance para makapag bago at makabawi pero wala ng excitement :( kasalanan ko din naman :(
Psychological effects of false accusations in a relationship are very real. Being constantly accused of something you didn't do tears into the very heart and core of your identity.
"Your feelings are invalidated... and that insights fear... you don't trust your partner well enough to understand you" "the freedom of becoming the person your supposed to be is lost" I hate how accurate you are. 🙃
Oh.. This just opened my eyes, I'm now fully aware at how things are so toxic between us. No matter how I confronted him for the better, it do feel like I was being judged rather than being understood
A week ago I realized these things and was able to let go of a toxic relationship. Sana kayo rin because being in a relationship that is very unhealthy is exhausting. I used to suppress my own feelings just to avoid him to feel that I don't understand him. There were times when i'd start up a fight then will end up na susumbatan pako. Times when i'd feel lonely, because I can never find the perfect comfort from him. Times when I would feel like he's stoping me from my own growth because even going to gym is restricted, hair cuts, wearing dresses. And now, I hope he learns from our previous relationship. I still love him tho, but I can't always be the dominant one.
There are points in this video that helped me realize the actions that I should have and will portray towards my girlfriend and the things that I need to change for myself and for the betterment of our relationship. Thank you for making things clear, precise and straight to the point. I will reflect on the things that you have mentioned and I will strive for a healthier relationship with her. Thank you!
I also experience unhealthy relationship. There's a lot of struggle. I thought as long as I can give all the support and love to my partner ok na kaso hindi ko alam nasasakal na pala siya. Now I know how to handle this kind of experience thanks for sharing a very knowledgeable informations. Trust and communication is very important.
New subscriber here. Tagos sobra!I was in denial for many years, but I was too glad I realized how toxic my relationship was. I got my freedom back yeheyyyy and I don’t care anymore if I am getting old and single. What’s important is I was able to save my heart from drowning and looking forward for that special someone. God is great! Just keep the faith and positivity guys!
That’s how I feel ! Even thought I want to talk and speak up about how i feel , I feel like he will tell me “ what are you saying again or his not trying to understand what I am trying to say . I feel like his the only one whose the right to say things . That’s why I rather keep it to myself how I feel because I don’t want to get judge . I tried my best and to everything to make him happy , it he doesn’t see that .
I just watched this last night, so many things came up on my mind and made me realize, where am I rn sa relasyon, I hope it won't happened na ppunta sa punto na obsessive and mging toxic. She's always be the right and, controlling me about everything I want to do,Pinapayuhan ko sha na sometimes we need to be more understanding sa mga bagay2 at mging considerate. Bago palang kami 2 weeks na pero pinpafeel nya sakin na pra nya akong empleyado sa companya na lahat ng decision ko na against with her gingawa nyang negotiation to deal with me.Paghindi ako pumayag case closed agad, hindi man lng nya pinpakinggan yung gsto ko sabihin to be understood and clear sa knya kong bakit minsan nakakasakal na. Pero thanks po nito nalalabas ko ang bigat ng dinidibdib ko.. You helped alot of people na maiintinhan nla kong saan ka nga ba sa relasyon na hihirapan. Kaya salamat talaga ng subra..m
Buti nalang andito si boss Darbs! Salamat sa mga word of wisdom mo kase grabe I learned alot to my previous relationship 2 years and 2 years din akong nakipag balikan sa kanya akala ko mananalo ako sa huli un pala hindi dahil siya na ang nag tulak sakin para bumitaw na at hindi ko na kayang maibalik pa ung relationship namin noon. Well kasalanan ko naman talaga bat pa umabot ng 2years ung pakikipag balikan ko sa kanya pero sa 2 years nayan alam ko it's a waste of time at marami talaga akong natutunan. Salamat Sir!! I'll be the right Man for someone😊☺️
Thank you for this Kuya Darb's. Marami akong na realize ngayon nsa TOXIC RELATIONSHIP pla ako. Sana maging okay na kmi ksi my baby na kmi ei. Huhu 😭😢😢😭
That's good to hear. Cus we all have toxic traits. That we somehow ignore. It's better you went here this early. And then, You and your partner can discuss and fix the problem asap.
@@spectrem-4157 Sad thing is we already broke up. We just recently broke up because of these. I'll just take this time to make myself better and maybe someday if god allows, we will be together again more matured.
I’m in a toxic and unhealthy relationship for almost 11years. But we already ended it up. I’m still in a process of moving on like still in so much pain rn, but he already have someone new. But I’m still holding on, because I believe someday somehow, this pain will be over. I do still love him, but I’m starting to accept the fact that he has already someone he loves and that I’m no part of his life happiness at all.
When I seen this video I click it. No how that at this moment this video makes me to realized that I’m in unhealthy relationship 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you to u sir.
Oo nga, tama.. mahirap lang yung nagiging open kna nga s kung ano nararamdaman mo, pero bakit gnun? Pinapaalam mo n mga kung ano nraramdaman mo sa relasyon nyo pero ang feeling nya nagddrama ka lang. 😒
I am happy and greatful that I found my understanding, supporting, and kind boyfriend. He always here in my heart to support and accept who I am even in my worst part. Real man really exist just wait the right time. Ldr doesn't matter as long as you both love and trust eachother. I know this is not yet the happy ending, but we are both ready to fight and coop to those challenges we will face in future.
Tama poh kuya darbs lyk mi 4 yrs n kmi s x q sympre mga problema q cnsbi q s knya nd q pla alm n stress xa. Sakn. Kya nghnp ng iba pngplit lng ung 4 yrs nmin s smpleng problema nd q alm bka alibay nya lng un nd q akalain n mgw anya s akn un. Ung taong lging umiiyak sau pg kunting dhiln lng ng aaway
Thank u for this message..i have learned a lot from u po...mag 3 yrs na kami and ngaun nasasakal na aq sa kanya kc aq ang ginagawa nyang mundo and gusto nya ganun din gawinq na sa kanya lahat ng time ko and thats impossible kasi madami aq ginagawa and nagrereklamo sya kasi ndiq daw maibagy timeq...pa advice nman pi.thanks
Most of the time, we are blind that we are in a toxic relationship. It's like being drunk last night and you just discovering the wounds and scratches you have in your body
Yes lods nice advice. Nag lalove advice din po ako sa ytc ko lods and isa kapo sa mga idol ko thanks much lods. Mahirap gawin mundo ang isang tao. Lalo na sa panahon ngayon sobrang gulo na ng mundo at walang kasiguraduhan kung bukas ay ok paba.
Napaka sakto naman neto. I'm actually not okay right now because of my depression attacks and I'm scared na sabihin to sa boyfriend ko cause i don't want him na mag worry we actually happy wala kami problema nasaakin kasi as of now yung problem and I'm questioning my life right now and i don't know why . I really want to be positive but yung thoughts ko yung nagpupush saakin maging ganto. After watching this na enlightened ako na I need to stand up wag ako matakot majudge kasi kaya siya andyan to help me.
In short, humanap kayo ng partner na worth suffering hindi yung hindi ka sasaktan. Bakit? Kasi kahit sinong babae o lalaki pwede kang saktan and tanungin nyo muna ang mga sarili nyo kung ready na kayo pumasok sa isang relationship because relationship is not all about hugs and kisses, dating on expensive restaurants etc!
Cheating triggers a toxic relationship. It just changes the other person from being supportive to being toxic. And it's sad because some people tries to play victim and does guilt tripping which makes you feel na kasalanan mo pa na nag cheat sila. 🥺
Yezzz
True 😰
true po hayst
True...
True
The problem is some people's reason of listening is just to reply, not to understand. As partners, you must learn the art of communicating WITH the effort of really understanding each other. It's not you against your partner rather, you and your partner against the problem.
my mga partner na ayaw pinakakikielaman. ayaw pinapansin ang pagkakamali. ung ijujudge ka sa mali mo, pero mali nila hindi nila mapansin..
Sinabi mupa
Tapos ang masaklap pa non break up parati ang solution pag d nasunod ang gusto. 💔
Yan ginawa NG asawa ko sKin
Actually nararanasan kopo yan ngayon. Laging pinapamukha sakin lahat ng pagkakamali ko. Pero lahat ng pagkakamali ng partner ko lagi niyang pinagtatakpan o hindi niya pinupuna😔
@@heizelle3888 Same here tanggap ko naman ang pagkakamali ko at humingi ng chance para makapag bago at makabawi pero wala ng excitement :( kasalanan ko din naman :(
Psychological effects of false accusations in a relationship are very real. Being constantly accused of something you didn't do tears into the very heart and core of your identity.
So true, ang masaklap pa sakin, ginawa sakin to ngayong pasko lang😞
I'm so glad na makaalis sa toxic relationship! iba yung peace iba yung saya
true 💯 sasaktan ka at titiisin mo tas pag sumabog ka na ikaw pa ang masama, ikaw ang loka loka 🙄
Ganyan na ganyan ako now ako PA nga ang villain sa kanila NG kabit nya
"Your feelings are invalidated... and that insights fear... you don't trust your partner well enough to understand you"
"the freedom of becoming the person your supposed to be is lost"
I hate how accurate you are. 🙃
Oh.. This just opened my eyes, I'm now fully aware at how things are so toxic between us.
No matter how I confronted him for the better, it do feel like I was being judged rather than being understood
A week ago I realized these things and was able to let go of a toxic relationship. Sana kayo rin because being in a relationship that is very unhealthy is exhausting. I used to suppress my own feelings just to avoid him to feel that I don't understand him. There were times when i'd start up a fight then will end up na susumbatan pako. Times when i'd feel lonely, because I can never find the perfect comfort from him. Times when I would feel like he's stoping me from my own growth because even going to gym is restricted, hair cuts, wearing dresses. And now, I hope he learns from our previous relationship. I still love him tho, but I can't always be the dominant one.
CHEATING IS ALWAYS A TOXIC and TRUST IS BROKEN....sad buts TRUE 💔😭
Now im aware that im in a toxic and unhealthy relationship. Thankyou!❤
😇
Me too
Same here.
Samee
Same!
I'm currently in toxic relationship. But we fixed our problems.
There are points in this video that helped me realize the actions that I should have and will portray towards my girlfriend and the things that I need to change for myself and for the betterment of our relationship. Thank you for making things clear, precise and straight to the point. I will reflect on the things that you have mentioned and I will strive for a healthier relationship with her. Thank you!
I hope my partner have this kind of mindset too 🥺
A lot of my friends really needs to hear this.
Everything's clear now. Thank you for this 🙏🏻🧡
I also experience unhealthy relationship. There's a lot of struggle. I thought as long as I can give all the support and love to my partner ok na kaso hindi ko alam nasasakal na pala siya. Now I know how to handle this kind of experience thanks for sharing a very knowledgeable informations. Trust and communication is very important.
thank you so much for this. 🙂❤️
Learned so much from this Darbs. Thank you.
New subscriber here. Tagos sobra!I was in denial for many years, but I was too glad I realized how toxic my relationship was. I got my freedom back yeheyyyy and I don’t care anymore if I am getting old and single. What’s important is I was able to save my heart from drowning and looking forward for that special someone. God is great! Just keep the faith and positivity guys!
Learning so much with this. Thanks
Thank youu for this advice it really help me in our relationship to build a healthy and trust not a toxic traits😩💗
Thank you so much!💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Your words are full of wisdom 🙌
Thank you now its more clearer!
Thank you Sir. I feel much better now.
That’s how I feel ! Even thought I want to talk and speak up about how i feel , I feel like he will tell me “ what are you saying again or his not trying to understand what I am trying to say . I feel like his the only one whose the right to say things . That’s why I rather keep it to myself how I feel because I don’t want to get judge . I tried my best and to everything to make him happy , it he doesn’t see that .
this is what i always need. thanks sir darbs
Thanks Darbs.....your such a good advisor ....Keep it up
Thank you for this wonderful advice I learn a lot from this video Thank you very much💖
I really love your thoughts❤
Love this! ❤️
yes, your big right. 🥺
Thanks for this video..
Thanks for this😊
Well said.. Godbless Kura Darbs
I just watched this last night, so many things came up on my mind and made me realize, where am I rn sa relasyon, I hope it won't happened na ppunta sa punto na obsessive and mging toxic. She's always be the right and, controlling me about everything I want to do,Pinapayuhan ko sha na sometimes we need to be more understanding sa mga bagay2 at mging considerate. Bago palang kami 2 weeks na pero pinpafeel nya sakin na pra nya akong empleyado sa companya na lahat ng decision ko na against with her gingawa nyang negotiation to deal with me.Paghindi ako pumayag case closed agad, hindi man lng nya pinpakinggan yung gsto ko sabihin to be understood and clear sa knya kong bakit minsan nakakasakal na. Pero thanks po nito nalalabas ko ang bigat ng dinidibdib ko.. You helped alot of people na maiintinhan nla kong saan ka nga ba sa relasyon na hihirapan. Kaya salamat talaga ng subra..m
He always call me stupid because he said he wants me to learn.
Thank you bro for always inspiring us. Godbless
thank you for this, kuya darbs! i learned a lot! 🤍
Ive learned a lot . Tysm
Thank you bro .darbs ....nagising ako sa katotohanan.....ilang yrs narin ako na unhealthy relationship.....but now i am try to stand my life right now
Buti nalang andito si boss Darbs! Salamat sa mga word of wisdom mo kase grabe I learned alot to my previous relationship 2 years and 2 years din akong nakipag balikan sa kanya akala ko mananalo ako sa huli un pala hindi dahil siya na ang nag tulak sakin para bumitaw na at hindi ko na kayang maibalik pa ung relationship namin noon. Well kasalanan ko naman talaga bat pa umabot ng 2years ung pakikipag balikan ko sa kanya pero sa 2 years nayan alam ko it's a waste of time at marami talaga akong natutunan. Salamat Sir!! I'll be the right Man for someone😊☺️
Yung feeling na binubuo mo pa yung sarili mo at sa kanya ka na lang humuhugot ng lakas pero ikaw lang lagi yung problema. 😭💔
Same sis
Mahirap pero hindi impossible! I like this thought! Cheers 🥂
Nakita ko lang 'to. Tapos nung napanood ko napasubscribe kaagad ako. Mukha kasing marami akong matututunan dito.
Super helpful siya kuya💖 now I'm aware that I'm being unfair to my partner. Thank you kuya!❤️
Hello po kuya darbs, I learned a lot for every video na ganito. Salamat po. More power and you'll continue enlighten us.
This is very true! And he broke up with me because I shared lahat ng nararamdaman kong sakit.. Nagalit sya. So wala na.
Hayyy same.
Ako minessage ko babae nya ako PA Inaway inayawan Yung kabit
Iniyakan kabit
Dahil dito auto subscribe and like. Tagos bawat words.. full of wisdom.
lately me and my partner have been arguing/fighting a lot, this helped me a lot
Salamat sa pagbabahagi ng kaalaman na to..totoo po la hat ng sinabi nyo..hihintayin ko po ang next video nyo.
Ang sakit sakit lang... minsan maaalala ka. minsan hindi.
hindi mo alam kung meron pa bang iba. or kelangan mo pang intindihin.
Watching this. Makes me realize of something 😔
Thank you❤️
Sobrang eye opener. Thanks for this! 💚
I love this idol.i learned alot
Thank you for this Kuya Darb's. Marami akong na realize ngayon nsa TOXIC RELATIONSHIP pla ako. Sana maging okay na kmi ksi my baby na kmi ei. Huhu 😭😢😢😭
Toxic na pag
"Pa ulit-ulit na lang yung mali,at pa ulit ulit na rin yung sakit"😞
:(
Relate 🖤 but I know my boundary. His very free...
There's no perfect partner/relationship. Di naman pag sinabing "LOVE" masarap lang 😅, masaya lang. New subscriber here. ❤️
super relate much. ...
Thank you. Because of this I became aware of my toxic traits and understood that he as well.
That's good to hear. Cus we all have toxic traits. That we somehow ignore. It's better you went here this early. And then, You and your partner can discuss and fix the problem asap.
@@spectrem-4157 Sad thing is we already broke up. We just recently broke up because of these. I'll just take this time to make myself better and maybe someday if god allows, we will be together again more matured.
I’m in a toxic and unhealthy relationship for almost 11years. But we already ended it up. I’m still in a process of moving on like still in so much pain rn, but he already have someone new. But I’m still holding on, because I believe someday somehow, this pain will be over. I do still love him, but I’m starting to accept the fact that he has already someone he loves and that I’m no part of his life happiness at all.
When I seen this video I click it. No how that at this moment this video makes me to realized that I’m in unhealthy relationship 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you to u sir.
I was invalidated of my past relationship. Too toxic, I just left. Gwapa ko- Elen Adarna
Nagkaroon din ng sagot lahat ng tanong sa isip ko, alam ko na ngayon ang gagawin ko, Thank you for making this video.
This made me realize that I’m also somehow toxic sometimes :( I’ll try my best to change for my guy.
Eye opening. I want to be my significant other to be he's power
Very well said po host thank you for sharing with us 😊 Trust is very important in relationship's!
Thank you so much 😭
Sarap makinig ganda ng voice nya. ❤️
Oo nga, tama..
mahirap lang yung nagiging open kna nga s kung ano nararamdaman mo, pero bakit gnun? Pinapaalam mo n mga kung ano nraramdaman mo sa relasyon nyo pero ang feeling nya nagddrama ka lang. 😒
I am happy and greatful that I found my understanding, supporting, and kind boyfriend. He always here in my heart to support and accept who I am even in my worst part. Real man really exist just wait the right time. Ldr doesn't matter as long as you both love and trust eachother. I know this is not yet the happy ending, but we are both ready to fight and coop to those challenges we will face in future.
Congrats girl sana ako din 🥰
opening statement hits me...
I’m the toxic one, kaya pinakawalan ko na siya.
This makes me know and realize that i'm in a toxic relationship
yes mahirap magkaroon ng partners na ikaw ng ikaw ang aasahan sa lahat ayaw mag effort kahit maliit na bagay
Tama poh kuya darbs lyk mi 4 yrs n kmi s x q sympre mga problema q cnsbi q s knya nd q pla alm n stress xa. Sakn. Kya nghnp ng iba pngplit lng ung 4 yrs nmin s smpleng problema nd q alm bka alibay nya lng un nd q akalain n mgw anya s akn un. Ung taong lging umiiyak sau pg kunting dhiln lng ng aaway
Thank you for the advise kuya Darbs,diko alam kung paanu kasi,nag open up ako sa bf ko,iniwan tuloy ako😢😢😢
This what I need.. I thanks for the upload.. Patawad with love and support :).. I'm in the toxic relationship.
Thank u for this message..i have learned a lot from u po...mag 3 yrs na kami and ngaun nasasakal na aq sa kanya kc aq ang ginagawa nyang mundo and gusto nya ganun din gawinq na sa kanya lahat ng time ko and thats impossible kasi madami aq ginagawa and nagrereklamo sya kasi ndiq daw maibagy timeq...pa advice nman pi.thanks
... thanks for. Sharing keep safe GOD BLESS
Most of the time, we are blind that we are in a toxic relationship. It's like being drunk last night and you just discovering the wounds and scratches you have in your body
Thanks for the advice po 🙂 Godbless po 😇
Tnx at nakita ko to video, coz I need some advice at lhat ng Sinabi mopo ayy relate ako at eto situation nmin ngaun.
Yes lods nice advice. Nag lalove advice din po ako sa ytc ko lods and isa kapo sa mga idol ko thanks much lods. Mahirap gawin mundo ang isang tao. Lalo na sa panahon ngayon sobrang gulo na ng mundo at walang kasiguraduhan kung bukas ay ok paba.
Thank you po sa advices inaapply ko po to at tinatandaan, paulit ulit pinapanuod. Para makatulong po saken para mag tagal kami ng bf ko😀💗
You get me bro
DEFINITELY DIZZZZ IS THE ONE THAT I WANTTT TOOOO HEARRRRR😭😭
ang aga neto kuya Darbs 😭❤
Thank you Kuya
Thnks 👏👏
lucky enough we both open to each other 🙏🏼 even the things we hate to know sometimes haha
That takes a lot of courage! I commend the two of you! ❤️
Always choose each other everyday! Wishing you both well! ❤️
Ako nga laging support but may nagsabi padin na may kakulangan me then nambabae pa
Relate boss darbs. 😥😥
Napaka sakto naman neto. I'm actually not okay right now because of my depression attacks and I'm scared na sabihin to sa boyfriend ko cause i don't want him na mag worry we actually happy wala kami problema nasaakin kasi as of now yung problem and I'm questioning my life right now and i don't know why . I really want to be positive but yung thoughts ko yung nagpupush saakin maging ganto. After watching this na enlightened ako na I need to stand up wag ako matakot majudge kasi kaya siya andyan to help me.
Ano balita sa relationship niyo?
This is really a good video
he deserves 1m subscribers!!!!
Thanks
In short, humanap kayo ng partner na worth suffering hindi yung hindi ka sasaktan. Bakit? Kasi kahit sinong babae o lalaki pwede kang saktan and tanungin nyo muna ang mga sarili nyo kung ready na kayo pumasok sa isang relationship because relationship is not all about hugs and kisses, dating on expensive restaurants etc!
Because of this. Finally. Nagkalakas na ko ng loob makipaghiwalay sa kanya
Hahahaha
hahahaha gagi🤣🤣🤣