I'm also impressed by how transparent Kim has been about the process. I remember when she announced that she failed the exam which made her subject to a lot of scrutiny. I'm really happy to hear that she managed to push through. If she keeps going like this, I hope she can inspire young girls that there is more to life than trying to be beautiful and it is never too late to advance in education
This made me cry real tears. A boy broke up with me and told me “I wasn’t driven enough”. After the breakup I started studying to become a laboratory researcher in molecular bio. But in quarantine, because I got to be alone in my thoughts, his “you’re not driven enough” got louder and louder & it made me second guess what I did and whether or not I could actually become a researcher. But this is my dream. I’ll start saying it- “I’m a researcher, I’m a researcher, I’m a researcher!!!!!!!!!” This video was so important. I’m still crying, btw 🥲 Happy tears though 💧💧💧✨
You CAN become the researcher you dream to be! I totally believe in you! My father said something similar and it is crazy how 1 sentence seems to always stay in the back of our mind and makes us doubt our capabilities. But then I remind myself that even with that thought in the back of my mind, I DID become a researcher, got a PhD and am currently happily studying for a 2d Master. I bet your ex saying that reflected more his own shortcomings.
I’m so happy for them!! I literally cried at Megan’s achievement because I’m a 3rd gen college grad too. I hope all my students out there are doing well this year and graduate on time or early!!
I was weirdly so emotional about Kim and Megan's milestones too! I feel like...FINALLY. Celebs are setting truly good examples and you know what, fuck an example even, they're doing what's authentic to THEM and not being content just with fame or money. YAS!
studying nursing after having failed a term but im back on my feet i am capable of graduating and becoming successful, thank you so much shallon for this video!
I am a professional fashion designer. I am a homeowner. I am sober. These are the affirmations I place in the universe. Thanks Shallon! I’m taking control of my narrative into 2022.
I had my second baby in my mid thirties, moved 2 Provinces away from my family and friends, gave up my trade and got stuck in an unhealthy relationship and started gaining weight. I started to feel super hopeless but I listened to you everyday while I went about my routine. It was slowly but surely shoe horning my sub conscious out of that mind state. I finally had had enough, moved back to my home town. Landed my dream job as a department manager for a steel company and am looking for a place for me and my girls. I credit Shallon for helping me get there. ❤️
You are speaking to my soul when you say 'I don't wanna be with lifers'. Because of this very thing, I quit my very well-paying job at a very traditional bank full of lifers and went to work for a startup where I could keep on growing and getting myself out of my comfort zone and expand. Best decision ever!
Yes! And lifers absolutely can be in corporate america too--an office can be a Cinnabon. At Star, MANY lifers. And ok cool that may work for them but I wasn't meant for that and neither were you!
Studying communications because of you ❤️ Also paying my way through college in order to graduate debt free. I’m more of a silent follower but I started watching you in 2012 and I’m now 22! You’ve helped me through so many seasons in my life, Shallon 💖 Thank you truly.
Been watching you since I was 14 - didn’t use to relate to your videos much but still enjoyed. Now I’m 18 and going through my first heartbreak and I’m so thankful I know you. You truly are one on the only people who says things in a way that sticks with me. You have no idea how much you help people, never forget it :)
🥺🥺🥺 Thank you so much! I'm so sorry you're going through that first painful experience but you sound like a wise little chickadee so 1) HIS FUCKING LOSS 2) this will pass so much quicker because you're used to doing the hard but alpha things that serve YOU!
@@shallonlester Hmmm I have a 14 year old I been wondering when would be a good time to introduce her To Shallon! 🥰 I wish I had had you when I was younger but as i’m older I still learn from you as I improve myself!! Single mom here pursuing My Masters in Healthcare Administration in Fall 2022! You look amazing! 💕
I see so many women want to be hot and simultaneously treat their body like shit. The first step to achieving your dreams is to take of your body like you would a child. Sleep, exercise, stress reduction proper eating and hygiene. No need to be perfect, but you gotta treat it like a machine. Your ability to make good decisions will increase and you'll be able to sustain yourself. The biggest societal gaslighting is telling women that they are need to be hot but also that everything that makes someone hot is off limits, only the superficial things are allowed.
i was a bartender for 4 years before i decided that electrical was my true path. i was known for being the ditsy blonde bartender until i decided (and rediscovered) i am the girl who loves math and problem solving. i graduated trades school and have been a trades woman ever since. 2 years in the running and a lifetime of endurance and passion to be had!
Your comment about the "lifers" spoke to my soul. When I opted to go to junior college instead of a 4 year straight out of HS I met a lot of "lifers" who were at JC for the 6th/7th year still getting their associates degree. As an 18 yr old seeing that, I literally cried cause I thought that would be me too. Fortunately I met a good group of people and we studied our asses off, got out, transferred to great universities and now most of us our engineers, pharmacists, doctors etc. It's 100% the mindset.
Yes 👏🏿 that’s what I am doing. I got certificate first , that will pay me at least 50 k year and will be going back to university to get my faculty of science degree.
Most people confuse dumb with being empty. "Dumb" is a lack of knowledge and information. Everyone is dumb about something, but if you have an interest and pursue it, you are no longer dumb on that subject. "Empty" is lack of self. No interests, no opinions, no mind, and sometimes, no soul. They latch onto others because they have no idea who they are. Luckily, both can be cured.
As a single mom I’m always looked down on and people are always surprised by my academic and career achievements. Can’t wait to watch this video tonight 🥰
As a child of a single mom, I feel this. People chronically underestimated me (not my peers, but their parents) and it made me want to work so much harder to prove everyone wrong. Also: uhhh if you can raise a kiddo on your own OF COURSE you can dominate academia and career, why on earth would anyone underestimate a single mom?! They're bulletproof.
I went from being a care coordinator with workplace burnout from doing 72 hour weeks, to being a self published author of cheesy romance novels. I have an absolute blast writing them and my husband is addicted to reading them. I always wanted to do it and I MADE it happen. It might not earn me millions but I'm learning to be a better writer every day and I have expanded my vocabulary and my grammar also. I might not be Mensa material but I'm smart enough to know that reaching a goal feels instantly better than wondering 'what if?' and doing nothing about it.
@@ErbearWyatt congratulations on starting your writing career too, it was the best leap of faith I ever took. Amazon KDP - Kindle Direct Publishing is easy to do, you have 100% control and you can even set them up to be in paperback too👍👍best of luck and happy writing x
Hey Shallon, my name is Jamie. I started watching your videos when I was a senior in high school and the pandemic hit and I thought my life was over - it was not 😉. I’m now a sophomore UCF nursing student at nineteen with a full ride to college, and extra time to get a minor in psychology. I hope to one day be a certified nurse midwife and get a doctorate degree in nursing. Despite all this, I always get into a head that I’m not good enough, pretty enough, mature enough and the only thing that’s gotten me out of that is deciding that NO ONE is putting in the work but ME, so NO ONE has a say in who I am but ME. My choices are mine ALONE and that is so freeing. Anyways I just wanted to say your videos continue to be a great resource for me and I really appreciate you. P.S. I’m also an only child of a single mom - I get you girl. 👩👧
Society loves to box us in. What I always got was that I am just a pretty face and not too smart. Cut to I chose a college none of my friends went to, was a part of Class of the Year, became the Placement Representative, learnt belly dancing and salsa, was a part of an NGO due to which my name got featured in a Newspaper, gave a writeup for a book and it got published, have done 3 internships till now and I am only 21.
So I am trying to become a ballroom dancer, and the other day at dance school we had a show and we danced during the breaks. Later that night when I was drinking with my dance partner I told him "I just want to be a dancer so bad!!." He replies " what do you think we were doing all night?? We were dancing...you are a dancer already".
I always wanted to be an architect, and i thought i would never be able to do it, kept echoing that i am an architect, traveled across the world to do my masters in the best architecture college in america and fulfilling my dream to have my own firm in Chicago! Believing in your ability to learn and handle the toughest situations makes you golden
I really needed this video after failing the most difficult class in my degree. I put so much time, studying, and commitment into it and it hurts knowing that I didn’t perform well. My classmates shared that same feeling of loss. However, this reminded me that this doesn’t make me or any of us a failure. It was a gain bc we now have the tools to revisit this class and triumph above it.
During the first lockdown I took up French. I learned a bit of it in school (like 20 years ago), but had nothing to show of it. I used various free apps, RUclips, etc., and most importantly, learned every day, be it 5, 15 or 50 minutes. Well, what can I say: I had a real phone call with a real life French person last week and it went surprisingly smooth. I am very happy about it, proud of myself and committed to go on🔥
I am an empowered woman. I am intelligent, empathetic, intuitive, creative. I am a dancer, a writer and painter who can box. I am a beautiful flower, I have my own unique essence and self expression. Thank you Shallon for encouraging us to express ourselves. Thank you for making your channel a safe, encouraging and inspiring space.
I love this topic. At 55yr old I am wanting to go back and finish my BSN in nursing. I am an RN in Miami with an associate degree working in OR recovery unit. What you face said in this video has encouraged me to spend my energy finishing up my degree. I feel the need to move on to the next level . I still have a good 10 more years left. No more excuses . Thanks so much Shallon!
As a teacher, this is honestly so sweet and amazing. I work international and with wealthy students who don’t face this problem but it is the sweetest thing ever to help support students and create optimal learning environments
I just graduated from ASU yesterday! I got one degree in Communication and one degree in Film and Media Studies and I’m only 20 💗 I started watching you as I started college and you’ve been such a big inspiration to me and you’ve taught me so many life lessons that I would have had to learn the hard way had it not been for you. Thank you Shallon!
I needed this video. I’ve been procrastinating my law assignments for a few weeks now I’m guessing duo to depression. Thank you Shallon! Finishing this video and getting my shit together. I’ll bully my future children to watch your entire channel ❤️
Shallon thank you so much for this vlogmas. Im not sure what it is, but lately you seem more confident, self actualized, gorgeous, badass, yet gentle than EVER! Just like megan and Kim I feel like you are on fire.
Thank you Shallon, this gave me the push I need to continue studying for my law finals, when I felt like there was no point and giving up. I appreciate you so much
Damn woman i just had a mental breakdown today and when I tell you I needed this video, i REALLY needed this video. Thank you for being the way you are and for sharing wisdom and light!
Slayed ten narcissistic relationships! Now back to school! Thank you for always being a great support and friend to us all! And going to the golden girl convention would be amazing and you’ll fan out in pure joy! My nine year old day was breakfast and watching the golden girls…
Pretty and smart doesn’t always mean value and happiness. I’m “pretty” and I have a bachelors. Studied Anthropology for 10 years. I don’t think being “smart” makes a person happier. I’m multidimensional but I can’t find anyone to share it with. So, no. You don’t have to study or be smart to be successful. I know people who never went to college and they’re happier than me….
Hi shallon! I just wanted to let you know that your teachings of boundaries and warmblooded behavior allowed me to pick myself again after one of the hardest seasons in my life. I failed out of nursing school by .2 of a point. No, I know its crazy, nursing schools don't round. But by taking your advice, I set boundaries and watched people that actually weren't on my team, fade away. I didn't realize the stress they added until it was no longer present. I was accepted this week into a new nursing program and will be successful this time! Thank you for everything! 💗
I spent so many years going for the next thing, the next goal, the next level (from 18 to 30 years old). I've finally accomplished everything I had set out to do (education and career wise), now shifting my focus to my next stage of life, which is becoming a mother. Maybe I'll get new goal later, but I'm happy with everything in my life now, even if it took me longer than I anticipated to get there.
✨✨✨Can you do a holiday glow up video? Your glow up vids are so practical and real. I loved the one where you put purple shampoo all in your hair lol. It’s like a ‘get ready with me/ level up with me’ video in one! 🤗
Hellllll yes!! I'm in law school and will take the bar in 2 years. I love to show people that you can geek out on watching Supreme Court oral arguments but also love makeup and pink nails. But more than that I know I'll be able to do a lot with my degree - the sense of autonomy is very empowering to me.
Okay, so relating to the part where Shallon encourages us to spend time with ourselves, I can’t agree more. I’m 21 and I live at home to take care of my waaaaay younger siblings to help my parents. I’ve barely been aloud to drive now, and the only times I’m alone is when I’m sent to go pick up or drop something off for them. But I *value* those little periods of time, and will happily do it for them all day cause those are the times when my thoughts and actions are truly me, even if I’m not talking the whole time. I’m me without any input and it sounds silly, but truly that’s what’s getting me through staying home with them and completing school
That’s very noble of you to take care of your siblings but u were not put on this earth to be free childcare for your parents at 21 u should be living your life and learning about yourself and the world around u, it was easier for me to stay home and do school but so much more fulfilling to work and struggle but live life how I wanted
Thank you Shallon for all the knowledge you have given me! I just want you to know that you have impacted so many parts of my life for the better and I am forever grateful. 💗
Shallon! Thank you so so much for this video 💗 I’ve always preached to every single girl I know (and even commented on some of your videos I think) on how important it is to have your own dreams, goals and ambitions. Ppl usually see me and think I’m like a sugar baby or had everything handed to me either cuz I’m pretty or my dad pays for it. But the truth is soooo far from that! I work as a lab assistant in a research clinic. I have a diploma and a bachelors, both graduated with honours. Everything that I own (even my car and “luxury” items) are all bought with my own money that I’ve worked hard for. And I’m soon going to be starting a business with my dad with medical equipments. It’s crazyyyy what ppls misconceptions about you are based solely off first impressions or their perception of you. I love proving them wrong and leaving them flabbergasted! My advice to anyone reading this, don’t stop chasing your dreams! Keep going!! Life is too short to worry about other ppls opinions of you. The only one that should matter is yours! Prove everyone who doubted you wrong and leave them speechless. Thanks for coming to my tedtalk :)
Shallon’s reviving my motivation to write the book I’ve always wanted to write. I remember this one girl from middle school who told me I would never write a book and I’ve only been proving her right. Gtg 🏃♀️💨 I’m an author!!!
Love you Shallon! Holy smokes I was looking at your Crime Bae and Tinder Instagram stories yesterday and holy shit, I was CACKLING. My boyfriend asked if I was okay from upstairs lol I literally was dying. Hope you have a great week Shallon!!!
Shallon, this video is exactly what I needed today. I graduated university and have high ambitions to get my psychology doctorate and continue on the path of research that I was on during college. I love academia and I'm good at it..... but my heart has the travel bug. I went on a short solo trip around the Balkans this year and decided to put off grad school for another year to go long term backpacking and get certified to teach abroad. None of my ffriends and family understand this. They see it as a "waste" and not serving to my goal of becoming a psychologist, but to me that couldn't be more opposite. I want to discover myself, the world and different people (cliche, I know), and I think this real-world experience would actually benefit my ability to be a good therapist and researcher one day. I know that I will regret not exploring this passion of mine, but it's so hard when no one around me fully supports or understands it. THANK YOU for solidifying to me that I can have more than one passion even if they don't seem to traditionally align. I hate the idea that we can only follow one straight path and only be one thing!
I’ve been binge watching Iliza recently and the entire time I’ve been like “omg this woman is AMAZING, her and Shallon would be best friends”. I had no idea you guys are actually friends! How cool!
needed to hear this today. Tomorrow i have my pharmacology board exam in Budapest, if i fail i have to redo the course, that option doesnt exist. fingers crossed !!
Thank you for doing the fundraiser!! Just donated !! If everyone just helped a little the world would be a better place especially for the kiddos during the holiday
Great video I work in finance accounts for a hospital and a runner… before these two, people only categorized me as case manager or social worker … I reached a low point on my life. I realized I fallen low and it was not for me, the human service field but it was what I graduated with in college … I was afraid at first to try other careers and hospital administration found me?!!! and surprise how quickly I fit in, and was good at it?!! I went back to the love of running it was not easy but I found my way the voices inside me where to strong.. thanks for this video it validates me 💕🙏👋🏼 I’m sure there is more there if I keep listening!
I have always felt I was multidimensional. I love fashion and beauty and I’m smart. 💖💕I’m getting my engineering degree because I need a stable job that pays good👍🏽 . I started my own marketing agency because I like social media. But I also want to become a beauty/lifestyle influencer and run for Miss Universe. And a stay at home wife. I feel very tired and unfocus sometimes and I doubt myself but I don’t want to live in regret and I know my potential.
Love this one of my best friends 25 years died and I cannot stop crying I was able to do was look up my glasses today before I found out this horrible news. I'm thinking of doing a full ride online for children psychology- right now I need any distraction from my friend Joey passing🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss! I know that right now, there are no words that can truly make it better. Mourn, take your time, but when you feel ready, wipe your tears, put your badass face on, and keep thriving. Your friend would want to see you thrive and honor your friendship by kicking ass. Sending you a big hug, and many positive and healing vibes.
I would go to Wisconsin just to meet you. 💕🌟 I have so much respect for Kim for the work she is doing to save people from wrong convictions and becoming a lawyer. It's beautiful.
I freaking loved hearing you talking about stickers😂😂 That brought a smile to my face when you were talking about using them but not the good ones cuz you save them...lol my daughter was like that😁
I'm also impressed by how transparent Kim has been about the process. I remember when she announced that she failed the exam which made her subject to a lot of scrutiny. I'm really happy to hear that she managed to push through. If she keeps going like this, I hope she can inspire young girls that there is more to life than trying to be beautiful and it is never too late to advance in education
Honestly her failure made this success so much more inspiring and emotional.
Poosh through
This made me cry real tears. A boy broke up with me and told me “I wasn’t driven enough”. After the breakup I started studying to become a laboratory researcher in molecular bio. But in quarantine, because I got to be alone in my thoughts, his “you’re not driven enough” got louder and louder & it made me second guess what I did and whether or not I could actually become a researcher. But this is my dream. I’ll start saying it- “I’m a researcher, I’m a researcher, I’m a researcher!!!!!!!!!” This video was so important. I’m still crying, btw 🥲 Happy tears though 💧💧💧✨
YOU ARE A REASEARCHER GIRL!! I believe it, I believe you can.
You CAN become the researcher you dream to be! I totally believe in you! My father said something similar and it is crazy how 1 sentence seems to always stay in the back of our mind and makes us doubt our capabilities. But then I remind myself that even with that thought in the back of my mind, I DID become a researcher, got a PhD and am currently happily studying for a 2d Master. I bet your ex saying that reflected more his own shortcomings.
Fuck him! You are doing this!!
Started STEM college at 32!
Fuck the old ways, bad bitches never give up on chasing autonomy and self-actualisation.
Great topic, love you Shallon ❤️
I love the fact that shallon is a spikey badass but also the biggest sweetheart I’ve ever seen in my life. Truly an inspiration
“biggest sweetheart” aight, whatever helps you sleep at night
I’m so happy for them!! I literally cried at Megan’s achievement because I’m a 3rd gen college grad too. I hope all my students out there are doing well this year and graduate on time or early!!
I was weirdly so emotional about Kim and Megan's milestones too! I feel like...FINALLY. Celebs are setting truly good examples and you know what, fuck an example even, they're doing what's authentic to THEM and not being content just with fame or money. YAS!
Same, I’m so happy for her. It tugged my stomach strings.
studying nursing after having failed a term but im back on my feet i am capable of graduating and becoming successful, thank you so much shallon for this video!
You will graduate and be stronger for everything you dealt with. I failed a module of my term too. We prevail!
👏 keep going!! You’ve got this, I believe in you ❤️
I'm on the same journey. We can do it!!
I am a professional fashion designer.
I am a homeowner.
I am sober.
These are the affirmations I place in the universe. Thanks Shallon! I’m taking control of my narrative into 2022.
I had my second baby in my mid thirties, moved 2 Provinces away from my family and friends, gave up my trade and got stuck in an unhealthy relationship and started gaining weight.
I started to feel super hopeless but I listened to you everyday while I went about my routine. It was slowly but surely shoe horning my sub conscious out of that mind state.
I finally had had enough, moved back to my home town. Landed my dream job as a department manager for a steel company and am looking for a place for me and my girls.
I credit Shallon for helping me get there. ❤️
Wowww congratulations girl 💕
You are speaking to my soul when you say 'I don't wanna be with lifers'. Because of this very thing, I quit my very well-paying job at a very traditional bank full of lifers and went to work for a startup where I could keep on growing and getting myself out of my comfort zone and expand. Best decision ever!
Good on you!
Yes! And lifers absolutely can be in corporate america too--an office can be a Cinnabon. At Star, MANY lifers. And ok cool that may work for them but I wasn't meant for that and neither were you!
Studying communications because of you ❤️ Also paying my way through college in order to graduate debt free. I’m more of a silent follower but I started watching you in 2012 and I’m now 22! You’ve helped me through so many seasons in my life, Shallon 💖 Thank you truly.
Been watching you since I was 14 - didn’t use to relate to your videos much but still enjoyed. Now I’m 18 and going through my first heartbreak and I’m so thankful I know you. You truly are one on the only people who says things in a way that sticks with me. You have no idea how much you help people, never forget it :)
🥺🥺🥺 Thank you so much! I'm so sorry you're going through that first painful experience but you sound like a wise little chickadee so 1) HIS FUCKING LOSS 2) this will pass so much quicker because you're used to doing the hard but alpha things that serve YOU!
sameee !
@@shallonlester Hmmm I have a 14 year old I been wondering when would be a good time to introduce her To Shallon! 🥰 I wish I had had you when I was younger but as i’m older I still learn from you as I improve myself!! Single mom here pursuing My Masters in Healthcare Administration in Fall 2022! You look amazing! 💕
@@soflores6548 do it now!
I see so many women want to be hot and simultaneously treat their body like shit. The first step to achieving your dreams is to take of your body like you would a child. Sleep, exercise, stress reduction proper eating and hygiene. No need to be perfect, but you gotta treat it like a machine. Your ability to make good decisions will increase and you'll be able to sustain yourself. The biggest societal gaslighting is telling women that they are need to be hot but also that everything that makes someone hot is off limits, only the superficial things are allowed.
i was a bartender for 4 years before i decided that electrical was my true path. i was known for being the ditsy blonde bartender until i decided (and rediscovered) i am the girl who loves math and problem solving. i graduated trades school and have been a trades woman ever since. 2 years in the running and a lifetime of endurance and passion to be had!
Damn girl! Get it!!!
@@michellete8545 thanks babe!!!!
Your comment about the "lifers" spoke to my soul.
When I opted to go to junior college instead of a 4 year straight out of HS I met a lot of "lifers" who were at JC for the 6th/7th year still getting their associates degree.
As an 18 yr old seeing that, I literally cried cause I thought that would be me too.
Fortunately I met a good group of people and we studied our asses off, got out, transferred to great universities and now most of us our engineers, pharmacists, doctors etc.
It's 100% the mindset.
Yes 👏🏿 that’s what I am doing. I got certificate first , that will pay me at least 50 k year and will be going back to university to get my faculty of science degree.
There’s nothing wrong w someone who’s been trying to get a degree for awhile and you talking down on them to make yourself feel better is gross lol
Most people confuse dumb with being empty. "Dumb" is a lack of knowledge and information. Everyone is dumb about something, but if you have an interest and pursue it, you are no longer dumb on that subject. "Empty" is lack of self. No interests, no opinions, no mind, and sometimes, no soul. They latch onto others because they have no idea who they are. Luckily, both can be cured.
you ask questions that make me look inside myself so deeply that sometimes even makes me tear up from it...thank you for sharing your gift
As a single mom I’m always looked down on and people are always surprised by my academic and career achievements. Can’t wait to watch this video tonight 🥰
As a child of a single mom, I feel this. People chronically underestimated me (not my peers, but their parents) and it made me want to work so much harder to prove everyone wrong. Also: uhhh if you can raise a kiddo on your own OF COURSE you can dominate academia and career, why on earth would anyone underestimate a single mom?! They're bulletproof.
@@shallonlester Thankyou Shallon! Your a real person! That's admirable.
I went from being a care coordinator with workplace burnout from doing 72 hour weeks, to being a self published author of cheesy romance novels. I have an absolute blast writing them and my husband is addicted to reading them. I always wanted to do it and I MADE it happen. It might not earn me millions but I'm learning to be a better writer every day and I have expanded my vocabulary and my grammar also. I might not be Mensa material but I'm smart enough to know that reaching a goal feels instantly better than wondering 'what if?' and doing nothing about it.
Wow congrats Katie on following your passion taking that leap into fulfillment!
That's amazing! I too have started writing a book I've always dreamed of self publishing. It's such an accomplishment, best of luck to you!
What is it called, i love to read:)
Get it! And please tell us what your books are called x
@@ErbearWyatt congratulations on starting your writing career too, it was the best leap of faith I ever took. Amazon KDP - Kindle Direct Publishing is easy to do, you have 100% control and you can even set them up to be in paperback too👍👍best of luck and happy writing x
Everything about your look lately the hair the makeup the clothes the hair has been nothing short of gorgeous, proud of you sis!!
Hey Shallon, my name is Jamie. I started watching your videos when I was a senior in high school and the pandemic hit and I thought my life was over - it was not 😉. I’m now a sophomore UCF nursing student at nineteen with a full ride to college, and extra time to get a minor in psychology. I hope to one day be a certified nurse midwife and get a doctorate degree in nursing. Despite all this, I always get into a head that I’m not good enough, pretty enough, mature enough and the only thing that’s gotten me out of that is deciding that NO ONE is putting in the work but ME, so NO ONE has a say in who I am but ME. My choices are mine ALONE and that is so freeing. Anyways I just wanted to say your videos continue to be a great resource for me and I really appreciate you.
P.S. I’m also an only child of a single mom - I get you girl. 👩👧
“Girl you ain’t neva lied”. My granddaddy use to say that. You’re advice gets better and more real as the months pass by:
Society loves to box us in. What I always got was that I am just a pretty face and not too smart.
Cut to I chose a college none of my friends went to, was a part of Class of the Year, became the Placement Representative, learnt belly dancing and salsa, was a part of an NGO due to which my name got featured in a Newspaper, gave a writeup for a book and it got published, have done 3 internships till now and I am only 21.
Whoa congratulation !
So I am trying to become a ballroom dancer, and the other day at dance school we had a show and we danced during the breaks. Later that night when I was drinking with my dance partner I told him "I just want to be a dancer so bad!!." He replies " what do you think we were doing all night?? We were dancing...you are a dancer already".
ofc you dance so that makes you a dancer.
I always wanted to be an architect, and i thought i would never be able to do it, kept echoing that i am an architect, traveled across the world to do my masters in the best architecture college in america and fulfilling my dream to have my own firm in Chicago!
Believing in your ability to learn and handle the toughest situations makes you golden
Good for you! I’m working on my architecture license!! 😊😊😊
Kim passing the baby bar exam made me truly happy because maybe now people see her as someone smart and not just a pretty face.
Yes. And who cares if she failed twice. Lot of us have failed exams and repeated them until being successful.
It sucks some people keep saying she bought it 👀
I always seen Kim as smart. It’s not a in your face smart but it’s a different type of smart people don’t understand. Only a few understand.
@@lavonnealexander6936 Exactly! To me she has something that makes her stand out from her sisters and it's not her looks
Smart she failed three times, even though she has all the help, family's support and money 🤔🤔 Good for her not giving up.
I really needed this video after failing the most difficult class in my degree. I put so much time, studying, and commitment into it and it hurts knowing that I didn’t perform well. My classmates shared that same feeling of loss. However, this reminded me that this doesn’t make me or any of us a failure. It was a gain bc we now have the tools to revisit this class and triumph above it.
During the first lockdown I took up French. I learned a bit of it in school (like 20 years ago), but had nothing to show of it. I used various free apps, RUclips, etc., and most importantly, learned every day, be it 5, 15 or 50 minutes. Well, what can I say: I had a real phone call with a real life French person last week and it went surprisingly smooth. I am very happy about it, proud of myself and committed to go on🔥
I am an empowered woman. I am intelligent, empathetic, intuitive, creative. I am a dancer, a writer and painter who can box. I am a beautiful flower, I have my own unique essence and self expression.
Thank you Shallon for encouraging us to express ourselves. Thank you for making your channel a safe, encouraging and inspiring space.
I can get used to a new Shallon video every day, it's always a blast.
I love this topic. At 55yr old I am wanting to go back and finish my BSN in nursing. I am an RN in Miami with an associate degree working in OR recovery unit. What you face said in this video has encouraged me to spend my energy finishing up my degree. I feel the need to move on to the next level . I still have a good 10 more years left. No more excuses . Thanks so much Shallon!
You’ve got this! ✔️
As a teacher, this is honestly so sweet and amazing. I work international and with wealthy students who don’t face this problem but it is the sweetest thing ever to help support students and create optimal learning environments
I just graduated from ASU yesterday! I got one degree in Communication and one degree in Film and Media Studies and I’m only 20 💗 I started watching you as I started college and you’ve been such a big inspiration to me and you’ve taught me so many life lessons that I would have had to learn the hard way had it not been for you. Thank you Shallon!
I needed this video. I’ve been procrastinating my law assignments for a few weeks now I’m guessing duo to depression. Thank you Shallon! Finishing this video and getting my shit together. I’ll bully my future children to watch your entire channel ❤️
Shallon thank you so much for this vlogmas. Im not sure what it is, but lately you seem more confident, self actualized, gorgeous, badass, yet gentle than EVER! Just like megan and Kim I feel like you are on fire.
Thank you Shallon, this gave me the push I need to continue studying for my law finals, when I felt like there was no point and giving up. I appreciate you so much
Damn woman i just had a mental breakdown today and when I tell you I needed this video, i REALLY needed this video. Thank you for being the way you are and for sharing wisdom and light!
lol i liked the second you said “GOTH FIT” haha you’re the best, Shallon!
I got a top mark on my presentation and finished my essay a few days early! Come on girls we can do this ❤️
Ahhh yes, perfect topic to listen to while I’m running on the treadmill! 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
The comments are so positive made me happy, keep going girls ❤
Slayed ten narcissistic relationships!
Now back to school!
Thank you for always being a great support and friend to us all!
And going to the golden girl convention would be amazing and you’ll fan out in pure joy! My nine year old day was breakfast and watching the golden girls…
Pretty and smart doesn’t always mean value and happiness. I’m “pretty” and I have a bachelors. Studied Anthropology for 10 years. I don’t think being “smart” makes a person happier.
I’m multidimensional but I can’t find anyone to share it with.
So, no.
You don’t have to study or be smart to be successful. I know people who never went to college and they’re happier than me….
Love that you mentioned Joel osteen, I find his sermons so motivational too!!
Hi shallon! I just wanted to let you know that your teachings of boundaries and warmblooded behavior allowed me to pick myself again after one of the hardest seasons in my life. I failed out of nursing school by .2 of a point. No, I know its crazy, nursing schools don't round. But by taking your advice, I set boundaries and watched people that actually weren't on my team, fade away. I didn't realize the stress they added until it was no longer present. I was accepted this week into a new nursing program and will be successful this time! Thank you for everything! 💗
I spent so many years going for the next thing, the next goal, the next level (from 18 to 30 years old). I've finally accomplished everything I had set out to do (education and career wise), now shifting my focus to my next stage of life, which is becoming a mother. Maybe I'll get new goal later, but I'm happy with everything in my life now, even if it took me longer than I anticipated to get there.
Shallon , I feel so spoiled with all these video uploads . THANK YOU
This is my favorite video so far I love it!! Every single word you said is on point and you are totally right. Thank you for empowering women. 💪🏻
Megan also received the 18th Congressional District of Texas Hero Award!
i cried of this video .. so precious thank you shallon
✨✨✨Can you do a holiday glow up video? Your glow up vids are so practical and real. I loved the one where you put purple shampoo all in your hair lol. It’s like a ‘get ready with me/ level up with me’ video in one! 🤗
Hellllll yes!! I'm in law school and will take the bar in 2 years. I love to show people that you can geek out on watching Supreme Court oral arguments but also love makeup and pink nails. But more than that I know I'll be able to do a lot with my degree - the sense of autonomy is very empowering to me.
Okay, so relating to the part where Shallon encourages us to spend time with ourselves, I can’t agree more. I’m 21 and I live at home to take care of my waaaaay younger siblings to help my parents. I’ve barely been aloud to drive now, and the only times I’m alone is when I’m sent to go pick up or drop something off for them. But I *value* those little periods of time, and will happily do it for them all day cause those are the times when my thoughts and actions are truly me, even if I’m not talking the whole time. I’m me without any input and it sounds silly, but truly that’s what’s getting me through staying home with them and completing school
That’s very noble of you to take care of your siblings but u were not put on this earth to be free childcare for your parents at 21 u should be living your life and learning about yourself and the world around u, it was easier for me to stay home and do school but so much more fulfilling to work and struggle but live life how I wanted
Love this! I'm proud of both Meg and Kim. This video comes with perfect timing as I transition from being a Dental Assistant to a Teacher ❤
Wow! Thank you Shallon. I have been sobbing to this and hopefully absorbing the message enough to rescue my self.
You look gorgeous and I love how this topic explores the multidimensional woman!
Thank you Shallon for all the knowledge you have given me! I just want you to know that you have impacted so many parts of my life for the better and I am forever grateful. 💗
That Red Hen analogy is gold! Chef's kiss!!!!
All in for the GOLDEN GIRLS CONVENTION ! What ? Yes ! 💫🙏💫 Please, an organized trip !
This is an amazing topic and so timely for the cycle of life I am in right now. We can do absolutely anything! 💜
Shallon! Thank you so so much for this video 💗 I’ve always preached to every single girl I know (and even commented on some of your videos I think) on how important it is to have your own dreams, goals and ambitions. Ppl usually see me and think I’m like a sugar baby or had everything handed to me either cuz I’m pretty or my dad pays for it. But the truth is soooo far from that! I work as a lab assistant in a research clinic. I have a diploma and a bachelors, both graduated with honours. Everything that I own (even my car and “luxury” items) are all bought with my own money that I’ve worked hard for. And I’m soon going to be starting a business with my dad with medical equipments.
It’s crazyyyy what ppls misconceptions about you are based solely off first impressions or their perception of you. I love proving them wrong and leaving them flabbergasted!
My advice to anyone reading this, don’t stop chasing your dreams! Keep going!! Life is too short to worry about other ppls opinions of you. The only one that should matter is yours! Prove everyone who doubted you wrong and leave them speechless. Thanks for coming to my tedtalk :)
I remember I’ve been watching you since the very first videos and it’s crazy inspirational- I think it’s that time for me 😩 THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU ❤️
Your videos have been inspiring me for years and helped me become a better version of myself. THANK YOU SHALLON🤍
Shallon’s reviving my motivation to write the book I’ve always wanted to write. I remember this one girl from middle school who told me I would never write a book and I’ve only been proving her right. Gtg 🏃♀️💨 I’m an author!!!
Accomplishing your goals and dreams will naturally make you stand out.
Sooo motivational 👍👍👍 Gotta add this to my Power- Playlist
Shallon, I love you. This was the message I prayed for today
I still can’t believe how much your posting atm!! I’m living for it 🤩🤩
Love you Shallon! Holy smokes I was looking at your Crime Bae and Tinder Instagram stories yesterday and holy shit, I was CACKLING. My boyfriend asked if I was okay from upstairs lol I literally was dying. Hope you have a great week Shallon!!!
Your content is a gem ✨
Shallon, this video is exactly what I needed today. I graduated university and have high ambitions to get my psychology doctorate and continue on the path of research that I was on during college. I love academia and I'm good at it..... but my heart has the travel bug. I went on a short solo trip around the Balkans this year and decided to put off grad school for another year to go long term backpacking and get certified to teach abroad. None of my ffriends and family understand this. They see it as a "waste" and not serving to my goal of becoming a psychologist, but to me that couldn't be more opposite. I want to discover myself, the world and different people (cliche, I know), and I think this real-world experience would actually benefit my ability to be a good therapist and researcher one day. I know that I will regret not exploring this passion of mine, but it's so hard when no one around me fully supports or understands it. THANK YOU for solidifying to me that I can have more than one passion even if they don't seem to traditionally align. I hate the idea that we can only follow one straight path and only be one thing!
I’ve been binge watching Iliza recently and the entire time I’ve been like “omg this woman is AMAZING, her and Shallon would be best friends”. I had no idea you guys are actually friends! How cool!
WE LOVEEEEEEE YOUUUUU QUEEN SHALLONNNN SO MUCHHHHH
needed to hear this today. Tomorrow i have my pharmacology board exam in Budapest, if i fail i have to redo the course, that option doesnt exist. fingers crossed !!
Thank you for doing the fundraiser!! Just donated !! If everyone just helped a little the world would be a better place especially for the kiddos during the holiday
Great video I work in finance accounts for a hospital and a runner… before these two, people only categorized me as case manager or social worker … I reached a low point on my life. I realized I fallen low and it was not for me, the human service field but it was what I graduated with in college … I was afraid at first to try other careers and hospital administration found me?!!! and surprise how quickly I fit in, and was good at it?!! I went back to the love of running it was not easy but I found my way the voices inside me where to strong.. thanks for this video it validates me 💕🙏👋🏼 I’m sure there is more there if I keep listening!
Congratulations to the ladies!!♥️🕯💯🥳
STANDING OVATION⭐👏💯You deserve a sparkly golden star sticker!
Thanks, Shallon! Here's to calling myself a scientist as I work to get my bachelor's in environmental science! I can see it already!
Sent a donation from BC, Canada 🇨🇦 ❤️ Love you and your channel Shallon!!!! You are the best friend every girl needs!!!
Shallow your vibe and energy has been on point in the last couple videos! Like sweet and spicy love it.
Personally Graduated on December 10th!! 🥳🥳 Grad school in the fall
💕💕 proud of you!!
@@ohohnenyeoo2654 Ahhhh thank you 🥰🥰
I dont know, but this video brings tears in my eyes. I feel so inspired and excited for the things that I want to achieve. Thank you Shallon
Shallon looking great!!!!
I have always felt I was multidimensional. I love fashion and beauty and I’m smart. 💖💕I’m getting my engineering degree because I need a stable job that pays good👍🏽 . I started my own marketing agency because I like social media. But I also want to become a beauty/lifestyle influencer and run for Miss Universe. And a stay at home wife. I feel very tired and unfocus sometimes and I doubt myself but I don’t want to live in regret and I know my potential.
I totally needed this pep talk! Thank you Shallon!!!
Girl you are glowing! Thanks for the cameo! Love you!
Motivational/self improvement videos you nake are my favorites 😍 thank you i needed to hear this
Love this one of my best friends 25 years died and I cannot stop crying I was able to do was look up my glasses today before I found out this horrible news. I'm thinking of doing a full ride online for children psychology- right now I need any distraction from my friend Joey passing🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss! I know that right now, there are no words that can truly make it better. Mourn, take your time, but when you feel ready, wipe your tears, put your badass face on, and keep thriving. Your friend would want to see you thrive and honor your friendship by kicking ass. Sending you a big hug, and many positive and healing vibes.
@@saraa1741 thank you so much for your kind words🙏💛
This video came just in time. I'm stuck at work that I don't like, but I'm too lazy to study, so I could find a better job. I'm inspired! Thank you!
Love you Shallon! I needed this...
I don't pay attention to either of them but when I saw the news about Megan I was so proud, very inspiring
'I do gothfit' Shaaaallonnn, you're gonna leak my business plans to everyone🙈😏
I love the Merry & Bright sign for this topic 😍
I would go to Wisconsin just to meet you. 💕🌟
I have so much respect for Kim for the work she is doing to save people from wrong convictions and becoming a lawyer. It's beautiful.
I freaking loved hearing you talking about stickers😂😂 That brought a smile to my face when you were talking about using them but not the good ones cuz you save them...lol my daughter was like that😁
You're simply the best. Point, blank, periodtttt 😝👑
Ahh I LOVE Iliza! I heard her voice when you were recalling the pep talk she gave you
Damn, this video actually came at the perfect time for me. Thank you, Shallon! 💞
my favorite video of yours. I really needed this! Love u!
SHALLON!!! You're glowing!!! 😍