What an amazing story; the pacing, the character interactions, facial expressions all flow so well together. Wish the algorithm rewarded projects like these more.
Nah, I mean the guy is an asshole. He is just a lazy and wants to have things both ways. You either eliminate people from your life completely if you don't want to talk to them, or at least try to interact with them. He is a coward.
i’ve heard a saying that went, “you can’t rekindle a flame that’s already been extinguished.” in life, people come and go and it sucks when the people that leave meant so much to you and had made so many memories together.
Except the part where people are no longer igniting flames but expecting it as part of the standard relationship. Everyone’s always trying to one up and “upgrade”.
And what sucks is that leaving doesn't make them a bad person either. People aren't accountable and responsible for other people all the time when they also have their own life to worry about. It also depends on the context. Catching up is only good when both of you still want to start fresh and welcome each other in your lives again. When you feel like it's nothing like that, why would you force yourself?
there is a saying in my country that goes the opposite, "where fires was, ashes remain". Don't relly on sayings, nobody has lived enough to know everything
I really like how neither of these characters are in the wrong, just in different places. It makes everything feel so human and you can feel sympathy for both of them so easily - this is really amazing!!
Sometimes a friendship has ended and neither people truly realized it until one tries to reconnect, it feels shitty when you're the last person to realize.
Totally agree with it being an amazing work of art, but I gotta confess I hesitate to label neither of them "in the wrong." Person B wallowed in noncommittal language and did not allow Person A the common courtesy of clear communication. They strung person A along, leaving them to flounder in anxiety. Person B didn't set any boundaries, but left person A to guess at what they were thinking. This is cruel. Person A, meanwhile, came on far too strong, should have been calmly open about why they were reconnecting, has bad coping mechanisms, etc. Personally, I think it's a fairer statement to say neither of them were in the right. They both annoy me 😅😅 That's just me tho! I don't mean anything by the observation:) art sparks convo lol, case in point
@@kikiceili3956 totally agree with you, I think this animation shows both sides of anxiety - I think Person B didn’t know how to communicate with them and felt intimidated by how strong they were coming on, and Person A understood this too but ended up scaring off Person B even more by over compensating. Neither of them handled the situation particularly well but I feel like that’s what makes the animation so easy to connect with on a personal level, btw thanks for not screaming at me lol I feel like conversations like this on the internet can turn into arguments really quickly for no reason at all :’)
They're both in the wrong imo. The guy doesn't know how to set boundaries, and the girl doesn't have a strong enough sense of self worth to recognise she only needs herself and to never engage in such a one sided relationship like this.
This felt so real. From deleting the texts over and over to panicking when you feel like you’ve fucked up, to the heart sinking feeling when they confirm that you did weird them out. 4 minutes, but I felt this in my soul. You’re so talented.
Women are not allowed to feel like that because its a mans job the man is the one who should have those feelings you as a women just it there and look pretty
@BrawlStars-io3fq nah man, the man needs to bottle his emotions in order to not look weird If we open up then she is gonna pull up her card I'm not your psychologist
holy shit this killed me. This is the best depiction of wanting to reconnect with people who were once important to you, despite everything that's happened. this is just amazing great job
It is amazing, I've suffered the awkwardness so many times. It just hurts when you truly miss the connection you once had with a person but that person doesn't value your friendship or memories to that extent. Why can't some people be nice? It doesn't cost anything
@@enmunap not only is it about feelings, it's also about decency. I would much rather prefer you were honest about whatever grudge you hold against me that is making you treat me like I'm nonexistent, than you leading me on like I'm some kind of used fork that doesn't deserve your time. That right there is pure ego and manipulation it's' not always being an asshole because some people don't know how to express their feelings in certain situations, but whether they're being selfish or not, there's a clear difference between what's right and what's wrong, especially in cases where that person is trying their best to stay in touch. Although if you think there isn't, then I guess it's a matter of perspective. Everyone is entitled to feel however they want, but treating people badly when all they're trying to do is reconnect with you just means you're only trying to protect yourself and yes that does count as actively making someone feel bad, because if you're aware enough of "feelings" then you should easily understand the other person has "feelings" too. If you're mature enough, then you'll eventually realize that yes, treating people badly is wrong and being unfazed about it is even worse actually a serious problem
The long texting, feeling guilt from that and the apologising, the excuses of not being free, the terrible feeling from reading all that apologies and long texts is way too real
this video actually made me sob because i had close to the exact experience. i reached out too much. tried to hang out. fucked it up. and we were officially done talking after the break up. i’m such a fuck up
@@stringofspades2you’re not trust me at least you tried to reach out and rekindle the friendship, even if that meant you both were no longer on the same wavelength, it happens to 99.9% of the population so don’t worry.
The character design gives major Adventure Time vibes but still feels like it's own thing. Loved the realistic portrayal of an awkward relationship and wouldn't mind seeing more of this type of stuff.
@@RailwayScholar Depression time, Come on grab your coworkers Going no where, but work Me a human, you a human the depression never ends Depression Time!
I think it’s nice to see that in one way or another, be it a friendship or relationship, most of us have been on both sides before. The one reaching out and the one pulling away. This four min video shows how complex and hard human relationships are, but also how worth it they can be when it works out. This was beautiful, thank you.
@@xyannail4678you never know Maybe she did something bad with him in the past and meeting her made those memories flood back Or maybe he just became distant after spending so much time apart Or Maybe they dated previously and it didn't end on good terms
@@xyannail4678 yeah it is assholish, everyone thinks they’re the “good” guy and never wants to be the “bad” guy. but i think eventually, in the multitude of relationships that we humans will experience, i think it’s inevitable. no matter how hard you try, somehow, you will be the villain in someone’s story.
I had a falling out with someone who used to be my best friend some time ago. We're both completely different people with completely different lives now, yet I still can't help but constantly reminisce about the friend I lost. It hurts, honestly, and it's something I don't often talk about, which is why this animation made it all feel so bittersweet, so close to my heart once again. Thank you for sharing this incredible piece with the world! You're an amazing storyteller.
Know the feeling. Had a close friend turn out to be a shit show. Pretty nasty argument ensued, never spoke to each other again after that. He is an awful person, anything I hear about him nowadays just gets worse and worse. I will never reconnect with him. But I do think about our friendship a lot. I grieve the time before everything happened. I miss who he was before I learned how much of a mess he was. But things are better now.
@@gladiolus3181 I'm really sorry to hear that. I think the main issue with grieving past relationships of any kind is that we're actually just attached to the idea of someone, to something that doesn't exist anymore, but realizing that is even more depressing. Maybe that, and also the fact that they probably don't miss us as much as we miss them, but I think the animation did a great job at exploring that. I guess time heals everything, as they say; we just gotta keep waiting. I'm glad things are looking better for you now, though!
This happened to me recently. It's been a very eye opening 8 or 9 months since it happened and I still think about the last few times we spent together when things were teetering. It makes me appreciate the space I've given myself and how I've moved on from the mistakes I made and the pain others caused me. Thank you for having the strength to share your experience. Be well
Don’t worry spookz26. I’m sure it was all for the better. I read a story of a young girl who underwent some personal spiritual awakening and then at school, some of her friends stopped being her friends but she made new ones. It’s sad, but our friendships aren’t the same level as family, most of the time. They change as we change. You can’t cross the same river twice, they say. I guess the Buddha talked about the impermanence of permanence thus the need to let go of attachments (I thiiink I’m not actually super knowledgeable about Buddhist teachings hehe). I sincerely wish you happiness. Sometimes we have to move through a few waves of sadness first though. 😊
@@spookz26 It makes alot of sense. I had some people that were awful to me over something. I've moved on, but there is still a small part of me that wishes they could've taken the time to understand me and my point of view. To listen.
Anyone notice how he started texting with capitalization and punctuation once she said who it was? The form of intimacy gone.. so formal. The story I've put to it is that they were best friends ( 2:23 you can see pictures of them together on the girls side) and he confessed that he felt something more and she turned him down and suggested that they should take some time apart. But she missed having him in her life after about a year of little to no conversation and reached back out to rekindle their friendship and start off slow. She wanted to be cautious as to not lead him on. However, during their time apart he lost his connection and feelings for her. He missed her too but so much time has passed where he didn't hear from her that the spark isn't there anymore - neither romantic or platonic. His smile during "still feels like we're good friends and stuff" made him reminisance and hopefully for reconnection but when she started spamming with backtracking text. He retreated and remembered he was hurt by her for ending their friendship and decided to leave the relationship where it is. Barely exisistent.
That’s a great interpretation! The way, I see it is that I think they were best friends. But after some Arguments, or times in which they didn’t get along or see eye to eyes on certain issues, I think they just drifted away. But after some time, Amy wants to rekindle. Maybe she feels bad about what happened and wants to change. But her friend has moved on and is afraid of being hurt again, so he tries to use work in order to distract and distance himself from her. But at the ending, she finally says that she misses him. He reads it, and closes his eyes. I think that’s meant to imply that maybe a part of him wants what they had at the start, but he’s afraid that he’s going to get hurt again. He’s confused and doesn’t know what to do. While Amy thinks that he is rejecting her. In short, this short perfectly captures how confusing relationships and friendships can be, especially between young adults and between those who want to rekindle, but they don’t want to get hurt again.
@@Wmann are telling me you’d be awake at 2am in the morning and would be willing to give full on answers when you’re supposed to be sleeping? Sounds like you have a shit sleep schedule. Maybe put the phone down and go to sleep like the rest of the population when the sun goes down. Also, the fact you needed to like your own comment proves to me that you don’t even know what Logic is. Grow a pair and comeback to me when you understand how reality works.
Reconnecting a friendship can be hard af, I've had some attempts in my life, a few success and a few failures, but eventually, you have to learn how to let people go. Btw amazing animation, I felt anxiety watching it because I had a similar experience haha but I could feel both characters emotions, it is incredible how you can connect with a cartoon of barely four minutes
So many thoughts go through your head like, "Were they just friends reconnecting after a fight, were they together, what did she do, etc." The animation was really good as well.
Ephesians 6:10-18 says, Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
from context clues, I've read it as a hometown childhood friend coming back to her hometown, presumably after something bad happened and wanted to reconnect with her childhood friend, Childhood friend having spent a very long time without her as grown distant and busy but couldn't bring it to himself to just tell her that, while the girl is very eager and very desperate, i assume because of the thing that drove her to go back to her hometown and she might be looking for an old friend to confide in but she couldn't bring it to herself to just say it and instead played along as if she just wanted to catch up.
@@skywoofyt5375I saw it more of an ex-relationship. I feel like them having been in a relationship in the past can bring out this much emotion in just catching up, not just a friendship.
@@quenchthirster1417or a situation where feelings weren’t reciprocated. It could also be a relationship where the girl depended too much on the other emotionally and the other person didn’t realize how much it took out of them until she moved away. There’s a lot that could be going on here.
Around the 2:23 mark, at the girl’s side, you’ll see 3 pictures that would indicate that they were once dating or were extremely close to one another, Makes you wonder what had happened to separate them in the first place
This is why it's important to read the room. If you're getting big vibes that someone doesn't want to interact with you, leave them alone and move on. It's probably annoying the other person or making them experience guilt for not wanting to be with you. Both sides suffer when you can't accept this. Think about it: if they really wanted to keep in touch with you, don't you think they would try at least a little bit?
Dude this hurt, it brought me to tears. This is a really relatable story and the way you portrayed it was very realistic. Rocky relationships suck, and just reading the texts back and fourth with no background you’d have no idea what the story is and how they are feeling. This is amazing. And deserves so much more recognition.
I honestly liked how the animation style is similar to adventure time❤ The beginning was all warm & fuzzy Then the end just made me wanna swap souls with the girl & just text her crush "Lemme know when you're available dude bc rn, it seems that your job is more important.. Ttyl I guess.."
This is the storytelling equivalent of a Mona Lisa smile. It says so much with so little. There's a faint joy and a faint sadness, and the shape of it seems to run away from you the more you look for it. Gorgeous. Be proud of this.
@@oberonpanopticonnot an art person either, but I think what they’re getting at is that the emotions are very subtle. Nothing is super flashy and things aren’t entirely spelled out. Yeah they text their feelings, but neither of them is being fully open, and you can see their general mood based on their expressions, but we don’t know exactly what they’re feeling or why. Like he’s obviously uncomfortable, but is he just struggling to let her down softly? Is he disinterested in her for her self confidence or smth else? Is he upset cause he feels guilty about just telling her no? And did he really mean to leave her on read or was he just tired and stressed? The differences between the texting and expressions tells a lot, but there’s so much more to analyze too.
@@oberonpanopticon From a storytelling perspective it’s difficult to get an audience to feel they know and care about two characters and tell a story in such a short time. We don’t learn a lot of details about their past or their actual relationship. It tells an emotionally resonant story in less time than it takes most plays/books/movies/shows to establish the setting
i related so much to the left one bro. the happiness at first, then the remembering what they did. Then being scared to be hurt again. Being distant to stay safe. I relate to the fear of intimacy and trying not to get emotionally involved in someone especially someone who hurt you before. Its like chains on you holding you back from the happiness you could have
it just hurts so much. the worst pain ive ever felt, i can drownd it out but i can just feel it creeping in slowly anytime i see or think about anything we did together. stuck in my head like a tragic chocolate. so sweet at first but over time gets alittle too much. ive never hurt more then i had to cut it off. i dont think ive recovered yet. ive goten so good at drowning out how i feel about anything. its just an i dont care. i just dont care about anything or anyone.
I felt that too he seemed to really be in pain every rime he tried to make a decision not trying to be rude but feeling like he was causing himself pain to try and open up to her
It’s so interesting that that’s how you perceived the left sided character. I relate so much to right one and the way I perceive the person on the left is someone who is too afraid to tell the other that they just don’t care about them so they lead them on with little interest. The worst feeling in the world is when someone keeps feeding an interest you have in them but not enough for it to feel like a relationship or a friendship. Imo the person on the right is getting hurt the most. But that’s also without context but we’ll never know the context
Yeah, I think this is a side of our generation that isn't represented a lot, the contrast between the positive texts and the actual feelings that are being held back. It's harder to hide those emotions irl or on the phone, even letters could have tear stains on them. But through instant messaging you can hide them completely
when she said “still feels like we’re good friends and stuff” he smiled and it seemed like he was thinking things would be fine but then he looked back at his phone 😬
from what i see his smile fades into upset fog before he even looks at his phone. he was definitely going to go back to being cold and she anticipated it and tried to undo it. imo she needs to leave this unhappy dude to his own discontent and go be happy without him
@@jkklbbnn8066 no, it doesn’t have any special meaning what i meant was, when she said that, he was happy with their conversation. but the stuff she said after that made him uncomfortable
@@thefakebluejay5394 Yeah, that sentence was fine on its own. It's awkward, yes, however, it felt genuine. Then it seriously became awkward when she started stuttering and felt embarrassed.
Yeah, it's that relatable feeling of your own insecurities getting in your way, then you try to overexplain your feelings behind something that was quite innocuous but you feel awkward about it and then you make it actually weird, but at that point it's too late and your just apologizing for your weirdness and it only makes it worse
There’s a really great lesson in here for both sides. From the girl, it’s to understand that this specific guy is not the type of person for her. Even though being left on read sucks, it’s a sign that you can start looking for other people who are willing to positively prioritize you. A blessing in disguise. For the guy, being more straightforward about intentions and communicating them would save both of them time and a little bit of heartbreak for her. There’s no shame in telling someone you’re not interested. It may not feel good to say (or especially hear) but creates less confusion for both parties and improves communication with others going forward. Really well made!
I get your points. Does feel weird that the guy in your scenario has more work to do on this relationship when they were actively saying no to things and setting the boundaries. I interrupt this as a snapshot of time where both characters are interchangeable versions of each other that don't require any prioritizing (to spare her feelings) or more straightforwardness but shows the evolution of what a end of a hometown relationship is like (imo that's what this seemed like)
(sorry if my translation is wrong) The problem here would be the time spent on things, while the boy is busy he cannot spend time with the girl, and for the girl to try to find other people is sometimes complicated nowadays It gets tiring to always start from 0 and always be with another person :c
I relate to both of the characters so much. Sometimes when I'm going through something I would look for any excuse not to go do something with someone but when I feel so lonely i will do anything to hang out with someone and talk to them for several hours just for human interaction.
We never find out what their history was or how it ended but it’s left so open that anyone watching can put their own experience into the story and it almost automatically fills in the blanks
With him being so awkward and distant, and her being so apologetic and desperate, it seems heavily implied that she did something to mess up their relationship. This is reinforced by her slovenly, directionless, indulgent lifestyle. He's working. She's drinking. She's sending messy texts. He can only look sad, knowing he can't let himself be hurt again.
I will especially leave a comment here to lay out simply how emotionally empathetic the animation is. It portrays a scenario that nowadays is relatable to two people talking after so long. Yet, to realize that the distance between eachother got more distant when they felt like there was no spark, even if they didnt want to hurt one another. Truly a one of a kind animation.
Yes wow it’s truly amazing how that is exactly what happened in the video that we all saw. It’s incredible how what you said is what happened in the video. Almost like you saw the video and wrote down what happens in it
1:36 the sinking pads are so perfect. It really subtly helped remind me of that feeling of self doubt and feeling like you’re bothering them. I’m sorry to anybody that’s felt this way too.
I love being old enough to see the influence of shows I grew up on like adventure time and Steven's universe in new art both thematic and visually. it's amazing to see that the same thing that impacted the person I am today impacted other people as well. I can honestly say that I'm looking forward towards the future for the first time in a long time.
even as someone who has become far more extroverted and assertive as time has passed, rejecting someone who really wants to keep a connection is one of the hardest things for me to do. i've been friends with someone for a really long time, and i always felt like i had to go out of my way to get their attention and approval. they were often judgemental and critical towards me in a way that greatly impacted my self esteem. this person was genuinely everything to me. they didnt mean to hurt me, but these were just their natural behaviors. over time, though, i began to surround myself with positive, supportive people who helped my self-confidence skyrocket. during that, i began to drift from my friend, which confused them. they now feel far more inclined to be my best friend than they were before. it's frustrating, because i so badly want to rip into every negative trait they have. but at the same time i don't *dislike* them. to be honest, i have a soft spot for them, and the idea that my distance hurts them is genuinely heartbreaking. it's the same feeling i felt for years. this video is such a perfect portrayal of this dynamic. its gut-wrenchingly real. if you read my ramble, thank you :) feel free to share your own stories in the replies if you'd like edit: 8 months later! i made the right call cutting them out lol edit 2: another 3 months later! reading this over is surprising because i gave my ex-friend so much grace that i probably wouldn't nowadays. the more time passes, the more i dislike this person and realize they weren't meant to be in my life. quick reminder that you can, and should, cut people out if they do nothing but suck the positivity out of you and don't return the care :)
Well my previous friends are backstabbing shitheads, we were only friends because on a boarding school i had no choice on who to be friends with, and theyre not even friends they make fun of me constantly, i don't give a rats ass about them, i fortunately replace them with better friends on my university
Man, my heart broke when she started impulsively sending self sabotaging texts. Its hard enough being an overthinker as is, but being able to just jot all those overwhelming feelings out into a DM via a phone, its incredibly frustrating and painful to deal with on either end. I relate with both sides of it, being the one who thought i was in the wrong and made a scene of it, and also the person whos tried to calm someone down. Beautiful animation, and very emotional score too
Fr. I feel like all of us have been that girl at some point and it’s honestly such an awful feeling when your friend is the only one growing out of the friendship.
Pretty sure it was a relationship, but it was certainly suggesting she was trying to rekindle something he was not into. You don't respond the way he did to a friend who's been long gone.@@marenking1946
Watching this hits so much harder when you finally have an understanding of both sides because you’ve finally been on both sides. I watched this animation a while back and it broke me and watching it again today broke me again.
The reality of this animation is beyond compare… I have no words for how much this not only portrays the feelings and personality of the characters, but with how much this connects with me on a spiritual level. I’ve been on both sides and holy it’s something else. Your storywriting has some otherworldly potential, the way you incorporated the slight details to emphasize the big emotions they each felt while trying to capture atmosphere of both sides simultaneously is extreme talent and a gift. With that and the apparent hard work you put into this video, you will go far.
i love how they text like real people. they type something out but then immediately delete it before they send it. that’s exactly how a lot of people text and it’s amazing. well done!!!
@@wrenbyrd1093 well they process it, as we're speaking ive done the same. if you dont do it then cool i guess but keep in mind, we write down the things we want to say and think abt it before pressing send
It almost feels like the guy got his heart broken by her in the past. And suddenly, she wants to reconnect. It's amazing how much we can project from these videos depending on our experiences.
He was a fool responding to a "hey" text. NEVER respond to just a "hey" text. Women complain all the time about the lack of effort when men communicate with women online. Don't reward the same poor behavior from women that they chastise you for
Holy shit. This is absolutely incredible story telling. And I LOVE how the only dialogue we "hear" is just the texts between the two. Even the coffee scene implies that they spoke but we really get to "hear" how it went over their texts in the following scene. I can't stop expressing how creative this is, well done!
And I thought it was a nice touch how even though in that scene they were “together” but the shadow from the window frame still portrayed the division between the two clever clever
It's both comforting and disheartening to know that so many people relate to this. After going through similar experiences in my first relationship I only wish the best for everyone I meet friends, family, peers, and my partner alike ❤
Unfortunately for some, you’ll always there to be a stand in as a villain perspective from the other side. I’ve gotten used to it, but I hope the many out there that feel this way knows that you’re what’s important for right now, then later someone will value your time appropriately no matter how much it’s given. Just focus and persevere through it all.
It's relatable because we all go through it. It's just one of those things. Don't let it dishearten you, it's one more beautiful and sometimes painful experience that comes with being human 😊❤️
Ephesians 6:10-18 says, Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
damnnnn, such accurate representation. someone used to be your go-to for everything and later they become nothing. thats how reality is. u captured it so so well. and the animation BRILLIANT
Me and my cousins were inseparable as kids. The three of us were dubbed the “three musketeers” of our family. It was a blast with them. We played as kids, grew up from playing action figures to video games like Minecraft and other multiplayer games. We were together up until middle school. It was a bond that was made to last. Then high school roll around. We had other people to meet, then we slowly drifted apart until nothing was left. We’ve gone from brothers to strangers. I still regret the day I cut them off and didn’t try to rebuild what we once had. That was 6 years ago. I live in a different country now. I miss those days.
My cousin and i are the same age and we did everything together as kids. Moved from NY to CO and didnt see him for a while, until I was 15 and went back to visit. He had turned into a skate-or-die thrash kid and I was getting into punk but we just ended up butting heads over stupid shit. Eventually he ended up in the marines and I ended up in the army. We're both out of the service but we haven't seen each other since we were in our teens. We're both 32 now and we've only exchanged maybe a handful of short texts in the last few years. I'm mostly resigned to the reality of it but every now and then I let myself reminisce about growing up together.
That was the same with me and my cousins. We used to play together and play Minecraft and now it’s like we’re strangers. I feel awkward trying to talk to them so I don’t talk to them anymore. I still have time to talk to them I know that and I love them deeply but I just wish it was easier to talk to them like it was when we were little
Going through a very similar situation to the girl in this. My best friend back home is getting her masters degree while working a full time job and is completely burnt out 24/7 and unable to hang out or talk at all most days. Meanwhile, I’m feeling the most lonely and isolated I ever have, and I’m left desperately wanting to help her through her stress while not even knowing how to manage my own. Anyways, the short made me cry. Props to you for making me feel things.
I'm in a very similar situation, it really sucks cause you're trying to help while also needing a bit of help yourself, but you devote that time to helping your friend when you finally have time to hang out/talk. Hope it gets better for you dude!
I'm in this exact situation. I haven't seen my best friend in over a year. It's tough, isn't it? It feels like your friendship is over, but there's no obvious cause. You can't really pinpoint when it actually ended. No one got sick or died. You didn't fall out. You didn't fight or even disagree. You just stop seeing eachother and you don't realize anything is wrong until you haven't spoken in months. We have to draw the line somewhere. Of course it's fair enough that people have busy lives, but it's not unfair to want an hour or two every now and again from someone who used to give you so much more. If we don't try and move on we'll be stuck missing this person forever. If we move on too quick, we might destroy a precious friendship when we didn't need to. It's an impossible situation. I hope that whatever happens, you live your best life.
This reminds me of my friend who's busy and I haven't talked to her in ages. I'm a people pleaser yet I push people away, I never reach out to people and they do it to me, and its been months since I've talked to a lot of people. But there are a few people that I do reach out to, one of them is 9hrs away so we are rarely online at the same time but I send them a million messages like the girl in this vid 😭 but im glad he's not overwhelmed, just busy
@@B_-.-I'm afraid I've dome this before, because I sometimes don't reach out just because I'm afraid they hate me. Idk. But a lot of notifications overwhelm me, so I've left them on delivered for months. It got so overwhelming and guilty I just deleted the app overall and just said I lost access to the account. I did see them in some event and we hugged, but we didn't speak since then. I js feel guilty :(
Damn, this story was a lot more serious than I expected. As someone who has awful anxiety, it kind of comforts me to know I'm at least not so crazy for doing some of this stuff. I am working to better myself though, but this was a treat to see. Amazing work, I hope the algorithm treats it well.
I completely agree! It’s nice to know I’m not alone. And I like that you added in that you are working to better yourself. Me too, bud, me too. It’s a truly wonderful thing to be able to recognize when we display some not so great behaviors and then try to work to improve and make some changes for the better. Especially because simply forming healthy* relationships with others is such an important thing.
The point of relating to characters like this is to know that you’re not broken, but that take away isn’t that doing this stuff isn’t crazy because although it’s human it’s also destructive behaviour. The girl character is displaying huge abandonment issues, alcohol dependency and loneliness and it’s destroying her relationships. She desperately tries to avoid being rejected which only lead to her being abandoned. It’s heartbreaking and it’s real but counselling of some form is key.
Dang. The portrayal of both sides is very realistically done, animation is also very cleanly done! Makes you rethink what you message to people… you don’t wanna hurt their feelings, but you wanna be honest with them.
I relate so much to the girl. You perfectly portray the desperation to reconnect with someone that’s important to you. That feeling of a terrifying void of trauma and loneliness, plus the fear of abandonment. I really can’t describe just how accurate this is I used to have this best friend I’ve ever had, we would talk to each other nonstop and can share literally everything with each other (literally everything) but then one day, everything fells apart, we became stranger again. It really hurts tbh it has been tough for the past six months after the fallout. Though getting used to it, it still stings time after time
Very interesting and well done. A much younger me can relate so well to this female character. I was lonely and struggled to accept peoples own terms, pushing too fast to break down barriers with people. I was needy for peoples time and attention from the beginning, and I couldnt understand why it pushed them away. I realized when this behavior was actually given to me how overwhelming it can actually be to be on the receiving end of that. Life is a series of awkward interactions we are constantly growing from. Forgive others and forgive yourself.
@@ar1sah What’s worked for me has just been spending time with myself and getting to know myself better; working on boundaries and discovering what I want in a relationship, whether platonic or otherwise. Most of the time it’s a lack of validation in your relationship with yourself that makes you want to reach out to other people. People will most likely feel uncomfortable if you constantly ask to spend time with them. If you see them pulling back, it’s a sign for you to step back and accept that although you tried to reach out, they weren’t in the right headspace to do the same. It’s best to leave it at that rather than speculate about why they did it, as that leads to overthinking and ensures you stay stuck in this cycle of feeling frustrated and not good enough. It’s important to remember that the choices people make don’t really have to do with us. Being conscious of the consequences of your actions takes a certain level of experience and maturity. Remember that you deserve someone who is willing to communicate with you and work with you rather than just pushing you away without any explanations. However, accountability works both ways. It isn’t fair to assume someone will treat you the same way otherwise. It’s okay to have standards, but don’t get caught up in expectations. I’d recommend Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, it’s a book on Toltec wisdom that better explains some of the points I’ve touched on here.
The animation and acting in this is so subtle, takes some real talent and an inherent eye for this kind of stuff, engaging to keep pushing this to more and more and more people
@@sejtbrugernavn Probably not. But it's a pretty good animation. And it gets through a nice insight about the mundane yet awkward things about life. Also, this animation made me feel like i was watching Adventure time. Maybe it was the style and the music. And also the message. It just felt like Adventure Time for me.
Ephesians 6:10-18 says, Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
I had to break up with somebody I was on track for marriage. Spent almost 5 years together... I can't describe the huge emptiness I feel in this lonely new me and this video is done so well to help me clear my mind. I guess I have to overwork myself and forget everything in due time. Great stuff, keep up the good work and thank you 👍🏻
@@Prismateactually there is no escape. the lack of human interaction. the immeasureble amount of ego after continuous interaction with conformist unachieving crabs that strive for mundane and are actually agressive towards anything brave and even slightly controversial will drive a person into the social wilderness and leave him to nothing but lonely monotonous void in which he will lose himself in the worst meaning possible. people'll go nuts, they'll go crazy, delirious even
The poor girl is clearly struggling with alcohol as an coping mechanism and is extremely apologetic to the guy, as she almost said: "since" that happened. Must have been harsh for these two, whatever it was. All in all this was beautiful and bittersweet, as art should be.
Feel like the guy sometimes, done and moved on from this person and feeling guilty saying no to them when they reach out, and feel like the girl sometimes, wanting to rekindle a relationship and feeling insecure, secretly knowing that you should just move on
I hate it. I hate how accurate this is and how it embodies the way I feel about my own experience of this situation right now. I hate how much I would have needed this video a few months fewer than today. But I also love it. It gives me an feeling of validation. That my own momentary suffering is valid and that myself can grow from it.
I'm not really the best at therapy and all that but if you just need someone to talk to I usually play videogames after work and I can lend an ear for a few hours. If you want meet to respond or not it's up to you, no pressure.
@@alecm122 thanks I appreciate your offer but I’m kinda “good”. I have a counsellor and a social network that I can reach out to to talk about this problem. It’s just hitting close to home because I thought that I was already in a better place than before. But this better place wasn’t real and instead I reached the place shown in the video, where you have someone special which whom you want to spend time together but they don’t want to spend time with you because you’re damaging them and they don’t feel comfortable with you around. And this feeling clearly sucks but it sucks evenmore to know in retrospect that there where warning signs along the way and you still speeded down the path that lend to the end of an relationship that means/meant so much to you.
MY BELOVED LORD. I CRIED. I found it so interesting how we manage to read the characters thoughts just by what they write and delete. And it's so agonizing because they know they don't feel good in the presence of each other but the story doesn't have an ending. Also I love your animation style!!?!!!!!1!1(1❤🎉
@@buildinasentry1046 There is evidence, She had an alcohol addiction and struggled with negligence, I know personally how ignorance affects the mind and how addiction (not an alcohol addiction) feels. She also had gone too sleep extremely late in the past days like 3am, that detrimentally lowers your mental health and disrupts your daily activities. She also missed him "so much", but she did not get to say it. She also is very self conscious with the man, that also decreases mental health. Finally, at the end, you can see a brown rope hanging in the corner, which taken in view of the other points and also since the algorithim recommends me suicide prevention videos, all implys that she hung herself.
@@kreidfamAll of that is circumstantial at best. Yes, she might have a cocktail of mental disorders, but the natural conclusion is not always suicide. Also, that “brown rope” you note as visible at the end there is actually the interior lining where the wall (containing the window) meets the ceiling.
This reminded me of my past relationship with my ex-gf. I relate to the guy. It’s hard for him to flat out reject her because he still holds emotions towards her. But he knows that things can never work out after the way they ended. He has this glimmer of hope when she reaches out to him but he knows from the bottom of his heart that its the wrong thing to do. This was a masterful portrayal of both perspectives!
@@luigipxint1043 it can be difficult for some people to express how they really feel, especially if they have a difficult history and don't want to lose what they have at the present time. i'm someone who struggles with that kind of honesty as well but i'm trying to work on it
@@feverish-fishIts selfish to remain silent. There is no excuse. "Ok but itss hard to admit these things!" Yknow what else is hard? Struggling to understand if you pushed them away, because they never told you the honesty you deserved. Assuming you are the problem when all you wanted was to be around someone. Grow up, communicate, and treat people kindly.
Wow, I think its how it feels awkward after not talking with someone for a long time, trying to be more open and spend time with them. Really amazing work!
I feel like there's more going on here. She seems obsessed with him to the point it's causing her anxiety, and the other guy picked up on her obsessive behaviour and distanced himself. They could've had a normal relationship if her mental issues didn't hold her back
@Imakebigotsseethe maybe but there's definitely something wrong with the girl mentally. People with good self esteem and aren't needy don't sweat over how people think about them like that, especially if they haven't spoken in a long time.
@@rustyshackleford83as someone who has felt like the girl in this story a lot, I definitely agree with your interpretation. I'm not at the end of my journey, but realising how much of my own worth I put into others has caused me to be more aware of my issues, even if I'm still building up my self confidence. You can cause so much hurt to yourself that way, and it's unfair to other people to give them so much emotional responsibility over you. Anyways sorry if I got a bit deep there, I just think you are right on the mark with your point.
I’m so saddened to be reminded of these situations, yet somewhat comforted to know I’m not alone. But still wanting someone who doesnt want you back and overthinking your every step is straight torture.
I really enjoy how this isn’t really from either perspective. It’s consistently from both angles, which makes it to where you can see how each one feels. It’s not just a story of someone wanting to reconnect and missing someone but being unable to because the other one doesn’t communicate, but also not just a story about having to deal with someone who clings to you despite pretty obvious signs that you’re not interested, even if you don’t explicitly say it. Both sides have their issues and both sides have their sympathies. Wonderful story telling in such a small detail!!
im gonna comment before this blows up. this is actually like my favorite short story animation like ever… the way you can convey both POV’s of them misunderstanding each other perfectly is so relatable and just so heart breaking in an amazing way. I love this, and it’s so well animated. I can tell heart and soul was put into this and i love this so much!!!!! definitely one of the best vids on youtube :]
Texts are a soulless string of letters. You will overthink them, you will ruin them, and you will feel pressured to read and respond to them. But things are easier to go over when there's a face to look at, a voice to hear, a person to talk to. At first this vid made me feel a little sad, but really it made me bitter at our shortcomings in communication as people. Go knock on his door, ask him to the bar, if he turns you away then, then you know it's truly over. So much suffering and misunderstanding could be spared if we just spoke with one another for real, not hidden behind a device. Vid was awesome btw, as aforementioned, put me on a little rollercoaster of emotions and I appreciate that.
Yeah as long as it’s actual real world face to face, things like ft are almost worse than text sometimes cos it’s like you’re almost there u can practically reach through the screen but u can’t
@@alfonshedstrom9859 It's only irreversible if you decide it to be. We, as humans, came up with going to other peoples doors asking them out. If we did it then, why not do it now?
We dont have alot of art portraying realistic social situations like this today, and its wierd cause it happens to all of us. Definitely dont mind more of these.
i love this because you know no context to this. we are left to make our own assumptions and that can be totally off from what you were thinking for their backstories. connecting it to my own experiences and texting my ex recently i feel like the girl, kinda trying to keep the convo going knowing in the back of ur mind its never gonna be the same and then finally getting hit with something that basically forces u to accept u wont talk anymore (in this case the seen) anyways i love this
And people wonder why depression has increased over the years. Stop doing and watching depressing social media contents like these or just avoid social media would be a good solution.
@@sauce8148depressing stories have always existed. Watching sad clips on RUclips won’t make you depressed unless that’s all you do all day with nothing to balance it out.
@@sauce8148i kinda disagree with youA: whatching small amoumts of sad things is literally fine, B: depression is not at all caused just by stuff like this. Idk obviously its not great to surround your self with tragedy, but I think its a little bit trivialising, what you said.
honestly reconnecting friendships can be tough and this video is very realistic and insanely good at portraying that and the feeling it gives you is sooo good!!
I've never had to reconnect a friendship before. Why would you want to reconnect something if one or both parties treated the other bad enough to sever the relationship?
@@alecm122 There's not much we can take from this video, we can't assume what their past was like. But an answer to your question is: people grow, people mature. Being stupid in the past does not mean you're still going to be stupid in the future. If shit still doesn't work out for some reason, then that's life. But reconnections are still very tough. There are people who you only get to meet in a certain part of your life, when you were naive or too innocent, and in any other circumstances you would never feel the need to them again. That's why when you drift apart and happen to meet, you just can't bring yourself to reconnect with them, because you've matured, and know well enough what you're not supposed to do.
@@alecm122 Relationships can end for other reasons than one party treating the other badly. Some people can get into a rough spot and not want to be a burden. You could be moving out of town. Some people get children. You can grow into different hobbies/friendgroups. I am in no way the authority on things like this since I am a 40 year old autistic man who never was able to keep a long term friendship or relationship ...
I have never written a RUclips comment before. I find it hard to express more for a video than just "Hey, this was good let me like it." But this animation is something I can't believe I didn't get to see 7 days earlier. It is a piece of art that is perfectly human in many ways. I love it. It has been a while since I watched something that made me feel genuinely sad. Not because of a sad soundtrack. But the use of visuals and body language. Through the subtle and mostly ambiguous storyline. I also find this oddly relatable. But all in all this is a video I am so glad RUclips decided to recommend to me. Definitely one worth subscribing for.
i was literally that guy and she was this girl. so i sent this video to her a few months ago, and told her that’s what i felt about our relationship. we had a long talk and some fights, and now we don’t talk anymore. but honestly, i feel relieved. i could not take it anymore, she was giving me way too much, and wasn’t realizing how much i was hurting her by giving her nothing. and i was being an asshole being cold and mean instead of telling what i really felt. this short film helped us so much, even if it hurt.
She was not giving you too much. She was TAKING too much of your energy. She gave too much even when you were giving her the message you were not into it. The problem is she still thinks that she has a chance of winning you over so she ignores reality. She ignores that it is 4am and texts you. She ignores that it’s common courtesy to ask how someone is. She ignores that he said he has to work. She ignores that he agreed with her and she makes all these assumptions about him being angry or disagreeing with her. It’s EXHAUSTING to be in any kind of relationship with someone who behaves like this. They act like children who need your reassurance, constant attention and praise-or else they act depressed and text you about how upset they are to reel you back in… and it’s SAD because they’re not usually self aware about what they’re doing-it’s not on purpose and they’re suffering, but THEY MAKE THOSE AROUND THEM SUFFER TOO. The best thing to do is be direct but kind.
This is such a real representation of how it feels to look back on these moments. Most of, if not all of us, 100% have had or will have an experience like this, and it really is just one of those things you start to take in stride as you grow thru what you learned. It doesn’t feel better, it doesn’t really stop aching, it’s just one of those experiences that kind of suck and no one is really the bad guy. Sometimes you really have to cut someone off, things just change faster than when we were kids.
AHHHHHHH 😭 Everyone.. this is something you learn when you’re grown, but if you’re not interested in something, say that.. it’s actually kinder. I’ve been on the receiving end of someone telling me they didn’t want to be my friend anymore and that shit hurts deeply BUT it helped me fully move on and realized I deserved a better friend.
Honesty is the best policy no lie. It saves so much more time , confusion, and emotional turmoil to just say it point blank rather than play in their face about it.
This made me sad because I’ve been in a spot where I feel like I’m bothering people and I feel so self conscious about it cuz I don’t want to scare people away..
Wow, this is heartbreaking but so real at the same time. You did a wonderful job of portraying the characters in a human way. Keep up the awesome work dude! 😊
Im glad this is finally potrayed from a point of view other than the clingy texter. I was the recipient for around a year and forced myself to do a lot of shit i didn’t want to. This coupled with the guilt of leading them on, the guilt of hurting them, the guilt of feeling the way you do, its all so suffocating. Thank you.
you know it tears people apart. if you make your boundaries known neither of you would incurr so much pain. Its so hard feeling like your doing everything to connect with someone and apparently its too clingy and hurting the relationship but if you just mention it it could be ok ignoring people sucks man its better to just tell them you dont want the commitment
holy wow! so much emotion and humanity showed in such a short period of time. You captured this so realistically i actually felt the second hand embarrassment and sadness. need more animations as melancholic as this
The fact that no one here is the villain or portrayed that way whilst still generating those hopeless and painful feelings is a testament to your talent as a story teller and an artist - wow.
I really feel like crying, I relate too much to the girl, even the drinking part that is similar to how I was a year ago at my lowest, trying to reach out to people and seeing them growing more distant every day. Amazing work ♥︎. Edit: why is everyone arguing now
@potatoisgoodnotacherry Ain't no way you belittling someone for feeling an emotion after watching something. It might not be that deep to you, but clearly it was deep enough for dozens of people to feel the same way. Grow up.
I had to study each frame for details to get my interpretation of who they are. This is what I found: Girl: Has poster up that say “U don’t mttr” next to “Belieive in your dreams.” She feels disorganized and more artistically inclined which also leads me to believe she’s more emotionally charged in making decisions. The video also starts off with her looking towards the calendar side of her room, which, it’s not show in the first shot, but later on in the split screen, you see there are photos of them (her and the boy) both together smiling including one of just him making a silly face. The framing and spacing of her photos are overlapping and cluttered, however these two photos of them are given their own space and not overlapping which tells me they are more important to her. They also both have the same potted plant where hers is dead and his is alive. Boy: Room is more neatly organized apart from the few clothing items on the floor. Everything has its place and is put together without clutter. He has a doll on his shelf that is the same figure from the girls big green poster. He’s sentimental, thoughtful, and simple. He is also honest as he said he was busy and genuinely was busy working. Seems to not get out much as all we seen him do outside of work and sleep is to go spend time with her at the diner. He has a picture of his family at his desk showing he has more traditional leaning ideals of sentimental value once again. His consistent color scheme with his outfit and room is also telling of that. Kind of poignant actually as it seems the splashes of color outside of his purview are those reflective of the girl as her small glimpses of organization and life is of him. Conclusion: They were definitely in a relationship where she broke up with him and is now regretting it. She says she’s back in town, but her place looks like it’s been lived in for a while, so she’s been back at least for a hot minute. Also the freak out and deletion of high emotionally charged texts and resorting to drinking then to drunk texts are staples of unstable behavior and regret. The plants really get me too. It feels like they either bought them together or he bought them for both of them while he kept taking care of his. In keeping with the color scheme of the boy, she probably bought him that necklace he’s wearing at his desk the day he’s working. He probably bought her that poster about believing in dreams since it’s close to his color palette but that can be reaching.
I love this comment because it points out that while she's more outwardly, obviously hung up on him, he has intense emotions about her too. The plants especially are a powerful detail. He must have carefully nurtured his all this time, while she carried around a dead one with her. Her carrying the dead plant with her is also a beautiful symbol of her connection to the relationship. The relationship they once had, on her end, is dead. But she's still clinging to it anyways, keeping it with her as she moves places. I wonder if her behavior and the plant also hint to the idea that he is rejecting her in part to protect himself from the intensity that comes with her presence. He seems like someone who values, even needs calm stability. And she is clearly... not that. That's not her fault or even a flaw, but it probably has hurt him in the past and he is protecting himself from that hurt. He's definitely clearly somewhat scared about something there. I feel for both of them so much...
Great analysis!! One detail I really liked was the window shadow keeping the screen split. Not even when they're together they're on the same page. Amazing.
Thank you for this, Im honestly the girl right now and honestly I think this has helped me think throughout my current situation. Thank you for portraying these feelings and in such a beautiful animation too, the music also portrays everything so well.
I feel like this short has been a wake-up call for me. Back in April, I hurt someone from how I acted and tried to make jokes about it (mainly targeted at myself, and because I had feelings for them so I didn't want them to feel bad), but in what I thought was harmless self deprecating jokes was actually super weird and suffocating for them. Since then, we haven't talked as I did make them uncomfortable, and they distanced themselves from me, and I went through some serious shit and changed my life for the better (better eating habits and better life choices yada yada). But despite all that, I still want to meet up and talk to them and apologise and become good friends again, we even work at the same place, but upon seeing this short I realise I might just end up annoying them and that people come and go in our lives and that's a part of life some of us gotta accept.
While I was watching I noticed how much i related to the girl and it opened my eyes on how I’ve been acting and how it may affect other people. Never “seen” your work, never even heard of you, but thank you for opening my eyes.
I seriously loved it, need more stories with these characters, they felt so human. The ambient, music, colors... It was so real and chill, excellent imo. I also loved this Adventure Time style, keep it like this please.
god this is so painfully real … i’ve been on both sides of this spectrum and it really does hurt on both sides :[ beautifully animated and represented !!
RUclips just showed this channel to me rn and I got that weird good feeling of finding an artist that just speaks to me to so many levels. Your work is beautiful
I'm currently recovering from a broken Joint and am drawing myself, so I won't make this a paragraph, but I'm gonna be fully honest, this was absolutely wonderful. It's amazing how well you conveyed both of the stories of the characters. You were able to make the characters feel like *people* , not just characters in an animation. You did this absolutely phenomenally, your pacing, music, and color choice were all amazing. Good job my dude, and keep it up, you're doing absolutely wonderfully :) Liked and subbed.
@@Randomxyz-777I was thinking that too, but bro there’s a time to grow up and stop avoiding the problem. All he had to do was say how he really felt instead of stringing her along. Honestly that’s worse than cheating because at least yall had something that was real or felt real. He just made the problem worst
It was his smile at the end for me. It’s like her finally confessing “ i miss u “ meant something but he just can’t go back. And she obviously wishes she could. Loved it❤
As someone dealing with a similar situation rn, this really hit me so hard in my soul. I feel like Im in the girl's situation. Coping with lonliness and longing for friendship, but with people who just arent available for me rn. It sucks, but all I can do is focus on me and hopefully meet someone someday who will be available for me. I understand the guy though. He's just another wavelength, but admittedly, if he expressed how he felt directly, it would be less painful between them. Its not easy. I've been in those shoes too. Thank you for making this piece. It was amazing.
This brought back some memories. I had a best friend in elementary school. Once we went to middle school, our friendship begun fading. I tried to call her but only ever reached her mom who didn't like me (cuz my mom offended her once) and would always tell me my friend was too busy to hang out. Fast forward a year. I hadn't made new friends. I was very lonely and desperate for human connection outside of family. I went to the cinema one day and coincidentally, my old friend was there. I was elated. I walked up with a huge smile and my arms stretched out for a hug. I said her name and she looked but didn't return a smile. She didn't even hug back.. it felt off. She definitely recognized me but looked uncomfortable. She asked me how I was doing but it didn't feel genuine. I lied and said "Good. How about you?" She replied "Also good. Just hanging out with some friends." For some reason that sentence hit me like a truck. I'd wanted to tell her how lonely I was and that I was so happy to see her friendly face again. I'd wanted to meet, catch up and reminisce about funny memories again. But I realized she didn't want that at all. She didn't miss me at all. She wasn't interested in me at all. She seemed ashamed of me. Hoping her friends wouldn't see me interacting with her. I felt tears coming so I said "Well, have fun. Cya." And I speedwalked to my family. I cried the whole way home. But in the end, I wouldn't want a friend who treats me like an embarrassment in public. We're better off with people who actually enjoy our company. It sucks, but one-sided friendships must be ended. There are better people for us. It might take years to find them, but it's worth it in the end.
@@tojifushiguro3793 I have. 👍 I just went down repressed memory lane a lil bit. I ended up finding some real friends who actually enjoy my company in the years following this. :)
Wish some people would just say straight up that they're uncomfortable, instead of acting like this. But theres much better people than her, hope you've found them About my childhood friend, we are also distant. We did become most distant during year 5-6, although y7 was when distance learning started and suddenly we became super close again. As of now, we barely talk, but when we do it's like we're acquaintances. It's not that we dont like each other, but we changed so much and don't synergise. It's okay though, it happens.
Except that those years of loneliness make us so socially retarded that no one wants us anymore. Making friends and even more so romantical partners is most likely impossible at this point. No one wants a loser like me, and the only way to "unloser" my self is for another person to want me in the first place lol
Holy shoot everything in this was so realistic and honestly hit home perfectly. Love how it showed both sides because I think most of us experienced being in these two’s shoes at least once
The music does such an amazing job at depicting the potential positivity mixed with the awkwardness, the buildup, the anxiety, the fear, beautiful message about how to not be weird.
the great thing about this is that i've been on both ends of the situation-- it's such a familiar concept, yet i've never seen it portrayed so well until now
I adore that you showed off both perspectives. Makes me think about how the world just judges a situation by their own or makes it one way traffic. It's refreshing dude. This shit happenes to everyone of every age, every year.
Beautifully done. My last relationship ended because I was the one who pulled away. I didn’t know at the time how hard it was on my ex but this paints the picture perfectly in retrospect. It makes me feel ashamed which is very powerful for an animation. I’m changed now and I’ll remember your short story if I ever feel that way again.
1:06 I love the window shadow creating a line that seperates them. It just makes them seem so far apart besides being at the same booth.
I love that detail too
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@@PrismateReal but this depiction is good
Oh damn I didn't even catch that.
WOW, you have a great eye mister. I would have never seen that if you didn't point that out. Very good choice by the artist
What an amazing story; the pacing, the character interactions, facial expressions all flow so well together. Wish the algorithm rewarded projects like these more.
I think it is
It kinda is. I've never seen this RUclips channel and it got fed to me. I was ready to cry so only let out a few tears. This was great though
looks like adventure time tried to be edgy again. lol bury this where nobody can see it
@@adalEun i honestly don't know what to think about this comment
@@alexthebluehermit you have to think about comments? try not thinking. if you havent lived the scenario in the video you wont get it.
I feel bad for both of the characters. You did really well at portraying the personalities and humanity of both of them.
Nah, I mean the guy is an asshole. He is just a lazy and wants to have things both ways. You either eliminate people from your life completely if you don't want to talk to them, or at least try to interact with them. He is a coward.
@@zekechum1969sad that you watched all that and decided to be this reductive
@@zekechum1969damn internet got u down low huh lol
@@zekechum1969lmao
@@zekechum1969What?
i’ve heard a saying that went, “you can’t rekindle a flame that’s already been extinguished.” in life, people come and go and it sucks when the people that leave meant so much to you and had made so many memories together.
Except the part where people are no longer igniting flames but expecting it as part of the standard relationship. Everyone’s always trying to one up and “upgrade”.
And what sucks is that leaving doesn't make them a bad person either. People aren't accountable and responsible for other people all the time when they also have their own life to worry about. It also depends on the context. Catching up is only good when both of you still want to start fresh and welcome each other in your lives again. When you feel like it's nothing like that, why would you force yourself?
It really depends. You can try and rekindle old flames, but you have to accept and move on if it doesn't work.
there is a saying in my country that goes the opposite, "where fires was, ashes remain". Don't relly on sayings, nobody has lived enough to know everything
I really needed to hear that today. Thank you 😊
I really like how neither of these characters are in the wrong, just in different places. It makes everything feel so human and you can feel sympathy for both of them so easily - this is really amazing!!
Sometimes a friendship has ended and neither people truly realized it until one tries to reconnect, it feels shitty when you're the last person to realize.
Totally agree with it being an amazing work of art, but I gotta confess I hesitate to label neither of them "in the wrong." Person B wallowed in noncommittal language and did not allow Person A the common courtesy of clear communication. They strung person A along, leaving them to flounder in anxiety. Person B didn't set any boundaries, but left person A to guess at what they were thinking. This is cruel.
Person A, meanwhile, came on far too strong, should have been calmly open about why they were reconnecting, has bad coping mechanisms, etc. Personally, I think it's a fairer statement to say neither of them were in the right. They both annoy me 😅😅
That's just me tho! I don't mean anything by the observation:) art sparks convo lol, case in point
@@kikiceili3956 totally agree with you, I think this animation shows both sides of anxiety - I think Person B didn’t know how to communicate with them and felt intimidated by how strong they were coming on, and Person A understood this too but ended up scaring off Person B even more by over compensating. Neither of them handled the situation particularly well but I feel like that’s what makes the animation so easy to connect with on a personal level, btw thanks for not screaming at me lol I feel like conversations like this on the internet can turn into arguments really quickly for no reason at all :’)
They're both in the wrong imo. The guy doesn't know how to set boundaries, and the girl doesn't have a strong enough sense of self worth to recognise she only needs herself and to never engage in such a one sided relationship like this.
@@sploofmcsterra4786just normal everyday problems innit
This felt so real. From deleting the texts over and over to panicking when you feel like you’ve fucked up, to the heart sinking feeling when they confirm that you did weird them out. 4 minutes, but I felt this in my soul. You’re so talented.
Women are not allowed to feel like that because its a mans job the man is the one who should have those feelings you as a women just it there and look pretty
@BrawlStars-io3fq nah man, the man needs to bottle his emotions in order to not look weird
If we open up then she is gonna pull up her card
I'm not your psychologist
@@BrawlStars-io3fqplease tell me this is ironic
@@angrywolfjr7164 It's a rage bait
@@angrywolfjr7164oh hey I'm subbed to you. Think I found you in another comment section a while ago and found your channel. Small world
holy shit this killed me. This is the best depiction of wanting to reconnect with people who were once important to you, despite everything that's happened. this is just amazing great job
So depressing
It is amazing, I've suffered the awkwardness so many times. It just hurts when you truly miss the connection you once had with a person but that person doesn't value your friendship or memories to that extent. Why can't some people be nice? It doesn't cost anything
@@xxxarimaxxx Always wondered that.
@@enmunap not only is it about feelings, it's also about decency. I would much rather prefer you were honest about whatever grudge you hold against me that is making you treat me like I'm nonexistent, than you leading me on like I'm some kind of used fork that doesn't deserve your time. That right there is pure ego and manipulation it's' not always being an asshole because some people don't know how to express their feelings in certain situations, but whether they're being selfish or not, there's a clear difference between what's right and what's wrong, especially in cases where that person is trying their best to stay in touch. Although if you think there isn't, then I guess it's a matter of perspective. Everyone is entitled to feel however they want, but treating people badly when all they're trying to do is reconnect with you just means you're only trying to protect yourself and yes that does count as actively making someone feel bad, because if you're aware enough of "feelings" then you should easily understand the other person has "feelings" too. If you're mature enough, then you'll eventually realize that yes, treating people badly is wrong and being unfazed about it is even worse actually a serious problem
@@xxxarimaxxx being nice well honestly some people really do move on it's just life it sucks
The long texting, feeling guilt from that and the apologising, the excuses of not being free, the terrible feeling from reading all that apologies and long texts is way too real
Ooh it's too real..
this video actually made me sob because i had close to the exact experience. i reached out too much. tried to hang out. fucked it up. and we were officially done talking after the break up. i’m such a fuck up
@@stringofspades2you aren’t a fuck up. I hope you can get over it
@@stringofspades2you’re not trust me at least you tried to reach out and rekindle the friendship, even if that meant you both were no longer on the same wavelength, it happens to 99.9% of the population so don’t worry.
Lmao balkan rage ahh
The character design gives major Adventure Time vibes but still feels like it's own thing. Loved the realistic portrayal of an awkward relationship and wouldn't mind seeing more of this type of stuff.
Depression Time 🎶
With Overwork and Social Isolation 🎵
It really does
Yes I was thinking that too
@@RailwayScholar
Depression time,
Come on grab your coworkers
Going no where, but work
Me a human, you a human
the depression never ends
Depression Time!
I literally clicked on the video because of their art style, I love adventure time so much. The video itself was beautiful and sad
I think it’s nice to see that in one way or another, be it a friendship or relationship, most of us have been on both sides before. The one reaching out and the one pulling away. This four min video shows how complex and hard human relationships are, but also how worth it they can be when it works out. This was beautiful, thank you.
Perhaps it can even be understood as an imagery on how himan communication has changed, from the spoken word to texting.
I've been on this girl's side of the story (I'm not a girl); but even as busy as I am as that man in the left side, it just felt assholish.
I've never been the person on the left. I have stopped being the one on the right though.
@@xyannail4678you never know
Maybe she did something bad with him in the past and meeting her made those memories flood back
Or
maybe he just became distant after spending so much time apart
Or
Maybe they dated previously and it didn't end on good terms
@@xyannail4678 yeah it is assholish, everyone thinks they’re the “good” guy and never wants to be the “bad” guy. but i think eventually, in the multitude of relationships that we humans will experience, i think it’s inevitable. no matter how hard you try, somehow, you will be the villain in someone’s story.
I had a falling out with someone who used to be my best friend some time ago. We're both completely different people with completely different lives now, yet I still can't help but constantly reminisce about the friend I lost. It hurts, honestly, and it's something I don't often talk about, which is why this animation made it all feel so bittersweet, so close to my heart once again. Thank you for sharing this incredible piece with the world! You're an amazing storyteller.
Know the feeling. Had a close friend turn out to be a shit show. Pretty nasty argument ensued, never spoke to each other again after that. He is an awful person, anything I hear about him nowadays just gets worse and worse. I will never reconnect with him. But I do think about our friendship a lot. I grieve the time before everything happened. I miss who he was before I learned how much of a mess he was. But things are better now.
@@gladiolus3181 I'm really sorry to hear that. I think the main issue with grieving past relationships of any kind is that we're actually just attached to the idea of someone, to something that doesn't exist anymore, but realizing that is even more depressing. Maybe that, and also the fact that they probably don't miss us as much as we miss them, but I think the animation did a great job at exploring that.
I guess time heals everything, as they say; we just gotta keep waiting. I'm glad things are looking better for you now, though!
This happened to me recently. It's been a very eye opening 8 or 9 months since it happened and I still think about the last few times we spent together when things were teetering. It makes me appreciate the space I've given myself and how I've moved on from the mistakes I made and the pain others caused me. Thank you for having the strength to share your experience. Be well
Don’t worry spookz26. I’m sure it was all for the better. I read a story of a young girl who underwent some personal spiritual awakening and then at school, some of her friends stopped being her friends but she made new ones.
It’s sad, but our friendships aren’t the same level as family, most of the time. They change as we change.
You can’t cross the same river twice, they say. I guess the Buddha talked about the impermanence of permanence thus the need to let go of attachments (I thiiink I’m not actually super knowledgeable about Buddhist teachings hehe).
I sincerely wish you happiness. Sometimes we have to move through a few waves of sadness first though.
😊
@@spookz26 It makes alot of sense. I had some people that were awful to me over something. I've moved on, but there is still a small part of me that wishes they could've taken the time to understand me and my point of view. To listen.
Anyone notice how he started texting with capitalization and punctuation once she said who it was? The form of intimacy gone.. so formal. The story I've put to it is that they were best friends ( 2:23 you can see pictures of them together on the girls side) and he confessed that he felt something more and she turned him down and suggested that they should take some time apart. But she missed having him in her life after about a year of little to no conversation and reached back out to rekindle their friendship and start off slow. She wanted to be cautious as to not lead him on. However, during their time apart he lost his connection and feelings for her. He missed her too but so much time has passed where he didn't hear from her that the spark isn't there anymore - neither romantic or platonic. His smile during "still feels like we're good friends and stuff" made him reminisance and hopefully for reconnection but when she started spamming with backtracking text. He retreated and remembered he was hurt by her for ending their friendship and decided to leave the relationship where it is. Barely exisistent.
That’s a great interpretation!
The way, I see it is that I think they were best friends. But after some
Arguments, or times in which they didn’t get along or see eye to eyes on certain issues, I think they just drifted away.
But after some time, Amy wants to rekindle. Maybe she feels bad about what happened and wants to change.
But her friend has moved on and is afraid of being hurt again, so he tries to use work in order to distract and distance himself from her.
But at the ending, she finally says that she misses him. He reads it, and closes his eyes. I think that’s meant to imply that maybe a part of him wants what they had at the start, but he’s afraid that he’s going to get hurt again. He’s confused and doesn’t know what to do. While Amy thinks that he is rejecting her.
In short, this short perfectly captures how confusing relationships and friendships can be, especially between young adults and between those who want to rekindle, but they don’t want to get hurt again.
This is an excellent take
You’re smart.
So basically the girl left him first?
Wait ... what does typing correctly have to do with intimacy?
As soon as I saw that the messages were left on “seen” my heart dropped. This was such an amazing animation. Please make more!!!
I mean what did you expect when you text someone at 2am in the morning? For them to just be awake and already kicking?
@@jesuschrist7833Logical thinking isn’t with you at all times
@@Wmann are telling me you’d be awake at 2am in the morning and would be willing to give full on answers when you’re supposed to be sleeping? Sounds like you have a shit sleep schedule. Maybe put the phone down and go to sleep like the rest of the population when the sun goes down. Also, the fact you needed to like your own comment proves to me that you don’t even know what Logic is. Grow a pair and comeback to me when you understand how reality works.
@@Wmann Bro is roasting jesus christ
@@Wmann it’s true though
Reconnecting a friendship can be hard af, I've had some attempts in my life, a few success and a few failures, but eventually, you have to learn how to let people go. Btw amazing animation, I felt anxiety watching it because I had a similar experience haha but I could feel both characters emotions, it is incredible how you can connect with a cartoon of barely four minutes
So true
666th like 😈
More than just people. Sometimes you just need to accept situations, and times have changed.
@@ShinzouKatsune exactly
That's so sad
So many thoughts go through your head like, "Were they just friends reconnecting after a fight, were they together, what did she do, etc." The animation was really good as well.
Ephesians 6:10-18 says,
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
from context clues, I've read it as a hometown childhood friend coming back to her hometown, presumably after something bad happened and wanted to reconnect with her childhood friend, Childhood friend having spent a very long time without her as grown distant and busy but couldn't bring it to himself to just tell her that, while the girl is very eager and very desperate, i assume because of the thing that drove her to go back to her hometown and she might be looking for an old friend to confide in but she couldn't bring it to herself to just say it and instead played along as if she just wanted to catch up.
@@skywoofyt5375I saw it more of an ex-relationship. I feel like them having been in a relationship in the past can bring out this much emotion in just catching up, not just a friendship.
@@quenchthirster1417or a situation where feelings weren’t reciprocated. It could also be a relationship where the girl depended too much on the other emotionally and the other person didn’t realize how much it took out of them until she moved away. There’s a lot that could be going on here.
Around the 2:23 mark, at the girl’s side, you’ll see 3 pictures that would indicate that they were once dating or were extremely close to one another,
Makes you wonder what had happened to separate them in the first place
This is why it's important to read the room. If you're getting big vibes that someone doesn't want to interact with you, leave them alone and move on. It's probably annoying the other person or making them experience guilt for not wanting to be with you. Both sides suffer when you can't accept this.
Think about it: if they really wanted to keep in touch with you, don't you think they would try at least a little bit?
totally agreed, but how many tries is too many?
It's not others' responsibility to pick up on unspoken rules, maybe just don't be a pussy about it and say how you feel.
Dude this hurt, it brought me to tears. This is a really relatable story and the way you portrayed it was very realistic. Rocky relationships suck, and just reading the texts back and fourth with no background you’d have no idea what the story is and how they are feeling. This is amazing. And deserves so much more recognition.
For real i knew what was up next 😭😭
I’m so glad i’m not the only one who relates to these type of relationships
Wats Rocky relations?
I honestly liked how the animation style is similar to adventure time❤
The beginning was all warm & fuzzy
Then the end just made me wanna swap souls with the girl & just text her crush
"Lemme know when you're available dude bc rn, it seems that your job is more important..
Ttyl I guess.."
@@lindragnarssonwhen things are awkward and uncertain, for the most part
This is the storytelling equivalent of a Mona Lisa smile. It says so much with so little. There's a faint joy and a faint sadness, and the shape of it seems to run away from you the more you look for it. Gorgeous. Be proud of this.
Wdym so little? Maybe it’s just because I’m far from an expert on art, but this doesn’t seem like “so little” to me.
@@oberonpanopticonnot an art person either, but I think what they’re getting at is that the emotions are very subtle. Nothing is super flashy and things aren’t entirely spelled out. Yeah they text their feelings, but neither of them is being fully open, and you can see their general mood based on their expressions, but we don’t know exactly what they’re feeling or why. Like he’s obviously uncomfortable, but is he just struggling to let her down softly? Is he disinterested in her for her self confidence or smth else? Is he upset cause he feels guilty about just telling her no? And did he really mean to leave her on read or was he just tired and stressed?
The differences between the texting and expressions tells a lot, but there’s so much more to analyze too.
Stand proud TAEETIMEE
@@oberonpanopticon From a storytelling perspective it’s difficult to get an audience to feel they know and care about two characters and tell a story in such a short time. We don’t learn a lot of details about their past or their actual relationship. It tells an emotionally resonant story in less time than it takes most plays/books/movies/shows to establish the setting
Beautiful review!
i related so much to the left one bro. the happiness at first, then the remembering what they did. Then being scared to be hurt again. Being distant to stay safe. I relate to the fear of intimacy and trying not to get emotionally involved in someone especially someone who hurt you before. Its like chains on you holding you back from the happiness you could have
it just hurts so much. the worst pain ive ever felt, i can drownd it out but i can just feel it creeping in slowly anytime i see or think about anything we did together. stuck in my head like a tragic chocolate. so sweet at first but over time gets alittle too much. ive never hurt more then i had to cut it off. i dont think ive recovered yet. ive goten so good at drowning out how i feel about anything. its just an i dont care. i just dont care about anything or anyone.
I felt that too he seemed to really be in pain every rime he tried to make a decision not trying to be rude but feeling like he was causing himself pain to try and open up to her
Damnn, honestly this last girl i was trying to connect with i felt like the girl on the right. Just boxed out when i made any mistake
ugh yeah 😭
It’s so interesting that that’s how you perceived the left sided character. I relate so much to right one and the way I perceive the person on the left is someone who is too afraid to tell the other that they just don’t care about them so they lead them on with little interest. The worst feeling in the world is when someone keeps feeding an interest you have in them but not enough for it to feel like a relationship or a friendship. Imo the person on the right is getting hurt the most. But that’s also without context but we’ll never know the context
1:13 Writing "yup lol" with a 😐 face is so real
Yeah, I think this is a side of our generation that isn't represented a lot, the contrast between the positive texts and the actual feelings that are being held back. It's harder to hide those emotions irl or on the phone, even letters could have tear stains on them. But through instant messaging you can hide them completely
Yh, that's how I keep my face when writing that. Lol
when she said “still feels like we’re good friends and stuff” he smiled and it seemed like he was thinking things would be fine but then he looked back at his phone 😬
from what i see his smile fades into upset fog before he even looks at his phone. he was definitely going to go back to being cold and she anticipated it and tried to undo it. imo she needs to leave this unhappy dude to his own discontent and go be happy without him
I’m sorry but I’m not a native speaker. Does that line have some different meanings that make them behave weird like that? I don’t understand 😢
@@jkklbbnn8066 no, it doesn’t have any special meaning
what i meant was, when she said that, he was happy with their conversation. but the stuff she said after that made him uncomfortable
@@thefakebluejay5394
Yeah, that sentence was fine on its own. It's awkward, yes, however, it felt genuine.
Then it seriously became awkward when she started stuttering and felt embarrassed.
Yeah, it's that relatable feeling of your own insecurities getting in your way, then you try to overexplain your feelings behind something that was quite innocuous but you feel awkward about it and then you make it actually weird, but at that point it's too late and your just apologizing for your weirdness and it only makes it worse
There’s a really great lesson in here for both sides. From the girl, it’s to understand that this specific guy is not the type of person for her. Even though being left on read sucks, it’s a sign that you can start looking for other people who are willing to positively prioritize you. A blessing in disguise.
For the guy, being more straightforward about intentions and communicating them would save both of them time and a little bit of heartbreak for her. There’s no shame in telling someone you’re not interested. It may not feel good to say (or especially hear) but creates less confusion for both parties and improves communication with others going forward.
Really well made!
I get your points. Does feel weird that the guy in your scenario has more work to do on this relationship when they were actively saying no to things and setting the boundaries. I interrupt this as a snapshot of time where both characters are interchangeable versions of each other that don't require any prioritizing (to spare her feelings) or more straightforwardness but shows the evolution of what a end of a hometown relationship is like (imo that's what this seemed like)
(sorry if my translation is wrong)
The problem here would be the time spent on things, while the boy is busy he cannot spend time with the girl, and for the girl to try to find other people is sometimes complicated nowadays
It gets tiring to always start from 0 and always be with another person :c
@@BigGreen343agreed
Did you understand ? Oh ok, no you didn't, they're ex's my friend
They prob was friends or somerhing elsw, Bro. Its obv, at least to me with the messages "Its like we are friends or stuff :3", idk.
I relate to both of the characters so much. Sometimes when I'm going through something I would look for any excuse not to go do something with someone but when I feel so lonely i will do anything to hang out with someone and talk to them for several hours just for human interaction.
just bein truthful like, "yo im having a hard time, ill hit u up once i feel better." itd relieve stress for everyone involved.
@@canderaaldanderop9908you're goddamn right
She’s an anxious attachment style. Putting too much out there without picking up any signals from him that he’s uninterested.
We never find out what their history was or how it ended but it’s left so open that anyone watching can put their own experience into the story and it almost automatically fills in the blanks
real shit fr
I dont think the history matters, this happens all the time, I'm sure others can agree. It hurts. It really does.
Real
With him being so awkward and distant, and her being so apologetic and desperate, it seems heavily implied that she did something to mess up their relationship. This is reinforced by her slovenly, directionless, indulgent lifestyle. He's working. She's drinking. She's sending messy texts. He can only look sad, knowing he can't let himself be hurt again.
@@AnxiathyI’m like this right now, but he was the one who cheated on me, but there is not quite like him, I regret ended things with him
Was expecting the name to imply "seen" as in being acknowledged and seen and not left on read. Oof, what a punch in the gut. Loved it
me too. genius
exactly. such an amazing title choice.
Same
About half way in, I was like...oh no, I think I know where this is *actually* going
same
I will especially leave a comment here to lay out simply how emotionally empathetic the animation is. It portrays a scenario that nowadays is relatable to two people talking after so long. Yet, to realize that the distance between eachother got more distant when they felt like there was no spark, even if they didnt want to hurt one another.
Truly a one of a kind animation.
vomment 💀
Yes wow it’s truly amazing how that is exactly what happened in the video that we all saw. It’s incredible how what you said is what happened in the video. Almost like you saw the video and wrote down what happens in it
@@ophiliaxeon i liked it
the animation is rtarded and my time is ultimately wasted
@@saehyun_xxrosemary why do you have to be so negative
1:36 the sinking pads are so perfect. It really subtly helped remind me of that feeling of self doubt and feeling like you’re bothering them. I’m sorry to anybody that’s felt this way too.
I love being old enough to see the influence of shows I grew up on like adventure time and Steven's universe in new art both thematic and visually. it's amazing to see that the same thing that impacted the person I am today impacted other people as well. I can honestly say that I'm looking forward towards the future for the first time in a long time.
Oh nah "Steven's universe" 💀
@@lefeeshchopped8286stevens fucking universe lol
@@lefeeshchopped8286nothing wrong with it
@@isabellek-q3183 except that its not called that
@@isabellek-q3183 universe is his last name, that's all XD
even as someone who has become far more extroverted and assertive as time has passed, rejecting someone who really wants to keep a connection is one of the hardest things for me to do. i've been friends with someone for a really long time, and i always felt like i had to go out of my way to get their attention and approval. they were often judgemental and critical towards me in a way that greatly impacted my self esteem. this person was genuinely everything to me. they didnt mean to hurt me, but these were just their natural behaviors.
over time, though, i began to surround myself with positive, supportive people who helped my self-confidence skyrocket. during that, i began to drift from my friend, which confused them. they now feel far more inclined to be my best friend than they were before. it's frustrating, because i so badly want to rip into every negative trait they have. but at the same time i don't *dislike* them. to be honest, i have a soft spot for them, and the idea that my distance hurts them is genuinely heartbreaking. it's the same feeling i felt for years.
this video is such a perfect portrayal of this dynamic. its gut-wrenchingly real.
if you read my ramble, thank you :)
feel free to share your own stories in the replies if you'd like
edit: 8 months later! i made the right call cutting them out lol
edit 2: another 3 months later! reading this over is surprising because i gave my ex-friend so much grace that i probably wouldn't nowadays. the more time passes, the more i dislike this person and realize they weren't meant to be in my life. quick reminder that you can, and should, cut people out if they do nothing but suck the positivity out of you and don't return the care :)
Don’t go out of your way for the approval of others. Find something you’re passionate about and stick with it regardless of what others say.
what happens when you are the other party in this sort of scenario? Like what would the unknowing person who reaches out do after this? Move on?
@@madeofshavingsYes. Move on. It's the best approach to be Honest.
Bruh y'all need to stand up for yourselves jesus
Well my previous friends are backstabbing shitheads, we were only friends because on a boarding school i had no choice on who to be friends with, and theyre not even friends they make fun of me constantly, i don't give a rats ass about them, i fortunately replace them with better friends on my university
Man, my heart broke when she started impulsively sending self sabotaging texts. Its hard enough being an overthinker as is, but being able to just jot all those overwhelming feelings out into a DM via a phone, its incredibly frustrating and painful to deal with on either end. I relate with both sides of it, being the one who thought i was in the wrong and made a scene of it, and also the person whos tried to calm someone down. Beautiful animation, and very emotional score too
Fr. I feel like all of us have been that girl at some point and it’s honestly such an awful feeling when your friend is the only one growing out of the friendship.
Pretty sure it was a relationship, but it was certainly suggesting she was trying to rekindle something he was not into. You don't respond the way he did to a friend who's been long gone.@@marenking1946
Watching this hits so much harder when you finally have an understanding of both sides because you’ve finally been on both sides. I watched this animation a while back and it broke me and watching it again today broke me again.
The reality of this animation is beyond compare… I have no words for how much this not only portrays the feelings and personality of the characters, but with how much this connects with me on a spiritual level. I’ve been on both sides and holy it’s something else. Your storywriting has some otherworldly potential, the way you incorporated the slight details to emphasize the big emotions they each felt while trying to capture atmosphere of both sides simultaneously is extreme talent and a gift. With that and the apparent hard work you put into this video, you will go far.
❤❤❤🎯🎯🎯
thanks man i appreciate it
the glazing is crazy
"I have no words"
**writes a whole book about it**
@@richardmedina655is your brain burnt?
The animation is fluid and expressive, but that sound design and the way the music lines up with the animation is HEAVENLY
what kind of music is that
i need to know fr@@rifkywageyo477
i love how they text like real people. they type something out but then immediately delete it before they send it. that’s exactly how a lot of people text and it’s amazing. well done!!!
Only people who aren’t sure of what they want to say do that.
agree
@@wrenbyrd1093 well they process it, as we're speaking ive done the same.
if you dont do it then cool i guess but keep in mind, we write down the things we want to say and think abt it before pressing send
That’s not how i text. Unless i’m high but if you’re high all the time u got bigger issues than deleting texts
lmao
I think too many people focus on the person reaching out. But being the recipient can be really draining and you did a good job portraying that
Does it have to be?
@@Shnarfbird Depends
It almost feels like the guy got his heart broken by her in the past. And suddenly, she wants to reconnect. It's amazing how much we can project from these videos depending on our experiences.
I interpreted it that way too! This reminded me a lot of an experience I went through recently with an ex.
This is what I got too.
He was a fool responding to a "hey" text.
NEVER respond to just a "hey" text. Women complain all the time about the lack of effort when men communicate with women online. Don't reward the same poor behavior from women that they chastise you for
@@leonardosantuario3346 you're the type of a person to join a therapy circle just to hear other people stories then say "ok, and?"
Hardly relevant, not sure most people care about this rhetoric here @@torachan23
Holy shit. This is absolutely incredible story telling. And I LOVE how the only dialogue we "hear" is just the texts between the two. Even the coffee scene implies that they spoke but we really get to "hear" how it went over their texts in the following scene. I can't stop expressing how creative this is, well done!
And I thought it was a nice touch how even though in that scene they were “together” but the shadow from the window frame still portrayed the division between the two clever clever
@@linontheinternetyeah I loved that too!
It's both comforting and disheartening to know that so many people relate to this. After going through similar experiences in my first relationship I only wish the best for everyone I meet friends, family, peers, and my partner alike ❤
Unfortunately for some, you’ll always there to be a stand in as a villain perspective from the other side. I’ve gotten used to it, but I hope the many out there that feel this way knows that you’re what’s important for right now, then later someone will value your time appropriately no matter how much it’s given. Just focus and persevere through it all.
It's relatable because we all go through it. It's just one of those things. Don't let it dishearten you, it's one more beautiful and sometimes painful experience that comes with being human 😊❤️
Western people*
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Ephesians 6:10-18 says,
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
damnnnn, such accurate representation. someone used to be your go-to for everything and later they become nothing. thats how reality is. u captured it so so well. and the animation BRILLIANT
Me and my cousins were inseparable as kids. The three of us were dubbed the “three musketeers” of our family. It was a blast with them. We played as kids, grew up from playing action figures to video games like Minecraft and other multiplayer games. We were together up until middle school. It was a bond that was made to last.
Then high school roll around. We had other people to meet, then we slowly drifted apart until nothing was left. We’ve gone from brothers to strangers. I still regret the day I cut them off and didn’t try to rebuild what we once had. That was 6 years ago. I live in a different country now. I miss those days.
maybe try reaching out? this could be your sign to do it
Me and my cousin also had the same thing going on
My cousin and i are the same age and we did everything together as kids. Moved from NY to CO and didnt see him for a while, until I was 15 and went back to visit. He had turned into a skate-or-die thrash kid and I was getting into punk but we just ended up butting heads over stupid shit. Eventually he ended up in the marines and I ended up in the army. We're both out of the service but we haven't seen each other since we were in our teens. We're both 32 now and we've only exchanged maybe a handful of short texts in the last few years. I'm mostly resigned to the reality of it but every now and then I let myself reminisce about growing up together.
That was the same with me and my cousins. We used to play together and play Minecraft and now it’s like we’re strangers. I feel awkward trying to talk to them so I don’t talk to them anymore. I still have time to talk to them I know that and I love them deeply but I just wish it was easier to talk to them like it was when we were little
Lol ain't nobody call you that shit
Going through a very similar situation to the girl in this. My best friend back home is getting her masters degree while working a full time job and is completely burnt out 24/7 and unable to hang out or talk at all most days. Meanwhile, I’m feeling the most lonely and isolated I ever have, and I’m left desperately wanting to help her through her stress while not even knowing how to manage my own.
Anyways, the short made me cry. Props to you for making me feel things.
The best type of art are the ones that make you feel something :)
I hope you find peace
I'm in a very similar situation, it really sucks cause you're trying to help while also needing a bit of help yourself, but you devote that time to helping your friend when you finally have time to hang out/talk. Hope it gets better for you dude!
I'm in this exact situation. I haven't seen my best friend in over a year.
It's tough, isn't it? It feels like your friendship is over, but there's no obvious cause. You can't really pinpoint when it actually ended.
No one got sick or died. You didn't fall out. You didn't fight or even disagree. You just stop seeing eachother and you don't realize anything is wrong until you haven't spoken in months.
We have to draw the line somewhere. Of course it's fair enough that people have busy lives, but it's not unfair to want an hour or two every now and again from someone who used to give you so much more.
If we don't try and move on we'll be stuck missing this person forever. If we move on too quick, we might destroy a precious friendship when we didn't need to.
It's an impossible situation. I hope that whatever happens, you live your best life.
This reminds me of my friend who's busy and I haven't talked to her in ages. I'm a people pleaser yet I push people away, I never reach out to people and they do it to me, and its been months since I've talked to a lot of people. But there are a few people that I do reach out to, one of them is 9hrs away so we are rarely online at the same time but I send them a million messages like the girl in this vid 😭 but im glad he's not overwhelmed, just busy
@@B_-.-I'm afraid I've dome this before, because I sometimes don't reach out just because I'm afraid they hate me. Idk. But a lot of notifications overwhelm me, so I've left them on delivered for months. It got so overwhelming and guilty I just deleted the app overall and just said I lost access to the account. I did see them in some event and we hugged, but we didn't speak since then. I js feel guilty :(
Damn, this story was a lot more serious than I expected. As someone who has awful anxiety, it kind of comforts me to know I'm at least not so crazy for doing some of this stuff. I am working to better myself though, but this was a treat to see. Amazing work, I hope the algorithm treats it well.
I completely agree! It’s nice to know I’m not alone. And I like that you added in that you are working to better yourself. Me too, bud, me too. It’s a truly wonderful thing to be able to recognize when we display some not so great behaviors and then try to work to improve and make some changes for the better. Especially because simply forming healthy* relationships with others is such an important thing.
The point of relating to characters like this is to know that you’re not broken, but that take away isn’t that doing this stuff isn’t crazy because although it’s human it’s also destructive behaviour.
The girl character is displaying huge abandonment issues, alcohol dependency and loneliness and it’s destroying her relationships.
She desperately tries to avoid being rejected which only lead to her being abandoned. It’s heartbreaking and it’s real but counselling of some form is key.
i be crying RN
Ikr it's very relatable for me too :'D we're all in this together👍🏾
Dang. The portrayal of both sides is very realistically done, animation is also very cleanly done! Makes you rethink what you message to people… you don’t wanna hurt their feelings, but you wanna be honest with them.
I relate so much to the girl. You perfectly portray the desperation to reconnect with someone that’s important to you. That feeling of a terrifying void of trauma and loneliness, plus the fear of abandonment. I really can’t describe just how accurate this is
I used to have this best friend I’ve ever had, we would talk to each other nonstop and can share literally everything with each other (literally everything) but then one day, everything fells apart, we became stranger again.
It really hurts tbh it has been tough for the past six months after the fallout. Though getting used to it, it still stings time after time
Yeah I
I think I’m gonna cry
I’m really sorry you have to go through that…. Would you be willing to talk about what happened with your friend?
that desperation… and it starts to burden them that you want to spend so much time with them… so you just try to leave them alone but end up miserable
same for me 😢
Yo my favorite fallout is the new vegas, best one for sure, but 76 may be better if you have friends to play with
Very interesting and well done. A much younger me can relate so well to this female character. I was lonely and struggled to accept peoples own terms, pushing too fast to break down barriers with people. I was needy for peoples time and attention from the beginning, and I couldnt understand why it pushed them away. I realized when this behavior was actually given to me how overwhelming it can actually be to be on the receiving end of that. Life is a series of awkward interactions we are constantly growing from. Forgive others and forgive yourself.
may i know how did you overcome needy behaviour?
The last quote is hard asf. Forgiving other and specially yourself
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@@ar1sah What’s worked for me has just been spending time with myself and getting to know myself better; working on boundaries and discovering what I want in a relationship, whether platonic or otherwise. Most of the time it’s a lack of validation in your relationship with yourself that makes you want to reach out to other people. People will most likely feel uncomfortable if you constantly ask to spend time with them. If you see them pulling back, it’s a sign for you to step back and accept that although you tried to reach out, they weren’t in the right headspace to do the same. It’s best to leave it at that rather than speculate about why they did it, as that leads to overthinking and ensures you stay stuck in this cycle of feeling frustrated and not good enough. It’s important to remember that the choices people make don’t really have to do with us. Being conscious of the consequences of your actions takes a certain level of experience and maturity. Remember that you deserve someone who is willing to communicate with you and work with you rather than just pushing you away without any explanations. However, accountability works both ways. It isn’t fair to assume someone will treat you the same way otherwise. It’s okay to have standards, but don’t get caught up in expectations. I’d recommend Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, it’s a book on Toltec wisdom that better explains some of the points I’ve touched on here.
@@ar1sahlearn to love yourself before others. Needy behaviour is often a sign of insecurity
The animation and acting in this is so subtle, takes some real talent and an inherent eye for this kind of stuff, engaging to keep pushing this to more and more and more people
Can you call this acting?
@@sejtbrugernavn Probably not. But it's a pretty good animation. And it gets through a nice insight about the mundane yet awkward things about life. Also, this animation made me feel like i was watching Adventure time. Maybe it was the style and the music. And also the message. It just felt like Adventure Time for me.
Ephesians 6:10-18 says,
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints. The bible is no old book. You have to really let Christ open your eyes; to see the world in shambles. Many people say it's a religion to lock up people in chains, and say it's a rule book.. why? Because people hate hearing the truth, it hurts their flesh, it's hurts their pride, it's exposes on what things have they done..people love this world so much, s*x, money, power, women, supercars.. things of this world. Still trying to find something that can fill that emptiness in your heart. You can't find that in this world.. only in Christ, the bible is no chains, it's a chainbreaker. Breaking your sins into pieces... Repent now, and turn back to the true Lord only.. God bless.
@@Amaninacanofsoup The artstyle is definitely very similar to adventure time, atleast in terms of the character design.
What acting?
I had to break up with somebody I was on track for marriage. Spent almost 5 years together...
I can't describe the huge emptiness I feel in this lonely new me and this video is done so well to help me clear my mind. I guess I have to overwork myself and forget everything in due time. Great stuff, keep up the good work and thank you 👍🏻
Hang in there ❤
😢😢 Sorry for you...
God bless you, I hope you find peace
People move on. And it sucks.
Especially when you have nobody else
You fuckin said it man, this really sucks. I use to have this routine with someone, nowadays i just hope we can have any short conversation. 🥲
well the only thing you can do is move on yourself
@@Prismateactually there is no escape. the lack of human interaction. the immeasureble amount of ego after continuous interaction with conformist unachieving crabs that strive for mundane and are actually agressive towards anything brave and even slightly controversial will drive a person into the social wilderness and leave him to nothing but lonely monotonous void in which he will lose himself in the worst meaning possible. people'll go nuts, they'll go crazy, delirious even
@@suyunbek1399Sounds like how school shooters are created.
@@phreak761 true, but not limited by
Wow. This is amazing.
Hi :)
Real
Couldn’t have said that better myself 😔✊
I wonder if this is what Wendy facing alot these days
Hello
The poor girl is clearly struggling with alcohol as an coping mechanism and is extremely apologetic to the guy, as she almost said: "since" that happened. Must have been harsh for these two, whatever it was.
All in all this was beautiful and bittersweet, as art should be.
yeah he OBVIOUSLY wasnt her first choice.
now shes upset that he wont cave into her bullsht 😂
@@adalEunyou’re projecting my friend
@@adalEunI've been there too brother, and the guy just like me probably longed for her at a time, but then things change...
Art can be anything man, happy art rules
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Feel like the guy sometimes, done and moved on from this person and feeling guilty saying no to them when they reach out, and feel like the girl sometimes, wanting to rekindle a relationship and feeling insecure, secretly knowing that you should just move on
I hate it. I hate how accurate this is and how it embodies the way I feel about my own experience of this situation right now. I hate how much I would have needed this video a few months fewer than today.
But I also love it. It gives me an feeling of validation. That my own momentary suffering is valid and that myself can grow from it.
I'm not really the best at therapy and all that but if you just need someone to talk to I usually play videogames after work and I can lend an ear for a few hours. If you want meet to respond or not it's up to you, no pressure.
SAME
@@alecm122 thanks I appreciate your offer but I’m kinda “good”. I have a counsellor and a social network that I can reach out to to talk about this problem. It’s just hitting close to home because I thought that I was already in a better place than before. But this better place wasn’t real and instead I reached the place shown in the video, where you have someone special which whom you want to spend time together but they don’t want to spend time with you because you’re damaging them and they don’t feel comfortable with you around.
And this feeling clearly sucks but it sucks evenmore to know in retrospect that there where warning signs along the way and you still speeded down the path that lend to the end of an relationship that means/meant so much to you.
@valii6739 glad to hear you have someone to talk to; wish you the best. If you ever need someone to lend an ear don't be afraid to re-reply.
@@alecm122 You are a kind-hearted person for reaching out to them.
MY BELOVED LORD. I CRIED. I found it so interesting how we manage to read the characters thoughts just by what they write and delete. And it's so agonizing because they know they don't feel good in the presence of each other but the story doesn't have an ending. Also I love your animation style!!?!!!!!1!1(1❤🎉
It does have an ending, I think she hung herself, this story is extremely deep
@@kreidfamwhere did you jump to that conclusion from 😵💫
@@buildinasentry1046 There is evidence,
She had an alcohol addiction and struggled with negligence, I know personally how ignorance affects the mind and how addiction (not an alcohol addiction) feels.
She also had gone too sleep extremely late in the past days like 3am, that detrimentally lowers your mental health and disrupts your daily activities.
She also missed him "so much", but she did not get to say it.
She also is very self conscious with the man, that also decreases mental health.
Finally, at the end, you can see a brown rope hanging in the corner, which taken in view of the other points and also since the algorithim recommends me suicide prevention videos, all implys that she hung herself.
@@kreidfamAll of that is circumstantial at best. Yes, she might have a cocktail of mental disorders, but the natural conclusion is not always suicide. Also, that “brown rope” you note as visible at the end there is actually the interior lining where the wall (containing the window) meets the ceiling.
Fr my dream job is to be an animator and this is so perfect
I identified so much with the girl's side that it hurts so much, this animation was really amazing and it shows how human both sides are. ❤
Me too this made me fucking BAWL
I identified as an attack helicopter but now i identify as a noodle
@@AdamanticHex That's so touching... are you a poet?
@@graymccanse6769 yes indeed i am
@@AdamanticHex wow... please share more wisdom 🥺
this is way too beautiful, absolute goosebumps man
This reminded me of my past relationship with my ex-gf. I relate to the guy. It’s hard for him to flat out reject her because he still holds emotions towards her. But he knows that things can never work out after the way they ended. He has this glimmer of hope when she reaches out to him but he knows from the bottom of his heart that its the wrong thing to do. This was a masterful portrayal of both perspectives!
He’s selfish
for not telling the truth
@@luigipxint1043 it can be difficult for some people to express how they really feel, especially if they have a difficult history and don't want to lose what they have at the present time.
i'm someone who struggles with that kind of honesty as well but i'm trying to work on it
@@feverish-fishIts selfish to remain silent. There is no excuse.
"Ok but itss hard to admit these things!" Yknow what else is hard? Struggling to understand if you pushed them away, because they never told you the honesty you deserved. Assuming you are the problem when all you wanted was to be around someone.
Grow up, communicate, and treat people kindly.
@@seanrigsby4350she keeps saying this is weird though, there’s more than meets the eyes here
@@seanrigsby4350 aight i'm sorry, didn't mean to make an excuse
have a good rest of your day
Wow, I think its how it feels awkward after not talking with someone for a long time, trying to be more open and spend time with them.
Really amazing work!
I feel like there's more going on here. She seems obsessed with him to the point it's causing her anxiety, and the other guy picked up on her obsessive behaviour and distanced himself. They could've had a normal relationship if her mental issues didn't hold her back
@@rustyshackleford83This feels like a reach
@Imakebigotsseethe maybe but there's definitely something wrong with the girl mentally. People with good self esteem and aren't needy don't sweat over how people think about them like that, especially if they haven't spoken in a long time.
@@Imakebigotsseethe nah, their interpretation and understanding is valid, it's art
@@rustyshackleford83as someone who has felt like the girl in this story a lot, I definitely agree with your interpretation. I'm not at the end of my journey, but realising how much of my own worth I put into others has caused me to be more aware of my issues, even if I'm still building up my self confidence. You can cause so much hurt to yourself that way, and it's unfair to other people to give them so much emotional responsibility over you.
Anyways sorry if I got a bit deep there, I just think you are right on the mark with your point.
I’m so saddened to be reminded of these situations, yet somewhat comforted to know I’m not alone. But still wanting someone who doesnt want you back and overthinking your every step is straight torture.
💯 Very well put
I really enjoy how this isn’t really from either perspective. It’s consistently from both angles, which makes it to where you can see how each one feels. It’s not just a story of someone wanting to reconnect and missing someone but being unable to because the other one doesn’t communicate, but also not just a story about having to deal with someone who clings to you despite pretty obvious signs that you’re not interested, even if you don’t explicitly say it. Both sides have their issues and both sides have their sympathies. Wonderful story telling in such a small detail!!
im gonna comment before this blows up. this is actually like my favorite short story animation like ever… the way you can convey both POV’s of them misunderstanding each other perfectly is so relatable and just so heart breaking in an amazing way. I love this, and it’s so well animated. I can tell heart and soul was put into this and i love this so much!!!!! definitely one of the best vids on youtube :]
AAA IT ACTUALLY BLEW UP AND U GAVE ME A HEART THANK YOU TAETIME!!!
This honestly hits so hard. This was so good at portraying personalities and misunderstandings that i feel like we all can recognize. Just wow
Texts are a soulless string of letters. You will overthink them, you will ruin them, and you will feel pressured to read and respond to them. But things are easier to go over when there's a face to look at, a voice to hear, a person to talk to.
At first this vid made me feel a little sad, but really it made me bitter at our shortcomings in communication as people. Go knock on his door, ask him to the bar, if he turns you away then, then you know it's truly over. So much suffering and misunderstanding could be spared if we just spoke with one another for real, not hidden behind a device.
Vid was awesome btw, as aforementioned, put me on a little rollercoaster of emotions and I appreciate that.
Yeah as long as it’s actual real world face to face, things like ft are almost worse than text sometimes cos it’s like you’re almost there u can practically reach through the screen but u can’t
I think the pandemic has irreversably made our generation a bit worse at communicating
@@alfonshedstrom9859 It's only irreversible if you decide it to be. We, as humans, came up with going to other peoples doors asking them out. If we did it then, why not do it now?
real talk
i mean even a phonecall would have been much better
We dont have alot of art portraying realistic social situations like this today, and its wierd cause it happens to all of us.
Definitely dont mind more of these.
i love this because you know no context to this. we are left to make our own assumptions and that can be totally off from what you were thinking for their backstories. connecting it to my own experiences and texting my ex recently i feel like the girl, kinda trying to keep the convo going knowing in the back of ur mind its never gonna be the same and then finally getting hit with something that basically forces u to accept u wont talk anymore (in this case the seen) anyways i love this
If u actually act like this girl ur kinda a weirdo she does wayy too much and has terrible communication skills
And people wonder why depression has increased over the years. Stop doing and watching depressing social media contents like these or just avoid social media would be a good solution.
@@sauce8148 ok...?
@@sauce8148depressing stories have always existed. Watching sad clips on RUclips won’t make you depressed unless that’s all you do all day with nothing to balance it out.
@@sauce8148i kinda disagree with youA: whatching small amoumts of sad things is literally fine, B: depression is not at all caused just by stuff like this. Idk obviously its not great to surround your self with tragedy, but I think its a little bit trivialising, what you said.
honestly reconnecting friendships can be tough and this video is very realistic and insanely good at portraying that and the feeling it gives you is sooo good!!
I've never had to reconnect a friendship before. Why would you want to reconnect something if one or both parties treated the other bad enough to sever the relationship?
@@alecm122 There's not much we can take from this video, we can't assume what their past was like.
But an answer to your question is: people grow, people mature. Being stupid in the past does not mean you're still going to be stupid in the future. If shit still doesn't work out for some reason, then that's life.
But reconnections are still very tough.
There are people who you only get to meet in a certain part of your life, when you were naive or too innocent, and in any other circumstances you would never feel the need to them again. That's why when you drift apart and happen to meet, you just can't bring yourself to reconnect with them, because you've matured, and know well enough what you're not supposed to do.
@@hatred9427 appreciate the detailed response
@@alecm122 Relationships can end for other reasons than one party treating the other badly. Some people can get into a rough spot and not want to be a burden. You could be moving out of town. Some people get children. You can grow into different hobbies/friendgroups.
I am in no way the authority on things like this since I am a 40 year old autistic man who never was able to keep a long term friendship or relationship ...
I have never written a RUclips comment before. I find it hard to express more for a video than just "Hey, this was good let me like it." But this animation is something I can't believe I didn't get to see 7 days earlier. It is a piece of art that is perfectly human in many ways. I love it. It has been a while since I watched something that made me feel genuinely sad. Not because of a sad soundtrack. But the use of visuals and body language. Through the subtle and mostly ambiguous storyline. I also find this oddly relatable. But all in all this is a video I am so glad RUclips decided to recommend to me. Definitely one worth subscribing for.
You should comment more. Valid opinion bro
A
Didn't ask.
@@leonardosantuario3346 You didn't ask? Is this video yours? Is RUclips yours? Why on hell would you say "didn't ask"? It's fucking disrespectful.
@@leonardosantuario3346 Shut up. MacVector7002 is talking.
i was literally that guy and she was this girl. so i sent this video to her a few months ago, and told her that’s what i felt about our relationship. we had a long talk and some fights, and now we don’t talk anymore. but honestly, i feel relieved. i could not take it anymore, she was giving me way too much, and wasn’t realizing how much i was hurting her by giving her nothing. and i was being an asshole being cold and mean instead of telling what i really felt. this short film helped us so much, even if it hurt.
She was not giving you too much. She was TAKING too much of your energy. She gave too much even when you were giving her the message you were not into it. The problem is she still thinks that she has a chance of winning you over so she ignores reality. She ignores that it is 4am and texts you. She ignores that it’s common courtesy to ask how someone is. She ignores that he said he has to work. She ignores that he agreed with her and she makes all these assumptions about him being angry or disagreeing with her. It’s EXHAUSTING to be in any kind of relationship with someone who behaves like this. They act like children who need your reassurance, constant attention and praise-or else they act depressed and text you about how upset they are to reel you back in… and it’s SAD because they’re not usually self aware about what they’re doing-it’s not on purpose and they’re suffering, but THEY MAKE THOSE AROUND THEM SUFFER TOO. The best thing to do is be direct but kind.
I feel identified by the female character, I have lived that situation, I really liked the animation, it reminds me of "Adventure Time".
im here for u homie
I feel the dude, I'm really bad with keeping up relationships :(
I clicked just for the AT looking character
as a man, me too ;/
Saaame
This is such a real representation of how it feels to look back on these moments. Most of, if not all of us, 100% have had or will have an experience like this, and it really is just one of those things you start to take in stride as you grow thru what you learned. It doesn’t feel better, it doesn’t really stop aching, it’s just one of those experiences that kind of suck and no one is really the bad guy. Sometimes you really have to cut someone off, things just change faster than when we were kids.
AHHHHHHH 😭
Everyone.. this is something you learn when you’re grown, but if you’re not interested in something, say that.. it’s actually kinder. I’ve been on the receiving end of someone telling me they didn’t want to be my friend anymore and that shit hurts deeply BUT it helped me fully move on and realized I deserved a better friend.
Honesty is the best policy no lie. It saves so much more time , confusion, and emotional turmoil to just say it point blank rather than play in their face about it.
This made me sad because I’ve been in a spot where I feel like I’m bothering people and I feel so self conscious about it cuz I don’t want to scare people away..
Wow, this is heartbreaking but so real at the same time. You did a wonderful job of portraying the characters in a human way. Keep up the awesome work dude! 😊
This is absolutely gorgeous, and makes my heart sink for both if these characters. Your work is amazing!!!
Im glad this is finally potrayed from a point of view other than the clingy texter. I was the recipient for around a year and forced myself to do a lot of shit i didn’t want to. This coupled with the guilt of leading them on, the guilt of hurting them, the guilt of feeling the way you do, its all so suffocating. Thank you.
for the good of both sides, they must stay separate
it's a tragedy portrayed as a tragedy
You should've told them you don't want to keep in touch and not that you would by leading them on. What an asshole you are.
You are allowed to do what makes you happy
Yeah...
you know it tears people apart. if you make your boundaries known neither of you would incurr so much pain. Its so hard feeling like your doing everything to connect with someone and apparently its too clingy and hurting the relationship but if you just mention it it could be ok
ignoring people sucks man its better to just tell them you dont want the commitment
Sometimes accepting that people leave and change is the best thing to do (I wish I had discovered this sooner) I loved the video❤
holy wow! so much emotion and humanity showed in such a short period of time. You captured this so realistically i actually felt the second hand embarrassment and sadness. need more animations as melancholic as this
No
@@KryzysX yes
Yo Ur here?
What the hell
The fact that no one here is the villain or portrayed that way whilst still generating those hopeless and painful feelings is a testament to your talent as a story teller and an artist - wow.
I really feel like crying, I relate too much to the girl, even the drinking part that is similar to how I was a year ago at my lowest, trying to reach out to people and seeing them growing more distant every day. Amazing work ♥︎.
Edit: why is everyone arguing now
Ain't no way you wanna cry from a mf animation 💀
I criiiiied toooo@@potatoisgoodnotacherry
@potatoisgoodnotacherry Ain't no way you belittling someone for feeling an emotion after watching something. It might not be that deep to you, but clearly it was deep enough for dozens of people to feel the same way. Grow up.
@@whoaman45 why are you telling me to grow up? Kind of ironic 😂
@@potatoisgoodnotacherryAin't no way you're just now finding out that people feel different emotions over different things differently than you do
Holy shit. The character work in this is immaculate. The detail of small facial expressions, changes, it’s all so good.
I had to study each frame for details to get my interpretation of who they are. This is what I found:
Girl: Has poster up that say “U don’t mttr” next to “Belieive in your dreams.” She feels disorganized and more artistically inclined which also leads me to believe she’s more emotionally charged in making decisions. The video also starts off with her looking towards the calendar side of her room, which, it’s not show in the first shot, but later on in the split screen, you see there are photos of them (her and the boy) both together smiling including one of just him making a silly face. The framing and spacing of her photos are overlapping and cluttered, however these two photos of them are given their own space and not overlapping which tells me they are more important to her. They also both have the same potted plant where hers is dead and his is alive.
Boy: Room is more neatly organized apart from the few clothing items on the floor. Everything has its place and is put together without clutter. He has a doll on his shelf that is the same figure from the girls big green poster. He’s sentimental, thoughtful, and simple. He is also honest as he said he was busy and genuinely was busy working. Seems to not get out much as all we seen him do outside of work and sleep is to go spend time with her at the diner. He has a picture of his family at his desk showing he has more traditional leaning ideals of sentimental value once again. His consistent color scheme with his outfit and room is also telling of that. Kind of poignant actually as it seems the splashes of color outside of his purview are those reflective of the girl as her small glimpses of organization and life is of him.
Conclusion:
They were definitely in a relationship where she broke up with him and is now regretting it. She says she’s back in town, but her place looks like it’s been lived in for a while, so she’s been back at least for a hot minute. Also the freak out and deletion of high emotionally charged texts and resorting to drinking then to drunk texts are staples of unstable behavior and regret. The plants really get me too. It feels like they either bought them together or he bought them for both of them while he kept taking care of his. In keeping with the color scheme of the boy, she probably bought him that necklace he’s wearing at his desk the day he’s working. He probably bought her that poster about believing in dreams since it’s close to his color palette but that can be reaching.
Underrated comment cool interpretation!
Oooooooh
Peak english teacher analysis👌. I hope this is the correct interpretation of the video as I was struggling to find one myself. Thanks
I love this comment because it points out that while she's more outwardly, obviously hung up on him, he has intense emotions about her too. The plants especially are a powerful detail. He must have carefully nurtured his all this time, while she carried around a dead one with her.
Her carrying the dead plant with her is also a beautiful symbol of her connection to the relationship. The relationship they once had, on her end, is dead. But she's still clinging to it anyways, keeping it with her as she moves places.
I wonder if her behavior and the plant also hint to the idea that he is rejecting her in part to protect himself from the intensity that comes with her presence. He seems like someone who values, even needs calm stability. And she is clearly... not that. That's not her fault or even a flaw, but it probably has hurt him in the past and he is protecting himself from that hurt. He's definitely clearly somewhat scared about something there.
I feel for both of them so much...
Great analysis!! One detail I really liked was the window shadow keeping the screen split. Not even when they're together they're on the same page. Amazing.
Thank you for this, Im honestly the girl right now and honestly I think this has helped me think throughout my current situation. Thank you for portraying these feelings and in such a beautiful animation too, the music also portrays everything so well.
skill issue.
funny!@@notnilc2107
@notnilc2107 how?
This is work that you'd expect from creators with 100x your sub-count. I'm actually blown away with how amazing this is, keep it up! 😊
Seriously, I thought this was a huge youtube channel. The animation and story telling quality is immaculate.
I feel like this short has been a wake-up call for me.
Back in April, I hurt someone from how I acted and tried to make jokes about it (mainly targeted at myself, and because I had feelings for them so I didn't want them to feel bad), but in what I thought was harmless self deprecating jokes was actually super weird and suffocating for them.
Since then, we haven't talked as I did make them uncomfortable, and they distanced themselves from me, and I went through some serious shit and changed my life for the better (better eating habits and better life choices yada yada).
But despite all that, I still want to meet up and talk to them and apologise and become good friends again, we even work at the same place, but upon seeing this short I realise I might just end up annoying them and that people come and go in our lives and that's a part of life some of us gotta accept.
Sure, but sometimes you can allow room for reconciliation
While I was watching I noticed how much i related to the girl and it opened my eyes on how I’ve been acting and how it may affect other people. Never “seen” your work, never even heard of you, but thank you for opening my eyes.
I seriously loved it, need more stories with these characters, they felt so human. The ambient, music, colors... It was so real and chill, excellent imo.
I also loved this Adventure Time style, keep it like this please.
ADVENTURE TIMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
MFER I FELT LIKE I WAS WATCHING ADVENTURE TIME WITHOUT THE ACTION AND WITH THE EXISTENCIAL DREAD
god this is so painfully real … i’ve been on both sides of this spectrum and it really does hurt on both sides :[ beautifully animated and represented !!
RUclips just showed this channel to me rn and I got that weird good feeling of finding an artist that just speaks to me to so many levels.
Your work is beautiful
I'm currently recovering from a broken Joint and am drawing myself, so I won't make this a paragraph, but I'm gonna be fully honest, this was absolutely wonderful. It's amazing how well you conveyed both of the stories of the characters. You were able to make the characters feel like *people* , not just characters in an animation. You did this absolutely phenomenally, your pacing, music, and color choice were all amazing. Good job my dude, and keep it up, you're doing absolutely wonderfully :) Liked and subbed.
A broken doob???
You could smoke at least half of that joint, im sorry
continues to write a paragraph anyway 😂
thank you @shimada. for writing what many of us felt on this.
I’m confused how having a broken joint and drawing yourself is at all relevant to the rest of your comment.
@@mohamedeffat54 Yeah lol at the end I still did.
Dude has an avoidant attachment style and she’s anxious
dude was not as invested in their friendship as she was
@@francesatty7022What is she did something that hurt him we don't know
@@Randomxyz-777I was thinking that too, but bro there’s a time to grow up and stop avoiding the problem. All he had to do was say how he really felt instead of stringing her along. Honestly that’s worse than cheating because at least yall had something that was real or felt real. He just made the problem worst
i relate to this dude so much the feeling of being obligated to make them happy bc yk how much they hurt w/o u
It was his smile at the end for me. It’s like her finally confessing “ i miss u “ meant something but he just can’t go back. And she obviously wishes she could.
Loved it❤
As someone dealing with a similar situation rn, this really hit me so hard in my soul. I feel like Im in the girl's situation. Coping with lonliness and longing for friendship, but with people who just arent available for me rn. It sucks, but all I can do is focus on me and hopefully meet someone someday who will be available for me. I understand the guy though. He's just another wavelength, but admittedly, if he expressed how he felt directly, it would be less painful between them. Its not easy. I've been in those shoes too. Thank you for making this piece. It was amazing.
This brought back some memories. I had a best friend in elementary school. Once we went to middle school, our friendship begun fading. I tried to call her but only ever reached her mom who didn't like me (cuz my mom offended her once) and would always tell me my friend was too busy to hang out.
Fast forward a year. I hadn't made new friends. I was very lonely and desperate for human connection outside of family. I went to the cinema one day and coincidentally, my old friend was there. I was elated. I walked up with a huge smile and my arms stretched out for a hug. I said her name and she looked but didn't return a smile. She didn't even hug back.. it felt off. She definitely recognized me but looked uncomfortable. She asked me how I was doing but it didn't feel genuine. I lied and said "Good. How about you?" She replied "Also good. Just hanging out with some friends."
For some reason that sentence hit me like a truck. I'd wanted to tell her how lonely I was and that I was so happy to see her friendly face again. I'd wanted to meet, catch up and reminisce about funny memories again. But I realized she didn't want that at all. She didn't miss me at all. She wasn't interested in me at all. She seemed ashamed of me. Hoping her friends wouldn't see me interacting with her.
I felt tears coming so I said "Well, have fun. Cya." And I speedwalked to my family. I cried the whole way home. But in the end, I wouldn't want a friend who treats me like an embarrassment in public. We're better off with people who actually enjoy our company. It sucks, but one-sided friendships must be ended. There are better people for us. It might take years to find them, but it's worth it in the end.
Cheer up bro:)
@@tojifushiguro3793 I have. 👍 I just went down repressed memory lane a lil bit. I ended up finding some real friends who actually enjoy my company in the years following this. :)
Wish some people would just say straight up that they're uncomfortable, instead of acting like this. But theres much better people than her, hope you've found them
About my childhood friend, we are also distant. We did become most distant during year 5-6, although y7 was when distance learning started and suddenly we became super close again.
As of now, we barely talk, but when we do it's like we're acquaintances. It's not that we dont like each other, but we changed so much and don't synergise. It's okay though, it happens.
@@TamWam_it’s probably due to how the mother raised her
Except that those years of loneliness make us so socially retarded that no one wants us anymore. Making friends and even more so romantical partners is most likely impossible at this point. No one wants a loser like me, and the only way to "unloser" my self is for another person to want me in the first place lol
Holy shoot everything in this was so realistic and honestly hit home perfectly. Love how it showed both sides because I think most of us experienced being in these two’s shoes at least once
The music does such an amazing job at depicting the potential positivity mixed with the awkwardness, the buildup, the anxiety, the fear, beautiful message about how to not be weird.
the great thing about this is that i've been on both ends of the situation-- it's such a familiar concept, yet i've never seen it portrayed so well until now
I adore that you showed off both perspectives. Makes me think about how the world just judges a situation by their own or makes it one way traffic. It's refreshing dude. This shit happenes to everyone of every age, every year.
Beautifully done. My last relationship ended because I was the one who pulled away. I didn’t know at the time how hard it was on my ex but this paints the picture perfectly in retrospect. It makes me feel ashamed which is very powerful for an animation. I’m changed now and I’ll remember your short story if I ever feel that way again.
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Don't be too hard on yourself dawg
I’m not crying, YOU are.
I AM
I ACTUALLY AM