The dangerous thing is, that you eventually start to LIKE the way it feels when you're depressed. Because it almost feels like an excuse to not give your best for a little while. My personal experience with therapy: I had a male therapist and i saw him sort of as a dude who i could just explain my thoughts to. It helped me to actually specify further into my thoughts. I wouldn't have done that alone or with a friend. Therapy, imo, gives you a dedicated window of time you HAVE to reflect. Also, i have to add: This guy didn't talk much, it was mainly me, but he didn't comfort me either. At times he would get loud and just say: "Enough talking now, you gotta get out of here and do shit. See you next week" Shoutout to Mr. Nagele, he's a real one.
I am a 23 old girl, who have recently started giving compliments to boys(realizing the fact denmo also given) & from today I will find a gud martial arts classes because i really wanted to learn back then nd for all the 7criterias ill take respective steps for improvement by today itself #nomoreprocastination :)
Hi Professor Denmo! You have no idea how positive an impact you're having on young men. I'm so grateful that you give us these 1-on-1 classes for free lol. A question popped into my head when you mentioned reading: Do you have a list of books for various areas of life you'd recommend? Like mental health, business, conversational skills, relating with women etc. I'd be overjoyed if you made one (or replied with a link to one, if it already exists). Thanks again for all you do~ 🌞
I’m 19 I’m at beginning of my RUclips career. I post original songs, covers, I have a series called taking my life seriously. I work at subway just tryna make a shit ton of money this summer and move to Oregon in August for job corps. So I can learn how to be an electrician and while I’m there I want to start a band. I want to join the marines. I tried to but they wouldn’t let me because I made a suicide attempt. But I am going to go back into that recruiters office in two years. I need to train to be Marine material within two years. I want to be rich in health wealth and relationships.
Aye that's great dude, im also 19, I've realized to admit that I'm not shit and don't know everything, so it's good to stay with my parents knowing I could have it worse, I also wanna go to the military and start a band. I play the drums, I love metal, reggae, really any music, I've found a lot of warmth in books
I’m 25, also you’re the best professor ever Mr.Denmo god bless, you definitely made me feel better after a long day. I do enjoy a walk by nature it’s just therapy.
Thank you for the alternatives, this is so insightful, best professor and the outfit is incredible the turtle neck looks good, what stood out for me was the video journal point, i never thought i could just record a video of all one's thought process, not necessarily to post on RUclips but for self reflection.
“It’s not that the world is out to get you, it’s just that you don’t understand the rules, you’re not playing the game” Yes this x1000. Many lonely unhappy people go down conspiracy rabbit holes to cope with feeling powerless and unsuccessful by making themselves think it’s because the world is out to get them, it takes the blame off of them.
If you truly understood the rules, and understood “the game” you would give your life to Jesus Christ so that you may have eternal life when your short time in this temporary world ends.
To quote Denmo "He'll yeah bro ... go for a walk, turn off the dopamine" 55 yo bloke here. Spot on with this episode. I ride my push bike to and from work everyday, no earphones, no dopamine, just exercise and time to myself, to clear my brain from work. Gives me separation between work and home too by bookending my day. Good luck everyone with holding back any depression, working on yourself, and setting up a good life.
I'm 19 and yeah action sports definitely helped a lot and lowriding has too I'm out racing BMX and riding street freestyle BMX and dirt jumps I 100 percent agree with you here man I just know my issues and worries will be resolved if I keep sticking with fixing them and actually out trying and doing man I too want to get my RUclips channel going right now I can only do shorts but one of my shorts reached 9.6k views and I didn't even mean to post it thinking it was a vid of me messing up a flip lol
Daddy Denmo swinging thru with the fucking telepathy again. I was just researching alternatives to therapy because I don't have insurance and therapy is so hot or miss. I already did a lot of my own research and Shadow Work. I transitioned from an avoidant attachment style to a secure one. I don't need a lot, just a bit of direction.
29. Depression is still a thing. I found writing out those dark thoughts on a forum or something similar helps. Better to let it out than keep it pushed down until you snap from something small and it explodes everything out of proportion. Go back and look at those comments that you wrote years down the road and find the silver lining that you're much better off mentally than you were (hopefully) Edit: odd that i even mentioned this specific thing before i got to #6 on your list. Obviously means it works for some people.
Therapy can be good but also dependent on the individual and the therapist. Also got to know when to call it quits and when to keep going. Just remember no one in professional life is a friend and everything is about money and keeping people safe at the end of the day.
I'm 35. I've been working with an excellent therapist every week for the past 2.5 years. He's a wise old man that puts up with no bullshit. I exercise, volunteer, and have hobbies. I've got purpose and little to worry about.
My husband getting therapy saved our marriage. He already made great money, played a sport he enjoys and is good at, did martial arts, had stacks of books that he actually reads, and we live in a nice area for getting out into nature. But unfortunately his toxic upbringing gave him a sort of “default setting” of inadequacy no matter how what he did or how successful he was. Therapy and antidepressants have helped him to find a new “set point,” and now he can actually bring positive energy to our relationship and kids. So… don’t rule out therapy if you’re stuck no matter what.
He had brain inflammation and low serotonin from eating an inflammatory diet. The anti depressants help with the serotonin although he still has brain inflammation. He needs to eat an ancestral human diet (raw meat). If you take away his drugs for one day he will go bonkers because he hasn't fixed the underlying problem.
I while ago, I went to therapy for 2 months, 6 sessions total and was great, my therapist really helped me with some tasks and instructions to do, ,, however in the end, the real solution for me was getting a better job, Im no set yet but im really happy that I have money now :D, if you are depressed you have to 1st workout, 2nd make money 3rd go out
Therapy is clearly proven by measured statistics and often life saving. Exercise, fresh air, meeting your social needs, having new experiences are ands to therapy not ors.
My first compliment was a girl who said, "I like your shoes." "Thanks," I said, "that's why I bought them." She looked at me with disdain. I always remember it not because I like being complimented, but because I thought it was funny.
Therapy is important, especially if you have trauma or mental health issues. These things are great and will improve your life but aren’t a replacement.
Hey Denmo, thanks to you I started the monk mode 2024 since January and you help me kick the ass of my depression ! But I just have one question. Actually, I’m 21 and I never had a girlfriend. Everyday I talk at least to 1 woman ( and several people) but at the end of the conversation I don’t take her number or her insta. I don’t know why, but I don’t want to. But the next day I’ll go talk to another girl… This is weird, I think I’m scared or I’m waiting a girl that doesn’t exist. What should I do ?!! Oh and you're the best you save my life no joke buddy
When I was going to Therapy the most important lesson I had was that therapy doesn't work. I can only recommend it to people who actually has never thought deeply about their life
Unfortunately it’s not enough to go to work and mind your own business, and keep things professional. People will come for you and are relentless if you seem level headed and might have some prospects. There is zero incentive for me to excel at work, there is never any rewards because that isn’t what they actually want; they want your soul these days, not your skills. Your skills make them feel I secure.
I found therapy to be incredibly damaging, instead of moving forward I was just ruminating, if you have a tendency towards OCD, rumination is a living nightmare and I don't mean that lightly.
The pain you can feel facing these hardships can be extremely challenging. But facing this pain is also in the long run beneficial for you. Pain like everything else in the universe follows the law of diminishing returns. Every time you hurt for the same thing you feel the pain a little less. Facing it in a controlled supportive setting makes it easier for you to face it in the future.
@@specstar8724 No I don't think facing this pain has been beneficial at all. My life was far better before therapy, around 9% of people get worse in therapy according to some studies. I was a lot more emotionally grounded before therapy. Therapy in combination with other modalities of help I can get behind, but by itself I don't rate it, it's also really expensive.
I hope things are better now. What you describe this might be a sign of a poor fit between you and the therapist instead of a problem with therapy in general. It can take a few tries to find someone with the right approach for specific temperaments and needs.
Jack, help me out. I get friendzoned after 1-2 dates that I will get with women met online. I have dated a few dozens od them, literally. They will always say we can only be friends. When I ask them why, they will just give me a generic reply of "nothing is wrong with you, we are just not a right match". Idk what is wrong with me. Idk what should I work on. Thats been going on for years now. The only gf I had during this time was one I met by a cold approach, after only approaching maybe 7 women in less than a month. So much better stats than OLD for me. Was it just a pure fluke, coincidence, or is cold approach just better for me?
25:45 I was just complimented by a chick the other day, she said she likes my necklaces (I have Celtic and Augustinian crosses). Tho I decided not to do more than smile and say “thank you” since she was working in that setting, and looked kinda young anyway.
I’m 27, haven’t finished watching this but it’s good stuff ! The money makes sense especially in this day and age , but I will say that depending on how you get your money is very important . Being stuck in a job that you dislike and feeling trapped by the salary is awful as well . I’m leaving my highest paid job , after a career of 7 years to pursue a masters to hopefully lead to greater fulfilment. I’ve saved and been strict to accommodate this but it’s been hard . I can see it as a risk given I am giving up ‘status ‘ and money in the short run , but its been nagging away at me for years . Worst comes to worse I’ll get snapped up in the same profession . I know it will be ok regardless even if it feels hard
Hello from Russia! My name is Paul and my age is 30. All that you saying is true! You are a nice person, I hope you doing good and I wish you luck, bud!😉
40 yo guy here, was depressed all his life, get genetic testing you may have a folic acid deficiency and not creating enough serotonin OR get your testosterone tested and if you qualify get TRT... Therapy won't help you
That wasnt the right therapist then you gotta get a male one. I have a male therapist and he gives me advice on everything his advice is ther reason i am where i am today but its a choice if you want to implement those practices into your life thats when the growth happens
“You spend a week being depressed after your mum dies.” No offense, I love your videos, but the fact you that you don’t get one would be normally depressed for decades if his mother dies, makes me feel that either I have been very lucky with my family, or you have been very unlucky.
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Denmo the type of guy to give socializing advice during a speech at a funeral
lmaooo this is too much
lol, what do you think Denmo's advice would be like at a funeral?
The dangerous thing is, that you eventually start to LIKE the way it feels when you're depressed. Because it almost feels like an excuse to not give your best for a little while.
My personal experience with therapy: I had a male therapist and i saw him sort of as a dude who i could just explain my thoughts to. It helped me to actually specify further into my thoughts. I wouldn't have done that alone or with a friend. Therapy, imo, gives you a dedicated window of time you HAVE to reflect.
Also, i have to add: This guy didn't talk much, it was mainly me, but he didn't comfort me either. At times he would get loud and just say: "Enough talking now, you gotta get out of here and do shit. See you next week"
Shoutout to Mr. Nagele, he's a real one.
I am a 23 old girl, who have recently started giving compliments to boys(realizing the fact denmo also given) & from today I will find a gud martial arts classes because i really wanted to learn back then nd for all the 7criterias ill take respective steps for improvement by today itself #nomoreprocastination :)
Nice
What makes you interested in self improvement content like this?
Cool, keep it up
This is an incredible video. Every struggling young man should watch this. The problem is getting them to actually take action.
Great stuff man. Sometimes I just need to hear it, even though deep down I know what I need to do already.
Hi Professor Denmo!
You have no idea how positive an impact you're having on young men.
I'm so grateful that you give us these 1-on-1 classes for free lol.
A question popped into my head when you mentioned reading:
Do you have a list of books for various areas of life you'd recommend?
Like mental health, business, conversational skills, relating with women etc.
I'd be overjoyed if you made one (or replied with a link to one, if it already exists).
Thanks again for all you do~ 🌞
I am 51 years old and use Denmo insights to coach my son! Keep it up!
I’m 19 I’m at beginning of my RUclips career.
I post original songs, covers, I have a series called taking my life seriously. I work at subway just tryna make a shit ton of money this summer and move to Oregon in August for job corps. So I can learn how to be an electrician and while I’m there I want to start a band. I want to join the marines. I tried to but they wouldn’t let me because I made a suicide attempt. But I am going to go back into that recruiters office in two years. I need to train to be Marine material within two years. I want to be rich in health wealth and relationships.
Aye that's great dude, im also 19, I've realized to admit that I'm not shit and don't know everything, so it's good to stay with my parents knowing I could have it worse, I also wanna go to the military and start a band. I play the drums, I love metal, reggae, really any music, I've found a lot of warmth in books
@@Thepeppermintshakersame I Wana join the the service too
These vids are so good, i watch one every couple of days
Honestly Denmo, this video has encouraged me to go back to reading and just go back out in nature. On a walk, etc.
I’m 25, also you’re the best professor ever Mr.Denmo god bless, you definitely made me feel better after a long day. I do enjoy a walk by nature it’s just therapy.
Therapy saved me
Genuinely glad for you. You are an outlier
saved me to
From what
It saved me to a point. It gave me someone to talk to when I was at my lowest. But merely talking about my problems wasn't enough after a point.
Therapy is a fucking scam
Thank you Denmo I appreciate you for this video
Thank you for the alternatives, this is so insightful, best professor and the outfit is incredible the turtle neck looks good, what stood out for me was the video journal point, i never thought i could just record a video of all one's thought process, not necessarily to post on RUclips but for self reflection.
Great video Denmo
Love these long videos! :D
“It’s not that the world is out to get you, it’s just that you don’t understand the rules, you’re not playing the game”
Yes this x1000. Many lonely unhappy people go down conspiracy rabbit holes to cope with feeling powerless and unsuccessful by making themselves think it’s because the world is out to get them, it takes the blame off of them.
If you truly understood the rules, and understood “the game” you would give your life to Jesus Christ so that you may have eternal life when your short time in this temporary world ends.
@@ClydeH777 🤓
actually this video is somehow therapeutic for my mental health, thanks big Jack for your content 👊
This points are good Denmo. I tried this things. But not kick boxing. Therapy can also be good
I needed this
Going to Canada in 6 weeks for a year, excited for the girls there haha
Nr3 Conclusion reminds me of.
Man throws rock.
Man Happy.
Man throw more rock.
Best professor ever!
To quote Denmo "He'll yeah bro ... go for a walk, turn off the dopamine"
55 yo bloke here. Spot on with this episode.
I ride my push bike to and from work everyday, no earphones, no dopamine, just exercise and time to myself, to clear my brain from work. Gives me separation between work and home too by bookending my day.
Good luck everyone with holding back any depression, working on yourself, and setting up a good life.
For my compliment. A girl at the gym said “you are very fit”. Very memorable like you said Professor Denmo.
"What does not kill me makes me stronger."
- Friedrich Nietzsche
also - Kelly Clarkson
I'm 19 and yeah action sports definitely helped a lot and lowriding has too I'm out racing BMX and riding street freestyle BMX and dirt jumps I 100 percent agree with you here man I just know my issues and worries will be resolved if I keep sticking with fixing them and actually out trying and doing man I too want to get my RUclips channel going right now I can only do shorts but one of my shorts reached 9.6k views and I didn't even mean to post it thinking it was a vid of me messing up a flip lol
Proper advice !
Daddy Denmo swinging thru with the fucking telepathy again.
I was just researching alternatives to therapy because I don't have insurance and therapy is so hot or miss.
I already did a lot of my own research and Shadow Work. I transitioned from an avoidant attachment style to a secure one. I don't need a lot, just a bit of direction.
Denmo Best teacher ever!
Im not doing martial arts, however I do weight lifting and running and I also feel great!
best professor ever - denmo
The best proffesor ever denmo
29. Depression is still a thing. I found writing out those dark thoughts on a forum or something similar helps. Better to let it out than keep it pushed down until you snap from something small and it explodes everything out of proportion. Go back and look at those comments that you wrote years down the road and find the silver lining that you're much better off mentally than you were (hopefully)
Edit: odd that i even mentioned this specific thing before i got to #6 on your list. Obviously means it works for some people.
Yes an hour vid !
Therapy can be good but also dependent on the individual and the therapist. Also got to know when to call it quits and when to keep going. Just remember no one in professional life is a friend and everything is about money and keeping people safe at the end of the day.
I did this all and it is all true, if anyone has any questions feel free to reach out
You're not a bad cat Mr Denmo
I'm 35. I've been working with an excellent therapist every week for the past 2.5 years. He's a wise old man that puts up with no bullshit.
I exercise, volunteer, and have hobbies.
I've got purpose and little to worry about.
Therapy bundled into other things is key. Not one thing will save you.
My husband getting therapy saved our marriage. He already made great money, played a sport he enjoys and is good at, did martial arts, had stacks of books that he actually reads, and we live in a nice area for getting out into nature. But unfortunately his toxic upbringing gave him a sort of “default setting” of inadequacy no matter how what he did or how successful he was. Therapy and antidepressants have helped him to find a new “set point,” and now he can actually bring positive energy to our relationship and kids. So… don’t rule out therapy if you’re stuck no matter what.
Therapy does so much good for so many people. And some of these other solutions can help on top of the therapy.
He had brain inflammation and low serotonin from eating an inflammatory diet. The anti depressants help with the serotonin although he still has brain inflammation. He needs to eat an ancestral human diet (raw meat). If you take away his drugs for one day he will go bonkers because he hasn't fixed the underlying problem.
Video Starts at 9:22 😌👍
Thanks friend 😊👍
not necessarily. I am finding the opening to be interesting
Fck that video start here shit. The opener was filled with important info and it was entertaining to boot.
But thanks for the timestamps.
@@logan9042 he said it was fine don’t be so serious
Thanks
this was a good one
This video made me feel good 😁
I while ago, I went to therapy for 2 months, 6 sessions total and was great, my therapist really helped me with some tasks and instructions to do, ,, however in the end, the real solution for me was getting a better job, Im no set yet but im really happy that I have money now :D, if you are depressed you have to 1st workout, 2nd make money 3rd go out
Therapy is clearly proven by measured statistics and often life saving.
Exercise, fresh air, meeting your social needs, having new experiences are ands to therapy not ors.
My first compliment was a girl who said, "I like your shoes."
"Thanks," I said, "that's why I bought them."
She looked at me with disdain.
I always remember it not because I like being complimented, but because I thought it was funny.
Therapy is important, especially if you have trauma or mental health issues. These things are great and will improve your life but aren’t a replacement.
I am 22 years old boy ,I am already started reading books and learning skills .
A girl complimented my nose once back in school and I still haven't forgotten about it 😂
This is some really well-rounded advice. I hope this video does well.
Hey Denmo, thanks to you I started the monk mode 2024 since January and you help me kick the ass of my depression !
But I just have one question. Actually, I’m 21 and I never had a girlfriend.
Everyday I talk at least to 1 woman ( and several people) but at the end of the conversation I don’t take her number or her insta.
I don’t know why, but I don’t want to. But the next day I’ll go talk to another girl… This is weird, I think I’m scared or I’m waiting a girl that doesn’t exist.
What should I do ?!! Oh and you're the best you save my life no joke buddy
When I was going to Therapy the most important lesson I had was that therapy doesn't work. I can only recommend it to people who actually has never thought deeply about their life
I just want to live my best life and different experience and strive
Unfortunately it’s not enough to go to work and mind your own business, and keep things professional. People will come for you and are relentless if you seem level headed and might have some prospects. There is zero incentive for me to excel at work, there is never any rewards because that isn’t what they actually want; they want your soul these days, not your skills. Your skills make them feel I secure.
I would add doing chores, cleaning
I found therapy to be incredibly damaging, instead of moving forward I was just ruminating, if you have a tendency towards OCD, rumination is a living nightmare and I don't mean that lightly.
The pain you can feel facing these hardships can be extremely challenging. But facing this pain is also in the long run beneficial for you. Pain like everything else in the universe follows the law of diminishing returns. Every time you hurt for the same thing you feel the pain a little less. Facing it in a controlled supportive setting makes it easier for you to face it in the future.
@@specstar8724 No I don't think facing this pain has been beneficial at all. My life was far better before therapy, around 9% of people get worse in therapy according to some studies. I was a lot more emotionally grounded before therapy. Therapy in combination with other modalities of help I can get behind, but by itself I don't rate it, it's also really expensive.
I hope things are better now. What you describe this might be a sign of a poor fit between you and the therapist instead of a problem with therapy in general. It can take a few tries to find someone with the right approach for specific temperaments and needs.
Read rewire your ocd brain
@@selfcaresally Bad therapy can be incredibly damaging. It also puts you off therapy. It just felt like a massive waste of time and money.
Im literally wearing what your wearing denmo! 💯👌
If I don't really have much on I will go for a walk for a little bit less than an hour
speaking of firefighter I think Im gonna become one
The worst thing is that you go to see a therapist and you really dont know their own personal background..
Jack, help me out. I get friendzoned after 1-2 dates that I will get with women met online. I have dated a few dozens od them, literally. They will always say we can only be friends. When I ask them why, they will just give me a generic reply of "nothing is wrong with you, we are just not a right match". Idk what is wrong with me. Idk what should I work on. Thats been going on for years now. The only gf I had during this time was one I met by a cold approach, after only approaching maybe 7 women in less than a month. So much better stats than OLD for me. Was it just a pure fluke, coincidence, or is cold approach just better for me?
21 current !
25:45 I was just complimented by a chick the other day, she said she likes my necklaces (I have Celtic and Augustinian crosses). Tho I decided not to do more than smile and say “thank you” since she was working in that setting, and looked kinda young anyway.
Well it worked for Tony Soprano 😂
19 turning 20 late July, am I cooked chat?
My head hurts. "You have cancer". lmaoo
I’m 27, haven’t finished watching this but it’s good stuff ! The money makes sense especially in this day and age , but I will say that depending on how you get your money is very important . Being stuck in a job that you dislike and feeling trapped by the salary is awful as well . I’m leaving my highest paid job , after a career of 7 years to pursue a masters to hopefully lead to greater fulfilment. I’ve saved and been strict to accommodate this but it’s been hard . I can see it as a risk given I am giving up ‘status ‘ and money in the short run , but its been nagging away at me for years . Worst comes to worse I’ll get snapped up in the same profession . I know it will be ok regardless even if it feels hard
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Hello from Russia! My name is Paul and my age is 30. All that you saying is true! You are a nice person, I hope you doing good and I wish you luck, bud!😉
21 years old
40 yo guy here, was depressed all his life, get genetic testing you may have a folic acid deficiency and not creating enough serotonin OR get your testosterone tested and if you qualify get TRT... Therapy won't help you
If you want to see quick results, you need to watch Denmo's videos while you take a walk in nature.
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Find a therapist that doesn’t let you whine without a gameplan after. Thats what a lot of therapists miss
Cognitive behavioural therapy fellas!
That wasnt the right therapist then you gotta get a male one. I have a male therapist and he gives me advice on everything his advice is ther reason i am where i am today but its a choice if you want to implement those practices into your life thats when the growth happens
34, I just like growth, long term relationships ain't it
nobody commented their age wtf, I'm 22. I still remember when this chick called me dreamy. (I fucked up)
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Therapy didn't help me at all, point 8 : sex does.
Network spiral care will do way more for you than therapy.
i been to all kin dof therapy and it's all useless my god i got more and more frustrated from it. like how was your week shut tf up
“You spend a week being depressed after your mum dies.”
No offense, I love your videos, but the fact you that you don’t get one would be normally depressed for decades if his mother dies, makes me feel that either I have been very lucky with my family, or you have been very unlucky.
did McDonalds actually sponsor this vid?
Early
Another classic lesson from unc, cheers cobber
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