Thank you so much for doing this video. It's been so tough lately with all the negativity and hate around on social media so your video has reminded me that NZ is great place to live and that there are still people here who are positive and grateful.
@@julzhunt7790 Very true, our general culture is more similar than we like to let on 😂🕊️ I'm a kiwi in Oz and see so many similarities in Tara's videos and from personal experience.
Thank you for sharing your experiences here in NZ. All kiwi ancestors moved here at some point. Love your positivity. I realize NZ isn't perfect. I love hearing great people moving here who choose to make NZ home, positively contribute to this country and gain a lot from it. We are all blessed in this case & make NZ a better place. Kind regards
Being a kiwi its so easy to take these things for granted so I really enjoyed that, a great reminder of how blessed we are! Also so wonderful to see your genuine love of NZ 💕
I’m originally from Scotland and we always had easy access to Europe with different languages and cultures so were open minded to different ways of life. Coming to NZ 30 years ago was exciting and we fitted in quickly because we accepted the cultural differences of a new country.
Yes. It appears that NZ is one of the few countries in the world where women in power isn't a drama. Also, it was Jacinda Ardern's government who kept nearly all her compatriots alive during the deadliest waves of the pandemic. The death toll stands at 53 - Almost unequalled in the world.
You can't compare NZ (which is a spit ball) to a major country the likes of America etc. Kiwis number just barely 5m. Most of those in Auckland. And the US has 324m *more* residents (from all over the world I may add). It's just not comparable. Also, NZ is now getting hit real hard with the virus. They also have some pretty bad protests going on, nobody is talking about.
@@LynxStarAuto India has had a female prime minister as has the UK and others. Is this not the epitome of US exceptionalism: to never be comparable to any nation regardless of the issue?
Thank you so much for saying the most beautiful things about our people & our country. We are privileged having you & your whanau living here, I hope everybody has the chance to bump into you one day, one day we might cross paths so when we do I'm definitely gonna say hi.
What a great outlook you have. We are so lucky to live here in NZ, I totally agree with all that you have said in this video. I came here because I married a Kiwi, I'm English, I've lived here since marriage for 43 years, and I really do agree about the 10 points you chatted about. Well done Tara xxxxx
You and your family are a great asset to NZ. I highly recommend anyone move to a different country (who is able to) even if just for a year or 2. It will change you, and you will see your own country in a new light, for good and bad.
Thank you for this. My family is coming to NZ for a 2 yr. contract. I am nervous but excited to share this with my husband and children. Fingers crossed!
You have really identified 10 very true and important benefits of the wonder of travels. I love the last one "A new type of freedom" Good for you having the courage to make that huge step in getting your whole family on a plane!! I love you videos
Excellent...☑️ The depth of feeling you put into this was amazing. Very well thought out and presented. I can see the topics you chose were very meaningful to you. It is also inspiring for those from this country, in that it makes us realise the way of life we actually live here. It's certainly true that until you have experienced contrast, you may not realise what you truly have. Thank you for this heartfelt contribution. 💖
What an awesome video. 😁👍🏼 I’ve found living in other countries makes you more kind of worldly. It gives you a different perspective on life. It’s awesome 😁I love the way you talk to us…not at us.👍🏼 Kiwis will give you the shirt off their back. So friendly and welcoming.
Hi Tara, very wise observations. I'm from the UK and I too have changed so much for the better having lived most of my life here. My kiwi wife and I have had three daughters here, and we are now expecting our fifth grandchild in a few months time. I would happily return to the UK, but only ever for a short holiday. I consider myself very luckily to have lived most of my life in New Zealand, especially during this time of the covid-19 pandemic when we as a country have been saved from the thousands of deaths that other countries have endured during this pandemic by the careing attitude of our Jacinda Ardern lead government.
That last one about the freedom, Tara - I saw that. You've gone and done it now - you're a Kiwi. You *belong* here now no matter where you came from, or how deep and close your connection to it, or where you go for the rest of your life. There's that little piece of your heart that's always got a home here too. :-)
I really appreciate your insights on "becoming who you are" as a result of living in a different culture. As an Aussie who has lived off and on for 18 years in Japan, this really resonates with me. Thanks mate!
I’m currently living in Japan. Been here for the last nine years. I’ve learnt sooo much about myself and who I am, whilst living here. I still love and appreciate all that I knew about myself from growing up in NZ, but exposure to life in another country and being immersed in their culture and traditions, has really helped me become more myself and who I am today. I still want to head back home to NZ to settle down eventually, with my Japanese husband.
Your a beautiful person and it's nice to see someone from different shores appreciate what we have here, it really is a little nivarna, hope you stay a long time , I spent many decades abroad and its not till you come back that you really realize just how easy life is.
The last one you nearly cried, that felt genuine, and I truly loved it. Made me tear up alittle bit. You look relaxed and that's pleasing to see. Kiaora.
Yeah - right then I thought "She's a Kiwi now - of American extraction to be sure, and it will always be her home land with deep connections - but she *belongs* here". :-)
I love watching your videos but they make me sad too. I was born and lived in NZ for the first 21 years of my life. I left in '69 and have wanted to go home most of that time. I married an Australian and that meant I got to live here instead. I don't dislike Australia but funnily enough it has never felt completely home to me.
I'm a Pom, I'm married to a Kiwi. We have lived in Australia for 33 years, having lived together in both England and New Zealand. We are passionately Australian. If we were told tomorrow that we had to leave, we'd return to New Zealand not England. Antipodeans think the same way.
President Kennedy's great Quote, you can take the man out of the Country but you can't take the Country out of The man! I've lived in Australia for 22 years and it's been Great to me, NZL will always be home..
Wow. I'm a Kiwi who has recently discovered your channel, and tbh I've been binging on it a little. So interesting to see your perspective. I have the opposite experience of being a Kiwi living overseas and returning (long before Covid I might add). I think what many Kiwis lack is perspective. We see the beauty around us all day every day so we no longer see the beauty but only the (sometimes imagined) flaws. We see our issues with race and fail to see that we are so much further on than most countries in that regard. We see our issues with sexism and wage gaps and glass ceilings and it takes an expat American to dare suggest that we actually have it pretty good here in that regard. We worry about the level of violence here and ignore the fact that our kids don't do active shooter drills, go through metal detectors at the door to their schools or wear bullet proof backpacks. Not to say we can't do better, we always can of course, but an acknowledgement sometimes that so far we've done pretty well wouldn't be amiss. Your last comment about freedom was great. I have many a discussion with an American friend regarding gun ownership. As a hunter myself I have no issue with firearms however naturally my view is much more restrictive than his. The one question that gets him is when I ask "who has the greater freedom - you who has the freedom to carry guns for self protection or me who has the freedom to never feel that I need to?"
I’m so jealous. My family and I were supposed to move to NZ in August but our visas got declined 8 hours before our flight due to my wife’s medicine for psoriatic arthritis. I’ll keep living vicariously through your videos but man I wish I was there.
Gene, did you have a channel? You were last in the SF Bay Area with family waiting for flights? I think I saw your last post and was so sad for you all. Do you have other immigration plans?
@@Kiwiamericans I wish. We spoke with an immigration lawyer and everything. She and I were both coming in as skilled laborers (teacher and nurse), but the medicinal costs for my wife were too high for the government to approve. I hear the way you speak about the culture there and I so badly want that for my family but there is nothing we were able to do. We were told that maybe when the borders open again, but still a long shot. Feels like we are being punished for something we had no control over.
@@monicaapril1006 thanks, cool you saw that. We ended up attempting to move to England but that was taking too long as we have been living with family for months since our visas got declined. We just recently decided against moving there, and are starting to look to get settled here again, but I’m still hoping for some sort of stroke of luck to allow us to move to NZ.
@@sobegene oh interesting, I have British family and if we can’t get into NZ, we’ll likely look at moving to Europe. Probably England first since I can get my visa sponsored by my dad, but I don’t want to live there long term really. I was excited to hear NZ was looking at starting to process visas again starting in October! A glimmer of hope for me and my family. If you’re still in the Bay Area, I’d love to connect. We live in Fremont.
Born in London.Lived there for 28 years.Moved to Australia in 1990.Lived there for 24 years.Now living in Thailand for 8 years and haven't finished yet.lol Subscibed.
I've watched most of your videos & have to say this was amongst your best! Congrats. You've definitely found your authenticity. It truly shines in this video with so much genuine emotion & conviction. You've lost any (maybe all) of the typical gimmicky-American-ess, that shows up in so many YT videos with Americans. No disrespect to Americans, just my honest observation. Great video.
As a side note, we'd love to have you in Australia for a spell. If you have your NZ citizenship that wouldn't be too much of a bureaucratic leap. Maybe even residency would give you a leg up. If you don't mind me asking, do you have your citizenship or are you planning on getting it?
Mother hood is the most important job in the world. To bring up our kiwi kids our future is so important . I would also say just from watching your videos you have slowed down a lot too. to n.z speed . When you see people come from over seas it takes time to slow down from the fast life over sea's to our layed back kiwi way. Thanks for the video always a joy Will...n.z
Great video and thanks for your observations. Certainly the “other cultures” point is key. You may have noted, as we live so far from anywhere, our OE (Overseas Experience) is a key part of growing up for many Kiwis. This means we meet other people, experience other cultures, try other foods etc etc. I feel that creates a more open minded populace. Something that perhaps doesn’t happen so much in the States, where the size of the country means that overseas travel is not so important.
You are so right about Kiwi's not being materialistic when living at home. I'm a kiwi moved to Aussie love the country, but it's all about materials and replacing things that you don't need. I miss the contentment of home where people are more important than stuff we collect. You can easily become a hoarder here. Not that Australia isn't a good place to live it's made me grown in so many other ways. I always appreciate life more when I come home. Thank you for your video's and teachable moments.
Excellent topic. A reminder that switching up my world, in large and in small ways, has always had a net positive outcome. So now ruminating on what I can do, this week and in the future, to do just that
Totally amazing had opportunity to live in many countries. USA, Australia, EUROPE, SEVERAL ASIAN countries , S Africa(have passport"s") But back in New Zealand for all what you say. We have 3 adult children in USA, SA, DE, would really love them here. Property is bloody expensive though
Property is really, really expensive, Wellington for example where I live has risen by 33.5 year-on-year per cent in the third quarter in 2021 even your own children born here can't afford to buy which is not such a good thing about New Zealand. Cost of living is very high also.
Hello Tara. Ive watch most of your posts and enjoyed them :) But there was one post where I was going to make a comment but got distracted so I will make it here. I am quite certain I heard you say "tomaaato" instead of "tomayto". 😂 I know....its so stupid, but I giggled. I'm glad you like living here. I work with a lot of American's being with a DHB, and they only leave to go back to the States for holidays. One said "oh I got sick of being in the States for so long I couldn't wait to come home". Good company :)
At one point I thought you were about to break into tears. Maybe our beautiful country and people have had a more profound effect on you than you realize. If that is the case......You are so welcome. Your journey to becoming a Kiwi is almost complete.
Awesome video💯 I can see how relaxed you are since been and that’s great, US are great entrepreneurs and are very hard workers. If I was to go to the US It will definitely be a cultural shock. It is so fast and everyone on the go, I wouldn’t no what to do. Hope all is well in Wellington and the unnecessary protest calms down soon. Hoha Thanks for your videos, ka mau te wehi.
Hi there! I love your videos!! Thank you so much for sharing your New Zealand adventures with us. I'm a career changer in my early 40s and I'm currently in school getting my second BS, this time in tech (software development). I think I heard you saying on another video that your husband is in tech. I'm not sure, but if he is working in tech in NZ I would LOVE to hear about his experience working in the technology field over there. I have plans to graduate here in the US, gain some experience and go to NZ permanently. It would be so nice if you could interview him about his profession. :) Again, thank you!
NZ as a country,are after tech minded people, There's Billionaire twin's from California, who closed up shop moved their company to Wellington our capital city,and started up hiring,so I'm sure, you'll be welcomed to the country,look up, Immigration NZ,they will be a huge help,PS as long as you're healthy without any on going family medical history, you'll be sweet as,All good 👍
For an American to go to any foreign country will change them if they are changeable .... or open to change and learning new things .... but it upsets me to hear some say the US is better ... we are not any better ...
I find your channel really interesting and informative. I've learnt lots about the US and also quite a lot about how others find it coming into our culture.
I love New Zealand and you make me appreciate it so much more!!! Some kiwis don't realise what freedoms we have!! When my American friends eventually come over I'll be sure they get in touch with you!!
Thank you mam, it made me remind me of how important my mother was for me. I bow at your feet with respect. I really miss my mother. I thank you very much, because I miss her tenderness and I miss her telling me off too lol.
The big change is that you are now considered equal and not less in worth and the life work balance haschanged. The difference between patriarchal and matriarchal and that's probably a valued part of Moari heritage and being integrated into a caring society.
I got on a train in Auckland and a woman got on after me. She was wearing labourers safety clothing and steelcapped boots so was from one of the building sites. She also was wearing full makeup and very long false eyelashes. A great example of our diverse workforce. Motherhood is now recognised as a "job" here now and not just the woman lazing around at home.
Haven’t seen one of your vids for a while, you appear to look healthier without being rude just wondered if you felt better for it. It may just be the it’s summer but probably the home cooking and not as much fast food? Just something I noticed. Nz is expensive which pees me off specially when you travel overseas. Also many kiwis have travelled, living at the bottom of world you need we go and see what’s out there in the big wide world which in turn opens you to new cultures and as you say makes you a better person. Thanks for putting a good vid together.
Interesting perspective, 20 hours child care wasn't given to give mums a break, it was all about getting single mothers back into the work force and ensuring kids had early childhood education. To the demise of playcentre which is parent led.
@@Kiwiamericans It was a clarification but it only went so far. It's true we want to make it easier for women to get back into the workforce and the free childcare is useful for that. But there's a very good reason for that (if they want to). A lot of women don't want to lose their careers because they take time out to be Mother. It's very hard to step back into a career after you've been away even a few years. And for many women (most, historically) becoming a Mum made it very hard for women to close the pay-inequality gap. That's something we're working hard on in New Zealand at the moment to overcome. It has improved but it's still there and we need to find systemic ways to close that gap. Working, even part-time, someone (Mums or Dads) up-to-date and moving with their industry and current practices and so on. So they can still keep a career and, if they want to go back to it full time they can very easily. (Our kids do grow up, after all - and there's no guarantee that we'll always have a partner in life to go to work while we stay at home. Plus - Mums and Dads are "whole three-dimensional people" - they are not just "Mums" or "Dads" and that's it.) And certainly, for those who want to stay home they can still use that free child-care for things other than work/keeping their career going - and for the same reasons. I'm sure you've noticed, too, that in New Zealand it's usually not a big deal for a parent to have to leave work earlier to pick up children from school, or have to leave for the day because their child is sick and they need to pick them up and take them home and look after them, or start later in the morning because they've got kids they have to get ready for school in the morning and so on. There is, I think, a growing acceptance that parents need to be given a bit of flexibility at work so they can manage being both parents and having a career. I'm glad to see - at least in my workplace - that both Mums and Dads are allowed that flexibility. Nobody turns a hair if someone gets a call and then says "Hey guys - that was the school, I've got to and pick up XXX" and off they go. :-)
You have definitely changed with what you pointed out is right on with how it is here especially in regards to motherhood, freedom and materialistic.. boom.!!
Tbh, and hi Tara, how are you... we are a nation of people who tend to stick together through the most hardest of time and trials. Some will spend large bit most of us live within our means. We simply can't afford new things and that doesn't bother us. We got kids to feed, house needs a vacuum or washing machine kids need clothes. We're better that way lol love the videos and your honesty. Chur my kiwi lol
It is clear you and your family are better people for being in NZ, but I can clearly state that NZ is also a better place for having you and your family.
One of the big differences here in that religion plays no part in politics. We are truly a secular country. We have a woman prime minister who had her child out of wedlock and is "living in sin" with her partner - that's how it would be considered in the USA. And she supports gay rights and attends the Gay Pride Parade every year. She can also drive about in her own car without security or police escorting her. She's just a down to earth Kiwi woman and mum. Years ago we had a lovely transexual Mayor of Wellington, Georgina Beyer. She was much loved and admired. She was a very strong woman but compassionate and empathetic too. Sadly she died of cancer. This could never happen in a country where religion held sway.
Five years of living in California a few years back and I can say Tara is so right. But also, we were treated like royalty by friendly Americans. We made many friends. But it was easy to drop into the world of consumerism, which thankfully was knocked out of us when we came home.
Amazing video! Thank you so much. This is how we feel after traveling the world for 4 1/2 years... But NZ is going to be our new home. Not going back to the USA.
Hey it's your Kiwi fan again. I still can't believe as a kiwi, living here, how much your content appeals to me. You remind me to focus on what we have, more than what is missing. e.g. I have frustration around the gender pay gap, but forget to notice how good our Maternity leave is etc. Keep up your awesome work. And do please stay here, we would love to keep you!
I need to go back to Philadelphia for work...I've stayed in NZ because I was terrified of something happening to my family and being trapped overseas. I just really don't want to go back, and I'm seriously thinking of quitting and staying. The thing you said about people being in your face is true--you get sick of being marketed to, and hustled. The personal safety is a thing as well--in America it's normal to sort of keep a running ledger of people around you and potential threats.
WOW. May God bless and keep you and your family. I am BEYOND GRATEFUL AND THRILLED to say we are selling EVERYTHING and we are in process to immigrate!
Being a Yank you always overlook the fact that NZ's first head of state for over 60 years was a sheila and another has been head of state for the last 70 years - Queen Victoria and Queen Elizabeth II. So 130 years out of 180 in total - maybe it's time to let a bloke have a crack at it :p
Nah it's all good. Even as a man, I like to think that the reason New Zealand fares so much better than much of the world is because most of its top offices-Sovereign, Governor-General, Prime Minister, and Chief Justice (though, sadly, not the Speaker)-have typically been held by women over the last couple decades, and often all of them concurrently which is also the case at the moment. It sometimes surprises me, but it honestly shouldn't given that New Zealand has been at the forefront of women's rights and equality since being the first country to adopt women's suffrage in 1893.
I've heard America referred to as being: "The high temple of materialism." I don't believe that here in Aotearoa New Zealand this description could be justifiably applied.
Question: how does the price of medicine/drugs in NZ and the US compare to each other ? I know that since 2006 in the US it's illegal to import drugs/medicine(s). That allowed the US drug companies to jack up the price of drugs into the stratosphere.
Wow lovely knowing your happy living hear in Aotearoa NZ if you decide to move again to another country may you and fams hopefully experience similar or better things
Hi Tara - once your kids get ingrained into the kiwi way of doing things, if they're not already, then I'm picking that they wont be going back to the US of A real soon, and if so, definitely not to stay. But hey - I wish you and the whanau all the best.
Moving over seas you learn to use your own mind as their is no resuce horse coming. the rose petals glasses fall away faster and you see people for who they really are.
When I went to America 🇺🇸 I found it was so fast compared to what I’m use to living here in New Zealand 🇳🇿 I liked the shopping 🛍 and food but their is no place like home 🏠
Yes, women have been exposed to diversity in life perhaps because they have had wonderful modelling from their forebear’s… New Zealanders ..are definitely versatile and adaptable and authentic …( in general)…
The 20 hours free childcare once your child turns 3 is not because you need a break lol. It's because you are encouraged TO WORK after that, as reflected in the tiered family tax credit system. Also, it's to help combat the devastating poverty that so many of our children are born into. For many, daycare is their only safe place, where they receive food and love, and where teachers can report abuse if it's noticed. Also, much of the reason why kiwis appear to be less materialistic, is likely due to the fact that we can't afford to be. The wages are so low in NZ and the cost of living is phenomenal. The basics take up all of many families income, let alone extras.
My son plays netball for the State men's teams in both indoor and full court in Australia. He used to play rugby and rugby league but spent so much time injured because he was tall and skinny he gave it away! More people play netball in Australia ( and New Zealand) than either AFL or Rugby.
dear Tara:Your money saving is fairy worthimplementing for all y'all kids's future educational purposes.Btw,do you also garden your own plants around areas you're living?Hoping the consumer edible healthy stuffs grown and planted there will get more cheaper probably we can spare more expenses in travelling to see the wonderful natural sceneries.
I see women in leadership roles because how I grew up when dad worked 3 shifts and when he does my mother acted as the leader at home. I grew up seeing that. I loved it as I do now, because I see it with equality, not with biasness. As a male it's a turn on when they take the lead sometimes. It gives the males a break putting on a show. We need to rest our laurels at times too. As a momma, me being her son, watching them putting us as children in our place, teaches us alot of loving, longing, virtuousness values.
Just curious as to how childless couples feel about so many resources aimed at mothers and children? Would love a response from a couple who has no children.
Honestly, even though the US has been going through some crazy cultural/social upheaval, in my experience Americans are great people - kind, generous, and genuinely curious about other places and cultures. For so long the US has been the most influential nation on earth ....but as we see nations like China rise in status the United States is struggling to adjust to the new emerging power structure of the world. This is clearly causing anxiety in many aspects of American life.
Insightful as always - you have touched on it previously, but not said how the work place has changed your views on management, teamwork, attitudes of yourself and co workers to the boss etc. It seems to me that US book stores have rows, nay shelves of management techniques, secrets and styles, while NZ bookshops have only a few. You have noted that in the US employee works harder and longer - but the US have hire and fire at will so they have to conform (In general terms) or lose benefits. Has the Kiwi workplace changed how you work and relate to managers etc?
Oh my goodness yes!!! I have touched on that briefly and agree with you that NZ has few business books. I am always shocked. There is so much to say on this subject but also I am limited in experience as I have worked in one industry and with a lot of Americans :). This would be a good video topic...
I had to take a job that i LOATHED because I needed medical insurance Even with that, I had a $5k deductible If there was Universal Healthcare and regulations on how much $ medication can cost, there'd be so many people doing what they want to do. Instead people need stress meds for jobs they hate and only took to pay for the other meds they need
Tara, I always follow your vid and I love 💘 your comment about my country. You said it like it is. I want to say this, I wish you came here before you have kids so you can have a kiwi kids. You live here now, that mean you and your kids are American kiwi.
Unstructured play is far more important than organised play such as rule bound sport. Those things don't grow the brain to be innovative, adaptive, all skills really that our brains have long evolved for. Let the young person decide. There's a primary school somewhere in Auckland or around that greater area, whereby the play yard has planks of wood and other stuff that kids are free to experiment with whatever enters their head. Go climb trees and so forth. Watched over, but not prevented. No sexism. Anybody has a go and often they work things out as a group. Help each other or do your own thing. The principal realises the huge importance to not mollycoddle by the rules and boundaries, but to self learn to expand themselves. Grow by how we evolved to grow.
Yes that way of education is much stronger in NZ and I really like it. That is why NZ has come up with so many out of the box inventions. Thanks for watching.
Funny you would mention different culture. It happens within NZ. It depends on which city you are in. I was born in Christchurch but spent most of my life in Auckland. Due to covid and redundancy I had to move back to Christchurch to live with family. Huge culture shock. I moved from a city that was always warm and welcoming (although traffic is shit there) but people accept you for who you are. My home city however I've found to be very closed off to what they deem outsiders. Very biased and I have found that it is very hard for older professional women to get jobs here and there are plenty going.
Every Kiwi needs to watch your videos and realise what an amazing country we live, while it's not perfect, I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.
Thank you so much for doing this video. It's been so tough lately with all the negativity and hate around on social media so your video has reminded me that NZ is great place to live and that there are still people here who are positive and grateful.
Awe thanks… I am glad it was encouraging
Like Aussie, NZ is a phenomenal place to live. Hope to be back there soon😁👍🏼
@@julzhunt7790 Very true, our general culture is more similar than we like to let on 😂🕊️ I'm a kiwi in Oz and see so many similarities in Tara's videos and from personal experience.
In the 80s NZ had a strong advertising campaign called "Girls can do anything". It paved the way for a generation.
Oh really - will have to check that out...
Thank you for sharing your experiences here in NZ. All kiwi ancestors moved here at some point. Love your positivity. I realize NZ isn't perfect. I love hearing great people moving here who choose to make NZ home, positively contribute to this country and gain a lot from it. We are all blessed in this case & make NZ a better place. Kind regards
Being a kiwi its so easy to take these things for granted so I really enjoyed that, a great reminder of how blessed we are! Also so wonderful to see your genuine love of NZ 💕
I’m originally from Scotland and we always had easy access to Europe with different languages and cultures so were open minded to different ways of life. Coming to NZ 30 years ago was exciting and we fitted in quickly because we accepted the cultural differences of a new country.
Awesome! Thanks for watching
Thoroughly enjoyed this Tara. There's a saying here, " No job is worth dieing for" and we realise no matter where we live, we are expendable.
Doug - thank for the kind words :)
Which is why most kiwi's have an attitude of 'working to live' rather than 'living to work'
Yes. It appears that NZ is one of the few countries in the world where women in power isn't a drama. Also, it was Jacinda Ardern's government who kept nearly all her compatriots alive during the deadliest waves of the pandemic. The death toll stands at 53 - Almost unequalled in the world.
It is a blessing to be here - thanks for watching.
That's amazing and it stuns me how so many people dont like her. I havent followed nz news.
Awesome work New Zealanders. Here in Western Australia we’ve only had 9. Can’t say the same about the rest of the country unfortunately.
You can't compare NZ (which is a spit ball) to a major country the likes of America etc. Kiwis number just barely 5m. Most of those in Auckland. And the US has 324m *more* residents (from all over the world I may add). It's just not comparable.
Also, NZ is now getting hit real hard with the virus. They also have some pretty bad protests going on, nobody is talking about.
@@LynxStarAuto India has had a female prime minister as has the UK and others. Is this not the epitome of US exceptionalism: to never be comparable to any nation regardless of the issue?
Thank you so much for saying the most beautiful things about our people & our country. We are privileged having you & your whanau living here, I hope everybody has the chance to bump into you one day, one day we might cross paths so when we do I'm definitely gonna say hi.
Marlene - you must say hi!!! Thanks so much for the encouragement.
What a great outlook you have. We are so lucky to live here in NZ, I totally agree with all that you have said in this video. I came here because I married a Kiwi, I'm English, I've lived here since marriage for 43 years, and I really do agree about the 10 points you chatted about. Well done Tara xxxxx
Thanks for sharing! I really appreciate you taking the time to let me know this :)
Good to be reminded about the good things we take for granted!
Thanks for reminding me how lucky we are to live here in NZ. I actually got a little emotional watching this.
You and your family are a great asset to NZ. I highly recommend anyone move to a different country (who is able to) even if just for a year or 2. It will change you, and you will see your own country in a new light, for good and bad.
Thank you for this. My family is coming to NZ for a 2 yr. contract. I am nervous but excited to share this with my husband and children. Fingers crossed!
You have really identified 10 very true and important benefits of the wonder of travels. I love the last one "A new type of freedom" Good for you having the courage to make that huge step in getting your whole family on a plane!! I love you videos
Excellent...☑️
The depth of feeling you put into this was amazing. Very well thought out and presented. I can see the topics you chose were very meaningful to you. It is also inspiring for those from this country, in that it makes us realise the way of life we actually live here. It's certainly true that until you have experienced contrast, you may not realise what you truly have.
Thank you for this heartfelt contribution. 💖
What an awesome video. 😁👍🏼 I’ve found living in other countries makes you more kind of worldly. It gives you a different perspective on life. It’s awesome 😁I love the way you talk to us…not at us.👍🏼 Kiwis will give you the shirt off their back. So friendly and welcoming.
Absolutely!! Thanks for watching.
Hi Tara, very wise observations. I'm from the UK and I too have changed so much for the better having lived most of my life here. My kiwi wife and I have had three daughters here, and we are now expecting our fifth grandchild in a few months time. I would happily return to the UK, but only ever for a short holiday. I consider myself very luckily to have lived most of my life in New Zealand, especially during this time of the covid-19 pandemic when we as a country have been saved from the thousands of deaths that other countries have endured during this pandemic by the careing attitude of our Jacinda Ardern lead government.
Great to know you have had a similar experience. Thanks for watching :)
That last one about the freedom, Tara - I saw that. You've gone and done it now - you're a Kiwi. You *belong* here now no matter where you came from, or how deep and close your connection to it, or where you go for the rest of your life. There's that little piece of your heart that's always got a home here too. :-)
Love all your videos and the way you speak about nz. Keep the videos coming. Been a fan from day one
Awe thanks… that is very kind
I really appreciate your insights on "becoming who you are" as a result of living in a different culture. As an Aussie who has lived off and on for 18 years in Japan, this really resonates with me. Thanks mate!
I’m currently living in Japan. Been here for the last nine years. I’ve learnt sooo much about myself and who I am, whilst living here. I still love and appreciate all that I knew about myself from growing up in NZ, but exposure to life in another country and being immersed in their culture and traditions, has really helped me become more myself and who I am today. I still want to head back home to NZ to settle down eventually, with my Japanese husband.
Lovely to hear I am not the only one!!
Hey Tara, many thanks for your honest and informative videos. Something that hasn't changed is
your warm and friendly personality. 😊
👍
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching :)
Your a beautiful person and it's nice to see someone from different shores appreciate what we have here, it really is a little nivarna, hope you stay a long time , I spent many decades abroad and its not till you come back that you really realize just how easy life is.
Awe thanks!
The last one you nearly cried, that felt genuine, and I truly loved it. Made me tear up alittle bit.
You look relaxed and that's pleasing to see.
Kiaora.
Yeah - right then I thought "She's a Kiwi now - of American extraction to be sure, and it will always be her home land with deep connections - but she *belongs* here". :-)
Absolutely the BEST post Tara. Your growth is a beautiful story. Write a book.
Awe thanks :)
Wharf jumping is actually our national sport
I believe that! Thanks for watching.
I always enjoyed that as a kid, along with rock and cliff jumping into rivers, bridge jumping was good fun as well.....
I love watching your videos but they make me sad too. I was born and lived in NZ for the first 21 years of my life. I left in '69 and have wanted to go home most of that time. I married an Australian and that meant I got to live here instead. I don't dislike Australia but funnily enough it has never felt completely home to me.
Many New Zealanders like that who would go home at the drop of the hat if they had the means.
Cate - oh that his interesting - thanks for sharing :)
Come home Kiwi! I have traveled to a few different countries and lived overseas for 5 years.....but NZ is home and I don't want to live anywhere else.
I'm a Pom, I'm married to a Kiwi. We have lived in Australia for 33 years, having lived together in both England and New Zealand. We are passionately Australian. If we were told tomorrow that we had to leave, we'd return to New Zealand not England. Antipodeans think the same way.
President Kennedy's great Quote, you can take the man out of the Country but you can't take the Country out of
The man! I've lived in Australia for 22 years and it's been
Great to me, NZL will always be home..
Wow.
I'm a Kiwi who has recently discovered your channel, and tbh I've been binging on it a little. So interesting to see your perspective. I have the opposite experience of being a Kiwi living overseas and returning (long before Covid I might add).
I think what many Kiwis lack is perspective. We see the beauty around us all day every day so we no longer see the beauty but only the (sometimes imagined) flaws. We see our issues with race and fail to see that we are so much further on than most countries in that regard. We see our issues with sexism and wage gaps and glass ceilings and it takes an expat American to dare suggest that we actually have it pretty good here in that regard. We worry about the level of violence here and ignore the fact that our kids don't do active shooter drills, go through metal detectors at the door to their schools or wear bullet proof backpacks. Not to say we can't do better, we always can of course, but an acknowledgement sometimes that so far we've done pretty well wouldn't be amiss.
Your last comment about freedom was great. I have many a discussion with an American friend regarding gun ownership. As a hunter myself I have no issue with firearms however naturally my view is much more restrictive than his. The one question that gets him is when I ask "who has the greater freedom - you who has the freedom to carry guns for self protection or me who has the freedom to never feel that I need to?"
Wow… thanks for sharing! Where are u living? Yes yes yes to all your comments.. exactly right. !! It takes an outsider to point it all out!
I’m so jealous. My family and I were supposed to move to NZ in August but our visas got declined 8 hours before our flight due to my wife’s medicine for psoriatic arthritis. I’ll keep living vicariously through your videos but man I wish I was there.
Oh no I so sorry to hear this! Is there anyway you can get here?
Gene, did you have a channel? You were last in the SF Bay Area with family waiting for flights? I think I saw your last post and was so sad for you all. Do you have other immigration plans?
@@Kiwiamericans I wish. We spoke with an immigration lawyer and everything. She and I were both coming in as skilled laborers (teacher and nurse), but the medicinal costs for my wife were too high for the government to approve. I hear the way you speak about the culture there and I so badly want that for my family but there is nothing we were able to do. We were told that maybe when the borders open again, but still a long shot. Feels like we are being punished for something we had no control over.
@@monicaapril1006 thanks, cool you saw that. We ended up attempting to move to England but that was taking too long as we have been living with family for months since our visas got declined. We just recently decided against moving there, and are starting to look to get settled here again, but I’m still hoping for some sort of stroke of luck to allow us to move to NZ.
@@sobegene oh interesting, I have British family and if we can’t get into NZ, we’ll likely look at moving to Europe. Probably England first since I can get my visa sponsored by my dad, but I don’t want to live there long term really.
I was excited to hear NZ was looking at starting to process visas again starting in October! A glimmer of hope for me and my family.
If you’re still in the Bay Area, I’d love to connect. We live in Fremont.
Born in London.Lived there for 28 years.Moved to Australia in 1990.Lived there for 24 years.Now living in Thailand for 8 years and haven't finished yet.lol Subscibed.
Aston - oh my goodness awesome! How is Thailand?? I loved it there when we went in 2015 for a month.
We are so excited the government just announced they’ll start processing visas again in October. We’ve been waiting!!
yeah I know - finally!!!!
This is a fantastic video. Thank you for your appreciation of this beautiful country. You and your whanau are always welcome , with open arms.🙂✌👍
That means a lot - thanks so much.
I'd love to hear your children's perspective to living in new Zealand and America... That would be an eye opener
I agree! I have asked a few times but they don’t want to be on moms uncool channel 😂
Love this, oh the honesty of children.
I've watched most of your videos & have to say this was amongst your best!
Congrats.
You've definitely found your authenticity. It truly shines in this video with so much genuine emotion & conviction. You've lost any (maybe all) of the typical gimmicky-American-ess, that shows up in so many YT videos with Americans. No disrespect to Americans, just my honest observation. Great video.
As a side note, we'd love to have you in Australia for a spell. If you have your NZ citizenship that wouldn't be too much of a bureaucratic leap. Maybe even residency would give you a leg up. If you don't mind me asking, do you have your citizenship or are you planning on getting it?
Thanks so much 😊
I am getting my NZ citizenship this year so yes we could move to Aussie 😜
@@Kiwiamericans Good for you.
We are glad you came to NZ, I enjoy hearing your perspective.
Now that we will be opening up soon, when will Christi be visiting NZ?
Yes that is the question!!!
Mother hood is the most important job in the world. To bring up our kiwi kids our future is so important . I would also say just from watching your videos you have slowed down a lot too. to n.z speed .
When you see people come from over seas it takes time to slow down from the fast life over sea's to our layed back kiwi way. Thanks for the video always a joy Will...n.z
Will - thanks so much for your kind feedback!
Great video and thanks for your observations.
Certainly the “other cultures” point is key. You may have noted, as we live so far from anywhere, our OE (Overseas Experience) is a key part of growing up for many Kiwis.
This means we meet other people, experience other cultures, try other foods etc etc.
I feel that creates a more open minded populace. Something that perhaps doesn’t happen so much in the States, where the size of the country means that overseas travel is not so important.
You are so right about Kiwi's not being materialistic when living at home. I'm a kiwi moved to Aussie love the country, but it's all about materials and replacing things that you don't need.
I miss the contentment of home where people are more important than stuff we collect. You can easily become a hoarder here. Not that Australia isn't a good place to live it's made me grown in so many other ways.
I always appreciate life more when I come home.
Thank you for your video's and teachable moments.
Thanks for the kind words :)
Absolutely Love your Blogs, I love hearing honesty 👍
Glad you like them!
Excellent topic. A reminder that switching up my world, in large and in small ways, has always had a net positive outcome. So now ruminating on what I can do, this week and in the future, to do just that
Love that!
Totally amazing had opportunity to live in many countries. USA, Australia, EUROPE, SEVERAL ASIAN countries , S Africa(have passport"s")
But back in New Zealand for all what you say. We have 3 adult children in USA, SA, DE, would really love them here.
Property is bloody expensive though
Property is really, really expensive, Wellington for example where I live has risen by 33.5 year-on-year per cent in the third quarter in 2021 even your own children born here can't afford to buy which is not such a good thing about New Zealand. Cost of living is very high also.
@@michelledavies2197
To absorb earthquake energy.
Hello Tara. Ive watch most of your posts and enjoyed them :) But there was one post where I was going to make a comment but got distracted so I will make it here. I am quite certain I heard you say "tomaaato" instead of "tomayto". 😂 I know....its so stupid, but I giggled. I'm glad you like living here. I work with a lot of American's being with a DHB, and they only leave to go back to the States for holidays. One said "oh I got sick of being in the States for so long I couldn't wait to come home". Good company :)
Corina - I think you are right, I have changed the way I say tomato :) Yes when I visit the states, I am always ready to come back home.
Aw, this was quite beautiful and moving watching you open up so honestly about your experiences, feelings and perspectives. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thanks for your kind words😍
Really enjoy your posts from an Aussie's point of view
Glad you like them! Thanks for watching.
At one point I thought you were about to break into tears. Maybe our beautiful country and people have had a more profound effect on you than you realize. If that is the case......You are so welcome. Your journey to becoming a Kiwi is almost complete.
I love your channel and loved listening to your heart the wairua [spiritual] side can really be seen. Thank you from Tairawhiti East Coast
Maraea - that is very kind :)
@@Kiwiamericans you're welcome but it's true.🙂Take care
Seeing women in leadership roles in your beautiful country is amazing.
Yes it is - thanks for watching!
Gosh I could feel your relief at not being so pushed. Yay 🙂
Awe thanks for watching!
Awesome video💯 I can see how relaxed you are since been and that’s great, US are great entrepreneurs and are very hard workers. If I was to go to the US It will definitely be a cultural shock. It is so fast and everyone on the go, I wouldn’t no what to do.
Hope all is well in Wellington and the unnecessary protest calms down soon. Hoha
Thanks for your videos, ka mau te wehi.
Michelle - thanks so much for watching!
Hi there! I love your videos!! Thank you so much for sharing your New Zealand adventures with us. I'm a career changer in my early 40s and I'm currently in school getting my second BS, this time in tech (software development). I think I heard you saying on another video that your husband is in tech. I'm not sure, but if he is working in tech in NZ I would LOVE to hear about his experience working in the technology field over there. I have plans to graduate here in the US, gain some experience and go to NZ permanently. It would be so nice if you could interview him about his profession. :) Again, thank you!
NZ as a country,are after tech minded people,
There's Billionaire twin's from California, who closed up shop moved their company to Wellington our capital city,and started up hiring,so I'm sure, you'll be welcomed to the country,look up, Immigration NZ,they will be a huge help,PS as long as you're healthy without any on going family medical history, you'll be sweet as,All good 👍
@@morrisanderson818 Awesome! Thank you for the tip and info. I’ll definitely check it out. And yes, I’m healthy. 😊
For an American to go to any foreign country will change them if they are changeable .... or open to change and learning new things .... but it upsets me to hear some say the US is better ... we are not any better ...
I find your channel really interesting and informative. I've learnt lots about the US and also quite a lot about how others find it coming into our culture.
Thanks for watching!
I love New Zealand and you make me appreciate it so much more!!! Some kiwis don't realise what freedoms we have!! When my American friends eventually come over I'll be sure they get in touch with you!!
Peter - sounds good send them my way!
Thank you mam, it made me remind me of how important my mother was for me. I bow at your feet with respect. I really miss my mother. I thank you very much, because I miss her tenderness and I miss her telling me off too lol.
Thanks for watching Mo!
The big change is that you are now considered equal and not less in worth and the life work balance haschanged. The difference between patriarchal and matriarchal and that's probably a valued part of Moari heritage and being integrated into a caring society.
Yes exactly.. well said Todd!
I got on a train in Auckland and a woman got on after me. She was wearing labourers safety clothing and steelcapped boots so was from one of the building sites. She also was wearing full makeup and very long false eyelashes. A great example of our diverse workforce. Motherhood is now recognised as a "job" here now and not just the woman lazing around at home.
Haven’t seen one of your vids for a while, you appear to look healthier without being rude just wondered if you felt better for it. It may just be the it’s summer but probably the home cooking and not as much fast food? Just something I noticed. Nz is expensive which pees me off specially when you travel overseas. Also many kiwis have travelled, living at the bottom of world you need we go and see what’s out there in the big wide world which in turn opens you to new cultures and as you say makes you a better person. Thanks for putting a good vid together.
tara how about a match making service to match up singles here in the states with new zealanders
Interesting perspective, 20 hours child care wasn't given to give mums a break, it was all about getting single mothers back into the work force and ensuring kids had early childhood education. To the demise of playcentre which is parent led.
Anne - oh thanks for the clarification. I appreciate that.
@@Kiwiamericans It was a clarification but it only went so far. It's true we want to make it easier for women to get back into the workforce and the free childcare is useful for that. But there's a very good reason for that (if they want to). A lot of women don't want to lose their careers because they take time out to be Mother. It's very hard to step back into a career after you've been away even a few years. And for many women (most, historically) becoming a Mum made it very hard for women to close the pay-inequality gap. That's something we're working hard on in New Zealand at the moment to overcome. It has improved but it's still there and we need to find systemic ways to close that gap.
Working, even part-time, someone (Mums or Dads) up-to-date and moving with their industry and current practices and so on. So they can still keep a career and, if they want to go back to it full time they can very easily. (Our kids do grow up, after all - and there's no guarantee that we'll always have a partner in life to go to work while we stay at home. Plus - Mums and Dads are "whole three-dimensional people" - they are not just "Mums" or "Dads" and that's it.)
And certainly, for those who want to stay home they can still use that free child-care for things other than work/keeping their career going - and for the same reasons. I'm sure you've noticed, too, that in New Zealand it's usually not a big deal for a parent to have to leave work earlier to pick up children from school, or have to leave for the day because their child is sick and they need to pick them up and take them home and look after them, or start later in the morning because they've got kids they have to get ready for school in the morning and so on. There is, I think, a growing acceptance that parents need to be given a bit of flexibility at work so they can manage being both parents and having a career. I'm glad to see - at least in my workplace - that both Mums and Dads are allowed that flexibility. Nobody turns a hair if someone gets a call and then says "Hey guys - that was the school, I've got to and pick up XXX" and off they go. :-)
You have definitely changed with what you pointed out is right on with how it is here especially in regards to motherhood, freedom and materialistic.. boom.!!
Thank w soo much for your thoughts
Tbh, and hi Tara, how are you... we are a nation of people who tend to stick together through the most hardest of time and trials. Some will spend large bit most of us live within our means. We simply can't afford new things and that doesn't bother us. We got kids to feed, house needs a vacuum or washing machine kids need clothes. We're better that way lol love the videos and your honesty. Chur my kiwi lol
It is clear you and your family are better people for being in NZ, but I can clearly state that NZ is also a better place for having you and your family.
Well said. I agree
That is very kind - thanks :)
One of the big differences here in that religion plays no part in politics. We are truly a secular country. We have a woman prime minister who had her child out of wedlock and is "living in sin" with her partner - that's how it would be considered in the USA. And she supports gay rights and attends the Gay Pride Parade every year. She can also drive about in her own car without security or police escorting her. She's just a down to earth Kiwi woman and mum. Years ago we had a lovely transexual Mayor of Wellington, Georgina Beyer. She was much loved and admired. She was a very strong woman but compassionate and empathetic too. Sadly she died of cancer. This could never happen in a country where religion held sway.
Juanita - you bring up a very good point and the way this would all be viewed. I am going to have to ponder that one a bit...thanks for sharing...
Great in sights - thanks!
Glad you enjoyed!
I loved this video. I learned so much from it.
Awesome.. thanks for your feedback
I'm grateful for your insights.
Thanks for watching!
Five years of living in California a few years back and I can say Tara is so right. But also, we were treated like royalty by friendly Americans. We made many friends. But it was easy to drop into the world of consumerism, which thankfully was knocked out of us when we came home.
Yes NZ will do that too u!
Amazing video! Thank you so much. This is how we feel after traveling the world for 4 1/2 years... But NZ is going to be our new home. Not going back to the USA.
Hey it's your Kiwi fan again. I still can't believe as a kiwi, living here, how much your content appeals to me. You remind me to focus on what we have, more than what is missing. e.g. I have frustration around the gender pay gap, but forget to notice how good our Maternity leave is etc. Keep up your awesome work. And do please stay here, we would love to keep you!
That is so encouraging.. thanks for sharing and watching my channel
I need to go back to Philadelphia for work...I've stayed in NZ because I was terrified of something happening to my family and being trapped overseas. I just really don't want to go back, and I'm seriously thinking of quitting and staying. The thing you said about people being in your face is true--you get sick of being marketed to, and hustled. The personal safety is a thing as well--in America it's normal to sort of keep a running ledger of people around you and potential threats.
WOW. May God bless and keep you and your family. I am BEYOND GRATEFUL AND THRILLED to say we are selling EVERYTHING and we are in process to immigrate!
Awesome! I am here to help
Thank you so much. I want to come to NZ.
Different country we are more expensive than the USA but definitely safer
Thanks for watching
Being a Yank you always overlook the fact that NZ's first head of state for over 60 years was a sheila and another has been head of state for the last 70 years - Queen Victoria and Queen Elizabeth II. So 130 years out of 180 in total - maybe it's time to let a bloke have a crack at it :p
Also the first country in the world to have 3 different female heads of government.
Nah it's all good. Even as a man, I like to think that the reason New Zealand fares so much better than much of the world is because most of its top offices-Sovereign, Governor-General, Prime Minister, and Chief Justice (though, sadly, not the Speaker)-have typically been held by women over the last couple decades, and often all of them concurrently which is also the case at the moment. It sometimes surprises me, but it honestly shouldn't given that New Zealand has been at the forefront of women's rights and equality since being the first country to adopt women's suffrage in 1893.
@@MrChiddler Imagine how much further ahead NZ would be without such a handicap :p
@@michaelheliotis5279 simpmuch?
What can I say. We love our Aunties, even when they are a bit mean.
The way you explaining thing its speech less i liked your videos so much love from India keep going, 🎉🎉
Awe thanks!
Good video,you communicate very well indeed Professor 👍
Thanks:)
I've heard America referred to as being: "The high temple of materialism." I don't believe that here in Aotearoa New Zealand this description could be justifiably applied.
Question: how does the price of medicine/drugs in NZ and the US compare to each other ? I know that since 2006 in the US it's illegal to import drugs/medicine(s). That allowed the US drug companies to jack up the price of drugs into the stratosphere.
Wow lovely knowing your happy living hear in Aotearoa NZ if you decide to move again to another country may you and fams hopefully experience similar or better things
In regards to women in leadership roles in New Zealand and how it has affected you, Tara, what about the impact it has had on your girls?
Thank you for sharing ☺️
Thanks for watching!
Hi Tara… Your reference to freedom can be summed up as freedom to be you, free from cultural indoctrination.
Hi Tara - once your kids get ingrained into the kiwi way of doing things, if they're not already, then I'm picking that they wont be going back to the US of A real soon, and if so, definitely not to stay. But hey - I wish you and the whanau all the best.
Moving over seas you learn to use your own mind as their is no resuce horse coming. the rose petals glasses fall away faster and you see people for who they really are.
Really well said Wanda!
@@Kiwiamericans I know. 🥰👍👏👏👏 returning back has been a eye opener. In america was a learning experience.
When I went to America 🇺🇸 I found it was so fast compared to what I’m use to living here in New Zealand 🇳🇿 I liked the shopping 🛍 and food but their is no place like home 🏠
Hina - yes it is next level fast-paced!
Yes, women have been exposed to diversity in life perhaps because they have had wonderful modelling from their forebear’s… New Zealanders ..are definitely versatile and adaptable and authentic …( in general)…
Totally agree! Thanks for watching.
The 20 hours free childcare once your child turns 3 is not because you need a break lol. It's because you are encouraged TO WORK after that, as reflected in the tiered family tax credit system. Also, it's to help combat the devastating poverty that so many of our children are born into. For many, daycare is their only safe place, where they receive food and love, and where teachers can report abuse if it's noticed.
Also, much of the reason why kiwis appear to be less materialistic, is likely due to the fact that we can't afford to be. The wages are so low in NZ and the cost of living is phenomenal. The basics take up all of many families income, let alone extras.
the footage at 1:42 looks like it is from Hamilton?
Wow what a smile and amazing eyes
Awe thanks for watching
Netball is a national sport that men, women and families stop for just like rugby, and netball is a women’s sport
My son plays netball for the State men's teams in both indoor and full court in Australia. He used to play rugby and rugby league but spent so much time injured because he was tall and skinny he gave it away! More people play netball in Australia ( and New Zealand) than either AFL or Rugby.
I dont worry now about slipping and hitting my head on ice-snow
dear Tara:Your money saving is fairy worthimplementing for all y'all kids's future educational purposes.Btw,do you also garden your own plants around areas you're living?Hoping the consumer edible healthy stuffs grown and planted there will get more cheaper probably we can spare more expenses in travelling to see the wonderful natural sceneries.
I see women in leadership roles because how I grew up when dad worked 3 shifts and when he does my mother acted as the leader at home. I grew up seeing that. I loved it as I do now, because I see it with equality, not with biasness. As a male it's a turn on when they take the lead sometimes. It gives the males a break putting on a show. We need to rest our laurels at times too. As a momma, me being her son, watching them putting us as children in our place, teaches us alot of loving, longing, virtuousness values.
Just curious as to how childless couples feel about so many resources aimed at mothers and children? Would love a response from a couple who has no children.
Honestly, even though the US has been going through some crazy cultural/social upheaval, in my experience Americans are great people - kind, generous, and genuinely curious about other places and cultures. For so long the US has been the most influential nation on earth ....but as we see nations like China rise in status the United States is struggling to adjust to the new emerging power structure of the world. This is clearly causing anxiety in many aspects of American life.
Americans are great - the culture has moved in the wrong direction over the last decade.
Insightful as always - you have touched on it previously, but not said how the work place has changed your views on management, teamwork, attitudes of yourself and co workers to the boss etc. It seems to me that US book stores have rows, nay shelves of management techniques, secrets and styles, while NZ bookshops have only a few. You have noted that in the US employee works harder and longer - but the US have hire and fire at will so they have to conform (In general terms) or lose benefits. Has the Kiwi workplace changed how you work and relate to managers etc?
Oh my goodness yes!!! I have touched on that briefly and agree with you that NZ has few business books. I am always shocked. There is so much to say on this subject but also I am limited in experience as I have worked in one industry and with a lot of Americans :). This would be a good video topic...
I had to take a job that i LOATHED because I needed medical insurance
Even with that, I had a $5k deductible
If there was Universal Healthcare and regulations on how much $ medication can cost, there'd be so many people doing what they want to do. Instead people need stress meds for jobs they hate and only took to pay for the other meds they need
@@jennyfab312 I feel for you and everyone trapped in a job they hate. Terrible. It is a pain that never stops.
Tara, I always follow your vid and I love 💘 your comment about my country. You said it like it is. I want to say this, I wish you came here before you have kids so you can have a kiwi kids. You live here now, that mean you and your kids are American kiwi.
Awe thanks that is very kind. We are very grateful to be here.
When you move to Nz from America take your shoes off at the Nz door kiwis don’t like wearing shoes
Unstructured play is far more important than organised play such as rule bound sport. Those things don't grow the brain to be innovative, adaptive, all skills really that our brains have long evolved for. Let the young person decide.
There's a primary school somewhere in Auckland or around that greater area, whereby the play yard has planks of wood and other stuff that kids are free to experiment with whatever enters their head. Go climb trees and so forth. Watched over, but not prevented. No sexism. Anybody has a go and often they work things out as a group. Help each other or do your own thing. The principal realises the huge importance to not mollycoddle by the rules and boundaries, but to self learn to expand themselves. Grow by how we evolved to grow.
Yes that way of education is much stronger in NZ and I really like it. That is why NZ has come up with so many out of the box inventions. Thanks for watching.
Love your comments has always 👍👍👍👍
I appreciate that - thanks for watching.
Funny you would mention different culture. It happens within NZ. It depends on which city you are in. I was born in Christchurch but spent most of my life in Auckland. Due to covid and redundancy I had to move back to Christchurch to live with family. Huge culture shock. I moved from a city that was always warm and welcoming (although traffic is shit there) but people accept you for who you are. My home city however I've found to be very closed off to what they deem outsiders. Very biased and I have found that it is very hard for older professional women to get jobs here and there are plenty going.
Oh really - that is interesting. Thanks for sharing...