But really, I had a dream of a guardian angel, old white guy, next day, he shows up in my RUclips suggested. I am going to get tested for adhd in two weeks. A true godsend.
@@accidentalpatient4152 He takes money from big pharma pushes drugs and says once somebody is diagnosed with ADHD there is no reason why they should not be medicated. He never mentions the side effects or risks either. He claims 4.4% of adults have ADHD. In reality it is around 2%.
I only recently became medicated for this. (I'm 24). If, a few years from now, it was discovered that amphetamine medications likely shorten your lifespan by, let's say 3 to 5 years even at theraputic doses, I would take them anyway without batting an eye. I'd rather have fewer years of happiness and fulfillment than more years where I probably amount to nothing and die miserable and possibly alone because nobody (through no fault of theirs) could put up with me.
@@AltsekBUL Well, I obviously wrote that comment during the 'honeymoon phase' of taking the drug lol plus I was in a pretty emotional place having been diagnosed so late and being being really pissed about it. Fortunately things turned out ok .I've been medicated since then and It's almost impossible to picture life without it at this point. So yes, the meds work, but THERE ARE side effects. In my mind though they're a small price to pay for what you get in return.
I'm amazed by Dr. Barkley's ability to explain ADHD in such detail. All of the clips that I've seen (especially this one) are so dense with information that I finally have a roadmap to work with this condition. Thank you, Dr. Barkley!
I really like what Dr. Bradley says at 12:39-12:54, which ought to be true of all parents about all of their kids, after he'd just said that a parent is the shepherd to the child and gets to design the pasture: "Now that comes with it a profoundly freeing view of parenting, because what it means is, although it is important to be a shepherd, RECOGNIZING THAT THIS IS A UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL BEFORE YOU ALLOWS YOU TO ENJOY THE SHOW!"
I love his bit on giving extra time for tasks. He seriously had a Dave Ramsey moment there that was a change of pace. The frustration of not knowing what accommodation to ask for, so you just ask for a generic accommodation is very real.
50 years ago my parents had a point system. It was not quite the same as the one discussed here, but very similar. for certain chores you got certain points and then you could use those points just like currency to purchase television time, going to friends houses etc. It was a very effective system for us, in many respects
I love this guy. Dr. Russell is an absolute authority and expert on difficult, complex yet extremely fascinating subject of ADHD. A real expert. (Funny, I added "real" before "expert," like the word "expert" is not trustworthy enough. Is it?) *Have you noticed we live in times where terms "expert and authority" get overly abused? People feel entitled to call themselves experts the moment Alexa explains them what ADHD acronym stands for. Not everyone is an expert, and not everyone is the authority. People in need of educating themselves on ADD often rely solely on their trusted advisor Google which in return gives them nothing less, but 14 million experts on a subject. What a crazy world! Even Buddha would end up with ADHD after trying to research ADHD. Hopefully sooner than later you'll come across a real diamond: Dr. Russell Barkley. Full package: you will get everything, plenty of scientific facts, supporting cases' examples, real life situations. He provides facts, provides examples, he shares solutions, but what I appreciate most: he will stimulate you to do the same on your own: research, keep looking and never give up. He serves you the Truth. Truth about ADHD and true in general sense. He repeats to remind you that Truth is never a single molecule. It is an assembled thing built through integrating across variety of sources. ADHD is a controversial subject, and underestimated condition. When I think of ADHD I see uplifting smiley face with sparkly eyes with sadness hidden behind them. Scared soul looking for answers and reasons of its repetitive failures, "its potential never used". ADHD can become a source of silly jokes thrown at daydreaming individual, or someone who always forgets his keys, and ironically at the same time ADHD can be traumatizing truth behind multiple divorces of the same individual. Not many conditions has that double face. ADHD seems goofy on its surface. Without people like Dr Russel, actively raising ADHD awareness, this condition will remain a commonly used joke, and abused reason to obtain stimulants to survive college years or have fun at the party. Doctor Russel helps uncover the stigma and breaks the stereotype of ADHD. This is a serious condition. He shows that under thin layer of ADHD goofy facade of not-so-serious condition lays complex, serious and difficult truth. This hidden enemy of genetically engraved patterns, behavioral habits deepening over lifetime along with often discouraging, continuously disapproving feedback from surrounding world has proven to be reason of many life failures of people with real and unique potential. uncomfortable
Yes! Very well spoken. There is a shadow truth to ADHD I don’t hear anyone talk about. It is a painful disorder. It is filled with despair and suffering, intense emotions that can’t be regulated, processed, or relieved. Even Russell glances over the emotional regulation impairment brought in with ADHD. It should not be understated. It is very painful, it does lead to suicide. It does kill. It is a horrible life to have and a terrible way to go. So... much... suffering. That no one seems to talk about.
Awesome talk, right to the very end with that "evaluation card" idea, that is just horrid. Do you want those teachers that hated us to have even more punishing power over your adhd child? Also assuming we will forge the card (assuming we are liars) is pretty brutal as well.
They tried putting me on a "strike card" that teaches issued. When I got 3 strikes I went to ISS. Eventually they lowered it to two...and eventually from there it stopped because it did not work. I personally think the teaching style isn't suited for us in general so we are inclined to rebel.
if i had a nickel for the amount of times I've said to myself "makes sense.... yep. that too. mhmm" while listening to Dr. Barkleys presentations, id have a S**tload of nickels.
the first 3 pages of his book is wonderful! When i read them about 19 years ago, for the 1st time in my life, I felt like I had a friend - someone who really understood me FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE!!! - because there was a lengthy ADHD assessment test, and I scored 100% POSITIVE for FULL-BLOWN ADHD. But I couldn't read the book BECAUSE I HAD ADHD! (Why didn't Mr Barkley figure out that PEOPLE with ADHD COULDN'T READ HIS BOOK - BECAUSE they had ADHD????) And there WAS NO audio version. So I wrote him and told him he needed to create one and why. i guess others did too, because about 10 years later, he got off his arse and did it. But the price was (and is) so high that anyone on a meager fixed income can't afford to buy it. So I never did. My dad used to call people like this, 'Educated Idiots', because they'd gone to school, gotten degrees, learned everything the textbooks told them, but had NO common sense! Thank you for writing your book - AND for listening, Mr Barkley. I really enjoyed the 1st 3 pages! The local library system doesn't have your audiobook. When I get rich enough, I may listen to it, unless life gets in the way or I croak first.
Your comment makes no sense. I have ADHD, and I could not put the book down. I want to know EVERY SINGLE THING about this disorder. I suspect your problem is not ADHD.
The government does, the problem is that employers because of at-will employment usually use disability declarations as guides to which employees to exercise at-will termination on.
@magneticflux7833 I dont think its inherently why you dont want kids. Many people with adhd want kids, many dont. But your opinion and experience is yours
Barkley's vested interest in the success of ADHD isn't his brother's death in a car crash. It is the career of Russell A Barkley. Barkley talks about ADHD being scientific. “Does your child have difficulty awaiting his turn seldom, often, or never? Does he interrupt or intrude on others seldom, often, or never?” The answers are then tallied up and a diagnosis is made. A computer or layperson could just as easily perform the evaluation. The child himself is observed only minimally by the doctor; rarely is the context of his behavior-family life, school, friendships-considered. The tidy list of DSM symptoms may look objective, and they may satisfy the discipline’s need to look “scientific,” but they are heavily subject to the eye of the beholder. Richard Fee was diagnosed as ADHD as was John Edwards. Where are they now?
yeah there is the belief system thing - on the emotional /psychological / conscious / unconscious person which parents most def do have an impact on. there is providing an environment and relationships, sense of the world, and self which all impact on choices and the experience of life that can either allow or inhibit the maturation and even the genetic expression of traits. clearly there are so many types / expressions of ADHD and the like, that these techniques and this advice is very expensive and confusing hot air. be patient with your kids. help them find what they love. they shouldn't be jammed into some commercially viable persona of success with checklists and rewards and careful monitoring by everyone they are supposed to trust. be patient and respectful. don't own them and enslave them.
Song featuring Adam Levine singing, Barkley doing backing vocals, Ty Pennington on guitar, Lady Gaga on backing vocals, Joseph Biederman on guitar, Timothy Wilens on Drums, Just give me an amount (Of Pharma money) I will tell you if it is right And pay for me an holiday Take me away on a cruise and make it okay I swear this drug will make kids behave Teachers want control Kids can wait (in queues) I will say how great this drug is I made me have this career I brought me fortune and fame It made me change my game You say I have no morals or guilt I don't give a shit and it goes like this Put dollars in my hand and I'll show you Pay for my house car I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma You need Ritalin or SSRI's to control you Pharma looked into my eyes and said I own you with the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma Baby it's hard when you need the money You need it to pay your house off To most people taking pharma money doesn't feel right, but when you are me you don't give a shite I make you believe for a brighter future Ritalin and Adderall give you the key Take those drugs and for that future we can ride it Wherever you want to be those drugs will make you achieve it And you are still learning, I'm shifting gear I'll take it from here oh yeah yeah and it goes like this Put money in my hand and I'll know you Pay for that cruise I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma I need this drugs to control you Look into my eyes and Pharma owns you I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma You want to know how to make me smile Put that Pharma Check in my hand Take control, own me as Pharma does But if I share my secret you're gonna have to keep it Nobody else can see this I will keep some pharma money secret So watch and learn I won't show you twice Head to toe, ooh baby, rub me right Pharma pay for that secret visit to the parlor But if I share my secret you're gonna have to keep it Nobody else can see this And it goes like this Put that pharma check in your hand and they'll own you Give you that holiday and I'll show you all the moves like pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma I've accepted the moves from Pharma
Russell you are a guardian angel to all ADHD people to ever exist in this world
He's an evil man
But really, I had a dream of a guardian angel, old white guy, next day, he shows up in my RUclips suggested. I am going to get tested for adhd in two weeks. A true godsend.
@@alanberkeley7282 why?
@@accidentalpatient4152 He takes money from big pharma pushes drugs and says once somebody is diagnosed with ADHD there is no reason why they should not be medicated. He never mentions the side effects or risks either. He claims 4.4% of adults have ADHD. In reality it is around 2%.
@@alanberkeley7282 that is so thin and degenerate statement I'm not even going to touch it.
I only recently became medicated for this. (I'm 24). If, a few years from now, it was discovered that amphetamine medications likely shorten your lifespan by, let's say 3 to 5 years even at theraputic doses, I would take them anyway without batting an eye. I'd rather have fewer years of happiness and fulfillment than more years where I probably amount to nothing and die miserable and possibly alone because nobody (through no fault of theirs) could put up with me.
Me too. ( I’m 25)
Thats what every cocaine user says.
Whats up man. How are you doing after 3 years?
@@AltsekBUL Well, I obviously wrote that comment during the 'honeymoon phase' of taking the drug lol plus I was in a pretty emotional place having been diagnosed so late and being being really pissed about it. Fortunately things turned out ok .I've been medicated since then and It's almost impossible to picture life without it at this point. So yes, the meds work, but THERE ARE side effects. In my mind though they're a small price to pay for what you get in return.
Sam Robinson Good to hear you’re doing fine brother, God bless!
I'm amazed by Dr. Barkley's ability to explain ADHD in such detail. All of the clips that I've seen (especially this one) are so dense with information that I finally have a roadmap to work with this condition. Thank you, Dr. Barkley!
I really like what Dr. Bradley says at 12:39-12:54, which ought to be true of all parents about all of their kids, after he'd just said that a parent is the shepherd to the child and gets to design the pasture:
"Now that comes with it a profoundly freeing view of parenting, because what it means is, although it is important to be a shepherd, RECOGNIZING THAT THIS IS A UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL BEFORE YOU ALLOWS YOU TO ENJOY THE SHOW!"
Except us parents have ADHD too and can't plan anything
shit ,40%!!!!!
I love his bit on giving extra time for tasks. He seriously had a Dave Ramsey moment there that was a change of pace. The frustration of not knowing what accommodation to ask for, so you just ask for a generic accommodation is very real.
Extremely clear, entertaining and just brilliant.
i just could not stop listen to him !!!!!
He is so passionate. He cares! Thank you!
Such good information!! He is amazing
I love this man. I teach my son at his school thee times a week because of its inability to care for him. This shows me what else I need to do.
50 years ago my parents had a point system. It was not quite the same as the one discussed here, but very similar. for certain chores you got certain points and then you could use those points just like currency to purchase television time, going to friends houses etc. It was a very effective system for us, in many respects
Minute 15 two minutes, 23 how truly helpful
I love this guy.
Dr. Russell is an absolute authority and expert on difficult, complex yet extremely fascinating subject of ADHD. A real expert. (Funny, I added "real" before "expert," like the word "expert" is not trustworthy enough. Is it?)
*Have you noticed we live in times where terms "expert and authority" get overly abused? People feel entitled to call themselves experts the moment Alexa explains them what ADHD acronym stands for.
Not everyone is an expert, and not everyone is the authority. People in need of educating themselves on ADD often rely solely on their trusted advisor Google which in return gives them nothing less, but 14 million experts on a subject.
What a crazy world!
Even Buddha would end up with ADHD after trying to research ADHD.
Hopefully sooner than later you'll come across a real diamond: Dr. Russell Barkley. Full package: you will get everything, plenty of scientific facts, supporting cases' examples, real life situations. He provides facts, provides examples, he shares solutions, but what I appreciate most: he will stimulate you to do the same on your own: research, keep looking and never give up.
He serves you the Truth. Truth about ADHD and true in general sense. He repeats to remind you that Truth is never a single molecule. It is an assembled thing built through integrating across variety of sources.
ADHD is a controversial subject, and underestimated condition.
When I think of ADHD I see uplifting smiley face with sparkly eyes with sadness hidden behind them. Scared soul looking for answers and reasons of its repetitive failures, "its potential never used". ADHD can become a source of silly jokes thrown at daydreaming individual, or someone who always forgets his keys, and ironically at the same time ADHD can be traumatizing truth behind multiple divorces of the same individual.
Not many conditions has that double face.
ADHD seems goofy on its surface. Without people like Dr Russel, actively raising ADHD awareness, this condition will remain a commonly used joke, and abused reason to obtain stimulants to survive college years or have fun at the party.
Doctor Russel helps uncover the stigma and breaks the stereotype of ADHD. This is a serious condition.
He shows that under thin layer of ADHD goofy facade of not-so-serious condition lays complex, serious and difficult truth. This hidden enemy of genetically engraved patterns, behavioral habits deepening over lifetime along with often discouraging, continuously disapproving feedback from surrounding world has proven to be reason of many life failures of people with real and unique potential.
uncomfortable
Yes! Very well spoken. There is a shadow truth to ADHD I don’t hear anyone talk about. It is a painful disorder. It is filled with despair and suffering, intense emotions that can’t be regulated, processed, or relieved. Even Russell glances over the emotional regulation impairment brought in with ADHD. It should not be understated. It is very painful, it does lead to suicide. It does kill. It is a horrible life to have and a terrible way to go. So... much... suffering. That no one seems to talk about.
"This is no gift."
AGREED! And it sure as shit ain't no "superpower", as many would like to believe.
Great educational lecture!
This guy is on fire!
Awesome talk, right to the very end with that "evaluation card" idea, that is just horrid. Do you want those teachers that hated us to have even more punishing power over your adhd child? Also assuming we will forge the card (assuming we are liars) is pretty brutal as well.
well idk about you but I would forge the shit out of that card so yea he's correct for some, just not for you maybe
They tried putting me on a "strike card" that teaches issued. When I got 3 strikes I went to ISS. Eventually they lowered it to two...and eventually from there it stopped because it did not work.
I personally think the teaching style isn't suited for us in general so we are inclined to rebel.
Excellent video!
Brilliant!
Parents, you are a shepherd, not an engineer! 13:00
Well good statement from us, people with ADHD: not to give up and let that desease destroy us...
if i had a nickel for the amount of times I've said to myself "makes sense.... yep. that too. mhmm" while listening to Dr. Barkleys presentations, id have a S**tload of nickels.
He is the Mister Rogers of ADHD brains.
"Can you say, 'BRAIN'?"
I need the medication...where can I get it??
the first 3 pages of his book is wonderful! When i read them about 19 years ago, for the 1st time in my life, I felt like I had a friend - someone who really understood me FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE!!! - because there was a lengthy ADHD assessment test, and I scored 100% POSITIVE for FULL-BLOWN ADHD. But I couldn't read the book BECAUSE I HAD ADHD!
(Why didn't Mr Barkley figure out that PEOPLE with ADHD COULDN'T READ HIS BOOK - BECAUSE they had ADHD????)
And there WAS NO audio version. So I wrote him and told him he needed to create one and why. i guess others did too, because about 10 years later, he got off his arse and did it. But the price was (and is) so high that anyone on a meager fixed income can't afford to buy it. So I never did.
My dad used to call people like this, 'Educated Idiots', because they'd gone to school, gotten degrees, learned everything the textbooks told them, but had NO common sense!
Thank you for writing your book - AND for listening, Mr Barkley. I really enjoyed the 1st 3 pages! The local library system doesn't have your audiobook. When I get rich enough, I may listen to it, unless life gets in the way or I croak first.
He made it for parents not people with adhd
@@raycyst-k9v Parents might have adhd themselfs?
@@Minunmaani its for parents who have sons with adhd
Your comment makes no sense. I have ADHD, and I could not put the book down. I want to know EVERY SINGLE THING about this disorder. I suspect your problem is not ADHD.
Is he the one in Matrix 2 movie?
I find it hard to believe that our American government doesn’t recognize ADHD as a legitimate disability.
The government does, the problem is that employers because of at-will employment usually use disability declarations as guides to which employees to exercise at-will termination on.
I don’t want to have kids..
I finally feel validated why I never wanted them. We are akin. No worries.
@magneticflux7833 I dont think its inherently why you dont want kids. Many people with adhd want kids, many dont. But your opinion and experience is yours
Barkley's vested interest in the success of ADHD isn't his brother's death in a car crash. It is the career of Russell A Barkley. Barkley talks about ADHD being scientific. “Does your child have difficulty awaiting his turn seldom, often, or never? Does he interrupt or intrude on others seldom, often, or never?” The answers are then tallied up and a diagnosis is made. A computer or layperson could just as easily perform the evaluation. The child himself is observed only minimally by the doctor; rarely is the context of his behavior-family life, school, friendships-considered. The tidy list of DSM symptoms may look objective, and they may satisfy the discipline’s need to look “scientific,” but they are heavily subject to the eye of the beholder.
Richard Fee was diagnosed as ADHD as was John Edwards. Where are they now?
This man is a absolute genius, thank you Dr Barkley 👍
I'm glad, having a good mom ^^
That's why i'm loving to play chess! This idea is so simple!
Wow amazing
I grew up from french parents and I really want to hear that story lmao
I do not agree at all that parental influence is over at 21. My life and life of my brother is a prof of that.
yeah there is the belief system thing - on the emotional /psychological / conscious / unconscious person which parents most def do have an impact on. there is providing an environment and relationships, sense of the world, and self which all impact on choices and the experience of life that can either allow or inhibit the maturation and even the genetic expression of traits.
clearly there are so many types / expressions of ADHD and the like, that these techniques and this advice is very expensive and confusing hot air.
be patient with your kids. help them find what they love. they shouldn't be jammed into some commercially viable persona of success with checklists and rewards and careful monitoring by everyone they are supposed to trust. be patient and respectful. don't own them and enslave them.
❤️❤️❤️
I was raised in an Asian home so I think he's wrong about the family influence. Just sayin'
Why does he look like old Michael Scott?
Song featuring Adam Levine singing, Barkley doing backing vocals, Ty Pennington on guitar, Lady Gaga on backing vocals, Joseph Biederman on guitar, Timothy Wilens on Drums,
Just give me an amount (Of Pharma money)
I will tell you if it is right
And pay for me an holiday
Take me away on a cruise
and make it okay
I swear this drug will make kids behave
Teachers want control
Kids can wait (in queues)
I will say how great this drug is
I made me have this career
I brought me fortune and fame
It made me change my game
You say I have no morals or guilt
I don't give a shit and it goes like this
Put dollars in my hand and I'll show you
Pay for my house car
I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Big Pharma
You need Ritalin or SSRI's to control you
Pharma looked into my eyes and said I own you
with the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
Baby it's hard when you need the money
You need it to pay your house off
To most people taking pharma money doesn't feel right,
but when you are me you don't give a shite
I make you believe for a brighter future
Ritalin and Adderall give you the key
Take those drugs and for that future we can ride it
Wherever you want to be those drugs will make you achieve it
And you are still learning, I'm shifting gear
I'll take it from here oh yeah yeah and it goes like this
Put money in my hand and I'll know you
Pay for that cruise
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I need this drugs to control you
Look into my eyes and Pharma owns you
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
You want to know how to make me smile
Put that Pharma Check in my hand
Take control, own me as Pharma does
But if I share my secret you're gonna have to keep it
Nobody else can see this
I will keep some pharma money secret
So watch and learn I won't show you twice
Head to toe, ooh baby, rub me right
Pharma pay for that secret visit to the parlor
But if I share my secret you're gonna have to keep it
Nobody else can see this
And it goes like this
Put that pharma check in your hand and they'll own you
Give you that holiday and I'll show you all the moves like pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
I've accepted the moves from Pharma
The dapper mini-skirt realistically squeeze because exclamation hypothetically pat off a kind trousers. married, calculating dipstick
missed your medication today????