I am aware. At times I find myself suffering over how my daughter and eldest son treat me. They are adults. I wish I could travel to one of your retreats and yet I know it's not neccessary as awareness is here. Meister Eckhart said, "God is closer than breathing, nearer than hands and feet." Words are hard to find for a small post on RUclips. I am tired of being hurt by their behavior, there is always more of it.....and now I feel like I sound like a victim. I want to see that there is nothing there. How interesting that they carry on the treatment I received from my abusive mother. I am so grateful for your videos and the questions people bring...thank you, thank you🙏🌟💖
I really wonder how shall we behave if we embrace the notions of consciousness andnon duality ? How may I treat unfaithful husband or friend for example? Shall I treat them as if nothing happens ? Shall I not shout and express my anger because all this is a manifestation of the separate ego? Please someone to help. Thanks
Before enlightenment: Carry wood, chop water. After enlightenment: Carry wood, chop water. Don't make it personal. Everything is happening EXACTLY as it should. If ones children treat them "wrong" then: A. One is already in a dualistic perspective but continuing the "story" in your head that they are different or other than your own SELF. This is illusory. B. Remember Jesus' divine compassion. He knew that one couldn't/and shouldn't take anything personally, because there is noone on either end to suffer, or cause the suffering. That's all illusion! Besides, you wouldn't berate a child for acting in ignorance and unawareness. So don't do it to your self or others. They don't know any "better" JUST BE. ✌️❤️ Drop the stories. If I dislike something one does, I've created resistance to is and will bring about a future potential of further Resistance. Open doors to new realities by dropping your patterns of thoughts and beliefs.
Move into the present moment, it's very powerful. Remember that there's no past, as it's gone...and... There's no future, as it's not been created yet. There is only the present moment, and that's all there ever is. When you shift into (no thought) silence, fully in the present moment of the Now , you become EGOLESS, you transcend the mind and shift to higher consciousness. Practice.. What I did was to practice this as I watched and/or listened to news broadcasts on tv or the radio. I became so present in the "Now", that each word spoken only lasted (in the mind) as long as it was spoken. I could not perceive the sentence as each word came, and then went, each word just became a sound to me...this is pure, present moment awareness. Occasionally I practised this on the bus listening to others, or at work, or in the café, I just remained purely in the present moment, of the total "Now". When in conflict with another I would apply what Eckhart Tolle recommended... He teaches that people's ego's sometimes want to bounce it's energy off of someone else, this returns as a reaction from the other person and this inflates their ego further, they feel good and want to this again. Eckhart's recommendation is to remain in the presence of the "Now", you fully give them all your attention, with no feeing, no reaction,.. be "still", totally neutral and stay present. What happens then, is that their energy directed at you is allowed to pass right through you unaffected and this becomes grounded and neutralised. You no longer offer a surface to reflect off of. This discharges the energy through you, from the other If you need to respond to verbal attacks, you just accept whatever is said (It's not really personal even if it sounds like it). Simply ask questions like "Oh? Is that so?", but you're not attacking them back, be non resistant.
Whenever someone really hurts me I watch going to the heart of the emotion video another Rupert Spira it has helped so much and just keep on keeping on ,meditate watch and learn all you can. ❤️ And ask God ask what shall I do etc answers will come to you.
With regards to suffering being amplified by a desire to end it, i feel he has a lot to say. Having said that, most advaita actually advocates 'not reasoning' and so that kind of observation is contradictory. But after all, human beings can easily advocate one thing and then immediately do the opposite and turn a blind eye, and advaita is no exception. That blind eye can then speak 'honestly' about what it has found 'outside reasoning'. Spira and others in the end are always 'speaking' on the one hand, and advocating 'not speaking, not thinking' on the other. So long as the listener recognises the 'honesty' of the advaita teacher ... they too can enter the blind eye vision. What actually happens is that the 'advaita teacher' is then socially obliged to remain within that vision. Moreover, the more status the teacher attains, the more love and social security they accumulate .... which is a great gift to alleviating pain and suffering! There is a world of difference between 'accurate truth' and 'honest truth'. I get the feeling of 'honesty' from spira and others .... but not accuracy. Of course the common language we speak and think is created for use out of a sense of separation (advaita is not required to see this) .... so the blind eye to 'actually reasoning' and the subsequent vision of 'non dual, not reasoning' can be further enhanced by noting the implicit bias of language in this respect. In other words, the accurate description of advaita as 'self deceit' can only be spoken in a language that the advaita teacher reports as unreliable. The blind eye 'non dual' vision thus cannot be undermined by language, even though it is promoted using the same language through the teacher. The use of language is always 'ironic' in advaita .... and thus its claims and beliefs cannot be contradicted by language, however honest or accurate the criticism might be. Nevertheless, not trying to end suffering can at least alleviate its amplification in extreme circumstances. Advaita clearly advocates that practice, using common language and reasoning, as spira does in the video. (but you wont get any prizes for pointing out how good language is in that particular instance, since language is intrinsically unreliable to the advaita teacher, and a necessary blind spot to the actual behaviour of 'observation combined with reasoned truth' ..... leading to the resultant non dual non thinking silent vision that it claims). Such a vision will not alleviate pain and suffering directly, though through advaita support (social) it can lead to well known pain and suffering relief practices such as friendship, love and medicine ..... which might not otherwise be socially available. A peaceful spiritual group membership, let alone high status within that group, is highly recommended for alleviating pain and suffering :)
I had suffered from severe mental health issues for years, and the finding of the Self is what brought me to its end. The anguish of intrusive thoughts and images I had endured were one day, with knowledge of Adviata Vedanta, brought into the light of awareness, and they vanished without a trace. That is the reason I am here, piecing together the majestic beauty of the Self which was found. For anyone reading, truly try this. Without an agenda to end suffering, observe it the best you can. I know it can be tremendously hard to do. But try. See this suffering, and watch it. Do nothing about it. Just look at it. Most especially, feel the overwhelm in the body, and watch that. If you’ve already been around as Advaita Vedanta for a while and understand that all experience appears within this awareness, that can be a wonderful balm for suffering. Anywhere where they may be resistance, anywhere where you find there is suffering, bring that resistance and suffering into the light of awareness, see it’s presence. See that it rises within awareness, and in doing so, to I will give attention predominately to awareness itself, and the hurt will pass. Do not run away, do not resist. Do not resist even the resistance itself. Just be with it, see it arise within the waters of awareness, and see it be gradually eroded, and as it does so, sink deeper into this ocean of being.
Rupert really brings "suffering" into our understanding brilliantly. That the disappearance of personal suffering is a "consequence," of understanding the True self, it is not an activity that we can perform. Suffering is self created within us based on the incorrect "belief" that we are separate and not one. We can't manipulate it away. That's why this entire psychological industry of "positive thinking, self-help, and self confidence" is a miserable failure, and leaves people more confused and frustrated. Confidence, without clarity, is very dangerous.
No, it means you can learn to live with whatever may happen. Unless you die. In which case you already know that what you really are can not die because it was never born.
I really wonder how shall we behave if we embrace the notions of consciousness andnon duality ? How may I treat unfaithful husband or friend for example? Shall I treat them as if nothing happens ? Shall I not shout and express my anger because all this is a manifestation of the separate ego? Please someone to help. Thanks
Non duality, just as a notion is no good. It won't make the slightest of difference to how you are if you simply embrace it. Just like embracing the notion that water can quench your thirst is not going to actually quench your thirst. You have to drink the real water and not just think about it. If you just belive in non duality and try to live your life according to it, it'll be just a lie. On the exterior you might act to be all noble and sublime but inside you'll resent and suffer terribly. For non duality to transform your life it has to become a realization. You have not to believe it but to experience it with intense self-enquiry or meditation. It has to become a living reality for you. Then you'll find no difference between yourself and your unfaithful husband. You'll clearly 'know' and see that he is no one but you. You'll feel so one with him that even his joy in being unfaithful will give you the same amount of joy. In other words you'll love him in a profound and unconditional way. And you won't have the slightest amount of pain or suffering because you, your freind and everything else is nothing but you. It's the ultimate love, happiness and security. This kind of love transforms the other more often than not. It's difficult not to reciprocate this kind of love. Even if it doesn't work that way, you'll still be in unshakable joy and peace. However, until this is the reality for you there's no point in believing in non-duality just to deal with an unfaithful partner. Till that time better to follow whatever common sense you have and act accordingly. The best use of believing in non-duality is that it can lead you to sincere practice of self-enquiry and thus put you on the path to the ultimate freedom and happiness.
This is practicing the cogito - all I know is I am. The only thing the concept 'being honest' can ever really imply: look, there is no substance to anything but formless awareness of the empty experience of it.
Is it just me or is this the best video ever?
you are a gift to all of us, just WOW Rupert..I feel extremely lucky to have access to this, no words
Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information Rupert. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺❤
After 2 and a half years of my search I found you, no need of other guru.
No need for any guru
adun nou
Abide only as the Self, the Guru of all gurus.
I love your voice, Rupert. I could listen forever, so calm ❤
Another masterpiece expressed with a wisdom and an exquisite clarity and a precision of language. Again...much gratitude & thanks !
The Beauty of its simplification.❤ Bow to the feet of the Master 🙏🙏
I am aware. At times I find myself suffering over how my daughter and eldest son treat me. They are adults. I wish I could travel to one of your retreats and yet I know it's not neccessary as awareness is here. Meister Eckhart said, "God is closer than breathing, nearer than hands and feet." Words are hard to find for a small post on RUclips. I am tired of being hurt by their behavior, there is always more of it.....and now I feel like I sound like a victim. I want to see that there is nothing there. How interesting that they carry on the treatment I received from my abusive mother. I am so grateful for your videos and the questions people bring...thank you, thank you🙏🌟💖
I really wonder how shall we behave if we embrace the notions of consciousness andnon duality ? How may I treat unfaithful husband or friend for example? Shall I treat them as if nothing happens ? Shall I not shout and express my anger because all this is a manifestation of the separate ego? Please someone to help. Thanks
Before enlightenment: Carry wood, chop water.
After enlightenment: Carry wood, chop water.
Don't make it personal. Everything is happening EXACTLY as it should. If ones children treat them "wrong" then:
A. One is already in a dualistic perspective but continuing the "story" in your head that they are different or other than your own SELF. This is illusory.
B. Remember Jesus' divine compassion. He knew that one couldn't/and shouldn't take anything personally, because there is noone on either end to suffer, or cause the suffering. That's all illusion! Besides, you wouldn't berate a child for acting in ignorance and unawareness. So don't do it to your self or others. They don't know any "better"
JUST BE. ✌️❤️
Drop the stories.
If I dislike something one does, I've created resistance to is and will bring about a future potential of further Resistance. Open doors to new realities by dropping your patterns of thoughts and beliefs.
Move into the present moment, it's very powerful. Remember that there's no past, as it's gone...and... There's no future, as it's not been created yet. There is only the present moment, and that's all there ever is. When you shift into (no thought) silence, fully in the present moment of the Now , you become EGOLESS, you transcend the mind and shift to higher consciousness.
Practice..
What I did was to practice this as I watched and/or listened to news broadcasts on tv or the radio. I became so present in the "Now", that each word spoken only lasted (in the mind) as long as it was spoken. I could not perceive the sentence as each word came, and then went, each word just became a sound to me...this is pure, present moment awareness.
Occasionally I practised this on the bus listening to others, or at work, or in the café, I just remained purely in the present moment, of the total "Now".
When in conflict with another I would apply what Eckhart Tolle recommended... He teaches that people's ego's sometimes want to bounce it's energy off of someone else, this returns as a reaction from the other person and this inflates their ego further, they feel good and want to this again. Eckhart's recommendation is to remain in the presence of the "Now", you fully give them all your attention, with no feeing, no reaction,.. be "still", totally neutral and stay present. What happens then, is that their energy directed at you is allowed to pass right through you unaffected and this becomes grounded and neutralised. You no longer offer a surface to reflect off of. This discharges the energy through you, from the other
If you need to respond to verbal attacks, you just accept whatever is said (It's not really personal even if it sounds like it). Simply ask questions like "Oh? Is that so?", but you're not attacking them back, be non resistant.
Whenever someone really hurts me I watch going to the heart of the emotion video another Rupert Spira it has helped so much and just keep on keeping on ,meditate watch and learn all you can. ❤️ And ask God ask what shall I do etc answers will come to you.
Maurice Powers did your situation improve, did anything work 🙏❤
Thank you 🌹
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏻🤗💖
So clear⭕
Grateful🙏🙏
Thank you, sir 🙏
Profoundly helpful. Thank you.
Wow...amazing thank you
It feels like a gift such clear teaching. Thank you!
Thank you so much Rupert.
You are amazing! Such clarity delivered with such kindness! Thank You!
Very clear teaching! thank you.
Pearls of wisdom, again, thank you 🙏
beautifully spoken. thank you, Rupert.
thank you so much Rupert... for this clear and perfect explanation _()_
The comparison of body pain and suffering. So simply brilliant!
With regards to suffering being amplified by a desire to end it, i feel he has a lot to say. Having said that, most advaita actually advocates 'not reasoning' and so that kind of observation is contradictory.
But after all, human beings can easily advocate one thing and then immediately do the opposite and turn a blind eye, and advaita is no exception. That blind eye can then speak 'honestly' about what it has found 'outside reasoning'. Spira and others in the end are always 'speaking' on the one hand, and advocating 'not speaking, not thinking' on the other. So long as the listener recognises the 'honesty' of the advaita teacher ... they too can enter the blind eye vision. What actually happens is that the 'advaita teacher' is then socially obliged to remain within that vision. Moreover, the more status the teacher attains, the more love and social security they accumulate .... which is a great gift to alleviating pain and suffering!
There is a world of difference between 'accurate truth' and 'honest truth'. I get the feeling of 'honesty' from spira and others .... but not accuracy. Of course the common language we speak and think is created for use out of a sense of separation (advaita is not required to see this) .... so the blind eye to 'actually reasoning' and the subsequent vision of 'non dual, not reasoning' can be further enhanced by noting the implicit bias of language in this respect. In other words, the accurate description of advaita as 'self deceit' can only be spoken in a language that the advaita teacher reports as unreliable. The blind eye 'non dual' vision thus cannot be undermined by language, even though it is promoted using the same language through the teacher.
The use of language is always 'ironic' in advaita .... and thus its claims and beliefs cannot be contradicted by language, however honest or accurate the criticism might be. Nevertheless, not trying to end suffering can at least alleviate its amplification in extreme circumstances. Advaita clearly advocates that practice, using common language and reasoning, as spira does in the video. (but you wont get any prizes for pointing out how good language is in that particular instance, since language is intrinsically unreliable to the advaita teacher, and a necessary blind spot to the actual behaviour of 'observation combined with reasoned truth' ..... leading to the resultant non dual non thinking silent vision that it claims).
Such a vision will not alleviate pain and suffering directly, though through advaita support (social) it can lead to well known pain and suffering relief practices such as friendship, love and medicine ..... which might not otherwise be socially available. A peaceful spiritual group membership, let alone high status within that group, is highly recommended for alleviating pain and suffering :)
I had suffered from severe mental health issues for years, and the finding of the Self is what brought me to its end. The anguish of intrusive thoughts and images I had endured were one day, with knowledge of Adviata Vedanta, brought into the light of awareness, and they vanished without a trace.
That is the reason I am here, piecing together the majestic beauty of the Self which was found.
For anyone reading, truly try this. Without an agenda to end suffering, observe it the best you can. I know it can be tremendously hard to do. But try. See this suffering, and watch it. Do nothing about it. Just look at it. Most especially, feel the overwhelm in the body, and watch that.
If you’ve already been around as Advaita Vedanta for a while and understand that all experience appears within this awareness, that can be a wonderful balm for suffering. Anywhere where they may be resistance, anywhere where you find there is suffering, bring that resistance and suffering into the light of awareness, see it’s presence. See that it rises within awareness, and in doing so, to I will give attention predominately to awareness itself, and the hurt will pass. Do not run away, do not resist. Do not resist even the resistance itself. Just be with it, see it arise within the waters of awareness, and see it be gradually eroded, and as it does so, sink deeper into this ocean of being.
Life and suffering are synonymous.
Rupert really brings "suffering" into our understanding brilliantly.
That the disappearance of personal suffering is a "consequence," of understanding the True self, it is not an activity that we can perform.
Suffering is self created within us based on the incorrect "belief" that we are separate and not one. We can't manipulate it away.
That's why this entire psychological industry of "positive thinking, self-help, and self confidence" is a miserable failure, and leaves people more confused and frustrated. Confidence, without clarity, is very dangerous.
Thank you!
‘Things’ don’t happen to you, they happen for you.
Jolly good.
So clear, thank you!
So fully experiencing suffering., accepting it and allowing to be, don’t get rid of it then?
sally Arterton if you watched the video you wouldnt be asking this question
Going straight into it with interest allows it to disappear.
Is this the case for pain to the body?
🙏🙏🙏
Can I find this video in German ????
👍
Does this mean that you can remove any diseases with this technique? Dissappear them?
From my experience, no
No, it means you can learn to live with whatever may happen. Unless you die. In which case you already know that what you really are can not die because it was never born.
Is this in German
I really wonder how shall we behave if we embrace the notions of consciousness andnon duality ? How may I treat unfaithful husband or friend for example? Shall I treat them as if nothing happens ? Shall I not shout and express my anger because all this is a manifestation of the separate ego? Please someone to help. Thanks
Non duality, just as a notion is no good. It won't make the slightest of difference to how you are if you simply embrace it. Just like embracing the notion that water can quench your thirst is not going to actually quench your thirst. You have to drink the real water and not just think about it.
If you just belive in non duality and try to live your life according to it, it'll be just a lie. On the exterior you might act to be all noble and sublime but inside you'll resent and suffer terribly.
For non duality to transform your life it has to become a realization. You have not to believe it but to experience it with intense self-enquiry or meditation. It has to become a living reality for you. Then you'll find no difference between yourself and your unfaithful husband. You'll clearly 'know' and see that he is no one but you. You'll feel so one with him that even his joy in being unfaithful will give you the same amount of joy. In other words you'll love him in a profound and unconditional way. And you won't have the slightest amount of pain or suffering because you, your freind and everything else is nothing but you. It's the ultimate love, happiness and security.
This kind of love transforms the other more often than not. It's difficult not to reciprocate this kind of love. Even if it doesn't work that way, you'll still be in unshakable joy and peace.
However, until this is the reality for you there's no point in believing in non-duality just to deal with an unfaithful partner. Till that time better to follow whatever common sense you have and act accordingly.
The best use of believing in non-duality is that it can lead you to sincere practice of self-enquiry and thus put you on the path to the ultimate freedom and happiness.
@@TatTwamAsiShwetketu Thanks a lot for your reply...It is really helpful
@@souadage7932 glad it was helpful.
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This is practicing the cogito - all I know is I am. The only thing the concept 'being honest' can ever really imply: look, there is no substance to anything but formless awareness of the empty experience of it.
Why do I wish the other person would just shut up and listen to Rupert?
Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you ❤️