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“Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
I would say it's an accurate quote, but at the same time, putting in a lot of hours doing things you don't want to do actually builds strength, resiliency, and discipline.
I've realized that watching 6 hours of online content a day and being restless and purposeless without it means it's a bonafide addiction, and i've been slowly working on it the past few months. This video helps a lot, if only with perspective. (but honestly probably a lot more)
yeah, this idea that addiction is like a specific object with boundaries "this is an addiction, that is not an addiction" is just another human attempt at oversimplifying something to make it easier to hold in our mind. addiction in the clinical sense is really just attachment taken to an extreme that negatively affects your life but on a personal level, we have all kinds of variations of attachment to different behaviors, things, people, even thoughts. I'm happy for you that you are raising awareness in your life and cultivating a better one 🙏🏻
I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
The more you keep to yourself, the more goes unnoticed into your subconcious and then nobody knows whats wrong. You'll uncover and resolve those if you tackle them on (so just sitting for an hour doing nothing without distraction), then you atleast get aware of them again but just keeping it to yourself completly will move you into the wrong direction continuesly
I'm really curious about what it is, do you mind sharing? It may validate not only how you feel to see other people understand, but it may validate others for seeing you mention it. Perhaps they are also battling with the same thing
I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
@Holfus I'm still in school and I'm 40 so I'm old AF, but I had to do something drastic to change my life, just like he talks about in this video. It was science that helped me get better and that's what keeps me in line because I want it more than anything else. I'll complete undergrad in 3 years and plan on doing a PhD after that. Getting a neuro degree is really only worth it if you get a PhD. Science related PhD programs in the US pay a small yearly stipend to grad students in exchange for doing research. It's not much but it's enough to get by until you graduate with a phd, (which pays considerably more.) It makes sense for me because I was more than ready to leave my previous career. Also my son is grown so I don't have young kids or anything. The way I see it, it's never too late. Where would I be in 3 years, or 7 if I didn't do it? Doing same crap as before and living in regret. Fuck that. Ageism is a thing but I don't care. I've dealt with much worse in my life. It's also becoming much more common for people to go back to school later in life. If you really want it, don't let that stop you. Although I'm not planning in staying in academia myself, I like to remember: Francis Crick was a 37 yr old grad student when he helped discover DNA's double helix structure!
This is great to read. I need to quit and I really want to go back to school, but I've always been afraid that I'm not smart enough or I'll relapse and ruin it.
@@johnnymatias3027 totally understand! my biggest fear is that I'm not smart enough. I'm still scared of that but I've started to realize it's not about how smart I am(because I'm really not), it's about how much work I put into it. My good grades are a direct result of how much I study. I think it's really important to have a reason, something that matters to you more than anything else to work towards.(it really helps to have something to keep you busy too) I don't hear that being talked about enough in recovery spaces. I would recommend getting a good stretch of clean time before making a commitment. Enough time to where you feel pretty good sober on a day-to-day basis. For me, that was about a year. I know that sounds like forever but it's really not in the grand scheme of things. Good things are very rarely immediate. They take time to accomplish whether it be sobriety, a degree, whatever. It's worth it though, and so are you! good luck 💚
I resonate with "addicts work the best on the smartest people". I don't mean to say I'm amazingly smart and my ego is inflated, but I tend to overthink. When I overthink, my brain comes up with new ways to weasel out of the things that I'm supposed to be doing. I wish I knew how to make an "impervious rule" like Dr. K suggests.
I don't religiously watch Dr. K's videos or even his streams, but I stumbled across the "what happens when you quit caffeine" video and that (combined with several other things) led to me quitting cigarettes, THC, fast food, soda, and caffeine over the last six months. Caffeine was the last one, and I stopped about 4 days ago. I am so tired lol but I know I'll be better when I come out the other side. Thanks for everything you do!! I wish more psych professionals catered to specific types of cultures like this. I think I've broken my gaming addiction as well, but I still consider myself a part of that group.
Perfect timing. 5 days without a drink. (after countless attempts for sobriety)...Several times I have used the excuse, "if I'm gonna drink in a year, that's going to make me more disappointed in myself than if I do it now.". Such an insane (in hindsight) form of SELF SABOTAGE. In the moment it seems logical and giving yourself the control of the outcome.
It's ironically true, because it's also the very thing that keeps you on the wagon. Once you're a year sober you start thinking "If I relapse now, it'll all be for nothing AND I'll be disappointed". Ime anyways. Hell some of my nightmares were about relapsing 😅
I'm just going to say, as a person with avoidant behaviour and a past videogame addiction who happened to reinstall a game yesterday evening after a really bad week, the passage about not bending the rules and the analogy to the poisonous gas hit like a truck. Though this message will drown in a sea of others, know that I'm thankful for your videos and what you've done, Dr. K Wish you luck, guys.
Thank you so much, Dr. K. I’m not a gamer, but I’ve learned so much here. If there’s one thing I’d like to share, it’s this: The power lies within us. Calmness, peace, relaxation, and self-love-they are already a part of us, just as much as our fears, addictions, and weaknesses. Sometimes, I feel like destroying all the phones. What are we really searching for in them? Why am I even here again? The truth is, there’s nothing out there that can truly fulfill us. Everything we need has always been within us.
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
Alcohol is actually one of the most harmful and hardest drugs out there! I have a lot of respect for you! 🙂👍♥️ I am very addicted to kratom for at least 8 years now and it ruins my whole life. I am also addicted to DXM and while it helps a little bit with my depression it seems to destroy my brain! I hope i dont will get dementia! 😪
Way to go man. A good way to help your struggle with food is just have 2 large meals a day. Snacking/ mindless eating is not good. Get your body and mind adapted to 14+ hours of not eating.
I quit smoking, i am quitting weed right now, and i will quit methadone. Step by step. The last year was really eye-opening for me. And it's the first time I'm positive, that I will stay clean!
Hey Dr K. I used to watch you alot. Not that I dislike you now or anything, but I just kinda stopped. But like EVERY SINGLE TIME you make a video about addiction, I watch it. I'd love like LOVE to see a series on how the various different kinds of substances influence how different your road to recovery is.
I want to be a psychotherapist when I grow up, and your videos really help me to reflect and expand my horizons. Keep up the good work 😄 I just hope that the membership payment is cheaper, cuz 10 bucks a month is way to expensive for many students who want to enjoy your videos
Recently, I downloaded my bank statements and summed up the expenses in Excel for weed consumption. In a 2-year period, I've spent about £2730 (about 3250 euro). I am definitely motivated to take a break - going for 30 days and re-evaluating then. Been getting high in the evenings almost daily... I never dream. On day 1 of quitting, I had a fairly mild/forgettable dream, but was surprised at how fast it came back. Going to bed on 2 soon and I expect it may get more intense. I'm fighting a porn addiction too (which has been going on for very long time).
Yes you are, like most of us are! Btw it was the hardest to overcome for me when I tried to stop doing sugar - after having a nice healthy meal, at 3pm I would start thinking of chocolate and until I had a (whole) bar (or 2!) I couldn't think of anything else :( but I kept eating healthily until one afternoon I realised I wasn't craving for chocolate any longer! Now I can have a little square of chocolate when I feel like something sweet and feel satisfied, but it's not unconsciously incontrolable as I'm my early 20s
From what I learn, sometimes, we eat sugary things bcs we want to avoid certain feelings. Boredom, guilt, uneasiness, so on. Sugar tastes good, therefore we don't feel those uncomfortable feelings. And sometimes we also don't eat enough food that contains nutrients we need throughout the day (carbs, protein, fiber, etc), so the body craves sugar as instant source of energy. I find myself less cravey of sugar if I eat enough food and nutrients in the morning (protein and fiber especially), but my neurodivergent brain couldn't do it every morning tho, so there are many days that I failed
@catagecat not real? Children have been given sugary stuff since early days! I have many times referred to sugar as the cocaine for the poor. There's an excellent book that shows the history of sugar and how addictive it is called Sugar Blues by William Dufty. Highly recommend it!
Certain synthetic sugars are the worst, about 1 year ago it was flavored lemonade waters so I replaced that with water and more natural sugars, sometimes a small splash of juice. Those lab engineered sugars are so sweet they make everything else taste dull and you kind of get a weird craving for it. I try to keep to salad, superfruits, omelette, oatmeal, and normal routine. I force myself to walk/run each day. Sugars get worse to avoid around the holidays we have chocolate, pies, and all sorts of bad habit food around.
Thank you for this video, I have a couple of people in my inner circle who used to be addicted to different kind of substances and this video helped me understand better the work they had done in order to overcome their issues.
I was addicted to nicotine from Freshman year of high school (2018) to 2023. I’m over 2 months clean now and I can say there’s a very very small chance I ever use it again. I had to develop a genuine hatred towards nicotine to quit. Quitting an addiction isn’t just waking up and deciding to go cold turkey, even though you have to do that at some point, but it’s a process. It’s dissecting your addiction until it clicks and you realize your brain is fucking stupid and it’s doing nothing but draining your bank account. That first week a lot of gum was chewed and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it was so worth it. Fight the good fight. Keep going y’all can do it!
Some Personal Notes: Addict's Brain (AB) ## Mental Gymnastics (AB rationalizes to fit the outcome that is always use use use) 1. Perception of control (AB says that there's control --> in order to use) 2. Uses Denial (AB comes up with reasons it's not a problem --> in order to use) AB says... *I can stop/quit whenever. *It's not a problem unless it affects my relationships/health/others. *I'm still productive. *It's not like I'm using everyday. 3. Uses Deal Making (brain says it's okay for this reason --> in order to use) AB: *It's just for fun. *I've been good, so I deserve it this time. *I'll stop after this. *It's the weekend, so it's fine. *It's with friends, so it's okay. *It's a special occasion. *It's my coping mechanism, or else I'll crash out. *(what other phrases does the AB say??)
Ironic how the whole dr K brand is keeping you glued to the screen watching his videos and streams and they do everything that all the big youtubers do to hijack your attention and keep you an addict. I used to be a fan but I know better now. Watching this guy for 100hrs < 10 mins of thinking and listening to yourself in silence on your own
Yeah… sort of feeling the same. The whole thing is starting to loose its charm because it starts to feel like: “profit > people” I even commented about my concerns about this and my comment got deleted I value the dude’s thoughts but it gets really suspicious if they start to moderate feedback that hard
Don’t get me wrong - I still respect his opinion but I have a sense dude starts to lose being in touch with reality and the lives of everyday people. I am happy he got successful - but at what cost? There is a paywall to his coaching program and the guide - IDK, but like it seems that he lost being a community focused dude at some point and shifted to treating this as business.
I know it's reductive, but often times we enjoy the chase rather than the actual end. The chase and anticipation is where the dopamine comes from. When I learned that, I worked hard to redirect that dopamine spike to other things. It helps kick an addiction, and it also helps get things done. How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
Congratulations! I was (am?) wake and bake and it stopped doing anything for me so I stopped. So far so good, but it’s only been a short while. Good luck!
I’ve been smoking once a day when I got home for maybe about a year now. The addiction hit quickly lmao. I pray you find the strength to get rid of all your carts and resin. Gets a lot easier that way
Thank you Dr. K! Very helpful and great content. For me personally this kind of scientific knowledge and understanding has been really helpful, especially when I put together what I have learned with my faith and particulary opening up to God. Just wanted to share that ❤
You posted this comment literally 2 minutes after the video went up. Are you the editor? The editing feels awful. Love Dr. K but this editing is like a headache being shaken up in a bottle.
I really enjoyed the slower, quieter pace of the video. I didn’t enjoy the fast paced videos, felt too ADHD lol. This felt like the older dr k videos which I loved!
Couldn’t thank you enough, Dr. K! Last year, you helped me get through my gaming urge & weed addiction. Your guesting at Mel Robbin’s podcast was the deal breaker for me to control myself from getting dopamine from excessive gaming. Since then, July last year, I haven’t played CODM, and I finally got my normal self back after quitting weed last quarter of the same year. It was a tough slippy sloppy process the entire year, being confused as to why I should stop and is weed really good or bad. And your contents gave me all the helpful informations for me to finally clicked, I’m really grateful for your works, they are truly masterpieces. To the ones who are battling game addiction and other stuff, here are some that helped me get through them that might also work for you guys who are seeking for change. 1. Treat your body as an animal that is automatic. You gotta have to STARVE it if you’ve already realized that that something you’re into you is causing you troubles. 2. Embrace PAIN and SUFFERING during those starvation times. Soon, your body will get back to its natural state, where food is the only thing you need. 3. MOVE AROUND, get a dog that you will have to cater, bathe, and clean shit 💩 for. I have a toddler and a dog, and I’ve accepted that I am their servant, it’s a good way to think of it, though sometimes it could be really tiring. When the our body moves, it helps the brain with some chemical reactions happening in there lol. 4. FACE BOREDOM, you’ll soon find out what matters truly, just sit with your thoughts even if it’s painful. Develop a MUSCLE for BOREDOM. Remember that being alive and healthy today is the greatest gift one could have.
The hardest is giving up the friends.. It doesn't really work to tell them not to give me weed or nicotine when i'm with them. The thought of those addictions always seek into my conciousness by being around and seeing those substances. How am i supposed the give up my only friends? Best friends... It's a 50/50 decision which i'm pondering from side to side.
I understand, I've been in a similar situation before. The ideal scenario is that the group as a whole simultaneously commits to putting in the work to quit the addiction(s). However, since that is completely out of your control, you simply cannot bank on that. This is just my opinion/advice (from your perspective a complete stranger on the internet, so take it with a grain of salt), but if you want to quit without your friends quitting WITH you, you'll need to make new friends.
It's a good idea to start something new, look for some activity you could put your time in. Maybe it becomes your new environment, so you can change the environment. Quiting best friends sounds impossible. Trying out some martial arts or whatever sounds fun.
@@MrPinkDino Yeah I agree that you can find other people who share your interests to spend more time with in person, but it also doesn't mean you need to burn bridges. If those older friends respect your wellbeing and desire to better yourself as a person, they'll respect your grind for a while from a distance (assuming you don't believe you can be around them using, and they will necessarily use). And in time, if you keep it up and demonstrate how your life has improved through your demeanor and your attitude, it will only serve to inspire them too. If the support isn't there, it will be easier to find entirely new friends anyhow. tl;dr remind yourself that you can become a pillar of motivation for others who you care about, it will be easier to make sense of what you are doing in the interim.
Long time watcher and I’m sorry but the new editing style for these with the chopped up blurbs/teasers at the beginning and the abrupt break to very chopped up member pitch JUST when it’s about to get good totally takes me out of it and kind of messes up my focus and keeping the same train of thought for the whole video. Not sure if I’m the only one though.
Heard, thanks for the feedback - we are going to be switching up editing styles here and there as we determine what's best for as many of y'all as possible, so please keep sharing the feedback when you have it! 💚
When I started my journey with this channel 4 years ago I had a hard time sitting through information dense 42min video with minimal/no editing and they were acceptable only as background "podcast" on headphones for cleaning around the house/walks and I usually had to relisten lectures. I would love the experimental cut heavy style back then, as something like this used to catch back my attention - if now I don't feel like main target audience anymore, then my work around strenghtening frontal lobe to get more attention span looks to be working. ^^
Thanks Dr. K, Current addict, instead of street drugs like it was 10 years ago, it manifestits in so many other ways. Uncontrolled eating, thinking my meds from the DR make me a addict again, many others, It's all so confusing. Appreciate any kind of video on addiction. I've had it for 27 years and do not yet understand.
Hey dr k I have a question. I have dealt with meth and porn addiction and I want to recover my reputation as a person which im doing, but I was wondering how forgiveness and other people's feelings play a role in that. I know i have to forgive myself, but i feel like I'll forever be branded as a bad person because of the choices I made through addiction. Any advice?
Me too! Thinking back to how sneaky and tricky my mind was (and still is) at bending the rules, where it tries to convince me not only will it be okay, but in fact, is a good idea for my future self.
One of the issues with 12 step meetings is if you want to quit nicotine, it'll be extremely hard since almost everyone in those groups are smokers. A few ones I took patients to actively encouraged it.
For everyone wanting to quit Smoking: Nicorette gums actually are working for me to stop the cravings. I tried them yesterday for the first time in 15 years of smoking and they are pretty good. I was surprised myself and i recommend everyone giving them a try. They really are a great alternative to use for a bit and gradually decrease the use. I use the 2mg nicotine ones. They leave this weird sensation in your mouth, kindof like it gets a little numb and the act of chewing them is a really good replacement for holding a cigarette and puffing on it.
Personally , last year on new years eve ive told myself ill not smoke. I stopped and the craving around christmas got so so big i cave in, but promising myself and telling my friend who smokes, that he will give me only 3, ill always smoke in awkward positions, and ill have to pay for a round of drinks each time. Bad thing i had money so payed for 3 rounds but since then i forgot completly about cigs, i know its only been 2 weeks but it feels easier, easier than the 1st year. What i want to say is, if you really really but really can not, try to wait 1 hour, then 1 day. If its been like this for 1 week and you are out of will power, dont completly blame yourself, try again, now with more experience but dont try to create more excuses. Currently fighting scrolling addiction, i need a video or music constantly in my ears when doing stuff otherwise ill not touch laundry, dishes, or anything else. I have tons of blocker but ive found the stupidest work arounds which also me finds a way to beat. I really want to be more present and create rather than consume.
Weird thing to comment here but if someone outside of you ends a relationship, they did it because of the judgement formed within themselves regarding whatever reason they had. Like whether they left for the right or wrong reasons, they reason they left is still them. It's almost like taking the free will of the person who made the choice away. Like it makes more sense to say like..."You're the reason you got out of a relationship that wasn't good for you and im proud of that" than to say "it's their fault you left em bc they like video games too much"
The addiction workshop was really helpful. This video is a good reminder/review of what we learned over 10 hrs in the span of 2 days. I still remember the std confession story /example 😞 and with either outcomes of acceptance/rejection we can grow stronger 💪💯
What really made me understand how my addiction works is in that ''addiction is the result of your environment'' bit. I believe that this is in reference to the studies where they studied addiction in mice or rats and put them in cages by themselves with food, water and an unlimited cocaine dispenser. The animals would neglect everything else and keep using the drug until it'd kill them which looks very scary, but the thing is that they could not replicate the results when the mice/rats were grouped together. When they had the ability to socialize and engage in normal behaviours, they would only hit the drug dispenser from time to time and keep going about their lives... (This is the gist of the experiment from my memory, don't quote me on this.)
It’s hard to be sober when it’s like you said and I feel completely just done with everything and I remember when I quit weed in August I went 43 days without it and then took one hit and it made my depression worse and my anxiety worse as well so I stopped smoking again but didn’t count days and then probably a week ago I got into delta 8 as a substitute to “not feel this way” but tbh I think I’m just lost and have NO idea what to do in life and the friends I do have I don’t really relate to and they smoke so I usually fall back into smoking even tho I don’t like it so my life is just constantly negative thoughts and doubts and anxiety that I have to the point where I will avoid almost anything that makes me uncomfortable so my question is will my dopamine levels slowly go back to normal if I smoke here and there or should I just do nothing and feel depressed and can’t hold a job nor want one. I know I have issues and I did therapy for a couple months and wasn’t really seeing any impact in a positive way. And yea I hate wanting help from others and the biggest reason for me is the anxiety of asking and feeling like a burden. Sorry for this long message I’m just struggling a lot with this weed stuff and I smoked everyday when I was 14-16 and then quit for a year and a half but was smoking nicotine and I haven’t smoked nicotine in years because I quit that to so I just really don’t know what to do about this because if I take ssris then to me that’s just a different kind of drug with more side effects then weed so I just give up.
Don’t give up-weed can be addictive, and that’s not your fault. I understand how you feel because I’ve been in a very similar place. The difference is that I have a son who depends on me and teaches me so much about myself every day. I’m slowly beginning to understand the reasons behind my smoking, and I’ve started to realize that in those moments, smoking can never truly give me what I’m looking for. Little by little, I’m learning to make the right choices in those critical moments and to simply embrace how I feel instead of giving in to the pressure. It feels empowering because when I’m sober, I’m a better mother. And I want to prove to myself that I have the strength to live a healthier life and won’t let myself become the cause of my own suffering.
I tell people that if I could do it again, knowing what I know, Im glad I went through alcoholism and recovery. I don’t have words to express how much better I love myself and my life now! I would never be here without the struggle I went through. ❤ AA is a cult by the way, I recovered despite AA being g forced down my throat!! I loved the community it offered in the first 3 months, but I didn’t want to be trapped in the despair of dependence the cycling through the 12 steps promotes. Hope that helps ❤
Kinda reminds me of the thought of going through hell week. You have to keep in mind that it's one minute at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you think and worry about the future obstacles and mission. At least when your going through something like that.
6:22 Bro, I was literally thinking this just last week when some bad stuff happened. . I fell into some bad thoughts of ending everything because I felt like couldn't exist like this the rest of my life. . I hate when I fall into these states because technically I'm supposed to be better now and no longer depressed. I realize its a journey though and there's levels. Things are definitely better but when you do fall into those states of mind it does seem like it'll be that way forever.
Regarding point #4: What if I'm in a situation where I can't actually do anything to get away from my overbearing parents who cause me stress (which in turn makes it harder for me to have the energy to act in a good way instead of a bad one)?
I need help sooo badly. I'm on my phone for like 7 hours a day and just can't break the circle. My friends don't have any advice and I literally don't know who to face for help. I'm located in Western Germany right now.
I would like someone to tell me if this is a good way to quit my addiction to video games and the internet: Videogames are restricted to weekends only RUclips is restricted to weekends only Scrolling is not allowed at all (I deleted all social media but youtube, where i instead turned off watch history) Please tell me if this is a good aproach or if you have any ways to improve this method. (Ps I have dry eyes and generally feel like my brain is fried sometimes so it is important for me to lower my screentime)
@JuliusC-yg4zf Ok, so if I change it so it get one hour of youtube/social media at the end of every day but still restrict games to weekends only. Does that sound better?
Hope this video mentions neuropsychology and how addictions can lead to long-lasting EF deficiencies that need to be adressed before engaging in any "self-help" therapy. Addicts can be no different than people with TBI or dementia. Check out results from my university (e.g., Pierre Maurage) if that interests any if you !
I fell in love with someone who was a former alcoholic. When we started dating he started having a gambling addiction and became financially irresponsible and made it hard for me to see having a future with him. I am not an addictive person but I tried so hard to understand him. I tried to get us to go get help together but he didn’t want to do it. I just want to know from someone who cares about an addict what should you do? I ended up breaking up with him but I feel so guilty for doing it. I still care about him and I’m so worried about him.
Yes but what is addiction? At what point an activity becomes addiction? Is drinking a beer every day addiction? Is taking drugs on the weekend addiction? But if i'm fine while skipping the thing (drinking, drugs, smoking) is it still addiction?
Amazing video but man I hate these intro teases that cut off like that. I guess it works because I see it everywhere these days. "The most important thing is..." - me furiously skipping throu the video to find the rest before I forget the first part. 😅 It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, content is definitely worth it. ❤
Why attention in most modern women have in their DMs/friend(male) requests/likes is not considered as addiction while watching Corn is considered a addiction.
does social media / YT addiction count, as they are not substances? I am trying to fight off this feeling that my addiction makes me less "capable" than others because it "seems" less tough, and I "should" be able to beat it. Dang
Tech counts and tech addictions (or other "process addictions" like p*rn and gambling) are a lot of what we focus on here. There's no "should." Stick around and keep working toward your goals! 💪
I don't think there's a single person on earth who accomplished anything completely on their own, you need help to start your life at least, and so so many people need help along the way, and that's okay
Hey Dr. K, I always struggle with imaginary situations revolving in my mind.... situations where I want to be or I like. I try a lot to cut out the thoughts, am trying meditation, but not helping fully. It affects a lot in my studies, I cannot focus. Can u plz plz plz help me😢
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“Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc
I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
unnus annus, unnus annus, unnus annus🗿
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NEVER FORGET ✊
Meditation is meant to be somewhat enjoyable, ones that don't like their current style of choice should look for other to try.
@@UnusAnnus3 never forget brother, remember death
I would say it's an accurate quote, but at the same time, putting in a lot of hours doing things you don't want to do actually builds strength, resiliency, and discipline.
I've realized that watching 6 hours of online content a day and being restless and purposeless without it means it's a bonafide addiction, and i've been slowly working on it the past few months. This video helps a lot, if only with perspective. (but honestly probably a lot more)
Dang, thought it was just me.
deleting accounts and apps helped me
yeah, this idea that addiction is like a specific object with boundaries "this is an addiction, that is not an addiction" is just another human attempt at oversimplifying something to make it easier to hold in our mind. addiction in the clinical sense is really just attachment taken to an extreme that negatively affects your life but on a personal level, we have all kinds of variations of attachment to different behaviors, things, people, even thoughts. I'm happy for you that you are raising awareness in your life and cultivating a better one 🙏🏻
Thank you for these comments💕…
I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
The more you keep to yourself, the more goes unnoticed into your subconcious and then nobody knows whats wrong. You'll uncover and resolve those if you tackle them on (so just sitting for an hour doing nothing without distraction), then you atleast get aware of them again but just keeping it to yourself completly will move you into the wrong direction continuesly
I'm really curious about what it is, do you mind sharing? It may validate not only how you feel to see other people understand, but it may validate others for seeing you mention it. Perhaps they are also battling with the same thing
Porn?
I feel this so much❤
Share or didnt happen 😉
The man's predicting what I want almost on a weekly basis.
Fr, it's scary
I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
Just curious, how long did it take for neuroscience major? I really want to pursue it, but starting at 31 feels too late
@Holfus I'm still in school and I'm 40 so I'm old AF, but I had to do something drastic to change my life, just like he talks about in this video. It was science that helped me get better and that's what keeps me in line because I want it more than anything else. I'll complete undergrad in 3 years and plan on doing a PhD after that. Getting a neuro degree is really only worth it if you get a PhD. Science related PhD programs in the US pay a small yearly stipend to grad students in exchange for doing research. It's not much but it's enough to get by until you graduate with a phd, (which pays considerably more.) It makes sense for me because I was more than ready to leave my previous career. Also my son is grown so I don't have young kids or anything. The way I see it, it's never too late. Where would I be in 3 years, or 7 if I didn't do it? Doing same crap as before and living in regret. Fuck that. Ageism is a thing but I don't care. I've dealt with much worse in my life. It's also becoming much more common for people to go back to school later in life. If you really want it, don't let that stop you. Although I'm not planning in staying in academia myself, I like to remember: Francis Crick was a 37 yr old grad student when he helped discover DNA's double helix structure!
Hell yeah for getting past a hard moment. Keep at it 💪
This is great to read. I need to quit and I really want to go back to school, but I've always been afraid that I'm not smart enough or I'll relapse and ruin it.
@@johnnymatias3027 totally understand! my biggest fear is that I'm not smart enough. I'm still scared of that but I've started to realize it's not about how smart I am(because I'm really not), it's about how much work I put into it. My good grades are a direct result of how much I study. I think it's really important to have a reason, something that matters to you more than anything else to work towards.(it really helps to have something to keep you busy too) I don't hear that being talked about enough in recovery spaces. I would recommend getting a good stretch of clean time before making a commitment. Enough time to where you feel pretty good sober on a day-to-day basis. For me, that was about a year. I know that sounds like forever but it's really not in the grand scheme of things. Good things are very rarely immediate. They take time to accomplish whether it be sobriety, a degree, whatever. It's worth it though, and so are you! good luck 💚
I resonate with "addicts work the best on the smartest people". I don't mean to say I'm amazingly smart and my ego is inflated, but I tend to overthink. When I overthink, my brain comes up with new ways to weasel out of the things that I'm supposed to be doing. I wish I knew how to make an "impervious rule" like Dr. K suggests.
I needed to hear this breakdown of addict brain. Thanks Doc!
I don't religiously watch Dr. K's videos or even his streams, but I stumbled across the "what happens when you quit caffeine" video and that (combined with several other things) led to me quitting cigarettes, THC, fast food, soda, and caffeine over the last six months. Caffeine was the last one, and I stopped about 4 days ago. I am so tired lol but I know I'll be better when I come out the other side. Thanks for everything you do!! I wish more psych professionals catered to specific types of cultures like this. I think I've broken my gaming addiction as well, but I still consider myself a part of that group.
Perfect timing. 5 days without a drink. (after countless attempts for sobriety)...Several times I have used the excuse, "if I'm gonna drink in a year, that's going to make me more disappointed in myself than if I do it now.". Such an insane (in hindsight) form of SELF SABOTAGE. In the moment it seems logical and giving yourself the control of the outcome.
It's ironically true, because it's also the very thing that keeps you on the wagon. Once you're a year sober you start thinking "If I relapse now, it'll all be for nothing AND I'll be disappointed". Ime anyways. Hell some of my nightmares were about relapsing 😅
Even just quitting isn’t enough. You have to look deep within and ask why you drink. Then address those issues
@@alejandroc7357 right. Been in therapy for over 2 years lol
@@discopotato675 well what conclusions have you come to?
Why do you enjoy drinking?
Coming off abusing adderall (& combinations) for years; I'm now almost 3 years sober, & this video is great stuff
I'm just going to say, as a person with avoidant behaviour and a past videogame addiction who happened to reinstall a game yesterday evening after a really bad week, the passage about not bending the rules and the analogy to the poisonous gas hit like a truck.
Though this message will drown in a sea of others, know that I'm thankful for your videos and what you've done, Dr. K
Wish you luck, guys.
Thank you so much, Dr. K. I’m not a gamer, but I’ve learned so much here.
If there’s one thing I’d like to share, it’s this: The power lies within us.
Calmness, peace, relaxation, and self-love-they are already a part of us, just as much as our fears, addictions, and weaknesses.
Sometimes, I feel like destroying all the phones. What are we really searching for in them?
Why am I even here again?
The truth is, there’s nothing out there that can truly fulfill us.
Everything we need has always been within us.
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
thanks doc K for reviving our generation.
Y'all are the ones out here doing the hard work!
still appreciate it. I have learned more about myself than ever before and I think the same applies to many others..
10 years clean from drugs and alcohol. Quit nicotine completely 6 years ago. Quit porn 4 months ago. Now the struggle is food...
Alcohol is actually one of the most harmful and hardest drugs out there!
I have a lot of respect for you! 🙂👍♥️
I am very addicted to kratom for at least 8 years now and it ruins my whole life. I am also addicted to DXM and while it helps a little bit with my depression it seems to destroy my brain! I hope i dont will get dementia! 😪
Way to go man. A good way to help your struggle with food is just have 2 large meals a day. Snacking/ mindless eating is not good. Get your body and mind adapted to 14+ hours of not eating.
@@commanderyeti3646I agree with this. Although, I usually go with one meal a day, as it's more effective and more satisfying.
Similar to the food I have an issue with overeating, super hard
@@loveistheanswer5924 i thought heroin was 🤨
I understand so much about my addictions watching this channel. The struggle is putting this into practice consistently.
I quit smoking, i am quitting weed right now, and i will quit methadone. Step by step. The last year was really eye-opening for me. And it's the first time I'm positive, that I will stay clean!
Hey Dr K. I used to watch you alot. Not that I dislike you now or anything, but I just kinda stopped. But like EVERY SINGLE TIME you make a video about addiction, I watch it. I'd love like LOVE to see a series on how the various different kinds of substances influence how different your road to recovery is.
I want to be a psychotherapist when I grow up, and your videos really help me to reflect and expand my horizons. Keep up the good work 😄
I just hope that the membership payment is cheaper, cuz 10 bucks a month is way to expensive for many students who want to enjoy your videos
My dad significantly got himself off alcohol by logging his intake weekly for a year. He was kind to himself. Quite inspiring to see. Hope it helps.
Recently, I downloaded my bank statements and summed up the expenses in Excel for weed consumption. In a 2-year period, I've spent about £2730 (about 3250 euro). I am definitely motivated to take a break - going for 30 days and re-evaluating then. Been getting high in the evenings almost daily...
I never dream. On day 1 of quitting, I had a fairly mild/forgettable dream, but was surprised at how fast it came back. Going to bed on 2 soon and I expect it may get more intense. I'm fighting a porn addiction too (which has been going on for very long time).
People say it‘s not real but I swear I‘m addicted to sugar
Yes you are, like most of us are! Btw it was the hardest to overcome for me when I tried to stop doing sugar - after having a nice healthy meal, at 3pm I would start thinking of chocolate and until I had a (whole) bar (or 2!) I couldn't think of anything else :( but I kept eating healthily until one afternoon I realised I wasn't craving for chocolate any longer! Now I can have a little square of chocolate when I feel like something sweet and feel satisfied, but it's not unconsciously incontrolable as I'm my early 20s
From what I learn, sometimes, we eat sugary things bcs we want to avoid certain feelings. Boredom, guilt, uneasiness, so on. Sugar tastes good, therefore we don't feel those uncomfortable feelings. And sometimes we also don't eat enough food that contains nutrients we need throughout the day (carbs, protein, fiber, etc), so the body craves sugar as instant source of energy. I find myself less cravey of sugar if I eat enough food and nutrients in the morning (protein and fiber especially), but my neurodivergent brain couldn't do it every morning tho, so there are many days that I failed
@catagecat not real? Children have been given sugary stuff since early days! I have many times referred to sugar as the cocaine for the poor. There's an excellent book that shows the history of sugar and how addictive it is called Sugar Blues by William Dufty. Highly recommend it!
I've heard of studies that show sugar is more addictive than cocaine, actually.
Certain synthetic sugars are the worst, about 1 year ago it was flavored lemonade waters so I replaced that with water and more natural sugars, sometimes a small splash of juice. Those lab engineered sugars are so sweet they make everything else taste dull and you kind of get a weird craving for it. I try to keep to salad, superfruits, omelette, oatmeal, and normal routine. I force myself to walk/run each day. Sugars get worse to avoid around the holidays we have chocolate, pies, and all sorts of bad habit food around.
Thank you! This was a helpful dose of reality for me. I’m on day 4 of quitting nicotine cold turkey.
Well... You are not quitting anything. You are becoming a healthier person! Keep going!
Good luck on your journey!
Keep at it! You've got this.
Thank you for this video, I have a couple of people in my inner circle who used to be addicted to different kind of substances and this video helped me understand better the work they had done in order to overcome their issues.
Loving these edits of the long streams. Lots of helpful teaching with wider accessibility. Thanks for this!
I was addicted to nicotine from Freshman year of high school (2018) to 2023. I’m over 2 months clean now and I can say there’s a very very small chance I ever use it again. I had to develop a genuine hatred towards nicotine to quit. Quitting an addiction isn’t just waking up and deciding to go cold turkey, even though you have to do that at some point, but it’s a process. It’s dissecting your addiction until it clicks and you realize your brain is fucking stupid and it’s doing nothing but draining your bank account. That first week a lot of gum was chewed and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it was so worth it. Fight the good fight. Keep going y’all can do it!
Some Personal Notes: Addict's Brain (AB)
## Mental Gymnastics (AB rationalizes to fit the outcome that is always use use use)
1. Perception of control (AB says that there's control --> in order to use)
2. Uses Denial (AB comes up with reasons it's not a problem --> in order to use)
AB says... *I can stop/quit whenever. *It's not a problem unless it affects my relationships/health/others. *I'm still productive. *It's not like I'm using everyday.
3. Uses Deal Making (brain says it's okay for this reason --> in order to use)
AB: *It's just for fun. *I've been good, so I deserve it this time. *I'll stop after this. *It's the weekend, so it's fine. *It's with friends, so it's okay. *It's a special occasion. *It's my coping mechanism, or else I'll crash out.
*(what other phrases does the AB say??)
" THINGS ARE ONLY HARD UNTIL YOU ADAPT ". .🔥🔥
Ironic how the whole dr K brand is keeping you glued to the screen watching his videos and streams and they do everything that all the big youtubers do to hijack your attention and keep you an addict. I used to be a fan but I know better now. Watching this guy for 100hrs < 10 mins of thinking and listening to yourself in silence on your own
Yeah… sort of feeling the same.
The whole thing is starting to loose its charm because it starts to feel like: “profit > people”
I even commented about my concerns about this and my comment got deleted
I value the dude’s thoughts but it gets really suspicious if they start to moderate feedback that hard
Don’t get me wrong - I still respect his opinion but I have a sense dude starts to lose being in touch with reality and the lives of everyday people.
I am happy he got successful - but at what cost?
There is a paywall to his coaching program and the guide - IDK, but like it seems that he lost being a community focused dude at some point and shifted to treating this as business.
I know it's reductive, but often times we enjoy the chase rather than the actual end. The chase and anticipation is where the dopamine comes from. When I learned that, I worked hard to redirect that dopamine spike to other things. It helps kick an addiction, and it also helps get things done. How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
I’ve been without weed for about a month and last night I had the strongest urge to get high again. Glad this video popped up before I did anything
damn bro a month? my tweaking after stopping smoking (last binge was like 6 live resin carts in a month) was like 2 weeks
how long u been smoking?
proud of you!! you are better than i am, congrats, you already came a long way. best wishes to you!
Congratulations! I was (am?) wake and bake and it stopped doing anything for me so I stopped. So far so good, but it’s only been a short while. Good luck!
I’ve been smoking once a day when I got home for maybe about a year now. The addiction hit quickly lmao. I pray you find the strength to get rid of all your carts and resin. Gets a lot easier that way
Thanks man I appreciate it!
Thank you Dr. K! Very helpful and great content.
For me personally this kind of scientific knowledge and understanding has been really helpful, especially when I put together what I have learned with my faith and particulary opening up to God.
Just wanted to share that ❤
Love the new editing style. You guys are a blessing
Glad you're liking it - we super appreciate the feedback! 💚
You posted this comment literally 2 minutes after the video went up. Are you the editor? The editing feels awful. Love Dr. K but this editing is like a headache being shaken up in a bottle.
Dr K I am addicted to watching your videos,what do I do?
I really enjoyed the slower, quieter pace of the video. I didn’t enjoy the fast paced videos, felt too ADHD lol. This felt like the older dr k videos which I loved!
I'm addicted to watching Dr K videos...
Couldn’t thank you enough, Dr. K! Last year, you helped me get through my gaming urge & weed addiction. Your guesting at Mel Robbin’s podcast was the deal breaker for me to control myself from getting dopamine from excessive gaming. Since then, July last year, I haven’t played CODM, and I finally got my normal self back after quitting weed last quarter of the same year. It was a tough slippy sloppy process the entire year, being confused as to why I should stop and is weed really good or bad. And your contents gave me all the helpful informations for me to finally clicked, I’m really grateful for your works, they are truly masterpieces.
To the ones who are battling game addiction and other stuff, here are some that helped me get through them that might also work for you guys who are seeking for change.
1. Treat your body as an animal that is automatic. You gotta have to STARVE it if you’ve already realized that that something you’re into you is causing you troubles.
2. Embrace PAIN and SUFFERING during those starvation times. Soon, your body will get back to its natural state, where food is the only thing you need.
3. MOVE AROUND, get a dog that you will have to cater, bathe, and clean shit 💩 for. I have a toddler and a dog, and I’ve accepted that I am their servant, it’s a good way to think of it, though sometimes it could be really tiring. When the our body moves, it helps the brain with some chemical reactions happening in there lol.
4. FACE BOREDOM, you’ll soon find out what matters truly, just sit with your thoughts even if it’s painful. Develop a MUSCLE for BOREDOM. Remember that being alive and healthy today is the greatest gift one could have.
The hardest is giving up the friends..
It doesn't really work to tell them not to give me weed or nicotine when i'm with them. The thought of those addictions always seek into my conciousness by being around and seeing those substances.
How am i supposed the give up my only friends? Best friends...
It's a 50/50 decision which i'm pondering from side to side.
I understand, I've been in a similar situation before. The ideal scenario is that the group as a whole simultaneously commits to putting in the work to quit the addiction(s). However, since that is completely out of your control, you simply cannot bank on that. This is just my opinion/advice (from your perspective a complete stranger on the internet, so take it with a grain of salt), but if you want to quit without your friends quitting WITH you, you'll need to make new friends.
It's a good idea to start something new, look for some activity you could put your time in. Maybe it becomes your new environment, so you can change the environment.
Quiting best friends sounds impossible. Trying out some martial arts or whatever sounds fun.
@@MrPinkDino Yeah I agree that you can find other people who share your interests to spend more time with in person, but it also doesn't mean you need to burn bridges. If those older friends respect your wellbeing and desire to better yourself as a person, they'll respect your grind for a while from a distance (assuming you don't believe you can be around them using, and they will necessarily use). And in time, if you keep it up and demonstrate how your life has improved through your demeanor and your attitude, it will only serve to inspire them too. If the support isn't there, it will be easier to find entirely new friends anyhow.
tl;dr remind yourself that you can become a pillar of motivation for others who you care about, it will be easier to make sense of what you are doing in the interim.
Thank you for the courage and answers!
Last time I was this early my mom had to get a c section.
What's up gamers
This guy is an absolute and literal lifesaver
Long time watcher and I’m sorry but the new editing style for these with the chopped up blurbs/teasers at the beginning and the abrupt break to very chopped up member pitch JUST when it’s about to get good totally takes me out of it and kind of messes up my focus and keeping the same train of thought for the whole video. Not sure if I’m the only one though.
Heard, thanks for the feedback - we are going to be switching up editing styles here and there as we determine what's best for as many of y'all as possible, so please keep sharing the feedback when you have it! 💚
Agree
Agree
When I started my journey with this channel 4 years ago I had a hard time sitting through information dense 42min video with minimal/no editing and they were acceptable only as background "podcast" on headphones for cleaning around the house/walks and I usually had to relisten lectures.
I would love the experimental cut heavy style back then, as something like this used to catch back my attention - if now I don't feel like main target audience anymore, then my work around strenghtening frontal lobe to get more attention span looks to be working. ^^
You just got mad because you were depleted of dopamine.
Thanks Dr. K, Current addict, instead of street drugs like it was 10 years ago, it manifestits in so many other ways. Uncontrolled eating, thinking my meds from the DR make me a addict again, many others, It's all so confusing. Appreciate any kind of video on addiction. I've had it for 27 years and do not yet understand.
What a helpful video Dr. K. Thank you!
Love the spotter in the gym analogy
i love how dr.k is so down to the earth and empathetic
My problem is picking the reward, I don't know what to reward myself with.
I love this so much really starting to love my self day by day
Great work, I'll try to put this in to practice
Hey dr k I have a question. I have dealt with meth and porn addiction and I want to recover my reputation as a person which im doing, but I was wondering how forgiveness and other people's feelings play a role in that.
I know i have to forgive myself, but i feel like I'll forever be branded as a bad person because of the choices I made through addiction.
Any advice?
Don't bend the rules is the hardest for me😕
Thank you so much again for your help.
Me too!
Thinking back to how sneaky and tricky my mind was (and still is) at bending the rules, where it tries to convince me not only will it be okay, but in fact, is a good idea for my future self.
@felix4790 Yes exactly!!
One of the issues with 12 step meetings is if you want to quit nicotine, it'll be extremely hard since almost everyone in those groups are smokers. A few ones I took patients to actively encouraged it.
For everyone wanting to quit Smoking: Nicorette gums actually are working for me to stop the cravings. I tried them yesterday for the first time in 15 years of smoking and they are pretty good.
I was surprised myself and i recommend everyone giving them a try. They really are a great alternative to use for a bit and gradually decrease the use. I use the 2mg nicotine ones.
They leave this weird sensation in your mouth, kindof like it gets a little numb and the act of chewing them is a really good replacement for holding a cigarette and puffing on it.
Personally , last year on new years eve ive told myself ill not smoke. I stopped and the craving around christmas got so so big i cave in, but promising myself and telling my friend who smokes, that he will give me only 3, ill always smoke in awkward positions, and ill have to pay for a round of drinks each time. Bad thing i had money so payed for 3 rounds but since then i forgot completly about cigs, i know its only been 2 weeks but it feels easier, easier than the 1st year. What i want to say is, if you really really but really can not, try to wait 1 hour, then 1 day. If its been like this for 1 week and you are out of will power, dont completly blame yourself, try again, now with more experience but dont try to create more excuses. Currently fighting scrolling addiction, i need a video or music constantly in my ears when doing stuff otherwise ill not touch laundry, dishes, or anything else. I have tons of blocker but ive found the stupidest work arounds which also me finds a way to beat. I really want to be more present and create rather than consume.
Weird thing to comment here but if someone outside of you ends a relationship, they did it because of the judgement formed within themselves regarding whatever reason they had. Like whether they left for the right or wrong reasons, they reason they left is still them. It's almost like taking the free will of the person who made the choice away. Like it makes more sense to say like..."You're the reason you got out of a relationship that wasn't good for you and im proud of that" than to say "it's their fault you left em bc they like video games too much"
Y'all at HealthyGamerGG are doing an amazing job! I appreciate it!
The addiction workshop was really helpful.
This video is a good reminder/review of what we learned over 10 hrs in the span of 2 days.
I still remember the std confession story /example 😞 and with either outcomes of acceptance/rejection we can grow stronger 💪💯
Glad you got something out of it! 💚
the recognition of strong man fantasy helped me a lot i realized every time life gets hard i go to addiction
What really made me understand how my addiction works is in that ''addiction is the result of your environment'' bit. I believe that this is in reference to the studies where they studied addiction in mice or rats and put them in cages by themselves with food, water and an unlimited cocaine dispenser. The animals would neglect everything else and keep using the drug until it'd kill them which looks very scary, but the thing is that they could not replicate the results when the mice/rats were grouped together. When they had the ability to socialize and engage in normal behaviours, they would only hit the drug dispenser from time to time and keep going about their lives... (This is the gist of the experiment from my memory, don't quote me on this.)
I bet you I have a stubborn pride in me somewhere, but I can’t put it to words yet. Good video.
It’s hard to be sober when it’s like you said and I feel completely just done with everything and I remember when I quit weed in August I went 43 days without it and then took one hit and it made my depression worse and my anxiety worse as well so I stopped smoking again but didn’t count days and then probably a week ago I got into delta 8 as a substitute to “not feel this way” but tbh I think I’m just lost and have NO idea what to do in life and the friends I do have I don’t really relate to and they smoke so I usually fall back into smoking even tho I don’t like it so my life is just constantly negative thoughts and doubts and anxiety that I have to the point where I will avoid almost anything that makes me uncomfortable so my question is will my dopamine levels slowly go back to normal if I smoke here and there or should I just do nothing and feel depressed and can’t hold a job nor want one. I know I have issues and I did therapy for a couple months and wasn’t really seeing any impact in a positive way. And yea I hate wanting help from others and the biggest reason for me is the anxiety of asking and feeling like a burden. Sorry for this long message I’m just struggling a lot with this weed stuff and I smoked everyday when I was 14-16 and then quit for a year and a half but was smoking nicotine and I haven’t smoked nicotine in years because I quit that to so I just really don’t know what to do about this because if I take ssris then to me that’s just a different kind of drug with more side effects then weed so I just give up.
Don’t give up-weed can be addictive, and that’s not your fault. I understand how you feel because I’ve been in a very similar place. The difference is that I have a son who depends on me and teaches me so much about myself every day. I’m slowly beginning to understand the reasons behind my smoking, and I’ve started to realize that in those moments, smoking can never truly give me what I’m looking for. Little by little, I’m learning to make the right choices in those critical moments and to simply embrace how I feel instead of giving in to the pressure. It feels empowering because when I’m sober, I’m a better mother. And I want to prove to myself that I have the strength to live a healthier life and won’t let myself become the cause of my own suffering.
2:53 - chat, we might be cooked.
LETS GOOOO NEW UPLOAD AND NEW STREAM VOD
4:11 - 😧 and I shattered.
Well, not only do I NOT want counselling (terrible opsec) but I also just can’t afford it.
great and fascinating video, thanks! 💙
You sounded a little under the weather today! Hope you take good care of yourself.
But thank you for the great video. :)
I tell people that if I could do it again, knowing what I know, Im glad I went through alcoholism and recovery. I don’t have words to express how much better I love myself and my life now! I would never be here without the struggle I went through. ❤
AA is a cult by the way, I recovered despite AA being g forced down my throat!! I loved the community it offered in the first 3 months, but I didn’t want to be trapped in the despair of dependence the cycling through the 12 steps promotes. Hope that helps ❤
This is so great!
For me quitting game addiction was pretty much just quitting playing cod.
Me: *listening to this while drinking/doing drugs and playing COD
Also me: "hmm interesting."
Kinda reminds me of the thought of going through hell week. You have to keep in mind that it's one minute at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you think and worry about the future obstacles and mission. At least when your going through something like that.
whoa, did not expect a "dr K asmr" video out of this!
6:22 Bro, I was literally thinking this just last week when some bad stuff happened. . I fell into some bad thoughts of ending everything because I felt like couldn't exist like this the rest of my life. . I hate when I fall into these states because technically I'm supposed to be better now and no longer depressed. I realize its a journey though and there's levels. Things are definitely better but when you do fall into those states of mind it does seem like it'll be that way forever.
Please make a video about finding ways to build your main "motivation to act" drives...
You might like the VOD of the stream we just did today!!
@HealthyGamerGG UNGA BUNGA!
Unga bunga indeed, @@kaajjaak . Unga bunga indeed.
Regarding point #4: What if I'm in a situation where I can't actually do anything to get away from my overbearing parents who cause me stress (which in turn makes it harder for me to have the energy to act in a good way instead of a bad one)?
The addicts gonna FIGHT to avoid this one 😮💨, but they will watch it nonetheless 👀.
Good job viewer, you did great today. You chose well.
Interesting perspective on relying on help
stop using addictions as a form of emotional regulation / self worth / accepted by another human being
I need help sooo badly. I'm on my phone for like 7 hours a day and just can't break the circle. My friends don't have any advice and I literally don't know who to face for help. I'm located in Western Germany right now.
I would like someone to tell me if this is a good way to quit my addiction to video games and the internet:
Videogames are restricted to weekends only
RUclips is restricted to weekends only
Scrolling is not allowed at all (I deleted all social media but youtube, where i instead turned off watch history)
Please tell me if this is a good aproach or if you have any ways to improve this method.
(Ps I have dry eyes and generally feel like my brain is fried sometimes so it is important for me to lower my screentime)
Seems to strict. I do social media (Instagram/Twitter) for an hour a day. RUclips can be watched in the evening when you called it a day.
@JuliusC-yg4zf Ok, so if I change it so it get one hour of youtube/social media at the end of every day but still restrict games to weekends only. Does that sound better?
Hope this video mentions neuropsychology and how addictions can lead to long-lasting EF deficiencies that need to be adressed before engaging in any "self-help" therapy. Addicts can be no different than people with TBI or dementia. Check out results from my university (e.g., Pierre Maurage) if that interests any if you !
@@fetilu0975 why comment on a video you haven’t watched?
I fell in love with someone who was a former alcoholic. When we started dating he started having a gambling addiction and became financially irresponsible and made it hard for me to see having a future with him. I am not an addictive person but I tried so hard to understand him. I tried to get us to go get help together but he didn’t want to do it. I just want to know from someone who cares about an addict what should you do? I ended up breaking up with him but I feel so guilty for doing it. I still care about him and I’m so worried about him.
what if you don't have insurance or the money to start therapy or get medicated? does anyone have recommendations?
Yes but what is addiction? At what point an activity becomes addiction? Is drinking a beer every day addiction? Is taking drugs on the weekend addiction? But if i'm fine while skipping the thing (drinking, drugs, smoking) is it still addiction?
😍🙏 succeeding for a week and then school throws test date sheet two days before they start
Amazing video but man I hate these intro teases that cut off like that.
I guess it works because I see it everywhere these days.
"The most important thing is..." - me furiously skipping throu the video to find the rest before I forget the first part. 😅
It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, content is definitely worth it. ❤
its like table of contents but just like the book i skipped those and dive right in lol
Dr. K, i think you might have convinced me to atleast start to consider, cutting back on the weed.
Why attention in most modern women have in their DMs/friend(male) requests/likes is not considered as addiction while watching Corn is considered a addiction.
dr. k out here preaching the dharma
Is this a reupload of a member live stream?
Not quite - this video includes part of the 10-hour live addiction workshop we did a few months back!
Video starts at 1:45. The new editing style is shit and will not lead to more viewers or members.
Thank you Dr K.
does social media / YT addiction count, as they are not substances? I am trying to fight off this feeling that my addiction makes me less "capable" than others because it "seems" less tough, and I "should" be able to beat it. Dang
Tech counts and tech addictions (or other "process addictions" like p*rn and gambling) are a lot of what we focus on here. There's no "should." Stick around and keep working toward your goals! 💪
I don't think there's a single person on earth who accomplished anything completely on their own, you need help to start your life at least, and so so many people need help along the way, and that's okay
What is the point in reducing cravings from nicotine by ingesting nicotine through patches
For some people, the ritual of cigarettes is part of it and also, tapering off substances in a controlled way does make it easier to adjust
How can we stop attracting certain/abusive personalities in our lives?
Addictions: YT, 4K, Gaming, ☕. I've been really meticulous about doing daily cleaning and laundry, since it's something I can control.
Hey Dr. K, I always struggle with imaginary situations revolving in my mind.... situations where I want to be or I like. I try a lot to cut out the thoughts, am trying meditation, but not helping fully. It affects a lot in my studies, I cannot focus. Can u plz plz plz help me😢
Hey, if you haven't looked into maladaptive daydreaming please do and maybe speak to a therapist about it if possible ❤
@no-one.in.particular thanks
Rewarding myself with filler and Botox to not smoke weed or drink this year 🤪
Guys read the freedom model. You dont need to remake your life to stop using anything.
what stream is this from?
Love you doctor K