Getting a cat to trust you
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Also - acknowledging that they all have their own likes and dislikes. It's incredible how different two littermates can be!
Good point!
*siblings
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@@Impositivelygayliterally the same thing
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1. offer your hand to sniff before making contact.
2. acknowledge them if they come and solicit attention.
3. learn their body language - for example, if they sit near you with their back turned, they're not sending you a message. they're just hanging out! that's how they chill.
4. mimic their vocalizations back to them. they'll learn that you don't speak their language, but that you're still interested in interacting with them.
5. if you have to trim their claws or brush their teeth or something, be as quick and painless as you can, and then let them jump down as soon as it's over. they know you're grooming them, they just don't like that kind lol.
weird little tid bit, hand palm down is agro palm up is friendly. I don't know where I learned that but I've found my interactions more friendly with animals presenting my hand in that manner.
Omg i meow back at my cat all the time and i swear it does something, i dont know what but something
I have no idea what you mean by mimic their vocalizations...I have just spoken to them, they learn very quickly what you mean. Usually mimicking meows freaks them out
@shadocadink5014 I curl up my fingers (sheath my claws) & make my fist loosely form the shape of a cat's head, then gently stroke it from nose to ear across my cat's cheekbone. (This is how two friendly cats naturally say hello, by marking each other with their facial scent glands.)
It got to the point where my cat Jasper would stand on his hind legs, reach his head up to my hands & keep bumping me until I properly "said hello" to him. (He's also marking me as "Mine! Jasper's Human.", but that's just how cats roll...)
Cats don’t talk to each other in any language…. They only talk to us because they know we will feed them. And they don’t actually use “words “. So unless you can mimic cat body language and pheromones, you aren’t responding to them lol
You’re taking care of these little orange babies perfectly! You rock Nate!
1,1k likes and no replies? WHAT?
those things are fucking YELLOW
i love them
They're golden
Respect goes both ways. Treat animals with kindness and they'll return that kindness.
You're a sweet man with a heart of love, respect and kindness.
This is so true
I have to admit that the thing i struggle with the most is not cuddling them every moment of the day
I do sometimes just pick them up and kiss them. I know i shouldn't. But such cute floof!
I am working on it
True :)
“I respect you as like existing and stuff” couldn’t of worded it better myself Nate 😊hahahaha
Thought the same thing, was looking for this comment 😆
@@stgibbs86 they say great minds think alike 😉 hahahaha
Need more people thinking this way towards there fellow humans
@@NewfieOutdoors87 *couldn't have
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I always had a better relationship with the housecats than my older brothers, even after we grew up. It literally was a simple as respecting them. Theyre living creatures not toys, and its wild how many people don't recognize that
You explained it perfectly, if you just respect them then they will like you. It's so annoying to see my family tease a cat because it's funny, and then wonder why the cat doesn't like them.
YES! Same with my brother, he always said our cats were assholes, but they just didn’t always feel %100 comfortable with him because he was always loud and too rough with them.
I also think people underestimate how effective speaking to a cat is 😮💨
The right voice at the right time can have a dramatic effect on a cat.
A soothing voice from across the room when they're scared, very visibly relaxes them 😺
Same with a harsh voice too tho 🙀😾😿
I love animals for this reason. They don't care if you're tall or short, rich or poor, abled or disabled, or what your political affiliation is. They don't have the capacity to even process that, all they want is for their needs to be met and to be treated with kindness, patience, and respect. They don't have the capacity for malice that humans do.
Its mostly because people compare cat with dog. Dog want leader and command, cat want respect and boundaries
My cat will always look at me when he hears a noise that startles him. I usually know what the noise is so I look at him and tell him it’s okay. Then he goes back to sleep 😂
It’s good to build trust. I always let him go when he doesn’t want to be held and slowly but surely, he’s letting me do it more or pet him more, I think because he knows he can leave whenever he wants.
You have a great connection with your “pack” Nate. It’s clearly something you’ve learned that works over years and it ensures they really get to know and relate to YOU. It’s a pleasure to watch.
Another thing I find helps is obvious but often overlooked: put them back down when they ask. Trying to hold down a squirming cat is only going to get you scratched all to shit and make the cat dislike you.
This is so important! I grew up with an indoor/outdoor barn cat who didn't like being held. I got her used to it by picking her up briefly indoors, staying as still as possible when standing, and then putting her down as soon as she squirmed. She eventually enjoyed being picked up indoors but never outdoors! I think she was "on the job" outdoors and didn't like being distracted.
It's funny how it works. I think my cats actually let me hold them for longer now, because they know I'm not going to trap them in my grip forever. Only by a few seconds though, but I'll take it. xd
yes!! something i do is typically put them back in the spot/area they were hanging out before i picked them up, so they know that that’s still their space, their mom just wanted to give them some love. i have a great bond with all my cats so i’d venture to say it’s worked.
@@robina.9402 you’re almost definitely right about the “on the job” mentality! cats are extremely bright and they actually do like to work, they’re just different from dogs in that they want to work on Their terms. your kitty probably did make a significant distinction between getting to be a lazy cat indoors and being a proper barn cat while outside.
@@robina.9402I accidentally trained my old cat to only want to be picked up when a) it was evening and b) she was outside. Also she only wanted to be put down inside. So she basicly trained me to carry her to bed.
Picking up a cat is a big trust thing. And just because the kitten can't refuse you, doesn't mean they are OK with it
something that makes a big difference but is often overlooked: put your cat down as soon as it starts indicating that it wants to be put down. doing this with my cats has built a lot more trust between us, and they let me hold them for longer, because they know that they’ll be let go when they say so.
Try picking them up like they're a leopard sleeping in a tree in the wild:
● Put your arm through their legs, so that their head is resting in the palm of your hand & their arms can grab around your wrist.
● Put your other hand to give them support under their dangling hind legs. (This so that they can launch off if they feel like it.)
This posture is both relaxing & gives them the sense of control that they can leave any time they want.
If they drift off to sleep - but grab on tighter in their sleep when you try to take them off - then you've succeeded in making a half cat/half limpet for life... ; )~
Eventually, they'll jump into your arms all on their own.
Cats are all about consent. ❤ i tell people this all the time, ive had cats all my life and i typically have good relationships with them because i respect their space and read their cues. Good work Nate
Why consent? That word is very overused.
@@Inmate16 Because cats generally aren't ever going to "Obey" you. You train them to do things by getting them to agree it is mutually beneficial. Consent. Cats respond to positive reinforcement but do not respond to negative reinforcement.
@@Inmate16 It just means you've got to treat cats like the individuals they are. They have different moods, routines, needs and wants over the course of a day, just like we all do, and to have a good relationship with a cat you need to learn how to read them and respect them.
When my cat wanted to be picked up he'd usually sit at my feet, gazing up at me purring. He might paw at my feet or even go up on his hind legs to try and reach up to me. Then when I did bend down he'd practically leap into my arms, before going limp, totally relaxed. Purring the whole time.
If he didn't want picking up he'd usually go stiff, leaning away towards the thing he really wanted, like his food bowl or the back door. A bit like how a baby reaches for the things it wants while being carried. In that case I'd usually just take him where he wanted to go and put him down again.
EXACTLY what I've been trying to instill in my son. A respect for all living things. 👏 Thank you for using your platform to spread such an important message. ❤
Aww, not reacting when it happens and reassuring her after the incident, is one of the best ways to let her know that she's safe with you. Ch'you got this in spades, brother! 😊
When my cats were kittens, I picked them up a lot but a) was careful to let their back legs rest on my arm so they weren't dangling from my grasp, b) I would put them down again immediately if they didn't seem to enjoy it, and c) I would put them gently back on the floor. That gradually taught them that a) they weren't going to fall when I was holding them, b) I wouldn't keep them trapped against their will, and c) I wasn't going to drop them. They started trusting me and tolerating being held for longer and longer, then wanting to be held more and more.
"I respect you as like... Existing and stuff!" I love your page man🤣💙 it's crazy how many people don't think respect should go both ways with animals
That gave me a good chuckle too. xD
I'm 74 and have lived with cats all my life. Like humans, they each had distinct personalities and its possible that one of these sisters is more outgoing than the other. She will be the easiest and the other will follow her example in time. Don't try to make them do things they clearly don't want to do, such as being held too long. Some cats are trainable to an extent, like my current boy is. Others arent. Speak softly and soothingly to them. They are fine kittens! 🐈🐈
One other thing. In the wild, cats are both predators to small creatures and prey to larger predators. So they are naturally scared of new humans at first.
@@megansfoI found that out the hard way! Now I know. A mama cat showed up on my porch with her 3 young kittens and so I tried to use latex gloves to handle them, it didn’t go well.😞
Listen to their body language and respect it! I notice a lot of people love dogs and that’s awesome, but you can’t generally speaking approach a cat the same way. I’m autistic so like, approach cats as if they are autistic. They’re sensitive to noises and other stimuli and often don’t want to be touched or only want to be touched in certain ways. You can also establish words for things that happen in your cat’s life. Like my cat knows the word for brush. Then I added showing her the actual brush. Then we worked out that I would wait to do the actual act of brushing until she touched her nose to it. Also when you pick up your cat, understand you can easily squish their ribs and organs. I’ve noticed one hand supporting the chest and the other past the end of the ribcage works best. Your cat likely prefers different textures at different times as well. My couch has three different blankets for my cat to choose between!
You very much can approach both cats and dogs the same way. I have grown up doing so. The fact that so many cats are so timid and defensive is because they were improperly raised, and unfortunately that is why so many people have such inaccurate information.
Yeesss I'm also autistic and compare it to cats with overstimulation!
as a fellow autistic, yes!!!! agree 100%
Fellow autistic and I feel like that's why I love cats so much, dogs are too much, but cats and I are one in the same
Right on Nate. You are a cat person.
I’ve had a cat in my life for 60 yrs.
it’s about respect.
It’s a back and forth idea.
Just as you do not kick a dog you always respect a cat. Never laugh at their mistakes. Treat them as you want them to be treated and they will be loyal and bonded to you for the length of their life.
Its really hard to convey to people. My roommates cat adopted me, would go through my window. (Basically her two other cats would gang up on him because the baby stray didnt know how to play normally). So i made my room a safe and neutral zone.
But the odd thing is that they boy, he wasnt into being picked up. But id still pick him up at times when he was happy and calm and enjoyed my pets. I would hold him past his initial instinct to jump down, but not if he was panic struggling. As soon as that initial instinct to jump down passed id hold him supported under his legs and lightly against me so he wouldnt fall awkwardly. When he leaned out to jump down, id let him go. Eventually over maybe a year or twos time with us building our bond in other ways, it went from five second holds to thirty seconds. Years later there came a time when i could hold him with his legs splayed out (like a partial side lay) for a short period of time, when intitially he hated it. He was always a super friendly cat, a charmer of any neighborhood or roommates i had. But im peobably the only one who could hold him for any length of time and him be perfectly happy with it. He knew he could always jump down. He never craved it like some cats do or climb up himself. (My current cat is a shoulder cat and could stay in my arms for minutes at a time).
Its just a combination of being firm but actually listening and responding to their mood right. Its so hard to explain though, to someone who doesnt understand cats that way or doesnt know how to interpret their behavior.
same my cat was a stray who just sort of came to me for comfort. Cats who trust you first are always the best ones.
cats are very good at telling you their boundaries!
I respect you for existing and stuff pmsl 🤣🤣 they are to cute I couldn't help keep picking them up I'm so soft
We have 2 cats, one is a cuddlebug who is always begging for attention, the other hasn't been to fond of human attention except by my mum. Over the past few months I've been working with that cat and slowly getting on her good side. She will now cuddle with me and when I found a cut on her arm she let me clean it and check out the damage!
Aw, good job earning her trust ❤ many don't have that kind of patience
“Hey, you know, I respect you like existing and stuff..”- simple key to a harmonious life!
Cats will tell you how theyre feeling! Heed their communication!
For our cats, we can hand them back and forth like butter and they do not care one iota. But my husband literally raised them from birth and we held them A LOT and played with them constantly so they were very well-socialized by the time we left and came home with two of them. Everyone asks the same thing, how are they so chill, so sweet, etc. A lot of it is raising from kittens…but also just taking the time to respect them. I had an old lady calico at the time as well I’d gotten when she was 12 and she was very ornery, didn’t like being held AT ALL and would not sit on my lap/cuddle. I didn’t care, she was cute and I could give scritches and she’d purr; I just wanted an old cat to have a good retirement. Over the next few years, she started sitting next to me on the couch. She’d still pretend she didn’t want to, with her back facing me and up against my side/leg. She was such a tsundere, pretending she didn’t want to cuddle at all, but would melt a little when I’d reach over and scritch. When I found something she didn’t like, I stopped it or took it away. Older cats need a good amount of respect and if you’re willing to put the time in, they’ll respect you back.
It melts my heart every time our rabbits shows us that we're their safety. One was scared of the hot air oven but when I sat down by it he came running and was completely cool with it. The other one leaps or even throws herself into our arms when we're at the vet, and it's the greatest feeling to feel their trust. I can't tell you how we got there, they are just amazing little bunnies ❤️
Thank you so much!!
Too many people use violence with their animals and kids.
Then get upset when they're not respected back by either
THIS
@gayasparagus My mom was a social worker 29 years old, and my aunt is a vet, and the stories they have are extremely disturbing and disgusting.
Under stress, even the most trusting cat can accidentally go bananas on you. I had two sisters, they were amazing cats, trusted me with their bellies, I could manipulate them without stress, finger snaps or simple vocal commands could get them to do or stop a lot of things, loved me to bits and answered to their names. But when really scared, they would even forget that they were sisters that had been together their whole lives and get scared of each other and show aggression.
It's just a glitch in the cat hardware 💙 It doesn't always mean a lack of training or trust from them, just a brain overload. Contrary to dogs, cats are as much prey animal as they are hunters. Some of them are really good at being afraid, it's in the blood.
You are right on the money with the respect. This is paramount with cats. Learning their expressions and needs is important, and you set an amazing exemple of the concept 💙
Weirdly, I found the more you ignore the cat (in terms of petting them and hugging them), the more they seem to like you. My gf's cat and my mums stray cat are my closest friends and that's how I was with them.
Don't force a situation and let them come to you. You can make an attempt to get close and touch them, but if they back off you back way as well. Slow movements are best to show them your no threat.
Completely agree it’s all about making them feel safe and comfortable around you and in their environment. If you continually reinforce you’re a person they can relax around by treating them with respect and acting calmly, they’ll trust you forever
Most people actually don't bother to build a relationship of trust with their cats tbh And those people are always the ones complaining that their cat is a jerk, meanwhile I'm watching them invade their cats bubble and ignore them when they make their boundaries known and it's like "Yeah I wouldn't like you either if you treat me like that." 😐 It's actually not al that difficult to bond with cats as long as you show mutual respect for them and engage with them regularly. Getting them used to being touched and loved on can take a little bit but that's to be expected. You couldn't just walk up to most creatures - humans included - and expect to be on great terms right off the bat but people have very little patience for cats in comparison imo
So very correct. Just remember to be patient with them. You’re doing great.
Very very true and important!
Cats have a strong sense of safe spaces and showing them that you’re there to protect them from scary stuff bonds them to you so well!
Main thing is NEVER scare them, even accidentally.
My 100% believe in comforting your cat when they're scared just the other day when my boy was in the window which is a longer story that I don't want to get into right now that involves Birds I had to get him out of the window and he grabbed onto the fan pulling it down causing a loud commotion that freaked him the hell out but instead of letting him drop to the ground and get hurt more I just held on to him while he him while he kicked out my stomach leaving massive gouges but I ended up being able to calm him down to let him know that everything was okay
Love your little kitties! Cloak and Katana are so cute!!
From my experience, snacks and treats help a lot to building trust. Play with toys also help building bonds. It could also help with showing your trust between you and dagger to the kittens. They learn a lot from older cats, and can be really beneficial if the older cat is well adjusted. It just takes time and space. 😊
Yes, I agree that being a guardian during a scary moment for the cat does help gain the trust.
My cat was feral and once we took her in she was allowed outside again for a short time on a leash. She didn't warm up to me fully until one time there was a snap thunderstorm and it started downpouring and she got herself wedged under a wheelbarrow (which offered overhead shelter but the rain was hard and the huge raindrops were throwing up mud splatters!) I had to run out in the downpour, quickly untangle and release her harness, and run back to the house holding her while I used my body to shield her from the rain. Cat acted like I was her best friend after that
Ah, if you get cats you always pick up new scars, just comes with the territory.
I quite like it as they can you remind you of old friends decades later.
Got a new puppy, she's teething and knawing on everything. She knows when I cry out it hurts. She then gently chew me.
Last year, we took in a kitten that the mother cat abandoned. I'm not a cat person. For some reason, the cat chose me to be its person. I'm not sure if it could pick up something on me. Some friends think that the cat chose me because we had to put my 16yr old dog down a few months prior. The cat is very protective of me for some reason. I've taken out trash to the dumpster and there would be other cats on top of it. My cat would charge at them to get them off the dumpster. Last night, I was on the porch holding my cat. Another cat walked by outside the fence. My cat raised hell until the other cat left.
Cats feel safest with people who don't force themselves on the cat. That is why cats always seem to find the allergic/non cat person. Because they generally like approaching you on their terms. 😊
It's pretty easy, mutual respect and love
and food
@naylisyazwina6836 yes that is true, and food 😅
Definitely agree in acknowledging cats as independent beings helps to get them to respect and love you. They're thinking, feeling creatures, not accessories to someone's lifestyle.
When I got my current batch of cats post-college, I decided to take some harder cases because I'd spend most of my life working with animals, especially cats, and knew I could give a home to some cats who might not otherwise be adopted.
I picked a feral teen mom. She's not scarred, but she's not a pretty cat due to her markings making her head look lopsided (it's and optical illusion). Her kittens had been weaned and found homes, and she'd been at the shelter for a year with the volunteers working with her, and none of them could really handle her. She was supposed to be in a cage at night, but they couldn't put her away, but since she wasn't bothering anyone, they would just leave her out at nights and she would hide on one of the upper cages or on a cat tree.
The other cat I got was shy, but was at least friendly and playful. I got him because he was more easy going, but would not have done well in a house with kids or lots of guests. But I also got him as a "Judas Cat" to demonstrate that humans were not scary, or at least that I'm not scary.
I also observed the kind of tree that Teen Mom cat liked to hang out on. Since I was going to have to buy all the cat equipment right now, I got her one with the kind of seat she liked to snuggle into. I was moving house, and my living room was large. I put my sofa in the middle of the room, facing the TV (I had a desk and stuff behind it) And I put the cat tree right behind the sofa. It was kind of a trick for her, and kind of because that seemed like a good place to put things.
Basically from that tree, she could see about 80% of the house, and could see people coming at her from all angles. So if she wanted to run, she had the option to do so. Eventually just by letting her run away if she wanted to run away, and not chasing her, she stopped running away. She stuck to her tree, and at first I wouldn't even touch her in the tree. Eventually I moved to petting her. And then I started placing my head on her back to nuzzle and show affection. If she wanted to run, I would let her run. She didn't. I never pick her up off of the tree. And I almost never pick her up at all unless she needs to go to the vet. But the tree is like a safe spot in tag. Nothing bad happens to her on her tree.
She eventually got comfortable even if it took her 9 months to decide to sleep on the bed.
When she was 6 years old, after having her for 4 years, she started training herself to be a lap cat. She really loves being a lap cat, and she has zero petting aggression. She loves belly rubs. I think if she hadn't had an awful life, she would have been a great family cat. But she did have a traumatic life, and so she's always got a bit of fear about new people or large groups of people.
She's become a real snuggle bug and is currently crawling all over me as I write this. Also really just loves to listen to women talking. I don't know why, but if girl talk is going on, she wants to be one of the girls.
But everyone is different and needs different things, and you have to start out treating them that way, for sure.
Nice looking ginger kittens you got there, mister! They seem to have unique personalities in the cat kingdom. 👍🏼😉
I NEVER pick my cats up unless.. 1. they NEED to be picked up, or 2. they ASK to be picked up. Sometimes, when I put food out they WANT me to carry them over.. My old guys(he's at least 15) has a new thing of popping up onto my kitchen counter to get lovins from me(I don't really allow this, but any cat who makes it to 15 deserves to do what makes them happy). I don't want him to jump down and hurt his joints and he LOVES when I pick him up to put him down by his bowl. Otherwise, my cats have Mutual trust and respect
Cats are excellent teachers in setting boundaries if you listen.
Don't take the scratches personally, it's a cat's nature to react in the moment without a thought for their immediate future. Instinct and reflexes are what has kept them alive throughout their evolution so when a bitty kitty accidentally cuts you or bites out of fear, or even tries to take you down like prey, at the very least it's a good survival instinct.
What most people do wrong is to want their cat to be like a tiny dog, so yeah, they'll hate you. lol
Do not pick them up if they don't want, don't disturb their sleep time, most of them aren't lap pets, so don't expect yours to be. Keep their needs (food, water, clean sand box, toys) in check. It shouldn't be that hard. And don't forget to spend enough time with them while also respecting their personal space.
I just pick up my cat and pet her when she calls for attention, if not I just assume she wants to be left alone. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong because I'm definitely her favorite person in the house, she just calls my brother or my mom when she wants food 😂
Not all cats are the same, some absolutely love being picked up and definitely are lap cats. There is no one size fits all for how work with any kind of animal. You have to get to know the individual personality of the specific animals you have, cause even two of the same breed can have completely different personalities. Many cats do love being picked up and some don't. Some are lap cats, some aren't. It's okay to pick up your kittens as long as they are okay with it, and some will even prefer it and hop on you themselves.
@@creasedhorizon8931 thats what I said. Most don't like it, a few do. My advice to avoid disappointment is to EXPECT it doesn't like it. If they like to be lap pets, good for ya, if not, respect it.
My late cat couldn't stay five minutes away from me without begging to be in my lap. I literally wore hoodies 24/7 when at home because he liked to be inside the pocket like a baby kangaroo. My actual cat isn't like this, I just respect her space and wait until she wants to be picked up and petted.
I raised mine from birth and treated them like dogs. They play fetch, they come when I whistle, they like belly rubs... and they like to steal bones, rawhide, and other chewies from the dogs. And, like my dogs, they are very treat oriented. They also understand lots of words and can imitate several words.
yep. you shouldn't pick up tiny dogs either imo bec they might not like it either
You don't really have to do anything to get kittens to trust you. Just be around them and when they inevitably try to play with you or sleep on top of you, allow them to do so. At that young age it's in their nature to find someone they can trust to protect them.
You're doing great! My almost two year old super gentle sweet cat scratched me a bit because the new humidifier freaked her out. Apparently water vapor means death and i just couldn't predict that reaction
I bribed mine with lots of Temptations and fresh catnip.
I’ve found having food in hand works lol. It’s how I’ve managed to tnr some in my backyard.
My cat was skittish before I adopted her and the shelter said she would likely hide for a bit. She didn't hide at all, and I've found she looks to me when something scares her to see if it's terrible beyond belief or if it's just terrible for her. That being said, I just got lucky that she clicked with me immediately. That does not happen to all animals and sometimes you just have to keep being sweet to them and remind them you are there for them.
Yes yes. Yes yes yes. Thank you for passing on this very important information & ideas so our babies can have the grt life they deserve & feel safe!
Those little babies are so beautiful! They're going to have a great life at the homestead ❤
Agreed. Just show them kindness, primarily, and be there for them when inevitable struggles happen.
Learn their body language and respect their boundaries.
Vibes and patience. Lots and lots of patience.
I completely agree with the picking up part. Im a cat owner , myself and I almost always picked up my cat when I was a kid, I don't know why. I actually ended up learning the hard way to not pick her up like I did, shes an old cat with bad hips and legs. And since I didn't support her legs properly she attacked my hand. She didn't really do much damage (just 2-3 small scratches and a small hole where her tooth periced my hand) I had a small allergic reaction, and didn't pick her up again after that.
And because of that, she actually wanted to be around me. Since she used to avoid me, and I genuinely do feel awful about making her hide and run away from me because I some reason wanted to pick her up. I'm still somehow one of her favorite people (my mom is the only other one), and I am happy she doesn't feel the need to hide or run away from me anymore. Its nice having her come up to me for attention (mainly its just her coming up to be to beg for more food even though shes been fed already)
With my cat I honestly just played with him and treated him like I would one of my friends and now we're inseparable
Just love them and dont pass baby bounderies, they will love you eventually
One of the ways I think me and my girl ava bonded was her fear of thunderstorms and helping her get through it 💜
We had a cat tree with a cubby level with the floor, she liked laying in there normally so when storms started and she started getting freaked out I tried getting her to go lay there instead of under the bed one time and I laid on the floor petting and talking to her till she fell asleep before using a shirt to cover the opening so she still had my scent 💜 eventually she went there automatically because she's a fast learner and now she's not really bothered by thunderstorms if at all. It could be that she's older since she wasn't even 2 when we got her and it's been a couple years since but something tells me that I helped at least a little. She's so wildy different then when we brought her home, like a turtle who came from her shell 💜
Cats should be brought into elementary schools as a lesson in consent because if you don't respect a cat's boundaries they will let you know!
This is a great idea.
Not when some kids can be allergic 😅
They already have cats in schools. It's called women.
I'm kidding, please don't kill me.
Even though I know that housecats have literally been genetically predisposed to be adorable to humans... my brain cant get over their little kitten faces
Yeah since it was according to their genetics to look that way or other ways.
And regardless it wouldn't be a bad thing either way since nothing bad happened in the process.
Everything was built a certain way for either appeal or something else and it has never went wrong unless some dumb breeders did some foul crap.
Katana is cutting already
"How you get your cat to trust you?" Oh you know, the vaccum 😂
It's also your vibe and way back in the day shop owners kept a cat,dog or very young child and used them to basically feel the person coming in, I ended up being able to pet and play with the abandoned cat colony that already had been living behind Walmart for a few years and the fact that nobody was able to get near them and then when I ended up moving in the woods back there and it took me about 2 months to get them to come to me and get in my lap, I'm still the only one who can 😻
Orange tabbys are always adorable
Interaction. Trust is built in this manner. Both between human and kitty. Love is crucial. And feeling safe.
Two of my cats chose me instead of the other way around and we've got a really special relationship! My other cat is also great and we respect and trust each other!
They all come to me if they're scared or unsure of something.
I've never had a cat bite me or go insane like the ones you see in too many videos and those ones do what they do because they don't like what their human is doing or has done to them!!
The trust thing is so important. But also it's situational, getting her to tolerate cuddles and continuing to give cuddles and walk around while cuddling is vital for essential care later on (like how people should also familiarise cats with crates outside of vet trips so they don't develop that "fear").
My mum only picks up our old lady cat for the vet or for my kids to give her pets so she doesn't really tolerate it. But if I lay on the floor in her sunbeam like I have for the past 18 years and stay with her she will tolerate my toddler being overenthusiastic with smooches and pets (won't tolerate fur grabbing but kid only had to learn that lesson once), or one of my big kids talking too loud. She trusts me, and she trusts me in her space.
Nice summation of cat respect.
We took our cat from the woods, he never interacted with people before and still is scared of strangers.
The thing that made him trust me was an earthquake. I sat with him hidden in my lap the entire night and from then on he was much more trusting.
Our other cat we just picked up on the street and took her to the vet. She was so trusting, even though she was almost blind. Sadly she got hit by a car and froze to death during the night one day.
She's a baby ❤
I love how soft and understanding you are with them. It’s important to remember you are essentially a giant, especially to a kitten. And you have to have a level of caution when you handle them.
Orange noodles are coming along nicely
My bird bites me if I change my music to something he’s not currently jamming to. Yes, he has phases.
You’re doing just fine with your adorable kitties 💕
Mine just knows I love him because he would have been a stray if I didn't get him. He's my best friend and we give each other so much comfort. So if I'm around he's good and vice versa
We have six cats, only started out with a couple but we kept coming to the rescue when people needed us to. We also adopted a feral cat from our neighborhood that was deaf. When we decided we were going to keep her we found out she was pregnant. She had four of the most healthiest beautiful kittens you've ever seen. We gave one to our good friend one to our daughter and we kept the other two, spawn and rougarou. Everything you said about earning your cat's trust is right. Another good thing, after your cat trusts you and lets you pick it up and put them by your neck, purr a little bit just like a cat to them. You don't have to do it loud you don't have to do it long just a little bit. They will take that as communicating love to them. Luna our deaf Kitty almost asks me to do it now. We got her fixed and shots and she will live a long happy healthy life.
Nate just has amazing energy that the animals sense. They know he’ll protect and care for them so they absolutely trust him.
I have a recent stray come up and it took him 6 months before he would come up to me. Now that he has though, he follows me everywhere and loves me touching him. For other cats, it takes a shorter time or longer time to trust anyone.
The real answer: Get them as kittens
Lol yes. Grown cats can take an age and then more.
It's more than possible to earn the trust of grown cats too. And with a grown cat you have a more solid understanding of what you're in for vs a kitten who's personality is still budding.
@@kellevichyThere arent many grown cats that will be happy to let you pick them up and stick them in a bucket without having been exposed to that kind of situation as a kitten.
But its certainly possible, as with anything
That's the easier way of doing it yes epescially if you don't wanna deal with all the training I mean you gotta train no matter what but it'll be harder probably depending on that grown cat.
But it's possible to gain the trust of a cat adult or not the same way it's possible to train.
People just gotta do what work's for them, do research and make sure it's factual while making sure they do a good job at teaching the cat boundaries and also learning what their boundaries are.
I mean no duh not all grown cats like getting picked up, but regardless if they like getting picked up or not that isn't a problem that's just who they are as a cat.
The problem is not getting their trust or learning about them and their behavior and having no knowledge of cat's of course.
1000000% man. My 2 cats absolutely adore me and I've always respected their space. My gf gets so jealous of how they always choose me. I also really show them intimate moments of good eye contact, light pets, and sweet talk. They really are such sweet precious babies at the core
Had to clip my cats nails the other day, he was confused but really chill about it. He'd pull his paw away once or twice but he stayed on my lap just relaxing while i clipped them. Always such an amazing feeling knowing a cat trusts you so much.
Existing and stuff lol
Go at your cat’s pace, not yours.
Honestly just having them from kitten helps a lot. I have an outside cat that is beyond skittish to literally any person other than me. I let him inside, he climbs in my laps and naps for hours. If anyone else goes up to him he runs off. Building that bond when he was young helped a ton, and I think it made him wary of others so he stays close to home.
I always find patience to be the key. Allowing the kitten to come to you on their terms helps establish that trust a lot!
you're so right. I respect her autonomy 85% of the time, the rest I can't resist a quick pick up and snuggle :O)
i treat it as building up a bank of trust. for every hour spent feeding them, reading their body language, walking to wherever their little heads point me to... i get 5 seconds to mildly annoy them by carrying them to my bed. :P
I don’t pick up my cat unless I have to or she’s meowing in my face, then I pick her up hug her and let her down to let her see “hey I didn’t like that, maybe I shouldn’t scream in moms face.” Lol
Ironic, my two kitties scream TO be picked up! They love snuggles and to be held like a kiddo, they usually want to see over your shoulder or lick your ears. Both were street cats so I think being comforted, protected, and loved on is a new and wonderful change 😂
@@bonnie1303 I bought Loba from a pet store at 4mo. I saved her actually. She was the only female with all of her brothers in a trilevel ferret cage (8 total) hiding between the litter box and the cage wall. She was like that for three days according to the associate. I got her out and tucked her under my arm like a football and I couldn’t let her go back in the litter box even though she cost $530. She’s always been aloof but she’s really good for me when it comes to nails, baths, vet, and travel. She’s just doesn’t cuddle 🤷♀️
Yep! They are so individual. My 12 year old boy is a complete baby who wants snuggles and being carried.
My 10 year old female is intense with pets and wants attention but hates being held, except for one particular way.
Cats are the best and they learn fast who to trust. I have a specific whistle i do when i cannot find them and they know when i do that whistle its, “hey i might have food or a treat, please come to where you hear the noise”.
It works great!
my cats dont like thunder storms they all run to my room and watch the rain out my window.
Damn near lost my leg to a catbite in 2011 (accidentally stepped on her, just thought she'd scratched me; noticed the puncture wound the next morning.
Get a tetanus shot if it's been >10 yrs.
One thing I always did that helped with trust was when I did pick my kittens up, I would never just drop them from a tall height. Will they technically be fine? Yeah probably. But it still communicates that being held by you also probably means being dropped randomly, which isn’t fun for anyone!
They are fabulous love them.❤❤❤
I'm glad you share all these things. Some people don't know
Just be affectionate. They'll learn you're all the same pack. My marvel gives me love bites when i scratch him. I don't particularly care for him destroying my hand but it's just a weird reaction they have sometimes
It could be your overstimulatin him only give him try 2 see what happens and work up till he bites.
Food.
My cat only trusts people that have fed him.
Nate, you have great instincts when it comes to caring for all the animals on your homestead. You are gentle, patient, and loving, and they respond well to you. You have crafted a wonderful living space. Of course, Minion really runs things. Luckily he is a benevolent leader. 😊
Love watching you interact with the furbabies. The kittens bring lots of memories back. I ended up with 12 kitties we rescued. By the time they were better I fell in love with them. We lived in the county then. The boy cats were great care givers and took care of them but the females said forget it. As they got older, they got a long great. Lol. It's amazing each one had their own personality. They bought me a lot of joy. Dagger is being real good with them. You're doing a great job with your animals. Minion and AZ are really cool and so well behaved.