People in this forum need to know suicide is a mental illness and it takes several suicidal ideations before they actually do it. If you have a teenage kid you will know how hard it is to keep them on track. And if you have a grown kid, you know how much we appreciate how our parents managed it. So instead of heaping all the blame on the mom, let us give her support to greave peacefully. She already has enough to handle.
The friend who leaked the video and the screen shot also led to her friend’s death. All these could have been avoided if she shared them on time. Now she is dead, we have lost her. The only thing we are left with is lessons to parent our children. There is no perfect manual to raise children. I am sure that most moms strive to give the best lives to their children. We are humans and we have failed the same children too. As a parent, I would love if this friend talked to me and told me what my baby is upto. I may seek therapy for both of us to heal. Let’s be our brothers keeper. Let us not wait until death happens then leak such disturbing news!
When I remember my story with my dad 😢mimi hata ningeenda kitambo sana .. I thank God nlipata mtu wa kunisupport atleast holidays nlikua naenda kwao then shule ckifunguliwa naenda ..and that is my husband ❤
I am 36 years old and a single mum and my 2 girls are 20 and 18years... raising teenagers is not a joke..they feel like they have out grown you..a times I feel like loosing my mind...but by prayers and grace of God we're managing
@@Mum_teens Its quite unfair for a parent to not acknowledge their trauma and seek help and healing but instead go bleeding trauma all over her kids masking it as discipline.People need to heal otherwise these cycles won’t ever break.
I think for us who raised boys it's easier seriously, I don't know how I would have managed girls...I thank God coz I can't complain. Mine didn't want to stress me, they did their chores and always asked if I needed help. Prayers from birth really help and just dedicate these kids to God. I asked God to be their Father and teach them, instill discipline and renove any bad influence.
@@lifewithveronicah Exactly, you are the parent and since you know how child hood traumas are difficult you should do everything in your power to break that cycle. Because if you don't your kids will mistreat their kids because of how you disciplined them with bitterness. Let us heal as parents so that we learn how to discipline our kids with love.
Over 18yrs should not give you stress,,,, fukuza hao,, being a parent doesn't mean wewe ni mtu wao, if they don't respect you then waambie kila mtu aende kwao pia wewe uko na kwenu
Mothers can be toxic I have one I am not a gen z btw Although some mothers could be because of how they grew, however abuse from parents is real and it exist.....
Too sad. I thank God for my late dad for standing in the gap for me. Abusive mothers exist and if there's no one to turn to death is an easy escape. Just be good to your children as they go through the stages of life.
I think it is time we Children being raised by single Mothers MUST Learn to understand our Mothers by all means😢They're going through alot😮 their past with our toxic and deadbeat fathers turned.them toxic
I really dont think Nyaboke meant bad for this girl.From my own perspective i think She was just being a strict mum so that the daughter does not repeat the same mistakes.Parents with genz's will bear me witness that these kids are abit disorderly n dialogue is not there language.All they want is to leave them do what they want which is also not possible.She was correcting her but unfortunately it turned tragic.Sorry for the loss.Its painful
Generations haziwezi fanana. And saying ati this kids are disorderly and dialogue is not there language is not true. If whatever you're doing is not right we will call you out. It doesn't matter how old you are. Accountability is our language further than that what is there to dialogue
So, she meant well for her when she was spitting on her, cutting her locks and accusing her of destroying her life. Let's get serious jamani! We are not helping by sugarcoating things. The truth is, Nyaboke led her child to suicide. She was abusive.
@@bettyngala8518Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist....there are indeed parents that hate their kids but you're not ready for that conversation
This is true some parents can be so toxic especially moms I too almost took my life in 2008 because of my mom always scolding me and calling all sort of bad names later I got married and became pregnant because the marriage had alot issues I had to leave and went back home still my mom did not let me I gave birth to my son let me tell u my mother now became worse than I thought she became a monster even to my little boy 😢😢😢😢I had to leave home with my three months old son to work as a househelp in nyamira thank God thank that woman took me in and treated me like her daughter I will never forget this 😢😢😢😢Marie rest easy baby girl
The girl was rude,how can she call her own mother,hore,huyo mmama she was indiscipline, personally i have ve my own issues with my mom but i keep boundaries when talking to her
Nyaboke talks dirty lets not lie. i guess her daughter picked that from her. Mtoto ndio aite mamake malaya.. mamake amemuita mara ngapi? Nyaboke is damaged and went ahead and damaged her own daughter! lets call it out vile iko
We used to be beaten to an extent we could spend nights in the cold and in darkness.Please our children just know when we punish you we don't do it because we are frustrated or we hate you.We just want the best out of you.
I am over 50 years old. The problem is that we can't punish our children the way our parents punished us. I believe there are Age-Appropriate disciplinary techniques as a child evolves. Birth to age 2- Distraction Toddler - early primary -Firm and redirection( This is where spanking works) Ages 10-14- Re-channeling behavior High school - adult hood- Talking through issues. There's a ton of tools a parent can use including rewards, consequences, encouragement, negotiable and non- negotiable rules. It's completely unhealthy to Shame,injured, threaten, not provide basic needs,ignore or be emotionally unavailable to a child.
@@catherinerefinedwe agree but some of you parents are just frustrated, and you bring it on us You threaten us, you beat us like animals, you ruin our esteem in the name of bringing out the Best there is no Best there Your making us more or even worse like or than you
Extreme punishment cannot yield ‘the best’ out of children, I totally disagree. There’s a very broad line between punishment and abuse and how some parents fail to see it is unexplainable.
Be a good mother Guide your child through love,pray with her and for her . Nyaboke is very mouthy and vulgar sometimes and children suffer through the unacceptable behavior of their parents No wonder she used the hore word to refer to her mom I pity that child Hope she finds peace at last
Like me mh mum left me while i was 9 months 😢mh shosh take carer of me ..though she was a broke but she tried a best ...sometimes i feel so painful bcoz i didn't finished mh education bcoz of lack of school feesso now im 21 yrs old by God's grace i got a job so atleast i can do something good...the fun thing but not fun 😢 mh mum released that im working mh friend lemmi tell ile mashida ananitajia namushangaa qwa qweli bcoz she's toxic mom😢😢😢
At 21 you are still young. Register at the adults schools and register for your KCSE ukuwe unasoma usiku after job. From there do a course and God will open more doors. Don't get comfortable at that job. Work your way up.
My story is just like yours but for me my grandparents were well off and took care of me fully financially. Anyways the same way you have lived without her all those years is the same way you should live without her right now coz she’s only going to bring pain and misery into you life. Please protect your peace and mental health 🙏🏽
It’s very sad that still in AFRICA, parents feel like they have control of their children even when they are past 16, how do you beat an adult child. Because like in Belgium from 16 you’re treated like an adult you’re even expected to work for the government at the weekend and on holiday. To show that you should be responsible for your own money. I find it so sad that our mother, would hate her daughter so much, that her daughter felt she had to end her life so sad.😢
It's not easy to bring up teenagers.. I'm a teacher and parents keep on reporting such incidents in school..and wueh..it's not easy.dont blame Moraa guys
Her friends were also just there to say...oh thats so sad, when she gave indications of suicide. And also to try and show that the mum is wrong but maybe there's love. Spoke to a young lady and showed her mum's perspective. She cooled down (she statred earning her mum trust & understood when in someone's home, you respect their boundaries) and right now they have a working relationship. When you have friends who tell you that you are always right and your parent is evil then you will most likely go into depression.
Nyaboke herself is indisciplined from the vulgar words that sometimes come from her mouth I think her daughter was caught in her narcissistic mom’s web and her only escape was death
I'm amother of 4,and all of them are Gen zs all grown ups igave birth at 15 my first born son is turning 23next month,what ican say is that it takes God's hands to raise these guys it's not easy coz I'm single handedly raising them ....my fellow women kindly take it easy with these guys mostly pray always for them and tell God to always show you the right way to guide them..its not easy but don't be to hard on them always talk to them and assure them of your love for them,and pray alot
It's really sad raising a teenager is not that easy we tend to be strict and raise them how we are raised am sure she wanted the best for her daughter it's sad shell live with guilt that she failed her .
Idnt knw if I should speak...bt giving birth t early age is a problem..it reach apoint the child anaona nkama mnatoshana and uhav no right to speak to them ...ihave ason i gave birth while iws 16 the boy is 18 now i cnt tel him to save his hair there's nothing tht ican tell him askie..alisha hama hes renting outside and working kidogo kidogo..bt kichwa ni ngumu i just need someone to help m coz its like sasa mm ndio am losing my mind.. asking God where i went wrong..udnt knw wht parents go thr kindly let her morn her baby ata kama alikiwa mbaha aje for m i understand her completely
Sorry for that. Give him time he will come back at his own time. I have a son now 22, he moved out and stayed with his friends when he was 19 and I thought I lost him. To my surprise he came back after few months .
All these guys calling the mother toxic are super parents i guess,, we've all forgotten what happened after trolling Njhambi khoikais dad...we never learn,why can't pple let family mourn in peace???now...here we are again trolling a mother who probably was just trying to discipline a teenager... parenting does not come with a manual..and everyone to their own..let the perfect parents be the first ones to throw those stones...
Single mums are going through a lot to raise teenage children. They become strict to help correct them so that they don't mess up their lives. Those blaming the mum should wait until they have children of their own to understand.
In a broken marriage, children suffer more than the parents,they start to look for attention, acceptance, and filling the gap of the missing parent. This leads to mental health. Parents should try to understand why the kids are stubborn hata cancelling helps. Stop blaming Gen Z being stubborn. That is nature, digitalisation has brought exposure, they see what other kids do in such situation. Please try understand your kids and never give up on them. Violence does not always yield good results. Reasons hata watoto shuleni hawachapwi.
As much as parents are trying to discipline kids they should have boundaries,my own mum ruid me and she thinks she made me ,vita na matusi haisaidii .There are always other ways to do things than force and insults .
I feel like she was going through much more ...the parent was just being a parent and the child together with the friends encouraged her that the mother didn't love her and was just being cruel.. parents want the best for us...they show love in a different way because of how they were raised , they are human too and shouldn't be judged... this was not about the hair, the strictness,...she was just a problematic teenager who had bad friends.
You can blame the parent only if you weren't raised by your parents. While we consider our parents education to be abusive, the education we receive from them is what pushes us through our tough moments in the future. I moved out of my parents' house at the age of 19, and that didn't cause taking my own life away because I always believe in a brighter future. I've now married with 2 kids. I disagree with anyone blaming Nyaboke, no parent will ever want to see their children get hurt. She must've been doing something her parent wasn't happy with, so instead of listening, she decided to run away. Does killing herself resolve the issue? Absolutely not. Stop judging until you hear from both sides
I don't believe in the notion 'this is just acting in real life I am different ' acting is deep rooted and sometimes not easy to exclude some behaviours, this is a good example
Nonsense! You people are finding a field day with this tragic loss cos its not close to home! Leave this mother alone to morn her child! How dare are you????
Stop this silly thing of calling parents toxic!! Every parent desires good life for their children! Stop blaming her mother! This freedom GEN-Z wanataka itawamaliza! May God comfort the mother.
There so many toxic narssisistic parents out here lol toxic is toxic hakuna njia ingine ya kuwa describe . And by the sio mambo na gen z ata sisi watu wa early 80s tumekua na wazazi like such na hawajabadilika na hatugojei wabadilike coz toxic narcistic humans never change, I'm very at peace without my mother in my life coz ni monster huyo and I thank God I changed the narrative with my own kids hakuna kurudia ama kufuatwa na hizo tabia za monsterous, I totally refused to be a wicked mother to my kids
@@mercymurigi28lol very true only those who have experienced the wrath of the toxic narcisistic mothers can understand wueh ni Mungu hupatia mtu nguvu ya ku deal na such monsters, no sugarcoating thy are monsters wata kuchimbia ata kaburi na wasione nikama anything, na matusi, na kuona mtu nikama rubbish wuueh hadi you literally start doubting if they are your biological mother but out there they are very nice to others utaonekana wewe ndio shetani 😅😅 they are great in pretending of how sweet n lovely the are to other people lol
@raisawanjiru true True lol only those with that experience can relate, but the best thing to do is not to let the hate outshine you and your life. However at a young age mtu anaeza kua confused na enyewe aone kama wazazi wako toxic then where else to run apart from the grave heheeee I thank God I was able to overcome luckily I met good people at 19 and above so nikaona aaah huyo mzazi ata akiwa toxic kumbe kuna watu wananipenda huku inje yawa and life went on I'm now nearing my late 30s na that woman has never changed na sigoji abadilike mimi as long as siko na hate na toxicity towards my children then up to her abebe hate zake forever lols 😁
My stepmother has the same characteristics alikua anatupata every day me and her children"my step siblings" after my dad died in 2019 things got worse for me because i was a 1st year student by then...i thank God i graduated...i was at a point of committing suicide 😢 i called her one day and thanked her for raising me and told her goodbye never will i return to that home. My step siblings calls me crying about what their mum 😢
I know the family she got married in, her first marriage. They really use strong words, i think thats why the girl could use similar words while referring to her mother.
The mother wanted best for her daughter lakini hawa watoto wa sku hizi ukiongea unaambiwa unafanya vibaya anyway let nyaboke be hata ukiangalia huyo c mtoto alikuwa akiteswa,kwa hiyo voice note she was rude and calling her mum names
Seriously? Some of these kids are just intolerable, they don't know boundaries, they don't care about anyone or anything aside from themselves. As long as a child is a child and dependent on the parents, it's the responsibility of the parent to teach them, correct them whenever they are wrong. The way she spoke about her mom to her friends clearly shows how disregarding and disrespectful achi was. Raising teenagers is so hard they think they have grown and should be left alone to do life as they please...they want unrealistic "freedom" I know my "rights" generation super problematic and they never want to take responsibility for their shit. They don't take a NO for an answer, never apologetic and always right mindset...they refuse to be kids yet they get fed, clothed and sheltered by the same parents they disrespect. Nyaboke didn't mean to harm her daughter, she only wanted to raise a responsible young lady. We all got whooped growing up because sometimes that's the only language kids understand when diplomacy fails. Achi seemed to be a troubled kid, not even the father wanted her around. Before we blame the mom, let's take a minute, do some soul searching.
I believe no mother would beat a child kama hajakosea or misbehaved ...during our mothers era they used to be beaten like sacks of maize n they did end themselves ,anyways i can't judge any side they know better what was happening.
Mimi wacha ninyamaze,kuna wototo najua aki hapa Eastleigh uchapa babake sana ata mbele ya watu , imagine juu ya kuitisha pesa na vunjo,akiwaambia hana wanamchapa nawanaingia kwa shop wanachukua yote yenye ameuza,sasa hawa aki watasema baba ni mbaya na mkibali
All this does not warrant to taking own life. Gods commandments are clear, do not kill..do we think of the after death consequences especially after taking own life? Gods judgement, do we remember how it will fair with us on the Judgement day. Our actions and decisions will determine our eternal destiny..😢
No teen wants their mother to be wearing and behaving like their mate that's put them off..wanaanza kua rebellious. Nyaboke hu act kama Gen Z anasahau ako na msichana mkubwa so the gal wondered if my mum is behaving this way na mm nifanye? It was like competition.
@@askahonchomba8092 stop thinking with your emotions ,what makes you think your claims are the right one did I mention a name if a parent is toxic the parent is toxic period
@@askahonchomba8092you have a problem. Ignorance is really a disease in some people. My mother is a demonic narcissist and I am not a teenager. Caused and still trying to cause drama even when I left home. You know nothing about toxic parents. 🚮🚮
Why you people blam mzazi kwani kuna suda mtoto kujiweka vizuri n maisha yatakua vizuri..kid u start misbehaving once the parents try to correct you u see ur self umefika
People in this forum need to know suicide is a mental illness and it takes several suicidal ideations before they actually do it. If you have a teenage kid you will know how hard it is to keep them on track. And if you have a grown kid, you know how much we appreciate how our parents managed it. So instead of heaping all the blame on the mom, let us give her support to greave peacefully. She already has enough to handle.
Unless you are a parent to a teenager... Pointing fingers and blaming Nyaboke is the last thing you should do. Parenting is no joke.
I second u
The friend who leaked the video and the screen shot also led to her friend’s death. All these could have been avoided if she shared them on time. Now she is dead, we have lost her. The only thing we are left with is lessons to parent our children. There is no perfect manual to raise children. I am sure that most moms strive to give the best lives to their children. We are humans and we have failed the same children too. As a parent, I would love if this friend talked to me and told me what my baby is upto. I may seek therapy for both of us to heal. Let’s be our brothers keeper. Let us not wait until death happens then leak such disturbing news!
When I remember my story with my dad 😢mimi hata ningeenda kitambo sana .. I thank God nlipata mtu wa kunisupport atleast holidays nlikua naenda kwao then shule ckifunguliwa naenda ..and that is my husband ❤
Happy for u, for me i just fought thru
I am 36 years old and a single mum and my 2 girls are 20 and 18years... raising teenagers is not a joke..they feel like they have out grown you..a times I feel like loosing my mind...but by prayers and grace of God we're managing
Being a single mum is not a joke.may God gives you Grace to overcome everything.hugs mummy.
@@Mum_teens
Its quite unfair for a parent to not acknowledge their trauma and seek help and healing but instead go bleeding trauma all over her kids masking it as discipline.People need to heal otherwise these cycles won’t ever break.
I think for us who raised boys it's easier seriously, I don't know how I would have managed girls...I thank God coz I can't complain. Mine didn't want to stress me, they did their chores and always asked if I needed help.
Prayers from birth really help and just dedicate these kids to God. I asked God to be their Father and teach them, instill discipline and renove any bad influence.
@@lifewithveronicah Exactly, you are the parent and since you know how child hood traumas are difficult you should do everything in your power to break that cycle. Because if you don't your kids will mistreat their kids because of how you disciplined them with bitterness. Let us heal as parents so that we learn how to discipline our kids with love.
Over 18yrs should not give you stress,,,, fukuza hao,, being a parent doesn't mean wewe ni mtu wao, if they don't respect you then waambie kila mtu aende kwao pia wewe uko na kwenu
Mothers can be toxic
I have one
I am not a gen z btw
Although some mothers could be because of how they grew, however abuse from parents is real and it exist.....
Too sad. I thank God for my late dad for standing in the gap for me. Abusive mothers exist and if there's no one to turn to death is an easy escape. Just be good to your children as they go through the stages of life.
Parents should acknowledge when their kids reach adolescence stage they aint saints as they were too , its a stage n it will pass
I think it is time we Children being raised by single Mothers MUST Learn to understand our Mothers by all means😢They're going through alot😮 their past with our toxic and deadbeat fathers turned.them toxic
I really dont think Nyaboke meant bad for this girl.From my own perspective i think She was just being a strict mum so that the daughter does not repeat the same mistakes.Parents with genz's will bear me witness that these kids are abit disorderly n dialogue is not there language.All they want is to leave them do what they want which is also not possible.She was correcting her but unfortunately it turned tragic.Sorry for the loss.Its painful
Generations haziwezi fanana. And saying ati this kids are disorderly and dialogue is not there language is not true. If whatever you're doing is not right we will call you out. It doesn't matter how old you are. Accountability is our language further than that what is there to dialogue
Exactly no mother hates her child.
Sure
So, she meant well for her when she was spitting on her, cutting her locks and accusing her of destroying her life. Let's get serious jamani! We are not helping by sugarcoating things. The truth is, Nyaboke led her child to suicide. She was abusive.
@@bettyngala8518Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist....there are indeed parents that hate their kids but you're not ready for that conversation
When death visit u, and take the best of u, is when u learn to respect pple when mourning
Well said👊
True
Can we let her mom mourn in peace?
Imagine you were her .With all the alleged accusations, she is her mom and i am sure she is hurting.
Some women when their husbands leave them they unleash their negativity on their children .
It's so sad
True
Parenting is not so easy .never point a finger as a parent ...
This is true some parents can be so toxic especially moms I too almost took my life in 2008 because of my mom always scolding me and calling all sort of bad names later I got married and became pregnant because the marriage had alot issues I had to leave and went back home still my mom did not let me I gave birth to my son let me tell u my mother now became worse than I thought she became a monster even to my little boy 😢😢😢😢I had to leave home with my three months old son to work as a househelp in nyamira thank God thank that woman took me in and treated me like her daughter I will never forget this 😢😢😢😢Marie rest easy baby girl
True my mother is the same infact ata huwa sitaki social na yeye life is much peaceful without any contact.
Heri wewe still uko na son wako.. 😭😭😭
@@user-ie1jy9ju3lhugs manze it's very painful 😭😭😭😭😭
The girl was rude,how can she call her own mother,hore,huyo mmama she was indiscipline, personally i have ve my own issues with my mom but i keep boundaries when talking to her
Maybe its true she was a ho.....the daughter lived with her she knows more than u.
TOXIC PATHETIC MOTHERS EXIST!!!!
Nyaboke talks dirty lets not lie. i guess her daughter picked that from her. Mtoto ndio aite mamake malaya.. mamake amemuita mara ngapi? Nyaboke is damaged and went ahead and damaged her own daughter! lets call it out vile iko
Have you heard the language nyaboke uses herself
Kabisa,,, Shes also very Toxic
We used to be beaten to an extent we could spend nights in the cold and in darkness.Please our children just know when we punish you we don't do it because we are frustrated or we hate you.We just want the best out of you.
I am over 50 years old.
The problem is that we can't punish our children the way our parents punished us.
I believe there are Age-Appropriate disciplinary techniques as a child evolves.
Birth to age 2- Distraction
Toddler - early primary -Firm and redirection( This is where spanking works)
Ages 10-14- Re-channeling behavior
High school - adult hood- Talking through issues.
There's a ton of tools a parent can use including rewards, consequences, encouragement, negotiable and non- negotiable rules.
It's completely unhealthy to Shame,injured, threaten, not provide basic needs,ignore or be emotionally unavailable to a child.
@@catherinerefinedwe agree but some of you parents are just frustrated, and you bring it on us
You threaten us, you beat us like animals, you ruin our esteem in the name of bringing out the Best there is no Best there
Your making us more or even worse like or than you
There is a difference between discipline and abuse , both can be seen clearly
This mentality is sick and it's killing African children. There's a fine line between African "discipline" and abuse. Do better.
Extreme punishment cannot yield ‘the best’ out of children, I totally disagree. There’s a very broad line between punishment and abuse and how some parents fail to see it is unexplainable.
Bringing up an adolescent is so hard wee......
God help me to bring up my daughter well.i pray that she will never disrespect me
Be a good mother
Guide your child through love,pray with her and for her .
Nyaboke is very mouthy and vulgar sometimes and children suffer through the unacceptable behavior of their parents
No wonder she used the hore word to refer to her mom
I pity that child
Hope she finds peace at last
Mimi i will never ever talk or want to see nor hear my so called mother,in this life or another 💔💔💔
Woi, pole sana 🤗
Wooooooooi this is heartbreaking 😢
My mum was my best friend,,she made me who i am now..no mother wants the worst for her kids. I miss my mum. Continue resting in peace mum😢
Clearly you've never heard of narcissistic mothers
There are toxic mothers out there. The mum failed her.
Like me mh mum left me while i was 9 months 😢mh shosh take carer of me ..though she was a broke but she tried a best ...sometimes i feel so painful bcoz i didn't finished mh education bcoz of lack of school feesso now im 21 yrs old by God's grace i got a job so atleast i can do something good...the fun thing but not fun 😢 mh mum released that im working mh friend lemmi tell ile mashida ananitajia namushangaa qwa qweli bcoz she's toxic mom😢😢😢
At 21 you are still young. Register at the adults schools and register for your KCSE ukuwe unasoma usiku after job. From there do a course and God will open more doors. Don't get comfortable at that job. Work your way up.
Pray for her... it's sad I know it's not easy...❣️
@@gracemaina673Good advise. Its never too late to get an education.
My story is just like yours but for me my grandparents were well off and took care of me fully financially. Anyways the same way you have lived without her all those years is the same way you should live without her right now coz she’s only going to bring pain and misery into you life. Please protect your peace and mental health 🙏🏽
Dear love her from afar......thats what kind hearted people go through.......
It’s very sad that still in AFRICA, parents feel like they have control of their children even when they are past 16, how do you beat an adult child. Because like in Belgium from 16 you’re treated like an adult you’re even expected to work for the government at the weekend and on holiday. To show that you should be responsible for your own money. I find it so sad that our mother, would hate her daughter so much, that her daughter felt she had to end her life so sad.😢
At 16, a kid is still a kid. Achana na wazungu,
The voice note tells a lot about their relationship. RIP
Ghai si mtauua mamao pia 🤦🏿♀️ Kenyans hawananaga chills aki
It's not easy to bring up teenagers.. I'm a teacher and parents keep on reporting such incidents in school..and wueh..it's not easy.dont blame Moraa guys
True
Please leave nyaboke alone. It's clear she meant well for her daughter.
Let us keep nyaboke in prayers what has happened has happened only God knows why
Her friends were also just there to say...oh thats so sad, when she gave indications of suicide. And also to try and show that the mum is wrong but maybe there's love. Spoke to a young lady and showed her mum's perspective. She cooled down (she statred earning her mum trust & understood when in someone's home, you respect their boundaries) and right now they have a working relationship. When you have friends who tell you that you are always right and your parent is evil then you will most likely go into depression.
Sad. But, she sounds indisciplined. Who calls her mom a whore? Please let Nyaboke mourn in peace. Every parent will punish n discipline their kids.
Do not defend what you do not know....
You don't judge what you don't know @@candyngeny8272
Very indisciplined child
She might have picked such words from her dad's side of family, I knew them way back and they could use very strong words.
Nyaboke herself is indisciplined from the vulgar words that sometimes come from her mouth
I think her daughter was caught in her narcissistic mom’s web and her only escape was death
I'm amother of 4,and all of them are Gen zs all grown ups igave birth at 15 my first born son is turning 23next month,what ican say is that it takes God's hands to raise these guys it's not easy coz I'm single handedly raising them ....my fellow women kindly take it easy with these guys mostly pray always for them and tell God to always show you the right way to guide them..its not easy but don't be to hard on them always talk to them and assure them of your love for them,and pray alot
congrat gal, its not easy. sure it needs the hand of God its not a joke
It's really sad raising a teenager is not that easy we tend to be strict and raise them how we are raised am sure she wanted the best for her daughter it's sad shell live with guilt that she failed her .
Idnt knw if I should speak...bt giving birth t early age is a problem..it reach apoint the child anaona nkama mnatoshana and uhav no right to speak to them ...ihave ason i gave birth while iws 16 the boy is 18 now i cnt tel him to save his hair there's nothing tht ican tell him askie..alisha hama hes renting outside and working kidogo kidogo..bt kichwa ni ngumu i just need someone to help m coz its like sasa mm ndio am losing my mind.. asking God where i went wrong..udnt knw wht parents go thr kindly let her morn her baby ata kama alikiwa mbaha aje for m i understand her completely
Pole. Let him be. He's an adult so let life teach him to be ethical.
Honestly at 18 he's an adult ama? But obviously he will always be your baby
Sorry for that. Give him time he will come back at his own time. I have a son now 22, he moved out and stayed with his friends when he was 19 and I thought I lost him. To my surprise he came back after few months .
Acha hiyo gaidi ajifanye . He will come back in a few years after making his girlfriend pregnant
@@ivy29 And then we shall have another single mother? Mimi naona mtu mzima akipea girlfriend yake mimba, akae na yeye walee mtoto
All these guys calling the mother toxic are super parents i guess,, we've all forgotten what happened after trolling Njhambi khoikais dad...we never learn,why can't pple let family mourn in peace???now...here we are again trolling a mother who probably was just trying to discipline a teenager... parenting does not come with a manual..and everyone to their own..let the perfect parents be the first ones to throw those stones...
Thank you, we ndio umemake sense hapa👏🏿
I totally agree with the last text you read by Bee Kay. May God give Moraa strength
I remember my kuzo 😢😢😢 she's killed her self to just like this story she's was 16years 😢😢😢 rest in peace
Dad's presence in a child's life is key. Discipline is always from the father's side.
This kids can make you loose your mind. Pole nyaboke you meant well for your daughter
My mother was toxic when I was at that stage but now am a mother parents are not toxic they are worried and depressed
Single mums are going through a lot to raise teenage children. They become strict to help correct them so that they don't mess up their lives. Those blaming the mum should wait until they have children of their own to understand.
In a broken marriage, children suffer more than the parents,they start to look for attention, acceptance, and filling the gap of the missing parent. This leads to mental health. Parents should try to understand why the kids are stubborn hata cancelling helps. Stop blaming Gen Z being stubborn. That is nature, digitalisation has brought exposure, they see what other kids do in such situation. Please try understand your kids and never give up on them. Violence does not always yield good results. Reasons hata watoto shuleni hawachapwi.
Woi the gal had her share of issues. She was problematic in her own way.
As much as parents are trying to discipline kids they should have boundaries,my own mum ruid me and she thinks she made me ,vita na matusi haisaidii .There are always other ways to do things than force and insults .
I feel like she was going through much more ...the parent was just being a parent and the child together with the friends encouraged her that the mother didn't love her and was just being cruel.. parents want the best for us...they show love in a different way because of how they were raised , they are human too and shouldn't be judged... this was not about the hair, the strictness,...she was just a problematic teenager who had bad friends.
I also don't think anyone sharing the screenshots is a good friend
Exactly
A mother is a mother no matter what! No mom wants evil or bad luck for her child.
You can blame the parent only if you weren't raised by your parents. While we consider our parents education to be abusive, the education we receive from them is what pushes us through our tough moments in the future. I moved out of my parents' house at the age of 19, and that didn't cause taking my own life away because I always believe in a brighter future. I've now married with 2 kids.
I disagree with anyone blaming Nyaboke, no parent will ever want to see their children get hurt. She must've been doing something her parent wasn't happy with, so instead of listening, she decided to run away. Does killing herself resolve the issue? Absolutely not. Stop judging until you hear from both sides
I don't believe in the notion 'this is just acting in real life I am different ' acting is deep rooted and sometimes not easy to exclude some behaviours, this is a good example
Obey and listen to your parents
Ongeza volume please
Not when all they are cruel. Respect is earned
Good or bad she remains to one in a million.
Very heartbreaking💔
So ujinyonga solution anyway rip mara alipata accident.. mara alikua nafuta bangi sana more things
Kumbe vile Ana treat Victor kwake ni kitu real, I thought it's acting. May her daughters soul rip
Imagine being the reason for your child's suicide😢😢
Please let her mourn her daughter cz I know she wanted the best fr her
stop abusing kids..hold yourself responsile as a parent, shame.
😢😢😢
Stupid
Are you sure
Nonsense! You people are finding a field day with this tragic loss cos its not close to home! Leave this mother alone to morn her child! How dare are you????
Stop this silly thing of calling parents toxic!! Every parent desires good life for their children! Stop blaming her mother! This freedom GEN-Z wanataka itawamaliza! May God comfort the mother.
Are you okay? Just because yours are not toxic and narcissistic doesn't mean others don't have toxic parents.
Am gen x and I can tell you what a toxic parent can do....they are very harmful to the well being of their kids..
There so many toxic narssisistic parents out here lol toxic is toxic hakuna njia ingine ya kuwa describe . And by the sio mambo na gen z ata sisi watu wa early 80s tumekua na wazazi like such na hawajabadilika na hatugojei wabadilike coz toxic narcistic humans never change, I'm very at peace without my mother in my life coz ni monster huyo and I thank God I changed the narrative with my own kids hakuna kurudia ama kufuatwa na hizo tabia za monsterous, I totally refused to be a wicked mother to my kids
@@mercymurigi28lol very true only those who have experienced the wrath of the toxic narcisistic mothers can understand wueh ni Mungu hupatia mtu nguvu ya ku deal na such monsters, no sugarcoating thy are monsters wata kuchimbia ata kaburi na wasione nikama anything, na matusi, na kuona mtu nikama rubbish wuueh hadi you literally start doubting if they are your biological mother but out there they are very nice to others utaonekana wewe ndio shetani 😅😅 they are great in pretending of how sweet n lovely the are to other people lol
Be careful because they are parents who abuse their children sexually so don't defend all parents. Some parents are bad truth be told.
Let us remind ourselves about the power of being a brother's keeper, general struggle is here,but remember the silent struggle,watu wanapitia magumu
This generation don't want to be disciplined and they are stubborn
This is heartbreaking 💔 no mother can hate their child
Wako wengi sana huku inje who hate their own kids, tu ulize tukuambie tumeona hio hate upfront wueh
I think mothers are very romanticized by the society while in reality some can be the very bullies that ruin their children’s lives 😢
True
They can hate
@raisawanjiru true True lol only those with that experience can relate, but the best thing to do is not to let the hate outshine you and your life. However at a young age mtu anaeza kua confused na enyewe aone kama wazazi wako toxic then where else to run apart from the grave heheeee I thank God I was able to overcome luckily I met good people at 19 and above so nikaona aaah huyo mzazi ata akiwa toxic kumbe kuna watu wananipenda huku inje yawa and life went on I'm now nearing my late 30s na that woman has never changed na sigoji abadilike mimi as long as siko na hate na toxicity towards my children then up to her abebe hate zake forever lols 😁
So she has revealed in that voice note what a trifling child she was and expect everything to be nice and rosy.
My stepmother has the same characteristics alikua anatupata every day me and her children"my step siblings" after my dad died in 2019 things got worse for me because i was a 1st year student by then...i thank God i graduated...i was at a point of committing suicide 😢 i called her one day and thanked her for raising me and told her goodbye never will i return to that home. My step siblings calls me crying about what their mum 😢
😭😭some to me here we we go through alot
So sad 😢😢
So sad
Beyond sad
That is stupidity of high level sai ukiteach this kids lesson yaani discipline they just don't think they think its child abuse.
I know the family she got married in, her first marriage. They really use strong words, i think thats why the girl could use similar words while referring to her mother.
19 years is an adult mbona asimove out aanze maisha yake
My thoughts too,angehama tu .
The mother wanted best for her daughter lakini hawa watoto wa sku hizi ukiongea unaambiwa unafanya vibaya anyway let nyaboke be hata ukiangalia huyo c mtoto alikuwa akiteswa,kwa hiyo voice note she was rude and calling her mum names
Waah she called her mom a w.h.o.r.e ??! Clearly this girl was a nutcase. She must have been too hard to handle .
Respect is earned not demanded
The few clips I have seen of nyaboke paints her as a very vulgar woman
I pity that child
Let us hear her mums side. Nowadays kids call correction, abuse. There are always two sides of a story
Nyaboke wanted the best for the daughter who seemed to be troublesome
Children obey your parents .. we too went worse than this but we had to trust in Jesus .. my dad was the worst but I chose to forgive
Very sad.
I believe the mother needed a therapy.she has gone through alot.they both needed counseling.
Most tiktokers are narcissists and sociopaths
Wale wa kupitiana tunakutana hapa 😂😂😂😂😂 nigrab nikugrab tugrow pamoja ❤❤❤❤❤much love guys
Niko hapa, hebu nipitie pia ❤😅
@@cathychemu done
Pia mm nipitie😂
@@Nutellaj59 done 😊
Hapa
Seriously? Some of these kids are just intolerable, they don't know boundaries, they don't care about anyone or anything aside from themselves. As long as a child is a child and dependent on the parents, it's the responsibility of the parent to teach them, correct them whenever they are wrong. The way she spoke about her mom to her friends clearly shows how disregarding and disrespectful achi was. Raising teenagers is so hard they think they have grown and should be left alone to do life as they please...they want unrealistic "freedom" I know my "rights" generation super problematic and they never want to take responsibility for their shit. They don't take a NO for an answer, never apologetic and always right mindset...they refuse to be kids yet they get fed, clothed and sheltered by the same parents they disrespect. Nyaboke didn't mean to harm her daughter, she only wanted to raise a responsible young lady. We all got whooped growing up because sometimes that's the only language kids understand when diplomacy fails. Achi seemed to be a troubled kid, not even the father wanted her around. Before we blame the mom, let's take a minute, do some soul searching.
Early this year my best friend committed suicide coz of the mom as well I've not healed 😢
Pole
Some mother's are toxic af
I believe no mother would beat a child kama hajakosea or misbehaved ...during our mothers era they used to be beaten like sacks of maize n they did end themselves ,anyways i can't judge any side they know better what was happening.
Pls don't judge parenting is hard.
Some people were defending Nyaboke ,like wtf ,you pushed your child to end her life ,dont come here crying like you cared for her.
It is sad how someone who brought to the world force you out untimely 💔💔🕯
Mimi wacha ninyamaze,kuna wototo najua aki hapa Eastleigh uchapa babake sana ata mbele ya watu , imagine juu ya kuitisha pesa na vunjo,akiwaambia hana wanamchapa nawanaingia kwa shop wanachukua yote yenye ameuza,sasa hawa aki watasema baba ni mbaya na mkibali
Karma has it
Isee the comments and am like yall have good parents
All this does not warrant to taking own life. Gods commandments are clear, do not kill..do we think of the after death consequences especially after taking own life? Gods judgement, do we remember how it will fair with us on the Judgement day. Our actions and decisions will determine our eternal destiny..😢
Wuuueh😢terrible
No teen wants their mother to be wearing and behaving like their mate that's put them off..wanaanza kua rebellious. Nyaboke hu act kama Gen Z anasahau ako na msichana mkubwa so the gal wondered if my mum is behaving this way na mm nifanye? It was like competition.
Sorry but that mom looked like she had issues
This girl was rude
Rip
What are mistakes that the mum made surely? Who has no several marriages or exes or baby dadies?
She should be in jail for child abuse
And Farah maalim enjoy freedom
Marie was very beautiful. However, suicide is a personal choice. Some people have had worse childhoods and are still going strong
It's not hate but according to my tradition suicide is spiritual and maybe it's within the family
Nyaboke looks toxic. Though maybe the daughter didn't have to take her life
Toxic parent
Lea wako na free range system! Stop calling parents toxic! Huyo ni pombe zake na Madawa ya kulevya yalimuonyesha ajiue! Stop blaming the mother
@@askahonchomba8092 stop thinking with your emotions ,what makes you think your claims are the right one did I mention a name if a parent is toxic the parent is toxic period
@@askahonchomba8092you have a problem. Ignorance is really a disease in some people. My mother is a demonic narcissist and I am not a teenager. Caused and still trying to cause drama even when I left home. You know nothing about toxic parents. 🚮🚮
Her mum could have dealt with issues differently... everyday I thank God for my healthy relationship with my mum
Why you people blam mzazi kwani kuna suda mtoto kujiweka vizuri n maisha yatakua vizuri..kid u start misbehaving once the parents try to correct you u see ur self umefika
Awuoro