Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder aka Multiple Personality Disorder
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International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation. Guidelines for treating dissociative identity disorder in adults, third revision: summary version. J Trauma Dissociation. 2011;12(2):188-212.
Subramanyam AA, Somaiya M, Shankar S, et al. Psychological Interventions for Dissociative disorders. Indian J Psychiatry. 2020;62(Suppl 2):S280-S289.
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I appreciate that there are no sound effects or background music in this video. This makes it much easier to understand and absorb information as someone with sensory processing differences.
Yes it’s very peaceful I can’t do all that extra noise lol
@Amy Xoxo Yes! But also to the point and not boring. A breath of fresh air.
she also has a super lovely voice!
Yes I know right! Some videos are like ahhh this is so overwhelming
Whole heartedly agree.
“You weren’t safe back then, but you are safe today.”
That hit deep.
Yes but it wasn't always the case...Bringing up those traumatic memories from childhood on did not help me at all. It was devastating! I nearly unalived myself when I remembered an early childhood rape. It sent me down a bad road of using drugs, becoming an addict on top of all else I have to deal with. Lost my family, some forever. Only a few stood by and helped or waited on me to get better. My dear husband being the main one. Now most have passed away...a bunch of the narcissists in my family are gone now. The other I had to go no contact with after so many trigger attacks I couldn't take anymore. Be careful if you choose to go through childhood trauma therapy with any therapist...they are not going to take you in to live with them to keep you safe or help you get through all the chaos that nearly will drown you. EMDR therapy was a great experience!!! I wish I could afford more.
@@lorenrobertson8039 EMDR specifically involves remembering trauma. I’m not terribly interested in it, but I know it’s incredibly helpful for some. A good support system is really important before starting any therapy journey and that can be a really big hurdle for so many. Especially regarding repressed childhood trauma, it’s very important to have a support system made of those who weren’t there for your childhood, because you never know who the monsters will turn out to be. I’ve been no contact for almost 10 years with the majority of my family. I still speak to my mother but am emotionally prepared to handle learning she too is a monster if it turns out that way. I wouldn’t want to live with my therapist, that sounds like a set up that could leave me extremely vulnerable and easy to manipulate. Room mate therapist would be an inherently unhealthy dynamic to become involved in. My partner knows the good crisis facilities intimately and I can go there if need be. I will also leave a therapist entirely if they do not respect my boundaries of needing extra time to process something before moving on to discover more.
I think this is the best objective explanation I’ve seen so far about DID.
I think it creates excellent awareness 🙏
So glad to hear this Rafael. 👍🏽
@@DrTraceyMarks Is it possible for someone else's soul to enter one's body
I am from India and am suffering from this disease. What should I do.
@Glockiana17 Well you're not the doctor...
This is certainly the most understandable explanation I've ever seen
Most of the mental illness is a result of trauma and parents who could not regulate themselves. Trauma survivors then go on being treated in a way they should not be treated. It's so important caregivers/teachers receive proper counselling first before giving birth or in early child rearing years. And most importantly abusers be kept on check.
Me!! Not having kids until I heal my own past traumas and treat my mental illnesses first! It’s hard enough to have a dog lol.
I agree, more psychology and proper child care classes should be taught in high school.
@Elisa Castro some parents constantly impose their dreams choices on kids and even when they grow as adults , someparents constantly compare their own kids with others and push kids to put undue emphasis on achievements and how others perceive them , this makes the self talk of kids as well as kids grown as adults as self comparison anxiety self judgement social anxiety. Some parents project there unhealed trauma on kids and the kids do suffer from anxiety depression due to that.
and thats on THAT!
I know it’s messed up to say and I’m sorry if I offend people but I hated my life growing up i didn’t have a good life at all I was raised in a toxic household I hated my mom for neglected me hitting me believeing my pedophile Instead of me stepdad she died 5 years ago and I just don’t feel anything for her at all 😔 I’m sorry
This is my diagnosis. Thanks for covering this. No one talks about this enough.
You’re welcome Trey. 👍🏽😊
I hope you're okay.
Dont worry, you not a weirdo and its not your fault, dont think of the downside think of the bright side, theres something rare about you 😄
This is my diagnosis also, thanks for covering too.
does this mean the brain has a life of its own? Hear me out when an infant child is abused the brain literally protects itself and makes more personalities its not the child thats doing it its as if the brain is a seperate being
i was diagnosed with DID in january 2019 &i just ignored it. Until people started asking me “why are you acting like this all of a sudden?” like they would notice the switch. im 20 &I was physically &mentally abused until i was 17. I thought what i went through was normal.. now that i realize it’s not all of this makes so much sense. Thank you🤍
I ignored it for 2 years!!!! I didn’t fully understand what it meant. I went along with it. But now I’m looking back like omg, I can’t believe I didn’t do anything then.
Be glad u only ignored it for a few years.... it compounds when it's been longer... I'm just starting to sort through it in my mid 30s.... and there's so much more on my plate now compared to my late teens when I became aware
I hope you are doing well now
@@melissabeingmelissa i literally just stopped ignoring it. Mine was caused by school bullying. And I don't mean that little tiny bullying with the big guy stuffing you into a locker. I mean like full-on trying not to get assaulted bullying. I hate school.
Wow! Good luck on your journey. I have DID too and it definitely gets easier with time! 😊🙏❤️
I hate how women are treated "crazy" for expressing anger. It's a legit feeling, and usually it reflects a deeper problem, but why to listen to her, when you can get away with just branding her mad (regarding your story with your son).
Feeling aren’t an indication of reality and aren’t valid though. Often the opposite. particularly in women like yourself. Until proven or disproven they can only safely and sanely viewed in the manner.
There’s a thing those that aren’t children are supposed to do and that’s discipline control and suppress emotional wandering and direct them. unless violence is called for. Anger It’s toxic.
The underlying issue is normally a feminist or individualist caused one.
When men and women play they natural roll in families and community they are.
You can feel anyway doesn’t make it reality and it’s you generating that feeling or idea. The feeling is irrelevant what matters is it real. That’s why ‘facts over feelings’ is a maxim saying. Many women are too primitive emotionally in unevolved to understand this. Feeelings don’t
Mean anything other than you haven’t been reassured or lied too convincingly about your non existent factor.
@@sefp anger is not inherently toxic and there are lots of ways to have healthy anger. Trying to ignore or remove any emotion can be incredibly damaging. If we were to teach people how to healthily deal with anger it wouldnt be toxic.
Dude.
Nowadays being “angry” is being someone actually being upset or depressed.
If a man is “angry” people get mad at him and say they are toxic or something but a woman gets mad people just go “oh she’s just being a bit crazy you know how we women are lul”.
How bout we just accept that women are more expressive with emotions and we take advantage of that sometimes, and men usually don’t express their emotions then can’t take advantage of that or they are called an a-hole or express emotions like a woman would because they still have a different pride or be called a wussy. (Usually by women because other men understand the limits more)
@@saltydinonuggies1841 your feminist gaslight feels approach has failed 3 generations of people. Your implying I said things. Actually ignoring feeling emotions is how men survive. And women only unevolved and Unadvanced in this area because men did the work for them they didn’t require fixing their anti survival tendency of overlvalue feeling over understanding. And violence.
@@sefp ignoring how men feel is how they survive? I guess that’s why suicide rates in men are so high. That’s the exact opposite of what we should be doing. Have you even heard of mental health?
Edit: men acting like they don’t have emotion is why so many of them in history are so power hungry and misogynistic and why so many wars happened. Also, the fact you think people will listen to you, an idiot on the internet, over someone like a therapist or psychologist who have studied why what you’re saying is wrong is funny. Also, anger is one of the most used emotions that men use that ive seen. The stuff you’re saying just leads to abuse. You’re just letting history repeat itself by saying that. Instead of learning from other’s past mistakes, you’re just being stubborn. And for what? Your own pride? I honestly hope you get done help if you think that way, it’s so toxic and exhausting.
What a great explanation. I was diagnosed with DID six months ago. I struggled my entire life with all the wrong diagnoses until I was diagnosed correctly. If you have DID or were just diagnosed, this message is for you: It's not as scary as it sounds or feels, and things will get better! Remember, your parts were unconsciously formed as a way for the brain to cope with trauma and to protect you so you can keep living. Once you learn how to communicate and work together with your parts--functioning becomes more manageable, and eventually, you can thrive. It is hell in the beginning, but there is hope. Find a good trauma therapist that you are comfortable with, and DO THE WORK. You got this! You survived far worse--this is your time now. Reclaim your life; if you have to, do it one minute at a time.
I know you commented this a year ago, but if you see this and don't mind: Were you aware of any aspect of your DID or anything that happened to you before beign diagnosed?
I was diagnosed with delusions but I talked to my psychologist, is there a chance the doctor might be wrong? I have alters
I had severe abuse of several kinds up to age 23. I’ve been in therapy a long time but just finally accepted the diagnosis of DID, among several others. It’s really hard to explain this to the average person without the stigma of “multiple personalities” via media. Thanks so much for putting this out there.
Does it feel like coming together as a whole person?
I'm worried that my loved one would never admit it 🙏
My Inners have not come together. I feel fragmented and think in a fragmented way. I’m still learning how this works and how to work with myself. Integration isn’t presently a goal I have because I need to understand myself first.
@@queensillybritches sounds wise and within control.
Sounds a bit like you are having fun too!
Do you associate with other DID people who might be friends?
@@queensillybritches I feel it can create alot of trust issues.
Um, I don’t really have any DID friends, nor have I looked for any groups. And, I’m not having any fun. As Dr. Marks said, this is really hard work and is a huge commitment.
I remember coming across the online journal of a woman who had DID. This was years ago, when it was still called Multiple Personality Disorder, and I think that website is now gone. But reading her journal gave me a window into what it is like to live with DID. It wasn't easy to read a lot of the entries. She had a horrible childhood and her teenage years weren't much better. You could feel the pain and frustration, and sadness, behind her words. She's married, last I knew, with a lovely husband and a daughter she adores no end. But she made no secret about how DID affected her relationships and how she parented.
Let's remember to not go around saying that people with DID got it from an immature way of dealing with extremely heavy problems no child under 9 years old should need to deal with.
Let's also remember this disorder can only develop before this age.
thank you. one of many issues in this explanation
Because it develops in early childhood, there is NO CHOICE FOR A CHILD BUT TO USE IMMATURE COPING METHODS. They are kids! No blame, only compassion, for these adults.
Many times the person was literally immature and had no way whatsoever of coping. It’s still an annoying word, tho, I k - had the same initial reaction.
I thought she was using the word "immature" in the sense of process and not an age necessarily.
If I'm right, this definitely could have been worded better. Especially since most people use the word as an insult.
When she says "inmature" she's referring to a technical term, it needs a further explanation but it's not something with a negative connotation in this case
You have been a God send for me. At 36 yrs old I'm finally accepting that I have some form of mental illness more than the depression I was first diagnosed with at age 14. It seems to have gotten worse this past year and a half but I've also stopped heavily drinking last June and perhaps wasn't completely aware plus I've also had some very traumatic experiences in the past two years. Your videos are helping me understand the differences in the varying diagnosis. Also a way to educate my loved ones without it just being my word about it. The length of your videos makes it easy to get those close to me to watch and learn. Thank you ☺️
Oh I’m so glad these videos of help you Leanna as well as your family. It’s a great way to get other people close to you to understand. Keep learning 😊
I tell my child alters all the time that we're safe and those things can't be done to us anymore, but it seems impossible to convince them. And it's nothing like talking to yourself, I know that because I can talk to myself normally like anybody else, and talking to your alters is talking to someone else. I have no reason to believe I'm not safe from the situations, but the children don't see how we and our body have changed, and they feil to see that we're not there in that time anymore. They're desperated with a ghost threat while I'm perfectly fine and trying to convince them we're not succeptible to the threat anymore. Telling myself that I'm safe does nothing, because I do feel perfectly safe, and it would just be ignoring the children. I have to explain them how and why we're safe, and it rarely works.
do you think the brain has a life of its own? think about it the brain creates alter personalities to escape the tramautic abuse given to an infant child and as a defence dissociates and creatss other personalities because there was no one to protect. Even then how would a child know rape is wrong because their just a child right? So do you think the brain has a life of its own and is quite seperate from us
@@sofinajannat3189 we are the life of our brain, we are our brain. With DID, the different parts of the brain cortex work independently without interfering in each other, so the thoughts, sensations and etc of a part isn't felt by the others.
@@ynntari2775 yh but because the BRAIN to protect the child creates different personas how can the brain know to protect the child? Like how would know how to do that? Similar to narcissitic personality disorder a child gets trauma and the brain decides the child wont feel shame again? Like its as if the brain does these things to protect the child but how? like a child would not know rape is wrong of course its disgusting and bad but a child wouldnt know that but the brain still does it to PROTECT THE CHILD? As if the brain itself has its own life?
@@ynntari2775 Of course abuse any child would get the feelings that abuse is wronh when its shouting and hits it creates fear but the fact the brain can do this to just protect the child? And then if you go through trauma in later childhood its like your brain shuts off defence mechanisms and just makes you a weak person sometimes I wish I could have defence mechanisms but I don’t but for some people their brain literally decides it wont let the child get hurt anymore?
@@sofinajannat3189 it doesn't do what it does with the planned intent to protect the child, it just does. Also, the brain *is* the child, all it does is trying to keep itself alive. the different areas of the brain are already born separated. In the healthy development, the areas fuse around 6 to 9 years old. But when each area is presented with severely conflicting information, like "parents give me food, I need them to like me" vs "parents want to kill me, I need to fight them", the areas are not able to integrate because the result wouldn't make sense. Also, when an area is subjected to extremely disabling trauma, the brain refuses to integrate it with the rest to avoid compromising the other areas, because the trauma impairs daily functions.
Your work is one of a kind I hope you won't ever stop doing it ❤
Thanks so much Kera! 👍🏽
@@DrTraceyMarks can you develop selective mutism as a teen because I used to be social until I hit 14 where I think I developed avoidant personality disorder. I don't think I would be able to survive like this, closed mouths never get fed 😐but sadly I can't even open my mouth because of anxiety it sucks
I was officially diagnosed in July. I've always somewhat known but I wasn't ready to face all my trauma until this year. I'm happy I came across this video and I'm happy I'm ready now to work on myself. Thank you
I love you, but what an elaborate story for, "I was pissed off and yeeted my kid across the room" 🤣
LOL! I wanted to do the full set up so you could imagine it. 😀
So you allowed your temper to get the best of you and you tooken out on your own children I'd be very careful about that because a temper could be a dangerous thing if not controlled🤔and usually we do stupid things in the heat of the moment without thinking of the cost🤔
@@nancyking-hoffman146 I don't think she was describing abuse. She didn't throw him into the wall. And if it was abuse, I doubt she be saying it in a video and It sure wouldn't be a one time event that got her a "fun" nickname.
I'm not sure what you mean by yeeted my kid across the room but with the upside down cross it can't be good that's the opposite of god above that's the sign for satan wich is really bad🤔✝️
@@AmethystWoman the upside down cross is no joking matter that's the true sign for satan and it's not a good sign to where's this person's mind is I am confused about what they really mean by yeeted🤔
This is an aside, but the "Crazy Momma" story reminds me of the unequal balance between the sexes in the household.
You were stressed and overloaded and I hope your husband took it upon himself to do better and make sure your needs are met.
Take care of yourself Dr Tracey! You're doing a fantastic job!
Wow. This is exactly what I told my therapist last week. She said “the way you explained it, is similar to what other patients have told me.”
I've just started dating a guy with did, I'm borderline, so we have both been very open about things. This video was really helpful thankyou
👍🏽 It’s brilliant that you talk about D.I.D and support our community! Thank you. However...
Personally I think dissociation IS a very adaptive way of coping and shows beautiful resilience to trauma. Without it we would not have survived as a child, our mind was resilient and adaptive by ‘creating’ separate people (parts/selves) in order to continue living. 🌻🌿
Yeah, I agree with You....also, when she says "working through trauma" it sounds so scary to "move thru the stages"😯
Thank you, I disagree with her in more than one part of this video, so upsetting I had to stop.
@@franceslarsen4037 It was a difficult watch at times. Well done for stopping when it became too much… that’s really hard to do sometimes. Hope you find other videos of other people to inspire you and resonate with 🌻🌿
@@LornaMeadow Thanks for your kind reply:). The only person I got really specific help from was a church staff that had psychologist job background) and he had to help me recognize when I was switching, I wish I was one who could understand the system better and have more clear internal communication..
This is what I keep trying to explain to people. The disorder exists for the patient, not the observer. The point is to convince the self that it's somebody else, not to convince the observer. Its not important to convince the observer. Therefore it may look like someone is faking this disorder but the point isn't to convince YOU, the observer.
6 yrs of therapy with EMDR and I now feel like a whole person.
Dr. Tracy is right. Its a huge commitment and finding the right therapist took 20 yrs.
Often times we want it to be kept hidden from the observer too.
your new hair looks amazing doc!! :D thankyou for covering this topic and further educating us all! :D
Thanks so much Chris 😊
Thank you so much for making this video. I was diagnosed with OSDD at the beginning of 2020 (what a year. haha!), and i've been progressing through Stage 1 of treatment with the help of a specialist. It helps my system to be able to see others discussing structural dissociation. It makes me feel not as alone as I'm used to feeling. Thank you again
Hi I am diagnosed DID by 3 seperate psychologists...I am a Military Veteran and a survivor of early age abuse...I have 5 distinct characters who emerge when necessary...I can not control changes...the Veterans Affairs will pay for care...but no one has enough experience to deal with my Lifetime of Trauma's...I am 54 years old and need any help...most of my life was okay, even military service kept me stable...5 years ago I broke, fugued again...now I fear losing my 2nd spouse over illness...who for I turn too...
Hi have you found someone to help you?
Crazy that you just uploaded this, I was researching this right now.
👍🏽
Dolphin man!! I am Greg, I wanna be your friend
Same
I am an aspiring author and wanted to shed light in this but wanted to make sure I did it in an appropriate way and this was incredibly helpful
I got beat downs and neglected growing up. Went through evictions and parents fighting, both in the middle of the night. I've discovered the need for me to find a 'trauma trained' therapist through this and other educational videos. I still experience neglect with my wife who does this to seemingly keep me out of her personal life. I used alcohol, which created a disaster in itself, so I went to a recovery facility for several weeks to help overcome the addiction. Now that I'm back home, I experience the same triggers and may need to leave once I get strong again. It's sad and I recall her not wanting to marry but only adopt one or two children. We have two daughters who are grown, educated and living happy lives. And now I'm toast. We live separate lives in the same house, just like HER parents did, so it's her emotional normal.
As a person with sensory processing disorder possibly plus TID and other mental health problems including autism the lack of music or anything else in this video is actually extremely helpful easier to focus on and very interesting and I love the video
Thank you so much for this video!! This needs to be shown to every doctor in the medical field. The shame that goes along with society about this topic is traumatizing . It's so hard living with it and trying to be ok and the doctors and other people who still think this is fake..shame on YOU
thank you. this is the clearest DID explanation i've ever heard.
No psychologist or therapist will take me on as a patient after my psychiatrist fired me. So I just try to deal with it as I always have. I do self harm, it keeps me safe at times from harming or unaliving myself or having one of my more violent and protective long standing alters come out and break things and say hurtful things that btw I do not get to access recall/memories of these events. Usually I snap out of it or to another regular part of me once the fit John's thrown is over. If someone triggers what is perceived as an imminent threat it can be traumatic or even dangerous to others. And he always seems to break or throw something that is very treasured by me...and it hurts me too. So I cut when I feel triggers coming, if I do in time. It stops the cycle usually. I like how you teach on this subject and look forward to more of your videos. TY very much for believing in us.
Functional multiplicity is also an end goal of treatment where all alternate personality states work in co-operation to make the system functional in everyday life. Complete integration is not the only solution.
I love the way you’ve explained this. It’s gentle, factual and very well articulated. We had DID and have come across way too many clinicians who say ‘it’s phased out’
We aren’t working towards integration though. Our goal is cohesion among parts :)
This is the most in depth explanation on DID I have ever found. Thank you so much for making this video!
Check out disassociaDID ‘s channel for more in depth understanding
This is very real, I’ve noticed this with my ex, and my sister. My sister would have gone a couple days and doesn’t remember anything she did those days she disassociated. My ex does the same. I remember one day he called me and came to me from his home. He was snapping out and frustrated and was trying to just get to me but everything was making him angry. Once he got to me and after we smoked, I literally watched him wake up. He looked around confused and asked me how did he get here with me. Me in total shock told him how and asked what did he last remember. All he remembered was going to the store for his mother. He literally couldn’t remember the entire journey to get to me. So dealing with this first hand I can tell you that this is absolutely real. I started paying attention to my ex more and I one day watched him disassociate and switch to another personality right in front of me. I realized I wasn’t always dealing with the same personality. I was dealing several different ones.
This is difficult to watch because you can't help but feel for people with this disorder. It's so hard now to even get help with any mental disorder, let alone DID. You can't just walk right in and get an appointment anymore because of Covid. You're put on a waiting list for weeks or even months. We need more mental health specialists, and health insurance needs to make it easier as well.
As someone with DID I just want to say bravo. This is one of the best videos I’ve heard about it.. its clear, concise, easier to understand and 100% accurate from my perspective/disorder at least. Thanks so much!
I find DID fascinating, I am a psy student and finished my assignment on DID.
glad u are learning about DID...I have it and had 3 mental health evaluations that said I have it. anything you want to ask me?
@@terricunningham6810 yes, what are your main reports/complaints? what did you think it was first? how much can you the host remember from your week? how do you reality test?
@@Brainjoy01 thanks for asking. I do have some memory issues since I rotate from one alter to another. I as the host remember most things..I can tell the difference between alters by the sound of their voice. I have adult alters who are similar like fraternal twins and I have child alters and one baby alter. I also have suicidal alters. So does that answer you questions? Bye
im crying right now thank you so much for your illumination .. been facing this challenge first when i learnzd about maconnery people and how they torture and abuse their children to make them become sociopath elite [...] and then sadly last year not one but TWO of my best friends showed hard signs i triggered from DID .. .. Ive learned they have been sexually abused as children, even maybe as babies and they don't have no relation w maconnery. I couldnt believe my eyes. Now i know this is very real and serious. Let's heal together
Im 20 yrs old , i zone out a lot, I didn’t have the best childhood to the point I wouldn’t even call it. Some of my memories can’t be remembered exactly regarding my past, who should i see for this?
You'll likely be recommended a psychiatrist
Dissociating is like a suction of air that you go into and it feels so good like you are being put into a warm, protective, and safe sleep....the only problem is that its all a fantasy! Go to dreamland, zone out, and then discover all of the things you did while dreaming...grounding skills are the only way and method to gaining more time and a productive life!
Have you ever thought about doing an AMA on Reddit? I think that would be awesome!
I can’t say I have because I’m not really on Reddit. But thanks for the idea I know it’s a very popular and active platform.
my best friend in the world has this! he's the host of his system n i'm friends with a lot of the alters. i know a lot about the topic bc of him but a lot of research from people without DID is so detached and cold, this was informative but very kind. wonderful video!!!
Thank you for speaking about it, very little people believe on this
If the person/s experiencing or suffering DID then it would suck to fall into a treatment that is discerning from DID.
@Andy you’re welcome 😊
I think I have OSDD. I know I am only one person but I dont feel a solid identity, I feel like different versions or parts of myself. 3 versions of myself. I think I dont have amnesia but I have emotional amnesia when I feel the change in my brain.
Some people say that is because Im genderfluid or confused, but I actually think is because multiple traumas caused by my nuclear family and the people that I love/hate. I had lost relationships, money, cant work, etc.
But almost nobody believe on this, no therapists. Where do I go?
@@Andy-wy7vk A greater grasp to your own rationale is way better than enacting upon delusions.
Take care in every relationship. Honestly is the loyalty we craft in our own minds, but so is confusion. 😐
@@Andy-wy7vk Some people are special and at the same time a little cursed as they have heightened sensitivity, this usually translates into increased emotional sensitivity and might not be exactly trauma based, but trauma can be caused gradually over long periods of time. I know miserable people and they kind of are this way from their own prolonged sense of tourcherous reasoning and guilt sharing. It's why it helps to regularly feel good without the foolery.
Plan out most daily things with a basic plan to confer to. It's good that the emotional unrest you refer to is different to amnesia. Stay connected friend/Andy. Don't betray personn' for their simple faults 🙂
Remember it can be emotional, mental, and psychological abuse as well that can cause it. My father locked me in a bathroom when I was little without explanation and I thought I was going to die. That was when I created my first alter. I was around 3 years old
This is a great explanation. I wish you hadn’t used words such as “accept” the emotions/memories as their own and “immature” coping mechanism. I accept my diagnosis of DID, which means I accept my body is shared and other people in my body have memories and experiences I didn’t live through myself. I don’t accept those memories and experiences as my own because they aren’t mine - and that has been huge for me to understand and accept the trauma we have collectively survived. Dissociation is not an immature way to deal with emotions and heavy trauma. It’s an extremely adaptive coping mechanism that focuses on survival. It is maladaptive in situations when it is not appropriate to dissociate, but it’s not immature. I really appreciate your explanation of how having many sides to one person is different from having many identities, though. I also really liked how you covered the treatment and how it focuses on safety first. I also really appreciate how you described the differences between DID and schizophrenia and BPD. About the “voices in your head”, I read somewhere that schizophrenia voices can have an external source, whereas DID ones are always internal, I’m not sure if that’s true but I thought that was interesting
this is honestly the most clear, concise & authentic understanding i've been given or heard concerning DID .. i do not have the disorder myself, but i so appreciate the way you've presented it in order to fully understand what it is, how it works & how it affects those affected .. as a black woman myself, it's nice to see diversity in the mental health space, & i appreciate ur work & ur videos from the bottom of my heart .. ❤️🙏🏾
You said everything that I needed to hear all the way up to medication won’t solve anything. 23M struggling with a lot in the old noggin right now and this really puts it into perspective for me and helps me realize other people also feel this way.
Dr. Tracey, would you consider doing a video on self diagnosis? I've been considering my past diagnosis and the possibility that they might be wrong, but for many reasons I'm unable to get good professional help. If you could do a video on things to look out for when analysing your own mental health on your own I would be very thankful. Your videos are a blessing.
I went through the prospects of 'mis-diagnosis' and 'dual diagnosis'.
I just got 'Its not as bad as we first thought' for the assessment. 😉
Professionals regret to think self diagnosis is formidable, as it's a bit like putting lit dynamite in 'the patients' own hands.... (unlike hot potatoes)
You could easily take your suspicions to a specialist in the field of that specific concern. They can narrow it down really fast if your lucky 👌
Hmmm. Let me think about that. Proper diagnosis does take training. But even if you identify a disorder in yourself. There’s the issue of treatment. Not everything responds well enough to self help
@@DrTraceyMarks well said doctor.! We are often on the outside of seeking helpful trained services. When you hear some of the stories and chance rates for misdiagnosis (institutionalization 😖), you kind of just want to crawl under a rock and hide. But if you are misleading oneself over poor advice/self diagnosis without responsible treatment by any means then some chances on the board figure as the ones better worth taking. People regularly opt for denial when the going gets tough, counteractive, harmful and greatly disappointing.
Others get 'regulated' so they'd want to be open to agreement of change.
(Sorry to hog much of your time 🙏)
Really appreciate this video. I have DID and it was due to a traumatic childhood. Learning about yourself and why your brain does what it does is scary, but necessary.
All my life I was jealous of my friends that could talked about ANYTHING with their parents. That their parents took their emotions seriously... All my life I was neglected emotionally and it's very hard to look back when your parents always told you that they loved you and all what they did was because they cared for you... I didn't really realize that I was traumatised until both of my parents died between 2018 24y/o and now, 2021 27y/o. It isn't until you've spend times with other families that you realize that your parents has copied and pasted their traumatic behaviors on you.
Now I am waiting to get a second diagnosis from a psychiatrist, in about 1 week. My first diagnosis was in 2011 for borderline personality disorder. I am very nervous knowing that it's not all of the psychiatrists that believe in that disorder...
I hope you'll be okay
Thank you.😭...for this. This is the first thing I've ever seen that explains it so thoroughly and carefully acknowledging the controversy surrounding it. I am downloading this and showing it when I have issues in the future. Unfortunately I've faced abuse from medical professionals for simply informing them that I've been diagnosed several times. We shouldn't still be bearing the burden of proving this is real when we are unsure of so much due to how symptoms of this manifests.
I am emotional with gratitude to you, Dr. Tracey Marks, for taking the time to make this video.
Thank you Doctor marks for empathetic overview of the condition. Nice to know that there are professionals that care about people struggle with this type of condition. BTW love the hair.
Me too !!
The new me 🤪
Thanks so much both of you. I appreciate you 🤗👍🏽
Ive been healing from this for a long time. I honestly thought i had cptsd. I dont see them as separate. I just see them as traumatised parts of me that need healing. In my case these "parts" cause physical auto immune symptoms". Im 80% in remission 🎉❤i dont over complicate it by defining roles or names or anying. I notice where the pain is in my body and ask why, then i have a 1-1 with that part and focus on healing her including her physical pain etc. It really works for me. sending love to anyone who has been this hurt by someone. You are a warrior ❤️
Dr Marks, I was diagnosed with CPTSD (along with bipolar and borderline personality) CPTSD makes the most sense to me. I have always had different egos with different personalities, perspectives, names, and genders. But I’ve never lost time until the other day when I lost consciousness for a few seconds and in that time I did something I would never in a million years do. I freaked out and told my therapist, he said I had a “moment of dissociation” due to situational stress. He doesn’t like to label his patients he said. Even tho I don’t identify with that behavior, I know that the dissociated ego is me. Do I have DID or CPTSD with dissociative symptoms?
Hi !! I know this comment is a bit old but I wanted to reply anyways :) I am the host of a DID system so my statements will mostly align with our personal experiences so please keep that in mind.
The fact that you have different "egos" with different personalities, including things like perspectives/opinions, names, and genders, highly suggests to me that you could be a system! The key point here is that they have major noticeable differences that you can tell them apart. This changes the game because they literally *are* different personhoods rather than you feeling a certain way because of an emotion or situation.
As for losing time, it isn't as simple as not knowing where you are in the moment sometimes. It can be having trouble remembering what you did the day before or what you had for breakfast, or not being able to remember impactful events like a family member's passing or a graduation. For us, it often manifests as feeling disconnected from the world and that things don't feel real (derealization) and sometimes that our body itself doesn't feel real (depersonalization). The fact that this dissociation has occurred throughout our whole life means that we have a very bad long term memory, so this could be a way that dissociation manifests for you that you don't really notice in the moment.
If you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them to the best of my ability! I would love to hear how you're doing, if you would like to share, and I hope you've found safety and comfort in your life
You could have OSDD-1, which is similar to DID.
This really makes me think that I did actually have did back when I used to think I did, and that I just happened to be blessed enough to come across the same ways one would treat it on my own and kind of resolved it through my own cycles of thought? A lot of those therapy styles and thought styles she mentioned are things I very deliberately taught myself to do a long time ago because I was scared that if I didn't find a way to make myself feel like a normal person again that I'd never find a friend who I could fully connect with and would forever be the anxious, panicked, and constantly confused person I was without any support system. A lot of these are a mix of things I just happened to hear about online to help with somewhat similar things I'd heard about to what i was feeling and so I figured "what's the harm in trying" and they really came to help me.
I actually talk to myself all the time. Its not like I gave myself a compliment, its like regular thing I do in any situation. I can have a conversation with myself about what I wanna do, or I talk about my feelings with myself. Its like I have this friend. I even gave it a name. Usually it happens when I’m angry, sad, happy, or when I’m alone. It might be because I only have a few friends. And I also like things that my family don’t like. Like listening to Metal songs & playing video games alone without any one bothering or disturbing me.
Im also bro
Im feared bout DID
That’s not DID
id like to add that its NOT necesarily severe sexual and/or physichal abuse, but rather severe trauma and unsafe attachment, trauma as we know it can come in many many forms and it only takes what that child perceives as traumatic while not having the support of ur principal/s caregiver/s or if that abuse/trauma comes directly from ur principal/s caregiver/s
its known that childs who are prone to dissociate (bc they need it as a coping mechanism from trauma or bc their principal/s caregiver/s were also dissociating a lot so the child learns it as a common thing to do while they're stressed)
also i love ur videos ! this one specifically is fun bc ive been diagnosed w did this year, but last year was when i started noticing most of the sypmtoms, and this video came out in my bday !! if i had seen it last year, it would have helped me understand a few more things before going to therapy :P
thank you so much for putting all of this information out for us !!
thank you, i think my mother are also dissociate a lot, to this day, she's having no friends at all outside my home, idk if she's A Narc or not, but i think she's schizoid, and i remember when iam asking what happen when she was young, she didn't remember at all about her past, i think she was dissociate a lot
I definitely understand what you mean, thanks so much for this information! It's probably totally unrelated but I dated a girl who had 5 different personalities, 1 of them was actually a fairy and even though my ex is an adult she had a personality that was a 5 year old little girl who was shy and spoke quietly. When that personality transitioned it was of that of a man who didn't like me talking to my girlfriend and was macho. She also had a personality that was a singer and I remember that personality the most because she was an amazing singer named Lucy, not my ex's real name btw. She sang beautifully on stage. Having experienced her different personalities it really gave me some great insight as to how to handle many people at once and how to adjust my behavior to that of other people. I didn't just ditch my girlfriend because of her personalities, I instead embraced all of them and loved them equally. She wasn't a complete person, however the person she truly was/is is really amazing.
Going through this right now with my boyfriend.. I love them all
@@diahandre2642 aww that's really sweet of you, it takes someone really special to be able to accept so many different ulcers at once, and yes I did accept my exes as well though I wouldn't ever call myself special lol. If you don't mind me asking what are they like?
I was sexually abused as far back as I can remember until I was 13 when I made myself strong enough to make them stop. Sadly, my mother knew and allowed it. She also was physically, emotionally, physically and mentally abusive. I would stand across the room and watch what was happening or I would fly away where I couldn’t be touched. I still have the difficulty with trying to stay within myself. I took on my Dad’s personality.
I am truly so sorry about that..seriously. Are you better now?
Alters are not "angry mama". Each alter can have their own "crazy mama" and the crazy mamas of each one will be different from each other. Each alter has their own sides and facets, they are not the same everywhere all the times or in every situation and are just as complex as any other person, excluding fragments.
Yes. Everything else in the explanation was pretty well stated. Except the angry mama example. This sounds like we all get angry except that people with DID have an alter with anger that can't connect with the others so most likely can't control it. Which is so not true. More stereotyping for the DID community.
She said that "angry mama" is NOT DID. She used it as an example of what DID is not, not what it is.
An alter is just a SENSE of identity as per scientific literature 🤪
thanks a lot for covering this disorder! It really helps to know what DID includes and what a possible therapy is, as well as that you need a specific therapist. You really helped me learn something everyone should know!
Speaking of biases. I've been trying to explain how I feel and what happens and the memory gaps, the people in my head, etc for a bit. I recently saw a psychiatrist that had an extreme bias and completely wrote everything off that I had said and said I'm having hallucinations of all kinds. Well, during the whole time I started to panic, get scared, and angry.... I don't personally remember the ending of the appointment except for what I was told. I guess one of my people, who has anger issues, just made the ending as awkward and uncomfortable as possible... but he also declined a medication suggestion. When I went to my primary, she mentioned the medication he declined and I just stared at her and she said "you look like you have no idea about this" and yeah. I refused to see that psychiatrist again, met a new one and he actually listened and asked questions.
I do take that medication that was suggested and it didnt get rid of the people in my head, it did get rid of the music auditory hallucinations
how you cope with those auditory hallucinations, mine was come only at stressful situations....
what your psychiatrist say about your hallucinations?
@@Peanuts76 i took the medication for some time but it affected my antidepressant so i had to stop taking it. The auditory hallucinations relatively stopped, the only auditory things I hear now are incoherent whispers occasionally. Usually those are created by the sounds fans make (if that makes sense?)
Edit;
Sorry i didnt even answer your question. Depending on what I was hearing... music was just slowly trying to "forget" im hearing it... as for voices, I try to identify the sounds around me... like "that is the sound of a fan", "thats just the sound of the refrigerator", etc
@@drmorpheus2311 i do had those hallucinations in the past, especially those thoughts kind a like wavy sounds that make me having hard time to sleep, and it was like 2016 or 2017 i got those auditory hallucinations, it's annoting it makes ke insomniac....
@@drmorpheus2311 when im still awake like this, i cant hear any of those.....
but when i go to sleep, when the rooms is silence, i can hear my hallucinations, and it accompany with some kind of random image, everytime i close my eyes, idk if this is called maladaptive dreaming or something, but i always lost myself when i close my eyes.....
perhaps it is a part of severe depression....
I really need to say a BIG THANK YOU Dr. Tracey. Some months ago, simple but powerful techniques and explanations you teach in some of your videos, give me the tools I needed to control symptoms of a depression that I have been treating for some time with meds, but that I could not solve, and that bothered me a lot, intrusive thoughts among others things. Thanks to your tips I was able to better control anxiety and I got better until today cause I can control crises more easily. REALLY, a BIG THANK YOU. God Bless You. Cheers from Brazil.
Love your videos, Dr. MARKS! You are one amazing lady 💜 I have learned a ton from you! I have a 1 week old baby girl & I value your videos cause I wanna teach her healthy coping skills/ways to manage difficult emotions. I want her to be strong.
Excellent Wren. Keep watching
I love you Dr. Marks! so refreshing to see your educational videos available for the public. They are much appreciated by me and so many other loved ones.
my friend has this and now I can understand them yesss
Yes this is important to know. I don't have DID, but I have dissociating tendencies. Very spotty memories in trauma situations. Like only flashes. I have different aspects of self but I am aware of them. I'm always present. I do at times more easily "zone out" now. When my biological father would beat me, for example, I don't remember it as first person. In my recall, I am just watching it. Like a third party. I think there's a spectrum to this like many other mental diagnoses.
Yay. Imma sub now. We are an undiagnosed system but we like to say it can be any trauma ours is emotional
Thank you 😊
@@DrTraceyMarks np
Wow...this video really put DID into perspective. I find DID to be fascinating but I couldn’t make good sense of the disorder...Dr. Marks has really allowed me to get a grasp on what DID is and how DID is developed. M ugh heart goes out to anyone living with DID; not so much because of the disorder - mostly because of the circumstances that forced the development of DID...simply heartbreaking.
Thanks DR. marks for this extremely informative and enlightening video.
your hair looks amazing❤❤💖💖
yes so cool, also the color!
Thanks a lot Jayden 👍🏽
Loved your hair! And also, loved the video too! It is very satisfying to see how much effort you put into details.
But I do have a question: how does the differential diagnosis between DID and psychotic symptoms of illnesses such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder works? I have a friend who recently went on hospitalization due to a psychotic outbreak but before receiving a BD diagnosis, some psychiatrists specullated about her having DID and it kinda made sense since she went through a very tough childhood
Women are also misdiagnosed with BD, but a traumatic childhood would make sense for BD too bc it may have been traumatic to have an untreated family member with this illness (it is often genetic). I would urge the friend to also look at it from a hormonal imbalance standpoint bc women’s periods can cause issues like PMDD if her issues tend to have a monthly pattern like mine. Adhd, OCD (or OCPD), and anxiety are often co-existing conditions too that do have a significant impact on mood if going untreated and many women go Misdiagnosed for adhd. Hopefully family history could help narrow it down and also the mania + depression (and often sleep deprivation) typically follows a consistent pattern after adolescence. Just make sure she knows that there are successful treatments. It’s not as hopeless as it might feel!
@victorcarnaval dissociation really isn’t frankly psychotic. It can get close, but The separation from reality is not the same as having hallucinations or delusions like you see with schizophrenia. As disorganized thinking or behavior. That’s not a characteristic of DID. If you didn’t already see it I did a video breaking down schizophrenia here ruclips.net/video/QIYW9JjZ-Os/видео.html
I'm taking Abnormal Psychology right now and I wanted to understand DID a bit better so I knew just where to go. Dr. Marks you are a bad ass! Thank you so much for what you do. :)
This term crazy momma I heard before it really means out of control or loose cannon type of person it's when a temper goes out of your control I'm not sure where the term crazy momma came from but it can fit anyone who loses there temper(Male or female)🤔
I just get called an arsehole more or less.
They are attempting to provoke my anger.
Generally I'm just a Coolcat 😹❄🌤
Wow. The BEST explanation vidéo tbh!!.
Everything is clear and easy to understand
I watched a lot of video and tbh I really love this one and I will share it xd
This is super informative. I'd love your view/ professional info on dissociative amnesia. I think I have that as a result of childhood trauma. Large portions of my life are missing. Like most of my own life I know through other people telling me stories or fragments of memory flashes. I mean I'm aware of much of what happened but I lack any personal connection to or memory of it. But I was diagnosed with C PTSD by 7 and from what I know this lack of personal memory could be a result of that.
Hi fairy face. Dissociative amnesia is a real thing that is also one of the disorders that result from trauma. People can have isolated episodes where it happens for one period of time. And others can experience it multiple times. Aside from therapy, hypnosis is one of the interventions that’s recommended for it.
@@DrTraceyMarks that makes sense. The best way I can describe it is a coping tool. My brain just refuses to remember when under high stress or trauma. I guess its like how can ya be traumatized if ya cant remember the event? But my brain became so adapted to it that it happens in non traumatic settings too now.
@@JaceReboot I'm just now finding this video and you described it perfectly. This is so difficult to explain to other people. But what you shared is exactly how it is for me and I'm just now realizing this at 28 and my trauma/ depression is from my early teens. Thank you for your honesty 🖤 I hope you're making strides in reconnecting with yourself
I really appreciate that the background is not white and red anymore 😊😊 finally peace of mind 🥰
I have a lot symptoms of this disorder and it's scary... Though I know I was mentally and i guess physically abuse when I was younger but those memories are gone now I think about it. I always have these " thoughts " and they always talk to me but I thought it was just me and being paranoid. Sometimes whenever I " see " him ( my abuser ), I get super anxious and that's when I feel like I'm in a dream, soon after that, I feel light and feel disconnected from my body and next you know, I feel like I just woke up like some sort of bad dream and getting horror headaches because of that. I tried explaining it to my mom how I feel like when this happens, she called me crazy and just have demons in my body that I let in. I'm 13 with depression and anxiety with anxiety tics. I was almost convinced i was possessed.
Hey hun ❤️
I'm 21 and I'm diagnosed with this.
I was abused when I was younger too, and had to be around my abuser too. I'm sorry you're having to live like that. It really is terrifying, youre so strong for being able to do that. I promise you, you wont have to see him forever. I know 21 might sound old to you, but looking back, highschool went by so fast, and life outside of school and family is more amazing than I could have imagined. You will get away. I promise you.
Those feelings youre describing do sound like dissociation. If you can, try keeping a note on your phone of your symptoms, when they happen, and what triggered them. By doing that you can get a better idea of whats happening and understand yourself better. I'd also recommend starting a journal where you keep track of what you did that day and your symptoms. If you want, you can also try and talk to yourself in your head and write out whats happening. Thats how I started learning to communicate with my friends in my head ;)
I PROMISE YOU, you are not possessed. At 13, religion might seem like the only truth in the world, but science is just as real as God. You know whats happening inside you, so don't let other people try and tell you that they know better. You are so so so so strong. I have been right where you are hun, 13 is a scary age to be. You have so much growth and change ahead of you. You will escape your abuser(s), you will feel heard and seen and loved, you will feel hope ❤️ Don't give up. You've come this far, I believe in you. Let me know if you have any questions/need any more help :)
@@freethegays This is the perfect response. There should be more like you,
@@freethegays awe!! Thank you ^^ ✨💖
I definitely needed this, I hope you're having a better life :")
hey, at your age, i also suffer just like you, with those dissociations, i was abused too when i was at your age.....
i suggest you try to find support in your family, tell your story and even let out your fear and your trauma, if you had theraphist is better.....
idk about journaling, as I've never tried to journal my thoughts and what happen in the past, but i still dissociation and sometimes hallucinations, something still triggers me, even when im in my room, i still paranoia at something....
im calmed down now ...
This is the best explination I have ever heard! Thank you sooooo much!!! This video helped me sooooo much! 💗💗💗💗💗 After years of suspecting that I had this I am now 95% sure that I do. Now I just need my psychiatrist to just confirm (because I never told her I suspected it because I wasn't sure) and help me find a good therapist. PS/FYI I have been diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD.💗
I am blessed to have had a great family and childhood, but this video really has a lot of helpful information for people. Thank you so much for all you do!
Your video is an extremely high quality that delivers this information in my opinion extremely well and you do not have enough views for the quality so I’m sharing immediately thank you for this and your others and pls continue to create and educate
Dissociative identity disorder usually occurs in people who experienced overwhelming stress or trauma during childhood. Children are not born with a sense of a unified identity; it develops from many sources and experiences.👍
Very true 👍🏽
Wrong
With that exemple, you made it seem like people with DID "create" a different alter ego just so they're not blamed by their wrongdoings, as in "it was X who did it", instead of the brain creating a new consciousness to deal with all extremely heavy memories of a given prolongued Trauma while you live your life eating and sleeping without knowing that this trauma occurs.
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and you make it ssem like everything is intentional and made out of malevolence. We actually, seriously and very really don't feel the emotions that belong to our alters, it's not like we feel these emotions and pretend we don't, I actually can't feel any of the extremely excrutiating grief and despair my alters reasonably have about heavy traumas that happened to them. It's not like I "don't accept these emotions as mine", I'm completely dissociated from these emotions. That's the whole point of the disorder, this way they can deal with these emotions without having to deal with society and survival tasks, and I can deal with society and survival tasks without having to deal with these emotions. And their emotions are not pretended, I don't think it's reasonable to always assume people are pretending everything they talk about and genuinely don't seem to have any control over.
All alters still exist when they're not controlling the body, and I have no control or consciousness of what they're doing, but they are doing stuff, they have their lifes, we have lifes outside of you, external world.
Doc I think a lot of people with Asperger's have been abused BECAUSE they have it, and others try to abuse, shame, deprive or confine them out of it. I think they could also experience dissociation. I'd like to hear your view on this.
I think I might be on the autism spectrum, and I’d say or do things that I wasn’t supposed to do when I was young, and my parents would get really mad. I couldn’t handle all the emotions and sensory input so I’d just, remove myself. I still experience it when I’m in an emotionally stressful situation, though to varying degrees. And it frustrates me because I feel like I have so many missing gaps in my life. Like this year, something really emotionally stressful happened in June, and I barely remember it, except the times where I was needed by the person I loved at the time. And I went digging back to remember what happened and had to stop because it was so overwhelming. I wish I could get a diagnosis but I’m scared of what my parents will think.
@@Jana-ho9mu Aspies and people in shock may experience the same overwhelming sensory overload. If you are old enough, you can get the diagnosis and not tell them if you don't want to. A thought: be where you love and where you are loved. If love is your best memory connection, you'll have more memory. :)
@@mgd6087 idk if I can get a diagnosis alone at 14
This is so informative and really dissects the information. Your personal story and the constant examples you give really help to seperate the differences. I know with mental health there can be so many overlaps in symptoms, but you clearly show the differences when you explain. I just stumbled onto this page, but you seem like such a kind, smart individual. Thank you, really.
I also feel like the way you talked about the third step was like the host was the original, and that all others are just appendages. This belief only exists merely because the host is the one you see the most, so you think this one is the "normal" one. But hosts change all the time, because alters are all equal in the brain. the host is the one most suited to deal with the survival tasks at that period of life.
Also, it's common for abused and traumatised people to think they're inferior to others, and this becomes a trauma on its own. It's very hard to feel like you're equal to others and just as deserving, important and worthy as everybody else. Telling alters that they're just an alter ego invented by someone else will definitely not help anyone to recover from trauma. And also, it's not true. Even if they were this at the moment of their creation, they are people, and they build up their own identities as they deal with more and more experiences, going farther and farther from who they were at the moment of their creation, people grow, people change, people build themselves, and everyone becomes a person just as valid and real as other people.
Probably the best straightforward and informative video I have seen on DID
Ironic that it turns out I'm watching it a second time without remembering that I already have :D
Would you care to elaborate on the term intergration and what that looks/ feels like. Some say all the fragments become one. Others say the fragments become aware of each other and learn to work as one team. Have also been told, that since the brain has a pattern of fragmenting, a future trauma could result in another fragment or, 'unfragmenting' the system.
I've studied that if there are enough facets the less significant ones disappear.
Maybe the mind will route them together and in the event of a fresh traumatic experience becomes counteracted with a stronger defense mechanism, mental certainty.
Rubbish or food for thought? 🙄
Everyone’s brain is going to be different bc everyone’s trauma is SO different.
@kj In general integration is having the fragments of yourself become aspects of your core personality and not seen as separate entities to themselves. It doesn’t happen at once and you can have a partial integration with some of the alters. It’s also a long process. So as you progress along your journey you can have setbacks like another alter appearing wile you are extinguishing others.
@@DrTraceyMarks Catch 22, as you improve from DID its likely people/friends can't recognise various aspects about yoir character parts after they become 'integrated'.
Sure doctor, it's a better enhanced you through recovery and not a different you as some might expect.
you're an immense service to the populace i really admire and love you and your work Miss Tracey thank you
Great video Doc. Thank you. Also, love your hairstyle!
Thanks a lot 😊❤️
Thanks for this, I've been trying to better understand how my significant other's mind works. Very helpful.
I have a diagnosis of ADHD and your video on procrastination brought me back 😂
First comment i love you you helped me a lot
I was first actually 🥳
@@dolphinman9896 oh i didn't see it sorry i just saw you're comment
@@ghostlogan7089 nah its okay bro, I was just joking anyways
I built this meditation as part of a method to keep myself whole, The key to my meditation method is the perfect visualization of a container with a lock or latch that holds it closed. Use a container you know immensely well, like you know how it feels inside and outside(to the point of being able to imagine the textures) you know how it looks and any flaws chips or cracks in its construction, you just know every little detail that makes up this container. I have found that every person has at least one container they can do this with to perfection(I use a big green wm trash receptacle myself.)
once you have this perfect image of a container this method of meditation has a variable element depending on how you think I think in text so I convert thoughts and feelings into words but for others I have taught pictures or imagined vocalizations of the words depending on how they think. Keep this in mind as I describe my method
I take my perfect image of the container and imagine it opening. once I have the image of the open perfect container I begin pouring my thoughts feelings and physical sensations into it, the longer you spend doing this and the more specific you get the more effective this form of meditation gets. A side note as you practice my meditation method this gets easier to finish and happens faster. after 20 years of practice in my form of meditation I can accomplish total emptiness in seconds.
once you have every little thought feeling and sensation you can track down in the container close the container and latch or lock it and "push" or "place" it off to the side in your mind. with this completed you will be left with a beautifully blank mind(feels like pure bliss everytime i do it even after 20 years) with the blank state of mind in place I started out by counting 1,2,3,4 breath in count 1,2,3,4 (this part is important and increases the effectiveness of this method at least three-fold as you advance) after you breath out and before you breath in make another count 1,2,3,4. doing this counting method helps you keep absolutely blank and slows your heart rate. as you get comfortable with counting to 4 on every breath move the whole method to counting to 8 then to 12 then to 16 etc.( I myself am up to 30 and at 30 I have been able to set off heartrate monitors at the hospital with them thinking I was going into arrest and sending in a nurse.)
After you reach a 12 count comfortably you can build a setting in your mind to meditate in. I use the image of sitting at the base of a giant oak tree with a river flowing around it on each side. with the setting in place continue counting in the newly built setting. Once you can maintain the image without disturbing the box my meditation method gets so zen it's too amazing for words. ~~ as a side note I believe that the reason this method helps me not fall into my pieces is that it's easier to come back to being your core self from a serene empty place, also practice I have focused on reaching the meditative state faster and faster accurately, at this point I can disarm one of my bad dissociative breaks in around 10 minutes.~~
oh, Dr. Tracy...this video is so vital to me today. my husband has DID and is currently in an episode where the alter who has addition issues is in control.
this alter appears to be a teen who is acting out due to the childhood abuse, but also acts in a way similar to RAD, is very rebellious and does things that are polar opposite to the man I married.
at the time of this writing, I have had no communication with my husband for over a week and don't know where he is.
when he was core, he wanted to be microchipped in an effort to not repeat an episode similar to what happened in 2013. we were told that microchipping humans was 'unethical', but how ethical is it to allow a part of self to harm the 'others'? there is not shared memory between the parts, which is another reason the cycles continue.
prayers are appreciated.
Maybe get him a tech watch, they have tracker apps, if it's one he really likes the look of, his altars are unlikely to discard it. Sending you some love, I hope you have the support you need to be the great caring partner it seems like you are right now.
The alters need to know each other ... there might be an alter that in DID is called "the persecutor" . Often is a trauma holder.
@@johnh.1057 you're correct in saying there is one that holds the trauma, which is the keeper of the memories. this is the one we call the Anti-Michael because it's does whatever my husband doesn't want to do. I tried to explain that as long as one holds the memories, it also has power over the others. I'm still trying to wrap my head around all this, 6 years after the first episode that I experienced.
I can't imagine what it would be to 'wake up' and not remember vast amounts of time; the episode in 2013 lasted 9 months.
trying to explain this to health/mental health professionals is exasperating. no one can see someone for 30-60 minutes and notice the differences in alters.
those of us who live with Michael do see the differences. there are changes in manner of speak, word usage, even the laughs are different.
I've challenged 'professionals' online over the years that say DID doesn't exist to come live our lives for a week.
haven't had any takers to date.
@@juxtaposition22 thank you so much for your support; loved ones are the invisible sufferers of mental health issues.
as to the tech watch, it would be pawned when the Anti-Michael is in control.
thanks for the suggestion!
There many videos in youtube about this subject... if you want, you can go to DissiociDiD page, she explains everything you need to know . Or The Entropy system as well ...
I am reading Sum of My Parts by Olga Trujillo so I wanted to get a good explanation of DID and this is super helpful, thank you.
hello doctor, could you talk about recent research that happened here in brazil and also in the usa of how oprobiotics have reduced depression and anxiety and about the gut-brain axis, These are very promising studies . Thank you and a warm hug from Brazil.
Thanks for the suggestion Marcello. I touch on the gut brain connection a little bit in A video I have coming up in several weeks. But I could do a spinoff video going into more detail about the use of probiotics in depression. I’ll add this to my list.
I really like the way you are offfering very rational, sober solutions.
I really enjoy your videos & how you give insight into so many facets of these mind pathologies. One of the fantasy fiction book series I enjoyed in high school dealt with some very heavy subjects like DID. It of course added in some fictional bits & pieces (elves & magic), but the main child character in one of the books developed DID from abuse. It's so heartbreaking to imagine anyone having had to suffer through that kind of trauma & then having to suffer a disorder their body developed trying to protect itself. I'm so glad there are people like yourself giving people in these situations some helpful information & helping some of the rest of us understand more of what's going on with these individuals.
My abuser, was my mother….a malignant narcissist 💔💔. She lied to my father daily and he believed everything she told him about me. So, he pushed me aside labeling me, “a bad kid”. I was the scapegoat of the family.
Nice hair! 😊
Thank you Saipirun 😊👍🏽