Dear Young Girls...Learn From The BAD Times | Divorce & Debt
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
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I thought of this last night, Joyce Meyer has said, "Don't be jealous of someone else if you aren't willing to do what they have done to get where they are."
Amen yes 👍 do the work they did to get there 🙌 🙏
Thank you so much, love that!! 💗 Lisa
Love this quote! Thank you 😊
I love when women share life experience and wisdom, it's so helpful.
I was 14 and my husband was 17 when we started dating. We got married when I was 17 and he was 20. He had joined the Army, so we moved to New York, where he was stationed and we were poor! But, we were happy! We grew up together in our marriage and I was lucky to have a wonderful, caring husband. We went through hard times, but we got through it and had 3 wonderful sons and recently a grandson! You’re so right that you have to have the same vision to make the marriage work. This was a great video, Lisa!
Love this! Same here I was 16 when I met my husband we got married when I was 18 we were very poor for a lot of years ! Now we’re self employed for 28 years have two wonderful boys and a wonderful marriage of 37 years! And still going strong 💪 it wasn’t easy in fact very hard at times ! But we’ve always had the same vision for what we wanted and both sides of the family had the same values !
Lili King love this ! 💕it sure is a wonderful feeling! 💕
My husband of 12 years left me 2 weeks ago. I’m at the crying and anger stage. However, I understand I picked someone who was never on the same page as me. What resonated with me the most was that I must choose qualities first, I can’t fall for someone who is just available to fill this void or fall for someone’s looks before I get in too deep emotionally. I needed this. I will 100% wait now. And if I never find that, so be it. Thanks Lisa ❤️
When I realized I needed to find a man that was marriage material.....I said “I am looking for someone who I would be proud to say is my brother”......that encompasses a lot of requirements......So hard to find!!!
@@whereisleigh that is so true,, my ex husband used to call my brothers “soft”. I asked him why, because they are kind and gentle. That’s what I will look for next ❤️
I’m so sorry!! ❤️😚
Ash, I'm so sorry. Wish I could hug you 🤗
Will say a prayer 🙏 for you now.
I’m sorry. I had exactly the same happen to me. Very gut wrenching. I went to work on myself truly living on purpose. Even hired a marriage coach. My ex ultimately still decided to divorce me anyway. Yet I was in a much better place than when he left. He was very remorseful but I quickly moved on afterwards, had fun, and found the perfect guy. I’m remarried.
“I deserved him”- this resonated with me. The statement has nothing to do with entitlement. You chose well. I can relate.
Wish I was younger to go back. I made exact mistakes you did but had kids so tried to hang in there fir them. But when youngest said mom don't be miserable just for me I realized it hurt him more in a fake marriage. Now youngest in college. He would love me find my nice one finally. I think just too old. Later fifties
You hit the nail on the head. It's all relative. Something I've learned is to never compare to others, we all have our own journeys of ups and downs. Some of the most content people I've known are truly happy with who they are, each blessing they have and not comparing their lives to others. Lisa I know you want to please us all, but remember you won't ever please everyone no matter how hard you try. Just try to be content and do what you want...the people that don't like it, well shrug them off because they aren't worth your time. Over the years I've watched you, you've always been such a sweet soul and that shines through and keeps me coming back. Unfortunately, some don't like that and want to try to do all they can to snuff out that sweetness and turn it into something ugly. Keep being you and only please yourself, the right people worth your time will stick around! xo
I love this, Holly! This is the way I try to live my life.
Thank you so much, I will remember this!! 🥰😘
So true! Love you, Lisa!
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Please stop listening to those trolls, delete there are so many more of us that know who you are and are grateful for this channel, your message is good, but the trolls will always find something it’s not you it’s them. God Bless
This type of video is my favorite Lisa thank you for sharing your life and thoughts with us. Oh, and also your weight loss journey is something that I enjoy you inspired me to live a healthier lifestyle ♥️🙏🏻
I came across this video at the exact right time (in my life)...I am 29 and everything you explained about growing, dating, money and making wrong turns (and plenty of stupid mistakes) is exactly where I am/leaving behind now. Sometimes I feel like realising all these dumb mistakes I have made with money and dating (especially) at this age of 29 is so late, but I try to be nice to myself and remind myself everyone is on a different journey. I also currently do that dumb thing of paying of a credit card....then using it to buy shoes lol. But I am trying to be better. I have dated soooooooo many losers (for lack of a nicer word :) ) and now I am the stage of my life where I would rather be alone than stuck with someone I don't trust/see myself with in the long term. I have realised a lot about myself in the past 2 years (had a kinda epiphany/quarter life crisis when I turned 27) but I STILL feel so lost about parts of my life now!
Sending you a big hug! ❤️ it’s better to be sad alone and slowly feel better than someone hurting you over and over! 😘
These are my most favorite videos you do!!!! It is so nice that you share the wisdom you’ve gained so that others can learn from your experiences! 🥰
Lisa I never had a mother to learn from her but for some reason I always feel that by watching and listening to you!! You tach me a lot of things you genuine and very loving with very warm voice and beautiful accent! Thank you for filling some of the void I have!! I am fallowing your makeup tips and fashion picks because I do want to look beautiful like you one day!! Thank you for your video I learned a lot from it ❤️❤️❤️
Lisa, you are the best and deserve every bit of happiness and success ❤️
I made the same mistake as you except I was 32 when I got married and stayed married to the wrong person for a decade. I am stuck with him now because we have a son. Two years divorced and 44 next week, it is so difficult to find a good man. I hope with all my heart the young girls listening will take Lisa's advice to heart. Never ever ever settle! You don't have to!
Hi Lisa, I just wanted to say Thank You! This video has truly lifted a weight from my heavy heart after a year of feeling sheer sadness. I am 28, have been separated from my husband around 14 months and in the process of selling our beautiful first home. I am back living with my amazing, supportive parents (who like yours insisted I came home.. even long before we separated). I ended up leaving with a bag and my dog. I pushed so many red flags and feelings aside with the hope that things would get better to the point we went through with getting married. I came to realise after what seemed like forever of trying to work out such a toxic relationship that I was simply not happy anymore. Like you once felt the feeling of embarrassment.. still now I feel totally embarrassed that I am going backwards in life and I’m slowly trying to rebuild my confidence. I feel hopeful watching your video today because I know that better days are coming. I have been a (silent)subscriber of yours for many many years and love watching your videos especially your GRWM's. Your children and husband are blessed to have you. You truly deserve each other and everything you have. Take care xx💕
Hi Lisa, I hope you’re able to see this. I love these types of videos from you. I’m enthralled with you sharing the lessons you have learned along the way. I’m currently 35 years old starting again. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing the not so “good times”. I’m looking forward to more videos like these from you. Hope you’re having a nice day.
The advice on marriage has hit home with me. I know you’re talking to women but I find it to be very sobering.
Thank you , Lisa
Never apologize for your blessings. We all have a story that no one knows completely. 🙏
My husband taught me that another’s success does NOT mean you have failed. Enjoy your success, beautiful Lisa. You deserve it. And we all get to benefit 😘
You’re my role model... I love this... Thank you!💖
I love when you do videos like this, we all can learn something from them! Thank you!
The words that stuck out to me were: settling, fitting in , listen to your parents and talking to God; great video. You paid your dues for sure and I’m glad you have happiness now.😀
Thank you, Edie 🥰
Yes!!! Settling. Don't settle for less!👍
Lisa, this is what it boils down to for me; this is YOUR RUclips channel to do what you want to do with it. Your words were “I want to shop for everyone...I want to show everyone something that would make them happy”. That is EXACTLY what you do, so honestly I go back to what I typically comment on your videos like this; you do what you want to do and if people want to criticize then ignore it. I also love that you choose to be happy. I love how you can demonstrate how you’ve learned and grown from your experiences, whether they might have been negative or positive. Such an inspiration. It’s so incredible that you shared all of that detail of what lead you to move home with your parents...I hope the right people watch your video because so so many people end up down that road and it’s important to hear that you can come back from that.
So glad you decided to post this video. I can relate to how you grew up when you talk about your parents and grandparents. Love how open you are. Keep doing just what you are doing. Also, loved the weight loss videos.❤️
Life Coach Lisa coming through with some truth bombs today! This message hit so close to home and I’m just grateful that you are courageous enough to use your platform to hopefully help someone make better decisions. The part where you said that the feeling of not owing anyone and it is a long lasting feeling was such a light bulb moment. Thank you! 💜 Ella
After my divorce I made a short list of qualities I needed in a man. It takes a long hard look at yourself to find out what it is you need. I married that man that fit all my qualifications and we were happy and in love for 25 years until his death last year. Lisa, when you firmly took credit for finding John you were absolutely correct! YOU did that! That's an accomplishment for having done the groundwork.
Thank you SO much, Marsha!! I can tell you "get it"!! I am so sorry for your loss! 🥰 Lisa
You are an amazing role model in so many ways. You know pain from your past and give good advice how to get forward. You are an entertaining good communicator. Also as a young woman it is great to hear a mature woman who is not bitter and burnt out like so many women are. Thank you!
Amen, sister, amen. Don't even hang around men who don't have the same values as you. I had to go through two unhappy marriages and get into my 30s before I figured out that it was okay to want what I wanted and not settle for less. Of course much of that was because of the horrible home in which I grew up. I love that you're trying to get this across to young women today.
Thank you for be so open. We really appreciate it ❤️
I love watching your videos for your sense of style for fashion & beauty but this one just might be my all time favorite! I just love how REAL (sincere, honest & truthful) you are about your life. Every female needs to hear this, especially young girls. I think you & John are blessed to have each other! I know your parents must be so proud of you! Thank you for being YOU! ❤️❤️❤️
I love when you do these sit down talking videos you give great advice I just love hearing your life experiences and the lessons you’ve learned along the way thanks Lisa 😊💕
Lisa~ I am so happy I came across your page. You are so brave to share with the world. I love how authentic you are with your mistakes. We all make mistakes. I’m sure you have helped many people with this video. Your happiness makes me happy. Thank you and enjoy your evening .
I am in my early 40’s and divorced and in a dating relationship now. You said so many nuggets that I needed to hear and keep in mind before getting married again. Thanks for making this video❤️.
You are beautiful, and honest, and so entertaining! You speak the simple truth, and you have a great sense of humor. I love you!!!!!
Thank you so much, Denise! 💖 Lisa
This is why I love you, your channel. You know there will always be nay Sayers or trolls who are ungrateful for the advice, recommendations and info that you provide here and that's their loss. Personally I love shopping at Walmart or Target for basics and then splurging on myself on a "luxury item." I relate you you because I'm the exact same way with bags or shoes. I like shopping at Walmart or Target for basics. Don't let anyone make you feel bad keep doing exactly what you want because it's your channel and your time being invested. You don't have the following you have for nothing. I love that I can come to your channel and and it's the best of both worlds. There aren't many channels that combine both the way you do. Don't give up!!
I remember after my first husband and I divorced- I didn’t make enough money to survive so I would use credit cards to buy toiletries. My roommate came up with the bright idea for me to buy a bunch of bedding at one store and return it at another location so I could use the cash to pay my rent. I got 4 jobs and made arrangements with the creditors when they called- thankfully I followed through. It was tough. I had only 1 contact lens so my vision was blurry and the steel belt was showing on my tires so I couldn’t travel to see my family but I was proud to say I paid off all my debt and my car 6 months early. It built my character- that’s for sure. I do remember My dad surprised me with a card that had $500 in it, though! He wanted me to move home but my step mom- uh, no, I wouldn’t have been welcome. Bless my dad, he still doesn’t realize.
My lord I felt this one. I understand the dad snd the stepmom thing and often wonder where my life would be if my dad chose a better life partner for his EXISTING family. He didn’t choose that person, and realizes it, but now has two children under the age of 16 that he’s put hisself in the situation to care for and wants to follow through for them, which is in the end a solid choice. And his wife has helped him in certain ways and he’s no spring chicken to go through the whole dating thing and start over AGAIN! I love my little brothers, and I feel great joy for them that they too get to enjoy such a wonderful father... especially since their mother is sub par. Bless our dads, but mine too, “still doesn’t realize” sooo many things!!!! I’m so glad you’re doing well, and you’re right, the tough times build character. 💕
Well spoken from the heart! This subject is very relatable to me. I will never be ashamed of being dirt poor or financially successful. I’ve learned how to be happy either way. 💜💜
I hope lots of young single girls listened to this. Such wise words! Great video Lisa!❤️
Hey Lisa! When you speak from your heart, the random paths are really pay dirt! xo Diane
Lisa you were so open and honest in this video. Thank you. You really don’t need to explain yourself to us but I get it ...there’s a lesson to be learnt. Have a wonderful day and just keep doing what you do💕
Perfectly said!
Amen Lisa. Well said. 🙏🥰
Thank you💗
Long time sub who never comments. What you said about not pretending truly resonated with me. I was head over heels for a long time with a guy who wanted a real manly man type boyfriend. Sad to say, even though I'm 6 ft5 with a bear belly to boot, I am not even close to manly. It didn't work out because he didn't want me, who I am. Which is really such a blessing... like you were saying it will never work out unless they want you for who you truly are. On top of that, being oved for someone that your not is not really being loved at all, is it?
As an older woman (67) I can look back and see that I am living the consequences of my choices. You should have a shape of a plan and a direction you would like to go otherwise you will bounce around. I like how you called 19-25 the formative years. This could not be more true!! I was married at 19 and divorced at 26. No one should marry before they are at least 25 years old. You don’t know sh__ from shinola until you are 25 or 26. The sad part is - you think you know everything! Hugs to you Lisa on unplugging and hitting some raw subject
It's as though we have lived the same life. This video really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing.
This was so fantastic-thank you for being so real and authentic. I want to share with all my kids too. Such godly wisdom. Thank you thank you thank you. You definitely spoke from your heart and I thank you.
I watch most of the videos, but these are my favorite.
Yes same
Same.
Thank you for being you 😌 here on RUclips! God bless you! 😊
You can talk about ANYTHING and shop ANYWHERE. I love all your videos even if I wouldn't buy every single thing you like/buy. We are all unique and different and I love that. I will never own a pricey handbag and I'm 100% fine with that but I still watch every second of those types of videos. I'm not that self-absorbed that I expect all videos to be FOR ME!! I also enjoy watching you get things YOU LOVE and seeing your joy!! I wish those people would get out of their narrow minded brains!
Love you Lisa! Just the way you are!!
More women need to discuss money openly. Financial autonomy is the key to choice as a woman.
Lisa, I binge watched some of your videos today and this one spoke to my heart. I'm in my late 30s, going through a divorce, and life has never felt so sad as it does now. This gives me hope beyond anything you could imagine. Thank you!
I love your heartfelt videos. You really inspire and help so many.
You’ll never know how much I appreciate these videos and the sage wisdom you share. I’m sharing this with my friend who just left her boyfriend of many years who she loved but knew their lives were going in different directions. You are such a gem!
Lisa, I have watched you for about eight years, and I have NEVER been more proud of the woman I watch!!! We have such similar stories. When you talked about paying the amount due just so you could turn around and spend it again, I said, "Oh my gosh!!!! I thought I was the only one who did that!!!" I hope every woman who watches this learns from it. I certainly did!
Lisa thank u so much for this share ❤🙏 You are my inspiration 🌻 My story was the other way around... a great job and a perfect husband who unfortunately died when I was just 22 years old. A few years later got married again, had the most beautiful daughter. Lost my job and got divorce when she was 5. All my life as been a struggle and today I am at that point where I don’t answer my phone anymore... but I haven’t lost my faith yet. I belive sun will shine in my path again 🌞
Gosh these videos of yours are my favorite. Your stories touch my heart. So meaningful. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.
I’m 48. I’ve been with the same guy for 21 years this year! It’s not always been easy, we’ve struggled when we were young and just starting out and are blessed that our hard work has us where we are today. You’re 💯 right though we deserve the goodness that we’ve chosen. Life is tough and some lessons are learned the hard way, but they make us better and stronger!
Love the videos. I can relate to many struggles. Personally love being 49 confident and don't miss the struggles of young adulthood
I want to thank you so much for posting this video. I know sometimes when you are posting videos of things that you have bought it is easy to think of you as someone that has never had it hard. Or someone that has never been broke. And if you have not then you do not know what it is like. And that’s ok, but I just feel like this video made you more real, more relatable, if that makes any sense🤷🏻♀️ it just made me love you that much more!! That you have been on the bottom, and now your on the top🥰 it’s a work hard feel good type video, inspiring, ya know. Like you can do it!! I loved it!!❤️💕💕
Lisa this video was gold (like another person wrote) These conversations are really powerful and your story has meaning to the collective. I just really enjoyed this! Thank you for sharing and for being so brave and letting us all learn from you. We all have life lessons to bring to the table and we can all learn from each other. ❤️
Thank you for this powerful testimony.
Thanks for sharing your story. Love will prevail. You and John are so like minded in your goals and are living your dream together.
Lisa really appreciated your candor and listening to your wisdom. My husband and I were so broke at one point our electricity had been shut off. We lived on the 2 nd floor of an apartment building,we took strands of Christmas lights and strung them down the hallway building to get electricity. I remember it like it was yesterday. I think those times makes us stronger and wiser.😘
Makes you truly appreciate where you are now ❤️❤️ and to know what true happiness is
This was encouraging! Thank you for helping me to remember to keep working on the things and skills where I am now. Being a person of integrity and who cultivates my interests, while keeping an eye out for the husband that I choose.
I live in a tiny cottage that is probably the same size as the room you are in, but it is all mine and paid for. It is only 16 x 24 feet, with a loft. It is on 11 acres in the mountains and I couldn't be any happier. Happiness is an inside job. People who gave you a hard time are just jealous haters. I feel sad for them.
It's scary how much I can relate to everything you are talking about Lisa. Thank you for your genuine honesty and kindness in the way you deliver messages. It shows a woman of deep character ...I just adore you.
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Hi Lisa,
You don’t have to please anyone. You need to stop trying to touch everyone because the only people that you need on your RUclips channel is like minded.
All the rest of them can look for their own people
I really loved your "growing out your bangs" metaphor! 💖 Thank you so much for these heartfelt videos!
You're truly a beautiful woman inside and out, Lisa! ❤
No one gets through life unscathed. When my good friend was so sad over the loss of her elderly dog, I got her to laugh over my friend who has an incredible job, beautiful family, lovely home, yadda, yadda, but struggles with toe nail fungus, and was asked to play a disciple in the annual church passion play, ha! Happily he is comfortable in his own skin, messy toe nails and all.
Here’s another tidbit I heard. If we all walked around with sticky notes on our shirts describing our current struggles and concerns, wouldn’t we all be nicer to each other? Now that you have the visual, you don’t even need to know what the stickies say. It’s a new fashion trend!
Thanks for all the lovely videos!
I’m sending love from CT! I’ve been on carnivore for a month now and feel great bc of YOU! Also, I was a SINGLE MOM raising a little girl by myself for the first 10 years of her life. I worked my butt off to support us WITHOUT government assistance. Never dated bc of working all the time but ALSO very picky of what men I would bring into our life. I did meet the most wonderful man 3 years ago. Old by 8 years and does well for himself financially…. Women around me and who don’t know me went nuts. Said things that weren’t very nice about me and tried to ruin my reputation. Well, it backfired. They ended up being the ones that looked foolish and eventually got outcasted. I did not do that to them. They did it to themselves. I just sat back and watched it happen keeping quiet and minding my own business. Jealousy is a hurtful emotion. Let’s be nice ladies… You never know what battles other women are fighting in their lives. Kindness ALWAYS WINS.
Love and Light
I've been binging all your videos again for days now. I just wanted to say your not old enough to be my mom I'm 36 but I feel like I'm listening to a mom. You give the absolute best advice. And there's just something about you that's so comforting and REAL! I just love these videos so much! I did not have a mother in my life so just listening to all your advice and experience just makes me happy. Keep being you Lisa! You are an incredible person! 🥰
Hi Lisa, I could sense that this talk was the real deal from your heart, and it was so good!! Thanks for sharing and I hope that it gets at least 1000 views and likes!
Leisa you are just like me I’m all over the place when I start talking from my heart. So do not apologize for who you are you were exactly who God made. You stay true to yourself you stay yourself don’t copy other RUclipsrs you just be your beautiful self with a heart of gold.
I love this video. Thank you for sharing some of your experiences! 💕
When I met my boyfriend I first was impressed with his work ethic and what he wanted to do with his life. You have no idea how easy it is to fall in love with someone that shares the same dream with you. This is not a compromise is a blessing.
Hi Lisa....thank you so much for sharing your life lessons... it is so true to know that you don’t owe anyone anything which is so liberating.
What a great video. One of your best. I’m 56 yes old, and this is the second time I’ve watched it. Thank you for your transparency and speaking from the heart.
Great advice! Wish I had not taken so long to figure that out about my first marriage, but I do have 2 wonderful children out of it! I’m older and wiser now and found a great husband the second time around😍🥰
These are my favorite videos, I just love when you tell stories and give advice. Meander all over the place.
I think one of the most important takeaways from this video, is that one cannot fault someone or make someone a bad person because they do not share your individual vision of happiness and fulfillment. Taking accountability for one’s choices, including one’s choices in people, is a massive realization you had. Being informed about one’s partner’s life goals and discovering if both people are in alignment is definitely a necessary precursor to marriage, and most definitely an individual responsibility.
One of your best videos - your 'original' video on this topic really resonated with me 10+years ago. I took the u-turn, retraced my steps and started again both personally and professionally. It was the greatest humbling and empowering moment of my life. I have been with my partner and best friend for the past 5 years and we have transformed both our lives ❤️
Lisa, I have been watching you for years. Let me just say, these videos that you do about real topics, resonate with SO many women. Keep doing them, if you are comfortable doing them. You are clearly speaking from the heart and people appreciate that! I’m also so glad to have been following you through your health/weight loss journey. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Timeless information. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I’m 55 and have been Divorced for 6 years. I’m still heartbroken but hopeful. ❤
Thank you, Sara!! I think that is important, he is out there, but you need a healed open heart to find love! ❤ Lisa
You never mentioned that your ex husband died. He was still pretty young
I love this video! I would add to young girls ... Be aware of red flags. Do not be a collector of red flags. You only need one. I had SO many red flags with my first husband... which I ignored. Excessive drinking, not coming home after work lying, cheating. At 23, I was very naive.
Beautifully said Lisa! This girl agrees with what you’ve talked about today. ❤️
It takes a lot to share what you’ve been through. I focused so hard on independence that everyone was surprised when I met and married my husband. I thought I’d be a crazy dog lady my whole life. ❤️
Really appreciate your honesty and your such a beauty inside and out.
This is a video that RUclips NEEDS! Overcoming obstacles and finding personal happiness is what life is about. I cried listening to you speak. Bless you Lisa 🙏🏻🤍🤍🤍
Hi Lisa. So thoughtful of you to share the wisdom you gained through mistakes you made when you were young. I can identify and wish I could have heard this decades ago. I feel like you have really helped some people. I am so happy that you and John have each other. You deserve your happy life.
Thank you, Ginny! 🩷😘😘
I divorced at 27. Like you I wanted to be the wife and I wanted to be married so much that I ignored every red flag being thrown at me. He was stability. He was a change in pace and a way out. I ignored my happiness and chose him instead of choosing us. When I left I was a SAHM. I had zero dollars and 2 babies. It was so devastating to my pride to move back in with my parents but it turned into the greatest blessing. I found myself again. Home was peaceful and loving and kind. My children were happy. I returned to work at a gas station barely making over minimum wage... but I didn't care. I was happy. I saved. I bought furniture. Beds. TV's. Home goods. My parents entire basement was full of brand new items still in boxes. When I left my husband I left with nothing. I wanted nothing. I had two bags of clothes for me and the kids, diapers, and a diaper bag. That was it. I didn't care either. I wanted to rebuild on my own and without him ever again being able to tell me what I wouldn't have if it weren't for him. We lived with my parents for almost 2 years. It seems like a really long time but I'll never regret that time with them. After finding a much better job, we moved out and into a home of our own. Several years later...I am still in that same home and even though I can now afford more and buy a better house... but I'd rather have more than enough than just enough or barely getting by. 7 months ago I lost my dad and the kids lost their grandpa. I think back on that time I lived with them and the millions of memories we created together. What felt like the worst moment in my life ever... is now something I will forever and always be thankful for. That time was a gift. I have now remarried and my husband is everything. He is so incredibly kind and giving of himself. He is thoughtful, calm, loving, funny, and he loves me for who I am.
I would never wish to be young again... my son is 17 now and I see so much of his world and how overwhelming it is. Kids his age are learning from previous generations... they don't want massive amounts of student loans and most of his friends are opting to go to 2 year schools instead of universities. And dating? I couldn't date in today's world. Kids today are from split homes and marriage is viewed as a failed system. I could go on and on... I'm rambling but this video hit on so many things close to home
Thank you so much for sharing your story!! You are a survivor 🥰
I am so happy for you!!!!!
Love this 💓💓💓💓💓💓
Thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself and your life. What an amazing story. I’m so sorry for the loss of your father, and it’s very mature and great thinking for you to realize that time living with him was an amazing gift. It gave your son a bond with his grandpa that he wouldn’t have had if he didn’t live with him. I have a similar situation with my daughter and her grandmother. Family and time spent witb them is so amazing and priceless. I loved your story and i always love a happy ending!
I so completely agree with you re: our kids who are teens/young 20’s & dating. The world is soooo different nowadays (and let’s not even mention the pandemic and the impact that’s had on today’s kids). I have a 20 yr old daughter and a 22 yr old son, both in college. I see what they’re facing and I see all they’ve been through up until this point. Such a different world they’ve grown up in..
I always pass on these “Dear young girls” advice videos to my friends daughters. You’re so wise and beautiful and sincere. They love listening to you, especially my 16 year old daughter. I thank you for your honesty and love💗 .
Attention all viewers: This video has wonderful advice for ALL...no matter what stage of life you’re in. On March 30th, I’ll be married 30 years. I took away some life nuggets even in my stage in life. I almost missed this because of the title. Lisa, you may want to change the title to “Testimony from Experiences of Younger Lisa!”💜💜💜 GREAT INFORMATION, Lisa!!!!
My mother told me, "Get an education. You'll always be able to take care of yourself and not depend on anyone. Husbands can die or you can get a divorce but your world will not end if you have an education and a career."You can take care of your children and yourself if you have to. This has made me strong in my life even though I suffered through many of these hardships you're discussing here. I didn't have to worry about becoming homeless or starving.
Lisa been there done that!!! Im so happy for You and John❤ Very important to have something in common and the same goals! Thank you for letting all of us get a little understanding of your life. Im sure you have helped other people as well as myself 😊❤
Being able to find contentment and fulfillment from within yourself rather from external sources is really freedom. Freedom to live the life you want and have made and truly enjoy it.
Girl, you are so good at these heart to hearts. You are an old wise soul. I am so glad you mentioned how God helped you direct your life and dating with a purpose. You always have good advice. Thanks for sharing.
Lisa I really appreciate your honesty!!! And I am so grateful to you and people like you that actually discuss the reality of being an adult and the hardships and financial responsibilities that come along with it. I’ve been broke and I’m doing ok right now, but it has been a rough road and it’s still a struggle to get to where I actually want to be. I know money isn’t everything, but it sure helps to be able to pay the bills every month. Sending you lots of love 💕
Oh my goodness you hit the nail on the head of how it feels after a divorce. I’ve never been to explain it to people eloquently. Sad to your soul and the life you envisioned had changed.
Lisa, speaking from your heart ♥️ is how you built this beautiful community of women and I’m so grateful for all the years I’ve spent here with you. It is so true what you said about making the biggest decisions of our lives when we are still so young and immature. If I could go back I would do so many things differently. I’ve been so blessed to have raised and provided for my three beautiful children and have been graced with six gorgeous grandchildren. I gave up a lot of my dreams and made a lot of sacrifices so that they could have security. But at the age of 63 (next week) I find myself having to rebuild my life from scratch. Hearing your thoughts give me courage and strength Lisa. I’m tired of living my life in a box that someone else put me in. I know what I want and I don’t apologize for going out and getting it, because it’s now or never. I got anxiety when you said you were thinking not to post this video. Thank you so much for sharing it because God wanted me to hear this. This is why I love you. ♥️ ~Susanne 😘💕🌸🌺🌸🌺
I’m going through these struggles right now at 28 with a guy not headed in my direction. Love truly isn’t all that matters. A lot of things matter, I’ve learned. Thank you for posting this.
Thank you for opening up. You are a true entrepreneur and have worked hard and truly know the value of money. When you work hard you are entitled to spend your hard earned money on whatever you want. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Comparing the high end requests vs. Walmart haul requests, you truly can't please everyone. Do videos on what makes you happy, what makes your heart sing and gives you joy. Your followers enjoy what you enjoy. As a young, single woman I appreciate your advice and life experiences. You are not preachy nor pushy neither proud nor boastful. You give really good advice. So thank you.
Wow. I felt this in my heart. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I resonated with a lot of it. That was me just a few years ago! Someone watching this could be going through the same thing and be in a very sad and lonely place, and you would be exactly what they needed to hear. Lots of love to you Lisa ❤️
I think this is one of the best videos you have ever done in my opinion! I know you have been able to enjoy your life with John as a stay at home mom, but sharing with us that you worked different jobs in your first marriage, is very relatable to most of us ( I still work), but I'm glad that you have the blessings you now have!