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Hi Kamal, not sure why I kept watching this podcast, but I did. Im a Polish girl, but left Poland more than 20 years ago. I saw myself in that young girl from the time I used to live in Warsaw, but now I am almost 50 and have a foreign husband and have since lived in different countries. I am not sure why, but in Poland there are many princesses like girls who think that life is a romantic comedy. They talk about themselves a lot and have this kind of tiny bit of perpetual arrogance. I can feel by the line of your questions that you can sense that there is more complexity to life than just "if you are like this, then I will give you this, if you do this in the time I give you , I will reward you with this". Even if her prince ticks all boxes, tomorrow it may change, kids change everything, people change and evolve or not, (not always together, sometimes they grow apart). Relationship for most people is hard working process, that changes continuously and has different stages, but this girl doesn't realise any of this. She thinks that if she decides to hire a husband after the probation period he will deliver until the end, just like a good employee should. The most important of all is to understand that you can't figure out life, what you like today and what is important for you today may and probably will change and that applies to everyone. Your partner too! No point in being opinionated that much, because the more you grow, the more you realise that you can't control others, you can't control future and you develop a distance and understanding to your habits, roots, your conditions you impose on others etc. It is work on yourself versus what I want from others. Also with maturity you understand that vulnerability, being loving unconditionally is the most honest way you can be with people. I think it is good she is going to London, to a place where she will be a Polish girl, a second category to the Western Europeans and when she gets this slap in the face, maybe she will step out of her throne. It's a long process though.
Hi there! Thank you so much for taking the time to write this thoughtful comment. Really appreciated. Now, I agree that life and relationships are far from static; they are continuously evolving and require both parties to adapt and grow-sometimes together, sometimes apart. It's important to recognize, as you mentioned, that what we value and need can change over time, and that this dynamic affects both partners. Your analogy of a 'probation period' for a partner is an interesting one and highlights the importance of understanding that relationships are not transactions but journeys of mutual growth and understanding. It's clear that with age and experience comes a deeper understanding of these truths. Thank you again for adding such a rich layer to this discussion. Your insights are invaluable, and I hope they resonate with others as they have with me.
@@WarsawConfidential 🌺Also I wanted to write that there is nothing wrong with this girl not understanding relationships, not that I do, although I'm probably twice older than her, we are all trying to figure things out, she is young and I can relate to her looking back at myself from many years ago.I am just suggesting to be more humble towards life, people and the unknown and to drop that princess, all about me attitude. Thanks for your reply Kamal 💗
Wise words Sister. But do keep in mind how low self esteem cultivated in our roots for years and years back those present Polish females have to balance. It isn't any surprise, their lack of humbleness, life will teach them anyhow. Just let them be Luv. Let them grow out of it. And by any means do not ever again repeat that anyone is a second category in anybody's country because it is a shame to treat each other that way. We are all only a dust on this planet, each and everyone of us, so precious and so little at the same time. Much gratitude for your wisdom 🌹
Very nice episode ! She’s full of positive energy, though, the only thing that I didn’t get is how she switched from “let’s build an empire together, it’s more fun” to “ I want someone who’s already stable, and not fully focus on work” 😅
Thanks! It’s really difficult to explain all your thoughts on such a complex topic in less than 1 hour ;) As I said, the expectations are different depending on the age of a man you date. In ideal situation, you meet a person in late 20s and you get ‚there’ together. Having a business together connects you so it’s different than focusing on separate career pathways. When a man is 30+ and still trying to figure out his way for living and not fully accomplished professionally, he won’t focus on the relationship as most of them feel the pressure of time to succeed. So definitely, dating someone in late 30s give me expectations of the stability I mentioned.
@@Momolanka.Q Thank you for taking the time to explain ! Definitely clearer now, indeed with the constraint of time, it's difficult to explain your ideas, and totally agree with the idea of starting the business with your partner, that's what we're currently in the process of doing and it definitely connect you more with your other half.
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I finally had time to listen to the end. She has few valid points, some other lack of logic but shit... what the hell means you cannot support somebody you dated few times or you have just met? Even if you don't know well the person its just kindness and bit of alltruism to do so. But when you try to create relationship and you don't want to support the other person because its to early and he has to earn this... 🚩 🤯 Maybe its better that things happened as they happened, nobody guarantees that next time you'd got support if needed.
@@WarsawConfidential thats not reserved for lovers, but ofc should be even stronger for people you like. Compassion and willingness to support other people is something you have or not. That's the part of way of being. It doesn't have to be calculated into money. Shit. People are too claculating nowdays... I just don't get it... I usually try to help people, especially those who ask for help/support - if they had courage to ask that means they need it.
Typically, Polish men dont show vulnerability and do not speak about faults or weaknesses. That's the way it was for many generations, and unfortunately, it still exists in Polish culture today. This lady may get a rude shock, London is not as easy as it may appear. For instance i live on tne outskirts of London and it cost me about 400 pounds for monthly travel costs and thats normal in and around the London area. Interesting conversation. Good posdcast as Warsaw has a growing English Speaking community. I told a Polish woman my faults and weaknesses and she dumped me the next day.
@WarsawConfidential 💯 it was way too early, and she got scared or something. I was hoping she would appreciate the honesty, transparency, and openness. Oh well.. just one of those things. You live and learn.
I must admit that it was a very interesting interview. But unfortunately, everything is based on sad experiences that teach us a lot and allow us to mature emotionally. :) :(
Hi Karina, I noticed that lot of girls use to say „there are no good men nowadays’ which I disagree. There are many amazing men but we as women need to trigger that part of them! If a girl settle for bare minimum and give a man 100% of herself straightaway with his 20% of effort and engagement, he will do only the 20% and even less with time, for the rest of their relationship because his understanding is that’s enough to „get the prize” - probably it will also impact his future relationship because he’s now used to low standard. You said many guys are selfish- I’d rather say they are lazy and they will just give up on demending women as they can get it easier/faster elsewhere without putting much effort and energy. But it’s only up to us, women, how the dating market looks like… if they did not get what they want so easily, all of them would have no choice but make that effort! Agree?
@@Momolanka.Q I think you are delusional.. Well actually you are delusional and wrong in most things.. For example.. You said love is more important for you then anything.. But in next line you said.. If he is not better then you.. Successful then you, earn more then you.. then he is not the one.. Let's say a guy is a painter.. And he is good at it and earn good, successful In his own way how much he needed for his lifestyle.. And you on other hand 5 yrs younger then him but you earn more in your job, Career then him.. So according to your definition you won't date that guy because he earns less then you.. In your eyes he is unsuccessful and doing something wrong in his life even though he is successful in his field painting.. And earn enough he needs.. And in his eyes he is doing nothing wrong.. So are you saying you he is less of a man then you and you won't date him even if he loves you, care about you.. And you also like around him.. Aren't we suppose to choose partner based on love not based on how old they are and how much he earn.. He may cannot afford to provide you millionaire lifestyle but he can provide you normal lifestyle.. He may cannot buy branded clothes, products, you wear.. But can provide normal clothes May cannot take you to fancy 5 star restaurant but can take you to normal restaurant.. The point is he can still truly love you and put food on table and Provide for you... Even if he didn't earn as much as you expect.. Also you expect older guy to have stable income, be rich so that he can make time for you.. That's stupidity.. It's not ambition not money.. A successful person is not successful because he is rich.. He is rich because of hunger, ambition.. Even elon musk all rich business men, people.. Still work 8-10 hours a day even more.. Even after money.. So you want a rich, high value men but on same time wants him to not focus on work.. Focus on you and priority you.. That's not how it happen.. You want a alpha man who behave like beta man.. And simp for you.. So yea lot of your perspective are wrong.. You want men who is better, smarter, fitter, rich etc superior then you And he impress you.. 😂 Why would he impress you when he is better then you ?? Why?? Shouldn't you should impress him because he is better then you..
What a brave woman. It’s not easy to speak your truth especially when it might be controversial. I really like how she could keep her stance on what she wants in life and express it elegantly. Classy, well-spoken and grounded girl 🫶🏼
Thank you for your comment! It truly takes courage to stand firm and speak openly, especially on matters close to the heart or those that might stir debate. I am glad you appreciated her poise and clarity. It's voices like hers that enrich our conversations and challenge us to think deeper. 🌟
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Hi Kamal, not sure why I kept watching this podcast, but I did. Im a Polish girl, but left Poland more than 20 years ago. I saw myself in that young girl from the time I used to live in Warsaw, but now I am almost 50 and have a foreign husband and have since lived in different countries. I am not sure why, but in Poland there are many princesses like girls who think that life is a romantic comedy. They talk about themselves a lot and have this kind of tiny bit of perpetual arrogance.
I can feel by the line of your questions that you can sense that there is more complexity to life than just "if you are like this, then I will give you this, if you do this in the time I give you , I will reward you with this". Even if her prince ticks all boxes, tomorrow it may change, kids change everything, people change and evolve or not, (not always together, sometimes they grow apart). Relationship for most people is hard working process, that changes continuously and has different stages, but this girl doesn't realise any of this. She thinks that if she decides to hire a husband after the probation period he will deliver until the end, just like a good employee should. The most important of all is to understand that you can't figure out life, what you like today and what is important for you today may and probably will change and that applies to everyone. Your partner too! No point in being opinionated that much, because the more you grow, the more you realise that you can't control others, you can't control future and you develop a distance and understanding to your habits, roots, your conditions you impose on others etc. It is work on yourself versus what I want from others. Also with maturity you understand that vulnerability, being loving unconditionally is the most honest way you can be with people.
I think it is good she is going to London, to a place where she will be a Polish girl, a second category to the Western Europeans and when she gets this slap in the face, maybe she will step out of her throne. It's a long process though.
Hi there! Thank you so much for taking the time to write this thoughtful comment. Really appreciated.
Now, I agree that life and relationships are far from static; they are continuously evolving and require both parties to adapt and grow-sometimes together, sometimes apart. It's important to recognize, as you mentioned, that what we value and need can change over time, and that this dynamic affects both partners.
Your analogy of a 'probation period' for a partner is an interesting one and highlights the importance of understanding that relationships are not transactions but journeys of mutual growth and understanding. It's clear that with age and experience comes a deeper understanding of these truths.
Thank you again for adding such a rich layer to this discussion. Your insights are invaluable, and I hope they resonate with others as they have with me.
@@WarsawConfidential 🌺Also I wanted to write that there is nothing wrong with this girl not understanding relationships, not that I do, although I'm probably twice older than her, we are all trying to figure things out, she is young and I can relate to her looking back at myself from many years ago.I am just suggesting to be more humble towards life, people and the unknown and to drop that princess, all about me attitude.
Thanks for your reply Kamal 💗
Wise words Sister. But do keep in mind how low self esteem cultivated in our roots for years and years back those present Polish females have to balance. It isn't any surprise, their lack of humbleness, life will teach them anyhow. Just let them be Luv. Let them grow out of it. And by any means do not ever again repeat that anyone is a second category in anybody's country because it is a shame to treat each other that way. We are all only a dust on this planet, each and everyone of us, so precious and so little at the same time. Much gratitude for your wisdom 🌹
Very nice episode ! She’s full of positive energy, though, the only thing that I didn’t get is how she switched from “let’s build an empire together, it’s more fun” to “ I want someone who’s already stable, and not fully focus on work” 😅
Thanks!
It’s really difficult to explain all your thoughts on such a complex topic in less than 1 hour ;)
As I said, the expectations are different depending on the age of a man you date. In ideal situation, you meet a person in late 20s and you get ‚there’ together. Having a business together connects you so it’s different than focusing on separate career pathways. When a man is 30+ and still trying to figure out his way for living and not fully accomplished professionally, he won’t focus on the relationship as most of them feel the pressure of time to succeed. So definitely, dating someone in late 30s give me expectations of the stability I mentioned.
@@Momolanka.Q Thank you for taking the time to explain ! Definitely clearer now, indeed with the constraint of time, it's difficult to explain your ideas, and totally agree with the idea of starting the business with your partner, that's what we're currently in the process of doing and it definitely connect you more with your other half.
Thank you for watching! Please subscribe and leave a like. It helps us a lot- the bigger we get, the bigger the guests we can invite. Thank you so much ❤
I finally had time to listen to the end. She has few valid points, some other lack of logic but shit... what the hell means you cannot support somebody you dated few times or you have just met? Even if you don't know well the person its just kindness and bit of alltruism to do so. But when you try to create relationship and you don't want to support the other person because its to early and he has to earn this... 🚩 🤯 Maybe its better that things happened as they happened, nobody guarantees that next time you'd got support if needed.
Yes. That was the main issue in this relationship: why can’t we show support and love even before the relationship develops.
@@WarsawConfidential thats not reserved for lovers, but ofc should be even stronger for people you like. Compassion and willingness to support other people is something you have or not. That's the part of way of being. It doesn't have to be calculated into money. Shit. People are too claculating nowdays... I just don't get it...
I usually try to help people, especially those who ask for help/support - if they had courage to ask that means they need it.
Typically, Polish men dont show vulnerability and do not speak about faults or weaknesses. That's the way it was for many generations, and unfortunately, it still exists in Polish culture today.
This lady may get a rude shock, London is not as easy as it may appear. For instance i live on tne outskirts of London and it cost me about 400 pounds for monthly travel costs and thats normal in and around the London area.
Interesting conversation.
Good posdcast as Warsaw has a growing English Speaking community.
I told a Polish woman my faults and weaknesses and she dumped me the next day.
Hey Benjamin! Indeed, sharing vulnerability, some times, is not the best idea. Especially if the relationship is new.
@WarsawConfidential 💯 it was way too early, and she got scared or something. I was hoping she would appreciate the honesty, transparency, and openness. Oh well.. just one of those things. You live and learn.
it isn't just in polish culture, it's all around the world
She is capricorn😊
How do you know 😏
@@WarsawConfidential Am i right?... I am also capricorn... 😁
I must admit that it was a very interesting interview. But unfortunately, everything is based on sad experiences that teach us a lot and allow us to mature emotionally. :) :(
Such is life :) We must keep living and experiencing
Knowing what you want is one thing, finding it is the other thing. Unfortunately most of the men now are extremely selfish, in Poland and abroad.
Hi Karina,
I noticed that lot of girls use to say „there are no good men nowadays’ which I disagree. There are many amazing men but we as women need to trigger that part of them!
If a girl settle for bare minimum and give a man 100% of herself straightaway with his 20% of effort and engagement, he will do only the 20% and even less with time, for the rest of their relationship because his understanding is that’s enough to „get the prize” - probably it will also impact his future relationship because he’s now used to low standard. You said many guys are selfish- I’d rather say they are lazy and they will just give up on demending women as they can get it easier/faster elsewhere without putting much effort and energy. But it’s only up to us, women, how the dating market looks like… if they did not get what they want so easily, all of them would have no choice but make that effort! Agree?
Moim zdaniem spowodowane jest to egoizmem kobiet, mężczyźni zaczynają coraz bardziej dystansować się od nas i nie ma co się dziwić.
@@Momolanka.Q I think you are delusional..
Well actually you are delusional and wrong in most things..
For example..
You said love is more important for you then anything.. But in next line you said..
If he is not better then you.. Successful then you, earn more then you.. then he is not the one..
Let's say a guy is a painter.. And he is good at it and earn good, successful In his own way how much he needed for his lifestyle..
And you on other hand 5 yrs younger then him but you earn more in your job, Career then him..
So according to your definition you won't date that guy because he earns less then you.. In your eyes he is unsuccessful and doing something wrong in his life even though he is successful in his field painting..
And earn enough he needs.. And in his eyes he is doing nothing wrong..
So are you saying you he is less of a man then you and you won't date him even if he loves you, care about you.. And you also like around him..
Aren't we suppose to choose partner based on love not based on how old they are and how much he earn..
He may cannot afford to provide you millionaire lifestyle but he can provide you normal lifestyle..
He may cannot buy branded clothes, products, you wear.. But can provide normal clothes
May cannot take you to fancy 5 star restaurant but can take you to normal restaurant..
The point is he can still truly love you and put food on table and
Provide for you...
Even if he didn't earn as much as you expect..
Also you expect older guy to have stable income, be rich so that he can make time for you..
That's stupidity..
It's not ambition not money.. A successful person is not successful because he is rich.. He is rich because of hunger, ambition..
Even elon musk all rich business men, people.. Still work 8-10 hours a day even more.. Even after money..
So you want a rich, high value men but on same time wants him to not focus on work.. Focus on you and priority you..
That's not how it happen..
You want a alpha man who behave like beta man..
And simp for you..
So yea lot of your perspective are wrong..
You want men who is better, smarter, fitter, rich etc superior then you
And he impress you.. 😂
Why would he impress you when he is better then you ?? Why??
Shouldn't you should impress him because he is better then you..
What a brave woman. It’s not easy to speak your truth especially when it might be controversial. I really like how she could keep her stance on what she wants in life and express it elegantly. Classy, well-spoken and grounded girl 🫶🏼
Thank you for your comment! It truly takes courage to stand firm and speak openly, especially on matters close to the heart or those that might stir debate. I am glad you appreciated her poise and clarity. It's voices like hers that enrich our conversations and challenge us to think deeper. 🌟