With my friends I don't mask but in school I do My friends also don't know I'm autistic because I found out three months after we became friends and was to anxious to tell them and now it's been a year and she's my best friend and yeah idk she's gonna find out one way or the other but im to worried she'll hate me Anyways sorry for ranting lmao I just needed to tell someone because nobody I know will listen
I have both, so I guess that explains why I'm on my own. I don't need to attract one or the other because I'm already both. My ADHD and autism are already unhappily married to each other.
This is soooo real. I was just having this conversation last night with my two autistic friends who were basically trying to (kindly) suggest to me I may want to get tested 😂😅 they're two of five friends I have with autism lol
As an autistic person, I also feel like we always make sure friends know they’re valued Like every chance I get I’ll tell my friends “hey! I fucking care about you! You are amazing and loved!” Because I love making them happy
Also an autistic person, but I actually have the opposite problem. I WANT to tell my loved ones that but I just can’t get the words out and I’m really sad about it. Idk if it’s from my rejection sensitivity/anxiety or years of masking. You don’t have to respond to this or even care about it, I just needed to vent and wanted anyone else who’s struggling with that to know they’re not alone
@@Actually_its_Ashely I'm not a doctor so take my words with a grain of salt but I've noticed autistic girls and autistic AFAB people are more prone to showing open affection like this. I think autistic cis males just tend to be more repressed due to what was expected of them in childhood.
I do this all the time. Because I immensely fear people not understanding my intentions and taking my monotone face and voice the wrong way. Because that happens a lot :D But yeah. It depends on the person. Some show they care very transparently and some do by the things they do which is also really fun. Like I have one friend who's on the spectrum and they show they care by sending me silly little memes that make them smile. Or they share things they know call me out or would make me laugh. Another friend I have on the spectrum will tell me all about the lore and gameplay of video games he enjoys. He's gotten me into two different games and I've learned so much just being on call with him. I mean since I'm also autistic I'm very aware of how and why they do certain things so maybe that makes me more aware of it but I fucking love my friends. We just vibe and be nerodivergent together. It's amazing
I told an autistic peer at uni that I have an eating disorder and that I have days where I cannot eat. We have a relationship where we make light fun of eachother so his first reaction was to tease me a bit for it and then told me he'd bring me soup the next day ❤ We now cook together once evey week. Literally made my year.
I feel very blessed to have 4 autistic friends, 2 autistic co-workers, and many, many autistic acquaintances. As a person with ADHD I tend to overwhelm and upset most neurotypicals (there are some rare ones who appreciate my unfiltered self) my autistic friends just get me and are happy to let me be.
I'm one of those rare neurotypicals. Unfiltered AuDHD doesn't bother me at all. Those who mask look so tense and uncomfortable. It's depressing to see. As a kid who didn't really understand what autism was all about, I was constantly trying to show how much I loved and appreciated my autistic best friend. I liked when he let himself go. Seeing him excited while flapping his arms was so fun to see. Nowadays, I know all about sensory overload, stimming, difficulty learning social skills, etc. Now that I understand how it works, I feel even more motivated to let neurodivergent people be themselves. I realized that many of the traits I find endearing are autistic. I'm also more likely to fall in love with an ND girl than an NT one. The reason why I'm such an anomaly is because I also have an invisible disability: C-PTSD. There are a few similarities with autism. For example, being in certain social environments and situations can be stressful and uncomfortable. If I get overwhelmed, I can have a meltdown. I sometimes also have to mask and pretend I'm doing fine, which adds to my stress. I have my abusive father to thank for this. I know how hard it is to live in an ableist world. Most NTs are intolerant and apathetic toward my difference. I don't get that vibe from NDs. I also generally feel safe and in control when I'm with them, and that's really important for someone who has C-PTSD. You guys are so freaking weird and I love it!
Best gifts I ever got were hand drawn opening title cards for "the Secret of Nimm" from a non-vocal autistic customer at the video game shop. He heard me talking about that movie, and he and his mom brought in that gift for me! I bought him a video game to show my gratitude.
in elementary there was this autistic boy who everyone loved and when we had to go to middle he had to go to a different middle school it made me very sad that he wouldn’t be at my middle school
I like that she waited for Kaelynn to acknowledge the moment and initiate her part of the hug first. It was also a partial and gentle side hug that can be more comfortable than a grand, double-armed bear hug. My nephew has good days and bad days. I get extra joy on the days when my request for a hug is him grinning big and launching himself in to wrap around me. He sets the amount of time and strength in the hug each time. I think that I get the better hugs because he is recognizing my understanding for his needs from his earliest days. I never took offense on the days when it was only a smirk with a quick fist bump.I 😊
I have gotten along well with others who have told me they are autistic. I am very straightforward person and prone to also being very silly. My autistic co worker is not bothered by me at all and we appreciate one another’s’ honesty. I actually don’t feel pressured to self regulate as much because I don’t feel like they are judging how normal I might be acting.
I love this. It couldn't be more true. Oh the stories I could tell! My best friends in high school had Williams syndrome and autism. Williams syndrome made her wonderfully friendly if not exceedingly distractible. My friend with ASD was one of the kindest people I know. She taught me how to communicate in gifs. She brought be snacks and when I would get stressed, she would share her stim toy with me. Oh and I have a physical disability so the three of us were quite the crowd lol
Me and my best friend are both autistic. We're the only two people who "get" each other. We get along better than any two best friends I know of. I also appreciate that she's never tried to get me to take off my raincoat. Most people I make friends with can't accept that I want to leave my raincoat on all the time and I don't care how hot and sweaty I get, I just want to wear it. (I treat it more likes a dress than a raincoat, I'll admit)
@@goose2888 Thank you! I don't know why I love wearing a raincoat so much, I just feel "right" when it's on. My best friend is five years younger than me but she's kind of taken on the "big sister" role and she helps me with a lot of things in life such as navigating the world.
Gift giving is something that's borderline distressing for me because I *have to* make sure the receiver understands my feelings and enjoys the gift. I often slip my phone out of my pocket during conversations to write down gift ideas MONTHS before their next birthday & hand-illustrate birthday cards with large walls of text inside sharing feelings about them that feel unnatural to say out loud. To me, holidays are the perfect opportunity for me to express the way I feel about my loved ones year-round, but struggle to express on a regular basis through subtle social cues.
Tend to have strong preferences and opinions? Tend to? Hahaha! This made me giggle so hard because my husband is autistic and he most definitely has strong preferences and opinions, but I adore him and wouldn’t want him any other way!
Me (NT) married an autistic person because he listens better than anyone I've ever met, if he's giving his attention it's all of it and is so genuine and kind. Then find out so much about autism, have a whole autistic side of my family now and do feel like I leveled up my whole life by having all of them in it.
being with autistic people helped my anxiety. I can trust they say their honest opinion and will let me know right away if I mess up or do good! I have such a hard time doing that and really value it in others 🥰
I'm autistic in a friendship group with both neurotypicals and other neurodivergents in it. We're going on a trip end of the month and I've planned the itinerary. I absolutely loved doing it because I got to make sure all of my friends' interests were taken into account and they were all so pleased to see there was stuff specifically chosen for them. Even interests they didn't know I knew about, because they don't talk about them a lot. But I pay attention and it makes me so happy to see them all feel seen.
Pretty much yeah. Though I can say from experience that if your autistic friend also has adhd, it might be a good idea to send them a few reminders for things like parties, hangouts or important dates. We tend to be pretty chaotic and while we may forget that you celebrate getting your driver's license this Wednesday or that you had a birthday party last weekend, we do still care about you and will make sure to show it.
One time in college I volunteered to be the roommate to go buy gifts for our roomie who was having a birthday. I came back with such thoughtful and personalized gifts my other roommates were shocked and told me they never would have thought of the stuff I got. I had simply taken note of what my roommates each liked from our conversations and searched walmart until I found the best things within our budget. Didn't seem hard at all to me! I love giving thoughtful gifts. ☺️
I have an autistic friend. Found out because I told her I was being tested. She already had a feeling I was autistic. So now we relate to each other about random things like sensory sensitivities. It’s nice. :)
It's always cool to see autistic people in Kaelynn's comments, but today I actually needed to see allistic people talking about their autistic best friends and loved ones in the comments. I struggle with feeling loved or worthy of love, and it's nice to hear that some people love us, not in spite of our autism but because of it 💚
The best thing about having an autistic friend is tbh the hyperfocuses. It’s for me sometimes as if i’ve got a podcast on, 24/7. Even tho many people find it to be annoying, I disagree, as it’s so nice to see someone so happy about a subject. It’s also nice that they’re very straightforward, i never have to wonder about their opinions, or feel like i have to swerve around to say what i mean. I love having autistic friends
The world needs more Kaelynn. If everybody understood Autism and could see people for who they were rather than their disability, the world would be a much better place. Thank you for sharing as always Kaelynn!! 😊❤️
i have adhd and my brother is autistic and the bond we have is unlike anything else i love him so much, he's one of my bestest friends and i don't know where i'd be without him. he's the only person i truly feel 100% being comfortable with and i know he will never judge me for any of my opinions :]
I felt the rock thing in my soul My friend and I were getting ready to perform, we had a band competition that day, and she immediately went "I kinda wanna take a rock..." cause she likes to paint them I immediately pointed out the best rock I could find, and then we found an even better one a few moments later. She performed with a rock in her shorts
I’m 25 and I have always had really bad social anxiety and agoraphobia and something I’ve noticed recently is that I find it easier to communicate with and spend longer amounts of time with neurodivergent people. I think I recognize that beneath the masking there is a very authentic person
My cousin once gifted me a small (1 cm2) light blue colored tile that fell off from the side of a pool. My mom and dad thought it was weird, but it was one of the best BD gifts I've ever gotten, and my elder sister loved it, too.
Thanks for this video. It made me think of the best and simplest (and probably least expensive gift I’ve gotten, which was from an autistic friend when we were teens or young adults. It also reminds me of my son who loves to share small tokens, especially the special rocks he finds, with the people he cares about. ❤
I’m not autistic(went to a specialist) but I do have adhd and have some overlapping symptoms and such Seeing your videos and some things I relate to is very fun
You are really so sweet to be honest I recognize myself in you I've been diagnosed with ass and a non verbal learning disorder profile. I didn't mach in autistic groups and lot of autistic people but when I see you I see myself.
Writing a whole essay for ppl is so me. Last year I made cards for all my teachers and I wrote soooo much for some of them. Like I think one of them was literally 6 paragraphs. Is that typical for people to do? No. But is that my way of expressing gratitude? Yes.
When I was younger I was in a Girl Scout troop and there was a girl about a year or 2 younger then me in the troop who was autistic, I noticed that nobody in the troop really talked to her so I decided to talk to her and she was so sweet! She really loves cats and so do I so we started always talking :) and my best friend who was also in that troop started talking to her to and even tho we were the only ones that talked to her we would always make sure she was included in everything! Even tho she is a little odd she is one of the best friends in the world
I found out as an adult and ive always struggled to find folks that feel like my style of silly and WHOO BOY you feel like my kinda silly dude Im so glad i found your channel i can see im gonna learn a lot of helpful things from you
As a neurodivergent and socially anxious person myself - I've always had an easier time making friends with autistic people because in my experience, they pursue a friendship when they actually want to. I don't have to go through the social etiquette guessing game (:
I am autistic and I have an autistic partner we are saying sweet words to each other in fictional languages and we did a compliment rhyme off. I love them so much
I’m autistic and idk if I’ve ever had a friend who wasn’t also autistic. I’ve never not had fun hanging out with my pals. We are all so ourselves that it leads to great conversation
I got a boob job, Botox etc and was masking to the highest degree. I got my implants out, and got diagnosed with autism. I’m now working on the new me ….. unmasked
Two of my best friends are autistic. They are like two additional brains that do think about things that I would never consider. 😂it's amazing! If I can't decide both of them already have choosen what is the right thing for them and me. I rly love them. And I've got a lot of rocks and stuff that were presented to me. 😅
My husband & kiddo have gotten used to me giving them more than 1 card for holidays & birthdays. Usually a sentimental one, and a funny one. Sometimes more.
I have an Autistic Friend who I will see in class a lot (becuase we have the same class) we don’t hang out as much as we used too, but for my birthday she needle felted the face of my dog with a top hat and it was so cute
As an autistic person, I prefer being friends with other autistic people or similar ND They communicate the same way I do and see the world in much the same way. (Ofc not a monolith but it’s going to be much closer than the average NT person would be) It makes it so I’m not doing 95% of the work for every conversation and everything just flows naturally. I can just be myself It’s like speaking to someone who shares your native language rather than having to speak in your second language that’s only kind of developed and they get irrationally angry at you for every little mistake while refusing to even acknowledge your native language exists let alone learn even the basics. They instead insist that I’m just deficient as a person. And when they are “nice” they’re treating me like I’m stupid in a kid way. I wouldn’t mind being friends with an NT person if they were willing to do 50% of the work and treat me like an adult person but I’ve never met one that even comes close (I’m an adult) But even then, I will always prefer people who are more like me because everyone is like that. Friendships are better when they just get it. Even when I was a kid and had no idea that I was autistic, I attracted other autistic and similar ND people naturally
As a neurotypical dude, 90% of my friends have autism. No clue why it's that high a concentration, but I'm not complaining. They rag on my for usually being the only NT in the room, which I imagine is a refreshing change of pace. XD
as an autistic person, you'll never be confused as to how i feel about you. i will always announce a gesture of affection with "affection for you" and a gesture of disdain with "disdain for you"
My best friends brother has autism and I get to listen to hours of talk of language (his interest) and apparently there is a language made for crows??? It cool to listen to all of the fun facts
Sometimes I worry if I'm a good friend to my autistic friend. In my country, being social = happy, but with AvPD, I'm just not a very social person and that doesn't necessarily mean I'm not happy. But he is definitely social. He's not super talkative either but that's just because he generally speaks in shorter sentences (sometimes if I try to get him to elaborate, he struggles). I kind of need someone to pull my tongue out for me to get talkative and he's just not very good at that, which is fine for me but I wonder if he feels like I don't wanna be around him sometimes. Man, friendship is hard.
"you're so sweet!"
"Yeah."
was so funny to me
Same
That's literally me
**boss music starts playing**
Same tho, what do I say instead😂
“We don’t dilute our own personalities”
High masking people: 👁️ 👄 👁️
With our FRIENDS.
She said most/many of us, not all :)
With my friends I don't mask but in school I do
My friends also don't know I'm autistic because I found out three months after we became friends and was to anxious to tell them and now it's been a year and she's my best friend and yeah idk she's gonna find out one way or the other but im to worried she'll hate me
Anyways sorry for ranting lmao I just needed to tell someone because nobody I know will listen
@@Ellie_2007 she won’t hate you at all, nothing will change. Plus, if you can’t tell her she’s not your best friend.
I’ve been masking for so long I forgot how to turn it off, and suffer extreme burnout because of it
"add to your social circle"
I got ADHD. Autistic people are my social circle. We attract each other like magnets
I have both, so I guess that explains why I'm on my own. I don't need to attract one or the other because I'm already both. My ADHD and autism are already unhappily married to each other.
As an autistic, just wanna say I love my ADHD brethren :)
@@sarahvanburen7819 Hi. I have both.
This is soooo real. I was just having this conversation last night with my two autistic friends who were basically trying to (kindly) suggest to me I may want to get tested 😂😅 they're two of five friends I have with autism lol
As an autistic person, I also feel like we always make sure friends know they’re valued
Like every chance I get I’ll tell my friends “hey! I fucking care about you! You are amazing and loved!” Because I love making them happy
Also an autistic person, but I actually have the opposite problem. I WANT to tell my loved ones that but I just can’t get the words out and I’m really sad about it. Idk if it’s from my rejection sensitivity/anxiety or years of masking.
You don’t have to respond to this or even care about it, I just needed to vent and wanted anyone else who’s struggling with that to know they’re not alone
@@Actually_its_Ashely I'm not a doctor so take my words with a grain of salt but I've noticed autistic girls and autistic AFAB people are more prone to showing open affection like this. I think autistic cis males just tend to be more repressed due to what was expected of them in childhood.
@@roahthecow I didn’t know that before. Im AFAB but didn’t find out I was autistic till I was 13, that’s why I did such a crazy amount of masking
Same 😂😂
I do this all the time. Because I immensely fear people not understanding my intentions and taking my monotone face and voice the wrong way. Because that happens a lot :D
But yeah. It depends on the person. Some show they care very transparently and some do by the things they do which is also really fun. Like I have one friend who's on the spectrum and they show they care by sending me silly little memes that make them smile. Or they share things they know call me out or would make me laugh.
Another friend I have on the spectrum will tell me all about the lore and gameplay of video games he enjoys. He's gotten me into two different games and I've learned so much just being on call with him.
I mean since I'm also autistic I'm very aware of how and why they do certain things so maybe that makes me more aware of it but I fucking love my friends. We just vibe and be nerodivergent together. It's amazing
I told an autistic peer at uni that I have an eating disorder and that I have days where I cannot eat. We have a relationship where we make light fun of eachother so his first reaction was to tease me a bit for it and then told me he'd bring me soup the next day ❤
We now cook together once evey week. Literally made my year.
🥹 hope you’re doing well in your recovery
I feel very blessed to have 4 autistic friends, 2 autistic co-workers, and many, many autistic acquaintances. As a person with ADHD I tend to overwhelm and upset most neurotypicals (there are some rare ones who appreciate my unfiltered self) my autistic friends just get me and are happy to let me be.
Yeah, and if they're overwhelmed by you, they just say that they need a break and it means nothing more than that !
I'm one of those rare neurotypicals. Unfiltered AuDHD doesn't bother me at all. Those who mask look so tense and uncomfortable. It's depressing to see. As a kid who didn't really understand what autism was all about, I was constantly trying to show how much I loved and appreciated my autistic best friend. I liked when he let himself go. Seeing him excited while flapping his arms was so fun to see.
Nowadays, I know all about sensory overload, stimming, difficulty learning social skills, etc. Now that I understand how it works, I feel even more motivated to let neurodivergent people be themselves. I realized that many of the traits I find endearing are autistic. I'm also more likely to fall in love with an ND girl than an NT one.
The reason why I'm such an anomaly is because I also have an invisible disability: C-PTSD. There are a few similarities with autism. For example, being in certain social environments and situations can be stressful and uncomfortable. If I get overwhelmed, I can have a meltdown. I sometimes also have to mask and pretend I'm doing fine, which adds to my stress. I have my abusive father to thank for this.
I know how hard it is to live in an ableist world. Most NTs are intolerant and apathetic toward my difference. I don't get that vibe from NDs. I also generally feel safe and in control when I'm with them, and that's really important for someone who has C-PTSD. You guys are so freaking weird and I love it!
audhd and same lol
Plot twist! Just have the whole social circle be autistic!! Pure chaos!!
I'VE TRIED THIS ONE IT WORKS LIKE A CHARM
EXACTLY
fr!!
That’s my friend group, we never have plans but sometimes we’re just together and we do things. It’s cool.
This is a documented phenomenon; neurodivergent clustering.
Happens without individuals stating they have anything, as well.
As an autistic person, we are just crows. We like you? “Check out this sick ass rock I found, shit’s shiny.”
I do this, but with videos I find
Collecting rocks is fun, what you talking about?
@@HappyMatt12345 fellow crow spotted
Lol, that’s literally what I do . Autism is the best!!
Me to my friend: “I picked you these flowers bc they were bright and made me think of you bc you love bright colors”
"You're so sweet!"
"Yeah."
RELATABLE
Not to mention if you have anxiety, your autistic friend will TELL YOU HOW IT IS which makes it so much easier to deal with conflicts
As an autistic person, once you tell me something about yourself I will never forget it.
Best gifts I ever got were hand drawn opening title cards for "the Secret of Nimm" from a non-vocal autistic customer at the video game shop. He heard me talking about that movie, and he and his mom brought in that gift for me! I bought him a video game to show my gratitude.
Kaelyn is so nice, anyone would be lucky to have a friend like her.
in elementary there was this autistic boy who everyone loved and when we had to go to middle he had to go to a different middle school it made me very sad that he wouldn’t be at my middle school
I like that she waited for
Kaelynn to acknowledge the moment and initiate her part of the hug first. It was also a partial and gentle side hug that can be more comfortable than a grand, double-armed bear hug. My nephew has good days and bad days. I get extra joy on the days when my request for a hug is him grinning big and launching himself in to wrap around me. He sets the amount of time and strength in the hug each time. I think that I get the better hugs because he is recognizing my understanding for his needs from his earliest days. I never took offense on the days when it was only a smirk with a quick fist bump.I 😊
I have gotten along well with others who have told me they are autistic. I am very straightforward person and prone to also being very silly. My autistic co worker is not bothered by me at all and we appreciate one another’s’ honesty. I actually don’t feel pressured to self regulate as much because I don’t feel like they are judging how normal I might be acting.
My best friend is autistic and is genuinely the best friend I’ve ever had, love her to death
I love this. It couldn't be more true. Oh the stories I could tell! My best friends in high school had Williams syndrome and autism. Williams syndrome made her wonderfully friendly if not exceedingly distractible. My friend with ASD was one of the kindest people I know. She taught me how to communicate in gifs. She brought be snacks and when I would get stressed, she would share her stim toy with me.
Oh and I have a physical disability so the three of us were quite the crowd lol
That appreciation is very true. EVERYONE told me they felt comfortable being themselves around me
Me and my best friend are both autistic. We're the only two people who "get" each other. We get along better than any two best friends I know of. I also appreciate that she's never tried to get me to take off my raincoat. Most people I make friends with can't accept that I want to leave my raincoat on all the time and I don't care how hot and sweaty I get, I just want to wear it. (I treat it more likes a dress than a raincoat, I'll admit)
I love raincoat as a dress, that's so cute
@@goose2888 Thank you! I don't know why I love wearing a raincoat so much, I just feel "right" when it's on. My best friend is five years younger than me but she's kind of taken on the "big sister" role and she helps me with a lot of things in life such as navigating the world.
The way "that's called friendship" was said was amazing. It definitely felt like it needed a "nailed it" after it xD
Gift giving is something that's borderline distressing for me because I *have to* make sure the receiver understands my feelings and enjoys the gift.
I often slip my phone out of my pocket during conversations to write down gift ideas MONTHS before their next birthday & hand-illustrate birthday cards with large walls of text inside sharing feelings about them that feel unnatural to say out loud.
To me, holidays are the perfect opportunity for me to express the way I feel about my loved ones year-round, but struggle to express on a regular basis through subtle social cues.
My best friend for the last 4 years has autism, and he is the most genuine person I've ever meet. I truly love him.
Tend to have strong preferences and opinions? Tend to? Hahaha! This made me giggle so hard because my husband is autistic and he most definitely has strong preferences and opinions, but I adore him and wouldn’t want him any other way!
Me (NT) married an autistic person because he listens better than anyone I've ever met, if he's giving his attention it's all of it and is so genuine and kind. Then find out so much about autism, have a whole autistic side of my family now and do feel like I leveled up my whole life by having all of them in it.
being with autistic people helped my anxiety. I can trust they say their honest opinion and will let me know right away if I mess up or do good! I have such a hard time doing that and really value it in others 🥰
I would like to have you as a friend. Thanks for showing everyone how important it is to include all people in our worlds.
Ich bin nicht autistisch, aber das bringt mich dazu, einen solchen Freund zu haben...
I'm autistic in a friendship group with both neurotypicals and other neurodivergents in it. We're going on a trip end of the month and I've planned the itinerary. I absolutely loved doing it because I got to make sure all of my friends' interests were taken into account and they were all so pleased to see there was stuff specifically chosen for them.
Even interests they didn't know I knew about, because they don't talk about them a lot. But I pay attention and it makes me so happy to see them all feel seen.
I can undoubtedly vouch for how awesome it is to have autistic friends ❤
Pretty much yeah. Though I can say from experience that if your autistic friend also has adhd, it might be a good idea to send them a few reminders for things like parties, hangouts or important dates. We tend to be pretty chaotic and while we may forget that you celebrate getting your driver's license this Wednesday or that you had a birthday party last weekend, we do still care about you and will make sure to show it.
This!!!
I'd give almost anything to have a friend like you!
One time in college I volunteered to be the roommate to go buy gifts for our roomie who was having a birthday. I came back with such thoughtful and personalized gifts my other roommates were shocked and told me they never would have thought of the stuff I got. I had simply taken note of what my roommates each liked from our conversations and searched walmart until I found the best things within our budget. Didn't seem hard at all to me! I love giving thoughtful gifts. ☺️
my entire friend group is autistic, including myself, its pure wholesome chaos, and i couldnt see it any better
I have a good handful of close autistic friends and I love them dearly ❤ such colorful people
I am the Autistic person in a few social circles actually.
I went on a trip to Biloxi with some of my friends from one of my circles in June. 🥰
I have an autistic friend. Found out because I told her I was being tested. She already had a feeling I was autistic. So now we relate to each other about random things like sensory sensitivities. It’s nice. :)
It's always cool to see autistic people in Kaelynn's comments, but today I actually needed to see allistic people talking about their autistic best friends and loved ones in the comments. I struggle with feeling loved or worthy of love, and it's nice to hear that some people love us, not in spite of our autism but because of it 💚
The best thing about having an autistic friend is tbh the hyperfocuses. It’s for me sometimes as if i’ve got a podcast on, 24/7. Even tho many people find it to be annoying, I disagree, as it’s so nice to see someone so happy about a subject. It’s also nice that they’re very straightforward, i never have to wonder about their opinions, or feel like i have to swerve around to say what i mean. I love having autistic friends
The world needs more Kaelynn. If everybody understood Autism and could see people for who they were rather than their disability, the world would be a much better place. Thank you for sharing as always Kaelynn!! 😊❤️
i have adhd and my brother is autistic and the bond we have is unlike anything else
i love him so much, he's one of my bestest friends and i don't know where i'd be without him. he's the only person i truly feel 100% being comfortable with and i know he will never judge me for any of my opinions :]
I felt the rock thing in my soul
My friend and I were getting ready to perform, we had a band competition that day, and she immediately went "I kinda wanna take a rock..." cause she likes to paint them
I immediately pointed out the best rock I could find, and then we found an even better one a few moments later. She performed with a rock in her shorts
my best friend that ive had for over 6 years, is autistic. they are the only friend that i felt comfortable hanging out with all of the time.
You seem like you're a great friend ❤
I’m 25 and I have always had really bad social anxiety and agoraphobia and something I’ve noticed recently is that I find it easier to communicate with and spend longer amounts of time with neurodivergent people. I think I recognize that beneath the masking there is a very authentic person
I'm the Birthday Boss in my group, we always do it up and I love making them feel special
People with autism and my humor/personality go hand in hand.
My cousin once gifted me a small (1 cm2) light blue colored tile that fell off from the side of a pool. My mom and dad thought it was weird, but it was one of the best BD gifts I've ever gotten, and my elder sister loved it, too.
Lemme tell you-having a car full of me and my friends who all have ADHD, Autism, or Both? It is an absolute BLAST.
Thanks for this video. It made me think of the best and simplest (and probably least expensive gift I’ve gotten, which was from an autistic friend when we were teens or young adults. It also reminds me of my son who loves to share small tokens, especially the special rocks he finds, with the people he cares about. ❤
My best friend is autistic. She is an amazing person and an amazing friend. ❤ I have PTSD and ADHD and we go well together!
I'm the autistic friend and this is so true!!
My friend group is predominantly autistic 😂 we're a blast
My group is at 4/6 autistic people... most of us were not aware before meeting and basically amplifying our personalities instead of masking
My best friend is autistic and she's the best friend I've ever had ❤
I’m not autistic(went to a specialist) but I do have adhd and have some overlapping symptoms and such
Seeing your videos and some things I relate to is very fun
This is so true! I absolutely LOVE my autistic friends.
You are really so sweet to be honest I recognize myself in you I've been diagnosed with ass and a non verbal learning disorder profile. I didn't mach in autistic groups and lot of autistic people but when I see you I see myself.
Me and my bsf are autistic and I absolutely love how we understand each other
I absolutely love your outfit! :)
Writing a whole essay for ppl is so me. Last year I made cards for all my teachers and I wrote soooo much for some of them. Like I think one of them was literally 6 paragraphs. Is that typical for people to do? No. But is that my way of expressing gratitude? Yes.
When I was younger I was in a Girl Scout troop and there was a girl about a year or 2 younger then me in the troop who was autistic, I noticed that nobody in the troop really talked to her so I decided to talk to her and she was so sweet! She really loves cats and so do I so we started always talking :) and my best friend who was also in that troop started talking to her to and even tho we were the only ones that talked to her we would always make sure she was included in everything! Even tho she is a little odd she is one of the best friends in the world
I found out as an adult and ive always struggled to find folks that feel like my style of silly and WHOO BOY you feel like my kinda silly dude
Im so glad i found your channel i can see im gonna learn a lot of helpful things from you
I like to find my horsey friends stickers that look like their horses!! I also give people pretty rocks and crocheted coasters ^^
Hi Pete, I’m right now making a very big painting for one of my good friends are very grateful for her and I won’t be where I am without her
I miss my autistic friend, she has spouts of thinking everyone hates her and removed me off everything 😢
As a neurodivergent and socially anxious person myself - I've always had an easier time making friends with autistic people because in my experience, they pursue a friendship when they actually want to. I don't have to go through the social etiquette guessing game (:
Most of my friends are autistic, and I think I might be too but that's a different story. I find they give the best gifts!
I am autistic and I have an autistic partner we are saying sweet words to each other in fictional languages and we did a compliment rhyme off. I love them so much
all my friends are autistic, we’re like magnets 😭
I’m autistic and idk if I’ve ever had a friend who wasn’t also autistic. I’ve never not had fun hanging out with my pals. We are all so ourselves that it leads to great conversation
If some one gifts me a cool rock i would be so happy
I’m an autistic person myself and so are some of my friends
Holy shit. I am in Love
I got a boob job, Botox etc and was masking to the highest degree. I got my implants out, and got diagnosed with autism. I’m now working on the new me ….. unmasked
Two of my best friends are autistic. They are like two additional brains that do think about things that I would never consider. 😂it's amazing!
If I can't decide both of them already have choosen what is the right thing for them and me. I rly love them. And I've got a lot of rocks and stuff that were presented to me. 😅
My girlfriend is autistic and I love them 😁
I think we have like….4……and I love all of them
My husband & kiddo have gotten used to me giving them more than 1 card for holidays & birthdays. Usually a sentimental one, and a funny one. Sometimes more.
I have an Autistic Friend who I will see in class a lot (becuase we have the same class) we don’t hang out as much as we used too, but for my birthday she needle felted the face of my dog with a top hat and it was so cute
As an autistic person, I prefer being friends with other autistic people or similar ND
They communicate the same way I do and see the world in much the same way. (Ofc not a monolith but it’s going to be much closer than the average NT person would be) It makes it so I’m not doing 95% of the work for every conversation and everything just flows naturally. I can just be myself
It’s like speaking to someone who shares your native language rather than having to speak in your second language that’s only kind of developed and they get irrationally angry at you for every little mistake while refusing to even acknowledge your native language exists let alone learn even the basics. They instead insist that I’m just deficient as a person. And when they are “nice” they’re treating me like I’m stupid in a kid way. I wouldn’t mind being friends with an NT person if they were willing to do 50% of the work and treat me like an adult person but I’ve never met one that even comes close (I’m an adult)
But even then, I will always prefer people who are more like me because everyone is like that. Friendships are better when they just get it. Even when I was a kid and had no idea that I was autistic, I attracted other autistic and similar ND people naturally
Omg that card was so cute
I love your shirt!!!!
As a neurotypical dude, 90% of my friends have autism. No clue why it's that high a concentration, but I'm not complaining. They rag on my for usually being the only NT in the room, which I imagine is a refreshing change of pace. XD
Loving the informative videos.
I would love to have a friend and not be alone 😭😭😭
Kaelynn is a very lovely girl 😊
i love my friends and my friends love me : )
Can you do a video on some of your favourite clothing brands cos I really struggle with clothes
She is so cute 😊
If I make you something or give you a rock you are special to me lmao
I have dyscalculia and only found out this year bc my primary school though I was faking it
I loooove your shirt 😍
as an autistic person, you'll never be confused as to how i feel about you. i will always announce a gesture of affection with "affection for you" and a gesture of disdain with "disdain for you"
my primary social circle is all autistic. including me.
Me being autistic and having a autistic friend
And we can also remember what our friends like and the friends are like "what ?! How ?!" And we are like cuz we like ya so we remember stuff
Both of my best friends are autistic. So am i. We're the funnest group in the class
My best friends brother has autism and I get to listen to hours of talk of language (his interest) and apparently there is a language made for crows??? It cool to listen to all of the fun facts
Sometimes I worry if I'm a good friend to my autistic friend.
In my country, being social = happy, but with AvPD, I'm just not a very social person and that doesn't necessarily mean I'm not happy. But he is definitely social. He's not super talkative either but that's just because he generally speaks in shorter sentences (sometimes if I try to get him to elaborate, he struggles). I kind of need someone to pull my tongue out for me to get talkative and he's just not very good at that, which is fine for me but I wonder if he feels like I don't wanna be around him sometimes.
Man, friendship is hard.