How to Change a Victim Mindset

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  • Опубликовано: 29 авг 2024

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  • @abigailc6326
    @abigailc6326 4 года назад +4

    This is incredibly helpful. In college I had an abusive boyfriend who also cheated on me. For the past year and a half since then I've been trapped in self-pity which contributes to the depression I feel. I would feed off of other people's empathy and sympathy because it just felt so comforting/validating. I recently had the realization that I'm still identifying myself as a victim. This realization was a huge first step for me. So thank you for this video. Making these changes in my mindset are difficult but so so empowering.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад +1

      Wishing you well for empowerment in your journey 💛🧡💛

  • @iiivvyyy
    @iiivvyyy 5 лет назад +7

    Hi B! You are amazing. I want to share that I was unknowingly in a victim mindset for many years. I was surrounded by people, places, and things that didn't seem right for me, but I thought there was nothing I could really do to change it. I thought I just needed to work harder. I had to take an honest look at myself, go back over my past experiences, and acknowledge that yes they hurt me and yes I was still carrying the pain (in my physical body). The heartache started so long ago, and was so consistent, I just sort of forgot about the reasons why and got used to the pain. I was unknowingly being bogged down by past trauma, and was horribly out of alignment. One of the turning points for me was YOUR VIDEO. I emailed you, and you responded and gave me HOPE. THANK YOU.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your experience! 💛🤗💛 big love to you, B

  • @Damian.D
    @Damian.D Год назад

    Taking off this "coat" of feeling like a victim...yes... It is the way to freedom!! I'm on this path right now. Thank you so much for this video! It's astonishing how I find the right video at the right time... Your work is truly priceless, B.! 💛

  • @shankarprasad1977
    @shankarprasad1977 5 лет назад +9

    Amazing stuff B. Its true that healing happens when we come out of the victim mindset. Thank you so much for your wonderful videos that are not only genuine but also pragmatic.💫🙏🙌

  • @carolynwhelan8633
    @carolynwhelan8633 5 лет назад +1

    Taking responsibility connects to Ho'oponopono meditation. I have taken a few classes. The mantra is I'm sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank You. Many people use this to help let go and move on or heal. Your video was so informative and just confirmed so much of how I have felt in the past. I did have a spiritual awakening after my 25 year marriage ended. He had an affair and it took me a long time to let go and get strong. I still have my moments but I am a stronger, better person and I am much happier with my life now. I am doing so many things now that I only dreamed of before. There is a whole beautiful world out there and I am happy to explore it .

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад

      😊💛 thank you for sharing your journey. And yes I use Ho'oponopono often too. it's a beautiful healing mantra. Thanks for mentioning it here. 🙏

  • @christineweber8480
    @christineweber8480 2 года назад

    Thank you 😊 my fear of illness and accidents makes me feel like a victim. I'm truly trying to overcome and understand my power on the other side of these fears.

  • @littlebirdlane
    @littlebirdlane 5 лет назад +2

    I chose to engage in destructive behavior through Painful Reaction a year ago. B, I came out of the entire MESS by owning my actions. I LOVE what your saying because it brings knowledge and power. I found freedom through this belief! I never want to play victim again.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад

      Inspiring, respect and love to you for your breakthrough! 💫💛

  • @victoriamd9078
    @victoriamd9078 2 года назад

    I was being covertly abused by a psychopath
    Husband. I had no idea it was him. It completely shattered my life and he tried attempts on me and our daughters life.
    I promise you can get through anything.
    Get help, give yourself time to heal, Give nobody power over you. You are perfect exactly as you are. I promise if you keep putting one foot in front of the other...you will have an amazing future. If I can do it from losing almost everything....so can you.
    Please know there is someone who believes in you...that is me. I believe in you always.
    It's going to be better than ok.
    Yes I promise

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  2 года назад

      Victoria, sending so much love your way. And thank you for sharing this empowerment and support with others who might be struggling.
      B

  • @kimberlyjackson2008
    @kimberlyjackson2008 4 года назад +1

    Thanku..just caught this video and realized this a huge part in my life. I can see I have used these coping mechanism my whole life even from childhood. A learned behavior to cope with my childhood >mother was bipolar /alcoholic . I survived my brother did not he committed suicide. The struggle is real. This victim mentality destroyed my 26 year marriage. This video has opened my eyes..I struggle with HUGE anger issues and depression I hate asking for help also.... But I'm a work in progress. One day at a time =)

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад +1

      Hey Kimberly, thanks for sharing about your journey, and my sympathies and love to you with the loss of your brother. May your life be blessed with peace and personal power as you step forth each coming day. As you said, it's just one day at a time. Much love, B

  • @veronicalschronicles
    @veronicalschronicles 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you so much for this! So very needed and perfect timing for me right now 🙏💚🌟

  • @glendapeglau4694
    @glendapeglau4694 5 лет назад +1

    Forgiveness yes. I think some personalities esp along with bullying over powering parents sets some ppl up for inevitable victim mentality. I love that ur mission in part is to help ppl shift out of it/ awareness

  • @kevinwijayaoey281
    @kevinwijayaoey281 2 года назад

    Love this. Will save and review again. You've earned a new subscriber - thank you B!

  • @daliaelnazer11
    @daliaelnazer11 5 лет назад +3

    How to define the line between victimizing oneself and between over blaming oneself for everything

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад +3

      I hear you, my sense is that either approach is based on laying blame and therein lies the problem. When we focus instead on accepting that life happens as it does and taking whatever lessons arise from it, and focusing forward, it helps. 💛

  • @zamorazip9626
    @zamorazip9626 5 лет назад

    You have great wisdom ..thank you for your guidance

  • @chrisdamian9917
    @chrisdamian9917 5 лет назад

    Okay this is awesome I was just dealing with myself on this issue and this popped up and it made me smile because it's exactly what I needed at this perfect moment! Thanks so much because your videos have helped me in alot of ways thanks so much!

  • @user-e2023
    @user-e2023 5 лет назад

    You and your videos are wonderful. U have helped me a lot. Keep up the great work!

  • @y04a
    @y04a 2 года назад

    Such good and clear advice. Thank you

  • @lotus1695
    @lotus1695 5 лет назад

    This came at the right time. This is so helpful. Thank you. 💕

  • @onlyhummingalong
    @onlyhummingalong 4 года назад

    Thank you.

  • @zz-ic6vy
    @zz-ic6vy 4 года назад

    zz22
    Thank you so much for reply! I watch this video over and over again😊 Is there any video on self sabotage?

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад

      😊 I have a related video on how to identify subconscious fears that sabotage you...
      Identifying Subconscious Fears that Sabotage You bit.ly/2HkTumq

  • @zz-ic6vy
    @zz-ic6vy 4 года назад

    What to do if i want to take full responsibilty but i just can't? I think i am taking but then again i am falling in victim mentality.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад

      Hi, great question. You can intentionally take responsibility, and still at the same time not be perfect. Being responsible doesn't mean you then change it all 100% perfectly. It simply means you are aware of the pattern, you want to do better, and you acknowledge the times when you fall into old patterns. You can always be responsible, even if it means claiming that responsibility AFTER having falling into the victim mentality. We make small steps day by day, small changes add up to big leaps over time. Patience and be kind and loving to yourself, acknowledge your strides, and commit to keeping going anytime you fall over. We're all human! You're not alone :)

    • @zz-ic6vy
      @zz-ic6vy 4 года назад

      Thank you so much for reply! I watch this video over and over again😊 Is there any video on self sabotage?

  • @adamannear
    @adamannear 4 года назад +1

    whats a vectem? :P