Disclaimer: What I am talking about is related to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. It is not political in any way. It is not a for or against being gay. To learn more about this subtype of OCD go here: iocdf.org/expert-opinions/sexual-orientation-obsessions
It's also possible for gay people to have this type of OCD too, fearing that they're actually straight. Or a bisexual person fearing that they only like one gender & aren't actually bi. Aros, aces, and aroaces probably can too, i.e. what if I really do experience sexual and/or romantic attraction? (I'm an aroace who may or may not have OCD and sometimes I see someone pretty and I start checking to see if I feel sexual and/or romantic attraction towards them. But again, I'm not diagnosed with OCD yet, so that may be something else.)
Yes, te think that is causing my hocd is that I was so straight to the point that I never noticed a man. And when the thought hit me it destroyed all my values, and got stuck in my head.
It’s not always sexual intrusive thoughts that scare me. It’s just the little “voice” in the back of my head telling me I am gay when Ik I’m not and just that scares me
@@AbdulRahim-eh3gtwe have been suffering at the same time dude, i dont get a boner for dudes but my brain thinks im about to, so i check my groin and there is no boner........ i have had these bad thoughts and i have lost myself..... my anxiety made it worse and i had loads of panic attacks.... it will be fine.... i believe in you
@@gonzo2855 I'm not getting that fantasy I used to get when I looked at girls😭that is what destroying me.. please tell me what to do, I want my attraction and feelings for girls back😭.
@@gonzo2855 and I want to tell you one more thing, I haven't met a beautiful girl in years, could you think this might be the reason my Hocd was created.😔🤔
What scares me is when I calm down from it I think “omg what if I’m calm now because I’m accepting being gay” then I just worry and can’t stop thinking and it becomes all I think about all day everyday and I need help
You are not alone. I am heterosexual woman and i have this fear when i want to relax. Ignore this! It is ocd! Not you! You are not your illness! If you was gay you got fear about becaming heterosexual. Gay people scared this too Sorry for my english. I am russian
Its...fucked up man. I always have the same thoughts. I understand and I'm not gonna say "listen to your heart" because I know what you're going through, and I know it is not that easy. Something that helps me though, is wondering who I want comfort from the most. For example, every time I feel like crap (so almost always) I would always was to be comforted by a girl, and I figure that if I was gay it would be the other way around
when people may ask you like “do you like the same sex” or “are you gay” does your heart drop and do you get anxious and feel like when you say no you feel like you’re lying but you aren’t?????
Manuel Alves god i thought that wasn’t normal or that because i get nervous and anxious when my boyfriend asks me if i’m gay that that means i actually am
Yep me too, it’s horrible, I’ve had it for a few days now, I have an amazing girlfriend who I want to spend my whole life with but my HOCD is just bringing me down so much, I don’t want to be gay, I never was gay, the thought of it made me sick (not meant in a homophobic way) I adore the ground she walks on, I’m so glad I’ve found this video because it’s put my mind at ease a lot, hang in there, it’ll get better :)
Yes. I have been there before. Or when I need to tell my parents something, the thought of admitting I’m gay comes to mind. I get shaky and chills. It’s so awesome to know that other people are going through this, not fun for us, but it’s good to know.
@@mel5282 I do, and I hate it. Sometimes I wonder if the feeling in my gut is "butterflies" because I'm attracted to them, but I hate the feeling. But back to you. You're not alone, fam. I'm willing to bet that you could find many, many people who understand this (myself included) who would be more than happy to help.
Mentalmathtricks omg same! the butterfly feeling omg is exactly how i feel sometimes. and when my boyfriend asks me do i like girls i get anxious and worried and my heart drops.
@@sidgent8296 stop watching porn. Don't think about it, if the thoughts comes use it in a productive way like read a book, play music or exercise. It'll be difficult at first but you have to stay strong bro. You can fight through it.
HOCD just comes and goes with me, I’m just worried I’m gonna suffer from this for a long time, Although I know I’m straight deep down but the thought of being gay terrifies me
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying :)
@Bob Tunney it’s probably backwards spike, I was scared that I was so calm that I was scared that I became gay so you can intentionally have this stuff happen to you. Relax bro get pass this, make sure doesn’t become a habit cause you might stick to question therefore it’s hard to move forward from the progress your at.
@@Johnfhfjcj thanks :), the thing is it comes in waves with me, but once my mind has calmed down from the thoughts I realise I’m actually straight, it’s all part of overthinking it, once you start overthinking it’s really hard to stop, but this is definitely my worse nightmare and it’s not me being homophobic because I haven’t got a problem with gay people at all
Dear fellow Hocd sufferers, If you intrusive thoughts/images don’t bother you as much as they used to it doesn’t mean you have accepted that you are gay. You have just accepted that these thoughts really have no meaning or relevance to you. And also intrusive thoughts are pretty much always the opposite of something you would do or be interested in. Hope this helped💖 Stay Strong, you got this 😊
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did youre anxiety get better because for me my stomach pain has went down a lot after I accepted the thoughts and ignored them but now when I look at a attractive male in there eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a sensation have you ever experienced this
This is the only video i have found that truly touches on it ! It definitely gets out of control during times of stress and then it takes a long while to shake off. This video confirmed to me that my OCD is a real thing and im not just insane. THANK YOU!
I have days where I’m totally fine and then days like today where the HOCD comes back. Right now I’m having intrusive thoughts about being lesbian. It’s always back and forth one day I’m scared I’m bi, the next is, oh no what if I’m actually lesbian. When I ask myself questions I know I want to be with a boy and it’s the answer for everything but now I keep scaring myself and saying “what if you’re just pushing your real feelings down so far you’re believing you’re straight.” “What if you end up coming out later on in life” and I hate to think about that because I want to be with a boy, I have no desire at all to be with a girl. I’ve never had a boyfriend or experienced really anything with relationships yet and I know that could play a part in it but I’m just scared that when I go to get a boyfriend I’m not going to like it or I’m going to think something is “off”. I just want my life back I don’t want this effecting everything I do.
@@tina0106 I've been feeling the same way. I've always been attracted to men and I've never had a boyfriend but these thoughts just eat me up real bad. I get so panicky and then I start crying. I'm a dreamy person too. I hate these thoughts they're so annoying. I'm a hopeless romantic too, I imagine stuff all the time, I hate these thoughts.
@@tina0106 Yeah I'm really glad too. This video and the comment section has helped me a lot but the thought keeps haunting me like crazy. I might need to talk to a therapist cause I've had this last year also but this time it has been super bad. I don't like thinking like this at all not even one bit. I need help. I hope you get better too and get the help that you need.
Omg this is literally me like I’ve always been attracted to boys and up until a couple months ago it wasn’t a question I knew I was straight but suddenly I’ve been questioning every little thing and I know I’m straight but my mind keeps trying to say I’m lesbian or bi
anika me too. i’ve only ever like guys and have only wanted to be with a man. And then one day a voice told me that “ what if your gay”. at first they were so foreign to me that i knew they were fake. but i couldn’t stop thinking about it. I’ve never been attracted to women and now all i can think about is what if i am. I really don’t want to be gay. or lesbian or even bi. whenever i have these thoughts i get anxiety and can’t sleep. these thoughts have ruined my life and i don’t know what to do. they feel so real sometimes. i avoid everything. the groin also responded suck. and then i read about hocd to give me reassurance. it works for awhile and then i tell myself i’m in denial. i’ve told my parents but they think the thoughts are silly. i live in constant pain and anxiety. all my thoughts have to do w me and i don’t even care about society I just don’t want to be gay. I hate life please help
I pray for everybody who’s going through this, I’m one of seven and three of my siblings have had it. Shows you how common this is, especially in young boys, I’m sure it’s what leads to a lot of young male suicides 😞 ❤️
I’m 14, haven’t felt “Gay” before. Got to text a gay guy from my school and somehow he made me question if I’m gay. This was 4 weeks ago or so. At the beginning I was super anxious and got to talk with my mom about it. I go to a therapist now. The thoughts have decreased but still, I’m asking myself “How can’t it go away?! Is it because I’m gay?” and it’s killing me. I go out with my friends and sometimes just zone out of the group because of these thoughts. It’s awful. I’m not contemplating suicide, but I just want everything to end...
@@vladcapata378 Bro keep calm it's your thoughts playing tricks on you . I got this recently during this damn quarantine. Here's how I got it : This began happening to me since the middle of quarantine. I know I'm straight but these thoughts keep coming. It all began when I was going through Instagram and found at that a guy at college whom we all had suspected was gay was indeed gay as a gay instagram page popped up in my suggestion Box showing that he follows. Then for no reason that thought made me look at other men to know how they even get attracted as a joke. Then as I saw few muscular men like body builders whom I follow for motivation purposes and appreciate their hard earned physique this bullshit thought came Outta nowhere questioning myself if it's appreciating them or attraction to them(this very thought disgusts me and no deep down it's not true).Since then it's become a routine and here I am looking for help amongst you guys. And this is also slowly forcing me to watch porn just to prove my hocd wrong and compel me to spend the whole day thinking about it.
@@abhilashmadhav.m536 in times of extreme thoughts tell ur self to relax , meditate for as much as time required . Listen to the surrounding sounds and think to urself "jolly good it's just a bloody thought!" Give urself a reality check. And tell this to someone close
@@abhilashmadhav.m536 Holy crap, we got this disorder from insta. My backstory is similar to you, except I found the cursed picture(muscular guy in a shower with shirt unbuttoned and wet with a speedo too seductively posing at camera) from the #gay. I'm just curious about LGBT at the time and want to know what are they post regularly.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
I struggled with this, no, WAS TORTURED BY THIS in my late teens and into my 20s. I only found out this was an actual ocd thing a couple years ago at age 35. I cannot believe the anguish I could have been spared had I gotten the help I needed.
hello bro hoperfully u find ur peace.. i wanted to ask a question. did u ever try to mastrbate to gay prn during this phase? if yes, how was the experience comapred to staught prn and in general. i saw that some people are able mastrbate to gay prn easily with hocd thats why wanted to ask...
BRO! I finally FINALLY found out EXACTLY EXACTLY my problem. I knew it was OCD but man oh man! You have helped me tremendously. Man i can not thank you enough really. I never took initiative to look for help. I am facing ocd head on now. Tha k you
For everyone struggling with this inner monster inside of you, DONT give up, DONT give up ! DONT GIVE UP ! I’ve said Three times so you can realize how serious I am right now! You are not alone, this is not you it’s your brain, it’s not your thoughts ! It’s hard, it’s very hard but trust me, do the recovery and just dive in the process, ask God for help, strength and guidance to go through this process but be serious about it ! Accept that you gonna feel emotional pain, doubts, anxiety, distress… but get your head up, look at yourself in the mirror and say “I am going to get through it even tho the sky falls on me, even tho I feel the worst on me ! In the end ALL OF THIS gonna make you a STRONGER person, and it’s gonna be YOU saying “I’ve been through it and I overcame it ! There is hope”. STAY STRONG BROTHER !!! I believe in you, so do me a favor and believe in yourself too cause you are strong, God only let things we can handle happen to us ! It’s a challenge so TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY AND DIVE IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS ! I love you all !
Wow Nathan Shout-out to your comment section this makes me feel so much better I love this community ocd community lift up rise up Fellows we gotta win over this fear!
@Sabertooth 0 in my case, I don't want to act on my intrusive thoughts and I'm scared that if I really was gay, others would distance themselves and judge me. I know I'm not, i find girls sexually attractive but these intrusive thoughts and sensations are killing me from inside
@Sabertooth 0 thanks, this really helped. Another thing is that my OCD just vanishes when I'm around a girl that I have feelings for, I just stop thinking about it and return to act like myself, her presence just reassures me everytime I see her but when I'm alone it kicks in again.
@Sabertooth 0 yeah i know, I'm a fighter I'm not giving up this easy, I'll battle it with serenity and peace, I know my truth and that's what will keep me going.
Although I don't want to self-diagnose myself, I feel like all of these signs are true for me. Plus, I have been struggling with other themes of OCD for the last year and they have been changing. The strongest one was Harm-OCD, when I literally thought I am turning into a serial killer or psychopath. Now I have been struggling a lot with homosexual intrusive thoughts which often convince me that I like it and that's the reason why I keep checking on whether I feel something or I am attracted to the particular thing. I am scared the therapy will make me accept I am a lesbian.
Thanks for sharing what you experience and your perceptions. It's pretty common to think that therapy will make things worse. I often say, "trust in the process" find a good therapist on IOCDF.org who know what they are doing. 😃
hello bro i hope u get tru this... i wanted to ask a question. did u ever try to mastrbate to gay prn during this phase? if yes, how was the experience comapred to staught prn and in general. i saw that some people are able mastrbate to gay prn easily with hocd thats why wanted to ask...
I pray god to cure everyone suffering from hocd trust me guys everything happens for a reason everything’s gonna be just fine . We’re the men we must fight severe situations of life no matter what .
@@thatboydrew8159 hi so I had a dream of like kissing a guy and I didn’t like it and I get worried thinking I might be gay and I have a lot of symptoms that this guy talks about 😣
I’ve been dealing with this since I was 11 which I know is really young to develop this but my friends kept calling me a lesbian since I hadn’t had my first crush, kiss or boyfriend. They also said it was because I gave them hugs (as young kids do) when I saw them for the first time in ages. This really freaked me out as I’ve always been in to Disney princesses and dreaming of falling in love with “my prince” so to suddenly be told I’m something else really got to me. As I got older the more I started to obsess over this fear. Every time there was a sexy scene that involved a woman in a film or a tv show I would always think “am I turned on by this” and would freak out if I had the tiniest reaction. After I kept telling my friend her boyfriend wasn’t a good guy I started to freak out that I was the stereotypical “gay best friend” who has a crush on the main character and would get jealous of them being in a relationship when in reality I was just trying to warn her that he was a douche and she keeps giving him too many chances after cheating on her. But I’ve always been emotionally attracted to guys, I’ve never had a crush on a girl before, whether that’s in films or real life. So when I thought that maybe I was just gay and in denial I would think about being in a relationship with a woman and it didn’t feel right , I only like the idea of being in a relationship with a man. I searched up my thoughts and I came across this and everything made sense. I had all the symptoms and was relieved to see this is an actual thing and I’m not going crazy. I still do panic about not being able to fall in love with “my prince” but I now know that this is just another symptom of HOCD. I don’t know how I’m going to tackle it but seeing this is all just the thoughts in my head and that I will be able to get actual help instead of being told “you’re just a lesbian in denial” has made me feel less alone. Thank you for helping me understand why I have these thoughts in my head.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
For all of you worrying and struggling, I’ve dealt with this for awhile now, I’ve had all kinds of ocd and panic disorders, eating disorders, DR, DP, so many thing, but through God, I was able overcome most of it, but thing with mental disorders and is that they will always come and go, I don’t think they will ever truly exit your life, so the best thing you can do is just manage and control. Don’t let your mind have power over you!! But anyways, back to the HOCD, it always comes and goes just like the others and what I have found out that helps a lot is hanging out with other males!! Hangout with your friends!! Talk about girls!! It like reminds your brain that you are completely straight! You’re not gay, the thoughts you have are intrusive which means you don’t like the thoughts and you wouldn’t actually act on them. Just let them be thoughts and let them fade away. And remember, it’s okay to think that the same sex is good looking, doesn’t matter how straight you are, you can tell if a person is attractive, but it doesn’t mean that you wanna do anything with them, you like females!! Or if you’re a girl, you like men!! You always have!! And if you’re gay and struggling with this, I think you’ve know all your life that you’ve liked the same sex! So don’t question that! Do not let your mind fool you!!! Praying for everyone that has to go through this!!
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
They say that the best feeling in the world is someone saying I love you. The real best feeling is that one moment of relief when you realise that you are not gay. PS: no offense to the gay community.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
I have learned, when you are stressed, your mind does funny things. Ask yourself what stressors you have in life right now. And, dont forget to take care if yourself. Love you all.
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did youre anxiety get better because for me my stomach pain has went down a lot after I accepted the thoughts and ignored them but now when I look at a attractive male in there eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a sensation have you ever experienced this
I used to have these kind of thoughts. For those of you suffering, believe me! They will go away. There was a lot of shame, sadness, and checking multiple internet sources over and over again to “make sure” but eventually they WILL go away! Little by little. You may not see it now, but there will come a day when you don’t care about the thoughts anymore. Once you don’t care, they will diminish. Be kind to yourself! ✌🏽
Thank you so much for this video. The comments have helped calm me down. I have panic disorder and depression, and recently relapsed. My grandmother, the most important person in my life, also passed away a few months ago. I was trying to recover when I suddenly freaked out about possibly being gay. It was a terrifying thought because I've never had that feeling before. It's good to know that it's all in my head, caused by my ocd. Thank you for openly addressing this issue, and thanks for all the brave people sharing their experiences. Here's to an overall better mental health state in 2023!
Anxiety is awful. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
Hey thank you for your videos. I've been suffering from hocd for a few days. I found out about while doing my compulsions, I was searching for phrases like "why do I feel anxiety about my sexuality?" And an article came up. I've also realized I've had obsessims and compulsions before, in different ways, since I was a little kid. I'm going to get therapy, thank you.
I just want to say this post really help me out! I am crying while I write this because, I have had this for 9 months and it has completely ripped my life up. Everyday I wake up with some new thought with my HOCD. I feel like I have nobody to talk to about this and it getting annoying bc it seem like always there. Then I thought what if these thoughts are true and I Tend to over think them. Now my brain is trying to trick me in to think this is really what I want but I feel the opposite way! I cry every night bc I don’t know what to do with all the stress and anxiety. I don’t know what to do or who to turn too and the most upsetting this about all of this my brain will take a good thought that I actually like and turn it into something gay and I will bust in tear bc I don’t feel that way at all. It so annoying, it’s feels like I can’t ever be happy! You know but anyway thank you for giving me the space to talk about this and thank you guys for all the support already!
For me it's the quarantine that wrecked me 😂 We'll get through this . Don't worry and always know it's just the mind playing tricks and it is not what you like 👍
My mind played with me yesterday, i couldn't even sleep and then i accepted at some point that I'm gay because i was stressed out and won't stop having all this fake crushes, but girl ,i felt do damn sad and irritated with myself, its like I'm accepting something that makes me so disgusted with myself and i had depression, i always felt emotionally numb which made it hard for me to even feel attracted to guys , but i never ever saw girls that way at alll , never! , till my friends started saying i look bi , the one of my male friend told me ,naybe I'm into girls because i don't have time for boys , damnn this came with mad ocd ,then i started questioning myself over and over again ,started feeling fake attraction towards girls even my brain convinced me i had a crush on this girls damnn , it even made my attraction for boys lower and now I'm just laying on my bed looking at the ceiling not knowing what to do with my life ,i need help gosh ,I'm desperate, but i know it doesn't feel right being interested in girls to ne
I relate to everything you said ): Definitely want to be with a man, but my biggest fear is that I won't because I'm secretly a lesbian. Idk but I'm always here to talk! I also have no one to talk to about this lol, everyone would judge me and wouldn't understand.
Yes it’s starting again for me I felt uncomfortable with a girl online she asked for pics of my chest I felt very uncomfortable she even asked if I had a boyfriend that was very sus I then blocked her and unfriended her she logged into another account and found me and asked why did I block her and I told her everything she said can we be friends again I was not convinced especially since she was the one making me question my sexuality because no one has asked for that Especially since it was a girl and I’m a girl It made me question if I’m gay especially when she asked if I had a boyfriend but she was saying I’m surprised u don’t cus ur thick that also made me uncomfortable if ur wonder why she said I was thick it’s because it was a modeling discord we both wanted to model but she asked for specific pictures which made me uncomfortable I did some things like specific poses but until she went to far with the chest I was uncomfortable I was questioning my sexuality etc. Am I straight? Why does this feel very gay and weird to me? Wait am I gay? No god pls no! repeatedly nonstop and still My heart is beating and I have butterflies and I questions if it’s love which questions if I am gay way more or if it’s anxiety of me being gay and must being straight I honestly don’t know if it’s because I am afraid how people will react or if it’s because it’s not something I’m interested in, but still question it either way It never seems to end But I don’t ever see myself with a girl tho even tho I see scene of me in my head I am like noo no that’s a noo I wanna say a better word but I would sound homophobic Gross from my point of view based off what’s happening ? Yes sorry 😔 But then it keeps repeating over and over again I hate it I don’t know if I’m being a tsundere or if it’s anxiety As I said I don’t see myself with a girl I wonder in my mind but it’s not satisfying when it comes to mind when I picture it if I picture myself with a boy I feel satisfied I feel fine If I ever see pictures of girls revealing I’m just like wow she has nice body I wish that was my body And even when I say a girl is pretty I start questioning my sexuality again ugh it doesn’t stop even tho I’m not romantically or sexually attracted to her I still question it I want it to stop
it would be more correct to say that this is SOOCD (sexual orientation ocd) because people who are gay/bi can get fear about "changing" their sexual orientation to straight. This fact (fact about gay can get this too) can help straight people with their HOCD
I thought I was just a freak... this video calmed my soul. This all stemmed for me from something extremely stupid but my mind brings me these questions and statements "Thats a gay thing you do." "What if your feeling these thoughts and your actually gay?" What I find helps me is to think back to a time when those thoughts didn't consume you? What did you feel? Your mind has put you through so much your believing it, don't! I remember the first day of intrusive thoughts, I was shaking and I wasn't eating. I then had a free week and it was the best week of my life. It came back for two days and left again I now am on week three and I think I could be beginning to cope again.
You are helping me a lot, I had no idea I had to do what you are saying! I have been struggling with it for a while now. I want to get totally over with it. Thanks from Perú
I’ve got it figured out. Your sexuality is set at birth and what you “were” is what you will always be and no matter if you wanted to you or anyone else could change that. Also if you ask yourself “what if” you are not gay if you were you would already know. This may not help some people and I can understand that but it is just the facts
Man, I've been struggling with this one lately. Thinking "How do I know I'm actually straight", looking at homosexual porn to try and figure out if it turns me on, getting self-conscious and in my head when I see another guy who I think looks good/cute (even though I have no sexual desire towards him...but my brain is trying to figure out if I do). Shit, even as I watch your video and find certain features about you attractive, I'm questioning if I'm gay. I wanted to give a premature thanks to you for making these videos. I've been struggling with anxiety (and/or maybe ADHD, still trying to figure that out -- your video about it is how I found your channel) and I can tell you've been through it and understand what it feels like. One bit of feedback on the video, I think the background music is a bit too loud.
It all started when one day when I was just pondering thoughts and then the thought of being gay popped up. I hate these thoughts a lot, they only bring me anxiety, depression and guilt. I have a feeling that I'm straight but the thoughts (the voice in the back of my head) tell me otherwise. I'm just not sure and the uncertainty kills me and if I'm being honest, I'd rather die than be gay. Not because I'm homophobic, but because thinking about it just kills me inside. During the middle of 2020 and towards the end I was fine, cause my mind was off it cause of stuff like school and sport. (this all started Dec 2019) but the thoughts came back and started acting up again in like dec 2020 and are still prevalent. I'm so unsure because I keep thinking I'm just masking it or hiding it or just denying it, but then at some stages I'll feel certain I'm straight. This is so painful, someone please help.
I have pdf here guys that can help you all feel better im not saying cure because it will never be cure im just saying that even if it comes back you know that its not true and just a thought, btw i used to have thoughts like this but when i start reading the book it calms me, of course it comes back but i know how to deal with it
I am a 14 year old girl and I’m pretty sure I have this - I have struggled with ocd for a couple of years now (emetaphobia and the fear of being ill) it got pretty bad and I had to leave school and it consumed most of my day doing compulsions, I tried doing exposure but it got so overwhelming I started getting ill and had to be in hospital, anyway all of that stopped and I started doing exposure and it worked and I have had a couple of months almost free from it - but now I think I have got HOCD- it started out me getting the thought and whenever I saw a girl I thought “maybe you like them” etc and I started to keep my nails long etc so I didn’t look lesbian and looking at people and checking if I liked them, it started consuming my mind and so I told my mum and we have started doing exposure. The problem is it seems to be tangling up my mind and the thoughts keep getting stronger- now whenever i see a girl for the first few seconds it’s fine and then I get the feeling I actually like them- and when I see a guy I am starting to stop getting the feeling that I like them. Which is making me believe that maybe I am lesbian ( I really don’t want to be! ) - It comes in waves and sometimes I see that actually I do want to be with a guy when I grow up etc but then it just gets worse. I think the problem is that I am homeschooled and so I haven’t been around anyone for a couple of years except my friends (who are girls) so I can’t workout if I actually like guys or not and the problem is the longer my HOCd is going on I am doubting it actually is hocd and that I actually do like girls because the feeling that I like guys is going away. I would go to a school so I can actually be around people but I get so nervous I’m going to be sick at school it just gets too overwhelming. I really want all of this to stop!!
I'm so sorry you've struggled with this! It sound so painful. Good news is that I have a treatment video coming out with this next week. If you haven't seen my emetophobia video that has some good tips. I hope you can feel better my friend! 😃
Im so glad Im not alone.. I always liked men my whole life was with my ex boyfriend for 6 1/2 years and he started asking about if Id ever be interested in the same sex and I lost my sex drive to him after some years. both these things made me question myself constantly to the point of crippling OCD 😭
I'm sorry for what you're experiencing! It's so frustrating that this can come into someone's life. I hope you can find some tools that work well for you! 😃
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
y’all don’t know how much this comment section calmed me down ! i really thought i was the only one with this and made me think i’m actually gay because I AM the only one that thinks like this! i wish everyone gets over what they got going on, i believe i started getting this during quarantine as well. it didn’t help that i smoke a lot of wax daily so i’m always thinking which made it so fucking bad. i remember i took shrooms and was scared that i’m gonna have a revelation i was gay which led to a bad trip, but deep down i knew i was straight but still that fucking thought of “no you’re gay” would always replay over and over in my head.
@Evan Glickman At 6:40 what does he mean by the anxiety may go up or down?? Did you feel like sick when you look or try to think about a girl??…And also I’ve been avoiding music but none of them are homosexual. Like I’m scared to sing songs like boo by usher or something by the Beatles. I would still sing to Elton John tho. But like I would sing along to female songs. like before, I use to sing a song called the most beautiful girl in the world by prince. Like I remember singing it no problem but now what is going on? And when you get turned on by the thoughts (Please tell me if you had this to) Does your face feel red, your heart starts beating and your groin kind of moves?? I don’t really how getting aroused feels like…
@Evan Glickman At 6:40 what does he mean by the anxiety may go up or down?? Did you feel like sick when you look or try to think about a girl??…And also I’ve been avoiding music but none of them are homosexual. Like I’m scared to sing songs like boo by usher or something by the Beatles. I would still sing to Elton John tho. But like I would sing along to female songs. like before, I use to sing a song called the most beautiful girl in the world by prince. Like I remember singing it no problem but now what is going on? And when you get turned on by the thoughts (Please tell me if you had this to) Does your face feel red, your heart starts beating and your groin kind of moves?? I don’t remember how feeling aroused feels like…
OH MY GOD i thought im the only one. i have never been attracted to the same sex in my life and i have thse intrusive thought inn my head that gives me self doubt and sleepless nights but i know i will never be aroused by men. let us stand up my brothers! we can fight this self doubt that plagues our hearts and minds! we now WHO WE ARE AND WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE! so whoever you are i believe the fighting voice that you are not gay! there is nothing wrong with being gay but we are not gay! we are men! straight and true! fight for the empire and the pussy that awaits us! Godspeed!
I struggled with this for about 4 months until I finally came to my terms that I had HOCD. It ripped me apart. I just had one of those thoughts and my brain figured I had to have an answer. I'd never really thought about it before and have always liked and had crushes on boys. I've came to terms and it's been better I've done therapy and now it only comes back maybe once or twice a week. Now I've started stressing over my gender and if I'm actually a man. I've always loved girly things dresses, makeup, fake nails etc. Now it feels like I want to be it just to make my thoughts leave. I have no clue why my body and mind wants to think those thoughts. Now I just have to let it go and just leave my thoughts behind. I don't give into the thoughts and compulsions as much as I did with HOCD because I know what will happen and I try to calm myself before anything worse starts to happen like the man in the video talked about.
Great Video, I had HOCD and practically housebound for years. The key to overcoming it was really not caring if I was or wasn’t. You know the old “yeah maybe I am maybe I’m not” and taking the Power away from the thoughts. Who cares,,,I would love to see a video on Magical OCD, or superstition OCD. Many Thanks
My ocd has definitely gotten worse with the whole pandemic. I’ve had harm ocd thoughts, sexual thoughts, and I’ve existential thoughts throughout the past few months, This video helped me feel a little better today. OCD is so tough, I spend hours and hours every day in this mental loop and it’s exhausting. I’ll finally feel a tiny normal for a bit but then OCD hits me again. Throughout my life I’ve had sexual thoughts and they would make me so sick because I thought it was bad I was a thinking of them. HOCD is a new one for me, it started up about 2 months ago because I was having sexual intrusive thoughts about a girl and then it hit me and I thought that it meant that I was a lesbian even though I didn’t enjoy those thoughts. I look at every girl now and see if I’m attracted to them. Throughout high school I was boy crazy and had lots of boyfriends haha. Right now I’m actually in a more serious relationship with a guy who I love so much. And now I’m scared of losing him and not being with him anymore because what if I’m lesbian? But then I realize that I wouldn’t be worried about not being in a relationship anymore if I actually was. I was so crazy about him before and I was very very attracted to him but after this whole HOCD thing I’ve questioned my attraction for him, even though I know I am. Writing out my thoughts makes me realize how crazy they are, I’m sure whoever is reading this understands what I’m talking about and how exhausting these thoughts are. I’m just wanting to feel normal again.
Im sorry you feel this way,You need to remember if you in fact do have hocd it means that your mind is tricking you or is trying to make you something your not,you have no evidence or anything like that to make you question yourself or your sexuality except your thoughts,hope this helps
Trust me it'll get better. The last 2years were really tough for me. I can relate to everything you're saying cause I've been through it. In my case, I've been to a point where I thought I would commit suicide because just normal coversation with my friends or with anyone of my same sex would give me intrusive thoughts and thoughts of being gay and I hated it. My mind would make up things like "you're definitely attracted to him", "kiss him", "he's hot"etc. The only thing that's helping me is yoga and meditation everyday for 30-40mins. Try doing it in a month or so you'll definitely feel better. These thoughts can be captivating cause our minds work that way, we're always attracted towards the unknown. Accept the thoughts, meditate, exercise and keep yourself busy. Also, accepting these thoughts doesn't mean you'll become gay, the thoughts will just fade away. Stay strong we're with you. Recently I've had a chat with one of my gay friend. He shared his entire experience about him coming out. He told he have always been attracted to men for a long time and how he would just agree when we would talk about girls. And he too felt out of place, depressed and just how society would judge him. To be honest, his experience had no similarity to mine. I would just think these things thoughts and jumble my mind about being gay, but he just felt naturally attracted to same sex and never struggled about his sexual orientation. He was the person I mostly avoided during these years because I thought my mind would make up worse of things and again I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Truth is the opposite, talking to him gave me a perspective from their life and it definitely helped me feel better.
@@bloody8224 ok thank you. Is it possible for me to be something other than straight after the thoughts? Cause before the thoughts I was straight and like girls and got turned on by them but then these thoughts popped out of nowhere in my head.
@@bloody8224 I also get this nervous feeling in my stomach when I sometimes think about straight stuff but I’m not scared to be straight I wanna be straight so I don’t know why I get that feeling
@@graemeireland9247 The thoughts don’t get to decide what you are. Is it possible to be something else after the thoughts? My answer is probably a maybe. You’re probably at that age where you’re questioning yourself. But that’s your decision. Do you want to be gay/bi? Hopefully that answers the question. Try accepting your having these thoughts. Accepting the thoughts doesn’t mean your accepting that your gay or having other thoughts. I know it’s hard. Let me ask you some questions. Do you like the thoughts your having? Do you see yourself with the same sex?
I have been having this HOCD for the last 3 weeks and have had it a few times before and it's really stressful and I'm currently sitting my GCSEs and so originally it was har. OCD which I did overcome but now it's HOCD and it can stem from small things such as dreams or random thoughts. I spoke to my mum about it for the first time today and felt so relif but ut has still found its way to we've back into my thoughts causing me to over analyse past events and it's really taking a toll on my mental health. These videos have help alot and I just hope that this subsides soon🙃
I have been experiencing this recently. Bc when I think about it I get shivers and I start thinking "what if I am lesbian?" Or "what if I'm bi?" And it makes me so scared bc I don't feel that way. I genuinely never felt attraction to women before unlike men who I have had crushes on. But I always doubt this by thinking things like "I haven't had a irl crush in so long" and things like that. Also I'm scared one day it'll just happen and I'll not be straight anymore and I hate it I just wanna go back to normal.
Man, I’m 14 and I’m I think I’m struggling with this. There’s just this voice in the back of my head that’s just telling me “I’m gay” or “you’re not straight”. And it won’t let up, I want it to stop. I want it to end. I just want to be the person I was before this.
I like women and I’m heterosexual where I’m straight and the last 3 days I’ve had gay stuck in my head and stuff like that it’s really annoying and i know I’m not gay because I find women beutiful and attractive I’m trying to get it out of my head This helped calm me down and just continue with my live and end up marrying a woman and I know that will happen because I really like woman and I don’t like boys sexually at all and it’s just stuck in my head because when it’s out of my head I feel perfect😌 this video has been helping me the last day and mainly it’s stuck in my head but I know it will go away soon
I’ve had this form to a high degree, and constantly told my mom the intrusive thoughts and she would only get angrier. She was convinced I was gay and I believed it too. I took to the web to assure myself and stumbled across HOCD and finally relaxed and the compulsions stopped. I still doubt every now and then but for the most part I can handle this
I feel really bad for you that you're parents aren't supporting you in this. That's the reason why I'm not telling my parents about it, because I know I Will be humiliated and judged at the same time.
I relate to this so much. My mother is convinced I'm gay (My sibling told me.) and I feel like I am but I know I'm not. I just don't know how to talk to anyone about this because everyone I know doesn't know a thing about HOCD. I have minor standard OCD and Emetophobia, but my parents don't believe a word of it. I've tried explaining it to them but they tell me I'm making things up and that they know people and have seen people with "real" OCD. The only thing they believe me about is the Emetophobia. I've gone as far as to tell everyone I know and myself that I might be bisexual and just haven't found the right girl. I even made a bisexual Pride poster just to make it more believable. I know you wrote this comment 4 months ago and probably will never see it, but I hope you're doing better.
My mom knew I was not gay and I was making myself anxious. She literally proved the point, I was still and still say " what if ", if your mind says " what if", it's not the truth, I KNOW I am straight, and I want to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life. Quarantine exasperated all of these anxious thoughts because I've never had them before.
kylie the thing is when you constantly think “what if” the “what ifs” make you think “it is” “it definitely is” and that’s just how powerful your brain is, just keep reminding yourself that and you will feel so much calmer, hope you’re better soon:)
a couple years ago this use to torture me, now i only get it after a long time i might have a little phase where i get anxious but you have to remember that it isn’t reality, thoughts aren’t reality they are thoughts. It’s also important to know that it’s not the fear of being gay itself but the fear of your identity changing and what you think you are being completely wrong. to overcome this i reallt just had a layed back approach to life, to accept all feelings and with time the fear began to fade. to do things you like so you know your identity. i overcame this and i know we all can
I cried of happiness when I heard of this HOCD. This one triggering event at school made me have all these thoughts of me being potentially gay, and I have just been so anxious at school this past month because of it.
I feel so so so much better just knowing I’m not alone. 3 years ago I developed this out of nowhere one night when I was getting high and it felt like I was stuck being high and as I tried to explain myself to other people it just got to the point where I didn’t want to do that anymore because I realized nobody I knew would understand .. it’s very uncontrollable sometimes .. I wonder if improving my diet could help break snap my brain out of this loop I get in its very intrusive to my day to day
This fear came back to me. I have been trying so hard to get rid of it, I just can’t get my mind over saying, “I am gay, maybe I am.” It just is something I don’t want to say. I know it will help, but it’s hard. Do you know why this fear came back to me? My ocd keeps on putting me in traps it feels like, and making me scared. I want to share the Gospel when I grow up, and a preacher who is Gay would not be good. God bless you though my friend, you have helped me so much. I would just like some help.
I’ve def had times of OCD where a thought comes in and I freak out and it pushes me so much to the point of crying and reassuring myself it’s not true. Just yesterday the thought of “what if I’m sexually attracted to women” came up and I felt so much fear and felt uncomfortable and tried to let it go. Then another though came from remembering watching a show with two girls kissing and me feeling aroused by it and the thought questioning if “I acted on this feeling” and constantly reassuring myself that I didn’t but not knowing for sure. It makes me so ill to think about it and I’m afraid I’m always going to have this in my mind and question it. I hate this. I feel like my mind constantly finds a fear and narrows in on it and makes me go through so much. Even talking to myself and others doesn’t make me feel better 😢
One of the bad things is that sometimes maybe due to treatments or getting used to thoughts you might fear less , and you feel scared because you don't fear as much as before
I have suffered with HOCD for a while, until I just told myself - okay, if I'm gay then so what? If that's the case I should be happy finding a guy that I love and all - this made my fear of it vanish. Unfortunately OCD didn't disappear as such, but switched themes - this time that I'm into crazy fetishes that'd make a loving relationship with kids impossible.
Thanks for sharing. That's so frustrating. OCD tends to attack what the person values most. So when you just agreed with it, it took value away and it tries to move to something else.
You literally provided the answer the everyone needs to hear dude. This is exactly how you overcome HOCD, and I can't wait to work on this approach with a therapist :)
@@ocdandanxiety wait you said that it tries to manifest into something else? That is literally what happens to me I've had harm ocd then obsessive thoughts now this why wont it just stop
Thanks so much for your videos. I struggled with this a lot in 2017 and suddenly feeling it again for whatever reason. But my OCD tells me if it's reoccurring and persistent I'm probably just gay etc etc. Haha. Learning to ride the wave.
i was scared bc i dreamed of a girl in my class once and i thought for a whole year that i was “gay” even if my family would have accepted me there was literally nothing that was a real fear i was just so depressed and scared but i don’t know why. Now i laugh about it because i accepted myself and even realized that it was just one intrusive thought that sent me in a spiral of depression. I overcame it, and you will too. I did it within a couple months with no help and. o one to talk to, You got this channel and know what you are having so don’t worry to all people who clicked on this video.
I have hocd for the past three months now and i’m so scared. I had 2 boyfriends before and i always had crushes on boys. I fu-ing know i’m straight because i’m attractive to boys and I don’t see females that way (but something in my brain is telling me that i have to but i dont want to). This quarantine fuc-ed me up. Im in one direction fandom for 1 year now and everyone in this fandom is either gay or bi. At the beginning i was like okay cool and i was supporting them and stuff ( i still do tho and i have nothing against them) but they stared saying that if you like the song ‘defenceless’ on one of the boys album ur gay because they think its a gay song and they said that if you like long haired harry you’re definitely not straight. And one of my fav songs on the album was defenceless and i really liked long hair on harry so I started to think that i’m gay because of it. And i still think i am but deep down i know i’m not. It’s so hard. When i’m out w my friends I forget about hocd and that but when i’m home and alone i’m constantly thinking about it and i cant do it anymore i just want this to stop. Every time i will see a girl i will question myself ‘do I find her attractive?’ ‘What if im gay?’ And stuff like that. Or i will freak out because i like her hair or her outfit. Every time i see a boy a voice in my head is like ‘ do you find him attractive?’ ‘ do you find him attractive because you want to hide that ur gay’ and sh’t like that. I started to lose attraction to boys because of that and idk what to do SORRY for the 1D-fandom thing...I hope you can understand what i’m trying to say. And i’m sorry for my english its not my first language.
it’s almost a year with those thoughts honestly it gotten a lil better but i still have them my thoughts always puts me kissing my friends when they come close to my face it feels so real like it feels like i would actually do it but deep down i know i wouldn’t it’s hard but i promise to all of you guys going through this we will make it out give ur life to jesus christ
Can I make a donation lmao. I had these thoughts for the first time yesterday and it was so stressful. Your words and advice have given me soooo much relief
Ok few weeks ago I was actually doubting I had ocd and maybe I was truly gay or bi but this video really was great it helped out a lot. I really do have ocd. I read on it its not only about sexuality but also violent thoughts of running someone over or stabbing someone hurts my head.
yes this is me i always think what if i was and i always was confused like wtf i've always liked boys and never had a crush on a gurl and then it started and my mind was like if you think this it' makes you gay and i'm not!! i always thought i was the only one i have anxiety and hocd and i hated seeing lgbt stuff . i will feel awkward and weird when a pretty girl is around and my thoughts will be like u are attracted to her when i'm not!! this helped i thought i was the only one
Oh my goodness thank you bro so much I just want to do something for you but I don't know what it is that was the thing I was struggling with I needed help for a long time and you actually helped me I asked my dad and my mom about this over and over again and all they said was you're not gay and things to try to help me but they did help me a little bit but I don't think they know what this OCD thing is my parents are really nice and they try to help me and they are good questions
Man.. This video would have save my youth.. it’s nuts how potent these thoughts and emotions are, very crippling. Even now 20 years later, I sometimes still fall for it. Sometimes I think that I’m enjoying it then it get worse
Dude, I think this is what I have. I am a male and have been and am completely straight throughout the last 23 years of my life. Two nights ago, I just had a thought of holding my male best friend's hand and walking through an outlet mall as a couple. This thought just spiraled out of proportion and I had thoughts of kissing other men and having sex with other men and being ok with it. But I would get REALLY ANXIOUS about these thoughts and how I didn't wanna be gay and I wanted to be straight. Nothing wrong with being gay, but I didn't wanna get into a gay relationship for myself. I was scared that would either be gay or bi and the thought was just killing me. Then, I came upon the topic of HOCD and it really calmed me down. After reading about it, I realized that this all just started from a thought and I doubted it way too much that it spiraled out of proportion. I realized that truly gay people are only afraid of coming out as they don't know what other people are gonna think, but they are still very content with the thought of being gay. For people with HOCD, the thought of just having a relationship with a man can be daunting and terrifying. So yeah, I think quarantine really just messed with my head a little and good to know that there is an explanation for this phenomenon.
Same brotha. Jus a thought that turned into a demon type shid. I’m 19 an this happened to me during quarantine too. Les pray we get better🙏🏽 stay strong bro
@@timmy8211 yeah, I think I've gotten over it. The key is to label these thoughts as intrusive and let em pass by without any recognition. You see, you aren't supposed to run away from them, rather just gently observe them, and simply tell your mind that these thoughts hold no meaning. I hope this helps 🙂
Ashwin Thiagarajan facts. Have you been meditating n shit? I downloaded an app called “headspace” an it guides you through meditation. The app says just about the same thing about accepting the thoughts. Accepting them is real scary but like I guess that’s the only way to beat them
Nice job for the video! Sadly, the comment section doesn't reflect what the video told us to do. Old HOCD sufferers are literally reassuring people, 'you are not gay, you are straight'. It's nice to know, but it'll trap you in the OCD cycle. I know how much you want it, but I have a question. Do you want to be past HOCD or continue with HOCD. If you wanna be past it, the only way out is acceptance. "Maybe I am gay. Maybe I like this. Maybe I like that." Reassurance doesn't help, it'll just make you worse.
Honestly, what scares me the most is that I’m always overanalyzing every single move and thought, and I would be ok if I were gay or bi or whatever, if it was something natural, not a thought trying to convince me 24/7 about something that doesn’t even happened.
it’s hard because I love my boyfriend. And I don’t want to think I am completely attracted to the opposite sex. I shut away a lot of my female friends because I am sometimes convinced I like them. Ocd has taken everything
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did youre anxiety get better because for me my stomach pain has went down a lot after I accepted the thoughts and ignored them but now when I look at a attractive male in there eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a sensation have you ever experienced this
Would it be considered HOCD for a teenager to have these thoughts? I've seen TV shows that can put these thoughts into a kids mind. I've also seen that the moment a boy doesn't fit in with the other boys he's asked if he's gay. So what is the difference between being confused and having HOCD?
I’m not trying to self-diagnose, but I have a lot of signs that point to OCD in general. I experience Relationship OCD with my boyfriend, and I believe HOCD as well. It’s really Debilitating because I love my boyfriend so much, but my mind sometimes intrudes and asks, “what if you don’t love him? What if he doesn’t love you? What if you’re really lesbian, and you’re in denial? What if you’re secretly bisexual?” Etc. I’ve been straight all my life, so this has been really anxiety filling... especially when I’m trying to be intimate with my boyfriend and that thought just comes into my head. I’m trying to get myself help now though :)
Hey just tuning in. I came forth with this to my psychiatrist about this. She says it's not considered a type of OCD because I can still function but it causes me a lot of anxiety despite me being able to do daily tasks. I was hoping if you might be able to shed some light on this. Hard to talk about this sometimes even though I have a very accepting family and group of friends.
Was your psychiatrist specialised in OCD? If not, then I'd recommend seeing an OCD specialist. Just because you're able to mostly function doesn't mean it's not OCD.
It's because you probably haven't fully recovered mate. Have you ever done proper exposure response therapy with a trained specialist? From all the reading I have done, this seems to be the most effective way in crushing HOCD once and for all. Essentially, you need to learn to become comfortable with your thoughts. That is not to say act out on them or entertain them, but to not let them bother you, and to be comfortable enough to accept them. If you can master this, I promise you they will go away for good.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying
I feel so much better i thought it was just me but i knew for a fact i wasn’t gay and never had been but they didn’t leave me alone and now i know why it is happening and it’s not just me going through this it is a lot of releif
Yes I am currently struggling from this and it drains me out completely having these intrusive thoughts about what if I were gay and it digs into much deeper and deeper thoughts. It has made me start to act differently around people. I face all the compulsions mentioned in the video but I want to fight this and become more accepting towards thsese thoughts without taking any wrong action.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying !!
I have been going throw something questioning myself a talked to my parents about it and then they say I am not gay . But you gave me the best advice what you are saying matches up with me but I know me and I know that I am not gay
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
Disclaimer: What I am talking about is related to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. It is not political in any way. It is not a for or against being gay. To learn more about this subtype of OCD go here: iocdf.org/expert-opinions/sexual-orientation-obsessions
Hi I want to know, can hocd cause sudden loss of attraction to the opposite gender for god knows how long???
It's also possible for gay people to have this type of OCD too, fearing that they're actually straight. Or a bisexual person fearing that they only like one gender & aren't actually bi. Aros, aces, and aroaces probably can too, i.e. what if I really do experience sexual and/or romantic attraction?
(I'm an aroace who may or may not have OCD and sometimes I see someone pretty and I start checking to see if I feel sexual and/or romantic attraction towards them. But again, I'm not diagnosed with OCD yet, so that may be something else.)
@@pripri9999 Yes. Anxiety shuts down things. That is to be expected.
@@JC-ei3ci When is it going to come back?
@@UnseenHitman-1932 I wish I knew. I would def talk to a therapist about it
Stay strong bros,,, we are straight, we just have a fear of becoming gay, that means we are really self assured we are straight
I don’t have a fear of being gay. If I gay great if I’m straight great!
Yes, te think that is causing my hocd is that I was so straight to the point that I never noticed a man. And when the thought hit me it destroyed all my values, and got stuck in my head.
I have a fear too man I hear about Chris being gay then my intrusive thought made me think gay when I clearly attracted to females
It’s not always sexual intrusive thoughts that scare me. It’s just the little “voice” in the back of my head telling me I am gay when Ik I’m not and just that scares me
same like ik i’m not but it’s just that voice that’s telling me and i’ve had this before but it went away but i got it back and i’m scared
@@vaultboy368 I feel the same everyday😭
@@AbdulRahim-eh3gtwe have been suffering at the same time dude, i dont get a boner for dudes but my brain thinks im about to, so i check my groin and there is no boner........ i have had these bad thoughts and i have lost myself..... my anxiety made it worse and i had loads of panic attacks.... it will be fine.... i believe in you
@@gonzo2855 I'm not getting that fantasy I used to get when I looked at girls😭that is what destroying me.. please tell me what to do, I want my attraction and feelings for girls back😭.
@@gonzo2855 and I want to tell you one more thing, I haven't met a beautiful girl in years, could you think this might be the reason my Hocd was created.😔🤔
What scares me is when I calm down from it I think “omg what if I’m calm now because I’m accepting being gay” then I just worry and can’t stop thinking and it becomes all I think about all day everyday and I need help
You are not alone. I am heterosexual woman and i have this fear when i want to relax. Ignore this! It is ocd! Not you! You are not your illness!
If you was gay you got fear about becaming heterosexual. Gay people scared this too
Sorry for my english. I am russian
ZKS l the anxiety only come sometimes but I still haven’t gained my attraction for girls back yet
Its...fucked up man. I always have the same thoughts. I understand and I'm not gonna say "listen to your heart" because I know what you're going through, and I know it is not that easy. Something that helps me though, is wondering who I want comfort from the most. For example, every time I feel like crap (so almost always) I would always was to be comforted by a girl, and I figure that if I was gay it would be the other way around
@@user-pg6ob6tb1s right we have to fight we have to make our mind like boss...
I want to connect with u..
how can i?
@@lela457 can we talk?
when people may ask you like “do you like the same sex” or “are you gay” does your heart drop and do you get anxious and feel like when you say no you feel like you’re lying but you aren’t?????
Yes, it's OCD working. You don't become gay from one day to another because of some feeling or sensation.
Manuel Alves god i thought that wasn’t normal or that because i get nervous and anxious when my boyfriend asks me if i’m gay that that means i actually am
Yep me too, it’s horrible, I’ve had it for a few days now, I have an amazing girlfriend who I want to spend my whole life with but my HOCD is just bringing me down so much, I don’t want to be gay, I never was gay, the thought of it made me sick (not meant in a homophobic way) I adore the ground she walks on, I’m so glad I’ve found this video because it’s put my mind at ease a lot, hang in there, it’ll get better :)
Mine is different if they ask me that question i say no and there's a voice in my head that is saying yes
Is that OCD?
Yes. I have been there before. Or when I need to tell my parents something, the thought of admitting I’m gay comes to mind. I get shaky and chills. It’s so awesome to know that other people are going through this, not fun for us, but it’s good to know.
Everyone having a hard time with this, I hope you find your peace
@Cheering Autumn 💙
I hope you find your peace too
@@harryspencer7659 thank you very much 💙
@@tinkerbaek7744 hello I was just wondering if you’re good now because I’m really struggling.
@@lukemitchell9295 same here
Omg these intrusive thoughts are always on and off and its so annoying
I'm sorry it's a problem. It can be so annoying. I hope you can find relief soon.
Me too. Do you get thoughts about people you already know??
@@mel5282 I do, and I hate it. Sometimes I wonder if the feeling in my gut is "butterflies" because I'm attracted to them, but I hate the feeling. But back to you. You're not alone, fam. I'm willing to bet that you could find many, many people who understand this (myself included) who would be more than happy to help.
Mentalmathtricks omg same! the butterfly feeling omg is exactly how i feel sometimes. and when my boyfriend asks me do i like girls i get anxious and worried and my heart drops.
Tatiana yo tambien tengo la misma vaina y creeme que es un infierno esto
All my co-HOCD sufferers we all will get better, such is my prayer. I'm not alone neither are you.
You're amazing! Thank you! 😃
Akshay Kumar bro me too
Akshay Kumar ,
watsap nmbr,
Thank you. :3
🙏🏽🤗💯
This video helped calm me down a lot. Been having a really bad HOCD attack today.
I'm so glad it helped you! 😃
Same I’m scared if I am because I don’t get hard at straight anymore and I’m so scared
Same
You need to accept these thoughts no matter how hard it is and they will stop coming as they will have no reaction stay strong brothers
@@sidgent8296 stop watching porn. Don't think about it, if the thoughts comes use it in a productive way like read a book, play music or exercise. It'll be difficult at first but you have to stay strong bro. You can fight through it.
HOCD just comes and goes with me, I’m just worried I’m gonna suffer from this for a long time, Although I know I’m straight deep down but the thought of being gay terrifies me
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying :)
@Bob Tunney it’s probably backwards spike, I was scared that I was so calm that I was scared that I became gay so you can intentionally have this stuff happen to you. Relax bro get pass this, make sure doesn’t become a habit cause you might stick to question therefore it’s hard to move forward from the progress your at.
@@Johnfhfjcj thanks :), the thing is it comes in waves with me, but once my mind has calmed down from the thoughts I realise I’m actually straight, it’s all part of overthinking it, once you start overthinking it’s really hard to stop, but this is definitely my worse nightmare and it’s not me being homophobic because I haven’t got a problem with gay people at all
@@Johnfhfjcj in Jesus name amen
Same
Dear fellow Hocd sufferers,
If you intrusive thoughts/images don’t bother you as much as they used to it doesn’t mean you have accepted that you are gay. You have just accepted that these thoughts really have no meaning or relevance to you.
And also intrusive thoughts are pretty much always the opposite of something you would do or be interested in.
Hope this helped💖
Stay Strong, you got this 😊
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did
youre anxiety get better because for me my
stomach pain has went down a lot after I
accepted the thoughts and ignored them but
now when I look at a attractive male in there
eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a
sensation have you ever experienced this
@@wengadeeaider7362same here bro. I don't wanna be gay 🥺
@@wengadeeaider7362I can't enjoy anime 🥺
@@monkey_d._luffy41 How are you doing bro?
@@monkey_d._luffy41 we can't our anime girl need us
This is the only video i have found that truly touches on it ! It definitely gets out of control during times of stress and then it takes a long while to shake off. This video confirmed to me that my OCD is a real thing and im not just insane. THANK YOU!
Thanks for the kind words! I hope you can find some relief soon!💚
I have days where I’m totally fine and then days like today where the HOCD comes back. Right now I’m having intrusive thoughts about being lesbian. It’s always back and forth one day I’m scared I’m bi, the next is, oh no what if I’m actually lesbian. When I ask myself questions I know I want to be with a boy and it’s the answer for everything but now I keep scaring myself and saying “what if you’re just pushing your real feelings down so far you’re believing you’re straight.” “What if you end up coming out later on in life” and I hate to think about that because I want to be with a boy, I have no desire at all to be with a girl. I’ve never had a boyfriend or experienced really anything with relationships yet and I know that could play a part in it but I’m just scared that when I go to get a boyfriend I’m not going to like it or I’m going to think something is “off”. I just want my life back I don’t want this effecting everything I do.
@@tina0106 I've been feeling the same way. I've always been attracted to men and I've never had a boyfriend but these thoughts just eat me up real bad. I get so panicky and then I start crying. I'm a dreamy person too. I hate these thoughts they're so annoying. I'm a hopeless romantic too, I imagine stuff all the time, I hate these thoughts.
@@tina0106 Yeah I'm really glad too. This video and the comment section has helped me a lot but the thought keeps haunting me like crazy. I might need to talk to a therapist cause I've had this last year also but this time it has been super bad. I don't like thinking like this at all not even one bit. I need help. I hope you get better too and get the help that you need.
@@tina0106 Yeah I understand what you're going thought. It just sucks so bad😭. I hate it. Can't live the rest to my life like this.
Omg this is literally me like I’ve always been attracted to boys and up until a couple months ago it wasn’t a question I knew I was straight but suddenly I’ve been questioning every little thing and I know I’m straight but my mind keeps trying to say I’m lesbian or bi
anika me too. i’ve only ever like guys and have only wanted to be with a man. And then one day a voice told me that “ what if your gay”. at first they were so foreign to me that i knew they were fake. but i couldn’t stop thinking about it. I’ve never been attracted to women and now all i can think about is what if i am. I really don’t want to be gay. or lesbian or even bi. whenever i have these thoughts i get anxiety and can’t sleep. these thoughts have ruined my life and i don’t know what to do. they feel so real sometimes. i avoid everything. the groin also responded suck. and then i read about hocd to give me reassurance. it works for awhile and then i tell myself i’m in denial. i’ve told my parents but they think the thoughts are silly. i live in constant pain and anxiety. all my thoughts have to do w me and i don’t even care about society I just don’t want to be gay. I hate life please help
I pray for everybody who’s going through this, I’m one of seven and three of my siblings have had it. Shows you how common this is, especially in young boys, I’m sure it’s what leads to a lot of young male suicides 😞 ❤️
I’m 14, haven’t felt “Gay” before. Got to text a gay guy from my school and somehow he made me question if I’m gay. This was 4 weeks ago or so. At the beginning I was super anxious and got to talk with my mom about it. I go to a therapist now. The thoughts have decreased but still, I’m asking myself “How can’t it go away?! Is it because I’m gay?” and it’s killing me. I go out with my friends and sometimes just zone out of the group because of these thoughts. It’s awful. I’m not contemplating suicide, but I just want everything to end...
@@vladcapata378 Bro keep calm it's your thoughts playing tricks on you . I got this recently during this damn quarantine. Here's how I got it :
This began happening to me since the middle of quarantine. I know I'm straight but these thoughts keep coming. It all began when I was going through Instagram and found at that a guy at college whom we all had suspected was gay was indeed gay as a gay instagram page popped up in my suggestion Box showing that he follows. Then for no reason that thought made me look at other men to know how they even get attracted as a joke. Then as I saw few muscular men like body builders whom I follow for motivation purposes and appreciate their hard earned physique this bullshit thought came Outta nowhere questioning myself if it's appreciating them or attraction to them(this very thought disgusts me and no deep down it's not true).Since then it's become a routine and here I am looking for help amongst you guys. And this is also slowly forcing me to watch porn just to prove my hocd wrong and compel me to spend the whole day thinking about it.
@@abhilashmadhav.m536 in times of extreme thoughts tell ur self to relax , meditate for as much as time required . Listen to the surrounding sounds and think to urself "jolly good it's just a bloody thought!"
Give urself a reality check. And tell this to someone close
@@abhilashmadhav.m536 Holy crap, we got this disorder from insta. My backstory is similar to you, except I found the cursed picture(muscular guy in a shower with shirt unbuttoned and wet with a speedo too seductively posing at camera) from the #gay. I'm just curious about LGBT at the time and want to know what are they post regularly.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
Every time I have an HOCD attack these videos really calm me down. Thank you very much
I'm glad they help you!
Same
@@ocdandanxiety same
I struggled with this, no, WAS TORTURED BY THIS in my late teens and into my 20s. I only found out this was an actual ocd thing a couple years ago at age 35. I cannot believe the anguish I could have been spared had I gotten the help I needed.
So sorry to hear you've also struggled a long time :(
Was your attraction affected at all?
hello bro hoperfully u find ur peace.. i wanted to ask a question. did u ever try to mastrbate to gay prn during this phase? if yes, how was the experience comapred to staught prn and in general. i saw that some people are able mastrbate to gay prn easily with hocd thats why wanted to ask...
Amy I’d love to chat! Im a female too
BRO! I finally FINALLY found out EXACTLY EXACTLY my problem. I knew it was OCD but man oh man! You have helped me tremendously. Man i can not thank you enough really. I never took initiative to look for help. I am facing ocd head on now. Tha k you
For everyone struggling with this inner monster inside of you, DONT give up, DONT give up ! DONT GIVE UP ! I’ve said Three times so you can realize how serious I am right now! You are not alone, this is not you it’s your brain, it’s not your thoughts ! It’s hard, it’s very hard but trust me, do the recovery and just dive in the process, ask God for help, strength and guidance to go through this process but be serious about it ! Accept that you gonna feel emotional pain, doubts, anxiety, distress… but get your head up, look at yourself in the mirror and say “I am going to get through it even tho the sky falls on me, even tho I feel the worst on me ! In the end ALL OF THIS gonna make you a STRONGER person, and it’s gonna be YOU saying “I’ve been through it and I overcame it ! There is hope”.
STAY STRONG BROTHER !!! I believe in you, so do me a favor and believe in yourself too cause you are strong, God only let things we can handle happen to us ! It’s a challenge so TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY AND DIVE IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS !
I love you all !
Wow Nathan Shout-out to your comment section this makes me feel so much better I love this community ocd community lift up rise up Fellows we gotta win over this fear!
Bro its like I'm losing who I am, these thoughts hurt man, I know I'm not what my brain says I am
@Sabertooth 0 could we talk about it on Instagram? My @luizdealbu
@Sabertooth 0 in my case, I don't want to act on my intrusive thoughts and I'm scared that if I really was gay, others would distance themselves and judge me.
I know I'm not, i find girls sexually attractive but these intrusive thoughts and sensations are killing me from inside
@Sabertooth 0 thanks, this really helped.
Another thing is that my OCD just vanishes when I'm around a girl that I have feelings for, I just stop thinking about it and return to act like myself, her presence just reassures me everytime I see her but when I'm alone it kicks in again.
@Sabertooth 0 man thanks, really.
I just don't know what to say, I don't have the right words to describe how much you helped right now.
@Sabertooth 0 yeah i know, I'm a fighter I'm not giving up this easy, I'll battle it with serenity and peace, I know my truth and that's what will keep me going.
Although I don't want to self-diagnose myself, I feel like all of these signs are true for me. Plus, I have been struggling with other themes of OCD for the last year and they have been changing. The strongest one was Harm-OCD, when I literally thought I am turning into a serial killer or psychopath. Now I have been struggling a lot with homosexual intrusive thoughts which often convince me that I like it and that's the reason why I keep checking on whether I feel something or I am attracted to the particular thing. I am scared the therapy will make me accept I am a lesbian.
Thanks for sharing what you experience and your perceptions. It's pretty common to think that therapy will make things worse. I often say, "trust in the process" find a good therapist on IOCDF.org who know what they are doing. 😃
Same with me
hello bro i hope u get tru this... i wanted to ask a question. did u ever try to mastrbate to gay prn during this phase? if yes, how was the experience comapred to staught prn and in general. i saw that some people are able mastrbate to gay prn easily with hocd thats why wanted to ask...
I pray god to cure everyone suffering from hocd trust me guys everything happens for a reason everything’s gonna be just fine . We’re the men we must fight severe situations of life no matter what .
Hey are you already recover from your hocd
@@thatboydrew8159 hi so I had a dream of like kissing a guy and I didn’t like it and I get worried thinking I might be gay and I have a lot of symptoms that this guy talks about 😣
@@Andy400ss are u ok now?
@@Andy400ss Give yourself time dude. There is nothing wrong with you if you do end up liking guys. If you don't, then realize it was just a dream.
This calmed me down because I found this is a curable thing which everyone goes through
I’ve been dealing with this since I was 11 which I know is really young to develop this but my friends kept calling me a lesbian since I hadn’t had my first crush, kiss or boyfriend. They also said it was because I gave them hugs (as young kids do) when I saw them for the first time in ages. This really freaked me out as I’ve always been in to Disney princesses and dreaming of falling in love with “my prince” so to suddenly be told I’m something else really got to me. As I got older the more I started to obsess over this fear. Every time there was a sexy scene that involved a woman in a film or a tv show I would always think “am I turned on by this” and would freak out if I had the tiniest reaction. After I kept telling my friend her boyfriend wasn’t a good guy I started to freak out that I was the stereotypical “gay best friend” who has a crush on the main character and would get jealous of them being in a relationship when in reality I was just trying to warn her that he was a douche and she keeps giving him too many chances after cheating on her. But I’ve always been emotionally attracted to guys, I’ve never had a crush on a girl before, whether that’s in films or real life. So when I thought that maybe I was just gay and in denial I would think about being in a relationship with a woman and it didn’t feel right , I only like the idea of being in a relationship with a man. I searched up my thoughts and I came across this and everything made sense. I had all the symptoms and was relieved to see this is an actual thing and I’m not going crazy. I still do panic about not being able to fall in love with “my prince” but I now know that this is just another symptom of HOCD. I don’t know how I’m going to tackle it but seeing this is all just the thoughts in my head and that I will be able to get actual help instead of being told “you’re just a lesbian in denial” has made me feel less alone. Thank you for helping me understand why I have these thoughts in my head.
me me me same
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
yes i’ve had such a similar experience and seeing this comment made me feel so much better
@@gigik5778 me too
For all of you worrying and struggling, I’ve dealt with this for awhile now, I’ve had all kinds of ocd and panic disorders, eating disorders, DR, DP, so many thing, but through God, I was able overcome most of it, but thing with mental disorders and is that they will always come and go, I don’t think they will ever truly exit your life, so the best thing you can do is just manage and control. Don’t let your mind have power over you!! But anyways, back to the HOCD, it always comes and goes just like the others and what I have found out that helps a lot is hanging out with other males!! Hangout with your friends!! Talk about girls!! It like reminds your brain that you are completely straight! You’re not gay, the thoughts you have are intrusive which means you don’t like the thoughts and you wouldn’t actually act on them. Just let them be thoughts and let them fade away. And remember, it’s okay to think that the same sex is good looking, doesn’t matter how straight you are, you can tell if a person is attractive, but it doesn’t mean that you wanna do anything with them, you like females!! Or if you’re a girl, you like men!! You always have!! And if you’re gay and struggling with this, I think you’ve know all your life that you’ve liked the same sex! So don’t question that! Do not let your mind fool you!!! Praying for everyone that has to go through this!!
do u get a feeling when u had HOCD?
like a weird feeling?
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
Thx a lot 💯🙏
They say that the best feeling in the world is someone saying I love you. The real best feeling is that one moment of relief when you realise that you are not gay. PS: no offense to the gay community.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
@Nikki B?
@Nikki B um?
I have learned, when you are stressed, your mind does funny things. Ask yourself what stressors you have in life right now. And, dont forget to take care if yourself. Love you all.
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did
youre anxiety get better because for me my
stomach pain has went down a lot after I
accepted the thoughts and ignored them but
now when I look at a attractive male in there
eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a
sensation have you ever experienced this
I TOUGHT THIS WAS A ME THING, THANK YOU SO MUCH
I feel so good that I’m not alone in this because all of us here have OCD.
Keep staying strong y’all we can get through this together! 😊
I used to have these kind of thoughts. For those of you suffering, believe me! They will go away. There was a lot of shame, sadness, and checking multiple internet sources over and over again to “make sure” but eventually they WILL go away! Little by little. You may not see it now, but there will come a day when you don’t care about the thoughts anymore. Once you don’t care, they will diminish. Be kind to yourself! ✌🏽
Thank you so much for this video. The comments have helped calm me down.
I have panic disorder and depression, and recently relapsed. My grandmother, the most important person in my life, also passed away a few months ago. I was trying to recover when I suddenly freaked out about possibly being gay. It was a terrifying thought because I've never had that feeling before.
It's good to know that it's all in my head, caused by my ocd. Thank you for openly addressing this issue, and thanks for all the brave people sharing their experiences. Here's to an overall better mental health state in 2023!
I'm legit crying...everything you said hit close to home. I also was diagnosed with anxiety, so this really does make me lose my mind
Anxiety is awful. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
@@Johnfhfjcj please pray for me🥺
Hey thank you for your videos. I've been suffering from hocd for a few days. I found out about while doing my compulsions, I was searching for phrases like "why do I feel anxiety about my sexuality?" And an article came up. I've also realized I've had obsessims and compulsions before, in different ways, since I was a little kid. I'm going to get therapy, thank you.
Thank you so much for the kind words. I hope that you are doing well!
How are you feeling now ?
How are you feeling now ?
How are you feeling now
I just want to say this post really help me out! I am crying while I write this because, I have had this for 9 months and it has completely ripped my life up. Everyday I wake up with some new thought with my HOCD. I feel like I have nobody to talk to about this and it getting annoying bc it seem like always there. Then I thought what if these thoughts are true and I Tend to over think them. Now my brain is trying to trick me in to think this is really what I want but I feel the opposite way! I cry every night bc I don’t know what to do with all the stress and anxiety. I don’t know what to do or who to turn too and the most upsetting this about all of this my brain will take a good thought that I actually like and turn it into something gay and I will bust in tear bc I don’t feel that way at all. It so annoying, it’s feels like I can’t ever be happy! You know but anyway thank you for giving me the space to talk about this and thank you guys for all the support already!
For me it's the quarantine that wrecked me 😂 We'll get through this . Don't worry and always know it's just the mind playing tricks and it is not what you like 👍
My mind played with me yesterday, i couldn't even sleep and then i accepted at some point that I'm gay because i was stressed out and won't stop having all this fake crushes, but girl ,i felt do damn sad and irritated with myself, its like I'm accepting something that makes me so disgusted with myself and i had depression, i always felt emotionally numb which made it hard for me to even feel attracted to guys , but i never ever saw girls that way at alll , never! , till my friends started saying i look bi , the one of my male friend told me ,naybe I'm into girls because i don't have time for boys , damnn this came with mad ocd ,then i started questioning myself over and over again ,started feeling fake attraction towards girls even my brain convinced me i had a crush on this girls damnn , it even made my attraction for boys lower and now I'm just laying on my bed looking at the ceiling not knowing what to do with my life ,i need help gosh ,I'm desperate, but i know it doesn't feel right being interested in girls to ne
I relate to everything you said ): Definitely want to be with a man, but my biggest fear is that I won't because I'm secretly a lesbian. Idk but I'm always here to talk! I also have no one to talk to about this lol, everyone would judge me and wouldn't understand.
@@Defnotme_someone you can go on a sub on reddit called hocd ,you will relate more with people there
Yes it’s starting again for me I felt uncomfortable with a girl online she asked for pics of my chest
I felt very uncomfortable she even asked if I had a boyfriend that was very sus
I then blocked her and unfriended her she logged into another account and found me and asked why did I block her and I told her everything she said can we be friends again I was not convinced especially since she was the one making me question my sexuality because no one has asked for that
Especially since it was a girl and I’m a girl
It made me question if I’m gay especially when she asked if I had a boyfriend but she was saying I’m surprised u don’t cus ur thick that also made me uncomfortable if ur wonder why she said I was thick it’s because it was a modeling discord we both wanted to model but she asked for specific pictures which made me uncomfortable I did some things like specific poses but until she went to far with the chest I was uncomfortable
I was questioning my sexuality etc.
Am I straight? Why does this feel very gay and weird to me? Wait am I gay? No god pls no! repeatedly nonstop and still
My heart is beating and I have butterflies and I questions if it’s love which questions if I am gay way more or if it’s anxiety of me being gay and must being straight
I honestly don’t know if it’s because I am afraid how people will react or if it’s because it’s not something I’m interested in, but still question it either way
It never seems to end
But I don’t ever see myself with a girl tho even tho I see scene of me in my head I am like noo no that’s a noo I wanna say a better word but I would sound homophobic
Gross from my point of view based off what’s happening ?
Yes sorry 😔
But then it keeps repeating over and over again I hate it I don’t know if I’m being a tsundere or if it’s anxiety
As I said I don’t see myself with a girl I wonder in my mind but it’s not satisfying when it comes to mind when I picture it if I picture myself with a boy I feel satisfied I feel fine
If I ever see pictures of girls revealing I’m just like wow she has nice body I wish that was my body
And even when I say a girl is pretty I start questioning my sexuality again ugh it doesn’t stop even tho I’m not romantically or sexually attracted to her I still question it I want it to stop
it would be more correct to say that this is SOOCD (sexual orientation ocd) because people who are gay/bi can get fear about "changing" their sexual orientation to straight. This fact (fact about gay can get this too) can help straight people with their HOCD
Thanks for the info.
I have heterosexual ocd thoughts. Like what of I'm straight and my attractions to people aren't real.
@@samray3309 it actually isn't
@@samray3309period
I have finally found a RUclipsr who actually helps with my Tourette’s thank you so much
Amazing! Thanks for the support!
I thought I was just a freak... this video calmed my soul. This all stemmed for me from something extremely stupid but my mind brings me these questions and statements "Thats a gay thing you do." "What if your feeling these thoughts and your actually gay?"
What I find helps me is to think back to a time when those thoughts didn't consume you? What did you feel? Your mind has put you through so much your believing it, don't!
I remember the first day of intrusive thoughts, I was shaking and I wasn't eating. I then had a free week and it was the best week of my life. It came back for two days and left again I now am on week three and I think I could be beginning to cope again.
Thanks for this videos it really helps a lot keep doing your good job
This means a lot! Thank you!
You are helping me a lot, I had no idea I had to do what you are saying! I have been struggling with it for a while now. I want to get totally over with it. Thanks from Perú
Thanks for this video I've been struggling for a while
I'm so glad it was able to help!
I’ve got it figured out. Your sexuality is set at birth and what you “were” is what you will always be and no matter if you wanted to you or anyone else could change that. Also if you ask yourself “what if” you are not gay if you were you would already know. This may not help some people and I can understand that but it is just the facts
@A N O N Y M O U S this is true bro
@A N O N Y M O U S Absoloutly true
@A N O N Y M O U S It is.
Rizzle not true I’m almost cured
Rizzle but when you feel better from it you can’t get convinced into thinking it’s gone or you will hit down the same path all over again
Reading the comments make me feel a lot better I’m glad I’m not alone
3 years later edit: it does get so much better just give it time :)
Yup
Yes bro it's make me less anxious great relief
Man, I've been struggling with this one lately. Thinking "How do I know I'm actually straight", looking at homosexual porn to try and figure out if it turns me on, getting self-conscious and in my head when I see another guy who I think looks good/cute (even though I have no sexual desire towards him...but my brain is trying to figure out if I do). Shit, even as I watch your video and find certain features about you attractive, I'm questioning if I'm gay.
I wanted to give a premature thanks to you for making these videos. I've been struggling with anxiety (and/or maybe ADHD, still trying to figure that out -- your video about it is how I found your channel) and I can tell you've been through it and understand what it feels like.
One bit of feedback on the video, I think the background music is a bit too loud.
It all started when one day when I was just pondering thoughts and then the thought of being gay popped up. I hate these thoughts a lot, they only bring me anxiety, depression and guilt. I have a feeling that I'm straight but the thoughts (the voice in the back of my head) tell me otherwise. I'm just not sure and the uncertainty kills me and if I'm being honest, I'd rather die than be gay. Not because I'm homophobic, but because thinking about it just kills me inside. During the middle of 2020 and towards the end I was fine, cause my mind was off it cause of stuff like school and sport. (this all started Dec 2019) but the thoughts came back and started acting up again in like dec 2020 and are still prevalent. I'm so unsure because I keep thinking I'm just masking it or hiding it or just denying it, but then at some stages I'll feel certain I'm straight. This is so painful, someone please help.
I'm praying for you. Remember, we are not in this alone. I hope you get better.
I feel the exact same brother
hey bro it’s been 3 months are you any better?? if so it would mean the world to me if you could give me anything that could help and i mean antthing
I have pdf here guys that can help you all feel better im not saying cure because it will never be cure im just saying that even if it comes back you know that its not true and just a thought, btw i used to have thoughts like this but when i start reading the book it calms me, of course it comes back but i know how to deal with it
@@tl_2280 I feel a bit better but the thoughts are still around. Coping better though.
I am a 14 year old girl and I’m pretty sure I have this - I have struggled with ocd for a couple of years now (emetaphobia and the fear of being ill) it got pretty bad and I had to leave school and it consumed most of my day doing compulsions, I tried doing exposure but it got so overwhelming I started getting ill and had to be in hospital, anyway all of that stopped and I started doing exposure and it worked and I have had a couple of months almost free from it - but now I think I have got HOCD- it started out me getting the thought and whenever I saw a girl I thought “maybe you like them” etc and I started to keep my nails long etc so I didn’t look lesbian and looking at people and checking if I liked them, it started consuming my mind and so I told my mum and we have started doing exposure. The problem is it seems to be tangling up my mind and the thoughts keep getting stronger- now whenever i see a girl for the first few seconds it’s fine and then I get the feeling I actually like them- and when I see a guy I am starting to stop getting the feeling that I like them. Which is making me believe that maybe I am lesbian ( I really don’t want to be! ) - It comes in waves and sometimes I see that actually I do want to be with a guy when I grow up etc but then it just gets worse. I think the problem is that I am homeschooled and so I haven’t been around anyone for a couple of years except my friends (who are girls) so I can’t workout if I actually like guys or not and the problem is the longer my HOCd is going on I am doubting it actually is hocd and that I actually do like girls because the feeling that I like guys is going away. I would go to a school so I can actually be around people but I get so nervous I’m going to be sick at school it just gets too overwhelming. I really want all of this to stop!!
I'm so sorry you've struggled with this! It sound so painful. Good news is that I have a treatment video coming out with this next week. If you haven't seen my emetophobia video that has some good tips. I hope you can feel better my friend! 😃
OCD and Anxiety I have it too😭
Im so glad Im not alone.. I always liked men my whole life was with my ex boyfriend for 6 1/2 years and he started asking about if Id ever be interested in the same sex and I lost my sex drive to him after some years. both these things made me question myself constantly to the point of crippling OCD 😭
I'm sorry for what you're experiencing! It's so frustrating that this can come into someone's life. I hope you can find some tools that work well for you! 😃
I've had this shit for around 2 months now, and the biggest relief I've found in it all is that I'm not alone
@@worldsmostaveragemagician2246 hey are you girl it's now been 4 months have you recovered sis?
I’m the same, I’ve always liked women and always will, I get intrusive thoughts about anything but ones like these just seem so hard to fight
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
y’all don’t know how much this comment section calmed me down ! i really thought i was the only one with this and made me think i’m actually gay because I AM the only one that thinks like this! i wish everyone gets over what they got going on, i believe i started getting this during quarantine as well. it didn’t help that i smoke a lot of wax daily so i’m always thinking which made it so fucking bad. i remember i took shrooms and was scared that i’m gonna have a revelation i was gay which led to a bad trip, but deep down i knew i was straight but still that fucking thought of “no you’re gay” would always replay over and over in my head.
@Evan Glickman thanks man, i hope nothing but the best for you!
@Evan Glickman At 6:40 what does he mean by the anxiety may go up or down?? Did you feel like sick when you look or try to think about a girl??…And also I’ve been avoiding music but none of them are homosexual. Like I’m scared to sing songs like boo by usher or something by the Beatles. I would still sing to Elton John tho. But like I would sing along to female songs. like before, I use to sing a song called the most beautiful girl in the world by prince. Like I remember singing it no problem but now what is going on? And when you get turned on by the thoughts (Please tell me if you had this to) Does your face feel red, your heart starts beating and your groin kind of moves?? I don’t really how getting aroused feels like…
@Evan Glickman At 6:40 what does he mean by the anxiety may go up or down?? Did you feel like sick when you look or try to think about a girl??…And also I’ve been avoiding music but none of them are homosexual. Like I’m scared to sing songs like boo by usher or something by the Beatles. I would still sing to Elton John tho. But like I would sing along to female songs. like before, I use to sing a song called the most beautiful girl in the world by prince. Like I remember singing it no problem but now what is going on? And when you get turned on by the thoughts (Please tell me if you had this to) Does your face feel red, your heart starts beating and your groin kind of moves?? I don’t remember how feeling aroused feels like…
OH MY GOD i thought im the only one. i have never been attracted to the same sex in my life and i have thse intrusive thought inn my head that gives me self doubt and sleepless nights but i know i will never be aroused by men. let us stand up my brothers! we can fight this self doubt that plagues our hearts and minds! we now WHO WE ARE AND WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE! so whoever you are i believe the fighting voice that you are not gay! there is nothing wrong with being gay but we are not gay! we are men! straight and true! fight for the empire and the pussy that awaits us! Godspeed!
I struggled with this for about 4 months until I finally came to my terms that I had HOCD. It ripped me apart. I just had one of those thoughts and my brain figured I had to have an answer. I'd never really thought about it before and have always liked and had crushes on boys. I've came to terms and it's been better I've done therapy and now it only comes back maybe once or twice a week. Now I've started stressing over my gender and if I'm actually a man. I've always loved girly things dresses, makeup, fake nails etc. Now it feels like I want to be it just to make my thoughts leave. I have no clue why my body and mind wants to think those thoughts. Now I just have to let it go and just leave my thoughts behind. I don't give into the thoughts and compulsions as much as I did with HOCD because I know what will happen and I try to calm myself before anything worse starts to happen like the man in the video talked about.
EXACTLY
U ok now?
Ur a girl?
Dude I wish you could be my therapist😂
Bro did you get over HOCD
Thank you so much for this!!
Great Video, I had HOCD and practically housebound for years. The key to overcoming it was really not caring if I was or wasn’t. You know the old “yeah maybe I am maybe I’m not” and taking the Power away from the thoughts. Who cares,,,I would love to see a video on Magical OCD, or superstition OCD. Many Thanks
My ocd has definitely gotten worse with the whole pandemic. I’ve had harm ocd thoughts, sexual thoughts, and I’ve existential thoughts throughout the past few months, This video helped me feel a little better today. OCD is so tough, I spend hours and hours every day in this mental loop and it’s exhausting. I’ll finally feel a tiny normal for a bit but then OCD hits me again. Throughout my life I’ve had sexual thoughts and they would make me so sick because I thought it was bad I was a thinking of them. HOCD is a new one for me, it started up about 2 months ago because I was having sexual intrusive thoughts about a girl and then it hit me and I thought that it meant that I was a lesbian even though I didn’t enjoy those thoughts. I look at every girl now and see if I’m attracted to them. Throughout high school I was boy crazy and had lots of boyfriends haha. Right now I’m actually in a more serious relationship with a guy who I love so much. And now I’m scared of losing him and not being with him anymore because what if I’m lesbian? But then I realize that I wouldn’t be worried about not being in a relationship anymore if I actually was. I was so crazy about him before and I was very very attracted to him but after this whole HOCD thing I’ve questioned my attraction for him, even though I know I am. Writing out my thoughts makes me realize how crazy they are, I’m sure whoever is reading this understands what I’m talking about and how exhausting these thoughts are. I’m just wanting to feel normal again.
Im sorry you feel this way,You need to remember if you in fact do have hocd it means that your mind is tricking you or is trying to make you something your not,you have no evidence or anything like that to make you question yourself or your sexuality except your thoughts,hope this helps
Trust me it'll get better. The last 2years were really tough for me. I can relate to everything you're saying cause I've been through it. In my case, I've been to a point where I thought I would commit suicide because just normal coversation with my friends or with anyone of my same sex would give me intrusive thoughts and thoughts of being gay and I hated it. My mind would make up things like "you're definitely attracted to him", "kiss him", "he's hot"etc. The only thing that's helping me is yoga and meditation everyday for 30-40mins. Try doing it in a month or so you'll definitely feel better. These thoughts can be captivating cause our minds work that way, we're always attracted towards the unknown. Accept the thoughts, meditate, exercise and keep yourself busy. Also, accepting these thoughts doesn't mean you'll become gay, the thoughts will just fade away. Stay strong we're with you.
Recently I've had a chat with one of my gay friend. He shared his entire experience about him coming out. He told he have always been attracted to men for a long time and how he would just agree when we would talk about girls. And he too felt out of place, depressed and just how society would judge him. To be honest, his experience had no similarity to mine. I would just think these things thoughts and jumble my mind about being gay, but he just felt naturally attracted to same sex and never struggled about his sexual orientation. He was the person I mostly avoided during these years because I thought my mind would make up worse of things and again I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Truth is the opposite, talking to him gave me a perspective from their life and it definitely helped me feel better.
FR ITS GOTTEN WORSE AND OUTTA CONTROL
I’m just scared that I’m going to be something I don’t want to be after the thoughts are gone.
I seen you’re panicking. If you have any questions, I’m surly to help.
@@bloody8224 ok thank you. Is it possible for me to be something other than straight after the thoughts? Cause before the thoughts I was straight and like girls and got turned on by them but then these thoughts popped out of nowhere in my head.
@@bloody8224 I also get this nervous feeling in my stomach when I sometimes think about straight stuff but I’m not scared to be straight I wanna be straight so I don’t know why I get that feeling
@@bloody8224 but it was never that way it’s only been a week where I get that anxiety feeling when thinking about straight stuff sometimes
@@graemeireland9247 The thoughts don’t get to decide what you are. Is it possible to be something else after the thoughts? My answer is probably a maybe. You’re probably at that age where you’re questioning yourself. But that’s your decision. Do you want to be gay/bi? Hopefully that answers the question. Try accepting your having these thoughts. Accepting the thoughts doesn’t mean your accepting that your gay or having other thoughts. I know it’s hard. Let me ask you some questions. Do you like the thoughts your having? Do you see yourself with the same sex?
I have been having this HOCD for the last 3 weeks and have had it a few times before and it's really stressful and I'm currently sitting my GCSEs and so originally it was har. OCD which I did overcome but now it's HOCD and it can stem from small things such as dreams or random thoughts. I spoke to my mum about it for the first time today and felt so relif but ut has still found its way to we've back into my thoughts causing me to over analyse past events and it's really taking a toll on my mental health. These videos have help alot and I just hope that this subsides soon🙃
I have been experiencing this recently. Bc when I think about it I get shivers and I start thinking "what if I am lesbian?" Or "what if I'm bi?" And it makes me so scared bc I don't feel that way. I genuinely never felt attraction to women before unlike men who I have had crushes on. But I always doubt this by thinking things like "I haven't had a irl crush in so long" and things like that. Also I'm scared one day it'll just happen and I'll not be straight anymore and I hate it I just wanna go back to normal.
same
Same I'm also scared that I maybe liked girls as a kid but I never did
Man, I’m 14 and I’m I think I’m struggling with this. There’s just this voice in the back of my head that’s just telling me “I’m gay” or “you’re not straight”. And it won’t let up, I want it to stop. I want it to end. I just want to be the person I was before this.
I like women and I’m heterosexual where I’m straight and the last 3 days I’ve had gay stuck in my head and stuff like that it’s really annoying and i know I’m not gay because I find women beutiful and attractive I’m trying to get it out of my head This helped calm me down and just continue with my live and end up marrying a woman and I know that will happen because I really like woman and I don’t like boys sexually at all and it’s just stuck in my head because when it’s out of my head I feel perfect😌 this video has been helping me the last day and mainly it’s stuck in my head but I know it will go away soon
Oh this is new to me. I never heard of it before. Very informative video.
I needed this so bad , i swear i have never been so helpless before
I’ve had this form to a high degree, and constantly told my mom the intrusive thoughts and she would only get angrier. She was convinced I was gay and I believed it too. I took to the web to assure myself and stumbled across HOCD and finally relaxed and the compulsions stopped. I still doubt every now and then but for the most part I can handle this
Skylar Malone that’ sucks! I hope you’re doing okay!
I feel really bad for you that you're parents aren't supporting you in this. That's the reason why I'm not telling my parents about it, because I know I Will be humiliated and judged at the same time.
I relate to this so much. My mother is convinced I'm gay (My sibling told me.) and I feel like I am but I know I'm not. I just don't know how to talk to anyone about this because everyone I know doesn't know a thing about HOCD. I have minor standard OCD and Emetophobia, but my parents don't believe a word of it. I've tried explaining it to them but they tell me I'm making things up and that they know people and have seen people with "real" OCD. The only thing they believe me about is the Emetophobia. I've gone as far as to tell everyone I know and myself that I might be bisexual and just haven't found the right girl. I even made a bisexual Pride poster just to make it more believable. I know you wrote this comment 4 months ago and probably will never see it, but I hope you're doing better.
My mom knew I was not gay and I was making myself anxious. She literally proved the point, I was still and still say " what if ", if your mind says " what if", it's not the truth, I KNOW I am straight, and I want to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life. Quarantine exasperated all of these anxious thoughts because I've never had them before.
kylie the thing is when you constantly think “what if” the “what ifs” make you think “it is” “it definitely is” and that’s just how powerful your brain is, just keep reminding yourself that and you will feel so much calmer, hope you’re better soon:)
I have diagnosed anxiety so now it all makes sense thank you.
a couple years ago this use to torture me, now i only get it after a long time i might have a little phase where i get anxious but you have to remember that it isn’t reality, thoughts aren’t reality they are thoughts. It’s also important to know that it’s not the fear of being gay itself but the fear of your identity changing and what you think you are being completely wrong. to overcome this i reallt just had a layed back approach to life, to accept all feelings and with time the fear began to fade. to do things you like so you know your identity. i overcame this and i know we all can
I cried of happiness when I heard of this HOCD. This one triggering event at school made me have all these thoughts of me being potentially gay, and I have just been so anxious at school this past month because of it.
I feel so so so much better just knowing I’m not alone. 3 years ago I developed this out of nowhere one night when I was getting high and it felt like I was stuck being high and as I tried to explain myself to other people it just got to the point where I didn’t want to do that anymore because I realized nobody I knew would understand .. it’s very uncontrollable sometimes .. I wonder if improving my diet could help break snap my brain out of this loop I get in its very intrusive to my day to day
How are you doing now buddy, is it gone??
This fear came back to me. I have been trying so hard to get rid of it, I just can’t get my mind over saying, “I am gay, maybe I am.” It just is something I don’t want to say. I know it will help, but it’s hard. Do you know why this fear came back to me? My ocd keeps on putting me in traps it feels like, and making me scared. I want to share the Gospel when I grow up, and a preacher who is Gay would not be good. God bless you though my friend, you have helped me so much. I would just like some help.
This is awesome. Never realized how many dudes have this and thought I was alone
You really helped me, ty 👌
I’ve def had times of OCD where a thought comes in and I freak out and it pushes me so much to the point of crying and reassuring myself it’s not true. Just yesterday the thought of “what if I’m sexually attracted to women” came up and I felt so much fear and felt uncomfortable and tried to let it go. Then another though came from remembering watching a show with two girls kissing and me feeling aroused by it and the thought questioning if “I acted on this feeling” and constantly reassuring myself that I didn’t but not knowing for sure. It makes me so ill to think about it and I’m afraid I’m always going to have this in my mind and question it. I hate this. I feel like my mind constantly finds a fear and narrows in on it and makes me go through so much. Even talking to myself and others doesn’t make me feel better 😢
thanks man this helped a lot
Glad it helped
Thank you, I’m relieved
Amazing video thank you❤️
One of the bad things is that sometimes maybe due to treatments or getting used to thoughts you might fear less , and you feel scared because you don't fear as much as before
I have suffered with HOCD for a while, until I just told myself - okay, if I'm gay then so what? If that's the case I should be happy finding a guy that I love and all - this made my fear of it vanish. Unfortunately OCD didn't disappear as such, but switched themes - this time that I'm into crazy fetishes that'd make a loving relationship with kids impossible.
Thanks for sharing. That's so frustrating. OCD tends to attack what the person values most. So when you just agreed with it, it took value away and it tries to move to something else.
OCD and Anxiety hey Nate does your libido come back if so how long Ik it’s different for some people
You literally provided the answer the everyone needs to hear dude. This is exactly how you overcome HOCD, and I can't wait to work on this approach with a therapist :)
Caleb Baker it does eventually come back
@@ocdandanxiety wait you said that it tries to manifest into something else? That is literally what happens to me I've had harm ocd then obsessive thoughts now this why wont it just stop
Thanks so much for your videos. I struggled with this a lot in 2017 and suddenly feeling it again for whatever reason. But my OCD tells me if it's reoccurring and persistent I'm probably just gay etc etc. Haha. Learning to ride the wave.
i was scared bc i dreamed of a girl in my class once and i thought for a whole year that i was “gay” even if my family would have accepted me there was literally nothing that was a real fear i was just so depressed and scared but i don’t know why. Now i laugh about it because i accepted myself and even realized that it was just one intrusive thought that sent me in a spiral of depression.
I overcame it, and you will too.
I did it within a couple months with no help and. o one to talk to, You got this channel and know what you are having so don’t worry to all people who clicked on this video.
I have hocd for the past three months now and i’m so scared. I had 2 boyfriends before and i always had crushes on boys. I fu-ing know i’m straight because i’m attractive to boys and I don’t see females that way (but something in my brain is telling me that i have to but i dont want to). This quarantine fuc-ed me up. Im in one direction fandom for 1 year now and everyone in this fandom is either gay or bi. At the beginning i was like okay cool and i was supporting them and stuff ( i still do tho and i have nothing against them) but they stared saying that if you like the song ‘defenceless’ on one of the boys album ur gay because they think its a gay song and they said that if you like long haired harry you’re definitely not straight. And one of my fav songs on the album was defenceless and i really liked long hair on harry so I started to think that i’m gay because of it. And i still think i am but deep down i know i’m not. It’s so hard. When i’m out w my friends I forget about hocd and that but when i’m home and alone i’m constantly thinking about it and i cant do it anymore i just want this to stop. Every time i will see a girl i will question myself ‘do I find her attractive?’ ‘What if im gay?’ And stuff like that. Or i will freak out because i like her hair or her outfit. Every time i see a boy a voice in my head is like ‘ do you find him attractive?’ ‘ do you find him attractive because you want to hide that ur gay’ and sh’t like that. I started to lose attraction to boys because of that and idk what to do
SORRY for the 1D-fandom thing...I hope you can understand what i’m trying to say.
And i’m sorry for my english its not my first language.
hey! i’m going through the same thing if you want we can talk more on instagram if u have it! my user is __leahmay (:
@@LeahMay27 I followed u!
@@goldenkevin7698 okay!
@@powerplaygoal6456 yeah i know... i’m sorry i know how you feel
SAME! I’m in the 1D fandom too and have these exact thoughts.
it’s almost a year with those thoughts honestly it gotten a lil better but i still have them my thoughts always puts me kissing my friends when they come close to my face it feels so real like it feels like i would actually do it but deep down i know i wouldn’t it’s hard but i promise to all of you guys going through this we will make it out give ur life to jesus christ
Same here bro
Can I make a donation lmao. I had these thoughts for the first time yesterday and it was so stressful. Your words and advice have given me soooo much relief
Ok few weeks ago I was actually doubting I had ocd and maybe I was truly gay or bi but this video really was great it helped out a lot. I really do have ocd. I read on it its not only about sexuality but also violent thoughts of running someone over or stabbing someone hurts my head.
yes this is me i always think what if i was and i always was confused like wtf i've always liked boys and never had a crush on a gurl and then it started and my mind was like if you think this it' makes you gay and i'm not!! i always thought i was the only one i have anxiety and hocd and i hated seeing lgbt stuff . i will feel awkward and weird when a pretty girl is around and my thoughts will be like u are attracted to her when i'm not!! this helped i thought i was the only one
Oh my goodness thank you bro so much I just want to do something for you but I don't know what it is that was the thing I was struggling with I needed help for a long time and you actually helped me I asked my dad and my mom about this over and over again and all they said was you're not gay and things to try to help me but they did help me a little bit but I don't think they know what this OCD thing is my parents are really nice and they try to help me and they are good questions
Man.. This video would have save my youth.. it’s nuts how potent these thoughts and emotions are, very crippling. Even now 20 years later, I sometimes still fall for it. Sometimes I think that I’m enjoying it then it get worse
Dude, I think this is what I have.
I am a male and have been and am completely straight throughout the last 23 years of my life. Two nights ago, I just had a thought of holding my male best friend's hand and walking through an outlet mall as a couple. This thought just spiraled out of proportion and I had thoughts of kissing other men and having sex with other men and being ok with it. But I would get REALLY ANXIOUS about these thoughts and how I didn't wanna be gay and I wanted to be straight. Nothing wrong with being gay, but I didn't wanna get into a gay relationship for myself. I was scared that would either be gay or bi and the thought was just killing me.
Then, I came upon the topic of HOCD and it really calmed me down. After reading about it, I realized that this all just started from a thought and I doubted it way too much that it spiraled out of proportion. I realized that truly gay people are only afraid of coming out as they don't know what other people are gonna think, but they are still very content with the thought of being gay. For people with HOCD, the thought of just having a relationship with a man can be daunting and terrifying.
So yeah, I think quarantine really just messed with my head a little and good to know that there is an explanation for this phenomenon.
Same brotha. Jus a thought that turned into a demon type shid. I’m 19 an this happened to me during quarantine too. Les pray we get better🙏🏽 stay strong bro
@@timmy8211 yeah, I think I've gotten over it. The key is to label these thoughts as intrusive and let em pass by without any recognition. You see, you aren't supposed to run away from them, rather just gently observe them, and simply tell your mind that these thoughts hold no meaning.
I hope this helps 🙂
Ashwin Thiagarajan facts. Have you been meditating n shit? I downloaded an app called “headspace” an it guides you through meditation. The app says just about the same thing about accepting the thoughts. Accepting them is real scary but like I guess that’s the only way to beat them
@@timmy8211 no, I haven't really meditated. I have considered it tho. I think I just ended up working myself out.
Ashwin Thiagarajan that’s what’s up bro. Preciate your comments. Stay strong 💪🏽
Nice job for the video! Sadly, the comment section doesn't reflect what the video told us to do.
Old HOCD sufferers are literally reassuring people, 'you are not gay, you are straight'. It's nice to know, but it'll trap you in the OCD cycle. I know how much you want it, but I have a question.
Do you want to be past HOCD or continue with HOCD. If you wanna be past it, the only way out is acceptance.
"Maybe I am gay. Maybe I like this. Maybe I like that."
Reassurance doesn't help, it'll just make you worse.
Honestly, what scares me the most is that I’m always overanalyzing every single move and thought, and I would be ok if I were gay or bi or whatever, if it was something natural, not a thought trying to convince me 24/7 about something that doesn’t even happened.
it’s hard because I love my boyfriend. And I don’t want to think I am completely attracted to the opposite sex. I shut away a lot of my female friends because I am sometimes convinced I like them. Ocd has taken everything
@Lewis Taylor when you was recovering did
youre anxiety get better because for me my
stomach pain has went down a lot after I
accepted the thoughts and ignored them but
now when I look at a attractive male in there
eyes it feel like slow motion and kind of a
sensation have you ever experienced this
I get you, read my comment above, hope you are better!!
Would it be considered HOCD for a teenager to have these thoughts? I've seen TV shows that can put these thoughts into a kids mind. I've also seen that the moment a boy doesn't fit in with the other boys he's asked if he's gay. So what is the difference between being confused and having HOCD?
You understand exactly whats happening
I’m not trying to self-diagnose, but I have a lot of signs that point to OCD in general. I experience Relationship OCD with my boyfriend, and I believe HOCD as well. It’s really Debilitating because I love my boyfriend so much, but my mind sometimes intrudes and asks, “what if you don’t love him? What if he doesn’t love you? What if you’re really lesbian, and you’re in denial? What if you’re secretly bisexual?” Etc. I’ve been straight all my life, so this has been really anxiety filling... especially when I’m trying to be intimate with my boyfriend and that thought just comes into my head. I’m trying to get myself help now though :)
Hey just tuning in. I came forth with this to my psychiatrist about this. She says it's not considered a type of OCD because I can still function but it causes me a lot of anxiety despite me being able to do daily tasks. I was hoping if you might be able to shed some light on this. Hard to talk about this sometimes even though I have a very accepting family and group of friends.
Was your psychiatrist specialised in OCD? If not, then I'd recommend seeing an OCD specialist. Just because you're able to mostly function doesn't mean it's not OCD.
I've been stuck in a loop of thinking that ive finally gotten over hocd, and then the intusive thoughts come back. This happenes over and over again.
It's because you probably haven't fully recovered mate. Have you ever done proper exposure response therapy with a trained specialist? From all the reading I have done, this seems to be the most effective way in crushing HOCD once and for all. Essentially, you need to learn to become comfortable with your thoughts. That is not to say act out on them or entertain them, but to not let them bother you, and to be comfortable enough to accept them. If you can master this, I promise you they will go away for good.
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying
I’ve had this for the longest time but eventually came to accept whatever sexuality I may be as I realised its out of my control
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying
I feel so much better i thought it was just me but i knew for a fact i wasn’t gay and never had been but they didn’t leave me alone and now i know why it is happening and it’s not just me going through this it is a lot of releif
Yes I am currently struggling from this and it drains me out completely having these intrusive thoughts about what if I were gay and it digs into much deeper and deeper thoughts. It has made me start to act differently around people. I face all the compulsions mentioned in the video but I want to fight this and become more accepting towards thsese thoughts without taking any wrong action.
Is it now with you that you no longer know what you like and want because you feel and think so many things?
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the enemy wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying !!
@@Johnfhfjcj amen 🙏🏽
Phew this helps me a lot PHEW PHEW
Same I have that but is coming back
I have been going throw something questioning myself a talked to my parents about it and then they say I am not gay . But you gave me the best advice what you are saying matches up with me but I know me and I know that I am not gay
They are just thoughts! Don’t accept them even if they feel so real. Keep your mind on the Lord. We have a bright future so the devil wants to steal our mind! I’ll be praying for you
Being with this since 19, left college for a semester because hocd 😔 is hell
Pocd is much more hell
This helped so much
The comments really help me a lot