i actually liked it a lot, it told a story that seemingly only a select group of people understood. others are so caught up in everything being problematic or triggering or overtly sexual but that’s just real life and i think the show conveyed that well, amongst other things. the world has gotta take off the bubble wrap at some point, it’s getting ridiculous.
Trisha I’m a huge fan and have been for years, so I say this with nothing but LOVE! Saying that mothers who work full time are not full time mothers discredits all that we do for our children. As a single mother of two who works full time you made me feel as though I am not 100% there for my kids. We have to provide for our kids and don’t all have the luxury of working from home and only working a couple hours a few times per week. Any mother that feeds, shelters and nurtures their child is a full time mother does not matter if they are physically with them (ie. at work or child is in school)
Yes, saying I'm a part time parent because I have a full time job just further perpetuated how shitty I feel about having to have a career so my family can afford to live. I'd do anything to stay at home with my kids. And I already feel like I'm missing out on everything with them because I'm not around them for 50 hours a week.
I think she’s implying because you guys get to go to work and have a break. Sahms are in the trenches 24:7. I’ve worked full time and been a sahm now and sahm is harder for sure
I work 12 hours 5 days a week and that's considered a full time job. I take care of my kids the other 12 hours everyday plus all day the days I don't work and that's NOT considered a full time job. Hunny. We're working the same 24/7, I just have 2 different ones and you have a single one.
Her takes about Priscilla sucked, she was taken advantage of and groomed by Elvis and had a child with him, so why is it an issue that she’s been profiting off of her story???? I’m so sick of everyone acting like Elvis is some unproblematic godly figure or something.
Trisha has selective feminism 😂 she doesnt see how the weekend is misogynistic and she doesnt see how priscilla was groomed. She was also okay with harry, a 26 year old, dating an 18 year old. I wasnt expecting that either
@@brontasaurus2560 right? She gets so worked up over grooming and weird age gaps but then refuses to see the same patterns in people she’s a fan of. 🤣 I love her but she drives me crazy too lol.
@HunterWoodlawn yes I love trisha but the contradictions can be alot.. However that is what makes her so authentically human. I think when ppl trash the behaviour of celebrities she loves, she feels personally insulted. Then she starts to double down and completely ignore the feedback of her costar.. love oscar and his confidence in pushing back on topics. Love her, but her DBT skills and therapy work did not show in this episode 😅😅
Babe this isn't BBC news or the NY post. This is just Trish. Her takes. Unapologetically her. I don't think anyone would align 100% with any other persons takes. That's called being human. Feel free to click off.
i cant believe in the same episode trisha is criticizing drake and other men for being platonic friends with 14 y/os but then literally struggles to criticize elvis for actually being in a relationship with a 14 y/o. make it make sense.
excellent point, esp because trisha always prides herself on saying that she would never defend an adult that even befriends a child, on more than one situation too, but then uses the defense of a “different time” for elvis, but she DEFINITELY would have never played devils advocate for anyone else with a minor
Believe it. She hasn’t changed and never will. She wants to justify anything Elvis related because she’s planning on naming her next child Elvis with ZERO regard for the heavy allegations and rumors that name holds. Anyone willingly ready to do that to their child KNOWING that is SICK.
I love that Oscar pushes back against trisha even if it's gently. She gets so heated when she doesn't like someone that she only sees her perspective. The parent conversation is tough
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
The “full time mom” “part time mom” thing pissed me off only because I would KILL to be home with my kids all day. Being at work is not a ‘break’ I’m still on call for my children 24 hours a day no matter if I’m working or not. But no matter that, I work 10 hours a day and then come home and continue to do my job as a parent. I am a full time worker and full time mother. I wish she would have not touched that subject.
I think it came off wrong because what she was arguing was the fact that someone was saying that a full stay at home mom was not working as hard. Like it was easier. I think both are hard. Equally hard.
Yeah I understand but Oscar gave his point of view and Trish thought about it and agreed and retracted her statement so in the end she agreed with you :)
It’s not and I think that’s what the rout of the argument was. It came off wrong but both are equally hard. Staying home full time is extremely isolating and still work, working full time and still being a parent is extremely draining. Both equally hard.
It’s Pricilla’s story and she has the right to tell it. I feel like she’s just blinded by the fact it’s Elvis. If it was anyone else she would call him a groomer.
Yeah I was just listening to the pod on Apple Podcasts and came here to read the comments about this specific take. I’m not a mom, but I know I would rather my mom have sat at home and been able to nap without having to wake up 10 times throughout the night and still having to wake up at 7 in the morning to go to work.
As a mother who has to work, it is SO FUCKING HARD BEING A WORKING MOTHER!!!!!!!! Imagine being at a 9 to 5 job and you kid is sick, you have to attempt to leave your job to pick them up, potentially lose out on pay and stress about your JOB and your CHILD simultaneously. Staying at home is a privilege beyond belief that most mothers will never get the chance to experience. Jobs do not care if you are a mother period.
There’s not only one type of stay at home mom. You clearly have no idea what’s it’s like to have no choice but to stay home due to the costs of daycare and grandparents who decide last minute they can’t watch so you can’t go back to work. And then you have to stay on a really tight budget to make everything work, since you can’t even afford to work with daycare. You never get a fucking break throughout the day, and you are constantly spoken down to from people like yourself who probably get a nice calm break everyday at work and a peaceful guaranteed lunch, and clearly a support system that allows you to make it work. But yeah, the once in awhile your kids are sick must be so hard (I take care of my kids when they are sick too👍🏻) Honestly I have so much respect for working mothers, because it’s a balance but I have no respect for people who claim the other side of motherhood is a privilege. Every situation has pros and cons, as I just pointed out about working. Anyways, wish you well, hope you can learn to expand your empathy.
@@bluindigo6556 Who says working moms can afford daycare despite working? And who is to say that there are grandparents involved at all in certain situations? For example my parents have passed away and I am only 28. My partners parents aren’t even living in the same state . I would rather be with my sick child all day than have to worry about my job AND my sick child that’s just how I personally feel!. Working mothers literally get no breaks either. Maybe a 30 minute lunch, 1 hour MAX, assuming that you’re not taking calls from the doctor, your school, your kids, etc. Also re-read my comment. There is nowhere where I am “talking down” to stahm’s. Get a grip. I said being with your kids everyday to actually experience their firsts, first steps, first words or just experience them grow up in a way where someone who is gone 8+ hours a day can’t, is a privilege. So if you fail to understand that point then you don’t understand the privilege you have. Never did I say staying home is easy. I said it’s a PRIVLEGE. Take care with peace and love.
@@emilyh4287a mom that gets to leave and go to a job does get a break 😂 they get their drive to and from work, they get mandated breaks, they get lunch breaks, they get pee breaks. Sahm is the hardest job in the world period.
Im SUCH a Trisha stan but this episode was for some reason a little hard to listen the whole way through cause Trisha was close minded on multiple topics talked, and just not willing to hear Oscar out to explain a different perspective… I just wanted more, I wanted to hear the conversations play out and Trisha perhaps get a bigger picture, and expand her opinions
I agree, the episode felt a little self righteous. The energy definetly was off, but I think she was aware of it. She was absolutely showing her stubborn side. I get it, just a funk.
I also didn’t agree with a couple of her points this episode (especially the stay at home mom part), but this is her show. She’s just being herself and that’s why I like listening to her pod.
Love this podcast but saying 18 & 26 year old age gap is not that bad and excusing Elvis dating a 14 year old after everything Trisha has said about age gaps/ minors was wild. Being able to stay at home is a privilege also, so many women would love to do that but simply can’t afford to.
I’m disappointed in the way Trisha spoke about the new Priscilla Presley movie. Elvis dating Priscilla when she was 14 and he was 24 is disgusting point blank period. I know she loves Elvis but you can’t criticize people for grooming and not keep that same energy for your idol regardless of the decade. I hope she at least gives the movie a shot because I think it is an important story to be told.
Trisha, she said getting to be a full time parent is a PRIVILEGE. you saying going to work is a break, that's YOUR privilege of never working a job you hate that pulled you away from your child.
The parenting take is in such bad taste. Going to work and leaving your kid isn’t a break. So many kids are hurt harmed or even killed in daycare and babysitter settings and there’s truly no way to ever know 100% that they’re safe. So not only do we get to stress over getting enough hours, not being able to leave even when your child is sick because you literally cannot pay your bills if you miss work, but we also have to miss so much of our Childrens lives and worry about them every moment of every day. It isn’t a choice. Working every single day is the only way me and my children are able to have food and a home. It’s such a privilege to be able to be home with your kids or to even be able to get them off the bus.
Thank you, Oscar, for pushing back a little bit about the parenting thing. I think it showed that Trish wasn't really expressing what she means correctly because she agreed but also it helped her express her opinion a bit differently. So glad you're part of the show!
1:22:13 ok but I think you missed the lady’s point. No one’s saying being a stay at home mom isn’t hard, they’re saying having the choice to be a stay-at-home mom is a privilege, which it is. Most people can’t make that choice because they need two incomes and even that isn’t enough. Most women aren’t escaping their homes to jobs that treat them better. They’re leaving one kitchen to go to another, for example. Sure some women choose to work and also have money for a nanny who can raise their kids and that is also privilege. Average moms have to work and it isn’t a privilege.
Yes. I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
THIS THANK YOU I hope Trisha rethinks that comment because many people are in this situation, working / being a mom , it is VERY possible. MOTHERS CAN DO ANYTHING/EVERYTHING ❤
I also know people who have had to quit their job making good money just because child care is SO expensive. Your reality is not everybody else's there is struggles on both sides. it's also a privilege to get a break and have adult interaction im a full time mom of 3 under 3 and any chance I get to work it genuinely feels like a break so I get what Trisha was saying. its all perspective but its wrong to say one is "harder" than the other. this isn't the struggle olympics were all moms trying are best
i work full time & work from home with my toddler by myself. but everyday i thank GOD ! that i can do this & i can care for my child. definitely a luxury
Goodness, she’s out of touch. It certainly IS a privilege to be a SAHM. Most Americans can’t survive off of one income for the household, nor do most Americans work from home and make their own schedule. It was hard to listen to her justifying that part.
Being a stay at home mom is a privilege.(doesn’t mean it’s not hard). You’re able to make ends meet and be with your kids 24/7. Having to leave your child because you won’t have a home unless you work is not a privilege. Edit: I understand there are circumstances where staying at home is a sacrifice because childcare isn’t possible otherwise. There are always circumstances that are not so common but still important. So to the moms who had to give up their career or a part of them because they had no other options, I hear you and I’m sorry you got put in that situation. I’m sure your kids love to be with you everyday.
Eh. I agree with what you're saying but I'm a stay at home mom out of necessity. My husband and Is parents are deceased. We have no family really. No one to babysit. &when I was working we spent more on gas and child care than I even made. While I'm grateful to be at home. We barely make ends meet but can't afford daycare if I did. I wish I could work. I wish I could have a job. I went back to work a few months ago and recently had to quit. I felt so much better while working. Depending on your situation both are a privlage that not everyone has.
@@Valerie-co8th Agreed. I think it really depends on where you live and your personal circumstances. For example, some people find themselves in situations where, unfortunately, they have little to no support and end up facing unforeseen circumstances (death of loved ones, etc.). If you’re going to go to work only to earn just enough to pay rent + babysitting fees but no other necessities, for example, and then because of your income are no longer eligible for financial support… what then? There are people who will have to stay home so they can pay rent, watch their child AND buy food + other necessities.
As a mother with a full time job who comes home from a stressful day at work to be a mom the rest of my day and night, thank you Oscar for sticking up for us. Being a full time parent IS hard but so is having a job. I'd 100% rather stay home with my kids all day than work.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@PrincessVomit she came across very ignorant until Oscar corrected her. It IS privilege to be able to stay home because you don't have to rely on that second or in your case, only income. I don't think she understands actual 9-5 jobs which isn't her fault but she's been on RUclips for over 10 years and what she was saying was just out of touch, of course filming a podcast or your target haul or an ASMR video is fun and like you get a break. Going to work for corporate America, having to be a customer service worker, food service, doing extremely hard labor jobs in extreme conditions or weather is harder than her job so she can't see it like we do. I hate leaving my 3 kids everyday to go to work. I just had a baby 6 months ago, but my family wouldn't be able to survive on just my husband's income alone. Especially because I make more than him because I have a specialized certification and I work for the government. I missed his first roll, his first clap, his first words, all because I had to be at work.
@user-xc1si9dt2u right, like going to work and having superficial adult conversations with my co-workers and having grown men and women yell at me over the phone over things I have no control over isn't a break lol
I love the way Oscar handles getting his point across, especially when his views differ from Trisha's! He is so well spoken and he knows how to push back without intentionally pushing Trisha's buttons when he sees she's clearly speaking out of anger.
Sorry Trish. You’re wrong about the stay at home parenting thing. It definitely is a privilege to be able to stay at home and raise your kid instead of working the day to day grind of a job.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@@PrincessVomitive noticed most stay at home moms feel this way. i dont have a kid for this reason. i dont get how u moms do it! i have convos w work friends about having a kid and im like “but how. im at work rn, wheres my baby? daycare, at nite? not possible.” 😫
It is a privilege but it just depends on the person what is easier. I wish I could go back to work personally because for me it was easier and being home so much destroys my mental health
I'm a mom who has worked full-time outside of the house, part-time outside of the house, worked from home, and been a strictly stay-at-home mom. All of them have their benefits as well as their downsides. They all have privileges, and none are "harder" than the rest because being a parent is always the #1 full-time job above all the rest. It depends on the parent, child(ren), job, and partner situation. For some people, being a stay-at-home parent is harder, and for some, working outside the home while being a parent is harder.
I’m a full time worker and a working mom. Yes my child goes to daycare but I also am a hairdresser and end up taking her in the salon with me because my hours don’t coordinate with childcare. Here Trisha rant about how you can’t be a full time mom and work full time isn’t a thing or it’s easier made me sad and drove me crazy as someone who really is a full time mom and full time work because I have to. I have no family support from any sides but I handle and do this shit all on my own. And yes it’s hard.
As a single mum who gave up her h8gh payed job to be a mum and now can't afford child care, I felt seen. Every situation is different and trust me it's a different kind of hard. An isolating, brain numbing, suffocating hard. Not harder than your situation, just different. And that's why there are different creators on the internet. Nothing wrong with her take, it's her experience. And it made me feel like I can get through my day.
I was a stay at home mom for 2 years went back to work for 3 years and now I’m a sahm again. It’s a privilege to be here at home with my baby thanks to my wonderful hard worker husband. If it wasn’t for him I’d be out there working 10+ hr shifts and missing my kids. I’ve experienced both and I can agree being a sahm is extremely mentally draining but I used to experience the worst anxiety at work when my child was sick wondering if I had to leave if he was ok etc.
Sorry Trish. I love you lots and usually agree, but it’s very triggering for me as a working mom to hear you say over and over how much easier being a working mom is. I’ve been both. Work is in no way a break. A lot of time we just feel like guilty parents and guilty employees. But most of the time at my very demanding job, I’m having to do some motherly duties as well. I’m glad Oscar helped you see both perspectives here and got the conversation on a better track.
I absolutely love the way Trish addresses the weight conversation and goes “400 could be easy to get to, if I say 300 is easy to get to” thank you for being so real
Trisha going on about how she hates how the Kardashians give men passes and then talking about becoming a superfan of Nicki and doing a Nicki theme is wild as well. How about Nicki's letter supporting her brother being read at his trial? How about Nicki's husband intimidating his past victim to try to get her to recant? How about him not registering as an offender? Nicki is surrounded by men that are probably way worse than Drake and all the Kardashian exes combined, including Kanye.
It takes 2 google searches to debunk that she wrote her brother a letter & that she harassed the victim who failed to provide evidence of the harassment about 3-5 times in court. the same victim who reposted and liked posts bashing nickis child
@@iluvbibiana no you like her so you follow her like sheep. I have facts. I said Nicki's husband harassed the victim which is still ongoing, only Nicki was dropped because there is insufficient evidence. They did not drop him though because they do have enough to continue. Nicki's letter was read at her brother's sentencing look up the article on pagesix and many other sources. You think the article would still be up if that was incorrect? It is easily proven false if it was a lie and she would have sued page six. Here's a direct quote: "Minaj didn’t appear in court to support her older sibling Monday, but Maraj’s lawyer, David Schwartz, read a 2016 letter that the “Tusa” singer wrote in a bid to get her brother a lighter sentence. In the letter, the rapper referred to Maraj as the “most patient, gentle, genuine, giving selfless man I know.”
I hope Trish understands she has financial privileges. That’s not to take away or say that being a stay at home isn’t hard. But she has the privilege of not having to work a 9/5 to survive along with having a wealthy partner to support her. It’s not the same thing when you have to work a 9/5 to make sure your kids can even eat. She can not work for days and still be able to take care of her daughter.
Exactly and that most of us stay home moms do so because we don’t have family and can’t afford 1k+ for daycare. Stay at home moms in her area go to lunch and the gym have nanny’s . Having two rich parents with flexible schedules and money is not attainable to most of us
That doesn't mean she can't have an opinion... I'm pretty sure she knows she has money.... you don't need to tell her that! 😂😂 Some women want to work. Why is that only for men to desire? And having the discussion should be normalized. Not gate kept. The kids part is the privilege. The rest is different for every situation and some what different, some can't have different and some get to choose. No one is wrong or right.
Being a stay-home mom is privileged not because its easier but because you able to be with your child while being a working mom it requires you to go out and work to support your family and miss spending time with your kids.
As somebody who has been both a stay-at-home mom, and a working mom, I can guarantee you that working&parenting is 100% harder than being a stay at home. Example: having to get up and get yourself ready for work at 5AM, and then get your child up, fed, and ready for school / daycare, then driving your kid to school on time, and then yourself to work on time, completing at least an 8-hour work day, 10 - 12 hours if your child is in an after school program or you have family to pick them up, to then leave work, pick up your kid, go home and make dinner and then give your kid a bath, brush their teeth, and put them to bed before you have to do your self care/nighttime routine is EXHAUSTING. I'll take staying at home all day with my baby, cooking homemade food, and having some free time when i get a sitter, over having to work on top of being a part time mother. Being a SAHM I'm not as exhausted at the end of the day and can make my family dinner, my temper isn't as short because I'm not worn out from doing hard labor all day, I can get chores done like laundry, dishes, pet care. Still a fan tho, lots of love, just difference of opinion 🤷♀️🫶
@@youtubeacc but it's not. Getting a babysitter is a break. Going to work is not a vacation. If it is, maybe it highly depends on what job you have. If it's in the medical field, you're taking care of other people all day (a minimum of 8 hrs, as many as 16 hours). That is 16 whole hours of hoping whoever you trusted to watch your kid is doing a good job. Lifting a minimum of 50lbs per person you're taking care of, with a maximum of 14 people to give personal care to. Again, I've been a stay-at-home mom, and I've been a working mom. If any SAHMs saying they need a vacation, she needs help at home. Either a) they're burnt out and have no one to call on for help & need a babysitter B) are wanting/needing a more involved partner who actually shares the workload at home, or c) Literally just don't know how good they have it and idolize "the grass is greener on the other side" mentality. SAHMs work hard, but if working was a Vacation, frankly no one would be staying at home 🤷♀️
Lmao ily Trish. Yeah definitely on the hater train this ep 😂 but Oscar definitely knows how to convince and deflect, also giving you a different perspective. You all make a great team 💗🪩
I get trishes view about how being a stay at home mom is also hard, but I think she also fails to realize the privilege she has to be a stay at home mom and not having to worry about providing for your family like many working moms have to do, especially when you’re a single mom :( Edit: Also, it rubbed me the wrong way when she said that those who work a full time job and are a mom aren’t considered “full time moms” or “full time workers, and part time moms”. Just because some people don’t have the choice to be a sahm and had to work to financially provide for their families doesn’t make you any less of a mom. I feel like Trish of all people should know this since her mom worked numerous jobs growing up to provide her the best life possible.
This! I feel privileged to even be able to have family watch my child. I couldn’t imagine taking them to a daycare where you don’t know if they are safe. And it’s all you can afford. Staying with your kids all day to me is a privilege not a lot of people can afford.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@@laurenlaw5861 as a single mum who can't afford child care and has given up her career to be a mum, trust me, neither situation is more privileged than the other. Women are allowed to want carreers too. Doesn't make us ungrateful. Just able to see privilege and struggle in both boats. To think one position is better than the other is just patriarchal in the worst way.
I love the way Trish lives in contradictions. You'd think she would understand why people had strong Idol critique due to female exploitation and she should hate that.
It's pretty bpd though, distorted thinking around what's sexually appropriate. She's talked about it regarding her inappropriate relationships with older men as a minor and how she defended those connections. It takes a lot to program yourself to think differently about those past situations, doesn't mean you're going to actively address present moment situations with the same wisdom. Not sure that I have BPD it's been in question, if I do it's mild but I can relate in this department. My mind just runs with something that goes against my morals, could take me minutes before I regret something or years. Almost like "who the fuck just took over my body to take that energy on a walk" it can take someone else pointing things out to you that it's not healthy/normal. So I'm surprised Moses hasn't pointed out to her what's problematic there since he had told her to be careful about talking about Elon.
Also Elvis! Famous men can be and are pedophiles. And a pedophile in the 1950s is still a pedophile. I think she slightly came around at the end of her Priscilla rant 😂 Come on, Trish! Be a girls’ girl 💖
It's 100% privilege to be a stay at home Mom. I've done both work and stay home. You think I want to leave my child during the day and have to PAY someone else to watch them then come home and be a full time Mom? Work a stressful full day then come home feed, bathe, teach, spend time with, and devote all my attention to my child in a smaller time span than you do. Then barely get enough sleep to do it all over again. It's 100% harder. I don't go to work and shut off my "Mom" side. I'm still there stressed, worrying about my child, missing my child, etc. If anything it is harder because you're away from them while still being a Mom. I find what you're saying ignorant Trisha. You're so passionate about it but you've never lived that way with Malibu. You'll never know how hard it is. It's 100% privilege.
She is like the stereotypical father who comes home and plays with the baby/kid and does their own thing after work. She wouldn't know how most Moms think and feel
I love you Trish but the parenting convo did trigger me a tad bit. I grew up in a 2 parent household where both of my parents had to work to feed us & keep us happy and healthy, and I’ve seen my parents bust their ass for years just so we have a home to live in. My family recently did family therapy and in that my mother expressed how regretful and how bad of a mother she feels like for not being able to be around. The mental illness my mother has from having to raise 4 kids with a full time job and a husband with one as well. My mom loved her job, but worried all day about us and grew resentment towards her job because it took time away from us. Work was not a break for either of my parents, it was work to raise a healthy family. To be able to stay home with your children and can depend on one income IS very privileged. Now I’m not saying one is harder than the other, however in my personal experience & have had friends with stay at home moms, it really doesn’t make you any better or less of a parent to choose either one. I think this convo could’ve been more open & progressive if we weren’t picking what’s easier and what’s harder.
Childcare is too expensive, wages are low, causes people to stay at home the first years even if they don’t want to. I know I’ll probably have to and I defo don’t want to!
It's not always. It can be a really hard choice that some mothers make to put themselves in a bad financial situation in order to be with their baby for the first year or more of their life. Also, I've seen situations where a single mother it ends up being more expensive for them to try to work minimum wage and pay for child support if they don't have someone willing to watch the child for free. So they have to watch the child 24/7 while attempting to make money from home or taking on debt.
Depends. Honestly it's just hard to learn how to be a parent especially for those who have a harder time doing it naturally (Trisha said she had issues with this). Also not being able to step away from ur child and go out to see friends/coworkers can feel isolating for some.
Let's try not to judge other people's parenting choices. The women should want to stay home is 1000% the built in patriarchal bias we all still have. Some want to work and can't, some have to work but want to be at home, some do half and half, some wait til kids are at school to go back. The privilege is having kids at all. The rest is just whatever is best for you and your family. And most of it is hard and a big adjustment. If you have kids you are allowed to have any opinion and feel how you feel as a parent. Coming from a single mum who can't afford daycare, so I'm at home with a 2yr old (happily) but I couldn't afford full time day care.
I’m a full time mother and full time worker. I work as a nanny with my daughter with me. Haha there are exceptions:p love y’all and the podcast ❤ been a fishie for YEARS! 🎉
I think it’s good to remember that Trish probably doesn’t feel like she’s a full time mother. A lot of her opinions are based on how she feels about herself - she’s mentioned that she thinks Moses does WAY more than her. I think the stay-at-home opinion is based on that
Trisha's takes on the Kardashians and Tristan is SPOT ON like I couldn't even verbalize how or why I was so annoyed with that episode but yesss girl I agree 100000%
Not Trisha talking about podcast people having a bad take and then having a bad take right after. Love that Oscar tried to clear everything to help her out
Hey Trish! Don’t know if you’re talking about these but the sticky traps aren’t humane, they’re actually worse in the sense that the animal will just starve to death. You can definitely buy live traps if you look up catch and release traps for small animals! :) again, I don’t know if you’re talking about those but you mentioned sticky and you won’t be able to pull them off without harming them and they will just suffer if they get stuck. Stuck some peanut butter or something in the live trap and take them to a park or woods or something once you catch them! Love you! Just wanted to give you a heads up
I work 42 hours a week and my two kids go to work with me and then I go home and still take care of the kids while managing our home. You can work full time and be a full time mom.
Taylor Swift really brings out the misogyny in people. Also, the Elvis defense while condemning other people for dating young girls in the same episode is wild. Usually love the pod but stick to your beliefs, whether you adore someone or not.
Trish, really disagree with your parenting comment. Being a mother is hard, and to discredit mothers who work full time as no being "full time" mothers was a terrible take, in my opinion. Being a full time stay at home mom is super difficult, but it is a privilege. Some people grow up not wanting to work, but they have to work. Work is not a "break" for most people, work can be extremely challenging and stressful. Most mother's would choose to stay at home with their kids and spend more time with them. So although I agree with you that being a full time mother is extremely hard, I do not agree with you with thinking that being a stay at home mom is not a privilege.
Girl. Its not a "break"...some of us have no other choice. We would rather be at home with our kids. And it is just as hard. Getting up early, ealing with grown ass adults for 8 hours & coming home to take care of kids.. its hard. Of course you sitting there talking is fun so you see it as a break lol. Dont speak for the moms that work and have to come home to the kids.
Nikki Reed actually wrote 13 about herself and played Evan Rachel Wood's friend! Also she's married to Ian Somerhalder (Trish, you would know him from Lost!)
trish , as a 19 yo single mom of twin babies i want nothing more than to stay home with them 24/7 and give them all my love but i need to get a job by end of november and find daycare 😕 if i could change the script and stay home with them n get money i so would it’s so hard and i don’t even want to think about it it makes me cry i want nothing more in the world then to be able to care for my babies forever
Drake‘s lyrics about Billie are especially creepy because I found it very weird that when she was 14/15 she would mention in interviews that Drake is her “friend” and they text
1:24:07 Trisha, honey. What the "I had It" aunties are trying to say is that many of us would love to just be mothering all day long. But we don't have a Choice, we must work . Think of your own momma. She was a single parent working long hours for her babies❤- I bet she would have prefered to be with you, but she just could not afford It.😢
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
I haven't been watching very long so I don't know much about Oscar although I have known about Trisha for a decade. Just wanted to say I appreciate Oscar not being like many gay stans can be (all stans can be toxic, that isn't what this is about) but I do feel like typically the gay stans are the ones to quickly hate the most on a woman as well. So when Trisha asked what kind of women you don't like I was like "oh here we go" expecting to hear a list of types of women he doesn't like .... and he literally just said CRIMINALS?! Like the only women you aren't supporting are the toxic ones? I LOVE THAT! That is so important as we all try and move forward out of our toxic cycles and into a more positive future for EVERYONE! Oscar, You seem like a kind soul and I love the rep outfit (my favorite album, and that outfit is from my favorite music video.... not just of taylor's - but ALL time!) so you are winning my heart love
I love that Oscar feels comfortable expressing an opposing opinion on topics! Makes the conversation lively and diverse in POV!
I agreeee! Love their dynamic! He’s not a yes man, and Trisha has matured so much, they fit perfect!
Trisha giving her cohost Doritos and casually dropping “it took all my might not to eat them last night” was so funny, he didn’t even notice LMAO
Lol
fave moment
I legit left work and bought a small bag of the kelce cool ranch doritos LMAO the trish effect truly
trisha being the only person that genuinely loves the idol is sending me
Hahaha literally so trish
Lmaooo, I liked it but I wish Abel wasn’t in it 😭
i actually liked it a lot, it told a story that seemingly only a select group of people understood. others are so caught up in everything being problematic or triggering or overtly sexual but that’s just real life and i think the show conveyed that well, amongst other things. the world has gotta take off the bubble wrap at some point, it’s getting ridiculous.
I loved it!
wait what? its such a good show, and I thought it shined light on how dark the music industry can be.
Trisha I’m a huge fan and have been for years, so I say this with nothing but LOVE!
Saying that mothers who work full time are not full time mothers discredits all that we do for our children. As a single mother of two who works full time you made me feel as though I am not 100% there for my kids. We have to provide for our kids and don’t all have the luxury of working from home and only working a couple hours a few times per week. Any mother that feeds, shelters and nurtures their child is a full time mother does not matter if they are physically with them (ie. at work or child is in school)
Yes, saying I'm a part time parent because I have a full time job just further perpetuated how shitty I feel about having to have a career so my family can afford to live. I'd do anything to stay at home with my kids. And I already feel like I'm missing out on everything with them because I'm not around them for 50 hours a week.
I hope she sees this 💕💕
I think she’s implying because you guys get to go to work and have a break. Sahms are in the trenches 24:7. I’ve worked full time and been a sahm now and sahm is harder for sure
@@youtubeacc that's your opinion
I work 12 hours 5 days a week and that's considered a full time job.
I take care of my kids the other 12 hours everyday plus all day the days I don't work and that's NOT considered a full time job.
Hunny. We're working the same 24/7, I just have 2 different ones and you have a single one.
2 1/2 hour episode. Trish knows what the people WANT
And I listen to the whole thing even if it means I have to split it in half 😂
@@jenesisnavarro literally!! 😂 watching it in-between class or while i do hw is my favorite
Omg I didn’t notice ! I was hooked !
the 50 minute podcasts just dont do it for mee, trish never runs out of topics to discuss i love her
AND 2 A WEEK👏👏👏
Trish was on one with this episode. Didn’t really appreciate her take on working moms. Glad Oscar gently corrected her
Her takes about Priscilla sucked, she was taken advantage of and groomed by Elvis and had a child with him, so why is it an issue that she’s been profiting off of her story???? I’m so sick of everyone acting like Elvis is some unproblematic godly figure or something.
Trisha has selective feminism 😂 she doesnt see how the weekend is misogynistic and she doesnt see how priscilla was groomed. She was also okay with harry, a 26 year old, dating an 18 year old. I wasnt expecting that either
@@brontasaurus2560 right? She gets so worked up over grooming and weird age gaps but then refuses to see the same patterns in people she’s a fan of. 🤣 I love her but she drives me crazy too lol.
@HunterWoodlawn yes I love trisha but the contradictions can be alot.. However that is what makes her so authentically human. I think when ppl trash the behaviour of celebrities she loves, she feels personally insulted. Then she starts to double down and completely ignore the feedback of her costar.. love oscar and his confidence in pushing back on topics. Love her, but her DBT skills and therapy work did not show in this episode 😅😅
Babe this isn't BBC news or the NY post. This is just Trish. Her takes. Unapologetically her. I don't think anyone would align 100% with any other persons takes. That's called being human.
Feel free to click off.
@truecrimenwine489 yes exactly. People forget she has BPD, some days she will be more easily triggered than others. It's authentic
i cant believe in the same episode trisha is criticizing drake and other men for being platonic friends with 14 y/os but then literally struggles to criticize elvis for actually being in a relationship with a 14 y/o. make it make sense.
if she's a fan they can do no wrong, if she's not a fan they can do nothing right.
excellent point, esp because trisha always prides herself on saying that she would never defend an adult that even befriends a child, on more than one situation too, but then uses the defense of a “different time” for elvis, but she DEFINITELY would have never played devils advocate for anyone else with a minor
Believe it. She hasn’t changed and never will. She wants to justify anything Elvis related because she’s planning on naming her next child Elvis with ZERO regard for the heavy allegations and rumors that name holds. Anyone willingly ready to do that to their child KNOWING that is SICK.
I love that Oscar pushes back against trisha even if it's gently. She gets so heated when she doesn't like someone that she only sees her perspective. The parent conversation is tough
Absolutely agree
right i’m glad he opened her eyes on the spot
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
whats the timestamp?@@brunosalada7790
@@Mimibelle03041hr20
The “full time mom” “part time mom” thing pissed me off only because I would KILL to be home with my kids all day. Being at work is not a ‘break’ I’m still on call for my children 24 hours a day no matter if I’m working or not.
But no matter that, I work 10 hours a day and then come home and continue to do my job as a parent. I am a full time worker and full time mother. I wish she would have not touched that subject.
I think it came off wrong because what she was arguing was the fact that someone was saying that a full stay at home mom was not working as hard. Like it was easier. I think both are hard. Equally hard.
Yeah I understand but Oscar gave his point of view and Trish thought about it and agreed and retracted her statement so in the end she agreed with you :)
the privilege is having the CHOICE to whether work or be a stay-at-home mom. some families NEED both salaries to get by. it's not about what's harder.
It’s not and I think that’s what the rout of the argument was. It came off wrong but both are equally hard. Staying home full time is extremely isolating and still work, working full time and still being a parent is extremely draining. Both equally hard.
It’s Pricilla’s story and she has the right to tell it. I feel like she’s just blinded by the fact it’s Elvis. If it was anyone else she would call him a groomer.
Fuming about this part. I’m done with this episode. I’m questioning everything now.
It’s moments like that where I remember how questionable as a person she is
trisha took the full time “mothering” thing way too literal i’m glad oscar isn’t afraid to push back against trisha bc most of the time he’s right
Period. Sometimes she gets rly laser focused lol
@@ZoeNycole😮😢
Yeah I was just listening to the pod on Apple Podcasts and came here to read the comments about this specific take. I’m not a mom, but I know I would rather my mom have sat at home and been able to nap without having to wake up 10 times throughout the night and still having to wake up at 7 in the morning to go to work.
Love Oscar’s top with the cuffs and shoulders
Please add these to your look you need this on every
Outfit 💕
What about work from home parents? 🤔
As a mother who has to work, it is SO FUCKING HARD BEING A WORKING MOTHER!!!!!!!! Imagine being at a 9 to 5 job and you kid is sick, you have to attempt to leave your job to pick them up, potentially lose out on pay and stress about your JOB and your CHILD simultaneously. Staying at home is a privilege beyond belief that most mothers will never get the chance to experience. Jobs do not care if you are a mother period.
There’s not only one type of stay at home mom. You clearly have no idea what’s it’s like to have no choice but to stay home due to the costs of daycare and grandparents who decide last minute they can’t watch so you can’t go back to work. And then you have to stay on a really tight budget to make everything work, since you can’t even afford to work with daycare. You never get a fucking break throughout the day, and you are constantly spoken down to from people like yourself who probably get a nice calm break everyday at work and a peaceful guaranteed lunch, and clearly a support system that allows you to make it work. But yeah, the once in awhile your kids are sick must be so hard (I take care of my kids when they are sick too👍🏻) Honestly I have so much respect for working mothers, because it’s a balance but I have no respect for people who claim the other side of motherhood is a privilege. Every situation has pros and cons, as I just pointed out about working. Anyways, wish you well, hope you can learn to expand your empathy.
This! Thank you!
@@bluindigo6556 Who says working moms can afford daycare despite working? And who is to say that there are grandparents involved at all in certain situations? For example my parents have passed away and I am only 28. My partners parents aren’t even living in the same state . I would rather be with my sick child all day than have to worry about my job AND my sick child that’s just how I personally feel!. Working mothers literally get no breaks either. Maybe a 30 minute lunch, 1 hour MAX, assuming that you’re not taking calls from the doctor, your school, your kids, etc. Also re-read my comment. There is nowhere where I am “talking down” to stahm’s. Get a grip. I said being with your kids everyday to actually experience their firsts, first steps, first words or just experience them grow up in a way where someone who is gone 8+ hours a day can’t, is a privilege. So if you fail to understand that point then you don’t understand the privilege you have. Never did I say staying home is easy. I said it’s a PRIVLEGE. Take care with peace and love.
All moms are working moms. You get to leave the house, we stay home. We both work.
@@emilyh4287a mom that gets to leave and go to a job does get a break 😂 they get their drive to and from work, they get mandated breaks, they get lunch breaks, they get pee breaks. Sahm is the hardest job in the world period.
Trisha saying she is dressed as the weeknd but wearing a MF Doom mask is sooo funny.
I was looking for this comment
😂😂💀
@@amberpetrosino953same
i was so confused when she said the weekend 😂
No cause I’m screaming
Im SUCH a Trisha stan but this episode was for some reason a little hard to listen the whole way through cause Trisha was close minded on multiple topics talked, and just not willing to hear Oscar out to explain a different perspective… I just wanted more, I wanted to hear the conversations play out and Trisha perhaps get a bigger picture, and expand her opinions
I agree, the episode felt a little self righteous. The energy definetly was off, but I think she was aware of it. She was absolutely showing her stubborn side. I get it, just a funk.
I also didn’t agree with a couple of her points this episode (especially the stay at home mom part), but this is her show. She’s just being herself and that’s why I like listening to her pod.
@@michelemodzeleski502I really appreciate these comments not being critical, just insightful.
trisha getting oscar the doritos cause it has travis kelce on them is so wholesome i love them
And she got him cool ranch specifically
She’s so cuteeee
Love this podcast but saying 18 & 26 year old age gap is not that bad and excusing Elvis dating a 14 year old after everything Trisha has said about age gaps/ minors was wild.
Being able to stay at home is a privilege also, so many women would love to do that but simply can’t afford to.
I’ve been waiting to see this comment, I was literally thinking that 26 and 18 IS NOT ok
She literally says "You guys know how I feel about age gaps.." .
I’m disappointed in the way Trisha spoke about the new Priscilla Presley movie. Elvis dating Priscilla when she was 14 and he was 24 is disgusting point blank period. I know she loves Elvis but you can’t criticize people for grooming and not keep that same energy for your idol regardless of the decade. I hope she at least gives the movie a shot because I think it is an important story to be told.
She's Machiavellian and probably is jealous the Priscilla became famous for marrying Elvis
Trisha, she said getting to be a full time parent is a PRIVILEGE. you saying going to work is a break, that's YOUR privilege of never working a job you hate that pulled you away from your child.
And not actually doing the care taking for a baby
She’s also not considering that not everyone is lucky to have an active partner that does a HUGE part of the parenting.. moses does so much
The parenting take is in such bad taste. Going to work and leaving your kid isn’t a break. So many kids are hurt harmed or even killed in daycare and babysitter settings and there’s truly no way to ever know 100% that they’re safe. So not only do we get to stress over getting enough hours, not being able to leave even when your child is sick because you literally cannot pay your bills if you miss work, but we also have to miss so much of our Childrens lives and worry about them every moment of every day. It isn’t a choice. Working every single day is the only way me and my children are able to have food and a home. It’s such a privilege to be able to be home with your kids or to even be able to get them off the bus.
Thank you, Oscar, for pushing back a little bit about the parenting thing. I think it showed that Trish wasn't really expressing what she means correctly because she agreed but also it helped her express her opinion a bit differently. So glad you're part of the show!
she got butthurt about the mercury retrograde comments so she decided the women were all bad and nothing but bad takes. feminist queen!
"Wow, what a feminist icon The Weeknd is." Trisha saying this after all of the controversy over the Idol this past summer kills me lol I love her
Plus his older music 😂😂
It’s so hilarious 😂 I’ve never hated the weeknd more than when I was watching the idol hahaha
if nothing else you know you can count on Trisha for a couple of fresh takes
this i’m dying for her to watch one video on the idol
Lmao I was literally just thinking the same. Remember what he said about lesbians? 😶
1:22:13 ok but I think you missed the lady’s point. No one’s saying being a stay at home mom isn’t hard, they’re saying having the choice to be a stay-at-home mom is a privilege, which it is. Most people can’t make that choice because they need two incomes and even that isn’t enough. Most women aren’t escaping their homes to jobs that treat them better. They’re leaving one kitchen to go to another, for example. Sure some women choose to work and also have money for a nanny who can raise their kids and that is also privilege. Average moms have to work and it isn’t a privilege.
Yes. I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
THIS THANK YOU
I hope Trisha rethinks that comment because many people are in this situation, working / being a mom , it is VERY possible. MOTHERS CAN DO ANYTHING/EVERYTHING ❤
I also know people who have had to quit their job making good money just because child care is SO expensive. Your reality is not everybody else's there is struggles on both sides. it's also a privilege to get a break and have adult interaction im a full time mom of 3 under 3 and any chance I get to work it genuinely feels like a break so I get what Trisha was saying. its all perspective but its wrong to say one is "harder" than the other. this isn't the struggle olympics were all moms trying are best
not everyone wants to stay home, so it’s not always a “privilege”.
i work full time & work from home with my toddler by myself. but everyday i thank GOD ! that i can do this & i can care for my child. definitely a luxury
Trisha as Edward and Moses as Bella parody of twilight would be ICONIC
Oh my god this is the one
Gotta do the SpiderMonkey scene lol 😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Actually yeah he already has the hair! It can be a bearded Bella haha
stoppp i live
Goodness, she’s out of touch. It certainly IS a privilege to be a SAHM. Most Americans can’t survive off of one income for the household, nor do most Americans work from home and make their own schedule. It was hard to listen to her justifying that part.
yess i was thinking the same thing
I love oscar as a co-host so much. He matches trisha so well.
they have 0 chemistry he is just there
@@mimjjj6103 I do not agree!
hes so funny, when she said " me winning the grammy was that AI? and he was like "did you win a grammy?" TOOK ME OUT. I love them together
Being a stay at home mom is a privilege.(doesn’t mean it’s not hard). You’re able to make ends meet and be with your kids 24/7. Having to leave your child because you won’t have a home unless you work is not a privilege.
Edit: I understand there are circumstances where staying at home is a sacrifice because childcare isn’t possible otherwise. There are always circumstances that are not so common but still important. So to the moms who had to give up their career or a part of them because they had no other options, I hear you and I’m sorry you got put in that situation. I’m sure your kids love to be with you everyday.
Right… don’t we all wish we could have both parents staying at home 24/7 🙄
Eh. I agree with what you're saying but I'm a stay at home mom out of necessity. My husband and Is parents are deceased. We have no family really. No one to babysit. &when I was working we spent more on gas and child care than I even made. While I'm grateful to be at home. We barely make ends meet but can't afford daycare if I did. I wish I could work. I wish I could have a job. I went back to work a few months ago and recently had to quit. I felt so much better while working. Depending on your situation both are a privlage that not everyone has.
Yea my mom was stay at home because she couldn't hold a job or get anyone to watch us kids and were dirt poor so no it's not necessarily a privilege
its the rich white lady complex where they think nothing they have is easier than anyone else
@@Valerie-co8th Agreed. I think it really depends on where you live and your personal circumstances. For example, some people find themselves in situations where, unfortunately, they have little to no support and end up facing unforeseen circumstances (death of loved ones, etc.). If you’re going to go to work only to earn just enough to pay rent + babysitting fees but no other necessities, for example, and then because of your income are no longer eligible for financial support… what then? There are people who will have to stay home so they can pay rent, watch their child AND buy food + other necessities.
we NEED drag queen interviews 😩 Trixie and Katya would be so iconic, and sugar and spice need to come on too 💕
I want ice and spice on to still some tea!!!
Imagine violet
Willam!! I first saw Trisha with him lmao
@@gloomgirlOMG YES!!!!
Very Delta!!! Delta Work
As a mother with a full time job who comes home from a stressful day at work to be a mom the rest of my day and night, thank you Oscar for sticking up for us. Being a full time parent IS hard but so is having a job. I'd 100% rather stay home with my kids all day than work.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@PrincessVomit she came across very ignorant until Oscar corrected her. It IS privilege to be able to stay home because you don't have to rely on that second or in your case, only income.
I don't think she understands actual 9-5 jobs which isn't her fault but she's been on RUclips for over 10 years and what she was saying was just out of touch, of course filming a podcast or your target haul or an ASMR video is fun and like you get a break. Going to work for corporate America, having to be a customer service worker, food service, doing extremely hard labor jobs in extreme conditions or weather is harder than her job so she can't see it like we do.
I hate leaving my 3 kids everyday to go to work. I just had a baby 6 months ago, but my family wouldn't be able to survive on just my husband's income alone. Especially because I make more than him because I have a specialized certification and I work for the government. I missed his first roll, his first clap, his first words, all because I had to be at work.
Trisha saying going to work is a "break" is exactly the woman's point about privilege.
@user-xc1si9dt2u right, like going to work and having superficial adult conversations with my co-workers and having grown men and women yell at me over the phone over things I have no control over isn't a break lol
It would literally be everything if Trisha managed to get Tyler the Creator on the podcast I feel like that would be so hilarious
Or nardwaur
this!!!
I would literally cry
I really don’t see that happening but maybe in another universe 😂
They’re both so clever it would be iconic for sure
I love the way Oscar handles getting his point across, especially when his views differ from Trisha's! He is so well spoken and he knows how to push back without intentionally pushing Trisha's buttons when he sees she's clearly speaking out of anger.
I'm manifesting #gigigorgeous as a guest on this show. She just posted that she loves Trish and wants to be on the podcast 😉
Sorry Trish. You’re wrong about the stay at home parenting thing. It definitely is a privilege to be able to stay at home and raise your kid instead of working the day to day grind of a job.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@@PrincessVomitive noticed most stay at home moms feel this way. i dont have a kid for this reason. i dont get how u moms do it! i have convos w work friends about having a kid and im like “but how. im at work rn, wheres my baby? daycare, at nite? not possible.” 😫
It is a privilege but it just depends on the person what is easier. I wish I could go back to work personally because for me it was easier and being home so much destroys my mental health
I'm a mom who has worked full-time outside of the house, part-time outside of the house, worked from home, and been a strictly stay-at-home mom. All of them have their benefits as well as their downsides. They all have privileges, and none are "harder" than the rest because being a parent is always the #1 full-time job above all the rest. It depends on the parent, child(ren), job, and partner situation. For some people, being a stay-at-home parent is harder, and for some, working outside the home while being a parent is harder.
@@trailertrishyou would get a man first
“First of all it doesn’t rhyme. Terrible rap. Eminem would NEVER.” Yesssss Trisha 😂
I don’t think Trisha knows what privilege is
I don’t even think Trish realizes how funny she is. 😂
She does! And the fact that people can’t tell goes to show how smart she is.
Lmaooooo!
I’m sure after 16 years making a career entertaining online she is very well aware
@@popcornj.chicken7944that was a compliment to her but thank you for the background lmao
That’s her brand lol
I’m a full time worker and a working mom. Yes my child goes to daycare but I also am a hairdresser and end up taking her in the salon with me because my hours don’t coordinate with childcare. Here Trisha rant about how you can’t be a full time mom and work full time isn’t a thing or it’s easier made me sad and drove me crazy as someone who really is a full time mom and full time work because I have to. I have no family support from any sides but I handle and do this shit all on my own. And yes it’s hard.
As a single mum who gave up her h8gh payed job to be a mum and now can't afford child care, I felt seen. Every situation is different and trust me it's a different kind of hard. An isolating, brain numbing, suffocating hard. Not harder than your situation, just different.
And that's why there are different creators on the internet. Nothing wrong with her take, it's her experience. And it made me feel like I can get through my day.
trisha never fails to surprise me with things she doesn't know (nicki has a baby)
I was a stay at home mom for 2 years went back to work for 3 years and now I’m a sahm again. It’s a privilege to be here at home with my baby thanks to my wonderful hard worker husband. If it wasn’t for him I’d be out there working 10+ hr shifts and missing my kids. I’ve experienced both and I can agree being a sahm is extremely mentally draining but I used to experience the worst anxiety at work when my child was sick wondering if I had to leave if he was ok etc.
I love how late Trish starts fangirling over mainstream stuff! Shows how she really lives in her own world ☺️
That makes no sense, if you’re fangirling over something mainstream that means you’re living in the mainstream world not your own world
@@oggaare you okay lmfao, she said she loves how LATE trish starts fangirling... yea that proves she's in her own world lol
@@sativalibra😂😂😂 @ the "are you okay?" No, ppl are not.
It’s such a mom thing lol I love seeing her like this
Sorry Trish. I love you lots and usually agree, but it’s very triggering for me as a working mom to hear you say over and over how much easier being a working mom is. I’ve been both. Work is in no way a break. A lot of time we just feel like guilty parents and guilty employees. But most of the time at my very demanding job, I’m having to do some motherly duties as well. I’m glad Oscar helped you see both perspectives here and got the conversation on a better track.
Honestly I see what you mean but she doesn't really do the caretaking as much Moses so for her it's easy cause she is like the dad
I absolutely love the way Trish addresses the weight conversation and goes “400 could be easy to get to, if I say 300 is easy to get to” thank you for being so real
Trisha going on about how she hates how the Kardashians give men passes and then talking about becoming a superfan of Nicki and doing a Nicki theme is wild as well. How about Nicki's letter supporting her brother being read at his trial? How about Nicki's husband intimidating his past victim to try to get her to recant? How about him not registering as an offender? Nicki is surrounded by men that are probably way worse than Drake and all the Kardashian exes combined, including Kanye.
It takes 2 google searches to debunk that she wrote her brother a letter & that she harassed the victim who failed to provide evidence of the harassment about 3-5 times in court. the same victim who reposted and liked posts bashing nickis child
shit don’t even be true but since you don’t like her u will follow like sheep
@@iluvbibiana no you like her so you follow her like sheep. I have facts. I said Nicki's husband harassed the victim which is still ongoing, only Nicki was dropped because there is insufficient evidence. They did not drop him though because they do have enough to continue. Nicki's letter was read at her brother's sentencing look up the article on pagesix and many other sources. You think the article would still be up if that was incorrect? It is easily proven false if it was a lie and she would have sued page six. Here's a direct quote: "Minaj didn’t appear in court to support her older sibling Monday, but Maraj’s lawyer, David Schwartz, read a 2016 letter that the “Tusa” singer wrote in a bid to get her brother a lighter sentence. In the letter, the rapper referred to Maraj as the “most patient, gentle, genuine, giving selfless man I know.”
The way Oscar lights up when talking about the Hunger Games is so adorable. I loved his story about the bow and arrow that killed me
Lmaoooo “just don’t shoot it” 😂😂😂😂
I hope Trish understands she has financial privileges. That’s not to take away or say that being a stay at home isn’t hard. But she has the privilege of not having to work a 9/5 to survive along with having a wealthy partner to support her. It’s not the same thing when you have to work a 9/5 to make sure your kids can even eat. She can not work for days and still be able to take care of her daughter.
Exactly and that most of us stay home moms do so because we don’t have family and can’t afford 1k+ for daycare. Stay at home moms in her area go to lunch and the gym have nanny’s . Having two rich parents with flexible schedules and money is not attainable to most of us
That doesn't mean she can't have an opinion... I'm pretty sure she knows she has money.... you don't need to tell her that! 😂😂
Some women want to work. Why is that only for men to desire? And having the discussion should be normalized. Not gate kept.
The kids part is the privilege. The rest is different for every situation and some what different, some can't have different and some get to choose. No one is wrong or right.
@@truecrimenwine489look Trisha most moms are exhausted from working and taking care of kids even if they love their jobs
@@adhdgirliesand most moms want to work and not stay home making no money. not everyone has the same vibe babe.
@@adhdgirlies how do you know what trisha does with and for her child? thats such a stupid idiotic statement
Oscar bringing an actual bow and arrows to The Hunger Games movie premiere is a vibe. Those books and movies are worth the dedicated cosplay
Being a stay-home mom is privileged not because its easier but because you able to be with your child while being a working mom it requires you to go out and work to support your family and miss spending time with your kids.
This started playing while I was driving & I’m 12 minutes in & just saw Trish & literally laughed out loud lmaoooooo ily Trish🤣💛
As somebody who has been both a stay-at-home mom, and a working mom, I can guarantee you that working&parenting is 100% harder than being a stay at home.
Example: having to get up and get yourself ready for work at 5AM, and then get your child up, fed, and ready for school / daycare, then driving your kid to school on time, and then yourself to work on time, completing at least an 8-hour work day, 10 - 12 hours if your child is in an after school program or you have family to pick them up, to then leave work, pick up your kid, go home and make dinner and then give your kid a bath, brush their teeth, and put them to bed before you have to do your self care/nighttime routine is EXHAUSTING.
I'll take staying at home all day with my baby, cooking homemade food, and having some free time when i get a sitter, over having to work on top of being a part time mother. Being a SAHM I'm not as exhausted at the end of the day and can make my family dinner, my temper isn't as short because I'm not worn out from doing hard labor all day, I can get chores done like laundry, dishes, pet care.
Still a fan tho, lots of love, just difference of opinion 🤷♀️🫶
But you get a break! We don’t as a sahm. We’re 100% raising kids all day and night. Work sounds like a vacation some days 😂
@@youtubeacc but it's not. Getting a babysitter is a break. Going to work is not a vacation. If it is, maybe it highly depends on what job you have. If it's in the medical field, you're taking care of other people all day (a minimum of 8 hrs, as many as 16 hours). That is 16 whole hours of hoping whoever you trusted to watch your kid is doing a good job. Lifting a minimum of 50lbs per person you're taking care of, with a maximum of 14 people to give personal care to.
Again, I've been a stay-at-home mom, and I've been a working mom.
If any SAHMs saying they need a vacation, she needs help at home. Either
a) they're burnt out and have no one to call on for help & need a babysitter
B) are wanting/needing a more involved partner who actually shares the workload at home, or
c) Literally just don't know how good they have it and idolize "the grass is greener on the other side" mentality.
SAHMs work hard, but if working was a Vacation, frankly no one would be staying at home 🤷♀️
Lmao ily Trish. Yeah definitely on the hater train this ep 😂 but Oscar definitely knows how to convince and deflect, also giving you a different perspective. You all make a great team 💗🪩
Hearing trisha consider a nanny is SO ironic
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I get trishes view about how being a stay at home mom is also hard, but I think she also fails to realize the privilege she has to be a stay at home mom and not having to worry about providing for your family like many working moms have to do, especially when you’re a single mom :(
Edit: Also, it rubbed me the wrong way when she said that those who work a full time job and are a mom aren’t considered “full time moms” or “full time workers, and part time moms”. Just because some people don’t have the choice to be a sahm and had to work to financially provide for their families doesn’t make you any less of a mom. I feel like Trish of all people should know this since her mom worked numerous jobs growing up to provide her the best life possible.
She is doing work still. Social media
This! I feel privileged to even be able to have family watch my child. I couldn’t imagine taking them to a daycare where you don’t know if they are safe. And it’s all you can afford. Staying with your kids all day to me is a privilege not a lot of people can afford.
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@@laurenlaw5861 as a single mum who can't afford child care and has given up her career to be a mum, trust me, neither situation is more privileged than the other. Women are allowed to want carreers too.
Doesn't make us ungrateful. Just able to see privilege and struggle in both boats. To think one position is better than the other is just patriarchal in the worst way.
I’m manifesting Gigi as a guest. Spill that tea and talk about times in the day.
Yesss!!!
Gigi talked about her in her recent youtube video…. she said this is one of the Pods she watches and how she loves Trish
Yasssss. oh how I miss their videos together 🥹 when they went to Vegas for the Britney concert. What a time that was
I love the way Trish lives in contradictions. You'd think she would understand why people had strong Idol critique due to female exploitation and she should hate that.
It's pretty bpd though, distorted thinking around what's sexually appropriate. She's talked about it regarding her inappropriate relationships with older men as a minor and how she defended those connections. It takes a lot to program yourself to think differently about those past situations, doesn't mean you're going to actively address present moment situations with the same wisdom. Not sure that I have BPD it's been in question, if I do it's mild but I can relate in this department. My mind just runs with something that goes against my morals, could take me minutes before I regret something or years. Almost like "who the fuck just took over my body to take that energy on a walk" it can take someone else pointing things out to you that it's not healthy/normal. So I'm surprised Moses hasn't pointed out to her what's problematic there since he had told her to be careful about talking about Elon.
i think i do this too tho. i hate porn but love Sex and the City. i hate R Kelly and Johnny Depp but i love Chris Brown. it makes zero sense. 😂
She is fake AF. That's no surprise
Also Elvis! Famous men can be and are pedophiles. And a pedophile in the 1950s is still a pedophile. I think she slightly came around at the end of her Priscilla rant 😂 Come on, Trish! Be a girls’ girl 💖
And she called the weeknd a feminist icon lol
She needs to reel the negative talk back just a bit ..before it becomes more but still loving it so far ..she just needs to be cautious ❤❤❤
This podcast has surpassed my wildest dreams. The views? Moses w the set? Oscar? I’m so happy for you Trisha ❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's 100% privilege to be a stay at home Mom. I've done both work and stay home. You think I want to leave my child during the day and have to PAY someone else to watch them then come home and be a full time Mom? Work a stressful full day then come home feed, bathe, teach, spend time with, and devote all my attention to my child in a smaller time span than you do. Then barely get enough sleep to do it all over again. It's 100% harder. I don't go to work and shut off my "Mom" side. I'm still there stressed, worrying about my child, missing my child, etc. If anything it is harder because you're away from them while still being a Mom. I find what you're saying ignorant Trisha. You're so passionate about it but you've never lived that way with Malibu. You'll never know how hard it is. It's 100% privilege.
She is like the stereotypical father who comes home and plays with the baby/kid and does their own thing after work. She wouldn't know how most Moms think and feel
Trish should give the Ive Had It gals another chance, she’s taking their takes way too personally. They’re on the same team lol
Agree!
Weird that Trisha is hating on the girls from I’ve had it podcast for being “haters” when she was a hater this WHOLE PODCAST
i think trisha had a bad take on the parenting thing
I love you Trish but the parenting convo did trigger me a tad bit. I grew up in a 2 parent household where both of my parents had to work to feed us & keep us happy and healthy, and I’ve seen my parents bust their ass for years just so we have a home to live in. My family recently did family therapy and in that my mother expressed how regretful and how bad of a mother she feels like for not being able to be around. The mental illness my mother has from having to raise 4 kids with a full time job and a husband with one as well. My mom loved her job, but worried all day about us and grew resentment towards her job because it took time away from us. Work was not a break for either of my parents, it was work to raise a healthy family. To be able to stay home with your children and can depend on one income IS very privileged. Now I’m not saying one is harder than the other, however in my personal experience & have had friends with stay at home moms, it really doesn’t make you any better or less of a parent to choose either one. I think this convo could’ve been more open & progressive if we weren’t picking what’s easier and what’s harder.
How is it not privilege to be a stay at home mother? It 100% is
not if you want to work
Childcare is too expensive, wages are low, causes people to stay at home the first years even if they don’t want to. I know I’ll probably have to and I defo don’t want to!
It's not always. It can be a really hard choice that some mothers make to put themselves in a bad financial situation in order to be with their baby for the first year or more of their life. Also, I've seen situations where a single mother it ends up being more expensive for them to try to work minimum wage and pay for child support if they don't have someone willing to watch the child for free. So they have to watch the child 24/7 while attempting to make money from home or taking on debt.
Depends. Honestly it's just hard to learn how to be a parent especially for those who have a harder time doing it naturally (Trisha said she had issues with this). Also not being able to step away from ur child and go out to see friends/coworkers can feel isolating for some.
Let's try not to judge other people's parenting choices. The women should want to stay home is 1000% the built in patriarchal bias we all still have. Some want to work and can't, some have to work but want to be at home, some do half and half, some wait til kids are at school to go back.
The privilege is having kids at all. The rest is just whatever is best for you and your family. And most of it is hard and a big adjustment.
If you have kids you are allowed to have any opinion and feel how you feel as a parent.
Coming from a single mum who can't afford daycare, so I'm at home with a 2yr old (happily) but I couldn't afford full time day care.
Moses was real quiet this episode 😂😂
I’m a full time mother and full time worker. I work as a nanny with my daughter with me. Haha there are exceptions:p love y’all and the podcast ❤ been a fishie for YEARS! 🎉
I take my baby to work everyday too! So glad to hear someone else does too as its not as common, Its hard for every parent🤍
I think it’s good to remember that Trish probably doesn’t feel like she’s a full time mother. A lot of her opinions are based on how she feels about herself - she’s mentioned that she thinks Moses does WAY more than her. I think the stay-at-home opinion is based on that
Everyone needs a friend like Oscar that will lie and tell you that you sing like The Weekend!
Yes!!! The blind support is the best. I also LOVE how he confidently pushes back when trisha gets stuck in a hate spiral
trisha was def a hater this episode missed the mark on the parenting thing and the i’ve had it pod.
Seeing Trish get heated while dressed as The Weeknd is so funny lmao
Trisha's takes on the Kardashians and Tristan is SPOT ON like I couldn't even verbalize how or why I was so annoyed with that episode but yesss girl I agree 100000%
just woke up from a depression nap feeling sad af but this pod always makes me feel better 🩷
wishing better days ahead for u babes
Those depression naps will keep you down, try getting some fresh air and take in the sunlight!
Not Trisha talking about podcast people having a bad take and then having a bad take right after. Love that Oscar tried to clear everything to help her out
Hey Trish! Don’t know if you’re talking about these but the sticky traps aren’t humane, they’re actually worse in the sense that the animal will just starve to death. You can definitely buy live traps if you look up catch and release traps for small animals! :) again, I don’t know if you’re talking about those but you mentioned sticky and you won’t be able to pull them off without harming them and they will just suffer if they get stuck. Stuck some peanut butter or something in the live trap and take them to a park or woods or something once you catch them! Love you! Just wanted to give you a heads up
THANK YOU OSCAR FOR INCLUDING TIME STAMPS!!!! Amazing work Oscar!
I work 42 hours a week and my two kids go to work with me and then I go home and still take care of the kids while managing our home. You can work full time and be a full time mom.
Y'all should just door dash the Dunkin Ice Spice drink during one of your podcasts and give us a review lol
Taylor Swift really brings out the misogyny in people. Also, the Elvis defense while condemning other people for dating young girls in the same episode is wild. Usually love the pod but stick to your beliefs, whether you adore someone or not.
Other pods aren't cutting it anymore. This is it for me!!! 😂
When Trish said "it took all my might not to eat em last night " to the Doritos I lost it 😂😂😂😂
girl.. not the lightskin trish 💀💀💀 i’m dying already within 2 seconds of WATCHING PLZ.
Trish, really disagree with your parenting comment. Being a mother is hard, and to discredit mothers who work full time as no being "full time" mothers was a terrible take, in my opinion. Being a full time stay at home mom is super difficult, but it is a privilege. Some people grow up not wanting to work, but they have to work. Work is not a "break" for most people, work can be extremely challenging and stressful. Most mother's would choose to stay at home with their kids and spend more time with them. So although I agree with you that being a full time mother is extremely hard, I do not agree with you with thinking that being a stay at home mom is not a privilege.
When Trish commits, she commits. Loving this
Girl. Its not a "break"...some of us have no other choice. We would rather be at home with our kids. And it is just as hard. Getting up early, ealing with grown ass adults for 8 hours & coming home to take care of kids.. its hard. Of course you sitting there talking is fun so you see it as a break lol. Dont speak for the moms that work and have to come home to the kids.
The „I’ve Had It” podcast is literally so good!!!! Its satire !❤️❤️❤️They’re actually really funny 😄😄
I love you trishaa. But as a swiftie and a women's advocate, you were infuriating in this episode 😂 thank God for oscar 😂
Nikki Reed actually wrote 13 about herself and played Evan Rachel Wood's friend! Also she's married to Ian Somerhalder (Trish, you would know him from Lost!)
it amazes me how oscar can keep up with trishas energy and topics!
not trish saying shes a barb and being shocked she has a kid 😂😂😂
Wait til she finds out Nicki's husband is a predator 😮. 😬
@@phenomenalwoman6111literally what I was thinking the whole time. 😂
@@phenomenalwoman6111 What does her husband have to do with anything
trish , as a 19 yo single mom of twin babies i want nothing more than to stay home with them 24/7 and give them all my love but i need to get a job by end of november and find daycare 😕 if i could change the script and stay home with them n get money i so would it’s so hard and i don’t even want to think about it it makes me cry i want nothing more in the world then to be able to care for my babies forever
Drake‘s lyrics about Billie are especially creepy because I found it very weird that when she was 14/15 she would mention in interviews that Drake is her “friend” and they text
That was Millie Bobby brown! Billie is Billie Eilish, so the creepiness is double lol
By her own definition , she is not a full time mother.
trish learning who the weeknd is is such an era i never thought i would be lucky enough to witness 🎉
1:24:07 Trisha, honey. What the "I had It" aunties are trying to say is that many of us would love to just be mothering all day long. But we don't have a Choice, we must work . Think of your own momma. She was a single parent working long hours for her babies❤- I bet she would have prefered to be with you, but she just could not afford It.😢
I’m a single 20 year old with a 4 year old daughter and have to work 40 hrs at a 9-5 fast food job to be able to pay the bills and put food on the table. And let me tell you.. I’d 1000000% rather be able to at least work from home or be a stay at home mom. It is absolutely way harder to have a 9-5 job and be a parent. Especially a single parent. The way That Trisha has the luxury and privilege to be able to stay at home and could comfortably retire from social media at any time and then to say how staying at home is way harder is just very privileged and so ignorant.
@@PrincessVomit 😭😭😭 💓💎
immediately makes my day whenever trisha posts
Trish saying she won’t cosplay a glam Hunger Games outfit with a faux beard drawn on. I love
Lmfaoooo Trisha calling the hunger games Capitol the fat counsel 😂😂😂😂😂
I haven't been watching very long so I don't know much about Oscar although I have known about Trisha for a decade. Just wanted to say I appreciate Oscar not being like many gay stans can be (all stans can be toxic, that isn't what this is about) but I do feel like typically the gay stans are the ones to quickly hate the most on a woman as well. So when Trisha asked what kind of women you don't like I was like "oh here we go" expecting to hear a list of types of women he doesn't like .... and he literally just said CRIMINALS?! Like the only women you aren't supporting are the toxic ones? I LOVE THAT! That is so important as we all try and move forward out of our toxic cycles and into a more positive future for EVERYONE! Oscar, You seem like a kind soul and I love the rep outfit (my favorite album, and that outfit is from my favorite music video.... not just of taylor's - but ALL time!) so you are winning my heart love
You always make me smile Trisha, I'm loving this podcast!!!
I love trish but i don’t think she gets to speak on the non-privileged parenting.
"what girl don't you like?"
"ummmm a criminal"
😂 Oscar is so funny
I love Oscar 😭😭 and their dynamic is so wholesome
@@Awetree yesss i’m so happy with their dynamic!! so entertaining too