The Fray - How to Save a Life (Official Video)
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- Опубликовано: 22 ноя 2009
- The Fray's official music video for "How To Save a Life" directed by Mark Pellington
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Lyrics:
Step one, you say, We need to talk.
He walks, you say, Sit down. It's just a talk.
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
#TheFray #HowToSaveALife #PopRock 
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The more you grow up the more you understand the lyrics of sad songs.
I agree
Aggred
Facts
It makes you let the little annoying things your family and friends do go. because life is so short shitty and precious lol
most definitely, How to save a life came out when I was 16 and I still enjoy the song a lot.
My son killed himself almost 7 months ago. He battled depression and anxiety for over half his life. He was in counseling with both a psychiatrist and psychologist. He turned 20 the day before.
Please know that there are sadly some things that you cannot change.
Take care and talk to others.
Suicide is a horrible way to lose someone. It is so hard not to second guess everything. He clearly had friends that love him as you do.
The memories and love will be with you always. I hope you find comfort in that fact.
I’m going to listen to the song and release some sorrow before I have a friend come over.
Read all the words in the video. And follow them.
Im so sorry to hear that😔
Colleen,
I'm so incredibly sorry for your unimaginable loss. I think we can all give and use a bit of love from each other, and if you feel comfortable talking about it with me over email or something, please don't hesitate to reach out.
My email is the first letter of my first name, and then my full last name followed by @gmail.com
Remember that he will always live on in your ❤️.
Im losing myself, leaving alone and feel so alone. The battles within myself of surviving every day, the cries of the night and the hope of an helping hands. In the end I just feel numb after the struggles that I encounter. The problem is people tend to listen only and let you alone face it. Lucky for me my feet is standing still what I worry is how long I last.
Big oof
@@emersonranes7715 me too ❤ Every day is a battle and I am sick of living with it. It's not really about others, though they don't get it, it's more around not being able to tolerate it anymore. I am right on the edge right now.
2024 anyone?
Yeah 💀
Yup lol
Praise the Lord 2024 🙏.
Yeah we’re here
My daughter's Angelversary is this Sunday March 24th.
Days aren't just a number.
Stop asking "who's listening" or "still listening", we never stopped listening
thx
@@grumpyoldmen2502please wake me up in the dream call my mom Rebecca juco and ALJON juco my angel Nicole juco I love you too my friend Nicole juco
agree
who's still listening
I know: At the very moment I'm writing these sentences, there are already 82,012 comments to this video. I might be too late, because no one ever will read this. But I have to do this. For my brother.
13 years ago, I was 17, my oldest brother just got 30. (Disclaimer: I was always the little brother, of course. Always too young to hang out with the friends of my older "cooler" brothers.)
But when I got 16/17 he accepted me as a real man. Brother. "semi-mature"-guy.
From 2005 to 2007 we did a lot of things together. He invited me to his home. When he did this the first time, it was one of the proudest moments of my life. Hanging out with the real dudes. Wow. You can't imagine how proud I felt. :)
In 2007 my brother had to go the doctor. He had breathing problems. Long story short:
He was diagnosed with lung cancer. Incurable. His lung cancer was so "rare", even doctors from the US (Hopkins Medicine School? I'm not really sure) wanted to analyze his illness. (I swear: This is no bragging. This is just the truth and extremely sad.)
He knew that he will die. We all knew. In the last months he made the best out of it. We both did. We played a lot of guitar and sang together. And so the circle is complete. :)
The last song we played together was this one here. We both sang. And I played the guitar.
I think we did it roundabout 25 times. We stopped because we had to smoke.
Yeah, he had lung cancer. He shouldn't smoke of course.
But in his last days he didn't care.
Nevertheless, after the last repetition of the song and when we smoked the last cigarrette: I cried as fuck. He didn't. He was so strong and happy that we shared these last "drunken moments" together.
We made the best of these last days. And now: After 13 years I can finally write about it.
I love you, my brother. And I will never forget you. I promise.
Jani, mach's gut. Ich liebe dich.
Please folks, I don't need a like/thumbsup/whatever.
But please dot it for my brother. So that maybe some other people will read this and give a little smile to my brother in heaven.
Love you!
And: Thank you, The Fray!
(Sorry: I'm not a native speaker. Here are definitely a lot of grammar/vocabulary fails in the text.)
Your brother seems like he was quite a special and unique person and I’m glad you was finally able to share your story with everybody. Keep fighting to honor your brother and continue his legacy because you’re going to do great things in your life (: my condolences to your brother and I hope he rests peacefully
I read to the end for your brother. And for you.
Wow dini Gschicht hed mich echt berührt😪 Ich hoffe, dass es dir guet gaht.
Hey, ich möchte dir nur kurz meine Mitgefühl und ein Lächeln an dich und deinen Bruder senden. Machs gut.
I'm crying
It's really depressing to see how many sad people there are around the world :( I hope everyone finds his happiness soon
Thank you. I've been thinking another killing myself just to stop the pain. It hurts too much to live. My mum won't take my to any psychiatrist or therapist so it seems like the only option 😖
@@b.t-bootsncats964 no it's not an option, don't you ever think like this again! Each one of use has the gift of being alive don't waste it. Get better; listen to music, stay healthy and find your purpose, don't give up on yourself we need more people to turn this world around to the better side, so please don't let us fight this fight without you.
There's almost 8 billion
thank you i hope we do too
Dojocho listen brotha.... Life is fucking rough isn’t it? Sending you love, motivation, and strength from Texas, USA. Get yourself right. Deal with the pain, go cry, punch a wall, break a mirror. You’ll be alright my brother. We’re all in this bs life together.
I listened to this song on repeat in 2019, falling apart after losing my husband to an addiction. We were both addicted but I chose to get sober, though I begged him to stop he didn't. We soon grew apart, I felt every pain. There was no changing him there was only fighting. Soon the fighting became a fight to save my life. So many times I wanted to relapse just to be closer to him. I watched us turn into people I didn't recognize, he went missing and only his skeletal remains were found. Five years later, I'm still sober. I come back here to read the comments and hope to read stories with happy endings. Keep fighting, life is worth the living. God bless. 🛐🙏🏽💟
Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you‘re doing ok. I hope you felt some relief. I also wish, I can walk your path. We carry their history on our shoulders with pride, we got this!
I’m so sorry for your loss, words can’t describe how much I mean that. I lost my wife to addiction just a little over a year ago. We were both addicts. We both got clean and we both relapsed. Unfortunately she didn’t make it. I’ve been sober since. I hate that, that had to be the lesson for us both. I hope it gets more bearable at some point. I wish you well.
god what a story... I hope you're still doing well, i'm proud of you
Hardest fight of my life. I'm so sorry you lost your husband, but I'm thrilled to know you won the battle.
Bless you
I'm not sure whats worse...the fact that the world feels empty without you....or the fact that I know I will never accept that you're no longer in this world.
I’m right there with you! God bless and stay strong
2004
Keep breathing my friend, you are needed, ❤
😢
I can relate so honestly and emotionally to this statement ❤
I remember when my close friend killed himself. It was the toughest time in my life. He was only 12 at the time and his dad really abused him, and some days he would go without food. I remember getting told about it and feeling devastated, but I felt bad about myself, I couldn’t stop thinking about what I could have done to help him, and it has for the last few years. I’m currently 14 and there is not a day that doesn’t go by that I don’t think about him. I’ll always remember his smile, and the time we got caught drinking beers in my garage. I loved you Tom like brother.
I remember reading his note that he left out on the table before he left. All it said was “it’s not your fault. I just wasn’t meant to be here. Just don’t get beat up over me. You’re all better off without me.” Reading that cracked my heart. I wanted to tell him how much he meant to me, and how he was the brightest thing in my life. This was always his favourite song and he always listened to it in the morning on the way to school. Tom, I just want to say that wherever you are, I hope you fit in there, and get the love you truly deserved.
Wow, that hit deep.
May your friend rest peacefully
Reading this comment, reminded me of most of friends experiencing this on their own and couldn't tell anyone about it, because they were trapped and had no where to escape the worst. I offered many suggestions to them and they had an idea of trying to hold themselves out and need to find a way out as quick as possible. I wish, I could help that person with his father also abusing them, because of not being better than other people in his class and must get the highest grades in the school. It hurts to not do anything for this person, so all I can do is keep in contact and pray that they'll be ok. It's so saddening to hear such stories on young people having to experience such a traumatic parts of their life, which having to mentally and physically hurt themselves to the core of no return. Just remember that your friend will always be in your heart and you couldn't read his thoughts, even if you wanted too, but stay strong for him, no matter.
Aww I’m so sorry
I’m genuinely crying. Going through that must’ve been tough. I can only imagine the pain u have gone through
The older we got the more we realized how deep the meaning of this song was.
Fr it's crazy it's been 10 yours😭😭😭
Fax tho
@@thedarkhamster9691 😭😭😭😭 back the you could walk anywhere with no worrys now you got to worry about gitting killed or just jumped sad world i want that all back
@Temptation Gaming hi son
I use to listen before I knew the meaning it really helped me I was suicidal
Its April 2024, let's see how many legends are listening to this incredible song😉
😂
2004
May 2024😊
May14 and still
Oh look a bought account
I lost a friend yesterday. Didn't see it coming. I wish I was there when he needed me. He always was for me.
Worst part is that you don't get to know when those who are close to you are at their lowest points in life. Usually, they'll show as if they're happy, and then you become aware this wasn't the case. Quite sad!😟
2004
I hope you’re doing well and in a better place brother
Damn, sorry for you friend, you and the ones around that were his beloved ones
"Trading Yesterday" or "Arrows to Athens" or just "David Hodges". Their/His songs heal, I promise.
Take care, my friend!🤍
"the second you start blaming yourself for people's deaths, there's no coming back"
That is the episode I came from 🥺
Yess we have some scrubs fans
God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best!
I'm still there ... and i don't think I can save myself anymore ...
Yeah ...your right
I'm only 17 and this January I lost my dad from a drug overdose. I never knew he was doing drugs this was so sudden but he was the kindest dad ever, I guess he just had some problems, I love you dad I'll stay strong for you.
EDIT: It's been three years since I posted this and the support and attention on this comment has been unreal everyone. I'm in a lot better of a place now than where I was back then, time is definitely one the best medicines. It'll always hurt to think about, but having good people in your life really is key. Keep going and don't give up, even if it seems that all hope is lost because things will eventually get better, which everyone's immense positivity help me realize. I can't thank anyone who left a kind comment enough for the sincere words, you guys have no idea what that meant to me I never expected this much attention. Thank you all so much and continue to stay strong!
skittle63099ify i wish u the best of luck in the Future!! Stay strong homie! !
Playstation Gaming Holy shit you're actually the worst
Playstation Gaming people like you genuinely need help
skittle63099ify u stay strong and be ur self he will always be by your side so just remember
Playstation Gaming 😡😡😡😡 I don't normally get angry but what you just said is the most cruel thing possible. Who the hell do you think you are?! Don't even try to argue. She lost her dad! And you make a joke of it. And wish terror among her family. YOU BELONG IN AN INSTITUTION. Somebody help me out here!!!
My father passed away two months ago, and today is the first time I cried. Something about this song just hit me
I'm sorry for your loss 😢 My dad passed in 2009 when I was 13 and it still hurts so bad...
2004
I once lost someone I was sure I couldn’t live without.
If you’re reading this please tell her,him,them that you love them . One day you will have to live without them or you will get lucky and pass away before them and anyway it goes you lose. Love them ,hold them , cherish every waking moment you have with them as long as you can . Good luck out there …
Teacher
We are all not in the same boat..we are in the same storm. Some have yachts, some have canoes, and some are drowning..be kind and help when you can.
So many languages in the world and you chose to speak facts
@@yahlidan9710 No they're speaking english
@@aoibhh please tell me you are joking
Amen...
Amen
I'm a psychologist who works mainly with teenagers with severe behavioural, emotional, and addiction issues. The lines about 'staring right on through' and 'pray to god he hears you' always hit hardest for me. Kids with a life of trauma; their whole perception of reality is warped. Whatever you say, they hear it differently. Whatever you point out, they'll have an excuse. The more you push, the harder they lash out. Some will become violent, some will act dumb and distract, some will cry, some just stare numbly at you and those are the hardest because they are the ones who learned nothing they do has power and they've given up. It can take years to get to the point that they trust you enough to even hear the words you say and believe them. I had one former client bring me a shotgun shell and tell me it was the one they were going to use to kill themselves after a really bad day. I didn't know it, but the thing that stopped them was me asking them to give themselves 24 hours before making any decisions. I keep that shell on my desk as a reminder that sometimes I can make a difference because too often I can't.
Thank you for helping them..helping them understand what they are feeling..
Youve just made me realise how fucked up i am im 17 with numerous addictions i cant take advice bc i see it as threatening i had a gd childhood but it was very traumatising at the same time and its completely fucked me up now
@@itzdepict633 hey friend. I'm glad my perspective can help. I get what you mean when you say advice can be threatening, and sometimes you will have to trust yourself over others. But if you could take some advice from an internet stranger haha, its my experience people almost always have good jntentions with advice, they just don't always know how to give it well. But trust when the people in your life say they love you, they do. They won't always jave the answers, even when they think they do. They won't always know how to show they love you, but they want to. So talk to them, say what you need, and when they mess up, forgive. I hope you have a great life where you're in the driver's seat, not addiction!
Kids these days
I grew up one of those kids blesses I found football but that only made it easier to hide my emotional trauma I eventually had a daughter I doted on but still had one foot in them streets well I went on to get custody of my daughter and son@8 and 6 my son is amazing but my daughter is exactly how u describe u made me cry and I thank u cause I needed it…. 🙏🏾 thank you
Lyrics:
Step one, you say we need to talk
He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left, and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Let him know that you know best
'Cause after all, you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And I pray to God he hears you
And where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Who’s here in April 2024
I am 👋🏼 😂
Me😢😢😢😢😢
MEEEE
Me😂
🎉
So... who else just randomly decided to start listening to old songs again?
Dafuq?
you're freaking me out XD
I started with we are young
Better than what I'm hearing now.
@Littleton Begone millennial. This is old in the context of older gen z music.
my wife died 2 months ago, after a hard year with endless hospital visits, chemo therapys, operations, everything. she was only 30 years old. I love her so much and miss her every day. still dont know how to handle it, when the woman you love more than anything else die in your arms.
everyone please stay safe and healthy.
I’m sorry to hear that
I'm so sorry sweet pea...
"Runes of comfort for the bereaved"
by Ralph Blum
"I am the life and the light and the way-
The Earth is my garden.
Each of the souls I plant as seeds germinate and flower in its own season, and in each I am fulfilled.
There is no cause for grief when a bloom fades but only rejoicing for the beauty it held and praise that my will is done and my plan served.
I am one with all creatures and none is ever lost, only restored unto me having never left my side at all.
For what is it mortal cannot be separated from its source.
I am with you all,
And each of you is a channel for my light.
Feel My Love enfold you now and forever more."
Thank you guys, im really grateful for your words 🙏
@@par0x234 np
Stay strong, man
Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide or self harm, we all come back to this song and we will spread the message.
Every time I hear this song, it reminds me of when I was younger & my mom would always sing it word for word.
I never really understood why it meant so much to her, but at the time… her best friend & coworker (Rhonda) she drove to work with EVERY SINGLE DAY got diagnosed with like a severe disease or cancer & was told she only has a few months to live. So my mom & her went on a cruise & they traveled a bit together before her untimely passing. It’s bittersweet cause now as a 27 year old I understand it more. I lost my best friend when I was 21 & my grandma when I was 25. I’ve lost over 7 friends unfortunately & this song just reminds me of all of them. It probably has nothing to do with anything I’m talking about or relates at all. But it cool how music is like a lil Time Machine & I can genuinely go back for a brief moment to remember when times were simpler. It’s funny how it somehow correlates to now every time.
Not to mention I just lost my uncle at the start of the year due to lung issues.
I guess I made these comments to maybe give someone the same feeling I get when I hear this song. It’s something I’ll always cherish & music like this is what made me always want to be a musician. I love how everybody has different connections to the same sojg
2004
Praying for my brother right now hoping he will survive cancer 😞
Praying with you🙏
He'll get better the soonest 🤗
Hope everything goes good
Oh bless you I hope and pray that he can fight through it 😔🙏
Hope it all goes well ❤
RIP Adobe Flash Player. Everyone's childhood best friend.
Sad
Sad😔
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Reading these comments got me in tears. Peace and love to you all
Bless you ❤
Who's here in 2024, trying to get back to the good old 2010s 😢
“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” -Audrey Hepburn
amen sa pungkol
@@trastokkerko1929 pisti
@@kjracz15 bogo ka kaon igit
Unless you’re Jim Abott.
This is a great quote
I lost my brother last February this year. He was just 15. I woke up and went home to his lifeless body. He took his own life. I can still remember how I fell down to my knees as soon as I heard that it was all real, screaming for help trying to digest the fact that he's gone, forever. Suddenly, it was all blurry. It's the pain in your heart that you can literally feel physically. I can cry for his name, but I can't utter any words no more. I can't describe how devastating that situation was. The only thing I know is that my tears keep on streaming down my face nonstop but I didn't care, I just want him to wake up. To tell me that he's fine. That he will stay by my side. That he won't leave us for that reason. It's unbearable. It made breathing a very tough thing to do.
To anybody who's reading this, just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You're important. You are loved. And your presence on this earth makes a difference whether you see it or not.
I feel ur pain , lost my bro 4 years ago . All the memories , the mistakes , the good times the bad times , he was my best friend and real life brother.
@@moonspeech82 🙏
It will get better❤️
@Verónica López Gómez go over to their house if you can, try and comfort them and inform a guardian
U don’t know how much u saved me
2028 anyone???
Me😄👋
@@ShinebrightTodaysame
@@Just_Monikazz 😁😉🤝
Who is listening to this masterpiece 2024? Amazing!
To my mom, who I lost to cancer in 2016. I know I was 26 so an adult, but inside I was still very much a child. And to my grandmother, who died 2 weeks after her. I miss you both. It's a deep wound that will never totally heal. We just learn to live with it.
TheNobsnob amen
TheNobsnob my dad died Nov 18th 2012 :(
TheNobsnob amen
Black Angel amen
Sorry For your lost
Teachers: “get in groups of 3”
The 4th homie:
lmao imma make this a meme
Literally just saw this on insta
I CHONKED
I am the 4th homie everytime 😂😭
This hits a little to close to home
I was a suicidal person before. I finally found hope, peace, and JOY in JESUS CHRIST! Depression sometimes still kicks in, but JESUS Gives me hope, not only in this LIFE, but also in the next life. 💗💗
I'm glad you found God
I’m the same, but its not always easy
2004
Literally any greys anatomy episode ever:
haha
2004
I'm not depressed. I just liked this song for years.
Right brother
Wish I could relate
@@dizzee6089 Yo, it aint that easy... People are different and it's hard for some people to even say anything at times... that comment is really insensitive regardless joking or not. Even with the new gen being "soft" this isn't a topic to joke about. Sorry if I triggered anything, didn't mean too. Just explaining
@@100PercentBudder I was initially trying to troll but... that really opened my eye tbh. I see the error or my ways and I'll delete the comment. Sorry
@@dizzee6089 That's really big of you. I don't speak for everyone in the comment section, but I did feel people would have gotten hurt reading that. Thank you for deleting that comment! Most people would have just kept it to be "funny". I'm glad that you understand.
If you're reading this, you're alive and I'm happy that you are
if your reading this, you are alive. you are an amazing unique person and i’m proud of you.
God bless you.
sometimes, you need that and it doesnt have to be because you dont want too live anymore you just need some one there fore you. even a complet stranger.
Thanks!
phong hoa awn thank you 🥺
Shut up
John Hayden why do people like you think you can shut out the positive 😐. I wish you could understand why people are like this 😕.
Suicide only passes your pain to others. stay strong 💪 you got this
2024 anyone march❤?
☝🏼
I have to babys that are March 18th my son and March 29th my Daughter... Love them very much ..xoxo❤❤❤
Yes 3/31/24
No one cares that you're watching in 2024. It's a popular song
Me, 28 ❤
almost 10 years ago, when i was still a teenager in highschool, being bullied by classmates was part of a usual day so i would make myself small and silent. All of this made a depressive teenager and it was getting darker as it went. I was losing interest in going to school. One day out of no where two people came and sat next to me (where i would always go during breaks) they sat next to me and lightly tried to engage a conversation, not wanting to engage i would continue reading. so they sat next to me and continued talking together. everyday they came and sat at the same spot, next to me, and they would talk together. After some time i slowly started talking to them, and in no time i had made new friends and my days were starting to become brighter. By doing this simple action they might have actually saved a life! one of the two became a very good friend. I am glad she was there for me, and to this day she does not know how her actions affected me in a positive way.
Great to read 😀💛
That hit me, I was bullied alot and broke down alot at home, I'm 22 now but awhile ago I overdosed because of how heavy the weight of the world got, but my mum was there for me and still is, if it wasn't for her ringing an ambulance wouldn't be here, something inside of me wanted to just sit there and let it happen but there was no way I could leave my family with that pain, and i may not know you but it'd great you're still here on this earth, keep your chin up
Wow bro.
I'm really shocked.
U are so strong my man
Proud of you
god bless you
awww, God bless u
When I was little, I thought he was saying “sit down, we need a dog. He walks, sit down it’s just a dog” and I was just vibing to it
OMG LMMMFAOOOO
LOOOOOL I WAS SOBBING UNTIL I SAW THIS
nice
Did you got a dog?
Omg what a twist😂😂😂
💜2024 And this gem continues to shine 💖💎🔥
Why is this the 6th time ive seen you comment on a video this week (no hate)
Made me tear up.
I CANT ESCAPE YOU STOP
Old but the best❤❤❤❤
Seattle rocks❤❤❤❤
stop commenting on good music for likes :/
some call it depression, I call it seeing the truth, something I can't ignore
Why does this song hit differently 10 years later
because burnley are gettin the drop you dosser
its just something called nostalgia
10 years letter i know this song, I remember.........
Minax this song is great in general
Because today has much worse music.
The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory
Wow.. your comment really touched me
This hit hard ❤️
Bro this comment is so powerful !!!
Deep..
🥺🌹✨️
Guess that's why they call it a window pain / pane
Who always come back to this song when they’re depressed
Life is hard. But you cannot let hardships hurt you or others. Things get better, way better, the smell of nice rain, the feeling of hope, kindness to others, no matter how hard it gets you will make it trust me your way stronger then what your going through trust me, have a good one and stay on top❤️
this song is basically instructions on how to talk to a depressed person, basically how to save a life.
I thought it was about addiction. Pretty sure it is. Trying to save his friend from the grips of addiction
Omg you are right! They should have made it the song name or something haha
'Basically' doesn't cover it.
@@ashleewhittlesey7874 The lead singer was part of a mentoring program or something of the sort for troubled youth. Apparently, he connected in particular with a young guy (he was 23, I think) who was also a musician and was struggling with depression. He ended up commiting suicide, and so the vocalist wrote this song with him in mind and you can tell he regretted not being able to figure out what kind of support that guy needed.
@@Olderaccount17 ah geez man...that hurts my soul. I'm 34 and have had clinical depression since i was a kid. Also adhd, borderline personality disorder, and generalised anxiety disorder.
It's a lot to try and manage when I'm not a functional person to start with. I've spent a not insignificant amount of time thinking that if it weren't for the preferencial treatment i got for being white, I'd very likely already be dead.
When I was in highschool my Mother was a huge Fray fan and got me hip instantly. We used to listen to this one in particular a lot. She had a habit of helping people, and it often took a lot out of her. I think this song sort helped her feel her way through the 'muck' so to speak. She had a lot of her own issues and I think helping others took the spotlight off of that. She knew how to save others, but couldn't seem to save herself. She drank a lot unfortuantely. As time went on, that grew into substance abuse, and eventually addiction. She still played this song a lot though, trying to remain positive.
Last year in April, the 5th, she lost that fight.
Things are different now. This song is different now. I still love it, but I find it very hard to listen to at times. I still have the memories, pictures, old voicemails I refuse to delete, but not her.
I keep going because I feel that I have to, for her. Some days are easy, some days are really, really, hard. I have lots of questions, lots of things to say that I will never get to. In time things will settle, life will return to normal, or whatever the new normal will be.
Now, this song has found me again, at a time where it seems I have to save my own life.
This ones for you Mom, and for me, and for anyone else struggling, for those worried about loved ones, whoever needs it.
Please keep going.
You will find your peace. I promise ❤
Please keep in mind, it doesn't mean that she hasn't loved you. For some people an existence is too heavy burden to bear. Remember her for who she was for you.
That was beautiful. I ask everyone to have faith in yourself nd what you can do. Truth be told you can do anything you put your mind to, that strength was always there it just has yet to be found.
Prayer up to you big dawg fr♥️
Some battles are meant to be fought with someone, don’t be afraid to reach out
And some arent.
The Fray will never ever be the same without Isaac Slade. This song is indeed a true masterpiece. ❤
I can’t remember this song being that deep..
I get you man👌🏻
Love the vids, but yeah its very deep
Oh shit can u make a rebuld for an mls team.
Actually kinda hate that this song is only about the singer having fights with his brother but they get along now. Everyone else thinks its suicide idk kinda annoys me. Love the song tho
Valerie Knowles I feel people can interpret songs and lyrics in their own way though, the beauty of music.
People don't die from suicide they die from sadness
Makenzie Wallace Well...they literally die from suicide but I guess you can say they "die" from sadness.
People who commit suicide are already dead inside. They are only getting rid of the shell of their past self.
Makenzie Wallace Completely true. Some people have been through so much and are so sad that the only way out of their depression is death.
Yep
Makenzie Wallace your comment is like the question is it the gun that kills or the bullet? kinda awkward to answer as without one the other couldnt have happened
10代の頃、大切な友達を自死で失いました。毎日悲しくて喪失感や悲しみを乗り越えられずにいました。
そんな時にこの曲を聴き、歌詞の意味を理解し、大粒の涙が止まらなかった。当時の自分の心境に寄り添ってくれた大切な曲です、私はこの曲に本当に救われました。
私自身も薬物中毒と鬱に苦しみました、いろんな心境とこの曲の歌詞がリンクします。素晴らしい曲、ずっと聞いています✨
احسنت بالتغلب على الأدمان والضغوط النفسية قلة من يستطيعون الأبتعاد عنها 🎉👏
@@ahmedhr6248 Thank you！
This comment section shows how important RUclips really is to a lot of people
This comment section shows how people are important to other people.
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@@thedarkryan5568 a lot less emotes, but true
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@@danielemoscardini Bha...Vero✅❤💙❗
"It's a beautiful day to save lives." -Derek Shepherd
samee but listen to this song TIme by The Impures,
is good :))
I just started watching grey's anatomy
No ur gunns make me cry😭😭
😢
@@adversityluiss6614 its sooooo good
When you lose someone you love more than anyone else, you lose a piece of yourself too
If anyone is thinking of suicide please reach out to someone I know it might be hard but your life is worth it
My sister died on Thursday after a very long and difficult illness, this has been very therapeutic
Nathan Guillemette sorry for you lose brother
Sorry for ur loss
fuerza hermano
Sorry for your loss. Sending love!
I lost my sister too...I am terribly sorry for your loss.
Does anyone else tear up listening to this song even if you're not thinking of anyone in particular?
Yes
Yea i lost a cousin due to suicide 😥
I end up sobbing. Can’t help it.
Yeah, I almost lost my life to myself.
Yes, I thought it was just me. I do the same thing when I hear Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol.
I think of my grandma singing to me during my comma
It screams adult me reminiscing about my childhood days and how I've come this far in the game of life.
You spend your childhood wanting to grow up, and you spend your adulthood wishing you were a child again
I felt this too hard
This hits hard as someone who is about to become an adult legally and I wish I could go back to my childhood for many reasons but want to become a successful adult
i dont want to grow up who wants to grow up thats gay
I‘m 13 now and I feel like my childhood is already over and I want it back..
Gqld Homosexuality is not an Insult :)
"The second you start blaming yourself for other people's deaths...there's no coming back."
"Yeah...you're right."
Scrubs. Sigh.
I miss this show.
I wish scrubs was still on the air.
Thanks Ted for making us all laugh.. R.I.P. Sam
Yes that's right. As a sentient being, you make the choice.
Is it correct or incorrect? Leave emotion out of it (if possible) & trust your instincts, (no one trusts themselves anymore) and own up or breathe a sigh of relief. Four.
I own four. Caused directly or indirectly.
Yeah, you can't come back.
Scrubs was the best medical show and thats fax
Did anyone listen to this song at a difficult point in their life and feel like it helped you get through it?
"I hear you when you sing this out loud"
:me..
This comment section is full of darkness, sadness and lost stories in its deep. I Wonder where are all those people right now...
Dead
Whip whip, watch me nae nae
@@mitkel5426 well, +83k comments right now. Im sure at least most part must be true
@@mitkel5426 but i agree with you. There are people just going with the atmosphere here, playing being depressed and stuff
Berninha M. and 90% of it is likebait my guy
I lost my brother to suicide on December 31st, I found him with my mom. It was so shocking I saw him that morning but I didn't even say hi and stayed on my laptop. He had schizophrenia and got new meds so I thought maybe give him time to rest. i don't know. He was 26 turning 27. If I could give half of my life to bring him back I would. All my friends didn't really know how to comfort me so I got mad and now I have no friends anymore. I don't do anything and sometimes I wonder if I should even exist. I have faith things will change but what's the point? But I know how much pain and suffering and heartbreak my mom got when he died because he cared for her so much they were best friends. I try my best to go out and be ok but I can't afford a therapist or to even do things by myself so I just end up watching tv wasting my life and crying.
So sorry bro... Know that your brother is in a better place and that you and your mom are strong. Things WILL get better. Letting everything out is ok❤️
hafsa ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think going to a therapist is insured by your health insurance, you need that shit bro bc remember it was never your brothers intention to have such an affect on your life. Stay strong and life will be waiting for you til you can stand on your own feet again❤️
try to talk to your friends again they will understand it's hard i battle with suicidal thoughts everyday too stay strong man and talk to your mom together you can do it i'm cheering you on
It seems you have a passion for writing.. keep it up
I know there's a lot of comments about deaths and how they've impacted people, but I wanna flip it around, try and give some smiles. Its not a long story but recently I saved my bf from suicide, and its probably the best thing I've done in my life, not cause I get to have a bf but because I managed to save someone's life, that's not something you experience everyday (depending on your job). Unfortunately there's a lot who can't say the same for people they've lost, but you need to keep your head high and keep going forward, people truly die when they're forgotten, they may be gone but you can carry forward who they were and what they stood for, its the best any of us can do, but its better than losing hope, you need to stay positive in this world, or you'll lose yourself. I know a lot of that is cliche but someone out there might've needed to hear it ❤, stay safe
All I wish for right now is strength for all those who has something heavy going on. You're life is worth fighting for. I hope you choose to love your self when no one does.
My best friend killed himself a week ago. He was only 17. I'll always regret that I couldn’t give him a hug and make him know how much he meant to me. If only I had seen what was in front of my face
Strength
Omg... I am 17.. I'm so sorry for your loss. I beg you to not put the blame on yourself, you can get through this :) stay strong!
@@kam2894 I can assure you that to the people left behind hugs will never be enough to bear your loss
Maybe his story will save a life, your story
lol. F in the chat
Everyone’s gangsta until this song comes up
everyones had to deal with loss, in their own way. This song tries to show what its like
Don’t cry we all will die one day
Yep. I cry my damn eyes out dude
Shidddd, even gangstas cry when they lose homies. They have zero immunity like everyone else 😢
I never realized how many people were affected. I was hurt too bad. Rip brother. I hope I’ll see you again someday.
I had a lovely aunt which loved me a lot and I loved her a lot. She had a big house and as a kid I was always there with my cousins playing with her in her room.
She was always patient with us and always gave me money, so I can buy me some things. We were always up early in the morning, so we can watch movies together. And always when we were with her, she gave us a cup of tea and she would put so much sugar in that the tea always leaked out of the glass. It was just hilarious.
By time the family left her for a new house and she stayed there alone. A sad old lady who was just by herself and hoping for someone to knock on her door. I had the honor to knock every summer on her door because she lived in my parent’s homeland, so I was there for holidays. When my brother had his wedding our house was too crowded, so i went to her house, sleeping there for 2 weeks.
This was one of the funniest times of my life and also one of the sad times because I was sleeping every night alone in the room where we all used to play and where we all used to laugh and spend time with each other. It was just a depressing silence. Anyways I would go downstairs to her always and make jokes with her.
As the holidays ended I knew that this will be the last time I would see her alive, because she was very old and sick. She just had one eye due to an accident, so it was more difficult for her, but this handicap made me love her more and take care of her more. She was just happy someone was in the same house with her and that’s all. As I left the house we hugged each other the last time and I knew that’s going to be the last time we are going to see each other. I said “don’t forget me” and she laughed and said “make sure you don’t forget me” :). As I walked to my house I looked at the ground all the time because tears were just going down my face and I couldn’t withhold them. I am a young man and it’s very difficult to speak about my feelings because everyone will perceive it as weakness, but I think that you understand me. I loved her and I hope she is in heaven :)
That's a beautiful story
2004
I could not save a life that did not want to be saved.😭
This is empathy 101. If a depressed person is suicidal it is never because he/she wants to die. Its just that living is to hard in his/her perspective. The art in saving someone is in showing them alternatives while starting from their perspective.
This comment is ridiculously underrated. Please, take my heartfelt thumbs up!
its true, i don't wanna die but i felt living is hard
Well said. At my age what I've been through may be trivia to another not including the part with my Daughter.
Life seems to be Daunting when your not able to sort out your problems. On the other hand it's only Daunting if you care so as you may see these two things are very confusing and important.
Are you speaking from experience?
Boy are you wrong!
Hi everyone,
Following my post 10 months ago.
I would like to say I've beaten the cancer for the moment, following the forequarter amputation in February :)
Thank you all for your prayers as they were what kept me strong and gave me the stamina to go on in life :)
Love you all ❤️
god bless you my friend..im happy for you:)
@@brandyplays6134 thanks
Hooray!
No way I was watching this video crying and cried to your story a few days ago and I see this so recently I’m so proud of you right now
@@benjaminyes6308 :)
I lost three friends to sadness and we always ask ourselves how to save these lives?
This song hit way harder than 10 years ago ....
Lost one of my best friends to suicide 7 years ago. This song came out when we were in high school, and it reminds me of the good times we spent together. I unintentionally come back here once a year to reminisce, usually after midnight, when everything is quiet. Today is one of these days.
Luis, wherever you are, I miss you man. I know life was a burden to you, but you are still alive in our thoughts. RIP
big hug my friend.
sorry bro
Sending hugs
Thank you for posting this. I just lost a best friend from high school from suicide. He served in the air force. The last video I have with him we are singing this song. I came here to find some piece of him.
Seth, where ever you are. I’m sorry I failed you, I will love and miss you forever my friend.
sending you a hug. i’m so sorry
"It's a beautiful night to save lives, people. Let's have some fun."
**night
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
You misspelt ‘take’
i’m done and it was sooo good(the show)
*patient ends up dying*
"Sony you went wrong with your PS3."
Whoever is reading this, I hope you heal from everything you don’t talk about and make it to the happiest days to come!
This song makes me realize how hurtful this world is. I wish I could help everyone.
Hurtful yes, but how do you give anyone hope that things get better. Because it’s not a fact that things get better. For some people, it never gets better. At that point, the only hope you can give them is that this life isn’t all there is. At some point, the suffering does end, and then peace begins forever. That’s the symbolic message of Christ. The end of his life was suffering, but at last he could rest in Heaven. Hope can’t be given by small reassurances because often the suffering is too great. There wasn’t hope for Jesus on the cross, not in that moment, but there was hope after. So you want my advice, help people whenever practically possible, but when help isn’t possible, give them Christ.
@@godisgood201 Not to rain on the parade, but people will be eternally remorseful if they think they will just go to heaven when they die. Even though eternal life is a free gift, they need to understand the gospel of salvation found in the Bible and receive that free gift of eternal life by trusting completely in Christ and His finished work on the cross for them for salvation from eternal damnation. Once they truly do, then they are born anew, and then they know exactly where they're going when they die. Not because of any works of righteousness which they have done, and not because of any sins which they didn't do... or will ever do... but because of God's mercy to us in Christ, and the redemption that we have through His innocent blood, which He shed on the cross for the remission of our sins.
@Jesus is Lord everything is temporary my friend, even the universe is.
Welcome to the club bro
@@KS-nq8vo Everything physical in this world is, but not our souls. The most important thing that people need to settle is where they will be spending eternity.
"It's a beatiful day to save lives"
Derek Christopher Shepherd.
Miss that guy.
Im sorry
omg me too
deadass
yes omg
🥺
First time I heard this I was on the school bus….now I’m drinking a beer.
When I went thru depression & heavy drinking, I use to listen to this song to aid my ill behavior, but now it's a song of happiness for me since I've been in therapy !!! Check on your loved ones, bcuz you'll never know when you can save a life 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿!!!
This song is proof that music is life-changing/ life- saving.
Actually true. I’m 13 I rlly don’t like the upcoming music
Lmao
@@alexamelchor2787 I’m not much older than you are but you’ll be glad you found this song at 13. I wish I found this song sooner, I’m sure everyone else feels the same.
that feeling when you see:last online 3 years ago.
😕 that does hurt.
@@jasonevans4132 stfu, you dont know real pain );
This is deep really brings out some emotion
@@kelvinmwaniki3889 what are the odds of finding you here haha
@@goldyjh many of us know real pain, way too many perhaps. ):
My old man told me, this is when I was a kid you gotta keep your head up son. Always remember we all love you. Everyone is supportive and you always need someone when you're feeling down. So when I'm feeling flat I'll listen to this song. How to save a life its true. Never alone. 😊
Missing my friend who took his own life a month ago. These lyrics ring true.
My grandma died recently. She was the only family left in my life. My father and mother died when I was a baby. Mother from cancer and father from a car accident. Grandma raised me and helped me go through the struggles of not having parents. Her dying left me feeling so empty. This song always brings me to tears. :'(
miksuaka ;-; I'm sorry for your loss
miksuaka your friends will help you through this :'(
Feel better soon man
Thanks so much for the well wishes :) I'm getting better slowly but surely.
miksuaka xxxxxx
“If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there.” -Mark Sloan
Thank you for sharing this! Stand up straight with your shoulders back :)
Hmmmm neat
I have major depression and anxiety and I can't even do any of that and been trying for years to even feel love at and ask myself why what's the point of anything
@@tylersoto7465 yo tyler my guy. I'm here if you need to talk. Lets run some among us or something, fuck it.
Yes
Xxxtentacion was my cousin, we were really close he used to love this song when we were younger he showed me this master piece. I will always cherish that moment I love you all
Wow really?
2024 anyone?😊
Yes, and always, here for you and anyone who needs to talk.
Reading all these comments with the song in the background really hits different...
Simularbre Ikr
don't it ever.
im just here to ask people are they dead yet
Yes...😞😭❌🤔🙂 Never Give Up❌🏳 even if we are sad💦💧, we must get & take Happyness😀😃😄 and Serenity🚀🌅❗
Simularbre boomer
This song goes to my friend and boss, Hugo, i hope you're okay in heaven. Covid-19 took his life, I miss you buddy!
Raul Neiva I’m sorry for your loss covid 19 is horrible and takes so many people’s life daily
Raul Neiva you miss hugo boss
like, the underwear?
@@dom5175 the guy that made the nazi uniform (they dont like to talk about that part much)
This song reminds me of an old friend who died of an overdose while we were on the outs. I often wonder if he'd still be here had I made different choices. The ones who pass on are released from pain, but we are left behind to live with the guilt.
"Tears are the silent language of grief."
Voltaire
It’s sad, there’s people who commented 11 years ago who are no longer with us. Hope they are in a better place . You fought hard
Edit: never had this many likes before but that’s not why u came back to edit. All of you are so wonderful, keep fighting , wether it’s depression, corona or other chronic illness. You matter
I know :(
To see Jesus face to face to feel Him in your arms to hear His voice and walk on water no more violence .no eye has seen no ear has herd what God has prepared for those who Love Him🌅🌺🌻🍃🌱🌊🌈🌦🌤
Theres probably people that commented yesterday and died already
A B oh fuck that got dark
@@tabathamanzanilla2912 You are racist not everyone is christ like you
and btw
Allah is the only one